THE ED MYLETT SHOW - What If You’re the One Holding You Back?

Episode Date: June 5, 2025

What if the pain you're facing right now is just preparing you to meet the strongest, most fulfilled version of yourself? In this special episode re-release, I’m reminding you of one thing: you were born to do something great with your life. Not just in big, visible ways—but in the quiet, meaningful moments that the world doesn’t always see. If you're in the middle of tough times, I want you to hear this—everything you're going through is temporary. And on the other side of that struggle? That’s where your “other self” is waiting. In this episode, I talk straight with you about how your thoughts shape your emotions, and how your emotions shape your reality. I share a lesson from Think and Grow Rich that helped me stop quitting and start innovating when life got hard. You’ll hear what it means to change your “emotional home,” and why peace, not chaos, is the fuel for a life of joy and meaning. Plus, I break down the four ways you can show up in 20 years—and challenge you to choose the version of yourself who becomes the one that changes everything. This isn’t just motivation—it’s a call to action. You’re not invisible. You’re not a victim. You’re the one. Take the floaties off. Jump into the deep end of your life. Key Takeaways: Why all pain is temporary—and how to outlast it How to recognize and reset your emotional home The six basic fears that keep most people stuck Why your dreams are closer than you think The four identities you'll choose from in life—and how to become the one How to move from invisible to hero to servant leader You were born for greatness. Let this episode be the reminder you needed. Now, jump in. Max out. 👉 SUBSCRIBE TO ED'S YOUTUBE CHANNEL NOW 👈   → → → CONNECT WITH ED MYLETT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: ← ← ←  ➡️ INSTAGRAM   ➡️FACEBOOK   ➡️ LINKEDIN   ➡️ X   ➡️ WEBSITE      Get my exclusive Monday Motivation training in GrowthDay, the world’s #1 app for advanced mindset and personal development. Visit https://growthday.com/ed. This show is sponsored by GrowthDay.    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Data and message rates apply. Performance may vary. You should always consult your financial and tax professional. This is The Admirements Show. All right. Welcome back to the show, everybody. I'm excited. I'm going to just throw you a bunch of disorganized ideas I have and thoughts I have that I think can help

you thrive during what are you know challenging times. Here's the irony. No matter when you're listening to this, there will be trying times. There will be difficulties. There will be things to overcome and that's why first thing I want you to write down is outlast the temporary. Outlast the temporary. Outlast the temporary. Everything in life is temporary. In fact, our physical body is temporary. And so every single element of our lives are temporary, but the more we think things become permanent, the more the pressure accumulates on us. We can never get out of this. I'm permanently gonna be

broke. I'm permanently gonna be unhappy. I'm permanently overweight. The world is permanently gonna be in turmoil. My business is permanently going to fail. It's just a lie. You have to outlast the temporary. All pain is temporary. All things are temporary. And that's something that's really difficult to get our arms around. But if you really think about it,

your body is temporary. At some point, your body will no longer exist. So everything in life is temporary. And once you embrace that, it changes your perspective on everything. So I'm going to share so much with you guys today. Before I do that, I should tell you that this calling I have in my heart, as you know, I do this show, I do really everything I do in my public life to serve people. I certainly

don't do it for money. I was wealthy way before I started to do any of this stuff. And it's not a significant part of my income. I have a book called The Power of One More. And I believe this book is going to change the world. If you've all read Think and Grow Rich before, I love Napoleon Hill. In fact, I'm going to read out of his book to you today as part of my message. I love Think and Grow Rich, but I always felt like, yeah, you got to think and grow rich, but you got to act and do specific things to get rich and rich by the way means happiness,

bliss, financial, relationship, emotions, whatever rich means to you. And so I've written a book called The Power of One More and that book I believe is revolutionary. It's really the first ever book in my opinion written that puts thoughts and actions in congruency. And I legitimately in this book give you tons of different thoughts and actions that if you do them simultaneously, they create change.

And it's really my life's work in one book. I believe this book could change your life, but at least improve it for sure. Might change the world. Go to the website, thepowerofonemore.com. Okay, now let's get into stuff. I think this will just, you know, potentially really serve you. Is that this? Write this down. Success requires no apologies. Failure permits no alibis. Success requires no no apologies, failure permits no alibis. Success requires no apologies, failure permits no alibis. Where'd I get

that from? It's not mine. It's actually out of the book Think and Grow Rich that I've just referenced earlier. One of the original versions I'm holding up my dear friend Robin Sharma sent to me and so that is not my quote. I can't stand when people use my content in quotes and don't give me credit. That's not my quote. That's out of Think and Grow Rich. But the theme of today is that, listen, success requires no apologies and failure permits no alibis. We can't be making alibis. And so how do we create change in our life? How do we make moves through this difficult times?

Because no matter what time you're listening to this, it'll be trying. There's always things to overcome. That's what life's about. One of the things in Think and Grow Rich that I love is in the book. This is so profound and I hope this gives you hope that in the book he talks about going through adversity, going through trials and tribulations. And he ends up saying in the book that if you can get to the other side of these trials, if you don't quit, that you get introduced to your other self. Your other self.

And so what if it is that all of the tragedies, trials, tribulations, difficulties in our lives are all set up there so that on the other side of it, there's another version of us. On the other side of it, we get introduced to our other self. And I must tell you that I've been introduced to many different versions of me. And the only way I got to those versions of me

was to have to go through something difficult that tried me that pushed me that caused me to question myself doubt myself almost give in almost resist you think about it for you the things you have achieved in your life where you are today this version of you has been put together has been developed has been created because of the things you learned the things you went through the lessons you gained through difficult times. So when you're hitting these difficult times, just remember on the other side of this time, whatever it is for you is your other self. How beautiful is that? And when you step back and look at one's entire life,

even if you have children and you all were a child at one point, think about the difficult things and you got introduced to that other version of you. I remember going to high school so scared. There was this whole thing when I remember going to high school so scared. There was this whole thing when I was going to high school. They would put the freshman in trash cans, you know, and I didn't know anybody. And you know, was anybody going to like me? But the person who walked in my freshman year high school, I think you'll agree a totally different person walked out my senior year.

I got introduced to my other self. And then when I started my business journey, you know, there's one guy that started and then after the first trial and tribulation I pushed through I got introduced to another self of me and then another self and then another self and then another self in Relationships you've been introduced to other selves of you once you've gotten through them or learn from them And so what you're going through right now The beauty of it is it's preparing this other self this better version of you And you got to remind yourself of this because it's so easy not to want to outlast the temporary. I did a big long coaching call with Arte Syndicate on this.

I'm not going to get into what I covered there. I'm going to cover different things today. But I just want you to think about this for a second. Without it, it's just you all the way through life. There's no change. There's no growth. So this trial, this thing that you're going through, or maybe just this thing you're trying to accomplish. Maybe it doesn't even feel trying. Maybe just trying to accomplish something that's difficult, right?

The other self is on the other side of that. And I just want to tell you, chase that version of you, chase that person, embrace it. And when you see this adversity coming at you, right? See it for what it really is. It's this introduction to the new you waiting for you on see it for what it really is it's this introduction to the new you waiting for you on the other side of it I love one of the things I'm gonna read to you out of Napoleon Hill's book a little bit right here he says if the first plan which you adopt does not work

successfully replace it with a new plan if this plan fails to work replace it and in turn with it another and so on until you find a plan which does work right here is at the point at which the majority of men people meet with failure because of their lack of persistence in creating new plans to take the place of the old ones which fail the most intelligent man living cannot succeed in accumulating money nor to any other undertaking without plans which are practical and workable and his point in the chapter was this is where most people quit. This is where most people give in. They surrender at the sign of adversity.

Rather than pivot, rather than innovate, rather than create a new plan, they give in. And what costs you when you give in is you rob the world and you of this other self. Those are my words, not him in this case. But that's what gets robbed. And quitting becomes a habit. It's habitual. When you quit on one thing, you'll quit on other things.

And so finish, adopt, adapt all the time in your life. I wanna share something with you. You have emotions that you're familiar with, okay? And some of these emotions serve you and some of them don't serve you. It's called your emotional home is what I call it. And oftentimes in our lives, we will find a way to get that emotion we're addicted to our heart.

And our emotions move towards what we are most familiar with. You have an emotional home and it's important to take an inventory of what is that home because you find a way to get it every week. Whatever those emotions are. They could be peace, joy, ecstasy, passion, right? All those great emotions that you can have. And by the way, they aren't good and bad, just some service and some don't. Then there's other ones. Pain, fear, anxiety, worry, depression, frustration, anger. You all know people as I described those emotions you thought of different people, didn't you? When I

said anger, you thought of someone you know who's regularly angry. When I said fearful or depressed, you thought of somebody. Maybe you thought of different people, didn't you? And I said anger, you thought of someone, you know, who's regularly angry. When I said fearful or depressed, you thought of somebody, maybe you thought of you. And so if you have this primary emotion that you're getting on a regular basis, you find a way to get it, don't you? You do, no matter what's going on, you find a way at some point during your week

to get your fear. Why? Because it's familiar. And we move towards what's familiar. This is how human beings are. So the reason we want to go through difficulties is because if at the other end of that we can get another self maybe we can get another emotion. Because self is really emotions. What you really don't want is a jet or cash. You want how you think that will make you feel. What you really

don't want is just a relationship. It's how you think the relationship will make you feel. You don't just want to win that't want is just a relationship. It's how you think the relationship will make you feel. You don't just wanna win that contest you're in right now. It's how you think it'll make you feel. So what you're chasing is the emotions. See, I know people with absolutely no money who feel rich. I know a bunch of people with a lot of money who feel broke, right?

So what we're really chasing is our emotions. So for me, how do you do that? You become very intentional about what they are. You become intentional. My primary emotion I'm chasing right now that I can experience anytime I want, but I don't have to chase it. That's, that word's probably not well said. I can experience anytime I want because it exists within me is peace. And when I'm not getting peace, I get intentional about seeking it. I'm not going to do things in my life anymore that on the other end of it

Can't acquire me more peace. I may lack some as I do it But I'm gonna get more of it on the other side of it starting to become intentional and I'll share with you We all have emotions that don't serve us. We all do one of mine is chaos. I love chaos Am I interesting? I love chaos. I just realized this is an adult like I always create chaos. I'm like why I thrive. I always I thrive in chaos because I do I'm familiar with it. Why do I always create chaos even when things are great? It's like nope.

I got to do this. I got to do that. I get create a chaotic state. I create chaos around me and become aware of this. Why because chaos is familiar to me. Why is chaos familiar to me because to some extent in my childhood, it was chaotic. Most of you know that my dad was an alcoholic, greatest guy in the world, sober for 35 years after that.

But in my early upbringing, it was chaotic. It was unstable. I didn't know, is he coming home? Is he not coming home? What moods are you going to be in? Is mom and dad going to stay married? You know, all those kinds of things. And it was chaotic and I became familiar with chaos. And so I find a way in my given week or my month or my day to find chaos don't I and I do anybody that knows me

knows that's true and I thrive in it chaos by the way can be used positively chaos has caused me to become wealthy chaos has caused me to not want to be overweight and to be fit sometimes that chaos I learned to thrive in it but you have to ask yourself and I had to ask myself do I want to be overweight and to be fit. Sometimes that chaos, I learned to thrive in it. But you have to ask yourself and I had to ask myself, do I want to live all my life in chaos? No. And then I got intentional. If chaos doesn't serve me that way, what emotions do I want? I want more joy. I want more laughter. I want more peace. And so I'm intentional about getting it and I'm aware when I'm starting to generate chaos unintentionally and that awareness for me that awareness causes it to lose its power over me. So in your case, I would ask you what emotion is your emotional home that you get the most regularly? Is it really joy? Is it really peace? Is it really ecstasy, passion, right? Or do you get a little bit familiar with worry, anger, frustration, melancholy, whatever you

want to call it, fear, right? And once you know that, ask yourself, what are the emotions I would want to experience on a regular basis and get intentional about them and become aware when you're doing the ones you don't think serve you? All right and then ask yourself this, what would I have to think or believe in order to generate that emotion? Right because a lot of times we have thoughts that don't serve us. Thoughts generate emotions. Right it's not an event that generates the quality of our life. There's an event then there is our

perception of the event, our thought about it which creates the emotion. So it's not the events of our lives. You can be event, then there is our perception of the event, our thought about it, which creates the emotion. So it's not the events of our lives. You can be going through a very difficult time and have peace. You can go through a very difficult time and feel strong. It's being intentional about it. And so I would challenge you to begin to think about what do I normally think that causes me to get this emotion that creates stress for me? And what would I need to think in order to get the ones I want when the same stimulus happens? The man who shaped US monetary policy just released a bombshell book called Our Dollar, Your Problem. In it, former IMF chief economist Kenneth Rogoff warns that US dollar's dominance

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In Think and Grow Rich, he says there are six basic fears. By the way, in the power of one more, I show you how to overcome these fears with daily strategies. So it's not just the thought, it's the action you would take. I mirror the thought in congruency with the action. And that's why the Power of One More is such a really unique book. Having said that, these are the six basic fears according to Napoleon Hill and they're really interesting. He says, there are six basic fears with some combination of which every human suffers at one time or another. Most people are fortunate if they do not suffer from the entire six named in the order of their most common appearance they are this is interesting in sequence the number one fear is the fear of poverty and just process

that do you have the fear of poverty do you have the fear that whatever you're going through right now you're going to be broke you're going to fear that you're going to run out of money that you're not going to eat or whatever it might be the fear of poverty number two the fear of criticism right by the way these are the bottom not the top excuse me the fear of criticism. Right. By the way, these are the bottom, not the top. Excuse me. The fear of criticism. Do you have any of that? The fear of ill health. Okay. For fear, the fear of loss of love of someone. In other words, someone you love will no longer love you. Okay. Five, the fear of old age, getting old and missing your prime, missing your moment, missing your life. And then lastly, the fear of death. And so those

are the six fears, poverty, criticism, bad health, loss of the love of someone, old age and death. And usually I think you'll find that when you're experiencing stress and anxiety, it's born out of one of those fears. And I know you're sitting there going, Ed, this is damn good.

Thank you for doing the show today. I hope you are. And if you do feel that, share it. Fastest growing show in the world, share it. So I'm aware of the fears that I have and that's why success requires no apologies. I'm not worried about criticism and failure permits no alibis. There are no alibis. There are no excuses. There just aren't any. You go, but Ed you don't understand. I do have this excuse. I do have this issue. I do have this situation that

isn't fair for me. By the way you you're probably right and if you think it, you're definitely right. What you have to ask yourself is, does it serve you to believe that? Or what would you need to believe in spite of that? If you say, well hey, I started too late, I don't have enough money. What if you started to think, man, what a story this is going to be that I started with no money? Or you know what, I'm a particular group of people that's marginalized and it's more difficult for me. I would just submit to you that isn't the story going to be sweeter when you do win? Isn't it going to even be more inspiring when you do win? Isn't it going to move more people?

Isn't your test going to be your testimony? Whatever this thing is, that is the alibi that you have in your life, whatever it is, someone hurt me, this overcame, I'm in this situation. You don't understand my health situation. Listen, if it serves you to believe that, keep believing it, but as your friend and your coach and a mentor to you and someone who loves you and cares about you, I would say this does not serve you. Even if it's true, what would you need to believe about it that now gives you power instead of kryptonite? And you begin to ask yourself these questions. You're going to show up 20 years from now somewhere. The question is where? And what I would submit to you is

that one of the ways out of difficult times is huge bold God-sized dreams. The one you're embarrassed to tell people, the huge bold God-sized dream in your life and the more of it you begin to project into that dream state of what you want in your life, the more it gives you the inspiration. If your dreams are bigger than the adversity, you'll get through it. But the minute that adversity, those emotions are bigger than

where you're going, bigger than your dreams, your toast. You got to reevaluate that. You got to look at it. You got to say, wait a minute, what's my big dream? What's my big goal? What's that big emotion? What's that thing? What's that place?

What's that person? What's that place? What's that person? What's that contribution? Whatever it might be and you got to begin to obsess about it because what I said earlier is true Your mind moves towards what it's most familiar with So if you're most familiar with your fears those six fears or these emotions you don't want or your problems or your setbacks Or the things that are not in your favor, then you're going to move towards them. Let me say that to you again. You may be right about this adversity. You may be right about your circumstance. You may be right

about all that. But does it serve you to believe it? Because the way the mind works is it moves towards what it's most familiar with. And the reason some people are successful and most aren't is the successful people have the ability to begin to program into their mind the things they want, the dreams they have over and over and over because they know this to be true. They belong in their dreams. Their dreams are not some hallucination. They're not a joke. God gave you those dreams as a glimpse, as a preview of what's possible in your life. And the more you understand these dreams don't just come from me. How do I have these dreams?

Where'd they come from? They come from God in your life or the whatever you believe about that. I'm a Christian. I believe they come straight from Jesus straight from God. But whatever your faith is, the universe, whoever you believe, they come from outside of you and they're not a joke. They're a preview of what's possible. And the more you move towards those thoughts, those dreams in faith, boldly strong, and not towards the six fears you have or this circumstance. And I'm not talking about don't deal with reality.

I'm not saying I already said you need to pivot. You need to course correct. You need a better plan. Clearly you need a better plan. But what you don't need is to be moving towards the thoughts that don't serve you because you keep getting them, don't you? You keep drawing the circumstances into your life that don't serve you because your mind moves you towards what you're familiar with. Please sister, I love you. Please brother, listen to what I'm saying. Begin to feed these thoughts to you regularly and begin to take the actions in congruency with them. And when you begin to think and act in congruency, you become a force in the world that is unstoppable eventually.

If you can outlast the temporary, not right away. See, there's two things people lack. The Bible says where there is no vision to people perish. People lack vision, but oftentimes when they get a vision, the other thing that they suffer from is depth perception issues. They think it's further than it is. They think they're further away than they really are, and so they pace themselves and they act like it, and they don't let their mind go there regularly, and so they constantly stay in a perpetual state of being far from it.

The premise of my book, The Power of One More, is very simple when you get it. And it's this, you're a lot closer to your dreams than you think. is very simple when you get it and it's this you're a lot closer to your dreams than you think you're a lot closer to these emotions these feelings that life that other self than you think you are and we tell you what you are you're one decision away one possible meeting one relationship one thought one emotion one strategy away from changing it you're a lot closer than you think so stop thinking it's so far away and stop thinking about all the things all the time that don't serve you right by the way What is thinking and how do I think better?

What's a thought a thought is the process of asking yourself a question and answering it so ask yourself better Questions and you will have better thoughts and better answers So if you do have this detriment, that's that's this this thing that says it's a hindrance And you know it's a hindrance, and it's a challenge or you're going through something. Right? That's okay. The question is, ask yourself a better question about it. Instead of saying, that's why I'm going to lose it. How can I overcome this? What are the answers to this? Who are people like me that have won? What is my story going to look like when I win? How's it going to feel when I get there? What's the tactic or strategy that I need to implement to overcome this that other people don't? But I'm going to because I deserve to get there because these

dreams are a preview of who I'm supposed to be. So get these familiar thoughts, get these familiar emotions, know that all pain is temporary, outlast the temporary, right? And remember this, you're gonna arrive to this place in 20 years. You're gonna arrive there. The question is who are you gonna be when you get there? What's your life gonna look like? What are you gonna look like? Who of you have helped? What will you have achieved? What will the memories be you had? And most importantly, what will the emotions be that you get to possess at that time? And by the time you get there, who is that other self? So you're probably smart enough to know when something isn't working

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and information are not a substitute for or an alternative to seeking care from your health care providers. I'll submit to you there's four characters for the most part you could show up as in 20 years. There's four characters most people show up in their lives as. I'll give you who they think they are. Number one person they show up as in 20 years is invisible. They're invisible. No one knows them. No one knows anything they've achieved. No one's kept a record of their life. And I'm not talking about big things. I'm talking about small things. It's that kind phone call that you make in the morning to a friend you haven't talked to in

a long time. You're no longer invisible to them. It's that helping somebody in need when no one will see you doing it. When it's an invisible gesture, you're no longer invisible because you're making deposits in this other self. You're making deposits in this dream version of you. You are reaping what you sow, but many people show up in their lives. Their entire life is invisible. That's one person you could show up as. Ask yourself, am I willing to let whatever I'm going through right now or what's ever

going on in the world, what's ever going on in the economy, what's ever going on in my mind, whatever going on in my family cause me to show up 20 years from now invisibly. No one knows me. I've made no difference in other people's lives. Is that what you were born to do? Is that that glimpse of the dream in your life? Absolutely not. Remind you of something. You were born to do something great with your life. I am no different than you. No man or woman is different than you. We're the child of the same God. We were all born to do something great with our lives in big ways and in what most people think are small ways. These quiet gestures you do every day for other people that the rest of the world doesn't see on Instagram and it doesn't get you on YouTube

and it doesn't get a million views, but you not invisible to them you were not born to be invisible second person you could show up as in 20 years as a victim you could have this story in 20 years I was a victim victim of people a victim of my life a victim of my circumstances a victim a victim a victim and if you believe that about yourself and you keep moving towards those thoughts you will surely repeat them and you will show up 20 years in your life and as an example to your family people who believed in you your children your grandchildren your parents your grandparents your ancestors and you will show up in 20 years as a victim something tells me that's not what you

were born to be something tells me you were born to do something great and you are not a victim and you're gonna rise above and the fact that you rose above whatever you have to rise above that divorce that setback that lack of education that whatever that marginalized group that setback that bankruptcy that bad decision you've made you're gonna have one heck of a story and you are not gonna be a victim and you're gonna inspire a bunch of people who are invisible who feel like victims aren aren't you? That's the power of what you're going through. What if you were given this because there's

an other self of you that's even greater than most people could imagine? Remember, the extent to what you have to overcome is the degree of who that other self is. The extent to what you have to overcome is in direct correlation to the degree of that other self. So, the more you overcome, the greater that other self is. Third person you could show up as is a hero. And that's a pretty good thing. You show up people, you're not invisible. You're not a victim.

People know you. You got whatever it is. You got the great body. You got the great relationship. You got the big jet. You got the money. You show up as a hero. Many people in life aspire to be the hero of their story.

See, we're always telling ourselves a story about our lives Aren't we we're the lead character in the story of our lives and so many people keep telling the story from the past and they Repeat that story because they move towards it or they tell the story of the victim or the story of the invisible and they repeat This character over and over again, but then a lot of people start to tell the story of the hero I'm gonna be a hero. I'm gonna win I'm gonna make something great with my life. And that's a powerful time in our lives. And a lot of people can get there. You see them on social media, see them on television, you see them at your church, you see them in your community, you see them as the coach, you see them as the teacher.

They become a hero in their life. You could show up as a hero and that's a darn good life. And it's an option you could pursue. See, a lot of times in families, when you look at families that have won in your life you go back that family's rich you see this house living on these people living on the beach or their travel and see or so and you go man who are these people you just remember this happy and successful families rich families eventually they came from someone who wasn't rich who wasn't happy all people that you see that are rich happy successful, eventually there's someone way back in their family who wasn't. And then the one showed up. The one person shows up and the family says, Nope, I'm the hero. I'm the one. I change our family tree forever. I make my family proud of me.

I change our generational wealth. I change our emotions. I change the example. People in our family are going to want to be like me. I'm the one. And then guys, I'll tell you, you in my family I'm the damn one and you know what? Not only about getting rich, not only about making a difference, but people in my family now think differently than they used to think. They don't think the same like they used to. They think bigger thoughts. They think about serving people. They think about making a difference. They believe their life can be great because I refuse to be invisible. I refuse to be a victim.

Yeah, I'm the son of an alcoholic. Yeah, I had a difficult upbringing. Yeah, nobody knew my family. Yeah, we weren't rich. Yeah, not a lot of education in my family. Yeah, well, I'm not invisible. And well, I'm not a victim. And I became a hero in my family and so can you.

You could be the one. You can be the one. When you start hitting that wall, you start thinking, no, I'm the one. I'm the one who doesn't quit. I'm the one who doesn't give in. I'm the one. You can be the one. When you start hitting that wall, you start thinking, no, I'm the one. I'm the one who doesn't quit. I'm the one who doesn't give in. I'm the one who keeps growing. I'm the one who keeps dreaming when everyone thinks I'm crazy.

I'm the one. And you hold on to that being the one. You become the hero. And that's an amazing life. You change your family tree forever. It's not the wealth, although it is. It's not the options and the choices. It's the memories.

It's the moments. It's the moments. It's the contribution. But most importantly, it's the identity of your family. They don't think the same anymore. They got different thoughts. They operate differently. Their view of the world is different who they think they can become as different because of your example.

See, I'll give you the fourth one in a minute. But let me tell you there's really there's four stages of people in life. There's the people that are just kind of, you know, they're just going through life unaware, not concerned. Then there's people who become motivational motivational people achieve things. They play the motives motives like a get a car.

You know, if you do this, you get a car, you get a house, you get money, you get a body motivational people are awesome. The level beyond that though is inspirational. Inspirational people move people like I hope I'm doing with you today. The root of inspiration is to be in spirit, to move people spiritually, to touch their heart, to move their emotions, to lend yourself, to move them with their higher other self, not just their motives of stuff, but things in spirit making a difference in people's lives.

Inspirational people are very, very rare. See, most people are that dead stage that is drift through life. Then there's a very small percentage that are motivated people and they achieve things and they have a good life. Much smaller group is inspirational, or they inspire, they move people. You can't feel it. You just it's an energy you feel you can't describe it, but you feel it. It's an energy you feel. You can't describe it, but you feel it. It's inspirational. And then there's a really small group that's reserved for the highest level, which is aspirational people.

Aspirational people aren't just motivational or inspirational. They're aspirational, meaning that you want to be and aspire to be like them. Those are the people that change the world. The people that change the world aren't motivational. They're not quite inspiration anymore. They've moved past that. They do motivate, they do inspire, but they aspire. People aspire to be like them. That's who I wanna be like. That's who I wanna act like.

That's the kind of person I wanna be. And I would challenge you to move through these stages. If you're not motivated, become motivational and inspirational and eventually aspirational. And when you become the one for your family, when you become the hero, which is level three, you've moved into an aspirational space in your life. And then the fourth level is awesome. And that's called servant leader. And that's when you get to a point in your life where you're no longer invisible. You've moved all kinds of people in their dreams. You've

become the hero for your family. And then you determine you want to dedicate your life in the service of other people exclusively. You want to aspire, inspire and aspire people to be like you. And this is where I would challenge you to want to move. Become an aspirational person and eventually become a servant leader in your life. That's the highest level of the other self. So these are all the things that I wanted to share with you today and moving towards them.

And the last thing I want to share with you is this. I want you to remember something. All your dreams are buried in the deep end of the pool of your life. They're in the deep end. See when I was a little guy, I don't know what shows the when I was a little boy, I couldn't swim. I was a terrible swimmer and I would show up to like team events. No joke with a big life preserver on.

I'm not kidding you. So we've got you the picture of little Eddie Mylet eight, nine years old. I would show up with a life preserver on like a full blown life preserver in the shallow end of the pool. Everyone's like, who is this kid? What is wrong with him? They're all in the deep end playing and swimming and I'm in the shallow end of the pool. Everyone's like, who is this kid? What is wrong with him? They're all in the deep end playing and swimming. And I'm in the shallow end floating around with this life preserver on.

And then I remember telling them, oh, this is embarrassing. I'm showing up to these parties and I'm the only one with this orange life preserver on. And she goes, well, we can get you some floaties. And I'm telling you, I'm eight, nine years old and now I'm wearing floaties. You know those arm floaties? I'm in the shallow end of the pool floating around with floaties on. Can you picture this? I got these floaties on in the shallow end of the pool,

just floating along while all my teammates and my friends are playing in the deep end, having a great time looking back going, I don't know what's wrong with little Eddie my lad. And I was so frustrated, I couldn't learn to swim. And finally my dad's brother, my uncle Mike visited from the East Coast and I said uncle Mike We're at the pool. I said I can't use what are you doing with these floaties on my gosh?

You're nine years old. What is wrong with you? I said uncle Mike. I can't swim I'm afraid to swim and he goes you really because you want to learn to swim I said yeah, and he grabs me who throws me in the deep end of the pool with nothing on throws me He goes swim. I don't know. He goes just swim swim and I'm struggling to swim He goes you got this and I'm not jumping into Sadie. He goes, just swim, swim. And I'm struggling to swim. He goes, you got this. And I'm not jumping into Sadius. You better swim. And you know what? I figured a way to get to the side of the pool. And he goes, now stop it. I ain't throwing you any floaties.

Swim to the other side of the pool. And I'm doing this little doggy paddle kicking. I'm kind of going underwater. And he's, I'm sure he would have got me, but I wasn't sure then he was going to get me. And I made it just to the side of the pool, not the other end of the pool, just the side like a 10 foot swim. It was not swim back now swim back and I started to make it and started to move and I'm like, well, and he goes now I'll get in and teach you how to swim. Now I'll teach you how to correctly swim and lo and behold at the next party.

I'm in the deep end. See you want a mentor. You want someone to show up. You want people in your life to teach you. You got to jump in the deep end. You got to take the floaties off of your life. All your dreams break. Why did I want to go in the deep end? It was dangerous. It was rough. There was criticism there.

I could drown. So I stayed and played it safe in the shallow and for years until I was literally thrown into the deep end. And once I was in the deep end, I wasn't prepared for it, but I found a way. And once I was in there trying my butt off to swim to survive, that's when the mentor showed up. That's when he jumped in to help me learn how to swim. And so if you're sitting there today in the life, you got to take the floaties off of your life and you got to jump in the deep end of the pool because at the bottom of that deep end is where all your dreams are buried. That's where that hero is buried. That's where that servant leader is buried. That's where that

person everyone aspires to be is buried. And so that's why I started out by telling you today success requires no damn apologies and failure permits no alibis. And so once I jumped in and I had no alibi, he threw me in and I had to find my way to the side of the pool. That's when the mentor showed up. That's when the coaching showed up. So my challenge to you today is to jump in the deep end. To take the floaties off in your life. You're not going to drown. coaching showed up. So my challenge to you today is to jump in the deep end, to take

the floaties off in your life. You're not going to drown. You will evolve. You will innovate. You will create. You will find a way. You cannot quit. You cannot give in. And all your dreams are in that deep end of the pool. Stay in the deep end. Keep swimming, keep swinging, keep trying, keep evolving and outlast the temporary. These things that you're going through in the shallow end are temporary and if you'll get into the deep end, you will find that you can outlast them and on the other side of that are where all your dreams are. So I want to challenge you, take the floaties off, get in the deep end.

And I just want to remind you of something, you were born to do something great with your life yes you yeah you on the treadmill yeah you driving yeah you there with your kids yeah you you precious soul I do the show for you I wrote my book for you I do everything I do on social media for you I'm here to help you I'm here to help you swim I'm here to help you swim. I'm here to help you make the things happen in the deep end of your life. All those emotions you want are in the deep end, but you got to jump in. You got to jump in and swim with me.

And if you do that, I'm here for you. And if you think I can help, if today helps you, would you please share this? I have a feeling the world needs to know what we're talking about here. So go to thepowerofonemore.com. Every week on the show, I promise you, I'm going to bring you people that can change your life needs to know what we're talking about here. always here for you. And I hope you're here for each other as servant leaders, as heroes, as aspirational and inspirational people. We need more of you in the world. You want

these world problems to start to diminish and go away. We need more servant leaders. We need more inspirational leaders. We need more people we aspire to be like, and we need more people helping each other in the deep end of the pool of their lives with their dreams. And we all come together and do something awesome. We were all born by the same God, we're the children of the same God, we deserve the greatest lives we were born to have. It's a preview of your dreams. Alright, God bless you all.