The Hilary Silver Podcast - #85: The Worst Dating Advice for Women...And Yes, I’m Mad About It!

Episode Date: October 10, 2025

Ever seen those videos promising to “make him obsessed with you in 5 texts” or “7 tricks to make a man worship you like a queen”? Yeah… Hilary’s not having it.   This week, she’s calling BS on the toxic, clickbait dating advice flooding YouTube. From “dark psychology” tactics to straight-up patriarchal conditioning, this advice is designed to manipulate women, keep them second-guessing themselves, and—let’s be honest—get them to buy something.   Hilary breaks down four reasons why these tactics are not just wrong but harmful—and why they’ll never lead to real love. Instead, she gives you the only dating advice you’ll ever need: trust yourself. When you stop twisting yourself into a pretzel to please men, you stop attracting the wrong ones and start naturally attracting the right one.   If you’re tired of playing games and ready to finally show up as the woman you actually are (and be loved for it), this episode is your wake-up call.   Episode Highlights: Why “clickbait” dating advice is built on manipulation, not empowerment The four major problems with toxic, prescriptive dating tactics How inauthenticity sabotages real connection (and yourself in the process) Why advice centered on him keeps women stuck in patriarchal conditioning The simple, powerful truth: trusting yourself is the only dating advice you’ll ever need   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 The Worst Dating Advice for Women 01:39 Dark Psychology Tactics in Dating Advice 03:05 How Manipulation Backfires in Relationships 04:20 Prescriptive Advice vs. Trusting Yourself 05:14 Why Man-Centered Dating Advice Hurts Women 06:08 The Only Dating Advice You’ll Ever Need 06:39 Ready for Love’s Authentic Approach   ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?    Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass   Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

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And maybe why some of those channels are so big in the first place because who doesn't want to know how to make a man feel intense love and desire for you? But I am going to show you why all of this is so very wrong. and instead, really, the only dating advice you will ever need. Hi, it's Hillary. Welcome to the Ready for Love podcast. Thanks for tuning into the conversation today. If you haven't already, it would mean so much to me.

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Oh my God. I'm trying not to laugh and be mad at the same time. It really is just such bullshit. And while all of that might be intriguing or fascinating to know, I'm going to share with you four reasons why all of that kind of dating advice leads down a rabbit hole of toxic, bullshity advice for women. So first, it's a marketing tactic that relies on dark psychology. Dark psychology deals with the darker side of human behavior such as gaslighting, narcissism, manipulation, deception, and persuasion

tactics. So it's really about using covert influence to get someone to do what you want them to do. all to control, dominate, influence, or take advantage of others. It sounds gross, right? So in this case, it is being used on you, and then it encourages you to engage in it. Here's how. These kinds of click-bait promises are exploiting and manipulating women. It's taking advantage of women who are looking for help. Maybe women who are looking for help are feeling lonely.

or sad or hopeless or rejected because they just got broken up with, they're heartbroken. And these promise a quick, easy fix to solve the pain and inconvenience of a problem rather than actually helping women for real. So just get the guy to like you again. Just get your ex back. Just get them to ask you out so that you can feel better about yourself, so that you can just feel lovable or worthy? The goal here for them is to get you to click, get you to watch the video, and then ultimately to buy something. But also, which leads me to the second reason, it is teaching

dark psychology tactics and is encouraging you to engage in these toxic, unhealthy, disempowering behaviors. Listen to me right now. Never do anything with the goal of getting someone else. to do something. That is manipulation. It's totally gamey. High quality men don't fall for it anyway. And you just can't control what other people are going to do. It's also just completely inauthentic. So that causes all kinds of problems. You end up overthinking your every move rather than just instinctively responding and being yourself. Being inauthentic pulls you away from your true authentic self and then you end up betraying yourself and abandoning yourself every step of the way. When you're not showing up as your real true authentic self, you'll never

really be loved for who you are only for what you have shown them, which is a false version of you. The third reason is this is prescriptive. It's prescribed. Do this thing, do that thing, text this, say this, act this way. Just follow the rules and do what some person tells you to do, which has you looking outside of yourself for the answers rather than turning inward. And if you're always going to do what other people tell you to do, you can't just relax. You're always going to be looking outside of yourself for the answers for someone else to help you rather than just trust your intuition, trust yourself, and relax and just be you. that you have all the answers that you need inside of yourself. When you show up that way,

you're relaxed and you're trusting yourself and you're just going with what feels right for you, you will always win and everything that you do has a different energy around it. And finally, reason number four, that makes me the maddest of all. It's so man-centered rather than woman-centered, self-centered. All of this advice is about him, what he wants, to please him, how to make him happy. It has you bending and twisting and abandoning yourself all to just get the guy. And you get the guy by being what he wants you to be. It is straight up patriarchal conditioning. It's the same old message women have been fed for generations that there's a certain way to be in order to be loved. It reinforces the belief that you have to be someone

that you're not in order to be chosen. And ultimately, it's what the younger kids are calling now, pick me energy. Pick me, pick me. Please just pick me. It is so disempowering to women and it is so very damaging because the goal becomes to get the guy instead of be the woman who naturally attracts the right man when you're being your authentic self. So here's the truth. The only dating advice that you will ever need is this. Trust yourself. It is all about you, what you want and what you think and what you feel and what feels right for you and what doesn't, learn to tune in instead of second-guessing or doubting or tuning out. When you stop questioning your actions, your needs, your feelings, and your worth,

you will always know exactly what to do. And this is what makes Ready for Love so different. Because at the core, it is not about tricks or tactics or dark psychology or manipulation or getting him to do anything. It's about building the kind of relationship with yourself, that allows you to show up this way. Most women already know what they need to do. And what they don't know is how to get there. That is our job. And we are the absolute best in the world at it. When you do this deeper work on yourself, the whole game changes.

You stop chasing, you stop twisting yourself into pretzels, and you finally become the woman who naturally attracts the kind of love that you've wanted all along. With ease and grace, and it's just effortless and it's actually fun and enjoyable. If you're ready to naturally just attract the kind of love that you've always wanted and stop all the game playing, all the manipulation, all the shallow surface-level dating advice that has you spinning in circles and going nowhere, just apply to speak with us. It's not scary. It's the most valuable 75 minutes that you will ever spend talking about your love life. We are true experts. We've done 15,000 of these calls in the

last eight years. We have seen it and we've heard it all. You are in amazing hands with my team. So go to readyforloveink.com forward slash apply and we cannot wait to talk to you.