The HoneyDew with Ryan Sickler - Jay Larson - LarsonDew

Episode Date: October 7, 2024

My HoneyDew this week is comedian Jay Larson! You can catch his new special, “Here We Go Again,” out on YouTube now. Jay joins me to Highlight the Lowlights of being a single dad and co-parenting. We discuss how Jay’s dad parented and the way that affects how Jay chooses to parent now. We also dive into what Jay is most excited about in being a single dad and whether or not he would ever want to marry again. SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE and watch full episodes of The Dew every toozdee! https://youtube.com/@rsickler SUBSCRIBE TO MY PATREON, The HoneyDew with Y’all, where I Highlight the Lowlights with Y’all! You now get audio and video of The HoneyDew a day early, ad-free at no additional cost! It’s only $5/month! Sign up for a year and get a month free! https://www.patreon.com/TheHoneyDew What’s your story?? Submit at [e-mail] CATCH ME ON TOUR https://www.ryansickler.com/tour Chicago, IL - Oct. 11th & 12th Detroit, MI - Nov. 8th Minneapolis, MN - Nov. 9th Madison, WI - Nov. 15th & 16th Portland, OR - Nov. 23rd Ft. Lauderdale, FL - Dec. 6th Tampa, FL - Dec. 7th Tempe, AZ - Dec. 20th and 21st Get Your HoneyDew Gear Today! https://shop.ryansickler.com/ Ringtones Are Available Now! https://www.apple.com/itunes/ http://ryansickler.com/ https://thehoneydewpodcast.com/ SUBSCRIBE TO THE CRABFEAST PODCAST https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-crabfeast-with-ryan-sickler-and-jay-larson/id1452403187 SPONSORS: Liquid I.V. -Get 20% off your order when you shop better hydration at https://www.LiquidIV.com and use code HONEYDEW BetterHelp -The HoneyDew is sponsored by BetterHelp, get 10% off your first month at https://www.Betterhelp.com/HONEYDEW

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That's the biz y'all. You know what we do here? We highlight the low lights and I always say these are the stories behind the storytellers and I am very excited to have this guest back on the honeydew. Ladies and gentlemen, Jay Larson. Welcome back to the honeydew, Jay Larson. It's like we're on the feast, baby. I love just sitting across from you watching you.

Why? It's just funny, seeing you be sickler because I know you for so long and so well, just seeing, there's a little moments of things that just bring me joy about watching you that I'm just, even like the little chuckles you have in there, it's fun. It's how it started, bro. Listen, listen, I, this, I was in,

obviously we pre-record these a little bit ahead, but I was just in Austin and Dallas. Thank you all for coming out. And the fucking, the whole cities came up. Yeah, the whole cities. And Dallas dude had a FTCF shirt on, but it was blue. And I said, oh, you got the ones that we allowed. And I was like, oh, that looked good.

And that thing's old and they hold up, bro. They hold up. So it's great to have you back here. Good to be here, buddy. Plug everything and anything you want, please. Just Jay Larson comedy on TikTok, on Instagram, on Facebook. And then I dropped a new special, just came out. So it's called Here We Go Again.

And it's on the Comedy Store's YouTube page. Check it out. It's a lot of what you were telling me about. Yeah. Shot in the Belly Room. And it's fun. You know, it's a bunch of jokes that were either on albums that you could never see or they were in places you could never get.

And I put them all together in one place and just kind of. And where is that? Where it's on the YouTube channel of the Comedy Store. Here we go again. All right. Here we go. Here we go again. Okay. And here we go again, Jay Larson. So again, excuse me, if you've been following us from the beginning, we started as two single gentlemen. Yeah. Not necessarily single, more rather,

not fathers, not children, not any, yeah. Do you remember what we were gonna call the Crafties before? Cause remember we were looking for another name and you were like, you know what I like, I like it. And it really sums up because of like, who we were then is what, do you remember? No. You wanted to call it Together We're Whole.

Oh yeah. Because I was raised by a single mom, you were raised by a single dad, and we were like, it's a good name, somebody wants to take it out there. I loved it. And then you were like, nah, man, we're going to keep it, grab it, please. And I was like, are you sure? Because I like together. You're like, yeah, man, we're going to keep it, grab it, please.

Together We're Whole is a good one. Together We're Whole, maybe. Well, let's talk about it, because we're dads, we're holes in gold. Together we're home, baby. Well, let's talk about it because we're dads, we're both. Did you think you'd be divorced? Listen, dude, listen, don't be honest because you know some people get married and they're like, this is a 50-50 chance. Sometimes you're at a wedding and you're like, please.

All right, let me answer that two ways. If you're asking me if I ever thought I would get married and get divorced, I wasn't even sure I'd get married. You know what I mean? When I was young, I thought I'm gonna get married at 27. And then I was just like- I thought 24. Right?

24, I saw the briefcase, I saw the white picket fence, man. Two bedroom, one bath. I was limited, man. I was a lawyer. I was a lawyer in that life. Oh, that was in the briefcase? Oh yeah, law and pretty much, man. He's got a two bedroom, one bath. I was limited, man. I was a lawyer. I was a lawyer in that life. Oh, that was in the law. Pretty good, man. Law doc. I had cases, man. Uh, 27 is when I came out here or 24 is when I came out here the second time to begin my career. So I'm thinking like looking back now, like 27 would have been,

I told, I told my friends the other day cause that earthquake that hit, you know, yeah, people go nuts with that. You know what I do on I go you guys feeling this I get stoked like we're on a Rollercoaster I'm like this is amazing, and I just thought about like I forget telling whoever When you came out to go to college here the guy was all nah man he ain't going to school here The day I woke up Shannon's mom said hey your school's gone Nah, man, he ain't going to school here. Just look at him. The day I woke up, Shannon's mom said, Hey, your school's gone. I'm just like, you got to think that's a dream. You guys call myself calm though. We got nowhere.

I know. OK, here I am. Oh, God. So, no, I guess I was never sure if I'd get married. I wanted to, but I was never sure if I'd get married. But if to, but I was never sure if I'd get married. But if I did get married, I did not see myself getting divorced. That was the image. I don't think anyone... I mean, could you imagine how dismal your outlook is?

Like, well, we'll see. That's funny. But then I got into reality. And if your hands could be... If I could tell if that relationship was going to go south, yeah, I could tell if that relationship was going to go south. Yeah, I could tell. Yeah. Yeah. It was, uh, it was, um, a difficult relationship, but, but, and you were there from the beginning, my, my daughter's mother and I now co-parent so good. Look,

we do not bad a thousand. We definitely don't. We definitely have 333. We definitely do have our blowups and I'm not going to lie. Sometimes it feels nice. All right. But I mean, the last argument we had was January. We're into September, October now. So that's pretty damn good. That's pretty damn good. And she's very good about helping with switching if I need something for the tour, you know, I'll give me your day, I'll take that day, that sort of thing.

Because I don't want her just to take. And I want to be a dad. You know, I want to be something I actually had for a taste and then boom. So let's talk about you. My kid's on the way to school today. We're walking to school and my daughter said, do you ever miss your dad?

And I said, let me think. I'm like, I missed the most of my life. Well, see, there's a two part thing for me as well. When I hear that, because you missed them most of your life, he was alive. But now that he's dead, it's a different thing. Well, I, what I said to them, I said, you know what guys, what I think most about my dad is I feel bad

that he didn't get the chance to experience what I get to experience with you. I go, yeah, he really missed out. I'm like, cause this is my favorite thing in the world. And they're like, yeah, I know. And cause I, you know, we talk about a lot. And I'm like, walking you to school, I'm like, he didn't get to do this.

He didn't get to do any of the things I get to do with you guys. Do you imagine your kids at night in the same room just being like, no wonder dad's always so, you know what I mean? They're like, look dad is fucked up. Dude, you wanna hear talking about fucked up? I'm making breakfast this morning and I go,

I was singing in a different version of the song, the Thanksgiving, the turkey song, Thanksgiving, the Sandler song, you know? Thanksgiving! But I was doing it to other lyrics and Reed was laughing, my son. And I go, oh, let me put it on. So I put it on and I'm like,

oh, let me put on some more Sandler. And I put on like, oh my God, I put on that song, he sings to his wife on the end of 100% Fresh. And I was like, whoa, I'm getting a little teary here. And then my daughter left and I just put on Tollbooth Willie for my son and it starts off fun and then it's like, oh, fuck you in the ass.

It gets crazy. Regis looking at me like, whoa, like he's dying, but I'm like, I'm dying. That's in the Hanukkah song. I put that, but no, so then I put on the Chris Farley song. You know that Farley song, dude, bro. I'm bawling. We had John Farley here as a guest.

His brother. You are not going to believe this. Crib, you call Chris out of the bag. No, dude. So we had him on us, I'm saying, and I told him that song and that Sandler special, I didn't see it coming. And I'm going from laughing, laughing, laughing to just bawling. So I listened to it this morning and I'm making like,

you know, I make my daughter sushi for lunch. So I'm making her like sushi and I'm like waiting for the rice and got the tuna out. And I'm just sitting there and then I'm just like, I'm just crying in the kitchen. And she comes out, she's like, can you, she goes, can you fill mine? And I turned her and she's like, I'll fill my water bottle.

Who's saving? I got it then. But I literally was like, why am I being this moved? And I'm like, is it cause I'm going to see Ry today that like, I'm just like open. I know that we're going to be open here. You know me better than 99.9% of the people on this earth. And it's Sandler and the way Sandler,

remember when Sandler's dad died, did you ever see the Letterman? He went on Letterman and sang that song to his dad. And I just remember being like, God damn, I just love Sandler so much. Do you remember the Adrian Culp story he used to share with us about Sandler? It's one of the ones I tell all the time.

And I know we, I'm sure, I don't know how much it was embellished to us or whatever, but it was something like when they all worked on the Sony lot. They had called Sandler outside and as a thank you for all the money he was making that company, there was a Rolls Royce. And inside the glove compartment was a check for, I don't remember, at least a million. I thought it was five. I wanted to say somewhere around three or four. But yes, right. And then he gave his dad the Rolls Royce and he got to drive that before he died.

And I just thought, man, that's fucking dudes. So I love Sam. Yeah. I mean, how can you not? I mean, dude, it's cool. I mean, given a second hand gift to his dad, that's cool. I'm a take this. You can have that. All right. So for people who don't know who you are or your background, you grew up without a dad.

Your dad, like my mom, my mom moved two miles away and had wanted nothing to do with us and didn't see us. Your dad moved to town over, but you had, you have a brother and two sisters. Yeah. So it's for you being raised by your mom. Yeah. So this is one thing I never asked or I feel like I've asked and never gotten a

real answer, but like my dad never had any custody. I never slept in a house with him. You know what I mean? Like we'd see him. There's not a night you remember sleeping under your dad's roof. No, I, there's not one to remember because I never did. Wow. Now up until I was two, he was living in that house. I, I does not want to remember because I never did. Wow. Now up until I was two, he was living in that house.

I, you know, but I don't remember. Let's also explain, you're the baby or you're the baby. So already shit's gone awry for Sue Larson. Also shout out to Sue Larson. All right. Sue, little music note and shit. I just want to tell you, if you ever get a chance, if you ever get the fortunate chance to, uh, to have a Sue Larson

meatball, you do it. All right. I thought you were gonna say listen to our episode with her on the crab feast. Oh, 100% she was on the crab feast. You know what she'll say to me now? You should listen to that. Now, do you know who I like a lot is the RU garbage guys.

I am, she's like, I just think they're so much fun. I go, yeah, I know. That's awesome. Yeah, it's classic Sue. Okay, so your mom, Sue Larson, is raising you and three other kids. The four of us, yeah. Four of you, and you have Auntie Ru.

Well, I got my nana. Your nana. My aunt Ru and my aunt Gert. So her two sisters. So like every day you get home from school, one of them would be there. It'd either be my nana and like she'd do all the laundry, she would clean the house, she would make our meals.

But like fifth grade, it's like, that's when I started like doing my own laundry. It's like you were, you want to clean clothes, you just did your laundry. I don't think I've ever asked you and all the time we've done the crab feast and maybe I haven't, I forgot, but Auntie Ru and Auntie Gert never had kids?

Dude, Auntie Ru and Auntie Gert lived together for 90 years. But no kids. Never married, no kids. Okay, so they didn't have any other kids to take care of, so everybody's pulling together to take care of the four of you. Yes. Got it, yeah. All right.

Which, you know, if you look back, that's probably why they didn't have kids. I hear it is because they were their kids. They needed to be there and like, yeah. So, you know, you'd get home from school. There were like chunks of time when they weren't there. You know what I mean? But that was essentially it.

Yeah, my dad lived the town over. Like I said, never had custody. We never spent any time. Like we'd see him like maybe once a week. For what? We'd go bowling. Okay, so he- Or to go to a McDonald's.

I thought you meant you'd run into him at the grocery store or something. No. We gotta stop meeting like, come on, man. Shit, who you buying food for? You ain't buying it for us. I got three things in my car. Jesus, this guy, he's loading up for turkey. So he would come and take you to do something. Yeah, I go to the antique store with him.

Like, it's funny when I tell people, I'm like, yeah, I got like 15 memories tops with that man. You know what I mean? Give me some of them. I remember he used to have a van because he was an antique dealer. So like he either had a truck or a van. And I remember like going to a mall or something and he allowed my my brother brought a friend. It was the three of us in this van. And my dad's sense of humor was like dark, you know, it was dark.

And he said some fucked up shit to this kid. And I remember being like, oh, shit, I'm going to fucking, you know, do you remember. And he said some fucked up shit to this kid. And I remember being like, oh shit, I'm just gonna fucking, you know, he never hit it. No. I just remember being in that van. I remember going one time and working in an antique store with him and getting a meatball sub for lunch. And he let me get a card.

You kidding me right now? What? Sue Larson makes the... Oh! I didn't even see it going These look Yeah, oh yeah, they were fucking burn all the way through That's why you never had a medium red meatball. Why he loves meatballs subs cuz sue probably cook the for back at the day

Undercooked him you mean she undercut them that is back in the day. I under cooked him. You mean she under cooked him. That is hilarious. That is ridiculous. I remember getting the meatballs. Hey, oh, OK. OK, so if you if you go back and listen to the Sulaqs and the Gravities,

actually, I don't think we talked about it was after we came back from being in Boston. Yeah, yeah. Anyway, I have that think we talked about it. It was after we came back from being in Boston. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Anyway, I have that memory. I remember one time he got me a drum set for Christmas and like doing pull-ups on his arm. You know what I mean?

I remember just like, oh my God. I remember every time I got in his car, there'd be McDonald's wrappers like on the floor seat of the passenger side, you know? And he'd eat Big Macs and I'm like, God damn, how's he eat that Big Mac? I remember one time being in his apartment, so he lived in an apartment above the bakery, you know, my grandfather's bakery. And then I remember a couple times going to his house in Redding, that was the one we would pass all the time.

When we go to my grandma's house, we have to pass his street. Okay, yeah, that's brutal. Brutal. Dude, and I told my- We're driving past someone who doesn't love us to go see someone, I hear you. Well, let's not say that, let's not say that. He may have- We don't have to, I ain't getting it.

To a house of people who do love us. Yeah, but the whole time, dude, this is what I think, this is why I over-communicate with my kids, is because that whole time, I'm sitting in the back seat of that car and my mother had this big green Chevy, that blue purple smoke when you put the defrost on, and it had like three of us in the back,

and then my sister here, my mom. And I remember just being back window, just pushed up against passing that street and feeling fucking minuscule, tiny, like I was just a flick of shit that no one cared about as we passed that street. Cause I'm like, why don't I see him? Why doesn't he call?

Why don't we talk to him? And this is why now as a divorced parent, we can get, I'm just gonna jump real quick. There are days when the kids with me, they don't ask to FaceTime their mom. I just pull it up, I FaceTime and I put the phone down. Cause I want them to know that one, I want them to communicate with their mom

when they're with me. Two, just say hi, she's out of town. She would love, she'd love to hear it. Never, and I'm not, I think there's been way more growth in society around divorce than when my mother was dealing with it. And I don't know what my parents went through, but my mother never said, you should call your dad.

It's like not even on his birthday. Like call your dad. Here's the thing I'm pretty positive of. So you had a little bit of something from your dad that would make you want more. And I did for my mom at first and then she split. So I would drive by her street on the way to school every day. Yeah.

And it wouldn't be like, I feel like shit, it would be a two fucking fingers up. You know what I mean? Sure. I'm sure there might've been some of that going on for me too. But I mean, I always had a chip on my shoulder as a kid for that. But I would like, dude, I literally would walk through life,

like what if he's watching? What if he, I remember being on my college campus, walking across the quad, being like, what if he came to like just check on me? So I'd walk taller, I'd like in case he sees me for my, so much of my life. I have a feeling that if FaceTime and all that should have existed back then,

my mom still ain't calling. Well, my dad didn't call, but that's why I'm saying I make sure that they call. Because- You say you use the term over-communicate, you think you do? I over, and I'm not looking at it as a negative term. I like check in on their feelings,

how you feeling about that. Why is it that you feel that way? I'm saying- It's funny, because that's probably normal communication. And we think it's over because we got zero. Right. Well, like, you know, yesterday, for some reason, I think it's because my ex has been out of town a lot. So the kids have been with me. And then they only saw her, you know, it's not all the time. But

at breakfast, one of them brought up like, how they they miss they Oh, my son said, will you stay at mom's house for Christmas this year? And I'm like, buddy, I'm a, I'm a three minutes away. I'm literally three minutes away. And he goes, I know, but like, it'd be great if you like brought a bag and you stayed over in Rivers. Like, you know, you can stay in my room.

That's cute. And I was like, that's sweet guys. I'm like, but I like my bed. And I go, and then I just, instead of like dodging what's going on here, I'm like, that's sweet guys. I'm like, but I like my bed. And I go, and then I just, instead of like dodging what's going on here, I'm like, oh, do you miss us being in the, me being in the house? And they're like, yeah.

They're like both said, yeah. And I'm like, well, what, I go, that's gotta be tough for you. Tell me about that. You know, I always encourage like, let's talk about it. I think every parent should have to take improv because parenting is yes and yes and, tell me more and then why and then

instead of like running and is Two simple words that I think honest to God Could save marriages business relationship and Children all that totally instead of being like nope or just shutting it down. That's or that's not a thing, toughen up, walk it off. Yeah, shutting it down. No, just shutting it down is not the way to go. I saw, I saw my friends with their teenage kids, their teenage son goes,

I wanna get a motorcycle, and they just go, you're not getting a motorcycle. And I was like, one, it's two years until they get their license. Two, we're not at the dealership. Three, they don't have the money. Four, they haven't taken the test. Why shut it down?

Why not just entertain the conversation? Why not just be like, oh yeah, motorcycles are dope. Who doesn't want a motorcycle? Just have a conversation. I would shut that one down for sure. But what I'm saying is why. I would say this is why. I will give you a practical reason.

As a former motorcycle rider myself, and who still holds my M1 class on my driver's license and the riding a motorcycle back in the day was different. There's so many people texting now. I get it. And eyes off the road. But what I'm saying is that has nothing to do with the more dangerous. I understand. And that's what the that's what you're hearing the anxiety of that one.

I can understand that one, but I hear you on some things. How about this? I do think there should be not yes and everything. But what might, what I'm- Or you could be like, yeah, you'd get a motorcycle and fucking you'd be killed in three months. What I'm saying is there are two and a half, it's let the conversation take place another time.

In the meantime, kids wanna be heard and seen, that's it. So at this moment, the kid is saying, I want a motorcycle, and then you're just shutting it down, right? Let's just take this instance. I'm that dad, I would do that. I got it, but what I'm saying is, why not just be like, oh yeah, what is it? What is it about motorcycles that you like?

Well, I like the freedom, I like the wind, I like this. Yeah, what else? Like, have you ever, we should go like the freedom. I like the wind. I like this. Yeah, what else? Like, have you ever, we should go ride those motorcycles at a, I haven't finished. I know, I'm the dad stepping back in like, nah, we ain't riding shit. No, at the family arcade, go play the games, like on the, like find the way to encourage.

I read this article a while back that they interviewed like five highly successful people. And they said the things that their parents did for them, I think some were athletes, some were musicians, is if I was into something, they dove in 100%. Yeah, I agree with that. And then if six months in, they were like, I don't wanna play piano anymore, I wanna play guitar.

The parents would be like, you got it. They weren't like, you signed up for this. I agree with that. So all I'm saying is, That's not want to play guitar. The parents would be like, you got it. They weren't like, you signed up for this. I agree with that. So all I'm saying is that's not going to kill them, but they're not in the motorcycle dealership about to buy the motorcycle. You know why? We ain't doing it. Shut it down, baby. Listen, I'll say this to anybody that even thinks about it as a man who's been on a motorcycle at 80 miles an hour. You can't drive 80.

The thing that- That's against the law. The thing that made me finally be like, this is not for me, was being on the beltway and going 80 miles an hour right here is an 18-wheeler tire. You know that little thing in the middle that floats, that little floater?

It's right here. And I was just like, I'm done. I mean, what am I doing? I get it. Trust me, I don't think they're safe. And I don't want my kid to have one either. I still think you have the conversation. It's just the conversation. It's not the purchase. That's all. That's all I'm saying. I forget where this was coming from. It was about like just yes. And seeing and hearing. Every parent should have to take improv as well. So I'm sitting there on the floor with my kids and they're, you know're saying that they want me there

and I'm like, oh yeah, and that makes you upset that I'm not there. And they both got teary-eyed and I just kept asking questions and I kept listening and kept, I don't try to solve the problem. You know what I mean? I just try to listen, hear, respond, and I'm like, yeah. And I go, well, the one things we need to know

is like, mom and I are divorced guys, and we're not gonna be living together again. So I understand that you like want that situation, and I understand that it's tough. And they're like, yeah. And I'm like, is there anything I can do? And they're like, yeah, can you spin that? And I'm like, yeah.

I was like, ah, fuck, I kind of, I made a wrong turn. They were like, yeah, you know, everything you just say, can you shut the fuck up? Just spend the night and just do that. Yeah. Just kids. Yeah. I get it. But at the same time, I think, so real quick, so you have 50 50, is that what you guys have? And then not to say too much, but outside you were like, you know, my wife with work travels quite a bit. So how do you guys work that sort of thing out?

We have a very same thing. Oh yeah. There's never, there's never. She's like, Jay, I got to go for this. And you're like, I got it. Yeah, of course. So, you know, we send each other dates way in advance and we ask, we cover for each other. I'm like, I love it. There's nothing I would want more than to have them, and like, you know, sometimes there's gonna, I try not to miss anything, you know what I mean? But sometimes a parent's gonna miss shit. So anyway.

Like our parents missed our whole lives. Yeah, big part of that, yeah. But I like to be there for things, you know, like. Yeah, you see the excitement on their face when you're rolling. You just want to be there for everything. You see that little pop in them and you're like, all right, I know they're here. And just to get like, and just like the little tiny, like just coming home from school, I get to be there and hear about your moments.

What was school like? Why is it tough? What do you love about it? What don't you love about it? We got a scooter, so we ride on the scooter. I get the download on the scooter. It's the best. Where are you at with curse words? They don't curse. You get any of that yet? No. No?

I've heard them swear before and I just go, what are we doing? I hear a little bit. I'm sorry. I hear music a lot, I hear it. And I'll look back at her and she'll start laughing because I'm like, oh, you knew it was in there. You know what I mean?

Yeah, well they'll, they, you know, because I listen to music that has curse, Taylor Swift swears in every God damn song. I look at my daughter, I'm like, what the fuck, River? She's like, dad, she gets on me. They know if I curse that like, you know, I'm annoyed. So you do curse in front of your kids. Yeah. You're human.

I look at it like this. Their words, they don't mean a ton, but I say to them, I'm like, when you're around, it's not becoming of a third grader to have to use curse words or for fifth grader or a sixth. And I go, and I say, I'm like, listen, you have no reason to use a swear. I go, if you're gonna just make sure your teachers not hearing you or adults aren't hearing you. Cause it's, it's kind of gross. That's what my dad told me. Yeah. My dad, he took us to see Stand By Me.

I watched that with my son a month ago. And what year would that come out, right? Oh, bro. I don't know. Kirsten, what year'd Stand By Me come out? Early 80s, right? She's looking right now. Yes.

I'm probably middle school. You know what I mean? I'm not even in high school. 84 is my guess. That's a good guess. What does that say, 86? 86. August 86. 86.

So I'm 13. I was 10. Yeah. Okay. What I don't know is I got three years left with my dad. He takes us, and my little brother's 10, so he takes us to see Stand By Me, and my grandmom's with us too.

We all go to see this movie together. And you know, they're cussing, and it's a dead body and the whole thing. It's also, I mean, as someone who just watched it with my 10 year old, it's heavy. It's very, yeah. But I mean, it's like, I remember being lighter. Cory Feldman's dad was mentally ill from the military, all that shit going on. And I just remember hearing the language a lot.

And my grandmother said, kids don't talk like that. And my dad leaned right over and goes, yeah, they do. So after that, it was a conversation of, because I had already been, like with my friends and stuff, we were cussing nonstop. We'd see shit on TV or hear it from a comedy album and we were cussing and repeating it. And my dad said that to me too.

He goes, listen to me. I know what kids do. I was one once. I know how you talk. If I ever have a teacher or another adult come to me about your language, it's going to be a problem. And I was like, got it. Yeah. And then we would just cuss around each other nonstop. Yeah. I've never I don't hear them like cussing towards each.

Like, like I said, I told him, he said, damn, I don't care if you cussing towards each like I like I said, he said damn I just go hey, what are we doing? He goes sorry dad? I'm like, that's it I don't really need to get into it You know, I mean like if it's in casual conversations, we're gonna be like dude what no wrap it up So what are the hardest parts of it for you right now? You're how many years into? Four and a half your four and a half years into divorced and living in your own place Mm-hmm And so what are the hardest parts in the four and a half years outside of obviously our kids feelings like hey this and that Yeah, you know, I don't even it's

Can I say can I ask you this too real quick when you are present like if you and Kate are at a Game together or whatever an event together. you, do you sit with each other? Are you social? Yes. Do you talk? Okay. Yeah, of course. We'll go to like back to school night together.

We'll like, if there's a cheer competition, we all ride together, you know, like. Oh, so we don't do that. Yeah, whatever there is, we try to, you know, yeah. We do like do birthday parties together. You know, we're super cordial. See, we don't always do that either. We're super cordial at the games.

I call us professional. You know what I mean? She sees us, if when Stella scored last year, we high fived. You know what I mean? She'll see that we're not huggy. We're not affectionate in that way. I also think, Ry, kids are so used to their parents.

We do everything for our kids, right? So when it comes to this, like even them asking me, like, will you spend the night? That's something they want. But just cause a kid wants something, doesn't mean you give it to them. That's right. That's where I teach, I'm not staying at mom's.

Mom's not staying here. That's boundaries. You gotta teach boundaries as well. Cause we did do it where I'm like, oh, I'll sleep on the couch. That's when I used to live like two miles away. Now I'm like less than a half mile. But what's hard.

Hardest parts for you, yeah. I don't think it's hard because they have feelings. You know what I mean? It's like, I can't, I always, this is something I tell the kids all the time. I'm like, why are you gonna stress about something you cannot, it's out of your control. I'm like, if something's out of your control,

there's nothing you can do about it. I say to them like, can you control how people are gonna react to you? And they're like, if something's out of your control, there's nothing you can do about it. I say to them, like, can you control how people are gonna react to you? And they're like, no. I'm like, can you control what kind of grade you're gonna get? And they're like, I don't know. I'm like, you can work at it, but whatever you,

that's what you're gonna get. I'm never gonna get mad at you for a bad grade. I'm gonna get mad if you don't prepare, you know? But if you prepare and get a bad grade, whatever, that's you. I'm gonna accept you. I think, so I can't control their feelings and I'm also not gonna try and comfort them to a point where they feel that I give them the answers they want.

You know what I mean? Like this, I'm divorced. That's what it is for you. And so that's not tough. I think sometimes it's tough that, like I miss the companionship. I miss having like a ride or die who's with me that when I come home at the end of the day,

whether it's work or friends. A wife? A wife. A wife. Would you get married again? I'd love to. You would? Yeah.

I'm not tried, but like I've dated. I tried. I had to. Saw it through the street. I tried. You. You would? Yeah. I've tried, I'm not tried, but like I've dated. I tried, I had to. Saw it through the street. I tried. All right, girl. You wanna get hit? She's like, oh. Oh, great.

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navigating her getting along with my ex. I can't navigate, I can't control what it's gonna be like. I don't know what anything- You can't, nothing. Nothing. Because the person you meet could have four kids. Dude. You don't know anything.

I would love that. That would be amazing. Having six kids running around, I don't know, you know? I just know that I haven't met the person yet. I've only truly known about two people in my life that I was like, oh yeah, I'm bona fide in love with this person. So it's only happened twice, you know what I mean?

So I haven't had any long-term relationship. Does your ex date? I don't know. So I guess I should ask this then. So your children haven't been introduced to a new partner at her place? No. So what we did in our mediation, because we used a mediator, was if you find someone that's important in your life, they have got to have been around for a little while before they get introduced to the kids. Yeah, Uncle Dave ain't showing up all the time.

That ain't happening. Hey, Mom, how come Uncle Dave is now Dad Dave? Stepdad Dave. How come he's naked? No, so, and then we have, we built into our mediation that before you introduce the kids to anyone, the other person gets to meet them first.

And it's not like this approve of them. It's, I wanna meet a guy to be like, hey man, here's my phone number. Let me tell you a little bit about my son. Let me tell you a little bit about my son. Let me tell you a little about my daughter. Like, you know, tell me about you. Like, who are you? You're gonna be around my kids.

Like, hey, here's some ways to handle her. Here's some ways to handle him. That way when my kids come home and they go, mom's got a boyfriend. And I go, yeah, I know, I met him. Great guy. They can be like, oh shit, look at this. Like, no secrets.

Like, there's like, just, there's no secrets, you know what I mean? So we built that, that was important for us to have. So I haven't been introduced to anyone. So in the- And vice versa, you haven't introduced them to any lady. I dated one woman and we dated for like nine months. And God, if I could go back, I would do that differently. Cause I just wasn't ready, you know what I mean?

How soon after your divorce did you start dating? I waited seven months before I dated anyone. Then I was dating, then I took time off, then I met this woman, you know? And dude, I had like this anniversary, our 10 year wedding anniversary trip we were gonna take. I got paid in a gig to go to Mexico. I don't know if I talked about this, I don't think so.

I don't remember. So I had this trip to Mexico and I was like, I'm gonna go by myself. I'm going by myself. Oh, so wait, you had planned for this 10 year and now the time's coming and you guys aren't together. Well, so what happened was we had planned for this 10 year, which was gonna happen during COVID.

So they allowed you could push it. So I pushed it, pushed it, pushed it, pushed it. Now it's like, I'm like, you know what, I'm gonna take five days, four nights, this resort in Mexico. This resort is like in the jungle, on the beach. So private, I had no idea. Guess how many people the resort held?

But you went? Guess how many people the resort held? Well, now you're saying, I'm gonna say 30. 16. Damn. And everyone had like a, you had your own little house with a pool. I got paid, I did a gig two years in a row for a friend

and they paid me in this vacation. Oh, no shit. So dude, I'm like, when you go to dinner, the restaurant, it didn't even look like a restaurant. You're just coming up and they like unbelievable food. And like, I'm seeing, it's just couples, couples, couples, solo. And I'm like, I can just see people like-

Sang. That was the guy who was crying in his pool last night. I was literally what's his face from, what's his name? Jason Siegel and forgetting Sarah Marshall. You ain't gonna believe this right now. Jason Siegel, get your ass in here. Forget Sarah. Anyway, so, and I went on that solo vacation. And I was like, you know what? I'm gonna like, I'm gonna get in touch with my feelings. I'm really gonna have solitude.

And I went there, I had an espresso machine in the room. I had an outdoor shower. Every day I'd make an espresso. I'd sit in the shower, drink a coffee. And I wasn't, I'm like, you know what? I'm gonna get back to LA. I'm not gonna, I'm gonna, off all dating apps, I'm not gonna see anybody. I'm gonna build an outdoor shower. I'm gonna get back to LA. I'm not gonna, off all dating apps, I'm not gonna see anybody.

I'm gonna build an outdoor shower. I'm gonna get an espresso. I called my boy whose brother, who's just got married, congrats, Justin. Justin DeGeorge, big ups, big ups player. He got married. He lives on my, they're in his street now, by the way. Anyway, yeah.

So he got me an espresso machine. He works over there. And then I built an outdoor shower. And then this woman who I had reached out to a couple times on social and dating apps, finally messaged me back and was like, hey, I think we live in the same neighborhood and we ended up dating for nine months. So it was just early.

I wasn't like, I kept thinking, I'm like, I want my career back on track. I don't know, I was so scared of navigating how I'm gonna introduce my kids to someone. I'm like, I want my career back on track. I don't know, I was so scared of navigating how I'm gonna introduce my kids to someone. I'm like, are they ready for it? So when I say I over communicate, about eight months ago, I said to the kids, I'm like, so guys, you know, every now and then I go on a date

and I go, and I wanna let you know that I am dating. And someday, you know, they're like, oh, that's great. And I go, you're cool that I'm dating? And my son goes, yeah, we can support you in that. Ha ha! He's been here before. I was like, man. We can support you.

What, that is hilarious. I can't wait till they say we cannot support. I wanna know what the thing is where like that, we can't get behind. Who's this chick, bro? Who is this chick? But like, you know, that's gonna be something else that we're just gonna have to navigate when that comes up.

He said to me the other night, he was like, Dad, I can't wait to have kids. I'm like, you wanna have kids? He goes, yeah, I can't wait, it's gonna be so great. I go, it's so funny, because I go, when I was your age, I had kids' names written down in the back of my notebook. You did? Yeah.

In fifth grade. In fifth grade? Boys' names and girls' names, for what I would name. That you wanted for your own kids? That I wanted to name my kids. I wasn't thinking about that. I was. And you know what he said to me?

He goes, I'll probably just let my wife name him dad. And I was just like, dude, you've got it too figured out. You're gonna be a great husband. You gotta be heads up. You might get bugging. What? But he's a, yeah, he loves it. He talks about all the time. That's hilarious. He volunteers at a, yeah, he loves it. He talks about it all the time.

That's hilarious. He volunteers at recess to look over the first graders. The younger kids, yeah. That's great, yeah. Yeah, so the toughest part for me is just like going it all alone and if shit's hitting the fan with work or finances or whatever, there's no one there but you. You know what I mean?

So I- Yeah, I do. You get it. It's weird. It's like, I realized that, cause like, you know, I just, I miss that the most. And I miss like when the kids aren't with me, that's fucking, people don't get like how many,

here's the other thing I want to say right now. How many times when someone I meet knows I'm divorced or whatever, they go, so what do you get the kids on the weekends? I wanna fucking bash them in the face. I'm like, no, I don't. In fact, my cousin has autism, right? She's autistic.

She's at the house. She's 26, 27. She's 26, 27. Amazing, amazing, amazing. She's on that show, Love on the Spectrum. She's on the show? Yeah. Oh. She comes over the house with my other cousin

to give my daughter a gift. And she goes, she goes, where's your ex? You know, she says, where's Kate? And I go, oh, she's in New York. And she was like, oh, you usually just have the kids on the weekends. And I go, no, I don't. I go, I have them 50% of the time. Okay, they're 50 New York and she was like, oh, you usually just have the kids on the weekends. And I go, no, I don't. I go, I have them 50% of the time.

Okay, they're 50% here and 50% there. And I go, in fact, I think it's probably more at my house than at her house. You know that? And she goes, okay. Ha ha ha! Dude. Me and my other cousin who kind of like,

it travels around with her and goes places with her and takes her to stuff. Is that the cousin I met that used to live in Sherman Oaks when I was out there back in the day? That's her mom. Yeah, oh, that's her mom. No, she wasn't there. It's her other cousin.

And she looked at me like, and the two of us were just like, oh my God, it was so funny that she's autistic, on the spectrum, but picked up everything I threw. It was like, oh, hey. What do you think is the toughest thing for you being a single dad? Well, the hardest part for me and the toughest part is not getting to, so when you have a kid with someone,

you assume if you're going to plan to be a family, that you're going to get 18 years with this kid. And then whatever happens after that, they're an adult, they can leave if they want. You can't really control that. So now the math I do is it's cut to nine years. Gotcha. You know what I'm saying? So 50-50.

Now I'm at half the time I'm going to get with my kid. I don't like that math. Number one. And then I read all these stats about how like, as a parent, the bulk of your time spent with your kid is childhood because they become an adult and they get married and have lives and careers and things. And I think, fuck, like this is that nugget of time that we're talking about. And it's been mathematically reduced to to half so I don't fucking like that that bothers me But again, we can't control that no more But it is but it is what it is and here's the other thing to almost say really quickly again

I firmly believe in healthy co-parenting and a child or children parenting and a child or children bouncing back and forth in a good way versus people just staying together under the same roof, screaming at each other and showing you and introducing you in different ways. I stand on that. That's hard. And also, just also scheduling. Scheduling is a motherfucker. I have this podcast, I have three podcasts, I have a tour. And then when I leave, I now added a dog into the mix.

Yeah. And just scheduling, getting someone to watch the dog while I'm gone. I like, listen, it's a whole nother as a guy who's dating. Take care. I'd rather date a woman with four kids than one dog. Yeah, is that right? They can never sleep over. That's it, you can't do anything. A dog, you are fuckin' trapped. A kid, they're like, oh yeah, they're at their dad's house.

Let's go away. You wanna go away to weekend Ohai? Good Lord. No. Dogs is common. Or you're getting dog sitter or whatever. Yeah, it's a lot. So that's been scheduling. Scheduling, been scheduling, which is funny because people will ask me the hardest part

of podcasting and I'll still to this day, harder than getting a show off the ground or sponsors or anything is scheduling. Is getting two or three people to sit down for one hour and have a conversation. That's hard. So I'm trying to do that alone among this schedule that I have with life. And so now we have, you know, there's gymnastics now and cheer now. And it's funny cause Stella said the other day, she's like, did mom tell you that we're not doing soccer this year?

And I was like, no, what's, what's up with not doing soccer? Don't you want to? She's like, I do, but cheer, um, crosses over with it and we don't really have time. And I was like, okay. She's like, you're okay with that. And I go, yeah. And she goes, mom, mom said we were going to have to have a family meeting. We've never had a family meeting. We don't have, they thought I was going to lose my shit. Cause you know, cause you love soccer. And I was, and I said, Stella, I don't give a damn. I said,

I don't want you playing sports just cause I played them. I said, I want you to find what you love. I said, but here's the deal. I do want team sports and I want team sports for a few reasons. I want you to learn how to be a good loser. I want you to learn how to be a good teammate. I want you to also learn how to depend on people. But I also want you to know that some of them you can't. You have shitty teammates.

I want to also want you to learn about bad coaches and people who aren't good at their jobs. Like you learn all of that in sports, but you've got to love it and you've got to give it your all. And the minute you don't want to do cheer or fucking whatever it is, that's where I'm at. I'm like, I'm in. So back to the motorcycle thing, I'm going to give it a parallel, if I will.

And I don't even know if it's a parallel. Do your best there, bro. But I saw a friend from home recently and I told him that my daughter was in cheer and he goes, why would you let her do that? And I go, cause she's interested. Yeah. She's interested in it.

It's something she wants to do. I go, what do you think? Every fucking girl that does cheer, her IQ drops and she just starts sucking dicks everywhere she goes. Like what, that's the whole argument. He's not saying it like he's saying it because. Oh, cause she's going to be some slut or something.

Makeup and putting them in costumes and they're supporting athletes to do work and we're just the show. Whatever idea you have around what you think it is, I was just like, I don't care. There've been very intelligent, independent, feminist, outspoken women that were cheerleaders. That's it.

So I was, what I'm saying is, if I'm gonna always, you know, if she's interested, I'm not going to be like, Oh no, you think I want to be a cheer dad? No, but fucking I got out there. When they got first place baby. My shirt came today. I gave my shirt tonight. Cheer dad. Yeah. Well, it's whatever their thing is called. Cheer dad on. I've seen those. You see him at those competitions, bro. But that I, I, that's a funny thing cause I saw something online the other day where,

um, these dads were at a Lego event and their kids were doing Legos and they were damn good at Legos. And one dad's like, you believe we got to do this shit other kids play football. And I was like, yeah, you fucking dick. Like, what do you mean? Like, I'm, how about we support what this kid loves and likes and realize that they're different than us. You don't have to live vicariously through giving your kid CTE so he can prove he's a fucking man in society.

You fuck, you dumb fuck. So, yeah, I'm out there fucking cheer dad and I'm out there gymnastics. But I'm still the same. Like, oh, I'm like, let's do it. You know what I'm saying? That's what I'd be a big business. I'm like, let's go. That chest out that leg over whip it. Let's go.

You know, I'm doing the same shit, of course, their techniques. Yeah, we do the routines in the backyard. And Stella makes me laugh too, because she's like, Dad, we're not pom pom. You know, it's it's competitive cheer now.

And I don't know the terms. I'm like, so are you a flyer? She's like, I'm a base, Dad. I'm like, all right, I'm a learn it. I'm a learn And I don't know the terms. I'm like, so are you a flyer? She's like, I'm a base dad. I'm like, all right, I'm a learn it. I'm a learn it. Don't worry. Yeah, I know. And then we have the disagreement that I don't think it's a sport. And she's like, it's a sport. I'm like, it's a sporting activity, just like golf, just like swimming.

And she's like, what's talked about this on the feast? What's your definition of a sport? To me, a sport has to have a defense, something, someone trying to stop you from doing what you're doing. Swimming doesn't have it. Well, cornhole, you can knock the person's thing out of the way. And you can put it in front of the goal. That's a sporting activity. Bowling's not. Listen,

if you're about to bowl and some dude comes out and fucking tackles you, that's a sport. What about javelin? No. That's not sporting activity. Bowling's not. Listen, if you're about to bowl and some dude comes out and fucking tackles you, that's a sport. What about javelin? No. That's not a sport. Well, who's knocking your javelin out of the air or tackling you before you throw it? That's what I'm saying. It's a sporting event or activity.

I didn't say, is it have a defense? I said, is it a sport? NASCAR, sport. You got other cars out there trying to run you off the road. Football, baseball, basketball, hockey, anything with a competing force, not cycling. Don't go from there needs to be defense. Not golf.

Well, that's what defense is. Come on, man. That's not what it is. Come on. That's what the fuck it is. No one has ever said, I got to tell you, Jim, the competing force that they're coming with today. I swear to God, I this Sunday dude it if somebody says that shit. They get the best competing force in the league I'll be the best off at the CD rock off run, baby

Okay, hold on what's CD? CF I got CT OK, hold on. What's CD? Competitive. Oh, yeah. I got CTE, I guess. You got from too many head balls and you know, the guys don't fucking head anymore. It's soccer. Well, you can't head until you're 12 or those motherfuckers kick it up there, though. That is a concussion waiting to happen. I tell you what is fun.

So my kids don't play sports, right? None. No. So what do they do for, do music? Yeah, they do music. She does cheer, right? So that's a sport in our house. Okay, fair enough. It's a sporting activity. Fuck it is.

They both do orchestra at school. He does drums. She does sewing. He was doing soccer, but like a clinic. It's like non-competitive. Dude, this is the funniest thing. So it's non-competitive soccer. It's just this dude I know who runs these clinics in a park.

He played at UPenn, he's a fucking stud. And he's just like, his whole thing is, soccer's not supposed to be aggressive. He teaches like, be back, be patient, wait for the moments, then you go. And so he's got these kids and my son would do it and he loved it. But he does not love having to like run at

and like, he just doesn't, he just never liked it, right? So he was doing the soccer and the neighbor across street is hardcore into soccer and he would just sleep over. So I'm making breakfast, right? And he goes, I hear the two of them and he goes, do you play any sports? He goes, yeah, I do non-competitive soccer. And he goes, what?

And he goes, what's that? He goes, you know, it's soccer, but it's non-competitive. He goes, you want a team? He goes, no, there's no team. And he looks at me and he goes, are you hearing this? That's like, yeah, man. Trust me. You could have, I would have played on-

Are you hearing this? How old is this kid? Oh, he's a- Like 10? He's older than my son. So he's in middle school now. So this, he would have been in sixth grade then maybe. Are you hearing this?

Like you're not signing them up. Like I wasn't. Yeah, yeah, like it's just happening. But that's a perfect example of like, you know, I played soccer from five to 18. I played baseball from five to 23. I love sports. I would be, and I'm like, you're not into it?

That's fine by me. You gotta be able to play catch. I want you to play sports or do something sporting. You have to do something athletic. I'm not gonna tell you what you got. That's right, athletic. And also kids might come around later. My friends are like, oh dude, my son was 12

when he got into volleyball or whatever. Well, that's the other thing. Kids are, I told Stella. I'm not trying to raise pro athletes. If you're, unless you're going to the Olympics, you're going to age out of gymnastics. Just like those comedians back in the day when we started in their twenties, it would finish their set with a backflip.

They ain't doing that shit in their forties, bro. You better come up with a new clothes. I'm trying to think of that dude. What was his name? Who was it? I don't know. He used to do that. You ain't gonna be able to do that shit in your forties.

Listen, man, you get it. Front handspring is running from the audience on the stage. All right, so what's next for you? What's next as far as? So I'm in Ojai with the kids. We went camping, we camp a lot. And I'm getting over camping, right? Do you want to know what is on the, first of all,

you know, I'm big into manifesting. Like if I want something, I'm going to put it up and I'm going to like focus and make it a part of my life. So I bought a Christmas ornament last year of the thing that I wanna get. A Christmas ornament, is that what you said? Yeah. Okay. You know what it is?

It's a pop-up camper. A what? A pop-up camper. You're getting a pop-up camper? Yes. This is what I wanna tell you about you, Jay Larson. For years, I sat across from you and you had boat shoes and your collar turned up. I never had my collar turned up. You get the footage.

Show me the picture. Let me get the footage, bro. And you wanted a boat. You always wanted a boat. You always wanted a boat, but you were always just, you're always one of us. And now you're fucking starting to really settle into the pop-up camper. Oh yeah, dude. I wanted a Craig Hansen and a pop-up camper. Was I anti it? I just, I think it was- You were anti that lifestyle. And I think you're really starting to lean into it, which is what you-

You mean poor? Yes. Lean into it. We were trash. Lean into it. You weren't fucking anything special. Not like, I mean, financially. I don't look at like a pop-up camper as being, you know, you can get a $18,000 pop-up camper. I just want one. Yeah, I know. They can get stupid or poor. And then they extend and all that bullshit.

Sure. I'm not saying I need a big RV. All I'm saying is we camped so much and now my back is jacked. I'm sick. I'm cooking on a fucking little camper with gnats all over me. I'm not doing it. I just, I'm not doing it.

So what I'm gonna say is we're in- You're gonna get up inside the camper and do it. Hell yeah. So we're in Ojai. We did one night camping and then river got stung by something or leg. The whole thing blew up, got infected. We're like on the river and I just go, how do you guys feel about checking into like a hotel for the night?

And they're like, yes. And we went to this place as a pool. Are you tenting? Is that why? Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. So we're sitting in the pool in the shallow and me and my son and I'm looking at him. I'm just staring at him. He's staring back at me and I go, you're 10. And he goes, yeah. And I go, in three years, we'll have a pool. And he goes, yeah. I go, yeah. What do you think? And he goes, yeah. So I don't know. I'd love to have a pool. Where was my life going? Is that what you mean? Like, where am I going with life? Where am I going with these kids? What do you want next? I'd like to take them. As a dad? As a man or whatever? So I took the kids to Boston last summer, 12 days.

We did Boston. I took them to see their grandparents. Oh, good. On their mom's side. They stayed with them a couple days. We went to New Hampshire with my friend. We did a whole bunch of stuff. So this summer, their mom was going away to Spain and I go, hey, do we want to go to Boston? Well, your mom goes to Spain and my daughter goes, nah, I don't want to go to Boston.

And I go, why not? She goes, we just went. I go, yeah, but that's why you go. You go to see family. We don't see them all the time. She goes, nah. I go, you don't want to see grandma? She goes, nah. She kind of annoys me. And I go, what? And she goes,

yeah, she kind of annoys me. And I go, what about Nana? She goes, nah, she annoys me a little bit. And I go, okay, well, what would you rather do than that? She goes, can we go to Japan? And I go, no. Japan, hell, that's a great answer. We can't go to Japan. She goes, well, what about Paris? And I'm like, no, what? Paris, Texas. I'll take you down there.

Little different. But then you know what I did, Ry? I walked away from that conversation just being like, who is this girl? You know what I mean? And then I was like, why can't I? You know what I mean? Like, what do I need to do to change

so that I can go to Japan with my kids? Because I do want to show them things and open them to experiences, you know, like why not go to Paris? My neighbors went to Paris for Thanksgiving. It was cheaper than going to Chicago. Is that right? Flights two years ago. They're like, we're going to Paris. I go, why? They go, Chicago flights were crazy. And I'm just like, you know, so I'd like to do like a big trip with the kids. I would love to, you know, there's some financial things I would love to do. Like I'd love to, I mean, I know you and I used to talk about income property. I want something in the mountains that reminds me of, you know, East Coast. And I want to keep writing and directing and, you know,

directing has been this thing that I have you ever had anything in your life that you're like, oh, I had no idea this was the thing I always wanted? No one just showed me what it was. I used to think directing was like, you gotta know cameras and lenses. It doesn't hurt to know it, but I realized I'm like, oh no, it's like picking out the set and the costumes and how people are gonna walk,

how the cameras are gonna move. You let other people do their jobs. And it's been the thing that I, I'm like, I love this. So I want to continue doing that. Hopefully do some like TV and filming it. And I would love to find a partner, you know, like I think about that often. It would be a nice part. I want to ask you this. Do you, um, again, when we grew up, you had to go introduce

yourself to a lady and stuff, but do you go on dating app on dating app or do you naturally try to go to a coffee shop and maybe meet a person? I do both. I do both. Yeah. You walk up to a lady and introduce yourself. You will. Yeah, I got to. I want to, I never, you know, dating apps are there because that's where people are gravitating to now more than ever. But dating apps are meant to keep you on dating apps. They're fucking terrible.

They're built so that you stay on. Oh, is that right? They don't want you to get off. Then they lose their business. But I mean, I'm on them, but it's just like, I'm getting to a point where I'm like, there's a lot of things I wanna do and I don't wanna be looking for this.

Are you on dating apps? No. No. I've never been on a dating app ever. I'll never go on one. I have, and I am. And I've met some really cool people. At the same time, it's just like, you can deval yourself quickly being on them.

So like, yes, in the wild for sure. No, I met my girlfriend the natural way. I say natural way, but all the times I have, I've walked up and,, or it's been Yeah An introduction and then I've taken it from there. Yeah, what I mean, like I love that I would never I'm not judging anyone I personally would never go on a dating app at least I don't know Something happened in my 80s and I was bored and I didn't my wife's gone or whatever. I don't know

Yeah, but I just feel like also the amount of time I have is this much. Like I have my daughter half the time. So I'm not bringing a woman into that situation right. You wouldn't right away anyway. So now your time is 50%. I'm on the road when I don't have her. So there goes that time. And then when I'm in town, I'm doing this and trying to sometimes do in town standup. So, you know, I got a Wednesday for you. I trust me. You know what I'm saying?

Between this time and this time. I know. You know, that I deal with the same exact thing. And that's when it gets tricky, too. You're like, oh, when can you get together? You're like, could you do this? And they're like, fucking dude, what are you really trying to squeeze me into your life? And you're like, yeah, I'm not trying to,

it's just what is there. Because what I'll do sometimes is like, you know, I don't do the road as much, I never did. And now I'm like, oh, well, I got to, and I don't have someone, so I'll do every other weekend, but at the same time, like you want to have a life, but it just ends up being the thing you gotta do. You know, so I get it, man.

Thank you. Thank you for coming on and doing this. So I get it, man. Thank you. Thank you for coming on and doing this. I love hanging out with you. When I saw you at the improv and that you were on the same show, I mean, just sitting there in that little booth with you was just like, ugh. No one I love watching more than you on stage.

That's nice. It was so fun to sit there. I had to run to the comedy star and even get to hang out. I understand. Plug everything you'd like. J Larson comedy on Instagram, Twitter. I'm not on Twitter, Instagram, TikTok.

Dude, you got hacked on Twitter. And then you let them take it. I just couldn't. You let them take it. I'm horrible at that shit. And I have a new special out here. We go again, it's on the Comedy Stores YouTube channel. And then I have two specials,

me being me and sounds like Bruce, both on my YouTube channel as well. And I got a couple other things we're going to be recording that'll come out later in the year. All right. Great to be here, buddy. Thanks for coming. As always, Ryan Sickler on all your social media.

Come see me on tour. Tickets are on my website right now. If you're in town when I'm around, come see a live show. Everything's over on RyanSickler.com. We'll talk to y'all next week. You