The Hope Hotline - The Hope Hotline | S01-E65| 08-30-23

Episode Date: August 31, 2023

Question #1 Is it a sin to masturbate?

Welcome to the Hope Hotline. Thank you so much for joining in today. As you probably know, what's the name of that stupid hurricane that came through? I don't remember. Idell or? Idalia. Idalia? Idalia. I hate all hurricanes, which start with an I.

Same. I mean, I hate them. Same. I hate hurricanes, period. Like, they stink. Yeah. And you know what's even worse? Let me put this like this. You know why I hate them, too, is because, first of all, there's multiple reasons I hate them.

One is the weather channels and the news and all that, they thrive on this nonsense. It's like their day in glory or something. They feel like they're saving lives. And in some ways ways in all actuality to a certain extent they they are but I mean back in the day I remember they would stand in ditches and they wouldn't stand in ditches they'd be on their knees in ditches trying to glorify the the um storm to make it bigger better. But it really wouldn't be that bad, which caused people to not take storms seriously.

Like, I don't remember if you guys remember the shots, like the Weather Channel and stuff like that had these guys standing in a ditch and then there's people walking behind them. And then Anderson Cooper got caught doing the same exact thing um because it sells ratings it sells sponsors commercials and so those things have cost people's lives because of ratings and sponsor uh selling commercials and stuff like that so i don't like the hype of it i feel like now when i'm watching these uh news anchors and stuff like that. So I don't like the hype of it. I feel like now when I'm watching these news anchors and stuff like that,

I feel like in some ways they're trying to not be like that because they know how, I can't activate that thing. Okay. They're trying to change all that because of nobody. I mean, we all think they're frauds right I mean put yourselves on real quick girls I mean to be honest with you I mean do you guys take them seriously like with blizzards and everything else like I grew up and back in the day when I lived in Virginia and we'd have blizzards and stuff like that it wasn't like uh when when they said something like we knew

that they meant it right yes it wasn't like yeah a said something, like we knew that they meant it, right? Yes. It wasn't like a whole bunch of hype and a whole bunch of nonsense. Right. And then they go to, it's all about the money. And like people don't take them serious like at all. I don't take any of them serious. I see that there's a shift in trying to report things more accurately,

but I find them all to be dishonest to us. They're inciting fear. Yeah, they're inciting because fear sells. And as a believer, I'm going to be honest with you, as a believer, none of us should be fearful. Even with Ian, when it came through, a lot of people leave, which, listen, I'm not saying not to do that but if you leave don't invoke the hype and the narrative of of the news because it's

no different to me than COVID hype like you're just propagating a different lie but if you like got into like being all anxious and excited and like gotta get the water gotta get the bread you know yeah that's not good guys like god you don't need to be about all of that stuff i don't like all you're doing is making yourself anxious and then the word is clear to be anxious about nothing right you know and to we are clear, to be anxious about nothing. Right. You know, and we are not to be in fear. Perfect love casts out all fear. We are not to be a fear-based, anxiety-ridden people. Right.

We have the Holy Spirit who is the comforter, who is the peace, who brings peace in every situation. We don't thrive on fear. We don't thrive on the hype. So if you were one of these Christians, or if you are a Christian, and you participated in being, I say, if you're a guy and you're watching this,

and you're the priest of your home, because some guys aren't the priests of their home, their wife is, but I'm just saying, as a man man you should bring peace to the house like like i look at at tracy half of her her attic is exposed right now right yes your attic is exposed were you guys freaking out no no okay like they have i'm not kidding when i say their attic is exposed i'm not kidding. When I say they're attic exposed, I'm not kidding you. Over their garage. The wall is gone, people.

They still haven't had the repairs necessary. I mean, they've already put tarps up on it how many times? The tarps don't stay. Yeah, exactly. Until, I mean, you can only make so many adjustments. But really, a wall is what's needed. And the insurance company, until they're willing to do what's what's right right so in their home no freaking out no like trying to like I know that there are people that were literally like I got to put this

here and I got to put this there and I got to do this and it wasn't even coming to us right so like take her down some notches it's gonna be okay yes like it's not good but I will say like there's nothing like sleeping and there's nothing more slip nor there is nothing more peaceful than sleeping in a thunderstorm the wind to blow in and I love that yeah I mean, even after Ian, like, listen, if you couldn't sleep like a baby through Ian, I don't know what you can. Because, like, I laid, Tom laid in our room with coolers all around us. All around.

Because water was pouring in. I wish there was a pitcher. Oh, it's a sight. We moved all the furniture out. And he moved the bed to the center of the room coolers all around our tray ceiling water's just pouring in thank god we have a lot of coolers yeah seriously because our floor didn't even get destroyed and now it's crazy those ceilings gone but the floor made it yeah um but that's because of quick thinking on his feet but he was laying in there with his index cards and his flashlight just praying doing his scriptures

just doing his scriptures what i laid on the couch until i had to go and hold the window in me and norma but i'm just saying uh we laid on the couch and we're just like how long how long is it going below that thing lasted forever this one. This one was like gone. I know. And that's how it's supposed to be. Like, just go away. Yeah. Come and go. Whatever. Although I was very disappointed, but we'll find out what the truth is when we might not ever find out the truth. Cause really Ian was a category five. Yes, I was. And if you do a category five hurricane, then we aren't supposed to do pay any deductibles. The insurance company has to pay for everything. But because of lobbyists and hands in pockets and politicians,

the insurance company, the government didn't market as it should have been, which is they literally clocked that sucker at hurricane force winds of a five. And then it sat over us for like 12 hours at least. So that sucker, I was going to say, we might, I don't even know. They said it came in at a two or three, but then it went to a two really quickly. Right. Isn't that what they said? It lost its strength before it hit landfall. So I think it was a two what is it three oh sorry but going to a two and then it yeah because when it was nothing which is good because I me and Tom were praying tropical storm by the time it hit the land we were like diminish that sucker fast because I I don't want people's lives to be tormented but when I was leaving my neighborhood, flooding.

Yeah. It's very sad. We have, in my neighborhood, we have some homes that are very old and they're not on stilts. We live on the river. Right. And these homes are flooded again. Oh, no.

I know it's sad. But I don't even know why they live in these houses because it floods like three or four times a year. I don't even know. I mean, like houses because it floods like three or four times a year. I don't even know. I mean, like Norma, me and Norma really run like again. Right. There ain't enough sandbags in this world to keep those houses from whatever. Okay.

But very happy that it dropped from a two to a two almost immediately. But again, Christian, be different. be the stabilizer right in your life and the ones that are around you more importantly to the unbelievers in your life because you that is and that is ripe ground for a sowing of a seed and reaping a huge harvest. If you remain calm and if you speak life over the situation and no fear, and people see that you're like that, they're like, when they're fearful, they want what you have. Okay? But when you look and sound like them, where are you?

Any different? Yeah. Absolutely. We're in this world, but we're not of it. The word says to come out and separate yourself from it. Amen. So come out. Be different. Yeah. Be different. You be you. Be different. Okay. What? What did you say? You be you. Uh-uh. Adalys preached against that. I know she did. But I mean in like in Christ. like you be you in Christ, be unique and special.

Don't be afraid to be yourself. The way God created you. Yeah. I know what you meant. I know you did. But I loved it when Adalys called you out. I was like, oh, thank God. Somebody's on my side. I know. I need to have a conversation. No, I know what you mean. I know. Listen, and here's the thing. She just created a piece of merchandise for the podcast and it hasn't, hasn't come yet, but it is you be you. And now she's going to be, we're going to be, you're going to be ashamed of yourself. I know, but I'm not because I'm me. That's true. And I'm being me. Suit. It's too much. Did you see the new graphic? What? So you can tell everybody

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And Logan's on it. So. So I've even talked to some faithful watchers that are males. They don't even appreciate it. Oh, wow. Yeah. Yeah. So if a guy is even trying to talk to another guy,

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Like, can you communicate all this to me and then teach me? Because I'm not a social media guru. Okay, so how do we do this? And then I'll learn. You did Facebook perfectly. And then Rumble, you can follow, you can like, and you can comment. Now, there is a share link, but you would have to share it to something. So you'd have to share it to like a message, to Twitter, to an email, to I guess Tumblr is their other option,

but you can't share it to Rumble. So that one's different than Facebook. It's more like Rumble's kind of like YouTube. It's like a watching app. It's not like a social media app. Okay. You can comment and people do. Sean's on there right now. And then we have Sean. Hey, Sean. And then YouTube is kind of the same as Rumble. You can like, and you can comment for us and you can share, but again, you'd have to share to something. Okay. And then Blackrobe, very similar to YouTube. You can like, something okay and then black robe very similar to youtube you can like comment and then you can share as well um but facebook is also you got to do like the thumbs up or something like that right yeah and you can subscribe so youtube you can subscribe so that's what the like is yeah oh that's why you put the little thumbs up i'm not looking at the

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to mention. So we do have t-shirts left over. Okay. Anybody wants one? I don't know if they're going to be on a clearance sale price. I'm not quite sure. And at some point we're going to add on to the giving. If you want to support us with this podcast, we'll add that on to the giving as well for the church thing. And then we'll probably have something. If you give, then we'll have a gift for you too. Yes. I love that. It ain't going to be a new you t-shirt though. Yeah, no, that's special. No, it's old. It's not that it's special. Very, very special. It's done. It's been, it's used. Everybody's going to want one. I mean, we might as well. We might get like the craziest giving.

Or a new you t-shirt. I have an idea. I have an idea. How about we have t-shirts and then that's what you get when you give and we'll see which one is the best which one gets the most money I love that idea don't get I don't understand what you're saying I'm gonna make a t-shirt and then when you give you get that t-shirt and then at the end of the cycle you well a tea I mean it's the whole pot line t-shirt a t-shirt you got a pro the whole pot line t-shirt I knew you I thought oh aren't we giving we're giving to the like beloved conference what are you talking about giving no no no I'm not giving to the beloved company I'm gonna create it so just like you have to TLP yeah give to the TLP yes and support that yeah

we'll do the same thing with the whole potline right and that somebody's got pay your salary it ain't much people it It's true. All right. We'll reconvene later. I'll explain again. Okay. Okay. Because maybe we'll, Hey, if you say this, well, maybe what we'll do is we'll give away, or if you give not just yet, I'll get it set up. If you give once we get what she's create, it's this way, what she's developing or creating, that'll be the thing that we send to people. That's what I'm saying. No, that's not what you were saying. You're so full of it. Okay, let's move on because you're full of crap. I'm going to replay that. That will be our message this week. I'm not listening. The Beloved Conference. Yeah, yeah. Okay. Okay, I'm coming back. So, LaVava Conference was off the charts.

Super fun. So good. Really great. So good. Adalys, Pastor Adalys, she killed it Friday night. Like, okay, I can't say enough great things about Magalys Friday morning. I know. Okay.

It was really, really good. So, if you want to go back and watch mine, which is... No. Amazing. That's Hope Hotline. You can watch mine. Okay? That's the only place you can see it right now. You can't. On Blackrobe that's Hope Hotline you can watch mine okay that's the only place you can see it right now you can't on Black Robe under Hope Hotline okay the rest of pause nope Black Robe

um Aaron did us a really huge favor and he put all of the beloved um conference videos together so last year's and this year's are all in one spot. Okay, perfect. Well, that was awesome of him. I don't know when he found time to do that because it's been insane. Yeah. Then, okay, so then, okay, so if you want to go and watch them, you can watch it on YouTube, Hope Hotline, not just Black Robe,

but then on YouTube Foundation Church, you can catch Magalas Friday morning. I'm just, you will not be disappointed. Her message was so, so good. That Pastor Adalas, like, knocked it out of the stinking park. Man, I'm just telling you, I wasn't kidding when I said, someday, someday, she'll be preaching to thousands and thousands and thousands of people. And I'll just beg her to touch her, the hem of her garment, as she walks past me.

And say, I knew her when. I knew her. I was her friend. Now she's so big she doesn't even remember my name. She's forgotten about me. It's not her style. But I'm just saying, you will not be disappointed. She just keeps getting better and better and better and better.

She's never, like, it's just incredible. But then Saturday was the coup de grace. Okay. Hold on one second. Was so good. If you did not watch the conference, Saturday we did something a little different. Normally everybody does a question and answer

or they do preaching and stuff like that. Well, this year I didn't want to do that. I was like, I want to do something different. I told Heather, I want to do a game. I don't. And she knew what I meant by I want to do a game because don't and she knew what I meant by I want to do again because I had been telling her kind of like what my thinking and she goes why don't we do Family Feud and I went that's what I'm gonna do so the homework began and we created a phenomenal Family Feud stage and my

daughter is this enormous so I have to oh you have two so what's yours so let me just okay i have three videos uh-huh one is like a recap but it has no music yet because i literally finished when we were down to 30 seconds so we can either save that for friday and i can finish it save that for friday because i want music to it perfect that awesome. It's not like the big recap. It's just like a mini recap because I'm going to have a really big recap. Well, then let's just do the mini one then. Okay. Should we do the mini one? You can probably talk through it. Okay. And then? And then I have Aaron's video of Pastor Tom coming out, being announced. Okay. That's funny. Yeah. And then I have Norma.

Okay, so we're going to start. That's the way we're going to do it. Recap, errands, then Norma's. Okay. Okay. All right, ready? Here we go. All right.

I thought you said this has no music. I have a little bit. There's a little bit, yeah. Yeah. And all I've seen is nothing now. Yeah, why is it not playing? Okay. Okay, cutting back to us.

All righty-roo. All right, well, let's go to Erin's video. Okay, so this is, so the family feud, there was a big misspelling. Oh, my gosh. On me and Heather's part. And again, we had to do it so fast. Like, we had to get this thing together so quickly. Heather's not the greatest speller.

She will be the first one to tell you. Spelling's not her thing. But she's great at so many other things. I really don't care that she can't spell. But I didn't even look at it. And I'm a pretty good speller. But even me, we literally had to get this to the guy that was building it. And, like, and I kid you not, she created this thing for him so fast. And it had, oh, it was a mess.

So fast that she showed it to me. I was like, yeah, that's perfect. Because we can't name it the family feud. Right. We had to name it the feud. Right. So she just typed it out real fast, showed it to me real fast. And then, like, perfect.

And it was after hours. All of us were running on fumes. So although I say all that, ultimately, we're idiots. We don't know how to spell feud apparently. And it became feud. I have a confession. I saw it in Canva. I saw when she wrote it out.

And you knew it? I was like, yeah. I was like, oh, that must be for the thing. But no, I didn't know because I can't spell. Oh. But I also saw it and also did not know it was spelled wrong. You didn't catch it? No.

Because we had to have it to him by Wednesday, and then he was finishing it up on Saturday. We had plenty of times to catch it, but we didn't catch it because we're idiots, people. I would have known about the secret. Oh. She ate their own. I would have known about the secret. Oh, shade thrown. I'm glad you didn't know. No, it was cool. It was worth it. It's worth it.

You're not knowing. So my husband was the host of the Family Feud. And in case you can't hear it, when he comes out. I think you should. I think you can hear it. You can hear it? I think so. In case you can't,

I'll tell you what it is. But play it for us. Here we go. Too sweet to be sour. The double power of preaching power. Oh, my God. That was Aaron's video. It seems like you're missing

the very first part of him being called out. Let's try again. Too sweet to be sour, the double power of preaching power, Tom Higgins! Let's just watch the movie. Look at Adela. Look at Adela. It's Raining Men is what he came out to you can't hear it on there at all

for some reason yeah yeah but he came out to it's raining men which i loved that was funny super funny but my daughter put together i cry laughing when i said this was so good. Norma put together a bloopers of the whole entire time, or the whole entire, if you did not go and watch the conference, you have to watch it. But out of all of them, watch Saturday. Because, I mean, if you're saved and you know Jesus, you'll be fine. But you won't be fine if you don't watch the family feud. That's all I'm going to say.

You've got to watch this. Exactly. Go ahead. All right. And representing the left side of the stage, I'm sorry, that's the left side. I already said that. All right.

Now last, but not certainly least, your host, the man of the hour, too sweet to be sour, the double tower of preaching power, Tom Leipzig! Welcome. Welcome to the FUED. FUED. You have been FUED. Copyright. Copyright. you know what I mean? Credit, credit for that goes to Heather and Hope.

You have this on? Just switch it on. Is this on? The switch on the mic, yeah. Okay, you know you have to turn everything on when it's me. I don't even know how to turn it. Okay, there we go.

One more time. Sorry, I'm Adalis Shuttlesworth and I'm from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. Young lady. Magalis. Okay. Foo-eh, foo-eh, foo-eh, foo-eh, foo-eh, foo-eh. All Ed, Foo Ed, Foo Ed, Foo Ed. All right, who's ready for our first two contestants?

All right. I haven't called you yet. I haven't called you yet. Get back to your Foo Ed post. Stay in your Foo Ed post until I call you. Come on up. You got to get your hand off of it. Hey, she's touching it. Touch it again. You're penalized. Name a magic power. Hello. The answers are loaded. Oh,

Heather name my wife's telling me orders while I'm up here remember that's you right there Fouad you are Fouad don't give me orders you are you would never give me the mic

he knew what was coming out unlimited money He knew what was coming up. Unlimited money. I'm like, good answer, good answer. You're the only one that liked that. I'm resigning as the pastor of Foundation Church. Can you guys hire me at Revival today? Is there a job opening for me at Revival today? Okay. I hesitate to ask.

But name a magic power you'd want to have the most. I hesitate to ask. Name a magic power you'd want to have the most. Spidey powers. Complete without. A mask. There you go. This is funny. Norma thinks I saw her answer.

I don't know why. Norma, no superhero costume would be complete without? Gloves. I don't know. Gloves. Survey says. I think that was a good answer. I don't know. But her first answer would have been better.

No superhero costume would be complete without? A Batmobile. Positions, please. Quiet. This is hilarious. Do we have a buzzer for now on or am I doing the buzzer? Yes. Okay. Because I'm going to make other noises too like whatever. Okay. Yeah. Okay. Get all the podcast sounds ready. All right, here we go. All right, name something. This is funny. All right.

This is so funny. Watch your mattress. Let me get out of the way. I'm a better door than I'm a window. Get out of the way. Get out of the way. Hit it. I've watched that a hundred times.

Here at Foo Head, we are very well organized. Nobody can see him. They can't see him. He kept showing me the cards. If anybody could see him, we'd have these answers. I kept pushing the cards back. He kept showing me the cards. My dude. A date.

A dollar. We are the champions, my friends. And we'll keep on fighting till the end. Look at aalys. Here's a little special announcement. We'll give $5,000 to both teams. There we go. Oh, my goodness. That was so much fun. That was so fun.

That was too good. Like, yeah, super funny. We have less than 30 minutes, but it was well worth it. What are you doing? I mean, it's there. I don't, can I try again? Go ahead. Try again, sister. Let me try again. Okay. There it goes. That's me speaking. This is night one or a Thursday night. Your jacket, by the way, was beautiful. It was. It was so good. It was so good. I love that jacket. Can somebody sing a song?

Norma? I love those chandeliers for the pictures. There's some sound. Right there. There's some sound. There's sound. Okay. That was not supposed to be there. The breakfast was good, except for people who decided to eat more than they should.

Right. Thank you for that. Yeah. Not cool, man. Not cool. Not cool. Okay. That was funny how me and Magalas more than they should. Right. Thank you for that. Yeah. Not cool, man. Not cool. Not cool. Okay. But that was funny how me and Magalas made fun of people.

Yes, it was. Hey, listen. If you come to Foundation Church, you're just going to have to have some fortitude. We're going to laugh at you. We laugh at ourselves. You are. Got to get over it. It's a good time.

Yeah. We're going to help. What is that? You were laughing. Oh, my gosh. That girl had me laughing so hard. It was so good. She's so good.

So funny and so powerful. Like, those are the two best things ever. Like, laugh, but also, like, receive, like, it's just so good. She's so good. But in general, like, for me, women, life can be so serious for us. Yeah. I mean. There he is.

That. Man of the hour. Yep, man of the hour. Life is so serious for women that if you can just enjoy life and laugh at yourself and embrace who you are. Like it's super important to be able to do all those things. It is. Because society itself wants to put so many things on women, married, not married, whatever. And there's a lot of pressure sometimes that we put ourselves under. Yeah.

But that's never what God wanted. And listen, there's a reason why a merry heart is good medicine, right? And that stress and everything else is bad for the bones yeah so it learn to learn the one thing I will say people like people have been not a lot but I've heard people say to me like Tom's they don't like it that Tom, like, picks on me or he says things about me from the pulpit and stuff like that. I always laugh. I'll be honest with you. I think, like, I laugh so hard. And the reason I laugh so hard is because, let's face it, there's no one that loves me outside of Jesus Christ, Holy Spirit, and God himself who loves me more than Tom.

And quite honestly, he wouldn't say those things if he was serious about them. So I can laugh at them because he's not saying them to hurt, demean, or be unkind to me. Like he knows that I don't get embarrassed easy and he knows that I actually think all that stuff is super funny. People will take themselves way too serious and if you're in a relationship where that's the way your spouse or significant other that you're thinking about a future with, if they do that to you to kind of keep you in your place to be mean and unkind then I kind of get that you might be offended or bothered for me but I'll be honest with you that's not how Tom and I our relationship is not like that at all he loves me so much that if he thought that that

would hurt my feelings in no way shape or form would he ever say it. But because I'm a strong woman, there's not a lot of things that bother me or offend me or hurt my feelings. I can actually laugh at myself. I don't take myself too seriously. And I'm not an insecure individual. Thank you, Jesus, because God will take care. God redeems. Even if you're like that, he can fix that for you, right? Nobody should be insecure. You're in Christ. You're a new creation in Christ. Jesus is not an insecure individual, right? So you shouldn't be. The Holy Spirit dwells in you. There's no room for insecurity. So when he's like Sunday, he had me crying and laughing. Like, I'm not kidding you. I was laughing so dang hard. Even the fluid and stuff like that. If he thought that I would have hurt feelings over that,

he just wouldn't say it because he's a sensitive person. But he can laugh at himself. I can laugh at myself. Another one of us would say anything to hurt each other or demean each other in any way. If you're married to somebody or you're thinking about marrying somebody who does do that to you, either, well, I would say if you're dating them and you're thinking about a future with them, don't do it. Okay? You don't want to be married to a person like that. If you're married to the person, get to a place where they do not have that authority over you because nobody ever should make you feel lesser of a human being. Be secure within yourself and just let it roll off your back. Who cares? Literally,

who cares what somebody else thinks about you? I don't care if I was married to the person I would give a rip about what they think about me the only person I care about who thinks about me I only care about one person and what they think that's it outside of that the Trinity what they say and what they think matters the The rest of the world, they can have it. I really don't care. And I mean that wholeheartedly, sincerely, not an ounce do I care. Most of the people in this room, if they know me very well, they know I ain't lying to you. I don't care. Somebody wants to say something bad about me to my face. Depending on how far you go and the measure of respect that you're saying in

will be the measure in which I either give it back to you or I don't. Sometimes be still, you know, I'll keep my mouth quiet, slow to anger, slow to speak. But then other times, if the Holy Spirit allows me not to enable bad behavior and endorse you saying however you want to say something in the manner in which you want it, we might go back and forth a little bit. Because I don't put up with much either from people. That's a great quality that you have. What? Being able to like say exactly what you mean, but also be able to receive exactly what somebody else means. Because like growing up in the Christian world, a pastor's wife, typically that isn't always the case. What do you mean by that?

I mean, like usually a pastor's wife is like riding on their coattails. And so if they don't get the like attaboys that like their husband gets, then they feel like lesser. But you just like, you just, I don't know. You have great qualities as a pastor's wife. Like the not being offended, not letting people, like not being able to not fall asleep at night because somebody's upset with you.

You know, like, I'm right. But most women, especially in this Christian world, do care. Yeah. And it, like, really changes their, like, view on things. It puts this filter on. But you just, you're just hope. You know why I think that is, though? I'll be honest with you. First of all, I've walked without God. I've walked with him and I've walked without him. And I know what it's like to walk without him.

It was, it was a, a something that I never, ever want to ever put myself through again. Because I, I came back, I know my value. Right. And because I know my value, nobody else, no one can come close to making me feel as valuable as God has. Not one being on this earth. So for me, I hold no value in what people say. I don't even care if I get compliments. I really don't care. I don't care if somebody has something negative to say, but not normally do I want to hear it. I'm like, I don't walk around and tell other people about their negative things. I don't want to hear it either. Unless it's something catastrophic.

Keep it to yourself. Most people don't need your opinion. I'm just saying, like, I find it funny how people honestly think, and this is, and I sincerely mean this because I used to be somewhat of a person like this and I'm not like this anymore. But, so when I say this and it relates to you, know I've been there before. And when I bust on you, I'm busting on my previous personality. But I find it hilarious that people have an opinion that they feel like they need to give whether the person asks them or not.

I really do. You're laughing for a reason, I guess. Okay. But I'm just saying. I don't know why. Oh, yeah. I do know why. I don't know why. Oh, yeah. I do know why. I'm thinking of something else.

Something happened this weekend. I'm not thinking about you, Logan. Something happened this weekend. It's where women coming together can either be extremely catty and very like their insecurities, they put off on somebody else. So they become very catty. And I'm thinking about another situation where somebody was very catty with another person. And when somebody's ministering or about to minister and you're very catty with somebody, it affects them ministering. And I'm like, I just want to say, keep that to yourself. And if you really need to say it, then let the Holy Spirit open the door instead of you bum rushing in and feeling like you need to say it.

Because it affected the person and I'm not saying that this particular thing was catty I'm not saying that but I feel like women can be catty and really it's an opportunity for us to shine you know it's an opportunity for us maybe to say say nothing then say. And if we can't say, if we have something against someone, then maybe we wait on that particular thing and let things play out as God designs them instead of, I mean, I can't tell you how many times I've wanted to say something and I say nothing because I'm like, that's God's business. I'll let God handle it. It's not my business, but we become extremely carnal and extremely catty. And sometimes let's

just love each other, support one another and be the women God's called us to be. Let's let, let us embrace and like build each other up. Right. And when you build that relationship, they eventually will come to you and ask you questions and receive correction because you've built that trust and that relationship. So sometimes you just say nothing and encourage, and then all of a sudden, a couple months down the road, they're like, well, what do you think about this? And then that's the open door that God gives you.

Exactly. Exactly. Exactly. I think that it's super important. It's really important for women by nature. Men are not like this. That's the reason all my life I hung out with guys because girls drove me nuts. They always have something to say about something. Yeah. Always. Yeah. It's like, just shut up. Just shut up. Just shut up. I don't even know how men put up with this sometimes. I really don't. That's why it says it's better for a man to live on the corner of a house.

Oh, my gosh. It's true. A woman's like a constant drip. Yeah. Because women, we are a constant drip to each other. Truth be told. The thing is, is we a constant drip to each other. Truth be told. The thing is, is we can get away from each other. A husband can't.

That's true. He can't. So just shut up. There's one thing you can take from this podcast. This is the episode. And I only got 15 minutes. I know. We got 15 minutes.

And we got some people watching, Hope. We all know why they're watching we're just going to scroll i'm going to just go right past the first question because we all know you guys want to want to hear the first question okay we'll get back or the second question we're going to roll to the next i only got 16 minutes we all know why you tuned in yep we all know uh-huh okay we're going to cut right to hope. We're going to go straight to it. It's a question that I've gotten.

I can't tell you how many times. It's crazy. But everybody, not everybody, but people want to know about it. Is it a sin to masturbate? That's why you're all tuning in. We all know this. You want to know about it. Is it a sin to masturbate? That's why you're all tuning in. We all know this. You want to hear this question. So I skipped to it.

We'll put the first question on on Friday. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. It's easy for you to just move forward, correct? Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Okay.

I say yes and I say no to this question. Okay. But it's more yes than it is no. And it is a very common question that people have. Because lots of people believe that it's totally okay. But I'm going to tell you why it's not. Okay? Ephesians 5.3 says,

Let there be no sexual immorality, impurity, or greed among you. Such sins have no place among God's people. It clearly says in the word that sexual sin is harmful to one's body. And we're going to get into this on a bigger scale. So 1 Corinthians 6.18 says, run. I'm using all New Living Translations. So if you look at the, I can't point to it. Hold on.

Almost. Nope. Nope. Almost. Nope. Nope. Yes. Hold on.

I can't do it, people. It's not in the right place. Right there. There we go. Wrong hand. Right there. New Living Translation. I had to do it. Once I started, it's going to happen. I there. New learning translation. I had to do it.

Once I started, it's going to happen. I'm not a quitter. I'm going to win. It says run from sexual sin. No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. It's super important when it comes to certain sins, there's different ramifications and different levels.

Obviously like murder. Murder, you're going to go to jail. Like it's not the same as lying. Lying, you'll lose your friend. You'll lose people who trust you. Like lying is huge. And it says there's like seven things the Lord hates. Three of them are lying. He hates a liar. He even says he hates a liar. So jealousy, all those things, the different sins that there are, jealousy has got far different ramifications. It's all equal. Sin is all equal in the eyes of the Lord. But certain sins have different levels of ramifications than others do, right?

So sexual sin is a sin against your own body. So it's bad. Why is that? Because you can get sexually transmitted disease. Homosexuality is reprobate. It's almost to a place where you can't even come back. Okay, different levels of sin or different sins have different ramifications. All equal in the eyes of God and send you straight to the same hell. But you'll pay a higher price in certain things on this earth for them. Colossians 3.5 says, So put to death the sinful earthly things lurking within you. Have nothing to do with sexual immorality, impurity, lust, and evil desires. Don't be greedy, for a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world.

That right there is, that one right there, you need to write that one down. Colossians 3, 5. So put to death. Don't do it. Sinful earthly things lurking within you. So these things are things like that are desires that are within you, right? Having nothing to do with sexual immorality, impurity, lust, and evil desires. Do you understand all four of those things are basically sexual sin? Don't be greedy, for a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world. In biblical terms, idolater is also like I just taught on Thursday night. Idolater was also considered to be an adulterer, because anything that takes your love away from the Lord,

you're committing adultery against him. We are the bride of Christ, right? 1 Thessalonians 4, 3-4 says, God's will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin. It didn't say there's one sexual sin, all sexual sin. Then each of you will control his own body and live in holiness and honor. We are to be holy as he is holy. Okay, so let me just tell you this.

Masturbation. When you masturbate, you're either lusting over something that you are looking at, thinking on. Pornography is also lust of the eyes, but it's like you can go to the beach and, I mean, I hate to say this, but there are places at the beach you can go and hide and then be looking at people as they're walking by. It's sad but true, but it is true. So, and let me just say this if you're married

masturbation will affect your marital life it does um let's see what um the bible says about that first corinthians 7 2 through 5 this is referencing a married couple, okay, and your responsibility to one another. But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman should have her own husband. The husband should fulfill his wife's sexual needs and the wife should fulfill her husband's needs. If you're masturbating, wife, then you're not going to have a desire for your husband. Husband, if you're masturbating, your sexual desire're not going to have a desire for your husband. Husband, if you're masturbating, your sexual desire is going to be less for your wife. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. You're not

your own anymore. You are to share each other. Do not deprive each other of sexual relations unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. That would be referring to if you decide fasting and praying, there's a need or something that you feel like you're supposed to be focusing on that time, that limited time is okay for you to fast and pray and be focused on that one thing with the Lord. But then after that, it's not supposed to be a long period of time. It says to refrain for a limited time.

It doesn't say for a long time. It's a limited time frame. Okay? Then you get back on it. You know, you don't continue to refrain. Afterwards, you should come together again so that Satan won't be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control. It's true.

If you deprive one another from sex, somebody is going to have a problem. Normally, it's the woman who doesn't have the higher sex drive, and she's refraining from her husband, and so she's not meeting his needs. But I will tell you that that's not always the case. I mean, I've literally known women that, and I'm not saying one woman, I'm saying women, plural. Like you would say, well, that's just a one-off. No, no, I'm not saying it's a one-off. I'm telling you, I know of women that husbands have no interest whatsoever in sex. They're beautiful women. There's no reason that their husband wouldn't want to have sex with them outside of masturbation, pornography, or he's doing it somewhere or somehow. Or he has no sex drive. Why does he have no sex drive? Because I'm about to show you and to tell you why that happens.

It happens more with men when I show you this because there's erectile dysfunction. Okay? Women can still perform. Men have issues, though. Okay, so we're going to look at some negative side effects. Because when you look at pornography too much, when you have sexual fantasies in your mind too much, listen, the opposite sex, like pornography, no woman or man is going to be able to compete with that. If you look at pornography over a long period of time. Women, if you look at pornography too long,

the man is probably not going to measure up to that. It's not real. Women, men, if you look at pornography for far too long, like normal sex is not going to be what you picture it as. And you're not going to be able to perform because no woman will measure up to what is videoed, right? The stuff that it's a film. It's not even actual factual. It's not real. You will not be able to do it or be able to sexually function because of it. It happens. I'm going to show you.

Matthew 5, 28, and the New King James Version says, But I say to you, whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery in his heart. Pornography is a sin. You're going to be lusting when you're looking at pornography, woman or man, okay? And at the end of the day, whether you're married or single, porn is a sin. If you go to the beach and you're eyeing women, I just went to the flippin' Five Guys to pick up my husband dinner last week. Five Guys, A girl is in a netted outfit, a netted cover-up. She had been to the beach with her little boy who was probably eight years old. She has a thong on. She goes into the flippin' five guys. Her boobs are hanging out of this bikini and she's got a

thong on. Who in their right mind? What are you flippin flipping thinking? Like, ho to the max. Oh my gosh, it ticked me off. What do you think you're doing to men? Men are visual creatures. Women, you sit there and go, I'm not an object. Then quit acting like you're an object. Watch what you wear. When your boobs are hanging out, you are saying, look at me. I'm an object.

And then you get offended by men actually looking at you in a lustful way. You're offended. You're like, they should love God more than that. I should be able to wear whatever I want and they not look at me. Bull crap. Come on. You're not right. You're not right.

I'm sorry. That is the, I hate when I hear women like wear something too short or something too low cut. And then they get offended because someone comes up to them, whether it be a male or female and says, that's not appropriate. Right? Not that I do that. Cause I don't do that. I'm like, God, that's your business. But then they get offended and they say, that's not appropriate. And they're like, well, your husband should keep his eyes on his head. How about you be modest like the word of God says? Quit revealing yourself.

How about that? If you're wearing something like nobody needs to see every line in your pants. Be modest. You don't need to wear the tightest of clothes. Like ones that are far too small. Okay, they're saying, you don't know that. Yes.

Amen. Preach. Wear something that is fitting, but you don't need to wear something that's too small. There's a difference. I'm not saying be Amish. What I am saying is be considerate of men. That's all I'm saying.

But a lot of times it's not just porn. There's sexual fantasies that people live out in their mind. They like, well, there are people, lust of the flesh is still a sin, right? There are people, like if you think that it's okay when you're being intimate with your spouse and you're thinking of another person, you are wrong. That's not right. It's wrong. You are too. When you married that person, they are it for the rest of your life. And if you're not capable of that, then don't get married. Don't get married. Let's like Paul said, you know, it's better to be single.

That doesn't mean that that means that you can still not get married and fantasize about other women. You're still sinning. You'll still sin. But when you marry somebody, be respectful of the person and honor them. And God will judge you. He knows what you're thinking. That person is the person for the rest of your life. You don't fantasize about somebody else. I feel like Dr. What's-her-name? Yeah, what is her name? What's that little short Jewish woman who taught about sex? God bless her.

What was her name? This is dangerous. Yeah, no, I can't. Are you looking it up for me? I'm trying. Okay. When you tell me. Okay. But you can tell me later. I can't. Are you looking it up for me? I'm trying. Okay. When you tell me. Okay.

But you can tell me later. You can tell me whenever you find it. Sex talk or sex? I can't remember. It's dangerous. Let me talk about masturbation. So self-gratification, it can lead to long-term use of erectile dysfunction, decreased libido, higher interest in pornography than sexual contact with real partners, lower sexual and relationship satisfaction. So that's

self-explanatory. I'm not going to explain sex on this thing, but if you don't understand long-term use of erectile dysfunction, you'll lose self-gratification. Masturbation can lead to long-term use with erectile dysfunction, decreased libido, higher interest in pornography than sexual contact with real partners, lower sexual and relationship satisfaction. Now, women, their husbands are no longer being intimate with them. It's one of those four things because masturbation has done that to them.

And they may say, well, I don't look at porn or things like that. Well, you might not look at it anymore, but you've ruined yourself. Now your spouse is no longer satisfying to you because it's very clear, lower sexual and relationship satisfaction. So you can't even perform because of what you've done. And I would say to you, you need to start praying. If you're a male, you need to start praying over that, and you need healing for that.

It's not cool. People think that women aren't really sexual creatures. You know what I say to that? Bull crap. Bull crap. We are. Hey, Norma, who is that? I can't remember if he's a singer or if he's an actor. He says he doesn't need a woman anymore because pornography and masturbation is totally...

Dave Matthews? Is Dave Matthews a Christian? No. I think it's Dave Matthews. I think it was probably Tommy that told me. There is this Christian artist. He's a huge Christian artist. He's like, I don't need a woman.

As long as I got porn and I can satisfy myself. And so he's not even interested. That's what porn will do to you. We have the name. Dr. Ruth. Dr. Ruth. Thank you, Chrissy. Thank you. Dr. Ruth. Thank you, Chrissy. Thank you.

And everybody else. Thank you, Chrissy. Dr. Ruth. I am not her. Yeah. Thank you, God. I'm going to keep reading to you because I have great statistics, but I don't have these things memorized, and so I'm not going to pretend that I do.

Pornography hurts adults, children, couples, families, and society. Among adolescents, pornography hinders the development of healthy sexuality. And among adults, it distorts sexual attitudes and social realities. In families, pornography use leads to marital dissatisfaction, infidelity, separation, and divorce. That is true. And I'm going to tell you why. But we're going to keep going. Okay, we're going to look at the following statistics.

Put that thing up there for me. So every day, 37 pornographic videos are created in the United States. 37 pornographic videos are created in the United States every day. 2.5 billion emails containing porn are sent or received. It's big business, people. 68 and Christians have no business. No business. Your children, you should have blockers on their phones. Children have no business. Like I say, like once your kid turns 18 and stuff like that, they're responsible for themselves, right? They may live in your home. and if you find out about it then you're gonna have to set the set the stage to make rules and stuff like that but

I'm just saying to you like if your kid is 18 or 17 and younger you should know what's on their phone ultimate and Norma just said uh-huh because she knows like kids she knows kids I mean tell you is that correct you guys they they know what my kids were. My kids didn't go to high school. But hello. I mean, they're not stupid. My son and my daughter have been quite honest with this. Like, you could go on Twitter and see porn, which I did not know.

My husband confirmed it. Like, and he's big on what your eyes see. He is diligent. Because of pornography in his past, he's big on what your eyes see. He's like, he is diligent. Because of pornography in his past, he is diligent on not allowing it to even be. 68 million search queries related to pornography. 25% of total searches are generated. 25%. That's insane.

Insanity. 68 million search queries every day. This is not like a year. This is every single day. And people who say, men who say that, or women who say that they're not doing, that they're not intimate with their spouse. Men or women, but it's not pornography. I doubt that.

I doubt that. I want to see the phone. I want to see the phone. I want to see the computer. I do. Huh? Yeah. 100%. If you have locks on your phone and you don't let your wife know

or your husband know what's on there, if you delete texts and you don't keep them, I found out a lot through this. Like if you delete all your text messages and stuff like that, something ain't right. If you have a code that you won't let your wife or husband see, something ain't right. Phone or computer, something's not right.

And wives and husbands, don't fall for the lie that they are saying to you. I know you want to believe them because you don't want to find out the truth because the truth might hurt. Find out the truth. It could probably save your marriage. 116,000 queries related to child pornography are received. Child porn. It's disgusting. When a woman's body no longer satisfies you, and you have to because perversion is layered, eventually normalcy will no longer be normal. And you will have to keep going deeper and deeper and deeper into porn until it gets so depraved.

But there are reasons why a woman's body no longer satisfies a man and he can't function. It's because he's now going to child porn. About 200,000 Americans are classified as porn addicts. 200,000 Americans. It's really more than that. It's really more than that. Oh, yeah. 100%.

I have 2.5 billion emails. It's really more than that. Yeah. 100%. But at least 2.5 billion emails it's really important yeah 100 but at least 200 000 people are willing to be honest yeah yeah 40 million american people regularly visit porn sites 35 of all internet downloads let me do it this way uh 40 million people like let's see 40 million american people regularly visit porn sites 35 of all internet downloads are related to pornography 35 that is insanity 34 of internet users have experienced unwanted exposure to pornographic content through ads pop-up ads misdirected links or. My kids will tell you that's true,

as well as myself. I literally looked up one time, I looked up Cain and Abel, and I saw two men on images, Cain and Abel. That's all I typed in. Yeah, it's got to be higher than 34%. And that's what came up. Because for children's church, I was teaching on Cain and Abel, and I did Cain and Abel images, and there was Cain and Abel in a position that I cared not to see. One-third of porn viewers are women. Interesting. So it's more men than women.

What, Norma? We're still less, Norma said. So let's look at how internet pornography uh usage hurts teens because this is staggering it this is staggering we are going to destroy teenagers will go into marriage and be so distorted on what they believe sexual intimacy is like and what marriage is like before they walk in. My son has said this. He said, and he has never looked at porn ever, and he will flat out. He is not embarrassed to say, I've never looked at porn.

And Tom told him, you look at it once, and you will have a hard time never looking at it again. Don't open the door. But he has said, because he's studied it out, that's one of the reasons why he won't look at it. He's like, it's bad. It's bad. People don't understand the door they are opening when they look at it. But he's like, you'll never, like your wife,

how is it possible for these kids who have been looking at it from such a young age because of phones? Like, how is it going to be for them with their marriages? They're going to go cycle through women. That's what's going to happen. Divorce rates will increase as these children that have been looking at it at such a young age. They'll never, because new. Men want new to begin with. Then you add in that they've grown up looking at porn. It's even worse. at such a young age. They'll never, because new. Men want new to begin with.

Then you add in that they've grown up looking at porn. It's even worse. So it increases the odds of teenage pregnancy. Teenagers with frequent exposure to sexual content on TV have a substantially greater likelihood of teen pregnancy, and the likelihood of teen pregnancy was twice as high when the quantity of sexual content exposure within the viewing episode was high. It hinders sexual development. Pornography viewing by teens disorients them during the developmental phase.

And when they have to learn how to handle their sexuality and when they are most vulnerable to uncertainty about their sexual beliefs, homosexuality here, listen to uncertainty about their sexual beliefs. Homosexuality here. Listen to this. And moral values. So read this again. So when kids are trying to figure out, everybody, I don't care what they say. People will, I don't care who they are. Everybody at some point in time looks at them and says, I like, like for me, I remember I was really young and I didn't know about being gay or anything like that.

But I was like, I like boys, right? I don't like girls. Girls are gross. I like boys. Everybody goes through a period of time where they're like learning about themselves, sexually, everything. You're learning about yourself. That's where the spirit of confusion comes in and the devil has a foothold. When we do not guard our children's heart and guide through this process, or we put them in a position where they've been molested

because we weren't careful who we had our children around and sometimes it happens and you have no control over it okay i get that we can only do so much but at the same time on the whole um we need to be really careful about who we have our children around and what they're allowed who they're around all of you post of your children? Can I just, the parents that think it's really cute to post their kids in little uniforms, outfits. Be careful what you post of your children. You're putting it out there. Whether you think you're a private Facebooker or not, there are people who can see those photos. And they'll start, like, fantasizing about your children and it's disgusting

oh it is careful about what you put out for people to see when you have kids and watch what they're posting like yeah if you're a mama and your your child's doing tick tock dances and posting them online like think again think about who's watching it oh yeah, yeah. It's scary. It is scary. It is scary. And some of the outfits that, like, there are certain, like, I wouldn't let Norma do dance when she was very young. She was only allowed to do Irish dance. Do you know why? Because the Irish dance outfits were the most proper. And she was a really good Irish dancer, But I'm just saying they were proper.

Most dance studios, the outfits that they have those girls in are so inappropriate. And then they have them up on stage at like the recitals. Twerking. And jiving and jerking. Oh, gosh. It's just so inappropriate. You have no idea who's in that audience. It's true.

And they're videotaping. You have no idea. It's that audience. It's true. And they're videotaping. You have no idea. It's online. It's terrible. Yeah. So remember this. Pornography viewing by teens disorients them during the developmental phase, when they have to learn how to handle their sexuality and when they are most

vulnerable to uncertainty about their sexual beliefs and moral values. So homosexuality, I do know, listen, I do know of people whose children are homosexuals, and it's not one. I wish I could say it's only been one, but I know of multiple kids who are parents who have children that are homosexuals, and their kids viewed pornography at a young age of the same sex. It turned them on. They thought they were gay. And now they live a gay lifestyle. Just because when you're younger, you have like an ooey gooey feeling. If you watch something with same sex, that doesn't mean you're gay.

Yeah. Okay. It doesn't mean that. Right. It means you're an idiot. And like you're just, you don't understand all these feelings and emotions that your body is experiencing. It doesn't mean anything. I didn't allow my kids to date until they're 18.

Why is that? Because it's an adult activity. Sexual relationship should never be viewed by a child, by anyone. It's an activity that should be held by a husband and a wife. And when we make it be something that everyone can see. You don't have to be married to experience it. It can be for everyone. We take something that is supposed to be so, it's a covenant between a man and a woman. And we make it be something that it's not.

And this is what we get because we do it. Perversion at an all-time level. Perversion between a husband and a wife or same sex or man and woman. There's perversion to it. It raises the risk of depression. A significant relationship also exists among teens between frequent pornography use and feelings of loneliness, including major depression. So it causes depression. It creates distorted expectations, which hinder healthy sexual development. Adolescents exposed to high levels of pornography have lower levels of sexual self-esteem.

Who can measure up to that? Nobody can measure up to it. It's not real, people. It's not real. It's like Batman. Batman's not real. Okay, we all know that. Pornography is not real it's like Batman Batman's not real okay we all know that porn our pornography is not real it's the same it's just crazy to me and here's the thing family marital pornography stats I'm gonna share this

with you too if you're married and for your family know know this. It's a big deal. According to National Coalition for the Protection of Children and Families, 2010, 40, this is 2010. It's worse now. 47% of families in the United States reported that pornography is a problem in their home. That's almost 50%. And I'm just saying it's probably over that now because we're 14, almost 14 years later. Pornography use increases the marital infidelity rate by 300%. 300%. Okay? I'm going to revisit this with scripture.

40% of people identified as sex addicts lose their spouses. 58% suffer considerable financial losses. About 33% lose their spouses. 58% suffer considerable financial losses. About 33% lose their jobs. 68% of divorce cases involve one party meeting a new paramour over the internet, while 56% involve one party having an obsessive interest in pornographic websites. Marital infidelity and porn. So what happened is there's marital infidelity based on porn and the imagination, right?

I'm going to read you this scripture. Because people don't think that, people think they can watch porn. If you're a Christian, you can't. You'll go to hell. That's the truth. It's scriptural. People think you can use your imagination about another person outside of your spouse.

You'll go straight to hell. It's not true. It's lust of the flesh. Same as lust of the eye. Okay? Your imagination is no different. Well, I will, let me rephrase this because I want to, if I don't believe that if your spouse, male or female, if your spouse looks at porn, you have the right to get a divorce.

I know that the scripture says, lust of the eye is the same as lust of the flesh. I do understand that. But I believe, personally, and I know I'm saying I believe, but there's no physical act when you look at porn. There is a physical act of you sexually crossing a line and committing adultery physically with another human being. That's my personal opinion. I will never tell somebody that a husband's wife, the wife's addicted to pornography, I will not tell that husband you can get a divorce.

Now, they can choose to do it if they want to. I mean, it's just my opinion. But I would never advise anybody whose spouse looks at porn to say that's the same as committing physical adultery. But I think it will lead to physical adultery because James 1, 14 through 15 says, but each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Porn will do that to you. Fantasizing about another person will do that to you. Then when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin and sin when is full grown brings forth

death. You plant that seed, it's coming up. Your wife will no longer satisfy you. Let's just say, let's just say like, I'll say this, the sheriff's office is a, probably Logan will agree with this. Cops are the world's worst with being faithful. They have a very high divorce rate. I'm just saying like they hook up left and right with one another all day long. Egos are high. It's ridiculous. If you watch porn, eventually you'll be stimulated by another person. And you have just the right attractive individual start talking to you, complimenting you, making you feel good about yourself. Then the fantasy, when you're with your significant other, will be about that person who is complimenting you, making you feel good about yourself. Now you're fantasizing about them

while you're with your significant other, right? Your marriage partner. That will no longer do it because you'll continue to flirt. You'll continue to do all these things, crossing lines that you have no business crossing with, with the opposite sex. And then eventually, flirting won't do it anymore. And now the physical starts

to play. It all comes from a seed. It all starts with the seed. And you can plant good fruit or you can plant bad fruit, but something's coming up. Something's coming up. So you think you can handle porn. I watch porn with my husband. I watch porn with my, my husband. I watch porn with my wife. Okay. You're fantasizing. You're both looking at two people that you're not married to. You're looking at people have sex. It could be two women that arouse both of you. It could be two men. It could be a man and a woman arouse you. It could be a threesome. I don't care. I don't care that you and your spouse are looking at it together. Lest of the eye, it's a sin. That's not allowed. Bad seed. Adultery is going to happen. You plant a seed,

adultery is going to happen. Something's going to come up. That's just the way it is. And I'm just telling you, one way or the other, hell's coming. It is. Because it's the devil's work. It really, really is. Marriages are destroyed. Marriages are destroyed over pornography. Because it's not just, you can look but not touch. Okay?

That's never going to be where it ends. And I'm not saying it could be adultery. Some guys can just look at pornography. But here's the thing. It's not going to end because when he sees a girl on the beach and you're sitting next to him and he decides to disrespect you by looking at that female, you're going to be teed off. Okay, now there's a problem between you and your, you said I could look as long as I don't touch. You just respect. Like there's no respect for the spouse. Do you know what I'm saying, girls? Oh, yeah.

This is good. It doesn't end. It doesn't. And then it does come into your marriage. You think, well, he's just looking at it in the house, so it's not a big deal. Until he can't get it up. Because you don't supply the need anymore

for what he's actually seeing. It's a big deal. Yeah. Okay. I've gone way over. Sorry, people. But that wasn't going to be a question answered in 15 minutes. Yeah, no, that was good. And I don't really think anybody wanted it to be answered in 15 minutes. But if you think it's okay, it ain't okay okay okay you know what that's from yes but i can't think of it okay is it in living color oh maybe maybe jare said it to me i don't know those old movies i'm so young okay i think it's in living color i'm sure. If you've never watched that show, that's pretty dang funny. It's the 80s. Yeah, see?

I'm too young for that. It's 80s or 90s. Yeah. I think it was, forget about it. It doesn't really matter. I'm 20 minutes over. We're going to just stop where we're at right now. Listen, if you need to make a fresh start, if what I just talked about

hit you like hard, and if porn is in your life, listen, you need to get your life right with God. You can do it right now, or you can do it in the privacy of your home, whatever. But I'm just saying, wherever you're at, you can do it wherever you're at. But I'm just saying if porn is in your life, if lusting over the opposite sex is in your life, you need to fix that. It is as serious as heaven. It is eternal. It is not something you play with. It's not funny. It's not a joke. I know people try and laugh things off to make it be okay. Like, that's not okay. And it is such a big deal. It can affect the outcome of the rest of your life on this earth. Like, if you love your family and if you love your spouse, think about it this way.

If you continue on, that could be gone. It's no different than somebody who is a drug addict, an alcoholic, somebody who gambles too much. Eventually, the people that you love, your family, they're only going to put up with your nonsense for so long, and they're going to be like, get out. We're not dealing with it. Do I agree that people should get divorced over that? No, I don't. It's not in the word. But do people do it? Yeah, all the time. People divorce people all the time because they're sick

of living with a drunk and they're sick and tired of living with somebody who's on drugs and stealing from them. Okay? Same with porn. Women love to feel like they're important, that they're beautiful, and we need intimacy. I don't care who you are and you think that your wife doesn't. I'm just telling you, turn yourselves on.

You're going to get three opinions from three married women, me being one of them. If my husband never touched me in the bedroom, I would not be as solid in my, in my confidence in my relationship with him. That's one of the ways that I know that I'm number one, like that intimate time. Can I carry on and could I be a solid Christian woman and be a very confident? Yeah, heck yeah, I can. But in my relationship with him, it's a must. It's a must. Yes, absolutely.

Yeah. Men don't think women really care about it or we're blowing smoke. We 100%. Logan? Yeah. Yeah. Pregnancy is kind of tough. It's a little different, but still. But yeah, no, no, no, no.

He's still keeping my confidence up. Yeah. I appreciate that. Yeah, because when you're gaining weight and stuff, it's tough. Like it's different. It's totally different. Like I, when I was pregnant, I was like, please don't look at me. I just did not. I did not feel pretty. And he thought it was the most beautiful

thing on the face that he's like, I did that. It's beautiful. I love it. And I was like, yuck. But men look at it totally different than women. They really do. So men, if you're not performing in the bedroom or if you're infrequent, like you need to know the damage you're doing to your marriage is monumental. It is monumental. And you are crushing your wife and you're crushing her spirit. It is that big of a deal. And women, like if you're doing that to your spouse, your husband, listen, men have to have it.

And then when he looks at somebody else and you get so mad and offended, you have no right. No right whatsoever. You've created that. He's going to still answer to God because we are all responsible for how we respond to whatever comes our way. But I'm just saying to you, shame on you because we should be everything. We should be the eye candy for our spouse. They are visual creatures.

We should care about how we look. We should care about how we carry ourselves. But we should care about making sure that they are satisfied in the bedroom. And if you're not, fix it today. You can do it. Fix it today. If you need Jesus, if you need to repent, if this speaks volumes to you, here's your opportunity. Say this prayer with me. Heavenly Father, I come to you right now. I thank you for what you did on the cross. I thank you for the forgiveness of sin, of all my sins. I give my life to you.

I ask you to forgive me, restore me. I will live for you forever. I will do what you say to do. I will not do what you say not to do and Father give me the plan and purpose that you have for my life and I will live it out from this day forward in Jesus mighty name we pray amen

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