The Game with Alex Hormozi - This Idea Will Make Your Business Unstoppable | Ep 703
Episode Date: June 10, 2024“It’s not that you have anxiety, it’s that you didn’t do the work that you know you should have done.” Today, Alex (@AlexHormozi) highlights the crucial role of thorough preparation in achie...ving success in various fields like sales, marketing, and customer success. By reshaping views on effective preparation, Alex provides valuable insights to help alleviate anxiety and imposter syndrome, ultimately enhancing performance and enabling listeners to excel in their endeavors.Welcome to The Game w/Alex Hormozi, hosted by entrepreneur, founder, investor, author, public speaker, and content creator Alex Hormozi. On this podcast you’ll hear how to get more customers, make more profit per customer, how to keep them longer, and the many failures and lessons Alex has learned on his path from $100M to $1B in net worth.Timestamps:(0:37) - The importance of preparation(2:01) - Types of preparation(5:33) - Consulting and preparation(8:35) - Ad preparation and scaling(18:40) - Preparation for one-time events(25:12) - Final thoughts on preparationFollow Alex Hormozi’s Socials:LinkedIn | Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter | Acquisition
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Welcome to the game podcast. Today's topic is going to be preparation within the context of work
and how most of you are underprepared and are thinking about it as though it's anxiety.
You think that you have imposter syndrome when the reality is you just haven't prepped nearly enough.
And so what I want to do today is actually reset your bar for what preparation looks like for the highest achieving people that I know within different contexts.
So whether that's sales, that's marketing, content, whatever, customer success.
All of these contexts have different types of prep.
There's two different ways to prep that I'll talk about and give you some tactics that you can use and maybe send to your team as well because, hey, if they prep more, you'll make more.
A lot of people know the saying a pound or sorry, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
Well, I think the same is true in sales, in customer success, in marketing, in making content.
Like an ounce of prep is worth a pound of posts, right? And I've never heard that said, but I'm going to I'm going to coin it myself.
And so I want to share a couple of quick hitting quotes and then I'll get into like really
tactical stuff that's really helped me make the most of prep in the shortest period of time
to make the most money.
So more important than the will to win is the will to prepare.
I think that's wooden or it's Vince Lombardi or either way.
It's one of those guys.
Then you've got on one side this massive camp of people who want to win and then you've got
people who want to do what it takes to win, which is a tiny, tiny, tiny, itty-bitty camp.
This one I heard from Jimmy Carr, which I love.
Everyone is jealous of what you've got.
No one is jealous of how you got it.
Which I just love.
And this is me rewording the Navy SEAL one, which is we don't rise to the level of our expectation.
We fall to the level of our preparation.
I like that phrasing of it.
And my personal one, you'd be amazed at how much smarter you can look with 20 minutes of prep.
And so what I want to do is actually just reset the expectations about how much work you have to do to get good.
And one of the biggest benefits I've gotten for preps. I'll tell you a couple quick stories that'll maybe set this up for you. And I do want to differentiate between two types of preparation. So you've got preparation for things that you do all the time. So like meetings, like if you have a sales meeting or you have a meeting with your company, meeting with your employees, those are things that you do on a regular basis. And I think there's a different type of preparation that we do for that. And then you have things, how you prepare to do something that you've never done before that you're doing for the first time, which is a different type of preparation. So I'm going to delineate both.
of those. All right. Now, I'll give you an example of like a resetting that just recently happened for me.
So I'm obviously very big on the amount of reps that it takes. Like volume negates luck is the is the number one
quote that we have in the sales team wall so that the guys understand like it's just about the reps.
And we just say it all the time. It's repeated over and over again because we also believe
repetition of the same beliefs is something that will drive them to remember this thing because
we need to be reminded more than we need to be taught. But recent,
Recently, even getting into this content game, this is about a year ago, I was talking to ARAC.
And so ARAK's a content creator who has 10, 15 million subscribers, something like that on YouTube.
And we were saying, I was like, hey, what can we do to make our, you know, make our YouTube videos better?
And so he said, oh, just send me over your, your prep case for the videos.
And I was like, what do you mean?
I was like, you mean like the notes on my phone? He's like, no. And I was like, can you send me one of yours?
So I know what you're talking about. And so he sends me his most recent prep for one of his videos. And it was like 22 pages for like a 15 minute video. And I was like, oh, okay. So my understanding of how much work it takes to do something at this level is wildly under what the reality of it is at that level. And
And so I attended something.
He invited me to like a little creator meet up with some of the biggest guys on YouTube.
I'll just I'll just say it this way.
You would know everybody in the room.
And when we were there, they were all discussing how much time it took them to prep for videos.
And a lot of these guys were spending two, three, four straight weeks of 12 hours a day to make one video per month.
And I will tell you this is that it was in no way surprising to me after going there for two days what it took.
and why those guys were the number one in that industry for making content that was exceptional.
And so it completely reset my standard, reset my bar for how much preparation was required to be
exceptional. And it was because, and this is why it's so silly for me, because I feel like I keep
learning and relearning the same lessons, but just in new domains, is that the people who are doing
way better than you are just working so much harder. And the thing is that people think that someone's
working like two times as hard or three times it's hard because we tend to think in increments.
We're like, okay, well, I work, I work this much.
Someone must be doing twice as much work.
But it's not even close to that.
These guys are doing like literally a hundred times the work.
And it's not only that, they have a team of 10 people spending four weeks to prepare one 15-minute video.
Like the order of magnitude in terms of effort there, do you multiply it by 10 times, times 12 hours a day, times four weeks?
All of a sudden, you really are at 1,000 times the work, 1,500 times the work to create, to be fair, an outcome that is 1,500.
or 10,000 times better than the average YouTube video or whatever it is that you're making.
And obviously, I'm just using this as a content example, but it applies to anything.
It applies to sales meetings.
It applies to how you prep for a date.
It applies to how you meet the parents or the in-laws.
And so I'll tell you a second story.
So I used to do some consulting stuff.
And I had a guy who was a friend or business acquaintance who said, hey, man, I would love it if we could spend a day together.
And I was like, I don't really do that.
And he's like, just name or price.
And I said, fine.
Actually, total fun side note.
Sorry with this.
I was like, fine.
I'll do it for 50 grand.
This was ages ago.
And he said, how about, how about 35?
And I said, how about 75?
And he was like, all right, 50's cool.
And I was like, all right.
And so just a side note, when someone says, hey, can you do it for less?
You can always say, hey, I can do it for more.
And every single time I've used that overcome, it has worked.
So right now it's like 100% overcome for using that.
I highly recommend using it in a sales situation because people are like, okay, I got it.
I understood.
Like, that's your price, right?
I hate negotiating on that stuff or rather, I just refuse to.
So that was story number two or sorry, first half of story number two with the consulting guy.
So when I did that day, what I did was I started that morning, I think we were going to start meeting at nine.
And so I woke up at five and I spent four hours reviewing his business, right?
Because I figured my day was going to be shot.
This is going to be my day.
I'm not going to try to do anything else. And so I spent the four hours prepping. And I came in to the
day with, I think, four or five pages of notes of like, okay, here are things we could do here.
That would be better. Here's things on your follow-up sequence. Here's things on your on your landing pages.
Here are things that you can do from a content. Here's how I think your CTAs could be better.
All of this stuff, right? And so I came in with it. And the next like four hours, I just spent
showing him what I had spent the morning going over. And at the end of the day, he was like,
I have genuinely never had anyone come this prepared to something.
And to me, I was like, it was four hours of prep.
It wasn't like a crazy, you know what I mean?
To me, four hours of prep is nothing.
You know what I mean?
In terms of work.
But it was really confirming because this guy obviously had the money to spend 50 grand
for a day or whatever and that he had not had that type.
I was like, it still bewilders me.
And I see that more so that it is remarkable how low the bar is to beat everyone else.
And so that's what I take that is my takeaway from that.
Like on one hand, you've got ARAC and some of these super creators who are spending thousands of hours on a one single piece of content.
But I think if you like do consulting or you do some sort of work where you do the same thing over and over again, like you can have like a four to one ratio.
If I go into a meeting and it's a 60 minute meeting, you can take 15 minutes before you get into the meeting.
And I think like a four to one ratio is really, or one to four ratio, like if it's an eight hour a day spending two hours, if it's a 60 minute meeting, spending 15 minutes.
the 20-minute meeting spending five minutes before you get on, we'll make the 20 minutes
to three times more effective by just having that little bit of block to say, who's on this meeting,
what's the background of this, what's the agenda, what problem we're trying to solve?
It just absolutely focuses you and makes you a driver in the meeting.
I can just absolutely like promise you that.
Now, third one, when we have founders who come into the portfolio, so when we invest in a company,
One of the things that happens most commonly is a lot of them are running paid ads or they start
ring paid ads. So it's either way. So either they're running ads and they hit some sort of plateau or
they want to get into running ads. And so I'll tell you the story that I explained to almost all of them,
which is I say, all right, how many, you know, what do you guys spend in today? And they're like,
all right, we're spending $5,000 a day. Okay, fine. So how many new ads are you making per week?
And a lot of time, they're like, oh, we record ads once a month. And I'm like, okay, well,
how many ads do you make? They're like, usually five or seven ads. And I'm like, okay. So let me give you
some context. We make about 30 ads a week. New, and that's new unique video. Now, that's not
repurposing of that. That's 30 core pieces, which then get zillioned out in terms of like,
let's take the hook for number one and put it as number three and then redo the same video.
Those would be permutations that go from 30 to like 100 pieces of creative. And as soon as I
explain that, they're like, oh. And I was like, so you're doing five to seven and you're complaining that
you can't scale, but the reality is that you just can't scale given this level of creative.
Like, if you're a creative is a five out of ten, you can get to $5,000 a day profitably,
but you're not going to get to $50,000 a day profitably because you're not getting that one
out of a hundred ad that can scale to colder audiences or newer people.
And so it's just the, like, if you have a mediocre ad, like many of you guys who start
running ads are like, oh, I get it to $100 a day, but I can't get it to be profitable
at $500 a day.
It's like, yeah, because your ad is so bad, it can only go to the absolute
it hottest audience. And then as soon as it goes outside of that very hot audience that
kind of knows you a little bit, it stops working. Right. And so if you went from a five out of 10 ad to a
seven out of 10 ad, then all of a sudden ad, then all of a sudden ad, then it's like, oh, I can get to
$500 a day. And if you get to an 8 out of a 10 ad, you can go to a $5,000 a day. Right. But the nine out of 10
out of 10 ads, like that's what converts the world. But in order to get that 10 out of 10 out,
you have to do so much more preparation before you do the ads and actual total volume of work of doing
the ads itself. And so I share this stuff because my entire goal of this podcast right now,
is to reset your expectations of the amount of preparation that it takes to be good.
Because it's so easy, it's like mediocrity is the is, is, it's so easy to do because you just do
something and hey, anything's better than nothing. So if you're doing nothing, then absolutely start.
But what happens is people are like, why isn't it working for me? And it's not working for you
because you're not working nearly as much as you as what is required to get that level of output.
Right. So let me tell you a different story.
So I had a buddy of mine's a billionaire, and he wants to start making content, which is I'm a huge proponent of this because he actually has stuff to say.
And but he's still learning the content game, right?
And so he's like, hey, man, can you look at my Instagram and tell me, or sorry, can you look at my, he said, can you look at my social media and tell me what I'm, what I'm doing wrong or what I should be doing better?
And so before I pulled up his thing, I was like, well, how many posts are you making a day across all platforms?
And he was like, one.
I'm doing one a day right now.
And he said it like that kind of like, he was like, yeah, so I'm doing one a day right now.
And I was like, all right, man.
We make at the time, we were making 50 a day.
We make more than that now.
And he just looked at me and he was like, you don't need to say anymore.
And he's like, I got it.
Like he understood in that moment the same thing I did when I, when Arak showed me his prep case for his YouTube videos.
I was like, I get it.
Like I'm, I'm, I'm, he said, thank you for resetting my, my, my measuring stick.
That's what he said.
It was like my, you reset my bar, reset my expectations of how much, how much work it takes to get to that level that I want to get to.
And so I share this stuff because I think one of the biggest gifts of surrounding yourself in a championship team.
So there's a book by Angela Duckworth called grit, which is a good book.
But one of the things that they talk about in the book is that one of the best ways to develop grit is to surround yourself with people who have grit.
So one of the for sure ways to get better at a skill is surround yourself with people who already have that skill who are ahead of you.
And so that's why joining a championship team is one of the best things you can do to understand what is required to win.
And so when you're in the story that she tells in the book is swimmers who want to get better at swimming.
If you can make the state team or whatever of like a championship team, all of a sudden there's standards of work that you didn't understand is what everyone's doing.
So you go from like, oh, well, I'm swimming twice a week.
And that's what you can do to be best in your high school or whatever.
I'm making up the numbers.
But when you go to the championship team, you realize that they do three hours a day twice a day.
And all of a sudden, you're like, oh.
And it's that same moment I had with Iraq was like, oh.
And the same moment my friend had one when we talked about the social media was like, oh, it's just this massive bar reset of like, oh, this isn't like a two times as much thing.
This is like a 50, 100 times as much.
And so it's just when you realize how much work it takes to get good, you realize how few things you can get good at.
And that's where the focus becomes so important because the only way to get that good is to do a few things.
And so that's where the strategy of picking or prioritizing the things that you want to get good at becomes more important because you just can't do 100 times the work on a hundred different things.
And so making sure that you're allocating your resources to the one thing that matters most, which then forces you to prioritize what you're spending your time on.
which by the way, I think is a really good activity.
If you can spend a day or a week saying, okay, if I could only have one thing be true about our business,
if I could have like if we have more traffic than anyone else, we will win based on this model or whatever it is that we have.
If we have more referrals than anyone else, then we will win no matter what.
If we have the best advertising in terms of paid ads, if we just had that one thing, we will win.
If you can be very clear about that one point of leverage, then you attack it with absolute onslaught of value.
of his value, onslaught of hours of work and repetition and preparation for those repetitions
that then you'll do even more. And so it's like, I'll give you the ad example I was saying earlier,
if I, if I'm doing 100 ads a week and my competitor's doing seven ads a month, I'm doing 400 to his
seven, all right? So I'm doing, I don't know what the math is there, but a lot. Let's, it's at least
50 times, 60 times more, right? Then he is in terms of volume. But not only that, but when I go into that
advertising day. What am I doing beforehand? I'm prepping all the, I want to prep all the hooks
ahead of time. I want to do research of past ads that have done really well. I want to take different
ad styles that I've seen across social media in general that I liked. I'm like, I wonder if we can make a
version of this for how we're going to advertise our thing. And by the way, I love taking from other spaces,
like seeing a hotel ad or an Airbnb ad. I'm like, ooh, that would work really well in the software
company that we have. Oh, we've got this, you know, we've got this dry cleaning business that would work
really well this ad for a gym or whatever, right? And I have this little swipe file on my phone where
whenever I see an ad I like, I save it and then I also screenshot it so that when I get into my
prep sessions, I already have my stuff that I want to use to prep in front of me. And so one of the
one of the big other things besides resetting your bar of expectation of how much prep it takes to
win is that the more you prepare for stuff, the more frequently you do it, the better you will
get it preparing. So preparing in and of itself is a skill, right? And so like the first time,
you prep for making ads. The per time you prep for making content, it's going to take you
longer and you're going to be less efficient at it. But if you know, for example, this is your
hundredth time preparing for making a podcast or whatever, like this is my prep for this little,
podcast here. I wrote this out ahead of time. I was like, these are all the things I wanted to hit on,
because I think they're important, right? And so I think in terms of resetting the bar,
start thinking at hundreds rather than ones and twos. So it's not that somebody's doing twice as much
work or three times as much work. They're doing a hundred times the work. And in the example I gave earlier,
sometimes way more than 100 times the work. And so two more quick things on this, and then I'll
let you go about your day so you can start preparing. So Elon Musk recently talked about something,
well, not recently, but I've heard an article or an interview from him that he said, he referenced
Parkinson's law. So Parkinson's law, for those you guys who don't know, is that work expands
the time allotted, right? And so I think what you don't want to do is over-prepure for the wrong thing.
And let me put my caveat there is that I actually think there's tremendous ROI to cramming,
meaning he uses Parkinson's law in reverse, which is that it also, if work expands the time
allotted, it can also shrink to the time that you shrink to. And there's a reason that kids cram.
It's because it's really high ROI on their time, right? If they prefer weeks and weeks,
and then they take the week before the exam off and don't look at anything, sometimes they do worse than just
cramming right before the test.
And so people aren't idiots.
Like, we know that cramming works, which is why we do it.
But I think I'd highly encourage thinking about prepping as cramming.
I actually think it works amazingly well in a business context.
But people somehow have said it's like a bad thing because I don't even know why teachers say it's a bad thing.
At the end of the day, like you either ace the test or you didn't.
And so whatever.
Now, in terms of long term, like I think, you know, not sleeping the night before probably impacts your,
if you probably impacts your performance more.
but if you just study the day before and you study the morning of, I'll promise you that the
studying the morning of will get you more than what you did the night before in terms of immediate
result on the test, more than long-term retention, which is different, just to be clear.
But the thing is, if you're doing a meeting, you're going to take notes and then you're
going to delegate stuff. And so you being able to run that meeting effectively based on you cramming
for that meeting, super high ROI on your time. And so I absolutely love the concept of cramming within
the world of business because a lot of times you do have something you just need to do once.
need to impress the client. You need to impress the boss. You need to just come prepared for a company
presentation that you're doing in front of a whole team or a department or the whole,
the whole company entirely. And so going back to the two types of work there are is that,
or two types of preparation you have. You have preparation for things you're going to do that you do many,
many, many times, which you get better and better preparing for it, which means you can actually
shrink the amount of time you need to prepare. And I think the close you do the preparation to the event
itself, the more valuable it is. And so that is why take the five minutes, literally actually take
the five minutes before the meeting to say, okay, this is John. Let me look at his profile real quick.
Okay, John's, he's out of Milwaukee. Okay, the Bucks are doing well. Let me see if he follows the Bucks.
Okay, he tacked something there. And his wife's name's Joyce. Okay, got it. So you get on the
meeting. You're like, dude, John, how's it going? Do the Bucks are killing it? Oh, that's fantastic.
How's Joyce doing? She's good? Great. And I saw, do we have, is this Mike? Is this Mike? He's your,
he's your VP of customer success. Hey, Mike, nice to meet you, man. I was just looking you guys
up before I got on a really cool stuff that you guys are doing to XYZ Corp, right? As soon as I say
that, they're like, immediately in 60 seconds, they're like, this guy prepared. And that's what
it communicates. And the thing is, is that the idea that someone knows that you prepare literally
separates you from so many other people who just show up and they're like, you know, I'm going
to try to use a less explicit term, but like, dick in their hand, like, oh, what are we going to do today,
right and so sure you should absolutely be prepared in terms of the agenda in terms of your scripting
for how you run these meetings but you get so much return on demonstrating that you prepared
like people know if you prepared it just it completely blows them away and i still to this day
i get people are so they're like dude you thank you so much for taking the time like you i feel like
you knew our our company i feel like you knew our business like even better than people that i've
spent, you know, I've had all, you know, vendors who did all this stuff. And I was like,
yeah, I mean, I'm not going to walk into a meeting, not knowing what I'm talking to.
Like, what are we going to do, spend the whole time fact finding before I can actually make a
recommendation around something? Well, that's such a waste of time for you and me, because I know what
I'm looking for. And it's going to be really inefficient for you to exchange it via verbal and
I can just click around and find out what I need to do, especially if you're looking at it from an
external way in to like, okay, why are prospects not converting? Well, I don't need to talk to you.
I should look at what somebody who doesn't talk to you would see so that I can make the
recommendations or conclusions.
And sometimes that kind of preparation is more valuable because they're not going to color.
They're not going to give me the whys and the why it's difficult because I don't care.
I'm a prospect, right?
At least I'm going to put those glasses on.
And so back to the one-time thing versus the many-time thing.
If you do it a lot of times, you're going to get better, better at prepping.
And I would say prep as close to the event as you can.
And I think a four-to-one ratio in the beginning is good, 15 minutes to 60, one hour to four-hour
to four hours in terms of prep to how much work you're going to do for whatever the thing is.
And over time, it can shrink a little bit.
So you can be like one to tenth.
It's five minutes for a 60 minute meeting.
But for the things that you're going to do one time that you have never done before,
that's where it actually expands the other way.
It goes like 10, 20 hours of prep for one hour of presenting.
And so determining how much you're willing to prepare for something that you're only going to do once,
rather than something that you do all the time, in my opinion, comes up to the stakes and the
returns. And so if you're going to go to a speech in front of a thousand people and you've
never spoken before and it's a ideally, hopefully it's a topic that you do understand, but you just
haven't spoken in that environment before, then I want to control for every other variable that
can approximate me speaking in front. So one, I want to know, I want to match the material for sure.
If you're getting up there and you don't know what you're talking about or like the things
you're going to talk about, well, dear God, you know, like no wonder that you suck a talking,
right? Now, beyond that, it's how many ways can I approximate that?
Like, for example, going live on social media can help you approximate a live audience in person.
Is it perfect?
No.
But is it better than just talking to the mirror?
Probably.
Now, if you aren't going to – now, this is a real one.
This is actually from the fitness world.
If you get used to squatting, for example, I'll bring it home.
If you squat in the mirror every day and you can see yourself and you're squatting, if you go to a competition, this actually happened to me in my first competition.
I worked out at a gym that had a mirror in front of the squat rack.
And so I just always squatted there.
I didn't think about it. When I got to a competition, I had the squat rack, and when I looked out,
there was no mirror. It was just a crowd of people watching me squat. And I was like, oh, this is weird,
because I didn't even realize, but it was actually so different from how I trained. And so from that
point going forward, I turned around in the rack so that I would be facing the gym, at least,
so that I wasn't looking at the mirror so that it was closer approximation to competition. And so as many
of those variables as you can control for, you want to have in the prep so that the prep as closely as
possible approximates the performance. And so there's cramming for, like, you having information
that'll better arm you for consulting sales, customer success, whatever, which by the way,
if you're in customer success, like spending five minutes before you get on the call with a customer,
like reviewing the call notes, reviewing the notes from the sales team, looking at the person's
profile before you get on, dear God, will they think it's absolutely amazing and it takes this much
work? Like, you'll, like, they will think you're three times cooler with five minutes of work for a 60
minute call. Like, I almost think that you saying, hey, give me five minutes at the beginning of the call and
starting five minutes late, will still, even though I hate starting late, would still yield you a better
outcome at the end of the 60 minutes than starting on time and not being prepared. So, with the
approximation for performance, it comes down to the return on effort and return on time. And so if you're going
to talk to a thousand people and these are, let's say, your ideal customers, well, if I was going to
have 1,000 101 meetings, how much would I prepare for each of those 101 meetings? That was 60 minutes.
I might prepare 10 minutes, right? Well, if I have 10 minutes times 1,000, okay, that's a lot of,
that's a lot of minutes. I don't know what that is in terms of hours, but let's see, that'd be
a thousand divided by six. That's like, I don't know, 167 hours, right? Something like that.
And so if 167 hours are prep for that one thing, now realistically, that might not make sense
because you do have diminishing returns. And so that's why speaking one to many is higher return.
But just to give yourself a context, it's like when we did the book launch, I was like,
dear God, how much do I prep for a thousand person audience and I'm going to have half a million
people there? I'm going to 500,000, I'm going to 500 times. Well, I better not waste anyone's time
while I'm there and make sure that every second, the value per second is super high. And so I think,
again, we have to reset our expectations of how much work it takes to prepare for the one-time
performances based on what you expect to get from it. So if it's, if you're, if you're,
if you're going to do a one-time performance to 10 people, then maybe you prepare for four hours,
right?
But if you're going to talk to 1,000 people, then maybe you prepare for 40 hours.
And if you're going to talk to 10,000 people, then maybe you do prepare it for 400 hours.
Or it does have a diminishing term.
So maybe it's 200 hours, right?
But I think what most people miss out on is they get up and they say their talk once,
and they do it once to their wife and once to their dog.
And they're like, you know, I'm super nervous.
And so I'll leave you with this.
You are not nervous.
you're underprepared.
It's not that you have anxiety.
It's that you didn't do the work that you know you should have done.
And so if I have anxiety about something that's coming up,
that has become my telltale sign that I am underprepared,
that I didn't do the work that I know I should have done.
And that's when you get nervous.
When you can get up on stage and you can do or whatever your,
your version of the performance is and have absolutely zero anxiety,
it's because you've absolutely habituated to the stressor.
And so, for example,
if you want to get someone to stop being afraid of spiders, the fastest way to do that is get them
into a room with spiders and let them sit there, have a fucking panic attack, pass out, wake up again, pass out,
wake up again until eventually they habituate. They just realize that they don't die and they're still
there and there are spiders and they keep living. And then the phobia is gone. They habituate.
And so what you want to do, or at least I like to do it, is I want to habituate to the stressor,
which is if I'm stressed about this thing, then it means I haven't prepared enough. And so it's, it's
It's not imposter syndrome.
You're just inexperienced.
You're just not good enough yet.
And so I want to make sure that I can control for all the controllables first and then leave
room for the uncontrollables, but have all of my bandwidth available so that when the mic
cuts out or the presentation isn't working or my clicker runs out of battery, all of these
things have happened, that I'm still prepared enough that people then are like, damn, he
handled that really well.
It's because this wasn't my first time.
And that's the difference.
is that like when you you don't want people to think it's your first rodeo and so many of you are going
into every meeting, every call, every appointment like it's your first rodeo and they can tell.
Everyone can tell.
And the people who can tell the most are the people who you want to impress the most.
Like it's very easy to impress poor people because they don't know any better.
Much more difficult to impress a wealthy person because they know how the game works.
And so I see this with the like the role.
flex or the I rented the Lambo for the day and look at my Instagram picture.
Anybody who's really in the game is like, dude, my jet costs 500 Lamborghinis.
Like I could give a fuck what you drive.
Right.
Like the way you impress them is you outwork them.
So to impress poor people, you outspend them.
To impress wealthy people, you outwork them.
That's the difference.
So if I see a kid who's not flexing any of that stuff, but I see how hard this kid's
working, that's what impresses me.
If I, if anything, I see a younger guy who's like,
blowing cash to like flex i'm i'm not even neutral i'm less impressed i'm like dude what do you
plan like who immediately i'm like who you're trying to impress and then whatever they say i'm like
it's the wrong person man because the right girl also is impressed by how hard you work
because they know what that leads because people take wealth as an approximation for character
and that's not true they say i have this Lamborghini therefore i work hard but if you just spend way
beyond your means, which is what I see it as, especially if you're younger, I just see that as
irresponsible and insecure. And so it's making sure that you're putting the right bait out.
And the best bait for getting the right people is the effort that they know you put in when
they weren't looking. And you only do that by when you show up the first time, it looks like it's
your hundredth time. And they know it's the only meaning you have with them and that you took
20 hours to prep for it, they're like, all right, this kid's got it or this guy's got it,
this gal's got it, she gets it. Like, that's all I look. I'm like, immediately, it's just like I had
that conversation with billionaire, buddy, he was like, you don't need to say anymore. I get it.
And I feel that way with vendors. So if I go on the phone with someone and they have clearly
10 hours of preparation, 20 hours of preparation for that call, they don't need to sell me that hard.
I'm like, I get it. You've demonstrated in advance the value that you want to provide before we started
to working together. Like, I get it. Like, whatever the bill is, send the invoice, team will take
of it. Let's start working together. When someone spends all their time trying to sell me and I'm like,
what did you do to prepare? And they're trying to overcome with their words, you already lost.
And so so many of you guys are losing before you step into the arena. You're trying to ride a bull
for the first time on your first rodeo. And then thinking that you need to have some special talent
or some natural whatever that's going to make it work, like why so-and-so is different or better,
it's because that guy has been three hours a day morning and afternoon every day for the last
two years riding bulls.
And so he doesn't have to think about that.
His only thing that he's thinking about when he's on the ring is the uncontrollable so that
you can use 100% of his bandwidth for, oh, I had the meeting and then he brought two people
I didn't expect.
Well, tell me more about that.
Oh, that would work well with page two.
If you turn to page two in the prep file I have, I think this will be really,
applicable for you. And when we get there, I'll definitely need your insight. Oh, wow, he included them in.
But if I didn't have that prep ahead of time, I'd be like, oh, wow, I had a game plan. And now it's
totally screwed because there's two other people who are stakeholders. So, TLDR, you're underprepared
most of the time, most of you. And I'm saying this because I talk to you guys a lot.
Five minutes of prep for a 60 minute meeting will do more than trying to razzle, dazzle your way
through with your words once you're on. I think Sun Su said every battle is won before the battle begins.
And I think preparation is one of those things that an ounce of preparation is worth a pound of
cure or pound of post. And if you want to be the most efficient with your time, and this is the thing
is that I can already hear the obstacle where someone's like, I just don't have time to prepare.
If you don't have time to prepare, you don't have time to afford not to prepare. Because you get so
much more out of that five minutes than you do out of the 60. And so,
If anything, shorten the meeting to 45 minutes and then take the 15 minutes of prep because the 45 will still be worth more.
You don't have time not to prepare because you will get so much more out of the time, the rest of your time, that it's the highest ROI time that you have.
Hey guys, if you got value from this and you think it's going to help you make more money, then don't be lame.
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