The Highwire with Del Bigtree - DR. FAB ON HOW TO MOVE ON AFTER COVID

Episode Date: July 9, 2022

Del sits down with healthy living expert and best selling author, Dr. Fabrizio Mancini, about how to recover from the impacts of the last 2 years of lock downs on our mental health, relationships, and overall well being.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-highwire-with-del-bigtree--3620606/support.

Speaking of CBS and working on the doctors and the Dr. Phil show where I learned everything that I know now, only I get to do it my way. I dragged many of my teammates over from those productions at CBS to make this show everything we dreamed it would be. And, you know, I won't speak for those shows. They had their moments. But every once in a while ran into somebody that I thought, you know what, that's a really good person with really good information. And now our show is big enough, I guess, that we're starting to attract those people. And so I'm very honored to be bringing to the stage today. One of the great health and wellness icons of our time,

a beautiful human being to help us understand maybe how we can all communicate a little bit better. I'm talking about none other than Fab Mancini. Let's give a warm welcome to Dr. Fabrizio Mancini. Dr. Fabrizio Mancini. We're joined now by Dr. Fab Mancini, a healthy living expert. I'm here with chiropraceptor. healthy living expert, Dr. Fab Mancini.

He's an internationally acclaimed inspirational speaker. He's an author. He's an educator. He's a philanthropist. And he's the president of Parker University in Dallas, Texas. I became a chiropractor by profession. Then I studied acupuncture. Then I started studying all the healing arts, energy medicine, nutrition.

And I started understanding that there was so much to the story that I was never told in school. Our bodies are self-healing and self-regulating. So that means that we're already. born to heal naturally. Our relationships is really very important because we're all mentally connecting with each other. But the key thing is how do we keep that relationship in the moment? See, I find that most people are either living too much into the future

or too much into the past. Carropactic is a healthcare profession that is aligned with nature in a way to remove interference so the body can actually function the way it was designed to function. Pain is not the problem. The problem is the fact that the body communicates through the nervous system. And it just lets us know that there is a problem inside.

What could be causing this pain? That's the first thing I want every single person to ask themselves. We have been solved a lie that says that our bodies only heal from the outside in. That unless I take this prescription, unless I get this injection, unless I get this surgical procedure,

my body cannot heal naturally. I have found that to be absolutely opposite to the truth. Your body can heal anything. Well, years ago, I'm a lot of the truth. met Dr. Fab while producing the Dr. Phil show and then later on the doctor's television show. And it's my honor to get to introduce him for the first time here on the high wire. So Dr. Fab, it's really a pleasure to see you. Man, I'm so excited to be here and congratulations and being able to share all these amazing information

and probably make sure that people understand there's a lot of truth out there that most people are not aware of. Yeah. I mean, just before we even get started, I just want to say what's so amazing about the work that you've done through the years is in many ways I always say I was sort of a Trojan horse inside of like this medical talk show space the doctors and then Dr. Phil and you as a chiropractor which tends to sort of be looked at outside of mainstream medicine you somehow have had this incredible career where you've been invited into that space you know recurring you know

person entity coming on to the Dr. Phil show and the doctors television show how is it you've managed to sort of bridge like what we would call alternative medicine and mainstream medicine so successfully together? You know, one of the things that I've been very careful of is to not necessarily negate anyone else, but actually speak my truth based on my research, based on my experience. So many times people want to put me in an adversary position and I always talk negative about somebody else, but that's not my expertise. Why would I spend any? time disparaging anyone else when really what people really want, they want to know what I know. So it's based on a couple of things. Number one is common sense. I use a lot of common sense

with people where they get to all of a sudden recognize, you know what, managing this system has never solved a problem or an illness. But if I get to the root cause of a problem, if I get to really understand what behavior I'm my undertaking that is getting me sick, now that makes more sense to me. And the other one in, we talked a little bit of the problem. bit about in the past is evidence. We have to be able to show people that there is plenty of evidence, even though it may be suppressed by others. There is plenty of evidence not only in the United States, but around the world, but we have seen that a lot of these conditions have been solved, reversed, cured, if you want to use that word. And in the United States, they're not celebrated.

And that's where I usually have a lot of success because I lead a lot of my stories and a lot of my segments with evidence that they can't refute. And that's been working really well. So today I was thinking, you know, there's so many things that we could talk about. But, you know, what I really want to talk about is, is because you do so much work traveling the country as I do, uh, coaching big CEOs, you know, how to run companies better, how to work better with people. Um, but I feel like right now and my wife and I are talking about this a lot, it's like so many people are carrying like an inner rage almost, just a frustration with, and I don't know that we even know exactly what is.

We've come out of these lockdowns. We've come out of this time where we've been separated. Our news is tearing us apart. So I really sort of wanted to get into how do we get out of that? And I don't just mean for, you know, this show tends to, you know, look at a perspective that, you know, we didn't celebrate wearing masks. We weren't really down with that. You know, most people watching this show probably didn't get the vats.

vaccine, but the truth is that our loved ones did, you know what I mean? So many and we're having this just this impact. So to begin with, you know, do you have a sense that our society is, you know, until really? Yeah. Well, I mean, if you look at the numbers of the stress levels that are happening in the world right now, I don't think there's been a time in history where the stress levels have been as high for many reasons, right? the pandemic especially because there was so much confusion there was so much lack of trust

etc but there were two primarily behaviors that I believe were forced on us that created this rage this this uncomfortable feeling that many of us are having every day the first one was isolation yeah isolation when you look at the isolation mode that is actually considered torture in some places right it's one of the worst things you can do to a human being because as a human being, we're meant to be connected with others. If you want to punish a child, you can yell at them. You can even spank them if you believe in spanking. But if you really want to punish them, put them out there by themselves

to spend the rest of the day in their room without talking or seeing anyone else. That is torture. The second thing is fear. We know that one of the things that keep us from truly being at peace and joyful and fulfilled is to be able to live. live in peace. When you're living in fear, all of the sudden now, you're being told to be careful, to be always on the defense, to be guarded. And then that fear, unfortunately, caused a lot of people to recognize that none of that was really necessary. And now they're

angry about it because there were people that did not get together with their loved ones during a holiday. I have met parents that did not get to walk their daughter down the aisle because they had to do a virtual wedding. They waited all their lives for that moment in life. I have had have individual friends that lost their loved ones in a nursing home and they were not allowed to go in. That will make somebody angry. And I think that those emotions are the ones that people are now trying to see, how do I express them? How do I get back to feeling good again? Because they're justified emotions. I mean, in some ways, you know, I think we talk a lot about like unjustified, right? Like you're taking things too seriously.

But these are serious problems, right? These are serious things. Not being allowed to be with your loved one when they're passing away. I mean, when I talk to people, I don't know what to tell someone in that situation. Like, that's wrong. It's just wrong. How does someone deal with truly being wrong versus it's not in your head? You're right.

That shouldn't have happened. So one of the things that when I wrote the book, The Power of Self-Healing, One of the things that I did is I interviewed about 50 people that were able to heal of a terminal condition. And I asked them, what are some of the things that helped you? And then I went into the science and started to figure out, is there science behind this? And there was once a specific emotion that I think is important in this case, because I believe it starts there, and that is forgiveness. In this type of case, the behavior might have been wrong. But if you take that negative charge, resentment, anger, that changes the chemistry in your body that now produces like cortisol levels that are very high that destroy the body, that create more stress in your system.

So don't forgive perhaps the behavior, but forgive yourself for buying into that behavior. And that's where the magic is. Because I get angry at myself, right? And that's why I'm angry. but I cannot change any behavior external of me. But now I can forgive myself for buying into that behavior and make better choices today and move on. Instead of hanging on to the fact that I lost my business

because none of my clients could have come in for six or eight months and I couldn't afford it anymore. Right. Or all of the sudden, you know, I... Are you saying you think that a lot of this rage that we think we're putting it on other people is really towards our self, that there's this self-hatred that's going on? Because we're the only ones that can allow ourselves to give permission

to actually have an emotion impact us negatively. You know, I can have somebody, like I give you an example, you know, I think I shared with you in the past that my brother was killed at 27 years old. I was angry. He was my older brother, my closest brother. So I cannot change that behavior, but I was angry at my brother for being so, you know, naive and hanging around somebody that would do something like that. And then I realized that why am I so angry?

I spent three months in therapy and none of it was helping me. I couldn't sleep. I lost a lot of weight until the day I realized, you know what? I need to forgive him and I need to forgive myself for all this anger, right? And even though the behavior still took my brother away, it was until I started forgiving myself for buying into that anger. and disrupting my health, disrupting my life, disrupting my studies, that all of a sudden I was able to release it. And ever since that day, I don't feel anger anymore when I think about that.

There's a lot of people. I'm going to go to a much harder place here, I think, and it's sort of because you brought it up. There's so many people we know now whose loved ones are dying or having serious injuries, you know, in some cases saying they believe it's after the vaccination, which then puts you onto this. the government forced my loved one or made us believe of the televisions we watch like this you know but when you lose something it's so young we're just seeing so many of these people dying so young um and you know how does someone do you have to allow because we hear about the stages of depression right do you have to allow yourself moments of anger and rage or do you push it down and hide it Like, what is the appropriate way to deal with an immediate moment of real tragedy and travesty in this sort of world we're talking about? Well, in my experience, I've learned that it's important to embrace that emotion first.

That's how we begin the process. You embrace it, and then you take a look at it, and then you go through the emotional grief or the emotional pain or whatever you have to go through. But don't stay in that place too long. That's the key. If you stay in that emotion too long, that's where it starts staring down the body. I will make you sick, right? And then the next step is learn from it and then do something different about it. In your case, for instance, you've stood up and said, you know what?

I'm going to use my platform in order to bring awareness to people. But look at all the millions of people that have supported you, including myself, because now we recognize that we have a voice out there that we can support. So take an action step that is a constructive action step towards changing the future, not necessarily trying to change the past because we have no control over what happened. Yes, I'm angry and yes, I want these people to pay, but how much control do I really have about that? Now, what I can do is what can I do today to ensure that I never find myself in that position again, emotionally or physically, et cetera?

And that's why it's so important that people not only take this, great knowledge right now, but begin to change the way they think and the way they behave towards the future because there will be other pandemics coming our way. There will be other viruses that will be introduced and there will be more information that is misconstrued that will not allow us to really live life the way we were destined to live life. Yeah, I mean, you know, when you say that, I've done a lot of work with parents whose children regressed into autism after vaccination. And I was talking to I was riding with a father once. And people come up to me and say, you know, Del, thank you for getting involved in this topic. I mean, you have no skin in the

game, you know what I mean, as though I have some altruistic mission. And the truth is, is I say, but my kids are healthy. And I'm looking in a world that's trying to give them products that, I want control over that. I'm not here to tell people how to live their lives, but I want, These are my children. I want control over my children. So I always say that's my skin in the game. I have the most obvious human nature, which is to protect my children, right? That is, I think the most true and simplest fatherly instinct there is. But I was in a car riding with a father who's done a lot of great work. And I said, you know, I think you people, you parents that have gone through this incredibly devastating situation, it doesn't go away. You're working constantly at home, you know, trying to, you. You know, trying to. You people, you parents that have gone through this incredibly devastating situation, it doesn't go away. You're working constantly at home, you know, trying to. You know, you know, you know, you know, you deal with a child. Many times you can't even bring the child out in public because it's just too dramatic a situation. I said, yet you come out and you are trying to warn other parents. That to me is the altruistic characteristic because it's not going to change what happened to your child. And you know, he said something. I said, is it a rage? Is it just a getting even in a rage that

drives you? He's like, no, that's not what drives me. He says what drives me is I need to make it mean something. I need what happened to my child to not just be just a life lost. I need to say that that happened to inspire me so that I can make a difference and save other children or this is all meaningless, that life is meaningless. And so I guess that that's really what you're saying is we need to take that energy and then make it mean something in our lives and in those around us. And be able to support the causes that are actually moving the world towards a better understanding and better behaviors. You know, I often find that a lot of people want change,

but they're not willing to invest in a political action committee or somebody that is actually out there fighting the bills that are trying to change the way we do life every day. Yeah. And I asked them, I said, well, why don't you, even though you have no ability to maybe you're not an attorney, you're not going to go out there and fight the bill yourself, why not just donate to a cost that is doing that for you?

And a lot of times people prevent themselves from supporting something. So that is one easy way to do it. Support a cause that is actually moving things forward. The second one is recognize that even though your child may not have been impacted, maybe their friends are being impacted. So now not only you're trying to protect that child, but you're more importantly trying to protect that child from the feelings and experiences that their friends are struggling with.

I mean, I have had some of my kids' friends that are really going through some devastating issues, and that's impacting my children. And even though they said that, why are we so fortunate? Why are we not going through something like that? I always say, well, let's be grateful for that, number one. But number two, let's be compassionate and let's be loving because your friend needs you today more than ever. So I think a parent can actually support a child by really asking the child the questions of, how is your life being impacted?

Because so many times as parents were so wrapped up in our lives, you know, we're the provider, our business is impacted, our relationships are being impacted. Look how many divorces happened during the pandemic because people were so stressed out. They just couldn't have the bandwidth to make a relationship work. So that has an impact on that child. So now that child is going through so much. And that's one of the challenges that I'm seeing, like I just raised statistic yesterday that said that teenagers overdose. for opiote, for the pain they're going through, double in the last two years.

Wow. That means that they're dying, double death, right? They double in two years because they're in so much pain. Suicides in teenagers, as you know, are the highest that they've ever been in the history of teenagers. We need to really be empathetic. We need to be patient. We need to be caring and loving. And we need to be still.

I always said that our children will respond on the way that they see their parents respond. If you freak out, their child will freak out. If you become and you're going to look for information and watch shows like this that bring very much the facts behind a lot of the things that we're not preview to seeing on regular media right now. Yeah. That's important. Invite your child to watch a show shows. So that way, they can actually be informed at the same time. We have a slide about this. We take a look at, um, there's a slide on child depression. This is effects of the pandemic on teen mental health. Percent of parents noticing a new problem or worsening of an existing problem, I think simply put, how many people believe

the anxiety is worse. In teen girls, 36% of parents believe their teen girls, anxiety has gotten worse. 31% teen girls, depression, sleep issues, 24%, withdrawing from the family, 14%. Then on the boys side, anxiety 19% depression, 18%. depression, 18%, sleep issues, 21%, withdrawing 13%, aggressive behavior is 8%. You know, I think about boys, you know, we always look at the girls and I look at those stats and I think about, you have a son now, he's getting to be 13 years old and he's getting quieter, getting more withdrawn, you know, and you start remembering, oh my God, that's what I did.

And so how much, like, just specifically with boys, it always, you know, I think girls in some ways show their depression. Is it possible that those numbers are higher in boys, but they're just not? We kind of just shove everything down. I think that for whatever reason, we've given permission for girls to be more expressive in their feelings. Boys a lot of times don't know how to sometimes share their feelings because they don't want to be laughed at by their friends. They perhaps don't think that their parents want to hear it because they see their parents struggling with their own issues. So I think it's important, especially when you have a boy, to make sure that you're making the extra time to engage. But one of the things that we've learned is that a lot of

these conditions can be changed by simply engaging in activity rather than thought. See, the problem is when you're going to isolation, you have too much time to think. Depression, fear, anxiety, all of that is a thought process. So when you switch the behavior and said, hey, Johnny, why don't we go fishing today. Let's take the dog for a walk and let's have a, you know, let's talk, let's catch up. I want to see what's going on in school. Or, you know, hey kids, we're cooking tonight. Why don't we all, you know, cook this meal together. You do the pasta, you do the water, you do the sauce, you know, and engage them. But the key thing as a parent is engage them in activity rather than thought. And then you'll see how that child now begins. Sitting and just, you know, wanting to have

a conversation, not as good as getting them up moving, doing something. Difficult. because a lot of times they don't know how to properly express those feelings. They don't even understand them. Let's take this for instance, you know. We know that right now there is a tremendous amount of depression and anxiety. We're seeing some of the statistics, but it's alarming. In many of our schools, right, depending on where you live in the country, where you live in the world, the schools created policies that some went one way

and others went a different way. Now, your child is right now. Now, they have to adhere by those rules, even though they may not agree to it in order for them to go to school. So whether it's the masking issue, whether it's the isolation of six feet, whether there's any of those issues, now that child has had their work completely disrupted. I still remember when my child was in college, right? And he had just started the fraternity, the dream of him to be there, learning school,

being part of the fraternity, and then all of a sudden the new mandate started to be in the He started in that university. And he said, Dad, they send us all home to do online schooling. I'm coming home, right? Now, for a year, they weren't able to go back. And he said, you know, that I thought this college was going to be a whole different experience for me. He said his friends were getting so depressed, and they were playing with, you know, painkillers and opioids and drinking too much and experimenting maybe with some drugs. And why?

Is it because they're coping with something they don't understand? So we have to be engaging with our children, and we need to make sure that we truly understand what's going on underneath it because I think that's what's driving a lot of the destructive behavior. It's the fact that they need to let it out, and they don't know how to do that. I was, you know, and I think in some ways I was out of my league, I was, because this isn't an area of focus, but I was talking to a parent, just in one of my speaking engagements,

and she said, my child's going into clubs. college, that college is now wanting vaccination records, things like that. We haven't done that. I'm trying to work my way through. You know, he's worried about the potential of future lockdowns. And I've also been dealing with parents and some really close friends of mine, where I spoke to their college-age students, a really good friend up in New York through all of this. She's, you know, NYU, things are going well, actress, and then all of a sudden you need vaccines,

you need all these things. And, you know, she, there's a real conflict that I said, look, You know, I think that you should take some time off. I would say, just step out of that system for a little while. And I remember at that age in college, everything seems so immediate. Like, it has to happen now. I've got to graduate by this date. And, you know, we're so driven by goals and ideas of where we're going to be and when we're going to be there.

And, you know, I don't know if this is, I'm going to ask you, is this good advice I'm saying to this mother now. Because he's going in, I said, I think we have to start teaching our teenagers, that especially those going to the college where we're not going to be there anymore, we can't protect them, to start accepting that these timelines in the world are not going to run the way they have all the way up until this point. There may be other lockdowns in the future. There may be things that derail your education for a little while. You've got to start recognizing that you have so many years ahead, so much time out there,

and we need to start, I think, helping our kids get out of this sort of clock-driven, you know, end-result-driven, you know, expectation because there's going to be so many things really outside of their control. I think that especially this generation has been known as the ones that want instant gratification. They set a goal. They set that goal. They want to achieve that goal. My oldest son, he finished graduate school, got his dream job. And because of the pandemic, the company folded and had to close their offices. Imagine that all these years working towards that dream. And what I said to him, I said, understand that it's only through change that we grow. So embrace change.

You know, there was a book that I read many years ago called Who Moved My Cheese? That changed my life. Who moved my cheese? And it's one of the best-selling books in corporate America to invite people to understand. It's a very simple book that you can read in one day, but it gives you the four different ways to respond to change. And when you embrace change and you realize that change is only there, to push you in a little different direction that is going to be better for you in the future,

now all of a sudden you embrace that you look forward to it, instead of resisting it, which is where a lot of people end up getting depressed and anxious and frustrated. Let's look at those stats. You sent over a slide I think is really interesting on adult anxiety and depression. Here we go. Pandemic causes spike in anxiety depression. Look at this folks. The dotted line is where we were in 2019, you know. An average of 10 percent. Right, average right around 10% in all these issues.

Symptoms of anxiety disorders, symptoms of depression disorders, symptoms of anxiety or depression disorders. And you can look at as these bars are going, the gold on the left there, that's June 2020, December 2020. It's going up, June 20, 21 down a little bit. But I mean, we're just, we're at, you know, three or four times the level of anxiety. And it's coming from so many different places. So, you know, we've talked about the children. Now our children are watching us, right? They're viewing us.

And how can I help my kid if I'm a freaking basket case myself? And, you know, these statistics, the thing that was alarming to me is that this is all happened, you know, between 12 and almost 32% increase in anxiety and depression over the last two years alone. Experts are now predicting that that's going to only get worse. Because as people are now trying to figure it out, how am I going to adapt to this new lifestyle when we don't even know what to expect in the future. There is so much uncertainty about the future, you know, that we don't even know what's coming in the next six months, right?

A lot of times in the beginning I was telling people, oh yeah, we need to just learn to live in the new normal. Well, there is no new normal because the new normal means it's going to constantly be changing. And that's why with my kids, what I try to do is share what I'm going through as an adult in my businesses, in my relationships, in my life. So that way they see how that is responding. And then... So you're transparent about like the issues you're having in your life. Is there an age at which that starts? Because there must be some age. I think that the early, the better.

Yeah? I've always had that trust that our children are wiser when they're younger than they are when they're older. Huh. They can receive more information. They have an ability to adapt. Why? Because the brain is much more active.

And the word is plasticity. Neuoplasticity is the highest when you're younger between the ages of zero to seven. That's why that age is so critical when we're trying to teach new behaviors and thought patterns to our children. So I would say be transparent. I give you an example. One of my companies, I have four companies, one of my companies is a public speaking company. I do about 70 lectures a year. We went from booking the whole two years in advance to zero after March 1st. Right.

Completely nothing. Yeah. So that company financially was a huge. Now, what I did is I started pivoting and I started trying to figure it out, would these companies be willing to bring me online? A lot of my friends that are public speakers, especially the elders, felt very uncomfortable trying to deliver a speech online and they stayed behind. And they got depressed.

Some got suicidal because they didn't know how to shift the fact that they've been a public speaker for 35 years. All they do is public speaking in front of an audience, a live audience, and they didn't know how to turn it into a virtual audience. Right. You know, so with my kids, I told them, I said, look, this is what dad is doing. What do you think? And I engaged them. So now they were part of their solution. Why? Because they know better social media than me. They know better their online world than me. And they were like, dad, why don't we open this account? Why don't we, you know, when you do that speech, is there a way we can do mini reels or TikToks. I mean, I never heard of TikTok.

Right. And they were actually taking what I was doing on an adult basis to protect my business, my income. They were actually helping me and they felt very good about it. But that taught them that they could do the same if they were ever in a situation like me in the future. That's great. You know, I think for a lot of people, we may not know we're actually expressing.

I think we've gotten so good. I'm one of those people. Like I just power through. I will say I'm starting to feel like everything like, oh my God, I'm so very, you're so busy I can't seem to get on top of all of it. That's probably my own doing. But I mean, I think when we really check in, you sent over this slide that I think is really important. How to really analyze our stuff, take a moment to figure out if maybe we are sort of stifling something. So signs that it's time to pay attention to your mental health. So take me through this a little

bit. Like what is it looking for? These are the signs that most people, and this is based on a lot of surveys, are now beginning to recognize that they actually may be struggling during this pandemic when it comes to their mental health. And actually, even the word mental health now I'm trying to invite people to consider mental well-being or maybe even mental fitness, somewhere that something that they can do positive about it. But if you look at the slide, you notice that most people have been expressing a lot of low energy. They say, I don't seem to have the energy to be able to move forward. or perhaps the sleeping component. If you look and talk to people in your own family

or even people in your friends and colleagues, they will tell you that they're really having a lot of difficulty with sleep. Or perhaps that they're having difficulty, you know, being able to deal with a plan that they have for themselves and all of a sudden that plan changed and how do I respond to that? I mean, there are so many things here that I wanted people to be aware of, But the most important thing is that any time you feel that you're experiencing something that does not feel right for you, you know, that doesn't allow you to feel a state of peace, a state of joyfulness, a state of happiness, that's the time to actually begin to recognize. That's your body trying to tell you, hey, we need to do something here. You know, I often come to me because, you know, I'm a doctor. I've been very successful in dealing with pain in my life. And people say to me, you know, I just want to get rid of this pain.

And I give the example. Think of pain as a smoke alarm. So visualize this for a moment. You're in your house. You have a smoke alarm. What is the purpose of a smoke alarm? Let you know there's smoke in the house. Right?

And why is the smoke, right? Because of the fire, right? So all of a sudden, what happens is that the pain is the smoke alarm. It's the alarm system of the body telling us, hey, there's something going on that you need to pay attention to, right? because otherwise the price may be a burn house, a burn body. So what happens is most people take that alarm and I take that... Oh, battery out. They put the battery out.

So that's the symptom, right? So you put the battery out. But before they put the battery out, they're going to put some kind of tape in the speaker. So you're going to numb the symptoms. That's what pharmaceuticals do. They numb symptoms. But did they do anything to change the smoke? Did it do anything to change the potential of fire?

Right. No. And if you take the battery out, now all of a sudden you have complete numbness. So those are the surgeries. People cut out the nerves so that way they could actually not feel, you know, anything. But what does that do for the smoke and the fire? Nothing. Now you put yourself and your body in a more vulnerable position because you shut down the communication channel of the body to be able to perceive danger. Right. So now you are really susceptible to actually die, to have the worst chronic illnesses in the world, because your body can even tell when it's suffering or not because there is no sensitivity to alarm your brain that there is a problem. And that's what I want people to understand. When they're going through a lot of these individual opinions, and I call it opinions, I tell my patients always, don't think that the surgeon went to school to try to harm you. That is not. They just were trained to do surgeries. Don't think that the medical doctor is trying to harm you when they prescribe medication or even perhaps to do the vaccine.

You know, the problem with that world right now is that the consumer has lost trust on the medical establishment. Because they discovered that there was another way of handling this. I could have built my immune system. Right, right. That's what I did. I built my immune system to the point that it doesn't matter what virus of a case. I'm going to be exposed on. I know my body has an immune system capable of dealing with that. Right. I've studied it for 35 years. But the average person, unfortunately, they said, no, I have to do it. Okay. So I did it.

Yeah. Some have side effects. Some didn't have side effects, right? Yeah. The challenge is that you're still dealing with something that you were not willing to do. Right. And you were stuck with that. That's where you have to deal with it. So now, what do you do? There's ways to purify some of the toxicities that are you're not. inside these vaccines or pharmaceuticals or whatever you're taking. If you were in a long term, you know, let's say that you have a heart condition and they give you, you know, a medicine that you're going to have to take for the rest of your life. Well, as you know, that's toxic to the body. Yeah. But why not do a cleansing? You know, why not try to find alternative ways to lower

blood pressure? To be able to lower cholesterol in your system. To be able to prevent a stroke naturally. That's been the world that I wanted to be a part of. Yeah. Why? Because it empowered. the person to take responsibility for their health instead of being dependent on somebody else's opinion. Yeah. I don't want my health to be at the hands of anybody else. Right. True. Right. Yeah. So yeah, maybe not everybody wants to be a doctor like me, but they should at least know enough of their body because you know what, this human body is the only one you're gonna have for the rest of your life. Well, and I think just like you've said, you know, whether it's just a pain and your life

didn't go the direction you wanted to go or it's actually a physical pain because of something going on, we can treat those as our enemies, or we can say these are turning points of change in our lives. I always say, you know, I, you know, look back at those really difficult moments or break up in a relationship or some catastrophic incidents. A house, I've had houses burning down. And, you know, you can look back at those moments. And usually when you look back at them in your rearview mirror, you say, I'm, I found what I was looking for, or my life really transitioned because, and I would always say the most, you know, most transitional moments, the most guiding moments are the most painful ones. I've tried to,

you know, and my wife and I, because we, you know, meditate every day. And when I find myself in the middle of conflict and pain now, I say, I don't want to look at this in my rearview mirror and say, wow, that was a blessing. Let me experience it as a blessing now and see what it's trying to teach me and be more open to it. I want to go through. You sort of, we've talked about the anxiety, depression in adults, how we sort of see that happening with ourselves. You have some really nice slide on solutions, right, on things we can do. So this is key ways to take care of your mental health. Sort of like we used to do with the kids participate in physical exercise, like get up, move around, you know, so tell me just, you know, what is it I can do? Coming out of this,

and as I said, there's so little time in the world. I think for some of us, we just keep shoveling away because I don't have time to take care of myself. I got my kids, you got the dogs. I'm trying to hold two jobs together. The house is falling apart. You know, the pipes froze this wind or, you know, whatever it is. Well, one of the things that we have to recognize is that our health impacts every area of our lives. If you don't take care of your health, if you don't put that

as a top priority in your life, you are not going to leave your potential in life. So, for instance, we know exercise is the new medicine. If you can bottle all the benefits of exercise from producing endorphins, which are so good for the body, be able to produce

oxytocin, which is one of the healthiest hormones that are the happy hormones, etc. Increased circulation which allows your body's blood flow to actually be flowing from top to bottom properly. Then you also have some of the other things that you can do that you can actually create a huge one. Begin to really organize your sleep. You know, one of the best things that you can do for your children and for yourselves is to teach yourself to go to bed as early as possible. Because a lot of times people are doing watching TV before they go to bed. And we know that that's going to stimulate the brain that is going to keep you up at night.

So why not do perhaps a meditation of 15 minutes? I use a device called Brain Tap. Brain Tap is a headset that also has LED lights and over 1,500 meditations on sound. I love it. And the reason for that is because they call it mental fitness. It lowers my brain so I can use delta waves that are going to put me into a deep sleep instead of using television that is going to make me a weight. So it's important to do that or perhaps sitting prayer.

You know, when I wrote my book, The Power of Self-Healing, I wrote about the power of prayer and meditation. But a lot of my friends were like, don't talk about prayer. That's more spiritual. And I said, no, because I use prayer. And there's plenty of science behind prayer. And there's a lot of people that believe in using prayer. Right. So there are some people that don't do meditations because they feel that may not be, you know, their values.

but there are other people that would rather do with the praying. So then some of the other things that I also think is important is the connectivity with other people. I think right now, a good way to be in mental health is to surround yourself with the most loving people in your life. So if you're a young man,

pick the two or three friends that make you always feel the greatest. Don't pick the two or three that always make you feel bad about yourself or you're comparing yourself to and wish you have more money, better looks, you know, or we're skinny. And if you're an adult, do the same thing. same thing, be selective of who you spend time with because there's a lot of studies that have shown that when we spend time with other people, we begin to vibrate at the level of the person that we

surround ourselves with. So if they're negative, you're going to start being negative. If they are all of a sudden individuals that are unethical or perhaps playing in illegal behavior, then all of a sudden that's going to seem okay to you because you're surrounding yourself with that. So the best thing that I can tell you is surround yourself with the most loving people in your life. And even if your family, it's a family that is not as connected, begin there because they're the closest people to you. Spend more time with your significant other. Spend more quality time with your children. If you have aging parents, please make time for them because studies have shown that the loneliness and the isolation for an elderly person is actually leading them to not only the people,

pressure and anxiety, but to also have an early termination in life because they don't have a reason for living anymore. Yeah. Well, Dr. Fab, we could go on for days and days. I think that's such a, you know, and I think we've just come on, it's Fourth of July, we're spending time, hopefully we're spending time with our family, our loved ones. Such great advice, key and tune in with our children. Let's get up and move around. Let's have someone get physical. I think is a huge part. We've all sort of been locked down. Don't, I think, let our kids just sit there behind, you know, the laptop or the iPad, you know, get them up. Let's, let's have some fun. You've got some great books here. I just want to talk about it. You know, chicken soup,

chiropractic soul, love this. The power of self-healing. Look, all of this, everything you've seen here, the slides, as always, will be available with this show, the hyperlinks. And if you were just simply part of our newsletter every Monday, you'll receive links to everything we've discussed and ways to get a hold of these books and some of the books we've discussed. Dr. Fab, you know, you just bring such a great energy to everything. You know, what are your last thoughts? Is we, you know, are you hopeful for humanity right now? Because I think there's so many people that are really fearful that there's just no reason to be alive.

I don't know if I want to have kids. I hear people say, I don't bring kids in the world. What are your thoughts on? So during times like this, I think of a quote by Albert Einstein that he said, you can't solve the problems of today with the same level of the level of the way. the same level of thinking that created them. So my message is begin with your thinking, begin to think about things differently, begin to question things more than ever. Why? Because otherwise, you'll be making decisions based on wrong information and that's when we beat ourselves up.

I should have known better. I should have done my research. Before I accepted to do that, I should have found out if there were other alternatives out there. That's been my work. for all these years. So that's the first one. And the second one is another principle that I live by that says, do not let the circumstances in front of you define you. The only thing that defines us is how we respond. So pay attention to your response. It doesn't matter whether in your work they're forcing you to do certain behaviors. You can always change your work or you can do something about it and make a complaint, an official complaint. You know, if all of a sudden you have

family members, right, that you just met with for July 4th and they're trying to force their opinions on you, just kindly, you know, be saying, hey, I agree to disagree, you know, I'm not trying to force yours. Don't try to force your opinion on me. I'm going to let you leave your own opinion. But at the same time, I'm going to still love you no matter what your opinion is because you're of my family, right? So be kind, be patient. And also understand that people are struggling today more than ever. This is a time not to be judgmental. This is a time to be loving, empathetic, you know, and impatient. Because especially the people close to us, because when they're struggling, if all of a sudden they feel that we have no bandwidth or interest in listening to their struggles,

they're going to pull away and they're going to go somewhere else. We want to make sure that they come to us no matter how stressed we are because we don't want to ever disengage to the point that that's going to create a challenge in our relationship. So, and for you to treat yourself well, you know, you start with you first. Before you can help anybody else, and I'm talking to the moms right now, they want to help everybody else and then they suffer themselves. Yeah. Take care of you.

Make time for yourself every day before you give to your husband, your boyfriend, you know, your children, whatever. Make time for yourself every day so you can feed yourself and have enough resource to give to somebody else that you love. And that hopefully will allow them to be happier and healthier. Fantastic. Dr. Fad, thank you for taking the time to join me today. Such an honor.