The Jacqueline Monroe Show - 341- I'M ENGAGED!! Proposal & Wedding Q&A

Episode Date: May 30, 2023

In this episode: Why I’m already a Bridezilla lol, New Patreon vlogs feat. Cory!, How did Cory propose? Did I know? Were there clues? How did I know Cory was “The One”, Awkward moment during proposal, Wedding/honeymoon plans so far (theme,location, etc.), How I’ve changed since being engaged, Past dating history /trauma stories/why hot b*tches are replaceable, Why I’m done giving out relationship advice, What I’m looking forward to about being married, Kids?, Laughing so hard I sh*t myself, How I met Cory, Why I’m shaving my arms now, Housewife/Engaged life so far, and MORE!! Thanks for listening, ILYSM!! :)' BECOME A PATRON! https://www.patreon.com/tjms  KEEP IN TOUCH! INSTAGRAM » https://www.instagram.com/jacquelinemonroe/  TIKTOK » jacqueline.monroe  EMAIL THE SHOW! [e-mail]  MY MUSIC GUY: https://soundcloud.com/robmonmusic  SPONSORS💎 Spotify for Podcasters

What's up, guys? It's episode 341. Welcome back to the show. Okay, I need to decide before I get into this engagement story episode whether or not I'm gonna wear these glasses or not I know this is like Jacqueline just started the episode but um I hate my makeup I hate my eye makeup I went too heavy and I hate how it looks without the glasses and these are kind of like a push push push-up bra for my fucking face they're literally not even real they don't even have lenses but I don't know what to do I mean I can't ask for your feedback because this isn't live but I think we're gonna do glasses for the engagement episode. Here we go. Okay. So hi, welcome back to the podcast. Welcome back to the show. It's

been a while. This is obviously a very exciting episode. I can't wait to tell you my engagement story and answer all of your questions. So thank you for being here. Thanks for hanging out. Please hit that subscribe button wherever you're listening right now. I'm on Apple, Spotify, uh google podcast at your break or wherever you listen to podcasts make sure to hit that hit that subscribe button so you never miss an episode holy shit and breaking news okay breaking news patreon is gonna actually be worth the money now okay patreon.com slash tjms is actually going to be worth your $5 a month. Okay. Corey and I are making a couple of vlogs

exclusively for Patreon. We already started recording and yeah. So if you want to watch the behind the scenes of our lives, um, we're going to post a lot of different videos on there. There's also going to be bonus episodes. Um, we're going to do two, uh, extra podcasts a month on Patreon and a vlog so if you want to subscribe it's patreon.com slash tjms and yeah that's something to look forward to in June that's when the first vlog is going to come out again exclusively on Patreon it's like I get engaged and I'm like okay time to time to get my shit together no I'm kidding there is something about being engaged though and I didn't expect this where I feel like I need to fucking like I feel like it immediately made me

feel grown up and I need to like go harder do more be better like level up so um we literally laid in bed for what's today today's memorial day happy memorial day we laid in bed for like an hour and a half brainstorming content ideas and like a content schedule for patreon like and I'm like fuck it we just need to do this we need to commit to this so yeah it's been fun we've been vlogging and um yeah check it out patreon.com slash tjms uh the content will start rolling out in June can't believe it's already June um I think that's it make sure you review the show if you like this episode if you want to um review the show on Spotify or Apple that'd be great cool let's get into it I'm going to answer your questions I don't want to delay any longer

I'm engaged let's talk about it so I did a Q&A on my Instagram and the number one question I got is how did he propose like what's the story of the engagement so I'm gonna walk you through the trip we took to Catalina Island and how it all unfolded. And I'm going to start with our anniversary. So Corey and I met a year ago on May 17th. That's our anniversary of the day we met. So earlier that week before he proposed, it's been what, a week now? It happened on Saturday. It's Monday. It's been a week and a couple of days. Yeah, it's kind of a, it's a blur. Let me just say, I'll start off by saying that my life right now feels like a blur it feels surreal I feel like I'm tripping I'm on drugs like

I can't explain it and my favorite thing I'm gonna just start off saying this about the ring my favorite fucking thing ever about being engaged is that I'll be like doing the dishes I'll be I don't know like putting laundry away or just like walking the dogs or something and I'll forget about the ring I won't really think about it and then all of a sudden I'll see it and I'm like and I just stop and stare I can't stop looking at it but it's whenever I like forget about it I'm just like living. And then I noticed it. I'm like, what the fuck? So that's been really fun. Um, anyways, our anniversary anniversary was on like the Tuesday of the week he proposed. I surprised him with a bedroom full of balloons, rose petals. I blew up. It literally took me all

day and I got lightheaded. Like I forgot to eat breakfast. Of course, after my workout, I just went straight to blowing up balloons all day. And, uh, he walked home, uh, or walked in the door from work and because he walked anyways he was surprised by my happy anniversary thing okay little did I know he was going to propose on Saturday so you know I got him like cupcakes and champagne and we had a little thing there it was great all you know all over the bed I had like I got got him these matching hoodies for us anyways that was Tuesday and the plan so he told me about a month ago maybe a little longer he goes um mark your calendars for the end of May we're going to Catalina Island for our anniversary so I was like oh great I've never been if you're

not familiar Catalina Island's this beautiful little like island tucked away off the coast of what is it um Long Beach if you shoot out from Long Beach you hit Catalina Island it's a really cool little like weekend getaway spot kind of looks like you're in I mean it's nothing compared to Italy but I think people they say like the little cove where the boats are and the the houses all kind of tucked into the side of the cliff look kind of like what is it Positano what's that city in Italy I don't know it kind of looks like you're not in it looks like you're in Europe a little bit so um he's like yeah mark your calendars we're going to Catalina for our anniversary I'm like great so I've never been and I remember maybe three years ago or something I

heard about Catalina I was like oh this is cool and I looked at google image pictures and that's it so my plan before the trip was to go in blind before you know I wasn't looking at our hotel I wasn't looking at stuff to do there I wasn't looking at anything so and I didn't really understand that there's a ferry ride where you don't even bring your car so that all kind of happened the day of I realized oh we're not even we're walking everywhere like this is a small place anyways so I go in blind I go in completely surprised I told him that I said I don't want to know anything we're doing he goes do you want me to do you want to pick out the restaurants and stuff I was like no and um but here's what happened on the morning we drove to the ferry

in Long Beach um we were kind of talking about the trip and he goes you want to be completely surprised right and I was like yeah he goes well I I feel like you're going to want to be prepared for this one thing because I know you and you'll thank me that I told you ahead of time just trust me and knowing Corey and knowing how he is he never steers me in the wrong direction he's always looking out for me he always you know keeps my little you know my he keeps my happiness in mind it doesn't want me to be like miserable so he goes tomorrow we're having a photographer follow us around the city and they're gonna he's gonna take video of us and pictures um and he sold it to me like for and I'm like what I was like are you gonna I immediately was

like are you proposing to me and he just brushed off he goes he goes no no no no just so cool literally he just brushed off I didn't even think twice I didn't even question it he goes oh you know it's our anniversary I think we should have a nice couple pictures together like you know I know you like having nice photos like let's I thought it'd be fun I know you've never done a photo shoot before I literally have never had my pictures professionally taken so he sells it that's it end of end of conversation we pull up to the ferry place we get on the boat we go to Catalina I'm like in awe when we show up it's like Jurassic Park it was foggy the weather was cloudy the entire time um but yeah you roll up to the island and it starts appearing and um it was sick

I don't know if anyone listening has ever been there but um yeah it was it's like the perfect little romantic weekend getaway spot I'm so far away from the proposal why don't I just speed up to that I mean because that's the question the person asked and I have a lot of like wedding questions and um funny questions anyways so we show up we go to our hotel we we show up in the morning literally it's 11 a.m and we go to this little like beach tiki bar place and immediately start drinking margaritas next thing we know we're at that same restaurant for four or five hours um continuing to drink margaritas I think we had like a little chicken appetizer thing and then we went to another bar called the foxy hound or no the naughty fox it's called the naughty

fox there we went to a second bar continue to drink margaritas and it was basically a day drinking friday when we showed up just talking we spent literally eight hours talking and it's funny one thing i remember the day before he proposed on that day is i think i said this on the ferry or something I don't know but I was telling him how when I hang out with him when I'm at the house when I'm you know traveling whatever I literally feel like I'm hanging out with myself it sounds kind of weird to say but it's a guy like whenever he's in the other room it's it's like weird if he's in the bathroom and I'm in the living room it's just like oh I'm in there but it's him but it's we're just so fucking similar it's so comforting or like just being in his

presence feels so calming comforting I don't feel like I have to change or do anything different ever or like be as be any different than I am and yeah so I literally was telling him about this like the day before he proposed I don't know I always we always talk about a relationship and our little like fringe like best friend dynamic and how we are and um anyways so we show up there's really nothing to do in Catalina other than like because it's you can't really swim or lay out because the clouds um we could have ziplined we could have fucking taken a golf cart around and i don't know we decided to sit at the restaurants these two different places and drink margaritas until they were like this is what happened they kept he kept ordering them and it's just it is

what it is like i keep talking about alcohol on this fucking podcast over the last maybe 10 episodes i've been talking about it it's i'm still in my drinking era it is what it is whatever her um but we ended up drinking it got to the point where we kept ordering them and i'm drinking one that's like all the ice is melted it's like syrupy i'm still not talking about the engagement i apologize skip ahead i will get to the story of how he did it fuck um it's getting to the point where the fucking but what i'm drinking is like ice is melted lukewarm i'm drinking some sort of syrup they poured into it it's just you know and then there's a fresh one sitting next to it so I'm like halfway done with this lukewarm bullshit and I'm drinking a new one and it's just the cycle

continued we ended up talking we brainstormed a business idea okay and it literally we literally wrote up or in our heads we didn't write it down he told me to write it down he did not but it's all it's I still know what we're gonna do we're literally talking about a business plan and anyways so that's the day before he proposed the next day is when the photo shoot was you know going down and i woke up and we're hung over shit we go get some pancakes at this place called the pancake cottage um i think i got like a breakfast sandwich he got some huevos huevos rancheros he said that's his favorite breakfast and i looked at it and looked like i like actual shit and i was like what's with this beans and like tortilla on like the eggs i don't know it

was not it didn't look good on the plate probably tasted good but um we got blueberry pancakes I got a breakfast sandwich coffee this whole time this is what's such a mind fuck this whole time he knows he's gonna propose to me that day so that's my favorite thing to think about is this whole time like we're on the ferry going over there we're in the car when we're this whole week when I did that when he walked in to my balloon extravaganza I should insert a picture like I went fucking hard with the balloons it looks like it kind of looked like a high school um like homecoming um you know how guys ask girls to homecoming and shit that's kind of what I did to him for our anniversary like it was pretty like middle school high school level decor but just

thinking about how he walked into that totally surprised his eyes because he didn't I didn't tell him you know any hints about our anniversary anything I was gonna do like I kind of played it off. Like, I'm not going to do shit. You know, I was like, Oh, are we going to go to dinner or whatever? And, um, so then that week, like when he walked in that, he knows like, Oh, on Saturday, I'm going to propose to her. And like, look at this nice thing she did for me. Like, Oh my God, my life is perfect. I have the best girlfriend, future fiance ever. Like, I don't know. I just get all giddy thinking about how we both surprise each other in the same week like that. Cool. Right. So we're eating pancakes. We're drinking coffee. We're hungover shit. I know that. And

and also I'm puffy okay I'm puffy and I know I got this photo shoot to look cute for and I'm not excited at the fact that I'm puffy so I'm like all right I'm gonna go home after these pancakes I'm gonna take a cold shower am I talking too fast I'm gonna take a cold shower and I'm gonna snatch my face and my hair and we're gonna do this photo shoot well uh this is not an important detail but I'm gonna tell you anyways the shower wouldn't get cold enough and I was kind of pissed and I couldn't find ice for my to ice my face so um we just went in we went in with the the contour as hard as possible I mean I the pictures on my Instagram I I looked fine they all turned out okay it's fine but I was kind of like ah shit I wish I could have sauna'd or something because you know

when you drink you day drink all day or drink at night whatever you wake up the next day you're all puffy it's like fuck you know I just wish I could have sauna'd a little bit but um yeah so the funny story is we're still not at the engagement part but what you know this is very on brand of me uh giving you all the details that you don't want before the details you do want because I'm a storyteller and this is what I fucking do I got to set you up for this proposal okay this whole pre-proposal story is important to understand you know okay how special the proposal was so I got this outfit about a week or two before he actually picked it out for me it's this place here in San Diego called Bobby Rocco and his mom got me a gift card for Christmas

to Bobby Rocco we always joke about it and I haven't used it but like a week before he proposed we waltz in there he's like Jacqueline let's buy you an outfit for Catalina like come on like there's cute stuff here this is perfect like he's kind of pushing this on me so I walk out of the dressing room in this like green two-piece set it's like this floral print like green crop top tie back thing and these kind of like flowy pants and I walk out and he just gasped he's like holy shit and I just knew like okay I'm getting this outfit for Catalina that's what I wore to the photo shoot and the detail that's very key I wish I had it next to me here let me see if I can reach for it um well fuck it whatever the detail that's key for you to know is that

I did not have my nails painted my nails look like I just got done doing construction on a fucking dog house or something in the backyard I don't know that's the only thing I could come up with in my head like that's not that hardcore construction on like a high rise in the city fucking my cuticles are fucked my nails look like they're crusty crackly like dirt under them like I was not my nails look so bad and 10 minutes before we leave to the photo shoot I grab my little wet and wild fast drying red nail polish I look at Corey and I go do you think I should paint my nails like I was like they look really bad do you think it'll look better if they're just like natural because it's my outfit's green but this is red like I don't want it to look like

Christmas I think this might clash he's like he's like because he looked at my toes and my toes were red and he goes oh no you should do it it'll match your toes literally this man Corey could tell me anything and I'm like yes that makes sense you're you're right that's a good point he never the thing he always tells me and it's so true he it's almost like annoying like not that I'm marrying a perfect person but I kind of fucking am like he's just he's just with it he gets it he makes sense he's logical rational he really keeps me like going in the right direction so he's like Jacqueline yeah we we have time like no rush um uh it'll match your toes so I'm sitting there like for 10 minutes painting my nails thank god okay because if I if you saw my before nails fuck

like if he was taking this photographer was taking pictures of my ring and everything like he eventually did with my crusty ass nails I would have been pissed and anyways so that's the last thing I did and getting to the proposal story stay with me we walk out of our hotel room down into the lobby this guy approaches us his name was Andrew and he's our photographer shakes our hand he's like okay like you know he's kind of like walking me through like okay this is where we're gonna go this is what we're gonna do um and yeah he starts taking video of us walking to the city holding hands like he takes us up this ridge really slowly like the whole point this is what I didn't know is that Corey wanted to propose at a high place looking at the water you know

overlooking all the boats that were in the marina there so um I also have a bad leg this is just a fun detail like I popped a hamstring I like ruptured something in my hamstring about a month ago I think I talked about on my last episode so I'm waddling okay I'm not in the best shape for walking up this hill in heels and um I was a trooper I made it happen I was like I want these photos to look sick I don't care I'll go to the highest peak fuck I don't you know I'm in I'm in okay like this is I'm a supermodel today this is what we're doing so like fuck it so I also got I got the worst blisters after all this by the way holy shit I'm still scarred from them so we you know waltz up this ridge and you could probably picture where this is going but there's some fun

little stories to tell along the way going up this ridge and he's stopping us he's posing us where you know like it's a lot of like me like leaning on Corey looking at him smiling like pretending to have fun even though we weren't even though we were sweaty and um I feel bad so Corey this is what was weird okay and I wasn't thinking this before he left the hotel room so I had a purse and I had like a brush in it a little brush I had powder for my face um I think yeah just like a couple little things to touch myself up if I needed and then I had this long like black peacoat thing um just to cut you know to wear over it and Corey brought his big tactical black backpack and I'm thinking okay Corey's in his outfit

you know now I'm looking at this like what the fuck was in there why did he need his whole backpack like but then he told me this is what he's so smart and he sells everything to me we have this Polaroid camera so Corey goes oh he's like I'm gonna bring the Polaroid camera I'm gonna throw out my backpack I was like cool done didn't even think twice the whole time the fucking rings in the backpack all right um so um I feel like I need to make this pod I want to make this long but I literally kicked him out of the house state we went to the gym I'm like okay after the gym I need a podcast and he's like okay when you're done with your hair and makeup I'll leave and I was like he's like I don't know what to do I'm like he's like where should I go what should

I do uh because it's Memorial Day it's like you know he's not working or anything and uh I go I was like Corey you should go buy me something and surprise me he's like he's like it's on your hand Jacqueline it's on your hand it was funny um so I don't know where he's at right now I think he might be at a golf store or like maybe he's shopping somewhere for like a memorial day you know flash sale fucking at a furniture store who knows but yeah I feel bad I'm like delaying this I'm literally on the first question but this is the this is the most asked question this is about how did he propose so this guy's taking photos of us and and Corey couldn't wear his backpack this is what I was trying to

get to Corey couldn't wear his backpack in the pictures I couldn't wear my peacoat I didn't want to have my purse on me because it didn't really match so this poor photographer has got his video camera his like film camera his other camera cory's backpack on he looks like a goddamn pack mule or like a yak on fucking everest going up this hill taking pictures of us yeah he's got my like coat slung over and my purse across his it was just a it was he goes this is part of the job you know this always happens when people bring stuff you know i it's fine i'm used to this i was like okay cool whatever um I just went with that so yeah the whole time the rings in the fucking backpack and this guy's an engagement wedding photographer him and Corey knew what was going

on the whole time I'm oblivious so we get up pretty high now this is where he proposed we're at like the top next to this bell tower that kind of like overlooks Catalina Island and I remember the photographer there was like barbed wire in the background he didn't want us to be there so we like moved a little further and these golf carts kept going by because you have to understand Catalina Island only allows I think it's like 800 cars on the island and then the other cars are golf carts like that's it so people are in golf carts everywhere that's how you get around and the funny thing happened where like a caravan of like 20 golf carts went by and we had wait for them. I think they were on like a tour or something. And this one guy passes in the golf

cart, like this group and they go, congratulations. And they were like clapping for us. And a couple of people were like, congrats, congrats. And I looked at Corey and I go, Oh my God, that's so funny. They think we're engaged. And he goes, Oh, like, Oh, that is funny. Literally five minutes later he proposed to me so um yeah they finally all passed us and the guy or andrew's taking photos of us and it's like okay this is like people aren't around now we can finally cory can finally fucking propose we're at the best spot overlooking the island like this is the moment now this is the part where i literally like blacked out and i only can really remember every detail when I close my eyes and like dream about it because literally that night I spent the

entire night not only feeling my ring making sure it was still on my finger like when we went to bed that night I was like constantly making sure it was still in my hand and I kept replaying his proposal to me so thank god this our photographer started doing video so how he how Corey proposed um and one of the questions was were there any awkward moments during the proposal so that's a good question because i'll get to that um i don't really he he wasn't a man of like many words this wasn't like a big speech to me like you know this wasn't a drawn out like profession of his love or anything it was just very short and sweet and it happened so fast i literally blacked out i was like in shock it was so

many emotions happening all at once and here's how it happened so Andrew's taking pictures um I think I'm just like leaning on Corey the water's in the background and um Corey goes what did he say um here's what he said he goes I'm like you know looking at him smiling doing our pictures and he goes um he goes we're actually here for another reason Jacqueline um I need to go get something out of my backpack something along those lines he's like he broke away from me he's like um he goes Jacqueline there's also another reason we're here and I just froze I knew immediately literally as soon as he said that he started walking towards his backpack he started it's kind of that's kind of like the awkward part because he's like if I

had it in my pocket you would have seen it it would have been obvious like so we had to go like unzip the backpack on the back of the guy our photographer he's like Jacqueline we're actually here for another reason I have to get something in my backpack I just fucking love this and he he goes into the backpack unzips the box he starts walking towards me and I think he's like um jacqueline um like this past year with you has been the best year of my life you're my best friend i'm in love with you you're amazing but like i love you so much you're the woman of my dreams all this shit he's like professing then he started talking he goes will you marry me gets down on one knee and pops open the box and i was like yes like i i don't even know what happened

i just remember like looking he opened the box i literally like stomach drop heart sank i was just like in shock I was like yes hug kiss this is all in video I'm gonna probably post on my Instagram when the video comes out but um I was just so giddy and happy and the awkward moment so I have this ring I wish I brought it for the podcast today hold on I have this special emerald that I always wear that my aunt gave me and I always wear it on my ring finger so on during the photo shoot I had my emerald on and it's kind of like a wedding it was a wedding ring so like it's I don't know it's like a special ring I anyways so he had to take off my emerald before he put on my engagement ring so it was

like taking off one putting on another and I think he told me after he's like yeah when you were getting ready and I saw uh you put the ring on I was like damn it because you know he had to take it off anyways so he puts the ring on and I couldn't even I was like I thought I'd be a crier I thought I'd start bawling or something but I think I was just like I think the word is like I was just so like shock in shock and just like giddy and like happy and I think I tried crying but I was laughing at the same time like all of my emotions bubbled up and I think the my body just like it it was insane because I think what happens is it's such a it's just it's such a huge life moment and then after I go I was like oh my god can we go do that again I was like oh my god

that happened so fast like I I was like oh my god thank you for putting this on video like I want I can't wait to re-watch this over and over and over again but um yeah that's the only thing about getting engaged is like or in my experience it happens so fast like yes there is this build up we're walking up the mountain we're taking photos it's very intimate it's very cool it's very romantic we're looking at this beautiful you know ocean and city and but the proposal itself happened so fast and um yeah and then we just kept taking pictures and then I had the ring on I was doing all the poses you know um let me get into so that's how we proposed we had a photographer follow follow us up a mountain taking quote-unquote anniversary couple pics that's what

Corey told me and it turned out to be proposal engagement photos and um Corey had to take it out of his backpack but I told him something I want to tell you because I I don't know if any other girls out there have been proposed to get this or agree with it but and when I was replaying it in my sleep that night like I love thinking about this it's the okay this is what I'm getting to Corey proposing to me is the hottest thing he has ever fucking done the hottest thing I have ever seen him do in my in my life I just the way and you know what I it was the way he walked away from me to get the ring to how commanding it was how confident how much he was like yeah bitch i'm making you mine i'm putting this ring on your finger right now

and you don't even know it it's like all this shit's happening and i have no clue it's like it was so hot just like the way he went to his bed so so stupid like the way he went to the backpack to get the ring i just love that's in a backpack like fuck um we laugh about it it's fine it's not like it is but I think it was like when he goes Jacqueline there's another reason we're here I have to go get something that was the hottest part I was like oh because I knew I knew he's gonna propose and I tell them that I tell them that like every day since we've been engaged I'm like literally hottest thing you've ever done I can't wait to watch this on video over and over again and he's all nervous he's telling me you know he's nervous um someone I I remember another

question they asked me if cory practiced proposing before the proposal i think that's what they asked yeah they're like um oh one question was did he get down on one knee yes um did cory practice proposing before or did he wing it he said he won he won it and i mean that's totally him like i mean do guys like prepare a speech or something or like think about what they're gonna say i guess um I feel like it's more from the heart if it's off the cuff and they're just like you know but yeah okay I'm gonna get into some other questions so I can kind of move things along now that you know the proposal story and how it happened um here's a quick question what was your favorite part of

a proposal um all of it like I don't know I think that my favorite part was just Corey proposing to me like basically what I just said um and just how surprised I was but something let me just tell you another part of getting engaged or like the after so we got engaged we took the photos it's like then what okay my immediate thought is i need to call everyone i need to tell everyone i need to like profess this to everyone like oh my god we're engaged so i immediately try to call my mom i facetime her no answer um she gets a text or i text her like no she was on a plane on the way to vegas so she's like can't talk i'm on a plane right now i was like okay um this whole time she knows okay she knows what's going on she's there's another reason she knows what's

going on that I'll get to another surprise so I FaceTime my mom doesn't work I'm like oh she's traveling she's going to Vegas she's got this convention thing she's doing I get it okay so then I FaceTime my brother no answer um and I text him I was like Robert FaceTime me back or whatever like you know I need to tell you something um eventually we talk but my sister picks up she's the one we um get a hold of first and I was just like so nonchalant I'm like laying in the hotel bed and Corey's with me and she goes hey like how's Catalina like what's up and she's talking about her day and I'm like yeah and she's like what have you guys been up to and I'm like oh you know we've been like I don't know we just like day drink all day had some margaritas we've

been you know chilling and I was like Corey got me this new ring that's how I told her I was so like dumb so yeah Corey got me this and she's like are you fucking she's like are you fucking with me right now or something like that she's all right she's like is this a joke are you is that real she's like and then we started talking about it and I told her a story anyway so I told FaceTime my sister later that night I FaceTime my brother brother and his girlfriend knew like when I texted him like Robert just FaceTime me for a couple minutes I have to tell you something his girlfriend knew that we're engaged like she just knew based off me because why else would I say that so um I told him and then I still couldn't get a hold of my mom and I was like oh

fuck this is kind of annoying like she's the one I want to talk to the most right now so anyways I forget we went out to dinner that night we ended up leaving the next day this is interesting so Saturday night the day he proposed we go out to dinner um and then while we were getting ready for bed he's like looking at ferry times and he's like he's like Jacqueline I think we need to I'm gonna try to get us on an earlier ferry um I have some stuff to get done when I get home I just would rather get get home earlier than later and I was like I was not he had some business stuff he was doing there that, you know, like on the side and I like phone calls and shit. I was like, oh, okay. You know, for sure. Like I'm not itching to stay here. I mean, there's literally

like, it's a, it's a weekend thing. Like after a couple of days there, there's not a lot more to do. So, and I'm engaged and I'm just like, I'll just like, I'm with you. I'll do whatever you want, honey. Okay. So the next morning, so we're all packed and everything the night before the next morning I think we woke up at 6 a.m. the ferry the earliest ferry left at like 7 30 and we book it and I'm I mean we both get up early I'm hardy I'm like I'm he's like you know I really want to make sure we get this first ferry I was like okay not even thinking twice about it I'm like oh he's got he's got shit to do when he gets home so anyways we book it to the ferry with our luggage through the city and then we get our we change our tickets and he was all nervous he was

really really worried and I didn't know at the time why he was really worried that we weren't going to be able to change our ticket to an earlier time and he thought he was he was so like he was rushing he was getting there so quick we were there like an hour before it left and long story short we get the earlier ferry we get on the ferry we head home we get home and the first thing I say when I get out of the car like in the car on the way home I was like I was like okay so because we were going to go over to his parents' house, get the dogs, see the parents, talk about being engaged and everything. I was like, okay, before we go to your parents, I want to FaceTime my mom. And I'm walking outside with Corey to the, to get, go into the house. And I'm literally

saying, okay, I'm going to FaceTime my mom when we get inside. And I'm going to say, hi, mom, I want to introduce you to someone. I have someone new to introduce you to. And I was going to say, this is my fiance Corey something fucking cheesy like that literally I say my fiance Corey I keep walking like two steps there's my mom pops out behind the mailbox in San Diego to surprise me he set that up she flew here for the day and I think if you back to the question what was my favorite part of the proposal that surprise was pretty special because I was feeling like oh fuck I want to tell my mom like I can't wait to tell her she knew the whole time you know like she was in on this of course she you know um so we ended up going over to his parents house and um we had

like a brunch his mom made and it was amazing that's how like the rest of the weekend ended and um yeah but when she popped out I was like holy fuck he pulled it off every part of the the proposal the engagement everything the whole weekend he pulled it off flawlessly he's like is there anything else you think I should I'm like shut the fuck I'm like this entire thing was a dream come true like I think first of all something I want to tell you about myself this is like a side story within the podcast is probably the most um annoying pick me girl thing I do or the most pick me thing about me is that like pick me I don't know if you know what that is at this point I think everyone

do we all know what that means being a pick me girl okay I joke about all the time here like how you know I'm I'm a pick me girl and I'm unapologetic about it and look at me I got picked okay I'm fucking engaged all right someone picked me whatever so the most pick me thing about me in my opinion is the fact that you know I've never uh looked at engagement rings in my life I've never dreamt about my wedding. I have no image in my head about what my wedding dress is going to look like. I've never had that dream. I've never known anything. So I think what's been kind of fun about this experience is that every step of the way, it's been brand new to me. I've never, like now I get to dream about it. Now I get to think about it. Now I get to be excited about

it now but like engagement rings for example I didn't know this is a I didn't know what a cushion cut was now I know everything about engagement rings because I've been like looking I've been seeing people's hands I've been looking things up I've been noticing like because now I have one I want to kind of know about them so yeah but is that annoying or like is that do because I always hear about like girls dreaming of their wedding day and like their dress and their it's like that's never been me I've just I don't know why I know I think my sister's a little different we've talked about weddings in the past or like she kind of knows she knows everything about what rings I'm like I don't know shit but I just know this thing's fucking sweet um

that's a tacky question a lot of people asked by the way people want to know insert the question um i guess in this part of the episode the tacky question that and i get it everyone or a handful of people ask is how many carrots is your ring how big is the ring what so i told you it's a it's a cushion cut um which means i don't know there's it's a cushion cut with a halo and there's i don't know what the band if there's diamonds on the band which I love I see a lot of rings now where the band is like gold and it's just one rock or it's just like no diamonds on the band and I love how it's sparkly from like every side anyways how many characters my ring um and I think that's kind of tacky to ask like I don't know anything about

ring so i had to like learn all this after the fact um it's more than three more than three carats less than five okay figure it out i'll show you the ring on camera go to youtube to watch or spotify okay depending on how um how long i sat in the sauna the ring looks bigger or small how much how much water weights out of my body the ring looks the more the skinnier i get the bigger my ring looks bitch I can't wait to shred for the wed okay I was actually joking with Cora I was like that's such a stupid joke I'm not even gonna talk about it like getting fiery now anyways um more than three less than five there's your answer what was I talking about oh my mom's surprise showing up um oh me not having like big dreams about my wedding so people want to know

wedding details that's another common question like have you thought of your wedding yet or like the theme or you know where's the wedding when's the wedding the big question is when's the wedding you know you get engaged that's the first question you're inundated with is like when's the wedding when's the wedding now let me just say something about being a newly engaged uh woman um and maybe it's my personality i'm just i just hate when people ask me shit about the wedding like i get it like i understand where people are coming from but i what i don't want is i just want to enjoy being engaged i just want to enjoy this moment i don't want to i told cory this i said i i know people mean well i know they want to start this process with me and like get

things going and start planning it's like yes i've downloaded all the wedding apps yes i've already started thinking about it i already have the location decided we've already got some basics down about the wedding but like I told him I said I just really want to chill right now just breathe like take a big deep breath and just enjoy being engaged for like at least a month or so please um and he's not pressuring no one's pressuring me it's just like the chatter around people like asking already and mentioning and suggesting and like like it's a I don't know why like I I just I would rather come to the people for that like if I have a question or if I need advice or I'd rather come to them but it's just the un what's it called the unsolicited advice already and I'm

like it's been a week since I've been engaged so that's something I didn't I wasn't prepared for and I think a lot of people would relate to that that just got engaged but um yeah like when's the oh yeah the question is like when's the wedding what are your wedding plans so like I said I didn't really have a dream of like oh I want to be in the south of France with a fucking I could never do that anyways I think first of all weddings are so god god goddamn expensive for what like it's a day it's not about anyone but you two like I want it to be more intimate and small so as of now and this is subject to change because I haven't really started my Pinterest board yet and looked at my I haven't really dreamt up my ideal situation for my wedding yet

I've just kind of gotten suggestions um my current plan is a small intimate ceremony like not at a church which I just talked to a nice lady in the sauna this morning she's older she's been married for 45 years we talked about the engagement it was the best little conversation she never she started putting my head a little catholic wedding and i grew up catholic i been in a lot of catholic churches they're beautiful i think you know that used to if i had a dream i think it would be when i was younger i think i always thought oh i'll get married in a church it'll be a catholic wedding but now that all these years have gone by and i don't really go to church anymore like it's not and cory's it's not really his thing i don't know we're

thinking of a small ceremony okay this cut to the chase and then uh a sick party like the party the wedding like party is the big kahunga it's it's all about that not the ceremony not the the wedding and all that pomp and circumstance um we'd rather make that small and intimate with just people like we want there just like a little group and then um um and then his best friend's gonna officiate the wedding we've already decided that and he's already said yes so that's great um yeah so little ceremony big party call it a day fly to tokyo for the honeymoon that's what we're thinking we've talked tokyo we've talked bali i think it'd be sick to go somewhere that's out of this world different than what we're used to in like europe

or like Mexico like places we've already been so somewhere in Asia would be cool Africa I don't know it's just something that's not for our honeymoon I'm talking about our honeymoon um yeah so that's kind of what we talked talked about so far um what else on this question list does that kind of clear up like type of wedding um theme he's mentioned like more of a country vibe wedding like an abandoned barn wedding type vibe and where i come from that's what everybody does in mount vernon washington i feel like all the all the wedding pics around there are like bridesmaids in cowboy boots like barnes fucking you know barbed wire and shit around the wine glasses and fucking oh yeah

like mason jars and like nothing wrong with that i just i don't know like i i want i think i'm gonna be a self you know what i'm gonna be a bridezilla i'm gonna fucking call it now i just know that people are already starting to get under my nerves a little bit about suggesting what i fucking do and i gotta shut that shit down i should do like a this sounds so here's what it is this got now i'm sounding like a b okay when you're proposed to we've been together for a year okay i knew from cory said i'll never forget as like maybe it was a joke at the time literally a weekend he's like i'm gonna marry you and like i felt the same way like it was a very apparent thing that we're just we're it bitch we're we're in this we're supposed to be together

we're like twin whatever they call it flame souls like like I said he's like me but in a man's body like I I said on my podcast it's like another tangent but I just remember saying back when I was down and out during the pandemic I was talking about my life I was talking talking about how I wanted to live every day because something that has been ingrained in me from a young age from someone like literally someone that came to my classroom in like third grade um and said that something that's been ingrained is don't ask yourself what do you want to be when you grow up they said ask yourself how do you want to live so from a young age I've prioritized lifestyle I've prioritized like what when I wake up what does my day look like where am I what what people

are around me what am I doing like what is my lifestyle right um and I remember when I was really down and out podcasting during the pandemic I literally said I was like all I want to fucking do for the rest of my life is fuck around laugh super hard until it like hurts and have fun like every single day I want to have a hard belly laugh I want to have a good time I want to laugh laugh laugh that's all I like to do just I don't take life seriously clearly like you know you see me on this podcast like it's hard for me to take anything seriously you know I've been I I have you know my past was not I have a traumatic childhood okay I'm not blaming my child on anything I'm not saying like you know I'm whatever I I just I feel like in my life when I look

I'm 28 so when I look backwards a lot of my life was dark heavy depressing sad so during the pandemic I was even I was in the lowest my the lowest point honestly uh in my 20s so far maybe my life like that was a dark place I was in but I was trying to podcast and get through it and it actually fucking healed me and worked I just said like all I want to do is laugh and have a good time and literally like joke around all day and be with I guess what I was manifesting was Corey like a joke machine I want to live with a joke machine that makes me die laughing like where your abs hurt at 5 30 in the morning when your Alexa just sent off the alarm and you're both like in bed waiting you know trying to get up to go to the gym and he's in your ear

saying some stupid shit making you die laughing like literally I just put that out there right it's something that I realized like okay we have one life if I could laugh that hard every single day what a great life that would be and I fucking have it you know and I get to spend the rest of my life with this man and I mean it's gotten so bad he's made me laugh so fucking hard that I've shit myself almost shit myself pissed myself absolutely many times shit myself sharted pretty close fuck i can't believe i'm saying that but you know what i mean so i just feel really lucky i've always talked about that and i i think i decided i don't know maybe like two days ago when i knew i was gonna record

i'm i'm done trying to solve relationship issues in this world and relationship problems and dating i'm done with the dating advice and all that stuff i've forced on your throat over the last like 10 episodes like i got on a little fucking soapbox recently here where i'm like everyone's doing it wrong everyone's shooting all these millennial women and men are shooting themselves in the foot they're being little idiots with how they're approaching dating and whatever I said all this shit it's just like look not saying that I don't care anymore or that it's not important to me I just realized everyone's on their own journey and I kind of have this sick feeling that maybe what I'm observing and trying to solve is people that kind of like that

lifestyle I think there's a lot of what's our culture is now very selfish or you know young people culture fucking why am I talking about this now I'm not my engagement story like and the questions yes but we're in a very selfish world now um people don't really give a fuck about like building a family and having a life like that and I just don't think that's I think the highs and lows of dating someone and having all the hot and heavy emotions and like hooking up with a bunch of people and like did I think people like that lifestyle where it's like highs and lows all the time and yeah they're jaded and they're burned and they're hurt and they men they think guys suck and guys think girls suck they can't find a good woman it's like this

whole fucking circus out there it's like I think some people just that's where they thrive and that's just gonna be their lifestyle and they'll never settle down they'll never figure it out and i can't i don't want to solve that that's just i i think people's heads are just so fucking screwed up now and their priorities are so backwards and like i mean cory and i talk about all the time i'm sure we'll podcast about it for the patreon uh patreon.com slash tjms coming next month yeah I just like what the fuck am I gonna say I met Corey on hinge we're a hinge success story okay I can't tell you how many people bitch about dating apps and hinge and can't find any good people there or anywhere on dating apps I'm like look I fucking got engaged to someone on it

literally like we met on hinge the rest is history like I just yeah so I think some people figure it out some people don't some people get what they or what I've said in the past is people don't need people don't even know what they want and if they say oh I want to get married I want to have a family someday they're not really taking that seriously they're still frolicking around and acting like they're 22 when they're 32 it's like you know what I mean like so done with the advice done with all that soapbox shit I've been on recently I'm engaged bitch I gotta go to TJ Maxx and restock my pantry or redo my pantry I got I got bigger by the way I just said that because something about getting a ring on your finger makes you want to get your shit together like

for real and be a grown-ass housewife woman who uh what the fuck am I saying I'm just on one right now like I I think it just made me feel like first of all so like the ring okay you know how people say other ring doesn't change anything like it's not gonna change obviously he we're not we're not changing how we treat each other it's not gonna change us as a couple like this is just a commitment thing this is like a fuck yeah we're doing life together thing like you know we're like fully committed to each other for life that's what this means okay we get that but there is something about i'm 28 i just got engaged my like shit's together in my life for the most part minus my content output which i'm working on now because i is that stupid i'm

like i got engaged it's time to be a content machine how does that go together i don't know i just feel like it it's a milestone in life it's a big deal to me i guess i just look at it like i don't know i i went to tj matt i'm literally here's what i want to tell you this is what I want to tell you I felt so different walking into TJ Maxx the other day now that I'm engaged and I can't explain it I think there's something about TJ Maxx that made me in the past feel like like when I was single I had my apartment I'm decorating it it was like a very like kind of depressing thing like I'm buying this tchotchke for me for my little one-bedroom apartment with my dog but now that I'm engaged I'm like and I live with Corey

we've been living together for like six months I'm like I walked in and I had no plans prior to that week or you know I went there to buy bamboo lid clear glass pantry jars that like all the Kardashians have in their fucking pantries I think they started I don't know I think Kim started it I had no intentions of like redoing the pantry here but like now when I make decisions when I do things I'm like it's for us bitch this is for our home I'm a housewife now this is for I'm providing a home not that I haven't been doing that for the last six months but now I'm like I want to step it up okay I'm looking at the the uh decor and shit I'm looking at the throw pillows for the couch I'm like should we freshen those up for spring like do we need a new blanket for

the bed like I'm walking in there now as an engaged woman just feeling it's like something felt different okay before TJ Maxx was like I mean I've been in relations for it's been a year now with him but like I used to live at my own place it's like you go in there for yourself it's just kind of I don't know it feels gross it feels like I'm just over I'm I'm overspending on bullshit that no one else is gonna see but me in my little stupid apartment but now it's like fuck this is for us i get to redo the pantry i get to surprise him with new little things oh i surprised him with something new for our toothbrushes in the bathroom i went to the i went to the bathroom section and i got this

um because i'm sick of looking at cords okay i'm sick of looking at cords we have these electric toothbrushes we plug into the bathroom um outlet jesus i can't even say what it is and i'm sick of looking these charging stations in the courts so i bought us i'm like you know that there's like this guy on tiktok and he's like the main character guy he like goes into coffee shops he impersonates like like when you're on vacation and you bring a book and you go to the pool and he'll like waltz over there with a book and he'll like open the book and he just like like like oh my god everyone's looking at me like you know i don't know if you've seen this guy he's hilarious but i felt that way i'm like in tj maxx just like really pushing my

cart to make sure and always positioning my ring in the center like really making sure everyone's you know hi like sees the bling sees oh she's engaged she's or she's getting married or what she's married I don't know she's not I just felt it made me feel good about myself I can't explain it I'm literally like browsing through the bathroom supply section and I got this little like white uh like vase tiny vase not it's not a vase like toothbrush holder thing and I'm literally thinking I'm like okay this is how this is how um good Corey has it I'm like okay both of our toothbrushes will fit in this now i know this is going to require if we put these two if we put our electric electric toothbrushes in this new container i'm getting i know that they can't

charge all day so i'm like fuck you know what i'm going to do when cory's at work i'm going to charge her fucking toothbrushes like every you know maybe twice a week he'll never see the cords he'll never know that he'll never have to charge his toothbrush it'll look nice on the counter in the bathroom and all will be well i'm literally like this is what goes through my fucking mind now honestly not he told me this he's like Jacqueline like not not a lot is gonna there's not a lot what did it fucking Jacqueline get it out because I was telling him how grown I feel and how like I don't know like being engaged makes me feel like a grown-ass woman for real and he's like Jacqueline you're gonna nothing's gonna change you're already great you already do

amazing things for the home you already take care of me so well blah blah but something about this now I'm like I want to step it up a notch bitch I'm gonna fucking charge his toothbrush during like I'm gonna redo the pantry I'm gonna fucking get a new blanket for the like I just want to like go go hard with the housewife shit now um it's like all it's my it's my fucking wheelhouse I love it like I I still stand by this my favorite time of day period is you know I work from home Corey works in an office and we'll talk a few times during the day he'll call me and we'll talk about like dinner like what are we doing for dinner and I love cooking dinner here now I am blessed where I live to be close to a market where I can shop for groceries like within walking

distance so it's kind of fun because I don't have to like like I do a big grocery shop like at Costco or like i'll go to trader joe's or whatever but then throughout the week if i want to like make something special for us i'll go to the market i'll get the little ingredients and i'll walk back and cook it before he gets home or like so it's ready when he gets home that is my favorite fucking like part of the day is like cleaning up the house i know this is so dumb i know and this is also maybe pick me shit but let me say say this about being a woman okay um call this societal conditioning or what the fuck is it called programming the patriarch conditioning conditioning me or toxic mask i don't know what the fuck um you know disney call this all the

you know 1950s leave it to beaver joan cleaver fucking what's the other example i could throw the brady bunch call this all the shit that i've been exposed to in my life influencing me you know fuck it call it my mom call it my grandma call my aunts call it all the people i've been around my whole life that do the same thing and seem to be you know fulfilled in their womanhood and in their lives what am i saying but there is something if if being taking care of a home as a woman like i don't know if this resonates i love decorating i love cleaning the house i love i love cooking dinners i love meal prepping making the pantry cute it's very cute now with these new fucking containers and the bamboo lids i can't maybe i'll do a

vlog on the patreon i'll do a section about the pantry or that so you can see it um it's like so soul fulfilling and i'm so happy i feel blessed i don't know like i get to do that and have a man to share my like the house with and to like i'm looking forward another question sorry i'm not doing the q a someone asked me like what are you looking forward to about um getting married or like being married and first of all like changing my name i think that's it's gonna be my last name is gonna be seagull like the bird spelled differently um like obviously having kids you know i was dreaming literally i have dreams like this morning i don't know like 4 a.m when i usually remember my dreams i'm like sitting next to cory at a soccer game or some shit

on the bleachers and we're fucking besties like i mean cory's you know we're having the funnest fucking time we're watching our kid play soccer i'm dreaming about this like so i'm looking forward to that i'm looking forward to like doing all the stuff together as parents with our kids and like buying a home decorating it together because we both like interior design we both like we have the same like taste which is nice um and yeah like doing all the just being in the house all day and like taking care of shit and he's off working and I'm you know I just I feel lucky that I I get to do that in this life and like that's what I wanted and i'm you know it's all working out but um i don't know i think everyone and this is what i

back to what i said about like getting off my soapbox and um cutting it out with the relationship advice it's like unsolicited like no one's asking jack i'm like i just feel like i see people conducting themselves in such a jackass way now dating a relationship wise where i'm like i just like it's so like i watch this podcast and this girl's getting interviewed and all of her advice is so toxic and so backwards and i'm like this is just like normal now why are we it's like trendy to be toxic and treatment like i don't know but i fucking lost my train of thought i think this is going on too long i've i told cory 2 p.m i have 30 minutes um but yeah i was talking about oh like what i'm looking forward to about

being married anyways um fuck i lost my train of thought but oh this is what i was gonna say whatever what fulfills me might not fulfill you might not fulfill the next person and I think I assume what people want is what I want and I think I have a problem I tend to do that too much on here and I know that that's not how life is that's not um everyone's different everyone has a different dream a different goal is when it comes to like their dating and relationship life and their family life and their future life whether that looks like marriage or being single having kids not having it everyone's different and I'm I'm I shouldn't um assume that everyone wants the little fucking 1950s leave it to be a fucking

fairy tale that I have because we are very traditional very old school me and Corey and um it works what I'm what I am saying I think I if you if you want what I want I just can't express to you how much it makes me happy and how fulfilling it is to be in the quote-unquote housewife role and do all the traditional housewife shit for a man and with a man I mean we it's a yin yang it's I don't feel like I'm you know exhausted now people say like I watch all these tiktoks and like new moms and like parents talking about parenting and moms talking about how you know not only are you the mom but you're also taking care of the house you're also working full-time jobs like women have it so much harder than it's like I don't know it's just I'll

get there when I get there obviously kids that's gonna be a quite the um the adjustment obviously you know taking care of the kid and working and doing everything at the same time that I'm already doing but um I don't know I just want to embrace it I want to just go I don't want it to ever be like oh I have it harder than my husband like oh you know it's because I I see I'm I literally my algorithm puts shows me like it's funny literally over the last year since I met Corey I've been liking videos that are related to uh newly married couples um moms babies like taking care of babies like all that shit I've been liking all those videos so I've been exposed to a lot and I see a lot of like yeah complaining about how you know I don't know I I think looking at me and

Corey it's gonna be like a partnership where we're a team and we he literally said that yesterday he gets out of the car we're taking we barbecued at his parents house and um that will be on the vlog by the way patreon.com slash tjms go check it out it'll be out next month um he literally gets out of the car and he goes he's i love that we're a team we're such a good team like we don't have issues we just take care of business we have that's the other thing in the year i've known him we've never fought once i'm not saying that's i i just can't say how fucking rare um what i have seems to be because because of what i grew up with in my household and the chaos honestly it was a very chaotic household at times i'm not saying all the time

um it's kind of been a weird like adjustment to have total peace and no chaos no toxicity no jealousy weird like shady me worrying about what's on his phone like none of that like literally i never have any of those crazy thoughts or anything like it's just it's been weird i i almost told him i was like all right and almost i think i broke down i was just like cory there's nothing he's had a easy i mean compared to me like i think he's had a more like easy life where you just have a lot of trauma and bullshit like i do and um i was like i feel like i have it's all me i'm i'm alone with all this stuff you know it's always me and like you're just literally fucking perfect and it's like sometimes it's annoying because

i'm like there's nothing wrong with you like i'm trying to like there's nothing fucking wrong with you i don't know if anyone else out there in a relationship has that kind of dynamic where like your partner has never had a hard hard i mean it's not like cory has never had anything hard in his life of course he has but if you want to compare it's just like yeah maybe you know i don't think i've ever i mean i i don't know what i want to disclose what i don't want to but i don't think I've ever I've never really gotten into detail about my childhood um I don't think I've ever talked about like my dad and my relationship like I mentioned you know I FaceTime my brother my sister and my mom I didn't FaceTime my dad about this engagement um I didn't talk about you know

I don't talk about him on this like that's a whole part of my life that I choose or I've chosen so far this is my third year of podcasting to not get into and get into detail um about so yeah anyways did I even finish everyone's questions I do apologize I feel like I was getting on a tangent um um when did you know he was the one and that you would say yes let me talk about you know I'll maybe I'll end this episode with how we met should I do that story because that's probably a key story you want to know I don't know if I've talked about it before I mentioned hinge so how did I know he was the one that's a funny question like there wasn't really a moment I think there were there

were a collection of moments with him where I was like yeah I could literally spend the rest of my life with him and this would be the funnest fucking life ever so um obviously I I've been thinking about we've talked about the future for maybe like the future meaning marriage and like get i mean i looked at i'm on his fucking pinch he's on his pinterest and there's like engagement rings like popping up like his algorithm was showing him engagement like i don't know a month in i mean not that he was planning on proposing that early but um how did i know it's just like yeah a collection of moments i'm trying to think if there's something specific like

i don't know how to describe other than you know how people say like oh marry your best friend it's like such a cliche marry your best friend marry your best friend it's not like i've known cory for 10 years it's not like we've been friends forever it's not like he's a high school sweetheart my best friend like that it's not like we have all this history together but in the year I've known him I have and I mentioned how much humor is important to me and how much laughter is important to me I have just never felt more safe and comfortable and at ease to be a hundred percent who I am without

judgment or changing or anything it's like and then when i'm with him like i said it's like hanging out with myself like he how did i know he he was the one it's like personality if you're a man out there let me tell you something get a fucking personality all right get a sense of humor if you don't have one fuck i mean it is so that's like such a big deal to women or like i mean obviously like that's such I feel like everyone says that like humor sense of humor like making me laugh like if you can make a girl laugh you're I mean but his type of humor his his brand of humor matches mine so well and because my brain is so

comedically oriented all the fucking time like I said I can't take anything seriously like I'm always everything's like a fuck around have fun all the time and I you know in public the grocery store in the car on the way the gym at the gym like I'm not a serious person neither is he and his brand of humor matches mine and I think that is so fucking important because I came out of a relationship my previous one where I was reprimanded for saying something sexually inappropriate in the grocery store something like you know if I made a comment about someone's ass or whatever like i'd be reprimanded i'd be shut down like cut off like don't say that it's inappropriate it's like that'll fucking never work like i you know i've dated squares and quarries a circle okay he's

like a beautiful trapezoid i don't know he's got a lot of layers and variety and levels and angles what am i saying you know he's there's so much depth to his personality he's smart he's talented he's handsome as fuck like he's got all these goddamn great qualities i mean this is just one big gushing lovey-dovey episode isn't it I mean how did I know he's the one honestly like how he treats Louie like how he talks to Louie how he's so sweet and so loving to Jimmy like he's so loving like I can't um his sister has a baby like a two kids now but when he first held his sister his nephew I was like oh my god my heart burst I was like just the way he is with little babies oh my god he's just he's a great yeah I don't know there's so

many moments I think well when did he say I love you it's when I told him I played Halo in middle school that's when he said he loved me I said yeah I used to play Xbox Live in middle school in seventh grade and I used to play Halo 3 it was my favorite game and I literally go home from school every day and fucking play against the boys in class and kick their ass so he said I love you after I told him that because he used to play Halo and he loves love love playing Xbox growing up I don't know um yeah it was crazy so when we first met there were so many moments where um we were we'd figure out like oh we like the same things or we have the same opinion about something and I can't tell you how many times like the first month of dating where he pointed

to the sky and thank God like I'd say something he'd like point aside and be like thank you God thank you for bringing her to me thank you for bringing her to me God thank you thank you thank you because what's sad and I mean it is what it is I mean I guess there's it's a tough dating pool here in San Diego for guys and girls sure but I was doing like bare bones basic girlfriend shit from day one or like since we were you know a couple and he would like and I don't know if he's being extra or like I don't know if he was like overreacting just to be like complimentary of me okay but I would do the most basic bare-bones shit and he made it seem like no woman in his life has ever doted on him or made him feel special or did anything for him or helped him or

like I'm trying to think of an example I don't even know like maybe one morning if I went to the gym and you know he went with his buddy to the gym or whatever we'd like come home at the same time I'd show up with coffee for him and it was like oh my god it's just like little gestures like I would just do them out of the goodness of my heart but he made it sound like oh my god this is like unbelievable you're you did like what's another example I mean and it was all in the beginning and I was just like damn you've had it rough he's like yeah you know I guess we joke about our exes I think what's nice about our relationship was we can it's out in the open we don't have to like conceal and hide like our past we know everything about

each other's past but he really painted some funny pictures to me about how like it's like he go yeah you know there are these maybe I shouldn't air this out on my podcast I don't know if they're fucking listening I don't care just he made the girls in this past sound like and I've so we all know I've dated total dickhead cheating assholes okay talked about my relationships on here also the womanizers uh uh just complete loser idiot men i've i've been literally like treated like shit by men in my life okay i've had a bad bag of i mean all these guys the thing is is you could probably say this about your exes it's like you you like them for a reason they have great qualities but there's like a part of them where it's like they're trash human beings okay so same goes for

court he's had that that experience with women he's dated but he's like you know in southern California it's like you know where's my handbag it's been six months where's my Louis Vuitton it's like you know why aren't you know you pay the man does everything for the girl they're entitled it's like they expect expect expect he's like Jacqueline you're just happy to be here you're just grateful for everything you always say thank you it's like oh you're in take you to dinner you still say thank you like just the little things you do I'm so I'm not used to I'm like I'm like oh my god maybe that's what I could be be uh I could educate people about is like how to be a good fucking girlfriend and like just make your man feel appreciated because that is so important

like the little things the little things you say to them like but being an entitled snot-nosed brat expecting shit from your man and expecting you to be expecting like like superficial crap like fucking um yeah where's my Louis Vuitton it's been six months where my Louis Vuitton shoes were you know get my nail i want my nails i want you to pay for my nails every two weeks and if you like me to have nails you should be paying for it you should be getting my i should be what else is a girl thing like um we should be you should fly me to this place take me to this restaurant private jets please i don't know all that shit you see on instagram like you know the flashy lifestyle shit it's like if you expect that it's like you're fucking delusional you're also super

replaceable you're not special like that's the thing he was telling me he's like if you treat a man like that it's just god you're an idiot i just yeah it's a superficial southern california world i guess he got he got wrapped up with some rotten eggs around our bad apples sure with great qualities of course i can't shit on i don't want to shit on people out there obviously like i don't even know them but god damn when I hear about his past I'm like fuck crazy fucking stories I'm like yeah just psycho shit I've been so I mean I've done some psycho shit but anyways um I guess that's the podcast

but yeah it just amazes me what I was getting to is it just amazes me how the basic things i would do for him in the beginning or even now he was like in shock about like call me a southern belle bitch call me a fucking 1950s like old school millennial it works okay it fucking works it's it's like the basics of that or is it's like treating people how you would want to be treated and when a man like cory when he provides for me when he takes me to dinner when he takes me traveling like when he does like the least you can do as a girlfriend just like thank him be appreciative if you're on a goddamn trip it's fully paid for by your man if you're out to dinner he pays for it and you cop an attitude if you fucking act like

you know i'm on this trip we're in tulum where's my handbag like where's my go buy me a watch or like whatever if you're acting entitled like take me on a shopping spree and shit or like if you if you even fucking put up an attitude about dumb shit it's like you're stupid just be a it's like i know that sounds like controlling like just be pleasant that's what men want they just want a pleasant wife they just want a pleasant girlfriend they don't want to they don't want a girl to cop an attitude or put up a fight about anything i'm just saying the content of what you're upset about or like the context is important it's never over like what he's described to me is so superficial it's so fucking dumb or girls in his past be like oh yeah well

you know i'm just used to this this is how guys treated me in the past i'm just used to getting taken care of 100 it's like that'll never work you have to be even if you want your man to pay for everything and like you don't want to work and you just want to be doted on you have to there's ways you provide it's a partnership it shouldn't be one-sided where the man's doing all the work and you're not doing anything it's like when we travel it's like I'm checking out the hotels I'm checking out the dog sitter I'm putting in that kind of effort you know I'm grocery shopping I'm cleaning the house like when he's gone and like I'm it's not like I just expect him to hire a maid like hire a travel planner like no but again like I don't know why I'm on such a long tangent

about this what's fucking crazy to me is how he made it seem like no one has ever done that for like been a it's he's never really had like a partnership before so yeah and I can't really say that about myself either I feel like my relationships compared to this one in the past were very like I don't know what the word is like elementary like stupid like immature like yeah um i've never been with someone where i don't feel like they're one foot in one foot out like that's always been an issue when i've dated guys in the past i always felt like they're just not it's not all in they're still kind of playing the field i guess or they're not really done dating and they don't really want to settle down so my advice to women out there is go 10 years

older it worked for me 10 years that's our difference and it's great okay one more quick browse at your Q&A questions um I think I actually got them all what are you most looking forward to getting married awkward moments or answer that um i wrote a little note here on my paper this is something so stupid you know how i mentioned how i feel like you know all special and grown and mature now that i have a ring on my finger i don't know just did something to me in that way my i also like i immediately bought so a few things i bought when i got engaged i got these sink um sink stopper things so the ring doesn't get lost down the drain immediately bought those

from amazon and then i got a new apple watch strap because i've been sporting i think i have it here go to youtube to watch i've been sporting this like ugly like yeah sporty wrist strap um on my apple watch and i was looking down at my hand and i was like oh god no this is not this isn't going to work with the ring like this looks like shit so I got this Rolex um it's not a Rolex strap but it literally looks like the I think I think Corey told me it's called Jubilee this wrist strap it's like a it's made for the Apple watch it's like a more classy Apple watch strap I mean the Apple watch with the ring still kind of looks funny but I'm not going to stop wearing my Apple watch I like live and die with by this thing so um yeah I got a new wrist strap another dumb shit thing

I've been doing is shaving I shave my arms as it is okay I've been shaving my arms arms since like high school but now I'm like if there's a little tiny hair on my arm I like want them to be bare I want them to be I'm like I just want my hands and my arms to look like perfect so yeah like no arm hair new watch uh wrist strap for my watch also I so when I met Corey at that time like I was just painting my nails or I had bare nails like I wasn't really a nail girl and then he told me he likes fake nails or like long nails and he's like do you ever get your nails I was like no so for my birthday I think that's when it started he um he like had me go get my nails and he's like he forced me to do this I wanted to I was like oh that'd be a nice

treat so I went and got my nails done my birthday then I kept doing fake nails for like six months like long ones and honestly I don't like getting my nails done I don't like it's such a I don't know like a chore to sit there for so long and then also they just destroy like the acrylics destroy your nails I feel like it's a lot of chemicals I don't know so another thing I did is I bought a gel manicure kit so I could have nice gel nails um and do them at home I know those are also bad chemicals and I know that UV lights aren't the greatest but um yeah I did like this baby pink um and so I'm all about like my hands and my arms now and my accessories I'm like okay like I think I need maybe another ring on the other hand and then like a new bangle or something

so dumb but like it's kind of fun being engaged is fun I'm like I'm I feel like I'm re-inspired by life and just like I just want to be like the best version of myself for my man and for myself really for me um and just elevate you know I just really want to elevate redo the fucking pantry elevate the home elevate my style elevate so um yeah shaving my arms what did I write nails shaving watch band um I think that's it I can't fucking believe I'm engaged like I can it's real now it's been a week I'm used to it but it's such a whirlwind the fact that oh I didn't tell you guys how we met I yeah like we met a year ago and now we're engaged did I should I quickly tell that story whatever we

I had a I made a hinge profile the day I broke up with my ex that's an entire episode I've already recorded if you go back I forget what number it is it's called I got cheated on and dumped his ass that's the title that happened I immediately downloaded hinge I set up a date the next day after I dumped him okay I know it's like if you really love love the person I mean you wouldn't jump into a relationship um that quickly right is that what they say okay fucking I don't care what you do when you get broken up with but or break up with someone like I did I get busy okay I go hard in the paint with the dating I was literally just on a dating rampage like matching with guys on hinge going on dates like non-stop for like two weeks and at the time

I had matched with Corey I remember his profile I remember thinking he was really handsome and everything he had like a golf picture in one of his pictures and um a couple things I did before I met him so my age range at the time and my height range were out of his um they were not in his range or what am I saying they didn't they would not find him on hinge so um and maybe location no did I change that to like 20 miles I think I did I had it within one mile of my home because I wanted to be able to like quickly go on dates and not have to drive far so I lowered my height to 6'3 and 6'3 plus if you know anything about me you know another maybe fucking is this a red flag of mine I don't know not even a red flag you like what you like bitch I like my all

my exes were over 6'4 okay Corey's the shortest guy I've dated he's 6'3 so I before I met Corey or match with him. I dropped my, uh, height on hinge to six, three. I changed my distance to like 20 miles. Cause I'm like, I'm like, okay, I'm going to broaden this. And then I changed the age to, I think the highest I have was 36. I think I turned changed it to 37 or something like I went up a year and we ended up matching. So I had matched with him. I don't remember how the messaging went if it was right away maybe it was within a day or two but he immediately got my number and asked me if I wanted to go golfing and anyways there was this delay like I was going on dates I was talking other guys he was one of them he asked me if I wanted to go golfing and I was

like I was honest I said at the time I got a new golf set and I really wanted to go to the driving range and learn how to swing so um I told him I said you know yes I want to go yes but I'm waiting for my new clubs to get delivered because I had a duplicate or something I got too into details like Jacqueline he doesn't even know all the details but I had a duplicate club I because I got this full set I had to send back and get it resent anyways I wanted to wait to get that in before I went on the date with him he's like oh you know you can use mine or whatever which is true I could have used his but I made him wait and then maybe two weeks went by after that and he goes do you still want to go golf and I said yes and then we went on the date

the rest is history on the second date I puked on him on the fifth date I got his car towed talked about this on the past episodes now we're engaged okay literally fucking crazy um but that's how it happened like I was dating he was single for like six months or so um dating we went golfing um yeah I'll never forget on we went to the driving range and he got my my car got stuck because we went out to dinner and I kept my car parked at the driving driving range place and my car was locked in there and he figured out a way to get it out I thought that was really hot and he told me like just drive over this you'll be fine um okay I think I'm gonna wrap the episode now um but I want to tell you something that happened

when my mom surprised me she's gonna find out about this now because I know she listens to every episode she'll definitely be listening to this one so you know how I mentioned how I put together this like big balloon display for our anniversary for Corey earlier in the week or earlier um jesus jocelyn i'm hitting clearly i'm hitting the wall time down the episode the week he proposed it was our anniversary i put together a big balloon display well something i got him for for the anniversary was this photo frame that's like one of those digital ones where you can send pictures to it and it's like a slideshow all day they're really cool well um uh so for his aunt for our anniversary he walks into the bedroom and it's like sitting up there

on the dresser thing and it's got pictures of us and you know every few pictures i incorporated a picture of myself um without a lot on my body i wasn't wearing anything or or barely anything at all okay use your imagination sexy pics on the fucking display for my man for anniversary and the funny story with this fucking photo frame is that I thought okay this would be kind of cool like have us at your office whatever he's like no let's just have it here at home obviously the pictures if guests come over like we'd have to delete them anyways but we'll get to that so um the during our trip our house cleaner came here and cleaned the house and I had taken that photo frame and put it in the living room

um and it was on okay and I was like oh fuck I'm pretty sure this thing doesn't sleep go to sleep mode it's always on and I was like googling like on the way home we were like thinking about oh my god she probably saw your tits like she probably saw your naked photos so um I was googling the frame and the specs and I was like making sure it was the right one I was like does this thing automatically turn off or do you manually turn it off or it was like no it sleeps from like 11 p.m till 7 a.m every day and then it turns on all day so this our maid fucking saw everything and the story is when my mom came to surprise me here in san diego she flew here for the day i talked already mentioned that story okay so you know that part well she almost got here we have a

code for our door so cory was gonna have her come in the apartment and surprise us okay you see where this is going but the timing happened where she was at the mailbox and hid there okay it was she showed up when we showed up pretty much at the same time so she didn't come inside thank god because when cory she's behind me we come up the elevator cory's ahead of me he knows we're both thinking of this fucking photo frame like we're both on the same page about it and he's like you know 10 steps ahead i'm making sure i'm kind of delaying with my mom talking to her like he immediately walks in and i saw in the corner of my eye just tits okay just my fucking tits on the screen I'm like thank god he walked in and he took it he slowly just like stretched his arm

or whatever and like turned it over and then my mom went into the bathroom and then I ripped the cord out and like threw it in the bedroom but uh mom now you know the story why we were being weird when you walked in and also I was before recording it's behind me and I had to like turn it because we still I don't even know how to delete the pictures so we're kind of fucked people people come over or you know they'll just be in for a fucking if I say if they'd be in for a fucking treat I found I sound so full of shit um who wants I mean it's not anyways um so yeah that's just kind of a funny story about I feel bad for the maid she's like really religious and um yeah I don't know. She's ever seen. Perfect. Sorry. All right. That's it. Thanks for hanging out.

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it once it happens you're like this is it's exciting it's like I want all the chapters of life I don't want to just like do the same thing for my whole life and never build a family never do you know that part I just that's such a goal of mine or just something that I can't I just feel like that's when you look back your life like I want my kids and their kids and grandkids like I want to be old enough to experience all that I want to have a lot of love and people and family around me I want big family dinners and vacations and like I want all that and so this is like the very beginning of that process where I get to build my life and be with my best friend and do this thing together so it's so surreal sorry back to my call to action for you uh review the

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I ain't making mistakes like that I'll bleed on your face Just to make you go take it back I'll lose my shit I go crazy when I'm mad And now you gon' wish You could shut the fuck up real bad And now that I'm gone

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