The Hilary Silver Podcast - This Virtue May Make You RICH

Episode Date: September 27, 2024

Episode 23: This Virtue May Make You RICH   What if impatience wasn’t a flaw but your secret success weapon? Hilary Silver flips the script on the idea that patience is always a virtue. She shows how tapping into her impatience fueled her transition from local therapist to global coaching powerhouse. In this episode, Hilary reveals how urgency, action, and a fearless attitude have been the keys to her unstoppable success.   Episode Highlights: Hilary doesn’t just embrace impatience—she owns it. Learn how her desire for fast results has helped her cut through the noise, skip the unnecessary waiting, and get straight to the good stuff in both life and business. Forget endless prep. Hilary’s strategy is all about diving in and figuring things out along the way. Think paying to skip traffic, but for your entire career. She shares how this bold approach keeps her momentum strong and minimizes time spent feeling stuck. Urgency is about moving past fear. Hilary talks about how her impatience has led to invaluable lessons, from real-world experience to building rock-solid self-trust. It’s not all smooth sailing. Hilary warns against jumping too fast, explaining the fine line between acting on impatience and letting things unfold naturally.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Embracing Impatience: The Unexpected Game-Changer [01:00] Why Goals Love a Little Urgency [02:05] Fast Action, Big Results: Hilary’s Go-To Mindset [04:01] Fear Who? How Impatience Conquers Doubt [05:05] Progress Over Perfection: Learn as You Go [07:13] How Impatience Builds Self-Trust [09:30] The Dark Side: When Impatience Backfires    Listener Takeaways: Time to throw out what you’ve been told. Hilary shows how to reframe impatience as the fuel you need to make bold moves and avoid overthinking. Why waiting around isn’t your best strategy and how embracing urgency can propel you to your goals quicker than playing it safe. Learn how taking action builds confidence, grows your skills, and helps you trust your own decisions in real time.   If you’re tired of feeling stuck or spinning your wheels, this episode is for you. Hilary Silver proves that impatience can be your biggest asset—and she’s sharing exactly how to use it to crush your goals!   Want more incredible resources from Hilary? Click here to access all of her free paradigm-flipping tools: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 

In the last seven years, I've gone from running a local brick and mortar therapy practice to a global multiple seven-figure per year coaching company. And I did it in large part because of this one trait. And it's a trait that no one else will tell you to develop because they all say it's bad. But I'm here to tell you it might be the single best thing that you can do because it's been my secret weapon, and that is to be impatient. Hi, it's Hillary. Welcome to the Hillary Silver Podcast. Thanks for tuning into the conversation today. If you haven't already, it would mean so much to me if you'd take a minute to just click that five-star rating on your podcast app,

leave a review, and subscribe so you never miss one of my episodes. And if you're enjoying this podcast, please consider sharing it with a friend because if you like it, they will probably like it too. We're all taught that patience is a virtue, and it is for so many reasons in our lives, especially when it comes to the people that we love. But if you want to get rich in your business or you want to achieve things in life, this virtue may actually be holding you back and can potentially prevent you from getting what you want, whether it's love or money, a certain level of fitness, just achieving a happier state of being, or some big vision of success that you have.

I've come to realize that being impatient is one of my secret weapons, fueling my eight-figure success and positioning me to work with over 2,000 high-powered women in the last seven years. So in today's conversation, I am sharing five ways that being impatient works for me so you can channel your impatience into a positive trait that can serve you and become your biggest advantage. And at the end, I do have one big lesson, a cautionary tale, a warning that I've learned, and I want to share that with you as well. So each of these strategies and the lesson at the end, they all build on each other. So you want to stick around until the end and make sure that you get how they all work

together. First, being impatient means I want something and I want it yesterday. I do not want to spend any more time in the state of not having it. I want to minimize the time between where I am now, what life and business is like not having it, and where I will be, what life and business will be like when I do have it. If I can spend more time in the dream or the desired state living my life with the desired outcome rather than waiting for it, I will do everything in my power to make that happen and get there faster. A simple example of this in day-to-day life means I'm willing to pay for the express lane on the highway so I can spend less time sitting in traffic and more time at my desired destination. It is totally worth it to me to pay for that.

Being patient can often mean being used to or comfortable in the now, which is the state of not having what you want, not having the dream or the desired outcome, and being in a state of lack or being without. And we can get comfortable in that because it's what we've always known up until now. Second, being impatient means I approach my life and my business with a sense of urgency for the things that I desire. I take it seriously.

It's important. It's a priority. And I value the thing that I desire and believe in it being good for me. And this urgency is an energetic vibrational state of being, living in the energy of this is happening now, not someday. This is passion. It's drive. It's determination. It's tenacity. It's believing in the inevitability of receiving what I want. Nothing will stop me.

Can you feel this? Even just talking about it gets me there right now. Being patient means you will hope and pray and wish and dream and wait for it to maybe happen someday. This will be true for me someday. Someday I'll have it. There's a big difference in those two energies. Third, being impatient makes me an action taker. I implement fast. If I have an idea or my team has an idea, it is done. We move quickly to fix a problem. We change things that aren't working quickly. We see something that will work better or we get new information and the changes are made

fast. Why wait when you can have it now? Thinking about the goal and how to make it happen is not taking action. Let me say that again. Thinking about the goal and how to make it happen is not taking action. So gathering information, thinking and rethinking, a pro and con list, all the researching, that is not taking action. And so many people do what an old mentor of mine called getting ready to get ready. It's inertia. So I don't sit and spin. I do not ruminate and hem and haw and go back and forth. I don't do any of that mental masturbation, questioning myself or overthinking things. I just take action and get going. I am not interested in enjoying the process of things. I am totally focused on the goal and I won't rest until it's

achieved. Fourth, being impatient makes me fearless because the desire for it now is stronger than the fear of messing it up. Let me say that again. There's a lot of golden nuggets here today. The desire for what I want is stronger than the fear of messing it up. Think about that powerful statement. I am not afraid of making a mistake or it not working out because I'm so hyper-focused on getting what I want that taking action and the effort, the act of trying is more important than it being perfect. Progress over perfection. Making progress and moving the needle is more important than it being perfect. I can embrace the messiness and trust and believe in the outcome so I don't get stuck or bogged down in the research,

the information gathering, the waiting for other people or the circumstances to be just right. If I have enough information to get going, the research actually happens in the doing of it rather than the reading about it. Okay? And so here's the thing. Sometimes I end up with what I want. Sometimes I get close to what I want, but not quite what I expected. And sometimes it doesn't work out at all. But what I did get is the experience of doing, and there is value in that. Learning by doing rather than learning by reading about it, that is very passive. The learning by doing is the research. And at the end, even if I miss the mark, I've learned what works and what doesn't work. Experiential learning is so much better. I figure

it out as I go. It's all an experiment. And this builds my own confidence and my resilience. I gain wisdom from all the trial and error. It benefits me no matter what. I win no matter what the outcome. Because I can celebrate if it works. And if it doesn't work, I still have gotten so much out of it. It's not a failure. It's not a mistake.

It's a try and a miss. But what we did get out of it is so much out of it. It's not a failure. It's not a mistake. It's a try and a miss, but what we did get out of it is so much useful information or valuable experience. Fifth, it teaches me to trust myself in two very important ways. The first is that I learn to trust myself because I follow through. I do what I say I'm going to do. How many times have you said you're going to do something and you don't do it? Or you plan to do something and it falls by the wayside. Or you start something and you don't finish, you don't follow through. You learn that your word doesn't really mean anything. You learn you can't trust yourself or rely on yourself to do what you say you're going to do. And that's really bad when other people are, that's happening with other people, right? Like it's bad when we learn that we can't rely on

other people. But when we learn we can't rely on ourselves, it's game over. We have to be able to trust and rely on ourselves or we have nothing at all. The second way is that I learn no matter what the outcome, I will be okay no matter what. I will make use of this experience. The action I've just taken will be valuable or useful for me in many ways. And I personally have a belief that everything always works out in my favor. Everything always benefits me in some way. So self-trust is everything.

And this grittiness, this rubber meets the road experience is why you're listening to me now. And it's why people pay me a lot of money to show them the way to their goals, because I've been willing to try and test it out. Not because I read something. Think about it. You wouldn't pay somebody a lot of money to teach you something that they've only read about. You can just read it yourself. You pay somebody to help you achieve a goal because they've done it either for themselves or they've been able to help other people do it many times. They've lived it. They know it. It's proven. It's a proven way to get to your goal. Because I have lived experience, I can compress the time it takes for my clients to get to their desired goals because what I was willing to do, my tried

and true tested experience is valuable. So once I make the decision, it's done. No self-doubt, no second guessing. I decide and then I do. It's as simple and quick and efficient as that. And because I've learned to trust myself in this way, I now have more self-trust that I can keep doing it this way. It keeps regenerating itself. But here's the lesson that I've learned at the cautionary tale, the word of warning about being impatient. Being impatient can mean making a move too soon without giving something enough of a chance and then switching to something else and switching to something else when it doesn't seem to be working fast enough. And I call that being a jumper. I have learned that lesson the hard way so many times. And there's value even in learning that lesson, right? But here's

the thing. It's about being calculated rather than being impulsive so that I can channel my impatience to work for me to my advantage rather than against me. It's kind of like that old song, The Gambler. You got to know when to hold them and know when to fold them. So there you go. The best way to achieve your desires is to get impatient about it and how it can be your secret weapon to success if channeled the right way. Listen, we've all been taught and conditioned to feel and believe and think certain things. And I'm here to help you think new things so you can transcend ordinary, flipping the script on all the conditioning and programming that doesn't actually serve us and can hold us back. If you want to learn more about how

to create this kind of connection with yourself and to become more self-centered, the best way to get started is to grab my free PDF and video called This Changes Everything. I'll put the link in the show notes or the description below, and I will see you next time.