The Hope Hotline - The Hope Hotline | S01-E79 | 10-18-23

Episode Date: October 18, 2023

The Hope Hotline | S01-E79 | 10-18-23

Real talk. Real talk. Real talk. Real talk. Hello and welcome to Wednesday's podcast of the Hope Hotline. That sounds super official. I'm moving this out of the way. I'm done with that. So today's a little bit of a different day. It's a good day. It's not, I'm like, not, I don't have a, I have questions, but not the normal questions today.

There's, I don't even think there's one scripture verse with today. Nope. Tracy, did you have to do one scripture verse? Nope, not even one. I didn't think so. Not even one. So it's a very different day. I think it's actually interesting, a couple of the questions,

and it's been interesting to find out the answers, so that's pretty cool. Let's hop right on into into it i can't talk let's hop right on into it tracy oh my new mic stand yes i look like i look like my husband yeah this is way easier people i know this is way easier it's a little bit more dangerous yeah that's true like this is like it goes like this, guys. Like, if I need to do some papows, and I don't need my mic in the way, this thing's perfect for it. Whereas before, how did that mic go? It, like, hung over.

It was very complicated and very much in my way. So, we went the easy route. Thank you, Aaron Yeager, for installing this. He did that for me last night, and it just came in. So I love you for that. He's always up for the challenge. This is like nothing for him. I know.

He already has done two. I've got one too. This is like nothing for him. So I love you for that, young man. Let's go right into tell people what to do because you were going to add some. Did you do the extra things like you had suggested? I do. I do.

God bless. Go ahead. Remember, this is what we're going to do. We're going to like and share and subscribe on Facebook, Rumble, and YouTube. On Rumble, you can't share, but you can take the link and share the link as always. Same with Black Rope. You can comment on all of those things, which is amazing. Obviously, like when you're commenting, stay on topic with us.

If you're watching the replay or you're watching from the beginning, just understand that we might not know what you're saying. So if you kind of comment something and explain what you're saying, that helps Logan or me be able to know kind of what you're talking about. Sometimes that helps us. Okay, so we're going to have like a 30 second tech, Tracy's tech learning session. So in Facebook, what I'm going to have you do is there are those three dots underneath the search. And when you click on those three dots, this is going to pop up and it's going to say that you can follow and like as your page. So this is me. So that's what it says. So you're going to like it and you're going to click the follow.

And when you click the follow, this is what's going to pop up. So if you're not getting notifications for the whole pot line on Facebook, these are your options. If you have it as default, you are only gonna see some of them. If you click it as favorites, you're gonna see them higher in your newsfeed and it's gonna show up more often. So we suggest clicking the favorite.

Next, you can click on that and it will ask you if you wanna do standard, highlight, or off. So if you click standard, that means basically we never do more than five posts a day. So you'll just see every post that we post and it'll show up in your notifications. And if something like if we're doing something special or whatever and you are not catching it in the news feed, this will help it be where it's supposed to be.

Next, the video notification. So that one, let me go back real quick. That's the post notification. This one's videos. So if we do any kind of video, not necessarily live, but any video, if you have all notifications turned on, guess what? You're going to see it. Next, live notification.

So this is the one that we really want you guys to have turned on. Have all notifications turned on. This live will just pop up and it'll let you know we're live. And if you're not a Facebook fan, but you get notifications on your phone, you can hop over to Rumble or Blackrobe or wherever. You don't have to stay on Facebook, but this is a great reminder. And then lastly, this is kind of what it looks like

once you pop out of all of those little side ones. So as you can see, like content, or content, sorry, was standard. Video, all notifications, live. So all of them should say all, or this one was the standard one and you can turn on the offers. I'm not sure what our plan is with that, but if you have it turned on and we figure out a way to do like limited time, like, I don't know if we're doing

our merch or whatever. If you have that turned on, you'll be ahead of the game and you will be able to follow along with whatever crazy stuff we end up doing. So those are the never do that. I'm looking at that going, I don't even know what the heck you're talking. Yeah. So my goal is I'm going to clip that what I just said, and I'm going to put that as a little video. So if you have to follow along, or if that's like too complicated, you can always reach out to us too. And I can kind of help you along. But the three dots, if you click on that and play with those notifications, it will come up and you can kind of figure out, even if you just click the live one. So I'm going to go back to that one real quick. Okay. Which is, this is awesome because with Tom's podcast, like you, I was saying how this

would be great for people because of Tom's podcast, lots of people say, hey, my notifications didn't work or whatever. But like I set alarms on my phone all the time. Me too. I have an alarm set for everything. Right. Yeah. But if you're a Facebooker, use it to not stay on Facebook. Go to straight Rumble.

Right. Because Rumble doesn't have this. Right. Like I don't think Rumble does notifications. So let's use and abuse Facebook like they try and do to us. Let's use and abuse them and then use that notifications to go right on over to Rumble. Right. And a lot of people don't have their notifications turned on.

If they're on Rumble, like on your phone, Facebook will pop up and say, hey, like, Potline's live today like it did for me. So, yeah. And then we have our merch. Do you want me to go over to that? Please. Okay. I feel like this microphone's in my face. It's supposed to be, you're supposed to be like eating it. Isn't that like a singing thing? I don't want to eat the microphone. Okay. All right. Well, we got our mugs and they are available just like it says available foundation at foundationchurchfl.com. And you can click shop and they are in there. Also, as always, the QR code is right there.

And then we've got our shirt, UBU t-shirt. Again, same thing. You can go to foundationchurchfl.com and click shop. It's all in the same shop. And the QR code always works. You just open up your camera and point it like you're going to take a picture and it will read the QR code and the link will pop up and then you'll just click on the link. And then last but not least, our newest addition is our multi-purpose spoon. There you go. So again, fine dining, fine dining spoon.

The QR code will bring you right to the spoon each one brings you right where it's supposed to go and then again there's the link and you click shop and it will be right there i think it's actually the first one when you click on shop so it should not be very challenging to find i see i recognize that tiny hand holding it you do know that tiny hand like that little tiny that's not's not a tiny, I mean, that's Norma's hand. She's got the tiniest hands, but I'm like that tiny hand. How does it have like it's nails done? That's like childlike. What's the childlike hand got their nails like an adult. That would be Norma's childlike hands. That is Norma. No, thank you. She had beautiful

nails that day. So I was like, come here, girl. She needs to be in a circus or something. Her hand is so tiny. It's freakishly small for a person. She's special. She's a special girl. Like she used to be a sideshow. Oh my gosh. Some people got beards. She's got weird hands.

Go ahead. All right. And last but not least, send in your questions. Ask Hope at thehopehotline.com. We love hearing from you guys. And you always come up with really great questions. Yeah. So that is that.

I love that. Yeah. Perfect, perfect. I love it. Now, I think, oh, you know what? I was going to go right into the first question, but I just remembered. Now, if you're not an Instagram follower of mine or a Facebook follower, I didn't put it on Facebook. But Instagram, like go to my social media and like be friends with me or whatever.

I won't even know to do that with you. But just go on there and what is it? Follow? Yeah. Whatever. I don't know social media people. You're learning. I fumble my way through it you're learning

but but tracy is yeah tracy's she's learning me yeah so you're doing great um so here's the thing like i do post on stories and stuff like that i don't do it maybe once a week yeah something maybe sometimes more than that i don't know know. But I will tell you this. Put that post up for me. I posted this on my story on Monday. I think so. Yeah. Yesterday. Yeah. What's today? Wednesday? It was Monday. It wasn't yesterday because it came off yesterday. So I posted this and it says, young men, if you choose the wrong woman, you are sacrificing your goals for a life spent managing her problems that she refuses to fix. The right woman will augment your life goals. She'll be a jet engine strapped to your back that pushes you ahead even faster. Choose wisely.

Okay, I posted that on my story. And I tell you this, I've never had such a response as I have ever had. Now that post, I was going through my, you can put back on me, I literally found that post from going through my phone because my phone, I was deleting a lot of pictures and stuff like that so I was going through them individually because I've actually deleted stuff that I really needed by just thinking that I knew what I was looking at on that little square and it ended up being something important and then I can't get back so what I did is I went through each one and I found

that thing from like three years ago that post was in my thing from like three years ago. That post was in my photos from like three years ago. Now I'll tell you this. I know why I remembered this post. I'm looking at Vanessa because Vanessa will know exactly what I'm talking about. Vanessa has been with me for a really long time. So that post, when I, when I saw that, I don't know where it was. It was probably on Facebook because I just got on Instagram sometime this year, right? Didn't I get on it this year? I had been on it, but I never used the account. Right, right, right. Yeah, it's like this year with the whole pot line.

That's when I did it. So I probably found that somewhere on Facebook, and it rang true for me. And this message is for guys, but it's mostly for women. Okay. That post was meant for men. But really, for me, it spoke volumes for women. And the reason when I saw that, I have seen so many men make bad choices. Like women don't go and ask men to marry them. Men go and ask women to marry them.

So as a woman, you need to be a prize for a great guy, a godly man to pick. I mean, truthfully, God's going to pick that man's mate all right and so be that person that should be picked but when I saw that post it reminded me of this young man that I knew and I've seen this more than once but this one stands out to me so much there's a young man that I knew who was called into ministry. He was so strong in the Lord. He was like my husband as far as took some big stands, was not afraid to speak the truth. And sometimes because he was so young when he spoke the truth, it really wasn't in love. It was more like passionate about his walk with God. So his passion and his holiness for the Lord sometimes overrode the speaking the truth with love

because he would hurt people's feelings. But he was so dogmatic for honoring God and making sure others were honoring him. Then he met a girl. You know who I'm talking about? You think you do. Then he met a girl. You know who I'm talking about? You think you do. Then he met a girl, and this girl is a Jezebel, full-fledged Jezebel. And now because he picked the wrong woman, I even remember asking him,

are you sure? Everybody told him don't marry her. She was a Christian. And everybody I know, like, they didn't have friends. He was a guy that everybody liked. Everybody enjoyed being around. Funny as all get out, like, just such a great person to have at a gathering. Like, you look forward to him when he walked in the door, right?

And then he met her. And then you were like, dear Lord, you brought her. Because she was awful. So he went from being somebody that had all kinds of friends, everybody enjoyed, to having no friends and no one wanted to be around. And yet he knew all of this and they fought like cats and dogs as they were dating and he still married her. He is not in ministry and he is nothing that God called him to be. And I know he was called in ministry. The Holy Spirit told me he was. And

he told me he was, which I confirmed to him that he was. I wasn't the only one that told me he was going to be in ministry, though. That would be a false statement to make it sound like I'm the only one. No. I think several people, and even at a young age, if you didn't see that this guy was called into ministry, now he still is, because your gifts and your callings are irrevocable. But not with that Jezebel. Nobody's going to follow him. Nobody wants to be. Nobody would attend his church.

They'd have to deal with her. And God knows who wants to do that. She's a horrible human being. She's a horrible. So that post right there is accurate guy. If God's called you to business, if he's called you to whatever he's called you to ministry, whatever, you better make sure that the woman you strap yourself with is one that propels you, not one that takes you backwards. What's so funny about that? I told Tracy, what's so funny about this post is like I've

never had so many people either put heart, fire, or clapping hands ever on a post that I've done, never. You know what? The women that, I had women who put fire. I had women who put clapping hands. And I had women who put, more women than men responded to this. All the women that responded to it are actually women that actually do what this post said. They all did it.

I was like, the reason you like this is because you actually understand this post and you actually understand what God expects us as women to do. It was crazy. And the men that posted something, the men that liked it or put clapping, like I will say Tracy's husband, Jer, he put fire. You know why? Because that's what Tracy does for him. Like me and Tracy were talking like, um, Tom makes, Tom makes fun of it, but he's dead serious. Like there have been times Tom wanted to quit and I would not allow him to quit. I was like, no. And I reminded him who he was in Christ, the calling that he had on his life,

and the ramifications of not fulfilling what God has for you. And we did this even when he was with the sheriff's department. It's super important. Tracy even said that she's had to do the same thing for Jare. Like, she's had to be. Like, I told Tom the other day, I'm like, I'm your Aaron. I hold your hands up you know that's my job my job is and it wasn't in response to this post it was like we were talking about our roles

and things like that and like if I'm not around like it's for even if I go away for a period of time like I'm like I know that holding his arms up is super important and no one can do it like me. Right. Same thing with Tracy. Tracy and I were just talking about this. She's had to do the same thing for Jer. Vanessa, Vanessa's had to hold down the fort. Her husband is a businessman. Jer's a businessman, but he's also in ministry. Vanessa's husband, businessman, also in ministry. Like we as women, like Jeff, Vanessa's husband, has said the reason he's been so successful is because Vanessa is the driving force behind it. She keeps things together.

Again, the scripture is very clear. Women, we are the cornerstone of our home. You can either be the cornerstone or you can be the shack. You can make the house like barely hanging on so that it falls apart and the husband comes home and he has to hold it together and so I just found that um found that post to be so like it literally made me think I when I posted it I was it was just a reminder like I thought of that guy when I posted it. Yeah.

I thought of him and I thought how many guys have made this mistake. Right. And they're living in hell. Yeah. Because they know they're supposed to be doing something else and they are not doing it. So my thing was is, and I don't have a lot of guys that follow me or even so I'm like, eh, probably nobody's really going to see it. But women will.

Yeah. And women need to know. Women, you are powerful. And you have the ability to make that man. That's the one thing I remember, the only book that I ever read that Tom made me read that I ever remember anything on, except for temperatures, like husbands and wives fight about the thermostat. But the only other thing was is that I have the ability to make Tom believe that he can accomplish nothing.

Or I can make him believe that there is nothing that he can't accomplish. He is unstoppable. And women, because of their egos, so frail, we hold a lot of power with how we support and back our husbands. And it's funny because even women, like there's a couple women that I know that loved it and their husbands, like right now, they're the priests of the home because their husbands won't take the mantle. But they are doing everything in their power

to get the husband to be the mantle. Like that's not how they want things to be. So even though, even though these women don't live that now, that's what they long for. That's what they're hoping for. And they're actually trying to support and get their husband to that level. It's so crazy how there are certain women who get it.

And then there are certain women that, no, it's not going to work. So men be very, very careful, be very careful, careful who you choose. And women, be somebody who's choose-worthy. We have so much strength.

Do you guys have anything to add to that? I was thinking to myself, it's going to stink because Vanessa's not here, and Vanessa is one of the people who has a lot to say about this, especially since Jeff was in ministry, made no money. And you could have easily said, babe, we're barely making it. Please find something else to do. You never did that until he walked away and he was ready to go. You were still like, and listen, this is a true story. They were growing a church so quickly that the church didn't like it. So they asked them to go because they wanted it to stay small.

Oops. Yeah, that's insane to me. Yeah, but that's crazy to me. That's not what church is about, winning the lost, discipling believers. If you're doing that, why would you want it to stay small? But through all of that, you had to transition to him going and starting his own business which makes no money when you first start like years of scraping by knowing god will meet the need but that's rough and so you want to speak to that vanessa because, like literally, the story is so important.

But women, you are powerful. Absolutely. And something that I've learned from you, Hope, is that what I say has a ton of influence on Jeff. And so being very mindful of what I say and what I do because I can influence whether bad or good. Absolutely. And that's something that I've learned from you. Oh, thank you so much. I appreciate that. I really do. I really do. I really appreciate that because I believe that that's super important. I do. I think that words really do matter. And that relationship, like my relationship, which I know is true for you with your husband, and I know it's very true for Tracy, and I believe 100%, even though I don't know Logan as well. I mean, I've only known her for like a year and a half, right?

But what I have seen, like all three of the ladies look at their marriages like I do, which is there will be like, it's very protected. Like I'm very protective of that relationship. And like, I allow nothing to creep into it. So Satan has a great way of, that's why words matter. He has a great way of trying to destroy. And one of the questions is about divorce today. He has a great, he comes to steal, kill and destroy and one of the questions is about divorce today he has a great he comes to steal kill and destroy and words are powerful i mean the world was formed with words right so they're very powerful it says the tongue is life and death so everything that we do there are ramifications or not what we do with what we say there There are ramifications for it. And so you can, again, like build up or tear down. But I choose not to tear down because like I protect that

relationship. And I'm very careful about who speaks into my husband's life. Like, and people don't like it. Gatekeepers are there for a reason. And I don't let just anybody speak into his life. I mean, if you catch him on the side and I'm not around, but if I'm there and you start trying to do something, he might not be the one to say not receiving that. I might be the one that says no, because I know in my spirit what is right and what is wrong, and I'm very careful about that you're not gonna not just anybody gets to um to say and do whatever they want that's not that's not life it's a spiritual

matter right so um Tracy you got anything to add to that but you know what I really I want to go back to you Vanessa really quick because like Tracy so, with Jer, you guys started, he started his own business. You had to support him. But, like, what was that like? Like, how did you, because women will be like, well, how did you do that? He started his own business. Times were tough. How did you not just say, let's throw in the towel.

This ain't working. Like, how did you, like, support him into not giving up and not wanting to quit? Because Tom's doing, like, Tom's starting it when he started the church, he had a job. Like our income was not relied on the church. Your income was relied solely on what he brought in. It's because I had a relationship with God. Yeah.

And I was in tuned with what the Holy Spirit was telling my husband, but also he was telling me the same thing. So I just trusted. I just what the Holy Spirit was telling my husband, but also he was telling me the same thing. So I just trusted, I just trusted the Holy Spirit and what he was saying. And I just never questioned it. Yeah. But what do women do that don't like you had been saved for a long time. There's some women that haven't been saved for long. Like Tracy, you're not going to understand this because you were saved for a while when Jare started his thing. Logan won't understand it because her husband has a regular nine to five like Tom, cop. So it's not like you're having to like start something new then because there's a lot of guys out there that are doing their own businesses.

I mean, we have a lot of business owners in our church and some of them are brand new to it. And some women are brand new to doing it. So how do you, that maybe are new, how do you hear the voice of the Lord? Do you just trust that your gut is that they just knew that the Lord told them to do? I just don't, I don't know that part of it. Cause I know for a long time, I was like, am I really hearing you Lord? Or is this my flesh? And it's not something you can go to the Bible and say, the Lord thus saith, hope, support your husband, because I did tell him to start this job. Do you know what I'm saying? Right.

That doesn't say that. Yeah. I don't know. I don't know how you would do that. I don't know. In all honesty. I trusted the Lord, but I also trusted Jeff. Like, he was such a hustler.

When he was in the world, he was a hustler. And when he was sold out for God, he was also a hustler when he was in the world he was a hustler and when he was sold out for god he was also a hustler and so he i knew he would just not stop until we were ahead and so i think that was also so if the person's not a hustler if a person's not a go-getter maybe that's it though maybe if he wants to start his own business but he's kind of like staying at home most of the day when he should be out there like drumming up the work. Maybe this was him and maybe he didn't want God. He was pounding the sidewalks.

He was at the mall. He was doing the thing. And I just had full confidence in him because he never gave me a reason not to have full confidence in him. Period. And then you couple that with God. just had peace i just i just even when you're scraping the money together for the milk even when i was on even when i when i was on food stamps and my kids were on medicare and we were trying to make it yeah like I just fully trusted that we would be on the other side someday. Yeah.

And now you are. It's crazy because their story is crazy. It's like rags to riches, really. Yeah. Like beyond rags to riches. Like if you look at like where they were, not that what your house size matters. It doesn't matter. That's not what I'm saying. Listen, you can live in a little home and be the happiest thing on the face of the earth and still have more than most, okay? But I'm just saying if you look at financially where they were to financially where you are today. Anything's possible with those who believe.

And it boils down to like reading God's word and then actually believing it. Yeah. And speaking it into existence too. And then being obedient to it. Yeah. Because you guys have been faithful tithers. Yeah. I don't care what anybody says.

If you tithe, it's golden. Yeah. You don't tithe, you're screwed. Yeah. That's all there is to it. I don't care what anybody says. Truth is truth. Go ahead, because I would love to hear what you have to say, Tracy, about Jer.

It's the same. Don't take into effect that he's in this room right now. No, I'll say it now because he's in the room. And he would say it too. Just so happens he walked in when we're talking. I lived with an entrepreneur my entire life. So it's kind of the only life I've known. When I first met Jer.

Oh, yeah, that's right. Because your dad. Yeah, it's all I've known. I forgot about that. That helps too. So when I met Jer, he was talking about either taking over a company when somebody was ready to retire or start his own. And I'm like, you should start your own company.

Like, it's just, that was the, and Jer never gives up. Like he, he might say it and he has, and I'll admit to that. Um, but he won't. So one time he was like, literally like, I'm going to give up. I'm done. I'm over this. Like, I can't, I can't keep doing it. I'm like, you're never going to quit. So you might as well stop saying it. Like just stop saying it. Cause you're never going to quit. And he's like, fine. Cause he knew he wasn't going to. And that's one of those times where he just knew. And of course, like, I, all the times before that I was like, I know, but we can do this, we can do this, we can do this. But then when it got to the point where push came to shove, I was like, you're not going to quit. You're not a quitter. So it's the same thing. He was always hustling. He always tried to make companies that he wasn't

owning. But he worked for the best. Like he always was successful. Yeah, exactly. Making somebody else money. Yeah. When you really, you should be making it yourself. Yeah, exactly. And it's not easy. It's not easy owning your company and all the responsibility falls on you, but he's very good about taking on all the responsibility. And at the end of the day, if something fails, he knows it's him and he knows that there's something that can be changed. That's huge. He has a never-give-up spirit, and that's what is. Oh, my gosh. I don't know what that thing is that he just did over here, but what's that thing called?

I don't know. Thank you. That's what he's doing over here to my left. Yeah. He's not dabbing. It's not dabbing, apparently, from Tal. Captain America? It's some African pose, apparently, from Tal. Captain America? It's some African pose.

Oh, my gosh. Not that he's African or anything like that. I think he's been hanging around Duar too long. Yeah, exactly. That's super interesting, though. So women. Marry a hustler. Marry a hustler.

Marry a hustler. But you know what? If you're married to a guy and he's in ministry and he doesn't make very much money, that doesn't mean that's the way it's always going to be. Because when Tom started doing ministry for the first five years, it might have been a little bit more than that, we didn't earn one dime. We did the whole entire thing for free. My first year of ever making money in ministry as far as being paid to do ministry was just last year.

I've done ministry. I've held down two jobs, sometimes three. One has always been volunteer. I've done that for 20 years while we've done this church. And be willing to work for God for nothing because he's worthy of that.

Yeah. But for first five years, maybe a little bit longer, Tom did not earn a dime. The next, then he made a whole whopping $5,000 the five following year. Do you know what I'm saying? It's all out of the heart and God will get you to the place. Like Jeff was making $7 a week, you know, so God will get you to where place. Like Jeff was making $70 a week, you know. So God will get you to where it's not like that. And he'll make sure that he meets every need.

Make sure you're paying your tithe. But even with your spouse, if you're both in ministry but he's the driving force behind it, support him because God's called him to that. And you make or break that situation. And it's that serious. We make or break that situation. And it's that serious. We make or break that situation. Put that thing up one more time because I'm going to read it one more time.

Women, listen to me. And men, make sure you choose wisely, like it said. But young men, if you choose the wrong woman, you are sacrificing your goals for a life spent managing her problems that she refuses to fix. And let me just tell you, her problems could be, in the case of the one that I am thinking about, she was so full of herself. He should have known way before he even asked her out on a date. Maybe not. I don't

know. She was so stinking full of herself. All she did was talk about herself, took pictures of herself. Like, am I wrong, Vanessa? Like this girl was super sweet until you got to know her real well. And then you found out Jezebel. So the last part says the right woman will augment your life goals she'll be a jet engine strapped to your back that pushes you ahead even faster and I'm just saying that as a woman that has pushed my husband and I would like to think that a part of his success is because of me, and I'm proud of that. I'm proud to say that because I have supported him and I have helped him,

that he's successful in ministry and in his podcast and in life, and he's a great man. He's a great man. I play a part in that. Souls that's a great man i play a part in that souls that have been one i play a part in that you too will be the same so remember who you are make yourself if you're single girl make yourself be choose worthy and if you're a guy and you're not married make sure she's worthy of you make sure she's worthy of you. Make sure she's worthy of you and make sure she's going to take you to places and help take you to places that you long to go. She's a dream maker, not a dream destroyer. It's huge. It's huge. It's so vitally important. But I just think of that young

man and I think to myself, man, where could he be if he had not married that girl? But I just think of that young man and I think to myself, man, where could he be if he had not married that girl? But I can think of other people too. I can think of other guys too that had they married the right one, watch out. But that's how Satan works, man. Puts a little pretty something in front of you and the girl's attractive. She was a cute girl. I think she's very cute girl. Some people would say, eh. But I thought she was an attractive girl. And she had gray hair. Great. Well, part of it was, didn't she wear a weave or something like that?

Not a weave. She put on the clip-ins, extensions. But still, gray hair. That's my son, who I literally can't stand right now because he keeps doing that to me. Obviously, he could care less about my podcast. Obviously. I'll send him a message. You know, something Jer and I talk about a lot when it comes to this is a lot of times

people will be married and start a business or I don't know, maybe start ministry. And then when they start to get ahead, all of a sudden they replace the one that like got them to that place too. That is so true. Yeah. You see that with people who are in the entertainment business right that is so dang true yeah and it's like you did this all that work together and then you make it and then you both like turn your back on each other like I've even seen that with people who have had to go to college for a very long time like either to be a physician or something like that yeah and the the wife or the husband helps

push them and carry them through that whole time of internship right year years of he double toothpick like going through school and oh my gosh. And then two or three, five years later, he's having an affair with the secretary secretary or the, or the nurse or whatever. And bye bye. Yeah. Yep.

It's very sad. It is. It's terrible. It's very sad. Um, Yep. It's very sad. It is. It's terrible. It's very sad. Somebody text my son and tell him he's on his own right now. I know what he's calling about. Okay.

So let's do this. My next thing is I got 25 minutes, so this is good. What are the most common questions people ask? Now, I don't know what this person was asking when they want to know what, if you're asking me, what's the most common questions people ask? I don't know. I haven't been doing this long enough. Maybe you, like maybe you, like what are the most common questions, like as a pastor's wife? I don't know if that's what they were referring to. Okay. I haven't, but I haven't been doing this long enough to, I mean, pastoring. Pastor's wife.

Like somebody that like you always, I feel like when you're in a, like you've been doing this for a long time. Do people come to you about like the same kind of questions? Maybe they're not asking this, but I'm curious. That's not what I thought it was. I did something else, which I liked what I did better because I really don't care what people, but I'll ask this since Tracy's so interested. Thank you. I actually am very interested. Like do you get the same questions all the time? You don't care what people, but, but, but I'll ask this since Tracy's so interested. I actually am very interested. Like, do you get the same questions all the time? You don't?

That's interesting. No, I mean, you get the ones, uh, you don't get the, you don't get questions. Okay. You get life situations. They're not asking you. Yeah, yeah, yeah. They're not asking you a question. They're telling you about their life screw up and hoping that you can fix it for them.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. You know what the number one is for the most part is relationships. Okay. Either people who are married, who married, they married who they wanted to marry, not who God told them to marry, and then they found out their pic sucked. Okay. They should have never married that person.

Yeah. Or people who want to date an unbeliever or somebody who's barely a believer and it's not going well, but how can they keep that relationship together? Okay. Because they want it so bad. And then they get married and then they're back in our office saying yeah our relationship sucks but it's mostly it's mostly relationship like boyfriend girlfriend husband wife that i or wayward children okay that's the that's the most common things it's not like the power of God. Yeah. Yeah.

It's not. No. I asked you a question. Do you remember that? We had a very good conversation with Chris in the cafe. Oh, yeah. Sexually speaking. Yeah, that was a sexual question.

That's kind of relational. Which I was wrong about. Because Aaron proved that I was wrong about it. We'll link that. Because Erin obviously was very interested in the same thing that they were interested in. Oh, my gosh. You sodomites. Yikes. Your final answer was birthdays and holidays.

That's it. That's all i got not for me oh my gosh i'll never forget i won't either because i was there for it for that conversation i was like the things i learned were far beyond. It might not have been that. It might not have been during that conversation. It was probably after that question. Probably. Because I'm like, but normally nobody asks questions like that.

Not Logan and Chris. Yeah. I don't know if Chris was part of it. Was he like just sitting there? No. Like innocent bystander? He was eager to know. He wanted to know too. From her to know but like he did not want to be there no no no no no he was he was interested in the response yeah yeah okay i'm gonna leave it okay thank you so now you can go okay so i was like i was curious

when i saw that relationship like their question right it's not a relationship. Like their question. Right. It's not normally like that. Right. Like how can I justify when I'm in kind of thing? How can I justify being in this relationship? Yeah. Is that what you're saying? Oh, yeah. Like if a girl or a guy are dating an unbeliever.

Yeah. They definitely want to be able to stay with that unbeliever. But it's usually because there's an appropriateness going on. Yeah. Right. Nine times out of the ten, they've crossed a line right nine times out of the ten they've crossed a line right they love the line they've crossed or like when you like when you're intimate with somebody that the word's very clear now you become one and now since you cross that line it's very

hard to go back across the line yeah so you may know that this person isn't the right one for you, but now you're kind of stuck because you've done something you shouldn't have done. Right. And you're one with that person. So it's hard to walk away from them. So normally it's relationship or children. That's what I get. And every now and then, but most people just want to talk about their problems.

That makes sense. They don't really want to. They just want a counselor to listen to them. Shut up, listen to me. Right. And then if you give your opinion, what's hilarious to me is there will be people that come to me and talk to me about their problem. And I already know about the problem because I've heard about it. Like people don't think that I know what I know. I mean,

it's so funny. I know stuff about people's kids that people don't know people like, I know stuff about my kids that my kids don't even think that I know. Do you know? Cause people talk, they tell me everything like good and bad. Yeah. like I know good and bad about like my kids like because people tell you and that's okay I mean I don't care but I mean people can tell me about my kids but don't bash my kids right because they like being in ministry is rough but I'm just saying on the whole if you come to me and you talk to me the odds are i probably have some inkling of what is being talked about because nobody shuts up like be very careful about who you tell your stuff to

that's why i tend to be very private. Be very careful because people love to talk. And then you'll sit there and they'll talk to you. And then when you're trying to say, but what about this? It's like Tom was saying, you've deceived yourself. People live with a measure or not even a measure, a complete deception of themselves and the truth about themselves. You will literally say to somebody, your words have power. Let's, we'll give you an example. Somebody comes to me and I'm very, very, you know, I'm, I'm believing for healing. I'm this,

I'm that. And I'll be like, but what about your words? What are the words that you say? Are there, and I don't accuse. I just say, are we being mindful of the words that we're speaking? Life and death is held in the tongue. Do you tell other people about what the doctor's report is? No, I never do that. I'm very careful with my words. But somebody's already come to me and say, hey, listen, we need to be standing in faith for this person. Because like every time they call me and they talk to me, all they're doing is telling me this, this, this, this. And that very person is sitting there with me, and I know they're not careful with their words.

Their friends have told me because their friends are asking me to pray with them, and they're literally getting frustrated with that very person because that person always is talking death over their body. Now how would that be if – how could you be careful for your words if your friends are saying that you're talking death over your body? It's because we deceive ourselves. We believe what we want to believe about it. It's like a woman who is being cheated on.

She doesn't really want to know the truth, right? Because she wants that marriage to stay together, right? You want to believe the best because you love that that marriage to stay together right you want to believe the best because you love that individual right but the truth is that person's cheating on you you need to look into it and then once you find out the truth you don't get mad at the person that told you the truth about the person yeah that's what normally happens you get mad at the person who tells you the truth about the situation instead of getting mad at the person, that's what normally happens. You get mad at the person who tells you the truth about the situation instead of getting mad at the person who caused the problem, right? And it's all because we live with a measure of deception.

It's way easier to keep our little world the way we want it to be instead of believing the world is like it actually is. Right. Yep. Does that make sense at all? Because I think that's kind of confusing for people. No, it does. Because even like Logan probably knows like with domestics, like most of the time they'll be called out probably, right?

A husband and a wife are arguing. And then the wife is like, well, no, everything's fine. And then they, because they don't want them to go to jail most of the time, right? That's usually the issue that happens. And it's like you need the help until all of a sudden you realize like. There's a consequence for the actions. That's why domestic violence calls. Right.

The person that's responding to that domestic violence call has a higher probability of being hurt, harmed, or killed. Right. probability of being hurt right harmed or killed right there are more people hurt harmed and killed in domestic violence dispute um responses than anything else yeah it's crazy people like no it's got to be when you get pulled over for a speeding that no no yeah because somebody's trying to defend the very person that's getting arrested even though they called you that's what kills me firemen are loved i know i love that firemen are loved my nephew's a fireman okay i love it truth is you called the freaking cops so now why are you pissed off at him and i don't use that word very often but it is true people treat the cops like crap okay you called them and now you hate them and you

want to hurt them for the very reason they would have never come if you hadn't called them. But we get so mad at the cops and, and listen, have they done some things? Yeah. But on the whole, they're good people on the whole. Like you could have a bad doctor, a bad dentist, a bad plumber, a bad electrician, every stinking job are kind of like, what is it called? Every kind of person that holds, what is it? I don't want to say job, but what is that? Career? Yes. Thank you, Talia.

Every career has bad seeds in it. Right, of course. But just because the cops have bad seeds, they're all bad. Yeah. It blows my mind how one bad apple destroys everything when really the majority are fantastic, phenomenal people. And listen, if people had to deal with what they dealt with every single day, nobody would. You have to be a special person to be a cop.

Right. You really do. It's like being a pastor. You kind of really have to be a special person to be a pastor because of the minutiae you walk through. God has had to tell you you need to do it. Because most people, if they had to deal with, that's the reason why cops have a high divorce rate, they have a high alcohol, they become alcoholics.

Suicide. Suicide is at a high time high. And after they retire, most of them don't live much past five years because of the intensity of the job. Heart attacks. Heart attacks. Yeah. Most of them die of heart attacks. Yeah.

So, like, it's not a, it's a rough career, but it's a very rewarding career because of the help that you create and develop in a community. Like, cops go into those inner cities and they develop great relationships with kids. And some of those kids come out and they become something because a police officer has or somebody like that. Or they become the police. Or they become the police. Chris's situation. Right.

Which I know a guy who was horrible. He's a cop now. And he's a great cop. Yeah. Like because he decided, okay, I gonna flip the flip the switch on things there so i don't know i just um i think that you know cops get a bad rap and when the fire department firemen get a great one and like yeah you you you put out the fire but he saved a life too you know that's great and all the cops save lives just like firemen do it's just usually the cops get called a heck of a

lot more than the firemen do oh yeah and they see a lot more of the underbelly of the world than firemen do firemen get to go to great homes that are burning or, you know, they have to go answer a call and save a life, EMTs and stuff like that. But a lot of times cops are going into places that they can't, that firemen can't even go until they get a cop there. And we still run into the fire. Yeah, they still, yeah, exactly. 9-11, example, perfect example. Yep. So. And they still, yeah, exactly. Yeah. Yep. 9-11 example. Perfect example. Yep. So

sorry. In other words, in other words, buyer, buyer, copper, uh, a meal. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Good point. Buy a copper meal because Lord knows what were you going to say? I said, sorry for hijacking that question. That's okay. I got 11 minutes. So this will, this will, I won't make it through all this I mean I I'm gonna go really fast but I thought they were saying like what are the most common questions asked in general that's like go google it I can't I found that I found out okay let's hear it so I went to google yeah what do people ask wait shut up Tracy if you just saw Tracy's face right now like what she just did I just said Google no I was saying for them Google it like just Google no no no no yes no well they can but

I'm gonna tell you okay shut up I have to answer the question please I'm not gonna tell the person to Google it they probably didn't know to Google it i'm waiting so patiently i can't wait to hear okay so if you ask google what are the most common questions asked here they are it's what it's who what where when how kind of thing is what they did so and it's i'm going to tell you it's intense okay so as far as in the what category number one is what to watch people are questioning like people this is the craziest thing i'm just telling you i have to answer this question because wait till you listen to this okay this is wild what people google that's why i have to do this so you have to now i'm excited yeah i wasn't a second ago but i am now me too you have googled what what to watch yes yeah yeah really yeah i'm so like i don't know whatever i don't watch anything so really, except for my Alaskan shows, my survivor shows.

And Vanessa is with me on that. Port protection. Port protection. Port protection. Life below zero. All of them. You guys need a winter vacation. All of them.

Last Alaskans. Next generation. Life below zero, period. You can learn a lot. Listen lot I think I can now totally gut an animal just strictly by watching my Alaskan shows I cannot that's whatever

shocker okay so number one was what to watch the next one is what is my IP what in the heck is what is my IP? What in the heck is an IP? Your IP address. Yeah.

Okay. What time is it? Like you have to ask Google what time is it? That's stupid. That's stupid. That's number three. If I'm in a different country, I've done that. If I was in a different country and I needed to know needed didn't your phone switch to that country

not not immediately not immediately what song is this now that one makes sense what song is this that makes sense okay what font is this i've done that stupid what time is it in california i mean there's time zones. There's time zones. If you're East Coast, it's three hours. I mean, come on. And you go backwards. You don't know what time zone you're in and how come. Oh, come on. What are the five love languages? Wow. Is that really? That's crazy. The next one is what does. What does. Yes. And what would you do?

What would you do? What would Jesus do? No, it's what would you do? Girl. Then there's who. Okay. This person's an idiot. Oh, my God. Or these people.

And it's one million people. Oh, boy. I'm scared. Who am I? Oh, that's kind of deep. Oh, DNA. Who am I? Your DNA?

Yeah. Oh my gosh. The next one is for the next biggest bunch of idiots. 823,000 of them. Oh. Who are you? Who are you? Yeah.

Who is? Who let the dogs out? Who let the dogs out who let the dogs out who called me who is the richest person in the world oh okay yeah that's number six who made me a princess who writes these things to google who escaped from alcatraz? Okay. Isn't this interesting? That's a good one. Who owns Google? Yep. And who died today? Oh. Interesting.

The next one is why. Okay. 1,220,000. Number one question. Why don't we? Why don't we? Why don't we what? Yeah. I don't understand that.

Why don't we what? Yeah. Well, they could be looking up a song. Or a band called Whitewater. Talia's saying they could be looking up a song. Or a man who told a white woman. Talia's saying they could be looking up a song. Whatever. Why women kill. Like, that's number two.

Why women kill. Wow. That has to be men that are married of women that they're afraid of. Yeah. Yes. It has to be. Right. Why would a woman say why?

No, it's 100%. 550,000 be. Right. Why would a woman say why? No, it's 100%. 550,000 people. Wow. Why are you always in a mood? Why are you always in a mood? Jera said that's a man. Why is the sky blue? Why were cornflakes invented?

These are like the top 10. That's wild. Google's weird. I mean, people are weird. This just proves how weird people are weird people this just proves how weird people are why not why flags have why flags half mass today that like the the the the the ebonics of these questions oh yeah yeah sarah brought up a good point and said that it could be the, like, Alexa when people are like, hey, Google, what time is it? Does that make sense?

Oh, it does look that way. Oh, that's true. Good point, Sarah. Thanks, Sarah. Why are you, why not me, or why my poop green? Fruit loops. No. Why my poop. Fruit loops. No. Why my poop?

Like, why are people's English so poor? So poor. Why my poop green? Why is my poop green? Grammatically speaking, it would be correct. They need an answer now. And that many people did it wrong. Interesting.

No. No. No. Hey, listen, Talia, if that's how you communicate on your phone to Google, you need to fix it. You are, like, you know how to speak English. Yes. You are, like, almost, what are you, a senior in high school? Yeah. Okay, you are almost graduated.

You should know how to speak clearly and grammatically correct. Talia. You gotta understand it if you're in the fifth grade. Talia, I think you should be you. No, shut up, Tracy. Her being her means that she is using poor grammar. It's just Google. It doesn't matter.

Where? Where's my refund? 7,480,000 people. Now that makes sense to me. Oh, yeah. 100%. That's a good Google question. Tax time.

I like that. Where's my refund? Yeah, where is it? But this one is 1,500,000. And if they don't know this, they're in big trouble. Where am I? Where am I? You don't know that question?

Answer to that question, you're in trouble. Where have you been? Oh don't know that question? Answer to that question? You're in trouble. Where have you been? Oh. Is that a song? Where is XUR? What is XUR? What is XUR? Where am I right now?

Where I can find happiness. Where the crawdads sing. That has to be a song. That's a movie. Oh, that's a movie. Where the wild things are. That's a to be a song that's a movie oh that's a movie where the wild things are that's a movie correct movie where is and where kidneys located somebody wants to know where the kidneys but here's the how many people where are kidneys located why are we writing where kidneys located it's just quick you're're just like, do-do-do-do-do. Because it'll auto-crick it for you.

Time is money. Next is when. And I got two minutes, so I'm just going to do this. Okay. When. When is the next full moon? When calls the heart? When they see us?

I don't understand that. When you see nothing at all. That's a song. When Harry met Sally. Movie. When she loved me. When to work you loved someone song when marnie was there that has to be a movie maybe when my love blooms there's this is for you, Talia. How? I don't know yet.

Kill someone. How you like that? Six million, one hundred and twenty thousand people. How you like that? What the world? What the world? I mean, I don't get that at all. It's a song. It's a song.

Is it? Yeah. Oh, thank you, God. Oh, how you like that? It's a TikTok song. Oh, it's a a song. It's a song. Is it? Yeah. Oh, thank you, God. Oh, how you like that. It's a TikTok song, isn't it? Oh, it's a TikTok song. That makes me feel better. How to.

How many ounces in a cup? I've done this one. Multiple times. So guilty. How I Met Your Mother. That's a movie. I mean, that's a show. How to screenshot on Mac.

I had to ask somebody that how to lose weight fast been there done that how are you how many weeks in a year that makes sense how many ounces in a gallon how you doing how you doing you know what that's from? Friends. And I think this is the last one. No, this is almost the last one. Is Europe a country?

Oh my gosh, Talia goes, wait, is it? Okay, Talia. Just Google it correctly. Oh my gosh gosh with perfect grammar and then you'll be good 673,001 have asked that question wait is it

oh my gosh I was just about to bust on oh my gosh how do you ask that question public school system well no she's homeschooled Like, how do you, oh my gosh. How do you ask that question? Public school system. Public school. Well, no, she's homeschooled.

Both. Dear God. Is today a holiday? Is Mercury in retrograde? Is Reddit down? Is 300 Lexus? Is shingles contagious? Yes, highly.

Is Google down? Is Pluto a planet planet is it going to rain today is ariana grande married like if we need to know that like your world and that is 201 000 people have asked that wow who cares who cares if she's married? God bless it. Shoot their shot. Oh, so you asked the question about Ariana Grande? I asked if she had a husband, and she still had him, because she was with another guy. Oh, so Talia needed to know that question, because she was with another guy.

She's a flavor of the week girl, so it's a valid question. She has a different boyfriend. Oh, she does have a different boyfriend? A different husband, too? She's a valid question. She has a different boyfriend. Oh, she does have a different boyfriend? And a different husband. Oh, a different husband too? She's been married twice. Yeah. Wait a minute. She's almost married three men or she's been married to three men? Because the girl's like 21 years old, right?

You should Google it. Huh? You should Google it. I don't want to Google it right now. I just did it. Add it to the list. Oh my gosh, Tracy just Googled it. We're adding to the numbers.

Yeah, she was married in 2021. Add it to the list. Oh, my gosh. Tracy just took a bit. We're adding to the numbers. Oh, my gosh. Yeah, she was married in 2021. She's still married. She has to be married. No, I think they got divorced. No way. Yeah, files for divorce. How old is this chick?

After two years of marriage, she filed for divorce in September. Yep. And that was preceding. Talia's trying to say he's ugly. So she's 30. He's so bad. He's a beautiful girl singer 30 filed for divorce from gomez 28 years old so now she's with that she's 28 30 she's 30 oh my gosh she looks like she's 12 i know she does okay she waited till 28 to get married. Yeah, she's 30. I think she was engaged a few times.

I don't know if she ever got married. Did she get married married? She got married once. Listen, she's got more rings than Michael Jordan. Oh, wow. All right, next one is, can you feel the love tonight? If you don't know if you can feel it or not, you're in big trouble. Yeah, it's probably a no. Can I run it?

I don't know. Can you? Can dogs eat bananas? Can dogs eat strawberries? Can dogs eat apples? Can dogs eat watermelon? Holy mackerel. Can dogs eat grapes? Can dogs eat tomatoes?

Can we go to heaven with tattoos? That wasn't my question. Number 10. Can men get pregnant? Oh, okay. Like, if you don't know these answers, like, I get the dog ones, okay? But if you don't know those answers, you're in big trouble. This is why we have Biden in office right now, people.

God bless it. Does FedEx deliver on Sunday? Does green tea have caffeine? Does USPS deliver on Sunday? Does Rice have gluten? Does he like me? Who knows? Does not equals sign?

Does Naruto die? Does your chain hang low? Does your chain hang low? It's got to be a song because I remember it. Does your chain hang low? Does something wobble to and fro? Can you hang it over your shoulder like it's something, something, uh-uh? I don't know.

Does tea have caffeine? Does Walmart take Apple Pay? And the last but not least is R. R's. A-R-E. Are we there yet? I don't know why you're Googling that. Are banks open today?

Are you afraid of the dark? Are unicorns real? Great question. Biden is making more and more sense to me the more that I read these. Are you being served? Are jellyfish immortal? Are dragons real? Are Apple Watchers waterproof?

Are sinus infections contagious? Number 10, are AirPods waterproof? No, they are not. So although I thought you meant something else, I think Tracy's correct. Maybe you just needed to know what my questions are asked, what question I'm asked most. But those were way more interesting. That's interesting. That was interesting.

That was fun. Yeah, that was actually way more fun than my answers, but I have a feeling that really they probably wanted your questions, your question, what you thought. Two for one. Whatever. Let me ask you this question. There you go.

I knew it would come. Google. And I'm not Googling it. I'm asking you, do you know Jesus as your Lord and Savior? Or have you walked away and you need to come back? Today's your day and right now is your moment. So let's just say this prayer together real quickly and make it right. Dear Heavenly Father, we come to you right now.

And Lord, we thank you for what you did on the cross. We thank you for the forgiveness of sin. We honor you and we praise you for this. We ask that you forgive us of our sins, that we will live for you forever, that we'll do what you say to do, and we'll go where you say to go. In Jesus' mighty name we pray, amen. If you said that prayer, you are saved. It really is as simple as it says those that believe are saved. You just have to believe it and receive it.

And then you walk in it. And repentance is a 180-degree turn. So the direction that you're going, you are headed that way. And that means you go complete opposite of the direction you were going in, which usually, in my case, it was bad. So as soon as I turned around and started heading the other direction, life became sweet and was way, way easier. It's as simple as that. Making quick decisions, the opposite, it's like George Costanza's principle.

If you ever watch Seinfeld, George Costanza's principle is if everything that I've ever done is wrong, I will do the opposite. And that is the truth. If everything you've done has not given you the right response that you're looking for, then start doing the opposite. You may not know what sin is because maybe you just don't know it. But if you've done one thing and you didn't like the results of it, then do the opposite of what you normally do

and start seeing the positive. And then get in your word, and then God will show you what is right and what is wrong. And then a lot of times, though, we already know it. Because then that little gut thing we got going on, it just is like, this ain't right. So if you ever do that, if you feel that, don't do it. Start going in the opposite direction and see how your world changes. Let us know that you made the decision.

We want to pray with you. We want to help you out if you need it. As far as getting in, uh, finding a good church, getting you a great Bible, we can do all those things for you. Have a great day. See you on Friday and, uh, make it a great next 42, 48 hours. Real talk. Real talk. you