The Jacqueline Monroe Show - 260- Saturdaycast: Q&A #32

Episode Date: May 25, 2021

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What's up, guys? Happy Saturday. It's episode 260. Welcome back to the show. okay we're gonna prep for this episode together i know this is the episode but i'm not prepared um I'm gonna take you along with me hi happy Saturday welcome back to the show it's Jacqueline I'm hungover I'm gonna do I'm supposed to do I think it's Q&A number 33 what number am I on let me scroll back on my list here I think it's 33 today last week was 31 32 this is Q&A number 32 I do a Q&A every Saturday um and I don't have questions from Instagram so I'm gonna do something I had a random idea or I had a memory of a questions and answers thing from back in like 09 on YouTube where YouTubers would do questions and answers tags so I'm gonna do an OG YouTube

Q&A back when YouTube was popping off and people were like, that was such a big deal. Like Q&A tag or like best friend tag or girlfriend and boyfriend tag or sibling tag. I think this will be like a pretty straightforward, like basic, what am I trying to say? Like simple facts about me type questions and answers. I don't know. I'll have fun with this. I don't know. should I update you, like, okay, I'm drinking water, this is the most hungover I've ever been on a podcast, I don't want to get into it, but I'm trying to be honest, I don't want to be, like, faking it here, and trying to act like everything is good, I drank two liquid IVs before this, and now I'm drinking water, um, Jimmy's playing with his new toys, I got him a new pig and a duck,

um he's traveling with me for Memorial Day weekend on the plane and so I was looking for I got him like new comfort friends or comforting friends for him to sit in the crate with so anyways okay OG I have to google it OG YouTube no matter what I have to podcast right and it's like no matter how terrible I feel I have to do it. Q&A. I don't care. A Q&A tag. It's fun. This will probably make me feel better. 20 basic new YouTuber tag questions. Okay. 50 questions you've never been asked. YouTube tag. Get to know me questions. I want OG YouTube Q&A. I know I'm like prepping as I'm talking or I'm like looking it up. I didn't queue it up before I record it. We'll

get into it in the next like minute here tag fuck it let's just do this 20 questions list that's a good number I bet it'll be quick too if you know nothing about me this might be interesting because this will be like I don't know good for the new listeners list of new youtuber tag questions oh my god like what does your channel mean I'm not a youtuber like that this is the wrong one you know what should I just do the generator no I don't want to I want I usually do a generator when I don't have questions from Instagram this is a joke I'm mumbling on about I'm like oh here we go 25 interesting tag questions apparently these are going to be interesting like first question what's your name I'll tell stories as I do this okay so hi I'm

Jacqueline. Jacqueline. My last name is Monroe. That's the name of the show, the Jacqueline Monroe show. That's my name. I got it from, or I was named after Jackie Kennedy when my mom was super pregnant with me. I think she was, yeah, like nine months pregnant with me. She was in Seattle and she saw a newsstand with a newspaper that had in big letters Jacqueline on it and it was because Jackie Kennedy was dying at the time and she's like oh that's gonna be her name because at the time I think my name was gonna be Raquel or Roxanne something with an r and yeah now it's Jacqueline so fun fact I was I was Jackie I went by Jackie for all of high school and all of college and then I remember when I graduated when I graduated college and started you know interviewing

for jobs or in general I never introduced myself all those years of being called Jackie I never introduced myself that way people would call me Jackie but I would say hi I'm Jacqueline like when I shook people's hands. Um, so anyways, after college, I just felt like, yeah, my name's Jacqueline. Jackie was kind of given to me by my teammates, like every, and then my friends called me it. So anyways, there's a story for you. Uh, where are you from? Next question. I'm from Mount Vernon, Washington, which is, um, someone recently told me that's called, it's like a suburb of Seattle, but I don't feel like it's a suburb of Seattle. It's too far North. It's like an hour North of Seattle and an hour South of Vancouver, BC. So it's right on

the coast, um, on the West side of Washington. I don't know. It's a cute little town. It's, it's a combination. Like I love Mount Vernon because you have the country vibe and like where my mom lives, it's complete, like it's all farmland and beautiful scenery and the mountains are in the background and we have the ocean and um the river and like a really cool I don't know like just set up with Mount Baker in the backdrop um like the view I mean the setup the view we see like really cool um like nature scenes or what am I saying I'm too okay well um but yeah i'm from mount vernon i was born and raised there i went to high school there elementary school i went to catholic school there um i never saw myself staying in mount vernon that's one thing

and what's interesting is i was voted in high school um my in the superlative section for the seniors in the yearbook i was voted most likely to stay in mount vernon and i never mentally was like oh yeah this is where i'm going to stay forever i always thought i'd get away i either was going to go, see, I was too used to Seattle. I'm like, I want to go to California. I always kind of knew I would end up in Southern California, either LA or San Diego. So, uh, here I am. Woohoo. Um, yeah, that's where I'm from. Okay. Next question. Question three, how tall are you? I'm five six question four how old are you um I'm not turning I'm 26 but I'm also 20 so I'm 20 I was 26 last year but I'm also 26 this year because COVID um robbed year of my life and one of my

hot years one of my like I didn't get to be 26 last year you know what I mean so I'm just protesting my, um, big ass, like F you to COVID is, or the government is for shutting shit down and ruining our fucking lives. And I'm a victim. I didn't get to, okay. Anyways, I'm like, I'm not, I'm 26 this year. 27 is just so weird to think about. I'm actually turning 27 this year in July, but I don't know I'm like I get I love getting older though I love my life so much more every year gets better I feel like the more I grow up the more I get out of my head out of my like fears and insecurities and stupid things I used to worry about all day and I'm like in the moment now I'm like I just want to enjoy my life and have fun and when I was younger I was so and I

don't know if it's if it's the same for everyone but I feel like the older you get the less you give a shit and then that makes your life better and you're more like happy all around and you don't get hung up on things that don't matter and I feel like I'm just yeah I'm in a really good place right now it feels really good you guys a year ago I was on the phone with my mom and she's like girl like a year ago when I came and visited you compared to now like she's a new woman she's so much better and like I've transformed and and I wish I don't want to wish and regret but like it's so the the changes I made the mental changes I made over the last year are so they're so simple and so like duh but I was so caught in my own way or stuck in my head and

I didn't I like couldn't get out of it and to see how simple it would be to literally just not think negative thoughts all day long and talk shit to yourself all day long and like now as soon as I notice myself being a bitch to myself I call like I snap out of it almost immediately I'm like I don't want to feel bad this is unnecessary this doesn't serve me this is not fun I feel like shit when I do that so I'm gonna stop and then I switch out of it and that goes for a lot of things in my life now. I just don't sit and get upset by things or sad about the, I just, and I know it's normal to have feelings and be, you know, it's, it's part of life, but, um, I'm so much, I just don't overthink anything anymore in spiral. Okay. Next question. Question five. Um, how many siblings do

you have I have a younger brother Rob Robert he's two years younger and then we're 18 months apart is that two years a year and a half and then my older sister Julia is uh a year apart from me she's older I just had that but two siblings six what are your hobbies podcasting um I finally have a hobby like for the longest time people would be like what do you like to do what are your hobbies I'm like I work out I like to work like I feel like I was so uninterested like I was so fucking boring when I like my not to be okay literally I know so many people that love like their thing is exercise and fitness and working out and that's like they live for it And so I feel like that's cool for them, but I just felt like this isn't enough for me.

Like this is, I don't, I need to, like, I haven't gone into a gym. I haven't, I mean, I do yoga every day, but I haven't like gone to a gym and lifted a bunch of weights and done a booty burn workout. Like I used to in like hip thrust and shit and so long, but like, that's literally all I ever did before COVID before everything shut down like I would go to the gym go to work go to the gym like 24 7 and I don't know I just felt like looking back I can be in shape and not live in a gym all the time and have actual hobbies outside of exercise and like put my time towards other passions and other things other than my body and my like you know what I mean and then

it finally it feels good to be like yeah I podcast and I I don't know I just feel like exercise is like brushing your teeth it's like shut the fuck up and do it you know it's not like a you don't have to make it a thing in your life where it's like your hobby or your like I don't know for me at least that's how I am with it it's more of an afterthought it's not I don't yeah but it's such a mind it's so crazy to think of how many hours of like driving to the gym like waking up early working out like it's like a lot I mean I still exercise but I'm so much more like my thing now is I just leisurely walk with Jimmy drink coffee and like wake up at the sunrise outside I'm always outside now and I love it I'm so much I think it's I'm like what okay here's where I'm at I'm

gonna cut this question off after I say this I'm like the gyms suck okay this is just a new opinion because I'm okay I'm like the I don't I don't think I like the gym because I'm like I can exercise in nature I can be outdoors and this feels so much better I feel so much more like like the air is fresher I'm more connected to nature which is something we're all like stripped of as we sit inside all day now and I'm like this is amazing I just want to work out outside like the next step is I'm going to take my yoga mat to the beach or the park or whatever burn start doing yoga outside too like if that's an option like why would I go to a gym and I mean obviously there's equipment but you know that's just anyways okay next question um

uh oh this is asking me about YouTube like what is is this your first channel is this my first podcast yes this is my first podcast um actually no it's not the Jacqueline Monroe show existed back in college I had dabbled I think I made like four episodes um yeah like I just tested it out and I posted four episodes on SoundCloud and I didn't continue it but that's when I was not being myself like if you listen I don't I don't know if those are still on SoundCloud but I was trying too hard I was trying to sound good I was trying to sound like I don't know I just wasn't in the zone or in the flow like I am now where I'm just like my I'm 100% me there's no like this I don't know I literally was I used to be like it would have sounded like this like

hi guys welcome back to the Jacqueline Monroe show um thank you for being here today we're gonna like that's that's how my old podcast in college would have sounded so anyways um and my old YouTube videos would sound like that there's such a difference when you like that's how anyways That's why when I see other people, I guess it's a, what's it called, a performance voice or, like, style. I feel like a lot of people, when the camera's on, when the microphone's on, they shift into a different, like, version of themselves. It's more, like, polished, maybe professional, like a broadcaster on the news. But for me, to me, it's, like, so when I see that, I'm, like, well, honestly, like, why didn't you just not do that, like, influencer voice and just, like, talk like you're talking to your, like, best friends or your mom or your grandma when you're chilling on the couch in your sweatpants and you're just, like, hanging out? like I feel like if the internet talked more like they're like you know what I mean I feel like

everyone is doing the valley girl voice now and they you like you guys like I'm just like I don't naturally talk like that and I used to like put that on and that's so weird to admit but I feel like a lot of people don't even realize they're doing it it's a learned behavior I don't believe that way of addressing an audience on a camera on a microphone on your insta story is a natural voice I think it's a you've heard it so many times by other people now it's just how people talk like influencers and youtubers and they talk but no shade I'm just saying like I don't I never felt like it was natural like this is natural so anyways um next question what is your channel about what is my podcast about um whatever I want it's whatever like whatever comes to mind

I'm getting a phone call oh my grandma is butt dialing our group chat I think usually we don't talk on our chat she's trying to group call or something um my podcast is about yeah whatever I want whatever comes to mind I'd say for the most part I break down my day I talk about what happened I start you out in the morning and I carry you through my day to the night that's a typical style of, or the typical type of podcast I post. Um, but then some days I'm like, Hey, I want to do, I want to check the news and talk about current events. Or I do the Q and A's like this every Saturday, or I do, um, rants about society and social media and stuff. So that's the thing I didn't initially I um I just yeah I don't want to be put in a box I don't want to

niche down I don't want to because I feel like people it's all about like what your goals are with your show but if you're trying to like grow fast and get big and everything like it helps to niche down and have a specific focus a specific theme of your show but I'm just like I'm gonna to be bored of that day too when I have to like I just don't want to come here every day my my theme is my life and whatever I want to talk about whatever it's me it's my show it's the Jack Monroe show so I love the freedom of being able to do whatever I want and control the topics and I'm not trying to change the world at this show or like sit here like I'm not leaving people the thing is is it's also like a it's a common recommendation to content creators to

add value to people's lives and give give them something they can you know take away and use in their life or like you know give them like provide yeah value value value and I'm like I think the most I can do for you listening is be a friend who you can tune into seven days a week and hang out with so maybe the value so like when you're I don't know vacuuming doing your dishes cleaning out your car on a walk at the gym on a flight and you just want to like zone out and like hang out with someone I'm that person and like that's value like I like that's why I listen to podcasts it's not so much about like oh I need to like be educated right now and I need to like learn something and walk away like wow it's not like a podcast needs to do that for me it's more

like hey I need a I just want to have like company so that's what I that's the point point of the show because I've been in dark I've had some dark days um I've been listening to podcasts for over a decade now and I've like I'm a I'm a nerd about I mean I have like they I have had a podcast in my ear since I was like 18 and well I started listening to podcasts in middle school on iTunes would I don't even like they were video podcasts does anyone remember this they were called podcasts but like a lot of people what time is it okay wait I gotta would pay attention in time a lot of people would um like I don't even know they're like I watch sketches the first podcast I watched was called Bratz and Bretta which was a sketch comedy show

but it was called a podcast anyways so like the point of me saying this is I've always leaned on podcasts for comfort and for like um like i don't know how to explain it like it makes me feel better if i'm having a bad day if i if you know like back in college i would whatever i was like depressed in my during my senior year really fucking bad at the end and i remember i'd walk campus at night and listen to um like yeah what old shows did i listen to when shane dawson used to have a show i loved that one i um coffee with Crachel is my original, the one of my favorite ever podcasts. Um, obviously Rogan, that's always been a thing. Um, I don't know. I should go back. I wonder if I, I wonder if my old iPhone, like

five that still turns on, I still can fire it up. I wonder if it has the old podcast I listened to on it still. I'm sure it does. Anyways. So God, I need water. I'm kind of getting a headache. Should I take ibuprofen? I really don't want to, but I feel like I should. So this headache doesn't take like, it's going to ruin my day. You know what I mean? I'm like, well, it's going to fuck up my liver. It's probably not the best option, but I just don't want to feel shit all day um next question who is your target audience literally anyone I don't care like whoever I know that's also bad like you should talk to the microphone and imagine you're talking to a certain type of person I mean for me it's like you're

either my best friend like best girlfriend you're bff or you're my boyfriend because like I don't know I feel like we're close like that I'm super emotionally available and vulnerable and raw and I'm talking to you like I know you super well and I'm comfortable telling you anything and I'd say like that makes sense to me like what my in terms of like what my target listener target audience is um but i mean my mom listens like my i have like older i know older people that listen to this like older older elderly it's whatever whoever wants to listen to it i don't care um let me get past some of these stupid questions these are all youtube does your family slash friends support you in making podcasts I'm changing it from videos to

podcasts because this is again a YouTube Q&A of course they do um my mom listens to every show I think she does yeah she like works out and listens to the show and when I when I was home back in December for a month I went home from Thanksgiving to Christmas or I think New Year's too. She wakes up really early and works out in the garage and she like pulls out her rowing machine in the driveway. And anyways, yeah, she gets up at like 4 a.m. to do that. And one morning I woke up and she had her, she had her like JBL, like, you know, those speakers, those portable speakers. She had my podcast on like full volume outside. And that's like her her routine she listens to my podcast when she works out in the morning so

but yeah they support me um they don't I don't even know they're just like I think they I don't know I just get I get positive feedback I think they get it like they get why this fit like I love it and why um I do it all the time like they feel I feel like I never told I never planned on creating a podcast I never like thought that I would be doing this literally every single day of the week but like what um and that's there's a I'll tell the backstory of that after I say this, but, um, I've always had this like itch or need or desire or something in my body to express myself creatively. And I'm not a singer. I'm not a dancer. I'm not an actress. I'm not a painter, a photographer. I used to love all those. Like I used to do all of those things

and I and I but it's not like it's not like podcasting where I get to because I'm an observing I'm super observing and I am super judgmental no I'm I love like the podcast is great because I love commenting on my observations that I see in this world and in this life I'm living and I love commenting on them and like having fun about my I don't know the way I say things and it's so creative it's expression and it's also therapeutic obviously when I talk out my issues or what I want to work on or my goals like it feels good to verbalize them versus like I don't know and I know it's one-sided I'm not like sitting across the therapist but i know myself really well now and i'm literally listening to my soul speak every single day and

i think that has so much more weight to it than keeping it in your head and meditating and just like seeing your thoughts in your head or even journaling and writing it i'm like i think talking is the ultimate personal like therapy or like mental health uh practice you can do it's like in my experience though, like I know everyone's different, but in my experience it went from, Oh, it's kind of insane or crazy or cuckoo to talk to yourself. And now it's like, I like, it's like part of my life and I just, and I love it and I look forward to it. And like I said in the beginning, I always feel better when I'm done and I feel like a better person and I just feel more connected to myself and more like um clear-minded and I think yeah so anyways where

was I oh oh the the whole like why am I doing it seven days a week thing I wanted to explain this alone gets water. The reason for the seven days a week was to, I've always struggled with accomplishing goals or like following through with goals, whatever they were. And I think my brain was like okay you can't skip a day like you have to do this you have to complete a podcast every day and I feel like I'm doing this to work on um that part of me that like that issue or like that um because here's what would happen here's what would happen let me explain this in a different way I would get going on something I would get going on a goal and after like a week I'd be like I'd get distracted and do something else or I'd like

lose interest or I'd whatever and I feel like I'm not a big and I don't have like a big audience or whatever I'm not like a but like like telling people on the internet my the few people that follow me that I'm gonna do this every single day for a year and like sharing a podcast every single day at first every day on my story excuse me back in September every single day I would share my podcast and so they so I felt like they were like held it kept me accountable or whatever and yeah I feel like I had to do it every day so I don't I don't know I can't like you know wake up one day and go I don't I don't feel like it because I have an issue with that like I think I don't follow through with goals because I don't like I don't I'm like

oh it's too hard or I don't feel like I can't say that right now I have to do it like I'm hung over and I'm like I have to do it and that's good for me it's uh preparing me for life it's setting me up for my future it's making me a better person it's helping me this is the thing it's trickling this process or this every single day no days off thing is um it's helping or I'm I'm I'm applying the same kind of mindset and grind to other areas of my life. So this, this is having a trickle down effect in a really positive way. So there, that's a long answer for that question. Um, these are all YouTuber questions. Should I just do a funny Reddit question and then we'll, I should just end it. Dude, I need to, you know what? I just told my

like podcasting story I know this is old news for people that listen to my show every day but maybe if you're a new listener you kind of know the basics about me and the show and yeah um I could cut it off here let me open my old notebook maybe this will be fun this is insane my notebook at the beginning like, episode 17, here we go, I recapped The Bachelorette, this is back in, like, September, oh, this is funny, I wrote, um, I don't want to niche down, um, I want to talk about whatever I want,

oh I said I don't do fancy descriptions SEO none of that shit I want this show to speak for itself I'm my own niche comma bitch lol I used to swear or I was so obnoxious at first like I get like that still but I was so like intense and aggressive at first like and so um arrogant and cocky about oh look at me I'm drowning out all these hoes that post once a week all these people that are once a week podcasters, I'm drowning out these hoes. I'm going to catch up and have like thousands of episodes in the next like five years or whatever. I feel like I had to be like that at the beginning and I had to like put on that kind of, um, or whatever. I had to like brainwash myself and, or I had to like, yeah, I had to like say

insane shit like that like rise into the top of the charts I'm doing this every day I'm this I'm that because I I don't know it was like helping me believe in myself and I was joking the whole time about it obviously I never was being serious but um it's funny how when I look at these notes I'm like, oh my God, this is so cringy. Um, serious. Uh, pod equals new blogging. Pod equals scale intimacy. Huh? Podcasting is the new blogging. I see that. I feel like bloggers were so like, not to say like a decade ago, but social, so it's 2021. Um, I feel like gone are the days you go I go on food blogs I go on like recipe blogs when I but I don't go read people's blogs on a website ever I don't know if that's something you do but um

I think yeah what did I write here podcasting is a whale away from me to scale intimacy or scales intimacy I must have heard that from something I don't think I came up with that scale intimacy okay who would I hear that from you know I think I heard that from Michael from the skinny confidential I think that was Michael Bostick's word Michael Bostick's words wonder if I gave him credit when I did this episode probably not I don't know who said that someone said that but it makes sense I um there's nothing more intimate than hearing someone's voice or just like hearing someone unfiltered unedited long form um like you're hanging out and um so yeah

I said bitch I'm charismatic as fuck is this how people become tv personalities oh my god do not listen to episode 17 because I used to just go I was on one and I was also on youtube and so I would like put on for the camera and I would have like so much coffee in me and I'd be like is this how people become a personality a tv personality they like this is what you do like you share yourself you're super charismatic and interesting and you're like full of energy and you're just like so charming like that and then someone's like hey you should host a red carpet event or like you become you should become a commentator on i don't know what show like some talk show or whatever the fuck. Um, anyways. Okay. I'm going to end this. I got a time crunch I'm on. So

thank you for hanging out. Thank you for hanging out or attending. Thank you for being here. This is Q and a number 32, 32 weeks of podcasting. Um, there's some early or premature or there's some Monday motivation for you uh I've podcasted 32 weeks in a row so if I can do it you can do it not necessarily with podcasting but with any goal you can stick to a goal for I'm proof or I am living proof it is possible to do something every single day of the week for 32 weeks so it's not that okay I just got to be honest right now we are so in our own way in our life and it's once you realize that once you realize how easy accomplishing goals that you have is like it's so epic you know what to do and I think you

intuitively know what to do you know what you should be doing but you have those days where you wake up, and then you talk yourself out of it, you psych yourself out of it, you make up excuses, you do that whole, like, song and dance in your head, that's a complete waste of time, it's completely useless, and you, unfortunately, a lot of days, I feel like, and I've done this, we listen to that voice, and we're like, fuck it, I'm not gonna do it, and then you never really make traction towards your goals, or really get anywhere, and once you squash that, and once you override it and dominate it and just say and you don't allow that to control your decisions anymore and that voice and that mindset you literally can do anything but it takes work

it takes discipline it takes like you have to consciously think about it every single day like I I think it's good that I'm like hung up I'm like I don't feel great and I I just force myself I just do it I don't sit and stew and think about it it's like guys you can follow your dreams and anything's possible really and stop here's my recommendation here's my advice because I am take this is what I've had to do stop looking to other people for answers you know what to do you know exactly what to do you don't it's good to have mentors and you know coaches or whatever like it's good but I think at some point you have to take control and you just have to do it and stop like reading and listening

and attending events and masterminds and taking courses it's like just fucking do it like people people profit off of I feel like they distract people by taking them on a course that's just like you probably could you could just do it you're you don't even need to I don't know it depends what your goals are and what you're trying to do but I don't know there's a lot of like I think unnecessary information that people ingest and pay for and like I think if they stripped everything down they could figure it out themselves and they would probably be more productive and less because you what you do learn or my experience

I would get pulled in different directions with different ways of like like lifestyle shit like oh I should be doing this daily routine and this type of meditation this type of journaling practice every morning right when I wake up after I drink my lemon water and after I meditated in silence for 20 minutes and after I did like and so someone was telling me that someone was telling me wake up like you know you got Jocko wake up at 4 a.m or whatever like see like work out super hard I love Jocko I'm not that's a stupid example but and I was watching other people and I was list I was taking in advice from so many other people and I wasn't I wasn't like saying or I wasn't checking with myself going like hey what works for me like do I even like doing this or is it I'm like just

doing this because someone else told me this is how I should you end up living other people's lives and lifestyles and that might work for them you know and that's great but I think it's I think you should personalize your life and do things according to you and not based on other people's you know i don't know anyways i'm all about that like listen to your intuition and follow your heart and your inner like you like i said you know what to do that's what i realize i'm like jacqueline just shut the fuck you stop watching videos on youtube like how to shit reading books like just fucking do it anyways i'm on i'm like i'm preaching to myself at this point but all right happy Saturday thanks for hanging out sorry I'm hungover this is a chiller episode

than normal though which I kind of like I'm not like I'm not like exhausting your ears with my chaotic brains like I oh my god I'm so crazy sometimes I don't I'm not trying to be like I'm crazy but like I get I like cringe after so many episodes I'm like why do I do that or like why am I like this why am I so obnoxious it's fun I I legitimately I'm having fun I'm enjoying my life and podcasting makes me feel good and it makes me feel happy so whatever I don't I shouldn't care I shouldn't worry about it it's fun for you guys probably to listen to sometimes too you're like Jesus. She's really saying this. She's really doing that. She's really screaming. Like I scream. I don't know. I may, I used to make so many noises. Like, okay, that's it. Hit that

subscribe button. I'm here seven days a week and follow me on Instagram at Jacqueline Monroe. I never say this. Yeah. You probably already are. I feel like most of my audience on Instagram listens to the show, but, uh, yeah, check it out, and have a great, uh, weekend, I hope your weekend's going well, and I will talk to you tomorrow, okay, bye!