The Ezra Klein Show - Best Of: Zadie Smith on Populists, Frauds and Flip Phones
Episode Date: December 12, 2025This is one of my favorite conversations in recent memory — with the writer Zadie Smith. Smith is the author of novels, including “White Teeth,” “On Beauty” and “NW,” as well as many es...says and short stories. Her ability to give language to the kinds of quiet battles that live inside of ourselves is part of why she’s been one of my favorite writers for years.“We absolutely need to gather in our identity groups sometimes for our freedoms, for our civil rights. There’s absolutely no doubt about that. But for that role to be the thing that is you existentially all the way down — that is something that I personally believe all human beings revolt from at some level,” she told me when we spoke last September, shortly before Trump’s re-election.It’s ideas like these that I found interesting to revisit now, in a starkly different political climate. In this conversation, we discuss Smith’s novel, “The Fraud,” which Smith wrote with Trump and populism front of mind; what populism is really channeling; why Smith refuses the “bait” of wokeness; how people have been “modified” by smartphones and social media; and more.This episode contains strong language.Mentioned:Feel Free by Zadie Smith“Fascinated to Presume: In Defense of Fiction” by Zadie SmithAmusing Ourselves to Death by Neil Postman“Generation Why?” by Zadie SmithBook Recommendations:The Director by Daniel KehlmannThe Rebel’s Clinic by Adam ShatzThe Diaries of Virginia WoolfThoughts? Guest suggestions? Email us at ezrakleinshow@nytimes.com.You can find transcripts (posted midday) and more episodes of “The Ezra Klein Show” at nytimes.com/ezra-klein-podcast. Book recommendations from all our guests are listed at https://www.nytimes.com/article/ezra-klein-show-book-recs.This episode of “The Ezra Klein Show” was produced by Annie Galvin. Fact-checking by Michelle Harris, with Kate Sinclair. Our senior engineer is Jeff Geld, with additional mixing by Aman Sahota and Efim Shapiro. Our senior editor is Claire Gordon. The show’s production team also includes Rollin Hu, Elias Isquith and Kristin Lin. Original music by Isaac Jones. Audience strategy by Kristina Samulewski and Shannon Busta. The executive producer of New York Times Opinion Audio is Annie-Rose Strasser. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app.
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I want to share today a favorite conversation from the recent past,
even though it doesn't feel all that recent.
This is with the writer Zadie Smith.
Her fiction is some of my favorite.
She's an amazing writer of essays.
And we spoke in September 2024.
So this is a conversation where a lot has changed since we recorded it.
It is pre-Trump reelection, pre-vibed shift.
But I think in some ways it's more interesting for that reason.
There's wisdom in what Smith says that I think is easier to forget now,
or at least harder to hold on to.
I hope you enjoy it.
From New York Times' opinion, this is the Ezra Klein Show.
Sometimes you stumble across a line in a book,
and you have this moment of,
yeah, that's exactly how that feels.
At that moment reading the introduction to Zadie Smith's 2018 book of essays, feel free.
And she's talking about the political stakes of that period,
predicate 2016, Brexit in the UK, Donald Trump, in America,
and the way you could feel it changing people.
She writes, quote,
millions of more or less amorphous selves
will now necessarily find themselves solidifying
into protesters, activists, marchers, voters,
firebrands, impeachers, lobbyists, soldiers, champions,
defenders, historians, experts, critics.
You can't fight fire with air.
But equally, you can't fight for freedom.
You've forgotten how to identify.
What Smith is describing there felt so familiar to me.
I see it so often in myself, in people around me.
And you rarely actually hear it talked about,
that moment when politics seems to demand,
or world events seem to demand,
that we put aside our internal conflicts.
our uncertainty, our many selves, and solidify into what the cause or the moment needs us to be,
as if curiosity were a luxury, a decadence suited only to peacetime.
Zaddy Smith is, of course, a novelist, an essayist.
She's been one of my favorite writers for years.
If you've not read her back catalog, like White Teeth and On Beauty and Swingtime, I almost envy you.
But still, I was surprised when I finally read The Fraud.
the book she released last year.
I didn't expect this novel about a trial in 19th century London,
which I knew it to be about,
to be so resonant, so about 21st century America.
But Smith has said that Trump and populism were front of her mind when she wrote it,
and you can feel it in the book.
You can feel it as she explores this weird thing that actually did happen,
the Titchbourne trial, this strange case in which a man who seemed to be a clear fraud,
a butcher, was claiming to be the heir to a storied estate.
And in his claim, he built this huge movement of passionate supporters
who totally flummoxed the day's elites and institutions.
Smith has moved to another time and another place to protect the ability
to have that amorphous self, to explore something very current
from more perspectives in the current moment,
sometimes allows. As always, my email, Ezra Klein Show at NYTimes.com.
Zadie Smith, welcome to the show. Thanks for having me. So in your essay collection,
feel free. You make this point that we have these amorphous identities that then under political
pressure, solidify. Tell me about that experience, that dynamic. For me, it's a tension in my
thought, which I perhaps extrapolate to others, but I guess I don't often define myself, but if I
had to, I would call myself a radical humanist, a socialist, but also an existentialist. And those
three things combined are sometimes hard to think from. The existentialist part means, I guess,
that I think people are thrown into life, that I don't believe in people having essences,
essentially. And that leads to a certain kind of fiction, a certain kind of thought, but it also
has a political angle, because if you think people are thrown into life, then the circumstances
they're thrown into are of absolute significance. And I guess in 2016, the circumstances we
were all about to be thrown into were my focus, whereas in quieter or more peaceful times,
the idea of what you're thrown into being the beauty of the world, nature itself, your relations
with other people, this kind of private, domestic world, that had to be put to one side.
I find that interesting, and something you went on to say in that introduction was that you can't
fight fire with air. I sort of took you to be saying, at least in part, that internal
conflict is at times luxury, or if not a luxury, something that at certain moments you're
forced to give up in order to achieve a goal. And I think I resonated to it. I mean,
we're in election year. And I do find both inside myself and then in the pressures that are
upon me, there are times when people are very comfortable with you both having and expressing
your doubt, your conflict, you're on the one hand, on the other hand. Your hashtag nuance.
Exactly. And then there are times when both internally and externally people view that as
kind of decadence. Yeah, that's absolutely the case. I guess what I feel is that given that a huge
amount of people are very willing to suppress or ignore any kind of contradiction and ambivalence
in themselves. There should be space theoretically for one or two people to remind people
of their wholeness. And so when I'm writing, that's what I'm thinking about. I know I cannot
perform the roles that other people play. But the role I play, which is far smaller, but makes an
attempt to deal with people in their privacy as well as in their public selves.
Tell me about the Titchbourne case, which is at the heart of your book The Fraud. How do you get
interested in that? I got interested in it through a strange pathway because the man himself,
this working class butcher who claimed to be an aristocrat, is buried in an unmarked grave right
next to my house and has always been right next door to me. Even when I lived in a housing estate,
that housing state looked over the graveyard where he's buried.
So he's always been on my mind,
and he always interested me as an example of a kind of,
the best way to put it is a kind of left-wing populism.
And the first time I started thinking about him
properly was during the OJ trial when I was young,
that it seemed to me another example of a case that you know fundamentally is not true.
I mean, I don't want to, I know spoilers to the younger public there,
but, you know, in my view, OJ did do it.
But the idea that a court case could express not a particular act of truth or justice,
but a more generalized feeling about justice really interested me.
And the fact that the OJ case, even though the subject of it was a lie,
there was a larger truth being told in that case,
which was in that the courts were institutionally racist,
that America itself had run a court system that was institutionally racist,
So that larger truth was told around a lie.
That's what interested me, and that's what interests me about Titchbourne, too.
It's not the way I personally would ever want justice to come about,
but it's a recognition sometimes that when all other outlets seem blocked,
populism rears its head.
Give me a bit more setup of the Titchborn case.
You have this apparent butcher who is claiming to be the heir to a great noble estate.
But give me a bit more setup.
I mean, it's such a silly story, but basically a man called Roger Titchbourne,
who was a Catholic, French-speaking, Anglo-French aristocrat,
went off on a boat, actually to Jamaica, and the boat sank.
He was about 22.
And his mother, who was completely obsessed with him, refused to believe it,
and put adverts out all over the world, first in England, then Britain, then Europe,
then as far as Australia, offering larger and larger rewards for the discovery of her son,
who she believed had been rescued from the shipwreck and was somewhere.
The reward got so large that inevitably pretenders would turn up.
And this particular pretender was a working class man called Arthur Orton.
He'd been a butcher.
He had travelled away from England, ended up in Australia.
And in Australia, bumped into a black man, an ex-slave, a Jamaican,
who had worked for this Titchbourne family.
He's called Bogle, Andrew Bogle.
And these two men sail to England and claim that the butcher is the long-lost son.
And the mother says, yes, you are, and then promptly dies.
And that started this enormous court case between the family, the Titchborns,
who obviously didn't want to give their property and money and lands to a stranger,
and Titchborn and Bogle, who steadfastly insisted they were telling the truth.
One of the core characters of the book is Sarah Ainsworth.
Who is she, and why does she care so much about this trial?
She's one of my favorite characters.
She is the second wife of a writer called Ainsworth, who's a character in the book.
She is an uneducated woman, a working class woman, a smart woman, and someone who has a great instinct for a story.
And it's a great, soapy, tabloidy story.
She's fascinated by it, and I think she sees in it some echo of her own situation.
You know, as far as she's concerned, there is conspiracy.
against people like her. There's a conspiracy against this man who just wants what's owed to him.
Of course, the central logic of her argument doesn't quite make sense because if he's a working
class man being hard done by the courts, then he can't possibly also be Sir Roger, a Catholic
aristocrat. So, you know, even at the time, people like Sarah, there were hundreds of them,
it was a huge movement supporting this man's attempt to get his lands, were ridiculed in the
press, the obvious illogic of the argument was displayed. But for people like Sarah, it wasn't
a matter of logic, it was a matter of emotion. And there was again a larger truth, which is that
these courts do not give us any fair chance of justice. And in the 19th century in England,
the court system explicitly was on the side of the upper classes. It was a genuine truth that to be
a working class person in that course system, a working class child, for example, you were in
serious danger. You know, if you stole a sheep, if you stole a bag of sugar, you could end up
in Australia. So I think by the time the Titchbourne case comes along, there is a great feeling
of this system is as rational as it seems, as a liberal as it seems, is not intended for us.
So to me, she is someone who, unlike a lot of the liberal commentators, including her own
husband, who has lived this experience of injustice in the courts and on the streets of England.
She's wrong, but she's also in some portion right.
One of the things that emerges about her is that she has very little intellectual status at her own home.
As you mentioned, she was the maid, now turned wife to this much older novelist.
The home is really run by Eliza Touche, the novelist, very intellectual cousin, an abolitionist, a voracious reader,
someone who can hold her own at a table of famous novelists.
But when Sarah and Eliza begin attending the Titchbourne trials, this sort of flips, and she often understands what is going on better than Eliza does.
In some ways, I understood Eliza is a little bit more of a stand-in for people maybe more in your social class or I guess in mine and what they get right and get wrong.
So how did writing these two characters make you think about your own blind spots or make you think about the sort of different ways of understanding?
the world. I mean, it's two things. I've been in both classes, right? I was born in one
and raised in one, and then my education and my job put me in another. And I guess the
fundamental lesson of that kind of movement is that what we define as intelligence, we define it
so partially. I am so aware without trying to sound falsely humble, that I am a complete idiot
about so many things. And yet I have this particular intelligence in a very extremely narrow
area, which has allowed me to make the life I've made. But if you ask me the most basic facts
of the universe, or even the relationship between the sun and the moon, basic math, geography,
I mean, there are just acres of ignorance in my life, no matter practical knowledge, to do things
with your hands, to make things, or even how to run a group, how to speak to people, how to relate
to it. It's endless, the things that I'm not good at. There are many, many, many,
context in the world that I can go into and be a true fool, truly lost. And that's important
to know when you move through the world, that this thing you call intellect, this thing that you value,
this thing which may even be the basis of your kind of meritocratic existence, has limited use
and that there are many, many ways to be intelligent in this world. I mean, the most obvious that
anyone from the class I was born in will tell you about is street smarts, which is one of the
most essential values you can have in this world and gets increasingly lost as you move out of
that class into others. So writing about the two of them, I was writing with respect about two different
kinds of ways of being in the world. One of my favorite lines in the book comes at one of the
trials after those is spray of conspiracy theories about how the initial trial was rigged. And you write
that, quote, Mrs. DeShay did not recall an excess of aristocrats or Jesuits at the first trial.
and was quite certain she'd seen many a poor man.
And what choice do government have but to accept the cost of cases imposed upon it?
But such dry and inconvenient facts were have no consequence here in this ocean of feeling.
That had this sort of ring of recognition in a lot of, both like my reporting and just moments in my own life,
where the sort of dry facts seem somehow to pale be for the emotional structure of a thing.
Right.
But again, I'm also not willing to submit entirely to feeling.
You know, I guess my ideal, and this is not perfectly practiced in my own life and certainly
not perfectly practiced in my work, but it's that kind of Aristotelian idea that you have
logic, you have pathos, these things work together and you have your will, that you have
to combine these things every time you're moving through the world, every time you're making
decision. Every time I'm writing something, I'm trying to balance the claims of those things.
Sometimes the ethics of a situation are all that matters. Sometimes you have to cede to emotion.
And sometimes logic is what's required. But the tricky thing about life is there's no
guidebook. It's how exactly those three things should be balanced. It's something you have to
enact every day of your life. It's work, you know. Let me see if this resonates for you,
because something that made me think of was an experience I had some years ago. There was a
rise of, I guess, an online intellectual movement known as the rationalists. I knew a lot of
those people. I moved in those circles for a bit. There was a period when I think it was Ben Shapiro
was very associated with this line. Facts don't care about your feelings. And I remember that period
trying to think a lot about emotion and politics. And recognizing pretty over the coming couple of
years that emotion does point towards things. It doesn't tell you what is true. But the sort of practice
that I saw people trying to do
of walling yourself off from emotion
of, in fact, distrusting
information that comes wrapped in emotion.
There was something that clicked for me
at a certain point and, like, has always been true in me
as a human being, that I trust emotion.
I don't trust it as the end of the inquiry.
But if people feel strongly about something,
there is something there.
There is a deep intelligence
in people's emotional reactions
that if you keep seeing a point in a direction,
I feel like you should bring curiosity to that,
where some people, I think, bring mistrust
because of the very existence of the emotion, right?
It's hysterical, it's angry, it's outrageous.
The facts don't care about my feelings
is a truly fascistic sentence, you know, to be honest.
We are creatures of feeling, in part.
So to deny that is to deny a part of the kind of animal we are in the world.
I think you see plenty of that in Palo Alto in many other places,
but to take it as a principle is extraordinary to me.
Even in the hardest sciences, emotion plays some role, instinct plays some role.
And it also dismisses huge areas of people's human experience,
the entirety of religious experience, almost the entirety of emotive experience,
experience of the natural world, philosophical experience.
So for me, that movement is just so distant from the way I think about humans
and what they need.
And I do think some of this obsession with rational argument,
like I really notice it when people are arguing about transgender issues
or very intimate and complicated personal matters,
sometimes people will argue with this fierce logic
as if all our experiences of identity or personal experience
are run on these logical terms.
But of course it's not the case.
So why should this particular area be subjected to absolute rationality?
I would say that most of our experiences of ourselves are quite deeply irrational.
Like if you stop a couple in the street and say to them, why are you married?
You are not going to get a rational answer from them.
You're going to get some murmuring sentimental, some partially logical, some apologetic, some unsure.
But there's a large area of our intimate lines, some of our most serious decisions,
which can't be presented to logic in that way.
I think you have to allow people an area of self
which doesn't submit to a mathematical program.
So fights over identity have been a big part of our politics for recent years.
This all gets called wokeness, although I don't love that term.
But what sort of has always shocked me having, I guess, lived through this period,
is how powerfully that moral wave hit between, I guess, I'd call it 2015 and 2021,
and then in the last couple of years, how rapidly it feels like it is ebbed.
And I'm not saying that it hasn't left quite a lot behind or changed,
us but there has been this whiplash for me and i'm curious what your experience of it has been um
i mean so much of it happens at a meta level in newspapers and think pieces i can't honestly say
in my classrooms i mean i just don't even recognize the category really like the way i teach
i try and teach a unity so like if i'm teaching pride and prejudice so like if i'm teaching pride and prejudice
this. This is not a battle between woke thought and unwoke thought. I'm only interested in
truth. So to me, there is no friction and no battle between teaching the beauty and artistry
of Austin's novels, discussing where Darcy's money comes from, which is most certainly the
Caribbean, understanding the political situation in England, in the 1810s. Those things happen
simultaneously. The working class movement, which is off to the side in that novel, the complacency
of the middle classes in that novel, the artistry of Jane Austen. I don't take the bait.
I don't accept the argument in the first place, that I have two kinds of students who are in
some kind of football game of ideas, and if one wins, the other loses. That's not how I teach
literature. That's not how I think of history. That's not how I think of the relationship between
black and white people. So I don't engage because I think it's a bait and I think it's a circle jerk
and that what you're meant to do in response to it is move further and further to the right in
response to this bogeyman. But I knew a lot of people teach you on campus and I'm not I'm not
asking you to take the bait of choosing a side in things that had a crudeness to them in a lot of
different directions. But I do know a lot of people and I think I felt it too and I don't think it was
just at newspapers. I mean, I think this was a genuine
social movement and a genuine shift in
ideologies and things people believed.
And one thing that I, the people who taught
have told me is that they feel like things shifted a lot
in young people for a while. Now maybe they're shifting back
or maybe the other thing I believe is that a lot of the things
got metabolized. And so things that people did not believe in
2012 now seems so normal in 2024
that we no longer call it something new.
So I was going to ask about that.
What of that sort of ideological wave has hell, right?
What do you think is now just common wisdom?
And so we've actually changed.
And what kind of left?
I mean, the thing which is satisfying for me was the first and initial hierarchical reversal.
It's something that I dreamt about all my life that people who thoughtlessly consider themselves at the center of history, culture, would be made to look at the world another way.
that first hierarchical reversal is a revolution in thought, and it's incredible.
So I would not have been able to write this book without an incredible flowering of African-diasporic thought
on the historical question, on the history of slavery, on what happened to the African diaspora.
All of that just simply did not exist when I started writing.
So I am in absolute debt to all of those writers who tried to.
centralize the idea of Africa as a major part of our collective human history and of that story as fundamental to Europe and to the politics we're in now. That is all essential. So I'm excited that when I talk to students now, they don't just know one novel from Africa. They don't have some kind of vague sense of what happened in African history.
and in contemporary history
in relation to Africa
but I did not come
to create a hierarchical revolution
and then have my thought
suddenly calcify
the way the previous version of thought was calcified
that's not what I believe in
and that's not what I'm here for
to become that person to me would be death
so I can't take any role
that's presented to me as my role
I have to keep thinking every day
You were talking a minute ago about who gets to be seen as the center of history and also
maybe another way of putting that is who gets to be seen as not having identity.
When we talked about identity politics in America, at least, one of my sort of endless arguments
is that identity politics was strongest when it was least visible, right?
When there was no conflict.
But that's what it's about.
That's what the hierarchical reversal was about, that everybody had an identity apart from
white people.
They had no identity.
They were the universal. They were human beings. And so part of that turn is everybody saying, why don't you try having an identity for once? See how you like it. And the answer was nobody liked it. They didn't like it. But the lesson from that for me is that that straight jacket is something that nobody really wants. Sometimes it's needed politically. We absolutely need to gather in our identity groups sometimes for our freedoms, for our civil rights.
absolutely no doubt about that. But for that role to be the thing that is you
existentially all the way down, that is something that I personally believe all human beings
revolt from at some level. I think this is one reason for me that your language about
amorphousness of ourselves and solidity of ourselves rung so true. I wrote a book a couple
years back about political polarization. And one of the major arguments of the book or
things I was writing about and observing was the way we often have. I mean, our identities
are so manifold. There are so many things that are true about me. If you ask about, you know,
identities I hold, I'm Californian, and I'm a father, and I'm the son of an immigrant, and, you know,
you could just kind of go on and on and on down the sign. And then one of the things that politics
or certain kinds of social dynamics do is force you to inhabit one or a small set of
them at the end of the day. I always felt this was a thing that was like the core tension in
the politics of Barack Obama that, you know, in his big speech that brought him to prominence
in 2004 talks about, you know, how different we are in other contexts, right? You know, that we
worship an awesome god in blue states and we don't like people poking around our libraries
in red states. He's always talking about how people are at the PTA meeting or on the soccer
field. But then it's like the political, the hydraulic machinery of politics takes over. And
people are so complicated with so much overlap, kind of click in to this final binary choice.
And it's a real, I mean, I'm not sure there's all that many other ways to do it, but it is a real
violence done to the self.
I mean, I don't disagree with that.
Of course it's true, but the greater violence done to the self is oppression itself.
Oppression is the thing that boxes you in, that forces you into a certain set of moves, that makes
you unable to explore this possibility of your non-essential self.
I guess that's where I would differ from the more liberal view that the boxing in is first done
economically, politically, structurally. That narrows your conception. And it's not just a philosophical
narrowing. It's practical. Like, you do not have time to think. Being poor is stressful, expensive,
tiring, mentally exhausting. It's a denuding of yourself. And that, to me, is the primary concern.
The kind of political narrowing happens later and is partly a consequence of it.
But it's those actual structural things in a person's life which make their area of movement sometimes unbearably narrow.
This feels to be like something you're exploring in the way you read about the Titchborn case.
If the claimant wins, this sort of guy claiming to be Roger Titchborn wins in the Titchporn case,
this movement he has behind him, Sarah in particular, they get nothing of his state.
I mean, later on, there's some scams about investing in him, but for the most part, he wins, and they get nothing.
Yeah.
But there is some kind of transference, and this happens a lot in movements, and Sarah says in this great quote, we all feel for poor Sir Roger and vice versa.
He's for us and were for him.
I think a lot of liberals, in America at least, find the Trump movement both sort of disconcerting and confusing because, in many ways, it's like, what is he?
going to give you. This is a guy who, if he had his way, you know, would have taken away your
health care, would cut Medicaid, you know, I mean, he wasn't able to do all the things he tried
to do, but a lot of them would have been very bad for many of the people who support him.
But what he is promising to do, and I think actually does do, in a much more true way than
people sometimes giving him credit for is his victory is a loss in status and power for many
institutions. So for Sarah, what kind of oppression is being combated here and what kind of
victory does she win if the claimant wins? I think that's absolutely the problem with this populism
that she has no personal gain, though in the case of the Titchbourne's, and I would say it's
similar in OJ actually, the court system itself was shamed by this public movement. So you could
call that a symbolic victory, but it was important. And maybe that's something the populist
movies can do, this kind of very slight turning round of a large ship that's been pointing
in a particular direction. But for someone like Bogle, you know, this is a novel in which
there are many, many different versions of being boxed in. Some of them are slight, you know,
about class or very minor gradations of class, or about careers or egos. Some of them are larger,
Mrs. Touche is boxed in pretty much by her gender and her class. She finds it really hard
to live the kind of life she wants to live in 1830s in England. But all of this pales in
comparison to the reality of being a slave, which is the absolute nadir of no movement, no freedom,
no choice, no self. So to me, it's not about choosing one particular oppression or playing them
off against each other, but it's also being aware that there are gradations of these things.
You have a fascinating line on this. We say that very stable notions of identity can create a kind
of, quote, containment around people. What do you mean by containment?
I mean, when I think of my identity, I think of myself as a black British woman. I think
of myself as a writer, a mother, a friend, occasional drug taker, dancer, clubber,
many things. Those things are all me that are probably best described by your name.
So what I'm trying to do when I'm writing is to try and defend that fundamental sense that
we are in the end, this person, I am a Zadie, you are in Ezra. I really think there's a way
that you can acknowledge that truth about yourself and still do your political work and still
participate in struggle, but still know that humans are essentially uncontainable by
these terms entirely?
There's some connection here with language.
And I was always struck.
How many fights it could have been materialist?
Ended up being about language.
Right.
Right?
Like oftentimes the demands were about how we spoke about each other, right?
The backlash ended up being termed free speech, which I always thought was not accurate,
but nevertheless.
And I guess the question is, what do you win and what do you lose when?
when you sort of wrap yourself in language.
I heard you say on a podcast
that it's possible they're wild freedoms,
sexual, personal, and existential
that come with having no language at all
for what you feel and what you do.
And so it struck me that you maybe have some ambivalence there.
I don't blame anyone for the linguistic turn.
It was a linguistic turn mostly on the part of young people,
but how can you blame them?
given that they had no money really, no tools, very little physical material freedoms in the world,
it seems natural to me that they fought in the only place they knew where to fight, which was language.
The actual means of production are out of their hands.
They were enveloped by this technological revolution, which basically kind of owned them.
It doesn't surprise me that the batterground ended up being language,
because language is the thing that it's right in front of you.
You can do something about it.
You can't really do anything about late capitalism
or you didn't feel like you could in 2012.
You felt trapped.
So it doesn't surprise me, but yeah, it's wildly inefficient.
It's not good enough.
I'm always happy that people use quote-unquote right words around me and others,
but it's nothing compared to decent wages,
decent housing, health care, human rights.
It's nothing compared to that.
So it's not that I think it's worthless,
but to have it so wildly overburdened with meaning and power
seems to me a kind of trick that was played on us.
I guess I also wonder, though,
or I guess something I've been struggling with myself,
is what happens when you have the words?
And I guess I'll be honest about what's on my mind here,
which is I was saying earlier that in different periods,
different identities come to the four.
And for sort of obvious reasons in the last year, I've been thinking a lot about Jewish identity
and feeling a lot of conflict around Jewish identities, certainly feeling a lot of conflict
around what the word Zionism means, right? There's a weird term for people who support that
state that harkens back to a very particular ideology. And like, do I include myself in that or not?
And on the one hand, there's all this clear language. And on the other hand, for one of the first
times for me, I've actually felt the strictures of that as the reality has become so much more
complex and so much more painful, I think, than what some of the language allows. And so I guess
it's made me think a little bit about that idea of containment, that identities can be containing,
but the identities end up instantiated in these couple of words. And it's like my identity
as a Jewish person is very vast. But what somebody else hears in that is not that way. And so it's
like that translation of like an amorphous identity, to use that term again, to language is tough.
It's incredibly painful. And I mean, I think of my mother, like recently there's been new
language for her in this country. So BAME is a new term. And my mom, who's just turned 70,
was like, personally, I don't need any more. I don't need any more words. She's had a lot of words.
You know, she grew up in Jamaica in the 50s. She's had a lot of words applied to her. Some absolutely
offensive, some more mollifying. But each time, at a certain point you get tired of being presented
with this new idea of yourself, you know. As for narratives of national or ethno-religious or personal
identity, sometimes you really have to step back and look at the story that you've told yourself
about your people. And it's one of the hardest things to do in the world. And what I spoke about
earlier, in my view, about staying open, listening to people, having to take on your self-conception
and how the way others have conceived you or experienced you are not the same. That's the most
painful thing in the world. I don't know how that's done, but sometimes it has to be done,
sometimes at the intimate personal level and sometimes at the world's historical level.
That's as tough as it comes. You just heard it something a minute ago that I also think is important
here, which is that all the things we're talking about have happened in a new and
digital context, and it's a new and digital context that is largely instantiated in words and
images. I mean, we define and describe ourselves in many more places through a couple words or an
image, right, an avatar photo, a bio on our Facebook or X or TikTok or whatever page. And I don't
think you have much presence on social media. My understanding is you don't even have a smartphone.
How do you see the way that using language to define ourselves online constantly has changed the self-definition of the people around you or the people you teach?
You know, I don't want to talk through emotional hysteria.
I just talk about the facts.
And the facts of this technology is that it was designed as and is intended to be a behavior modification system.
That is the right term for it.
when you wake up in the morning and you turn to your social app, you are being instructed on
what the issue of the day is, what to be interested in. The news has always played some element
in doing that, but this is total. So I might wake up in the morning and what interests me is an
idea I've had or what I see out of my window or what's happening locally in front of me,
what's happening in my country, but the phone tells me exactly what to think about, where to
think about it and often how to think about it. And it's not even, to me, the content of those
thoughts. Like there's a lot of emphasis put on the kind of politics that are expressed on these
platforms to the right or to the left. To me, it's the structure. It's not the content of what's
on them. It's that it's structured in a certain way that an argument is this long, that there are
two sides to every debate, that they must be in fierce contests with each other, is actually
structuring the way you think about thought. And I don't think anyone of my age who knows anyone
they knew in 2008 thinks that that person has not been seriously modified. In many different
directions, but the fundamental modification is the same. And that's okay. All mediums modify you.
Books modify you. TV modifies you. Radiom modifies you. The social life of a 16th century
village modifies you. But the question becomes, who do you want to be modified by and to what
degree? That's my only question. And when I look at the people who have designed these things,
what they want, what their aims are, what they think a human being is or should be,
the humans I know and love, this machinery is not worthy of them. That's the best way I can put it.
And I speak as someone who grew up as an entirely TV addicted human.
I love TV.
I love reading.
Modification is my bread and butter.
And when the internet came, I was like, hallelujah.
Finally, we've got a medium which isn't made by the man or centralized.
We're just going to be like talking to each other, hang out with each other, peer to peer.
It's going to be amazing.
That is not the internet that we have.
That is not what occurred.
a couple years back, I got very into reading the media theorists from the rise of the television age, like Marshall McLuhan and Neil Postman. And there's these books on like the, you know, four arguments for the elimination of television. When I would critique what the internet and social media were feeling like to me, people would say, oh, everybody said this about television. And so I went back and I read these books. And I had this sort of shock where I was like, oh, and they were right. They were right. Like the things they were saying television would do to us and due to our culture are right.
I mean, there's just a straightforward argument in Neil Postman's great book
and using ourselves to death where he says that the thing television is going to do to politics
is make us believe politics should always be entertaining.
And that's going to make politics a space dominated by entertainers.
And like here we literally are, right, with a reality television superstar, you know,
running for president, having already been president once before,
with his primary capacity being his mastery of the,
the sort of television and attentional sphere.
It's just this wild thing to realize, oh, yeah, I mean, yeah, society kept spinning on.
I mean, TV did not yet lead to everything collapsing in on itself, but the things people
said would happen actually happen for better and for worse.
And they saw it all coming, and they described a world way less warped and deranged by all this
than the one we actually live in.
I mean, if you went back and told them what happened, I think they would look at you
with their mouth agave.
I mean, I think Neil Postman is a profit and a genius, and I give that book to everybody all the time. It blew my mind.
Yeah, we are further along that path, but I just, it's about capture. I think the thing with TV, when I look at it now is that every medium captures people.
All mediums in the past have had partial capture. What blows my mind and what I think,
think is the paradigm shift is this is total. This is total. So when I get on a train in the morning
and I look down a carriage and I can look down half a mile of carriage, there isn't a single person
who is looking up from their phones. It's total. So that was my question. Like what happens when
it's everybody? And it's not just a medium, but it's also the way you work, live, pay for the,
like what happens when you enter into the medium and that's how your life is structured? And I have
total faith that people can metabolize technology. And I also know that technology is a culture.
And though I've missed most of it, I know that the internet is a culture and it's joyful to so
many people. And it's been nothing but lulls and pleasure and there's been delight all over it.
Just as there was delight in television for me. But yeah, the political consequences are clear.
And the effect on, I mean, it's so boring to say, but just the effect on people's ability.
to attend has been radical.
You don't have a smartphone, which is a potent choice.
How would you be different or how do you believe you would be different?
Like what modification of yourself are you trying to protect against if you did?
I just, it's sometimes funny to think about.
I mean, I cannot imagine.
I am so...
Have you ever had one?
I had one for three months in 2008 when it came out.
I am so influenced, so other people's opinions matter to me, as I'm sure they matter to everybody,
the thought of being exposed to those opinions every second of every day,
of having to present my crumbling half-ass life to other people in some other form that it exists
every day, like a TV show, like a media presentation, every single day.
I cannot imagine
I cannot imagine
what my mind would be
what my books would be
what my relationships would be
what my relationship with my children would be
I mean apart from anything else
I am an addictive person
so I would be on that thing nine hours a day
easy
I watch TV nine hours a day
throughout the whole of the 80s
like I would be
what my kids call brain rot
I would be that person entirely
the thing that I always wonder about
with this so I have a smart
phone, but I don't have any social media apps, or I don't really go on my social media.
But I do look at it a lot, the phone. And the thing that has always kept me there is the ability
to get directions and to sometimes you need to order a car. I can't believe you just said that to me.
This is the thing. This is like somehow Steve Jobs sold everybody in iPhone and then like Uber and GPS systems
made a lot of us feel like we would die cold and hungry
on the street corner someday if we didn't keep it in our pocket.
That is actually how I feel about the phone.
So I'm curious about your literal...
How do you move through the world?
Until last year, my husband also didn't have a smartphone.
And so we were 47 or whatever.
We've been doing this for a while.
About once a year, there would be an absolute travel disaster.
like just we're at a party at three in the morning
there's no way to get home forget about it
walk five months like disaster
once a year and every time it happened I would think
that was bad but is it as bad as having
my very consciousness colonized every moment of the day
and I'd be like no definitely no competition
but travel wise like we all traveled before these things
I have an A to Z which is the little guide to London
I plan where I'm going before I go
and then I just kind of go there
and that's kind of it
so sometimes when I open an A to Z on a train
I see people literally laughing at me
that happens
The other thing that when you were saying this
you made me think about was not the modification of the self
but the modification of the way you see others
sort of one of the only social media sites
all occasionally to wait some time on is Instagram
because I don't know
because it doesn't stress me out
for the most part
I think that's fair
And, but I saw somebody who posts a lot of stories and I thought I sort of like knew what was up with them to a degree or at least like knew the vibe of the life they're living, which looks great.
And they were having such a hard time when I saw them.
And I realized that my sense of them had diverged.
Like I had this sort of feeling that I was keeping up with them.
And my sense of them had diverged so totally from their experience.
It's not only that I didn't know them anymore or at least didn't know them in that moment, but I answered.
knew them. I didn't even have the truth that I didn't know what was going on. And it struck me as
really sad. It made me think about how much time I spend, I mean, one reason I've left a lot of other
platforms that I realized they were changing my, how I felt about other people. I was being exposed to parts
of them that I don't like or didn't want. But I think it's important to be a bit more forgiving.
Like when they're being those people online, I see that too. People I love and I see them online.
I'm like, who are you? This is not the same person I hang out with. This is a different person.
but it's really important to take the responsibility
and the blame off individuals.
It's a behavior modification system.
It's meant to do that.
It's really well designed.
People aren't terrible.
The system is terrible.
You want to lift that off people,
that sense of guilt or shame or,
and make it more about anger,
like anger towards the people who created this.
You heard something about this that I really liked
in this older essay about the film,
The Social Network.
You said, quote,
I'm dreaming of a web that caters to a kind of
of person who no longer exists, a private person, a person who is a mystery to the world
and which is more important to herself. And for some reason, that really connected for me,
that idea of mystery. That idea of mystery is something we actually might want to
cultivate. I'm curious to hear you unpack that word, like not just like what is unknown,
but like what space is offered by mystery. Technologies aren't neutral, right? They are a philosophy
and an ideology. They're not a neutral thing.
So the technology of these algorithms is the idea that everything in the world can get classified.
And that's not just a practical matter. That's a philosophy.
There's nothing in the world that cannot be organized, classified and labeled.
And I don't believe that. I just don't believe that.
But I also, I still dream of a peer-to-peer Internet.
And there are interesting clues as to the parts of the Internet which are genuinely joyful and fantastic of how we might go forward.
Like, I really notice that music thrives on the internet.
I don't mean economically.
I know that musicians are suffering everywhere.
But in terms of the actual music that is being made by young people
who are completely as online as you can be,
to me, the music is sensational.
Like, I've never heard such great hip-hop, pop, all of it.
I absolutely love it.
So there's an interesting question.
Like, why would one medium be really energized by these algorithms?
and other mediums like my medium really struggle, right?
Because it really makes it hard to read,
the habit of reading starts to die more and more,
and if you're not reading,
you're not really writing at the level you need to be writing at
because reading is what makes writers.
There's not really any way around that.
So I've thought a lot about that.
Why is contemporary music so excellent?
I have never had a better life in music than I have over the past four or five years.
Exactly. The music's sensational.
The music is amazing, but the ability to stumble into something wonderful and then begin to daisy chain off of that is there's a stereotype that you don't keep finding new music as you get older.
And I know it's true for a lot of people.
And I have never found as much amazing new music as I have over the past couple of years.
And I do think it's the internet, this ability.
The algorithms are actually pretty good if you let them get to know you.
So, yeah, and I have the same thing you do because I know.
know a lot of these sites are bad for the musicians. I go to a lot of live shows, so I feel like
I'm supporting the economy that way, and I sometimes will buy people's stuff on band camp or
something. Listen, I'm the only person still paying for music. I'm a straight-up, I buy it.
But I think what it might be is that most other art forms need a comprehension on the part of the
artist of a kind of chronological history. Like, if you're going to write, it really, really helps
to understand the development of the novel from, you know, the 1300s of creative right
until now. It's like eating a good diet. It just creates interesting work as you kind of digest
all this stuff in order. Music, it really doesn't matter. And in fact, the more the hierarchy
of years is just completely smashed apart, the more interesting the music gets. It's like
the algorithm just produces weirder and weirder collections of influences.
you're saying that all these are behavioral modification devices and they're also aspiration devices right they're sort of telling you what you should value in life and i think one of the things are saying is you'd value having like a lot of connections and you read about something that happens in eliza's thinking at the end of her life and you say when she was young she had wanted to know everyone touch everyone be everyone go everywhere now she thought that if you truly loved and were truly loved by
two people in your lifetime. You had every right to think yourself a midas. I've kind of felt
that happen in my own life as I've gotten older, right? The sort of broadness of what I cared
about socially has collapsed into a depth of what I care about socially. But I'm curious
where that thought came from for you and how you've experienced it. It's absolutely personal.
It's like one of the most personal lines in the book. I believe it. I think that's what a radical
humanism means. It means you genuinely. You don't ever dismiss people. You don't ever think
call them trash. You don't ever think that they are boring or limited. You think that they are
infinite. They may not be to your taste, fair play. But as I heard Elizabeth Strout saying somewhere
recently, you know, every person is a world. But the flip side of it is I also know that a good
friend is a rare, rare thing that we don't get many in our lives. You can have acquaintances. You'll have a
of them. But friendship is something else. And I mean, even today, it's just maybe a silly
example, but I was just going to the shops in my neighbourhood and I saw the father of an old school
friend who is suddenly quite old and incapacitated, he's been put in a wheelchair for the first
time, being pushed down the street by another school friend, like the younger sister of a friend
of mine. So the younger sister is about in her late 30s and this man is 80. And I just saw it and
I thought, wow, wow, these bonds, right? These are not two people who are good friends, but they're
people who lived in the same neighbourhood, the whole lives. And she has come to his service. She's
not a relative. She's not the daughter. And I looked at both these people and thought, this is
the kind of bind I want with people. And how do you get to that kind of connection with another
person who's willing to sacrifice their time, their day to do this thing? It's really, it's
rare. I think it can be cultivated. But the way I used to conduct my life when I was young,
which was just running around, talking for five minutes to a thousand people at party,
that is not something that I want to do anymore. I think it's wild fun and I loved,
I enjoyed it so much and I love a party. I still love a party, but I've just become more
aware of how difficult it is to have genuine relations with other humans. It's really hard and
it takes time.
This felt to me, or least one, one thread of it, like a book about aging as much as much as it, this felt to me, or at least one, one thread of it, like a book about aging as much as it.
was about anything else. One of the things you're tracking in some of these parts of the book
is this relationship between aging and loneliness, which is deeply true for a lot of people.
I always think that I fear aging for sort of obvious health reasons, but I don't fear for
other reasons except for how often I see aging become loneliness. And I was wondering if you
could read a passage from the book, this passage of, like, in the silence to what strange
lives women lead. In the silence, Eliza was pricked on the sudden by an overwhelming and acute
sense of loneliness. A severe revisionist feeling. It worked upon her cruelly, making her feel
that loneliness was all she'd ever known. The consequence perhaps of what old women call
the change. A special feminine form of delusion not to be trusted and yet apparently impossible to
avoid. The change marked in the mind of Mrs. Touche, the final hurdle in the ladies' steeple
chase. The humiliations of girlhood. The separating of the beautiful from the plain and the ugly.
The terror of maidenhood. The trials of marriage or childbirth or their absence. The loss of that
same beauty around which the whole system appears to revolve. The change of life. What strange
lives women lead. Tell me why the connection for you in that sequence, that steeplechase,
was with loneliness. I think it is hard to go through these stages of life. You do, you do feel
lonely. And, you know, on the surface, I have the thing which is meant to not make you feel lonely
a family. But I think there is a deep isolation in people. I think you can have 20 kids and you can get
married four times or you can be part of a great, massive chosen family of wonderful club kids
or whatever it is. And there will be moments when you will feel this isolation. I think it's
existential. I think it's a feeling of being lost in the world sometimes. I think people are super
frightened of it and anything to avoid feeling it. The phone is obviously one of the great comforts
in that moment. You can pick it up, pick it up, pick it up, pick it up, pick it up. And I use, I would say,
books in exactly that way. My family will often say to me, you know, even if I have a 30 second
waiting period for something, the train's coming down the track. I've still got a book open. So
that kind of avoidance I'm absolutely a part of, you know, and I wish I could meditate and I
wish I could be present in the way that people are always recommending, particularly in New York.
But I am also someone who needs constant mediation. So, yeah, I know all about that loneliness on
the other side of it. I meditate. I wouldn't say it solves this problem. I assume it does. I like to
think it does and that one day I might get there. Well, maybe if I were better at it. The inquiry in the
book is more around the aging of Mrs. Chet in it. Do you think aging is a different process for men
from what you see in your own generation? I mean, yeah, yeah. I mean, the difference is so monumental.
It's hard to kind of, you might have actually rendered me speechless, which is kind of a hard thing
usually. Well, you have to ask the questions
in a naive open way.
It's so fundamentally
different. But
these things, there's no, again,
because I don't think in essence is I'm always aware
of it changing somewhat. So
the physical pressure on
men, boys even,
in the realm of the physical of the beautiful,
has transformed
from when I was young. So it
may well be that they will be subject to
what were traditionally
coded as feminine and
anxieties around age. That could totally happen. Like, maybe it's already happening. But for me,
absolutely the loss of whatever beauty you had, whether it's small or large, has to be
conceived of in some way. It has to be dealt with. Because I'm a writer, it's kind of always
interesting process to watch it. It's interesting to watch it myself, but it doesn't mean I don't
feel it, you know, and maybe even more than that, just, I don't know, physical capacity. Like I
I love to run, I love to swim, knowing that you'll never, well, it's very unlikely.
I don't like to say this in New York, because I know New York has a very permanent belief that you can get faster forever.
But watching these things slow down and it's strange.
But I am trying to find the beauty in it as far as I can find it.
And I think it's only recently that if you said to me, do you want to be 27 again, I think on balance, I think I would say no.
But that's very recent.
What about in terms of loneliness?
I very much take your point in terms of the physical expectations,
and you have an amazing passage in the book about the way mirrors operate on a time delay for women.
Oh, yeah, it's wild.
Always telling you how beautiful you were five years ago.
Yeah.
Making you realize that.
I cannot believe.
Yeah, sorry, go on.
But the loneliness I was thinking about, because one of the things that,
I want to say, scares me about aging, but I think about with aging,
is how lonely many of the older men I know are.
In general, I find that the older woman in my life
were more just connected to other people.
And I think that had to do with generational things.
I think it a lot has to do with child care,
how much you did of it when you were young.
So there's how much you can do it of it when you are older,
and that also decides the kinds of relationships you'll have
with your grandkids or other children around you.
But there is something that, it seems to me,
the scourge of aging for men is also a kind of deep loneliness,
that there also isn't much in the way of,
I don't want to say sympathy for,
but ways to talk about.
It just sort of happens and you bear it.
I have always felt sorry for men.
The lack of social networks,
you know, when you have small children,
the kind of men who don't look after their small children
or maybe don't get the opportunity to,
that also does happen.
never know what it is to walk into a playground and have literally no choice but to talk to
a load of strangers because your child is talking to another child. It's like having a dog,
but those kind of networks that traditionally women have been heavily involved with are an
absolute advantage, you know, later in life. But again, there's no essential truth here because
it seems to me that younger men are having different friendships with each other, which hopefully
will pay off later down the line, more intimate relationships, perhaps. But even when
all those networks are in place, I still feel maybe I'm just a terrible pessimist and also
maybe I'm not good at making friends. That is a possibility. But I do often feel sometimes,
even when I'm in great company, how unbelievably difficult it is to know another human being.
It's just so hard. And I think the one thing, you know, nobody ever has a good word to say about
marriage and I get it. But one thing marriage has offered me at least is this place.
of intimacy, where sometimes when you're out in the world, you can feel that like a lot of
your life is a performance, even friendships that seem intimate sometimes have this performative
aspect. When I retreat to the privacy of my marriage, and I don't mean marriage has to be the form
in which you do this, but just any social thing that you have that is essentially private and
intimate, that all goes away. And I am myself. I am absolutely myself. I'm sure Nick would say
in a basically grotesque way, terribly dressed, not washed. But I'm myself, I'm free. And I think
that's another way. Sometimes the discourse is a bit banal, you know, it's got this kind of
liberalized idea of freedom. So freedom is only getting to do whatever you want. And there's
no conception of that sometimes there might be things that provide a different form of freedom.
It's actually quite valuable. And for me, privacy, anywhere where you can go where you're not
on stage where you're not having to keep up some kind of idea of yourself where you can
just be, that is freedom. And any form that gives you that is really valuable to me.
Do you think you've gotten better at knowing people deeply over time?
I mean, I talk too much. I've always talked too much. To know people, you need to listen.
I think I have the gift of a comic novelist, which is a problematic gift where you see
someone in the street and you can guess a lot about them almost immediately, right? The paper they
read, the ideas they hold and you can write novels that way. And you can also go through
your life that way, making those smart-ass guesses and being right in some broad way. But it's
just not the whole story. And it's not sufficient. Elizabeth Strouts in my mind today for some,
I was just reading an interview with her, but her last novel is called Tell Me Anything.
And there's a line, or tell me everything, maybe. And there's a line in, you know,
in the fraud, which is basically the same sentence, tell me everything.
And that to me is the key,
of being able to sit in front of another human being
and just listening, not projecting,
not trying to make them agree with you,
not trying to make them say what you want them to say,
just listening to them.
And that is so hard.
I was just thinking about that question of listening.
And I do think listening is really, really hard.
And I think getting other people to talk honestly is really, really hard.
I'm going to ask you to read one more passage because it connected to this one for me and was one of the ones.
It was a bit of a gut punch.
This one's on page 395, and it's the sort of passage, like Mrs. Touche to Decorative.
Mrs. Touch had been a third wheel for so much.
of her life. This was different. This was a desolate and almost dizzying feeling of exclusion.
She felt an acute awareness of every part of her face and body as if her own person had suddenly
become estranged from her, as if she herself were the exotic item, burst so suddenly onto the
scene. Oh, but what nonsense. It was simply too hot, she was not as young as she once had been,
her thoughts were confused. When young, she had never understood why old women dithered so.
Why they led conversations down dead ends and almost always overstayed their welcome.
She did not know then what it was to have no definition in the world, no role and no reason, to be no longer even decorative.
A lot of the book is about forms of exclusion of judgment that I think we recognize pretty well, that feel like they have a sort of a political valence.
I sort of, in many cases, knew what sort of conversation to put them in.
And to the end of the book, you begin talking about the sort of exclusion of aging and the way that it leads to a psychic feeling of being lost in the world.
And we don't have good, just politics about language for that.
I think because for young people, we fear it.
It's like to look at it too closely in the face is to admit it will come for you too.
But I'm curious just to hear you say a little bit more about that, that idea of,
losing definition and losing then the ability to be included, to be on the inside of something
rather than the outside of it.
That paragraph is one of my favorite paragraphs. I thank you for choosing it.
It's partly because what's happening there is that Mrs. Touche is a white lady is for the
first time in her life in a social situation with only black people, and she experiences
herself as the exotic person. And I know from talking to white people that this sometimes
happens, right? If they go to China or if they go to West Africa, they suddenly, for the first
some of their lives are like, oh, I'm the other in this context suddenly. And I think that
feeling is so interesting, like experientially. You need to hold on to it and know it and track
all the feelings that it brings up in you. What I think about those kind of binary debates and
arguments, black, white, young, old, when it comes to black and white, it makes complete sense
to me because a black person is not in their lifetime going to become a white person.
and the white person, not going to become a black person.
There's this gap of experience, history, sometimes social power, all of those things.
So it makes sense as a political dialectic.
Old young is crazy.
It's crazy.
The kind of discourse, a violent discourse that goes between old and young people,
is one of the most delusional things in contemporary discourse.
You are literally fighting the person you're about to become.
you're covering in contempt when you say okay boomer or whatever it is do you not imagine that there
will be a phrase for you very very soon it's such a strange war to begin because you're about
to enter it as the victim of it like so soon like sooner than you can even begin to imagine
I think you're totally right that the discourse of age has gotten very weird and I also noticed it
in the other direction I mean I'm like the most elder millennial basically
I am a very elder millennial.
And one thing I find so funny about my own generation,
or at least it's an online discourse, I should say,
is this desperation to be liked by the younger generations, right?
You get all these...
Oh, God, they hate you so much. It's so embarrassing.
And they should.
Like, I actually...
Sometimes I'll see these, like, articles growing up,
like, you're not supposed to use a crying face emoji anymore.
Like, Gen Z doesn't do that.
They use a tomb.
It's like, I'm not...
They're supposed to have different things than me.
It's so important.
Leave them alone.
We're not supposed to be the same.
Leave them like they need to be able to create their own space.
But there is something about online discourse and maybe it's a fear of the OK boomer thing happening.
But made, I would say, specifically millennials, gave them this sort of like panting desire for acceptance of like younger generations, which I felt like, are we this, are we this fragile and insecure?
But to be fair to them, I think it was been the same for every generation.
since the war. Once you get this level of mediation, youth is a premium, and everybody who
becomes young comes into their youth thinks they're doing it in the ultimate way. I totally believe
that. Gen X thought, oh, well, this is it. This is how you be young. And we've solved it. Like,
what is wrong with those sentimental 68a peace and love? We know what we're doing. Problem of men
and women is solved.
We're done here.
We absolutely believe that.
And the millennials absolutely believe they had solved sex, everything.
They've solved everything.
And I'm raising two kids of the younger generation.
And I mean, you know, it's been widely reported everywhere.
But yes, the generations that you find the millennials literally excruciating,
even perhaps more excruciating than they find us, which is amazing.
But to me, it doesn't have to be this kind of violent battle.
The thing I'm so moved by is my generation, because they're my time cohorts.
They're my people.
Like, I love everybody else, and good luck to you, but I'm talking when I'm writing foremost
to the people I came up with, when going through this life thing together.
And I'm like, well, how are you doing?
This is how I'm doing?
How's this striking you?
This is how I'm talking to them, and I'm delighted if anyone younger or older listens in.
But I am explicitly talking to my people.
And those are the people who came through these years with me.
They're meaningful to me.
And then always our final question.
What are three books you'd recommend to the audience?
Well, right now I'm reading The Director,
which is by my Austrian friend Daniel Kilman.
It's a wonderful book about the filmmaker W.G. Pabst,
who went back to Germany in the middle of the war
and made movies all the way through the war.
It's very like the fraud.
like he read the fraud first because I hadn't read his in translation yet and he said these books are the same and reading it I realize they are the same they're about complicity and the complicity of art particularly in horror in his case the Holocaust in my case slavery and it's also funny and it's just a brilliant book so I would recommend that I am reading another friend's book Adam Schatz on Fanon who was the radical social
specialist, psychiatrist, and that's a really, really great book about Fanon. I'm only halfway
through, but it kind of rescues him from various, like, people who have claimed him or
factions and kind of gives you the whole man, like the hero and also the human being, and I found
it really moving. And the other thing I've read recently, which I keep on bang on about, is
all of Virginia Wool's diaries. There's five volumes. I know that's
sounds like a lot of work, but honestly, that woman is just a pleasure to be around.
Like, just her mind is something I want to be around.
So that's like my Twitter, I guess.
From September to very recently, I'd spend an hour or so a day just hanging out,
listening to her burble about whatever she was burbling about, and it was just joy.
Lady Smith, thank you very much.
Thank you.
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