The HoneyDew with Ryan Sickler - Adam Ray - RayDew

Episode Date: July 8, 2024

My HoneyDew this week is Adam Ray! Check out his new special, “Like & Subscribe,” out on YouTube now, Dr. Phil LIVE!, or his podcast, “About Last Night.” Adam returns to highlight the lowlights of helping his father adjust to life after his stepmom's passing and having to move him into assisted living after a near-fatal fall. We touch on the genius of Adam’s Dr. Phil character and how a ‘yes and’ mentality is important in both showbiz and real life. Adam shares details about a fall that almost took his father and what it was like being told the news in the middle of one of his standup shows. Looking at how life has been since the accident, we discuss the stages of adjustment and acceptance that come with watching your parent's health decline.  SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE and watch full episodes of The Dew every toozdee! https://youtube.com/@rsickler SUBSCRIBE TO MY PATREON, The HoneyDew with Y’all, where I Highlight the Lowlights with Y’all! You now get audio and video of The HoneyDew a day early, ad-free at no additional cost! It’s only $5/month! Sign up for a year and get a month free! https://www.patreon.com/TheHoneyDew What’s your story?? Submit at [e-mail] CATCH ME ON TOUR https://www.ryansickler.com/tour Get Your HoneyDew Gear Today! https://shop.ryansickler.com/ Ringtones Are Available Now! https://www.apple.com/itunes/ http://ryansickler.com/ https://thehoneydewpodcast.com/ SUBSCRIBE TO THE CRABFEAST PODCAST https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-crabfeast-with-ryan-sickler-and-jay-larson/id1452403187 SPONSORS: Liquid I.V. -Get 20% off your order when you shop better hydration at https://www.LiquidIV.com and use code HONEYDEW Rocket Money -Stop wasting money on things you don’t use. Cancel your unwanted subscriptions by going to https://www.RocketMoney.com/HONEYDEW BetterHelp -The HoneyDew is sponsored by BetterHelp, get 10% off your first month at https://www.Betterhelp.com/HONEYDEW

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You guys know what we do here. We highlight the low lights. I always say these are the stories behind the storytellers. And I'm very excited to have this guest back on the do. Ladies and gentlemen, Adam Ray. Welcome back to the honey. Do you, Adam Ray? Right here. You're right here. Look at it. That one's not on me. Brand new to show this.

This is your camera back here. Could you imagine if every time you had to look back. You just saying brand new to showbiz made me immediately think of how many times when I first graduated, I went to college out here in 2001 to 2005 at SC. Where? USC downtown.

And when I graduated, I fell victim to so many like LA casting, backstage West, like, do you want an agent and be in blockbuster movies tomorrow? And I was like, yeah. And thought that was a real ad and went to these casting calls. I went to one with, I brought a kid who was a senior

when I was a freshman at USC. So it was while I was still in college. And I was like, dude, I know that like you're graduating in a couple of months and you're like concerned about your future, but I think I figured it out for you. And he was like, dude, I know that like you're graduating in a couple of months and you're like concerned about your future, but I think I figured it out for you. And he was like, all right. And so he came with me to this like open casting call thing. And it was a pyramid scheme to give them like we we sit down.

We waited about three hours and we're in a conference room. And they played this like informational, almost like, you know, grocery store employee training video type thing. And it was like tired of not being the star of your family. And did you move to Hollywood with Drake? And we were just sitting there and he was like, I think this is bullshit. And then the guy was like, guys, it starts at five K a month. We get you an agent in a week and then you are off and running. My buddy goes, let's get the fuck out here.

And we got up and walked out and he's like, dude, don't ever pull me in to these schemes again. He's like, what made you think it was legit? I go, look at the flyer. And the flyer, you know how sometimes you have to hear somebody's comment on something before you see it with the right set of goggles? It looked like a guy that was a cartoon. If you were to sketch, who's the mayor of Hollywood?

He had blonde tips and glasses and a bow tie. And he was on the flyer. And he's like, you think that guy was was gonna help us make it in this business? I was like, I guess I did for a minute. But just so- Turns out, go ahead, tell him. He's the inspiration for Dr. Phil. Turns out he's the inspiration for Dr. Phil.

He's currently my agent and his name is Danny Hollywood. And you can check him out at dw.com. That's so funny. But I just, yeah, you just saying make it new to the biz. Maybe immediately. Showbiz. Such a gross. Showbiz. They definitely use that term as well.

Big time. That's such a, I mean, you think about it now. Thank God we're seasoned and have been out here a while and just, you know. Been stepped on and shit on. Stepped on, shit on, trampled on. You've been at the bottom of Third Eye Blind Concert, reaching for your friends and family, and just hoping that like,

you would find just a path to get on. And it's like, when I do see or hear or have friends that will move down here now, I'm just like, man. There's a part of me that gets excited for them and is like, it is cool to come start and create something out of nothing, but they're now looking back, I'm like, man, I'm-

Well, look, I wanna give you your flowers because you're having such a fun time out there too. That's a great way to put it. That's the other thing about it. You're having a fun time doing what you love. Yes, it should all be fun. Making people feel fucking good. Totally.

And here's the other thing, how long you been in this business now? Man. How long you been in showbiz? So Danny Hollywood signed me in 2006. No, I graduated in 2005. That's when I would say I've been in LA for I guess 19 years. No, no, I'm sorry 24. Okay. But post-college is when I entered Los Angeles. Right. As a... And Dr. Phil doesn't come to what, the last three, four years? Bro. Two? September.

When you started doing Jeremiah and stuff? When I started with Jeremiah during COVID. Okay, so I'm saying, so 20 years in, for the people that wanna move here right now, and I got that, 20 years in, I didn't actually ever think of this. This thing happens happens and boom. It pops.

It pops a nice bump. Yes, for all of us. Like I think about all the time, like I've been doing this shit 20 some years. And when you do the math now today, I'm like, God, podcasting has been half of it. Yeah. And to think the first half of stand up

when it didn't even exist, like, you know, you wouldn't even see this coming or anything. Yeah. Yeah. Good for you. Yeah, I mean, I appreciate it. Enough of the positive stuff. Let's get into the low lights.

I do, I mean, and I, you gotta come do it at some point. We gotta find a nice pairing for you. Cause you're a great- I would love to do a lot. You're a great yes, Andrew. And that's all it is. People that come, it's a, I've made this, it's basically flexing all the muscles

that I think I've been honing over the years as far as character and improv and some acting and stand up and crowd work. But like having people on, that's not the best part that is, that are down to play. And you're the cream of the crop when it comes to that. So we'll figure that out. But they're all on YouTube. Yes. And I just had this conversation. Like, I'm not a big fan of improv. Even though I came from doing improv and stuff to begin, I started stand up, but I took improv. It's important. Yeah, I'm not a fan of watching it all that stuff. But the most important thing, one of the most important things I've learned in showbiz that's carried over in

a regular life is yes. And yeah, not just in comedy, but it applies to both relationships. Yeah, and. Yeah. Not just in comedy, but. It applies to both. Relationships. Yeah. Friendship. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That and also. Yes.

Not no, this shit. You know, if you sit there and want to shut everything down, that Dr. Phil doesn't work. If you're like, no, that's not OK doing all that stuff. You're exactly right. You got to lean into it. You know what it is?

Saying you're exactly right. And even in terms of relationships, it's like there's some you don't like. Maybe say yes and then add on like, You know what it is? Saying you're exactly right. And even in terms of relationships, it's like, if there's some you don't like, maybe say yes and then add on like, well, what about this? And try to like explore and find a way. I will do that, but it makes me nervous and I'm still down here to do it, yeah.

Yes, ending the Dr. Phil thing was, that was really for my own, the strike was happening and I was like, I'm so tired of being beholden to like auditions that come in waves. And I just was like, man, only a few of these are shows I really would really wanna be on. And at a certain point, you just have to really

look at yourself and go, I always preach control what you can control. And so it got to a point to where it was like, I don't feel like I'm in control right now or controlling as much as I can, which is the stage is for us to do what we want. And I was getting into this monotonous routine of like, I wanna do other stuff up there, but where do I do that?

Do I go to like a Largo or do whatever? And as you know, the store is so homey and I've just been there for so long and felt supportive in the true Mitzi Shore artist. Yeah, Emily's over there supporting everything right now. Totally. And having Burr just quickly how I did one there I did one there was I was doing, you know, Adam Ray and Friends shows, and then it was like,

all right, like what else can like that? Again, stand up, it just was getting, I was losing the joy for being out here. And like you said, Top, having a good time, if that's not a big part of it, I don't know what you're doing. This is fun right now. That's what I'm saying.

And it's crazy that we get to do this for a part of what our whole process is. I wake up in the morning sometimes or I leave here and I think I feel like we're cheating the system these days or getting like I'm like did I just go sit with one of my friends and laugh for two hours and then it makes people feel good and feel happy and they comment and they come see you live because they're grateful that you give a free podcast that isn't free to make. All those things. Yeah, it's wonderful. People appreciate all that. Thank you. Yeah, 1,000 dude. And so I had Burr committed to for an Adam Ray and Friends show and I was like, because he had canceled one and I go,

all right, if he's already on, what a great person to launch an idea like this. It'll make me raise my game because I'll take it more seriously, but it'll also give me juice if he's into it. And he couldn't, I was like, bruh, I'm thinking about doing this Phil show live. I've done these like podcasts during COVID and I don't know what the show looks like.

It's me doing a monologue, some crowd work. Then maybe you do some standup. And then we chat for an hour. He couldn't have gotten back quick. And he was like, buddy, fucking yes, dude, make fun of my anger issues, make fun of this, like fucking I'm all about it. And then that got me fired up to do it. And then after that, it was like, all right,

that was fun, now try it again. Cause then you get into the nitty gritty of, all right, we did one, but now just like anything, you're like, well, let me go back and watch the game tape and see how I could do better, what we could add, what we could, and that's the fun of everything that we're doing is creating from the ground up. I mean, look what you've created from the ground up,

just from yes, ending your own ideas. And it is, and I just wanna say this and then we'll move on, it is so easy to talk yourself out of stuff. I've done it many times, everyone has. And even the idea of doing the Dr. Phil thing, I was like, I had it probably months prior, but was like, nah, I have to do this. I just found reasons to go,

ah, the store's not the right place. I'd have to find a better theater. I'd have to do this. I have to start booking people again. And then I have to do this. I go, and then it just sounds like a lot. And it's like, dude, that- As soon as you-

Perfection is a form of procrastination. Yeah. Just get it the fuck out there. We're still making changes to the studio. So the worst thing that happens, dude. I'm about to change the background of this. Like, it's just, if I was like, well, we can't do this until everything's in place,

we would have missed a year. Yeah. Yeah. And then also, you know, it's all gonna come crashing down someday. So, and you know this better than anybody from your recent experiences that like, why the fuck not? What's the worst that could happen, dude? You throw a big dart, it misses a little bit.

Can you go pick up the dart again and throw it again? Probably. Unless you got no arms. But that's your problem, man. You got feet, motherfucker. You can lay on your back and tear on them that way. You got to speak, motherfucker. You can lay on your back and tear on them that way. All right, brother. I just wanted to say I love you. I love you too. Thank you. I'm so happy for you.

Appreciate you, Ry. And your last episode, so you've done two episodes. Your last was that, I believe, your father's wife was your stepmom. Stepmom, yeah. Past. And so how's he doing now? How's everything going for him? So that was how old your dad now? Just turned 81. OK.

Yeah. And mom's about to turn 75. So wait, he was 41 when he had you then, roughly. So that's my age when I have my daughter. Oh, really? Yeah. Just, yeah. How, yeah, that feels like, I mean, I'm 41, about to be 42.

Do you wanna be a dad? Yeah, my wife's got a couple years. She's about to be 29. So I think we're like a couple years. Your wife's about to be 29? Yeah. I mean, even at that young age, I still think you're just about to hit

that geriatric pregnancy window, bro. That's what they call it. Really? Yeah. What's that mean? That means like, you know, mother nature wants women to have babies when they're young and they have their periods. Is that why 16 and Pregnant was so popular? That's too young. I don't know why it was an MTV show. Let's move on. But I think I know what it was. I can't speak you to. But Mother Nature wants, you know, with the females that have babies young. Gotcha. And I mean, we didn't have my my I was 40 and turned 41 when she was born. My daughter's mother was 39 turned 40 when she was born. And they're like, Yeah, you're a geriatric pregnancy.

Wow. And I think they said the number, it might be like 30 couple. Holy shit. And that's considered old for a woman to have a baby because the whole mother nature thing. It's wild. Yeah, we're like, wait, we're senior citizen parents? Yeah, bro, you are. Yeah, we don't have a clock. I mean, she's good. Yeah. You're a geriatric fucking pregnant. Yeah, I don't want to be 60. I mean, when I was 10, we had a friend, uh, his dad was 80 and I didn't know you could do that. Why? I didn't know you could at 70 and go, I'm going to start a family. He really was 70 and he was the first adult that made

fun of me for being a fat kid. I didn't know, uh, adults, I didn't know adults could verbally abuse children, especially heavy ones. And I thought I was immune. I was like, I'm a kid. Dude. It wasn't a one time thing? No, it was once, sometimes three times a week. Cuz we carpooled to soccer practice.

And he's dead now, so but he would say, but he, I mean, dude, he would drive us home and I scored on my own team one time and he was like, you fat fuck. And then he said to me, yeah, and then he said, he goes, I'm surprised you can even see the ball with those big ass titties bopping you in the face. Wow. That's, I'll never forget that.

I'm sipping a Capri Sun and double fisting a fucking box of donut holes. So part of, you know, he had a point. He had a point. Yeah, there's a point. I had a problem, but there's a way to say it. And also, you're my right home. Like I he knew that I had no option. He's like, I know you're getting in my car.

So fucking strapped into that seatbelt. And, you know, what a piece of shit. Yeah, but but and I don't want to say it like thick and it didn't make me. You know, there's some approach to this to be like, that's what got me into comedy. Cause I realized you can rat on each other. He's so old though. I'm a child, it hurt bad.

How old were you like eight? Eight, nine, 10. So he's almost 80 at that point then, if he started at 70. And he was a spry 80 year old, but like sometimes he just spaz out. I mean, he would also eat like our oranges and snacks from halftime.

So we'd come over and he'd, that's another thing too. I'd be like, Beck, we didn't, uh, how come we didn't get any oranges? Oh, I ate them. Oh, I bet you were fucking, I bet you were upset about that. Yeah, I was, but everybody was. Don't single me out. The whole team was bummed there were no orange slices. So, uh, so, uh, all right. So my dad is dad is, he's chilling at home right now and he is solo. And let's take it back to March 28th through March 31st.

My buddy, Joe- This year? Yes, my buddy, Joe Sinclitico opened a comedy club called Olsen Run Comedy Club in Eugene, Oregon. Go check it out if you live anywhere in the Oregon area. Great club. They had a small room going. They were getting ready to open the big room.

He's like, we come through and help us get things going. And I go, 1,000%, my dad lives in Salem, Oregon. I'll fly into Portland, grab him, come down, and we'll have a great weekend. And we do that. My dad, my mom and stepdad are, look, they're traveling. They're 75 and 80, and they're around the grandkids a lot and they're keeping themselves just,

they're riding the young energy that's around them. And anytime we go home, we do stuff. And they're just taking, I think, a little bit better care of themselves. My dad posts his wife passing, definitely leaned into just being like, I'm gonna chill on the couch, I'm gonna watch my shows, I'm gonna drive to get my prescriptions, my groceries, I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna chill on the couch, I'm gonna watch my shows, I'm gonna drive to get my prescriptions, my groceries,

I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna get my hair cut, take the dog to the vet. He's got his mini trips, probably also shouldn't have been driving, but my brother was like, as long as he wears his Life Alert bracelet, you know, then I guess we'll let him kind of do this. His whole thing after she passed was,

I'm not going into a home. I don't want to, I know I'm 70, what, is I think six at the point at the time. And he was like, we called him a few times to kind of ask him about some financial things. And he was like, if this calls about telling me you're about to put me in a home, you might as well just fucking push me off the roof. And I was like, how'd you know that was a second option? And so he, he, wait, can I ask why is he wearing a life alert? Does he have health issues? He felt, he's just, he's, you know, I got him this new couch because he was just like sinking into it so now I can pop up.

He's moving around, but he's not, he got a treadmill to get on every now and then, but even that scared me because I'm like, I see those videos of people just hitting the wrong speed and then you're fucking on the ground. And so he just hasn't done a good job of walking and keeping his bones tight and everything and just been sitting and frail

and to where like a spill will really do him in. And so he did have a fall about three years ago and we were like, that's a wrap. We gotta get you into some situation where you don't have to fend for yourself. And he had this dog named Sophie, they just had to put her down who was like, I think, I wanna say 35.

I know dogs live till like 17, but she looked like she'd been around when like the dream team went to Barcelona and John Stockton went unrecognized. She saw Jordan. She saw Jordan. She saw Jordan with the bulls and the wizards. She was around when magic and Isaiah like when magic had AIDS and when he didn't. Ah! Ah! We'll be right back.

Ah! Ah! Ah! Ah! Oh shit. That's fucking funny. This dog was blind and deaf and like the eyes and just like weird teeth were growing in.

You hit a weird age that as a dog where things just start popping out and she just looked like, I don't think she'd showered in a while. I mean, she didn't, she didn't, he didn't bathe her. She was shitting everywhere. But it was like my stepmom got her. So it was like a little connection to her from my dad,

a companion. He talked to her, like we all talk to our pets. We do that, right? And she, she was just like around for him to kind of make him feel less sad. And so all good. But then he falls. And she was just like around for him to kind of make him feel less sad. And so all good, but then he falls. We're like, dad, it's like,

you gotta let us help you at some point. We're not doing this cause we wanna make you feel old. And like, it's just where you are in life. You need a little help. And like, you know, my wife's like, why wouldn't you wanna do it? Like you'd be in a place, you got friends, you got games, you got things that people

are bringing to your shit. And he just didn't want it. He was comfy in his space. And I think he didn't want to really leave the place where she was as well. And I can understand that. And to be honest, that's something that none of us just were prepared to do as far as pushing him out of that. He was so candid and genuine about like, don't make me feel older than I am.

Like, and don't I don't want to do this. And that was wild. Cause it's like, you fucking fell. Like you're, you just like, you weren't wearing your bracelet. Like we had to send out a wellness check and like, you know, sometimes you lose your phone and don't, can't get ahold of you for three days. He tried to take his sweatshirt off one day and got stuck.

And he thought he was going to fucking be stuck. He got stood, he got to take his sweatshirt off one day and got stuck and he thought he was gonna fucking be stuck. The hockey fight. He got, dude, he got stuck in his sweatshirt. We laughed about it very hard a week later, but he was like, I honestly thought I was gonna be stuck like that forever and I couldn't get to my phone, I couldn't get it off. I'm like, holy shit, I go, what was on TV? He goes, naked and afraid. So I would have been all right for a couple of seasons because I had it on replay.

And I was like, but he just needed, he's just at the point where he needs a boost. And so he convinces us to let him be, and then cut to Eugene, March 28th through March 30th, doing shows, driving back up, drop him off in Salem, go right from there to Austin to do some shows, and then from Austin to Detroit. And I see him on Sunday, we hang out for about an hour. All right, I'll call you tomorrow.

I got in this habit of more so than the other siblings, one of my brothers for sure, of texting him almost every day. Not just to kind of say what's up, but just to check in. Also, he's by himself. It's like, he's got some friends out there, but this is my way to have direct contact of like, you're live, you know, and then chat about some sports stuff, some whatever.

Sometimes at the night, he'll just go shows tonight. We'll get into that. I'll give him a call in the way. And so drop him off Sunday, text him Tuesday. Monday kind of goes by. I'm like, I'm going to let him just rest and text him Tuesday. No response. Go to Detroit on Wednesday. I'm like, all right, sleeping. He's tired.

The weekend tired him out. He was really moving around, staying in the room, just moving around, going to the shows. He just hit a blast, but he would only see one show each night and then go back and he was kind of tired. And then Wednesday comes around, texts him all the way to Detroit, nothing. I'm like, probably still napping.

And just chalking it up to like, all right, sometimes a few days goes by and he just maybe lost his phone again or something. I'll figure this out when I get to Detroit. Don't hear back. Thursday comes, nothing. And then I can reach up to my brother. He's like, oh, I see activity on his bank statements. I'm like, oh, okay. So just kind of put it out on my head, like, all right, he's fine. He'll just, I don't know. And then Friday evening, I'm getting ready to do the two shows, and this is now almost a week since I've seen him and four days since I've texted with him or seen him, he hasn't texted back at all.

And I go, hey, it's Friday, and I loop my sister in, I go, has anybody heard from him? And she goes, no, and then he's like, oh, the bank statement's still, you know, they're still coming through. I go, hey, are those auto charges or like charges he's done? And he's like, oh, the bank statement still, you know, they're still coming through. I go, hey, are those auto charges or like charges he's done? And he's like, oh, let me check. Oh yeah, they're auto payments.

I go, okay, somebody needs to go over there because he hasn't responded to me in almost five days and that's never happened. So I just had a pit in my stomach because I was like, oh man, he went down for sure or something. I mean, he's been blessed to have only a few surgeries here and there.

He had diverticulitis about six years ago, which kind of took him out, but recovered from that. Has never had major heart issues or anything. And so I was like, all right, maybe, I'm trying to be positive, but I'm like, he hasn't responded, that's not like him. Maybe he got caught in another fucking sweatshirt debacle. So I looped in my positive, but I'm like, he hasn't responded, that's not like him. Maybe he got caught in another fucking sweatshirt debacle. So I looped my brother, my sister's like,

all right, I'll send a cop over and figure that out. I'm literally about to go on stage. I put my phone on airplane mode, because I'm like, I know something's wrong, and I can't handle seeing my phone light up. And then being like. And then just, I'm like, I just, it's inevitable. So separate if you can, because I have to do this show.

I'm not gonna take the phone call and run off. It's just, I don't know, at least that's how I was approaching that. I was like, I don't, I'll deal with this afterwards. Cause I, and also it could take them time to gather all the info. So I get off stage, I go out, I'm taking pictures saying goodbyes.

And with this little fill bump, you know, I sold out this weekend in Detroit. I'd been there a handful of times, always half papered the room. So now it's sold out, so people are coming out. So the vibes are really fun. And you know how it is when people come out for you, it just makes the show way more fun.

But I'm in the lobby and I'm just like, phone in my pocket, didn't check it. Because now they were all like, oh yeah, this is weird. And I take out my phone and his friend he worked with, her name's Mary, who had done a few wellness checks for us, was calling and I just hit like silent, because I was like, I just don't, people are literally coming up, Dr. Phil,

you will be right back man. And I'm like, what's up man? And I'm just looking down and I'm like, we will be right back man, in just a second, but let me see my dad's dead. And so then they're coming up and that's just such a weird contrast of like, people are so, people could tell me they're,

we made a trip from New York, we flew in, we drove from fucking Omaha, we fucking do, this is as close as you've been in a while, you know, that type of thing where you just go to a spot you haven't been to for a minute so they're coming from all over. And then I looked down and Mary had texted me. And so again, I had left the stage knowing

wellness check is happening and maybe they're gonna get the landlord or whatever. And I looked down at Mary who is a doomsday tech texter. She's done this a few other times where she'll just go, call now, it's your dad, bad, with a period. And I'm like, there is a better way to structure that text. Like, or just call me.

So I look down and she says, they found your dad on the ground, he's been passed out for four days, he's in an ambulance, he's unconscious, they're taking him to the hospital. That's where I look down and finally leave. Yeah, and so now I look down and I read all that. Are you in the Dr. Phil makeup?

No, no, this is an Adam Ray stand-up show. Okay, got it. This is a weekend at the Comedy Castle. Oh, they were just coming up to you saying Dr. Phil makeup? No, no, this is an Adam Ray stand up show. Okay, got it. This is a weekend at the Comedy Castle. Oh, they were just coming up to you saying Dr. Phil stuff. Yes, I'm in Royal Oak Michigan at the Comedy Castle, Mark Release, this is just a stand up weekend. I look down and read, he's unconscious, been on the ground, he's on the way to the hospital, call me back.

And then I just look up and someone goes, Dr. Phil! And I was like, hey man! Hey man! We'll keep it man Hey, man We'll be keep right here, man Hey, man, we'll be right back man Yeah, hey, did you have a good time man? Oh dude how

What's that man, I don't like your fucking attitude man Your dad's in an ambulance. One second, man. I don't like your fucking attitude, man. Can you give me a second, man? And so, dude, I'm just like, yeah, so I just took a second. I go, all right, he's probably dead. I just like and then I just I swallowed that. I was just like, he's down. He's down for the. Here's the word is here's what I know from my dad dying.

The good news for you, which was not good for me, was that if an ambulance is taking him, he's alive. OK, and I only know that because we found our dad dead. And the first thing you do is call 911 and they send an ambulance. And that's when they tell you, hey, we're he's gone. We have to send a different car. They send the Batmobile, the body bags. Jesus. Yeah, they send the pick up.

OK, so they don't waste their ambulance. They're not putting a they're not putting a four day dead body into an ambulance and get that. No, there's no reason to waste that ride. I'm just saying, yeah, that's OK. So you're listening like, okay, at least he's alive. I didn't even know that. Yeah. I didn't even know that. I didn't know that till I found that out. Wow. You're sending the **** body bag. Oh god. Yeah. That's it. Oh god. I'm so sorry. Yeah. The body. Yeah. So, the body bag. Then, you know, then it's that's

them telling you it's fine. If they said, if you're if your aunt was like, coroner's got him. That's how she did. It's your dad, he's with the coroner. By the way, with the way that Mary would approach these situations, there's no telling, he could have been in the bathroom. Coroner's got him, he's actually just taking

a piss right now, Mary. There's no Santa, call me. She's like, God God she ruins everything. So I look down, I call my sister because finally I just I get through all the, I just I get through everybody. A lot of people stayed. It took about close to an hour to do this meet and greet and very thankful. Love it. It's just awesome and I and. And it was serving as a little bit of a distraction. It took me a minute to really be present again though with people.

And then I went outside and I called my sister and she's like, so they think it's maybe a urinary track infection, he is conscious. I'm like, okay, great. He's super out of it. He's been on the ground for four days. Four days, and did he not have the bracelet on or something? No. Yeah. And we got real mad at him, obviously. But he's been laying there. So what happened is he tripped, coming back from the bathroom in the middle of the night,

over a rug and went down and broke a bunch of ribs, shoulder, like collarbone, and was down and didn't have the bracelet. If he had the bracelet, he's, you know, I've fallen and I can't get up. They're there. 30 minutes, whatever. And yeah, Domino's time. And so he he didn't have that. He's down. He flaked.

He got himself to turn over, streamed for Sophie the dog, who, you know, she's again, like, I don't know, doing a Sudoku on the couch. She's fucking out of it. She's got her glasses on. What's going on? You still need me? It's fucking 2 a.m., man. I'm 35.

I'm 35. And so she's- That's 360 in dog years. Yeah, she's old. Now she's dead. RIP Sophie. Poor dad, he's losing everybody. Bro, he's losing everybody, man.

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Is he like an apartment building or is he in a Howard Johnson hotel? No, this is a, this is his house. You've done it a hojo's, which is, yeah. No, it was a little- You don't do room service now unless you ask for it. You know what I'm saying? Ha ha ha ha ha. It was a little like-

He was like, I'm only gonna be here one night. He actually did stay at a Hojo's for a while before he, when he first started working there at the VA to save money, he worked at a Hojo's. But so it was like a little two bedroom, two bath, one level house overlooking this golf course and a little like retirement community. Nice little spot.

Another reason why I think he was like, I like sitting on the couch. I got him this big TV in the couch and he's looking out of the course. Just kind of a nice thing, really nice area. So he's down. My sister was like, man, one more day, definitely would have made it.

The human body, I guess, can't go without water for more than- I'm saying, yeah. I think it's three days. So he pushed it and he's down and he was like, I hope they find me. So in my eyes, when I looked down at the text from Mary, I was like, he's dead is really sad.

And that like, I didn't even, I didn't know how to process that, but I accepted that. But what got me really like bummed was like, man, he fucking like, yeah, he fell and he either hit his head and went out or he was on the ground. Now I'm like, man, if he was on the ground and I didn't check in until now,

and he just fucking dried up or whatever happens, that got me really sad and then really mad at myself for being like, why the fuck did you wait four days? Why didn't you, you know what I'm saying? I always do that and I just, life and time just kind of got away and I just assumed he was fine. And thank God, you know, they got,

and so they couldn't get in. They didn't see, Sophie was inside, the car wasn't there. It was in the garage, I guess, but all the lights were off and they had to have the landlord break in because the cop couldn't like. It was in the garage, I guess, but all the lights were off. And they had to have the landlord break in because the cop couldn't like bust open. So they called the landlord over and that's when they found him.

And he had, yeah, had gone to the bathroom on himself, was super out of it. Got the UTI. Probably, yeah. And then he's in the hospital and my brother drives down immediately and they had to take their time pumping him full of, I don't know, potassium, vitamin, whatever it is because his all the flu is

sulfate or something was they couldn't rush getting stuff back to him because it could fuck up is give him some sort of brain issue. Oh is that right? Yeah. So I gotta slowly bring you back. Yeah so he's's out of for a while. Didn't recognize my brother, didn't really know what happened. Whoa. Then my sister goes down and he was like telling her about me. I don't know, I think the Barbie movie popped on the TV

and my sister was like, oh, you know who's in that? He was like, oh yeah, a friend of mine's in that. And she was like, oh man, like, and he was like, yeah, and he's like, oh yeah, you only got two lines in it, apparently, but he posted on Instagram anyway, and I was like, no, he didn't say it,

but it was a longer scene that got it down. Like man, your memory's really coming back. You do remember, yeah. And no, she was like, Adam, your son, has a quick little scene in the Bard movie, and he just couldn't put it together, and then was like, Adam, and then didn't know who she was, and then she fucking lost it.

He's that fucked up from that, huh? Yeah, and it was, at that point you were like, oh man, like maybe he's just, that's just a wrap then. The fall took it out of him and he's gonna be kind of, not a vegetable, but just really loopy. And now he's, it aged him is what it felt like, you know? He went from being, because when I was with him in Oregon, he was locked in dude.

And still as much as physically he's declined, more so than my mom and stepdad, they're all clicking and ticking. Yeah, they have the old age forgetful. My mom will say things and sometimes and struggle to jar the memory. But I'm like, everyone does that. And I don't look at that as like a sign of old age thing.

It's because she's still, listen, she's not just that's everyone does that. And I don't look at that as like a sign of old age thing. It's, you know, because she's still listen. She's not just on the phone like that. You know, that's how when they start getting like that, then you're like, all right, it's this is taking a turn. So he didn't seem like he was going to ever pop back. And then they sort of started to boost more stuff inside of them. And and he started to get a little bit more memory back. And that's when he was like, I remember falling, screaming, and, and we gave him a hard time for

the life of learning. He was like, you know, yeah, I know. I'm thinking about that too. Like he, the whole story is trapped inside this computer that can't spit it out. And so you're telling me that as he started coming back, not only does he recognize you guys, he remember what happened to him. He said to me, he goes, Oh, my favorite. I think he said to me, my favorite in front of my scissors. So, but you know, it is, I've, you know, I bought him a TV. So, you know, but, uh, and a new couch. Yeah. And, uh, and so, yeah, so that's wild to have them to know. Here's the, I can tell you what happened, but I'm so fucked up. and he remembered it but he was like struggling to take him to come

back to being himself so I'd say he's now we moved him to an inpatient rehab where my brother lives and and who just graduated medical school it's about five minutes away and so now we're about where the fuck was he yeah oh he went down immediately. Oh, yeah. Yeah. When it happened. Well, he's the one that was so adamant about the life of their bracelet and was like, really, you know, maybe I should get a neck. Yeah. Just keep it on.

Oh, my God. Hey, man, some people just are bracelet people. I just I take it off. I guess is more aesthetically, you know, it fits a vibe better. Yeah, keep it on. Yeah, it was really scary. Immediately I was glad that he was conscious.

That put me at ease. And then it was like, you go through these stages of, my sister's like, he's conscious, but he's super out of it. It's a weird thing where you're like all right he's not dead so that's because I thought he was based on Mary's fucking you know Santa's not real call me and then I'm like all right now he's alive but now he's out of it so now I'm accepting this new version of my dad and then and then that's a thing that you just don't accept right away. You're just kind of like, I need to get up there and be around it. But then I talked to him and he, he kind of recognized, started to recognize me, but still really out of it. And I mean, you

tell me, I don't know, it's, it's because I've dealt with it with many friends and family and stuff, but not parents yet. So, I'm, you know, stepmom parent, but like a parent that you really, you know, grew up attached to. And so having the just thought of like, oh, I have to transition now to like their, a shelving or there's just things we just can't, I'm not, I just, I go, oh, I can't call him

about the Mariners and talk baseball anymore. Cause I was just like, he's just things we just can't, I'm not, I just, I go, oh, I can't call him about the Mariners and talk baseball anymore. Cause I was just like, he's just, looks like he's just kind of now just floating. And so, and you don't actually digest that, you just, I saw that I was gonna have to grab onto that way of living, but didn't really let it see in because I'm like, I'm so Captain Positive glass half full.

Yeah, you are. And I try to be with a lot of stuff. I have my down days like everybody. But I just quickly, I think in life was like, I don't want to feel bad for myself or make excuses. But there's days because I'm a human where it's just like, you can't fucking help it. And you almost need to fucking let yourself sulk

to know that you can get back up and and feel the power and control of like getting on top of whatever bomminess kind of drew you down in the first place. Does that make sense? Yeah. I've had therapists tell me I'm right in that regard. Yes, you do. You have to allow yourself to sit in the shit. Yeah, totally. You need to sit in the shit and process it.. You need to sit in the shit. Yes. And process it. Understand what's happening

to me right now. Yeah, this is temporary. But you need to know what that fucking basement fucking floor is like, you do what the scary ugly shit is like. And then you can step up and rise up and bring yourself out. Yeah. But you know, what's down there. If you don't sit in it. It's just this thing that it's it's the boogie monster under the bed. Yeah. Yeah. No. Yeah. That's a great way to put it. So I. So, yeah. So so he's now in this inpatient rehab and he's.

Does he remember is he? Yeah. Now he's pretty much back to being. He knows you if you show up. I think so. Yeah. Call me Tyrone once. But that was I think because there's a guy that works there named Tyrone. No, no, he does. He does have a roommate, though, that he fucking this guy is a roommate. I think his roommates on his fucking deathbed.

Can I sit in this? This is what terrifies me. My dad yelled at him. He was like, he's like, don't turn the guy in the background. I was like, don't turn the light. He's like, I'm talking to my son, Gerald. And it was my first taste of like my dad having like an in that, like the home banter fight. And he was like, I'm talking to my son.

And he was like, oh, I get it. You have a son. Like threw it back. Like we get it. You have a son. My dad was like, yeah, I've been talking to him every time I've been in here. And this guy was like, let's turn the fucking light off. So what were you going to say?

I would say imagine being you live your whole life and you're stuck in a room with somebody else. Yeah, that was a big in your 80s. Oh me too. I'm thinking about that now. I didn't even consider that Yeah, every time in my mind. I'm like I'm in my own room. Yeah I would hate to have a roommate and your roommate also like is a piece of shit piece of shit Can't go to the bathroom by himself is constantly like talking to you while you're eating, like just, you know, you can't ever pick what's on the TV. It's the, it's-

Oh, and they share a TV. At this part my dad's like, you know, I said to him one point, because he was complaining about the situation, I go, how many times a day are you just like, man, I wish they would have just left me on the floor. And he started laughing, cause he was just hating for the situation he's in.

One more day. One more day. One more day. Man, I had my choice of the TV even on the floor. And so then, so now he's in this place and we're gonna get him into a living situation there. And what do you mean by that? So he's at the inpatient rehab

and they also have like living situations. So it's a home more or less too. Okay, so he can be taken care of, do his rehab. And he's five minutes from my brother and sister-in-law. And he's, he definitely, you know, it's so, what's wild at the end of this, I had to talk with him about three days ago. And he goes, he goes, man, I'm just not mobile.

And I'm just not like, I gotta use a walker to get around, which when he went to my brother's medical school graduation, he was like, I don't want to do that. And the nurse was like, you gotta just whatever, with these steps or whatever, no, I'll be fine. And she's like, I don't want to do that. And the nurse was like, you got to just whatever with these steps or whatever. No, I'll be fine. And she's like, you can't fall again, man. And just do it. And I go, dad, who fucking cares? And I kept saying, you're alive. And then we get on the phone a couple days ago, we're FaceTiming and he's like, he's like, man, I guess this is just the new normal, huh? Like,

this is just how I'm just kind of getting around. I got people to help me. I'm not very whatever. I'm this and that. I go, Dad, I go, stop feeling sorry for yourself. I go, you were on the ground. You got found. You're alive. You're fucking you're alive. You're in a great situation. You're five minutes from one of your sons and granddaughters. I'm still getting to talk to you like, but you're alive. I go, this is a

Everything is a bonus from there. You didn't have any crazy brain injury, you know, you got a UTI You got a UTI Dick infection. Yeah, you won the Super Bowl You have plenty of ribs. You can be a vegetable right? Yes You got plenty of you got two shoulders. You only broke. Your fingers are intact, you still got your hammer toes. Fucking, life is not bad. Like I, you know, I might join an adult softball league so you can come see me play baseball finally. You know, like there's a lot of positives.

All right, that went under the bridge. But yeah, but there's, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. That was one of my, he did. But those were my early jokes where I go, I go probably it was maybe third or fourth time on stage. I go, this show feels a lot like my little league games because my dad's not here. And it wouldn't get any laughs.

Really? Oh, maybe get one like, oh, in the back. But so I just really was the point why I'm bringing that moment up is it was wild to, and again, I don't think twice about it in the moment, but afterwards I was like, wow, what a interesting just spot in life where I, and again, captain positive, I do that with any of my friends that people call me, my wife, other family members, dirt T, my white rapper brother-in-law, man, it's just a third day. He's fucking concerned when he was going through a construction,

getting me these people, they asked me to do this fucking bathroom dog. And then I did, they added, and he's brilliant with his fucking hands. Just asked my sis. And he does so many things that people don't ask. And then he gets extra materials. And we went, we actually went the bathroom to have this type of tile. He'll do it and then he would just get fucked over, dude. They'd go, he's such a nice guy. They'd go, oh, we actually didn't want brown. We wanted light brown. We're not paying you for this for all the work,

like hours and hours and he just was getting fucked. He's like, I gotta get out of this world. I see videos of people like that online where they go back to the house with a sledgehammer and just start wrecking the tile and stuff. I almost flew up one time to go handle a situation with you. Yeah, it's wild, dude. Because you're paying for the materials, your labor, all that.

It's wild. There are a lot of shitty people out there that do that, and it's wild. And so he's like, my body's breaking down. I was like, is this one of your songs? And then he's like, no. I used to have this dumb joke where I go, no, I got a new single called Life Alert. Dirt Tay, write life alert based on dad's fault. That's a great.

I'm on the ground. For day. For day. On the ground. Nobody found me. I'm on the ground. My dog's 35. But give it up for my dog.

I got a UTI. But give it up for my UTI. Yeah. Dude, he, that's fucking great. Dertet, man. Dertet, man. Life alert, a new single. That's a fuck, dude. I'm not joking.

Tim, do it. Tim. I don't want to out you. Dertet is Tim, huh? Dude, he's a gangster, man. Timothy. And now he drives the bus, dude. Now he drives the bus.

What do you mean? He drives the bus, dude. Now he drives the bus. What do you mean? He drives the bus. He drives the fucking big-ass Metro bus, man. Does he? And he's just the fucking, he's the only guy that chums up.

He refs high school basketball and is like the only ref that like is like nice and chums it up with the kids. He's a real sweetheart, but a tough exterior. And so anyway, having to kind of just pick him up was a wild, like just a wild thing to kind of go through where like he, and then he thanks me now for the tough love. But I was like, I did it because that's just what I do instinctively if somebody in my life is like starting to kind of go, oh, I'm like, no, no, no, no, no.

And my mom did that for me a lot growing up when I was especially out here in LA. I call her after a bad set or some audition I didn't get. And she's like, Oh, cool. Oh, like the first time I did stand up in LA at an open mic, I was like, man, I went up at the laugh factory and you waited in line for like four hours to do the open mic. And then Jimmy Masato would give you feedback. She'd go upstairs and the owner of the laugh factory gives you feedback and I'm up there and I did a joke about being a fat kid and being the first one. It wasn't all that bad. It was the

first one in the fourth grade to get a set of tits. I charged my friends five bucks to fill me up. Candy money is not cheap. Thanks so much everybody. And I get upstairs and Jimmy Masada goes, buddy, buddy, you're out there. Every joke is look at me. Look at my fat fuck. Look at my fat tits. Come fuck my fat tits. I go, well, I didn't say that. I was, were you listening to the set? That was like, I did think about being big

and then buying candy and letting my friend, no, you're out there. I saw it. Everything was come fuck, come titty fuck me and my, at the barbecue, come fuck my tits. I want a tit fuck. I was like, man, I think we're talking about different comics right now, but all right.

He's like, come back in nine months and clean. So I come back in nine months, he's not there. But just the, going through that, my mom was like, oh, so you had one bad set, get back up. So that's why I've kind of always held onto that mindset. So I'm doing that to my dad and it was just wild to hear him take it, but also needed. And I'm like, oh, nobody else is my brother and sister and other brother, they're great and they're good and they talk direct,

but like everyone has their, I guess, different level of like how much they want to push down the wall or get in somebody's face. And I always told my wife to with with her dad when he had a heart attack and then kept smoking a little bit. I was like, you got to fucking get in his face. And she's like, I don't want to, but it's his life. I've never been my style. I go, cool. Then something will happen.

Then you can live with that. I go, or you fucking. And she did. And like, he fucking turned his shit around. And like, he quit because she, yeah, because she like like was a voice that like gave a shit and was concerned. It like he just wasn't getting that. And it also made him go like, oh, like she's really she heard it. He heard it in her voice. And it just takes a lot for people to do that.

I mean, I know just personally from from this, but also, you know, we also just get into this routine of like, everyone's living their life and you don't wanna like bust somebody's balls and you don't wanna like make them feel bad, really. But it's like, the alternative to me is, cool, make them feel bad, but also there's a positive way to get through to somebody.

You don't have to come down on them and say, you know, dad, stop smoking, you piece of shit, you're fucking this up. I don't want you to not be at my wedding, whatever that is. Like there's a way to tug at somebody's heartstrings and get them to make a change, you know, dad, stop smoking, you piece of shit, you're fucking this up. I don't want you to not be at my wedding, whatever that is. Like there's a way to tug at somebody's heartstrings and get them to make a change, you know? There's also something going on too,

as we're getting older here now. I mean, it's something, my dad died when he was 42, so I don't have to deal with putting him in a home or any of that, you know what I mean? I'm watching a lot of my friends and- You wish you did though, right? Yeah, yeah, but I'm seeing also a dynamic change where we become the parents. Yes. And now your dad is like the child where you're like, Dad,

where the fucking bracelet? Dad, do this, dad, do that. And you also have to, you know, seem to remind them and stuff. And then we become that role later on. And it seems to be like where you guys are headed with your or you're there now with your... Yeah, we're there and it's, you know, I think I've talked about this on the other appearances where it's like we, you know, lost touch really through elementary school, middle school, high school not so much, a few visits here and there, a year maybe, and then college is when,

you know, he kind of had a different situation. We kind of reconnected. And I realized that he needed somebody to talk to when he was, you know, had lost his medical license from doing open art surgeries and was in a studio apartment with his wife and three kids and working, you know, the cold call marketing, selling magazines type shit. And would call me when I was in my frat in college to vent and to

tell me funny stories about it but to also just talk to somebody about it. And so I'd be in a frat party and somebody would be like, dude, come rip this five-foot bong. Be right back. Oh, shit, you're going to use that someday. And so then I walk out and then I'm listening to him talk about this stuff and I was like, oh, he needs me. And my sister was always like, you know, he bounced early. So like they had a tougher road to get back to like now, but it's kind of beautiful because she went down there right away and you know, she's in the medical field

and she was all about it as far as getting him, giving him tough love and saying, you need to be in a spot. I've found all these good places. Here's where you're going. And yeah, you just, I think time gives everybody a little bit more perspective, you know? I've always been like, oh, help regardless because I feel bad and he fucked up with my mom

and the family situation. And so at least I can do is be there for him. And I want to also have a relationship. My sister had a little tougher path as far as like, you know, you don't ever reach out. We've been a little bit more touch and go, but now she's just more adult, more seasoned, more secure in her own life.

And also just like more aware that like, how much more time do I got? And I mean, if this person wasn't a true abusive, violent, whatever piece of shit. You would hope that you could move past whatever it was for the end of their life. Totally, yeah. I think everyone's got that in them,

but then I also get why. There's a lot of people out there like, good. Good on ya. Yeah, sorry. Fuck you, buddy. Yeah, bum, they found you. Yeah. Yeah. Can you imagine taking a fall like that? What would you what would be your first move if you broke?

I'm going to say this. I say this all the time, too. I think this a lot. I think pets. For older people are death. My dog gets right up on my fucking legs all time and almost trip over it. I think about all the time, like if I'm 80, I'm tripping over this fucking dog. Oh, yeah. And I'm dead because of the dog. My first move, if I'm your dad and I trip over it. I think about all the time, like if I'm 80, I'm tripping over this fucking dog and I'm dead because of the dog. My first move, if I'm your dad and I fall like that and I can't crawl, I can't do anything. Fuck. It's

tough. Yeah. I mean, you're stuck there. You're yelling until you're exhausted and no one hears you. Yeah. I haven't yet talked to him about like, what, like, what were you thinking about? That's what I want to know. He's like, I should have been a better parent. Yeah. Yeah.

Did you have time to reflect? Cause day one and day four mentally are different days. He's losing it by day four. Oh, no water, no food. Day one is like, you know what I mean? I would love to see the time. Bro, it was his version of Castaway. You know, he fucking, he's on the ground,

he's like, all right, they'll find me, they'll realize, they'll call, they'll do a wellness check ASAP. So there's gotta be, I wonder if there's a part of him that was like, I wonder if they know I'm here, but because I didn't come see him play the Tin Man in the Wiz, he's like, let him sit for two more days. Is this because I didn't come that long away the Wiz, he's like, let him sit for two more days. Yeah, but I was, yeah, I do. He said he got tired. I was like, did you sleep? Because I passed out at one point and then you have to, yeah, because you're

just out of boredom too. And where was he in the house? Where is his room? In his room on the floor. Yeah. And then I just couldn't, you know, his room, there's no phone in there or anything. No. How close is he to that's the other thing. Is it right here? I always feel like if there's ever like a devastating earthquake and then this is like the food right here.

I feel like I'm going to be trapped and I'm just like, Oh my God. Like what if you're that? That's your dad. Yeah. What if he's there and the phone slid under the bed and it's just right there halfway like. Yeah, I mean, he said he could not pick him up. And also what if there's snacks there, but there's no water. What if there was a little box of Wheat Thins,

he's a big Wheat Thins guy. What if there's a little box of Wheat Thins and he's like, I want them, but then I don't have anything to wash down the crotch so that I'm just gonna dry out. Is it worth the last few bites? And then we find him and they're like, and he, maybe he found a pen, so we wrote a note. We got a bunch of dry wheat,

this is the dad's mouth. I'm not saying I'm not ruling that as the cause of death. I'm just saying. I'm not saying that's what took them out, but Hey man, we've all dealt with dry mouth and these look more like wheat six. Oh my bad. It's a Trisky. Okay. Oh my bad, it's a triskel. You gotta ask him what that mental state was. It's one of the benefits of being alive. At some point also, you have to come to an understanding and agreement with yourself like,

this might be it. This might be it. Oh my, this is how I go. Yeah. You gotta have that thought. Totally. No one's coming, no one's coming, I can't yell anymore, my ribs. I go. Yeah, you gotta have that totally no one's coming No one's right. Yeah anymore my ribs. I didn't ask him out, but that's heavy. Yeah that moment where you're like Fuck dude, that is your dog. What's the dog's name? Sophie Sophie silver over there licking them and shit Yeah, I mean, I don't know what she was looking she went mine and not even been in the room, but she yeah

No, he did say she was sitting, she came in and was sitting, cause again, blind and deaf, but she probably knew like, all right, dad's not a big floor napper. So this is odd, you know? But yeah, wow. Man, thank you for coming and sharing this with me.

Bro, yeah, and thank you for asking. He's alive and well. Yeah, you gotta ask him those questions. Yeah, I would wanna know. Thinking about if this is it. Like when do you hit that moment where you're like, fuck, I'm gonna die like this. Holy shit.

I wonder. I did not even think about that. Cause I guess if you're just, at some point too, if you go to, and he didn't even know what day it was or what time it was, he would just see like the sun come up and the moon come out, you know how time works. Yeah, I've been around here a little bit. Yeah, I guess we could go, yeah.

Really what I should do is, well, we don't have time for it, but next time we'll come on, we'll get, we'll zoom in Mary and you can hear who sent the doomsday text and get from her vantage point how things went down and see how completely off she was in her depiction of what was happening. But you need those people by the way that are at least she was like there and quick to like get things orchestrated and not just kind of chalking it up for a loss.

Yeah. Well, I'm glad. I'm glad you still have your dad. I love you, brother. That is not easy to deal with. Yeah. Again, promote everything. Let them know about all of it.

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