THE ED MYLETT SHOW - The Hidden Danger of Being Too Attached to Outcomes 

Episode Date: May 29, 2025

Are your goals driving you—or draining you? In this month’s sit-down with my brother Brendon Burchard, we break open something rarely talked about but absolutely critical if you're chasing success: the difference between being committed to your goals and being attached to them. We’re not here to dish out motivational fluff—this is a raw conversation about mastering presence, building true rhythm in your life, and not letting your need for results rob you of your ability to perform at your best. Brendon and I talk about how most people get lost in the micro—obsessing over metrics, routines, and outcomes—while completely missing the bigger picture. Goals aren’t the problem; attachment is. I share the metaphor of a pro golfer who misses an easy putt—not because he lacks skill, but because he’s mentally fast-forwarding to what it means if he makes or misses. And in life, just like on the course, the moment you get needy, you drop your frequency. We also dive into what I’ve learned through experience and faith—how the real shift came when I started surrendering the harvest to God. Your job is to plant the seeds, do the work, show up—but the outcome? That’s not yours to control. I want you to think about this: who are you becoming? Because your state of being will take you further than any checklist or protocol ever will. Brendon and I just wrapped an unforgettable Ultra VIP event in Austin, where we went deep with a small group of high achievers on topics like these. If you're ready to experience this level of connection and transformation in person, check out Ultra.VIP for more details. Key Takeaways: Why presence matters more than pressure in moments of execution The difference between being needy for a goal and committed to a vision How “working the rhythm” can outperform chasing the result Why surrendering the outcome increases your ability to perform The identity shift from achiever to warrior—and how it changes everything What it really means to move in a direction instead of chasing random goals If this hits home for you, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Max out.   👉 SUBSCRIBE TO ED'S YOUTUBE CHANNEL NOW 👈   → → → CONNECT WITH ED MYLETT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: ← ← ←  ➡️ INSTAGRAM   ➡️FACEBOOK   ➡️ LINKEDIN   ➡️ X   ➡️ WEBSITE    Get my exclusive Monday Motivation training in GrowthDay, the world’s #1 app for advanced mindset and personal development. Visit https://growthday.com/ed. This show is sponsored by GrowthDay.    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Welcome back to the show everybody. So as I am joined every single month by this brilliant man, the man who wrote High Performance Habits, the man who's the mentor to all the mentors you know on social media that's in the personal development space and your favorite episodes I find for most of you every single month are with the man who wrote High Performance Habits and a bunch of other best-selling books but he just lays out his brilliant content once a month here on the Ed Mylett show. One of my literal best friends in the world, and I could tell you the last five years of my life, the person that's come into it I'm the most grateful for, Brendan Bruchard. Welcome back to the show, brother.

Wow, brother. Thank you so much. I love doing these with you. I love it. So does the audience. And so guys, fasten your seatbelts. Give me the best 30 minutes you've ever spent, I hope. It will be awesome. I want to brag on you real fast because I know it's your show. No one needs to hear this except Ed and I just did an event together for growth day in Austin, Texas and his ability to read an audience and to

kind of size up the energy that they have and that they need is so above level. I say this because every time I'm on, you compliment me as a speaker or as a coach and I got to be with you and watch you do it across two days. And I don't think that if you're a podcast listener, YouTube, you know, watcher, it's hard to know what he does in front of these audiences. So I just hope someday you get to be out there and in the crowd or on the stage

with them, like I was, it's just an unbelievable thing to watch. So thank you, brother. That was amazing. Well, we got to do the podcast on this. So we're going to do that next. But you said this, and by the way, this. So we're going to do that next. But you said this, and by the way, this is not in our plan, just so you know, but that growth day event was incredible.

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And it was a very heavy QA. You mastered that. That was a really incredible watch. Is it ultra.vip.com or just ultra.vip? Just ultra.vip. It's that VIP.vip? Just ultra.vip. It's that VIP. Okay. That shows you what I know guys. Okay. So there you go.

We were talking about this nuance that's never discussed in personal development or performance that I think both of us have a great understanding from partially because of the influence Wayne Dyer had in our lives. I mean, we both shared that, but I want you to talk about attachment. So goal setting is so important. And it's, you know, if you break the topics and personal growth or self-help or business, goal setting is one of those major topics, but it can get overcooked.

Sometimes there's this nuance that we're going to discuss today. Brennan start out with about having a goal, but not being so obsessed of being attached to an outcome that it, it somehow suppresses your ability to perform. Right, because most people when they have a high ambition or a big vision or very specific goal and they're striving for over and over and over day after day after day,

they end up increasing their need for it. And now as they're seeking it, they're like, I have need for it. And it takes them out of their own energy into almost an addictive energy or an obsessive energy that ends up depleting their presence. And as you know, like with sports athletes we all work with, it's like, hey, when they lose presence,

they lose games. If they're trying to figure out that exact next play and something is interrupted and they can't pivot or adapt, they can't be present in the next play in the next huddle in the next moment, then they always lose. Or if they do when they develop such a bad habit that when the big stakes are there, when there's real pressure, they put more pressure on themselves. And so everything is about getting people very excited about an ambition, very clear about what it is.

But the real outcomes and the real goals you're looking for are mastery in a skill and presence of mind. There you go. Practice, practice, practice, develop the mastery. So it becomes almost automatic, natural. You're fully capable. And then presence of mind to just be in that moment. You're fully capable. You're fully capable. You're fully capable. Practice, practice, practice, develop the mastery. So it becomes almost automatic, natural. You're fully capable and then presence of mind to just be in that moment, be in what

we call the way, a part of the way in presence with that. When you can do that, then you'll start winning. If you overly control because you need an outcome, it's like dating somebody who's needy. No one wants to date somebody who's needy. You want to date somebody who can be playful, who's there in the moment, dating somebody who's needy. No one wants to date somebody who's needy. You want to date somebody who can be playful, who's there in the moment, but they're not needy. And if you can remember not to be needy about an outcome and be present with high skill, then you'll win.

Yeah, you're exactly right. I was thinking about it from a business standpoint, but the relationship one's great. Like you want somebody who's in love with you and their goals to someday be with you or make that work, but you don't want to have this feeling like they're needy to have it happen because what happens is especially like in sales or business too

when you're so obsessed with your goal or outcome you become the neediness becomes desperation and you reduce your frequency and you actually place yourself under this person and somehow now when you're presenting to them they kind of have that smirk on their face like they know you need something. So there's a place of presence and confidence that comes with having a goal but not being so obsessed with the outcome. These seem like interchangeable words everybody, but they're truly not. I'll give you an example that I gave this day.

When I work with golfers for example, they have a goal to win a golf tournament. They have a goal to make a certain amount of money, a goal to be ranked at a certain place in the world. And that goal is very healthy. It causes them to do the extra reps of putting and hitting the balls and etc. You could transfer golf to any career. Having that goal is beautiful. But in the moment of execution, you must separate from your outcome in the moment. Because here's what happens. If you're over a putt and you want to make that putt say a professional golfer with their buddies on a weekend they got a five-foot putt they'll make 99 out of 100 of them right because it's not needy there's no desperation to it but all of a sudden

they get in a golf tournament and it's Sunday and if they make this putt they win the golf tournament all of a sudden now they're obsessed with the outcome that's attached to the goal which the outcome is to make this putt. And the minute you're obsessed with making the putt, I really think this through everybody, you're now not in the present moment. You're one second from now whether or not you make the putt. You're obsessed with this next moment of making it as opposed to just executing. So in the moment of execution, you have to let go and separate from your outcome and

be present because when you're obsessed with making the putt, you've now fast forwarded two to three seconds from now from when you do or don't make it. And what your mind does is what are people going to think if I miss it? What are they going to think if I missed it? What are they going to say? He choked it away. Or what are they going to think if I make it? If I make it, I get all this other stuff.

If I miss it, I get, and now you're, you're actually living in the aftermath of the moment, so addicted to the outcome and not in the present moment. And we always execute sales, relationships, putting, whatever it might be in the aftermath of the moment so addicted to the outcome and not in the present moment and we always execute sales, relationships, putting, whatever it might be in the moment of being present and so it's a perfect example of it was there's a great golfer named Rory McIlroy who is what time of recording this just won the Masters and Rory was coming off of as you know he had lost the US Open last year in a moment he had a goal to win the U S open, a major goal, everybody. And in the moment on the 16th hole, he had a little putt that he made.

I think they said 700 times in a row, but now he's so obsessed with the outcome of winning this golf tournament. He missed a putt that if he were present, he would make over and over again. Now two holes later and he's, you know, ruminating on the fact that he had missed that putt, now it's the 18th hole. If he makes this little putt, he probably wins the golf tournament to win the U S open. It's a dream.

He's won it before, but it's a dream. And he missed it again. So what happened was he didn't separate from outcome in the moment because he certainly has the ability to execute. You fast forward to this week when we're recording this, you'll hear it afterwards. And he is leading the masters. He's going to get a career grand slam're recording this, you'll hear it afterwards and he is leading the Masters. He's gonna get a career grand slam. Imagine this, you don't have to follow golf. He'd be the sixth golfer in the history of the sport to win the career grand slam, which is all four

majors. You're talking Tiger Woods, Jack Nicklaus here, Gary Player. You're talking about the best players ever. He's leading the tournament by four shots. There's about five, six holes to go. He has the easiest 120 yard shot he's ever hit in his life. He makes this 10,000 times out of 10,000 onto the green and he fats it in the lake and he double bogeys. Then he makes it to the 18th hole. If he makes this putt, all he's got to do is par the hole.

If he makes this little four or five foot putt, he wins the masters, the career grand slam. That's been his goal since he was seven years old. But in the moment of execution, you have to separate from the outcome to achieve the goal. He did not. He missed the putt. He missed the putt. So now he goes to a playoff. Now he's in the playoff and he's made every mistake you could

make to blow a golf tournament. And you know what he finally did? He said it in the post-fight interview. He goes, I just surrendered. I was like, I'm just going to execute. If I get the goal, I get the goal. I got that close. I get the goal.

He hits a perfect shot to four feet makes the putt now. Cause he's not attached to the outcome that he should have made earlier just an hour before and he wins the Masters. The point that I'm making to you all is that's a long way of telling you is having goals is requisite to success. But in the moments of execution, you separate and you just make the putt. You just make the call. You just do the meeting in the moment and you get back around to it.

What would you add to that? Like you said, you learned some of this from Wayne. What was that version of it for you? Well, I'll add something first and I'll share what I learned from Wayne too. I would add just a phrase people can remember. Are you working the rhythm or are you worried about the result?

That's the difference. When you're working a rhythm, working rhythm means you've just, you've got mastery. You've got skill. You've done practice after practice after practice. So now just work the rhythm, just do what's all, it's almost natural. Now all you do work the rhythm, just don't

try to force things. That's what working the rhythm. It's like you're working the rhythm that you've already developed. So you already have a rhythm of play. You already have a rhythm of play that you've established over practice, practice, practice, competition, competition, competition, competition.

So now your rhythm is almost natural. And if you can stay in that natural element, that spirit of the thing, as the samurai used to talk about, you're in the spirit of the thing. So working the rhythm or worried about the result. And soon as you know there's worry there, you're in need. So the way to tell the mental trigger is,

oh, I'm worried about something. Oh, that means you're in need. I don't want you to worry about the thing. I want you to work the practice, work the rhythm. And that will really help people when they're trying to figure out like, am I, because everyone has an obsession. And sometimes they confuse their passion for obsession.

And sometimes you're like confused of like result versus goal versus need. And so those two phrases will really help you. Work the rhythm, don't worry about the result. Well, that's unbelievably good. Yeah, what I saw from Wayne and he did a European tour, I got to go along with him. And it happened to be a time in my life,

it was really hard. I had wrecked an AT ATV racing some ATVs and I snapped my wrist off. I dislocated my shoulder, broke my hip, broke a few ribs. I was in major pain and I went on this trip to Europe because I go, Oh my God, I get to go with Wayne. I'm going right. Right. And, uh, I just saw him go from space to space to space to space,

so humble, so in the moment, you know, he's, he's leading this big tour, but he's picking up his bags at the airport. He's riding the bus with everybody. He's eaten eggs in the morning with everybody on the tour. You know, he's just gliding up to the front of the stage in these old historic churches to share and talk about spirituality. You know, there was no denomination there.

We just talked about spirituality and his whole, his ease with life was so incredible. And for those who know Wayne's story or ever saw him on PBS or read his books, he also had this famous talk where he would guide the audience, Ed, you probably saw him do this. He would guide the audience in singing, row, row, row your boat. Yeah.

And so you get everyone saying, row, row, row your boat, gently down the stream. And his emphasis there, I'd never heard a man say gently go forth. never heard a man say, gently go forth, walk lightly and softly with peace and ride with the stream of life. Where I grew up, it was like, very like,

get this thing done, you know? And it was very, that's good. You need that type A, you need that driven mentality. You need the passionate completionist you need that driven mentality. You need the passionate completionist that makes us all successful. And you need to learn and not stress yourself out. You need to learn to have magnanimity and equanimity.

And you need to have that sense of peace as you progress. The real insight that most people ultimately get is they want peace and harmony with the drive and success. And you can have both. That's what we learned in high performance research. Hey, it's Ed Milet. Let me share something powerful with you.

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on what I want. I know many of you are and if you're not, that is step one. I mean if you're not clear on what you want and maybe equally important, the why behind it, the why, like who you're doing it for or what you're doing it for that will give you the juice and the drive to push through the adversity as it comes. Goal setting on its own is sort of an empty thing but when you attach your reasons to it, big fat unbelievably emotional compelling reasons, now you've got this thing that can push you past. As long as those reasons are bigger than your fear or the obstacle, you've got something. Having said that, like everything in life you can take it to an extreme and I did and I put tremendous

pressure on myself and this is a metaphor for life The last several years running I talked about this on that ultra as well. I've surrendered so many things in my life To God I've just surrendered. This is yours God and the way that I would say it to you that are believers I think your goals are what will get you to plant the seeds in your life, to do all the preparation. But you have to surrender the harvest. And when you surrender the harvest to your higher power, in my case, Jesus Christ, when you surrender the harvest, now you've separated from outcome. And now you can be fully present with your family when you execute. You will be at your, if you want to speak a different language that

I also believe in, you're at your highest vibrational frequency when you execute, you will be at your, if you want to speak a different language that I also believe in, you're at your highest vibrational frequency when you're the most present. And even if you're a second ahead in your thinking, you are not present in the moment and you reduce your frequency, you reduce your flow state, you reduce your ability to execute under that moment, and ironically your obsession with the outcome reduces the probability of you producing the goal. Isn't that crazy? And that's why conversations at this level that you're hearing right now are rarely ever recorded because in personal development, it's bubblegum,

it's rainbows, it's taglines, it's generalities, it's platitudes, and no one at the highest levels discusses the nuances that really create high performance habits and maxing out. And that's what we're talking about right now. This is the real stuff of goal setting and separating from outcome. Having said all of that, Brendan, I want to ask you a question about the goal part of it, because you know, the outcome part of it, I think

is most people never even get to that point because they, they don't have a clear enough goal or clear enough reason why, and for both you and I, I don't, I I'll be honest with you. They're supposed to read your goals twice a day out loud. I don't, I have never really been proficient at doing that. Yet, if you asked me in my life, what are five or six of the things I'm currently working on, which you ask me almost every time we talk, I can give you a specificity and clarity for me. If I were to give people advice on their goals

is it's not specific. It's like, I'd like to lose weight. What the heck does that mean? Exactly how much, right? Specific, so I wanna make a lot of money. How much and how and why? What would you say? What's an added kicker on the goal part that you would say?

Goals are not the game. Defining success is. Goals are sub levels of a definition or objective of a broader success. You need to figure out the, it's like, it's like a lot of people, their goals are like a bunch of things on a chess board. But if you don't know what success is on a chessboard,

you're just gonna move these little pieces around. There is no strategy, there's no goals, there's just like movement. And a lot of people, they're in movement. I say it to people all the time. A lot of people, they have busy work, but they haven't found their life's work. And they spend a little bit more time

to find their life's work. What their definition of success is, what the key contributions are, what the bigger picture is that they're after. It doesn't need to be a grandiose purpose. It just needs to mean, I feel that I'm moving in this very meaningful direction. And this meaningful direction is going to lead me to these type of successes that mean something to me, whether it's family or it's faith or it's health or it's business.

But I have a direction because I have a definition. Now goals are like mile posts. That's all they are. Goals are the mile posts on the grander path. And a bunch of goals randomly strewn about on a mountain ain't gonna get you to the top. And so it's very important. Like it's a definition of goals randomly strewn about on a mountain ain't gonna get you to the top. And so it's very important. Like it's a definition of success.

It's a direction. Then the goals become things you're looking at. Cause like, oh, that's the next thing. Okay, that's gonna help me get there. Right? It's like they're key objectives. They're performance indicators. There's things along the path, but they're not the path.

Once you just try to do this, I would say something, you keep going not the path. Once you just start that. I've been doing this, I would say something, you keep going, I've been doing this a long time. I'd never heard someone say that. Our educational system and probably our superficial learning has been always focused on such the micro, right? It's all the micro and they're missing the direction, which is the macro, the bigger picture.

It's just like, you get all the time like, geez Ed, I like your biceps. You know, what is it? Is it five grams of creatine or 10? And you're like, get in the gym, bro. Find an enjoyment and a hobby and working out. Like the athleticism is the success. It's not just the micro.

We focus on the micro. How many milligrams of this? It's like, but you're missing the entire direction. And that's where most people are. People feel lost, not because they're not doing things. I know so many people, their protocols are unbelievable. They're spectacular, they send them to me. People read a high performance habits,

they're like, oh, here's all of mine. And they have this huge list of habits and protocols and ideas and affirmations. They have all the things, like all the pieces of the chessboard, but they don't know how to win the game. And so your game is to be on path to a direction that matters to you.

And you're gonna have good days and you have bad days. Some goals will be fulfilled. Some goals you're gonna detour around, like that didn't happen to be the thing. You're still moving in the right direction, but that goal ended up not actually being the thing. You and I have both dumped goals before, because we realized it wasn't in the right direction, but that goal ended up not actually being the thing. You and I have both dumped goals before, because we realized it wasn't on the right direction.

And so, I think goals are very important, but I think that they need to be thought of in context to a bigger play in life. It's so good. I was thinking of the... As you're talking, now I'm flashing to people that have been in my life that I admire and that is verbatim the definition of who they are. Some of them don't even have specific goals.

They've got the direction they want to go and be. And then others of them do have very specific goals that they are almost like leading indicators. They're on path. Yes. And oftentimes as I've changed where I wanna be, that goal is no longer, I've audited myself, I said that goal is no longer part of where I wanna go

and what I wanna be. I shouldn't do sports like I am so much today, but I was thinking of Tiger Woods when you were describing it, arguably the greatest golfer of this generation. He's known for being obsessed. And Tiger's overall mission was, he wanted to be the greatest golfer of all time and maybe break Jack Nicklaus's records, but he wasn't

so massively obsessed with, I got to win five masters, three, he actually is famous for saying, I just want to put myself in a position on the back night on Sunday to have a chance to win. And if I put myself in that position enough times and that's who I am. Listen, everybody's who I am is somebody who puts himself in a position to win more times than not. Things are going to work out.

That is the great example of having some goals, but a surrender knowing because what happens when you miss one, if you're so addicted to it and that's the end all be all does everything else collapse around you, which it does happen for a lot of people. I had this goal. It was to be at this and I'm not, and then everything else is collapsed. And I have found is I've gotten older. I, if I could go back to the younger me, I'd say, ed, you'd be happier and more

productive if you were more obsessed with the state of being that you want than the state of just doing or getting. And so it's not that I don't think you should have things you want to do or get, but they are secondary to who you're being, becoming. And actually in the moment, y just really believe this, if you're really great at what you do, like you're just really great, pretty much by and large, great things start happening. But if it's all about your protocol,

all about the things you wanna hit as opposed to being, and by the way, state of being is being present in the moment, like as a dad, I'm a better dad when I'm not doing dad things. I'm just being with them. I'm just being with them. Do I have a goal to be a great dad? Yes, but that sounds awfully odd.

It's like, it's what you just said. It's like my overall direction in my life is I want a loving, beautiful family. And every measurable way, I want joy and laughter and peace and faith in my home. Right? So it's more that than it is some specific measurable in my life. People ask me all the time like, Brendan, what's the difference between a high achiever

and a high performer? And for those who haven't read High Performance Habits or studied my work, it's like, what we discovered with high performers is they have long-term success, but they also maintain their health and positive relationships. Meaning they achieve long-term success, but they also maintain their health and positive relationships.

Meaning they achieve long-term success, but they don't wreck their health or relationships. That's the difference. But another way I've learned to say this is high achievers, they're weapons. They can go in, complete the thing, get the thing done. They're very good at conscientiousness as a trait in following through, in completing things, paying attention to details. But there's a difference between a weapon who gets things done, achieves goals,

makes things happen, completes tasks. There's a difference between a weapon and a warrior. See, Tiger Woods, no matter what you all think of him, he's a warrior. What he's battled through with his health, I don't know him personally, I know people who do, but he's battled through some extraordinary things. And a warrior is much more adaptive

because they know the bigger war that they're playing. See, if it's just the goal, the task, the protocol, the thing, you're playing and you might be good at it, that's busy work. But the difference is life's work. A warrior is an embodiment. It's a personality, it's an identity, as you shared earlier life's work. A warrior is an embodiment. It's a personality. It's an identity as you shared earlier.

You don't want to just do like good dads cook meals. Okay. That's good. But you're like, I'm a father. Yeah. And I'm going to be a great father for this child because I love this child. Now that's a different spirit. A warrior spirit is embodied.

There's an identity and there's a reason, listen to this. There's a reason for the fight. There's a higher value or higher ideal for the fight. A lot of people have goals, but they've lost the higher ideal vision, identity, sense of being. The spirit is not there. The tasks and the achievement is there.

There's no spirit in it. And so I hope people also listen, and when you say surrender, a lot of people get so hooked on that, because they feel like, especially if you're a very controlling, driven person, it feels scary to say the word surrender, because it sounds like giving up.

And I learned this old phrase, and I apologize, it's not my phrase, I don't remember who said it. Surrender is not about giving up. It's about giving more power to where it really belongs. So good. Isn't that good? It's so good. So you're probably smart enough to know

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information are not a substitute for or an alternative to seeking care from your health care providers. I'll add a final thought here for you guys and welcome to the new ones. By the way, if you wanted you know hear more of this stuff in person you can go to Ultra.BIP. See us together. It's really cool experience. Um, let me say something to everybody about what he just said. And my, my thoughts on this as we conclude, I think this will help a lot of you. You have to be pliable and fluid and flexible. Having lived 54 years and however long you've lived, has anything actually

gone in the exact direction in your life? You've seen it going like specifically every single time? Or does life happen? Life throws us variables and curveballs and bad bounces and setbacks and setups that you can't factor in. When you are so obsessed, you got a goal and you become so fixated on the outcome because part of that outcome is also, it's going to go the way you see it. And what happens is when you're that obsessed and life throws you flexibility and variables and bombs and tragedies and difficulties and out of left field, something comes in, you're ill equipped to be pliable and flexible and pivot. And so having the goal is incredible, but surrendering from the outcome or even

the way in which it's going to show up and look the way in which it's going to happen. That's what the greats do so that when they've got this outcome, this goal to win the tournament or to, but they know there's going to be a bad bounce in life. It's going to go a different way. The wind's going to blow a certain direction when you've hit the perfect shot and it didn't work out. You give the perfect presentation to the wrong company or person.

And there's this setback. The client says, yes. And then three days later changes their mind. The stock market takes a dip, whatever it is in your life. Somebody that you trusted does something where they hurt you. If you're so obsessed with the direction and the goal, that's why you get so derailed by setbacks or curveballs. Whereas the people that are heading, as he said, in a direction of being, in a direction they want to go, they're pliable, they're flexible, they can pivot,

they can innovate, they can create, they can move around things. These are the people that end up being the happiest because they're not expecting everything to go in some sequential order exactly the only one, but they also build a resiliency, a relentlessness, a toughness, a mindset of I will deal with these problems as they come, these challenges, they end up being the winner. And that's why this nuance, this is, this is one of these things like to me almost for the ages Because it's what we're doing right now is not discussed

But it's the real world. I've almost never had a specific goal that has not come with a grenade or two thrown my way Right and my ability to be more trending in a direction to put myself in a position or as you've said The type of being I want to be or where I'm headed and why Allows me to navigate these inevitable Obstacles that come our way and that's what surrender means. I'm not I'm surrendering to my higher power But I'm also surrendering to not really know everything that's gonna come my way But I'm a believing in my ability and God's ability to bless me to get through those times to get to where I want to go. Not so obsessed with exactly the way I see it. Because here's what I bet. Even the person you're with in a relationship if you're in love right now, 95% of you, they showed up in a package you didn't expect. They don't look exactly

the way you pictured them looking when you were 15 with your dreams. God shows up and gives us some of the greatest gifts in our lives in packages we never expected them to look like or show up like. Some of you are in a career or doing something right now, you never imagined you'd be doing when you were young or even many years ago. Be open to the magic of life.

And when you get so addicted to your goal and your outcome, you suppress the magic in life. You rule it out. Leave a space in your life open for the unknown and embrace that unknown, the good, bad and the ugly. That'll help you navigate towards your biggest outcomes by not being so attached. All right. This was D this was good today, brother. Brennan. Thank you. This is why we do this right here. Every time we do this, bro, I get fired up brother. Man, it was so good. Thank you so much. It was good. Thank this right here every time we do this bro. I get fired up brother Man, it was so good. Thank you. So it was good. Thank you brother. God bless you everybody This is the end