The HoneyDew with Ryan Sickler - John Farley - FarleyDew

Episode Date: September 23, 2024

My Honeydew this week is John Farley! Check out John in the new film Meet Me Where I Am, a documentary that explores the topic of grief through personal stories. John joins me to Highlight the Lowlights of his personal experience with grief after the loss of his brother, Chris Farley. We dive into old memories and traditions from growing up in the Farley household. John shares what it has been like navigating such a loss in his family and how he remembers and keeps his brother's memory alive today. Check out Meet Me Where I Am here : https://bio.site/MeetMeWhereIAmFilm SUBSCRIBE TO MY YOUTUBE and watch full episodes of The Dew every toozdee! https://youtube.com/@rsickler SUBSCRIBE TO MY PATREON, The HoneyDew with Y’all, where I Highlight the Lowlights with Y’all! You now get audio and video of The HoneyDew a day early, ad-free at no additional cost! It’s only $5/month! Sign up for a year and get a month free! https://www.patreon.com/TheHoneyDew What’s your story?? Submit at [e-mail] CATCH ME ON TOUR https://www.ryansickler.com/tour Denver, CO - Sep. 28th Chicago, IL - Oct. 11th & 12th Detroit, MI - Nov. 8th Minneapolis, MN - Nov. 9th Madison, WI - Nov. 15th & 16th Portland, OR - Nov. 23rd Ft. Lauderdale, FL - Dec. 6th Tampa, FL - Dec. 7th Tempe, AZ - Dec. 20th and 21st Get Your HoneyDew Gear Today! https://shop.ryansickler.com/ Ringtones Are Available Now! https://www.apple.com/itunes/ http://ryansickler.com/ https://thehoneydewpodcast.com/ SUBSCRIBE TO THE CRABFEAST PODCAST https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-crabfeast-with-ryan-sickler-and-jay-larson/id1452403187 SPONSORS: Liquid I.V. -Get 20% off your order when you shop better hydration at https://www.LiquidIV.com and use code HONEYDEW

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All right. That's the biz you guys know we do here. We highlight the low lights and always say these are the stories behind the storytellers. And I am very excited to have this guest here. First time on the honeydew. Ladies and gentlemen, please welcome John Farley. Hey, how do you do? How do ski. How are you, Ryan? All right. Great. Thank you for having me on.

Thank you for doing this. Yeah. Before we get into what we're going to talk about, please promote everything you'd like to promote. You got a movie. Yes. Talk about it. The movie that I did, my buddy, Grant Gary, wanted to do a movie about grief and I was like, go fuck yourself. I don't want to relive that and I'm all done. But, you know, it's for other people that have recently lost or, you know, there's, and it's called Meet Me Where I Am. And it, so I went over to Grant's house, I said, fine, he's a buddy of ours, that he did a play with my wife. It was when I was Sweeney Todd things,

and I was there and I watched it, and I said, good job. And so we became friends. And then I went over to his house and sat down and he grilled me with questions like, how do you feel? I'm like, go fuck yourself again. No, I listened, I tried to respond as best I could

for the, he had some talented folks that really like know about grief. I don't know about grief, fuck, I lived it, but I mean, so that's the thing. You don't have to be a doctor in grief to know to actually experience it, which sucks. Um, there was the other thing too. I struggle with this and I don't mean to interrupt you, but I suffer plenty of grief, you know, my father died when I was 16, I'm without parents the rest of

the way and I have trouble verbalizing it. I write jokes about it. I make a podcast, a laugh about it. I have trouble sitting down and feeling my feelings Yeah, cuz no one's ever really given a fuck about my feelings. No, I'm just a dude exactly. It's always how are you doing? I'm good, right not how are you feeling? Right? How are you doing? Yeah, I'm good I don't need to tell you anything else either need to I don't need to feel my feelings. No, I get it I get it. We stuff our feelings in the Farley family

with soot and booze. Yeah. So what made you say, I'll do it. Yeah, I'll do it. My wife is like, just do it. And I'm like, all right, fine. So we went and I did it and it was good. And then I watched it at a couple of film festivals

I went to and the guys that he had on it, there's one, who's that, Anthony Rapp or, he's the guy that did Rent, Rapp? All right, I think it's Anthony Rapp. I'm not that cultural. I don't either. I don't like my information sung to me. I don't either.

It's my least favorite way to receive, I'd rather you yell at me. I, me too. Than sing anything to me. I can't, but they did that rent thing, rent movie, the rent. And his, the guy that did that died. So Anthony was on there explaining that one.

And he had, he delved into his grief. Whereas I just tried to make jokes about it. Like me and my brothers would be like, who's gonna get Chris's leather jacket? I thought he was gonna do silly stuff like that. Chris would be like, who's gonna get Chris's leather jacket? I thought he was gonna do stuff like that. Chris would be mad if you did that. He's watching you. And then there was one guy that was explained to,

I don't know if he's a doctor or what he is, but he goes, one time somebody asked me, how long am I gonna grieve for? And he says, well, how long is the person, the person you know going to be dead? And like, so that's how long you'll grieve. I'm like, oh, that was, that was a good way to explain it. So it's got some good, you know, people that, there's another guy who got in a car wreck that his kids,

you know, didn't make it, but all his organs went off to other people. And then they all came together. Oh, I can't, I see those videos where the dad is hugging a girl who's like a marathon runner and his daughter's heart's in her chest. I was like, holy. I'm losing it, like no shit.

I don't know how to talk about what I'm feeling. I know. Oh my God. My eyes are wet, my nose burns. Funny nobody wanted Chris's organs. Ah! Yeah. No thank you.

No thanks. I'll take, do we have his eyes? No, can't have those, but not kidney, no. You don't want any of that. So the- How did you feel after doing it? After doing it, you know, it's always rough. The rough part too is the ugly part for me would be in your shoes,

having to then go watch myself do this. Oh my God, I hated it. It's the worst. I was sitting in the theater. It's one thing to be interviewed and do it and slush it and it's gone. Exactly. Then you can decide if you're going to watch, like no offense to me or anything, you don't have to watch this show.

You can decide later if you're going to watch this show. I know. When you're doing a panel or an interview, you gotta sit there and watch that shit at the fall. I know, at the film festival, the theater was good. And then you're starting to compare yourself to the other people like this guy's got way more to handle. No shit, you could hear a pin drop

throughout the entire movie and tears sniffling. Everybody wanted to hear from me. And they all laughed at mine. I'm like, grief is a bitch. And all of a sudden bitch, cause no one's foreign the whole thing. And I was the only one that did even that. And they were all like, yay, funny guy.

I'm like, I don't know. Yeah, I don't know why I'm here because I don't know about grief. I don't know how to handle it. I know about grief. I don't know how to handle it though. So I tried to make some bits or jokes and I don't know, I'm sure he cut out, he did cut out a lot of the stuff

that people are like, I'm grieving and you're not making fun of my grief. I'm like, yeah, that's what I do. That's all we do is we just literally from the, even from the funeral on, we were trying to find bits to make the people that say, how were trying to find bits to make, what, the people that say, how are you doing? You're like, fuck.

Can I ask you this question? Sure. Prior to that, Yeah. was the Farley family the same way? Yeah. Did you lose grandparents or things like that where you're still just not feeling it?

Oh my God, I'll tell you the worst. Cause I also want to real, I do, I'm not, please do. I also want to know if Chris was the same way prior to him passing. Yeah. same way, probably him passing. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, fuck yeah. Here's the worst one I did that just didn't go over at all.

So my grandfather just died. I've already left. It's the fucking worst. It starts with, so my grandfather just died. So my grandfather just died and my brother Kevin's at the dining room table doing his homework and I, I'm too young for homework, but I come up about eight, nine. And my brother Kevin's at the dining room table doing his homework. And I, I'm too young for homework, but I come up about eight, nine,

I come up with one of those, remember the red sled? It was just a plastic sled, red long sled. I had put two pillows in there, and then I wrapped a sheet in there. And Kevin saw me going from the kitchen through the dining room into the living room, dragging this sled. And I went into my dad and I go,

dad, look, grandpa, I got him. Holy, you at the time. I fucking ate. And all of a sudden, oh my God. My dad goes, John, I don't think that's very funny. And I go, start crying. And I go away and Kevin just dropped his pencil and goes, John, I don't think that's very funny. I go, start crying. And I go away and Kevin just dropped his pencil. It goes, holy shit.

What the fuck was that? I don't know. I was trying to make them laugh. You dragged a fucking sled through the house and said, look, dad, it's grandpa. Got him. And I was like, I don't know, he thought it was funny. So yeah. Okay, wait, one more time, the name of the movie again. Name of the movie is Meet Me Where I Am.

All right. Meet Me Where I Am. And it's got train tracks on it, it's blue and it's- Where can they see it? They can see it anywhere. Amazon, you've got, it's on Amazon. It's on Amazon. It's on Amazon.

You know, Apple, anywhere you can get movies. Yeah, we'll give you the link to all the spots that it's playing in a lot. A lot of different, he showed it to me, it's a lot. So it's pretty good. It's pretty good movie. That it'll help you guys with grief. Well, I wanna talk to me and it's a lot. So it's pretty good. It's pretty good, pretty good movie that it'll help you guys with grief. Well, I want to talk to you about it

because I was saying like, this is the interview I would want to do with you is, I know your brother's Chris Farley and Chris is just a comedic icon. And even Sandler just had a special come out, but his last one, he did the whole song about your brother and I'm balling. I'm balling. That song gets'm balling. I'm balling.

That song gets me every time. I'm balling. Yeah. And it's been how many years now since Chris has passed? Fast? Was it 97? 97. So yeah, 2007, 17, 27 years.

27. So yeah, that's, but that song, he brought me a Santa called and he goes, go to come down and watch me do this, uh, do Do the show and I got something special at the end of the at the end of my Standup, I got I went down there and I watched it and I go. Holy Jesus That was crazy to go from so funny to so sincere with humor in it Like and then to tell his like I love that his daughters are like who was the funniest one and you know tell his like I love that his daughters are like who was the funniest one and you know sailors worked with everyone in comedy. Hell yeah.

Everyone and he's like it's your fucking brother. Oh my god yeah dude he was a god damn you if you made you laugh every time. I moved here in the second time I came here in 94 for a hot second went to college the earthquake hit I moved back to Baltimore, finished school, come again in 97. At the time I come in 97, I still got a little bit of the Catholic boy I was raised with in me. Yeah. And I go by myself, I go to a midnight mass in Beverly Hills, knowing nothing, knowing no one. Right.

And it happened to be a church that your brother, I guess, when he was here, he would attend. Oh, yeah, the one at, you know, it's called... On Wilshire there. Yeah. It was on Wilshire or is it in... It was, you know, he went to the one, I forget the name of it, Our Lady of Angels? Or was it Santa Monica? Santa Monica one, he went to the one in Santa Monica and he went to the one in Beverly Hills because it was right next to his house.

And I just go in for midnight mass and your brother had passed not long. I mean, when did he pay? What month? December 18th, 1997. Yeah. So it's a week later. Okay. It's a week later.

Six days, technically, I'm at midnight mass. Right. And they did a whole special thing for your brother. Really? Yeah. They said, you know, he would come here sometimes and we know brother Farley. Like I was like, whoa, that's really fucking nice to see that moment.

That's really cool. So look, the questions I do wanna ask you is like, we as a world, we as comedy fans, we as whatever, we lost Chris, the person we saw there, here. Yes. I know grief, I'm from a big family, a lot of deaths. Oh, God. Man, talk to me about being brothers with him

and what it's like to lose him as a brother, as a person. Your parents are bearing a child. I want to hear about that. So let's start with this. You're all from Wisconsin, right? All from Madison, Wisconsin. Madison, Wisconsin. And are there just three of you?

Do you have sisters? How many kids told you? There's five, Wisconsin. Madison, Wisconsin. And are there just three of you? Do you have sisters? How many kids? We have all over. Where's five of us? Five. We have, it starts with me. I'm the youngest. Then came Kevin and Chris was in the middle. And then we have an older brother, Tommy and our sister, Barbara Ann, who we kind of turned into a boy. So we have five boys. Okay. All right. She she's the oldest for me to Barb is about eight years. Okay. Yeah. All right. So, uh, Tommy and Barbara Ann are still back in Madison, Wisconsin.

Kevin whereabouts unknown. Uh, Chris is Chris. And then I'm in, uh, Pasadena. Okay. And so what is it like? So, all right. When do you get, who tells you who's the first person to tell you your brother passed, um, first person to tell me or tells you, who's the first person to tell you your brother passed?

Um, the first person to tell me? Or call you or how'd you find out? Well, I opened the door to his apartment. Oh, you found him? Yeah, it was me. Oh no. Yeah, yeah. So I was a guy.

Yeah. I was a guy. And you went why? Because we hadn't heard from him in days and you're going to... No, I was the guard that left his post, I guess, as you could say. So I was living in Chris's apartment. It was me and Kevin across the street

in Bob Newhart's building. Here's the beginning of Bob Newhart, that big, there was a big building in Chicago. Kevin goes, let's move in there. It was 111 East Chesaunas, really nice. And we got, it was a big building in Chicago. And Kevin goes, let's move in there. It was one 11 East chest. It was really nice. And we got, it was wall to wall windows, overlooking Michigan Avenue and the lake, huge, beautiful place.

I go, this is amazing. And how old are you then? You're looking at 28, 27. Okay. And I got like, I got, this is like 900 bucks a month or something crazy. I go, this is great. Or 1100.

And at seven o'clock in the morning, every morning a jackhammer would be like, shaking the whole. I go, this is great. Or 1100 and, uh, and at seven o'clock in the morning, every morning, a jack hammer would be like shaking the whole, I go, my God, they're redoing. That's why we got it for so cheap. And then he moved on, went off to LA. He goes, I'm not going to make it a second. I'm not going to make it a second city. Uh, I'm just going to start acting out in LA and live, uh, let's see, I'll live out with Chris.

So Chris, I go, oh, all right. And I'm looking out the window over at the Hancock building. I go, no one's in Chris's apartment. I'll just take that. So I went over there, I go, can I live in your house, in your place, if you're not there? He goes, ah, go ahead, sure, no worries.

So I went over there, but he came back for Christmas in between movies. I think it was just after Almost Heroes. And he was there and I go, fuck, this is, and he was, he liked to go to Chicago to keep the prying eyes off him. And I was like, ah, all right. And my dad goes, Christopher, I know Chicago's difficult

because when I pass in from Wisconsin, I see that skyline, it looks like a giant Scotch and a sausage dancing, the Sears tower and the Sears tower and the Hancock. I just picture my dad and his Cadillac going over the horizon and seeing the Chicago, the sunset or the Chicago skyline. And it's just a Scotch bottle and a sausage going, yay, Chicago. She goes, I know it's tough.

And Chris always laughs at that one. And then, so I, he came back and I go, I'm going to go going, yay, Chicago. She goes, I know it's tough. And Chris always laughs at that one. And then, so I, he came back and I go, I'm gonna go to, I went to his assistant, I go, can I have his credit card? I'm going over the four seasons. So I stayed at the four seasons while he, I went out with him one night and then I was like, that's enough for me. I'm gonna hang out.

I wanted to ask you, was it like that? Like when you would go out, you really couldn't keep up? No, it was, uh, yeah, you couldn't. You could. I, you know, you try and then, you know, you were, I was a young man too. That's what I'm saying. I know young and you can't keep up. Well, yeah. And also it was like, that's too much. You know, when you buy like weed, like, Ooh, I got a little weed. He's like getting like those gallon bags of like, I'm like, that's too much.

You're going too far. There's no reason for that. What are you going to do with all that? Yeah. And he's like, I don't know. Uh, so I, you know, you try and take stuff away from him so that you wouldn't do it. And then I was like, all right, I can't, that's strategy is not going to work. So I'm just going to get away. So that's what I did.

And then, uh, the night he went out, I called him, I said, Hey, come on out and we'll go to the four seasons. This pain, this guy's paying for it. So he goes, no, no, Johnny, go ahead. Yeah, have fun, have fun tonight. And I go, all right. So, and where was he living? Where was that place? Hancock was across the street.

So it was just basically walk across Michigan Avenue. And, and then, so I had to do, I had to do a rehearsal for Second City, a show at Second City at two. So I came back, I go, I gotta change my outfit. So I went back over to the apartment. I used, that's where he was. I go, ah, quit screwing around.

Oh no. Where was he laying on the floor? Yeah, on the floor there. Face down? Yeah, he was on the floor, no, face up. And then he tried to do what he's got to do to try and revive him. And then it didn't work. And then I'm not going to go far into this one here,

but I don't want to go too deep. Go as deep as you want. I know. And then I did the same thing. I messed up with the call 911. Why? Because that's like alert, you know, I guess it was like, Chris Farley's in trouble.

We need 911. And I guess every newscaster, everyone, or maybe it was the police. Cause the police is the one who got us good on that one, the cops. And then there's like, What do you mean? Well, there were, there was a bunch of people

coming into the room and taking, you know, like coroners, guys in trench coats, playing clothes, you know, regular blue cops. And then I think somebody, one of the blue cops, you know, in the uniform, came up and was taking pictures. I don't know who they were. And then they sold them to the inquirer. Ah. I know.

And I guess somebody said that later that night, they were at a bar and some cop, you know, a cop came in, you know, I'm playing close regular now. And he goes, I got photos. I did it. I got the photos of Chris Farley. And I go, Oh, that's why what happened? I didn't know that.

And so I know you're your lowest and people are just coming in and taking advantage of that. So we went to the Chicago and they were like, uh, like a 10 years later, five years later, and we were like, Hey, that's happened. And can you, and they're like, I don't know what we're going to do. Nevermind. Never went anywhere. I don't know how Kobe Bryant's wife got that.

I was going to say the same thing. I was like, she got like, God damn 3 million bucks. And I go, can we do that? Like, no, it's not going to happen. Can we get hamper that? Okay. Can we get something? Like if a cop took pictures?

And I go. That guy should lose his job for sure. No shit. But you don't know, I, you know, only the Inquirer guy knows. And he didn't, it wasn't even just like a summon with Trump. And he was like, is that even shit? Is that even still a thing in the Inquirer? Is it still around?

To say shit? Yeah, it is. Oh, yeah. And they're like, I don't have to say shit. Nope, not going to tell you. And I'm like, I think it was in the Trump and the Superior Court. So if he can't say anything there, he's not going to tell who the fuck took pictures of Chris Farley.

So you walk in, you see him. What, at what moment do you realize he's gone? That would be, you know, you're looking at 20 seconds. I'm guessing he'll try and CPR or anything like that. But that was like two o'clock in the end, one o'clock in the afternoon. And then by then it would been like five in the morning one. So yeah. So do you call nine one one yourself?

I had Teddy did. Yeah. By his assistant, our old, our buddy. And so his assistant calls nine one one and that's when he says who it is. Yeah. And then I went into the back. our buddy. And so his assistant calls 911 and that's when he says who it is. Yeah. And then I went into the back. Because you know, we'd always have, if you dropped his name,

you'd always get something. Except for when we went to Disneyland, we'd go, Chris, drop your name and let's get to the front of the line. It was before like those fast passes. And we'd go to the front, Chris goes, hey, I'm Chris Farley. And they're like, who? That's awesome. And he came back to the back line and goes, Hey, I'm Chris Farley. And they're like, who? That's- And he came back to the back line and goes, you fuckers. Oh God.

That's the old Paul Barney. Yeah. And I go, sorry. You motherfuckers. You know who I was. And they're like, oh, sorry. Guess we'll stand in line then. That was the best.

So that's why- Okay, so they come in, they exploit this shit. Obviously. I'm in the back in the office, um, in the back office area. And what are you doing? Are you calling family? You gotta call. That's the first person's dad, not mom. Mom and dad, you know, they're together. Yeah. So I call them and then, yeah, it's OG. Yeah.

What do you say? Oh God, no, no. I, you know, he's like, Hey Johnny, what's it's OG. Yeah. What do you say? Oh, God, no, no. He's like, hey, Johnny, what's going on? I'm out of Chicago. And then I got to like, that's the next guy to lead into that. Holy fuck. That was a tough one.

So that was bad. And then. Man. Yeah. And then you call your brother's sister? Yeah. So you're the person that called everybody? Yeah.

Oh. Like, dad wasn't like, I'll call your brother or anything. Like you just had to do it every, oh. Well, no, I could only call dad because this is before cell phones. No one had cell phones. That's a good point. Yeah. 97, yeah.

So I don't know where anyone is. So I just called dad and then everyone found out other ways. And then I went to the airport and met Kevin flew in from LA and the airport put us in a back leg and airports got a lot of different spots for like people. Does it? Yeah. So, you know, if you're the high monkey marks, Michael Jackson style, you go into like a, you don't go see people.

You go to the way back in this room. It's nice and plush. I go, Oh, wow. And I go, well, I don plush. I go, oh wow. And I go, well, I don't know. I farsher hug, cried, and then we're waiting for the plane. I'm like, well, I guess that's the end of this stuff. It's all in the crap.

Looks like no more VIP treatments for us. Thanks a lot, Chris. And at least, you know, cause somebody had to make a joke or you have to. I don't know. In our eyes, it's literally like oxygen for us. I agree. And if you don't, you're drowning. And my dad is dead in a coffin up there. It's a, it's a dis, excused absence from our high school because I have a twin

brother. We're, you know, we play all the sports, we're popular kids and everyone knew my dad. And we had a soccer coach, you know, so many people don't know what to do. No, they don't. Well, but they don't know what to say. This is their worst nightmare. You know, and we have adults whose parents are still alive. Don't, they don't know what to say to a kid that's dad's dead. Right.

And, um, they're all coming up. There's anything we can do if there's anything we do. And my brothers and I just say, you know, because it's a two day viewing. Yeah. We tomorrow, we're just going to fucking start asking for jokingly. We're just going to be like, yeah, could you give us $20,000? And our soccer coach came up to us. Oh, my God. And he's like a he was like a religious, you know, very God fearing man. I think if there's anything I can do, family, we're like,

is there any way you could give us $20,000? And you just see them, like, you can see their knees buckling up, because they don't want to say no. Jesus, why did they die? And then we laugh, like, we're just kidding, man. We're just kidding. They think, oh my God, oh my God, these guys are mentally ill.

Oh my God. My dad's big joke, oh my God, that's a good one. My dad's big joke was always like, when a parent died, he'd be like, ah, there it goes. Susie's not gonna be able to go to the father daughter dance it looks like. And I was like, oh my God. It's pretty funny though.

And then he died a year after Chris. Was it only a year? Yeah, it was less than a year. Yeah, he didn't, he just, last year was just staring out the window and he didn't really do much. Cause he was Christian. How old was your dad? Dad was 63.

Young. So. I mean, I can't imagine what that would do to a father. Just probably, it would kill him. That's what it did. It really did. It took a year. It took a year.

And you know. How did he die? Well, he fell. He was a big guy. Yeah. He was a very big guy and he fell and he ruptured his kidney and they couldn't do dialysis because he was too big. And they were like, well, that would kill you anyway.

If he did die, because he got to open you up and put stuff on you. So we can't open you up or you'll die. Your kidneys ruptured. You're going to die. So we'll just give you morphine and let you go. And that's how he died. It was wild. Fuck.

I know it's tough. You see a normal guy like going, this is getting crazy. And they just overdosed him with morphine I think, or you know, or his kidneys blew out something. But as you in your shoes, you've just literally lost your brother and your father in a year.

Yeah. Your mom's losing her husband and your father in a year. Yeah. Your mom's losing her husband and her son in a year. I know. That's crazy. How was your mom with this? My mom's a goddamn trooper. She's insane. I mean, everyone.

She still has four children she needs to love and take care of as well. That's why you have a lot of kids, because once a couple of them go, you're like, fuck it, now I still got three. Okay, you guys are up. Who's getting on Larry King next? Man. Not me, guys are up. Who's getting on Larry King next? Man.

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your first order when you shop better hydration today using promo code HONEYDO at liquidiv.com. Now, let's get back to the do. Chris did always take these funny bits. Once I got to Hollywood, you know, he's here like, love it still is a funny story of like, Chris used to do this, take this pillow and he'd pretend he was making out with it. Like he was making out with a girl. And then he'd be like, you stupid.

You just start punching it and like, you whore. Why'd you whore? And I go, that's my, he's coming out and taking all of our bits from, he'd come back. Childhood and shit. And take all our bits from childhood. And then everyone was like, Chris Barley is hilarious. I'm like, nice. Did he ever, was in a van down by the river? No, that's all Odenkirk. Motivational is all him.

That's all Bob Odenkirk. Oh, that's Odenkirk. He wanted to be, he was wanting to be Matt Foley. Oh, he did want to be Matt Foley. At Second City, because he did it at Second City. And Odenkirk wrote it. And he was like, hmm. I actually looked at the five, six pages. He goes, Chris, why don't you try and be this guy?

And it wasn't Matt Foley, I don't think, because Chris, Matt Foley, his father, Matt Foley, Chris' buddy from Marquette, and he played rugby with Chris. And then he went off and became a priest. Went off and became a priest and he, yeah, he's one of those guys that was like, I'm going to go be a priest in Afghanistan, back in the thick of it. And I was like, oh, geez, he's one of those rugby playing Afghanistan like priests like, Oh. I've never heard that combination. I have an either good looking guy.

No kidding. Good looking guy that was, uh, that went off to the USO, uh, went off to the war and came back and he's like, what's up? You know, he's like, when I was angry, I was like, how is it being a priest, is it hard? Yeah. You have to stand, you have to stand, it's not easy. There's, you know, bunch of widows or like women that are all like, oh my God, you're the prettiest,

beautiful, most beautiful priest. There's women all over me and I can't, you know, I've got to be like, I'm a priest, I gotta, oh my God, it's gotta be tough. So, but he was Matt Foley. So I think Chris named it Matt Foley. I don't know how the name Matt Foley, if Bob Oenkerk wrote it, how Matt Foley became the name

because that's Chris's buddy. But Oenkerk was like, fucking Chris is way better at this than me. So I'll play the dad, Phil Hartman's part, and Chris would be Matt Foley, and then we'll get the others to, I don't know who the other three were, Spade, Agnabay, and Jan Hooks.

Phil Hartman. Phil Hartman and Jan Hooks. I think Jan Hooks was the wife, yeah. So I don't know who played Jan Hooks, but I know Odenkirk was the dad, and so he was like, fuck, that's made for you. And then I think at Saturday Night Live, Lauren Michaels goes, write down everything that is yours,

that you've come up with, and write down all your bits, and those will be yours. And then anything you come up with at Saturday Night Live will be mine. So Chris is like, guy eats ham sandwich. Yeah, anything you can't. Guy gets out of a car and falls. Um, and then he wrote Matt Foley.

So he had the, luckily he wrote that down. That's kind of nice, but we haven't done anything with it. We haven't done anything, anything. We, I, I don't know. My brothers have tried. They've done some documentaries. What about the actual funeral? Was it, did you do it back in Chicago?

Wisconsin, Chicago, Wisconsin. You did it in Wisconsin. And the only thing I remember about that, I remember, you know, Lauren and Sandler and those guys, they were all just groups. They didn't really come up. And my dad was like, I'm going to have, be the Paul Bearers. I remember thought it was Sandler, Spade, Brock, and those guys are going to be the Paul Bearers. He goes, this football team, high school football team. So those guys, they fucking were so nice. That's awesome. They were like honored and like this has never happened before.

And in front of all the pretty big Hollywood folks coming in on Christmas, flying into Madison, Wisconsin, and it was just snowy. It's always snowy and like freezing cold. God, it's a Christmas funeral. I know these guys all were Chris versus Paul Bearers. And it was pretty cool to see that, his high school buddies. That was kind of cool that dad did that.

But the only thing I kind of remember from the funeral, I remember a few things. Well, one was Joel Murray, Bill Murray's little brother was roommates with Chris at Second City. And Joel's was like, he was the Cheetos guy. Like, Oh yeah. The Cheetos. Is that right? Yeah.

He was the cheater, Chester the Cheeto. So he had money and his house was like really nice. What his girlfriend at the time is, it was super nice. And she's like, ah, yeah, very, the nicest people in the world and meticulously, uh, decorated apartment. And then you go across the hallway. It was only two Chris's place, bro. Why always broken glass? Uh, and throw up.

I was like, God damn it. And then socks that he wiped his ass with. I'm like, do you have to, can't you buy toilet paper, Chris? You shove it. That's what was, what I had. I didn't have, I don't know why. He's blamed something. He's like, do you have to, can't you buy toilet paper across? You shove it. That's what I had. I didn't have it. I don't know why. He just blames something else. I don't know. I couldn't get it. So he used a sock. I go, why did you throw the sock away? No. I have to use that again. There's another side to that sock. There's three sides, actually, if you turn it inside out. Joe Murray goes, hey, your brother played a hell of a first half. Now, that's a goddamn cool statement to say.

It was a hell of a first half for Chris, as opposed to another guy that came up with an old, friendly friend, like, family friend that, he was like, my condolences. And then walked away and Kevin- That's it? Yeah. My brother Kevin goes, what a fucking prick. What the fuck you're getting up and saying that to him? My condolences. What the fuck does condolence even mean? You fucking asshole.

What are you, I don't want your condolence. What is a condolence, you dumb ass? You don't even know what the fucking word means. I don't even know what it means. How do you, as a brother, as a son to your parents also, how do you like process the grief yourself and then still be strong for your siblings, your dad, your mom, how did you do that? We thought of the good times and all the laughs. And then we'd always try and find funny stories

at the funeral or something. Somebody did something crazy or we'd always go, I saw at one point it was like, it was at a, it was, where was it? Oh, at the funeral parlor area where it was buried, there was a chain link fence and then a big parking lot. And all I saw was these photographers just all over the chain link fence and they couldn't get it through the gate. And then you see John Goodman because he wanted to be there in a trench coat,

two of those two bags with them and just knocking out like, and he came through the fucking photograph of photographers and he came busted through there and he goes, I just was coming through and coming at me like a game buster. I'm like, oh, I'm going to be a game buster. Like, he came through the fucking photograph of photographers and he came busted through there and he goes, I just was coming through and coming at me like a game buster. I'm like, thanks for being here, Mr. Goodman. He goes, all right, no worries. And he went into the funeral place and I was like, oh, wow. That's cool. Anyone come that surprised you in a weird way? Any old teachers, any old- Oh yeah, they were all there.

Yeah. Really? All the old Edgewood- So they really did love you. He was a good dude all the way. Oh my God. Edgewood High School loved him in Madison, Wisconsin. They were showed up in droves. All of Madison did.

He was the son of Madison. Everyone was very proud. Yeah, we got one. This is our guy. It was our guy. You know, camp at, at Camp Randall, where the Badgers play, they were like, conducted him into like the top 100 of all people to dawn at Camp Randall Stadium.

But he didn't play football there. Did he go to college at all? He went to Marquette University. Oh, he did. Okay. Yeah. And then, so he, uh, he went to Marquette and, uh, I think he got kicked out for a semester, uh, no, he didn't get kicked out for that, uh, he had to go to, for a

semester, I don't know if it was because he burned his girlfriend's house down or- Did he do that? I think he threw a tombstone pizza on a girl accidentally. I feel like- I know. Accidentally. Accidentally. I would intentionally throw the pizza and accidentally burn the house down.

He was like, can I throw that pizza? He's like, no, it's cooling in the, in the, on the window. Chris goes, I'll bet I can hit that girl. And he threw it and it went, kind of went down like a frisbee. It was like 10 yards left, 10 yards, right, 10 yards forward, 10 yards back, and then landed on her head. And she's like, ah, I'm fucking scalding hot tombstone pizza. You know what that does to your face? And they were like, holy fuck, she's on her face. And she's like, ah, ah, ah.

And they like fucking shut the window, turn the lights out. And they hid there and they go, she could just hear, Christ, Barley, I know. Like nine floors down. He's like, fuck, we're in trouble. And then he got out of that one. And then he burned his girlfriend's house down by, they were going to a rugby game and they had, somebody had smoke bombs in the car. He goes, I'm going to throw a smoke bomb in Katie's window.

It'd be hilarious. She's going to come home and her whole room will be full of smoke. Caught the drape on fire. Burned like half the top part. And like Kevin is like, or no, dad's favorite line was like, we had to go with insurance. It made us go to make sure that these were all Katie's things. And then like Chris and my dad were like going through all the burnt stuff and he'd grab a pair of underwear and he goes, yeah, that's Katie's. My dad's like, instead of being mad, he goes,

that was a good one. That's what I'm saying, man. That's the way we grew up too. That's a good one. That's a good one. So he, yeah, but Madison loved him at the funeral. He, they would give speeches or they'd come up and they'd give heartfelt, like, you know,

not only like my condolences, there was a couple of those. That's why. Those are hilarious. There's a couple like, man, you know, you'd have to consult them. You're like, hey, it's all right. I know it sucks. And then when we got into private, we'd always make, you know, a little, we'd make jokes

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home and, uh, Chris would be like, he thought he was a God dang pied piper. I was like, just, let's just go see Donnie and then we'll go, he goes, Oh, of course. Yeah, let's, we'll do. So we went in there and the high, Donnie would say hi. And then walking out, he'd look in a room and there'd be like an old lady staring out the window. He goes, hang on. I go, when you hear that, you're like, fuck, we're screwed.

He went in till like he'd go, the last time we went into our nursing home, he went into this lady's room and she was staring out the window and he came around to her view, eyesight. Hi, He came around the corner, came around to her view, eyesight. Hi, I'm Chris. What's your name? She's a mute or something's wrong. I go, Chris, she's not responding. We just let it go. Let's go.

It's nice to see you, everything. And we started walking out and she goes screaming down the hallway. And we're like, oh, fuck. You just a row woke up. Like, yeah, I was like, ah, fuck. So we had to do that. And then we just a row woke up. You did, dude. Yeah, I was like, oh, fuck. So we had to do that. And then we had to put one of our friends' grandmother, they're like, we're going to take her home for Thanksgiving.

And Chris, me and Kevin had to take this larger, bigger woman that was there, our friends like next to our neighbor's grandmother. And we had to get her into a van, like one of those Econo vans. So it's way up there. And we're like digging, we're molesting this old woman. Yeah, I was going to say you got ants on her hands. It's literally like, it's a ball of slime in a fucking tutu, a muumuu. And I'm like, fingers up there and got her finally in the car.

And she just looked out the passenger window smiling like, thanks boys. It's creepy. I'm going to go wash my hands. Chris is like, good God. I's creepy, I'm gonna go wash my hands. Chris is like, good God, I think I fingered that lady. I definitely fingered that lady. And she leaned into it. God damn, those are some good ones. Yeah, so I mean, it was all little bits, fun bits

that you, it was an experience just to hang out with Chris because you never know what you'd get. You realize how lucky you are that you had him as a brother. Oh my God. Yeah. I came home one time as a little younger kid and Chris was at Marquette College, University. And I see Chris for pounding on our window. We lived on the lake and it was a big, like a hundred foot cliff. And it went off into the lake. And I see Chris pounding on our window going, mom, no, that's not mine. It's not mine.

You're going to owe me 30 bucks. Not mine, like I don't know where it came from, but not mine. You're going to owe me 30 bucks. I go, what the fuck? I look out the window and I see my mom going down the back lawn with a fucking five, six or five foot bong. And she was like, oh, and hucked it off into the lake. You're mad at mom.

You're not hiding. She's going to tell dad you're fucked. He's like, man, I didn't fucking, it's not mine. And she, I gotta pay for that now. I'm like, okay. I go, God damn Chris, you're crazy. But we had the best time with that. And then before, before second city, before all of it, he would work for my dad and he wanted to go to, uh, you started doing like improv at the arc, which is a laundromat and the Dennis Kern was the guy that, you know, taught Joan Cusack

and John Cusack. So he had a, he knew improv, knew where it was. Uh, and so he went and did shows there with Brian stack. Brian stack went to university of, um, Wisconsin and he wrote later for Conan, all of Conan shit. He's that big, tall, redheaded, curly redheaded guy. And he is so, he was very like dry, like hello apathy. He wrote one bit with apathy and Chris was fucking crazy.

And the last one he, last show Chris did was for like a lesbian, lesbian unity group that it was for a lesbian unity group that it was just a room full of lesbians and Chris. And I go, this is gonna go wrong 17 ways a Sunday. And he tiptoed on the line and then it was like, I don't know, maybe they're all lesbians, that's why they don't like me. And they're like, maybe I'm fat, I don't know.

But whatever it was, whatever bits he was doing, the room loved him. They did. He could fucking turn anyone. He would turn anyone into a fan, which is crazy good. That is. Cause he could find the bits that, uh, he could find the, like an improv. You could always find the reverse side of what the reality is. Christopher was the genius of that. Of like, there was a guy that was

my dad that was bragging about his son. He was in Moscow and he was learning Russian and he's living in Moscow teaching a course at the Moscow University. And Christopher was like, you got a Kami on your hands, I see. Jesus, I'm sorry about that. And my dad was like, I'm very proud of him. Shit all over. And my dad goes, oh my God. Yeah. So he could always find the reverse side of like, instead of being like jealous, like, yeah, that kid is doing really well. He's a boy, he's teaching.

Christopher's like, he's got a commie. You've got a dirty commie. Dirty commie on your head. He's like, no. So he'd always find something funny. Can I ask you this? Yeah. I don't want to ask if you were surprised that he passed, but did you see, were

you trying to help him throughout that? Was it a struggle or? Yeah, we all were. I mean, was it interventions, things like that, or like, what, what did you guys do to try to? He went through like, yeah, he went through a lot of, we went. But I mean, privately within the family, talking to him and things like that. At first we didn't know what the hell to do.

We're like, you go to rehab when there's still booze and we're like drinking Heineken in front of him. In front of him. He's like, front of him. In front of him. You better go. Dad's telling you it's sauce. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. So we had no clue how it worked. We're like, hey, hey, what the hell is that? So nobody in the family before or anything like that? No, we didn't know. Yeah, it was the eighties and nineties. We were like, ah,

ta. And so we're like, oh, you better go. I think he, I think it's Lauren Michaels made him go first. Cause he picked up a Senator. It was like, Senator Dodd was like, Hey buddy. Yeah. It was like throwing them around. And Lauren's like, he just picked up the United States Senator, threw him around the room.

Yeah. So, uh, that's when he first went. And then we couldn't figure, we didn't know what it was. And so we were still like, well, Christopher's under control. We all have fun now. Well, you gotta like at least have sympathy and understand it's not like that problem's over. So then we figured it out and we were like,

all right, we'll be more sensitive. And we'd always, my dad would even like, Chris is like, I'm going to stay down at a hotel. Chris was like, I'll go down there and stay with you. I'll get a room next to you. So he would do that. And, uh, we'd always try to be around him. We don't, we'd never leave him except me at the end there. I did, which was, uh, yeah, I know you can't blame yourself.

But I, cause he did, you know, no, because he's 33 and you figure strong as an ox and you've, I've never heard of, you know, we weren't doing like needle drugs. Yeah. I was like, see, that's the same thing. I think too, like that, like those are real. Yeah. That's the real stuff.

And I think it was, there was a time when it was like, GHB or something like that. You ever seen that? I don't know what it is. It's basically like, I took it once. I tried it and it's basically like a Whip-It. You know, a Whip-It. Oh yeah. Oh yeah.

So it makes you feel like that for like, so long. I don't know how long, but it slows your heart. And then you did just regular blow and weed. And I think the combo platter of like, I'm gonna slow your heart down and then I'm gonna. Is that what the actual cause of death was? I was like, yeah, he had blocked arteries. Let's face it.

There was quite a bit of red meat in the family. Yeah. So yeah, he had a couple of blocked arteries, but I think it was that combo. Can we also give the motherfucker credit to like the one of the biggest men I've ever seen who was wildly light on his feet. Oh my God. Agile, athletic.

Like I feel like he could have been like a goddamn all pro offensive lineman to be a man that big and that agile on his feet and shit. That Chippendale sketch will forever be. It wasn't that fucking great. He did. Just I forget about how funny it is for a second. The way he moves in that thing is just incredible. I know. It's incredible. At Marquette University, he had to take an electives. He didn't know what

electives. I didn't know what electives. Electives. So he goes, I'll take ballet, I guess. So he took ballet for every semester. And the ballet teacher was like, he's amazingly graceful. I don't get it. I don't get it. I think it was, I mean, it had to have been, he loved dancing and we'd have, we'd just watch rerun on what's happening. What's happening?

He's like, fuck it, he loved rerun. He could do reruns, dances. He had the fucking suspenders. Did he really? Loved the suspenders. Did he really? Love the suspenders. That's how I love hearing that. And he just watched him, because rerun had the fucking moves.

Yeah, he had the moves. Jesus, that guy, as big as he was, could move like that. Chris is like, all right, I can do that. But he loved football. So he always get low to the ground. He could center his weight really well. Yeah, good story. Give me one more good story, Chris, please.

So he was our buddy Skirmels. I don't know, I think it was Skirmels. He was gonna max out in the lifting and benching. And Chris goes, I'll spot you. I'll spot you, Skirmels, okay. So Chris goes, all right, you. I'll spot you. Squirrel was okay. So Chris goes, all right, you ready? One, two, three, gets the weight up and Chris puts his ball sack on his forehead. And Squirrel just goes, clink, clink. They went left, all weights went up, left and right. He goes, ah. And he goes, ah, what happened?

What happened is the best. What happened is the best. He goes, ah! And he goes, ah, what happened? What happened is the best. What happened is the best. What happened is the best. God damn, that's hilarious. I was like, you did that? It probably was somebody's most vulnerable state. Maxing out, lifting, benching.

The man's balls on your face. With no, just right on his forehead. He's like, ah! The hell's that? God damn. I love that shit. That shit's fucking funny to me. And then everyone's like, what do you think Chris

would do in this, me too generation stuff. I go, he knew his way around, he could get his way around it. There was one where a lady had a baby with huge breasts and Chris took- Is this a real story? baby with huge breasts. And Chris took- Is this a real story? Yeah, real story. Chris took the baby's fan and started touching her boob. Like, you like that?

You like that? Chris wasn't touching it. The baby was. She goes, Chris. I go, oh my God. I mean, how do you explain that? Like, you're trying to like, I'm gonna take him to court. Did he touch you?

No, but he had a baby touch me. I don't get it. The judge would be like, what? It's stories like that. You wouldn't know how to fucking answer. You don't know how to like, how do you fight? And like, I don't know how to respond to what Chris does. Do you do anything as a family to remember him?

You do a yearly thing? Do you share stories? Do you, is there? You do a yearly thing, do you share stories? Do you, is there anything you do, you know, in honor of or anything like that? We do, it's, at Christmas we always, there's one time I didn't have a Christmas present for Chris and so I didn't know, I was like, I fuck it, I don't have a Christmas present.

So I went around the house and I found, I found for some reason, my brother had little girls, I found Barbie dolls in the, in the one of the closets upstairs. So I was like, all right, grab the Barbie dolls and grabbed an old shoe box. And then I went to the kitchen and grabbed a bunch of knives and I just threw Barbie dolls knives in a shoe box

and wrapped it up and I go, Merry Christmas. And he opened it up and he started laughing his ass off. That was the funniest fucking thing in the world. My dad's like, I don't get it. What the hell is that? What kind of present is that? And I go, I don't know, it was funny. Knives and Barbie dolls, that's funny?

I don't get it. I go, I didn't have a present. One for you, dad. I wasn't ever present. So every year we try and give somebody like a fucking- Ridiculous. Ridiculous who we're present to see, because he always missed that laugh at Chris's.

It was the best cackling laugh that he'd fucking, he'd have the fucking great ones, goddamn. He did, he's funny, I'll tell you, this is a doozy. I don't know if it's a good one. But he one time, his assistant as a buddy of ours. And I'm sorry if I'm gonna tell this story, Teddy, but it was funny. He was in the trailer and he goes,

Teddy, this fucking, my sink has got some stuffed up. And I dropped my thing in there. Can you get my, I don't know what it was, like a pen or something. Get that out of there and it's all stuffed up. He reached into the sink of the trailer and pulled up like shit. He goes, what the fuck is this?

And he goes, ha ha ha ha ha, you grabbed my shit. You grabbed my shit. And then he went outside and started laughing and all the crew was like, teddy bear into my fucking sink, reached in there and pulled out a poo of mine. And the whole cast was like, how the poop get in there? He goes, I put it in there. Wait, you shit in your hand, put poo into the sink. And then I

just didn't go pull it out. He goes, yeah. He goes, why would you grab your own shit? He goes, because it was funny. It's funny. He's like, God damn. So we- Well, see like that as a kid, like just fucking around all the time. Yeah. You all seem to be, you all seem to have that same vibe.

We'd all be sitting quietly, Kevin doing homework always, me sitting watching TV or messing around with Evil Knievel or Hot Wheels. And he'd come in in full fucking combat gear, face with charcoal from the fireplace. He goes, let's go window peeking. We're like, what? Let's go window peeking. So we fucking, I don't know if he got it from the animal house.

We'd be like, all right. So we'd go fucking through the woods. I think we did it once or twice because there was a hot chick at the top of the hill and we go, let's go look in there. So we'd go looking around and we see her, but then we'd see lights come on. It was like, let's run. He'd always make it exciting. Run. You have to run through the woods. And that was a fun time. But he'd always, he was never settled. So how many, how many children are in your family now? Five of us. Five. No, I'm sorry. How many kids do you all have? Oh me? I have three. You have three?

Yeah. And how many more? Tommy's got three. Kevin's got dogs. Six. And Barbara has not been married. So she's uh a six grandchildren. And how do you tell them who their uncle is? I know Tommy's kids, Tommy's the old one of the older ones. So Tommy's kids got to meet Chris and there's pictures with them. Okay. So they knew him.

My kids don't didn't know him, but they watch videos and stuff like that. And they were, you know, the oldest boy is wondering why the football coach is like, Hey, what's up? You know, I go, well, you know, they're fans and stuff. They, they, there's some fans, but now my boy just went off to Marquette. So we'll see how that goes. He's going there too. Yeah. He went to Marquette. So that's going to be kind of fun to see.

So yeah, they didn't really know him as much as, as Tommy's kids did. So yeah, they didn't really know him as much as Tommy's kids did. But Harry and Rowan, Harry's in Marquette and he was a football player. So we'll see, he was going to go play rugby like Chris did. Chris played rugby at Marquette. It's a big man playing rugby right there. Yeah. You know what you think he was big, but like there was, I did have a leather, one of the leather coats, like a nice roots coat.

And my brother, I go, it's pretty cool. But I mean, it's California. I don't wear leather coats one of the leather coats, like a nice roots coat. And my brother, I go, it's pretty cool, but I mean, it's California. I don't wear leather coats that much, 90s. So now it's not the 90s anymore. And we was walking around leather jackets. I thought it was kind of cool. But Kevin goes, let me have it. I go, all right, here it is.

And Kevin goes, sweet Jesus, it doesn't fit. I go, how the fuck did Chris fit into this? I go, I don't know, but it doesn't fit you. You're fatter than Chris. He's fattie. He goes, fuck you, I'm not that fat. I go, jacket says different. But so I don't know if he was as big as he was kind of big, but at the end he was big. But from Tommy Boy, from Saturday Night Live, the beginning of Saturday night live to like Tommy boy, black sheep, a little bigger, Breville's Ninja. Yeah. And that got big.

And then Edwards and hunt. I think he slimmed down a little bit. I'm not sure though. You might've been still pretty big, but Breville's Ninja. He was pretty big. Uh, it was just that all the time. I, it's one of those things that gets burned in my head from old movies, but when he's chases the guy into like the Benny Hawn or whatever, and he's

doing the, and he's just, I do it to my daughter all the time. I just go, I just flick shrimp out of her. That's from that story of Katie Merton's panties. I love it. When he snipped that shrimp, that's kind of basically how he did it. So, you know, you'll find little bits in his movies of how he would act. He'd be like, hmm, yeah, see. He'd always have funny little bits. So, yeah, he did. He, I mean,

What do you miss about your brother the most? What do you miss personally about your brother the most? Oh, his hugs were the best. Yeah. Hey, Johnny. That's nice to hear. Yeah, God damn. He'd always give hugs and his laugh were the best. He was great at that. And then we'd have fun, just the fun we'd have of doing different little crazy shit with him. And then once he got where he was, the bits could go even farther. So we could be, you know, he'd be, we'd go over to his hotel and be like, let's go, we're gonna, let's go on Tonight Show tonight. Like, who fucking says that?

Okay, all right, let's write a bit. Packer's gonna be honest with you. They asked me if, and I said, we'll get you guys on, we'll all do it together. So it was like, fuck, I was gonna go do, you know, eat dinner and go to bed. I'll do the Tonight Show, I guess. So I was just going to sit by the pool or, I don't know,

it was on vacation. But he'd always have fun little things. Let's go do this. And there'd always be a crowd. And if there wasn't a crowd, he'd get mad and make a crowd. He'd drum it up. He'd fall down or something. And then he'd get all these people.

But if they were always around him, they'd be like, fuck, these people are all over me. I fucking hate it. You do not. But it was always fun that if no one recognized him, he'd be like, fall down in a mall or something. He'd definitely fall down. That was his big one.

That one, and yeah. He'd always have, anytime he interacted with somebody new, it was, he'd have the fucking most baffled look on their faces of like, what? What do you want me to do? Here's one last good one. There's more, but my dad worked for the Maple Bluff There's more, but my dad worked for the Maple Bluff police and fire. And you have to do the checks, sign the checks for him. Chris was a lifeguard one summer because he had to take summer school courses at University of Madison, but he was a lifeguard. And my dad, oh, the leader of the lifeguards, she was like, go down and get a

basketball, Chris, and sign for it for the Maple Bluff. And Chris goes, all right, Johnny, let's go. When I got in the car and we drove down to Cops, I think it was called COPPS. I went to Cops and he got the basketball, go to the checkout and he takes a left and I go, where are you going? Went into the little girl's panties section, grabbed a pair of little girls, panties, put them on the register, checked out. And I go, that's going on Maple Leaf.

You know, dad's a part of the police. Dad's going to sign that. Has to like, okay, that, cause he's the like board member of, he's like, yeah, don't worry. He's going to be wondering why little girls panties are being bought by the Maple Leaf beach. And then he gets back, sticks them on a pitchfork and writes the girl's name on it and in red ink and then puts red all over there. And I mean, what the fuck?

Who thinks of that shit? Just supposed to buy a basketball for God's sake. How do you go from buying a basketball to taking a pair of underwear on a pitch board and writes the girl's name and then puts red on there. And then she was like, that's not funny. Drew the line there and got in trouble. Uh, but I was like, fuck. So any little, any kind of goddamn Aaron you did, something happened.

Is there anything you have of his that you just love? A necklace, anything? No, I always have a, he, we used to love to go to State Street in Madison, Wisconsin, and there would be like a Army surplus store, or there was like a Grateful Dead store, and they'd have these friendship bracelets. You ever see, and if you look at pictures of Chris,

he'd always have all these bracelets on his wrist and they were, they're all just like friendship bracelets or shitted by and, uh, on state street. So he'd always have a friendship bracelet on or, uh, there's his headshot actually has my dad's, um, the guy that worked with my dad, one of the salesmen worked for my dad. Uh, his son started like Noah's Ark. Yeah. You know, um, the great Wolf Lodge.

Oh yeah. Yeah. That stuff. So Wisconsin Dells had all these fucking water parks. It's like the king of water parks. So we had the, the Noah's Ark and he's got like the hospital looking wristband that says Noah's Ark, like pass. And that's his headshot.

No, that's for that's what he looked. And I was like, you know, Brad Pitt and those like Lenny Kravitz have like, these are beads from like, you know, the Buddha, Dalai Lama, Chris has got Noah's arc. That's fucking great. Fucking. So I liked the, uh, he had a little, uh, a little keepsake box where he had a bunch of some of his old friendship bracelets.

And, uh, and in the, during the funeral, I had, uh, I went down there and I bought three. So I gave one to Kevin, uh, me and Chris, cause he always gave me and Kevin these friendship bracelets. My brother Tommy was like, those are gay. Wait a minute. No, they're cool. So I stuck one in his sleeve in the casket.

And then I gave Kevin and me the same ones that we framed it. That's nice. So that's the one thing I do like of Chris'. Is your mom still alive? Yeah, mom's still kicking, 88. How has she done with this over the years? She's a goddamn trooper. That's still kicking. 88. How has she done with this over the years? She's a goddamn trooper.

That's what I'm saying. You said it took, your dad just really in the year was like, I'm out. Yeah. But mom stuck around. Mom is, she's the queen bee. Yeah. She is the- Did she ever remarry or- She dates a guy, you know, he's an older fella. That's fine. Companionship. Yeah, yeah.

Why be alone? No way. Yeah. She's a nice, yeah, yeah. And they there. You know, they're, they go, he's, you know, but companion. I was like, all right, that's fine. What ever it is. I don't want to know. That's right. I don't want to know what's going on. I don't need to know either.

I don't need to. They have their house. He has his house, but she comes down and cooks them dinner. That's nice. Whatever works for them. They go to the country club and they go, ah, she goes, I'm putting the country club. I'm not paying that. I'll use his. So they go up there and they, uh, I go, does that mean I, I can't go to the country club? So you still have his golf membership?

Can I use that? Um, but, uh, so we, um, that's fine. But she's, I mean, nicest goddamn woman in the world, but I, cause she like tunes, she knows how to tune things out very well. Like our boys are saints. Oh boys. There's one guy, she goes, he goes,

your mother's the only mother I know that we went up to a trip in Northern Wisconsin, just for fun boys trip up there. The only mother I know that would give us cigarettes, a case of beer and a bunch of fireworks. She goes, and with a sweetest tone, like, here you go, boys. Here's your care package. Here you go.

And my, and my friend looked through the bag. He goes like fireworks, cigarettes, and booze? Your mom's the greatest goddamn mom in the world. So yeah, she's like, oh, I don't know. They're fine. They're good people. Good boys, she's like, Oh, I don't know. They're fine. They're good people. Good boys. I'm like, good boys.

We've smashed like 15 cars, I think easily, easily 15, like five each or three, some five, I was five, Chris was five. Chris one time smashed a car and he goes, my dad's like, what happened? He goes, I don't know. I remember a boat going by though. I'm like, oh, that's not good. He pulled out of the freeway, pulled out of the freeway, guy rear ended him

and it dislodged his boat. It went by. It went by, Chris is like, that's a boat. He just kept going, took off. I was like, holy Jesus. Listen, thank you for coming here and doing this. I genuinely appreciate this. Hell yeah. Please, I'm going to ask you advice you'd give to your, let me do that first. All right. Advice you'd give to 16 year old John Farley. Let's do that.

Advice you'd give to 16, definitely don't take a fucking casket and show it to your dad and say it's his dad's. I dug him up. Don't do that. I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to do that.

I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to do that.

I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to do that. Advice you give to 16, definitely don't take a fucking casket and show it to your dad and say it's his dad's. I dug him up. Don't do that. But that was eight. So 16, I would have to say, 10 and two, drive safe. Don't drive crazy. Yeah. Yeah. My 16 year old, if I could literally your take, go back to 16. I'd be like, watch December 18th, tell Chris to watch out and buy Apple stock.

Buy Apple stock. Wait, I do have one more question for you. You get 24 hours with your brother today. Yes. What do you do? Is he already dead? He's coming back for 24 hours. That's it? He's been gone. You get 24 hours and then you don't see him ever again.

Oh my God, what do we do? What are you doing in that 24 hours? He's showing up in an hour and you're going to have 24 hours to spend with him and then he's gone again. I'd say give me every goddamn bit you have. What's Tommy Boy 2 about? For I'd say, give me every God damn bit you have. What's Tommy Boy 2 about?

For God's sake, tell me. What's Tommy Boy 2 about? Jesus Christ, help me here. That's fucking great. Well, how did you do Shrek? Can I have the Shrek, the ending to Shrek? I heard that originally that was for him, wasn't it? That was, he wrote it all.

I got like a book. Wait, he wrote Shrek? No, I mean, they wrote it for him. I got a book of, he went out with the animators and they go crazy times. They were all like, Jeffrey Katzenberg must've been like, what's going on here? He was trying to start this company.

And there's a big, I have like a leather binder of all old animated like Shrek stuff. And like, he must've gone out to dinner with him, made them all laugh. He goes, we didn't get much work done of all old animated like Shrek stuff. And like, he must've gone out to dinner with him and made them all laugh. He goes, we didn't get much work done because you made us laugh. But here's some funny sketches.

And there's one funny one where Shrek is on the toilet. And then he's holding up a playboy with a girl with three tits. And it's pretty funny. And there's, he's got like a whole thing. But he had like, I don't know, I'd say five, four sessions left. He'd been doing it for two or three years.

That's what I heard. And every time he'd go to LA, he'd be like, I gotta do this God damn Shrek thing. I don't know what the fuck this is. I've gotta go to Santa Monica and you guys hang out. And I'll just do this voice for, I don't know, I'll do it for an hour and a half and then we'll go out after that." So nobody knew what Shrek was, but I guess it was a book and they

liked Chris for it. And so they did that and it was almost done. And then they had described, they go, somebody said, they wanted me to finish it because Cause I sounded like I'm back in the day. I don't know if I do anymore, but I go, uh, but it was like two weeks afterward and I go, I don't want, I didn't know what it was either. I go, I don't want to do it. Matt's too, too, too raw. Later too. Yeah. I mean, that's way too raw.

Now I'd be like, fuck. Yeah. Where are those pages? Give me the goddamn pages now. I'll sit on the call. No shit. Give me the goddamn pages now. I'll sit on the coffin. No shit.

I would definitely. I will stand on that coffin going, and then Fiona. Thank you for doing this, John. Hell yeah, man. One more time, promote the movie. Tell everybody about it again, please. You've got to go.

It's called Meet Me Where I Am, and it's a grief thing. So if you're struggling, if somebody died, pet, human, anything, and you're heartbroken, and you're like, what am I gonna do now that it's gone? Watch this movie, because yeah, I'm kind of basically a moron when it comes to all that, because I just make them laugh.

But there are some legitimate people that really help out and they've got some good advice for you. And they've got, you're not alone. And so you have me, you've got, God damn it, Rappaport. Michael Rappaport? Is it Michael Rappaport? No, that's not the guy. Anthony Rap.

Oh, okay. God damn it. Did it. Fuck, I was gonna say his name. He threw a lot of letters. Anthony Rap, me, and there's some doctors. Then you've got, so it helps out, I think. I don't help much.

I just, I'm baffled. You're baffled, aren't you, Byatt? So I try and figure it out. Daily. Yeah. And then I... But ma'am, what you said resonated like a son of a bitch. How long you gonna be alive? How long is that person gonna be dead? That's how long you're gonna grieve. I know. I know. So I mean... Yeah, it finds its way into your day even when you're not trying to be intentional about it. Yeah. You ever get that? Cry at the grocery store, because you hear a song that comes on. Fucking Sandler's goddamn song.

Yeah, that. Goddamn song. That. I love it so much, though. It's so good. I'm gonna watch it again. It's so good, but yeah, you'll just do it, and you're like, god damn it, Adam.

Well, thank you, man. Thank you very much. Thank you. And as always, Ryan Sickler on all your social media, RyanSickler.com. Go to my website, come see me on tour tour if you're in town when I'm around They're all dates are on my website. Just go there Ryan sickler comm we'll talk to you all next week You