The Hope Hotline - The Hope Hotline | S01-E13 | 03-01-23

Episode Date: March 1, 2023

Question #1Why am I single? How do I get a man? How do you flirt in the church world?Question #2Can Satan read our minds?Question #3What’s the most embarrassing thing that’s happened to you?

Thank you for joining the Hope Hotline podcast. I'm so glad you're here with me this week. Got a couple things before we start going into the questions. Number one is the commercial that we did about the toenails. Let me just explain that because the commercial missed the whole beginning. When my kids started being able to do some of their homeschooling by themselves what I did is I still I needed a flexible work schedule so what I did is I started my own cleaning business and it like exploded it was like off the charts I had people working for me during parts of the year because it would be

way busier than others most of the time it was me and a girlfriend of mine that did it. But what happened is in that particular story, this seller, I did a job for a realtor, a realtor friend of mine. And this seller cleaned out the whole house. He was very, very angry. He was an elderly guy. And so what happened is he was a resent resentful he was very resentful for having to sell this house and so what he did is he would clip his fingernails and toenails and he was like probably in his 80s by the by what the toenails and the fingernails look like he might have been a smoker too but um they were disgusting they They were thick, gross, and disgusting.

Okay, so he cleaned out the whole entire place. And the only thing he left for the new owners, because he was so mad that he had to sell this place, I guess he couldn't do it by himself anymore, and his kids forced him to sell it. The only thing he left was a drawer in his bathroom, a collection, and I'm telling you, years, years of fingernails and toenails. He must have clipped them, and then he would collect them,

and then just put them in this drawer. It was beyond disgusting. And lucky me, I got to find them. Not the buyer. The buyer never knew anything about them. Me. I'm the one. And had I remembered that I stuck the uh shop vac on blower instead of vacuum that never would have happened to me but natural blonde so needless to

say I took the brunt I took the brunt with the nails straight to the forehead. Next thing, my very, you know, a couple weeks ago I did, or it might have been a few weeks ago, I did a little thing where I talked about my forehead and my neck. Okay, well, my girlfriend, she took pity on me. So she told me about this miracle. I should get money from Gold Bond for doing this little commercial. But my girlfriend, Kristen, who I've mentioned several times on my podcast.

My girlfriend, Kristen, she told me this miracle drug called Gold Bond. Age Renew Neck and Chest Firming Cream, 97% had firmer skin in just two weeks. Now she told me this thing, this sucker right here, four days. Four days. Now you can't see it, but I applied it yesterday. I can see a world of difference. You can't just yet but but me personally like I know my neck and I can already see no no I needed no plastic surgery nothing gold bond so as the weeks progress you and I can see how good this gold bond works. If it works, I advise every single person to go out and buy it. If it doesn't, I'm going to save you lots of money because we're going to find out whether it does or not. I will be the guinea pig.

What I really want is, like, if this stuff really does work, I want to lather my whole body up with it. That's the goal. Like, I said to the girls I'm like do you think they have a whole body gold bond whole body firm like like I might be able to put this on my forehead somebody was super sweet though they sent me a was it I think I think they sent me a letter or something like that and they put it in the tithe box and it was it was a very nice thing that I don't have wrinkles or my wrinkles aren't that bad and they might have

been comparison pairing their wrinkles to my wrinkles I don't know but they told me I was beautiful god bless you I appreciate that I do okay but remember, like, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You might be just beholding a lot more kindness than whatever. But I'm just telling you, Gold Bond, neck and chest cream, Age Renew, firming, firming lotion. We're going to see how good this stuff works. If it works really well, I'm going out and I'm buying a tub of it. Lathering my whole self up.

I know it won't take away cellulite. Nothing takes away cellulite. Right? Nothing? Working out. Yeah, that's not going to happen. My poor husband. He's tried.

Like, he's even worked out with me. I'm a horrible worker outer I'm a horrible worker outer I hate it I hate I hate eating right and I hate I like I like I like eating healthy stuff but I love eating the stuff, but I love eating the bad stuff. Like, I love everything. That's part of my problem. There is probably not a food out there that I don't like. That's a problem. And I did the fasting thing, and I lost some weight, but I've managed to gain it all back.

Because you stop fasting. And you gain it all back. cream gotta love ice cream i that's my achilles like you just might as well slap the fat right back on eating ice cream it's so good love it all right question number one and then after that it's next question thank you tracy says why am i single how do i get a man how do you flirt in the church world now i must have a lot of lonely men and women out there oh well no no this is a lady because how do i get a man like if we were in alaska like i might tell us a lot of women to move to Alaska. Because you know why? There's more men. The men to women ratio in Alaska is, like, off the charts.

Like, listen, I watch a lot of Alaska shows, and there's some ugly women with some really good looking men. Like, and the only reason these ugly women are picked up is because there ain't much of a selection there. How many, look that up for me. Look up how many women, the ratio to men to women. I'm not kidding. There's one, like Tom and I were watching one the other night, and he's like, man, that girl, she's not good looking. I mean, she's not even, like she married way above her means. But there's no, like I said to him, I'm like, there's not much, like, she married way above her means.

But there's no, like I said to him, I'm like, there's not much of a selection. Like, Montana, we went to Montana. Like, Wyoming is like one zip code because there's not a lot of, there's a lot of land, not a lot of, like, dense population. There's a few cities in, like, Montana that are really, really big, and you have a lot of like dense population. There's a few cities in like Montana that are really, really big and you have a lot of selection.

But if you go, if you drive through Montana, like there's a lot of barren land. My daughter like had to wait to pee. We went from Glacier National Park. I don't know. Was that Phillipsburg? We went from Phillipsburg back to our hotel and the hotel was like two hours away

and she had to wait an hour and a half because nothing was open and literally not only was there nothing open but there was nothing to be open because all it was is land and she wouldn't pee behind a tree so she had to hold it that's just the way it goes oh she had stage fright but I'm just saying like like stage fright from what like a bear yeah no bear the bear the bottom and he'll run for his life okay so you got that for me We're getting mixed messages. They're saying 10 to 1 in 1998, but now they're saying to every 107 men, there's 100 women. They're saying it from that time. No.

I don't believe that. I'm telling you, if you look through the shows I watch, it's not true. So 1998 was 1 in 10? 1998 was 10 to 1. 10 to 1. And I believe those ratios still exist to this day if you just watch any Alaska shows I'm just telling you it ain't good any pretty so if you are really desperate

move to Alaska because you will find something and the odds are I don't know if he'll love Jesus because drugs and alcohol are an all-time high in Alaska because there's nothing to do and plus like somebody's told me I've heard this more than once like if you live in Alaska you're a little whack to a certain extent some people I'm not saying everybody but I'm just saying like people have said like people on Alaska you're a little weird I don't know I don't know if that's true but i mean i know for a fact somebody that is alaskan told me just last year they're like they're they're weird and she's weird too like so i believe it to a certain extent the weirdy was telling me that they're weird so

so move to alaska you can get a good looking man I don't know if he loved Jesus, so that might exit out. But if you get a man that loves Jesus, then what the heck, right? You get a selection. But Tracy said that that number's changed. It's 100 to 107. So, for every 107 men, there's 100 women. I'm telling you, I don't believe that, though. So, let's go back to the question number one.

Why am I single? How do I get a man, how do you flirt in the church world? This is gonna be fun. So, I don't know, have you ever watched Friends? Okay, if you've watched Friends, then Joey Tribbiani has a great technique that you might wanna take up. I look a woman up and down and I say hey how you doing?

Oh please. Hey how you doing? So Tracy played for you. Joey how you doing? Okay how you doing? Okay. How you doing? So what, if you're single, you might have a catchphrase. You might, you know. First things first though. If you're going to have game, in order to have game, you have to be approachable. So we're going to talk about girls because this is for a girl. I mean, Tom's been on the podcast, so he's told men how to be, you know, flirt or get a girl or whatever. But for women, like, you gotta, like, be feminine, right?

Like, I know some girls and some guys that wear promise rings. They put it on their left hand. They look dadgum married. Like I know some girls and some guys that wear promise rings. They put it on their left hand. They look dadgum married. How in the world are you going to meet somebody or have somebody approach you if they think you're married? Unless they're into adultery. Then you might have somebody. I'm just saying if you want to meet somebody you do not wear a wedding band on your finger. You don't wear it on the right hand either

because homosexuals today are wearing, like when they're married, it's on the right hand. What you do if you're a girl and you want to wear a promise ring, you don't make it look like you're engaged and you don't make it look like you're married. You find a cute little dainty ring, right? Like one that has like a butterfly or something on it I don't know

you wear that on your right hand so you know you're promised to a godly man god knows that you're holding out a promise okay or you just make the promise in your heart and you wear nothing so you make sure that you're you know like, like God knows the heart. So you're eligible. Then people will approach it. And here's the other thing. Like be feminine. Like wear makeup. Do your hair. That might help.

I mean, men, some men don't like a lot of makeup. Some men like a lot of makeup. So what I say is just put a medium amount on. Like some, I tell you this, some girls I look at their makeup and you literally look like you could scrape their face. And like all, when you took like a credit card and you go like this down their face and you pulled the credit card off, all you'd see is a hunk of junk. Like it'd be so, like how does your face face breathe and all that I do not know

I would be like this itching my face like crazy I praise you Jesus that Tom doesn't like a lot of makeup I need a lot of makeup but I don't wear it girl needs them but I would ask you why are you single first and foremost let's always look at ourselves. How do you meet somebody? How do you flirt? Why are you single? Well, look at yourself. Why are you single?

Why are you single? Are you weird? Always look at that. Are you weird? If you're weird or desperate, you have to be honest with yourself okay and you need to get you weird and desperate is not attractive so you need to fix that everything is fixable like if god can miraculously take cancer out of somebody's body he can miraculously not make you weird okay that's just the facts and desperate is on you so you have a choice with

being desperate but seriously if people have if people when you walk in the room and I'm not kidding I mean I'm being dead serious there are literal people who you they walk in the room and and you know when you walk in the room if people kind of make it so that they start communicating with other people so they don't have to talk to you okay you need to say why why is that when I go places that no one Okay, there's reasons for that. What smell are you emitting from yourself? And the smell might be desperate, might be like, you talk too much about yourself. Like nobody wants to hear about you all the time. Okay. I like me and I like talking about me, but at the end of the day, nobody really wants to hear a lot about me.

Right? So, you know, I'm not saying that you're not going to hear a lot about me. I'm not saying that you're not going to hear a lot about me. I'm not saying that you're not going to hear about you all the time. Okay, I like me and I like talking about me. But at the end of the day, nobody really wants to hear a lot about me, right? So communicate with people about other things like what's going on in the world, what's spiritually new that you've learned. Like maybe even talk about the other person and what's going on in their life. Talk about you, but a little bit.

Like if you are a person like weird jokes that no one gets, stop telling the weird jokes that no one gets. Like find something else. But ultimately in everyone's heart, if they really look at themselves and evaluate themselves, they know why no one's talking to them. They know that it's like what they're communicating. Or maybe it's a behavior.

I have literally known men are like this. They touch themselves. And I'm being funny, but I'm not being funny. Like they touch themselves and I'm not I'm being I'm being funny but I'm not being funny like they touch themselves and in front of women and you're like what are you doing that's disgusting okay you don't there's just certain things that you don't do um or they don't they don't wear deodorant or they don't put enough deodorant on I mean like this is all serious stuff like it matters so if you need to examine why you're single first but I will tell you this you know my clock is enough I can't tell so will you tell me when it's like okay so

here's what I would tell you this like for me let's talk about me so for me I'll be honest with you I didn't date a whole lot I've only had two boyfriends my whole entire life uh Tom being one of them the first boyfriend was an idiot God spared me and saved me from him uh but I've never really like dated a whole bunch um I usually uh I always said if I went out with somebody, listen, I don't want anything serious. This might be the ticket, I'm gonna tell you. Like if you do go out, just tell a guy you don't wanna be serious with them.

Do you just wanna go, you wanna have fun, no commitments, I tell you this. As soon as you say that, that changes everything. Like I told that to I don't know how many guys and all of a sudden guys that never wanted to be committed to any girl wanted to be committed. I don't know. I think it's a challenge. I really do. I was super picky, really picky. So I didn't date a lot too like i told you i didn't think i would ever get married and um there wasn't a lot of choices and you can go to a big churches and there's still not be a lot of choices in the room because the facts of the matter are that not a lot of people take

their walks with god serious if you take your walk with God serious, you might have a selection of the opposite sex, but they're not on the same level as you. But ultimately, it's going to happen when you least expect it. You have to learn to be very comfortable with yourself. You have to be okay with, if I don't get married, I don't get married. And you have to have a strong walk with the Lord. If you have a very good, solid walk with God,

if you're not busy about, see, I know people who aren't married, but they're so busy being busy that sometimes they can't even see that their walks with God are not as strong as they could be because they're so busy and they may be doing God's work but they need to slow down and not do God's work all the time have time to be alone with the Lord spend time with him hear the still small voice of maybe what God wants to do with them steer steer them in a direction, and that direction will take them to their mate. Like there's many factors as to the reason why people aren't getting to the ultimate place that God has for them. And it's all because they're so busy

that they can't even hear his voice. They're busy about being busy. And I remember a pastor saying, if the devil can't make you bad, he'll make you busy. And busyness is not good. So you need to slow down, be still and know that he is God, and just rest in that. And you make yourself available. Go to church. Go to social events. Socialize.

Like when you go to a big function function don't stick to your small group go walk around meet other people and the people that you think that you would never be interested in you might find out that you might be attracted to something you never thought you were attracted to um because there might be a personality or have you ever like this has happened to me have you ever um not not now but back in the day uh you go and you meet a bunch of people and you're you look at somebody and you're like they're nice but then you meet and you get to know their personality and every time you see them they become more and more attractive to you and you never ever in your wildest dreams thought you'd be attracted to that kind of person or that

person but there's something about them that you're like oh like I didn't think they were good looking before but now I do think they're good looking it's exposure right and not being so closed-minded um I know people that will be like, there's nothing at my church. There's nobody that I would like at my church. And it's a big church. And I'm like, you don't know everybody that goes to your church. How do you know that you wouldn't like somebody at your church? They just have this idea that that's just the way it is.

And it's like, no, you don't know everybody. Go out there, get out there. And like, just be still. Like, don't be so busy. Let's see, they want to know about flirting. Okay, flirting, it can be fun, but don't flirt and lead somebody on. That's really important.

I think that girls, especially with guys, you have to be very careful about flirting because you don't want to lead somebody on. And guys automatically, I don't know why this is, if you're nice to a guy, they automatically think that you like them. I don't know what this is. If you're nice to a guy, they automatically think that you like them. I don't know what it is about that. Daniel's here in the room today. Why, Daniel?

Why is it that Daniel raises his hands like this? It's an American thing? Guys in South Africa don't think that? Like if you're friendly with a girl and if you're just friends or talk to a guy in South Africa guys don't think that the girl likes them just weirdy McGee's in in America oh it's just here in America it's the men in America it's the culture okay okay B is in the room is she sharing it too interesting though like men in America think

I mean I can't tell you how many times like back in my day like if I was nice I'll like I was being told that somebody thought that I liked them and I was like yeah I don't like them I just was being friendly and a lot of times that it's misconstrued. So be very, very careful in who you're being nice to. But a lot of times to get to know somebody, to even find out if you like them, you have to like have some kind of a relationship with them. You have to have some kind of communication.

If you're a guy and a girl talks to you, that does not mean they like you. That's just the facts. It might mean they're just you that does not mean they like you that's just the facts it might mean they're just trying to get to know you and that's it so be very careful girls not to lead guys on when you're so don't allow it to potentially and there's sometimes you can't help it but don't try and not allow your flirting to be misconstrued as flirting. If you're not interested in somebody, right? You're just getting to know him.

I will tell you this. This is one of the things I love. I still love this about Tom. But I loved when we were dating or when he, when we were dating, even like when he was trying to, to ask me out and things like that. If we were ever in a group and he still does it to this day which is super important for a woman but when we were dating when he would be talking we'd be in a group it's as if no one else in the room existed every time he would talk to me

our talk in the group he looked always at me like the community it was as if he was only nobody else was there and he was just he and i talking so he always kind and just still to this day a lot of times if we're communicating and we're in a group and it's just it's not like an office meeting or um some kind of um if it's in a social setting that's very comfortable i'll put it like that normally what you're going to see is he'll talk to me more than he talks to anybody else he always focuses on me and then he'll look at other people in the room that's super important so if you're you like somebody and you kind of want them to know you like them and you're in a social setting when you're talking directly speak mostly to them because then they know that they're the most important thing in the

room right um laughing girls i don't know how guys flirt how do guys flirt daniel get muscles where do you go guys go out start lifting weights in front of the girl look how strong i am what do you do he knows nothing okay he told her what he did for the Lord and so be a like you up you lied is that what you said okay well while Daniel's out there winning the lost he himself needs to be won over by the Lord he's he's a sinner he's out leading Crusades why he himself I'm just kidding he's joking he didn't lie he was just kidding um girls you smile you laugh you kind of lean your head what do

you play with your hair what some other things girls do to make a guy I'm not asking you I was asking Tracy I'm not helping you get a guy my daughter Norma's gonna stay with me forever she's my I don't ever want her to leave she's my my friend um I will say if you do like girls girls this is for a girl girls if you like a guy there's absolutely nothing wrong with asking him to go get lunch or coffee back in the day you wouldn't ask a guy on a date but I mean it's lunch it's lunch or coffee it's not like asking on a legitimate date like going out to dinner and stuff like that I do draw the line I do draw the line Tracy said okay like she does not have a line like she told Jer we are going to dinner you did did you ask him out on a date

okay so Jer pursued her the most. But still, I just say this. Tom wasn't that much to look at, so he had to pursue me. I was not really that interested. I really wasn't. I was not. I remember my sister going, you know, he's really fat. He'll probably get fatter after you get married. I'm like, I'm not marrying him.

She's like, are you sure you want to date this guy yeah like I'm not really dating him so I don't really pursue him he pursued me but you can ask a guy to coffee you can ask him out to lunch be a confident woman men don't like desperate they like confident women they like strong women but do not dominate like they like strong women but at the end of the day they like to know they wear the pants like they're the ones that run the show to a certain extent now I wouldn't do this when I first started initially dating I wouldn't be like the one running the show but as you get you know you want to be a woman that like is attractive to a guy so he needs to know like he'll run the show

if the relationship goes further right he doesn't want to wear he doesn't want to be in a homosexual relationship where both of you are trying to vie for the power, right? He wants to be the man. He doesn't want to be married to another man, right? Daniel agrees. So this is so. If Daniel agrees, then it is so. But seriously, guys don't, like guys want to be the guy. And if you end up dating somebody where the guy wants you to be the guy, and you run everything, and he's kind of passive, run the opposite direction.

I'm just telling you, it'll be a tough marriage. It'll be a tough relationship. He will never be the priest of the home. He'll want you to be the priest of the home, and your whole house will be out of order. And that is, I deal with, or not deal with, I talk to so many women that have had to be the priest of the home they're praying their husbands through

and in some cases they're having great success rate and they're seeing some great things coming out of their husbands but it's a it's a hard thing to raise your kids kids where you're the disciplinarian like women don't want to be that they want to discipline alongside of their husband they don't want to be the one that does everything it's not fun so don't marry a lazy spiritual a man that is spiritually lazy it will be miserable but I say get a good game on, learn your flirting skills, like play with your hair or whatever you do. Like some girls, like one of the girls that I love who's like ready to be in a relationship,

she's kind of a tomboy, right? She's kind of like, but I will say this, she wears makeup, she has long hair. She's like somebody who wants a guy But I will say this, she wears makeup. She has long hair. She's like somebody who wants a guy that's going to be like fun and athletic with her. Not really. She's not really girly girl. But she's all about boys.

So in that case, when you're kind of like that. But she's one of the ones that's got to take the wedding, the promise ring off. Every time I see it on her, I just want to smack the tar out of her. But no wedding bands, no promise rings, unless they're like butterfly and are on this hand. Because even if you're a tomboy and you're wearing it on the right hand they're gonna they're gonna think maybe that you don't swing that way guys might not think that you want a guy they might want you might think you want a girl guy a girl guy yeah so I'm just saying wear makeup do your hair

smile laugh even laugh if it's not that funny don Don't lie though. But if you can find a little humor in what somebody says, pull it out. Pull it out of there. I don't think there's anything else. That's good. I've spent 30 minutes on it. Let's move on. I'm trying to help these women, or these girls, right?

But I was old when I got married. I was 29. I got married I was 20 29 huh well it's not that old but I'm just saying I was older so I like I can understand I sympathize for women that like think like is it ever gonna happen for me it's gonna happen you just gotta just find the right guy be picky though like you're worth something be picky guys be picky about the girls, too. Like, there's a lot of hoes out there. There are. There's a lot of hoes.

Like, there are some girls, literally, that go from one guy to the next guy. Like, we had a girl when I was younger. We called her the welcoming committee for the church every flipping guy that came in she made sure she said hello she spent time with him it's like listen chicks if you're the welcoming committee knock it off you get a reputation you do and it ain't a good one so guys don't go to the girl that's like ready to chat it off with you when you walk into the church or whatever because you're not the only one they've done it to and you'll see it afterwards like they make their way they make their. Stay away from those girls too.

You don't need the hoes. You need a nice girl. Next question. Can Satan read our minds? We're just going from hoes to Satan. They coincide. Can Satan read

our minds? Absolutely not. He is not omnipresent. cannot read your mind only god can read your mind now satan hears the words that we say that's why life and death is held in the tongue so you have to be very very careful if you're a fearful person uh if you um are somebody who whatever's in here, you got to say it out of this thing. Say, listen, he can hear you. So you need to be very, very careful about the words you speak. Though it is Proverbs is clear. A wise man is slow to speak and slow to be angry.

But let, and it also says, let your words be few. There is reasons why the word is very careful about what we say in our tongue the tongue is the most powerful thing that we have we act like because it's so small that it means nothing it means everything so be very careful fear doubt everything comes out of this sucker encouragement comes outagement comes out of it, though. There's positive, positive things that you can be saying and doing. You can speak life over whatever you're believing for, your finances, your health, your career, whatever it is. You have the ability to speak life over those things. And Satan doesn't really want to come against the things that you're speaking life over, right?

If he knows you're standing on something and you're using the scriptures what did Jesus do when Satan came and he tried to after the 40-day fast that Jesus did before he started his ministry he used the word against Jesus and then what did Jesus do he counteracted it he see he took a little bit of truth from the word because he's a liar and then he and then what did Jesus do Jesus used the word to counteract everything that Satan said and that's how we defeat we use the word like when we're praying we use the word when we pray the other thing you should do is you should be filled with your prayer language which is tongues the Holy Spirit can say far better for you what you can say and what you need. Like I don't hardly ever pray with words. Most of everything I do when I pray, I pray in tongues. First of all,

it's my heavenly language. Satan can't understand it. But again, the Holy Spirit can speak better on my behalf for what I need while I'm praying it. So you say, well, how do you do that? What does that look like? I don't know what I'm saying it. So you say, well, how do you do that? What does that look like? I don't know what I'm saying. Or do you just, like, is your mind empty when you're praying? I'm like, no, no, my mind's not empty. I know what I need. I know what I'm looking for.

If there's an ailment in my body that I want healed, what I speak to as I start speaking to that ailment, let's use a headache, for example, I would say, in the name of Jesus, headache, pain, be gone in the name of Jesus. Because Jesus said to speak to the mountain and be cast into the sea. It didn't say pray about your mountain. It said speak to the mountain. So I start speaking to the mountain. Then I start praying in the Holy Spirit about that headache. I know in my head what I'm praying over while I'm praying for it. If I have a financial need, I start praying over that financial need. And as I speak, pray in the Holy Spirit, my mind is on that financial need.

And the Holy Spirit is bringing my request to the Lord. Does that make sense? I hope it makes sense. God knows everything. The devil does not. He does not know everything unless you reveal to him. A lot of times the devil has to do nothing. He does nothing.

He literally sits back and goes, when we make a calamity out of our life or we go directions that we should never go, we make bad decisions. He himself sits there, I believe, and says, I would have never thought of that one. We do it to ourselves just simply by making bad decisions and then ultimately we blame that bad decision on God how could God do this to me no you did it to yourself you made that decision God gives us choices he allows us personal choice we have personal choice whether we serve him he becomes lord of our life and then he tells us what we do with our life or we make the choice we then act out on the choice we make and then we have to deal with the ramifications of that choice the thing is is a lot of times people always never take

responsibility for their actions so it's always god's fault that's not god's fault that's your fault you make that decision you have to end up eating the results of that decision. I always say this, cause and effect. Whatever your action is, there's going to be a effect of that action. It can be a positive one or it can be a negative one. Ultimately, if you do not walk out what God has for you, you don't pray it through through like people don't pray about who they're going to marry lord is this the man that or woman that i'm to marry they sleep with them before they're married so now they're united with them as one never supposed to do that so now you have a commitment level that is way more than what you should have with that person because the word of god is is very clear

that if you have intimate relations with someone, you are now tied and one with that person. Now you have all these feelings that you never should have had. So this person, you've clouded the decision-making the way it should be. So if you hadn't slept with them, you could hear the voice of the Lord say, no, that's not the right one. But now you've united with them. And now when you say, you don't slept with them, you could hear the voice of the Lord say, no, that's not the right one. But now you've united with them. And now when you say, you don't even ask.

You're like, I have these feelings. I have this love. I have this affection. We're good here, but we're really good in bed. All that has to be good, right? No. And then you marry this person that you should never have married. And you're wondering, and it goes bad.

And you wonder, how did I get here? Why would God put me here? No, you put yourself there. That's just the way it is. A lot of people don't want to take responsibility for their actions, though. It's even like in their finances. They don't tithe. They don't give an offering. And they give, but they give, like, let's say your weekly income, and it's based on your gross, not based on your net.

Gross is the total amount that your employer provides to you before taxes. Net is after taxes. So your gross, let's just say it is $1,000, not after taxes, which you probably get about $860 after taxes. So you walk away. You don't pay $86. You pay $100, right? But instead, what you do is you give $10. So you give, but you don't pay your tithe and you don't give your offering so you

just give to the Lord right that's okay but then when your finances are in shambles and you're like how I have never have enough at the end of the week or I don't have enough at the end of the month to pay all my bills you're like God where are you why aren't you helping me why aren't you supplying my need well that's on you because you made a choice and your choice is not to live a biblical principle out. God has a promise. You choose not to walk in that promise. You choose to walk in your own trust and control and your controlling controls his ability to provide for you. So at the end of the day, again, bad decision on your part. You have to live with those things, right?

You have to, it's never, so often we blame God for the things that we choose or we blame the devil, but ultimately it wasn't even the devil. It was us and our bad choices. That's, you know, it's so funny because if people were honest with themselves, they could fix so many things because it's them. It's not the devil and it's not God.

It's the way it is. God ultimately knows your heart and he knows what you're thinking. In 1 Kings 8.39 it says, Then here in heaven your dwelling place and forgive and act and give to everyone according to all his ways whose heart you know for you alone know the hearts of all the sons of men out of the out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks whatever is in here is going to come out here it's just your faith i i hear people all the time i have faith i believe that god's going to heal me. And they'll go, I literally will pray for them. And then they'll go to my husband and they'll say,

the doctor says this. I'm so afraid. I don't know. I don't know what I'm going to do. Okay. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. You cannot say that God's going to heal you. And then the next moment you're saying, I don't know, this is what the doctor's telling me. I just don't know what's going to happen. It's really good. You can say one thing with one person and then you say another with another person. And in Timothy, it talks about being taught, or excuse me, in James, it talks about

you're like a wave tossed to and fro. Expect that man to receive nothing is what it says. So when you don't get what you're believing for it's because you believe for both you believed that potentially you won't be healed and over here i do believe i can be healed no you are healed is what the word says so it's it's you can't have a mixture of the two it's one or the other okay out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks be very careful with your words. I say this all the time.

Life and death is held in them because it is. Be very careful with your words. The devil is not omnipresent. Speak in your heavenly language, and the Holy Spirit knows better for you than what you do for yourself. I would strictly stick with getting, if you're not filled with the Holy Spirit and speaking in tongues, some people believe they're filled with the Holy Spirit.

And they are, because if they have the gift of prophecy and things, there's gifts that the Holy Spirit provides. Lots of people believe that they're filled with the Holy Spirit when they get saved to a degree. I absolutely agree with that. But then you have gifts that are provided to you, and you need to act on those gifts. You need to start walking in the gifts that the Holy Spirit provides. And that's how you really activate the Holy Spirit in your life. Everybody, everybody has their prayer language. Not everybody has the gift of tongues for the body of Christ.

That's a whole different gift. But everybody has a heavenly prayer language. Everybody needs to be seeking and receiving it. And I don't care if you have a doctrine. The doctrine you grew up in doesn't believe in that gift. Read the book of Acts. It clearly says that about the gift of tongues. And it is for everybody. And everybody needs it it and it will change your

life radically especially when you know not what you should pray but the holy spirit does for you right next question do you believe that god is picky about denomination uh you know what i'm gonna skip this one and i'm gonna come back back to it because I'm going to go to a lighter one. Let's go because I only have 16 minutes and let's just do something more light. What's the most embarrassing thing that's happened to you? Well, I don't get embarrassed very easily. And if anybody's ever come to the church, they probably know this my husband uh makes a mockery of me mockery of me on a quite a bit of a regular basis and i usually am a lot i'm always laughing at it because i think it's pretty dang funny when he's making fun of me people literally at the door are saying to me oh my gosh i feel so bad for you or they're like

um he's getting it when he gets home. I'm like, he's hilarious. He's not getting nothing. I'm laughing. I think he's, I'm probably outside of my husband being, my husband, he's his favorite biggest fan too. Like Tom, he thinks he's hilarious. But I probably am his next biggest fan because, again, that's why I dated him. He's so dang funny. He is hilarious to me.

So I don't get embarrassed very easily. So when I was thinking of all these things, I'm going to be honest with you, I really wasn't embarrassed with any of them. I should have been, but I wasn't. So I made a list. I don't have one most embarrassing thing. I have many things that I think if other people had happened to them, they might be, like, mortified.

But I am not. So one of the things that I should have been embarrassed about, but I wasn't, is when I put my foot in my mouth and I tried to convince a woman that she was pregnant when she wasn't. And I'm not kidding you. So my kids were in Christian school. They didn't go to Christian school for very long. But I was working the library.

I'm going to tell the story. I was working the library with this sweet lady and her little kid. And her kid was like, she had a kid in the school. And then she had a kid. He was probably about three. And she had this little boy and um he was with her and she was sitting and she looked like she was about six months pregnant that's the truth we're not talking like three months pregnant where you might get along a

little bit she looked like she was six months pregnant and And she had one of those, like, T-shirts on that, like, back in the day, like, they don't wear cute stuff like that. Like, nowadays when you're pregnant, you wear, like, you don't really wear maternity clothes. You just get a bigger piece of clothing so that it's still stylish, but you can, like, work around your pregnancy. Back in the day, we all bought maternity clothes. I don't even know if there's a maternity stores anymore.

Is there? Bia, is there maternity? They're very difficult to find. So you go shopping at regular stores and just buy bigger size, right? Yeah. Everybody does nowadays, which I really wish I would have done that. I might have liked being pregnant a little bit better because I hated being pregnant. The clothing attire was terrible.

So she's sitting there. We're both sitting there. We're both working in the library doing I don't know what. And I congratulated her on being pregnant. And she says, I'm not pregnant. And I'm like, yes, you are. You're pregnant. She's like, no, I'm not.

I'm not pregnant. I'm like, come on. You're pregnant. And I compliment her. And she's like, eventually she gets a little frustrated with me because I'm trying to tell her she's pregnant. Okay. Which is insulting. Like if, if, if anything, she would know whether she's pregnant or not. She doesn't need me to tell her whether she's pregnant. Eventually she just says, I'm not pregnant. I'm just fat all right okay well

how do you how do you recover from that like all I did was apologize but even that I really wasn't that embarrassed that I had tried to convince this lady that was over overweight that she was pregnant didn't bother me a bit to a certain extent. I was like, whoops on that one. When I was a teenager, I think I was 14, I went to my girlfriend's house. I was such an idiot. I went to my girlfriend's house, and she had the slumber party that I wasn't invited to. So the morning afterwards, I go and I hang out.

And all these girls did not want me there. If they had, they would have invited me, right, to spend the night. But they didn't want me there. And I didn't care that they didn't want me there, which is a big problem in and of itself. Like how you're not that self-aware, I do not know. But I wasn't so in the process like I must have like I don't know if I sneezed on my way to this girl's house I don't know if I picked my nose I don't know what happened but on the she lived around the corner by the time I got to this house I had

the biggest booger hanging out of my nose and it wasn't like right here It was on the tip of my nose like right here. I didn't feel it. I Had no idea I'm sitting talking to these girls for like five minutes and they're all laughing I'm like, what are they laughing at? Until finally one of them's like you have the biggest booger hanging out of your nose. First of all, they didn't want me there. And I began to feel that they didn't want me there. But I wanted to be there, so I didn't really care. I didn't care.

Until they told me I had a big booger hanging out of my nose. And then I went into the bathroom and I'm like, oh my gosh. And it was big. It was so big. It was huge. That I might have been embarrassed about. That I might have been. I probably was 15, so back then, you know, you're more socially aware.

Didn't change anything. I wiped my nose, went back out, talked to them for a little bit, and then I was like, I'm out of here. They really don't want me here. There's nothing I can do to change the situation so I left another one now this one that like I was telling Tracy I don't know if the statute of limitations has expired on this so I'm a little hesitant to share this because I don't know if I can get in trouble I didn't get arrested for it. So I'm pretty sure I'm okay. Back in the day when I would, so back in the day when I wasn't saved, I would get drunk before I left the condo in part to party with my girlfriends. I would get drunk and then on on the way there like I drank a lot so and then you go to the

club and you drink even more well I had to go to the bathroom I lived like in outside of DC so I would have to go to the bathroom so by the time I was the one with the smallest bladder in the whole vehicle so and you know you always have the designated driver. And it was never me. So I remember, I'm like, oh, my gosh, I have to go to the bathroom so bad. So we had to pull off. We go down into the Pentagon. Like, yeah, the Pentagon. So we go down.

We pull into the Pentagon. Back in the day, you could get onto the parking lot. It was like it wasn't a big deal. So we go down. We get into the parking lot. I pop a squat on the curb. I go to the bathroom. I get done. I get up, and I'm going into the vehicle with my girlfriends.

And then all of a sudden, the lights come on. And it's a cop. And now he's watched me go to the bathroom in the Pentagon parking lot, come over, ask what's going on, and I am so drunk. Like, I should have been embarrassed, right? I should have been embarrassed about the whole situation, not me. I proceed to hit on the cop, try and pick him up. Oh, yeah, it was bad.

We go to the metro. Same scenario. I have to go to the bathroom. So what do I do? I go in. I walk down the, go find the car that has nobody in it. I pee in the subway. Yeah, I peed on the subway. Peed on the subway. I don't know. Go back to my girlfriends. Oh yeah, nasty. You think you'd be embarrassed about that stuff? Even right now, the subway peed on the subway I don't know go back to my girlfriends oh yeah nasty you think you'd be embarrassed about that stuff even right now should I be embarrassed 100% am I no I don't care I really don't care as long as I don't get arrested I really don't want a mugshot I don't want to be like Pastor Rodney I don't want a mugshot. I don't wanna be like Pastor Rodney. I don't want a mugshot. I mean, someday that might happen. Like someday that might happen.

You're like, we're all gonna have to make stands to certain, I will do it on that, but I really don't want, I really don't want, we have no emblem right here. Oh, and I just said that. Okay, we'll have that. You won't even see, Okay. Then my last one is, my last one is back in the day, I went to, I was a very good girl in high school.

So in the next one, I did go to a party that I was invited to and they actually wanted me there. Now after this, the girl that was hosting the party did not want me there because I teed her off big time. But that's because I was an ingbat and I was very annoying. So back in the day, I believed. I don't anymore. But you know how maps have the compass that say north, south, east, west?

Mm-hmm. I believed whichever way you point the map, if you turn to your left that's north if I move straight forward that's north if I go this way that's north and if I said backwards that's north whichever way the map was that was north okay now the girl you know I'm you know I'm in a group and there's about five of us like my guy friends and girls that were my friends and they tried to sit and convince me and explain to me that's not how the compass works just because the map is facing in that direction, that is not north. I argued furiously that they were wrong and that they were idiots.

And how they did not know that that is the way it was, I was so frustrated. But the problem was is they were as frustrated with me. You know, I should have known I was wrong because it's like four against one. But I thought they were the idiots. Narrow is the way, right? So I'm thinking broad.

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I said, you know, I even said, I'm like, you remember that party you had and everywhere I pointed the map I said was north? She goes, yep, I sure do. I said, I'm an idiot. Sorry about that. Even years later, you can still apologize for the things that you've done as an idiot so let that fall right into salvation how many of you have been an idiot with salvation you're not saved or you walked away from God because you think you know better.

In all actuality, you're like me. If you walked away from God, you're now realizing, I was so wrong. I am so stupid. You know, a lot of times we don't come back to Jesus because of pride. We're like, it's too embarrassing to say that we screwed up our life or we thought we had a better way I remember literally I remember how do I how do I get my life back with God and for me it wasn't pride it was more like like will he even want me back like I've done so many things like I have screwed my life up so bad I'm gonna get back to

God and I'm gonna get back to God and I'm gonna get back to God and I'm gonna get back to God and I'm gonna get back to God and I'm gonna get back to God and I'm gonna get back to God and I'm gonna get back to God and I'm gonna get back wasn't pride it was more like like will he even want me back like I've done so many things like I have screwed my life up so bad how could he even want me um because I rejected him so hard you can trust me on this when he does I mean nothing would make Jesus God God, Holy Spirit, nothing would please them more than for you to come back to them and let them pour out their love. It's like the prodigal son. Jesus, the prodigal son, if you don't know the story, the story is a father has two sons. The one son says, give me my inheritance. And he goes off and he lives a wild life.

Prostitutes, partying, the whole nine. Some of you can relate to this. I didn't. I could, for part of it, I could relate to the story. But I, so what happens is the prodigal son leads himself into a life that's just full of misery. And he's sitting there and he has no food to eat. Now he's basically the job that he has is he's now working, taking care of pigs. And he finds himself eating the same food as the pig. And he says, my father treats his slaves or his servants better than what I am right now. So I'm just going to go back to my dad and I'm going to work for him because at least my life will be better than what it is right now. And when his, so he goes back and

in his father sees him walking down the road. And this is how Jesus will be for you because it's a perfect example of how much Jesus loves us. The father sees his son and what he does is he runs towards him and he's so happy and he's so relieved and he's so overjoyed to see that son come home that he throws a party and that's how Jesus is with us when we ask him to come back and be our Lord and Savior the angels rejoice um there's nothing more wonderful and beautiful for the Lord is when we come back to him and we realize life is just not as good in until we have him back in our life so for me um I I I literally was like how could I how can he how could he ever want me back but I tell you he's like that father running towards his son

and rejoicing that he's come home and that's how Jesus feels about you and if you've never known him you're missing out and I think you know you're missing out because God puts a God shaped void in every single one of us that only he can fill

you can go and buy a boat an rv uh take another vacation get another car and you'll be happy for a split second but at the end of that time at that at the end of it you're gonna sit there and go that just that's just not filling that that spot like i don't you you can just keep doing it keep doing it it'll never fill that spot and you'll just keep getting more and more and more in debt as you do it until you finally succumb and say you know what I'm going to give this God thing a chance and that's when you're going to go that's it that's the spot that's what I needed so I encourage you today if if this is if you can

relate to what I'm talking about I strongly want you to say this prayer with me and let us uh start a new journey for you and not a arc journey and you don't know what I'm talking about that but some of you do um it's a journey with God as your Lord and Savior he's going to take you places that you never thought you'd go. And He's going to put things in your heart that you never thought would be there. And the joy that you will walk in from this moment forward will be joy. See, happiness is different than joy. Happiness is a feeling.

Joy is a choice. And you will never, ever, ever experience anything like God's joy until you become one of his kids. So pray this prayer with me. I'm going to close my eyes with you. Say this prayer. Dear Heavenly Father, I ask you to come into my life. I ask you to be my Lord and Savior. I ask you to forgive me of all my life. I ask you to be my Lord and Savior. I ask you

to forgive me of all my sin. And then I will live out my life for you. Whatever you call me to do, I will do. Wherever you tell me to go, I will go.

And when I die, I will go to heaven and live with you forever. In Jesus' precious name we pray. Amen. Eternity is yours. If you said that prayer, find a great church. One that teaches holiness.

One that teaches you how to be a strong disciple. Something that will turn you on to whatever God has birthed in you listen if you can sing God didn't design you to sing for the world God designed you to sing for him to worship him if God gave you the ability to speak then more than likely he wants you to be an evangelist a preacher a teacher if you've been doing that for the world he gave you those gifts so that those gifts would be used for him. He will show you what he wants you to do.

You'll start walking in it, and you will be so satisfied and content from this moment forward as you walk the things out that he has designed you to do. He has ordered your steps. Now you just got to figure out what they are. Find a good church that will help you go and do that, but one that teaches you how to be a strong believer get in the word and go forward in Jesus mighty name we're going to close out have a great day and we'll see you later bye real talk

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