The Interview - Change Can Be Beautiful. Just Ask Will Ferrell and Harper Steele.

Episode Date: September 7, 2024

The superstar comedian and his best friend and collaborator discuss the journey that deepened their friendship. ...

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Starting point is 00:00:00 From The New York Times, this is The Interview. I'm David Marchese. How well do we know our friends, our neighbors, ourselves? In the new documentary Will and Harper, Will Ferrell and his best friend and frequent collaborator Harper Steele take a cross-country road trip together to try to answer those questions. Hitting the highway on a quest for meaning is a classic American story, but this time there's a fresh angle.
Starting point is 00:00:28 Harper is a trans woman who came out to her friends, including Will, two years ago. That was after years as a comedy writer, many of them at Saturday Night Live, where they both worked, and where Harper eventually became a head writer. They both have mixed feelings about their work at SNL, as they explained to me.
Starting point is 00:00:43 They also had some ups and downs on their road trip, which was ultimately a chance for them to talk through what Harper's transition means for their friendship and for them both to get a clearer sense of how their fellow Americans really feel about transgender identity. The film's soul-searching often comes wrapped in laughs. But given how politicized trans rights have become, especially in the past few years, even situations set up for comedy can turn tense. There's a scene in the movie where Harper and Will stop for what they hope is a silly fun dinner slash steak eating challenge at an Amarillo, Texas steakhouse, and things get, well, no one is laughing by the time they leave. That steakhouse scene and this
Starting point is 00:01:19 emotionally wide-ranging film evoke feelings in me that work by Will Ferrell hasn't before. And I say that as someone who will argue vehemently for the deeper resonance of the gloriously idiotic Step Brothers. That's the movie I've seen most in my life. But the point, and this was underscored by my conversation with these two, as well as by their movie, is that while change can be pretty tricky, if we're lucky, it can also make life a lot better. Here's my conversation with Will Ferrell and Harper Steele. Thank you guys again for taking the time to do this.
Starting point is 00:01:52 Absolutely. I never know how much has been explained to the people I talk to what it is we're doing. Can I give you a little context about what this is? The history of the New York Times? Ridiculous. Whoa. Started in 1892, right? Sorry. This is going to happen a lot to you.
Starting point is 00:02:10 Okay. Yes, please. Sorry. I need to compose myself to sound professional. Yes, come on. This isn't the New York Times, for God's sake. This isn't... It's hard-hitting. Okay. The planes dealer.
Starting point is 00:02:23 The very hard-hitting first question. How did you guys become friends? We became friends at Saturday Night Live. We were hired in the summer or fall of 1995. And we were all this brand new group. So no one knew each other. And one day Harper and I went to lunch, a very pivotal lunch for me.
Starting point is 00:02:55 Tell me about it. Already, even though there was a brand new cast and a brand new group of writers, cliques had started to form. And I was kind of on the outside looking in. And subsequently, I found out later, a lot of other people were like, who's the tall kind of maybe sort of handsome guy? What is he? He doesn't seem funny. And Harper and I had lunch. And she reported back to the gang. Hey, by the way, that guy, he actually is funny.
Starting point is 00:03:26 He's just kind of quiet, and I think in some ways that, like, opened the door to people accepting me a little bit. Will, if he's not on camera... Here it comes. He's kind of boring. He's boring. Wait, Harper, do you remember the first sketch you wrote for Will? No, because I probably wrote a few for him.
Starting point is 00:03:57 But my best moment early on at SNL was I wrote a sketch for Will called Zipper Boots. Yes. And I was not doing well on the show. I was not getting stuff on the show. I hadn't figured it out. I was just kind of losing the competitive battle in that environment.
Starting point is 00:04:14 When I'm losing, I generally go, oh, fuck it. And so then I'll write something that I guess makes me laugh. So I wrote this sketch called Zipper Boots. It's just a talk show guy who stops every interview to show off this new pair of zipper boots he's got. Anyway, Lauren did not pick it for the show. It's not a good sketch. But it did get laughs. Will, I'm sitting in rewrites. I'm the lowest you can be on Thursday with nothing on the show. You're a failure. And Will walks in with a box for me, and it's my very own pair of zipper boots. And I know, like, it's funny, but it really was sort of like, because Will had started to do pretty good on the show.
Starting point is 00:05:03 And so I, sad to say, I needed that validation. And, yeah, I still have them. You know, you just referred in passing to SNL being kind of competitive. And I think that's from the outside, people have a perception of the show as maybe not the easiest workplace environment. You know, I don't think of comedians as like, I think of them as people who like to tease, maybe not the gentlest with displays of vulnerability. I wonder for you, Harper, given the internal disconnect you were feeling,
Starting point is 00:05:42 what was the workplace environment like for you? I mean, maybe you found it to be a place of escape, or maybe you did find it inhibiting. I also realize I've just drastically changed the tone of this interview on a dime. We can do that. We'll bring it back to our tone. Don't worry. Don't worry.
Starting point is 00:05:56 We'll mess it up. No, that's a good question. I think if you look in a comedy room, period, you're looking at a lot of dissociation and people who are hiding things. We know that because people are drug addicts. Daryl Hammond said that he was cutting himself. I mean, he has this in his book.
Starting point is 00:06:16 So people are dealing with things that comedy helps cover. So, yeah, you're walking into that environment and you don't want to let a lot of your vulnerability come out. I can't say I was sitting around there thinking I was a woman. I just know that it's a scary environment. So I'm not exactly sure how to answer that. Without a doubt, I used comedy from a very early age to deflect. So it's a professional deflecting environment, you know? You're walking in there, and as soon as anything got too real,
Starting point is 00:06:55 like we're doing today, you gotta find a laugh. Yeah. But in the film, will you say you basically had no idea that Harper was struggling, certainly at the time? In retrospect joking around and everything like that. You know, that aha, so that's what, I mean, you know, in retrospect, this could be a thing. I, Harper to me was, she was this lovable curmudgeon, you know, who was kind of grumpy and very grumpy, even though I always saw your silliness. And I, so I would purposely come up to Steele and be like, how you doing? Come on, give me a little hug. And you would hate it. You would hate it. And I would like hug you as hard as I could. Now, in retrospect, that is, that's something.
Starting point is 00:08:25 Now, in this moment, I'm thinking, oh, okay. Yeah, you did not want to be. No. You did not want to be. Don't come in. Engaged in that way at all. But that's what Drew, I would always, oh, I'm going to give Harper a hug here. She hates it.
Starting point is 00:08:40 But I don't know. That's. Funny. Yeah. I think the 50th anniversary of the show is just next year. Uh-huh. Do you feel like the show has, in as much as you pay attention, has it changed since you've been on it?
Starting point is 00:08:55 What's your sense of how the show has evolved over time? Jeez. Hmm. I think the show has stayed exactly the same in the sense that it's just forever generational. The older generations reminisce how it used to be so much better. And anyone in high school or college thinks it's the greatest thing. But I think we both kind of check it out every now and then but not yeah i don't watch it that much i i feel like it's more inclusive i mean i just know your staff yeah the cast feels a little more inclusive than in our era but that's changed, for sure. To echo Will's point, I've always said this.
Starting point is 00:09:46 There are two or three good sketches every show, sometimes just one, and the rest of them are shit. However, we all don't agree on what those three sketches are. Go back and watch a whole show from 78. There's a bunch of shit. It's very meandering. And there's some classics. And so that's what I think every era does.
Starting point is 00:10:14 You mentioned that the show is more inclusive now. And that seems to be inarguable. Yeah. Do you ever think back to material that you wrote or were in and thought, well, that was a bad way into that joke, or I wouldn't have handled that subject like that today? Is there anything sort of makes you cringe a little?
Starting point is 00:10:38 A good third of my comedy? Yeah. Yeah. I would say I wouldn't write that today, or I wouldn't handle it that way today. No, there were a few times even while seeing the sketch mounted, I would go, ugh. And I think that that is a fear-based thing where you feel like you've got to please an audience or you're losing your job and you make a decision that is not. I can't say this for Will. I feel like he was more secure in who he was. But for me, I probably felt a lot of fear, imposter syndrome. I might have overstepped bounds that even I was, I know I did. Yeah, I think, I think I'd have to go back and actually review shows. But I'm sure there'd be a fair amount where you'd lament the choice.
Starting point is 00:11:34 I mean, in a way, the cast, you're kind of given this assignment. So I'm going to blame the writers. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. He's not culpable at all. Just following orders. But yeah, I mean, I think that's the nature of the show. I wrote Monica Lewinsky's stuff I wasn't proud of.
Starting point is 00:11:53 I wrote some good Britney stuff and some stuff that I'm not as proud of, you know, Britney Spears. And so, you know, I wrote some Clinton things I wasn't proud of. Yeah, I would not approach it in the same way at all, and I don't. So, you know, I'm just moving on. I have to. The Janet Reno character hits a false note now. Yeah, that's something, yeah. I wouldn't choose to do now. This kind of bums me out, though.
Starting point is 00:12:20 This is something that I actually feel a little bit differently about it. I understand the laugh is a drag laugh. It's the, hey, look at this guy. He's got a got an address and that's funny. And it's absolutely not funny. It's absolutely a way that we should be able to live in the world. However, with performers and actors, I do like a sense of play. I do think people should play with characters. This is an interesting question to camera. Do people think that that's funny or is it just hurtful? And I've heard from gay men that it was funny and I've heard from gay men it was very hurtful. And I understand both. I just, sometimes I wonder if, and I'm the most woke. I am accusably purple-haired woke. I'm telling you.
Starting point is 00:13:26 But I do wonder if sometimes we take away the joy of playing when we take away some of the range that some performers, especially comedy performers, can do. So now I've got some questions about the movie. Harper, you say in the film that one of the things you've always loved to do is sort of take these cross-country drives. Yeah. Just explore the country by yourself.
Starting point is 00:13:49 And you like to go out of the way bars and diners and stuff like that. Whose idea was it that Will would go along with you on your first of these cross-country drives after transitioning? Well, it was Will's idea. Most definitely it was Will's idea. Most definitely it was Will's idea. I wouldn't have never thought of something like that,
Starting point is 00:14:08 nor when he suggested it to me did I think it was a good idea. So it took a little bit of a thought process for me a couple months before I actually thought, well, there might be something here. It wasn't my first time crossing as Harper. I crossed, but I was intensely fearful. Like I would stay in, I slept in my truck, which is something I did all the time anyway. And I would not go into like my favorite kinds of places, the restaurants, the truck stops, the bars. I didn't do any of that. But I don't know. So it was a different thing with Will. So, Will, can you explain to me what your thinking was? I mean, if Harper said initially she wasn't jazzed about the idea, what was your sort of pitch to her about why to do it? I don't really know.
Starting point is 00:14:59 Because I told her, like, I'm not trying to exploit our friendship. Please, I hope you know that. But this is a crazy enough idea. Like, and by the way, this is all, this is the first time we'd seen each other. Oh, yeah. We were having coffee in my backyard and it's, we're both nervous, you know. So we're sitting down and we're kind of like, how's it been going? Oh, my God.
Starting point is 00:15:26 Just catching up. And that's when I kind of sprung it on her. Because I'd heard from a mutual friend of ours that she was lamenting the fact that I don't know if I can do these same type of road trips the way I used to. And I said to Harper, what if we went on a road trip? I went with you and we film it. And I'll be kind of like your offensive lineman, so to speak. And, you know, a chance for me to actually kind of ask all the questions that I have. And we can kind of examine what's changed, what's not. But I totally get it if you don't want to.
Starting point is 00:16:06 But I think Harper finally landed on the square that we could help people possibly. But I don't know. It didn't come from a social justice warrior kind of place at all. I mean, we're both producers and writers and he's kind of an actor. I'm a mid-level. Mid-level. I'm either a mid-level A-lister or I'm a top-tier B-list. We both create a lot of shit.
Starting point is 00:16:37 I'm falling to top-tier B-list as the years go on. Yes, I'll take that. Get the paycheck still. No, I think we both make a lot of crap. So I think that's how we think sometimes too. Just like we want to go do something fun. What can we make out of it? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:16:55 I just think that's part of our process. But I had to talk myself into doing it. And again, I can't really pin down the motive. There is a social justice part of this because I'm reading the newspaper every day and more and more trans bills are being offered up to every state in the country. And it's making me think like, well, you're a fucking old lady, you can do something. And so I'm thinking about that. But then I'm also thinking like, hey, I would like to go across the country with the best bodyguard of all time who everyone wants to meet and love. I mean, it's a little cowardly, but that's, yeah, I want to do that. So the motives are all, you know, they're everywhere.
Starting point is 00:17:49 I did think, like, if you had been traveling with someone who wasn't recognizable, there would have been, I assume, a lot more anonymity. Traveling around with Will Ferrell, you know, isn't exactly an unmediated experience. Did you feel like there was any tension in that idea at all for you? It's hard to say. Probably not because I've been around Will for 30 years, you know. And so that part felt comfortable. I know, I didn't see any of the negative side effects, except for obviously, you know, we show in the film a few places where social media is responding to us and they wouldn't respond to me and some other non-celebrity friend of mine at all.
Starting point is 00:18:29 That wouldn't come up. Will is putting a spotlight on this whole thing. So you've got people calling me the best, the wonderful, the best possible names that they can come up with there in their basements because they don't have any time to do anything else constructive.
Starting point is 00:18:46 Right. Whatever. Yeah. I love them all. So there's one scene in particular in the film. Uh-oh. It takes place at a steakhouse in Amarillo, Texas. That's the one you just referred to after, I think,
Starting point is 00:19:02 people were saying some pretty nasty things on social media. And so that scene happens and, you know, it's an upsetting experience. And then in the car after, Will, you say you felt like you let Harper down. Can you sort of unpack that a little bit for me? Did you let her down in the sense that you weren't able to diffuse the tension in that moment or, or that you invited that moment at all kind of. Yeah. I think both of those,
Starting point is 00:19:31 you know, what didn't really have a grasp on how, uh, intense it was going to be. Um, and yeah, I was, I felt like we just didn't, um, yeah, I felt like we just didn't, yeah, we didn't do our due diligence and we found ourselves in this situation that felt like it was going to be just this benign kind of, you know, place where you eat a big steak in the amount of time. And then you walk in and it's a thousand people seated in this room.
Starting point is 00:20:11 And I was like, oh, why? Why are we here? Also, just to paint the picture for people, you were dressed as Sherlock Holmes. Yeah, exactly. I'm like, that was a bad choice too. I thought it was going to be, I thought it was going to be so fun.
Starting point is 00:20:36 Do you think the people in the restaurant thought you were making fun of them somehow? Like that you had turned the thing into a spectacle? Like why were the vibes so off there uh well you're up you know you're just up on this raised platform and i i mean the vibes were just so off uh because to put it bluntly there was a trans woman sitting. Next to Sherlock Holmes. To your earlier question, I would say that was a moment where the Will Ferrell factor actually
Starting point is 00:21:14 worked against me because that was a fishbowl and the room was really zeroing in on a lot of photographs, a lot of selfies, a lot of, and, um, and, and I was sitting up there on a sort of on display and, um, here I'll say something that wasn't in the doc. Yeah. Um, we'd gave a little toast and, um, it was funny. And, um, uh, I said something about passing a trans bill, and the room did a kind of reversal and a little bit of a boo, and I pulled myself out of it.
Starting point is 00:21:51 And a woman shouted out, we still love you. And I hate the phrase. I could be misinterpreting this woman completely. But this is the feeling I had in the room. But it felt condescending, for sure. The still, it's the conditional. You still love me. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:22:11 When I finally give up being trans and give my life over to Christ, then I'm worthy of, then they will love me more and I will have hidden a bit. But they still love me even though I'm some kind of a sinner or something. I felt that. And I think I kind of wished I'd walked in and said,
Starting point is 00:22:37 oh no, this is going to be terrible. Let's just go. Why are we here? Now, we both kind of stuck it out because you know i guess it's the function of having cameras there and we're making this thing and this is one of the places we were talked about going so we need to follow through and it leads to one of the more compelling sections of of the piece but yeah that's i think that i was just feeling that remorse and guilt of even going there. I want to go back to another moment in the film
Starting point is 00:23:13 that I don't know if tense is the right word, but it's sort of the implications of it were interesting. So you guys go to an Indiana Pacers game. Yes. You have courtside seats. And during the game, or I don't know if it's after the game, but while you're at the game, the Governor Holcomb of Indiana comes up to you and basically does a little photo op. And then after the game, I guess it's the next day or something, you guys are trying to figure out what his stance on trans issues were. And it turns out he doesn't have the most progressive stance on them. And it sort of feels in the film like you guys are wondering
Starting point is 00:23:54 whether you should have taken the photo, if there was a missed opportunity in some sense to not raise something with him. Did you think about trying to go back to him or trying to talk to state politicians or because it didn't necessarily have to be like a one and done right i guess it didn't no that didn't come up it would have been interesting i'm sure um yeah it would have been interesting um it would have been a little more confrontational than we had planned. But yeah, maybe we can go back for part two. I think what we both, what I felt there, maybe even more than Will, because Will gets it all the time,
Starting point is 00:24:32 is a little bit of an ambushing. Sometimes at SNL, you'd be walking through the hall. And I remember walking the hall and Donald Rumsfeld was there and he stuck his hand out and I shook his hand and I was like, oh, I don't think I like you. What happened? Another thing that we didn't include in the doc at all is how lovely and supportive Rick Carlisle was, the coach of the Pacers. Because we have all this, we meet everyone kind of before the game starts. And he literally pulled you aside and was like,
Starting point is 00:25:09 congratulations, like, this is great. I wish you the best and congrats. Like, he couldn't have been sweeter. He couldn't have been... That could have been what the governor said. That would have been neat. Yeah, the governor did not quite say that. No.
Starting point is 00:25:20 And in your heart of hearts, do you have, like, a goal for the movie? Do you want it to change people's feelings or make them rethink their politics? Yeah. Sure. I think that's, in the end, that's why we did it. It's a funny movie. Will is a funny guy. And, you know, when he asked me to do the project,
Starting point is 00:25:46 he was very clear, I don't want to make an opportunity out of our friendship. On the other end of that, I did want to make an opportunity out of my friendship. I want to be very clear about something, though, that I get in trouble with, I think, with myself personally, is there's a process of normalizing queer people for America. And this movie does that. It makes the trans experience more understandable. It's
Starting point is 00:26:14 in a language, a comedy language that they know from Will and me. It's a good project. It's representation in a good way. However, to be quite honest, I'm not that interested in normalizing for people who have hated me for centuries. I don't want to sound mean, but I do want the movie to do that work. I want it to make other people be gentler and softer and caring. And maybe if you're a father who loved Anchorman and you've got a trans kid, now maybe you're going to open yourself up to this. Now you're willing to sit down and have a conversation.
Starting point is 00:26:51 It's not a closed off future. There's a bright future ahead of you. I happen to think it's a better future. But I think that's the work I want the movie to do. I don't necessarily care as much about... The conversation is
Starting point is 00:27:07 too tricky for me, quite honestly. But I don't particularly care about making myself normal to people who don't like me. Near the end of the film, this is not a spoiler in any way, although I don't think it's really a spoiler type of film. We get to California. The car doesn't break down. Spoiler. We discover oil, though.
Starting point is 00:27:30 We discover oil in Beverly Hills. But you say towards the end of the film, Harper, I think the way you put it is you should have transitioned 40 years ago, but if you had, none of your life would have happened the same way. Yeah. Which is a very sort of profoundly ambivalent emotion. And I'm just wondering if you could talk through it with me a little bit more. Like, how do you think about those two facets? That's an ever-fluid situation. I land on the side of good fortune of being able to come to this transition when I was 59. But, of course, there's a lot going on there. If one, if I transitioned when I was 20,
Starting point is 00:28:23 my life would have been probably different, maybe wonderful, but probably tough. I don't think I would have gotten the opportunity to get a comedy job at Saturday Night Live eventually. I think I would have been looked a little more on as an outlier as a human. But if I had transitioned into an environment like today, 40 years ago, yeah, I mean, of course. Of course, I would have wanted to start my hormonal treatment at 16. Yes, there are mornings where I wake up. Or when I see young trans people today
Starting point is 00:29:03 and how easily they walk through the world, not everywhere, but in the coastal cities or something, there's a kind of jealousness there like, oh, that would have been wonderful. Will, this is purely constructive criticism. In the film, you got this hankering for Dunkin' Donuts. Oh, boy. You keep pestering your friend about, who's going through this emotional. Yeah. Cutting to the core experience.
Starting point is 00:29:37 Right. And you just fixate on, you want your Dunkin' Donuts. Yeah. It's insensitive. Just something for you to think about. Well, can you... Answer that. Why don't you walk in my shoes for a little while?
Starting point is 00:29:53 You're on this trip. You've been nothing but accommodating to your friend. You've gone everywhere she wanted to go. You've done everything. Like, you've barely done anything you wanted to do at all. And the one thing you wanted was Dunkin' Donuts. I mean, I don't know. I think it was a small complaint.
Starting point is 00:30:16 You know, on the scale of everything. She got to go through an experience, and then I literally wanted one thing. Pathetic. They are tasty then I literally wanted one thing. Pathetic. They are tasty donuts. I want one now. Not the one I got when we finally got it. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:30:30 It was quite funny. It wasn't even room temperature. It was like cold, a cold, weird donut. You know, there's a lesson in there. There is. There is. So you guys finished filming last year at some point? I guess. I don't, yeah.
Starting point is 00:30:51 But Harper, how are you feeling now about being out in the world as a woman? Do you feel different than even a year ago? I feel ecstatic. I feel ecstatic. I mean, I don't... I look, there's stressors in life. My kids, making money, you know, things that are still there. There's still anxieties.
Starting point is 00:31:15 There's still some mornings where you wake up and go, oh, shit, I got to do that. But I basically wake up every morning happy, which is something I didn't do for, I don't know, mostly 59 years. I feel amazing. After the break, the lines around comedy can be fuzzy these days, even to the ones thinking most deeply about them. I walked away from that first interview saying, did I just defend drag as comedy from a straight, cis, white male?
Starting point is 00:31:53 Did I just defend that? This is The Interview. I'm David Marchese. Harper, are you here? There she is. I am. Hi, Harper. Ta-da! Do you not see me? There she is. I am. Hi, Harper. Ta-da! Do you not see me?
Starting point is 00:32:26 I do now. Harper, you had said that when I was asking about the Saturday Night Live experience and if it was fraught in any way, you know, the way you put it, which I thought was really sharp, was that, you know, if you look in a comedy writer's room, you're like looking at a room full of people hiding things or disassociating. Now that you are no longer hiding something that's so central, has your comedy writing changed? Weirdly, I don't think as much as people might think. I think my feeling about being around people has changed radically.
Starting point is 00:33:08 Obviously my satirical pen is aimed at different things. I don't know. I, I, I, for lack of a better word, without a doubt, I've become more woke,
Starting point is 00:33:19 but I think comedy has in general, not always. you know, I'm in a comedy room right now, and it's a radically different experience than a comedy room, say, when I started at the Jon Stewart Show. It's not as aggressive. It's definitely not as male. It's got diversity going on. So that's a change for the better, 100%. And I don't know if that's me becoming different or me feeling welcome in I started, but it still was a boy's room, no matter what. So, that's changed. maybe gotten more woke, connects to something else you had said earlier.
Starting point is 00:34:27 The way you put it was that you wonder sometimes about whether being woke means we might sometimes take away the joy of play for comedians or take away some of the range that comedians have. Do you have any sense of how we're supposed to draw lines between calling out stuff that is harmful and also allowing comedians to play around with subjects you dirty bastard uh the answer is nope that's the quick answer but yeah i walked away from that first interview saying did i just defend drag as comedy from a straight cis white male? Did I just defend that? And I was like, I don't know if I did or didn't. It was pretty vague, I hope. But I don't
Starting point is 00:35:15 think it was, I would say ambivalent. I hope at the very least it was ambivalent. My short answer to that question is always no, I wouldn't write it again, and I don't think it's right. But I'm just going to be honest, I can't answer all these questions in my present state. My career, where my sweet spot is and where I enjoy it the most is creating silly, funny characters. And that's my favorite kind of comedy. And generally, I think that's Will's sweet spot too. And I have always thought punching down was wrong. What I have been discovering, like most of us, is that we were punching down sometimes when we didn't think we were. Yeah. One of the things I was wondering was whether there was any apprehension on your part, Will, about sort of making your private life or your personal life into a documentary.
Starting point is 00:36:16 Because I don't really, you know, you're not a confessional comedian. I don't think of your comedy as you're working out your stuff on film. Was that like sort of a little hurdle for you it definitely you know it occurred to me oh okay this will be uh an audience will be seeing a different having more of an insight into who i am and and getting to see me on more of a day-to-day kind of existence. And no, I think I've done, I've had a long enough career at this point that I'm very secure in exploring the subject matter
Starting point is 00:36:58 with my friend. And I know there could be, you know, I don't know. We'll see what the reaction is towards me. And it's going to be, some is positive, some is going to be negative or whatever. But I'm at a place where I can take any of it. Harper, there was something you said that it's stuck with me, which was that you don't care so much
Starting point is 00:37:21 about making yourself normal to people. And to me, that sounds clearly like sort of an emotionally necessary place to get to, but also a very hard thing to actually achieve. This is a big question, but like, how did you get there? I don't think I'm quite there. I mean, I think it's, you know, if I walk into a particularly, what I'm perceiving as a particularly male space, um, I still am self-conscious about who I am and how I'm dressed. Um, I, I think when I started this process, I was looking in a lot of forums and the goal was to pass um as a woman but i can't pass and i'm also not going to change my voice i think some trans women especially older
Starting point is 00:38:15 ones find this odd um you know but i'm like if i was breaking down my classification, I would say I'm a human being and then I am a trans person and then I like to be identified as a trans woman. So I think I'm trans first and I feel like that's the thing that's been inside me. Not that necessarily that I needed to be a woman. I just am very happy to be trans. And the longer I walk through the world that way, yes, it makes me feel better or just more myself. When you say normal or not normal, being trans is normal, I almost wanted to ask you the first time we talked, it's a question I think I feel like I need to ask reporters before they ask me anything. Do you believe trans people exist? Well, can I tell you, Harper an interview, you don't know, especially the ones asking skeptical questions like, how did you start feeling this way? Or why do you think you're a woman? You know, and it's like, some of these things can't be explained to
Starting point is 00:39:35 cis people and they get very frustrated by that. They just do. There's no way that I'm going to be able to answer those kinds of questions. Can you share with me the last thing that the other one did that really made you laugh? I mean, I laugh every time I'm around Will. There's just no limit to what he will challenge himself to do. Real quickly, I'll go back because I do think you have to imagine when will said let's do this project like all of our projects there is a little bit of us going like yeah that's fucking nuts like that's the part that both of us love yeah i think we're both drawn to holding our our hand over the flame for as long as we can.
Starting point is 00:40:27 And for some people, that means controversial. Not to us. It just means how silly can we be and not explain it. My last year on the show, we would just have blue note cards of just broad sketch ideas and every week or every other week it'd be like harper you have to write a sketch called taco time go and there was this sketch i wrote what called the old prospector but no i remember old prospector i just saw it recently i i was like, this is madness.
Starting point is 00:41:06 And I'm really just trying to make Harper laugh. You're forgetting a key element that speaks to this perfectly. Like Taco Town is a perfect example, or Unicorn Mountain. You don't know what these sketches are, by the way, for good reason. I would write the first half and then hand it to Will, and I wasn't allowed to see it. So I don't know what he's going to do with the sketch. It was always a left turn, too. David, sorry, just for our benefit, I just want to describe to you what Unicorn Mountain was about.
Starting point is 00:41:41 Please, yeah. Unicorn Mountain was a three-page song that led off the sketch and it was all about it basically set the premise of like being a children's show it's unicorn mountain where unicorns are you know live in unity and harmony and they bring joy and they're magical and they're fun and let's all go to unicorn mountain and then we open on myself and Tracy Morgan and maybe I forget who else and this is this is Harper's half and we're eating a unicorn and we're talking about how delicious the unicorn was and how easy it was to trap it and kill it because it was so benevolent and sweet and kind and I felt a little bit bad when we killed it, but God, this is good unicorn. And now that's Unicorn Mountain.
Starting point is 00:42:31 Yeah. So there's, I think I can detect a through line from the answers you gave to the film you just made. You know, you're on some level just trying to make the other guy laugh. Oh, for sure. Guy or girl? Say that again?
Starting point is 00:42:49 Make the other girl or guy laugh. Yes, I'm sorry. No worries. It's a verbal tick I have that I need to solve. But it's like I have two daughters. I say, come over here, guys. I apologize. Please, don't worry about that.
Starting point is 00:43:06 I say guys all the time. Dudes, bros, those are a little bit more transgressive. But guys is something, I mean, I say it to my kids, and they're all girls. See, look what happened. Two of my girls, one of them's an A then. So, here we go. It's a universal experience. Yes. So the movie really paints this lovely picture of your friendship as continued support and closeness.
Starting point is 00:43:33 But there must be some way in which this experience has changed your friendship. Because all friendships change over time, I think. And, you know, change isn't always easy. Has anything about sort of your shared experience challenged or evolved your ideas about what friendship is or what it can be? I think a lot of my friendships, there was an element of fear. And the biggest change for me is that I'm not afraid of my friends. And I think that's pretty huge. So for someone who's hiding something like I was transitioning, can open up a world that I just didn't live in. That was a big change for me.
Starting point is 00:44:16 I mean, it brought us closer for sure. There's no question for the entire time that we've known each other. We never talked as deeply or intensely as we did those 17 days um so that's without a doubt you know a change there uh you know i mean we're about to go through an intense period of uh press of reflection of analysis over all this stuff and at the end maybe harper might go i hate you now i hate you for dragging me through all this we are no longer friends which my comedy brain says at the end of this, we should announce we're no longer friends. I agree. I mean, I don't think it's a maybe.
Starting point is 00:45:15 That's Will Ferrell and Harper Steele. Will and Harper will be in select theaters starting September 13th and available on Netflix on September 27th. This conversation was produced by Wyatt Orme. Thank you. Our executive producer is Allison Benedict. Special thanks to Rory Walsh, Renan Barelli, Jeffrey Miranda, Nick Pittman, Maddy Macielo, Jake Silverstein, Paula Schumann, and Sam Dolnick. If you like what you're hearing, follow or subscribe to The Interview wherever you get your podcasts. And to read or listen to any of our conversations, you can always go to nytimes.com slash theinterview.
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