The Jamie Kern Lima Show - How to Break Through Fear, Trust Your Own Voice & Live Your Purpose! With Sherri Shepherd (Pt 2)

Episode Date: September 30, 2025

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Get ready to break through fear and trust your own voice. I am so excited for this brand new second episode with my incredible guest, Sherry Shepard, where she is sharing things she's never shared before and we're diving deep together. And I know this episode is going to leave you so inspired. I had a full panic attack the day before we started my show. Completely full panic blown because,

To develop a talk show takes one to two years. Who are you? What are you saying? Barbara Walters made me cry for three years straight. But what I learned, she taught me how to find my voice. At this point in my life, I feel the worst thing you could do is not be your authentic self. I was just sitting there watching somebody who is genius, like in her greatness and thinking

about every person at home right now. who's getting blessed by that laughter, by that joy, because a lot of us don't have that in our lives anywhere else, right? And we need that. It feels so good to be able to say, no, this is what I feel. This is what I think. I'm not you.

Take what you get and run with it if you don't agree with me. It's okay. My assignment is a big assignment. Oprah has told me that. Tyler Perry has told me that. Robin Roberts has told me that. It's a big responsibility. responsibility having a talk show. This is like a master class recipe and how do you live in

alignment with your assignment that someone right now can apply this no matter what they're doing in their life. Do you ever hear God talk to you? I know this is a divine assignment because too many people hug me crying and I'm not saying that it's an ego thing. They hug me and they break down in tears. That's not me. That's something God is doing. It's that good. It's next level. It's so good. Jamie Kern-Lima is her name. Everybody needs Jamie Kurn-Lima in their life. Jamie Kern-Lima.

Jamie, you're so inspiring. Jamie Kern-Lima. Get ready to break through fear and trust your own voice. I am so excited for this brand new second episode with my incredible guest, Sherry Shepard, where she is sharing things she's never shared before and we're diving deep together. And I know this episode is going to leave you so inspired today. Sherry Shepard is the Emmy Award winning host of the hit television talk show Sherry. Now in its third season and funnier than ever.

She's also an actress, comedian, author, and mom who day by day and year by year is shining brighter and brighter so much so that I am excited to share right here. that Sherry is going to be getting a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame this year. I am so excited to welcome Sherry Shepard back to the Jamie Kernlema show. Most women are raised people-pleasers. Everyone's afraid to say what they think. And then, you know, Joy Behar shared with you, if you just open your mouth, you're going to make half the people hate you. But life's too short to keep our mouth, like to live with a closed mouth our whole life.

And I just, I want to call this out because to give everyone a little background maybe who may not know, you know, when Sherry got a big seat on the view and somebody listening may not be on the view, but their platform is, you know, the moms at school or the community or the people they work with or whatever, and people are walking around scared to be who they are or to say how they feel. And so you just were thrown into this, what became a seven-year crash course in this. But you, I know you've talked about crying for three years straight on the view. Can you just share, Sherry, like, because this is for everyone listening. How do we, how did you get to that point of saying, okay, I'm going to open my mouth and half the people aren't going to like me? So why not just speak my truth anyway? Because whatever you say half the people aren't going to like. and how did you alleviate or maybe you haven't yet, I don't know, but the pressure that we all

tend to feel about like if I say this, this group of people's going to be mad. If I say this, that group of people is going to be mad, you know, on and on and on. And before you know it, we're silent and not living our life. Yeah, I feel at this point in my life, I feel the worst thing you could do is not be your authentic self. No matter who you offend. You know, it's not like you're trying to go out and offend anybody but not at the expense of who you are now I think that we still have to operate in love like I'm a big in love person yeah because if you operate in love it'll it'll inform the way you do things I don't go to offend you but if it does and I know I'm operating in love then that's I'm not taking that on so I for for me Jamie it has been

I didn't come all I didn't come up that way and and I'm all of a sudden speaking my mind it was a lot of failures it was a lot of humiliations when I got on the view it was everything that I hated to do I had to do every day on the view I was a very fearful person I didn't talk people think you know I'm on this talk show and I just talking I was not like that I was very fearful I was very shy I did not express my opinion. I learned it. I said it, but I wasn't out this sherry. So to be in interrupting people, if I didn't interrupt people on the view, I didn't get heard. So I never was allowed to interrupt people when they were talking when I was younger. I grew up in a very, very strict religious

family. I wasn't allowed to look adults in the eye when I talked. I had to force myself to look you in the eye when I talked because I was taught to look at the ground when I talked. I was taught to respect adults and no matter what adults said it went to the detriment of who I am and being a young child not being protected with certain adults. But I was not allowed to say anything. So it was literally the view. A lot of people say, oh, they talk bad about the view. For me, it was one of the best experiences of my life. I did cry for three years.

Barbara Walters made me cry for three years straight. But what I learned, she taught me how to find my voice. That's what Barbara Walters did for me. I found my voice on that show. And what I joke about is I say, oh, now my voice is deep. Because Barbara told me when your voice is deeper, it projects confidence. So that I joke about. But that woman there, she was hard on me.

and she was like read a book know why you're saying what you're saying be able to defend what you're saying and it's okay if you fall it's okay if you make a mistake and that's what I learned I learned that I have John Murray who's my producing partner he would help me on a view like I'm not sure how I can go up against these ladies and say what I want to say and he would always say what do you think What do you believe? And Sherry, don't be afraid to say it. And he would say, you can't carry the weight of everybody on your shoulders. You can't carry the weight of black people.

You can't carry the weight of all the Christians because I would censor myself. Because I would go, they're not going to like it if I say this. They're not going to like it if I say that. So I can't. And he was like, it's too much. And once I realized, you know what, it is too much. I'm stressing. I'm gaining weight.

I'm eating so much because I'm stuffing all these feelings inside. It feels so good to be able to say, no, this is what I feel. This is what I think. I'm not you. Take what you get and run with it. If you don't agree with me, it's okay. I have my own relationship with God now. I have, I just, me, so when people write me and they go,

I don't believe you say that and you say this on your show, and I go, I'm okay. I talk to God all the time, and I have people that I trust in my life. life who will tell me if I'm going too far or maybe I shouldn't go here, but I trust them. So it's been a lot of ups and downs and now I'm at this place where I'm okay with saying no. I don't feel bad about saying no. I'm not going to know. I'm sorry. I'm going, no, I can't do it.

I'm okay with Oprah said something to me when I started this show and I said, I have to go visit affiliates because they're the ones who carry my show but they were sending me on all of my days off on all of you know weekends and I said Oprah I never see Jeffrey and I'm missing his parent teacher conferences and I'm stressing and she says Sherry you have to say no you have to she said because you never want Jeffrey to be in the position where you're saying to him I did all of this for you all of this is yours because he doesn't want to hear that he wants to know know that his mom is around and you teach people how to treat you that's what you and so now when I know I need to do it I go Jeffrey I'm running hard I'm I got to do this and then there's

sometimes I'll ask me to do something and I'll go no that nope not giving nope not giving up my day like this is a day off for me and normally I go I need to it's Jerry if Jeffrey's parent teacher but you were coming out here I wanted to talk to you And it was like, Jamie doesn't come out here much, and so she'll be out here in New York. So this is really the only day we can make it happen. Well, I want to do it. So I'm not feeling bad that is my day off, and I don't want you to feel bad. Oh, my God, Sherry took her day off.

I wanted to do it. I made the choice to do it. I'm okay, but I'm okay with saying no. I say no to so many things. How do you make that decision? I remember when Oprah came on my show and I asked her, I said, why are you here? Why did you say yes? And she said, I felt it was divinely ordered.

And by the way, she loves you. She said to give you an extra special hug. She loves you as does everyone. But with you making a decision like that, I just, I find this fascinating because I've worked really hard, Sherry, to learn to say no and to learn to not be a people pleaser and to learn for me, I pray, I get still, and I try to hear the answer of what I'm supposed to do. And so even just you, thank you, by the way, thank you for being here on your day after, to do you to have this conversation with me, with everybody, but for you making that decision,

how did you make it? Do you just go with your gut? Do you pray about it? Like when you decide I'm saying no or I'm saying yes, you know? Yeah, for the most part, I do pray about it goes. One of my prayers is, Lord, I give you everything. I give you my career. I give you my relationships. I give you my son. I give you everything that I desire. Give me back what you want me to have anything that's not for me shut that door so fast shut it um if it's for me open it up and confirm it for me but definitely give me back what you want me to have so show me where i where i'm supposed to go order my i'm i'm big into that lord if i'm going the wrong way pull me back and let me let me get the correction pull me back you know so yeah so when i say yeah it's not like every time

I have to go, okay, am I supposed to do this? I just, at this place in my life, in this season of my life, I want, I think I'm a pretty boring person, but I have enough nuggets of life that I feel like I want to impart to people, younger women and men and women who are my age, who are fearful, who go, I don't know if I can start a business right now. I think people, I'm 57, I'm 55, I'm 60. And I think people have forgotten about me, Sherry. And I don't think I'm pretty enough.

And I don't think, and I feel like I can speak to that. So, you know, being the people pleases, it's too hard. And life is short. I don't have enough energy. I don't have enough stamina to please you. I got one I have to please. And he's the one that's taking care of my son. And, you know, it's too much.

If it's too stressful, I'm going, I have to. I have to put that on the side. And if you're part of my stress and you're in a toxic place and you're negative, you're not going to be calling me every night complaining, complaining, complaining. I have to put you over here because I know that I'm ordered to do something. My assignment is a big assignment. Oprah has told me that. Tyler Perry has told me that Robin Roberts has told me that it's a big responsibility

having a talk show. And if I'm over here arguing with this dude, because I think he's cheating and you over here. And then I got to come out there and go, hey, family and deliver joy, it's not going to happen. So some people say, oh, you know, this happened at this age. And one of the reasons I know is because earlier in my life, I was all over the place.

I'm over here, heartbroken over here. This one in prison I'm talking to this one, you know, arguing with the husband. One time I was on the view girl when I was going through my divorce with Jeffrey's dad. And when I tell you, I thought everybody had left. I was on the phone. That's a Sherry you never want to see who's from Chicago, who could fight you. I cussed my husband out so bad when I tell you every curse word in the book.

There would be nobody that would be going to church with me. I cussed him out and I was screaming at the top of my lungs. And he said to me, he said, and that's why you're not a good mother. And I, like, that's my trigger. And I was like, every curse word before I got to, a regular word came out of my mouth. And all of a sudden, Barbara Walters comes in there. She goes, are you okay, dear? And I said, oh, my gosh.

And I was like, yeah, Barbara. And I said, I'm fine. Everything is good. I was mortified. And she walked out and I went right back to cussing him out. Yeah. So all of that, like, I bet you she walked away proud. Probably.

Probably. I bet you'd be like she found her voice. Knowing Barbara, probably. I'm telling you and it just it was hard though it's hard to do that and you have to go on a talk show and deliver and deliver joy and just you know and I want to be completely open so I go I can't take on the world I know I know who's supposed to be in my life who I allow into my life into my energy space and I'm very firm about that. So, and I think it's probably just, it's from years of learning and growing and saying, wow, I love this person.

And 20 years ago, we probably wouldn't have been friends. The person that I have in my papers, my estate papers, to help with Jeffrey, if something, God forbid, ever happens to me or his dad is one of my best. friends in the world, Tom Borden and his partner. Well, no, it's his husband, Jimmy. And they've been married 21 or 22 years. And I asked him, I said, I love you guys so much. And you love Jeffrey. If something happens, this is when Jeffrey was little, would you take him, please? Because I know your hearts, I know your love for God, and I know your love for your family and each other and your two kids. And I don't care. I don't care what anybody thinks, but you will take care of my son.

Because when I was going through my divorce, they took me in, and I slept for three days while they just took care of Jeffrey. I taught him how to make pancakes, took him all over. He was with the grandparents. And they loved on him so much. And I said, will you be his guardians? How have you, on your journey, you were raised to Hope is Witness? and now Christian. Yes.

And a lot of people are on this journey in their life of going, how do I not necessarily unlearn things, but how do I just take a step back and actually go, what is it, I believe, and become my own woman, become my own person? For you on that journey, like what role does this faith play in your life now and how did that transition happen? When I tell you, my faith is so important to me.

I don't, it is everything to me. I believe my faith is why I have this show. My faith is why I think my talk show is not like I do anything different from other talk show hosts, with the exception of doing my monologue every day. Like nobody in the talk show space, with the exception of Ellen, has done a monologue and can speak for that long. Ellen was good for that. That is what I do. So nobody else does that.

I mean, it's really, there's a formula for talk shows. You have celebrity guests on. You have, if you want to come and promote your book, you know, it's about celebrities. We have a chef on. We cook. You have, you do giveaways. It's, you know, you play games. But what I bring to it is different from anybody else.

Every, it's a lot of people that would do that formula and it would not work because you've seen talk shows that don't work. There's something that God has given. to me it is an assignment that god has given to me that makes all of this come together where it's special um trying to think like when they test me with focus groups and they test everybody actors anybody how what do what do people think of you and i look at we have a little dial and people it you know they turn their dial if they're not interested in what i'm saying or if they're interested the dial goes up if they're excited they make comments and And that's agony to sit there and watch these focus groups, how people feel about you.

And it always came back. We love Sherry because she goes to the edge, but she doesn't go over the edge. She makes it funny, you know, when she works with the experts who, you know, who show me how, oh, and now we're going to do this, you know, cold plunge pool. And we love how Sherry interacts with people. We love the joy she has. That's God. that's him putting that extra jusion over what I do so my faith this is why I don't get distracted

I know my show is it is supposed to be about joy and laughter when before I walk out that door when they lift up the door and they say welcome Sherry Shepard John Murray and I and our executive producer Vinna Wynn we're praying for the audience who the live audience who's watching and we're praying for the audience who's watching me at home and our prayer is always bless them to feel better than when they came and then when they leave those two i pray by myself and i say lord bless the audience to see the side of you that is laughter that is laughter from the gut bless them to see that side of you that loves a good joke that side of you that is light bless them if there's a heart that's heavy touch that heart through me bless bless them to

to see you in me, whatever I'm doing. And if I'm, Jamie, sometimes you don't have it. Sometimes I feel empty when I'm standing behind that door. I feel like I don't have the jokes. I don't have, I'm tired, I'm worried. And I go, fresh mercy, fresh grace, fresh energy, and fresh jokes. And I pray for everybody, touch them in that spot

and bless them that they get it, that they get what you want me bring and then that door opens and I don't think about it anymore I go out there and I go because and I tell people walk into what was already written and so he wrote it for me he gave it to me so I feel like I can't fail because he gave it to me so just be confident and I'll go out there and I go I don't know what I'm gonna say I'm not quite sure what I'm I don't feel good about the jokes I came up with it doesn't matter something comes always always walk into what's already written walk what is already been written walk into it

yeah yeah this is so good i want to call out something you said you said i don't get distracted right and in in in previous years in your life this is happening that's happening you know i could talk for myself i've been in my past in relationships that took me down or friendships or that or that's happening or that person says something. And it's like the thing that is so poignant that you're sharing that I want to call out because so many people are like, how do I find my purpose?

How do I live in alignment with my assignment? How do I feel fulfilled? How do I know like this is what I'm doing? And the things that I'm hearing you share are so powerful. One, you talk about falling many times. You've shared women and other people who have been sources of wisdom in your life. And now you're like in alignment

with your assignment on the show. You're not letting, you're at this point in your life where you're saying how you feel, yeah, it might offend people, it might lift a whole lot of other people up, but you're not carrying that worry, the burden of worry anymore. You're protecting yourself.

And I think that's a big thing because so many of us like, oh, yeah, that friend does lower my vibration, but I'm going to feel bad if I don't, you know, all the things. And before we know it, we're doing that for 20 people. We're wondering why we feel out of alignment, and I'm sitting here right in front of you and just feeling your energy

and seeing your eyes and having just come from your show not too long ago and experienced it firsthand, but I also know the very real side of it, which is not every day can we feel like I can just go out there and crush it or I could deliver. And so you sharing how do you get to that point every day to be able to go out there and be able to do it, right? You're protecting yourself offset because you know, you know your assignment. You have friends like Tyler and Oprah confirming it, right? And then you go out there and do it. And you talk about your intention for doing it. You're clear with your partners on the show, your intention. You're clear about your own intention. I just have to say this is like a masterclass recipe in how do you live in

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And now more of this incredible conversation together. I just have to say this is like a masterclass recipe in how do you live in alignment with your assignment that someone right now can apply this no matter what they're doing in their life. Even with talking like this, I go, Lord, I don't know what, because I ramble and I go, but I'm going to trust that you are going to touch

somebody to get what they need from it and sometimes you know you walk away and you go oh my gosh i didn't say this i didn't say that i don't a lot of times i just a big mantra for me last year and this years has been don't even overthink it don't don't waste energy overthinking it because i go god you're going to put the juzin spice on it and whatever that person and that coral suit with the black leather pants who was sitting in the audience i know i wanted to say this to this she's going to get what she was supposed to have gotten from me. Yes. And so a lot of times I will be on the show and I'll say something.

Something will come to me a joke and I'll do it and I'll go, oh, I should have did that. And I go, you know what? It happened. It's not the end of the world. Yeah. God is over this. It's okay. Yeah.

You know. Do you ever feel God, do you, do you ever hear God talk to you? I can hear. It's so funny. Earlier in my career, I heard it all the time. God and I would say he sounded like. like berry white. There was certain things that it was just like, I was eating this one particular pink berry, which Nisi Nash introduced me to. I blame her to this day. And I get, because I'm a

type two diabetic, you know, sugar, I can't have that much sugar. And it was a lot of sugar. And I was, and I'm addicted to sugar. And I was eating it, you know, getting a whole take home container, then getting a large, I would go out, you know, at 11 o'clock at night to pink berry in the summertime and get it. And I heard a voice as clear as day. it went no more pinkberry when I tell you that voice scared me I was like who who is this like you audibly heard oh oh it audibly audibly I heard it I didn't do it for four years it had to be about four years I stopped scare me so bad but what it was was it was that voice it was just like you're going to die if you keep taking as much sugar as you are taking like so I can hear God

in those moments sometimes when I'm on the show and I say something and I want to keep going because everybody's laughing I'm a comic I hear that laughter I will keep tagging with something

and I can hear it's enough that's enough like I hear that that is enough especially why I'm on a sex thing audibly or like audibly it's just something inside it's like a whisper

that's enough that you know is coming from a source greater than yourself absolutely and I go that's why when people will send me comments and they'll go

how did you, how dare you do this? And you do this. And I go, I'm fine because I got a higher person telling me when it's time to stop. Or people that I trust that are in my life. Like being a type two, having type two diabetes. God spoke through my son when my son said to me one time, Mommy, if you die, who's going to be my bodyguard? And I was eating a candy bar. And I said, what? Because when I eat candy or sugar, I get irritated. I get real irritable. And I said, what? And he goes, who's going to be my bodyguard if you die?

Which was who's going to protect me if you're not here? That was all I needed to hear. I was like, oh, I got to get this together. So I believe that I don't necessarily hear God, you know, somebody's just sitting next here going, you know, we just have a conversation. People are around me who say things and it confirms what I'm feeling. I've been in relationships where I you know my will was like I want this I want this thing right here and I sometimes I hate praying their prayer going Lord if he is not for me slam the door shut yes so that I know so that I can keep moving because also I know if God had to give me the talk show when I was really like that you know it's so funny to me God gave me this talk show at 50 I think 54 was when I got it Jamie I'm tired half the time I don't remember the names of people

I'm like I can't drop it like I used to I'm like what do you give me the talk show now in my 20s Lord in 30s it would have been on and pop it but you know what Sherry probably would have got on drugs Sherry probably would have been with the wrong person Sherry probably would have had the person she would you know

as part of the show because he wants to be part of the thing it just would have been a mess and I know this is a divine assignment because too many people walk up to me and say my mother has Alzheimer's and you are the only time I can see her the way she used to be because she laughs when she watches you. My husband passed away two years ago. I get this when I go to comedy clubs when they tell me how much they love my show. My husband passed away and we watched your show together.

When I was in the hospital going through dialysis, I watched your show and your show kept me. too many people hug me crying and I'm not saying that as an ego thing they hug me and they break down in tears that's not me that's something God is doing it's giving he's giving you some kind of respite he's healing your heart bombing a balm around your spirit with laughter and joy yeah and so people so in my 20s in my 30s that wouldn't have been happening because it would have been about sherry I'm feeling myself like I'm hanging out with the celebrities I'm at this party I'm with this one you know yeah now I'm very thankful I'm very thankful that it came now I don't I'm not out in the streets you know it's hard to get me out in the streets I'm at home once I take

my bra off girl mm-hmm I'm at home so me too so so you know just going back to faith because I don't know where we were and don't you think your steps are ordered like the show in your 50s like a you have enough life experience enough falls enough rises enough falls to like like carry the weight of what a show is and enough wisdom having put in the reps like all of it that's what that's what it is it's like the life experience that I have so when I sit in the chair I'll give I love pop culture we do pop culture but and and the people who don't like me will say you always bring it back to you yeah absolutely because I have an experience with this so when Jen's ears are talking about different things I have a I have an opinion about that because I've

been through it. I have an opinion about learning to say no. I have an opinion because I've fallen and got. I have an opinion because I've been through so much. So when I sit in that chair and talk, I think people are listening because they can relate to me. Yeah. You know, and I do have the life experience. And also, I remember a pastor of, I visited church one time, trying to remember how I said this, but it hit me. He said, sometimes, Your dream does not come true because you haven't developed the faith to handle that dream. Like sometimes you'll get something and if it crashes, you don't know how to, you don't know how to rebound. And sometimes you have to mature, that's what he said, you have to mature into the reality of that dream.

Because if something happens, you can still keep going forward. And we see that with a lot of social media people. They get it. Unfortunately, I'm seeing a lot of TikTokers and social media people who are committing suicide. They're, you know, they're dying because it's, and I'm not trying, I don't know their life. But I do know you get it so fast and you're not prepared for what comes. I've talked to people who are influencers and they're not prepared for the backlash that comes on their social media. They're not prepared.

They don't know how to not take it. personally. They're not prepared for because they put, this is a new day of fame. You put your life out there. Yes. But now you're getting it back. And people don't forget what you said. Yes. You know, four years ago. They don't forget. And that's how they make their money to put their life out there with their families and their kids. And now, you know, and they, they pitch perfection. And when things crumble, they don't know how to handle the fame. They don't know how to handle the money. They don't know how to handle the family dynamic. And now, you know, and they don't know how to handle the family dynamic. And that happened when you rise and now you feel like you got to bring everybody up and cancel culture you're so just immersed and not having put in enough reps to go I can handle it absolutely people don't like me or agree with me in this moment absolutely and so this is this is the thing where it's like I had to because I've wanted this dream since I saw Oprah yeah and I talked about it when she came on I was emotional since I saw her and I went out and pitched a talk show before the view.

I remember I got a pilot for a talk show. And I went out there and I was bubbly and I was joyful. And I was just like, hey, my voice is very high. Hey, hey everybody, how you doing? And those executives kept saying, we need you to be you. And I go, but I am me. Like I love, I love, and I was crying and I was like, Lord, thank you for this blessing.

This is so amazing. And I'd set my room and I cried because I go, I don't know what they want from me. And everything, we did a fashion show. We had a chef and everything was funny. We did it in New York on the Kelly Ripper, Kelly and Regis Philbin. We did it on their set.

It was, they packed the room with people who wanted to come to see me because I was an actress. So the people were loving me. And I thought I was giving them everything. I was standing on my head, but it didn't happen because I didn't know who I was. I just was like, tell me what you want me to do and I'm gonna give it to you and make it funny.

and they kept coming in my room going can you just be you know that sassy Jerry was he on this dumb stage and I go but I am sassy that's why I said but I am sassy no I'm not now I know who I am

I think that's why a lot of young kids or young people so you have to find you have to and that's experience that's life that's failures that's falls major falls and you get back up and you dust yourself off and you go

I'm stronger than I thought. So on this show, I can say when somebody says, why don't we put so and so on? That doesn't align with who I am. And I don't think, I know my audience. I know my audience. They're not going to dig this person because I know who I'm talking to.

I'm talking to single mothers. I'm talking to women who want to start their businesses. I'm talking to, you know, people who don't feel seen. So I know exactly who Sherry is. I know when I sit on that chair and I tell a story, somebody is going to relate to that story. So I can say, no, I don't, I'm not interested in having this person on

because I need them to, I know, yeah, we could have a man do it, but I'd rather a woman do it because she's going to say, she's going to touch them in a place that maybe a man can't. So let's have her on because I know she's going to inspire. This is so good. So many people think, like, oh, my hope or dream is too late or this or that. And getting this talk show in your 50s and you being able to. 54, girl. You being able to say, this is who I am. This is who my audience is. This is what's going to work. Probably you wouldn't have been able to do that. Pre the view. No, I would have been too scared. I would have been to because I would have thought they know more than me. They know more than me. So I've never done a

talk show so they can tell me. But here's the deal. I'm at this age. I may not know how the ends and outs of a talk show, but I know who I am. And I know and I'm not coming from a place of arrogance, but a place of its divine order. And because God is in it, you can take me out of the seat and put somebody else in to replace me, but then you're not going to give me. People are watching Sherry because they want what Sherry has to say. They want to hear what I have to say because they can relate to me. There's somebody out here who has a child, who has special needs, who's like, I don't know what I'm going to do. I'm a single mom and I'm scared.

And then they hear me, even being a celebrity, go, I'm scared too. And I'm trying to, somebody out there has a teenager and they're going, I don't know. I feel like I'm crazy. Okay, well Sherry just said she feels like she's crazy too because the son doesn't want her around. And she's feeling, you know, it's like somebody out there can relate. to what I'm dealing with and I know that you know that I know who you are I want to break for a second okay because for anyone listening to this show right now okay who is not for whatever reason not watching the Sherry show okay I just have to say this we pay so so you know this

first of all you have number one you need to watch it it's that good it's next level it's so good. And if you're busy, you work all this, it's DVR, DVR it, recording. And we're on YouTube. On YouTube. On YouTube. When you look at the studies that show the impact of laughter, you know, on your mental health, on your mood, we are lonelier than ever. We're a country more stressed than ever, more filled with anxiety than ever. Right? Studies show just 15 minutes of being exposed to laughter or joy or something positive a day has so much, you know, so many effects on you. I just, what I think is remarkable. and I just want to brag for one second, okay?

Because I have paid a lot of money and it was well worth it to go to a stand-up show like for many different times in my life. I love it. It's so fun. I love it. And I'm always in awe when someone has a great act and then they'll perfect that act and they'll do it all year and they'll tour. That's amazing.

I love it. The entire first whole part of your show every single day is better. than almost any stand-up show I've ever seen, and you're doing a new one every single day. Every day. Every single day. And so for anyone who tunes in, it's like you're getting this fresh, like, real time. I'm going to call it anointing.

But this fresh, for anyone who doesn't know what that word means, this fresh real time, just, you know, comedic, soul-filled, connected, laugh out loud. part of your day and your jokes are so funny when I was in the green room I had a few weeks ago I almost cried my eyelashes off

okay because I was laughing so hard our entire room our entire room was laughing so hard and you were talking about something with your feet and walking on the runway but being grateful baby oil was just back in stock it was the whole thing we were laughing so hard

It was like, and I just watched, and I felt, I felt like, I didn't feel like I knew I was just sitting there watching somebody. Yeah. Who is genius, like in her greatness and thinking about every person at home right now who's getting blessed by that laughter, by that joy, because a lot of us don't have that in our lives anywhere else, right? And we need that. And I just want to say for a second, I believe you when you say God is in it. Because I don't know that a human can do that, can come out and every single day be delivering that kind of comedy. That is next level. Yeah, can I just say what's so funny is how I know God is in it?

Because when we started the show, I took over Wendy Williams time slot. And I had a full panic attack the day before we started. my show completely full panic blown because it takes to develop a talk show takes one to two years to develop what is the theme of it who are you what are you saying let's test it out in front of different crowds it it literally is a year that goes before and then they have to sell it I stepped into a very unique situation where the time slot was open and the affiliates were already on board. I have gained now more affiliates. I think when I came in, it was already on board like 86%. Now I'm at 95% sold across the country. But I developed my talk show literally

in a month because I've been filling in, but I knew what I wanted to do all my life like I knew I knew what kind of show I wanted yeah but I didn't know the ends and the outs and in the day before you know I wanted a comedy writer but we weren't able to get a comedy writer to help me Ellen had about 12 comedians giving her jokes when she would come and do her monologue Jimmy Kimmel has a room full of comics every talk show that does any kind of comedy any monologue they have a room full of comics because some jokes don't work and they do the other jokes we couldn't have a comic it was just me and I said Lord I'm not I can't write I don't even know what I'm

going to talk like I got to come out and do a monologue what am I going to do I cry I lost it and something said I always go something said because I don't know who I'm talking to the Holy Spirit it was a voice inside that talked to me and said what did Oprah say to you because Oprah had talked to me, that was divine. Like, she left me mess and she was like, I'm trying to call you. I'm like, first of all, who is this? She texted, this is Oprah. I was like, no, it's not.

She was like, this is Oprah. I've been trying to call you. Maybe we can figure out of time that we can talk. And I'm like, I'm figuring out of time I can talk with Oprah. And she called me and literally for an hour, just in talking to me, I got so many nuggets of thing. and she made me laugh. And so that voice said, and when I was telling me what Oprah was talking about,

and a lot of it was serious because I look at it differently, they were cracking up, cracking up. And it said, talk about when you talk about what Oprah said. And I said, I can't say what Oprah told me. You know what I'm saying? Everything Oprah told you. But there are things that you can say about Oprah.

Just talk about it. And that was my monologue. When I came out, how Oprah Winfrey called me and I said this ain't Oprah and she had to convince me that she was Oprah and my arthritis kicked in as I was taking notes I still got the 12 pages of notes from Oprah

and what she was telling me and that was my monologue and that's how I knew this is God because when stuff when I don't have it it's the where I am weak you are strong he gives me what I need because he gave me the assignment because he gave it to me

he's not going to give it to me and he ain't going to work it out and be like oh my God didn't nobody tell me that nobody told me Sherry didn't know her jokes nobody told me that she didn't have any the energy nobody told she can't remember people's name no if he gave it to you he's going to give you

everything you need to see it through and that's why I got my second season I got COVID the first day back on my second season of Sherry I had to John Batiste, the amazing jazz singer,

because I was in his face. He was about to fly to France to finish his documentary, which he won an Oscar for, and let him know, John, I got COVID. I had to call Michelle Boutot, who has a show Survival of the Fittest. She's about to go to London to do a comedy tour to tell I got COVID. Neither one of them had it. I had to tell Leslie Jones, who was on a book tour.

I got COVID. I was out for a week and a half, so they had to show reruns from the first season. And one of the producers, he's no longer with my show, he said, because whenever you show reruns, ratings go down. And he said, oh, if the ratings keep going like this, you're not going to be on in the summer. And I panicked and my girlfriend, you always got a girlfriend who know God better than you. She said, Sherry, first of all, what is you being scared for? God the one gave it to you.

Did he say the show, going to go off there? Did he not know you were going to get COVID? The show not going off to God say, it's time for the show. show to go off and I was like you know what is I'm blowing my nose and sick I go it's going to be fine mm-hmm it's gonna be fine isn't the girlfriend that knows God better than you the best the best right everyone needs one of those um everyone needs one of those I like you you are so good you are really you are really really good at this Jamie so continue um because it's very anointed. It's very

anointed. I just spoke in front of 20,000 people and they wanted me to be a speak. It was like for the Society of Human Resources managers. And I can do stand up for 20,000 people. No problem.

Stepping out of my comfort zone. And I just, I just it's just something that stays in my mind. They hired me to do an hour, speak for an hour in front of 20,000 people. The room was already packed, sold. And I panicked. and said, how am I going to, Lord, I do stand up.

Like these people, I don't know what I'm going to say. I'm not even worthy to be, what am I going to tell human resource managers? And when I tell you, I was trying to do cards and things and notes and give them something they could take notes about it, it was just a mess. And I had a panic attack again the night I was supposed to do it. There was also a big well-known actor who we know who was on TV on a big, show they also hired him to be a keynote speaker he canceled at the last minute and they saw him at a wmba game so he didn't go i think fear took over and uh my girlfriend this one who knows god

better than me she said they don't expect perfection and they have nothing to judge you again so they don't know if you're going to mess up and i'm like but they want graphics and i got pictures and they got a clicker and it's 20 000 people who paid to come to the seminar and she said all you got to do is show up all if he called you to do it you just got to show up and he'll do the rest and I got to the venue I saw 20,000 chairs and it was just like freaking out and I said I need a table to put my note cards I had 19 note cards that I was supposed to refer to then the clicker didn't work then they didn't have anybody to do the clicker for my pictures my publicist had to do it she was like I don't know you didn't even tell me you was using

pictures it was just and uh the air conditioning was so strong and my cards kept blowing so i had to put something on top but then i couldn't read it then i didn't have my glasses on and they announced me and i walked past all those people and i said lord i just got to give it to you give me what i need i can't remember all of my acronyms do you know and i told them i said i don't think i'm only going to do 45 minutes at an hour and 15 minutes there was a note on one of the screens that said sherry you got to wrap it up we have another seminar so an hour and 20 I spoke wow and was mobbed by so many human resource managers who wrote the president told me he said you they said by far you were the best keynote speaker you gave

them you were authentic you my my new Valentinos I never had a pair of Valentino shoes got stuck in the stage got and God gave me a joke that got me out of it and the president of the human resources managers he was single so I had jokes for days I said I know you're going to buy me another pair of shoes huh it was it was and I keep that it was so phenomenal how all I had to do was show up because it's it wasn't about me it was about what God wanted to be done with the folks. And I kept going, I didn't say this, I didn't say this, but they didn't need it.

They didn't know. So many people wrote and said, now I've been fearful all my life and you just show me how to get past fear, how to manage fear. You show me how I can empower people with love, my team with love. I don't remember what I told them,

but I knew it was amazing. Yeah. When I got off and they had to bring other security people from the other seminars to get me out of the room, how impactful it was, but it wasn't about me. Yeah. And I think if people can take it off of them and go, what is my assignment here?

What do you want to do through me? Yeah. Yeah. And in any situation, big or small, they're going to meet someone for coffee. Don't freak out over it. Just say, okay, God, if you want this relationship to happen, just move through me. Let me be myself. If they want to be funny, they want to be more funny and drop some jokes, I'm going to say to

everyone today, because I know we started off the conversation about being funny, but I think, you know, and maybe Sherry, maybe I'm projecting my own stuff, because I feel like I'm funny, but then sometimes I like hold back and I get introverted and I don't say the funny thing. And my kids the other day said, you know, dad is funny, mama snuggles. And I'm like, I'm funny. I'm going to challenge everyone listening. The next time you do, you just think of something funny today, just say it. Just say it. One little baby step at a time.

Absolutely. To get in touch with your humor and touch with your funny, right? Because I think like, that's what I'm going to do. One, I'm just going to start saying the jokes and seeing if they land. And not, yes. And then most importantly, tune in to Sherry. Tune in to Sherry every single day. D.V.R.

I have it DVR. So I'll watch it. I'll watch it if I can't make a show. I'll watch it at night. It is good for the, it is like soul care. in a show because we all need love. We all need that example that you set of approaching everything with love. And also we just need that beautiful laughter in our life and who you are.

And I want to say thank you for how you showed up here too because I love seeing all these sides of you and seeing like the strong person that you are and how you know who you are and how you know how to say no and you know when to say yes and your faith. And thank you so much. Thank you, Jamie. I'm so grateful. I hope it's the first of many. I know.

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