The Hoely Hour - E37 Microdosing Orgasms

Episode Date: April 29, 2021

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We love you, our children. Damn! That felt good. It was a little sharp. We'll work on it. Anyway. Okay. welcome to the holy hour i'm amelia samson and i'm liz ball it's been a been a good few uh

days for us i would say we both are half vaxxed fuck yeah half vaxxed um amelia's on that moderna train i got pfizer pfizer pfizer i didn't have a choice i didn't either i heard all the cool kids were getting Moderna and they were like Liz is coming in we can't give anyone Moderna you went to the same place I did yeah yeah there was a couple behind me at when I was getting mine and they were just doing Moderna that day and the nurse was telling people at the door what they were getting and this couple threw a bitch fit that they were getting Moderna instead of Pfizer they were like we don't consent and the nurse was like I don't know what to tell you this is all we have today bye yes you can see yourself out somebody else will take it well because they

probably have to keep a certain amount for people who are getting their second dose you know yeah yeah so yeah they were um administering Pfizer to people that were under 18 or under 16 that were coming in that day so they were just keeping it for them I don't know what like I don't know how they decide what day they're doing what who knows well if you know slide into our dm the holy hour did you hear about that guy who got one Pfizer and one Moderna because he like forgot which one he had gotten oh my god no it'll be interesting to see how it works out yeah we might learn something from that he might be the most immune yeah the most good for him Pfizer and Moderna teaming up that's the first face I'm gonna like at the bars when they open

back up I did get a little nervous like right before she uh poked me and um it's because I was like well it is a little nerve-wracking that we don't really know what the long-term effects look like but also it's 2021 and vaccines have been around for a long time so yeah I'm at the point that I'm like so desperate for the world to open back up I'm like put anything in my body at this point the second we can go to a bar with like no masks on Amelia's gonna be like please spit in my mouth I am going to make every man at the bar spit in my mouth I'm gonna have them line up just one by one who's next what should we call that uh um it's trevi fountain trevi fountain shot it's just spit yes just a round of trevi fountain shots table 14 or or if it's like um a trevi fountain

shot could be like uh you know the bar mats and just pour all the leftover alcohol that is so fucking gross and then spit into it and that is a trevi fountain shot i would take it that's how desperate i am for human dna in my body for other human dna and also um to drink at a bar yeah alcohol with other people semen i'll take anything at this point maybe maybe not the maybe not semen yeah i mean not if it's in a shot of alcohol it semen already tastes bad we don't need it to taste worse that's true and have like a consistency a gross consistency there are some semen that i've tried that is not bad pineapple's a lie that doesn't work i don't know where that came from that eating pineapple makes your cum taste better i don't believe that

anything makes anything taste better just like instead of pineapple backs it was cum from a man that had been eating pineapple all week this uh i'm on i'm on you know my hormones are raging today amelia is vaxxed and waxed i've period cramps for the first time in like 10 years well it's actually not it's been like a year i'm being dramatic but um that was what actually i watched this uh tiktok video today of this man trying to cook using the um like the cramp simulator stimulator simulator you know there's like yeah he was wearing one of those and he so five is period cramps and ten is childbirth and he put it to three and was trying to cook and he couldn't stand up straight oh my god when i got my shot today i was like my period hurts more than

this and um like the other day i like i had just gotten my period that morning and i was walking to a workout class and I was just like my cramps were awful and I was just like this fucking sucks and I was like no one should have to do anything when they're on their period and here I am going to work out my pain my pain tolerance always surprises me yeah it's pretty amazing it's very high women's pain tolerance is incredible like so many of my friends have worked like well into their third trimester of pregnancy on their feet yeah like women are fucking magic oh my mom didn't go into um the hospital to give birth with my brother until she was nine centimeters dilated i think i've mentioned this before boss bitch energy she she was like in and out

of that's fucking amazing i know and then a few days later she's like gardening men could never no well and that's also because she had such an awful experience with me oh that's right i remember you telling this story on another episode yeah yeah well and that's probably how men could never started too yeah your mom's setting that is how men could never as we were talking about giving birth men could never men could it would be interesting to see what the human population they're a gift from god so yes they are indeed when some i remember reading like a conversation on twitter where people were like obviously being transphobic and stupid and and um they're like how could a man give birth and then someone was

like um trans men and then they're like that's not a man and i was like i'd be fucking stoked if i married a trans man and they were like i volunteer as true yeah i would be fucking kidding all right you got a best case scenario on so many fronts yeah except i'm pretty excited to like make a baby inside of me i think that's kind of a dope thing i have mixed emotions very dope thing i i think i will be an insufferable pregnant oh no i 100 will be my ankles are gonna blow up my wrists are gonna blow up i'm gonna get i'm gonna gain weight everywhere i'm gonna be the worst person to be around but like we're growing a whole human it would be i do you have pregnancy dreams all all the time i was thinking it was so weird that like

like men don't have that experience of dreaming about being pregnant you're right i've never thought about that i i texted my boyfriend i was like oh god i had another pregnancy dream and it was like then in the next morning i got my period which was really funny um but i was like it's so strange that you like don't have this experience where you like feel like you're pregnant in your dream yeah and then he's like I've had a dream I was a father but never that I was pregnant that's nice I've never heard that before I dream you're a father that is kind of cute it's really cute I since neither of us like know if we want kids um anytime I have a dream that I'm pregnant I'm like um so I'm pregnant

and then he's like that's so exciting and then I'm like who are you I know that in real life you would not be this stoked I get so confused in my dreams I'm like so funny it's weird that you're excited and I am freaking out it's so funny that our brains can't distinguish like oh this is not right like I'm dreaming right now I used to always know when I was dreaming when I was a kid and I don't have that anymore lucid dreaming yeah all the time I can't control it yeah I had a lucid dream the other night and I was like I'm gonna make this happen where I had like magical powers oh my god what'd you do in your in your lucid dream um I was just like changing how things looked or like what was happening that's some inception shit it felt like it was

hard though it felt like it was hard to do it but you did it yeah but I did symbolism yeah yeah our dreams are the future i don't know nice that's a really nice thought um i'm gonna put that on a poster of some flowers no for sure mountains dreams are the future hey whatever happened to your men's quotes instagram page have you talked about that on the podcast because that's my favorite thing you've ever done top three and it's been almost a year since i've done that so last year during quarantine I was bored as fuck and uh one of the activities I took upon myself was to make but I made a fake Instagram account because we've all seen those accounts where it's like directed towards like douchey like MLM guys who are like put your mind

to the money and it'll come to you or just like dumb things that don't make sense like that um so i made a fake one called motivational broseph so fucking good and uh here's and i would take like pictures of like guys in suits and smoking cigarettes or like cars and watches and on top of it i would put like thing like quotes from like psychiatrists and therapists and uh i love how you would always throw kings in yeah lack of self-awareness is delusion and it's like a sports car on a freeway it says rise and grind kings how are you treating others is it a reflection of how you feel about yourself it's so good it's so good this one is a black and white photo of a man on a laptop and he's wearing a suit and a tie and it says blaming others is the

quickest way to give up your power and then I said no one can make you do or feel anything you are always responsible for your own behavior and responses winky tongue face king emoji the ultimate the ultimate bro emoji is the winky tongue face I love and then the thinking emoji yeah oh my god I should bring it back I'm gonna bring you should bring it back I thought that was so funny it was one of my uh better hobbies there were so many problematic men's quotes instagrams that were happening when you came up with that idea yeah that's why I was like so many that's just disgusting like I was like how can I reach out to men yeah and encourage them to not suck yeah you reach them where they are yeah yes I'm meeting you where you're at bros I love that

we love you we we have faith in your growth kings um so i do have a few topics that we should talk about and i think that this one what oh nothing i just i'm just always like a little nervous whenever you have topics written out that i haven't like heard about yet we keep forgetting to talk about this um the bingo phenomenon oh my god so long like a year ago um Amelia and I were bored in quarantine and going through different stages of heartbreak and uh I would say I was more in full recovery yeah than you were but um either way you know you go out and you start dating a bunch of people so um we kept experiencing experiencing this phenomenon where like hot guys like the guys we were most interested in would always say bingo yeah like

as like you'd be talking about something and then they'd be like bingo it would be like an affirmative yeah so fucking strange it was annoying it's annoying yeah but it's always like the hottest best guys are saying bingo and then we would screenshot it and send it to each other and we'd be like bingo that was such a strange phenomenon it was always like during like a flirty banter kind of conversation and they would just every single time just bingo after like a long text too they would just say bingo and like like i thought we were having like a fun conversation and you just come at me with bingo yeah it's like twitter bae was the first to do it yeah he was and then after that we started seeing it everywhere the guy that from the the um

what's fucking man's charles manson guy would always say bingo i feel as though maybe it should be a sign like that's like an omen i don't know because uh my boyfriend said bingo he did yeah i remember sending you a screenshot of it and then i like i told him about the the bingo phenomenon and he was like yeah it's just like a good uh word no it's not i need to i'm gonna search are they always in bingo well because i remember yeah i have gone through your like our images that we've sent back and forth to each other and my boyfriend was one of the guys like very early on he said bingo it was a slew of like every single guy i had talked to for like since quarantine said bingo fucking music man oh yeah he said bingo i just typed

bingo in my search bar oh man god damn it okay but your boyfriend but your boyfriend said it so i feel like it's okay it's a redemption it means you're getting closer on 11 11 you said that your boyfriend said bingo early on it's gonna be okay oh my god that's so funny because I sent you a screenshot of Music Man. Look at these two next to each other. He said bingo. And then I clearly sent the screenshot to Liz because she's like, it's okay.

My boyfriend said bingo early on. All of these other texts from me are, it says bingo. And then bingo in like upper and lower case letters. And then I said, no, not the bingo. i made a playlist called bingo and i have bingo in quotes wait you made a playlist called bingo yeah i changed it okay he says bingo to me all the time and i hate it also bingo is such an annoying fucking response

these are all from different days you guys funny and they're all you yeah and then and then it's all me in music man god damn it bingo i hate when he says that it's the last one okay wait with me bingo you nailed it oh my god you said it more than once oh god damn it so fucking funny fucking hell it's like the kiss of death it's like the when you watch the ring movie it's like you only have seven days after that here's a picture you sent me from when you're talking oh my god the comedian bin fucking go seriously guys hot guys say bingo hot guys are out here and they're saying bingo and and i don't know for what for what can a hot guy let us know why they say bingo

look at look just scroll through my messages to and from you oh my god and which guys are saying bingo to me oh my god that's so funny it's yeah it's just them two and me wow what a time to be alive the bingo phenomenon hashtag bingo phenomenon get it get it trending all uh all of our listeners I'm gonna get it tattooed on me bingo should that be like our matching pod tattoo hashtag bingo phenomenon I think we need to make a Hawkeye bingo card oh okay that'd be fun I have faith in the bingo okay do you have faith in the bingo I I have I've not for for your reasons yes for my reasons i've yet to i've yet to see the bingo come to fruition i would say the guys who have said bingo to you besides the love bomber are like good guys yeah like they're solid guys

they just like the right you're right comedian great dude music man my husband still obsessed we still love him i i wish i could explain but he's gotta bin that go he has gotta bin that go i don't know what that means but i'll it makes sense it can mean whatever he wants it to mean you got a bingo my guy you got a bingo my guy is he bingoing center square my guy free space oh we could really stretch could really stretch this bingo there's a lot of you know what i'm into it yeah okay we're gonna make bingo cards i feel good um if you have a hot guy bingo story please let us know because we certainly can't be the only people experiencing hawkeye bingo no i feel like i have a ton over um twitter dms they're all on the twitter dm you on twitter

yeah all the time i've opened up my message requests on twitter that's been an interesting place this guy will you let me read them i have to show you this one in particular it's short but it's strange and we should talk about it i like that you respond i don't even answer well how could the first message was do you want to hear an embarrassing story and i was like fuck yeah i want to hear an embarrassing just say it yeah right what the fuck i okay i'm gonna read this conversation to you guys because it's weird so he said do you want to know a super embarrassing story sweat emoji cry emoji and then amelia who can never back down from anything ever says i mean dot dot dot 100 and he said oh hey sweat emoji and then she said you really left

me hanging there it was like a full 24 hours later and then he said i read your message and then passed out completely and forgot a little too much wine on a monday like what's the fucking story my guy why did you open up this line of communication and then amelia just said this is like an hour later Amelia said ha ha ha ha ha like what the fuck am I gonna say and then he said you might be too cute to know that story but why did you ask yeah was I not cute to you last night you dick why did you say do you want to hear a super embarrassing story and then be like never mind you're too cute and then she said ha ha I will take your word that is just like okay thanks for wasting my fucking time right i don't have enough time to be answering these

stupid ass dns dude and then he said i saw my ex-girlfriend the other night at a party and i was being really rude to her and her friend pants to me in front of her and my underwear came down too so she and her sister and all friends all just caught me full blast and roasted me that feels like he made it up no he 100 made it up he was just like fuck i gotta think of something on the fly I didn't think she was gonna answer he doesn't even follow me I'm like I don't know who this guy is that's strange like okay are you and your ex-girlfriend 11 like yeah yeah right how old are you are you old enough to have a twin there's a pandemic why are you at a party but yeah I should have asked that I got a lot of follow-up questions I don't want the answer to any

of them he's a weird guy yeah super weird that's the kind of dms I get is he a bot I don't think so i also can't tell which one he is in this picture i changes the vibe depending on who it is yeah the the picture in this bio in his uh bio is a younger guy with a cigar hanging out of his mouth and an older guy with his hand on his hip yeah it's one or the other i one of them got pants and felt the need to tell me about it yeah he's a taurus no wonder he's boring my dms are such a boring strange place recently like that's the kind of shit that i'm getting on twitter i should really close my dm request he he tweeted your man crush monday tweeted about 420 blaze it he's 28 okay but also you dm'd someone the most boring story on the face of the planet yeah you

are not one to talk about twitter etiquette dude that is that is a really bizarre oh god i'm not into that I wonder if he was like thinking like a story like that would be like oh my god I bet your dick is not laughable will you send me a picture of it you're so right I got my first dick pic wait you've never gotten a dick pic before um how have we not talked I've gotten unsolicited dick pics all the time I got my first solicited dick appreciated dick pic oh I'm excited for you thank you so much it was exciting was it like an exchange of like no so it wasn't i didn't ask for it per se but it was like in like the heat of the moment implied because we were talking about fucking in his kitchen like at an earlier date and then

he sent me a picture wait can i guess what it was yeah was it um him fucking a sandwich did you see it did he send it to you too it's just his dick and a hot dog bun and then he was like do you think a hot dog is a sandwich and there goes the age-old debate is a hot dog a sandwich oh god so that was the holy hour thank you for listening talk to you next week this is how my train of thought works I just happen to be recording at this time I wish that that is what he sent me no he sent me I hope that he listens and now and then he's going to send me yep no I hope so I hope I wonder if I could find

a picture like that on only fans I'm sure you could I feel like there is like we were talking about the other week a kink for everything there's a kink for everything hot dog dick dick in a hot dog bun uh-huh and i could put it in the bun i could put it in the bun i forgot about that song oh it's so the good early days of tiktok yeah god we were so young we were so young that was the beginning of the pandemic the pandemic yeah pandemic we got our first stimmy oh do you remember your first stimmy i do remember my first stimmy the irs loved that sweet sweet time i really thought that was going to be the first of many stimmies but alas we're in america anyway so i was like y'all just have money laying around

yeah what do you what are we doing are we in debt like worldwide just like giving it to already rich people for what for what you're like we need to save the economy but we don't want to give poor people money and then they just gave poor people money yeah so easy i don't know whatever anyway hashtag the economy the economy hour hashtag bitcoin hashtag dogecoin we're just a couple of blockchain bitches blockchain bitch a block with two c's we're gonna block that cock blockchain where are we going i don't know okay so the picture that i got oh yeah so it was his counter and his so it was i i was on a date

nice yeah i felt like such a player so he was i was on a date and i felt my phone vibrate but i didn't look at it two hours later i opened my phone walk into my car and it's his counter and his hand is on the counter and his dick is in the his dick is huge and he makes a lot of jokes about how small his dick is because it's like very obviously not you can like see it in like every video that he has in sweatpants it's beautiful but it was like just there and he was like picturing you here and i i noticed wish you were here and then it's like a star at the tip of it like a map i would be the funniest dick pic taking man alive we could start a business need help taking comical dick pics there has to be i think that if i got an unsolicited dick pic

but it was funny maybe i'd appreciate it like if it was wearing a hat or something a little cowboy hat and a mustache a little caricature yeah oh my god he's like a little sock puppet there's a snake in my pants you're on to something here I'm the worst if I don't get a comedic dick pic sometime in my life there's something we could do with comedic dick comedic comedic pic comedic pic I like that we're starting up guys we are starting a business yeah we should make business cards for it'll be on our website soon comedic pics okay by the holy hour girls okay how did you respond to this i said dick pic is it weird for me to say that your dick is beautiful and he said because it is it's beautiful and he said chef's kiss no i would hope that you would think that or like i

want you to think that and then we just didn't talk about it again i sent him a nice little like underboob boomerang last night i feel so this man like liberated yes i don't know what it is about in it it's a lot of fun when you're like exchanging like like sexual messages and pictures and it's um mutual and there's not really anything to like you trust them so you're not risking anything totally you know you know it's like low risk but it's like also fun yeah flirtatious it's really a very liberating sending something because you want to I was saying this on last week's episode like it's it's like before when i would send a picture to someone or like i would feel like i had to it wasn't fun because it was like being asked for or expected but he like didn't

ask or any like he's just he lightly suggested about the the um masturbation voice note and i like thought about it i was like that sounds kind of fun and so it was fun like it was something that i wanted to do well and when they respond the way he responded which is like fucking stoked instead of like ha ha nice yeah cool like spicy wah wah wee wah like men respond better i was thinking like when when someone sends you like a nude or something sexual like you want them to be into it you don't want them to be like ha ha nice yeah you want them to like participate and be fucking stoked i was thinking about how much better girls are hyping up other girls than men could ever be and i'm like that is how we want men to respond to us

is to or anyone really it's just to be like i don't know just in awe yeah i want to feel desired and saying sick titties yeah cool love your boobs like or just wow yeah right I know like and it's always so with this guy it's always so like genuine like the appreciation and I don't know it's just what he did I tell you he sent me a voice note back yes oh and that hadn't happened when we were recording last week it was maybe you didn't it was phenomenal I think I texted you about it I the last I heard is he sent a voice note to after he listened to yours and was like oh wow oh yeah okay so that yes so I got that from him and then the next day he sent me a reciprocal he sent me a voice note of him that's so fun it was it I I also think it's more fun so I'm into

like sexting and whatever but I'm not into phone sex no fuck that like if it's in real time there's something that is a little more awkward about it yeah um but when it's like kind of more improvised and candid but also like there's no pressure of like someone watching you yes in the moment yeah it's easier to like kind of uh separate yourself from the pressure and anxiety of like oh god what if I do this embarrassing thing because like if you can record it and then send it you can redo it if you're like crop some of it out awkward yeah yeah I cropped my voice note like crazy yeah because it's like you don't yeah I don't know you never know how you sound or like what's going to come out of your mouth when you're I can't I just can't imagine doing phone sex it just doesn't feel

I want to be good at it I'm not good on my feet like that I'm not gonna improv I get so shy I'm so shy I'm so shy I can't I'm not good at it but sexing is a different story so yeah this guy's like a totally awakening a whole like different um demon I want to have sex with him so bad I feel like like our energy would be on the same wavelength well and there's just like this build up yes the sexual tension just like oh you're looking at my list like what's next yeah what are we talking about um i have all kinds of things um so i i feel like this is a good next topic oh hi everyone satan here to tell you about the new show debuting here on the chatter network the silver screams podcast is a show where three horror movie buffs watch

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stuff i've been listening to a lot of it is edging like yeah um so like i've tried it with myself but that was post with someone else and I love I mean it's just like the whole like being dominated thing of like you're gonna come when I when I tell you that you can kind of thing I love that shit um have you only done it with like ASMR guided ASMR no has someone made you edge yeah oh yeah um when I first started um learning about this side of me my ex was doing like a lot of like dbs stuff so you mean this side of you you mean like kind of like this the submissive side of me yeah but we didn't really know that that's what it was at that point I just like wanted to be tied up and like so he was doing a lot of research um so we did

some edging then and is that the right terminology did some edging I don't know he edged you he edged me I've never edged somebody else but I've been edged what did he do to edge you oh god that's a good question god it's been so long a lot of just like clitoral stimulation vibrator stuff and then like pulling away when he could like he could tell I was about to come and he would make me tell him when i was about to too um and then music man did a time um i don't know if it's on purpose um it kind of felt like it was but like he didn't like say you know what i mean like we didn't like we didn't identify that that's what was going on but it was going on um it's been a few times i really like it i just really like the feeling of being out of control in a situation i'm curious

so when you're in this like uh little submissive space yeah subspace as they say um do i don't want to say like does your dom because like if you guys aren't yeah just the guy actively yeah does does he like make you ask permission no would you like be into that yes yeah this is becoming very sexual i know i because i didn't really know what was gonna happen no i i think that that would be i mean in all of like the honestly it sounds like whenever i say like guided masturbation it sounds like not if you have not listened to bdsm asmr you must there's a lot of yes or yeah bdsa smr yeah i don't know yeah there's something we could do yeah

um comedic and bdsmsr i don't know we'll work on it um but yeah no it's really really really hot and it has opened my eyes to things that i didn't think that i would be into like what like a whole bunch like god i don't even know i'm excited for you when you do have your first like actual like dom sub experience tiktok bae might be it what i do you want to be dominated long distance yeah at least once i could fly through well i might like be a text but oh yeah he's very he'll tell he like tells me what to do oh yeah i fucking love that shit it's so fun um what was my next question gonna be I need to I want to hear your experience with edging I don't have any oh what yeah I don't have any edging experiences that's surprising all I it surprises me too all I've

thought about the thing that made me ask this is because I was thinking about how edging is just microdosing an orgasm you're so right and but I I haven't had any edging experiences which does surprise me because that seems like something that would happen would you want it are you interested in it I feel like I would be more interested in edging someone else interesting yeah oh that's very like switchy of you I just I do like a certain level of control yeah because it's more so it's like I like obviously I do enjoy being dominated that's I prefer to be submissive and the times that I before I knew what like dom and sub meant like in my previous relationships it was more like I was the dom and it was boring for me. I wanted

them to be doing to me what I was doing to them. Yeah. But I was being the dominant because I did like feeling desired. Yeah. But then when you only feel desired and like there's no reciprocation it feels more like you're being objectified and less desired does that make sense yeah it surpasses a point of just desirability into like you are only a sexual object yeah that's interesting yeah that's how it felt for me but it's also probably a reflection of your partners yeah yeah dominating someone is boring for me okay but um I would say like it gets to a point where like there is I do have fun sometimes where I feel like I can be in control a little bit yeah I'm gonna call him sunset he always calls me when there's a there's a really pretty sunset

shows me it oh sunset okay let's call him sunset we're gonna call him sunset mr sunset yeah it'll sink in it'll start feeling right eventually Mr. Sunset build me a dream this is going off the rails um so yes Sunset told me I think I said this I don't know if I was recording when I said this to you but um how he's found that the most submissive women in the bedroom are the ones that are most in charge in like everyday life because they just want to let go for a sec and also submissives are always the ones in control in the bedroom it's like it's a place of being in control while also like handing over control um and i was talking to him about uh uh charles manson and what were we calling him oh napoleon oh the love bomber and he asked what's this guy's

name and i told him his name and he looked him up he was like amelia are you fucking serious this guy is a child he's like no more children uh and he was like this guy is you're like okay carry me yeah yeah he was like you this guy is so obviously a fake dom like he calls them baby doms baby dom yeah um i don't think i they i feel like they should just be called fake doms because to me a baby dom is someone who like is still respectful but maybe is just new oh okay like a brand new dom like a baby dom yeah yeah that could be misconstrued for sure he definitely means maybe they're just like a year into being a dom uh-huh and they're still figuring it out okay see i feel like that's what the love bomber was but he was also just like a

fucking idiot about it and he wasn't he was not respectful about like the culture of it at all he sent someone to the hospital she had to get stitches because he was doing knife play and didn't know enough about it have i not told you that no yeah he like blindfolded a girl and nicked her with a knife and she had to go and get um like two or three stitches in this cut yeah i bet he's probably like proud of that he told me that story and said like oh she was totally fine we just got her a band-aid we stopped that's not how it went that's not okay no it's not he doesn't do his research and like he has a blood kink but like in like kind of this like i feel like he probably has a fake blood kink probably because he probably is like vampire in armor his

stupid bird brain and it's just like uh birds are like hot and then like army hammer is kind of like a good looking dude like army hammer is like pretty hot um i should like copy him yeah that's what i should do i'm also gonna eat people but like um for those who aren't like super involved or like don't know a lot about bdsm i like i'm we're emily and i are not experts we probably know about the same amount but like maybe i know slightly yes you definitely do but there is a huge culture around bdsm and kink and dom sub relationships and that it like there's a culture around it and uh the people who are involved in it like there are a lot of fake doms just lurking around like looking to prey on vulnerable submissives like yeah yeah it's it's sad it's

super scary and it's scary because you don't know who to trust with it and like you could get yourself into like a dangerous position because somebody's like posing as a dom and you can end up in the fucking hospital or if they yeah so another big example is wow that's a lot wow that was a long one yeah hi babe you want to come up here come here come here you can jump i've seen you jump another thing is uh shibari it's uh if you don't know what shibari is it's basically like it's kind of like rope artistry like on your body in my opinion that's how i see it yeah it's beautiful yeah i looked it up after you told me the first time about it and i was like went down a whole rabbit hole it's it's super cool yeah but um it can cause permanent nerve damage so

the people doing shibari like very skilled shibari they really have to know what they're doing so they don't cause any permanent nerve damage to anybody like and some fucking idiot who uses abusing women as um a reason to call himself a dom uh can just like tie someone up and give them permanent nerve damage and not because they don't know anything like yeah it just it like don't sleep on kink and bdsm because to a lot of people it's like a culture and a lifestyle and like um it's so deeply rooted in respect and and trust yeah and consent like the because like um sunset was telling you like the submissives are kind of in charge because like submissives do have a safe word yeah i mean the the couple has a safe word right because i don't want to

underplay like doms can have yeah you know a hard time too so somebody messaged me a man and he said good morning Amelia I hope it's okay to write you here I've recently started listening to the holy hour and couldn't remember an email for it so he messaged me on Instagram I just got caught up on all of your episodes sorry I'm a little behind I really appreciated hearing things from a woman's perspective as a guy I know things can get swept under the rug or ignored or laughed off by both men and women but hearing you and Liz talk about it puts many things in perspective so I was curious if I could ask as a white hetero married man how can I make myself approachable if a woman is scared or worried about someone I know it has happened when I'm out with my wife and we

both immediately take the person into the group and shield or protect them my wife is also Asian so this has become a more common occurrence not just because of misogynist people but also racists I am a sort of big guy and as a veteran I know how to handle some aggressive people but how can I be that approachable when alone i want to help and be a better example of what men should do and if this is rude or inappropriate in any way please tell me it's definitely not that's me saying that it's not rude or inappropriate this is great that you're asking um and then he continued on to say i want to be corrected if need be also and i in no way want to take away from what you and liz and many other women go through and have gone through but if you'd like to hear a male perspective on

male rape I can share my story with you to just to address that part first whatever you feel comfortable anybody feels comfortable with sharing us Liz nor I are ever going to feel like you're like overstepping or like taking away from our experiences we want to hear people's experiences period I do appreciate so much though that he also like asked that and 100% he wasn't trying to take away from women's experiences and um so just the acknowledgement of that aspect of it is so nice it goes such a long way it really does it's not like well me a man has an opinion and you're like oh you do um so yeah that's so true i appreciate that like everything he said was so thoughtful and um it like everything he said was also very considerate of like other people's

experiences yes he wasn't trying to speak on behalf of a bunch of people but also he was asking some important questions that actually I think a lot of our male listeners do have and um I am always just like so happy and surprised by the male listeners we have because they're really good guys yeah yeah and um like genuinely good yeah and they want to do what they can to make sure everybody feels safe and comfortable and that they're doing their part And that goes such a long way. And I think he has a good question of like, how can I make myself approachable when it's just me?

And because I would say, you know, a man when he's with his wife is definitely more trustworthy and approachable because you're like, oh, I you have another woman around. And that sort of dynamic of like, OK, we both can take you in and protect you. like you have um a woman there who can relate to you and additionally a man who can tell another man to fuck off yeah and take it more seriously but I think something is it does like as long as you're not like like I'm thinking about what I would want if like someone were making me uncomfortable and just like discreetly was like hey like is everything okay and um I'm trying to think of what a good solution would be after that to be like if you're uncomfortable I can pretend

I know you yeah and like help you come up with an excuse to take an uber home yes or something like that yeah because when you feel unsafe you also want to play it cool because you don't know what that other person's gonna do yes you don't know if they're gonna be reactive or or what so i think or like maybe if it's in a more obvious circumstance like when you were being harassed by someone at the bus stop if just like some guy like took out his fucking earphones and was like hey yeah uh fuck off yes yeah instead of like yeah i'm not seeing anything that's so true just like stepping in that and you don't even need to like confront the other person you could just be like hey come over here yeah with me yeah like like let's let's get away from this guy and i

understand a lot of men's concerns because i was talking about this in my tiktok comments when i was telling men that they should if a woman very clearly is uncomfortable that they should step in um and their concern and i hear it is like well what if i come off as creepy as well like what if i look like i'm somebody that's like trying to like get them away and like because we it's like a stranger danger kind of situation if you're more worried about virtue signaling than you are about someone's actual safety like come on what's the worst that can happen is you step in to try to make a woman feel comfortable and she's like and then that's it I mean that says nothing about you you tried you know and like maybe she doesn't need saving maybe

she just like has like a permanently uncomfortable face but at least you could know that you you picked up on a signal and you tried because there have been so many instances where I've like a the friend that I'm with is in the bathroom and a guy starts talking to me at a bar and I like look at another man at the bar like with like help me eyes and he just looks away and it's like I just need in those moments just to feel like I'm not alone and if you like misread a situation you misread a situation and then like your night goes on and that's fine but a lot of the time if a woman looks uncomfortable she is uncomfortable and it is I I don't think I've ever talked to a woman or at least I don't like know any women that would be bitchy if a man came up

and tried to help her out of an uncomfortable situation like those things are so appreciated they go such a long way so one of the guys in the comments said like I wish that we could have a signal or like a code word that all of us know but then it's like those would get into like the pants of like bad people so like yeah but wouldn't that be so nice if like we could just be like like peaches i'm i'm thinking about how like like women can pick up on other women's um like micro reactions so much better than men ever could and it's just like i don't know men like pay a little bit more attention to micro reactions yeah um because like amelia and i could like make eye contact with each other for a second and just know like let's get the fuck out of here

yeah well like we don't have to have a conversation about it um yeah i did see one circumstance that was really cool i think i saw it on twitter this girl on the bus was being harassed by like someone who was like intoxicated and um there was like a group of teenage boys like sitting nearby and they like uh airdropped a picture to her and it was just like maybe a couple of them in the picture and it was like um are you okay oh my god yeah these high school boys yeah i think they were probably like teenagers or like young adults yeah just being like future you good like do you need anything like that's something even like i thought that was really creative i love to airdrop a picture and be like do you need help i really love that yeah

creative thoughtful considerate non-confrontational yeah non-confrontational you're not overstepping you're also not like getting involved at all like in that circumstance you could totally just be like oh my god hey yeah what are you doing where are you going like just bullshit until this other person is weeded out of the conversation and it's hard for us to give advice on like what would be appropriate when like every situation's different yeah totally I'm picturing like a very specific bar in my head when I'm like thinking of what I would want it's dark and spooky yeah I'm thinking about Percy's in Ballard I don't know why I fucking love Percy's I feel like I'm thinking of that place too weird is it the one with the outside yeah with the covered patio in the back

what i'm thinking about that place that's very weird yeah have we been together i don't think so we have been together there okay there's always like a very interesting cast of characters there but i but i love percy's the bartenders are very in tune there like they know when shit's up um but there are a lot of bars in seattle at least that like are a little um dicey i can think of a few that are like hot spots for these guys for creep and there have been so many moments where I'm just like can somebody help me like my friends will be off with like you know their significant others or like a boy that they just met and I'm just like sitting at this table alone like thanks I'm just waiting for him cool super cool and I will have just wished that a guy would step in

and like again like I hear the concerns of like I don't want to look like I'm trying to get with you I don't want to look like I'm also a creep like I don't want to blah blah blah blah but at the end of the day who cares if you have good intentions you have good intentions there's a big difference between um not wanting to talk to someone and fearing for your safety so yeah I I don't know I think you could tell the difference honestly like I like if a girl can barely walk and some guy's taking her out the door to just be like hey do you know her do you what's her name like and then be like show me your ID girl let's make sure this guy actually knows who the fuck you are yeah yeah god that's such a good guy it takes uh it takes some big cojones to do something

like that because it's so much easier to not be involved in conflict and but then also if you like i don't know if you just see a guy or a group of guys like dragging some drunk girl who's coherent around like the worst thing that could happen is you misread the situation and if that was the circumstance then they probably won't be upset yeah right like if you're like I don't know I'm thinking about like if I was like belligerent and blacked out and my boyfriend was carrying my dumb ass home like I would I think both of us would appreciate if some guy was like hey I just want to like make sure you actually know this girl like what's her name yeah yeah let's see her id your boyfriend would 100% appreciate that I think he'd be a little

annoyed and he'd be like this is my girlfriend I'll show you a picture of us together but on principle like yeah he would love that on principle he would be very appreciative and that's dope and like that's a good threshold to know like if if I'm out with my friends and I get really drunk he knows like there are guys out there that exist that are like him yeah that are also going to be looking at like he would love to know that i am safe yeah uh there are so many good guys out there yeah how comforting would that be if you just think about like your girlfriend or your sister or just like a friend anybody you care about like going out and knowing that there are other people who are like they can still have a good time and maybe accidentally overindulge or purposefully

overindulge who who am i to judge right you live your life you know sometimes you go out because you want to throw up in the bathroom later and and you know that's what you're doing but like you should be able to make that decision for yourself without the threat of someone else hurting you yeah and to know that you're all looking out for each other i think it goes a long way I agree I've realized since our consent is my kink series my so my guy friends have always been very cognizant and supportive of like what I need for my safety they have all stepped it the fuck up like I love that it's been one of my best guy friends has been so I texted him that I was I texted him something along the lines of like can oh I was I needed to pump gas at like 10 p.m

because I didn't get gas earlier in the day and I texted him at eight and I was like hey can I call you at 10 I need to get gas because I wasn't going to be leaving wherever until 10 it might have been here actually um now that I think about it that's likely probably um and he was on a date and he called me at 10 and he was like I just I just saw my phone like are you okay I want to make sure that you feel safe and like he's always been very careful but like just those little things i think that a lot of people don't know how unsafe it is for women because we're not out here like oh my god i'm so sad because i was yelled at when i was just trying to do a daily activity whatever like that shit happens to us all the time yeah and most of us have a pretty

good gauge of when something is dangerous yes so um i think that like because women are just used to like kind of fending for themselves and looking out for themselves and being able to gauge a situation men are who have listened are now becoming more aware of things that are dangerous and like becoming more thoughtful about it yeah and just seeing consent differently yeah um and not thinking we're being dramatic about it exactly and that means a lot and it goes a long way it really does sex factor of the week oh oh hit us there are benefits to having sex during your period oh what are they five in particular they are as follows it might ease period cramps i've heard that um it might make periods shorter having sex during your period might make it

shorter it says orgasms make your uterus and cervix contract since your uterine lining is what sheds during menstruation it's possible that orgasms help empty it out more quickly i mean my orgasms don't come exclusively from sex mine right i can give myself some period masturbating during your period probably do the trick i've definitely done that and it's helped with my cramps you know every time I've had a very bad headache because I read somewhere that having an orgasm helps headaches oh interesting it does specific kinds of headaches I think it must be tension headaches I think it makes mine worse what why what do you know what like the main cause of your headaches are no okay minor tension so like if I can like release all of that

that helps a lot okay in fact that makes sense it can increase your sex drive we knew that ew okay i'm not like a new person about period blood but this says period blood is like free lube and i really don't like how that's not it i feel like that's also not true i feel like like blood is like not viscous lubricating no no no i feel like blood gets like pilled up my my ex would call that vagina debris no it's written by a woman a doctor it can ease headache pain oh I just said that look maybe I wrote this um well you were wrong about that one it's like free lube I hate that I don't feel that way no I don't either I don't either because it all like the times I've done stuff on my period it gets like dry almost it's vagina

debris um period sex side effects still exist you can get pregnant on your period the dreaded forgotten tampon has that ever happened to you no but i know a few people that it has it's just like jammed up there oh it's the worst oh god wait that's happened to you and you forget about it um not for like hours and hours and hours like it'll be like i'll put in i'll have sex with a tampon in and then you forget the tampons in there when you're having okay and then how does he not feel it who fucking knows I mean it's been so long it was my ex I haven't used a tampon I haven't had a period in like five years but it would get jammed jammed on up there and then I wouldn't know until I was taking out my next tampon and then this then that

one would come out with it yeah it's a little frightening so like in the same day I have a friend where she went like a few weeks and she was like i went to the bathroom and i had the worst cramps i've ever had and she like gave birth to this old tampon oh my god a few weeks and maybe it was a week oh my god still the tss we've talked about tss i mean she didn't get tss the fear of it the and um i since i've used a cup like there has been a time or two because a cup you only have to change it out every 12 hours wow so there's been a few times where i'm like oh shit i haven't like swapped my cup out yet and when you pull it out it smells like broccoli ew i know but i think that's that's what that's with anything you leave up there for a long time

starts to smell like broccoli it just smells like a vegetable yeah and then I was yeah so I was like oh my god how did it smell and she's like it was off oh my god see my period smells like coffee coffee beans really interesting I think it's because I drink so much coffee that's the only thing that I can think of I mean I drink a lot of coffee and sometimes my pee will smell like coffee my period blood exclusively smells like coffee it's so strange it's so strange people are gonna stop drinking coffee after listening but if you ever just smell like coffee beans in a bag like before they're ground up that's what my period smells like mine smells like pennies that makes sense the copper copper yeah mm-hmm we should probably wrap anyway yeah yeah thank you for

listening thank you we love you our children did you want me to harmonize with that oh shit okay But I also did fuck up. I didn't say our children.