The Hoely Hour - E99 OnlyFans with OnlyAmelia

Episode Date: August 12, 2022

Amelia hosts alone this week while Liz is taking some much needed R&R. I had the honor of interviewing content creator slash internet boyfriend slash OnlyFans GOD Brendon Queue to answer some questions that you Angels submitted in about the adult entertainment industry. Brendon opens up about telling his family that he's a sex worker, what it's like to be in a relationship in this industry, and so much more. You can find him everywhere at BrendonQueue.com! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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May slow when network is busy. See terms. You are a handsome devil. You better quit flirting because I'm going to come back to Seattle. I'm going to keep flirting then. Welcome to The Holy Hour, a podcast about sex, relationships, mental health, and everything in between. I'm Amelia Sanson.

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Liz is on a much-deserved, much-earned, much-needed vacation with Mr. Liz. and she's having a great time and is finally getting some R&R which if you've been listening you know she has been working her tail off so I was happy to take over this week I mean like as happy as I can be because I have separation anxiety but I was really excited to have this conversation that I have for y'all today with Brendan Q he is a creator that I connected with on TikTok. I saw one of his videos and followed him because I just loved it. I loved what he stood for. He was just speaking his mind and I loved it. Y'all know how I feel about that. And when I followed him, I saw that he had already been following me. So we sparked up

a little friendship, a little flirt ship. And he started creating on OnlyFans kind of soon thereafter and agreed to have a conversation with me because I have a million and one questions about the industry. And I posted on Instagram and asked, y'all, if you had any questions for him as well and the questions that y'all submitted were so good so we had a really good conversation i was really nervous to do this without liz but i think i think it was a good time if it sounds like me and brendan were flirting we were y'all know me i'll uh i'll be back next week with liz for our 100th episode which is actually that it's actually nuts we're planning an 100 episode house party at my place with some of our friends and it's just like it's

hard to believe that it's already been 100 but we love you so much and yeah I'll we'll we'll be back to normal normal schedule next week but here is the conversation that I had with Brendan I love y'all so you started creating videos before you got into um creating content on only fans yeah yeah only fans came far after okay and how did you decide that you wanted to like explore that realm um i didn't actually i well i moved away from friends that visited me when i did live in kentucky and we were really hung over and my buddy gave me his phone and i started thrown on TikTok and then I was like all right I guess I'll download it and they were walking out the door to drive back home and they're like have fun going viral in two weeks and I was like

nah and it happened two weeks later literally and you and then you forayed into being more I want to be sure that I word this correctly would you consider what you do like adult content is that what you call it I've been hearing it referred to as like porn less and less and more as adult content but still like I'm not able to I can't I can't figure out like where the medium is so you're you're just you're fine with it being called adult content I just don't want to like say it in a way that's like offensive you know what I mean because I'm new I'm new to all of this I mean I started on TikTok as just a normal person getting on there and throwing out some zingers that I thought were funny because I don't shut up so if I if I have to hear myself

you have to hear me too your like personal life outside of content has there been have you noticed any like crossover do people like recognize you in public for what you do do you yeah yeah I was traveling for like five straight months at the end of 2021 and every big city that I went to I got recognized it was at least once um but like moving to Vegas and pretty much becoming a recluse because all I do is stay home as much as I can now not so much I don't even like to go out like on the weekends when everybody else goes out here I'll go out on like a Wednesday so I said I just want to see less people. Is that new that you're like that? Uh, very much so. Cause I was very much like I was the town bicycle. Like I was, I was, I was a whore and I drink a lot and that was a

couple of years. And now I'm just like, ah, I had my fun and all of my fun now is consists like around like a safety net. Cause in sex work, everybody's getting checked. So like, I don't want to go out and like meet somebody and not know anything. It's, it's all kind of like, ah, I'd rather stay home that was another question that somebody had sent in was how often y'all get checked for STDs uh I'll go every two weeks if I'm constantly doing collabs um I have gone more than that and I've gone less than that it just depends on when my collabs are based um it also depends on like if I even sleep with somebody outside of like sex work which I don't really except for my girlfriend but me and her also like the timing I've been with

collab so work kind of gets in the way of that too it gets in the way of I get I get like out touched so like if I work enough like I don't want to do anything besides like lay with my dogs I don't want to be touched I don't want to like be intimate with anybody else I just want to like chill you gotta take breaks that's interesting that's something that I hadn't considered but it makes so much sense yeah it was a conversation that I had with my dad because he actually asked me a very similar question and he was like do you view sex the same and I was like it's not as hype as it once was it's still fun but if i don't have any guarantee of safety i don't have any interest anymore because like when i was 21 i was reckless um i'm it was bad but now i'm just like ah

i don't want to no i'm not even going to test those waters i'm just going to chill do you think if you were still as reckless as you were at 21 you would be able to do what you're doing now for your work absolutely not no um i was it was it was not anything that i could have have gotten away with then because i wasn't getting checked enough at 21 and i was i favored partying more than i favored anything else and like now that i moved to a state where weed is legal i also have like cooled off a lot like i don't even drink when my roommates invite me to drink downstairs i'll just smoke and hang out and then go to bed at like 10 o'clock and wake up at 7 a.m it feels like the the industry has like uh and i know that it's changed a ton especially

since the internet but um it feels like the stigma of the industry is like everybody's always like fucked up and like everyone's like partying hard sometimes people are i mean this the industry has so many different like pockets of people and like different creators and like who works with who and sometimes you go out sometimes you don't i know with like i've i've gone out on one big collab and like overall i don't really feel the need to because i don't know you mix liquor in with things and it gets a little shady right but like i have gone out and we've all minded our p's and cues and we like know what we're doing. But I mean, some people choose to party. Some people don't. I know quite a few people that just like to hang out at home and play video games. And

then I know a bunch of others that like to go out every weekend and just depends on who you are. I'm going to start with a light one just to, just to get your opinion. Cause this isn't something that I think that you'll have the answer for, but somebody asked what's the deal with everyone getting stuck in the dryer windows or under the bed. So I don't really know why that started or how that became such a thing but mainstream has been hooked on that and like the step sibling thing forever it feels like and they've really dove into it in the last like two years um i don't know i don't know what it is i don't know what's going on i even like paid for a little shout out on a mainstream guy's page because like promo i want to get some followers

and like he even shouted me out as his step bro and i'm just like why do we do this and like i don't really care but i've also never understood why we're harping on it so hard it's been interesting to see a porn hub releases like the most searched terms in each state at the end of every year and like step sibling is like 80 of the country hold on i'm about to google it right now i want to see what it is for uh washington and nevada google says vintage oh wait that's dc hold on vintage wow there's some cultured ass people in dc looking up vintage porn i mean old ass white men that shouldn't be running our country honestly i think that that's politicians you're so right washington is a stepmom and i guess like most of the southwest

region was lesbian interesting um bible bill also lesbian nice let's see we got cartoon there's like a whole section that has cartoon and then randomly i think this is nebraska that also has it it's interesting i wonder what i i want to do some sort of like psychological study on what's going on in each of these states and why they're so into i also want to know because i got step siblings for real and like when all this started coming out i was like i have to either ignore the title completely or like pick a new genre because this is ridiculous there are some things that i'll just have to like skip the whole like context setting in the beginning i always skip the context i have to i i listen i grew up with a family of five okay i had to watch porn on silent

for the first 18 years of my life so i don't know where all these people are enjoying the storylines but i've never watched them not once i need a storyline listen i'm not judging the storyline i think the title if it gives me enough i can imagine it myself i'm good liz had to watch porn on silent for forever and she still watches porn on silent and i think that that is like i don't know i can't get over that silent thing like i even okay i'll even edit my own work silently until I have to do the clips and I'll listen for the right sound, the right moan, the right word, and then clip the next clip over. And then I'll remute it so I don't have to hear it until the next clip over. Like I don't do sound. That is bizarre to me. So you edit your

own work. What is that like? It depends. It's nice when I have somebody else like record. um shout out to Donnie does things he records me all the time and I love him um and he does great work and great edits and he has a great page so look him up that's his tag on everything Donnie does things oh yeah um so I'll have him record a lot or if we don't have him I'll just set up three tripods get some lights going make sure the lighting is good and I'll set the cameras up to where I know that I can mesh them together the right way and not just have like shittily stitched together video I'll do like picture and picture edits if I know one view is really good I'll put a second good view like in the bottom right of the screen or something it just depends I try to make

it good I try to make it a good experience for everybody that watches because I have I have a very diverse crowd so I don't want to like stick to one angle or give them something that's not going to be good you know like yeah is it still amateur for sure because sometimes you can still see like the other camera or the light or something but at least everything else comes together well god you're like you're like the tarantino of porn there's no exploding cars in my room when this is happening not yet you might get a car bed light it on fire listen don't give me an idea because i will find a way to fund it and i will do it we're planting seeds this is how the mile high club started okay somebody planted that somebody planted the seed and somebody was like hey you

know what i got this oh my god probably we might have just like uncovered a brand new category somebody asked what separates intimacy from business in your mind when is the camera off is it difficult to manage it's a very interesting question um so you know when i first started i don't know how professional i was or how well i was when it came to collabs i was learning and like nobody as much as i don't like to say it like nobody really helps you in this industry you kind of figure it out for yourself for the most part and like pick up little clues where you can um so routing my collabs in the beginning was a weird transition i was like trying i was learning this whole separation factor between work and play um and then when it came to like

regular intimacy versus like camera i mean getting to know somebody for your collab is that way it comes off as authentic is one thing but like you don't want to like overstep boundaries or anything because there are people in relationships there are things going on you don't want to like cross boundaries and make it weird off camera so that way everything flows right um but i mean in terms of like a relationship i try not to mix work and play too much because it does take away from the intimacy of the relationship but like i also don't view sex as intimacy completely like there's other things you can do cooking if you wanted to clean for them if you wanted to take them out you wanted to go do something like there's many ways to be intimate with your partner

and like separate it from work like and not view your sex life with them as work either although i do always catch myself like in the back of my mind thinking about how it looks while I'm while I'm yeah I'm always thinking like how is this gonna look on camera like could I put cameras up and record this mm-hmm he's always working folks I'm always thinking about it I'm like literally that's why there's a mirror over my bed come on I love having sex in front of mirrors listen there's a reason I put the mirror up it really does feel like I'm watching like a tape of myself in real time there's something very sexy about it I'm all about it you know how nice it is to be also in front of that mirror looking at my me doing work yeah no i get it i get

it i look fucking good right now hell yeah this person is lucky as hell i am pro ho in this house if anybody listened to this okay if you don't have a mirror over your bed or like over part of your couch invest okay this is 50 at walmart let's go absolutely 100 of the people in this conversation feel that way so that's saying something perfect it's it's truly it's a game changer is it do you think that it's possible in your industry to be in a relationship with someone that isn't involved in the industry yeah absolutely i mean i think i think riley reed is that who it is i think i just saw that she got married um and somebody was like talking shit about it and then somebody retweeted it and was like she's worth 20 million dollars because she's good at her job and you're

saying she's not worth love because she's good at making you horny on the internet and that's a really good point like anybody can find love in this industry and you don't have to find somebody that also works in this industry, which I have seen a lot of, I have seen quite a few people like purposely date people in this industry, in the industry, which there's nothing wrong with that. I guess it just depends on how you guys set up your boundaries. Every relationship is communication and how you're going to navigate it. You know what I mean? I mean, you also have to take into account like monogamy is not the only way, which me and you have talked about monogamy being bogus for ever since we became mutuals. It's not my, not my department, but it

could be somebody else's I mean if if you and your partner want to be hoes about life it's the same thing just it's for work now being in an open relationship is a good example of like basically that and like I know somebody who's dating someone and like they don't venture outside the relationship and then the girl does work and nobody cares and everything's good do you feel like the rise of only fans like has changed the industry at all and if so how very much so so I mean mainstream name use a lot of girls or guys will sign with an agent agent will stick them with whoever they work that is what it is agents have been found to be robbing people and or abusing them throughout their work relationship and i think only fans gives the power back to the people i mean you

get to choose who you work with you get to decide what content you want to put out you're not being signed up for something you don't want to do and you're not being bribed with money to do things that you don't want to do like you have your own limits and you know what they are and you're going to execute them the way that you want to because you're running your own site now now hold up now people in only fans i know including myself have been managed and then turned out management was not what they wanted and i've seen other people get managed and they've been completely like robbed and not even known because their manager wasn't doing what they said they would do or what have you but i mean it comes with the risk of getting management you know what i mean yeah you gotta

you just have to check your p's and q's with who you're going to let manage you or touch your content or be able to log into your page anything you know yeah do you do you find managers through like word of mouth from who can trust who i don't know i refuse to get another manager i'm just gonna work do myself and if i need an assistant i might hire an assistant just to like do kind of stuff that i don't feel like like i have my taxes which i still haven't done so if anybody wants to go through work receipts and do my 2021 taxes that's listening let my brother know please yeah you know you might you might find an assistant through this being like a like an a porn intern would be such a sick fucking job maybe i'll take it maybe i'll snag that job don't

don't don't tell me like this we can meet in the middle salt lake city is right there okay i mean beautiful place to be i'll go i like to snowboard i like to rock climb i like to be a hoe we have things in common uh the only thing i have in common with you there is that i like to via how that's one thing that that's all I need that's all I need I don't need any more than that great well I'm gonna I'm gonna buy my ticket right after we hang up perfect I'm still mad you're gonna be gone at the end of the month I'm gonna be near you what is this and are you coming here for content yeah so I know what you're about to ask so first of all yes it's a it's a collab there's a few of us but how do I find people to make content with a lot of the times I just kind

of wait for people to ask I mean I I've reached out to a few people myself but like not really that many um I kind of I don't know I know as a man that men are annoying so I try not to ask very much and I try to be like the one that is approached with this industry because this is this is a woman's world like women dominate the porn market I am just a byproduct of it I I I know that full and well and I respect that so I kind of let women decide and ask me more often than not yeah okay that makes sense yeah it is very um I'm sure it could be a little scary as a female creator in this field to know who to trust and who you know not to trust and I mean that's another thing too I always tell people I'm like if you can find out who they've worked with

and ask them about them that's a great way to investigate people that you're about to work with um I always try to make sure nobody's done like anything that's like safety net risky because like I don't want to risk my safety or risk anybody else's safety if there's multiple people that are involved in the collab remember paperwork all the time try to make sure everybody's on board if there's like a rougher scene which I've done a little bit of um I usually try to have somebody record it just so that way there's a third party there yeah like you're always like you're always kind of creating your own safety net and like yes there's ways that those safety nets can be infiltrated but it the more you're creating for yourself the better off you'll be while navigating

who's who on the internet because like like i said i mean as small as the internet is it's not that small yeah totally okay in in the the area of the conversation of like the housekeeping with like the paperwork and you know like getting all of your tax stuff done listen don't don't knock me on my taxes i'm just you know i'm just i'll get to them i swear i'll get to them they're gonna come for you somebody did ask this this wasn't what i was about to ask but somebody asked 1099 or W-2? How do you actually get paid? A 1099. So I mean, you're working through OF, it's through their own thing and you get, I'm pretty sure it's a 1099 form. And then you can turn that into your own business being paid through their platform. My last person who did

it in Georgia, she figured out a way to that 20% that OF takes for using their services. She figured out a way to apply that to my taxes. So that way I wasn't just being ripped out of money and having to pay more. So whatever the 20% was, she was like, okay, so this is what you technically paid in taxes, even though you haven't. It's a write-off in its own way. I don't know if that's going to work for everybody. So nobody take this as a guidance for your taxes. Okay. Yeah, yeah. I still have my dad do my taxes. So I'm also not, everything you're saying to me sounds completely correct. I'd love that if my family weren't from conservative Indiana, where even I'm pretty sure all the tax people including my brother who's an accountant who's also conservative and very hard

to deal with like i'm good i'll find somebody else i got it uh-huh yeah i would rather just not do my taxes period just like that's what i'm saying you get me just this is like napping off your problems the nap doesn't cure the problem but not doing anything about it when you know it doesn't matter anyway i i don't know yeah yeah it feels it feels good like if maybe if i just wait around long enough somebody will do it for me okay moving along to another housekeeping question somebody asked what's the best cleaner for cum I've used non-dish soap I've used um oh god it's like regular kind of like everything cleaner uh it just depends man like it depends on the furniture like obviously with like leather you're gonna want like leather cleaner

but like when it comes to cloth and whatnot either throw it in the laundry or I've used like dish soap it just depends as long as you can scrub it out and like kind of like wipe away the wetness the main wetness you're fine that's good advice I'm just I mean there's a lot of there's a lot of cum that gets on the couch so I get it I've I've run into the issue of finding stains like weeks later isn't that fun and exciting especially when like you have another person and you're like god I really didn't even know that was there I thought these sheets were clean the whole time and then it wasn't yes I know or it'll just be like he'll get some range and it'll just like end up somewhere that like I didn't consider that happened to me once that was fun I didn't realize

just how far something had shot and it like it dawned on me later on that there was a spot on the wall that was like two feet three feet away from the couch which was three feet from me so it was like a six foot slinger on the wall and I was like how how did it go like I don't even know how that build-up happens i read something i don't remember the stat so i don't even want to maybe i'll like insert it when i'm editing but insert it we know that you're always in the mood but i it was like some stat about like how many miles per hour the first shot is and it was like it was something very impressive i mean like 27 miles an hour or something that is that's a wild speed so you touched on how like you have to have open communication with your partner when you're

in a relationship do you have you ever had any issues with like setting boundaries or rules or like needing to clear certain things or like being on set and not being sure because you haven't discussed it with her yet I mean there's every every partner is different um so anything I say obviously is going to pertain to like what I see and maybe me personally but it's not going apply to everybody um I know like if I have a shoot even if I tell her a little bit late like she's she's understanding it's it's a job and even though our relationship has been open like I haven't found the time nor really the need to go outside of like work or the relationship just because a I don't have enough time between collabs to be able to get tested again to make sure that

whoever i decided to outside of work was worth it making sure i'm okay but b it's just it's a lot of extra effort like i'm on bumble like i have my bumble still but i every time i get on bumble i'm just like wow this that's work i'm good i'd rather play video games or something like so for her she doesn't really care like when i have a job if i have a shoot because people will hit me up sometimes when they get into town like because living in vegas people literally just fly in and be like hey I'm in town do you have time the next three days and are you like up to date on your test and I'm just like okay I'll make it work I got it so I mean some people would probably not like that a lot but I mean I'm I'm here to work so I mean I moved to Vegas to rock climb and to work

and like I don't expect to stay here by any means but I will go somewhere that's nearby enough that I can like survive which is why I mentioned Salt Lake earlier because I that's that's on my that's like on a list of a few cities that I'm considering because it's close enough to Vegas it's still got all the nature there's still a lot of sex workers out there it would be something to consider that is incredible to me that there's a lot of sex workers in Utah of all places just Salt Lake City the rest of Utah is Mormon country it's Salt Lake City not Mormon country it's a little bit more progressive um there's quite a few content creators out there I love that a lot of people like pass through there so i guess it's really not that bad but yeah coming out here was the goal just work

and live life and then hopefully get to a point where you don't need to live here to continue to live life go somewhere else appealing that people want to visit you know yeah yeah absolutely do have you when you collab with people like i've always wondered this what is the the pay structure like because sometimes i'll notice that only fans creators will both post the video will you split whatever you make from it no you get what you get off your followers um some people do sign to split but i would never um just because you don't know what that split's going to be and it's also like you have two different fan bases it's if you're going to profit off somebody else's fan base it's because you gain them from one of you guys posting your collab and they ended up liking the other

person's content too so you both send it out on your own platform you both make your own money you both go about your day sometimes people match pricing um i'm i've never been one to really care to match pricing like your followers are paying for prices that they're used to and there are other creators that you know they send out things for really high amounts that others would never make money off of so i've always been very pro price at what you want to price it just don't advertise market the video but don't market the price just market the price when you send it out and that's it yeah a lot of people a lot of girls will sell their solo stuff and just have photos on their timeline and that works for them but everybody succeeds differently in this industry

so I've always found it easier for myself to just do solos on the timeline and then whoever I work with gets sent out messages so I've noticed too outside of OnlyFans you have one like a video on Pornhub I did um if I do now it's because somebody else posted it and it's the teaser video so I ended up posting the whole thing and then she contacted me and she's like uh well hold on no whole videos on Pornhub uh just make a teaser video and I was like ah okay see it's a learning moment for me I didn't know that so that makes sense that that was kind of what I was wondering if Pornhub is starting to be used as like a way to just like gain traffic so it is and like I'm another assistant thing right here posting all of my

solo content that i have stocked up onto pornhub and being like go find my only fans like just let's go i'll just have them take all 30 videos and splice them into one minute video and like let's let's move it along here you know yeah absolutely no i mean it makes that that feels like such a good tactic for like gaining traction yeah because you don't really make money on pornhub a lot of it's no right it's really nothing so really it's just for marketing yourself it's been before Pornhub like went through and who knows how good of a job they actually did but taking down the content that like they knew somebody was being like sex trafficked or you know like doing things against their will they went through and they like

cleansed all of that they didn't do a good enough job so that's why nobody's getting paid by ad revenue anymore either so they're still facing the lawsuits with that and like it's a double-edged sword so like yes it's great to get content like that down but like exodus cry is the group the religious group that claims that they want this porn off but they're trying to eradicate it completely uh because they're evangelical christians and they want porn to just be eradicated and i'm just like that's not how you help us you don't help us by eradicating what we are damn it no i didn't realize that that was who was spearheading the whole thing yeah um and something like that happened on twitter too one of the ceos got busted for not taking down for not taking

ahead on a lot of the abuse and like child pornography that was on twitter and that was not that long ago either that was in like december or something yeah pornhub's still under fire as they should be a lot of used and abused people that have been put on pornhub so it's it fair enough you know totally there's there's something in my humble opinion as a consumer there is something a lot sexier about OnlyFans because it really does feel like the person is doing it because they feel empowered to do to do it like there's a lot of videos on Pornhub where it's like regardless of how like real it is but like like the backroom casting couch videos of like you know I've watched so many of those and so many times I'm just like this is like

cringy almost like they don't look like they're enjoying this no even if it's part of the scene why why is the market against like rapey scenes why are we why are we marketing that yeah terrible it's it's awful but it's a whole i mean i i've been hearing more and more about um cnc as i think there's consent to be forceful yes like i don't know to like be kind of like role playing like what like rape some people take it that far yeah a lot of it's like i don't know a lot of it's dumb stubby stuff it just depends there's a lot of different variations of cnc but some people go as far as to reenact that and that is a lot i don't know if i could ever mentally do that that's that's aggressive and wild that was what i was going to ask you if there was anything

that you like have a hard no on ever doing that would be it right there i would i would never enact a scene like that that would be now i don't know if i would be able to like even watch it back if i if i could even muster up the the like wherewithal down there to do that i would also just be disgusted with myself and probably sign out for a long long time i think a lot of cnc starts from trauma and victims taking their power back because they get the right to decide that type of enactment which like teach everybody's own to like feel how they want to heal and like what kinks they have i'm not going to kink shame anybody but of course it's everybody is the way they are because of something you know what I mean yeah okay one more question then I'm gonna

let you go what is the best and worst part of the industry for you best part is I guess getting to meet so many people and even just hanging out with them not necessarily working with them because I've met so many different like really cool people of many different realms you know you meet people at exotica you meet people online you meet people when you go to uh collabs and people other people show up so it's very interesting to see what dynamic of people you run into and get to know them and see like what their success story was or what's different you know between all of them what different niches everybody has so it's just it's just interesting to get a world view of like everything because I mean like any industry there's so many little nitty-gritty details to

all of it so I consider like the people the nitty-gritty details you get to see and how many people interact who's overcome what who overtops like being abused in the industry who you know it all comes to unfold and you get to see a lot it's like it's like having a storybook read to you but by meeting people totally uh the worst part i guess would be i mean you're always under a microscope but it's also like everybody else is under my microscope too so everybody's all very socially blended and when something goes awry everybody seems to be affected but this I feel like a lot of people don't realize that this is a job and like I may not fully like somebody that I'm working with but I'm I'm working with yeah that doesn't happen a lot it's not like

a very common thing I don't have any like hard judgments on anybody by any means but like when it comes to who you've been around versus what they've done or what you've done or however like sometimes people are just in a room because it's by chance yeah so I guess the a lot of the a lot of what the public doesn't see is the fact that we're we're there to do a job it's not necessarily to be best friends with each other and it's not necessarily to just hang out sometimes it's just a job sometimes you become friends out of it sometimes you have great experiences sometimes you have bad ones you don't know what you're going to run into until you start hanging out with a person and you know what you're going to run into like is it ever awkward when you first

meet someone like i like to work out and fuck yeah absolutely like i okay so i always think of it like this would you message men don't answer this would you message somebody and just be like hey wanna fuck no you wouldn't but for my job that's essentially what you're doing do you want to work together meaning do you want to fuck on camera yeah okay sure um so it's a little awkward at times um you know people fly in they'll stay with me and like the first like maybe three hours is a little bit awkward and then they kind of like get comfortable and realize everything's good and like we'll talk and things are fine I always tell people when they come out I'm like hey plan an extra day so we don't have to do anything that way we can just get to know each other and

if we don't want to work we don't have to at least we like understand and are comfortable with each other I tell people that constantly yeah and then there's there are people that are so used to like working with other people that they don't know that it's like hey let's work let's get out of the way and like I've been under both departments where I've not gotten to know somebody that well and then I have yeah it's a little bit easier like the more you do it um I get into my head quite a bit like when it comes to work now like I have to get into a workspace you know I can't I have I have I have been able to like separate negative mindset with work I just kind of leave my shit checked at the door and do what I have to do because I know it's how I make

my money you know you don't call off work when you're having a bad day or I mean some people do but I I never did I called off because I would wanted to get drunk there's that's way different but yeah I don't know I mean I've worked through hard times I've worked through low moments and then there's been times where I've worked through and it's been an ecstatic day and it didn't matter because I mean it's part of the job I get into a headspace I get into a creative moment I will say the one thing that I fail at is making TikToks with people and it's because like I just talk on tiktok that's what I mean when I say post whatever I want because like I just talk there's not usually many people involved unless there's like a skit or something then that's far

and few between but outside of that I mean I just try to like connect with people and make sure we're all on the same page everybody's got their safety and boundaries spoken about and everything's going to run well it's one of it's one of the only industries that I can think of that requires like that level of trust and like communication ahead of time during and afterward like I can't think of another industry that that's the case for besides sex work yeah it's it's all very like you got to make sure it's right you know you don't want you don't want to cross some of these boundaries you don't want yours crossed you don't want to you don't want to leave a bad impression you don't want to you don't want to let your personal life stuff get in the middle of like

what you're doing like I mean you gotta you gotta make do with what you got and not project what you got going on to other people you know what I mean yeah totally does your sorry this is actually my last question does your family know that you do this yeah uh my mom was pretty pissed when she found out um she was the last one to find out she was very mad we actually had like a three-day fight over the phone I have no problem airing out my laundry um we went we had a three-day fight over the phone because I lived in Georgia at the time so she couldn't do anything she was in in Indiana and she's just like slut shaming me telling me how much I'm gonna fail all this stuff and then like finally came around like three weeks later and she was like all right I've accepted

your job I don't like it I don't support it but I accept it and I was like that's all I care about just let me live my life and she kind of left it at that but she'll ask questions out of curiosity sometimes nothing that's gonna like make her picture anything crazy but she does ask like relationship questions and like how i'm able to do everything that i do with people that i don't know um but yeah my dad and my stepdad were super supportive i kind of like dropped the bomb on my dad when i was traveling right before i quit my job and like i didn't mean to do it and i was just like hold on before i continue just i want you to know i'm quitting my job and i do porn now And he was like, okay, I, are you making enough money to do that?

And I was like, yes. He's like, then do whatever you want. My mom, I guess, was so pissed off throughout the house. And like, I changed my number because I got harassed. That's, there you go. There's something that's different. That's negative in the porn industry. I got harassed to the point that I had to change my phone number.

Holy shit. But I changed my number and I texted my stepdad and I was like, hey, this is my new number. And he was like, do you not want me to tell your mom? And I was like, why? And he was like, because she was super pissed when she got off the phone with you the other day. And I'm like, all right, so here's the deal. I do porn now. I quit my nine to five. Don't worry about it. And he's like, okay, fair enough. And I texted him after and I'm like, I'm sorry if that was a bomb, but I'm not about to like shortcut you after mom's being vague. And he's like, I don't care what you do as long as you can support yourself and you're not in jail. And I'm like, all right, cool. hell yeah my sisters told me to never tell my family I told them first but I ended up telling I had to tell him dude my mom was like trying to figure out what I was doing yeah I would imagine that it would be like kind of a tough pill to swallow but I don't think that everyone's parent

would come around like that you know I mean even though she's still like I'm not happy about it but still just being like whatever just like do you and still have questions is like that's that feels big it is it is for sure she she has more questions about my relationship dynamics than anything else because my mom is very I want my son to get married and have kids and all this stuff and I'm just like mom I don't want none of that shit yeah yeah um so she'll like she'll kind of like watch my social medias to kind of like see if I'm dating somebody or like try to like convince me that uh settling down and getting married is what I want sometimes but I just like i don't think so you miss me with that you know just wear on a few more hail marys while yeah

i'm 25 bro i don't marriage right now you mom you want me to get married the same age you did you could you could kick rocks no i don't have my life figured out yet being lost is what makes life fun though is it not like i've been figuring this whole thing out for the last three three years on social media and two years on almost two years on of and all of it's just a gamble we're all winging it where can people find you do you want to drop your handles um if you want you can just uh drop brendanq.com because that'll bring up everything for everybody um and then except for my twitch because i haven't updated it yet q is spelled q u e u e okay well that's it i'll let you get on with your evening seriously thank you so so so much for talking to me i've

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