The Edge Breakfast - TRUTH BOOTH: I'm tied to this marry man forever...

Episode Date: September 17, 2025

This is a podcast from Rover. The Truth Booth with Clint Meg and Dan and Ash London. If you've got a secret you've been sitting on that no one knows about and you've decided it is time to get that secret off your chest, then join us in the Truth Booth like Harriet has. Yeah, fake name. Morning, Harriet? Good morning.

Oh, you sound guilty. The tone is always telling. How are you feeling, first of all? Pretty nervous. Okay. Don't be nervous because all you're doing is telling your truth that you've never told anyone to the nation. Nothing to be nervous about.

Well, have you ever told anyone, Harriet? No. Okay. Okay. I just don't need the judgment. I just, yeah, I've been holding on to this. How long has it been locked away in the secret box? About six months now.

So I've been secretly seeing. a married man for a while now, but that's not the bomb. It started casually, but something's happened recently, and now I'm caught between a dream and an absolute nightmare. Did you know, when you first started dating this man in particular, it was did you know he was married? No, okay. It started as a fleeing.

And how long into you hooking up did you discover he was married? Just a few weeks after it surfaced, and I said no, and I tried to walk away, but one thing kind of led to another, and yeah, we're still in it. How long have you been seeing each other for? About six months now. And you're still romantically involved with this person? Yeah, we're still romantically involved. and we also work together.

Has he ever done the old I'm going to leave my wife for you or has that promise not been made? He says he's really unhappy in his marriage, but he has a whole family with kids and he's obsessed with his children, so I don't think he'd ever leave his kids. Do you love him? Like, is it a proper relationship?

Yeah, I feel pretty hard for him. How often do you guys catch up? And when you do catch up, do you have to sneak around and stuff still? Yeah, we kind of have a bit of a routine where he'll come round to mine before work. And we'll have like a morning together and then separately go into the office. Now a lot of women especially are going to be listening and you don't need me to tell you. they're going to be hating you pretty much, thinking if you've dogged the girls.

Do you feel guilty? Yeah. I do. I do. I never thought I would be the other woman. It was never a plan. It was, as I say, found out kind of once we were already entangled

and he was quite persistent. And, yeah, don't really know how I got here, but I'm here. Be honest, Harriet. Got married young, had kids. Is it Clint Randall? That'd be a hell of a ball. Now that would be a radio award winning moment, wouldn't it? I still don't think we've heard the actual truth on here.

There's more to a noise than Harriet. Yeah. I just found out that I'm pregnant. Oh, yes. Oh, my God. God. Okay. Harriet.

Harriet. Harriet. The baby's his? Absolutely How far along are you, my love? I am three months Okay Well, congratulations

Babies are a blessing Have you always wanted to be a mum? Thank you, yes I did And I thought for a while That it wasn't going to happen So it was a really big surprise Like you say, it's a bit of a miracle

And so I'm guessing And I'm jumping to conclusions here That you haven't told him yet. No, I'm really scared to tell him. I don't know what it will mean for us, and then obviously family and his kids.

I don't know how to tell him. Can I go into the mind of you right now a little Harriet? I always wonder, I try to understand why people will share something so intimate with us and the nation that they can't even tell their, like, life partner about? For me, it's, I don't know how my friends will react.

I guess I just need some advice and, you don't know me. You might judge me as well, but it won't. It's like you're getting it off your chest without having to deal with the consequences. Yeah. Immediately. And the good thing about our listeners as well, Harriet, is that they're very brutally honest. And they're also very supportive as well if they think you need support.

Now, well, you're talking to three parents in the studio, Harriet. So, look, you said you want some advice. I'll kick it off. And this is something we say whenever children are involved is that the children and what's best for your child has to be the priority. So at this point, I think it's not about what you want for the relationship. It's not about you wanting him for yourself.

Is he going to leave his wife, yad, yad, yada. it has to be, you're a mother now, it has to be about what is best for the unborn child. What is the best way to bring them into the world in the least traumatic way, in a way that has the most openness. And honestly, would you boys agree? Yeah, I don't have too much to add to that.

I was that, yep, absolutely. Yeah. He needs to know as well. Definitely. Definitely he needs to know. The other option is you cut ties with them and go your separate ways, but I think still he would need to know.

But heartbreaking for you, I imagine Harriet, because if you love this man and now you want to have a father of your child in your child's life and you don't know if this secret or truth bomb is going to blow up in a way that unfortunately he doesn't want much to do with you off the back of us he's really going to show his cards i think with how he responds to your information yeah yeah and i mean i know he's a great dad and i would want that for our baby so if he turn me down, I just don't know what I'd do. But you want the baby?

Yeah, I absolutely want the baby. What if he doesn't want to be in the baby's life? And he's realized that this is the thing that gives him the clarity, that he wants to remain with his family and that you were, no offense, just a little bit of fun and a bit of a lull in his marriage. Then what? That would break my heart.

And I hope that's not the case. I guess I would try and do it by myself. If you're not willing to man up or woman up and deal with the risks, then don't have an affair. You cannot have your cake and eat it too. I love you, Harriet, but I have no pity for you either. In many ways, it's kind of a lose-lose. Yeah, and trying to find the perfect time and place to break news like that,

I think is like super important. Yeah. Oh, yeah, I appreciate it. Thanks, Harriet. See me the better I'd say. Good luck, babe. Thank you. We're going to be the next.