The Hope Hotline - Humility vs. Insecurity

Episode Date: January 28, 2026

The Hope Hotline | S04-E5 | 1-28-2026

Hello and welcome to the Hope Potline. Thank you for joining us today. It is a wonderful windy Wednesday. So cold. Wendy and cold. So cold. We are in Florida, we are not used to this. It's just not okay.

And it's going to get worse. It's going to get worse before it gets better. Exactly. Oh my goodness. It's like this weekend. So cold. So cold. Two years in a row we have had snow in Florida.

Yeah. Yeah. Crazy. So much for climate. I saw a headline saying there's going to be snow in Tampa. I heard that it could snow in Orlando. Oh, that's terrible. Talia's going to drive until she finds it.

Although, I will tell you, like, I don't know, twice. We've had snow and Tom's videotaped it here in Venice. Wow. But he walks in the middle of the night when nobody else should really be out there. Yeah, he's literally videotaped it for us. Oh, my gosh. Yeah, we've had snow. He got us all up out of bed and we all went outside.

He didn't get me at all. Oh, well, he got me. Me and, I think it was Tommy. We were doing that. Yeah, we got up. We got to see the snow. Yeah, they left us in bed. Wow.

Poor Norma. She always gets laughed out. That's really rude. That's really rude. Yeah, well, get over it, sister. Bitterness and good. But, yeah, so if Tampa gets it, there's a good chance that, we will see it.

Yeah. Because sometimes we're colder, depending on where in Tampa, because we're on the water. Yeah, I'm not going to be praying for that, but I hope for you guys that your prayers are stronger. Yeah, you better shut your mouth. Taya, want snow. I know. No. Taya, have you never seen snow before?

I saw when I was seven. Oh, that's a long time ago, sister. Yeah, pretty much not. It was sad snow. It wasn't even happy snow. Well, that's rough. But it's cold. Right, the week before we got there.

I was so mad. We're all wearing coats. Yeah. Sweats shirts. Layers. Layers. It's cold. It's a beautiful thing.

I do enjoy it every now and then. I know. I know. But it can go, I've burned half my firewood. I know, right? I'm going to have to go get more. And I made Jared get more. Oh my gosh.

Yeah. So loving the fires. Uh-huh. I went outside last night because I got home from Tom's podcast and my neighbors who also work here Heather. Heather and Travis had their little fireplace going. Yep. I could smell it.

Yep. That's the best. So nice. Love it. I wouldn't know. Well, you built your house. That's the price we pay when we leave important things out. Should have done that, sister.

Hey. In your house, it would have looked perfect. I know. What were you thinking? What were you thinking? Yeah, what were you thinking? Because I don't want to be cold and, like, fireplace. Okay.

It makes me think cold. What? That's crazy. You could be cozying up on your couch with a nice book. That's true. I have my towel warmer near me. That does not. She does do that. That rescued me yesterday.

I was so cold in your house. Oh, my gosh. Can you put a blanket in there? We did. I did. I'm doing that. Yes, I put everything in there. Underware.

Jamas. Jamas. That's the best gift. Ever, I never thought about that. I have one. She got me one. Yes. You are not stealing it.

I'm putting my towel. I'm putting my blankie in there. We're going to take your blanket out. Kristen immediately Googled. She was like, give me the link. Yeah. Who did? Kristen.

Oh my gosh. Yeah. She's like, give me the link. I'm very happy about that. Good to know. Because in the summertime, my house gets cold. I'm cold. Yeah.

Yeah. So, all right. Let's get on with it. Five minutes in. Let's do the thing. And then I'll do a sponsor's really quick. And then we are going to get rolling because I'm excited about this topic today. Let's do it.

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Natalie was here last week. So if you want to check that replay out, it was great. So go back into wherever you're streaming from and check those out. It's everywhere. Facebook, YouTube Rumble. And of course, you could listen to the audio podcast as well for that. We had a lot of great questions for her. She's always a wealth of knowledge.

Friday, we have a very special guest. Chris Ann Hall will be here, and we're very excited to have her. she is also a very big wealth of knowledge. Like she is just, I follow her on Instagram and I always appreciate what she says, because sometimes information comes out and it's very conspiracy. And sometimes you're like, I don't know if that makes sense. And then she puts out like her, not necessarily her spin on it, but like what she knows to be true. And she knows a lot of the inside.

Right. people might recognize her name because she's been on court TV. She's been on like TPUSA kind of stuff. She's been on all, I mean, if you can think of the political organization, the odds are. She's either been there spoken at it or been interviewed by somebody. Yeah. Like she knows all the big names and she knows who's full of it and who is not. that's what I absolutely love because she's on the inside scoop of stuff.

Yes. If you don't know her, she's a constitutional attorney. Right. Does other stuff besides that, but like, holy crap. Just like you said, a wealth of knowledge. Smart is. Yeah, she is. She's very smart.

I don't know why she wants to be my friend. Probably because she knows I need help. Probably. She feels bad for you. She does feel bad for me. No. She's such a great person. I know.

I know. And it's great. Like once you know what your rights are, there's a level of confidence that you can operate from. So definitely join us on a Friday if you can live at 3 o'clock. But of course, the replay will be available for that. I will say this, though, to add to it, a lot of, there's a lot of reasons why people fell for the last pandemic.

Yeah. They fell for it because they didn't know their constitutional rights. So they thought they had to do something that they literally were not obligated to do. And they gave in to things because of fear. And if they maybe would have known, I mean, listen, people were getting arrested thrown in jail. I mean, her pastor got thrown in jail. And it was illegally done. Like, even though you have rights, you could still get arrested.

And they could still try and get away with things that are kind of. are constitutionally wrong. But if you know that, if you know your rights, then it's way easier to make the stand all the while knowing that you could still, they could still do stuff to you. They could still try and arrest you

or close you up or close you down or whatever the case may be, but at least you won't have, even if you're fearful of it, at least you know you're in the right. You know, yeah, you know, your rights. I mean,

which is huge. And that's, that's, she's going to, she's coming to church in March. Yes. And she's going to, for two sessions,

she's going to have two sessions with our church. And any, it's all, it's anybody in the community can come. Yeah. So it's not just open to our church. But, man,

she's going to like open people's minds and make them realize like, because the next thing's coming and you need to know it. And, then you'll be prepared because really that's all what that's what life's really all about being prepared for whatever comes your way. I agree. Nobody likes being blindsided. Nope. We do not. All right. Yeah. So please join us on January 30th and stay tuned for more information about March. That will be coming out soon. Oh, I just closed something that I didn't mean to close. Okay. Oopsie. Cut. Okay, there we go. Yep. So we've got our TikToks still going with the crazy algorithms.

If you are a TikToker, you know what I'm talking about. People are so mad about this. I've done, oh my gosh, they are so mad about it. I've been watching. Like I started watching stuff. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Yep. Yep.

People are mad. It's definitely not what it was. And so it is what it is. But for now, these are our TikToks. If you guys want to follow us, Pastor Tom has his two, his preaching one and his TLP clips. And then, of course, we are on there, too. You can play along with Hope as she does.

name that tune and then Vanessa I didn't update it yet Tracy and Talia and then we've got our other peanut gallery people as well including the puppy dog that's greeted me earlier and said hello to me and Travis was like don't you dare go over her as you can see Norma's quite active Norma is always part of this she will always be here she wants off but that's not going to happen we love her too much to get rid of her she would cry if we let go of her pretty much she would So yeah, so that's, those are our TikToks. And yeah, that's everything. That's everything going on right now.

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It's never the same thing. But it's not always my car. Last week, it was Tommy's. New brakes. When did you get like a monthly subscription? I do. I wonder if that would be cheaper. You got four cars.

I know. Four cars. You know the drill. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Thank God because I'm telling you right now, Four cars needing all different, because all of our cars, we don't have car payments.

Well, my car I do. But, like, in comparison to what people pay for a car payment, I'm like, nothing. I just, oh, my gosh, what people are paying for car payments is ridiculous. Never would I, oh, my gosh. Yeah, I just heard about one. And I almost threw up when I found out. And it ain't like, it's like, it's a nice car.

Don't get me wrong. And it's a depreciating asset. So why? Why? It is. Yeah. Exactly. Oh my gosh, though. Oh, my gosh. So. Don't your money that's going to like actually be worth it. Go talk to Jeff. Literally. Nice little plug. Agreed. He'll do right by you. But, um, okay. So, um, yeah, so last week, maybe you do get a subscription. I don't know. When you have four cars, I will tell you this. Thank God that I have a person that I trust. Right. Right. Because I'm telling you right now, they could be milking me. It's already

expensive. Everything's gone up. Like parts and everything, it's ridiculous. Or they're hard to find, you know, so. That is true. I've been there. Same here. Yep. So it's a whole thing. Yes. It's a whole thing. So if I've literally thought to myself, if, if, If I didn't have him, what would I be paying? Right. I think the same thing. Because he's honest as a day as long. Right.

Like how many more things would I get fixed that didn't need to be fixed? Or maybe I wouldn't get fixed. Right. Because. True. That too. Not happening. Like you got to make some choices in life.

You do. Every day. Yeah. That's true. But it's ridiculous. I know. It's crazy. And when you have like maintenance, like I'm not a person like just like if it is because

is like Vanessa said, listen, he who is faithful was a little, we be faithful with much. If you take care of the things that God has given you, if you take care of them, guess what you get more of them. So I don't let my, I don't like, even now Tommy isn't a sticky mess. Thank you, Talia. But like, like all the vehicles are, you know, Norma's always been a neat neck, like always taken care of her stuff. Tom is the same way, same here. Tommy was our only, like he's a guy though. Like they grow out of it.

but like for me, I always think to myself, if I want more, I got to take care of what I have, which means, like, you have to do routine maintenance on your vehicles, people. You do. You do. And change the oil. You do.

My gosh. Thank you. That lesson learned for Vanessa. But you, like, seriously, take care of what you have, which means you're going to have to go and take it to you. Unless you know how to do it yourself, which. That's true. My dad always did it.

We didn't have to go to order. garage but if you got something you might want to take care of it and then god will god will always make sure you have the provision but take care of what you have so you can be trusted with more right and that goes with everything in life your house i like my dad used to call the some people live in houses and you need to get out there and you need weed your flower beds guys weed your yards okay is i am i talking to you tracy read those flower beds i always get in trouble because I live in H-O-A. They don't like anything. No weeds at all. Zero. Yeah. Weeds. Yes. I get letters. Well, here's my thing. If you have, if you have a house,

okay, God, that's the most expensive purchase you're ever going to make. You might want to take care of it. Absolutely. So, and if, like, it is, it is a reflection of how you honor God's, what God's given you. And so for me, like, you should be out there making, sure that my dad used to call people's homes that looked like crap. He used to call them lottery houses. He's like, and I literally thought that the person won that house in a lottery. And that's not the truth. He used to say that that was a lottery house. So if we'd buy one that would look like crap. And I'm like, man, lots of people weren't in the lottery around here. But really, what he meant is that they didn't have to pay for it, so they're not taking care of it. If you had to

pay for it, you might take care of it. And I can tell you this, most of my life until I was like probably 14 years old, my parents always rented. I mean, when we were younger, we had houses, but when we moved to D.C. area, my parents rented. And that house that they rented always looked nicer and was treated better than the people either that we rented it from or the people that rented it prior to. And it was always well kept, and it was always neat and tidy, as if it was our own so that when we did get one like god really blessed our socks off with the house so we did get because it matters guys yeah for sure it really matters how you take care of things and um the word is very clear about that so no matter whether you think like right now if you think

you have a hoopty which is you know what i mean by that right Vanessa uh do you know what i mean by that Tracy yeah a hoopty yep if you like yeah okay trae tell you doesn't know so A Hoopty back in the day, which I thought, the only reason that's like slang, and I knew Vanessa probably knew it probably from like her mom or somebody who was older. Yeah. Well, if you're like, like, certain, like you had to be in certain areas for it to be called a hoopty. But, and I, although you hung around the right people, Tracy, I just didn't think. You know, did you hang around them? Yeah, she did.

I know what I'm doing. She played basketball. Yeah, true. So that was a car, and I've owned a few in my day, but that was a car that maybe cost you $1,000. And it didn't look the greatest on the outside and it might have been worn out on the inside. Taya has a hoopty. But I will say this about Talia's hoopty. It is, she takes care of it.

And that means that God's going to give her something better. A lot of times when people have hoopties, they're like, it already looks like crap. So what does it really matter? It matters. It's like my grandmother, our clothes would be made. My mom would make our clothes. Or my grandmother always said, because she grew up in the Depression, even if what you have, you only own a few pieces of, like back in the day,

you didn't have a lot. Like you only maybe had one or two pairs of shoes. If you're lucky you had two. Take care of what you have. Like make sure, even if what you have is not the best, make sure it's clean, make sure you're clean. And it doesn't matter. That doesn't matter.

It matters how you take care of it. And it really, really does. And I'm just following the word of God. So it really does. Because I can think back to, and I can't think back to very humble beginnings. How did I behave in the humble beginnings? beginnings. Vanessa understands that. Tracy, I'm sure does too. But like when I lived in an apartment, my apartment was clean. It was neat. It was tidy. Mine was the only one without roaches.

Oh my gosh. That's the God's honest truth. That's crazy. Mine was the only deal because if the apartment next to you has roaches, right? Normally you will have to. I did not. I did not. I never had roaches. There are reasons for that. But that one of them is because I was diligent and I was clean. Yeah. So, not like in Florida. It doesn't matter how clean you are in Florida. I know. Or New York.

You live in the woods. You're getting palmetto bugs, which that's the biggest roach on the face of the earth. They like it. They come in when it's wet. They come in when it's dry and they come in when it's cold. They just come in, as if they pay rent. Right. Oh, my gosh.

Lord, poor Norma. Norma has experienced so many of them. She's saying one parked itself on her eye. In her sleep. And she has, she has literally had them crawl on her in the middle of the night. Yeah.

That's crazy. It's crazy. Not good. One crawled on Tommy too while we were in the bed. No. And I about freaked out. Yeah. Not in my area.

The biggest nightmare. Yeah. I just killed a cockroach and a spider in my new house. In my bedroom. No way. In your bedroom? Yes.

Gross. It happens, though, if you live in the tropical areas and you don't live in a city, because in the city parts, you don't deal with it. But where we all live, it's woods. Oh, we dealt with it in Brooklyn. Let me tell you. Well, those are cockroaches. Those were like German cockroaches.

Yeah, those, the German cockroaches, you never get rid of. They don't die. They are, they're like, you don't get rid of those. No, they're like Bay-Bays kids. There was a TikTok, but if you've very, vacuumed have a cockroach and didn't kill it, it would lay its babies and then they would go out of your vacuum. Oh, no way. Excuse me, what did you say?

Yes. If you vacuum a cockroach and don't kill it and it's like pregnant, it will literally lay its babies in the vacuum. That's like a spider. That makes me disgusting. That's gross. Don't vacuum them up, kill them. Yeah, I would never vacuum them up. I'm unwell.

Well, yeah, dead ones are different. Yeah. but okay we you guys didn't hear Norma said that Kristen will say to her nighty night don't let the bed bugs park in your eye Cockrooke don't park it don't let the bugs park in your eye oh my cute disgusting so proud so proud my house is very clean that's funny it is it is yeah no our house is clean we're in florida we just have palmanos they like my house they do it was probably really cold that night No, it wasn't. There was one in my shoe the other day.

There was one in my shoe. I can't. But your room is right next to Tommy. And Tommy's... Exactly. It was warm. So gross. Nobody can hear you, Norma, so the conversation stops.

Okay, so now we're going to talk about our topic today. Yes. Because that's really... Nobody just goes, we're... You didn't hear it. I didn't even hear it. Nobody can hear her. I know, I know.

It's like a half conversation, which is not interesting. She needs a mic. She needs a mic. Or she needs to come over there. That's true. Over there. Okay, here we go. Let's roll.

It says the topic I wanted to discuss is humble. Are you humble or are you insecure? And there is definite difference between being humble and being insecure. Yeah. And I think everybody would be lying if they said they've, they've never been insecure. I mean, I think everybody pretty much has. For sure. But you can't live in insecurity.

It's very dangerous and it's not biblical, just so you know. I think back on the years that I was insecure, it was because I wasn't rooted in my insanity in Christ. Yeah. And so the moment I started really rooting myself in Christ, that's when it switched for me. I was no longer insecure. And I was more secure. Because you knew who you were.

Yeah. Because you knew who you were. Yeah. Exactly. I think that's a big thing is knowing who you belong to. 100% which will make you very secure in yourself. Right. And you stop compromising.

Mm-hmm. True. Yeah. And it compromising, well, compromising is good because what insecurity leads you to do things and be somebody and long for things that just aren't scriptural. Yeah. I made a list of what humility is because a lot of times people think being humble is being weak. But being humble is actually on the side of strength. And you just don't really. Like meekness, people think is weak. But meekness is like very strong and very self-controlled when you're meek. And it's powerful.

And I think it's a, I think that if you are meek, that's the ones that inherit the earth or herit the kingdom of heaven. I think that's the, you inherit the kingdom of heaven. If you're meek, look that up for me. but humility. Here's my list. If you are humble that goes with exactly what Vanessa said, the first thing. And I agree with you 100% because it's the first on my list is when you are humble, you know who you are in Christ.

I got the verse. You want to hear it? Yes. I probably already have it written down. Matthew 5'5. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Blessed are the meek for they will inherit the earth. Yeah, those are the, that's the, um, blessed are those.

And that's the list of all the blessed there are those. The beatitudes. Yeah. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Which is a great, wasn't that on the sermon of the Mount? Is blessed, the beatitudes is the sermon on the Mount? Yeah.

Yeah. Got to check that out. That's like, you should, um, strive to be all the ones that said, blessed are those. Mm-hmm. Those, you should strive to be all of those things that says blessed. are those because that will tell you what you're going to receive or what will be held to your account.

Yeah. Super important. So when you're humble, you know who you are in Christ. And that is powerful because then you're very confident. But you're not confident in and of yourself. You're confident in Christ. And you're confident in who you are in Him, which takes you to a whole new level, spiritually speaking. When you're humble, you're at peace. And peace is one of the fruits of the spirit. And people are

always striving for peace. You don't strive for it. You walk in it. It's something that dwells inside of you. It's a fruit of the spirit. So it dwells inside of you. So now you have to activate it. You have to walk in it. You don't strive for it. You don't pray for it. You don't pray for something you already got. It's already there. It exists within you. You no longer need. When you are humble, you no longer need to prove yourself. And I think that is super powerful. It is.

There are times that I know I used to be a person, and I'm far less than I was. But I used to be a person that if I thought I was right, I always had to prove that I was right. And I always had to be like, if I was right, I would always have to find the piece of paper. or the email. Do you know what I'm saying? See? Because people will do that with their texts. See?

Bring their receipts. Now I don't need to do that. I'm like, it doesn't really matter. The reason why I did that was pride. Because I was more concerned about the other person needing to know I was right and they are actually wrong. and there's there's nothing good that comes from that if you know you're right

then let the other person who cares if the other person believes that they're right at the end of the day either you have to have confidence in yourself and confidence in the other person that you have a relationship with if you are wrong or if you are right and they still think you're wrong is it going to destroy that relationship is it going to taint you is it going to make you look less well if you you if you end up looking less to them, then you need to question that relationship. Because is that a relationship that you, that is as strong as you think it is?

Or is it something that you really want to hang on to? See, for me, if I'm wrong, I always think to myself now, more so now ever than ever. I'm like, who cares? That person loves me. Like, if I'm wrong, like, it's not going to change their opinion of me. everybody's wrong. Everybody gets it and misses it. So just chalk it up till I'm like everybody else.

I strive to be right. I strive for perfection. But if I miss it, I don't need to prove anything to anybody. And I think a lot of times it comes from a place of pride when people have to do that. Yeah, I agree. And that is a very dangerous thing to walk around like. And humbleness is not needing to prove that you are. Does anybody want to add anything before I move to?

to the next one. Because those three are pretty good. I like it. The next one is for me, humility is when, and this, I see this in the church. And I see this in the church with people who are really confident in who they are in Christ. And then you can always tell the ones that are not. They're willing to serve. they're willing to wait

and they're willing to leave without recognition yeah yeah that's the last one is like the biggest one our church is so full of servants super humble people

that's true like usually you have to fight for people to work in the nursery we don't deal with any of that Like we don't even advertise to volunteer right now because we have more than we need. And they still, and the thing is, it's not, and people haven't stopped volunteering. Right. We still have them volunteering and we're still finding spots for people. But like we're having our volunteer dinner, um, February 12th. And like we almost.

couldn't have people bring their spouses because we have so many volunteers that we can't even find there's only one place in this area that can host for us wow we need to build our own fellowship hall well we even tried to do it here but we can't even facilitate yeah the number of people well it's almost 400 volunteers so crazy what yes and what's cool is a lot of the volunteers are married to each other and they volunteer together which is a blessing because it helped us yeah totally but heather was in a quandary yeah she was in a true quandary and that girl spent so much time last year trying to find another facility to host and nobody could do it for us yeah so like kudos to foundation church.

Yeah. Because there is a huge group of people who are humble. But there's a lot of people that, now I don't really see it here at our church, but I have in the past where if they, you can't thank them enough. Like the reason they do it is for recognition. For the applause. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

There are certain places in ministry that that seems to be an issue. issue. Sorry, this thing's killing my ear. I would say anything that where people do public speaking, public speaking tends to make people really want accolades. Worship team. Tends to make people want people to always recognize or acknowledge or make sure. sure that people think that, you know, like, they're really good. And that's very dangerous. I've been in part of worship teams where, like, you, and I'm not talking about just as singers. I'm literally talking about the instruments. And we don't deal with that really to speak of at

our church. We are very blessed. But that's not always been the case with us. There have been times where people literally, you can play their instrument loud enough for them to be happy because people, they need to make sure that people could hear them. It's like, no, we blend, we don't stand out. We're one team, not a one instrument focused or two or whatever. And that's very dangerous. So make sure that you do what you do because God's called you to do it. And then you're, stay humble and what he's called you to do because the thing is is you know your voice or your gift of speaking or your talent in cooking or whatever it is that God's gifted you for whether it be hospitality make sure that the reason you're doing it isn't for accolades it's to do it as

unto him and it's done an excellence for him not for anybody else because you'll burn out you will not you will you will you will completely burn out uh doing it for any other reason but his go ahead ladies do you want to add something to that like you that's the whole thing is if you if you're doing it in your own strength you have to maintain it in your own strength so good luck trying to continue on and then add to your capacity because now it's your capacity not his capacity like i like people are like i don't know how you do everything you do i'm like i don't either like i really don't. I'm like how, I don't know how. And there's no, there's no level of burnout. There's no, like, I wish I didn't have to do this today, like ever. Like, so it just shows that like it is

alignment with what God's asking me to do right now. Yeah. And it's not my own strength. Nothing I'm doing is in my own strength. You can handle it. Yeah. A humble person is also open to being corrected. True. And a lot of times I feel like if you're not humble, a lot of times insecure people when you correct them, like they fall apart. They can't handle it. Mm-hmm. That is true.

And you can be insecure for lots of different reasons, but listen, who cares if somebody corrects you? Yeah. Be able to receive it. Listen, I'm married to Tom Leipley. I get corrected. But a lot of times it's corrected for my benefit. Like, he only wants me to be better.

Right. You have to look at the person and the reason behind what they're saying to you and find out, are they being vindictive, nasty, and mean? If that's their reason for correcting you, then you need to stay away from that person. But if somebody is correcting you so that you better your skill set or your job performance or just to be a better Christian, then you might want to receive from them because the heart in which they're doing it is only to make you better. A lot of times, though, insecure people. they don't look at that reason. That's not, they just can't handle it.

Right. And the last one is confidence that's submitted to God. And that is a person who is humble, is a person who is confident and submitted to God. And like, let that be me. Let that be me. Yeah. Yep.

So I wrote down and I look this up. Like if a person, I look this up. Like if a person is humble, what is some things that they would say that would show like and I love chat GPT for this so you say like what would a person who is humble in their walk with God like how would they talk and this was some of the things that it gave me which I was like this is dead straight on I know what God as they would a humble person says I know what God asked me to do I don't need credit I can learn from that and it's not about me.

Is that how we, is that how we walk around? Yeah. Is that how we talk? Right. That's a good benchmark. That is. Like I listen,

I thought to myself, do I say those things? Right. Like, examine your language. Like, what's coming out of your mouth? Because how you talk? Out of the environments of the heart,

the mouth speaks, right? So whatever you're saying is actually your action. Yeah. It's your action. That's why it's good. to go, what would a humble person say? Yeah. And also, can you celebrate others? Oh my gosh.

You know what I mean? That's truly, like, when I see humble people, and this is what I try to emulate myself, like, can I celebrate others? Yeah. You know what? It's so funny because Adalas said that to me one time. She said to me one time because, like, in private, I'll see something and I'll, like, send her something or

or when I get to see her, if there's something like, I know, like, I really, first of all, I love her. But I know God's got some really great things for her. And she's got a lot of great things to say to women that are my age, but specifically to that Gen Zier millennial age group. Like, but she, listen, she kills it in my age group and older. Like, I'm not trying to take away from her. Like, she does.

She speaks to all age groups. But I'm telling you specifically, I think she is going to really be extremely effective in the millennial and the gen Ziers. I really do. It's such a powerful way God is. But one of the things she says to me, she's like, you're so not, like, she doesn't get this from anybody else in ministry. I'm not saying specifically nobody else. I know she does have some friends that, that do, like, cheer her on and things.

But most of the time, people in ministry don't cheer you on. Yeah. They hope for your demise. And I think that's so sad because we're all on the same team. Listen, are there things that I could pinpoint? Yes. Are there things people could pinpoint about me? Yes.

And I'll speak truth about those. things. Okay. I will never be dishonest with anybody about anything. But, but even in the midst of honesty about certain things, about myself, about somebody else, about Tom, or whatever the case may be, I'm still going to cheer them on. Right. Because really, the main goal is that we win the lost and we disciple believers. And we should be pushing and elevate. We, you know, we're so apt to do this with athletes, but we don't do it with brothers and sisters in Christ. They're not winning the loss. And we worship them and we think they're the greatest.

And we talk about them. We promote them. But we do not do that with brothers and sisters and Christ. And shame on us for that. Shame on us. We should be making sure we propel and we push and we make sure that people are getting out there that are going to really do something. Right.

Because we're the body of Christ. When you win, I win. Exactly. Exactly. Maybe God's calling for them is far beyond yours. And it doesn't mean that he loves them more. It just means that that's just the way it is. But he's got something great for you and me still.

Like, who cares? Who cares if somebody's ministry is bigger and better than yours? Yours is still bigger and better than theirs in a different way. Right. And you have to be okay to walk so that other people can run. You know, it's okay to be the trailblazer so that it can, you make it easier for other people coming behind you. Yeah, but even if somebody's out there doing it, sleep for me, I don't, nothing that they do appeals to me. And it's, if God called me to do it, then he

would put that desire in me. Yeah. But nothing that they're doing is a want of mine. Because you're in your lane. And I'm totally content. I don't think it's been. bigger and better than what I'm doing. I feel like what I'm doing is actually bigger and better than what they're doing. But it's because that's what God wants me to do. And what they're doing, they're killing it in the area in which he has them. The lane that they're in, they are killing it. Yep. And I don't know, be happy with where you're at and be very content at peace. And also, you don't know what it takes and what it took for them to get there. And I don't know if everybody would do what it took for Jare to do what it like where we are today in business like

the days that he worked the hours that he worked every see had to do answer phones schedule like all the things he had to do I don't know if everybody would be able to do it I think most people have been like like I can't do this anymore like it's exhausting most people well most people quit that's what I mean at some point they get to a place where they do they quit and so if you want to do really big things what are you like you have to like what are you have you know like one of the things jera says like you have five stones in your hand like what do you're you have you have you you doing with those five stones when you take care of those you do get more but uh everybody it's like the talents yeah exactly everybody wants the platform and but like you're not even

taking care of the people you have in your community in your small group or whatever it is you don't check on them you don't make sure that they don't have like a need that needs to be met like oh yeah start start with what you have i mean oh my gosh if people knew like tom and i started out with being a youth leader and i would meet and i'd be the only person yeah and i had this I had these youth girls that I knew they, they were like, they needed something. So I was like, I will spend, like, I can't remember, it was like every other week or every week. I can't remember where I met with them at night.

And it was only three or four girls. Yeah. And a lot of people wouldn't waste their time with three or four girls. Right. Because it's like not big enough. But that's what God wanted me to do. And I was like, I don't know, 31, 32 years old. And for me, I dug in deep and I, like, invested in those girls.

You have to be willing to do that. You do. Like, you have to do what nobody sees when nobody's around. What are you doing? Right. Nobody's looking. Nobody's looking. Like, are you willing to do the things that people don't want to do?

Most people quit. Right. I agree. Because it's just not fulfilling enough. It's just not, like, magnificent enough. Yeah. You know, it's just not. not, you know, it's just not, it's not good to, to think like that. I agree. You'll get nowhere.

What someone who has humble fruit looks like. I'm going to run through these really quick and then I'm going to go to insecurity and then I'm going to close up because I really want to hit this one topic because I'm telling you right now. I'll just wait until I close out because what I have at the end, most people don't even know. Like it's so, it's so, like if you know me, some of you, I already know it, but most don't realize it. People who are humble, they're fruit. They walk in peace. There is no drama.

They're stable. They don't bounce from job to job. True. Church to church. True. They're stable in all their ways. Their life is almost always consistent. Like people always are like, don't you get bored?

I'm like, no, I like the everyday, Same thing. Consistency. No drama. Like if you're doing things right, was Jesus ever in the midst of drama? No, he was not. He actually removed himself from the drama. He didn't participate when they wanted him to talk, when he's being crucified. They wanted him to talk. They wanted him to add him to the reason why. What did he do? He stayed silent. He knew who he was. He knew who sent him. He knew his purpose. Be quiet. You know your authority, which is what I was just talking. They're a leader.

Somebody who's humble is a leader, usually. In some capacity. They have a teachable spirit. They're not afraid to say, I don't know or I don't understand. And listen, I'm telling you right now. You better get used to those words because being humble, you're not going to know everything.

I always say, I don't know, but I'll figure it out. Or I'll look it up. Right. Yep. Because you can't know everything. You have to be teachable. I literally can't stand it when I talk to somebody. And Tom talks about this when he preaches.

But we've run into it so many times. And I think it's because I used to be this person. I'm not kidding you. That's when it like triggers. Oh, my gosh. You hate yourself sometimes. Norma said I amen. A teachable spirit is when I used to go in and I would talk to, if I was talking to somebody,

they might be trying to teach me something or are we just talking in general about something? And the whole entire time I would be like, I know, I know, I know, I know, I knew nothing. But I didn't want to seem stupid. So I would say I know. Or if they're teaching you something, you say, I know. You don't know if you knew you wouldn't need to be taught it. Like, do you know what I'm saying? Yes.

But the whole entire time you're saying, I know, because you are insecure and you are afraid to say, I don't know. For whatever reason, insecure people are usually very fearful people. They're very prideful people. I know. I've been insecure. I know of what I'm talking about. Yeah. Yep.

For sure. So don't say I know. Just shut up and listen. Yeah. The best thing you can do, shut up and listen. Be teachable. People like teachable people. Yes.

They really do. Yeah, we look to hire people like that. Yeah. Yeah, because they don't have bad habits. And if you are teachable, your bad habit can be fixed. Yes. Otherwise, no, you're not worth someone's time. I'm telling you right now, this is,

like when I was reading this scripture about humbleness, it just is like, it is so true. But a humble person is consistently obedient. You are consistently obedient. And that for me is huge. If you look at most people who are in and out of their walks with God, they're insecure and they're not humble. and usually they are like schizophrenic in every part of their life. They are not humble, people. Insecurity is rooted in fear.

It is self-focused. Tell me I'm wrong about this because I'm just telling you. That's me. I'm defining myself. When I think of it, when I think of me as insecure, this is all the things that I was. And then you can add on to whatever you know, you were. when you were insecure because maybe I missed one. It's rooted in fear.

You're self-focused. Your approval-driven, which I was completely approval-driven. I wasn't a person that you could, I mean, you could thank me enough, but I longed to be thanked. You wanted to hear the thank you. Gosh, yes.

Constantly compare, and the Bible is very clear, we're not to compare ourselves among ourselves, but I did compare. I'd be like, well, at least I'm better than that. Because I didn't feel good about myself. I was very insecure. I needed affirmation to feel okay.

If you asked people back in the day all my jobs, like for the places I worked, they would say I was all these things that I'm telling you right now. Overly explained myself, very defensive, or minimized the part that I played in things when they went wrong. Yeah, right. That's a huge one. I told you the story where my boss literally said you realize that you're, you never take responsibility for your actions. There's always another reason or somebody else. That's probably my biggest pet peeve. And maybe that's what I used to do. I'd have to like go back to

some old files. But that one, that one bugs me that like like when you do something wrong, you always look for somebody else to blame. Like that one or add somebody to the equation along with you. They do it. True. That's annoying too. But like when you're always like, well, it's because just. Defecting. Yeah.

Deflecting. And I'm like, just say, yeah, like, yeah, this was my part. Yeah, this was my part for sure. And you don't have to say anything after that. You don't have to add anybody else in. I have so much respect for people when they own it. Yeah. Me too.

I'm like, yes. I love this. Thank you. We can work with this. Now we can start. And move on. Yes. Yeah.

Yeah. Because you can fix it. And then it doesn't happen again. Yeah. Most likely, you know. Yeah. 100%. I mean, it's embarrassing for a boss to say to you, you know, you have an excuse for everything.

Oh, that's wrong. I thought about that big. Yeah. Do you think, did you make a change right after that? I was so humiliated. Yes, I did. Yeah. But I still didn't, like, I still didn't go to the degree in which I should have.

Yeah. Like one of the things that I learned hugely from Tom, especially when I first started dating him and then obviously leading into marriage. But one of the things Tom has always been is a very honest person. And with respect to if he's responsible for doing something wrong, he's always been, that was me, sorry, I did that. Like he's always been a person to just own the screw up and say he's sorry and not me.

This comes to a place of being insecure because saying I'm sorry means you take ownership of it. And I've never been an I'm sorry person. I didn't grow up in a home. We just swept everything under the rug and we just kept moving on. That doesn't bode well for being a person to own the mistake and then have to repent of it. Yes. Which the I'm sorry is huge.

Yes. So when I first got married to Tom, no. I wasn't an I'm sorry person. And I didn't. I was just like, what's the big deal? I just keep moving on. Who cares? And he's like, no, no, no, no.

no no that's not how we're going to do things because for the longest time he'd be the only one saying I'm sorry and I'd be like all right whatever I didn't care I didn't care if he said he's sorry and I didn't care if he didn't say he was sorry I was like who cares right we're happy like I don't care because I don't take things personally yeah so for me it was like who cares I know you love me like we made mistakes who cares let's go let's move on past year he's not like he's like you're gonna own it sister I own mine you're owning yours I'm like, I don't want to own mine. Let's just sweep it under the carpet.

Like, I've been doing all the rest of my life. It's like, that's not how this house is going to run. You can't change something unless you own it. Yeah. It's so true. He's like, that's not how this house is going to run. It's the best thing that ever happened to me, though. It's pretty biblical, too.

Like, God expects us to repent of what we did. I mean, it might be nice. It's not overarching. Not like, yeah, at the end of the day, like, sorry for whatever sin I did. Okay, well, that's not going to help because you're going to send again tomorrow because you don't even know what you're saying. So repeat bad patterns. Correct.

Bad habits. Correct. If you don't like just have to address them, look them in the face and then look the person in the face, literally, that you've done it to. Yeah. Yeah. What is it, whatever you avoid remains. Ooh, that's good.

You know. So true. Yeah, you got to confront things. And it's a beautiful thing. Once you do it a couple of times, you're like, you know what? That felt good. Like, I still don't think it feels good, but I do it. Because you see the fruit of it.

Like, it's not the avoid. I don't know. I just hate avoid and stuff. So when I just deal with it and we move on and they still love you, it's like, oh, wasn't that bad, you know? Yeah, I don't like it. I still don't. I mean, I do it because it is what's right.

It is what's right. I will do it. Yeah, it's not that. But I don't like it. Yeah. I'm not a big fan of egg on my face. But like, like, when are you not going to have egg on your face? Like, it happens.

You just move on. but you don't have to enjoy it. I hate it so much that I almost try not to have to go through it. Me too. But then you know if it comes up, then you just like embrace it. Okay. Let's figure this out.

This was wrong. Move on. Because that's the goal. Like move on. And then you move on. Yeah. And then the people that won't move on with you, it's very clear. Oh, well, it's easy.

Yeah. Very clear. Yeah. Cut your dies. Yep. At least you found out before you got in too deep. Right. True.

Yeah. Yeah. So next one. Avoiding correction or taking it personally. Oh, my word. Like, I don't, I don't think, I'm not, like, I don't think this was really me, but I literally deal with this, not on a regular basis, but somewhat regular basis. Okay.

people will avoid correction like you said like the plague and then they'll take it personal after you do it it's like wait minute here like first of all like I'm not beating you down so let's not act like you're a wounded dog and on top of that it's like everybody gets corrected in life so why are we like acting like because you're so insecure you can't receive it But I'm not a sensitive person. Right. No, that's the difference. A lot of people, when they do let somebody, like, or they do the wrong thing and they get corrected, they're, like, actually beating themselves up.

I know some people very close to me that when they mess up, they actually, like, are so mad about it because they feel like they let you down. So they don't even know how to, like, handle it. It's just too much. So they like. Get over it. Who cares? I know. But that's the sensitive part that you, that you lack.

Yeah. That is true. I do like letting people down. Yeah. But you're, I mean, it's a big scheme of things. This is not, we're not doing brain surgery here. Right. And nobody's fingers are hanging off of a cliff and it's life and death situation.

Right. So like, let's put things into perspective here. But their brain for them, it is life and death. It is. Like, they're in fight or flight. Yeah. Which goes to my last one then, because they're letting others' opinions to find their life. There it is.

Yeah. There it is. Fear of man. Which is a terrible thing. It is a terrible thing. I mean, insecure people. There's never freedom. No freedom in that ever. Ever, ever, ever. You will always be a slave to man.

Yeah, I can't do that. No, me either. And then you never unlock your own potential. Ever. It's so true. Very true. It's very frustrating for a person that, well, I mean, being insecure, I was those things, but I never was like, I never fell apart. Yeah. Yeah. It's just not my nature, but it is annoying to me.

when people do that because I'm like, this is like not the end of the world. Come on. Come on. And I tell you, as someone who was once sensitive, I'm on the other side. Yeah. And I'm no longer that. Me too. Same. I used to cry all the time. You can change. You can overcame. Yes. Yes. Same. God, because again, when you look at who you are in Christ, you have to change. Identity. Yep. You have to look like him. Yes. You have to be like him. And he is not falling apart, as Andrew Wama likes to say, like a $2 suitcase. He doesn't. So why are you?

Yeah. Yeah. The fruit of an insecure person is anxiety, people pleasing, control issues, burnout, which is what I talked about, and emotionally reactive to situations. Yeah. It absolutely is. Scripture in 1st Peter 5.6 says, humble yourselves under the mighty power of God. and at the right time he'll lift you up in honor.

We should all want that right there. That should be our end goal. In 2 Timothy 1-7, and I love this. I love this scripture. Everybody knows it. For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity. Oh, yes. Which is New Living Translation, but of power, love, and self-discipline.

That's good. That right there is a secure person. Yes. Yeah. A secure person walks in 2 Timothy 1-7. And I love, man, I love that scripture. Now, this is what I would, if there's anybody, let me move on.

Let me just go to here. Numbers 12-3 says, now Moses was very humble, more humble than any other person on earth. Who wrote that scripture, girls? What was it again? Numbers 12-3. Yeah, numbers 12-3. Yeah, numbers 12-3.

Numbers. Numbers fall three. Who wrote numbers? Who wrote the book of numbers? Moses. Yeah. I'm like, is that a trick question? No.

Genesis, Exodus, Reviticus, Numbers, Deuteronomy. He wrote the first five books. Yeah. Okay. Now, Moses was very humble, more humble than any other person on Earth. Yeah.

So if Moses wrote that, then Moses wrote that about himself. Correct? Fair. Inspired by the Holy Spirit, right? Well, or is it true? Or is it true? Yeah, it is true.

Can a humble person say that about themselves? For sure. 100% 100 person can say that about themselves. Why? Because it's all about the motive of the heart. If it's true, if it's true, then you can say it. Well, you know the source. It doesn't make you unhumbled.

Unhumble. That ain't a word. It doesn't make you not humble to be able to say that about yourself. Now, here's the thing. What was going on at that time when he wrote that? Let's read this really quick. Because it just proves that you can be humble. Write a sentence about that about yourself and it be true.

And all the while being the most humble, which is what he said he was. It says while they were, well, because for me, people, I'm literally sick and tired of people thinking that that is a prideful statement. It is not a prideful statement. Yeah, I agree. Humble people can be confident, but they're confident in who they are. Exactly. And confidence is way different than pride.

Right. 100%. And that's what all of us need to be. We need to be very confident in who we are. And people always say when people are confident, they're cocky, they're arrogant. Some people could, can be. But there's a lot of people who aren't.

They're confident because, like, when Tom preaches, he's very confident when he's preaching. But I can't tell you how many people have said he's cocky and arrogant. And I'm like, because he's confident in the word, because he's confident in what he's preaching, that doesn't make him cocky or arrogant. It just makes him sure of who he is and what that word says. There's a difference.

Yeah. And you need to, you need to not worry about what other people think. Mm-hmm. It'll hold you back from being a humble, usable person. Yeah. While they were at Hazaroth and Miriam and Aaron criticized Moses because he had married a Kushite woman. And they said, has the Lord spoken only through Moses? So first of all, they're sinning because they're gossiping.

Mm-hmm. It's all stems from a root. and the root is sin and it's bad. They said, has the Lord spoken only through Moses? Hasn't he spoken through us too? Well, hadn't he? Yeah, he had. He had spoken through Aaron was the priest of all priests.

Okay. And Miriam wasn't too shabby herself. And the Lord had spoken through them, but the Lord heard them. Now Moses, this is where this comes from. Now Moses, and God did not say this about him. He's saying this about himself, because this isn't in parentheses. Now Moses was very humble, more humble than any other person on earth. And God obviously felt this.

Otherwise, he wouldn't have allowed him to write it. So is it God inspired? Partly, yes. But it's also who Moses knew who he was in God. So immediately the Lord called to Moses, Aaron and Mary him. So the Lord calls all three of them. And he said, go out to the tabernacle, all three of you. And it has an exclamation mark.

he's not happy. So the three of them went to the tabernacle and then the Lord, how as amazing is that that they all three hear his voice? It's so cool. It's not just Moses. They all three heard his voice. And then they were obedient. And it doesn't sound like he was too happy because he used an exclamation point.

So it sounds like me when I talked to my kids and I was not very happy with them. So the three of them went to the tabernacle and then the Lord descended in the pillar of cloud and stood at the entrance of the tabernacle. Aaron and Miriam, that has an exclamation point afterwards. So now he's kind of like yelling at them. He called and they stepped forward. And the Lord said to them, now listen to me what I say. Now listen to what I say. If there were prophets among you, I the Lord would reveal myself in visions. I would speak to them in dreams, but not with my servant Moses. Of all my house, he is the one I trust. I speak to him face to face clearly and not in riddles. He sees the Lord as he is. So why were you not afraid to criticize my servant Moses? Yikes.

Yeah. So Moses, it is reiterated how humble he was, but is also reiterated. The Lord then reiterates who he was to him. And then it goes on to say that because of what they did, he says he was very angry with them. He departed from them. Mariam was stricken with leprosy as he left. Aaron begged for Moses to do something about it. And then Moses, on behalf of his sister, asked the Lord to take the leprosy from him. I mean, how humble is that? Moses knows that his siblings are gossiping about him and all the while Mariam was the very one that put him in the basket

for crying out loud she saved his life yeah okay she knew how important he was he was not at the time when she put him in the basket but she knew how important he was because he had just or had um

led the people or have led the Israelites out of Egypt. She knew he was the deliverer. But insecure people do insecure things, and they will talk amongst themselves, and they will make people or make someone else look less to make themselves feel better. True.

Don't let that be you. All the while, after they gossiped about him, tried to make him look bad, what does he do? He pleased to God on their behalf. for their redemption. What a profound and humble human being. Let that up.

Be us. Yeah. Let that be us. It's a great place to be when you're confident in who you are and who you are in God. So today as a day, I always think to myself, like if I screw up, I'm like, well, I always have tomorrow. Yeah. True. Or I first start in the beginning.

I can always like the thing that's great about God is there's always a second chance. You can always redeem yourself and you can always fix. And other people want to allow that. There's a lot of people in this world that you screw up enough and there are no more chances. Not with God. Right. Thank God. Yeah.

So let this today be a day that you go, you know what, I'm done. I'm done with being insecure. I'm going to learn who I am and I will begin to walk a whole new way. Like I say this all the time, but you're yesterday, you should look totally different today from that. And then tomorrow you should look totally different than how you do today. You should be going up. But what I was saying to a girlfriend of mine yesterday, I had lunch with her, and I was saying to her, I said, what happens is people do exactly what Tom says.

they always are moving vertically, never horizontally. All the while, Satan has them deceived that as they move vertically, they're spiritually growing. But really what they are is they're insecure. Yeah. And that vertical move makes them feel like they're doing something. Yeah. Feels like progress.

They're not doing anything. Right. And they are not changing for the better. Yeah. So let that not be you. Amen. 410. I'm done.

you guys haven't wanted to add anything that's good we're going to see on Friday with another friend yes it's going to be a good one you won't want to miss it so I will see you and the peanut gallery will too yes we will be here on Friday see ya