The Hilary Silver Podcast - This Radical Gratitude Practice Will Help You Overcome Anything

Episode Date: August 21, 2024

EP18 - This Radical Gratitude Practice Will Change The Results In Your Life   Why isn’t gratitude bringing the happiness we expect? In this episode, Hilary shares a deeper, more radical approach to gratitude that will revolutionize how you view your past, especially the tough parts.  Incorporating Hilary’s method into your daily practice leads to a stronger relationship with your whole self, and creates resilience, confidence and a self-centered quality that creates beautiful results in your life.   Episode Highlights: A fresh perspective on gratitude that goes beyond appreciating the obvious positives. The importance of being grateful for negative experiences, including traumas, pain, and disappointments. Powerful examples that illustrate this radical approach to gratitude   Episode Breakdown: 00:00:00 - 00:01:16 Importance of Gratitude 00:01:17 - 00:02:19 Traditional vs. Revolutionary Gratitude 00:02:20 - 00:05:24 Embracing Negative Experiences 00:05:25 - 00:07:34 Personal Stories and Examples   Listener Takeaways: Learn why it’s essential to be grateful for every experience, good or bad, and how this mindset can lead to extraordinary personal growth. Discover how embracing gratitude for challenges makes you resilient and capable of seeing the lessons in every situation. Understand how to view past traumas as integral parts of your personal development and turn them into sources of strength. Gain actionable steps on how to actively express gratitude for difficulties, transforming them into opportunities for growth.   What’s the easiest way to start this new practice? Hilary’s journaling method! It’s the ultimate toolkit to help you know yourself, love yourself, and accept yourself. Never worry about what to write, never worry about the next best step.  Hilary guides you with visualizations, prompts and audio lessons. In 90 days, you’ll see the results of your new gratitude approach! Check out the digital journal here: https://hilarysilver.com/journal/   Want more incredible resources from Hilary?  Click here to access all of her free paradigm-flipping tools: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/

Everywhere you turn, people are saying that having more gratitude will make you happier. And I agree, being more grateful does improve our happiness. But all of the conversations that I'm hearing are missing the mark. There is a very important way and a very specific way to instill gratitude into your life that will exponentially increase the effect that it has on your well-being. It's a revolutionary way, a radical way to incorporate gratitude in your life, and it will change you and it will change your life forever. And I'm super excited to share this with you today. So let's get started. Hi, it's Hillary. Welcome to the Hillary Silver Podcast. If you haven't already, please rate, review, and subscribe on your favorite podcast app,

because that really helps get my content circulated, allows more people to find me, and to hear what I have to say. And it's also helpful for you, because you never miss one of my shows. In my last episode, I shared how I changed my brain in 90 days. If you haven't already listened or watched, I suggest you do so after you finish this one. I'll put the link in the show notes and in the show description. And why that's important is because a key component of how I changed my brain is by incorporating more gratitude.

But it's not the same old be grateful for what you have gratitude that you hear everywhere else. And before I start digging into it all, let me just say this. There's no wrong way to be grateful, okay? Appreciating the good things in your life, the people, the situations, the blessings that you have in your life is all good for you. Being grateful for your health and your friends and your family and your job and your bank account, it's like a B12 shot in the arm every day, a vitamin boost for your well-being. It's true. And choosing to marvel at the technological advances or the comforts that we have in this world that make our lives easier rather than

complaining about the small things is so good too. Focusing on what you have rather than what you don't have. Focusing on what you are getting rather than what you are not getting is all so good. It's amazing. But here's where we're going to take it to a whole other level. Are you ready to level up your mindset around this? Put your seatbelt on, okay? Because this may be hard to hear and some of you may get mad at me for this, but I want you to be grateful for all the shitty things that have ever happened to you along the way. All the traumas, all the pain, all the rejection, all the abandonment, all the pain, all the rejection, all the abandonment, all the disappointment, all the letdown, all the betrayal, be grateful for all suffering. All the times that

things didn't work out for you, all the times that you think that you failed, all the qualities about yourself that you don't like. Yes, even that stuff too. Because when you are able to be grateful for everything, even the bad stuff, now you transcend ordinary and become truly extraordinary. This allows you to become truly unstoppable, bulletproof, superhuman, immortal, and divine. Honestly, when nothing that has happened or will happen can take you down or knock you out, right? Think about it. Training yourself to see the lessons and the blessings in every single thing that happens to you along the way is powerful. To believe that everything always works out in your favor or for your benefit. To be grateful for the hard times because you learned something,

you grew in some way, you became aware of something that you weren't aware of before is truly transcendent. So I had a pretty sad, lonely childhood. There was emotional abandonment and emotional neglect, but honestly, I wouldn't change any of it because to do so would alter my path and I would not be where I am today. I wouldn't change a single moment, even if I could, none of it, because all of it has culminated in who I am now. To change any of it would change me. And while I'm not perfect and I know I have things to improve on, I just wouldn't change who I am at the core. What I learned and my perspective and my view of the world all come from every little bit of what I experienced. It informed me. It became me.

I know you may be thinking, but how can I be grateful for the abuse that I suffered or the heartbreak or the betrayal? Here's the thing. You have a choice about what to do with these things that have happened to you in your life. You can either remain stuck hanging onto the pain and the trauma of it, feeling bitter or resentful or feel fearful or guarded or closed off, unhappy, letting it affect your behavior and your choices and how you conduct your life now and allowing it to influence who you are in a negative way. Or you can redefine the meaning it has had in your life to decide the impact it will have on you.

And it may not feel like a choice, but it 100% is. You get to make this meaning. So here's another example of one of my clients years ago said, Hillary, though, I just don't understand how I'm supposed to be grateful for the sexual abuse that I suffered as a child. And whoa, I know that seems like really a bitter pill to swallow down. But this amazing woman, loving, kind, caring, patient, among so many other things, single mom, special needs teacher, all I can say is, Barbara, how do you think that you became so patient? How do you think you became so empathic, so able to connect to kids?

I certainly don't have what it takes. Not many people do. It takes a very special person to do the work that she does. If you take away anything that went into the formation of who you were to become. You are not here now. You are not the way you are now. So when I find myself stuck or struggling or hurting or having a hard time with myself or in my personal life or in my business, I actively embrace the hardship. Thank you for this difficult time I'm in right now. Thank you for all that I am learning about myself or about business or about people or about life right now.

When you can lean into and be grateful for the bad, hard, seemingly no good things and train yourself to see the lessons and the blessings in all of it, you free yourself from the fear of failure and from holding on to past issues. This is your relationship with you, building yourself, becoming resilient, unshakable, and self-centered. So try that. And if you want more of my guidance on how to implement that into your life daily, I'll drop the link below to my daily journal in the show notes. Thank you for being here for this quick episode. I hope that you enjoyed it. And if you did, I would really appreciate your comments, your reviews, and your shares, and make sure to subscribe and I'll see

you next time. Thanks so much for joining the conversation today. I hope you learned something new or heard something that inspired you to take action in a new way. As your greatest champion and someone who truly cares about your love, happiness, wealth, and success, I always want to encourage you to ask yourself this question. How have I contributed? You are the only person who can ask this and the only one who can answer it. This doesn't just change your life. This changes everything.