THE ED MYLETT SHOW - The Ultimate Hack to Get More Done in Less Time!

Episode Date: August 16, 2025

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Hey everyone, welcome to my weekend special I hope you enjoy the show. Be sure to follow the Edmyshow on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. You'll never miss an episode that way. Let me tell you one thing I've noticed about all the max outperformers that I've interviewed on my program and that I've known throughout my life for the last 30 years really in business, sports, entertainment, politics, you name it. The elite performers look at time and use time completely differently than the people

who perform at an average level. And so I want to talk to you about some tips and strategies today to begin to think about time and utilize time differently. So let's start out. The first thing I want to tell you about people who win, who max out, they are in a much bigger hurry than the people who are average and i'm not kidding you when i say this they're in a bigger hurry to get to their destination to get to their outcome their pace is faster they walk faster they talk faster and their expectation when they're going to arrive at their destination is sooner

this may seem like a very small subtle thing but i want you to evaluate how big of a hurry are you in because there's something to be said about how close you think you are to a goal and how fast you will run to get to the finish line let me give an example of that If you and I started out right now, and we had a 26-mile marathon to run, right? In our minds, it was 26 miles, and we were going to race each other. We would pace ourselves at a certain speed in order to maintain that speed because of the duration of the run. So if it was a marathon, we'd jog, wouldn't we pretty slowly? You certainly wouldn't sprint 26 miles.

And so because the destination, because the finish line is so far away, our pace or our hurry is limited based on how far away we think we are. or when we'll arrive there. But if you and I were to run a 100-yard dash, would the pace be the same? Because the finish line is so much closer, we'd run full speed from the minute we took off, wouldn't we? Because of the proximity of how close the finish line is. The people that win in life don't necessarily have more vision than you.

See, it's not a lack of vision always that means that you are going to lose. It's a lack of a type of vision, which is depth perception. You think you're further away from the outcome, and so you pace yourself like it and you jog all the time throughout your life. The people that win may have a bigger vision, but they have accurate depth perception. They understand how close their goals are, how close their outcome is, and they're constantly in a sprint to get there throughout their day. That means consequently they get started earlier and they finish later.

They get up earlier. Throughout the day, they're in a bigger hurry to get to the places they need to be because the finish line in their mind is so much closer. I cannot emphasize this enough to you as just the pace and the way time shrinks for elite performers compared to the average. I'm telling you, the average performer can say the same things, read the same books, have the same schedule, yet the person who is in a bigger hurry throughout the day ends up winning the day, winning the week, winning the month, winning the year, and winning the life. And so please evaluate your pace. You should be in a so much bigger hurry than everybody around you. You almost have people telling you to slow down a little bit.

So that's number one is you've got to be in a bigger hurry. The second thing is the way we begin our day. I'm going to tell you right now, either you're going to control your time or your time's going to control you. Either you are going to dictate the terms of your life or you're going to be somebody who reacts and responds throughout their life. This device right here can both speed up time in your life. it can slow it down. It's not always a speed tool. So one of the tips that I've covered before but not enough people implement that I promise you is a quality of max outperformers that relates to their time is they control it. They do not react and respond. They dictate

the terms of their life most of the time. And that means this. When you wake up in the morning, the greatest thing you could do for yourself is not touch or look at this device for 30 minutes to an hour after awakening. So that when you wake up, you take control of your time you control the time you control the beginning of the day you get clear you meditate you pray you stretch you think you go through a gratitude exercise you control the first 30 minutes of your day it sets a tone that I'm in charge of my time not what enters this if the first thing you do is grab this this now dictates the term of your day this controls my day what hits this what email what text what call hits this what Instagram post

hit this this controls me it controls my time but if you can stay away from it for the first 30 minutes to an hour you send a message to your brain to yourself that you control time that this day is on your terms and again you stack up a day a week a month a year five years of a lifetime of you controlling and dictating the terms of your life for just the first 30 minutes to an hour every day it will revolutionize your life it'll be very difficult to do for the first 30 days but after 30 days, you'll never have the desire to do it again.

You'll completely flip your life around. I'm not suggesting that all max outperformers dictate every term. Of course I respond. Of course I react throughout my day. It's not the syntax or context of my day. I control my day. There are things throughout every day where we react and respond. There are conversations where someone says something to us.

We clearly react and respond. But I'm the assessor of my life, not the assessee. I assess my life. I dictate the terms of my life. I'm not being assessed and I'm not being done. dictated to by other people all the time in my life. That's a huge separator in how people look at time for max outperformers. The third thing is this, why is a day only 24 hours?

I mean, if the average people in the world or the majority of people in the world have a 24-hour day, why does that have to apply to you? Many years ago, I discovered, if you ever had a day where in four or five hours, you got more in the first four or five hours done or accomplished in your day than you had in a normal day you ever have a four or five hour window a six hour window like you go i've got so much done in these six hours it's more than i get done in an average day and what i found out was max out elite performers people that perform at the highest level they get more done in a six hour window than most people get done in a day and here's why most people measure a day by 24 hours so i

started to think i was young in business i was in my early 20s and one of the things that was held against me by other people is you're too young to win you don't have enough experience you just haven't have enough days of experience of your life, enough days in business to win. I thought, well, how can I fix that? And here's how you can fix that. And I've adopted this now for almost 30 years. I want the average people I compete against to think they have a 24-hour day. My days are six days long. So I want to teach you the concept of running many days. My day, my first day is from 6 a.m. to noon every day. That's a full day for me. So I try to get done a full day's work from 6 a.m. to noon because I no longer have a 24-hour day in my life.

I have a six-hour day. And so a day to me is that measure of time. It altered the complete direction of my life. It transformed who I am. So now from 6 a.m. to noon is a day. That's my first day every single week, 6 a.m. to noon Monday morning. And what happens in that 6 a.m. to noon, I see, there's a mental thing we have. I have a whole day to get all these things done.

And so we stack and dictate and schedule our day over that 24 hour window of time. You'd be surprised if you shrunk the day to six hours, you can get the same things done in those six hours. You used to get done in 24. From noon to 6 p.m. is my second day. And in that second day, I fill it up with a full day's worth of fun, memories, meetings, phone calls, you name it. Meetings with my relationships in my life. In that six hour day, I pack out another day. noon to 6 p.m. I fill that day up. And my third day is 6 p.m. to midnight. And in that 6 p.m. to

midnight, same thing. My relationships, my meetings, my phone calls, my emails, the work I do is a third day. And so what happened was when I was in my early 20s, I went from having three days in the same window of time when the average person had one. And I started to accomplish triple what the average person was accomplishing. Now once again, you stack up three days in 24 hours over a week, a month, a year. In just one year, I end up with over a thousand days and I'm competing against people only have 365. Think about the mind-blowing difference could be in your life if you ran many days the rest of your life. I'm telling you right now that my days are six hours long. You'll be the amount of work you can get done, the amount

of compounding that'll take place in your life, it's going to blow your mind. When you start looking at your schedule, day one is 6 a.m. to noon. Day two, is noon to 6 p.m. Day 3 is 6 p.m. to midnight. Your whole existence is going to change. It'll be kind of fun in the beginning. You'll mess it up. But you stack up a week or two and you do that for a month. Imagine that in one month getting 90 days. Think about what would happen in your life if in a month you had 90 days and the rest of the world, the average in your life. Imagine that for a second. The rest of the world only had 30. And you stacked that up over a year or three years. How different would your life be and I'm telling you I'm an example of how different

your life would be I'm an example of what that productivity and compounding in your life can look like more fun more memories more meetings more encounters more relationships more experiences more money more achievement more joy more bliss I'm creating opportunities constantly so what I do is I shrink the finish line so there's sprints all the time and so because I only have a six-hour day I'm gonna hurry throughout that day I'm not jogging I'm not walking I'm in a big hurry and you're going to be amazed at the transformation you're like I may never give you a bigger gift than the concept of six hour days I think I'm one of the only

people you'll ever hear explain this to you but I can tell you I started to study these successful mentors my my gosh they get so much done before nine o'clock in the morning my gosh by one o'clock they've accomplished so much and the average person is just stretching getting out of bed done their first appointment or two especially you entrepreneurs out there how critical this is because when you're an employee at least as an employee to some extent they control your time they dictate you need to be here at 9 a.m. you can't leave until 5 p.m. and so although that's a that's a nuisance it helps you be more productive because they're paying you they tell you when to be there but

what happens for most entrepreneurs they don't realize when you become an entrepreneur you've taken on three jobs four jobs it requires more time but people start to relax oh my time's my time's free I love the freedom of being an entrepreneur there's the greatest fallacy in the world is that you are free as an entrepreneur and as a matter of fact you have more responsibility more obligations more accountability when you're an entrepreneur because there's no guaranteed money coming in the the biggest mistake the biggest misnomer the worst thinking you could have as an

entrepreneur is that somehow you're free because you don't have a job just because you call yourself an entrepreneur if you are one doesn't make you free in fact that makes you less free and so what will make you free is really being free really getting financially independent really having enough money that you would never need to work again really having enough money that if you didn't want to take a meeting you didn't have to so stop diluting yourself into this false sense of freedom because you call yourself an entrepreneur it's hilarious and it's why you're losing you have this fallacy this relaxed state

of freedom where you're gonna get around to doing things and you get to go to the gym anytime you want to and you're wearing your sweats at 10 30 in the morning right you wouldn't do that if you work for someone else you don't do that when you work for you and so the greatest thing I could give you is the gift of many days the next thing I want to share with you is that there needs to be an alarm clock where performance is measured performance improves secondarily the more you can shrink the time frame where you measure performance the better chance you can have to alter that performance and improve it so what do most people do they

measure their performance the average people in the world measure their performance at the end of every year New Year's Eve right they take an count but here's my life here's what I accomplished here's what I didn't get done and once a year they take a look at themselves they make an adjustment and their performance improves they measure their performance they measure the results and then they make an adjustment so they adjust about once a year pretty good performers shrink the time frame at the end of every month most companies kind of do an inventory most people do an inventory they look at

their books they look at the profit and loss they look at their schedule and they make an adjustment after they measure that performance at the end of the month really good people kind of get together on a Sunday night if they're pretty good performers once a week they measure their performance they make adjustments and they move on weekly and then there's really top-level performers and they do at the end of every day don't they the end of every day they sit back they look at their calendar they look at the results and they measure the performance daily well who do you think's gonna do better the

person who measures it once a year once a month once a week or once a day we all know the better adjustments they shrunk the time frames down they adjust they get better they improve daily and then there's the max out 1% of 1% performers and they have a clock that goes off every hour every hour in their head the alarm goes off in my mind it's sort of weird but it works I'm addicted to it now about every hour the top of every hour at 11 a.m it's funny my mind just knows what did I do to move closer to my goals what did I do to move closer to my outcomes have I achieved the things of my to-do list today have I achieved my biggest and baddest outcomes of the day and

every hour did I move closer did I move closer what adjustments do I need to make what do I need to celebrate what tweaks what's been accomplished so far an hourly alarm clock goes off in your head if you can get to the point where you just begin to practice it and maybe for now you program this thing to go off every hour just to remind you what did you get accomplished and maybe when that hour goes off you know what flashes on the screen your outcomes in your goals hourly the alarm goes off hourly the alarm goes off it will begin to train you to begin to measure the time frame of your performance every hour.

Now let me ask you a question. There's a group of people that measure their performance, their race, their marathon is once a year. Then there's those that do it once a month that make adjustments and measure where they are and increase effort. Then those that do it monthly, weekly, daily, hourly. I can tell you that I run many days and I measure my performance hourly. It will transform your life.

You will become more productive in your family, in your personal relationships, in your faith, in your business, in your fitness, in your nutrition, in your money, in every area. If just something goes off every, by the way, it's a five second, just reminder, am I moved closer to my outcome? If I move closer to my to do list today, what adjustments do I need to make? You'll be reminded at that time of someone you forgot to call, an email you didn't return, a meeting you haven't asked for yet, but something you're supposed to eat, hydrate, whatever it is, if you can begin to have that alarm, just go, it's just five seconds, it's just

every hour, just five seconds. And I'll tell you, it happens to me constantly now. And I know that one of the reasons my life has improved is because I've shrunk the timeframes down of where I measure my results, right? Where I recalibrate, where I course correct, where I make an adjustment, where I realize I'm behind, or I've made a mistake, and I improve a performance.

And so, so far, can you imagine, if you started just being a bigger hurry, and you had perception correct about how close you really are your goal. The difference in winning and losing is this much. It's like a veil. And when you remove that veil, you see, my gosh, I'm so much closer. I promise you, one of the things that you suffer from isn't just like a lack of vision and clarity. I wish you more clarity and more specificity in your vision. And I wish you more proximity, that you knew how much closer you were to achievement than you think you are. In fact, it's the fact that you think

you're so far away from achieving these things that's causing them to constantly stay that far away from you because you're not running fast enough towards them you're not measuring them fast enough but you're killing your goals and your dreams by thinking they're so far away it kills everything if you knew how close you really were you run so much faster so if you altered that if you altered the first 30 minutes to an hour of your day and you just stop letting yourself be a reactor but you took control and became a dictator of your time if you manipulated and bended time like I have to where a day

is six hours let the rest of the world think a day is 24 hours by the way someone just made that crap up a long time ago an hour of measurement 24 hours is a day 365 is a year someone just made that up and everybody's bought into it well guess what I've made mine up my days are six hours long I've just manipulated and changed time it's a figment of our imagination is how time works and what if an alarm could go off every hour in that mind of yours in that heart of yours just check it just a wake up call just to wake up Just an alarm.

Hey, am I closer to my goals? Am I closer to my outcome? What adjustments doing to make? What course corrections? What was achieved? What am I grateful for? It's just a five to ten second reminder and you're back off to the races again. If the Earth spins around once, we call that a day.

If the moon goes around us once, we call that a month. If we go around the sun once, we call that a year. It's just stuff people made up, right? And so time is a figment of our imagination. And if you'd use your imagination, imagine what you could accomplish if you shrunk the timeframes down. The last thing I want to tell you about time is that the best people I know have a focus on the future and use their time in the present.

They focus on the future and use their time in the present. Too many of you are focused in the past and are thinking all the time about the future dreaming and aren't taking advantage of the present. The present is a gift and we need to treat it as such. The past is literally gone forever. And in many cases it's a figment and a manipulation of our imagination.

imagination the future is grand and powerful and we need to be focused there and thinking about it and dreaming about it because we are pulled towards it but the best people can simultaneously be dreaming and optimistic about the future and take massive action right now most of the max out achievers I know in my life spend almost zero percent of their time on the past and I'm talking about people who have pretty darn good past in some cases as well it is wasted time you're wasting time you're stealing and robbing your future and your present by focusing any of your attention or thoughts

on the past the past if it's negative and wasn't positive for you is a place you should avoid forever it's not coming back it doesn't exist anymore all we really truly have is this moment right now and our dreams about the future if the past was wonderful and you were a high school quarterback or had a business victory or got a college degree or had an achievement there those things aren't your present and aren't your future and dwell on them and focusing on what you've done previously is not going to produce for you a future. Here's the truth. Your past does not equal your future. What will equal your future is what

you do in the present. And so I want to encourage you to take these tips I've shared with you today. And I want you to know if you would make a couple of these changes, I can assure you your future is closer to you than you think it is if you'll take massive action right now in the present. I have a really good friend here today. one of the most downloaded shows we've ever done before because he'll surprise you you know him from television he's an incredible television personality with ridiculousness and a million other projects that he's done but i don't know him from that i know him from his brilliance as an entrepreneur and as a human optimizer of himself of time and in everything connected to him and he's a very very good friend of mine

and i love my conversations with him he's one of my favorite people i've ever met in my life to talk with, if not my favorite. And I thought today I'd just let you sit in and I'm one with us. We're going to talk today with the great Rob Deerdick. Welcome to the show, brother. Speaking of life and needle moving, I don't know if you texted me this or you posted it. So it probably doesn't matter. But that's the micro stuff. The macro is you're so obsessed with this that you look at like duration of time on the planet. And it was something about you just realize, you read something on your laughing, but did you text me this? Or did you post it? It just posted that I wanted to live one million hours.

That's exactly right. So you read something that convinced you're going to, that you could live to a particular age and you deduced how many hours there. So I actually think this is brilliant because this type of focus causes us to live with intention and attention and the lack of, I think all the time, do you know when I pray at night, you're going to laugh at this. Never said this out loud, not even to my wife. I'm going to tell you in about 70 billion people right now.

When I pray at night, one of my last prayers is that I'm going to live to 128 years old. Okay. And I really believe, now, again, someone will listen to this in three years. Wow, it's so sad. He passed away. But I have that prayer and that intention, and I've repeated it over and over and over again. Because I believe if I don't pick a number, if I don't pick a time, if I don't set a goal, if I don't, then I'll be up to the whims of whatever else comes my way. And I really believe that you create a space when you set something like that that didn't

exist before you did it and then you find the behaviors the people the things the thoughts the technology the nutrition to fill it up what i didn't do was calculate the amount of hours that it gives me to then optimize that time so speak to that whole thing yeah and look i'm you know it makes it really makes me happy that means we're going to we're literally we're going to be friends deep into our hundreds i love we're going to be having these conversations about well what do you think you're thinking you're going to 128 you think you're good i don't know i'm pushing i'm feeling pretty good right now but i think about it more from a this is what i'm big on this is your existence right and this is this is the framework of the the spirit the human experience right you only truly

can judge anything your energy how well you're using time everything that's happened in your past how you actually feel in the present moment you can only do it in the present moment and you only experience it in your mind, right? And then you have to make a decision of like, I want to change all of these things. So I'm going to create a better future experience. That is the human experience. And I realized that I wanted to make it last to 112. I initially wanted to live to 104 and be shot in a rocket into space and explore the universe without the light pollution from planet earth for the last year before I died and then floated out into the cosmos. Now, that was before I had a wife and kids.

So it's like, now the audacity of, don't worry about me. And then, like, I'm up there for, like, 24 more years. So that changed. And then when I read the book, Icky guy, right, the Japanese long life and happiness book, they talked about super centurions. And I'm like, oh, like that brand. I want to be a super centurion. So then I made it that I would want to live to 112.

And then as I started getting deeper into, okay, how many days is that? All right. Okay, that's how many days I have. This is how many days that I've done so far. Then when I was going through my time matrix and looking at all these different things where I spend time of like, wow, I spend nearly as much time shooting a television show as I will picking up my kids and taking them to school for the year right and and to me as I just started looking at these hours and then where am I where am I losing a lot of time on the couch

watching Netflix you know what I mean it's it's me and the wife on there watching our favorite show but boy when you start looking at what that is man you're letting you're letting the hard eight to nine percent go on the couch you know what I mean like it's it's cold hard reality but as I looked at that you know I'm I then was like you know what is like what's a round number of time and like wow one million hours is 114 years and 54 days I'm gonna I'm gonna experience a million hours on this earth right and so of course a lot of people push back on like oh it's good yeah you're like a vegetable what are you gonna do and it's like like I didn't even contemplate that and And it's because you live in two different mindsets.

I live in a mindset that I just keep getting healthier and happier, more balanced, lighter. Life is more effortless. My system that is my entire body is more efficient. And I can show you in blood work. I can show you in net worth. I can show you in time. And I can show you in qualitative data that I have collected about how I feel about my life, work, and health that I am in... healthier, better physical condition, wealthier, more balanced, and happier in the data, which only

proves to me there's no reason why you can't keep getting healthier, happier, happier, and wealthier for the remainder of your life. And then I'll just fall right off a cliff. You know what I mean? Whatever it ends up ending. But again, what's it go back to? I want to live with absolute intention And I want to experience every moment that I get into and feel the vividness and the richness and the beauty that is the human experience and life. You know, you don't want to be so future focused and trying to create a better future that you never feel the present, right? And so for me, I really began to understand what state my mind is at all times and how do I love. learn to control that and begin to put in systems and solutions that keep my mind in a balanced state is really one of the bigger things that I've learned to do over the last year or so.

Share with us one of those systems. Well, you know, if you can imagine this, your mind is balanced in this way, right? It's past, present, and future, right? And so there's sort of five sections as I see it. And on one end, it's dwelling in the past. You ain't doing nothing. You want to sit and dwell about something you did. You ain't doing nothing.

Then the next level up is rectify, right? You are problem solving, taking action. Something that happened in the past. So now you're in the present past where, okay, I'm dealing with something that happened. Now I'm problem solving, taking action to make a better future, right? You sit right in the middle and you experience it. Or you go to the next level is creating, right? And so now you're in this future present, right, where you're experiencing the present

while creating the future, that's where you want to toggle, right? Because what goes beyond creating the future is wishing, right? Because if you're sitting there wishing the future was better and wishing like this will be like this or you're dwelling, you're not moving, right? And so you want to be either experiencing the moment or handling something that happened in the past present or creating something. in the future present state and swing between that right and so if you can imagine that's your mind what you what you think about on an ongoing basis is ranges between all of that that's where

the action lives now it's the quality of your mind and your mind's quality is either in a proactive state a reactive state an inactive state or a magnetic state right and for me when i when all aspects of my life are in order, meaning I'm eating super clean. Everything, all my goals and visions and everything is running smooth. I'm spending very little time rectifying the past because I've designed my present future experience with such intention. I'm dealing with very little disruption that then I eventually go beyond just being proactive to this magnetic state. And I know you've experienced this before because this is when your everything is going at. operating at such a level that answers start coming to you without you asking the questions it is the

law of attraction that that's the unexplainable force that lives in the quantum field where your energy is at such a high level you are so clear of not only being present and experiencing but creating your better future and you rise to this you vibrate to this level to where the answers show up and you never ask the questions right and for me i am trying to master all aspects of my existence to where I basically sit in that state of toggling between future present and proactive and magnetic at all times. Oh my God. It's a deep one.

It's a deep one. No. Okay, that's an all-timer right there. That's a deep one. I want everyone to go back the last five or six minutes there. That's an all-timer. When we talk, I always filter it through my life and my friends. perspective I just realized something because I do know what that vibrational

frequency feels like when I am getting answers to questions I haven't even asked it's not frequent enough and the reason it's not frequent enough is I'm depleting my energy reserves to not put myself in a state where I can have that type of energy and what I call vibrate at that frequency yeah and you're exactly right and that's the other reason why rest recovery being present matters I just really pulled something here this I just really did but let me say this every single thing matters every thought every action every decision every single thing that you do is interconnected to to get you to that space and and for me it's like i think oh i'll have a glass

of wine i'll have a couple chips it it will pull it will pull away from that i'll make it i'll make one bad decision from eating bad that will then cause me to be short with my wife that leads to this entire and pulls me right out of the magnetic state right because it's like even when you're there it's really sensitive and you could just get one thought that could rip you out of that you could look at one text it could rip you out of that right it's like and so that requires really really understanding every single bit of you and then giving value to everything you do rather than trying to like pocket your values oh if i eat healthy oh if i eat healthy oh if I stay focused. Oh, if I clear out this stuff. Oh, if I rest or recovery versus like, no,

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Here's an excerpt I did with our next guest. Robin Sharmer, welcome to the show. Real blessing, Ed. Nice to finally meet you. So let's talk about for a few minutes here. There's all these things we can be doing to get to that everyday hero. First off, it's just embracing that you are one. I think it's fundamental to the whole philosophy of the book.

Then there's some things, though, that are obstructions or obstacles to doing it. right it can be tools or they can be obstacles this may seem like a small thing to everybody but the more i'm even reflecting last night i wasn't doing a five-hour meditation i was with my family but i have to tell you i was on my phone too much last night and uh it's sort of one of these things that i've really improved out in my life but to the point of being transparent that my wife said put your phone down your daughter just said something to you my daughter actually came in said something to me i heard none of it and walked out of the room And then there was a few minutes went by and she said do you realize what I so there's these things even at where you and I are or we give away this, you know, we've got this advice and we've made these breakthroughs, there's parts of us that we can go back to old patterns again. And last night I fell back into one of those patterns. So there are these obstacles to our piece. There's these obstructions almost. They can be tools. They could be obstructions. You do talk a lot about the phone thing. Yes. You do. And you've talked about it in the past. You talk about it here. So what about what do you know about that?

most blissful and successful people as it relates to these, these obstacles, these smartphones or anything else like that. Well, I mean, you're so honest to share what you share, and I would say the same thing. I make mistakes constantly. That's good to know. I hear that. I think it was. Don't you ever do an interview?

You're like, man, I made it sound like I'm a lot better at this than I am. I know. I know. I walk away. I think it was Nelson Mandela said. And if a saint is a sinner who keeps on trying, I guess I'm okay. That's awesome. That's awesome.

That was Nelson Mandela here. Very good. There's still hope for us. Exactly. There's still hope for us. I would say an addiction, a distraction is the death of your creative production. Wow. When it comes to productivity.

In the Everyday Hair Manifesto, there is a revolutionary rule called the Five Great Hours Rule. so you don't need to work for seven hours a day i do not subscribe to hustle and grind i don't work for more than a few hours a day i take uh i work four hours every week i take four months plus off every single year how i do it is in the book including the weekly design system when i work i i'm away from distraction there's a difference between real work and that's right there's a difference between real work and fake work may let us not confuse busy with productivity that's right let us not confuse movement with impact so i think that's really important and we can get

into the menlo park and the type of total focus structures but you talked about family yet and i believe the greatest gift we can give another human being is the gift of our presence and if you look at the greatest heroes and the greatest leaders they had an ability to be there and and the very fact You said it means you do practice it. And I can tell everyone watching right now, you have so much presence. And I'm not talking about charisma, which you have. I'm talking about you are here in a world where a lot of people are cyber zombies and, you know, just not present. So I think you can change the world and live a world-class life.

Or you can play with your phone all day. You can't do both. And we could get into the science of emotional residue every single time you check a notification, every single time you like. something. Let's do both of those for a minute. Because by the way, I only have four or five, you know, I think everybody's got four or five significant gifts. Ironically, I consider one of mine, my ability to be present. Yes. And so when I almost violate that treaty with myself, that agreement with myself, it deeply hurts me when I do it, because I don't do it very often. But when I do it, it's pretty obvious, I think, because the contrast of the two. Can I ask you a question?

Yeah, please. Sure. How about this? What if you don't, what if you don't, what if you, build as part of your family culture, no devices at the dinner table. Yes, great point. What if you have certain rooms like the family room, which is really a family room? Now that's good. Now that's unique. That one I've not heard. So what I did, it was so bad that what I did start doing is I left my phone in the car the first hour before I came home.

So I was at least engaged in presence immediately. But this idea that there are rooms where there are no smartphones is one of the most brilliant things anyone's ever said on the show. I mean, seriously, I'm going to do that. One thing I am, when I get a great idea, I'm very coachable, and I'll implement it like immediate, like, I tell you that this evening when I get back, I'm like, this space right here, there's no phones in here. Here's another idea. That's where we gather.

Sure. Another idea, zero device day, once a week. Do you do that? I do. I do a number of days. And how do you do it? Your schedule. Yeah.

Your schedule doesn't lie. You can, people can say, this is important, that's important. You look at someone's schedule, that shows their, their truest priorities. So when you schedule it, you make what habit researchers call a pre-commitment strategy. And by scheduling what I call a blueprint for a beautiful week, you can actually schedule. Saturday is my no, is my zero device day. You can do it two days a week. I would also, what I do when I mentor, you know, the CEOs and the Titans of Industries and

the Celebrity billionaires, I encourage them every two months to take a complete week off. I say, go ghost, go dark. So do I. If you look at the greatest, Winston Churchill, how did he survive the pressures of World War II? He had checkers and chart well. He had a retreat. I think we must leave our usual place and get away from the world. Andrew Wyatt, the great American artist.

He had Chad's Ford, a farm in Pennsylvania, and he had Cushing, Maine, a little retreat where he would go to to get away from the noise of the world. If you look at J.D. Salinger, one of my favorite books, Katrin. in the ride. After he was 37, checked out from the world. He worked in a little cottage every day in Cornish, New Hampshire. I think we must find time on a daily, if not weekly basis to get away from the noise so we can begin to hear the signal again. The signal. I love this. I have to tell you that I think one of the things that surprised me most when I started to coach some of the more successful people myself was the time they take away, the ones that had the right amount of bliss. It's where their creativity comes from.

It's where they, what you're calling here, the signal, when they're reconnecting with themselves or they're reconnecting with their spiritual lives. And I just bought an island in Maine. And people go, why the heck you buy an island in Maine? It wasn't that expensive. But one of the reasons I did it is that's almost like a territory of disconnection for me. And it's one of the reasons I did.

There's not great cell reception there, even if I wanted it. And it's an isolated place. And it's where I go to hear the signal, the way that you phrase it. This emotional residue thing, though, just touch on that really quickly because I've not heard this before. I feel like we all have these friends who aren't on social media or we even have some older friends of ours who aren't even in the text game at all. There is a joy and a bliss that reminds you of a prior time in our culture that they have when I'm around them. A couple of my really, really great friends, there's a joy about them.

I'm not suggesting that they shouldn't be on social media or shouldn't have a phone. In fact, I'm suggesting you do both of those things. Having said that, there is some emotional deterioration, so to speak, that I agree with you on that happens when you're too engaged in them. So what were you going to say about that? That sounded like such an interesting point. Well, I'd say a few things. I think we're happiest when we're in flow state. And as you know so well, that is a term coined by Mihai Chigzent Mihai of the University of Chicago.

And it's based on a neurobiological mechanism called transient hypofrontality. The prefrontal cortex, this is the seat of our reasoning. It's also the seat of the monkey mind. It's the seat of our inner critic. It's when we start to slow down or close off the prefrontal cortex, transient, temporary, prefrontal hyperfrontality, our prefrontal cortex begins to slow down. And our brain waves can go from beta to alpha, maybe even down, theta, and delta. And when we get away from our phones, when we practice what I call the three S's still. illness, silence, and solitude.

Our brain drops into flow. We not only feel bliss, there's not only a pharmacy of mastery that makes us feel good, but Ed, we begin to inhabit the secret universe known to the saints, sayers, greatest artists of all time. What I'm suggesting to you is Hedy Lamar, Albert Einstein, Shakespeare, J.D. Salinger, the great business builders, not all of them, but many of them had one thing in common. They spent long periods of time alone in quiet, often taking nature walks, working on their biggest problem, on finding the biggest, the solutions to their biggest problems. So I think you can play with your phone all day or you can change the world you can't get to do both.

So transient hypofrontality gets you in a flow state. It doesn't happen if you're checking your phone 50 times a day. So those people you talk about, they are present because they're away from the distractions. I'd say the second thing, emotional residue, it's simply the phenomenon that every time you check your phone, you take some of your focus and you drop it on the notification you just looked at. And that's why at the end of the days, a lot of people can't focus. It's because they have dropped their focus on their phone. They've dropped their focus on the TV in the background. They've dropped their focus on chasing these shiny toys and these trivialities at the end of the quarter, at the end of the year, at the end of the career, at the end of the lifetime, amounted to.

nothing. And then the third thing to think about is cognitive bandwidth. Every morning you wake up with a full well of cognition. So I think it's really important where you give your attention to. Cognitive bandwidth is almost how I would describe you. You have a tremendous amount of it. I want to ask you about that. We're not having too much more time. I'm just really fascinated with you. So all of our friends sort of told us both we should get together and do this today. And now that I'm with you, I'm really, I want to do this again. I'm in the middle of going, I want like three or four hours of you and I just talking because I just think it's great for both of us and everyone gets to listen to it right I feel the same way too I feel there's I feel it's real you

it is real and but this cognitive bandwidth idea I want to understand you a little bit let's just talk about you for a second you're fascinating to me because you were an attorney and don't be humble when you answer this question please you have a high IQ you know dad's a doctor there's some good DNA in there for sure but you have this amazing ability Robin for recall of quotes of information of facts and a very diverse set of skills that's what i love about the book by the way i want to say this about the book again too it's i don't want to say kitchen sink because that almost makes it seem unorganized it's not what i mean but there's a lot in here that is not just what you would think about oh be a hero there's a ton in here from even all the the

um the cognitive stuff the neuroplasticity stuff the stuff on how the mind works is so so good but having said that. What about you? Have you always been this way? Or is it because you are practicing in so many of these strategies that you're sharing that you've increased your capacity for recall, for memorization of even information, and actually owning it? This isn't just stuff you're quoting. You own this stuff. So I want to hear about you. I want to hear about you. And I'm fascinated about you. Well, when you have your show, I'll come on. I told you that before. But tell us about you. No humility. I want to know. Well, you know, I would say I would say honestly I would say I'm a very simple person I come from a town of about

2,000 people on the east coast of Canada I didn't have a silver spoon in my mouth and I don't think I have any real natural gifts at I've been at this field for 26 years I live a very minimal minimalist life I have very few friends I do very few things I am not a maximalist. I don't chase every shiny toy that comes my way. We get major opportunities every day, 99% of which I say no to because I'm monomaniically focused on the few things I want to build the rest of my life around. And I think if you build your life around just a few things, I think it was Confucius who said person who chases two rabbits catches neither. And Peter Drucker said it really well. He said, there's nothing so useless as doing efficiently that which should not be done

at all. And so I'm just, if there's one talent I have, is I'm really clear on what I want my life to stand for. But I don't think I have any special gifts, but I call them the SOPs of AWC, the standard operating procedures of absolute world class. And I share them in the book. The book is really a love letter to people's highest mastery and promise. And these, these rituals like the 5am club in the 2020 formula, the two massage protocol, the second wind workout, the weekly design system, you know, how I visualize, how I meditate, how I lean into fear each day. All of those things, they really, they really do work. And so over the years, I used to be terrifically scared of public speaking, like terrifically scared of public speaking. Incredible. But thank you,

but we have neuroplasticity. You know, our human gift. is the gift of growth. The whole idea of heroism is ordinary people thrust into difficult circumstances and using the difficulty to triumph over tragedy. That's what makes us human. That's why I wrote the book. There are so many people saying, well, I can't have more money. I can't have more love.

I can't have more health. I can't change the world. And here's the litany of reasons why. Well, if you recite your excuses long enough, you actually hypnotize yourself to believing them to be true. Very short intermission here, folks. I'm glad you're enjoying the show so far. Be sure to follow the Ed Milet show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. Here's an excerpt I did with our next guest. Dr. Taryn Marie Staiskell, welcome to the show. Finally, it's great to have you here. Productive perseverance is a powerful, powerful concept,

so I want you to share that with them. Thank you for that. So productive perseverance is the intelligent pursuit of a goal. And this is really important. important for us. Oh, thank you. This is really important for us because I think we've gotten a lot of different messages about this in our society, right? So a lot of people ask me, is resilience the same as grit? Yeah. Yeah? Angela Duckworth's concept of grit. And it isn't, right? Grit is about putting our head down, right, and sort of throwing ourselves headlong into creating an outcome and just simply not giving up by dint of our own determination, right? Productive perseverance is about the art and the science of the intelligent pursuit of a goal.

It's knowing when to persist, even when we face challenges, when to be gritty, and when, in the face of diminishing returns and markers in our environment, that we should pivot in a new direction or even, you know, fold up the tent and quit. right and something important to mention here about grit is that grit works really well like putting our head down in environments that don't substantially change so if you want to become a navy seal if you want to win the national spelling beat if you want to graduate from the naval academy right it's really great to be gritty because you're going to follow sort of a formulaic series of tests and then come to your outcome at the end. But we also know a lot of companies that were super gritty and still failed. Sure. Right? I mean, even the examples that I think come to mind for everyone, Blockbuster and BlackBerry, like, right, like they were super gritty.

They were in it for the long haul. It's just the, like, the environment moved and changed around them. And so, you know, the opposite side of this is looking at how our environment is shifting and changing around us, right? What are the disruptors? What's the volatility, right, that's occurring? And to be able to kind of balance our goals and our determination and our grittiness

with what's happening externally and to continue to check in and be in this constant moment of balance. By the way, that's brilliant because there is this, I think we're in a culture that really emphasizes grit all the time. It's really the thing,

hustle culture, grind culture, grit culture which by the way without you're probably not going to become very successful so it's super critical but i think often like i got i've got a chance to play a lot of golf or previously with wayne gretsky over the years he's definitely the different sports you can debate who the goat is and hockey there's really no debate it's really not it's really way and one of the he's the only person we quote right right he's going to where the puck is going that's exactly right and that's that's the exact point you're making is that you can get so gritty there's a lot of gritty players but only one was great at skating to where the puck was going,

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with all of you today. So James Clear, welcome to the show, brother. I think it's important for people to understand this concept you teach that, you know, everyone's always talking about taking massive action. You get to take massive action towards what you want. You're like, yeah, you should do that. But your concept of getting one percent better is much more believable for most people. And so just address that for a second. Why one percent better every day and how does a habit do that? Sure. So first of all, I think there's no reason that you can't be really ambitious, right? Like, I consider myself to be a very ambitious person. I think it's just that you're oscillating or switching between these two modes, you know, like when you're in planning

mode, when you're in strategy mode, sure, you can be very ambitious and be very aggressive and you know, stretching yourself and reaching. But when it comes time to take action and execute, you have to scale it down to something that you can achieve that day. You know, like the, In one sense, the biggest unit of time you could ever do something is about a single day because then you've got to go to sleep, you know, and then you have to wake up again and do it the next day. So unless you're playing, you know, at some point there's a limit. You can only stay up for 48 hours or 72 hours, like, you know, and then you break. So that's the largest possible unit that you could ever do a single thing in. And I think more realistically, most of the time, the truth is, you know, you got about an hour.

Maybe you got two hours to work on this and then got to go move on to something else. So we don't have big chunks of time available to us. We need to scale things down into pieces that we can actually work on and execute. So the way that I think about it is when making plans think big, when making progress, think small. And getting 1% better each day is a way to encourage that. The story that I like to tell, and this is something that I kind of kick atomic habits off with, it's the story of the British cycling team. And, you know, for many years, British cycling was very mediocre. They had never won a tour to France, which is the premier race in cycling.

They had won a single gold medal over like a hundred year span. And they brought this new performance coach in named Dave Brailsford. And he had this concept that he called the aggregation of marginal gains. The aggregation of marginal gains. And the way that he described it was the 1% improvement in nearly everything that we do related to cycling. So they started looking at a bunch of things you would expect a cycling team to focus on. like they put slightly lighter tires on the bike or they designed like an ergonomic seat for the riders. They had the riders wear a little feedback sensor, a little chip to see how each

individual responded to training. Then they would adjust the practice schedule. But then they started doing like these little 1% changes, these small improvements that nobody else was really thinking about. Like they hired a surgeon to come in and teach the riders how to wash their hands to reduce the risk of catching a cold or getting the flu. They have this big trailer like a semi-trailer that carries a lot of bikes in it to major events. And they painted the inside of that truck trailer white so that they could spot little bits of dirt and dust that might get in the gears and degrade the performance of the bikes.

They have two different types of fabrics. They've got like indoor racing suits and outdoor racing suits. And they tested those fabrics in a wind tunnel. And they found out that the indoor fabric was lighter and more aerodynamic. So they asked all of their riders to wear that fabric. They even had all their different riders tests, you know, like a bunch of like maybe a dozen different types of pillows. and then they see which one led to the best night's sleep for each person.

And then once they figured that out, they brought that on the road with them to hotels for the Tour de France and so on. And, you know, Brailsford said something like, if we can actually do this, right, if we actually make all these 1% improvements related to cycling, then I think we can win a Tour de France within five years. He ended up being wrong. They won the Tour de France in three years.

And then they repeated again the fourth year with a different rider. And then after one year break, they won three more in a row. So after having never won for like 100, and 10 years, you know, they win five of the next six. And I like to use that story as an introduction to this idea of getting a little bit better, making these 1% improvements for a couple reasons. The first is it shows you that excellence a lot of the time, maybe we can even say most of the time, is not actually about radical change. It's about a commitment to accruing small improvements

day in and day out. Secondly, and I think this is also crucial, it encourages you to focus on trajectory rather than position. There's a lot of discussion about position in life. How much money is in the bank account? What is the number on the scale? What is the current stock price? What are the quarterly earnings? There's all this measurement around our current position. But what getting one percent better each day encourages is to focus on your trajectory instead? Am I getting better? Is it the error pointed up into the right or if we flatlined? Am I getting one percent better or one percent worse? Because if you're on a good trajectory, all you need is time. Right? If you have a of good habits, time becomes your ally. You just need to let time work for you. But if you

have bad habits, time becomes your enemy. And every day that clicks by, you kind of dig the whole little bit deeper. And so it's very much at the core. It's about encouraging you to focus on trajectory rather than position. How did you get the 37.78 times better? Like, where'd that ratio number come from? Yeah, yeah. It's just, it's just math, right? So if you get 1% better each day for a year, so 1.01 to the 365th power, then he gets 37 times better by the end of the year. If you get 1% worse, 0.99 to the 365th power, then you drive yourself almost all the way down to zero. Now, you know, look, real life is not exactly like a mathematical equation, right? Your habits are not exactly like this formula. But I do think that it highlights an important concept,

which is the difference between making a choice that's 1% better or 1% worse on any given day is relatively insignificant. It's very easy to dismiss. And this is, I think, one of the things that makes it underappreciated or underestimated. You know, like, what is the difference between eating a burger and fries for lunch today or eating a salad or, you know, going to the gym for 30 minutes or not? Well, on any given day, not a whole lot. You know, your body looks the same in the mirror at the end of the night. Scale hasn't really changed. It's only two or five or ten years later that you turn around.

You're like, oh, you know, those daily choices really do add up. And I think you see this pattern again and again throughout life, like take knowledge. for example, the person who always reads for an extra 10 minutes each day. Well, look, reading for 10 minutes a day does not make you a genius, right? It's very easy to dismiss. But the person who always does that over five or 10 or 20 years, yeah, really meaningful difference in wisdom and insight. Productivity is the same way. You know, like the person who gets one extra task done each day, doing one extra thing does not make you an all-star. But again, over 10 or 20 or 30-year career, that can be a really meaningful difference in output. So this pattern shows up again.

and again. What starts out small, relatively easy to dismiss, compounds or turns into something much more significant over time. The biggest word, bro, I don't think most people take into account, you and I are both college baseball players, good ones, but neither one of us were, you know, surefire first round draft pick major league players. And I think most people don't take into account and they're like the compound effect. I don't think they understand it in money. I don't think they understand it in their bodies, both positive and negative. And I don't think they understand on their identity or in just and inhabits. The compound effect in life of allowing small things to stack up over time has a multiplier

effect. And one of the things that I feel like in your work, and by the way, your work is, I'm all we're a few minutes in here and I'm like, this is so good. And the reason is, one, I believe most people believe they can get 1% better every day. I don't think most people believe that they can completely transform everything in one big leap. I think there's a multiplier, though, do you agree that between doing the right things, 1% or just better habitually every single day. Not only you actually making deposits of doing things correctly or better, but there's a part of your identity that starts to change over time

about how you view yourself that I am that guy who doesn't eat the hamburger and fries when he can choose to eat the other one. And you stack those choices and behaviors up over time. And you start sort of believing maybe you deserve something that you didn't deserve prior. Doesn't there a factor of that, don't you think, as well? This is a huge part of kind of my philosophy and book, this idea of what I call identity-based. habits. But essentially, the concept is, and I think this is the real reason that habits matter. The surface level reason that habits matter is they help you be more productive. They help you make more money. They help you lose weight and get fit. And look, habits can do all those things. And that's

great. But I think the deeper reason that they matter is that every action you take is like a vote for the type of person you wish to become. And so when you perform these small habits, when you take these little actions, you're casting votes for a certain aspect of your story or a certain element of your identity. In a sense, every time you perform a habit, that's how you embody that aspect of your identity. So, you know, when you make your bed in the morning, you embody the identity of someone who's clean and organized. Or if you write one sentence, you embody the identity of someone who is a writer. And this is why it can be valuable, you know, even to like do one pushup. It's like, no, that does not transform your body, but it does cast a vote for I'm the type of person

who doesn't miss workouts. And eventually, as you build up evidence of that story, as you start to cast more votes for that identity, you have like actual proof to believe this, right? This is, I think this is a little bit different than you'll often hear something like fake it until you make it. And I don't necessarily have anything wrong with fake it until you make it. It's asking you to believe something positive about yourself, but it's asking you to believe something positive without having evidence for it. And we have a word for beliefs that don't have evidence. We call that delusion, right? Like at some point, your brain doesn't like this mismatch between what you say you are and what you're actually doing. And so my argument is to let the

behavior lead the way to start by meditating for one minute or doing one push up or writing one sentence and letting that be undeniable proof that in that moment, you were a meditator or an athlete or a writer or whatever it is. And ultimately, I think, this is the real value that habits provide, which is they reinforce your desired identity. Boy, it's just so good, brother. So good. I don't know why I'm just meeting you now because our overall belief system about change is so very, very similar. And, you know, we're going to talk about how to actually begin to establish habits. But before we do that, I want to talk about the concept of establishing one, because you said something about the one pushup. Reading or listening

to something you're talking about about the guy who would go to the gym for just five minutes and work out and leave. And you said something about this casting the vote for who you want to be or who you're going to be. That was powerful, right? But you're saying before a habit can be, and I don't want to quote you incorrectly, but I want you to elaborate on it because this is profound to me. I mean, it's obvious, but if you don't step back and get away from it and look at it,

you just really don't realize the truth of it. Before a habit can be improved, it has to actually be established. And I think what happens is you tell me what you think. beginning of the year, I'm going to lose 50 pounds. I'm going to do this. I'm going to eat five minutes. I'm going to starve myself to 500 calories. So it's not a 1% improvement or I want to get up earlier.

I'm going to get up two hours earlier starting tomorrow. Instead of get up 15 minutes earlier, right? Get up a minute earlier. So talk about it from just the concept for everyone to just, they can take control of their life right now by just the establishment of a habit, right or right. yeah definitely right i um so one of the concepts i talk about in the book is this uh one of the strategies is this idea of what i call the two minute rule where i encourage people to build a

habit that takes two minutes or less to do so you take whatever you're trying to do read 30 books a year becomes read one page or do yoga four days a week becomes take out my yoga mat and sometimes when i mention that idea people resist a little bit because they're like okay buddy you know i know the real goal isn't just to take my yoga man out. I know I'm actually trying to do the workout. So if this is some kind of mental trick, then like, why would I fall for it, basically? Well, I tell the story of this guy, Mitch, that you mentioned, this guy who I talk about him in atomic habits, he went to the gym, he's lost over 100 pounds, kept it off for more than a decade. And when he first started going to the gym, he wouldn't stay for longer than five minutes. He had

this little rule. He had to leave after five minutes. So you get in the car, drive to the gym, get out, do half an exercise, get back in the car, drive home. And it sounds ridiculous, right? It sounds silly. You're like, obviously he's not going to get the guy of the results that he wants. But if you take a step back, you realize that he was mastering the art of showing up, right? He was becoming the type of person that went to the gym four days a week, even if it was only for five minutes. And this gets us to that deeper truth about habits that you just mentioned, this idea that a habit must be established before it can be improved. It has to become the standard in your life before you can optimize it and scale it up into something more. And, you know, I don't know why we do this.

Like, we get very all or nothing about our habits. We're like, we're so focused on finding the perfect business idea or the best workout program or the ideal diet plan that we spend all our time theorizing and researching and looking for a better way. And instead, if we could just master the art of showing up, even if in the beginning it was less than what you had hoped to do, You're establishing a foothold. You're building some small progress that you can advance off of. And it reminds me of Ed Lattimore has that great quote where he says, the heaviest weight at the gym is the front door. And man, there are a lot of things in life that are like that.

You know, like the hardest part is getting started. The hardest part is establishing the routine, even if it's a lower level baseline than what you ultimately hope to achieve. But the reality is if you can't become the type of person who masters the artist showing up, even if it's just for five minutes, then it doesn't matter. how good the plan is. It doesn't matter how great your theory is. And so I think the two minute rule pushes back on that perfectionist tendency a little bit and just encourages you to master the art of showing up. So good. I'm right. Just finish writing a book call one more. And I get asked

that sometimes too. And one of the things that I wasn't thinking about it from this perspective when I wrote it. But you can become the kind of person and says, look, I'm going to do, it's my bench press. I'm going to do 10. You do one more. You do 11. I even say, you're riding the treadmill for 45 minutes. You can build that habit of, okay, I'm going one more minute. I do 46. What's the difference in that minute? Well, if you stack up that minute over a year, there's a difference, but also your identity being instant changes. And I'm not telling you go from 45 minutes to three hours on a treadmill. So the, actually that I was doing this, I wasn't thinking of it from this perspective. But now that I'm thinking about it, actually our work is sort of converging,

you know, almost in the exact same space. Very short intermission here, folks. I'm glad you're enjoying the show so far. Be sure to follow the Ed Milet show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes here's an excerpt i did with our next guest uncle g grant cardone with me here today you have this capacity and we're running we don't have too much more time we got as much time as you want it's your podcast your capacity level is freakish okay so so so not what your capacity level so how much you can get done in a given day yeah right so talk about that for a second do you think about that like consciously are you just do you just i walked in here today yes after being gone four or five days you know i didn't

plan on the Mandalay Bay shooting. Right. Like you guys that are doing to-do list and time management, you're trying the time management thing. Talk about that how you don't manage time, you expand it. Yeah, I don't manage time.

I mean, I create time. What's that mean? It means, it means I'm not managing ammo. I'm not managing money. Time is not, time is not some, it's all made up, man. Time is made up. The 24 hours is made up.

Right. The 60 minute clock is made up, okay? The sun dials made up. Like, you know, I don't have to go to sleep when the sun goes down. And I don't have to wake up when it comes up. Right. So it's all made up. Like, like, I want the ability to operate when I want, how I want, you know, so I create time. I decide when Mandalay Bay shut down and there was a shooter and 59 people get killed and 527 people get hurt. And a, a, uh, a, uh, a, uh, a, uh, a, uh, a hotel room with 5,700 rooms, has to be searched, cleared, checked, double time, FBI, ATF, Metro Police, 5,700 rooms, biggest hotel in America, and all the public spaces. Yeah. And the casinos, and the jackpots, and the executive and the employee lounges, people are like, how long you think we're going to be down here? We're going to get out of here at 8.30. I just did the math.

I did 5,700 rooms, 3 minutes each, 2,700 policemen. We're going to be here 12 hours. You knew it. Okay. So what am I going to do now? What am I going to do with the time I have? Yeah. Right?

You know what I did? I took a nap. Took a nap. It's 200 people in a cafeteria. The thing had calmed down. The shooter was down. He was dead. And the first thing my wife observed is you and Kevin Harrington.

Kevin was down in the room with me. He's like, you and Kevin Harrington, that first two people sleep. You told me that. You're like, I need to get some sleep. So the two executives go to sleep, get some rest because we know what? There's gonna be another day. So I wanna wake up the next day, rest and ready to roll again.

So it's not how do you manage time, but how do you maximize whatever time you have? And people often ask me, well, how much do you sleep? And I said, don't worry about it. Yeah. I worry about what I do the other 16 hours. I sleep eight hours today. I know you do, you told me that before.

You get a full, I don't get full eight, but I understand what you mean. I max out every single second of the day. Yeah. And that's not some tagline either. You do really embody maxing out. call yeah so so when i came in here today where i started i did not know i did not have a calendar katy keeps the calendar i know you didn't even know a couple of meetings you had yeah look i

you know i didn't you know i wasn't even sure what day he was coming in here so so i'm like yesterday today when it was so when i came in today literally i didn't know about that meeting we had i know you didn't so she that's the one with me some of the one that we had we had a guest in here today an NFL guy and um anyway so yeah i just i do whatever i have to do you you react well in the moment you're you got your plan you do you do you do you do you You write your goals down in the morning at night? Yeah. You do.

But then you improvise all day. I like that. I write them down in the morning. I write them down at night and I write them when I lose. What do you mean when you're writing when you lose? Anytime I lose or I'm disappointed, I just go back to writing my goals, looking at my goals. Where am I going as opposed to what just happened? You really?

Yeah. So anytime I fail. Yep. I lost this deal in Jacksonville. It was a thousand units. And I missed the deal. And I was like, God damn, what did I do wrong? You know, I'm beating myself up about it.

And I wanted this deal and I started, you know, hammering on my staff. Ryan Sack was in there. I'm like, what I'm going to do it? You should have told me? And then I'm like, okay, wait a minute. Where are you going to? You went back to where you're going? Oh, I'm going to 40,000 units. Because that's rearview stuff. Yeah, exactly. It's already over. Got you. So I'm going to 40,000 units. So what does that 1,000 matter? Right, right. You know. But if you're not focused on the big thing, the big, the phone and called the guy and said, hey, if that deal falls out, I want it. You did something. You took action. Yeah. Yeah. So talk about this for a second real quick. So the, I heard you say one time. You said the big don't eat the small, the fast eat the slow. Yeah, yeah. What's that mean? Yeah, I think we're in a time where it's not about big, it's about fast. How fast can you go? What's an application of that? Like, you know, getting over stuff fast.

You know, making calls fast, getting two people fast, you know, doing stuff fast, not having ideas and putting them, get executing them. So I get more done in shorter periods of time because I just do more. And the more I do, the more I have time to do. So speed, I don't think a lot. You know, I do a lot. I probably outdo. Gary Vaynerchuk said, man, who you think over?

Somebody asked, hey, who outworks who? Because we're supposedly both. I said, dude, I don't, I don't know how much he works. Yeah, right, right. But I tell you what, I work fast. Yeah, you do work fast. You know, you do a lot of things at one time and one day. I've watched you do that.

You also get to the point of what I would call, like winning. You get to the close. You get to the point where it's actually productive. In other words, you're not stupid busy. People get stupid busier that just doing a bunch of crap that's not productive. I even watch your face. Once you sort of identify what I'm doing right now is not real productive anymore, you kind of end it. Your faith that's what you're very observant.

I am, but even if that's what I'm by disinterested, once this thing's not productive, you're not interested in anything. You're on it. Let's be productive. Do you sense that about yourself too? Yeah. Oh, totally. Yeah, I think most of the time I feel bad about it, by the way, you know, because every rude. Yeah, I hate small talk. You do, yeah.

I'm going to hate it, dude. I know you're both that way. You know, like I'm working on this big. deal in Houston, Texas, and I think I might have to go on a hunting trip to get it. And you don't want to do that? Dude, I don't even know if I can't. You just can't stomach the small talk stuff. I hate it, man.

I hate thinking we're going to have to go to the duck blinds, drink the beer, hang out, listen to the stories. I mean, it drives me nuts. But will you do it if it's required to get the deal done? Oh, I don't know. Probably. Very short intermission here, folks. I'm glad you're enjoying the show so far.

Be sure to follow the Ed Milet Show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. Here's an excerpt I did with our next guest. He is one of the most giving and generous people with his time, his information, and his energy that I have ever met in my life. And I'm literally, look at this. I'm getting goosebumps because I've been really looking forward today. So everybody, this is Jesse Isler. Jesse, thanks for being here.

Thank you so much, man. I appreciate it. I want you to talk a little bit about, just for you, do you have this sense, like, I have this weird thing, man. Like, I'll wake up some Mondays, and I'll go, how many more Mondays do I get? Oh, yeah. Do you ever do that? I do with my kids. My son's 17. I'm kind of like, I only have so many more days with him. I do. So, you know, the challenge is so many of us, myself included, we live in routine. And when you're in routine, the clock goes fast. I make sure that I create a certain amount of experiences. It's something I call Kevin's rule every year. So Kevin is a police officer that I'm friends with from Suffolk County. Probably doesn't make an amazing living, but one of the happiest guys that I know. And I went to Mount Washington. I took my son and his daughter, we slept out in the snow in this blizzard, like in this minus 40 sleeping bags all huddled up, looking at the snow coming down, we're outside, I'm like, this is an amazing moment. I said, Kevin, how often do you do this? We're here with our kids. How often do this? He goes, well, every other month, I take a trip that I wouldn't have done on a weekend that instead of watching a football game, I'll go fishing, I'll go to a museum, I'll do something. And I said, wow, like, if I can't take one, one day every eight weeks, once every two months, to create an experience, then I'm out of whack.

And if I do do that for the next 30 years, I will create 150 moments that I wouldn't have had. That's the power of doing things cumulatively. Wow. I just, one of the advantages of having money is you get to treat your friends and you get to treat people and that's the greatest gift and all that stuff. But you also meet some amazing people.

True. The people you meet. And I was in a meeting talking about something with an advisor. And he said to me a really powerful question. He said, if you could leave one of two things to your kids, all this money or a wealth of experiences, what would you rather leave? And I'm like, of course I want to leave the experiences. And so that's defined this chapter of my life. You talked about Build Your Life resume.

Boy, that's brilliant. We focus on so much of our attention on the traditional resume. but we neglect these experiences and the more you experience the more you have to offer gosh the more right I mean the more empathy you have the more you can offer to your kids yes the more you can offer to your team your employees and so I have really made it in and you have to work on this shit as you get older creating newness is hard you got it there's no newness unless you create it your routine yep you have to intentionally do it intentionally do it so like I'm aware of that.

You're talking about time, man. Time is running out. We're insignificant. There's 7 billion people, man. We're nothing. Yes. So I'm very aware of that. And I don't want to go through life

being the 80% version of me. I don't want to look back and be like 77 and be like, I always wish I, you know, we talked about going away maybe, you know, with what. I don't want to look back and like I didn't do that. Yeah, me too.

So I'm just in action mode. I'm almost operating like I'm manic. Because there's so much I want to do and I love life so much. I don't want to miss it. I don't want to miss it because I'm, you know, I'm lazy. It's not the right time. I don't have enough experience and there's nothing to do with money.

You got it. That's what I want them to hear. Not Washington. It costs $18 to park. Exactly. So I want everyone to hear that. So this weekend I put a post that's amazing. I put a post ad this weekend.

I said, hey, go do something new this weekend. Go to a new park. See a new beach. Go to a new coffee shop. Like just do something new. Have a new drink. Eat a new meal, right? Meet a new human.

That's also where creativity comes. That's where it all comes from. That's where it all comes from. You know. What you just said earlier, man, I just, like, I get so fired up being around extraordinary people who get it because you said something earlier, it was brilliant. You're like, I have this huge life. There's not, you don't have balance.

What you are is present where you are. Like, there's no way someone with all of this stuff in our lives, we can be perfectly balanced, nor can you. But these experiences don't require you to have money. And I recognize how hard it is for people to break the norm. Yes. But normal is completely broken. Look at normal.

everybody's the majority of this country doesn't have savings the majority what the divorce rate is 50 40 50% obesity is like a third of something I don't even know the stats but they're overwhelming one out of three people of cancer and all all this stuff let me share this story with you real quick Ed you remember Rick Barry you played in the NBA so Rick Barry with the granny free throw yeah Rick Barry shot 90% from the free throw line okay one year in 1978 in the season he He only missed 10 foul shots the whole season. The league average is like 77%.

I think LeBron is below 80 career. Michael Jordan, maybe he was 82. This guy was 90, okay? And he shot every single one of those free throws underhand. He didn't care what anyone said. He didn't care if they laughed at him. He just kept fucking ringing up the points. Underhand, boom, boom, I'm good, like didn't even hit the ramp.

Since he played in the league, there's been about 2,700 people drafted. How many of those people have tried to show? shoot the ball underhand. None. Zero. Because people don't want to do shit that looks funny or weird and it's broken. The way you live is you rip it up and you don't give a shit. And you're like, I'm so aware of my mortality. I hope everybody loves this. But if they don't, it's not, what am I going to worry about it? I'm going to go continue to do what I want to do to get the most out of this precious time. So good. You know? So talk about that because that's the other cool thing about being aware of mortality, because you speak about this better than anyone I've ever heard

in my life, like a hundred years from now, none of these people you embarrass yourself and talk about that a little bit because this will give you, everyone right now, you're so consumed with what people are going to think. And just so you know, they may actually think it in the moment, but long term, they're not going to remember anything you did. Tell them about that. I love this. No, I mean, and look, I have my fears too. I want to be liked. I don't want people, you know. So do I. I mean, but yeah, I mean, one of the tricks that I do is Like I walk around when I'm super scared or I'm against that wall of fear that I control and it's stacked up. And I'm like, I'll say to myself, Jesse, nobody on this planet I'll look around is even going to be here in 100 years.

No one's living to 160. So what do I care? And no one in China or Russia, they're not going to know that the speech wasn't great or this interview wasn't successful. And that helps me. Me too. Stephen Hawkins, one of the greatest minds of our time, predicted that just the way humanity is going, environment, nuclear weapons, all these factors, that in 500 years there would be no life on Earth.

Then right before he died, we're talking about one of the greatest minds ever, he changed that prediction to 100 years. Let's just say for a second he's right. Let's just say there's a lot of crazy people out there, the environment, disease, you know, Ebola, whatever let's just say that was the case because we don't know if you knew that that was gonna happen yeah you're telling me you wouldn't take a chance or take the trip or visit your parents or do whatever or go through the wall of course you would yeah and that's how I look at it yeah I look at it like you know and you know

there's three kinds of regrets there's the regret regrets that you can change I broke up with my girlfriend in high school I wish I had her back I can't change that that's not the case I'm just saying right right right There's there's that's one kind of regret the other kind of regret is regrets that you can fix I have a relationship with my dad it went sideways I can pick up the phone and be like dad I'm sorry and fix that and now there's no more regret and then there's regrets that you can prevent okay and those are the regrets like you always want to run a marathon I'll do it next year I'll do it next year and you can prevent it because if it doesn't happen you couldn't

prevented it so I look at those things too I'm like and my going to regret this in the future I don't want future regrets and I want to fix the regrets that I have so let me get in front of it and these are all kind of strategies that I use that help me get over it just you know lose my mind how much I I want everyone I'm just mind-blown because guys like no one talks about this what we're talking about right now you can go watch 3,000 podcasts a million different speeches no one talks about this because it's like a really vulnerable almost audits

thing to admit that we both think this way. But I just want to acknowledge something that you just said, like, I think about that all the time. I'm obsessed with that. I'm so grateful for meeting you because I know I'm not crazy. No, because I think sometimes to comfort myself from fears, I'll think no one's going to be here in a hundred years. And you know what? The Earth could be by an asteroid tomorrow for all I know, right? Like there's all these random events in life that I'm holding on to something that doesn't even exist. I just think it's so important. Like the one thing that always gets me back to like ground zero is I get one shot at this life I get one shot at it I want to love I want to like give I want to be loved I want to I want to you know I want to do good things

you know and I have of course everybody goes off the wagon and this and that but I'm very aware of like this is it I remember I was saying to my wife this race that I want to run called bad water and she was saying to me like it's a it's a 135 mile run in death valley it's super it's like the hardest foot race and she's like you know why do you want to do that it's going to mess up your hips and then when you're 70 75 you're going to have you can't do anything and i'm like i'm not playing for 75 i'm playing for right now yes you know and and are you going to do it absolutely because if i don't it's a regret that i know i'll have see i i live my whole life you haven't heard me talking about this probably but like everyone want you to fast forward to 75 year old jessie is like and then i

I'm going to resent my wife. I'm going to be like, you didn't let me do the race. It's right. I do that crazy regret future thing with death. So I have this image where I go to heaven and the Lord goes, hey, well done, good and faithful servant, right? Whatever someone's religious beliefs are. But then I have this picture where he goes, and you've heard me say this.

And I run this picture constantly, man. It's like one of my greatest shrinkers of time. He says, hey, let me introduce you to the man you were born to be. This is the destiny version. This is the ultimate version of this is the maxed out version of you. I want you to meet him. I love that. These are the experiences, the love, the memories, the moments, the contributions, the people,

all the things that you could have done. This is what you were cable of. Meet him. To me, heaven, as I meet him, we're identical twins. Hell, as I meet him, and we're complete total strangers, right? And that's what that is, is it's future projecting the regret, which you just said. So not to put you on the spot, but I'm just going to put you on the spot for a second. So like our existence, humans is like a novel.

We have a beginning, a middle, and an end. We reflect on the beginning, right? So like tell stories about our childhood, like, oh yeah, you remember that, marquee jet. We're reflecting. The middle is like where we live now. That's where all of our worry is. That's where we spend all of our time. We think we're never going to get out of this rut.

We're stuck here, you know, and that's where we are. And then the end, we often ignore. And let me just put it in perspective. I'm sure most people listening have not picked out their graveyard plot yet, right? You probably haven't. I have not. Right. So then you're not really taking it seriously.

Have you? Yes. You have. I've addressed it. I've addressed the end of my life as part of my life optimization system, which we can talk about. But like that's an important piece. My wife has to know where my pass codes are.

Everyone has to be in order. I want to know how I want, because like it's going to happen. It could happen tomorrow. You're not really dealing with it if you're ignoring it, Ed. Like you're saying, okay. I'm glad you said that to me. I'm saying. This shit is real, man. You never know when it's going to happen. If you're really serious about it, you have a plot, you have a plan, your wife knows everything, everything is

taken care of, that's responsible. And that, when you do it, then you really say like, this shit is real. Yeah, yeah. It's real. And it creates urgency. Yeah, that's another level for me. So I talk about it all the time. I'm not knocking you. I know. No, no, no, no, you know. Listen, I'm just saying like, do you know how much I love that you say that to me? I love when someone pushes me to the next level. Nudge me like, hey, brother, if you're really serious, you do this. That's what we do when we coach our best friends. Like, hey, if you're really serious about someone you're doing,

if you're really serious about running this thing, here's what you'd be doing. End of life is something we ignore. Yeah, the next time we talk, I will have had that done. By the way, that'll be done within a matter of probably days. Like, that's just, I'm going to take immediate action on that. Well, I'll tell you how this whole thing surfaced if you have a second. Yes.

I was driving with my son in the car, and this is like one of those moments. I hope I don't get emotional, but I'm driving with them. And my son, he's in the back. I'm in the minivan. I'm looking at him in the window. And he says, Dad, can I ask you a question? And I'm like, sure.

He's like, what's a curse word? I'm like, oh, a curse word is a bad word. Those are words we don't use in the house and we keep driving. He goes, can I ask you another question, Dad? I'm like, sure. He goes, his shit had a curse word. That's awesome. And I'm like, well,

Is it even a curse word? I don't even know. anymore so we keep driving and I'm like yes and I'm like who called you a shithead and he goes my friends have been saying I'm a shithead all this stuff so we're driving and he goes can I ask you another question and I go sure he goes when I die is a seven-year-old kid at the time when I die what if I can't find you in heaven and that really hit me because you know like the image of me not being here then my son waiting to come up and try to find me and then worrying

that I'm not here and that really jump started me thinking about how much I want to live how important what I eat is how important my relationships are how important my time is how important my kids are to me and how real

this window that we're talking about is I have a three bucket system and it will be too much to do in this particular but let me give you to a 30,000 feet I have and anyone can do this I have in a list a list of electives. When you go to college, you have mandatory courses. Most of them you hate, calculus, whatever. I don't want to take that. I want to learn how to make money. But then you have electives, the things you want to do. So I make a list, and I love that.

So I made a list of all the things I want to do in the year. I want to run a marathon. I'm doing a documentary. I'm writing a book, family trips, all the stuff that I want to do. Okay? They go into an elective chart. Then I have a list. I'll come back to it of what I call my sunshine, electives, sunshines. My sun shines are my daily habits. That is, and I try to introduce one new habit a month. That could be, last month it was drink 100 ounces of water. This month is introducing a meditation practice. Because at the end of the year, if you have 12 new winning habits, that's a hell of a year. Wow, totally true.

That's a hell of a year. Most of us, think back to like last two years, like what have you added that's new? Even myself, nothing. Yeah, if you're lucky, it's zero to one. Right. And when I tell people that, they're like, well, I can do, I'm going to read the newspaper every day, I'm going to meditate, I'm going to drink water, I'm like, start with one. Yeah. And then introduce the next one.

So my daily habits, I have a list of them. And that could be like I want to play with my kids for an hour, I want to read to my kids, I want to drink more water. And every night before I go to bed, I look at my list of sunshine and say, how do I want to put sunshine in my life the next day? I know it sounds corny, but that's what I do. And I'm like, okay, hour with my kids, and I make sure everything is scheduled the night before. It's like, we can't afford to wing it anymore. Yeah. So every CEO, top CEOs have three assistants,

and they wake up and they come in the morning and their assistant hands in the schedule says 9 to 915 here, 915 to 9.30 here. We don't have three assistants. Most of us don't have three assistants. But we can't wing it. The night before, you have to have the day laid out. So I sprinkle in my sunshines into the day.

And then underneath that, electives, sunshine. My electives go on a year calendar. So I schedule the marathons, but my year's, it's already scheduled. It's done. I know the races I'm running, the trips I'm taking, it's all in there. All the stuff I want to do is written in because I'm not going to waste away the thing. I'm not going to go through a year and not through the shit that I want to do. Then my life, then my life plan, my system would be out of whack.

But underneath the sun shines and the electives is this big ocean. And that's all the stuff that takes away from the things I like to do. I have to get my oil change into my car twice a year. I have to go to the doctor and get my colonoscopy at 50 and go get my dentist shit and all that stuff. I have weddings. All that is the ocean. That stuff takes away from this stuff. So if you are fortunate enough to have someone that can help you with this, which I have assistance, then you can do it.

But if not, then you can assign it and delegate some of the stuff. But if not, this big ocean, which I went 48 years of my life doing myself, what I do is I get it all on paper. So it's out of my head to free up energy. And what that does is it gives me a snapshot of basically I have 15 things. I don't want to belabor the point. But everything from pets to cars to this. And it's all an end of life. It's all laid out.

And I have this amazingly efficient system. I can walk everyone through it, but I don't have the time to do it now. But I'm just saying I take it super seriously because you can't wing it. Yep. And they can find more of the detail because I know a little about the program and I'm like, I want to... I didn't mean to get off track with it, but I think it's important to talk about like. I want them to hear this because I think people think, well, I have habits and routines or I have a plan. Do you really?

Because this is what one really looks like. This is what a high level thinker does. This is what a high level achiever does. Thank you.