The Hope Hotline - Living In The Truth | Genesis 18

Episode Date: May 8, 2026

The Hope Hotline | S04-E27 | 05-08-2026Subscribe to my podcast: https://rss.com/podcasts/thehopehotline/

Real talk. Hello and welcome to the Hope Potline. We appreciate you joining us this very hot Friday. It's 93 degrees outside. Ladies, summer is back. And I went outside to read my little book and I was like, it was okay. And then all of a sudden I was like, oh. Were you out on your back porch?

Yeah, I was. Do you have a fan? No, but I do need one. Okay, that's part of the problem. That's on my list. But it's been fine. And today was the first day I was like, and it wasn't that late yet either. Mm-mm.

Which was unfortunate. I love it. Do you? You are? Okay. Well, you're Puerto Rican. I know. I think it's in your blood.

It's my Caribbean, like, DNA. I think it is, too. Because sitting out there with the hot sun on my skin, like, I love it. Maybe I was dressed properly. I wasn't dressed properly. What were you wearing? I was wearing too much glares. Like, I had a sweater, like a light sweater on, and then I started, like, getting sweaty.

Of course. I know. I've been fine up until today. Today was the first day that I was like, this is too much. I was walking the dog, and I literally, my nose was dripping. I sweat my nose sweats. You know how some people's upper lip sweats. No, my nose.

Your nose, yeah. My nose sweats. And it was hot, hot, hot. So I'm like, okay, summer's here. Yes. Mosquitoes are back. Oh, I'm not happy about that. Yes.

I mean, oh my gosh. And where we live, it's crazy. It is. The love bugs have died down, though, so I'm very happy about that. Appreciate you Jesus. That was a little extreme this year. Yeah. I was shocked at how many love bugs we had based on how cold it was.

Yeah. Yeah, I know. Yeah, because last year wasn't, I don't even remember love bugs last year. Me either. I feel like it's been a couple years. We've had this like crazy amount. It's true. It's very, very true.

I agree. 100%. I think today. Somehow I feel like the government is behind it. I do too. Pretty sure it's conspiracy. My gosh, you guys are the biggest. You know, people would say I'm a conspiracy.

theory theorist. What? But you guys take, they haven't the ass yet. Send them to a job. You take it and go to the whole other level. I'm just saying. And then above that. I'm just saying. Those things are always connected. Oh my gosh. They are smelled hair. They smell like chemicals. Oh, they stink. Oh my gosh. Like chemicals. They seem so bad. It's from the cover. It's not natural. It's not natural. It's not. Thank you. See, she's agreed. So you got your haircut. What did you have done to? I had mine done this, this week. Yeah, it was just, it just needed a little trim. So Kylie trimmed it up for me. And then she gave me a middle part because she was trying to gen Z me. And had that work. No, you can't do a middle part. That's so silly. Oh, yeah. No. I can't, I wouldn't do a middle part either. No, I look so funny.

As I sit here with my middle part. I know, because you're so cute. Vanessa is Genzy. I know. She is. I am. She identifies as. Whatever it is the trend, that is Vanessa. I forget that I'm in my 40s. I really do. Me too. A lot of times I'm like, what? I know. I'm shocked half the time. But hey, listen, I have to remind myself. Right. You know, I have to remind myself how old I am. Yeah.

Which I'm not ashamed to say it, but I'm just like, I have to remind myself. And then I have to look down to make sure, is this appropriate for somebody who's 58? Oh. I know. I know. I know. I have to all my time. But you know why?

Because I used to see these 60-year-olds. And I'm like going to be one year. Tom won't even let me talk about it. Because I'm excited about turning 60, which is not this year. next year. I'm like, I'm going to be 60s. I don't talk to me about it. I'm like, I'm excited. You should be. But I'm like, I see these 60-year-olds and they're still dressing like they're in their 20s and 30s. And I'm like, am I dressing like I'm in my 20s and 30s because I really. Yeah, you don't want to. Well, yeah, you look like an idiot. I know. I know. Don't be somebody you're not.

But I have a feeling every now and then I throw on an outfit and it's kind of like borderline. If not all the way over. You forget. Totally forget. I feel like I'm 18. I'm 18. I know. I know. Dress the age you think you are. Nope. Nope. That cannot happen.

Ever. Every once in a while. No. It's not happening. But I feel so good. Like having my hair. Like, and it really did it. I did it way sooner.

Normally I wait like six months plus to get it done. It was three months because Jolene is on it. Like she's like, she's like, I'm just going to schedule you. I'm like, Thank God. Yeah. Somebody needs to schedule me. Right.

But usually I let it grow out really long. Yeah. Because it's not really that gray. I know. If it was really gray, I'd be in there. Right. But since it's not, I can barely, hardly tell. Right.

But she knows. She knows. She sees you. And then she started doing this, so I can go way longer. What did she start doing? She, well, I was blonde, and then I, and she warned me. She's like, you do that. Your hair could probably break.

And I was like, it's okay. It crows. Forgetting it, don't grow that fast. True. Not fast enough. Yeah. And so then it started breaking off so bad, she goes, I think we need to do something. Oh, man.

I think we need to do something. So what was her suggestion? What did she do? Go darker. Oh, is that you going darker? I did, no. For the summer, no, I did start going darker so, like, my hair could get healthy again. It takes a really long time.

And look at how long. It's taken me for to get to here. Yeah. Years, people. Years. I know. Like four? Wow.

If you look at me at the beginning of this podcast, which was 2020, what, 2023, so maybe three. My hair was way longer. And then I went blonde and it started breaking off. But we went this way because it's summer and my hair will totally, Tracy's hair does this too. Yours gets very light. Very light. In the summer. Because the sun.

Because of the sun and sun and sun and sun and sunning. And sunning. mostly sudden. Yeah. Whereas me is natural. Mine goes. Yeah, my needs to, but now. Yeah.

So, like, there's no point in making it darker. No, no, no. No. No. But we're not doing the bleach anymore, really. Okay. Yeah, that stuff will do it. It does.

I know. I know. I know. You've experienced it. I have. And so. I mean, blonde is fun. It is.

If you have to, I mean, I have to color mine blonde now. But Mond is fun until it's not. I know. That's what I'm going to do my natural ish for the rest of it because I kind of went more blonde too and then it got really like braky, straw like just not yeah not like shiny. So we're going, I'm just going to go back to the way that it's supposed to be minus my my hairline obviously. Yeah. So I don't know. Feels good to get your hair done. It does. It was so sweet because your daughter does it. No, that's what she does for a living. She did a fabulous. She did a Great job.

She loves, and she loves it. She loves the one-on-one because she has a sweet like Jolie and they're right next to each other neighbors. So she loves the one-on-one. You know, we are our very blessed church because we have so many hairstylists in our church. We do. We have everything. I'm trying to convince Emma to go to nail tech school. She's so good at it.

She's good at it. And I'm not just saying that. No, no, she really is. And she practices. Yeah. I'm trying to convince her to, she's like, she's also a, Yeah, exactly. That too.

She doesn't. But then if she does that, we'll have a nail person. I know. We'll have so many choices in hairdressing and like, we have that own little. We have really a lot of great, like even businesses from electricians to plumbers to contractors. We can have our own parallel society. That's the goal. I mean, people call me up and like, do you know?

I'm like, I probably do. Yeah. Because we are blessed in this church. Yeah, literally. With lots of great people that, like, take wonderful care in what they do. Right. Even their businesses are as unto the Lord. So kudos to that, because we are talking about truth today.

Truth, yes. It's important. Very important. Very important. But we're going to do sponsors really, really quick before we do that. Okay. And then you got something to share. Okay.

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I know. Aaron's helping me out. So I appreciate it. I love the way we're doing it now. So good. Yep. Looks very real. Looks very personal. Yeah, it's those different angles that are very helpful. Yeah. It's like being there. Yes. That's the goal. Good. That's exactly what we're. we were going for. That's what it would feel like if you're there, I think. Yes. Standing in the front room. Yeah. So right, right. Um, okay. So do we have anything else?

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right. Right. Right. I know, people are hateful. Just because you're wearing a specific shirt. Right. Yeah, exactly. Why would you even do that? Why would you wear blue? I think it's because we're all Gen Xers on there. That's what I was wondering. So Gen Xers kind of stick together. That's what I was wondering. So they're dying to nice. You guys have grace for each other.

Yeah. We prefer each other. Yeah. I get it. But all of us really, but what's so funny is they love the comments that I make to you. Yeah. Because I bust her chops and they're like.

Because I'm a millennial. And everybody hates a millennial. So it's fine. It's fine. Even though we gave birth to you guys. I know exactly. We created us. Why do you hate us so much?

Well, you guys are older millennials, okay? So you're not going to get this. But you know, like, younger millennials are entitled. They're very much like, what's in it for me? And I don't identify with them. And they're usually not hard workers, okay? Well, they think they are. That's the truth in it.

They actually think they're working really, really hard. Doing nothing. And there might be like a portion of it. That's true that they're working. but like there's like people that are like double their age that are doing more and have done it longer and they feel like they are entitled to the same benefits. Do you know? Yes.

And you know what I find funny is Jen Ziers will buck you on working really hard. But then once they get going, they work really hard. True. Not millennials. True. They try and stick it out as long as they possibly can just being that person. And then they'll, they might peek. And then sometimes they slip back because it's like, you have to like,

like handholding. It's like a guy that's mean to his girlfriend or a girlfriend's, you know, they play that, play that gaming, they game back and forth. They play games one another back and forth so that somebody is always trying to appease one another. Yeah. You know, like one's mad, so the other one is appeasing the other one. And then it flips so that you're always like trying to like make the other person

and happy, it's the back and forth. And it only lasts for like two weeks because that's all they got. That's how millennials work right there. They get in trouble. They got about two good weeks in them of really like trying to please you. And then they go right back to their always. Have you ever dated somebody who likes to do that? Like like likes to play games?

No. You've never dated anybody like that. No, thank you. Rough. I have. It's rough. I didn't play games though. I'm not game.

player. So it didn't last very long. Like, again, I only dated, I've only been in two real relationships my whole life. Okay, that's... Same. Really? Yeah. Two real relationships.

Like, I went on a couple of dates, like one off date. Yeah. But that was it. Yeah, I didn't, like, I went on dates and stuff. It usually didn't last very long. I got turned off really fast, really quick. Got the ick. That is such a weird term to me.

I know. Yeah, I did. I got turned off really fast. Yeah. Really quick. I got it. Most of the time I didn't go. If you got more than three dates, that's saying something. Oh, wow. So it was vast. Yeah.

That three dates is like nothing. Most of the time it was one. Wow. Yeah. You knew. You know what you like, though. Like, that's everything in life. God did it for me.

Because I went on a couple of dates with some guys. They were, we worked at the same. together and they would all both of them they both said god told me i can't date you anymore wow and he could have absolutely wait minute god told you that you couldn't date them or told them they couldn't date you they would dump me yeah within like three dates i was the one that he wasn't wasting time why is they why were they saying god told them that i don't know because god told them that I told them not. Why are you blinking like that?

I wasn't weird. I really wasn't. Were you a little weird? No, it wasn't. I was checking. I was giving you a second to like reconsider. Maybe I was. Who knows?

That's wild. But we were all like believers. We were all Christians like, the point of dating was to eventually get married. Like we were not like just like having fun. And so they might have been like, Lord, is this the one? And the Lord. I was like, no. We're not wasting her time.

Because I had two guys tell me that God told them I was the one. Oh, I know it was the opposite for me. I never got that. And I was like, I don't see that. I never got that. I can't believe you made it in the Christian world that long. I never got that. That was huge back in the day.

Back in the day where everybody would like, the Lord is telling me. I somehow skip that. Yeah, that's shocking that you didn't get that. But I wasn't in the church. Yeah. No, it was the opposite for me. The Lord told me no. I'm like, what's wrong with me?

Yeah, that's not. That was literally. That's probably a nice way to say it. Jeff Tomas. Exactly. He had better. He had better. See, your brain wasn't thinking best case scenario.

You hadn't. No, I hadn't. My mind was not renewed. No, I was not. I was just like, wow. Like, I felt this big. That's tough. And then another one.

Two people. Yeah, date the wrong person. Literally. Yeah, that's true. That's true. You date the wrong person, Vanessa. And it's way worse. Because you're invested.

At least you didn't invest. in those guys and you still felt that big. You can get over that like that. True. Invest. Yeah. And then be told that. Mm-hmm.

Or not that they tell you that. They're cheating. Oh, man. They're cheating. True. Which is really telling you that. That's the way to tell you. Oh, that's pretty brutal.

Painful. That's brutal. Brutal. Best thing that ever happens to you, though. Get rid of the riffraff. Right. True. Yeah.

Move right along. So you didn't even. even need to deal with riffraff that long. Three dates, Vanessa. But they weren't riffrath. They were nice guys. Oh. They were really nice. That's a little rough. I know. That's the thing. And then the Lord is like, no, no to them. And I was like, what's wrong with me? These are nice guys. Nice. And just wasn't for you. Are they gay? No, they're not gay. Okay. I think one is successfully married. Okay. I don't know about the other. Maybe. Um, not that you have to be gay if, you know, you didn't like you.

I'm just saying it might explain some things. It might help you and your ego. It would have, but no, they're decent guys until this day. Very nice guys. Maybe they did really hear from God. And that's the thing. Like, I'm pretty sure it was the Lord. Like, no, I've got this guy over here.

Exactly. Who I'm like, he's a little rough around the edges. Just a little bit. Just a little bit. But he's just for you. He's just for you. I would A little bit is

putting it mildly But he's still rough Around the edges One hundred Yes Yes he is Yes Not as rough

I am too though Oh yeah It's like sandpaper now Before it was like spikes That's true What year was he born? That's true 75

Yeah he's a gin Xer Yeah That says a lot right there Mm-hmm And he was a laxchee A latchkey kid Lachkey kid Yep

Yeah. A lot of us were. Yep. That's crazy. Unsupervised. Unsupervised. We raised ourselves to a certain extent. Drink, holes, water. Oh, yeah.

Absolutely. Yeah. We had to use our own imagination. Yeah. Yes, he did. Which is frightening. Could be very scary. True.

Right. Okay. Okay. So I'm going to steer us a little bit, but, but, but, uh, oh, to a, I told Vanessa, I was telling the girls, all three of them in the room, I was like, you literally could talk about truth. And even like, you could talk about being honest and truth and what that looks like, because there's so many different ways to talk about truth. And, and are you being honest? Are you being truthful to yourself, truthful to others and things? And like,

even Vanessa was like, like, I was given examples. And Vanessa, either threw one out, like, flattery. Flattery can be dishonest. And I don't think a lot of people realize that. And it's so accurate. But we, Tracy goes, well,

let's just talk about it for a month. We could. Literally. We could. Easily. There's so many aspects to it. So many. And the word is so chuck full of it.

But it's so funny because I am in my time with in the word this morning. what comes blaring out at me. So I'm going to, even though I had stuff already prepared, I'm going to, we're going to open up our Bibles to Genesis 18 because this was radically life-changing, these dishonest decisions that were made. They radically changed. Just like Adam and Eve and their errors,

this radically changed, like biblical history to a certain extent. It could have been different. if truth would have been spoken. Now, God's great because God fixes everything, but you can't fix Adam and Eve. Like now, like instead of living in the garden, all of which all of us should have, now we live in sin, amongst sin.

We all should have lived forever, right? That's the reason why they removed the tree of life. God took them out so they couldn't eat from the tree of life because then that meant all of us would live forever in sin. But removing that tree because they couldn't, they couldn't be trusted with the tree of, of knowledge, good and evil.

He couldn't trust him with that. So, and then he had to protect it. So for us, I mean, some things aren't fixable, but in this case, I believe, you know, God works all things. But Genesis 18. Let's look at this. This is Abraham, having had Isaac, and now Isaac has Esau and Jacob, right?

And it's just so simple. Hold on. Hold on. I got to turn off my sound because I'm getting text. Let's just read. The Lord appeared again to Abraham near the Oak Grove belonging to Mamray. One day, Abraham was sitting at the entrance to his tent during the hottest part of the day. And he looked up and noticed three men standing nearby.

God has already told Abraham to change his name from Abram to Abraham. He told him this before this ever happened, before this event ever happened. He told him it at 90, if I remember correctly. And now he's 99. So he comes and he tells him, imagine that, being told at 90 to change your name from Abram to Abraham. And then nine years later, nothing happens because God told him why he was changing his name. nine years later nothing has happened with him and sarah and then this day this occurs and he looked up

and noticed three men standing nearby and when he saw them he ran to meet them and welcomed them bowing low to the ground my lord he said if it pleases you stop here for a while rest in the shade of this tree while water is brought to you brought to wash your feet and since you've honored your servant with this visit let me prepare some food to refresh you before you continue on your journey. All right, they said, do as you have said. So a lot of people believe these three people were two angels and the Lord himself. So Jesus himself, the Lord. And you're going to see further on where I believe beyond a shadow of a doubt, it was the Lord himself. Because he existed, and we see that in 1st John 1, that where it talks about, or excuse me, in John,

the first chapter of John, where it talks about where Jesus existed when the world was created. So if Jesus existed when the world was created, then he can come down from heaven, just like an angel can, and he can represent. Do you guys agree? Do you believe this was the Lord himself? Do you believe this was in this specific time? Do you believe, or do you have a different theology on that? No, there's like a term that they use when Jesus came before the cross. I forget what they call it. Just saw it the other day. I'll have to look it up.

But yeah, there's like a specific name they say when it was like he was actually here on earth before he actually came as a baby. And there's like a word for it. I'll find it. Yeah, look that up. I will. Okay. Look that up. I'm interested.

I keep thinking the word transcended, but that's not it. Oh, that's close. Yeah, it's not it. So Abraham ran back to the tent and said to Sarah, hurry. Get three large measures of your best flour kneaded into dough and bake some bread. Then Abraham ran out to the herd and chose a tender calf and gave it to his servant who quickly prepared it. And when the food was ready, Abraham took some yogurt. They even had yogurt back in.

Yum. And milk and the roasted meat. And he served it to the men. And as they ate, Abraham waited on them in the shade of them in the shade of the shade of. the trees. Whereas Sarah, your wife, the visitors asked. She's inside the tent, Abraham replied. And then one of them said, I will return to you about this time next year. And your wife, Sarah, will have a son. And Sarah was listening to this conversation from the tent. Abraham and Sarah were both very old by this time. And Sarah was long past the age of having children.

So she laughed silently to herself and said, how could a worn out woman like me enjoy such pleasure? especially when my master, my husband is also so old. And the Lord and the Lord. So I believe that's the Lord himself. He knew she laughed. How did he know she laughed? She said she did it silently. So nobody could have heard it.

Because God, Jesus, Holy Spirit, they know everything. You're not hiding anything. You think you are? You are not hiding a daggum thing. Then the Lord said to Abraham, why did Sarah laugh? Why did she say, can an old woman like me have a baby? Is anything too hard for the Lord? I want you to remember this.

Those of you who are walking through some pretty tough situations, whether it be health, whether it be financial, whether it be salvation for your children. Remember that statement right there. Is anything too hard for the Lord? If the Lord can have a woman who is barren and who's in her 90s, past a cycle. Like way past it. She's post menopause people. If he can open that womb,

drop an egg, and furtally make her have a child, anything is possible. All things are possible. What do you believe? He says, I will return about this time next year, and Sarah will have a son. Sarah was afraid.

And how many of us, when we're afraid, we do things that we shouldn't do. And we say things that we know we shouldn't say. And Sarah was afraid, so she denied it saying, I didn't laugh, but the Lord said, no, you did laugh. Thanks. Uh-huh. And I think a lot of times we talked about this.

I think a lot of times we think we can say anything we want to say that is an untruth and because nobody knows or we consider like Sarah was by by herself like who was going to know Abraham wasn't in there he didn't know that she actually laughed and that's the deceiving part a lot of times a lot of times what we do we have deceived ourselves just in that isolation of ourselves whether it be a conversation in our mind conversation out loud that nobody can hear. We have deceived ourselves that whatever we say, we either believe it's true or we're going to sell it as if it's truth.

And the thing is, is just like Sarah, the Lord said, no, you did say it. That's what the Lord is saying to each of us. The only thing is, he was tangible to Sarah. He is not tangible to you. So you still buy into the fact that whatever you're saying, you can say because nobody you'll know that it's not true. Well, oftentimes, that's not true. People do find out. And secondary to that, and most importantly, I would say, is nobody else might not find out, but God knows, the Lord knows, the Holy Spirit knows, how dangerous is that? And a lot of us are like Sarah,

including me. I add that, I add me to the equation, even though I try and not be deceptive and I try not to lie. The fact of the matter is, as truth is, as I do, I have, and I'm like Sarah. Like, nobody will know. God knows. God knows, which is far worse. Yeah, exactly. I'd rather Tracy or Vanessa or Talia find out that I lied versus God. Right. True. And how many of us are actually like that? Would she still had the baby? And God didn't change anything, but the truth was is she was found out to be a dishonest person. And then on top of that, she has Isaac. And then what does Isaac do?

Isaac marries Rebecca, which is a beautiful story. But Rebecca is told that you're going to have twins. And the younger, well, the older will serve the younger. The younger will actually be the blessed one. His nations will be blessed. She has told that before she ever gives birth. You know, she didn't know she was having twins. They didn't have sonograms back then.

So she had to believe whatever she was told that, yeah, there's two babies in there. And yeah, the one that is born first will serve the younger one. And what does she do at the time of blessing? when it comes time where and this is where Jacob was wrong. Excuse me, this is where Isaac was wrong. Isaac, God never told Isaac. Now it's time you're about to die. It's time for you to bless your children.

What did he do? He didn't know. It says in the word that he didn't know, but he felt like his time was getting closer where he was going to die. God never told him now it's time to bless. Because if God had told him, he wouldn't have told him to bless Esau. He would have told him to bless Esau.

He would have told him to bless Jacob. But he put the cart before the horse, just like Moses, put the cart before the horse when he killed that Egyptian. And then he was sent off for 40 years out wandering in the wilderness. This is before he actually wandered in the wilderness with the Israelites. Went out, whatever his father-in-law's name was. It was out for 40 years, like doing whatever with other people. When if he would have just waited, it's just like the Israelites, put the cart before the horse, they weren't obedient.

They complained, they moaned, grumbled, they make an idol. What happens? You're going to wonder, a 10-day journey turns into a 40-year mission. You know, it's like we do things because we do them in our own might, but Isaac, if he would have just, excuse me, yes, if Isaac would have waited and been obedient to the Lord and waited to bless, then Rebecca wouldn't have had Jacob lie, but she knew better because she knew that the Lord had told her

that Jacob will serve, Esau will serve Jacob. And she lied, she had her own son lie. So then Jacob learns to be a liar, goes, runs away, for fear for his life for his brother, Esau, because he gets blessed over Esau. And then runs away in Lynn Laban. We reap what we sow. Laban then, you know, he's working for Rachel for what seven years.

The seven years is up. Guess who he gets? Leah. Because you reap what you sow. You lie, you cheat, and actually Jacob means to cheat besides to grab the heel. So you cheat, you lie. Guess what's going to happen to you? It's going to, you're going to reap what you sow.

And guess what? He ended up marrying Leah. and I feel bad for Leah because she was an innocent party in this whole entire thing she loved that guy and like there is nothing Jacob would never love her the same I wonder like what that wedding ceremony look like because you didn't know she was Leah the whole time

until the next morning they have you covered like your whole face is covered you're covered the whole time yeah you're not seen it's when you go into the tent that you consummated the marriage and it was dark yeah she and he couldn't see her her lazy eye that's right girl that gave her way and i poor thing i mean it's fixed in heaven so she's good now yeah but still living your whole entire being and all because i know laban was a liar and and jacob was a liar

and there's innocent people in the whole entire mix. It's... And it continues from there. And it continues from there. It's a vicious cycle. It's a vicious cycle. Jacob runs for his life from Esau. Then he's running from his life for his life from his father-in-law, Laban.

All because of deception and lies. When he leaves Laban, he lies about that. Right. And then Rachel lies to her dad about the... Taking idols. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Mm-hmm. Lying's not good. Not good. Nope. I mean, people will either believe you're a person of integrity and character, or they will not. Mm-hmm. And I'm not justifying, like, I'm not saying that lie less. That's not what I'm saying.

But there are people who it is their lifestyle. Like, it is who they are. They get caught. between a rock and a hard place and they're going to lie that's their default that's their default every single time yeah and here's the thing is it and i'm not saying i'm not trying to justify this either but it is far better for you to be a person that says the things that nobody wants to hear and maybe in the manner in which they don't want to hear them then be a liar right because at least at least even though

you have no tact what's another word besides tact you have no like care with the way that you say because I used to be a person that just like if I said it I whatever it was in here came out here and no filter I think a lot of people

still think that I am like that I don't think so but I mean I think some people still think I'm like that, but I am far less than I was like that. No, I think you have a filter. I think the thing is, is like you, you know what you don't like.

And so when something starts to come up, like, but you can see you thinking about it. You don't just say it, you know, like, obviously when you're probably around comfortable people that you're comfortable with, it probably comes out quicker. But like, I've watched you with people that you don't know intimately. And you, like, when they say something, you don't just say it. Like, I'm around people that just say, I'm like, well, hold on a second. Like, pause. Like, I was just say, like, wait, like, hear them.

And you, like, actually take in what they say, and then, but then you're honest. Yeah. Another word for tact is discretion. Discretion. That's a great word right there. Yeah. Yeah, and I did not use any. And that's what you use is discretion.

Description. Discretion. No, you're right. Discretion. The first time. Stick with the first one. What did she say? The second one.

Oh. She used a couple letters. I, my mom used to say to me, I can't wait to you learn to have, more tact. And there was another word she used for it, but it's very much like those. Yeah. But because it's way better to be like that than to lie.

Right. Right. Exactly. Not, I mean, a lot of people would prefer that, in some cases that you didn't have a, that you didn't use a filter or that you did use, well, a lot of people would prefer that you lie to them than to be honest like that.

Because they, they can't handle the truth. but at the end of the day you're the one accountable for what you're saying and what you don't say and it better be truth I will tell you this

I will not be friends very long with people who are not truth tellers I will not be friends if you want a good way to destroy a relationship with me be sneaky be deceptive

hide little things that you have going on in your life if you say you're close with me. Like you don't have to tell me all of your business, but if you're close with me and like everybody knows everything, but you're keeping things from me, that's sneaky to me as far as I'm concerned.

You're not willing to say the hard thing to me so you'd rather not say truth about whatever it is. Do you understand what I'm saying? Yeah, yeah. And a lot of people live their lives like that. I'm not saying that like I'm sure that there's things that go on in Tracy's life

and Vanessa's life and things like that that I don't know about but I don't need to know about them because they don't affect me personally. Vice versa. Yeah. Right. Exactly. Yeah. But when there are things that affect us in our lives personally and you keep those things

we're probably not going to stay close for very long because it's like not honest. Right. Yeah. There's an agenda. There's a reason why you don't tell people. Yeah, that's it. That's like the gauge.

It's like, why are you not telling? Because if I think about things that I haven't told you either, I just think like, well, she probably doesn't like care. I know you care, like you would listen to me. Well, you don't care because it doesn't matter. Or there's things that are working themselves out. Or, and I don't need like your attention yet. Or I don't.

Like there's reasons why. It's never because, oh, I just don't want her to be mad at me. Or I don't want to hear. No, or I don't, you know, whatever. Because that's not a real friendship. Right. That's not real relationship. Right.

Yeah. And that's all, that puts that relationship into question. That puts that trust into question. Absolutely. And I think a lot of people live their lives like that because they're afraid. Yeah. Fear of man. And that will make you be not necessarily a liar, but what it will be is it will make

you be kind of like what what happened in biblical a lot of times a lot of biblical stories is people were afraid to speak truth so they didn't or so they just worked around it yeah you don't have relationship surface level too like if I only told you the very little things that were going on my life like we would never really get deep because then you're like well she doesn't really tell me many things so I'm not really going to tell her things and then how do you ever build like intimacy and a relationship like a true deep friendship when you're not sharing well I think well yeah and I know and here's the thing I will be honest with you if I don't tell people if I know like if I were to tell you guys something I know that that you're not going to talk about it

with Tracy Vanessa is not talking about it with Tracy and Tracy's not talking about it with Vanessa right okay you guys may tell your spouses about it which I don't really care like if I told something to you. You may share it with your spouse. But even then, I would think, like, if I share things with Tom, I use discretion. Yeah. And I'm very careful to the degree and the amount that I do share that too. Correct. But I know, but if I thought for a second, if I told you something, that both of you're going to start talking about it with each other, I wouldn't tell you guys. Right. Same. And we would have a very shallow, surfacy relationship. Because Because that's gross.

Well, yeah. Just because, I just, for me, I'm like, just because it's truth. Somebody. Just because it's truth doesn't mean it should be, even if you guys tell me things, it may be truth, but it's not my truth to be sharing. That's your truth. Like, there's conversations that people have. Even in my house, there's conversations that I have, we have in my house.

but even though Taya is not officially a member of my family, she knows if you hear things in my house just by chance, then you keep it to yourself. You don't go and you don't jabberjall with people outside of the four walls of our house. Like there's got to be a trust thing there. And I think that's another thing that's lacking in a lot of people in relationships

because they do talk about too much stuff. They do tell too much information. And they are too open about certain things. And there's a trust and truth about that too. I just don't know how those people haven't got burnt enough. You know, like I got burnt a couple times and I'm like, this isn't fun. Because like probably a couple times was on accident.

A couple times probably was just me not using like my wisdom at the time. Yeah. But I'm like, I got burnt so many times and like saw somebody's reaction. and I'm like, ugh, like, I don't, I don't want to be that person, you know? And so I don't know if it was ever truly malicious. I mean, maybe, maybe when I was younger, because I was mad at something. But, like, when you do it and you mess up and you're like, it hurts. So I don't know why people that constantly are in this don't get it.

Like, how you've not got burnt? Well, for me, it's like in your 20s. Right. When you're in your 20s, you're navigating through it. Yes. Yeah. I get 20-year-olds. Yeah.

not figuring it out yet. I really do. Well, you don't have a frontal cortex. Yeah, but even like, even the ones with frontal lobes, right? They're fully developed. I still say to a certain extent that now,

like, there are some people who get this very young. Yeah, okay? They get it very young and they kind of like, because I'm going to give Talia some props here. Like Talia is probably better about this than some of my own family members, right? Like she's very good about not saying things, about keeping my mouth shut, about if she has a conversation with somebody, not sharing that conversation,

things like that. Yeah. She's 19. 19? Yep. 19. know her mom is is is great but if you like my kids grew up in our house and they knew whatever happens in this house stays in this house but but even like norma and still to this day I would say

like she's gotten way better with it but even like norma and Tommy's pretty dang good because he's a guy but she's 20 something mid 20s like she's had to learn the hard way with this I had to learn the hard way with this in my 20s like I was off the charts just to a talker, a gossip. I was like, it wasn't probably until I was in my 30. So you can even be a Christian. Like, I don't know if I would have gone to heaven. Like, I wouldn't even take communion because I knew. Like, I was going to run my smack. Wow. It's not good, guys. It's not good. So you would get burnt, you just didn't like care. Like, because that this is the kind of my question. I did kind of care. But this is where I would say, like, there are people in their 20s that it's not,

Like me, I was in my 20s, and I just didn't get it. Yeah. I didn't get it. And I don't think they get it either. But I would say probably there were things like I just gave, tell you some props, I would say, well, there's probably places where she's not as great in an area as somebody else is. Yeah. Maybe normal, because I kind of didn't throw normal under the bus.

I was just being transparent and honest about it. Like, um, yeah. that like maybe Talia doesn't have something that Norma's got. You know, we're all working on something that one person is excelling veteran. And in this area, I just think sometimes people just don't got it just yet. They don't see it. What I've learned is that there is a process of sanctification. Like, salvation is instant.

And then you go through a process of sanctification and the way gets narrower. Like the things that were permissible then is like he's like slowly like you don't do that anymore. Yeah. Like where I'm taking you, you can't bring this with you. Now see, and here's the thing. When I was in my 30s, that's when I stopped taking communion because I was like, you know what? It's probably not good. This is probably not good.

All the while. I guess, you know. But how about you just stop? Right. Right. How about instead of not taking communion? Right. The fact that you knew.

You just stop. Right. Right. Right, the fact that you knew not to take communion for that reason. Right. And that's why we need to be filled with the Holy Spirit. If you're not filled, if you're not baptized, but you should because it's the spirit of truth that now lives inside of you.

And so, like, yeah, there have been times where I, like, said too much. Yeah. Even out of, like, ignorance. Right. That's right. That's typically what it is. And I instantly get that, like, check in my spirit. And it doesn't feel good.

And I'm like, ugh, hate that feeling. because you feel like you just threw up all over somebody. And that's the spirit of truth. Right. That lives inside of you. You know, that's where my brain was thinking of all of this. Because, like,

people that are just, like, lying and flattering. And I'm like, at what point, like, don't you get a check? Like, I do. Like, you have to. Like, even if I'm telling, like, you have to, you have to.

Like, you have to tell you, I'm like, I don't know if that was really true. I'm going to reel it. Oh, yeah. Oh, I, yeah. Same thing happens with me. I'm like, yes. Is that the whole truth right there?

Is that a memory? Is that memory? I know, is that even real? Is that accurate? Yeah. Right, exactly. Like the fish is really this big, but now it's this big. And over time, it just gets bigger and bigger.

And it's just like, it's not true. Right. But when you're philis and you have the Holy Spirit of life, he is the Spirit of Truth. And so when you, like, say too much or it's like, oh, wait, I do get that check. And I don't like it. I don't either. I hate that feeling.

Yeah. But I think a lot of times people are kind of like me at one point in my life where I didn't get it at all. I didn't see it at all. Right. Even after I was saved, because I came back to the Lord from 25 years of age. And even after 25, I was like, and my frontal love was fully developed. Okay. But I was still yap, yap, yapping.

Yeah. Didn't even know it. Yeah. Didn't even blip on the screen for me. And then in my early 30s, I started going, this ain't good. Yeah. And so for a couple years, I was like, girl, you got to do something about this. Like this is not good.

This is, but even all the while I was saying this isn't good, I never thought I would go to hell. Right. That's where you have to be honest with yourself. And I don't think a lot of people are. They, this is having your own truth, right? Like you seeing that that has to change, but not understanding like it's heaven and hell. Like you really need to be honest with yourself about is this sin? Or is this just not good?

There's a difference. And if it's sin and lying is a sin. Gossip is a sin. Yep. Like conversations, you don't need to conversate about other people. Conversate about yourself or about the person you're talking about, talking to. But you don't need to converse. And that skill will save your hide more than you even know.

True. Because if you only keep it to just the person you and the person you're talking to, there's no way anything can be misconstrued. Correct. And then you will not gossip. Correct. You got it. But on top of that, then you don't have to be dishonest.

Yeah, you don't have to go to bed at night and think like, oh, crap, what if they end up talking? I'm sorry. No, no, you're good. Go, go, go, go. These are the six things. The Lord hates. Oh, girl, do it. No, seven things he detest.

Hottie eyes, a lying tongue. hands that kill the innocent a heart that plots evil feet that race to do wrong a false witness who pours out lies a person who sows discord in a family yeah the lord hates it actually it's a powerful word and the thing is is people will say you're not allowed to hate well god does yeah but it's specific things that you should and shouldn't hate yeah yeah Very powerful. Let's remember this. When you're saying something, you understand this.

The devil knows whether you mean what you say. And so does God. So don't say something you don't mean. Right. Because at the end of the day, it matters. Numbers 2319 says God is not a man, so he does not lie. He is not human. so he does not change his mind.

Has he ever spoken and failed to act? Has he ever promised and not created it and carried it through? So mean what you say. Right. Because I'm telling you, Satan knows it. The people you're talking to will eventually doubt you or believe you. And God definitely knows it. Keeping your word is not optional.

Speaking the truth is not optional. and if you want to ruin your character and have people doubt you, don't carry through on what you say. Don't be honest and have integrity. And if you don't walk in integrity and character, I guarantee you, after a while, people will question everything you say and it'll have absolutely no value in it. That's just the truth.

And you will have fewer and fewer. and fewer friends. Nobody wants to be friends with somebody who is not honest. At the fabric and base and foundation of every solid, good relationship and successful one is trust. Yeah.

From marriage to friendship to just an acquaintance. You lack that. There's no foundation. True. Well, it's like if God, if anything in the Bible was untrue, like one thing in the Bible

was untrue, then God wouldn't be trustworthy. So if that's where it stems from, you know, like we know for a fact that everything we read is true. So we don't question him. We just know he's trustworthy. Even we don't see even we, so yeah, if every good relationship has that foundation. Mm-hmm. Easy, peasy. It's like let your yes be yes and your no, we know for anything more than this is from the evil one. Yeah. If every time you talk to your friend, they had to, I swear, I swear, I swear. Or they had to convince you that you were telling, they were telling you the truth. True. Good point. And with God, you never have to worry about that. He says to not even swear.

Because he doesn't have to. True. If he makes a vow, he keeps it. Every time. If you make a vow, do you keep it? Or do you look for loopholes to get out of it? You're not a trustworthy person if you do those things. Be a person that you would love to be friends with. That's what I would tell you. Perfect.

be a person that like if you're looking and you're not married yet be the person that people will knock people down to get them out of the way to have your time and to hopefully be that person that you choose as a mate amen that's good otherwise so good yep fly by the seat of your pants and see that that get you it's not going to be that great yeah it's not so So, all right, it's 4 o'clock. On the dot. It's ready to start the weekend. It is. And then I'm going back to truth and I'm going back to trust. Okay.

For a while. Something new? We're going back to something new. Something new and exciting. Yeah. I don't know. Like, I had a three-letter word that popped into my head. Ooh.

That can be anything. Then? That's the only three-letter word that pops into my head. It starts with S. E-X? Oh. Maybe we'll talk about that. I knew it immediately when you said that.

Wow. What does that say about me? I know. Concerned. That we both need it? I'm just kidding. That's probably what it is. I'm okay.

Just kidding. Let's do it. Okay. All right. On Wednesday? Well, everybody who's celibate won't tune in. Everybody who doesn't have somebody won't come on. Maybe that's what we'll talk about.

When you should be celibate. And when you should not. Right. When you should withhold. You should not. When you should not. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

It change very often unless you're not married. There it is. Yeah. Yeah. There's a lot of people out there. There's a lot of compromise out there in this one little. Mm-hmm. It's not good.

Mm-hmm. It is not good what's going on out there in the, as long as you love each other. I've literally heard that a youth pastor has said, as long as you put something on it. Oh. Oh, yeah. In the area.

Yeah, they're now since retired. I hope so. Yeah. They used to tell their youth group. I think so. Yeah, they taught the youth group. Is that a Bible verse, though? Is that in Proverbs?

No. Oh, my gosh. Very permissive. I would be crazy if my kids were under that leadership. I got to be really careful where they go. Yeah. Really careful. And it was some of our youth kids that went to our youth group but also went to this youth group.

Oh, oopsies. Yeah, not good. Not good. Wow. Thanks. Yeah. They were like, what? Did I just hear that correctly?

Right? You're like... And so you first think, no, that's probably not right. But then you go back and a few Wednesdays later, it said again. And you're like, I can't have missed that. That was accurate. Oh, my gosh. No, that's not good.

Yep. So lots of permissiveness with promiscuity. That can be the title. That's a lot of peace. Good luck saying that. A lot of syllables. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Yeah, life is crazy. Christianity is all over the place. As we can see right now, with so many different things going on. Right. It's crazy out there. It is crazy out there. It's crazy in Charlotte County right now. Another teacher.

Woodland. What? Woodland. What? Yeah. I feel like it's almost every day. Another teacher. Sexually abusing a child.

I swear I see it every day. Is there a woman again? No, it was a man. Which is sick. I feel like it's woman man, woman, man. It's crazy. It is insane. I haven't counted, but I feel like there's a handful within the last year, half a year. No, more. I'll screenshot them. The crazy part is real quick is that if you are in a leadership position, like even the state recognizes that as like the R word, like, as A, because you're in a leadership position over them. And so it's like, it's like. It's like 30 years. Is it really?

It's something crazy. Yeah. Good. No, because I was like, what are these people, do you not? Okay. So, I mean, we could talk about that on Wednesday, too. I'll bring the screenshots. It's nuts. I'll bring the numbers.

Well, the problem is, is these people, it's like pastors do it with their flock. Right. And it's because, first of all, power. Right. First of all, authority. And you kind of have a way to manipulate and gain mind control. Yeah. It's dangerous when you are an adult.

and you are able to manipulate someone younger or, it's not even just sometimes it's younger, they're vulnerable. Yeah, very vulnerable. Emotionally. Yes. So you take advantage of that. Yes, exactly. So younger is because they're stupid and they don't know

and you're able to easily manipulate it. Their brain doesn't understand what you're trying to do. It can't rationalize. It cannot conceptually get it. Then there's people who actually manipulate people who are in bad situations. Right. Emotionally, physically, whatever.

Looking for comfort and security. Right. And then you take advantage. A little advantage. It's not good. Not good. So. All right. Who knows what we're talking about on Wednesday, but it'll be something.

Happy Friday. Have a great weekend. Pretty wild out there. Pretty wild. It's crazy. Watch your kids. Watch your wives. Hide your husbands.

Exactly. That. They're taking care of a lot of things out here. Exactly. Can't say it because, can't finish it because it would get me blocked again. We just got back on YouTube. Right, right. Stay safe.

Stay safe out there. We will see you on Sunday. It's Mother's Day. So don't forget Sunday is Mother's Day. Yes. So make sure you tune in on Sunday. And that's it. See you.

Bye. Bye.