The HoneyDew with Ryan Sickler - Bobby Moynihan - MoynihanDew

Episode Date: December 9, 2024

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I always say that these are the stories behind the storytellers. And I am very excited to have this guest here with us today. Please welcome Bobby Moynihan. Welcome to the Honeydew Bobby Moynihan. Hi, thanks for having me at the Night Pants studio. I like that term. Yeah, I created Night Pants.

You can appreciate this. People used to make fun of me because I would say, I just want to go home and just put my night pants on and chill. And they're like, you mean pajamas? I was like, no, they're night pants. No, night pants. Yeah, I've hit the- Bro, we're getting you some night pants.

Done. We're having night pants. I'd like a night shirt and a night hat, preferably a little super, super long one. Yeah, dude. Keenan Thompson introduced me to the wonderful world of tracksuits. And I went like, done. I'm done forever. Since the pandemic. of tracksuits and I went like done. I'm done forever. Since the pandemic, I've had jeans on like three times.

I've been in my life. I don't care what I look like. I picked this hat. Why? It was there. I love fashion. Well thank you for being here. Thank you for having me.

Yeah, dude. Please, before we get into whatever we're going gonna talk about, plug everything you'd like. Oh, I have a podcast called Who Me on Comedy Bang Bang World, cbbworld.com. You could check out NCIS Origins. I'm on that every once in a while as obviously Dr. Woodrow Brown, a doctor, a forensic scientist for NCIS.

That's a big deal, dude. Yeah. Yeah. Are you learning, actually learning stuff? The only thing I learned so far is how to hide a real machine gun inside of a super soaker. What? Yeah.

There's people out there doing that with their minds. That was one of the episodes where they were trafficking guns and they were hiding them What? Yeah. There's people out there with their minds. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Where they were trafficking guns and they were hiding them inside plastic guns. Although I don't understand, like that's, it's not really that smart. It's just 3D printing. Case around. Yeah, I guess. Maybe that episode was short.

Maybe it was a half hour episode. I guess I just mean like, I just love the idea of like a cartel coming through some sort of customs. They're like, I think they're fine. They only have 3,000 supersokers. 3,000 supersokers, guys. Let them through. Shouldn't be a problem.

Give them a special late over here. I did not read the full script. I only read my scene. I want to say this to you. My daughter and I have a special bond over you. Oh. Yeah. You hosted, or at least we're a big part of,

and correct me if I'm wrong, but the Muppets take the bowl. Oh, yeah. You hosted. One of the greatest days of my life. Yeah, and I did the Muppets take the O2 in London. Oh, you did? Yeah. And so I took her and her brother, my stepson,

to see that that night. And she's- Oh, you were there at the Hollywood Mall. That's amazing. And I remember you hosting it. And I told her last night, I said, do you remember? And what year was it? I'm trying to remember how old she was.

So she's five, four or five. Yeah. She's four. My daughter was just born. I think it she's five, four or five. Yeah. She's four. My daughter was just born. I think it was the summer, wasn't it? 2017? So she's like four or five.

And I remember, she remembers, excuse me, there was a whole bit with Fozzie Bear where he was lost backstage and he could not figure how to get the fuck out there and blah, blah, blah. And to this day, she remembers that. And I was like, yes, the guy I'm having on tomorrow is, you know, who hosted that show that we went to see.

So just wanted to say you did a great fucking job. Thank you. That was one of the greatest nights of my life. Yeah. Because that one thing just one offs just one here and one there. And that's kind of it. It was. Yeah, it was a it was let's do a Muppet show live, like with all the like, you know, like kind of greatest hits are from the Muppet show. It was like a Broadway show. And then we did it live at the O2. And then I think the idea was move it to Broadway and do Muppets Take Manhattan and the pandemic hit.

And then it all kind of went away. Boom. Yeah. Well, thank you for being here. I first of all, where are you from originally? Space? Eastchester, New York. I'm sorry. I know. Eastchester, New York.

Is that like upstate? Where is Eastchester? Westchester County, like right outside the city, like 20 minutes away from Yankee Stadium. All right. I don't know why I picked Yankee Stadium. I just did. That's okay.

And family, mom, dad, brothers, sisters? I had all of them. You had all of them? I had a mom, I had a dad, I have a sister, and that's it. Okay, so just two kids? Yes, in my family, yeah. And then I- It was me, my mom, my dad, my sister.

So I asked you before we were talking out there, like, you know, hey, and you dropped a bomb on me. And you know, it's, I really want to get into it because what you said to me was that you lost both your parents within what six months of each other. Yes. Very close to each other about six months after my daughter was born, my first daughter. First? Oh, yeah, bro. Stunk. It's okay now. Yeah, but no, it's not. But there go your parents, there go her grandparents.

I mean, all in a fell swoop. Yeah, so this is going to be a fun podcast. This is what this is. Yes, I'm not joking. Tell me what happened. So your daughter's born when? Oh man, I hate dates and math. Don't worry about it. I'm so sorry. Yeah, it's okay. My father was sick for a super, super long time. He was a bad alcoholic, but he had epilepsy.

He had a lot of problems. Okay. Health issues, I should say, not problem. And mom spent most of her life kind of taking care of him and not worrying about herself as much because she was, everything was around like him and his pills and every, had to make sure dad was okay all the time.

So they were always together like they were that couple. Yeah. I mean, married, stayed married. Yeah, Archie and you know, like Archie Bunker. Sure. My dad was Archie Bunker. Copy that. And my mom was not. And she was a kind, gentle soul who just people pleased everyone, but the best, you know, very kind lady, the nicest lady in the world. She worked in the town. My dad owned a liquor store. In his life, he owned a gas station and a liquor store. He has epilepsy and he was an alcoholic, so he couldn't drive a car or drink alcohol because he was on medication. He did the two things he shouldn't do.

That's what I was going to say. He owned a liquor store and a gas station. He rebuilt cars. Would he drive them? He crashed. He had a seizure behind the wheel of a car and crashed into a house. Whoa! With epilepsy, broke in a coma from my sister's birth, I believe.

Did anyone in the house get hurt? No. No one was hurt. No. Yeah, coma for a long time, No one was hurt. No. Uh. Uh. I yeah, coma for a long time, but never really walked well again. Always had that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Just like had a lot of problem, but continued to drink and just. Dollar heart, nickel

brain dad and uh and mom was his caretaker and then I became a comedian because of it, or obviously, and had kids. My daughter, she's seven now. How old are you, Bobby? I'm 47 years old. I will be 48 in January. All right, yeah, that's when I had my daughter,

about I was 40, 41, pregnant 40. She was born when I was 41. Okay, and how old is she now? She's 10. And you have the one, and that's it. I had my daughter about I was 40 41 pregnant 40. She was born when I was 41. Okay How old is she now? She's 10 and you have the one and that's it and her brother Yeah, he's my stepson, but he's also 21. So I don't we're out of the woods on him Yeah, I have a seven-year-old and one. Yeah Yeah, but first daughter the best wonderful the Muppets at the O2,

we had her and then two days later she was on stage. No way. Like a peanut. Like a peanut, like of a baby. Two days later on stage with like Sweetums and Kermit before the show, we have pictures like, and I can't believe we did it. like I can't believe we picked up that baby put her like in literally in my pocket put her on a plane and moved to Los Angeles we moved water like moved and from New York is that where you were I

started the Muppets and then the next day I started filming a oh wait pilot or a TV show called meet myself and I. I can't believe I did it. So you were... And survived it. Yeah. Okay. So you didn't just come do the show and you were like, now this is our beginning of the move? It all... I'll be 100% honest with you, it's all melding together. But in some capacity, yes, we were just there and all of a sudden... but yeah, we had the baby on stage.

Like it was all so crazy. I remember my mom and dad met Dorothy. Like they got to meet her. We had like a couple, like, you know, like, they got to meet her and see her and it was wonderful. But then we moved. And so for like the last month of my father's life and then the last six months of month, we weren't there. So like it was pretty nuts. I remember like the one heart,

oh God, this just popped into my head was like that Mother's Day after my father passed away, my mom was like, are you coming home? And I was like, I have a job on Mother's Day. And it was a parade at Disneyland for DuckTales. I was on this show, DuckTales, Louie on DuckTales. And it was like Ben Schwartz, Danny Pooty, like all the, and like, I love that cast. I love all of those people. We got along like gangbusters, that cast. Like we still all talk very, we're very close. And I remember going like, I hope you don't mind. Like I'm going to, I think I'm going to do this.

Like I'm sorry. And it was Mother's Day and I never saw her again. You know, it's like, I didn't go. I chose that DuckTales parade and that'll kill me for the rest of my life. But like, I'm sorry. Yeah, it's okay. I know, I know. And it's DuckTales. DuckTales, woohoo. Yeah, I saw my daughter the second we walked. I'm not glad I did, but like, you know what I mean?

Like it's just like, in retrospect. It's a life choice. Okay, now with hindsight. You think about those things and then you come and tell that on a podcast, right? That's what you're supposed to do. Yeah? That's what you're supposed to do. That's what you're supposed to do. You're getting it out, bro. You're doing great. I tip my cap to you, you know? But yes, sorry, I'm jumping all over the place, but six months after... Stop there for one second. Hindsight. Would you go back and...

Save my parents' lives? Yes. You son of a bitch. Knowing what you know now, would you go to the parade? Would you still do? You wouldn't. You really would. Who chooses? Sorry. I'm a huge DuckTales fan. I think Ben Schwartz is real funny. But if it's

who would you like to do? Talk to your mother for the last time ever? Or go on a double decker bus with Ben Schwartz and Goofy. I'll choose the last time with my mom, I think. Yeah. I love you guys. I love DuckTales. Okay, so real quick. How did your mom take the news? Was she still a mom about it? Was she like, I totally understand? She 100% understood.

Like nobody knew it was gonna be the last time. He was like, I'll see you next week. Like, you know what I mean? Like it wasn't that. It was very shortly after. Okay, so six months after, sorry. Something like that. Yeah, it's all very shortly after. Okay, so six months after, sorry, you were saying. Or something like that, yeah, it's all- But your dad. Very shortly after,

my dad passed away, but we saw it was coming, he went into the hospital, we knew. Well, it had happened multiple times, and to be honest, it had gotten to the point where it was like, well, the last five times were this is the last time, so we'll see. I see. Like, you know, like it had,

we had kind of gotten a little jaded because it was like, oh, he's not going to make it. We'll see. Yeah. Like kind of shitty in hindsight. You know what I mean? Like. Were you there when your dad passed?

No. No. Well, I was in the city. I was in New York City. They were in Westchester. My daughter had just been born and my mom called me and was just like, man, and I was literally like, no, seriously?

Like, I remember thinking like, no, fucking way, really? This time, huh? Wow, this was the one. And was it at home? No, he was at a facility. So now Dad's gone and you guys move out to California. Yeah, we had I had gotten a job. SNL was over. I got married. It was a very like as it sounds like a whirlwind married.

Had a kid move to California and started, had a kid, moved to California, and started a sitcom called Me, Myself, and I, and just like bang. And then we were sitting here watching Drag Race. We were watching RuPaul's Drag Race. And I look at my phone and there's like I look at my phone and there's like 20 missed calls and a bunch of texts from my mom. And I'm just like, well, this can't be right. It's like almost midnight. So that, or sorry, it was late. So it must have been like midnight in New York.

The timing, I remember thinking like, what is this? And seeing it and going like, oh no, I've been watching TV and this has been happening for a while. And like one of the texts that I saw was like, everything's okay, but like call me. And I called her, I ran into the garage, I called her and she was super calm, but I could tell

that something was off. She was like, hey, I'm in an ambulance right now. My stomach isn't feeling great. I just wanted to let you know. I just wanted to call and let you know. And she was so calm. And that was the last time I talked to her. What happened? She had health issues. She had a hernia. Like a lot of stuff was going on and she had stomach issues. They tried to do surgery. She got sepsis and she didn't make it through surgery. Just like that. And so who calls you to tell you that then? The hospital? Mr. T. No, I'm just kidding. Sorry. Um, uh, my, um, my.

Could you really imagine that? If Mr. T had a job to call and tell people their relatives bad. Uh, pity the fool gets bad news. Are you kidding? Amen. Amen. I would be someone, I'll just a hug. Like, wait, what? Just a hug for Mr. T. I would enjoy.

My sister, my sister. No, I'm completely lying. Gosh, this is so dark. No, I got a call from the hospital essentially saying, like, she's not going to make it. What are we going to do? Your sister's on the phone. We have to make a decision here. And it, like, she's not gonna make it. What are we gonna do? And your sister's on the phone, we have to make a decision here. And it was like, rough. Man, you had a conference call like that. Yeah, yeah. They got you together. So you guys had to make the decision, why? Because it was just gonna be life support, basically,

and they weren't gonna be able to save her. Yeah, and she had had some pre-existing thoughts or something like, if this happens, this is what I want. And we just kind of went like, here you go. Man. Yeah, it's fun. It's super fun being an adult. And then being an adult, it's like being a kid,

a big kid with a beard. Isn't it nice that if we're lucky to live long enough, a lot of people die on the way? Isn't that fun? I saw an interview the other day, TikTok, with Sylvester Stallone of all people, and they asked him if he had advice. And at this point in his life, if he had advice, what would it be? And he just, Sylvester Stallone, he just goes, I find that from the age of one through

40 is all about addition. My Sylvester Stallone is terrible. He goes, I think one through 40 is about addition and 40 until you die is about subtraction. And I went like, he's not wrong. And I've been thinking about it. I don't know if he's wrong or right. I think he's extremely right. You think subtraction meaning less alcohol, less negative people. I can see that. You spend your life going life is this. And then you hit 40 and you realize it's not, it's not guaranteed.

That's it. It's not guaranteed. It's not guaranteed to's not guaranteed. That's it. It's not guaranteed. It's not guaranteed to. You know what? Continue to add great things. Now you say it. It does. Yeah. Yeah. It takes a minute. But I've had less alcohol. What you have to do is you have to be on the.

So that's just a little. Yeah, I was going to say a little bit too many jabs from all weathers over there. Yeah. You know, I think that's me, too. I understand that mentality. I didn't mean to cut you off. No, please. Especially in your own podcast. It's your episode, Bob Moine. Thank you.

Okay, so wow. Both parents gone within months of your child being born. And how are you dealing with that? Do you find yourself almost feeling guilty that you're enjoying this newborn when you've just lost someone so important to the first one. The first one, it was harder. The first one was like every milestone, like first step. And like you just wanted to, I just want to send a video to mom or even advice, you know, reaching out to being able to look them in the eyes and say the sentence like, oh my God,

I thought getting SNL was gonna make you proud. Like, I'm an idiot. Or like, oh my God, I just did this with a child. Can I apologize to you for all of that? Cause I get it now. Like all just, just I became a human when I had kids. I became an adult human. Yeah, I I say all the time, man, parenting is a it's a long game.

Yeah, I hate you for a little while, and it's not till they're about 30 when they come to you and be like, how the fuck do you do all that? And then you're like, oh, glad I lived long enough to have this conversation. Crazy. Yeah. And I'm late. I hope I do. Yeah. My dad died when I was 16. So I always, I would love to have conversations with him and just, you know, what'd you do here? What'd you think of this? You know? But that's it. It's my dad's dad and my dad's mother died when he was super young and then his father worked with him and died. So never being able to understand that and going like, hey, dad, I'm so sorry. What was it like growing up without a mother? Is that why you treated me? Like I was stupid. And just never

was able to have real conversations with them. Yeah. Cause I was still a kid. Yeah. And I was still a kid. They died when I was 40 something. Yeah. I was still a child.

You're always their kid though, that's the thing. But there's pre-kid and after-kid and there's no way to explain that. I don't think in your mind, no one tells you what it's like to have a child. You just learn it and opposite like it's, it's like crazy. All right, I gotta go. It's also, it's a lot. It's a support system that's gone. That's not just your parents. You know what I mean?

Or how would you rely on that? Yeah. And yeah. The auto response almost to be like, oh, I want to take this video and send it, you know? And now you have to consciously think, oh, I can't. Yeah. It's fucking tough.

So how did you deal with it? How did you get through something like that? I started therapy after that. I had to. You never had done before? No. OK. Not for any reason. It was just. Dude, it's just nice. I started therapy after that, I had to. You never had done before? No. Okay.

Not for any reason, it was just... Dude, it's just nice to have somewhere big on it. Yeah, now I am too, but like, you know, I guess what I mean is like, I feel like my, if I had said now to my father, you should go to therapy. Like I think there's a, I would love to see, my dad died before pandemic Trump, like right before everything changed.

Black Lives Matter. Like I wish I got the chance to see what side he would, because I feel like my dad would have been like, my dad was one of those, he was Archie Bunker. He was one of those guys that like, Well, then we know. Like, you know, to me, he would be like, I love you fatso.

Like, you know what I think? Like he meant well, but he didn't understand. Like, like, like that, like it's like it, drunk uncle is that like SNL is just like the lovable idiot who really has a heart of gold, but maybe his parents grew up with the wrong terminology. Like that kind of gold, but maybe his parents grew up with the wrong terminology. That kind of like, it's the lovable racist, but now that's done. It's not funny anymore. So I'd love to see what side

he would have landed on. I think he would have landed on the good side. I think he would have been a little pissed off with a lot of the stuff that's happening. Maybe not, who knows? But I never get that. It's that too. I'll never get to have those conversations. All right. With all that said, what kind of grandfather do you think he would have been? Oh, the best. I got to see it for like a month and I watched the videos once a year. So he actually did get to hold his grand-daughter and stuff. One of the kids, yeah. Yeah. And he would have been the best. You think he'd be a better granddad than dad?

Softer, I mean little changed. I guess changed, not better. Yeah. Yeah, but he was, yes. And what about your mom? She sounds like she'd have been like the fucking bad. It was me and my wife. We've never had a nanny babysitter. It's just been like the fucking bad. It was me and my wife. We've never had a nanny babysitter.

It's just been me and my wife. But, and to keep thinking about like through the pandemic, like she just would have moved. My mom would have raised me, my wife and my children. That's what would have happened. The second the pandemic started, we would have said, come here, we would have come here and thank you and continue, continue, continue raising us.

And we're in another. So how do you keep their memories alive in the house for your kids now? You have pictures everywhere. We have them stuffed and they are in the center of- I love you. Comedy is how you cope, right? Yeah.

They're both, we shave their heads. Mohawks, full chains, Mr. T style. We're going full Mr. T. I don't know why I'm Mr. T so much today. No. No, we are very fortunate as parents that we live in a time where Pixar does the work for us. I have been lucky to have been in a couple Pixar movies and that company is responsible for being able to explain life to children better. I truly believe that the movie Coco,

I saw the movie Coco for the first time on the plane on the way to my mother's funeral. Oh my God. Not knowing what it was about. Yeah, yeah. And it changed my life and like where my daughter loves it and Soul, the movie Soul came out in the middle of the pandemic. So like, when I was when I would get emotional.

My daughter who was five or four at the time, whatever was at the time this happened. I remember getting emotional and she was just like, it's okay, they are like, she explained it to me the way. Yeah, the movie taught her. In soul. Yeah. So they have a completely, they already have a completely different outlook on everything. They're better than me. They're

better than my parents already, thanks to Pixar. That's a commercial. Cut that for you, bro. Sorry, yeah, yeah, yeah. No, no, no, you know what I mean? Like it's a- Yeah, no, so my, again, my father,

so I miss him terribly, you know? I was a kid, I still miss him. And so then I have my daughter, I have pictures of them everywhere and I tell her about them. I tell her stories about them all the time. I keep them alive with, oh, your grandfather would have loved you. He would have done this and he would have been on your side and he used to do this and take us here and there.

And then one night, I mean, she's probably like probably right after the Muppet Show thing. She just takes a picture of my father who she's never even met and hadn't heard a voice, nothing and just picks it up and looks at me. She goes, I miss my grandfather. Starts balling and then I'm over there like, we have this moment together over this dead man who I haven't seen or heard in what fucking almost four, 35 years and she's never met. And I'm like, wow, fuck yeah. I appreciated it.

You know what I mean? Like, so I'm a little all over the place, but like the Coco thing was, that's where I was, it was like, we learned from Coco, like we have a picture of her, like we have pictures. And because of Coco, like the whole thing is like, if your family has a picture up, they will remember you and they will, like, you know, like whatever. So that is very prevalent. Like she talks about, we have to have pictures of them. They have to be. Not often in an office somewhere and just a couple of takes, you know, I, we got of takes. We have them around the house and stuff, so they're prominent. Yeah.

Like this is what your grandfather looks like, and not just one black and white picture in the kitchen. Another just strange side thing is, my father is buried in New York, and my mother was cremated, and we have her ashes in a jar in our living room and that's another weird thing is like, when do I tell my kids that that's mom? What's in there? Like, you know, it's like, don't throw the ball

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Yeah, so that's another weird thing too that I always- You're like, that's grandma. I'm like, what? My mom would love this. When we were moving from New York to, why I'm saying this on a podcast, when we were moving from New York to LA, I had nothing to put it in, we were moving.

I didn't know what to do. I didn't feel like I know what to do with it. So I put it just because it was the perfect size and no other reason. It was just the only box that I saw when I looked around what was left in my room. We put it inside a box of the Drunk Uncle Funko Pop from SNL.

No. And I put it in my backpack. And all I kept thinking was, if they stop me at the airport, Yeah, how do you even explain that? I'm gonna have a Funko Pop box of a character kept thinking was if they stop me at the airport. Yeah, how you, how you gonna explain that? A Funko pop box of my character that I did on television with my mother's Asher's inside.

They didn't stop you. I could stop taking lanyards through the fucking, I couldn't imagine bringing a powder through there. They just let it roll? Yeah. I convinced them we can take anything we want through TSA. That's not a weapon basically. To be honest, I think I was like, hi, my mom's,

I think I explained, I think I gave them a heads up and they were like, we get this all the time. But like, yeah, there was no, there was no problem. And the rest was just dildos and guns in the bag. Mr. T-Chain. Mr. T. J. Mr. T's chains that I was returning to him. I love that man. Hope he's doing well. The How about your in laws? The your does your wife have

parents? Or is there some great wife comes from a giant family. She's got like a six sisters like you know, like that. She comes from a huge family that side and we were very small, very large age gaps. So there was like, my mom had a lot of brothers and sisters like maybe one or two that passed away before she was born like that, that large of an age gap. Her father was like, extremely old when she was born. Maybe 70s, like a crazy thing, like something like insane. And so there's a lot of weird gaps

in my side of the family. I don't know, I have some wonderful aunts and uncles, I still talk to you all the time, I love them dearly. But your kids do have a grandma and a grandpa on your wife's side? Yes. Okay. That's at least nice that they have. Did you?

My grandfathers were, but well, passed away when I was super young. But like every American boy, I shared a bedroom with my Italian grandmother who didn't speak English and couldn't walk. She was bedridden for the first 11 years of my life. I remember those days. I remember those days. Oh, the fuck. She was great. She watched. OK.

A lot of general hospital. All right. So your background does sound very similar to mine. So my everyone in my family is Italian, except for my grandfather. He was the sickler. My my dad's dad is sickler. His mom is DeMemo. When you say it like he was the sickler, it makes him sound like he was a Batman villain. Well, he's the guy that fucking ruined the guy. We can't be made. You know what I mean? We're not pure because of him. We can't be made. But my mom's side is De Vito. My dad's side is the memo.

And my grandmom did live with us for a little while. Did not share a fucking bed with her. Not a bed bedroom. Bedroom. So he was bedridden in a giant mechanical. Oh, no. And there was a bunk bed in the corner. The man toys on it. It would be better if you just shared a bit.

She had she had an arm. They are like Dave Reggetty. I'm going back. She had an arm. She would wake me up in the morning by throwing a wet rag at me. And she would hit me in the face every morning. That is ridiculous.

Just what? So you could come over and help her. if she needed something or if she needed to wake me up or yeah. What are you talking? Whose mom is that? My mother's mother. All right. Amalia Amalia Renzetti. Very Italian. Very.

So who's Moynihan? And my dad, Irish and Swedish. Okay. So wait, why? Is this because an Italian thing or also a financial thing? Why is she in the house with you guys? Are you ushering her to the other side though? Yeah, strictly financial. And just at those times, it was a different thing. It was just like, you take care of your mother until she dies, like, you know. And she lasted 11 years?

She was old, yeah. But you said the first 11 years of your life. I am 100% trying to be funny. It was not until I was 11, it was maybe seven, eight. I don't remember anything. I don't remember anything about my own life. And then I say things in interviews and I have no clue. Yeah, I was somewhere where I was old enough to go,

hey, is this not, how long is this gonna happen? I got there, I got there. You walk into bedroom, where's your bed? One of the last things I remember is I got, I was half working. I wasn't old enough to work, but I was half working at a video store on the corner called Video Vault. I was a child laborer.

I was just there so much that they let me put movies back and then they would like give me free posters and I was like working. And they gave me a giant cardboard cutout of He-Man and back in the day that was a huge, huge thing. I had nothing and I brought this He-Man home and I put it up against my bunk bed so I could look at him. When I woke up in the morning, it would be the first thing I see.

And what I remember is waking up to the sound of a wet rag hitting the back of He-Man and it coming at me and hitting me in the face. That's how I woke up terrified of He-Man now in this moment. Scariest thing I've ever woken up to. Grandma's hit the backboard. Oh, I got this thing. Yeah, she was, she had an arm. She had literally had an arm on her. Oh, also, but I was old enough to be like, Grandma. Imagine being her though, and dying to be like, what's this? I didn't make it. My grandson's will call her give we call her give like give I don't even know what that means. grandson's. We called her give. We called her give. Give. I don't even know what that means.

I think it's like half Italian. I don't even know. Okay, let's go. Let's go into that a little bit. So that's every day for you. You wake up. Grandma's in the room. When I was a kid. Yeah. Your sister has her own room, I'm assuming. Yes. She was four years older. Oh, she was older, okay. Still is. Um.

Um. Um. Yeah, she had her own room. I had my own room eventually, but then I feel like shortly after my grandma passed away, then it was like my room and Alice had a room, and then she went to college. So now you're saying that your bedroom,

grandma dies and now it's all yours, but you're still in that room? Yeah, that's a fucked up vibe, isn't it? I don't remember that being, like I see what you mean now, I don't remember it kind of being that way. I had a kid, you're probably like, fuck yeah, I got the room to muscle in. It was probably kind of, so I don't remember, I don't remember it kind of being that way. When you're a kid, you're probably like, fuck yeah, I got the room to muscle in. I think it was probably kind of,

because I don't remember, I don't remember either way. The only thing I remember specifically about my grandmother's death was like, it was definitely the first funeral I ever went to. And I remember walking into the, and she was like my, I mean, I literally shared a room with her. She was like my second mother and she didn't speak English. I just entertained her all the time. And she'd go like, okay. And, and

I remember walking into the funeral. And it was the first time I was ever in a funeral and seeing her lying down. And there was a what now I realize was a bouquet of flowers like near her head. Okay. And in my childhood brain, I thought they had put a wig on her and she had like some kind of look like she had a lot of hair all of a sudden. And I was like, I'm sorry. That's not her.

I've slept next to her for years. I remember in that like walking in and being like, Oh her. Not her. That's not her though. I've slept next to her for years. Yeah, they are. I remember in that, like walking in and being like, oh, man, that's not her. And like, trying anything to think, like, that's not the case. And like, it wasn't a big deal, because I had instantly told myself, like, no, you're okay.

That's not her, that's somebody else. That lady's got too much hair. So like, it wasn't like, it didn't hit me till, I don't remember because I remember, what I remember at 47 is that moment, that moment of seeing that bouquet of flowers and now seeing it in pictures and going like, oh, those flowers. I just filled in something to fix myself in that moment. And that's, but I know Italians, bro. That's an open casket, obviously. And you're seeing your, that's your first funeral.

Is that your first dead body too? You touch it? Did you go up and touch it? I had committed many murders before this. No. Um, uh, yes, I think so. Yeah. I think that was first for everything

Probably I Remember doing it. I remember touching it and my dad definitely hold it was and like weird I'm like, oh my god. I was old. My dad looked so great. I remember thinking like how shitty it was I was like this the best he's looked in years. Years. Yeah. There, one of you, yeah. It's true, but it's true. It's completely true.

I slipped a bunch of stuff in his pocket that I thought he would want. That's nice. What'd you put in there, do you remember? Some cash, just in case. Did you put a little cash? No, I just think it would be funny too. It would be.

I don't remember what I did, but I did. Oh, I put drawings for my daughter. Oh, that's great. Good. That's good. Yeah. And a fart machine. I really hope you're being serious. You just, God damn it.

You gotta do something, right? What do you want? Do you have anything written for yourself? Do you have a- Not yet, but I keep thinking about it more and more. Okay, listen, young man, you don't have a living will and trust? My dad was a huge Giants fan and they had- Same as this one in New York, bro.

New York Giants fan and they had. San Francisco or New York. New York Giants football and at his funeral, dead center, huge New York Giants logo out of flowers. Is that real? Yes. Okay, all right, okay. Would have been buried in a Phil Simms jersey if my mom would have allowed it. 100%.

He wore a Phil Simms jersey to my high school graduation, my college graduation, my sister's, everything. I very rarely saw, if it wasn't a Phil Sims jersey, it was a Phil McConkey jersey. It wasn't the Hostedler one? No, one of the only times he came to SNL and acknowledged it was Eli Manning. He wanted to meet Eli Manning. And he came and I got him, he showed up and I got him inside Eli Manning's dressing room. And I

saw a human man I've never seen before in my life, which is, my dad doesn't get like impressed by anything. You would think my son's on this fucking institution. And he looks at Eli Manning and he looks at me and he had this tone of like, you son of a bitch, you did it kind of thing. And he looks at Eli Manning and instantly goes like, hey, your brother's better.

Your mother's much better. And also if you get hurt, and just starts like chastising him. Your brother's better, he said. He's got on the Eli Manning jersey. Eli Manning goes, you want me to sign it? And he goes, write on it? No, it's a nice jersey.

Like he was appalled that he wanted to write on his nice jersey. How dare you? It was, he didn't understand the concept of like, do you want my autograph? He was like, this is a nice shirt. You're gonna ruin it? You idiot. All right, I'm going, thank you want my autograph? He was like, this is a nice shirt. You idiot.

All right, I'm going, thank you Eli Manning. It's all good. And Eli Manning, he was like, is that what you wanted? And I was like, yeah, yeah, pretty much. Thank you. Yeah. That's awesome. Yeah.

That's great. Super big Giants fan. That was it. Whole life, Giants. And what about mom? She's cremated. No, I'm go back. I asked you. Oh yeah, giants. And what about mom? She's cremated. No, I'm gonna go back. I asked you. Oh, yeah, sorry.

Do you have any last wishes? Do you wanna be cremated? How do you wanna go out? Oh, man. It's, you know, I don't, whatever's easiest for my family, whatever's easiest for them, whatever they, however they would like to handle it

is like something I'm fine with. If I had my way, Cremate had turned into a little action figure of some kind and put like in a lost and found somewhere and then I'll haunt a child. Hmm. That got me thinking. The dream. I got me thinking. We used to tie them to like 20 bottle rockets and then light it and send that thing off. Just give them a good send off. You know what I mean? I'm trying to think of like there was a place I want like.

This is what I did. Yeah, a place. So I'm from Maryland. I'm from Baltimore and we just used to go crabbing all the time off the Chesapeake Bay. So I wrote in my will to my daughter that when I die, cremate me, take some of my ashes, take a trip, go take a trip. I'll leave the money for the trip and just sprinkle me in the Chesapeake and give me back to all the crabs I've eaten.

Let's do the circle. That's genius and beautiful. I do like that, like turn yourself into a tree thing. I do like that. But there is I'm really starting to change my mind. And it's because my daughters. But I really want to do some kind of elaborate bit for my funeral now. Like, why wouldn't you?

It's amazing that someone hasn't yet. I mean, we say that. There's people have seen the video of the Irish dude? Uh-uh. Oh, it's online. It's an Irish, it was an Irish guy, very, you know, a reverend Irish guy, pre-recorded a hour's worth of sound and put it inside the coffin.

And he's just, hey, hey, Kenny, Kenny, open it, I'm in here and just like, and I'm not doing an Irish accent, but he just, and they play, and it just starts in the middle of those, one of the speeches at the funeral. It's one of the funniest things I've ever seen. That is good, yeah, that's good. Like there's part, but then I go like,

my daughters may not love that. They're gonna be devastated. So I'm trying to think of some kind of happy medium of something I could do, or some kind of just party rather than a funeral. I agree with that. I also think that, you know, I have this whole thing written like,

take my ashes and sprinkle them. And I know they're gonna, flight will be delayed, it's gonna be raining, they're gonna get stuck in the mud, it's gonna be one of those, sorry dad, just dump you right in the fucking mud. And that's actually 100% the way it should go. How hasn't some shitty, rich white family started a company called Funeral,

where it's just like, and we make your funeral fun. Dude, you're sitting on a fucking gold mine right now, bro. Too lazy. Funeral. We put the fun in the funeral. Sick and tired of crying when your mom dies. Oh man, you gave me, I'm going to tell you this. I've told this before.

I'm going to tell you this because you're going to appreciate this. So this is not good. So my father dies when I have a twin brother, we're fraternal twins. We're 16. My younger brother is technically, not technically, he is 12 when my dad dies. They bury my dad on my brother's 13th birthday. Okay. And to this day, I'm like, who was in charge? So I laugh about it because we had a wake and a cake. All right. I'm Bobby Moynihan. They're doing the wake. People are,

and then all of a sudden somebody's like, you just hear somebody coming from the other side over here. Happy birthday. I'm like, what? What? We're shipping ears. We're shipping ears. Yeah. People are all in black and crying

and they're singing happy birthday to my. Oh my gosh. He's had a wick and a cake, bro. That's a horrible. At least he'll remember it every year for the rest of his life. Happy birthday, that was very today, man. It's amazing we get out of bed in the morning,

everybody, right? Yeah. And we had it okay. We're doing all right. Yeah. And we have it okay. We're doing all right. Yeah. Okay. So, uh, tell me about being a dad to your two girls here. That's the best. You love it. I do. How's it having a one-year-old? And is she, is she much different or, you know, like they are right? Yeah. That's the cool part right now is it's like... You almost know nothing again. No, I completely... Well, it was like the first kid, like I...

The first daughter was like checking under her nose for years, like she's still breathing while she was sleeping. Because it's your first kid, like it was like literally like when she was an infant, I had nights where I would just wake up and go run, put my finger like... Okay, the chest rose, her chest rose, she's still breathing. All night. Like things like that, like for your first kid,

and the second kid, I'm in the kitchen making something, she cries, and I go, oh my God, she was in here the whole time! I did not know our other child was here! Like you have no, it's completely different. I'm a second child child and I get it now because you're just allowed to walk into traffic because it's so, it's like, it's with me and my wife,

you're different people, we're completely different people. And also we were planning on a second kid. It was like, that was it. But then pandemic and IVF, like it just took longer. So now we got the seven-year-old and one, much bigger gap between the children than we thought we were going to have. And I was not, you know, I'm 47, like getting off the ground with the seven-year-old was easier than it is with the one-year-old, but I'm starting to treat myself much better. And you don't get as,

I think we are just more relaxed or more chill just as parents. Because at that time, it was complete chaos in my life. Complete chaos. We were barreling through life. We were like, let's finish Saturday Night Live. She was on Broadway. Let's move to California. Let's have a child. We just did everything. We bought a house. Let's try everything new that you could do that they say, don't lump together in one thing. Let's do all the hardest things. Then take away your parents.

And also not only take away your parents, but Kermit is there. He's right here. Yeah, he was very kind to be honest. The kind little frog, that Kermit. I guess I meant when I asked you that, from other parents, they'll tell me, this one loved to be swaddled and this, that.

So you think, oh, I got this all down. And then the new one comes along and it's like, fuck that swaddle, I'm not dream feeding, I'm not pacifier, all that stuff. I don't know if I should say whatever. It's the first child, the seven year old in her high chair for every meal she was strapped into her high chair. We have never strapped.

We don't even have straps. I wanna cut them off because they just get dirty. The straps, she climbs out of the straps are pointless. But like little things like that, where you just like, no, I just have to keep my eye on her. Like, you know, you're just a smarter person, because you've done it once already. It's just like everything else in the world. But like, the difference or like seeing like our first daughter

seeing like our first daughter maniac, fun, loud, carefree, not a care in the world. Second daughter is like, um, Stewie Griffin, like is like, I think she's planning things. She's quiet. She can sit alone in a room. Like if you give her, if you fill anything with five things, she's like, thank you, I'll see you in an hour. Like, you know, if you give her a box with a couple of coins, some keys, like, you know what I mean? Like she will look at it or she's one year old, please, thank you, talking, a lot of this stuff.

We'll take off her diaper, walk over to the garbage and put it in. Hell yeah. Like things like that. Not only that too, and this is just, uh, I'm going to use this platform to say it, uh, Ms. Rachel having to, who Ms. Rachel is.

Ms. Rachel is a woman on YouTube who does like, um, songs for kids and toddlers and like whatever, but she also teaches them sign language while she's teaching them how to speak. So our one year old goes, thank you, you're welcome. And she's one, she said excuse, she knows sign language. I always wanted to learn sign language. Yeah, it's amazing.

And like she's one. What's her name? Miss Rachel. Yeah, Miss Rachel. Yeah. Miss Rachel, okay. She's absolutely fantastic. I love her with all my heart. So as she's speaking and teaching, she's doing this together, so you're learning the book. Yeah, She's absolutely fantastic. I love her with all my heart. So as she's speaking and teaching,

she's doing this together. So you're learning the- Yeah, she's just fantastic. We all should have been taught that. The first kid didn't have Ms. Rachel, we had Blippi. What did Blippi teach the kids? Well, but Blippi got in trouble for pooping on somebody in college, I think.

So we don't watch bullet pain. I can't thank you enough for coming on here and doing this episode. Thank you for having me. I'm going to ask you this last question before we wrap up here. But now after everything we've talked about, advice you would give to 16 year old Bobby Moynan. Gosh. about advice you would give to 16 year old Bobby Moynihan. Gosh, that's crazy because you go like, well, I'm happy. I go like, I'm happy with where I...

Advice, like I go like, treat yourself, if I could give my 16 year old, treat yourself better. Like, you're not stupid. You may not be smart. You're not dumb. But you're not dumb, you're not a dummy. You're not just like a funny dummy and get better at

learning from your mistakes. Like that's great. Like you're you think you've learned from your mistake, but you didn't. So think about that a little bit more. I like that a lot. Yeah, probably that. Bobby Moynan, thank you very much. Thank you for having me. Promote anything you'd like again, please.

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