The Entrepreneur DNA - Unf*ck Your Sex Life: The Bedroom Truth Every Entrepreneur Needs | Janelle Gordon | EP 74

Episode Date: June 2, 2025

In this episode, I brought on someone who’s flipping the script on what success really looks like. Janelle Gordon is a powerhouse tantra teacher, retreat host, and author of Unfuck Your Sex Life. We had one of the most real, raw, and necessary conversations I’ve ever had on this podcast. We talked about why so many high-performing men struggle with intimacy, how to create real sexual polarity with your wife, and why stamina starts outside the bedroom. Janelle breaks it all down—from hormones and masculine energy to the morning-vs-night sex debate. If you want to have more sex, better sex, or just finally understand what your woman actually needs...this is the episode. --   About Janelle: Janelle Gordon is a transformational intimacy coach, Tantra expert, and the founder of The O Factors. With over a decade of experience helping individuals and couples reclaim their power through sacred sexuality and energetic embodiment, Janelle’s work blends ancient tantric wisdom with modern relationship dynamics. She is the author of Unfuck Your Sex Life, a practical and bold guide to rebuilding intimacy, sexual polarity, and pleasure in relationships. Janelle hosts luxury retreats worldwide and offers online courses for those ready to deepen their connection, both in and out of the bedroom. 📲 Connect with Janelle Gordon Instagram: @shaktilivingjg Book: Unfuck Your Sex Life Retreats & Coaching: Details via Linktree or Instagram bio -- Thank you to Mando for supporting today's podcast! Stay Fresh, Stay Confident with Mando! Tired of body odor? Mando Whole Body Deodorant keeps you fresh for up to 72 hours—pits, feet, and everywhere in between. Grab the Starter Pack and get $5 off (over 40% off!) with code [COLBY] at ShopMando.com. Smell fresher, stay drier, and boost your confidence. Get yours today! -- About Justin: After investing in real estate for over 18 years and almost 3000 deals done, Justin has created a business that generates 7 figures in active income through wholesaling and fix and flipping as well as accumulating millions of dollars of rental properties including 5 apartment buildings, 50+ single family homes, and 1 storage facility Justins longevity in real estate is due to his ability to look around the corners, adapt to changing markets, perfecting Raising private capital, and focusing on lead generation which allows him to not just wholesale and fix & flip, but also accumulate wealth through long term holds. His success in real estate led him to start The Entrepreneur DNA podcast and The Science Of Flipping podcast and education company, and REI LIVE where he’s actively doing deals with members. He has coached and mentored thousands of aspiring and active investors over the last decade. Connect with Justin: Instagram: @thejustincolby YouTube: Justin Colby TikTok: @justincolbytsof LinkedIn: Justin Colby  

Sometimes women at night, they sort of come out. Now they might be tired, but their sexual energy prowess prowess comes out. And even if you think of strip clubs, they're it's at nighttime, right? That most of the time they're filled. Right? Why is that? Yeah, you're off work and stuff like that. But it's like that energy is like alive and it's dark. There's never like bright lights like this in strip clubs, right? So for men and women to have that sexual exchange, it is better for men because you're the performer in sex. And I get a lot of flack for this, but women, yes, they do have a part in sex, but for the mechanics of sex, it's mostly men. What is up entrepreneur DNA family? I am back with a very special guest.

Men, if you've been watching this and listening to this podcast for some time, you know I typically have a lot of strong male figures, entrepreneurs making a lot of money, moving in direction of success. Well today, slightly different. I have a very strong female on here who focuses heavily on how to actually live a great

life, feel good, and unfuck your sex life. You heard it here first. Her new book just came out. Janelle Gordon is here. How are you? I love this. I'm so happy to be here. All the way from Newport Beach. Yeah. Galley. It was meant to be. It was meant to be. I love being around divine masculine presence, which is what we call Shiva energy. And there's some of it in our Mastermind group. I don't know if there's a lot of it, but there's some, but I recognize it. And when a woman is around that,

she's able to soften and be more feminine. So it's nice. I want to applaud you for being that, for your wife and your community, because we need more men like you Well, I appreciate that. Yeah. Well, let's get into what I think the guys guys You're gonna want to pay attention to this because this is for us by the way. Okay, this is definitely gonna be for us She has a great book by the way

You might want to get either for yourself or for your your significant other make sure you get this book Un-fuck your sex life Janelle Gordon. But let's talk about us entrepreneurs. We run very fast. We're heavily goal oriented. We want to provide, we want to have the female, we want to have the family. Talk to the man about what it really takes from your perspective to get that type of woman. You know, I think that this is something that we all as, as men,

when I'm speaking for y'all, as men, we all sort of have a vision for our life, right? And a man without a vision is lost, right? Man without a purpose is lost. And in most men's purpose, there's sort of like a triangle or a archetype of, not archetype, it's not the word I'm looking for, like a structure, if you will.

And it's typically a higher power God at the top themselves. And then underneath or slightly sort of vacillating by their side, but a little bit underneath. I think that is the problem with a lot of us relationships today for women is a woman, right? When men really want this, they want a woman who can come and support them, not be a slave, but support them while they lead them, right?

And while this person maybe, if they want a legacy, raises children for them and supports them, not financially, but just is a feminine, nurturing, sometimes emotional support for him and supports them, not financially, but just is a feminine, nurturing, sometimes emotional support for him as he's building and creating his empire and legacy. Can you agree with that? Yeah, well, what do you feel about, you know,

the super, I don't know how to name it, but like the super masculine male type, right? Where it's like, I'm the fucking man. And whether you cuss or not, but it's more about that like over the the top dominating man, female dichotomy that like, it's my world, it's my house, I create and you're here to support. Is that still, that was in favor for some time. Were the men, the man.

Like the fifties is kind of that sixties, even then seventies, like the sexual revolution starts happening. even in the 70s, like the sexual revolution starts happening. You know, I think that... I think that anything... And my work is from the tantric practice, so everything is about balancing, right? Balancing sexual energy, balancing sexual polarity.

Why? Because it's the first thing to go. So it's very fucking important. Even though now people are like, oh, you need someone with, you know, who's nice and raises your children. Yeah, you need all those things, but if you actually want to fuck your wife, you need someone that you're attracted to otherwise You're just gonna go get an escort right? So and I don't like that if we don't have to do that, right? so I think that

that those Trad values if you will they call right, traditional values were set in place because you're a successful entrepreneur. You understand that every business you've ever run has what? Sort of a hierarchy, right? There's the CEOs, there's the CFOs, there's the CFOs, there's all these things, right? And they all sort of answer to one person or if it's larger a board, but ultimately there's always an agreement that has to be made, right? So in relationships, it's really no different. I think that there's been an

imbalance, if you will, where some men have taken that a little maybe extreme, right? And I don't think it's their fault. I think it's the modern feminist movement where now we have women who are making more money than you even. Some women who are making more than most men, they're single, they're unwed, they don't have children. And then they're like, why am I gonna submit to you, boo? Do you see what I'm saying?

Yeah, they're trying to basically say, I don't need you. I don't need you. But then there's that clash then, right? Cause then the guys can just say, well, I don't need you. And then she says, I don't need you. I don't need you. But then there's that clash then, right? Cause then the guys need to say, well, I don't need you. And then she says, I don't need you. And then you have no harmony. For a man, it's really actually devastating to not be needed by his Shakti, by his woman.

Because women, we just now had this thing where we went like this and now we're making more, we're earning more, we can save our A's if we want like this and now we're making more, we're earning more, we can save our eggs if we want, we can have a kid later with no one. Most women are now opting not to. They're pulling that single women are the happiest women in their demographic as far as women single,

married, whatever, right? So I think now we have this push-pull where it's like, well, we have these men who want to be needed. They want to provide. They want to protect. They want to preserve their legacy. And they want to pleasure their woman. But you have a woman who's like, I don't need that now. I can pleasure myself.

I'm providing for myself. Protecting whatever. I'll get a camera and a gun, whatever the case may be, right? So it's like, you're not needed anymore. And then when that happens, I think sometimes a camera and a gun, whatever the case may be, right? So it's like you're not needed anymore. And then when that happens, I think sometimes there's like a power struggle where men are feeling like, well, maybe if I just exude this, like, I don't like that word, toxic masculinity, because I don't think that masculinity is toxic,

but I think maybe an overuse of power, I think is how you worded it, then that can damage it. And then women are like, I'm not signing up for that. What are you talking about? So we're at this impasse now, right? Well, someone's got to give. Who's got to give, who's going to do it. And I think that's where the open communication, like for my perspective,

my communication with my wife, at least is whatever you want to do, I'm going to go support that. So if you want to be the powerful female and go work and make a bunch of money, I'm going to support that in the same way, she actually has chosen the other side. She actually wants to be a stay at home mom by choice and be with the kids and raise our children her way, in our way versus not. And how is, and so for you, I mean, you got lucky,

if you will, in a sense that you have someone who wants to be hands-on with the children. And we know that there's so much fuckery going on with kids and trafficking and BS and BS and, you know, ditties of the world, if you will. So it's like, if you know that your kids are with your wife, then you're not worrying about that. You can focus on what you need to do in your business and handling your team and all these things and creating your,

you're leaving your mark in this world. But I think for many men, the women, that's not what they wanna do. Not maybe they wanna be out there too. So I think, you know, you did say, yeah, I will support you in anything you do, but how hard is it really? Because there's this like, do I want another man telling my wife what to do I would say, yeah, I will support you in anything you do, but how hard is it really?

Because there's this like, do I want another man telling my wife what to do if she's in the work field? You know what I'm saying? I see the polarity. I would say, I don't think there's an easy, because it is also not easy to come home to a wife who's exhausted. I could never do what my wife does.

I am very clear, I am all about all of you. I know her job is infinitely harder than mine not even close not comparable. If you're watching this you're hard. Your job is way harder. I know that though. Yeah, because even when I'm with these kids for a couple hours and I'm like she does this all day long the time right? Yeah, and so I'm very aware her job is infinitely harder.

So there's there's not an easy route no matter what you go, right? Because then I get home, she's exhausted. She's exhausted. She wants a break, which is fine. And then I get to see my kids. So I'm not against playing with my kids. Yes. But then I basically go from one job to immediately going into being a parent, right? So we have no downtime. Like in that- For you guys to build your intimacy. Right, and so we do it in a very good strategic way in my opinion, is because we always have a pretty strict bedtime for the kids. Yes. So that allows us to like, give us our time. That's a key.

And now I'll touch on that because for, when you talk about like, you're tired, you come home and then you're playing with the kids. And then it's like, she gets a little reprieze, but she's probably kicking dinner at that point. I don't know if you have like... No, she's already doing the next thing. Whether it's laundry or she's kicking dinner or whatever.

You have help. It's still like, I have someone who comes and helps, but I'm still doing shit all the time. All the time. Yeah. So it's just like, and for a woman, you know, our jaw, it's naturally in us. If you're a hormonally balanced woman, who's healthy, who's never been on a bunch of birth, you know, like you want to nurture and provide. And like when people come over, it's just like, I'm like, okay, I'm gonna clean this,

I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna do this. And I don't just sit, you know, because it's like, I don't wanna sit. I wanna make sure everyone's okay. So I think even if you do have abundant resources, you have help. It's still like this thing where it's like, okay, there's something else to do. And so where that's not always great for intimacy, and I think for sexual intimacy, if you will,

and just intimacy as well, it's you've got to create like different rules for how you have sex and how you connect. Because for men, actually, it's not great to have sex at night. Um, how I explain that, I know we don't have tons of time, we'll have to do a part two, but is basically, there's different kind, you're familiar with energy, right? Understand, do you understand like the basis of the chakras and energy and the elements? Basics.

Because I'm from California, so I definitely have that woo-woo side of me for sure. Do you understand like the basis of the chakras and energy in the elements? Basics. Because I'm from California, so I definitely have that woo-woo side of me for sure. You understand. We're speaking our same language. But basically there's masculine and feminine energy and they correlate to different elements in the universe. And so for the masculine energy, we just sort of call that Shiva energy. And the feminine, we call it Shakti.

You could call it Elvis in Maryland, whatever. It's just we put names on things because when we're dealing with things we can't see, energy and metaphysics, we want to have to... It's naming it. It's like math. I don't really get math, but they have all these... You smile. Do you like math?

Yeah. I don't like math. But you understand how... Yeah. So we have to give it... We have to call it something. So basically, when you think of the male energy, the Shiva energy, the sun rules that energy, the daytime.

There's a reason why you wake up and you have morning wood, right? Yeah. Why, I wonder why, oh my gosh, because. I have to tell my wife all the time, I'd rather go morning than at night. Correct, correct, because you're ready. So what we call this, it's vital energy. So your body has literally

produced all the energy that you need to get and maintain a strong erection. You're just rested. For men, to get an erection, it's mental. And you have to be relaxed. And so when you wake up after sleeping, you're pretty what? Relaxed, right? It's not like you've been out in the day out in the work field talking to employees in traffic. No, you're just ready to go. And so but for women, it's the antithesis of that because we're creatures of the moon because you guys have the sun. So Shakti is the moon. We're the night energies. And that's why sometimes women at night, they sort of come out.

Now they might be tired, but their sexual energy, their prowess, did I say that word? Prowess. Prowess comes out. And even if you think of strip clubs, it's at nighttime, right? That most of the time they're filled. Why is that?

Yeah, you're off work and stuff like that, but it's like that energy is alive and it's dark. There's never like bright lights like this in strip clubs, right? So for men and women to have that sexual exchange, it is better for men because you're the performer in sex. And I get a lot of flack for this, but women, yes, they do have a part in sex,

but for the mechanics of sex, it's mostly men. And you guys have the hard work to do. You have to get an erection. You have to be relaxed enough to actually get the erection, to relax enough to keep the erection going long enough to sustain more than five minutes, which is what the average man lasts a day. And then you have to make sure that, worry about if she's gonna have a chance

of climaticine, which we know that most women are not. So it's like all this pressure. So the best time for you is in the morning. So I think this is where we have the struggle. How do we navigate this? And yes, for you, for men, it is better at night, or in the morning rather. So it's like, we gotta rearrange the schedule

a little bit, right? We have to sort of have a, what is the word when you're talking about? Like a compromise, where men maybe are having sex in the morning, maybe at night women, you're having a more intimate night, where you're not putting forth effort if you will. Like maybe you're doing oral or doing something else or just yab-yam which is what we do.

I saw on the cover of my book, you know, this posture which is very intimate, right? But there's no sex. So does that make sense? I mean it can lead to that. Yeah. Juggling multiple businesses, traveling and ensuring I get my morning workouts in. Staying fresh isn't just a preference, it's a necessity. But let's face it, after back to back meetings, juggling two kids at home and the hustle and bustle of everyday life, body odor can become an issue.

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confidence from the head to the toe with Mando. Well, I think the reason why I think this episode is so needed for men is because you're giving us a perspective that we may need to hear, not heard, right? If we're all a bunch of dudes talking, oh yeah, you gotta give it to her like this, so this is when, and this is how I go. But really, we're not listening to your side of the table.

And then that advice isn't very good. But you know, men wanna know how they can have, I know all men want to know this. How can me and my wife fuck more? All men want to know that. There's not one listener watching that don't want to know that. Yeah, you know, I think that's a great question because a lot of times I hear how to last longer, but how to have more sex and you hit on very powerful, because we know that once you get married, your sex diminishes. They pulled married couples,

they're having sex approximately one to two times a week at best, but in worst cases, it was once a month. Can you imagine you're having sex from average couples once a week, but for the tough ones is once a month. So you're having sex 12 times a year. Would be tough. It's crazy, right?

Especially for a guy. Now, how do women feel about that? Because as a guy, you're like, okay, great, they're gonna go masturbate and that's what they do, whatever, but like, and I knew, I know females do too, but like as a woman, it's like you really wanna have a man that fucks you once a month?

No, no. And I'll say this again, there's so much to play here. And sos you once a month? No, no. And I'll say this again, there's so much to play here. And so it's like, I'm like, okay, how do I? And we only have so much time. So we have to do this again. But it's like, we're gonna take with what I feel is what I feel is the most valuable.

So women are very sexual creatures as well. Shock day energy is powerful. Like we create life, so we have a call. We want to have sex too. But for us, the indications or the surroundings or the atmosphere and everything has to be kind of right for us. So it is trickier for us. So I would say, is your, you have to check basic things like what is the hormonal health of your woman? Is she on birth control? That fucks things up. Like I'm not a proponent for birth control. I do everything pretty natural. So because I believe that there's

more harm done than good there, there's other ways to practice, say, family planning, if you will. So is, are her hormones balanced? Then the other thing with women, if you want her to have more sex with you, there's a few things that you need to remember. So women want to be seen, they want to feel safe, and they want to be loved, basically. Seen, safe, and loved. Provided is sort of a given, we're not taking that right. So provided, protective, those are like basics. But in regards to like sexual things, they want to be seen, they want to feel safe,

and they want to be loved. So they need to feel like they can trust you. So if you've chosen a partner wisely, you've made sure that the sexual polarity was there before you started. A lot of men maybe don't always think of this long term. They just think, oh, she's hot, and oh, she'll be a good mom for my kids, and I don't want her too hot

because then other men will look at her. I don't want her too plain because then I'm not gonna get an erection to fuck her. Like, I know how guys think. Totally. I tell my wife all the time, I want guys to be staring at you. Like, we were in the airport.

You guys are in Miami. I take it a little different. I was staring at my wife, and I want guys to be staring at you. Like we were in the airport. You guys are in Miami. I take it a little different. No guys staring at my wife and I'm like, this is awesome. Yeah. Because I want to have the wife that is hot. Like I feel proud to have a hot wife. And I think that, okay, so I feel like for every demographic, it's slightly different. In Miami, y'all are wild down here, right? You want everyone to fuck your wife, but only you be like want to fuck her, but only nearly gets to. Yeah, yeah. Because I've seen this on other shows down here too.

So, and it's a different kind of like, is your wife Latin? It's like a different kind of, yeah. It's a different player and you know, everyone's a little different down here. California is different too, but it's a little bit more nuanced if you say, then we have LA and that's a whole other ball game, right?

So I think it's about creating the space for you so that your wife does feel connected to you. So there's a difference between sex and intimacy and guys have, I use my hands a lot, I keep knocking this and guys have this so confused because guys will be like, Oh yeah, do you offer intimacy in your sessions? I'm like, absolutely. My sessions are very intimate. Intimacy is the foundation for all relationships

and for sex. But most guys think that sex is intimacy. And that's where it's very, it's just a very grave mistake. So in Tantra, we do a lot. So if you, to answer, go back to your question, if you want your wife to fuck you more, you have to fuck her in her heart.

So what we do in my work and my retreats, we host lecture retreats around the world. We have one coming up in Bali in September and Dubai in November. It's an immersive process. So no kids, no work, no one. Just you and her and other couples and other singles who want to dive into entice as well.

So we teach men how to deeply connect to their wife or their spouse in a way that opens her heart, because her heart is what opens her yoni. So basically, yoni is a Sanskrit word for vagina. I figured you got that. And so there is exercises that if you just connect with her heart, don't touch her anywhere else, she'll automatically be just soaking wet.

It just like opens her up. And so that goes back to the scene, safe and loved. The heart, we call it the heart chakra. It's not the heart. It's like right here in the center of the chest. This sort of the, from a polarity standpoint, which is the plus and minus, if you're with me, that is what sort of fires up.

That's kind of a bad word, but ignites it because it's actually getting wet, but ignites that passion to create that lubrication. And it starts in the heart. So I think for women, if you want her to have sex more, you have to make sure the sexual polarity is there before you marry her long-term. And don't say it'll build, because that gets worse, not better.

You said it will build? Like the sexual polarity will build. Like maybe, like it will grow. Mm-hmm. It's not going to grow if it's not there to start. Over time, right. It's got to be there to the start. I believe it is. Now, Dr. The Gottman Institute, which they,

they're a little more old school. I don't know if you're familiar with them. The Gottman Institute, they have known to be able to accurately predict whether a marriage will last off of a simple questionnaire. They're older, a lot older, and I think their relation, like I think their model's amazing, obviously. But I think times have changed,

and when times change, we have to change, correct? So people say, well, you put a lot of like, emphasis on sexual polarity, yeah. Because what's the number one reason people are getting divorced for? Infidelity and finances. And typically they're intertwined. Well that's why this episode was so good is because this is typically about finances. But if you look at the other side of this, it's the infidelity slash the intimacy of the couple. That's what we do it for. Like as men, we want to pride ourselves on, we provide, we make the money, we give the great house,

we give the great lifestyle, and we have sex with our wives and reproduce, right? Yes. But that is the, that's why this episode's so great is because this is a part that, at least on my podcast yet, we've not talked about it. It's a lot of the men providing and running businesses and going at, you know, high speeds.

Is that even something women want in men? Is that like a, do you guys look It's a lot of the men providing and running businesses and going at, you know, high speeds. Is that even something women want in men? Is that like a, do you guys look or is that something that we should be so proud of? That what you create, like what you've created. I think that for, again, I will say this time and time again, because there's such an attack on femininity today, where we have the modern feminist movement who've destroyed the feminine woman. They've ideologized, can you help me with this word? Ideologized?

Yes. Where they've made it like so appealing to be the single woman who's making multiple six who can buy her seven even, who can buy her own Hermes and Chanel and Louboutin and all these things, which are fun to have. I have them too. But it's like they put that, like they push that versus you don't need a man. You can have a 365 horsepower plastic dildo that you stick inside of you, which I would never put those inside my body.

It's plastic and metal and it desensitizes you and then makes it almost impossible for you to climax with your actual spouse. Right. So then, so I think they've destroyed the feminine woman. And so I will say for a hormonally balanced, healthy woman, she does want that. Anytime a man like that's around, I'm like, ooh. It's like, you know, it's like, um, it's an instinct. When I'm around a man who's like Shiva,

who's like unfuckable, unshakable, like he's just steady in his present. He's a lighthouse. He's a tree trunk. He's all of these things, right, that you think are just, they don't move, an anchor in the bottom of the ocean, right, that you think are just, they don't move. An anchor in the bottom of the ocean, right? I see that, I'm like, ooh. And I always tell him, wow, you've got Shiva energy,

amazing, it's not even a sexual thing, it's just like, that shit is sexy, because I wanna be more feminine, right? Like I want to be- That allows you to be feminine. I want to, and for women, sexually, we receive a man. Our yoni is not external. We take you into our body.

So in order to do that, we have to embody surrender, which is why when women are like, oh, I can't do that. I'm like, well, good luck. Cause what happens outside of the bedroom just plays in the bedroom. Well, let's ask what I think you already brought up. Most people want to know this, so I'm sure my audience does too.

How do men and or women, how do you create more stamina in the sex life? Yes, I'll do women first because men are always coming first anyways, so we'll deal with the women. So for women, the healthiest sexual stamina, it's different for us, right? Again, I'll go back to hormones again, get your hormones checked,

get off birth control if you're taking medication, consult your doctor. But if you... This is controversial. I don't really believe in, like, depression-ish. I think that there's... Yes, I think there's real mental health challenges. But I believe a lot of that shit is diet, it's how you're living. It's lack of sun. It's trauma that's stuck in the body that can be pulled out. That's the work I do. We work with removing sexual trauma out of the body,

removing sexual shame. So postpartum, is that real? Absolutely. But what is that? An imbalance of hormones. Especially like for myself, I did it naturally. So all those things, get your lady checked out for all those things and help her start working on what I do is like Shakti embodiment. People are like, oh, and my copywriters,

everyone on my team knows, do not use empowerment ever in my work when it relates to women. Women are fucking powerful enough. Look at me, look at this world. It's all from women. It's all the Shakti feminine energy that creates. So we don't need more power. We need more embodiment,

which means we are inside of our body. How many guys have been with a woman and she just laid there and you felt like you were having sex with a blow-up doll? I know you've had this, I know you have. Cause men tell me like, just lay there, she's really hot, but she doesn't do much. She's not even there. I fucking promise you.

She's not there. And even our wives who we love, sometimes they do it because they're not, they don't... She was prematurely penetrated. She didn't want to be fucked. She did have an obligation, which for men is actually worse. You'd rather just jack off than feel like someone fucked you because they had to, right?

So for women, it's more about building their feminine energy. Get them in embodiment classes. Get them doing things to build that energy and to be more surrendered. Take them to a retreat. Take her to do some Shakti work. Get her yoni eggs. Have her steaming her yoni.

All these things build feminine energy. The more, more like feminine and watery and connected and moving and dancing and flowing and less rigid. The masculine is task detail oriented. The feminine is flowy soft all over the place, right? So you want to build more that for her and that will create the openness and the surrender and the flowiness, if you will, to be like, ooh, like for me, I'm always basically in the mood because I'm so feminine. I didn't look at any of my podcasts until I got here.

I trusted Zom. I was like, I'm trusting you, Zom. Because to me, that is like, I want to emphasize this, to show you how feminine I am. Looking at a schedule is like, oh my God, I'd rather die. But for you, you know your schedule before you go to bed. Correct? Yeah.

So does that help you see the difference between feminine and masculine? Of course. So for women, you want to focus on things that build more feminine, flowy energy. Got it. And having them be, all the things I said, safe, seen, loved, and hormones balanced.

For men, and hormones balanced. For men, it's different. So stamina is, I always get controversy on this, but a few things. Again, we wanna start with a blank slate. And I have to cover these things, because you wouldn't believe how many people are addicted to porn, on SSRIs, stress the fuck out.

SSRIs? Anti-depressants. Oh. And if you know anything about the shootings in all the schools, one thing they had all in common was maybe the most recent cases, they weren't, they were all Caucasian men and they were all on SSRIs. Okay. So I'm very, like I do, I think that the medicine is useful, yes.

If you're, if you cut your arm open, go to a hospital. Yeah. I'm not an idiot. But I think they're medicating us, they're dragging us, and they're using us as little as just ATM machines and as rats, little test rats in the lab. So that's just my personal thing.

But back to men. So if you're not on any of those things, if you are on porn, you have to stop. If you're on porn, you have to stop, and you have to find a good coach to help you with that. I've gotten some great results with that, but there's also people who specialize just in that. So amazing. But if you wanna last longer, it's a few things.

One, you have to start with the breath. Breath is life. If you notice anything, think about the last time you were having sex. What is one thing you noticed as you started getting to that point of climax? Your breath. Your breath. That's what, tell me. It starts getting a little more...

You're a keeper. It gets more, well, you're in good shape. You're, you know, you're like a poster child for health, but a lot of men, they'll start breathing heavier. Their pulse starts getting faster. They start tensing. So when everything tenses and you're, look, am I going to be able to last? No, I'm over the edge. She just arches her backs or says, oh, puppy or whatever. And you're fucking done. It's over. Um, Bertil knows he had that experience last night. So, um, no, I'm just like, but anyway, so, so yes.

So the breath is key. Breath work is key. Another, there's so many, I have a whole course on this. So it's like super cheap to even. Where can everyone find you to get the cord and like just follow up with that? Where can you push everyone? I mean, Shakti, Shakt Shokty Living on my Instagram, Shokty Living, JG, it's Janelle Gordon, because that's my real name. And then right in there is my...

All of your stuff. ...LingTree, everything. Perfect. Course is so cheap because a lot of my work is not, and I wanted something that was available to everyone. Yeah, yeah. And so men care about lasting fucking longer. So breath work is key.

I say remove meat. That's me personally. I do argue with some of the best holistic biohackers on this, but Dr. Group's a huge one in the chat and he takes my stance. Meat sits in your body. Oh, remove meat. Remove meat.

I thought you said meat. I was like, I don't know. No, remove meat. Sorry, meat. Got to go. Remove meat to remove me. I thought you said me. I was like, I don't know. Remove meat from the body. And I'm not saying I've been vegan since I was sixth grade. It's not for everyone intuitively. I knew I was going to be a healer, I guess. And so I did it. It's not for everyone, but if you're having challenges or you want to just test,

use your government uses your body as a test lab, just use your own body as a test drive, remove me and see what happens. What happens is you're gonna notice that your body is gonna digest and assimilate your food quicker and you'll have stronger, what do we need to get that lingam hard? Freaking circulation, right?

Circulation, how do we get healthy circulation? Everything passing and flowing, breath work, ding, ding, ding. Oxygenates the body and the blood. And then if we're not eating meat, meat sits in your body for seven to 10 days, depending on what the meat is. Fish being two to three, chicken being a little more.

Then beef is like six or seven, and then pork is like 10 days. Can be up to 10 days, right? So just test it out for a while and just test with that a little bit. The other thing that men can do, so everyone can do roth work. Everyone can remove meat for at least a little bit of time and then just integrate it back in

if that's not your thing to do full time, right? And then the last thing I would say is, and this is again, after we've removed porn, after we worked with someone on depression, because if you're depressed, you're not getting it up. Yeah. Because your depression is complete, and then the medication you're on is making it impossible.

And listen guys, this is very serious. Do not go experiment with Cialis Viagra. Don't do it without going to a doctor, because it could be your last direction, like legitimately. If you have any kind of circulation issues, heart issues, anything, and you get on one of those without consulting a doctor, you're just a recipe for disaster and you could die, and it does happen.

So the main thing that I think helps men to last longer is training. You train in the gym, I imagine, five days a week, three to five days a week, right? You've conditioned your body, which means if I say, hey, you're gonna, I don't know what you bench, if you've been for whatever, I don't know, bench, I would be joking, I would be like making it up.

But say I tell you, I don't know, what do you bench? 250. Yeah, I'm a guest, very intuitive. Say you bench 250, and that's good, you can do that, right? Say in another, like, I don't know, like in next week, I'm like, okay, you're gonna bench 500. You're like, I can't do that. I need to what? Train? Probably lift more, probably take more protein, probably take some, all the steroids everyone does

around here, but like, whatever, you know? Like, I'm dishonest. Let's just be honest here. So you're not conditioned for it, right? Or a marathon is even a better thing. If I say, go run a marathon now, you might be able to do it, but you're like, can I just condition up first and then I could do it? Even I could do it. Just strap these babies down and go. But like, no, seriously. So the thing is you have to condition your lingam. Okay. How many of you actually train your lingam?

Probably none. None, because you're just, you're just like, I'm going to use you actually train your lingam? Probably none. None, because you're just like, I'm gonna use it. But it's what? A muscle too, right? Requires circulation, right? So the more blood and circulation that we get to those extremities, the better they're gonna work.

Just like the more blood and circulation tearing down and breaking out, the more I'm gonna have a little gain. Oh, there's one. So that's the thing. So with what we teach men is there are strokes that you do every day. So you do about 50 strokes in each direction. So I say the very minimum, north, I don't know direction, north, south, east, west, I know what I know. And then Mantak Chia, who's like sort of the guru for

this work, will say to go in every direction. So north, south, east, west also go here, here, and here. What is that doing? If you're doing this training, you do it in the shower if you want. It's taking 10, 15 minutes. You're literally like lifting weights, and there's actual weightlifting for your lingam,

but you're training your lingam. So when you get into bed with your wife, and you're tired and you're having sex at 10 o'clock at night, 11, you're training your lingam. So when you get into bed with your wife and you're tired and you're having sex at 10 o'clock at night, 11, you're fucking tired. You're not going to last for shit. But if you've been training, you're going to last a little bit longer. Does that make sense? Yep. So give me the five again.

Okay. So we'll just start. No porn. No porn. Breath work. Breath work. No antidepressants. Well, so we'll start with like, try to work through the depression. Sure.

The depression, the depressions in the medication is going to make it more challenging for men to give that erection. No porn. And then breath work is huge. Start controlling your breath. The other one was working out the lingam. And the fifth one is kind of part of that, is peeing and stopping, peeing and stopping,

peeing and stopping. Like normal peeing? Not like a director saying like, just go pee and stop, pee and stop. So you're gonna like stop and pull it in. I'm doing it right now. And then I'm gonna release. Because we have bandas, there's about five of them.

And they lock and hold, like I have all five of them in right now. And you can kind of see it come up, right up right pulled it up. This is pulling up. So when you pee and stop like that, it is the same muscles that when you were a kid if you ever put a towel on your lingam and like put it up and down some kids do this or a board. It just depends on what part of the country maybe Midwestern kids did this in Miami you guys had better things to do or Cali. But yeah, so that will lift the towel up. So it's those same muscles.

So when you're peeing and stopping, it's like a break and accelerator. So then when you're actually in bed having sex with your wife or your spouse, then you're actually able to be like, stop, oh, I've been doing this. Oh, I've been working out. Oh, I got my breath.

And these are just basics. There's so many more, but these are very basics any man can start with. Any man can start to look at his addiction to porn and understand that how that's affecting his erection quality because he's being conditioned to see images on the screen and he needs those exact conditions to get erection into into climax if you will. And then you can you know work on your mental health challenges. A lot of that time is just working out and getting shame out of the body.

And always talk to your doctor, I'm not a doctor, but a lot of those medications are not set up to, it's just like, it makes you more depressed. Some of them, even my son, we don't watch TV, but we'll be in hotels and stuff. He'll be like, this commercial's make no sense, mom. It'll say like, you're depressed, and then it'll say like, may cause suicide.

He's like, I don't understand this. I'm like, exactly, my son's woke, he knows. Like, woken a good way. But then the me is easy, and then just, like, it's attached to your body. Do something with it. Like, it's not there just for decoration to pull it out at night for five minutes.

It's there, you gotta train it, like you train your biceps. And women have the same thing too, but you don't, you know, deal with women as much, so. it out at night for five minutes. It's there. You got to train it like you train your biceps. And women have the same thing too, but you don't, you know, deal with women as much. So yeah, you can get my work and go to my store. So again, follow you at Jonelle. Shakti Living JG. And so JG is for Jonelle Gordon. And then the book. Just out recently. Yes.

Let's go make that a bestseller. And look, this is actually, please. And the thing that's cool about this I love is that we have for him, for her, and we have, it's illustrated, guys. I give you actual, like, I wanna show them this real quick. This is the cheat sheet in the back.

I give you the anatomy. Like, when have you ever studied your anatomy and studied your partners and your wives? And so we talk about, we have every perspective from the women's, from the men's. This is, you're meant to, this is the exercise I was talking about to get more sex. You want more sex, do this. And so, yeah, and then if you want an immersive experience,

come retreat with us. We do luxury retreats. We take you out of your comfort zone. We show you, not just read you, I show you how to do these things and, and I create the energy for you to take home and take these into your, to your bedroom, into your life. Because let's be, let's be honest, you can have all the money in the world. You can have all the Lambos, the Ferraris, the Bugattis, whatever everyone's buying today, all the watches, the private jet, all that. But if your relationship sucks,

if your wife doesn't wanna blow you, you know, if your wife isn't climaxing. What's it all for? I'm telling you, I've met guys who have nothing and they're happy because they hear me scream. You know what I'm saying? Like in my younger days, they just that for a man that's everything. Sure. It's a part of your ego. If you know you can pleasure a woman and then that woman is yours too, meaning she's devoted, committed to you. Having money is good too, but the other is that's why we do everything.

Make sure you are following this woman. Hopefully you guys took notes rewind this take more notes. Ask her questions. This is you on Instagram ask her questions. I know this is like a taboo conversation for most people, but if you don't know what you don't know, then you know, you may not be able to have the wife that you want. Yes, that's right.

Thank you for coming on. Thank you for having me. It was so fun. Make sure you pick up her book. Make sure you follow her on Instagram. We will see you on the next episode of The Entrepreneur DNA.