The Hope Hotline - The Hope Hotline | S02-E53 | 08-30-2024

Episode Date: September 4, 2024

Question 1. Last week you mentioned we wouldn’t be married in heaven. What do you think the husband/wife relationships will look like in heaven? Brother and sisters in Christ?!!?

Welcome to the Hope Hotline. Sorry about that. Welcome to the Hope Hotline. Talking to a new member of the crew who's visiting today. I just told him he's going to be bored stiff. Oh, my gosh. No, you're not. We are so entertaining. I think that we're awesome.

I think we are amazing. Toby, how old are you? No, just shout it out, baby. How old are you, Toby? Okay, you're 18 and six days. You're in a room full of women who are way older than you, except for your sister and Tootie, who is half your age. You're going to be bored stiff.

That's all I'm going to tell you. We'll see. But welcome to the Hope Hotline. That's right, yay. Thank you for joining in this Friday. Some of you may be sitting in the pickup line for school sorry about that we will hopefully keep you from falling asleep that's true because vanessa just told us one of the times she was in the pickup line for school tell them tell them

what happened to you vanessa when you were in the pickup line i got there early and i thought i'm just gonna close my eyes. And I did. Another bathroom story, but this isn't the bathroom. And I fell asleep. And it was that the type of pickup line, like, there was no way of getting around me. So I stopped traffic, and everyone was, like, honking the horn. Because you fell asleep. Couldn't hear it.

So someone had to walk up to my car, knock on my window, wake me up. I'm mortified. I called Jeff, and he's like, you do realize they think you're on drugs now. Oh, yeah. I was on a list somewhere, and that was the day. That was the day. You were on a list? Yeah.

That was the day I decided I was going to homeschool. Save yourself from embarrassment. Did you pull the kids the next day the following school year but i i made up my mind that that day that was that and then and then heather told you what she does life hack to keep an alarm on she put on she when her when yeah when her kids were in school they're all homeschooled now but except for eli but he's in his last year but um but he's in collegiate school do you yeah you weren't smart enough to put alarm on oh my gosh yeah i know i'm not surprised by that either yeah i know yeah i know i'm not surprised by that oh my gosh oh man okay now that stuff that we have that's for the last question perfect

i just had to organize it. You just asked what I thought you were doing. I'm zooming in and all the good stuff. Just making sure you know. Thank you. Happy Friday. I am one, like, I love my job, so I'm not really, like, I don't look forward to, like, the weekends or anything like that, because I'm like.

I kind of work on the weekends, too. That's true. I do work on the weekends. You do. But I'm just saying, I'm not one to be like, woohoo, it's Friday or whatever. Except for Friday nights. I do enjoy Friday nights.

But this Monday is a day off, three-day weekend. And I'm going to tell you right now, I haven't had a day off in I don't know how long, so I'm flipping looking forward to it. July 4th. My house, not July. Oh, July 4th, I did. That's true.

She doesn't want to accept that. I do accept that. Okay. July 4th, I absolutely took that holiday. You did. It was so much fun. I know, and you loved every second of it. It's been eight weeks.

I think you deserve one. Eight weeks. I've had a day off before eight weeks. It's just been several. Are you sure? No, because gearing up for the thing. I mean, I would say, really, Heather and Travis really. What's your idea of a day off?

Because you might have a different perspective. I bet you are working on your days off in some way. I do a little bit. But, I mean, like, Heather's day off is today. Yeah. And Heather has worked several times today. I know. You guys are the same.

You're both terrible with that. But Travis does it, too. I know. I know. You guys are terrible. Well, no. It's just there's a lot of stuff that has to get done. There is.

You're right. You're right. That's a sing-song sneeze. Wow. What was that? That was a sing-song sneeze. That's What was that? That was a sing-song sneeze. That's what that was. What?

What was your laugh? That was hysterical. My laugh was hysterical. There was no God bless you at all from any of us. That was like a song. I know. Oh, my gosh. That was hysterical.

It's just sneezes. Oh, my gosh. That was hysterical. I'm going to make an album. It's just sneezes. Oh, my word. Oh, that was so funny. That'll be something. Man. I don't think I have anything to talk about, except for I'm very excited about the three-day weekend. I don't even know what I'm going to do on Monday. I was going to ask.

But I'm doing nothing. Okay. That's good. I'm going to do another Fourth of July. Okay. I'm just not going nothing. Okay. That's good. I'm going to do another 4th of July. Okay. I'm just not going there. Okay. They are both perked up.

Like, do you guys want to go? Yeah. Let's go. I mean. Can I come this time? Yes. Maybe. We just might let you come.

Maybe. Maybe. If you're a good girl. Yeah. If youse is a good girl, we might let you come maybe maybe you if you're a good girl yeah if you use a good girl we might let you come we might have to get rent a room because then we save money on i did like there's a trick they're doing a deal too for labor day weekend we looked at it last night kylie was trying to convince me it's on i mean i feel like what's the deal confirmation this might be it

what's the deal 40 off a room oh wow your face well you better go get that now no it's all weekend labor day weekend i think you have to have two nights though or something like that yeah oh that changes everything totally worth it i'm not doing two nights why not what else you have to do uh be home with my husband. He can be there. Invite him along. Are you kidding me? Send your daughter. Saturday night, and then you wake up Sunday morning and go to church.

Yeah, he ain't doing that. He's not doing that. The dog isn't there. Well, I think they're pet friendly. I'm sure. My dog's not pet friendly. In some cases, not people friendly. Okay, so not going to do it. All right.

That's not the scene for Atomar. Maybe just a resting day. Maybe just a resting day. I just might just lounge in my own pool. That'll be like maybe number five I've ever been in my pool in 20 years. That is a normal thing in Florida. Nobody realizes that. Everybody gets pools and then nobody swims

in them yeah that's true my kids did yeah yeah kids do that's why we got it though for my kids yeah because you know yeah and they're friends right and we had people over after church on Sundays every Sunday and it could be it could range from 10 to 40 people. Can we go back to that? No. I learned my lesson. It's just an idea. You learned your lesson. I learned my lesson.

Vanessa hasn't learned hers yet. No, she hasn't. Nope. I'm learning. Yeah, slowly but surely. Or not. Those were some of my most favorite and cherished times.

Yeah. Me too. I remember it like it was yesterday. Like, aw. I love it, Jessie. Yeah, Talia was over. Her mom and dad used to come. Her dad used to even come over.

I mean, he'd come over after church, but he didn't go to church. He's such a great guy. I love her dad. But, yeah, her mama used to to come over and all of them used to come over and then go swimming and it's a great time it's it's very it's very precious yeah those times are very precious but um yeah yeah i don't want to go back but i definitely appreciated it yeah exactly yeah there's something there's something that, that seed that's sown too. So there's, there's something people should, I'm not saying I like my house is open to

people. It's just different now open, but everybody should go through a season in time where you open your home to people and be willing to give yourself in that way. Cause really that you do a lot of discipling in the, in those timeframes. Yeah, for sure. Absolutely. It's it's very very it's very precious like i'm just saying like i'm not saying open your home to like like you know boatloads of people but i'm just saying uh maybe you have dinner dinners like um there's different families that i know of that they have dinner parties at their houses.

And because maybe somebody knows how to cook or whatever, but they open their home up and then they have people over and then they break bread. The table and eating together, there's something special about it. So everybody should do that. I mean, if you're a gamer, if you like playing games and stuff like that, then that's what you do with people because if you can't cook, in some ways, I'm hooked up, in some ways, if you're not a person that cleans your house,

it might be the best thing that you could possibly, and I'm not kidding you. That is true. It might be the best thing you could possibly do for yourself to force yourself to become a clean person because your home is a representative for yourself. To force yourself to become a clean person because your home is a representative of yourself. So make it be that

you force yourself to take care of your home by inviting people in it. It's very important. It is. Being tidy. Heather commented, especially when the toilet backed up. Oh my gosh. At my house? I think so, so yeah during one of the times did your bathroom back up oh many times it back up my septic

system is only meant for four people so that was it and well it was it's meant my house is a four bedroom three bath three and a half bath so uh it's really meant for more people than that. But only four people using it. And then we went to about 50 to 60 people using it on a Sunday. So, yeah, I told I told Vanessa said, you better drain that septic system. It'll come back talking to you. I thought she was going to talk about my pig that she had to take care of. I thought that's what she was going to talk about because Heather lived at our house and took care of a rescue pig that we did.

I have a picture of her. You have a picture of my pig when she was a baby or when she was big? She was big. I bet you Heather has a picture of when she was a baby because Heather, I mean, I think I do somewhere, but yeah, that pig was Tom's baby. I didn't even have a dog. I had a pig before I had a dog.

That's crazy. Yeah. Wasn't a big fan. Yeah, I can imagine. I can imagine. Oh, here she is when she was little. Oh my gosh. Talia I can imagine. I can imagine. Here she is. Oh, my gosh. Talia.

The caption is Tom's baby. Here's Tom's baby. Send that to Tracy. And it was Tom's baby. Tom used to do the same thing that Tara does. Lay down with the donkey. That's what Tom used to do. He would spoon the pig.

And then they would bring the pig into the house secretly. And I even said to Heather when she was watching the pig, I was like, hey, Heather, don't let her out unless, like only during these times. And as soon as I left, Heather was letting the pig do whatever she wants. And then she was like, well, I bleach the floor. The pig is potty trained, okay? But I'm like a freak about that stuff.

She's like, I bleach the floor every night. Oh, my gosh. Just so she could have the pig do whatever she wanted to do. Yeah, Heather is bad as Tom. But, yeah, so, um, I think that's about it. What are you doing over there? Sending her the pictures. Are you trying to upload it?

Mm-hmm. They're coming. Coming in hot. Coming in hot? Oh, do you want to show the pig now? Well, yeah, I think that's what you're going to do. Is that what you're going to do? Because I'm like, I think they want to show them, nobody knows what we're doing. I got nothing to say.

So boring. Oh, that's the pig in the pool. Yes. I can't believe you have that picture. Tom made me go out and get this child's pool, this little baby pool for the pig to cool off. We had to bet that. Okay.

So when you can, I do this one first. Do that one first. I got it ready. Okay, perfect. So that one was when it was, and that's in our garage.

See how dirty my garage door and my wall are and everything. That's from the pig rubbing up against it. You want to talk about unhappy? That would be me. So we had to paint an L on the pig because we were told during, uh, the state forest, they hunt pigs.

And so during season, we would have to paint the pig with an L so that people wouldn't shoot it. They realized that it was a pet. Oh my gosh. Yeah. Okay. So that's Tom did that on a regular basis. Cause she would rub it off. Of course that. Yeah. Okay. So Tom did that on a regular basis because she would rub it off.

Of course. That was her. Okay. And her name was Miss Piggy. Shocker. Miss Piggy. Mm-hmm. Miss Piggy.

So special. And then she got bigger and it got hotter. And then I had to go out and buy a child's pool for the pig to lay in. That is wild. And Tom filled it up every day, cleaned it out every day. Like that pig was the most spoiled pig you ever met in your life. I mean, I know he loves animals, but this is like another level right here. Oh, he loves her.

He loved her. I still have her bed. Oh my God. And my, we had, we got a futon bed and a, you know, a futon cushion for the seat, the futon.

What do you call those? Like a mattress or whatever. Yeah. Yeah. Pad mattress. And we, she would sleep on that and she dug a hole with her snout and right in the middle of the futon.

So there was no, there was no cushion. No, she lay right in the middle of the futon so there was no there was no cushion no she lay right in between that thing it's still in my garage obviously put away and it's like you can't really see it but like can we ever get rid of that thing he's like no i'm never getting rid of it because it reminds him of her does it him, does it invoke joy? No. Get rid of it. Oh, he's happy. He is? He looks, oh, he's not sad. No.

Looking at that thing? It doesn't bother him a bit. It would make him sad if he got rid of it. He talks about me being a person who can't throw things away. He's full of it. Yeah. I throw things away left and right. I said to him, I'm'm like why is all your precious things

in the house and all my precious things in the attic he looked at me and he just smiled because he knew yeah i got the raw end of the deal like i finally realized why is all his stuff in the in the office closet super big closet i'm like why is that and why is all my stuff in the office closet, super big closet. I'm like, why is that? And why is all my stuff in the attic? Came out and asked him one day, and he just smiled like, I can't even believe you caught on to that. We've been in the house for 20 years. I just asked that this year. Oh, my gosh.

Yeah. We'll be sharing more about animals shortly. Yes, we will. Are you hot? you hot or is it me i am hot you are hot no you're not i'm on the other way oh i don't get hot flashes are you any of you hot have your fan on i'm not like burning up or anything it hasn't been like running so it's just oh you know what all of you are in short sleeves and I'm in a jacket. That's the reason why. All right. Whatevs.

Okay. Now that we've wasted all of your time. See, Toby, didn't I tell you it's boring? He's playing his phone over there. He's playing a game on his phone because you know why? Sarah's wrong. He's bored and I don't blame him. Go ahead, Tracy.

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And that's it today, Hope. We're done. Done and done. Easy peasy. Yeah. Great minds. So we're going to go straight into our first question. None of the questions are bad or hard. They're actually really awesome today. Sometimes, not that I think some are more fun than the other, some of them are very deep and then they take a lot of brain power. I don't mind those, but I sure do like it when, like, my brain cells don't have to work too hard.

Right. And I know some of this takes a long time for you to get the answers that you're content with. Yeah. Sometimes it takes hours upon hours. And then all these were like yeah popping like popcorn pretty easy perfect i love it they're very interesting last week you mentioned we wouldn't be married in heaven what do you think the husband-wife relationship will look like in heaven brother and sisters in christ question mark exclamation point exclamation point question mark

i'm glad you added that it's good to know so we're going to look at scripture which is matthew 28 28 through 30 which says therefore in the resurrection whose wife whose well i was about to say that doesn't make sense but i copied and pasted so it's definitely i didn't make a grammatical error error therefore in resurrection, whose wife of the seven will she be? For they all had her. This is about when the Pharisees came to Jesus and kind of gave an example of a woman who had married. Because back in biblical times, if your spouse died and you had no children you'd marry the next you marry the the brother um of the person that died if there was a brother and then um so that the name could continue on well in this case

with the pharisees are asking jesus is uh so there's this woman woman whose husband passed away. He had seven brothers. Each brother passed away before she could ever have a child by the brother. So they're saying, well, who in heaven, who's she going to be married to? Because she married all seven of the brothers. And Jesus answered and said to them, You are mistaken, not knowing the scriptures, nor the power of God. For in the resurrection, they neither marry or given in marriage, but are like angels of God in heaven.

So we're going to look at Luke because it tells us what being like an angel is. Luke 20, 26 says, Nor can they die anymore, for they are equal to the angels and are sons of God, being sons of the resurrection. So if you look at that scripture and you study it out, like the angels means the resurrection order cannot be assumed to follow present earthly lines. In the new age, there will be no marriage, no procreation. That stinks.

Boring. And no death. And no death. And then that scripture, the Luke scripture, Luke 20, 26, it leads you to Mark 12, 25. So, like, if you're studying the Bible, a lot of times a scripture will reference another scripture, which will reference another scripture,

and you just follow that little rabbit hole or that little rabbit trail. Mark 12, 25 says, in the resurrection, there will be a new order of existence brought about by, and it says in quotes, the power of God. And you can see what that means in 1 Corinthians 15, 42 through 44, but we're not going to go there. Then it says, like the angels, when it references the scripture, it says, the basic characteristics of resurrection life will be fellowship with and service for God. That's like the angels, okay? So there will be no

husband and wife, but you know what? I will tell you. So you won't be married. We'll all know each other. I believe we'll all know each other. I mean, people who have said that they've died and gone to heaven, like people that, you know, we've all, like, read books about people who have experienced, felt like they died and experienced hell or died and we don't know them personally maybe, but we know about people that we would count as a reliable source.

One being like I count Jesse Duplantis as a reliable source. Like I don't find that he would make that up when he talks about when he went to heaven, how he, he would make that up. He knew everybody. He didn't know everybody. Like there were families that he saw like having picnics together and stuff like that. He legitimately saw families that were families on earth that were families in heaven, and they were having picnics together.

Okay. He knew who Paul was. He saw Jesus. He saw other people there that he recognized from when he, you know, from his time here on earth. So I believe that we will know each other. We'll have relations with each other. There'll be no procreation, which I ain't gonna lie.

I have a problem with that. So we'll have relations, but not the fun kind, is what you're saying. I think the Lord knows. I think for me, it'll be better. God never takes us from something great to sub. He's always superior, okay? What that looks like, though, I have no idea. Because for me, like, I love my man.

We saw that on the video of you jumping up and down like a little school girl when Pastor Tom got introduced to come out for the family i love it it's so cute i'm so good you do i i took she but she was busting my chops i said i was crushing i get i don't know what to tell you that's crushing so when they say on earth as it is in heaven, just everything but that, we don't want that yet. I don't know. Celibacy. Everything. Everything else except no relation.

I just don't know. I don't know. I mean, there's some people that don't want to have relations with, I get that. I don't feel like that, but some people have earned the right to feel like that about who they're married to, you know? I, on the other hand, don't feel like that. Yeah. So, that part's, I have, I take issue. I do take issue I'm gonna have to have it have a little uh what what do they call those things um suggestions no I want to say it's a tiete but it's not a tiete

what is it it's a um oh a what is it a tet is that for conversation yeah it's like a head to a head it's french that's it that's what i was trying to say but i couldn't think of it that's what i'm gonna do with the lord there you go i'm gonna see can we make a special exception for me and tom yes can i be no one needs to know no one needs to know we might be able to hear it if i'm walking by your house you're not gonna hear oh my god it's a possibility then that's on you can we go through walls can we go through walls yeah i might just go right through the wall and be like oh my god you're gonna be like, oh my gosh. You're going to be like, the door was locked.

Doesn't work here. Maybe that's why. Maybe that's why because there's no privacy. Yeah. That does sound more like health. I agree with you, Sarah. That is more like a nightmare than it is paradise. I don't know. I don't like that part.

I feel like we're going to be in a state of constant euphoria. And so something like that. Lesser. Something like that is going to be like, meh. I don't need that. He's just going to be in his presence all the time. And he'll be enough. He'll be enough.

He'll be enough. I agree. What if our body parts aren't different? Do you think we'll have different, like we won't have? What if our glorified bodies don't have? Like what if our glorified bodies don't have areas that need areas? You know? That's angels, right?

Angels don't have. Do they have? Yeah. Areas that need areas? I'm just saying. It's just a thought. Is there poop in heaven? That's another question.

Right. How do you even need those parts? We don't need those porpoises. Right. Well, you can eat, but maybe it just disintegrates. Well, I know we eat. Right.

Right. Yeah. But does our body work the same? That's glorified. Yeah, they better have acai up in heaven. They will. And I'm having to tell Anna. Very specifically. And chocolate chips. in heaven. They will. I don't have Nutella in it. Very specifically.

And chocolate chips. There's a certain kind. We don't want just any. We want heavenly. We want the one from Mexico. We know it's from Mexico. That's all we know. Right.

In the white bucket. Right. Right. Yeah. The acai from Mexico that comes in the white bucket. Instead of coconut flakes with manna. Just a little manna on the top of the acai. Yeah.

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love that. I don't either. It's so good. Tommy's addicted to it. it's the best. PR package. I mean, I don't know anybody who doesn't love that. I don't either. It's so good. Like, Tommy's addicted to it. It's so good. I got an acai bowl in Hawaii. And it wasn't. And I was like, this is trash. Oh, wow.

Yeah. Sarah tries them all over the place. And Sarah says they ain't good. I'm done trying them. Like, yuppie bowls is it. Yuppie bowls is it. And we knew, like And we knew the dealer. We found out the dealer, and somehow we lost the dealer.

How is that possible? I literally am going to go sit there all day long and wait for that dealer to deliver. Like I'm a drug addict. I saw the other day when I was there. It was right at close close time and the guy was coming out of the building like with an empty one and I almost like waited to see if he put it in the dumpster or something

I'll be like dumpster diving to find out where the acai comes from listen worth it maybe I can have one of my kids get a job there get a part time job there they only let their family work there everybody that works there is like kid when i went last yeah it's somebody's cousin or something they're all

related i'm telling you they keep it under we can have them married off okay who wants to get married to the yuppie hey they're not safe we cannot sell somebody to the devil to find out who the acai is. It's a good cause. Who wants to go? Talia? No. Okay. Just check in. I'm just making sure. It's like 10. If it's worth it. 10. Yeah, that's kind of rough. Unless you want me to marry the girl. Ooh, okay. I'll go life here for a little plot twist.

For acai. I might let you do that. And then repent and be fine. I might let you do that. I think it's worth it. It might be worth it. The Lord knows your heart, Talia. And it's the thought that counts. Yes. The only thing I was going to say outside, I mean, the only negative

I mean, the only negative is, in my opinion, is the procreation part. Because when you go to heaven, there's no want for anything. There's no sickness, illness, and disease. I mean, if we're like the angels, like we'll have jobs to do. We'll serve the Lord. But, like, there's just... I mean,

obviously it says you'll never die, but it's endless. That's wild. Endless paradise. I mean, nobody will ever, ever, ever get the sniffles again. No more sore throats. No more cancer. No more cancer. Like, nothing. Everything.

It's perfect. I'll give up procreation for that. I more cancer. Like nothing. Everything. It's perfect. I know. So for I'll give up procreation for that. I will too. Okay. You don't have procreation. So how are you giving it up? It's much easier. You can't give up what you don't have. It's much easier if you've never had it. It's true. Alright, come back to me. You can't give up what you don't have. Come back to me.

Oh my gosh. Circle back. Yeah, exactly. I'll reset the question okay okay thank you here we go same time next year yeah next year next year no she's not getting married next year i'm not allowed i'm not allowing that oh okay not a married woman two years 18 months 24 months okay shut up you just be quiet over there. She's too young. She just turned 18.

She's the baby. I know. She's the baby. Her mother will kill us. I know. She would. She would murder us. I don't know.

No, your mother would kill us. I don't know. Courtney, chime in, please. Courtney's not watching. She's busy on the phone. Let's find out. If I got married next year, I don't... I mean, my dad would probably be like, you're stupid.

And he's right. But my mom probably wouldn't really go. Would she be, like, glad to have more space in the house? Is that what you're saying? Like, maybe. No. Mm-hmm. No.

She loves Talia. Because she does. Yeah. She does love Talia. That's for sure. But I think there's something to be said for, I don't know, man. People getting married and not even knowing. I mean, oh, my gosh.

I almost, it almost makes me angry with people for being that stupid. Yeah. It really does. I know. And then people that, like, when people want to get married too soon and they encourage it, and you know that they don't know each other, or they know each other, but they don't know each other in a romantic way, and you encourage it, I'm like, that makes me even mad me even matter too because i'm like yeah you're you understand this if that marriage goes awry you help that and you made two

lives very miserable all because it was so exciting and it was so much fun and i'm like, okay, how exciting is it to see two people that are extremely miserable and then eventually have children, potentially, and then the whole family is a mess? Nobody thinks about, like, everybody thinks about now. They never think about future. And for me, I'm like, it's so dangerous, but it does. It makes me almost infuriated because i can think of i can think of some some people right now i know several couples that are going walking into marriage and i'm like

you guys i i i just i for me and there's a couple of them that i in your gut you just know this is not good this is like and i barely even know some of these people. The Holy Spirit's so good that you just know this is not good. And everybody's giddy and happy over it because they don't understand the ramifications of what they're doing. They're just living in the moment. The moment's going to go by very quickly, and you're going to be living potentially in hell.

On earth. On earth on earth on earth right people get caught up in like the fun part of weddings and then forget like that fun part of relationships the newness of a relationship yeah they think that that's how it's always going to be right that is not how it's going to be right but go ahead what you're saying there we go no just that yeah that you get caught up in like the wedding and the buying the stuff and all the fun, the party part of it. And then like nobody even invests in like the actual part. Like what do you do? We've talked about this before.

Like what do you do when the first fight happens? What do you do when you're both making money? What happens if the wife makes more? Like nobody talks about that stuff. They're just so like caught up in the party part of it. Well, it's all the newly, uh caught up in the party part of it well it's all the newly uh the the newness of everything you go from the newness of the dating where everything is like the honeymoon period then you go to the newness of um talking about oh i can see us i can

see a future with you and then you basically go from the honeymoon dating time to like these people are getting engaged like just a few few months after they start dating. And then that's new because now we're planning a wedding. And then it's the newness of what you just said, preparing for the wedding. And everybody's laughing and joking around and thinking this is the best thing. You don't really know each other. It's like my mom. My mom and my best thing. You don't really know each other. Right. It's like my mom. My mom and my dad dated long distance.

Did they know each other? Nope. They surely did not. My mom would tell you that. She's like, I really didn't know. But the difference between people back then and people today is my mom and my dad, not an option even though there were moments that it was so hard that but really that wasn't really ever on the table just for the most part um but not today nowadays people divorce is just like a solution right instead of like not an option and so for me it's like it's just so serious and people take it so like frivolously i agree it's if you love somebody

you will not encourage them to get married too soon let them get to know each other and enjoy the process of getting to know each other and seeing if there is even something there instead of just falling in love because it feels so good. Right. Falling in love does feel good. That doesn't mean that who you're falling in love with will be great afterwards. They're in love with the idea of being in love.

Right. That's all that it is. And let's force this circle into a square peg. Yeah. They're in love with the idea of being in love. That's all that it is. And let's force this, this circle into a square peg. Right. Right. And it becomes a coping mechanism. Like it's always,

like you were saying, it goes from exciting to exciting to exciting. At some point life gets kind of like, after you have the kid, cause that's what happens. Now you get, you get married. Yeah.

And there's the, what's the next thing to keep that throttle exactly in in full now let's have a kid right and then after you have the kid and the woman don't look like she did when you were dating her uh because you didn't know her that long and you didn't know about all the things and her potential and yeah and then it's then you have to buy the boat and then like you're oh it's always like you'll see it the rest of your life. In a cabin in Tennessee. Exactly.

And then it never ends. At least date for like all four seasons. Right. And that's what we've agreed to. That's the Hope hotline. At least all four seasons. Right, Hope? It has to be.

I'm the big proponent of you date a year. Then you start investigating whether or not this is marriage potential. See what he does when the sun goes down. Yeah. And there's darkness for three months. Yeah. You know what I mean? Where's he going? It works better not in Florida. Does he have seasonal depression?

Yeah. What if he does? What if he's miserable in the heat and it's so hot and he's miserable and you love the heat? You don't know any of this stuff. But I think that. Or even jobs. How does it get when the job is tough?

Yeah. When things get tight. Yep. You don't know that. Or is he, you know, absolutely. People don't know that. I know. I'm a hustler, babe.

And it's so funny to me because some people are like, well, I knew him for so long before we ever dated. I'm like, but you didn't know him dating right right that is totally different than knowing somebody yeah like some people like i've my my niece and nephew knew their spouses like in grade school two of them knew each other one of them knew each other in high school and the other one knew each they knew each other since like kindergarten but when they started dating each other yeah they didn't know each other they just knew of each other that's all you do you know of somebody but you don't know them intimately right even if you

were friends with them being friends and being in a relationship are two different things. Yeah. And I don't know. I just think it's insanity. Yeah. And it like literally it burns me up because I only think of later on down the road and futuristically for children. Right. What's that going to look like? And you got now you got you got the husband's family. You got the wife's family.

And now you got children. So you've got, when we make decisions, it doesn't just affect the two or just the one. It has a ripple effect. It affects everybody. Yes. Everybody. So like, not that this would happen,

but if me and Tom got divorced, it wouldn't just affect my kids. It would affect my mom, my siblings, his mom, his siblings, and so on and so forth. Like you got to think about all of that. Well, and even when you're in leadership, like it would affect the whole church. Like, so if you ever see yourself getting to a place of leadership, it's not just the family too.

I mean, I've been through a divorce. So the ripple effect that it happens like in your workplace everywhere. So it's, yeah, you, it's not just about you. And if you're in ministry and you get, and you get divorced, you got to think about all the parishioners that you've sold a bill of goods to that you're not able to back and stand behind. I don't know. For me, it's just aside from Jesus, it's the number one decision that you'll have. Agreed. Absolutely.

Agreed. And people take it so lightheartedly. Right. It feels so good. But it's for the rest of your life. Rest of your life. And if you do get divorced, if you don't think it's the rest of your life, divorce is terrible. Even for people that are just like, they make it like, oh, we'll just separate.

It doesn't. It does something like it. Oh, 100%. Divorce is terrible. And that's why God literally said, I hate divorce. I agree. For that exact reason. I agree 100%.

And you know what, what floors me is like my sister said something to me about Tom, which was, which, you know, people will say, well, this is harsh or this is mean, but it was truth what she said to me. Tom, when I started dating him, he was like 275 pounds. That's a lot. That's the biggest guy I've ever dated in my whole life. Most of the guys I dated were thin and fit or whatever. Tom was fit, but he was fat. Big boy.

He's not big boned. He was fat. He had a lot of muscle under fat. Big boy. He's not big boned. He was fat. He had a lot of muscle under fat. That's the truth. And so he started dropping all this weight, right? But he went down to 215 pounds, super skinny, super skinny. But my sister said to me, she's like, you better think about it because like he could get fat again. Is that going to be a problem for you? People don't even think about that. That's valid. Like, and I was like, it might be a problem.

And I said that to him. I was like, listen, I think I can handle you this big, but you get any bigger than that. I don't like that. And so, and he, same for me, but most husbands and wives don't have a relationship like that. If you said that to, if a guy says that to his wife after she has a child and she doesn't do what it takes

to take the weight off and he doesn't like it, there's gonna be a problem. And the wife's gonna be hurt and offended because he's not like looking at her like he used to and because men are visual and those are the things that men don't think of like you gotta you better be looking at the mom like if you're a person that likes a woman that's fit or likes a woman a certain way you just better know like things don't always stay like that i hope you can handle it i you know no i hope you love somebody or when you dated them you dated them

long enough that there's such a strong relationship that's way more than just visual true because a lot of times it's not right so very true and especially staying pure because if there's anything else more than if you stay pure at least your friends yeah there's a deeper friendship there but if you don't now it's a whole nother can of worms that you've opened that that doesn't last like that either so yep whatever yeah yeah i got 17 minutes and I got a sponsor to sponsor. So are we, we're definitely not husband and wife and in heaven. We're definitely not husband and wife in heaven. All right.

Are you sad? It's pretty disappointing. That's a long time to be alive forever and ever and ever. With no husband and wife. And ever. And that's it. Like that part of your life is done. Not to bring it down on a sad note,

but it's just weird. It's so weird to think that you'll never. Bride of Christ. And maybe we just don't have our parts. Okay. Sponsor time? I don't know. I mean, it's got to be better.

It has to be. I know. When you said that, I'm like, that's got to be better. It has to be. That's what I know. When you said that, I'm like, that's, that's what I think is. It has to be better. He would never take away something that is good. He never makes less. Right. He always makes better.

Right. Always. Even in this lifetime. It's just our brains can't think, can't comprehend that, which also makes sense. Like I can, I can. But if you think about that, I mean, and I thought about this too. Now that we won't only answer a couple questions. But if you think about this, like some people have remarried,

like solid believers, like have remarried. I'll give you an example, like Dodie Osteen's remarried, right? Yep. So from what I understand, she's remarried. Look that up and make sure I'm correct. But I'm almost 100% positive. Well, she was married to John Osteen. Great man.

But if she's remarried, like, who's she going to, like, how's that going to work for her? Who does she pick to be married to? Like, that's why it can't be that you're married. Oh, wait. I see what you're saying. Like, if somebody died and then they were remarried yeah like who would you end up with it don't work like that no absolutely that's when jesus said that i was like yeah fair it makes i mean obviously like even if that woman had to keep remarrying like it's just an example like the pharisees were using like an example it wasn't a true fact about this woman.

But in that instance, she married the first man. And women were commodities then. They really weren't people who, like, they were owned. They really weren't loved. And maybe through time they were loved. But, like, today, though, it's a whole different thing. Do you see where she's married? I don't see. I don't. And it's not that it's a whole different thing. Do you see where she's married? I don't see. I don't.

I saw that she. Not that it's not the reader or. No, it's not saying. Because I just read something about her and it talked about, it sounded like this man. I was reading something that she was talking about and it was, she referenced him and she referenced him as if it was her husband. Okay. Yeah, it's not. And I was like, oh, I didn't know she got him as if it was her husband. Okay. Yeah, it's not. And I was like, oh, I didn't know she got married.

But maybe I'm wrong about that. That's why I was like, confirm that for me. I thought she did too. You did think that too? I did. She kept her last name. She didn't change it. But, or it's a hyphen.

I don't know. But I could swear she did. I'm looking. I'm still looking. She's definitely alive and well. Yeah, it just says together with her late husband of 44 years. It doesn't say remarried. But we'll just use that as an example, though.

What do you do, though? Who do you pick? Right. I mean, there's a lot of time in heaven. Maybe you have both. Whoa. I don't know. I don't either no it's yeah Jesus said no so it's a no but it's just weird it's just weird to think about but obviously it has to be better it's just a weird concept it is just like living forever it's the weirdest like I can't even my brain hurts when I think about like there's no end there's no end and you don't

grow old and there's no end like you don't grow old and there's no end. There's no end. And you don't grow old. And there's no end. Like you don't grow old. And there's no end. Me too. It like makes me like feel like, and then you sit there and go, Oh, if there's no end,

no end, dude, when you die, are you what you look like when you died? Or do you revert back to a certain age? Right? Like, what is it?

Right. What is it? Yeah. You say 30, 30. Yeah. That's what I've heard. You've is it? Yeah. You say 30? I say 30. Yeah. That's what I've heard too. Was that the best age ever?

You've heard 30? I've heard like in your 30s like Jesus. He was in his 30s. Huh. Interesting. But that's not, I mean, there's no fact about that,

but that's interesting. It is. That thought process behind that. And like, that's 30s when I had my last baby and I was like rocking at life. Okay. Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. 30s is a good age. My 40s are better, but I feel like rocking at life. Okay. Yeah. It's yeah. 30 is a good age. 40s are better, but I feel like I love 40s. I love them all. I wouldn't know. I'm so young.

I'm telling you like the 40s, I was telling the guys in the Dallas. I'm like, cause they're about to zoom right into them. But I was like, it's the best. Yeah. I'm excited for it. Oh my gosh, man. I'm excited for it.

Oh my gosh, man. I'm waving at 40 right now. 40 is freedom. It's like right there. You are free in 40. Like, I was telling them there was this book called Don't Sweat the Small Stuff. Do you guys remember that book?

Don't Sweat the Small Stuff? I swear, it must have been somebody who just, like, crusted right over into the 40s that wrote Don't Sweat the Small Stuff. Because that's where you learn like it don't matter. It's all good. Everything that you worried about before then, you realize that's stupid. Like why was I worried about that? Or why did everything always works out?

It's all good. But you don't, I don't know. Like, 40s was freeing for me. And 50s have been phenomenal. Did you say freeing? 40s were freeing. That's what Natalie said. Really?

She just typed in the chat. What? My 40s have been freeing. They are, man. They really are. 50s, phenomenal. Like, I love being, man. They really are. 50s, phenomenal. Like, I love being, I've loved being in my 50s.

I wasn't sad turning 50. I like, I was like celebrating 50. I thought it was awesome. Like, I was so happy to be turning 50. But they've been the best. It's exciting. So good. So good.

But I think it's all in how you look at it. It is. You know, it's a total mindset. Age is just a number. It good. So good. But I think it's all in how you look at it. It is. You know, it's a total mindset. Age is just a number. It really is, though. Especially when you're living to 120. I mean, you're a baby. I'm not living to 120, though.

Yes, you are. Absolutely. You have so much to do, Hope. I don't really want to live to 120, either. What is going on with you two? In my 90s, I'm surrounded by grandchildren and great-grandchildren in my, you know, mind. I'll talk to you then. Then I go to just take a little nap. 120, baby.

You guys already have a plan, though, with the boat and everything. Yeah, we do. And now I have, like, another plan. So, I mean, Tommy's coming up with all these ideas. I'm here for it all. I'll watch from above. I don't know. Will we make it that long?

I don't know if Jesus will tear you that long. I know, that's true. No, that's true. You're right. I don't know. Will we make it that long? I don't know if Jesus will tear you that long. I know. That's true. No, that's true. I'm okay with that, too. If he doesn't come back, I still am fine with my late 90s, like 99. Take me, Lord. I don't care. But what if you're still at the gym, like, lifting, and you're, like, doing great at 99?

But I don't care about that stuff. I'd like to weigh 119. I don't think I ever have. I want to go over 121. 119. But I don't care about that stuff because for me, I'd like to weigh 119. I don't think I ever have. I want to go over 121. 121. She wants to break the Bible when she wants to go unbiblical.

I love when Pastor Tom's like, you just climb a mountain? That's what I'm saying. You're going to climb a mountain at 120? That's what his intentions are. And I bet he will because he has spoken that so much. Not if he keeps eating all those peanut M&Ms.

No, he doesn't even care. I have to go to Costco and get him another container of them tomorrow. I might do it tonight. You can eat poison, okay? You can eat anything deadly. I don't want to get into this conversation right now. She's very happy. She just said, don't take her down this

wormhole where she gets ticked off. All you're going to do is make her mad. She's very happy. She just said it and not say you both. Don't take her down this wormhole where she gets kicked off. I'm sorry. All you're going to do is make her mad. Let's not make Sarah mad. She's happy. It's Happy Friday. I did bring it up. I know.

What a jerk I am. Her kids have to ride home with her. Let's make her happy. True. I'm not the problem on the ride home, I'm sure. It's going to be mom, I need this, or mom, I need that. Oh, I forget they're sitting right here listening. Love you guys.

Cuties. La-di-da. They are little cuties. Look at them. They can't. Nobody can look at them. Just kidding. I'll post a picture.

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All right. Here's the last question. We have five minutes for this last question. And I'm skipping a bunch of them to get to this one. Perfect. Because we have pictures. Yes, we do. This one says, I think cats make better companions than dogs.

I don't know who this is, but maybe you've never had a dog. I don't know because you know where my opinion is going to go. I've had cats and dogs. I've had more cats than I've had dogs. Oh, okay. By a lot. What do you think? What do you and the peanut gallery think? Okay. So for me personally, I am a dog person. I love my cats. My cats have slept with me. They are very affectionate towards me. And they're not like, a lot of cats are very independent and they want nothing to do with you.

I've had cats like that. And those cats, I was fine that they were like that because I really didn't like them very much. So it didn't bother me. But then I have the ones that are like, like I don't know how Heather does it, but every single cat Heather picks is like top quality cat. I've never, Heather has never had a cat that was an independent and wanted nothing to do with you cat.

They've always been loving and affectionate. And that's male and female. Wow. I don't know how she does it. Tom's like, I'm going to have Heather pick out all our cats from now on. Seriously. Because she's got the knack. Now, we've had some crappers.

We've had some ones that, like, duds. But the ones that were great, they were great. But dogs, man, they're always, I mean, they're always great. There we go. That's my dog, Atomar. You took that? That's Talia's. Yeah, that's my dog adamar you took that that's talia's yeah he that's when he came into the office that's him right there too adamar he's just the sweetest and the most like loving

and affectionate dog but our girl dog nila she was too she was a little bit of a snob but she's super loving and addy's way more like loving than her very affectionate wouldn't let you like lay on her but like addy will addy will nila had to love you first oh yeah 100 i feel that yeah 100 yeah i'm a dog lover yeah so i'm in the dog i say dog what do you say tracy i'm annoyed with both of my animals right now. You just got a new dog. I know. And he's being bratty.

Or she's being bratty. See, and I can't even remember which one's which. Because I'm so used to having a boy dog. I've messed this whole thing up. So this is my cat. I think girl dogs are way easier than male dogs. Girl dogs? You think girl dogs are easier than male dogs? Are it harder than male dogs?

I don't know. I'm just annoyed with both of them right now. Okay. My cat needs to be neutered and is peeing everywhere. Oh, gross. Including Natalie, by the way. I need new papers because if you had a cat, he smelled it and he peed all over your papers. So I need new papers.

Is that a girl cat or a male dog? No, that's a male. That's the reason why. And he will spray from now on. I'm like going to. Marking his territory. That's what I told you, Tal. Did I not tell you, Tal?

Murdering him. Okay. And this is my sweet little puppy that's also bratty and just keeps pooping. And so that's fun. Oh, my gosh. Look at her. Look how cute she is. Also annoyed with her.

What's their names? Daisy. Is the dog. Is the dog. And then this one is teddy theodore roosevelt oh my god so yeah those are my those are my bratty animals right now both of them are very like they're not even a year old neither one of them so i'm giving them a break because i i but like fred i loved fred but i'm not like a crazy animal. Like they're animals and I love them.

I don't care. I hate my house without animals, but I also, they're animals. I can put them in a daycare. You care more about your animals, I think, than you think, because you can even talk about Fred. No, I know. Oh, 100%. Like when they die, it's the most terrible thing in the entire world.

Like I was so sad. But also like I'm okay putting them in a daycare. I'm okay. Like I'm okay being away from them. Like, yeah, I miss them. But like I can just separate it for some reason. You guys are, you love your animals. Yeah.

And I love that for you. I can't do that. Did you see her comment? Oh, no. Natalie. Natalie's the animal clinic in Hendry. I well i don't even yeah i just need it done asap so natalie can that be done asap i tried calling somebody they said two to four weeks i was like that's not gonna work for me bro i mean that's all you can get then you better make that

no no i'm gonna find i'm gonna find somebody listen that's crazy i'll get it done but once they start peeing and spraying i know i'm cleaning everything like a psycho like it's not possible they do they spray that's what i've heard and that's what i've seen personally so my neighbor did say that but she said once they were neutered but i don't know how quickly she did it once he was neutered she said he was fine afterwards so in jesus name if my neighbor can have that favor. Yes. In Jesus name, I'm getting it. It's going to have to be a miracle. And it will be. Yeah.

Okay. So you're so you're not you're you don't like either. You're not a fan of either. Not right now. I would if somebody likes them like this is the I'll take a small fee. If anybody would like one of my animals. I'm just kidding. They're really great.

Please. Somebody. No, I'm just joking. I love my animals. You're not a dog or a cat person. Not today. After what I woke up to. They're really great. Please, somebody. No, I'm just joking. I love my animals. You're not a dog or a cat person then? Not today. After what I woke up to. Yeah, not today.

Okay. Yeah, because I like them both, but I also am mad at both of them. So you'd rather have a donkey? Oh, a horse. Oh, I have a horse. I forgot. That's true. This is a dog or a cat, people. I know.

Okay. So we're just going to go with the horse for now. Yeah, I'm switching to Delilah. I'm happy with her right now okay um and then this is talk about this towel so he was originally a he but now they just found out yesterday are you serious they just found out yesterday she's a girl oh because transgender cat we bought him when he was literally like a week old. So they didn't really know the gender.

They were guessing. They were guessing. Oh, so they were wrong. It is a girl. OK, I like. And this is a Maine Coon. So she will get very big and she has six toes. So, yes, she's a poly.

So she's got an extra finger. I love those. I don't have a name. So if you have any name recommendations, please put them in the chat. Okay. I'm struggling. Some girl names now. Yeah.

Okay. So you're a cat person. I am a cat person. Okay. Okay. All right. Vanessa. Aw.

Who's that? That's Bailey. That's Bailey. She's our special needs. She's also the alpha. If you know her, you know she's actually special needs. If you know, you know. If you know, you know.

Oh, my gosh. Yes. Okay. She's sweet. We love her. Okay. And then I've got... Next.

Perdita. Perdita. And she still needs to be delivered from her anxiety and we've got Kit Kat Kit Kat who does not have a great ratio like head to body

ratio I wonder why look how cute I know I need to do that this year I wonder why. I wonder why. Look how cute. Aw. I know. I know. That is precious. I need to do that this year.

I'm doing that. She's a little bottom heavy. But we don't shame her. We love her. Look at her. Oh my. I love this picture so much. Hey, that looks like my Meemers.

My Meemers would look just like that. Oh my gosh. Yeah, Misty. I love that. She was the same color. And she was a little chunky monkey herself. Meemers was. Does she have a little head?

She had a little head. She didn't have the weight issue. Okay. That's a nice way to say it. Vanessa's cat has. But my girl still had a little junk in the trunk. Okay. That's a nice way to say it. Vanessa's cat has. But my girl still had a little junk in the trunk. Okay. So.

Okay. That's going to be Vanessa's new profile. She still has something going on. Contact picture. Yeah. That girl needs to go on a diet. You know what? But you don't shame.

So what is it? She's fat and happy. Like her mama. Oh my gosh. Yeah, no kidding. And at this point, I'm both. I'm a dog lover. I'm a cat lover.

That little cat right there, she wasn't planned. Jeff ran her over one day as a kitten. And he was like, any cat that can survive that has my respect. And so we brought her in. And she's the sweetest little thing. She is. I love her.

She needs to stay inside because she's going to be somebody's going to eye that and go, that's a nice little treat. No, she loves going outside. She's a gangster. She's an outside, inside cat. She's potty trained. She goes out with the dogs.

I don't have a litter box. Seriously. That might make me a cat person. She's absolutely perfect. She is. She's my sweet little thing. Not my cats. I think we're training mine to go in the toilet.

That's the smartest thing you could ever do. You go, girl. You go, girl. Okay, Sarah? Well, apparently my personal assistant chose for me. Tempest, who is actually now taking a nap on the couch in the podcast room. And she said, I got you, Mom. I got you.

I'll send it. So I don't even know. What are we looking at here? It's a cat. It's a cat upside down. So we actually have four cats. Oh. We have two cats that are outside all the time.

Oh. And that's because we had just two cats. And then we got a dog. And the cats were like, bye. Oh. They were like indoor, outdoor already. And now they're just outdoor. But after those cats went outside to live permanently, of course, we needed more.

So now we have two cats that are purely indoors and two cats that are only outdoors and a very dumb dog. Are you a dog or cat person? Cats, 100%. Interesting. I just love cats. Like when it gets cold outside, how do you get them cats inside? We don't. They don't want to come in? No, they're fine.

You know all this rain that we've been having and the wind and everything? One of them was just curled up in the corner just chilling. I'm like, do we bring them inside? What do we do? They're like, no. Get away from me, woman. We got this. Oh my gosh, man. They've changed too. Like their bodies have gotten different and they're like all the mice and stuff. So

my hopes, my dreams is that they like keep things out of the garden. There's not much growing in there right now, but you know, like rabbits and things, they'll get them before rabbits. But I, I feel more affinity towards cats because I get the whole just mind your own business thing. I don't feel like I'm getting there. Very independent. Not like a pack person. I need to be around people.

But that's changing. Yeah, I don't believe that. That is changing. That doesn't change my opinion. Who you are. I think you can be both. Because I feel like I love being around people. I was just talking to Tom about this like, I don't know, three or four days ago.

I mean, I am definitely a people person. I love being with people. But I feel like, this sounds terrible, but I feel like I'm at my best when I'm alone. I feel like I can conquer the daggum world. You know, when I'm alone and I'm like with my own thoughts and like trying to do things, I'm like, let's get in there. Let's do this.

I don't know. I can do, I'm totally, let's get in there. Let's do this. I don't know. I can do, I'm totally fine with people or without people. I love being with people, but I love being by myself. I mean, being by myself does not bother me a bit. I thrive in that environment. Some people can't be by themselves at all. You actually described me.

What is that? You actually described me. Yeah. I think it's good to be being... I think it's good. I don't think it's horrible if you can't be both. That's not what I'm saying. But I think it's really good if life

takes you both ways. That you can acclimate and you can get the job done. You're happy in both scenarios. I'm going to tell you. I'm not scenarios. Correct. Yeah. Now I'm going to, I'm going to tell you, I'm not going to be eaten by myself. I'm not going to a restaurant sitting by myself and eating.

That's embarrassing. Everybody looks at you and they're like, Oh, poor you. That's why I don't want to do it because they feel bad for you. And I'm like, you really don't need to feel bad for me. I actually like this,

but because too many eyes are on you for you. I'm like, you really don't need to feel bad for me. I actually like this. But because too many eyes are on you and they're feeling like, aw, she doesn't have no friends. Look at her. I really like it this way. I put a video on. Or this thing. I've done fast food by myself, but not like a sit-down

restaurant. Yeah, and for me, when I see people eating by themselves, I'm like, you go. I'm thinking to myself, they're probably loving every minute of this quiet. But everybody else is going, aww. I'm going to buy her dinner. Hey, listen, you can do that

for me. If I eat by myself, I'm going to eat dinner all day long. Where are you eating? I'm fine with that. For sure. Because we've done that. We've seen someone sitting by themselves at Prime. I've done it too, though we'll we'll take her yeah i've bought people that are by themselves ordered the most expensive thing of course poor sarah i think it was me smells really good it's clean i washed it today um, I've bought people's dinner that were by themselves. I've never thought of that.

It's a good idea. But I'm probably content. I don't know. It just doesn't bother me a bit. I love it. But I won't eat by myself because I don't want pity. I feel like people pity you. You eat by yourself?

You go to restaurants by yourself, Sarah? Oh, yeah. I don't care. They're not. They don't. If they look at me, it's for a second. And then they're back at their phones, yeah. I don't care. They're not, they don't, if they look at me, it's for a second and then they're back at their phones or whatever. True. It is true. I don't know.

Yeah. Like dinner by yourself? I love being alone. I like it. Doesn't bother me a bit. Mom says she ate at Cracker Barrel by herself and no one offered to buy her meal. Very disappointed. If I was there, Kim, I would have bought your meal. You need of enough in your life.

You didn't look pathetic enough, Kim. That's part of the problem. You gotta look pathetic. We should do a social experiment. We should. Go to dinner by yourself. Let us know. You know what you could do? We'll film it.

Film it and see what happens. We'll look pathetic. We'll do one pathetic and one like we're the happiest thing on the face of the earth. Toby, you've got cameras and stuff for WMTV. You can be our camera person. Social experiment. Yes. I love social experiments.

Social experiment. Yes. And then we pay them back. Yes. Double it. Double it. Oh, yeah. For people who bought my meal. Yes. Yeah. Double it For people who bought my meal

Double it And then we invite them to church And they get saved and delivered It's our new Hey listen Soul winning is cancelled We got a new plan This is how we're rolling from now on

Scratch the soul winning We're going out to dinner Social experiment yeah oh my gosh scratch the soul winning we're going out to dinner social experiment oh my gosh oh my gosh kristen's watching she said she used to go to eat her eat by herself all the time in la but she was single and trying to catch a man so that's smart that was smart now is that how she caught is that how you got me That's what I want to know. You mean Gavin? Gavin. Oh, that Kristen?

Oh, yeah, Kristen, Kristen. Sorry, I should have said. She did live in LA. I thought you meant Kristen Benz. I know. Yeah, of course. So Kristen, ask her. Yeah, is that how you got Gavin?

Yeah, how'd you get Gavin then? Out to dinner. No, she actually told us the story the other night. It was like Gavin hit on her first and she was like because gavin was like really skinny and like i'm like a bowl cut yeah like it was so funny that won't work for that girl and she's like she's like uh i'm good no and then like a few years later she ended up hitting on him at a gym not knowing it was him. What? No way.

And then he turned around and she was like, I know you. Oh my gosh. Yeah, you do, girl. Yeah, you do. I felt the same way about Tom. I did. I felt the same way about Tom. That's so funny. Life has a way of turning things around.

Yeah. There it is. If they just change ever so slightly slightly they might be a little bit more attractive jeff had a bald head and a bald head down to here he has a full head of hair i know he why did he shave it that was cool you shaved your head back in the day yeah bald head listen i was back in the day and i don't know anybody who thought it was cool. Like 2000. Like in New York. Yeah. Was it a taper cut? Or was it shaved completely? No. It looked like a razor to his head.

Yeah. Ah. Yeah. Shaved it. Yes. And a chiba down to here that he gelled. A chiba? A chiba.

Like a goatee? Almost like what Pastor Tom has, but like. Longer. Longer. And then he gelled it. Oh my gosh. And I looked at him and I was like. With the shaved head?

Yeah. Yeah, Vendy's old vibes. I think I have a picture of him. I was going to find it. I'm sorry. I don't remember. And when you lived in New York, I lived in D.C. And the same things that were happening there

was happening here. Early 2000s, like 2003. You were having babies. It didn't matter if it was actually really bad. Oh, I wasn't in D.C. anymore. Forget that. Us here, us having babies. You were having babies. You had I wasn't in DC anymore. Forget that. Us here. Us having babies.

You were having babies. You had Norma. I don't remember. Oh, my goodness. I don't remember that. But it was after my time. Are you going to show pictures? I was seeing if they could find it.

I was going to be prepared just in case. I'm finding it. Interesting. 2.5 seconds. Yeah. it interesting 2.5 seconds yep kristen said oh yeah i needed to claim him before anyone else did when i met him the second time years later so she got on it best thing ever they say hey i'm gonna do this next question while she finds that picture really fast yeah even though we're i don't know how many minutes over it's okay we're good 13 yeah okay this is many minutes over. It's okay. We're good. But you're going to go. 13? Yeah.

Okay. This is a quickie. Okay. Quickie question. Yeah. Okay. Switch it back to you. Yeah.

Thank you for clarifying. Quickie question. I, this person says, I love, in all caps, love pineapple on my pizza. What's your favorite toppings?

So I'm going to give my favorite toppings and then you give your favorite toppings. Me, I'm a cheese-only person, although I've thrown up twice since I've eaten pizza. So pizza's off my menu for a while because pizzas taste terrible coming back up. Yes. It's horrible. I'm not doing it. I'm not up for that.

It was pizza and wings. Not up for that for a while. So my favorite thing is just plain cheese. Okay. But my next favorite thing is plain cheese with vegetables. Green peppers. No onions. Olives.

Black olives. No mushrooms. Like with, what's those peppers? Banana peppers. Oh, I love banana peppers. That's my jam. That's what I want. Okay, now while you're doing that put a peanut gallery on

so they can give yours. Sarah, you start and we'll work our way up. What do you want on your pizza? I love pineapple on my pizza. What's your favorite toppings? I do also enjoy pineapple. Like a pineapple and ham. Like a Hawaiian pizza? Yep, enjoy pineapple like a pineapple and ham. Like a Hawaiian? Yep.

Or I like a white pizza. Oh white pizzas are good. That's true. That's true. I like white pizza but I prefer just cheese and veggies. What's yours Vanessa? My favorite is it's called a grandma slice or

like a margarita. Where do you get that? Yeah Margarita. Oh back get that yeah back in brooklyn but just sauce and cheese red sauce red sauce and cheese and a little bit of basil i mean if you can make that good then that's a real good slice of pizza which in new york just a cheese, slice of cheese pizza. Some sauce and some basil. Yeah. So good.

It is good. Okay. There's two. One is instead of the tomato sauce, me and my dad do barbecue sauce. Oh, that's interesting. And then pineapple and ham. The New Yorker is listening. Pineapple with barbecue? Pineapple and ham pineapple with barbecue pineapple and ham pineapple with barbecue as the sauce yeah wow that doesn't sound good and the stuffed crust it's so good

okay and then um just like pepperoni or pepperoni with banana peppers yeah I love banana peppers they're so good I always get them on my side. Trace? I also love pineapple. And I don't love ham with it. I feel like it's just too much. But I also love cheese. So I'll either go cheese or pineapple. And I do love a ton of veggies on it, too, depending on where it's coming from. Like a real pizza place, I'll take all the veggies.

But I don't love meat on it. I'm not a big meat person either because I do like but I love veggies on my pizza yeah and I am hungry right now yeah I am too it's making me want to have pizza by yourself I don't know about that oh by myself that that's definitely in an in an. Okay. I don't have a problem with that. So, okay. Oh. That's his sister, by the way. Look at that bald head. That is

that's our Jeff. That's like a Fu Manchu. Yeah. Chiba wasn't as long back then. But that is a shaved head. That's like a bicked shaved head. Yeah. That's him. okay the hope space i'm in shock like why if you have a whole head of hair and he's got great hair

no that was cool hope you were having babies you didn't know you didn't know the vin diesel vibe everybody wanted to be vin diesel i know i know yes yes all my boyfriends had shaved heads yes it was it was 2000s everybody shaved their head that's why when i saw him i was like yeah ben diesel where's your car where's his car he didn't have one he didn't have a car he's like tom we had a metro card yeah, but here's the thing. You lived in New York. Right. That's cool, too.

That's kind of normal. I lived in Florida. Walking wasn't fun. No. There's no public transportation around here. Oh, my gosh. My mic keeps... Oh, it's because I'm sitting on my thing.

You're good. I don't know what's going on. My thing is walking especially in the summer is definitely out so Tom had no car so we rode in mine everywhere we went even when he dumped me

we rode in mine that's interesting isn't it that's very interesting that is something what is that? God bless you for even doing that God knew That's interesting, isn't it? Yes. That's very interesting. That is something. What is that? God bless you for even doing that. Yeah.

God knew. God knew the future. I'm like, you need to walk. I should have because he made me ride by myself. Stop that car like Chandler and Joey on Friends. Oh, my gosh. Get out. I remember that. Get out. It's fun. I'm gosh. Get out. I remember that. Get out.

It's fun. I'm just too big of a person for that. I know. Look at you. When they go low, I go high, people. Yes, you do.

That's how I roll. All day. All right. We're going to see you on Sunday, three-day weekend. We're going to rock it this weekend.

I don't know what that means, but we're going to do it. Okay. Rock it. Rock it. We're going to rock it. And we'll see you Sunday, and thank you for tuning in. Bye. Real talk.

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