THE ED MYLETT SHOW - The Mindset Blueprint- W/ David Nurse

Episode Date: September 29, 2020

Build UNSHAKABLE CONFIDENCE and PERFORM like an NBA player! This episode is LOADED with SPECIFIC TECHNIQUES and STRATEGIES My next guest on The Ed Mylett Show is a unique Life Optimization Coach and has helped over 150 NBA players with their personal and professional development both on and off the court. I admire his teachings and insight on personal development, confidence building, leadership, and motivational growth. I'm thrilled to have my new friend, David Nurse on the show! There is no denying we ALL struggle with self-confidence. Even the most successful people fight this battle. But the ones who reach their optimum potential have more often than not, been trained by elite performance coaches like David and me... Professional athletes, politicians, entertainers - they all have this in common! And CONFIDENCE is the MOST IMPORTANT catalyst that will propel you to achieve! In this episode, David reveals his confidence-building blueprint, and possibly the NBA's best-kept secret, to building UNSHAKABLE CONFIDENCE in yourself and your abilities. He explains the principles AND provides ACTIONABLE steps you can take starting today. This is truly NEXT-LEVEL training! There are concepts revealed in this interview that have long been reserved for professional athletes and those in high-power positions. Now I'm bringing them to you, absolutely free! Doubt and uncertainty are at an all-time high. It's time to grab the reigns and build from within!

This is the Edmire Show. Hey everybody, welcome back to Max out. Hey, my guest today is David Nurse. If you don't know who David is, you're going to be blown away by what we're going to talk about today and it's going to improve your life. I can tell you that for sure. Always try to bring people on to do that for you, but in a very unique and special way today, this man is equipped to do that for you.

He's a life optimization coach. He's the author of Pivot and Go and he's just got these, he's an Iowa boy. So I already like him. You guys know how much I love actionable items that you can move with immediately. And he is loaded with them. So it's really a pleasure to have David nurse with me today. David, welcome to the show, brother. Ed, thank you very much. Been a big time fan and listener of yours.

So much as encouraging as I am. I'm a you motivate me, man. Thank you, brother. I feel like we're kind of kindred spirits because we both want to make a very similar difference in the world. And the more I dove into your work and your content, the more and more impressed I became. I almost consider myself maybe a little bit of an addict for the work you do now because some of it is phrased in a way that I've not heard before.

And that's what I like. It's like a young version. I don't know if it's a young Tony Robbins version or what the heck I might call it, but I love it's like a young version. I don't know if it's a young Tony Robbins version or what the heck I might call it, but I love it. So let's talk first off about pivoting, the book pivoting go to, but right now we're catching a lot of people, millions of people that are sort of in this, I gotta make a pivot type move.

And one of the things I love in the book that you talk about is you gotta get a perspective, you call it like a higher perspective almost, in order to make those decisions. What do you mean by just kind of let you go on that tangent for a minute? Absolutely. So making a pivot, it's a basketball term

where the defense is all over you or life is just sucking you in and you can't see a clear path, but you make a small slight turn, a small pivot, and it opens up an entirely new perspective. And it's, you know, change is very daunting for people when you say, hey, you have to make this big change. No one, rarely can anyone do it, but if it's these small, these pivots,

these 1% step pivots, that's what can open up an entirely different perspective. And right now, like we're all going through a time that we feel stuck. In some situation, we feel stuck. And that's one of the worst feelings that we can have. Me and you, we know that we had to make our life pivot through sports, and we poured everything we could into playing professional sports myself, the MBA, and we had to make that pivot.

Everything that I did to pour into playing in the NBA was actually for coaching in the NBA. So it's about looking at something from a slightly different perspective that can change your entire perspective. I think people are very hesitant to make 50% pivots in one move, and that's really not usually where most of the differences are made. They're small David also referenced the NBA

I think you're the nephew of Nick Nurse who's, you know, one of the great NBA people think the NBA coach right now and then you all know that, you know David does this for all kinds of people, but his forte particularly for a long time has been with NBA players And you said something I say that everything in life happens for you not to you. You say something close to that, but in a very nuanced and different way that involves preparation almost for the rest of your life. How do you word that? You just share that with everybody. Yeah, so I mean, it's, it's about preparing for the opportunity. And I love that you brought up my uncle Nick, because he's a great example

of this. Now, people see him as winning this NBA championship and they're like, oh, you know, first year head coach, Lightning Strikes in a bottle. No, he's been a head coach for 27 years. And one of my favorite quotes is it takes 10 years to become an overnight success, but in next terms, 27 years to become an overnight success.

And I've seen him coaching over in countries, you don't even know play basketball, take-and-players, ankles, pop and popcorn at half time. But the thing is, he lived in that, hey, I am an NBA champion head coach, and when he was 22 when he started his coaching career, he put a picture of himself holding an NBA trophy on the fridge, and he saw that.

Every day, he lived in that mindset and developed that subconscious awareness of, hey, I don't have to be what the world says I am. All this self-doubt, this negative talk, I can be, I can live in this NBA champion coach that I know who I, who I am going to be. And now it's about embracing the process of taking what I call 1% steps. And this makes it not as daunting. 1% steps, anybody can do that daily. It's not you have to take the whole, you look at the big macros, then you take the little microbes knowing that these steps, the most powerful thing there is,

is the compounding effect. Where you stack these 1% days on 1% days understanding it's going to take 27 years to become an overnight success, but if you stay with it, you will get there. And I like for years, I love how you just like literally, hey, I'm going to work my butt off for these three years and then we'll get there. But you put in that work behind the scenes that nobody sees. Yeah, well, you're also being very humble, so did you.

So most of you probably would know this about him, but he was driven to become an NBA player, and he now says that all that work he was doing was preparing him for what he's doing now. And his philosophy is, you're all doing that. It may not seem like it, but what you're doing right now is preparing you for what you're destined to do. And you're being humble, Dave, but I happen to know

that you basically lived in your car for like ever. Like, basically as dudes homeless, you travel around the world, kind of really doing not for free, but for almost nothing and free often. I don't think enough people are willing to sacrifice short-term financially to get the experience to build the reputation, to build the brand, and then boom, the Brooklyn Nets call,

and kind of the world starts to take off. But what I'd like you to address because during that time and during my time, I'm sure during next time, Dwayne Johnson's time when he was struggling and had all, you know, whatever he had in his wallet that he talks about. There's a lot of self-doubt.

And I love techniques that help fix things. And you got this thing, man, with the mirror. Oh, yes. That is just awesome. Like, I'm waiting the whole week to do this part of the interview right now, because I think this is so freaking brilliant. So would you share the strategy with people, please?

Absolutely, man. I'm really big on giving people tools, actionable steps, and actually how to do things, because it's one thing to talk about the purpose and the wise. And that's all great, but there's a big disconnect between actually knowing and doing. So I'll take you through the whole hands example, and you can put this into play in your life.

And this is a tool that we all have. So we all have our hands with us. So first thing you do when you wake up in the morning is you look at your hands and you see all that they've been through. Do this right now if you're listening. Look at the calluses, the grooves, everything that you have been through, you have gotten through. So you're going to get through the next challenging time as well. Now imagine the most confident person in your life. The baby is a teacher, a parent, a mentor. You see everything that they've been through. Now your hands are their hands,

their hands are your hands, you can get through it as well. So you wake up in the morning. First thing you do, look at those hands. You have the confidence self-awareness hands. Now, at some point, you're gonna walk past a mirror. Most often, it's early on to brush your teeth or wash your face. Now this mirror is what I call the mirror of self-doubt, a fog a mirror. Most often it's early on the brush or teeth or wash or face. Now this mirror is what I call the mirror of self-doubt, the foggy mirror. We all wake up

with self-doubt. The imposter syndrome is in us when we wake up and we have that choice to live in that and what the world is telling us that we have to be are the expectations or we can take our hands, those hands and make the motion of wiping away that foggy mirror. So literally there's the power and actually making this motion, triggering into our subconscious that, hey, we don't have to live in this self-doubt that we have.

We wipe away this foggy mirror with our hands. So to keep it going with it now, so we have these hands, we've got our confident hands, we have our wiping away the self-doubt hands. Now these hands are our service hands too. So every room that you enter, look at your hands and say the word serve. So you know when you step into that room, it's not about yourself or what others can do for you and what you can get out of it. It's about what you can give, what you can pour into others, how you can serve others. Is that honestly like it? That is the biggest thing. It takes so much pressure off ourselves, what you can give, what you can pour into others, how you can serve others.

Is that honestly like, that is the biggest thing. It takes so much pressure off ourselves knowing that it's not all on us, but it's how we can give and how we can serve. And so these hands, try that. Like it's really powerful, man. Try that when you enter a room

or when you type an email or write a text, you can look at your hands and say, serve and the last part of the hands, the tool that you always have with you are the encouragement hands. And there's a player in the NBA, Steve Nash, who's to play in the NBA, he's my favorite player. He would lead the lead, lead the NBA in high five is given. They take that step.

High five is given. He gave 239 high fives a game. Like literally, like encouraging everybody, it's a two-time NBA All-Star. He's six, two unathletic like myself, but yet he was the best teammate that anybody ever had because he was always given high fives. And we can all do that.

We can be that person who gives high fives. Yeah, sure, maybe it's Zoom high fives right now, but we can always be that person that encourages and looking at your hands and maybe it's sending out, I do it every morning. I send out either three texts or three video messages to someone that maybe I haven't talked to for a while, just an encouraging note to them. And man, you wouldn't believe that the amount of change that or trajectory in their life that has had just by that encouraging note, and we can all have that encouragement hands.

Thank you for sharing that and guys, there's a lot to unpack there. Like, first off, if you follow any of my work, any of you guys, you know that I'm a big believer in triggers. Great athletes do it, but it's something that just now I've been teaching for years behind the scenes to business people, but just now it's becoming more mainstream. This is brilliance. What he just taught you. And it ought to be one of these where you go back a little bit and listen to it again.

If you're listening to it, he gave you the physical description. If you check out YouTube, but hands are an easy trigger. And I love that there's multiple triggers that you've created there. And all people that I know that perform at a high level have these triggers if they're disposed of. They're not just thoughts, they're triggers, they're physical. You do enough of these looking at your hands and the wipe away and all of those different

things that he's referencing and these hands serve as well. It's switching it with the confident person. Those are massive, massive tools for people. It just so happens also that Steve Nash is now the new head coach of the Brooklyn that's which is like pretty ironic too right. So it's the New Jersey and that's I don't know what they call themselves now. So that is awesome stuff right there, brother. Thank you for that.

Forge everybody to practice that technique. And one of the thing everybody, when you hear someone bring it like David, give you these techniques, these are things that are more effective, the more repetitious they become. They're not completely effective the first wipe away. Although you'll feel it, the first time you look at your hands, although you'll feel it. Well, I'm gonna tell you, the 300th time, it has massive power in your life. The other thing you teach that I love is this notion of terminology, the power that words have over us and the redefinition of them.

And it's like, to me right now, this is like a master class on pivoting, changing self-confidence and improving your life, that the elite athletes only get access to guys that you're now getting access to. Would you kind of dive a little bit into redefinition of terminology? Such a good question. Yes, and this is very powerful. So this is actually one of the steps. I have a seven steps to develop unshakable confidence. And this is one of them, very powerful and being able to redefine vocabulary. And what I mean by that is we all grow up learning that certain words mean certain things. And we attach them like with failure or success or rich. We all think they mean certain things that we're talked, but not necessarily.

Like, let's take for example the NBAs. We've been talking about basketball. So every time I work with a player, I'll ask them, when was your last shooting slump? And then I'll see them already, the body language goes down and they're like, you know, a couple of games ago, I couldn't make a shot, I missed every one of them, and then I'll ask them, hey, when was your last shooting hip eponymous? In the look of, what are you talking about? You're crazy, what? But what I'm doing there is showing them is just the power in the world.

They have already thought that this word slump means something bad, but it's only if you decide that, you have the power to be able to change that, just like failure. Like most people will say, hey, failure's bad, they're scared of failure. Some will even say failure's a way to learn and grow. Yeah, I agree with that.

I think failure's the only way to learn and grow. So if we can embrace this failure and look at it, what I call being in the pit, like where you fall down in this pit, this is this failure. And if you can embrace this and understand this is what's sharpening you, this is what's making the fire that makes the diamond even shinier, like this pit that you embrace,

like this is how you're going to get out of this failure and come out so much better on the other end. And like you mentioned earlier, it's not about, like these failure times, these difficult situation times that happen to us. Somebody else along the line is gonna go through the same exact thing that we do. Now, we use this failure not only for our own growth, but also to help others grow as well.

And that's so powerful just being able to redefine that word of failure and even the word rich. I have a chapter in my book called The Rich Life. And it goes into depth of what really does rich mean. I mean, you can have a lot of money and called The Rich Life and it goes into depth of like what really does rich mean? I mean you can have a lot of money and you can end up being Steve Jobs and miserable on your deathbed But are you rich in your relationships with your family with your kids with your spouse like that's where you can really pour into this Living this rich life and redefining these words that the world says we have to think there one way We can have them in a different way.

Brother, so good. So good. And guys, there's all these words that you use that have certain triggers and power over you as well. And sometimes, infusing humorous words for the power word loses all of its influence over you. And so sometimes, whether it's the hippopotamus word, or, you know, here comes, you know,

this is the angry version of me, and you're like, no, this is poopy pants, or whatever. I sound silly, but it just, the ridiculousness of it, then it loses its power over you, same with when you're in these things that we call slumps and whatnot. I want to go back for a second because it's interesting for me,

for a guy that works with athletes for the most part now You're working with everybody, but found his bearings with athletes and I do a lot of work with athletes as well, and this is an interesting Topic you go to a lot which is service. It's not something you think you talked to an athlete about about how to improve their life and I always say when you're feeling the most helpless become helpful and And I always say when you're feeling the most helpless, become helpful and instantly you're no longer helpless. But you said, I moved over it too quickly and I wanna go back to it for a minute because I'd like to know, do you do it every day?

How do you do it? Which was this three message thing in the morning? Yeah, so every morning I will send out a message and it's either a text message or a video message just a small encouragement to somebody and I'll have my I have a list of all my relationships and everything like relationships are who we are. We are the people we surround ourselves with. We know that but also one thing about cultivating relationships is how you maintain relationships and how you grow relationships like that's a

skill in itself and having people know that you're always there for them, you're in their corner, like you're there to cheer them on, to be their encourager, like that's really, really powerful, man. When you get a text message or a video message, it just says, I'm thinking of you, hey, checking in on you, hope you're doing well, like that can change your whole day.

So I do that in the morning, what I call, that the big three, but I also have the big three in the evening as well. And I think this is a great way to be able to track your progress, to be able to see how things like in your goals, in your dreams, and your 1% steps that you're taking is I'll have, I'll write down three things before I go to bed that I'm going to focus on the next morning. So I know that after my morning routine, I'm able to just go right into my main three points and that those are gonna be my three focuses

because far too often we have so many things bombarding us left and right, especially this time during this virus time, we don't know what's coming, but to be able to keep that focus on three main things, keep it on the main important things. So it's a good way to remember, hey, three text messages or three video messages, three big things, and you're compiling those days?

That's one percent win, one percent win, one percent win, and that compounding effect just kicks into play. And I want you guys to get pivoting, go because I want you to hear the entire routine. But you know, one thing that I love is that it's simple. Complexity is the enemy of execution, especially at the highest level of things.

You can't be complicated things that someone's thinking through in a routine. They've got to be able to do it quickly. It is interesting that you and I had never met until today, but I've been, we've been familiar with each other's work for a while. But you know, I wrote a book, and I think the opening line of the book is, we have 86,400 thoughts today. I start talking immediately about thinking.

I also do a cold shower. We both use chili pads. Maybe we'll get into that. It's amazing how we're, we're both learned to sleep a little bit differently, but you talk very eloquently about how many self talk thoughts you have a day, which is different than total thoughts. And then this notion, guys, if your mind isn't blown so far, you're welcome because when you hear about highlight reel, which he works with athletes, and then you hear about the self-talk thoughts a day, this is groundbreaking stuff right here, guys.

So would you address that first, like I know you know where I'm going, but they don't do it. I love it, and first? I know you know where I'm going, but they don't do it. I love it. And first, big credit to you too. It gets it like we're able to give people tools. And it's not like super overly complicated. You're here far too often.

All these doctors and everybody talking like it sounds great. But I don't know how to apply it. This is way over my head. So yeah, thank you and big credit to you. So the highlight reel is really, really powerful. Let's start off with the highlight reel. And that's the moment that you know you credit to you. So the highlight reel is really, really powerful. Let's start off with the highlight reel. And that's the moment that you know you feel like you're just in the zone

where you're killing it, you're having the best meeting, the best sales call. But for my basketball players, the best game that they've ever played. And I'll have them watch their clips so you can visualize yourself your best moment that you've had going through it. Now I'll have them do it every morning when they wake up.

I'll have them do it before they step on the floor for practice and before they step on the floor for games. So constantly you're being put in this frame of mind that this your highlight, you are at your best. You can be this person because these self-talk thoughts, we have 50,000 on average self-talk thoughts, 50,000, 80% of those are negative. So think about that. 40,000 self-talk thoughts negative going through your head throughout the day.

Like that's terrible, but we can pivot this by one tool being living in your highlight reel where you're constantly watching yourself at your best. And, I mean, this isn't something this is like, oh, this is aerie fairy, you know up there. No, you have done this. Like, you have literally done this. You can do this again, you will do this again. And we can pivot these self-talk thoughts

into being 80% positive to 20% negative. And just think about how much that can open up, just not just for yourself, but how infectious living in that becomes to others. Okay, so I'm a mom, I'm not a mom, but I'm listening to my mom, or I'm a business person. I might be a young athlete,

I could be an entrepreneur, whatever. I'm a dentist. You're saying to me that I ought to put together a highlight reel of the best moments or moment of my life And I should be visualizing that video when and how often Yeah, absolutely like even to the the more detail you can get with things the better So you're watching like let's say your mom and you made this unbelievable meal or your kid got a great report card all in the same day And it's like this is your most your proudest day

Now you're gonna do this in the morning when you wake up you can do along with your hands after you're done Wipe in the mirror clean you can just visually sit there and see this going see that day Like see what you wore see what you ate see who you interacted with recreate That day in your mind and that subconscious is where it's actually going to live. So you're living in that highlight real zone. So yeah, you can definitely visualize seeing yourself going through that moment that you are absolutely at your best.

And I do it three times a day myself. I might be able to do it three times a day, but I do it three times a day. I do it when, after my morning routine, when I'll have my coffee, I'll be doing it during that time, I'll do it during lunch, I'll do it during dinner, so I'm scheduling it in. I think it's really important that we actually schedule things into where we're not just gonna say

we're gonna do, we put them on the calendar, but to the point of being very detailed about it, like even for gold. So what I want to do is second that everybody, because you know, one of the things I've done, you know, without really knowing I did it is every time before I speak when I walk out on a stage, I literally go through a highlight reel of the best talk and talks of my career, the feeling and my body, what it looked like. One of the thing with all of you with your visualizations to that I want to tell you is, it's

like meditation. You'll get better at doing it over time. You'll build the muscle of it, be able to see it more clearly. You can slow it down into slow motion. You can change the colors. You learn to zoom in. And to the extent that you grade it doing it,

it imprints it more deeply in your subconscious mind. So give yourself the gift of doing that regularly. The other thing you talk about, man, that I love is, we've had experts on our show about flow state here. We talk a lot about focus. Thought it was interesting. I'd never heard somebody say this before, but you were saying, you can have a little bit too much flow

and a little too much focus. You talk about, is it the locus? Well, yeah, what is that? What's the flow state? It's one of my favorite terms, because we all want to be in the flow state and we all want to be focused, but often it doesn't go hand in hand, but it's that rhythm that you can be in flow because. So with basketball players or anybody that is trying to do something at a high level, sometimes we over-analyze things and we're really like, okay, I got to do this with my elbow on my shot. I got to get to this spot on the corridor. I got

to do this in the business meeting that I'm at. And it takes us out of that flow, that natural rhythm and the talent that we have, that we've developed over preparation over time. So the key is in this flow-cust-state, you are in the flow, you're going off all the preparation, all those hours that you put in, the 10,000 hours rule, that's a real thing. Like that is real. As much as we want to think there are shortcuts, there's not shortcut. The myelin in our brain is what develops the muscle memory, as we know, for sports, for whatever we're doing, but also for our mindset too. So we live in this flow that we've developed

through the 10,000 hours. Now we can also be very focused, very streamlined while letting our flow be able to take care of the rest. So you don't, I mean, both are great, but if you combine them, it's even more powerful. I love it. You talk about, boom, loving this. Just so you know, it's even more power. I love it. You talk about, boom, loving this.

Just so you know, it's my favorite shows where it's just, it's just naturally it goes to people trying to serve. Self confidence is a huge thing. You're my son just went off to college and people have asked me, you know, I don't know if I'm a good dad or a bad dad, but I know that what I wanted my son to leave with

was some sort of moral compass. It's for us that comes through faith, but wanted to be a good dad or a bad dad. But I know that what I wanted my son to leave with was some sort of moral compass. It's for us that comes through faith, but wanted to be a good person. I wanted him to embody really, really good work ethic, right? I wanted him to have self-confidence, and the fourth thing is I wanted him to be able to communicate very well. I think if you have those four things in life,

you've got a moral compass faith, you've got great work ethic, you have self-confidence, and you can communicate, you're gonna do pretty well in the world, those four things in life, you've got a moral compass faith, you've got great work ethic, you have self-confidence, and you can communicate, you're gonna do pretty well in the world, those four things. The third one, so many people just struggle with overall, it's at the core of your work, whether it's, I think it surprises most people that some of the best athletes in the world

also struggle with self-confidence. They think they're alone in this, and you do have seven steps. I'm curious, we probably know I was gonna ask you this, but why do you think it's such a struggle, naturally for humans it seems? Maybe it's not natural, maybe we learn it, to not have confidence,

and then could you give us one other thing that you think, because you say, I infuse people with confidence, the athletes you work with, that's a direct quote. Another step to helping me build myself confidence if I'm listening or watching. Yes, absolutely. Great question. And first off, Ed, that is, we know where we get our joy as through the faith. That's so cool that you have your son. That's why I do everything I do with joy because I know I have faith and know I have Jesus. So first off, all, that's, that's amazing.

But yes, confidence in having this unshakable confidence is something we all struggle with. Like 98% of us are thinking of the worst case scenario, even though 98% of the time, the worst case scenario doesn't happen. It's just in us to think that worst case is going to happen. And so I'll give you an example. So I'm pretty much the confidence gospel to my NBA players for years and years.

And I've seen it take them literally from an average player to future Hall of Famers, just on that self-confidence alone. And I know we all can look around and we see that the success, we see our results in certain situations, we see our resume, and we can find some confidence in that. And that's just, that's great, but that's just the tip of the iceberg

of what true confidence is. And understanding this is the foundation, literally, I think literally of everything for confidence, for mindset is true self-awareness. And what I mean by true self-awareness is knowing what you stand for, why you do what you do and having it be something bigger than yourself. So I'll give you an example real quick. One of my best friends is Jeremy Lynn. And Jeremy went through this time with the New York Knicks. It was called Lynn Sanity. He was like taking over the NBA. He was he was going gameners 30 point gay. Like he was the number one trending thing in the world for weeks. But if Jeremy was being honest, he would tell you that he, like he didn't really embrace that moment that he was going through that because he was living in the what ifs, what if I don't keep this up?

What will people think of me? What if I can't keep performing at this level and it drove him nuts? So those results that everybody saw, man, he should be so confident. He was, he was very uncomfortable. But so one of the biggest things that I've seen over my career that I'm the most proud of is seeing Jeremy come into his own and realize his own self-awareness and that the fact that he stands for so much more than just basketball production that he stands for. This is Taiwanese people for his faith in Jesus and for being a great gourmet chef in the kitchen.

Like he has stuff of awareness and things other than what the world is saying, hey, this is where you have to be. Like this is who you have to be. So good. I dropped my son off at college and obviously that self-confidence thing's the biggest piece.

He's a college athlete too. And it's amazing that you just phrased it though. I just want to second things because we've not talked about this stuff. It's just remarkable. And the last, my, my people that listen to my show regularly will know this. I, I left my son, the last thing I said to him, as I said, remember who you are and what you stand for. And all of your confidence can come from those things.

And I think there's something, by the way, self-awareness is something I talk about an awful lie. Completely agree with you. The other thing is, I don't think people give themselves enough credit for their intentions. So I think confidence can come from, I'm a good person. I intend to do well. There's a reciprocity in life, you know, whether you believe in if you're Christian like you and I, the parable of the sower that, you know, there's reciprocity in life. What you reap is what you sow also, which is not the parable of the Sower, but it's a scripture. Karma, whatever you think it is in your life, that they're power to intention.

That I don't think enough people give themselves confidence, just stemming from their awareness of their intention. Do you not agree with that? I completely agree with that. I love that. I love that so much on so many levels. Because I mean, what it is at the core is knowing that, hey, you are preparing for your opportunity daily.

We don't know when that time is going to come. God has that time. And it's on a much better time that we can even imagine. But everything you do is a preparation for an opportunity to come. The person that you are today, how you act no matter who's watching or no matter what your job title is,

is going to determine what you're going to be. And I have a story in the book, one of my former teammates when I was playing in Europe, he came over and he got a contract with the Spurs. And now he was a great player over in Europe, and he's playing with the Spurs. And so he goes from this being the star to this bench guy, and he told me, he's like, David,

I'm going to be the best towel waiver in the NBA. Like literally, he was going to embrace being on the bench and just waving his towel and encouraging others. And from that alone, like that became so infectious to teammates where he finally got his opportunity, he made the most of it because he was ready, because he was going into teammates where he finally got his opportunity. He made the most of it because he was ready, because he was pouring into teammates where he's ended up making about $100 million with different teams

throughout his MBA career. But would have never done that if he didn't embrace the moment he was in and do the absolute best with what he was given understanding that every day was a preparation for a greater opportunity to come. How do you do that? How do you, in your opinion, being in the moment, I've talked about something called blissful dissatisfaction. I'm just curious as you're take on it, where you find the ability to be present in this moment, even though perhaps it's not the place you'd like to be permanently. In other words, someone may say, look, I'll embrace some moment right now,

but I am unemployed and I'd like to be working again. How do I embrace this moment yet still keep my focus or at least some of my intention into the future? That dynamic, I guess, is one of the keys to life. We're always going to be trying to get better and better at it, but do you have any insights into that? Man, to be honest, it all comes down to like, who are you doing it for? Like if you're stuck in that situation

and it's only about yourself, it's only about where you're going to be, then you're probably going to be miserable through it. I mean, you can look at it like, hey, I'm going to put a few years into this and then I'll be out of it. I understand it's a preparation for an opportunity. But even in the times of suck of being in that pit,

like you can really find gold for other people in there. And it's, I mean, I think it just all comes back, like knowing my own life experience and being around so many high performers that we know that once you fully detach from caring about your own, like how you look, how you look to others, what the media say, anything like that, and focus on serving others,

like genuinely serving others, everything opens up, man. And yeah. I recall some story you told about that. I'd like you to tell, because I only recall part of it, about like cornerstones or, you know what I'm talking about? Yeah, absolutely, man.

So I was in Israel and if you haven't been in Israel, it's amazing, like the coolest place, seeing where Jesus walked. And there's a temple mount, which is the big temple in Jerusalem. And there's these cornerstones that are just magnificent. They're huge, they're beautiful. And you can see them right there.

But the funny thing is, is that underneath the surface, there's these cornerstones, you can't see that are even bigger, even more beautiful. You don't see them on the surface, they're not getting the publicity, you're in the look at me, like these cornerstones are out there, but they are the foundation that grows everything. And so whether you have two followers on Instagram or 200 million, it doesn't matter.

Like you can be that cornerstone, you can be the impact, you can change one life. And that one person that you change your life could go on and change a million. So that, in effect, you changed a million people's lives. Oh, brother, I love that. That's, I was, I was really hoping that, what's interesting about this interview you and I both,

I think it trips people out about me most of the time too, is we're both real brain oriented and science oriented, yet we're both men of deep faith. And that dynamic is sort of surprising to some people when they hear the two. And along those lines, I wanna talk a little about science stuff now just for a second, but I've heard you talk about float tanks

and I just, and curious is your take on them, tell people what they are number one, and if you're a believer in them and what you think they do for somebody, if you think they do make a difference. Yeah, I mean, float tanks are a great tool and optimization tool that really, I mean, it's kind of like meditation where you can get into that state where your mind isn't racing. And far too often your your mind isn't racing. And far too often our mind is just racing with the things we have to do, the thoughts that we have. And float tanks, to me, what they do is they really clear my mind. It's

almost like a reset button to me where I can just like when I come out of float tanks and I love the virtual float tanks, especially and about NBA teams are jumping on board with this but it's a great way to You know how people to say they detox it's a great way. I think to just hit that hit that restart recharge buttons So everyone if you don't know what it is is because we're in a time crunch here I'd encourage you to Google it people that I work with everybody that Maybe struggle with some mental health issues as well, that have tried other things, that are like, you know, that quite worked for me. Always say, at least give the float tank process

an opportunity for you. I'm getting chills just because I've had several people that I've recommended that to tell me it's been great for their mental health. For someone in my case, you know, I'm struggling a little bit with that stuff, but for me, it's exactly how you described it. You know, I do cold showers and cryo and these other things, but for me, it's also a recharge,

a reset, a refocus for someone who's in a lead performer too, but if you struggle with mental health, I think at least giving it a chance, float tank technology, you would perhaps find some benefit from. Now, this is something I don't know much about. What's red light technology? What is that? So red light therapy is a type of recovery module that is the red light is what really it brings out your cells. It regenerates basically everything about you. It's almost like a supercharger and you get in there like a tanning bed. So this is

if you can do two combos, I would honestly say the float tank and the red light charger red light therapy. I'm sure people are familiar with do. But it's, I mean, without knowing that the exact details super, super scientific like it really is a recharge rejuvenation tool. I mean, it's a big time recovery tool for you mentally and physically. Well, we cover in a lot here today. A couple more things. One of the reasons I want to acknowledge you, though, first before we maybe ask one more question is, I just want to acknowledge you because it's apparent to me your goodness and your genuineness.

And I love when I find somebody whose actions are sort of lining up with what their soul's been calling them to do. I just feel like you're right in your purpose doing this brother. You're great at it. You're a little bit younger than me. And I just want to encourage you to continue to grow into this because I think you're remarkable. We have mutual friends we're talking before about Trevor Moad and Dr. Andrew Huberman who

I just think are amazing people also. And you just, you're called to do this. You're remarkable. And so I encourage everybody, go get pivot and go, follow him on social media, follow him on Instagram. What's your Instagram? I will put up on the screen on YouTube, but what's your Instagram?

David Nurse, NBA, Instagram and Twitter. NBA. So you guys get access to what these elite athletes are getting every single day. I wonder what your advice would be, just as a general overall strategy. One thing I find myself doing more of that might surprise you is that I'm working with a lot of former athletes. And you know this, it's so many of our brothers that play in the NBA or NFL or MLB or UFC or whatever, their identity

is very much tied up in what they do. And for a lot of people doing this, their identity is tied up and I'm a mother, right? I'm an entrepreneur, I'm this, I'm that. And their identities type in what they somewhat do is opposed to who they are. And so a lot of professional athletes struggle post-career to find, you know, their young people, their 30, their 35, they're 40 years old, they've got more than half their life left. And I think there's a lot of people, my guess is today, who need a restart, they need to literally a pivot,

they need to change things, they're, you know, their career that was maybe not be here, maybe they climbed it pretty far and they're like, yeah, it wasn't what it was cracked up to be. That's not what my calling is. Yeah, who would your advice be to somebody who needs an identity shift, who needs a new vision, who needs a new dream again in their life? What counsel would you give them?

Man, that's such a great point. And honestly, I would have them sit down and just kind of just really think about it. Take a little time to have some self assessment and not just be doing, doing, and going, and going, but think about like why you wake up in the morning. What juices you up? At the end of the day, if we don't do something

that we're passionate about in some capacity of our life, it doesn't have to be your full-time thing yet. You're gonna, I mean, you're gonna just burn out. You're gonna drive yourself nuts. So really at the core figure out your purpose, figure out what your mission is. And I thank you so much for the kind words I reciprocate them back to you like every time that I hear one of your podcasts, it's like, this is the most important podcast

to you in the first and the best of it. And I love it, man. It's so true and genuine. And that's another key of it as well. Like you are pouring it to others. You're not doing this for your own game, but you're doing it to help everyone else. So figure out your purpose, figure out your drive,

your passion, and then figure out how you can use that to help other people. But the big thing then too is like, okay, now I need a blueprint. And you need to figure out what your big goal is if you could create your ultimate dream life Super detailed write that out and then you're going to figure out what type of steps using these type of tools That you're gonna take to get there and you're not just gonna give up your job that's making income for your family Just write off the bat, but how can you do something for free in this area? How can you develop a relationship here?

And it all comes down to, like we were talking about relationships, I call it my golden 15, where I've developed, where I've poured into other people, so much that I know that I have a person in this area, or this like investing or business that I can always turn to for advice. And we can all do that, Like we can all create these. So it's, it's a commulation of a lot.

It's, I know it sounds like a lot, but just, here your purpose, your drive, what juices you up, what gives you that hell yeah when you wake up in the morning. Figure out who you're doing it for, what can you do it for a bigger purpose to serve others? And then create a blueprint and write those steps out and understand that you're going to fall off that horse.

There is never a straight line of success. It's always up and down and curvy to get there. But if you stay on that path, you take that 27 years to become an overnight success. You prepare for that opportunity every single day, it's going to come. And it probably won't come in the package gift wrap like you think it is like you write it out.

It might be a slight pivot, but it's going to be even better. And I'll leave you with one one thing one of my favorite my favorite quotes. And it pretty much kickstarted my life. Well, after I poured everything I could to play in the NBA and I was cut from a second division joke of a team. Will Ferrell said my pro basketball over in Spain was I was sitting on my parents for Clienter chair, feeling bad bad for myself living there for about five months. Nothing, no money to my name, nothing.

And my mom said what she was doing dishes, David, when one door closes for open in an entire beachfront patio, overlook in the ocean. And it called me up guys like I've never heard that before. But it's so true. It's so true. If a door closes, it's just four more doors are gonna open But you have to have your eyes open to it. Oh

Man mom was right. I've never heard that before either brother And by the way, I would be honored to apply for a position to someday be in the golden 15 in your life So I would love it man. I would love it. I'm definitely I'm definitely honored to be for consideration even thank you David this was awesome. Like it flew by and hope you guys follow him on Instagram. And you know, one thing you get access to nowadays, but there's a virtual mentors, you can have your virtual golden 15 as well. And certainly after hearing you today, I think there's an awful lot of people

that think that you should be one of those for them. So hey, everyone, by the way, in that regard, you know, every day on Instagram, I run the max out two minute drill. I do that just so I can engage more closely with you. So I know what types of guests you want on my show. David fits the absolute perfect description of what many of you have been asking me for recently, especially coming off all this political talk we've been doing in the last few weeks. And so every day I post at 730 Pacific time, 1030 Eastern. First two minutes have your notifications on. Make a comment, you're in a drawing.

If you missed the first two minutes, make a comment any time of day, as long as you comment on every post at the end of the week, we add those up. People will comment every day, we pick a winner from there. And the more you reply to other people's comments, it increases your chance to win, fly on the jet, come see me speak, meetings with the guests on my show, max out gear, my book, all kinds of great stuff. And so again, participating in the Max out two-minute drill. And David, thank you so much for today, brother.

I enjoyed it tremendously. And it's a big time, honor, man. Keep in that awesome light you are to so many, brother. You too. Amen. God bless everybody. Max out. Thanks out!