The Jamie Kern Lima Show - “You're Not Crazy, You're Just First!” 1 Tool To Change Your Life Today and Help You Love Who You Are + Chapter 3 of WORTHY!

Starting point is 00:00:00 Before we jump into this episode, I'd love to invite you to join this community to hear more interviews and one-on-one conversations with me and you to help you truly believe in yourself, trust yourself, and know you are enough so that you can become unstoppable in living your best life. I love your support. It's incredible to see your comments and how many people you're sharing these episodes with. And I'm so grateful to be here for you. And I'm so excited to go on this journey with you. It means so much to me. Jamie Kern Lima is her name. Everybody needs Jamie Kern Lima in their life. Jamie Kern Lima. Jamie, you're so inspiring. Jamie Kern Lima. Hi, it's Jamie Kern Lima. And today in this episode of the Jamie Kern Lima show,

Starting point is 00:00:57 I am so excited to share with you a tool you can apply to your life right now that I have found to be truly life-changing. If you struggle with believing that you're enough, if you tell yourself lies like if you're the real you, people won't like you as much. If you struggle with dimming your light or maybe you hide parts of your authentic self and instead show up as your representative each day because you think that's the role you need to play to get approval at home, at work, in your friendships, your relationships, or in your family. If you struggle with people pleasing, today's episode is for you. I am so excited to share with you an exclusive chapter from my book, Worthy, just for you. I am so excited to share with you an exclusive chapter from my book,

Starting point is 00:01:47 Worthy, just for you. It's called, You're Not Crazy, You're Just First. And I'm so excited to share the lessons in this chapter because when I started applying them to my life, I felt lighter, worried less, I embraced authenticity more, and this one lesson has truly helped me to step into alignment with my assignment. So get cozy and lean in because I just feel in my heart that these words might be exactly for you today. Who you spend time around is so important as energy is contagious and so is self-belief. And I'd love to hang out with you even more, especially if you could use an extra dose

Starting point is 00:02:37 of inspiration, which is exactly why I've created my free weekly newsletter that's also a love letter to you delivered straight to your inbox each and every Tuesday morning from me. If you haven't signed up to make sure that you get it each week, just go to jamiekernlima.com to make sure you're on the list and you'll get your one-on-one with Jamie weekly newsletter and get ready to believe in you. If you're tired of hearing the bad news every single day and need some inspiration, some tips, tools, joy, and love hitting your inbox, I'm your girl. Subscribe at jamiekernlima.com or in the link in the show notes. Chapter three of Worthy is called You're Not Crazy, You're Just First.

Starting point is 00:03:29 The world will ask you who you are and if you don't know, the world will tell you. Carl Jung. Mom and dad, I have this product idea. It's a pet rock. I think I can sell these and make millions. For those of you who are too young to remember, the pet rock came out in 1975 and was enormously popular. The creator, Gary Dahl, became a millionaire. But can you imagine the conversations he must have had when he came up with the idea. Can you imagine the doubt and laughter that came his way? Or what about the moment witnesses gathered on the beach to watch the Wright brothers make yet another attempt to fly a machine into the air after hundreds of previous failures? Can you imagine the names they were called or how misunderstood their genius

Starting point is 00:04:27 likely was? Or the person who invented the shake weight, you know, that product commercial where the guy holds that dumbbell-like weight in front of his abdomen and shakes it back and forth rapidly to get a workout? Note, you should have seen my grandma's face the first time she saw that commercial because, well, it can look like a lot of other things other than shaking a weight. Who knew that invention would be such a huge climactic success? These innovative people were probably all called words like crazy at some point along the way, but they were just first. And so are you.

Starting point is 00:05:10 Confession. I have been called crazy most of my life. Most often by people who loved me and used it as a term of endearment because they didn't know what else to say. I was the one who thought differently. The one who always had the big wild ideas to challenge or fix the world's problems. The one who dreamed of going to faraway places and was willing to work enough jobs to make it happen. The one who never felt like I fit in, even when I tried desperately to. The one who believed that where I come from

Starting point is 00:05:47 doesn't have to determine where I'm going and challenged my family with questions like, what's stopping people like us from having success like that? The one who got teased for being the only person at my party not drinking alcohol on my 21st birthday because I was scared to death of repeating the generational cycle of addiction. After years of being called words like crazy, I couldn't help but to start wondering if I was. I began trying desperately to feel like I belonged and did whatever I could to feel less alone and more enough.

Starting point is 00:06:25 I mastered dimming my own light to make people around me feel comfortable. But I was left feeling empty and even more alone. Then in my 20s, I swung the pendulum in an entire different direction and spent a few decades overachieving, confusing the world's approval and celebration with love. But neither overperforming nor dimming filled the void of not-enoughness I felt inside. When they called me words like crazy, I told myself it just meant I was misunderstood. But I secretly wondered if they were right. In my 20s, following all the

Starting point is 00:07:08 rules the world told me to, I planned to get married before I was ready. Then I started having panic attacks. I fell into depression. My adoption coupled with divorces in my family means I actually have five families and no one in any of those families had ever gone to therapy that I was aware of or had even spoken about mental health. In the environment where I was raised, the solution was to avoid talking about hard things, to bury them deep down inside until they went away, or just to ignore that they existed altogether. I was the first one in my family's and peer group to seek therapy.

Starting point is 00:07:47 Between the health insurance that my job gave me and my savings, I figured out how I could afford to go, and I was in so much anguish that I couldn't afford not to. The first appointment I had with my therapist changed the course of my life forever. After explaining to her all the ways I felt different and like I didn't belong, I also let her know I had big, bold dreams and wild ideas, and I felt like I had more potential than the person I was allowing myself to be. I told her that I felt like I was made to do different things from what I needed to do to belong and that I was dimming my own light on my ambitions and even my personality

Starting point is 00:08:35 because I felt like something was wrong with me. And now I was supposed to be marrying someone I loved, but I was scared. How could I know if marriage was right for me when I'd seen it be wrong for so many people in my family? After my therapist diagnosed my panic attacks and depression, I point blank asked her, my whole life I've been called crazy or different or too ambitious or strange or out there. Am I crazy? She replied, no, you're not crazy, but I'm really glad you're here.

Starting point is 00:09:12 And she proceeded to explain how when we're the first ones in our peer groups, family, or community to challenge the status quo, it can feel very isolating. When we're the first or only one to feel differently, we can feel othered. When we don't morph who we truly are to fit in and we show up authentically, it can be worrisome to others who live in a comfort zone where fitting in is the path to acceptance. When we're the first to break the mold of our conditioned belief system, it can come with loneliness, stress, and trauma. She then explained how when we live out of alignment with who we truly are in order to fit in, we actually live divided. And that division also comes at great expense to our mental and physical health.

Starting point is 00:10:10 It all made so much sense. And then it hit me. Like a light bulb so instantly hot it burst. I'm not crazy. I'm just first. I felt this aha moment in my soul, a truth that had just set me free, like the weight of self-judgment had been just lifted off my shoulders for the first time in my life. I'm not wrong. I'm just first. I'm not bad. I'm just first. I'm not broken. I'm just first. I'm not a mistake.

Starting point is 00:10:52 I'm just first. I'm not off course. I'm just first. I'm the first me and you are the first you. And if we bravely live as our authentic essence, we are first. If you live your life authentically, you're automatically first because there is only one of you in the entire universe. So if you're wondering if you actually are first, you are. Or at least you are every day in which you're true to your one-of-a-kind self. Because there's only one of you in the entire universe, just one person in existence with your thoughts, with your life experience, with your DNA, with your fingerprints, with your unique heartbeat. Yep, we fingerprints, with your unique heartbeat.

Starting point is 00:11:45 Yep, we actually each have a unique heartbeat. And even with your individual tongue print. Yep, we each have unique tongue prints too. Then every thought, decision, and action you choose for the rest of your life is coming from someone who is first. When you dare to live fully authentically as the first you, it can easily be confused with feeling odd or misunderstood or awkward or lonely. And definitely not enough.

Starting point is 00:12:21 And when we feel these things, the biggest temptation is to hide and change who we truly are so that we feel like we fit in. In fact, this is most people's strategy their entire lives because they don't realize they're just first. So they think they're inadequate and need to change who they are or show up as another version of themselves to be loved. But being first isn't what's wrong with you. It's what's right with you.

Starting point is 00:12:54 What are the parts of you and your personality that aren't crazy? They're just first because they're uniquely you. It takes courage to be the real you. And it's also the only path you'll ever find to true freedom. It takes risk to be the real you. And it's also the only possibility of experiencing true purpose. It takes vulnerability to be the real you. And it's also the only place you'll experience true love.

Starting point is 00:13:28 Showing up in this world as all of who you are tastes like freedom. The people who dare to be first, who courageously embrace their innate firstness, are the ones who can change the course of their families forever. They're the ones who decide to stop people pleasing and actually say how they feel. They're the ones who learn to stop doubting their own uniqueness and decide to embrace who they truly are. They're the ones who might set different examples for their kids than their families set for them. The ones who might challenge injustices and liberate truth. They're the ones who might say,

Starting point is 00:14:12 I want more for myself, my family, and my world, and then dare to believe it's possible. They're the ones who break addictions and generational cycles. The ones who say, this doesn't make sense in my soul. I'm challenging that belief system. They're the ones who help heal others by first healing themselves. They're the ones who courageously share their ideas and offerings, no matter the criticism that might come. They're the ones who change things in their families for generations to come.

Starting point is 00:14:53 They're the ones who change industries. They're the ones who change the world. When I realized this truth, it helped me change the meaning I attached to how I feel about who I was. It helped me reestablish my own identity from one that was disempowered to one that was emboldened, from one that felt ashamed of who I was to one that felt liberated for all that I am. Be authentic even if it means standing alone. Maybe you're the first in your family or peer group to dream big, to vote or love differently, to dare to take a risk or to break a generational cycle. Maybe you're the first to want a life or belief system that's different from the one

Starting point is 00:15:44 you were raised around. When you're the first, it can also be so tempting to feel like something's wrong with you or like you were made defective. It becomes tempting and for so many people a habit to show up in rooms, in your job, and even in relationships, dimming your light and hiding in plain sight. To live your life as only part of who you are, but not as all of who you are. To live your life as only part of who you are, but not as all of who you are. We crave belonging and fear being alone, but we often don't realize that standing all alone authentically is less lonely than standing with others who have no idea

Starting point is 00:16:34 who we truly are. How many times have you felt like you were desperately overworking to try and feel enough? Showing up as the person you thought others wanted you to be to get their stamp of approval. Showing up as your representative. Thinking that this representative is who you need to become to be successful. This is living in a divided state. Divided from your true self. And that can take a toll not only on your joy, but also your physical and emotional health, as well as your connection with others and your personal and

Starting point is 00:17:13 professional relationships. In one study, 40% of people reported that they censor what they say because they worry that voicing their opinions would create distance between them and the people they care about. But voicing opinions when they're authentic creates connection. Psychologist Serena Chen, who's the chair of the psychology department at UC Berkeley, defines authenticity as when people feel like they can be their true self. The authentic person is comfortable in their own skin. They're vulnerable. They're not afraid to look silly or to admit mistakes. Chen adds that authenticity is correlated with well-being and satisfaction with life.

Starting point is 00:17:59 Plus, when we're authentic, we don't alienate people. On the contrary, it's good for bonding and generating closeness. We need to stop hiding who we are from others and from ourselves. If you're like me and you've spent most of your life only showing up as part of who you are or showing up the way that you know others want you to in a situation, then like me, you'll have a lot of unlearning to do. There are so many lies that make hiding attractive and so many truths that make hiding feel justified. And unfortunately, there are so many ways hiding hurts us in our lives.

Starting point is 00:18:44 There's so much more coming up in this episode. You are not going to want to miss it. But first, I wanted to share this with you. In life, you don't soar to the level of your hopes and dreams. You stay stuck at the level of your self-worth. When you build your self-worth, you change your entire life. And that's exactly why I wrote my new book, Worthy, how to believe you are enough and transform your life for you. If you have some self-doubt to destroy and a destiny to fulfill, Worthy is for you. In Worthy, you'll learn proven tools and simple steps that bring life-changing results, like how to get unstuck from the things holding you back, build unshakable self-love, unlearn the lies that lead

Starting point is 00:19:35 to self-doubt, and embrace the truths that wake up worthiness, overcome limiting beliefs and imposter syndrome, achieve your hopes and dreams by believing you are worthy of them, and so much more. Are you ready to unleash your greatness and step into the person you were born to be? Imagine a life with zero self-doubt and unshakable self-worth. Get your copy of Worthy, plus some amazing thank you bonus gifts for you at worthybook.com or the link in the show notes below. Imagine what you'd do if you fully believed in you. It's time to find out with Worthy. Who you spend time around is so important as energy is contagious and so is self-belief. And I'd love to hang out with you even more, especially if you could use an extra

Starting point is 00:20:35 dose of inspiration, which is exactly why I've created my free weekly newsletter that's also a love letter to you delivered straight to your inbox each and every Tuesday morning from me. If you haven't signed up to make sure that you get it each week, just go to jamiekernlima.com to make sure you're on the list and you'll get your one-on-one with Jamie weekly newsletter and get ready to believe in you. If you're tired of hearing the bad news every single day and need some inspiration, some tips, tools, joy, and love hitting your inbox, I'm your girl. Subscribe at jamiekernlima.com or in the link in the show notes. And now more of this conversation together. While we often learn that the things that make us different from everyone else are the

Starting point is 00:21:30 things we should fix or hide, the lesson I've learned firsthand so many times is that those things that make you authentic and different are actually the things you should embrace and expand the most. I know this feels counter to what most of us have learned. When we courageously take steps toward unlearning the lies and gaining awareness of the truths and assessing the impact of living our lives in ways that are inauthentic, disconnected, numb, people-pleasing, and out of alignment with who we truly are, we begin our journey of going from unseen to seen, from invisible

Starting point is 00:22:14 to visible, from disconnected to connected, from doubting ourselves to trusting ourselves, from craving love to realizing we already are love. My good friend Ed Milet, entrepreneur and bestselling author, shares an incredible business and sales analogy that applies to life even if you aren't in sales. He says, people don't have to believe in what you're actually selling. They just have to believe that you believe in what you're selling. Worthiness works the same way.

Starting point is 00:22:52 Here's what I mean. People don't have to understand you or believe in you to connect with you. They just have to believe you understand and you believe in you. And if you know deep down inside that you're showing up as someone different from who you are, then you will emit an energy that reveals that you don't believe in yourself because you're not being you. And this means you'll not be able to feel a true connection with someone else because you know and they feel that you're not you. In other words, you have to be you and know

Starting point is 00:23:34 you're being the real you to have true human connection. You have to feel worthy of being who you truly are. Otherwise, no matter how fancy or perfect or conformed you show up, you'll always feel disconnected. And so will they. There's also the other extreme that you see all over social media where people reveal extremely shocking or vulnerable things in a way that doesn't feel believable. It's still a form of hiding who you truly are, but behind the confusing persona of someone who overshares and quote reveals it all. Showing up fully and revealing who you truly are with the intention of connection and love is very different from confusing attention with love and trying to

Starting point is 00:24:28 reveal things in hopes of calling for attention. Showing up authentically in hopes of true connection is very different from ploys to get attention in hopes it will lead to a feeling of validation or significance. People also sense your intention behind things. You cannot fake that either. Sometimes you can in the short run, but never in the long run. In relationships, in business, and in life, while authenticity alone doesn't automatically guarantee success. Inauthenticity guarantees failure. When you show up in life as the authentic you, remembering that you're first can be a great tool. It can also be a great definition of rejection. When I was building my first company and countless beauty retailers told me no one would buy makeup from images of real women, here is one way I would reframe every rejection in my mind.

Starting point is 00:25:33 Instead of, this no means I'm never going to make it, I told myself, my idea isn't bad, I'm just first. When after years of hearing no and we'd never make it on QVC or never get a shot, we finally got one big shot to go on air on QVC and those expensive consultants told me to do what most every other successful beauty brand was doing. Instead of taking a chance on my unique vision, I reminded myself that it only felt risky to them because I was first. I eventually did over 1,000 live shows myself on QVC, and in that eight-year journey, I saw that very, very few of the thousands of brands and on-air presenters ever hit the sales numbers needed to make it past one show,

Starting point is 00:26:26 let alone be invited back. When I look at what it was that the very few who made it had in common, it wasn't that they had the best product or the most adored, well-known, or well-funded brand. It wasn't how good a deal or discount they were offering. The only thing that the very few who made it over the years had in common was that they were authentic when they were selling on camera and they were the same on air while selling on live TV as they were off air, behind the scenes, even while no one was watching. This was consistent no matter what personality style they had or even how likable they were. You cannot fake authenticity. And authenticity is truly the only way to form deep, true connections in person or through a screen with friends and in business. Because at IT Cosmetics, we stayed the course.

Starting point is 00:27:28 We were authentic. We were a novel. We were first at what we were doing. It meant we were misunderstood among the beauty industry insiders for many years until we weren't. It meant we were outsiders until we were celebrated. It meant we were considered strange for many years until we were copied over and over. It meant we endured countless rejections until we were all of a sudden courted. It meant we were broke and barely getting by until we were outselling everyone else.

Starting point is 00:28:06 It meant we were underestimated until we became unstoppable. It meant we heard over and over, your idea is never going to work until we heard you're number one in the beauty industry. There's an until waiting for you too. I've never been afraid to march to the beat of my own drum and I'm starting to really like the sound of it. Trent Shelton. Reframe your individuality.

Starting point is 00:28:43 What if the thing you thought was odd or quirky or unique or wrong with you is actually one of the greatest things that's right with you? When you reframe your uniqueness as a great thing, a strength, an adventure, an exclusive qualification, courageousness, a novel gift. You start to reframe your own perception of it and start to associate your own identity with those more empowering words. It's a powerful tool to boost not only your belief in yourself, but also what you hold to be true about your own identity and worth.

Starting point is 00:29:29 When you change the meaning you attach to the part of your uniqueness you previously may have been tempted to hide, you change your life. If you're comfortable with yourself and know yourself, you're going to shine and radiate and other people are going to be drawn to you. Dolly Parton. If you're like me, you've been called words like strange or odd or crazy or fill in the blank. And if you haven't yet, you might experience being called them when you start showing up fully as who you are.

Starting point is 00:30:00 Try replacing these words with words like first or trailblazer or visionary or brave or unique or one of a kind because they actually begin to impact who you believe you are. See, one of the strongest forces in our human nature and in our belief system is the need to remain consistent with our own identity or how we identify ourselves. This means that if you're believing something to be true about who you are, your brain scans and highlights proof around you that reinforces that belief. So when you label your uniqueness with words that are disempowering, you then live out those words and that identity. If you label your uniqueness or firstness with words like crazy, weird, strange, unlovable, outcast, broken, flawed, then you will hide that part of you at all costs. Or worse, will identify with those

Starting point is 00:31:07 words and believe that's who you are. You'll form a negative limiting belief around your uniqueness. But when you reframe your uniqueness as a great thing, a strength, an adventure, an exclusive qualification, a celebration of your courage, a novel gift. You reframe your own perception of it and start to associate your identity with those more empowering words. If you're lucky enough to be different, never change. Taylor Swift. When we live our life hiding from our firstness and uniqueness, believing it's a negative thing, dimming our light, underestimating our own abilities, playing it small, confusing approval for love, or people pleasing our way off our path, we actually risk talking ourselves out of our own truth

Starting point is 00:32:08 and never becoming the person we're born to be. I have two questions for you that only you can answer. Who would you be if you lived your life embracing your firstness and all of who you authentically are? How freeing would it be if you decided to live the answer? Take off your armor, dare to be vulnerable, dare to unwrap yourself, and dare yourself to be yourself. Maria Shriver. You, right now, exactly as you are,

Starting point is 00:32:51 are first. You are the only person in the entire universe who has your fingerprints, your toe prints, your irises in your eyes. Yep, there is no one else like you with these. And those are just a few of the characteristics on the outside. Your unique characteristics on the inside and in your thoughts and emotions are infinite. When you are authentic to who you truly are, you are first. And while it's tempting to hide, play it safe, be small, dim your light, or show up like everyone else in hopes they'll love you, you can't experience deeply connected true love unless you're truly you. Hiding your uniqueness might feel safe, but you won't ever be able to impact and serve the world the way you're created to. There is only one of you and there will only ever be one best you. Be the most fully alive you.

Starting point is 00:34:06 The quirkiest you. The most outspoken you. The silliest you. The bravest you. The boldest you. The fully loving you. The most spectacular you there has ever been. Be the one, truly, only, be the one, true, only, ever you who is first. I wrote a poem called You're Not Crazy, You're Just First from my soul to yours that I would

Starting point is 00:34:44 love to share with you. You're not crazy. You're just first. Who do you think you are? They say things like that aren't for people like us. Why are you going around changing, planning to leave us in the dust? Are you forgetting where you come from? Are we not good enough anymore?

Starting point is 00:35:06 And just like that, the temptation to play life small feels more comfortable than before. If you're doubting you're enough, your thoughts, their words have got you down. It's time for your soul to tell your mind there's a new boss in town. See, there's no one else quite like you in the entire universe. And what your soul knows is you're not crazy. You're just first. The first to have your hopes and dreams. The first you there's ever been. So don't be surprised if they don't get you or try to shame you to fit in. They call you odd, strange, different for having dreams bigger than they can see because those dreams weren't given to them. They see them through fear and anxiety.

Starting point is 00:35:59 And even the well-intentioned people who love you to the bone can see you pursuing your dreams as a reminder of them not fulfilling their own. If people like people who are like them, hiding your true self's a comfort zone, calling unexpressed inside of you leaves you feeling anguished and alone, even inside of your own home. They call you words like crazy and say we stick together for better or for worse, but what your knowing knows is you're not crazy. You're just first. The first to launch the business, to dust your dreams off of the shelf. The first to believe you're worthy of betting on yourself. The first to beat addiction, to live life sober and awake. The first to end that generational cycle that you know you're born to break. The first to start healing. The first to forgive so you'll be free. The first to love others for who they are, not for who you wish they'd be. The first to be a visionary, to dream up the screenplay

Starting point is 00:37:22 that you'll write. The first to recognize your gifts and stop hiding in plain sight. The first man in your family to say, I deal with self-doubt too. The first mom to say, no, I'm not okay and I don't know what to do. The first in generations to love your body and celebrate it joyfully to prove it, to know that it's a miracle in motion and what a gift it is to move it. The first to risk rejection, to speak your truth with vigor, knowing the opposition might be big, but your creator is bigger. The first to cheer yourself on and truly believe it, not just fake it, knowing that most people won't cheer for you until after you make it.

Starting point is 00:38:21 In class, they used to pick you last. And now they're at a loss. Because instead of calling you employee, they now call you boss. The first to stand up for the outcast and say, stop teasing. I just won't. You might be tempted to underestimate me, but let me save you some time. Don't. The first to say, you broke my heart. You gave up on me for something else. And it took me a while to know I'm worthy of believing in myself. And what I know is, yeah, you hurt me, but I'm not rejected. See, God just hid my value from you because you're not

Starting point is 00:39:07 assigned to my destiny. The first to recognize your circle looks a lot more like a cage. The first to say, dad, will you love me for me? And grandma, I was born this way. The first to turn your pain into purpose using the parts that were most rough to help guide others on their journey of feeling less alone and more enough. The first to say, let's agree to disagree. We all have the right to free speech too. Stop trying to cancel and hate on others just because you're hurting too. The first to believe in your dreams even when others might not get you. Then one day love them anyways when they're bragging to people how they met you. The first to unlearn the lie

Starting point is 00:40:01 you're not enough unless you keep striving and achieving. It is a lie that leads to nowhere. And one, it's time to stop believing. The truth is accomplishments are great, but to know you're worthy, you don't need them. And when we know something is true, it feels like joy and tastes like freedom. You are not your successes. You're not how many times you fail or fall. You are how big you love. And love is free for all. See, when we fear we're not enough and we fear even more, we won't be loved.

Starting point is 00:40:52 It is so tempting to shrink in size and trade in our purpose for their hugs. But when you're feeling like you don't fit in or that you never quite belong, your uniqueness is your superpower. Your truth is never wrong. So when they criticize to hold you back because your dreams aren't what they're used to and they're afraid that you'll outgrow them, leave them behind, or that they'll lose you, stop asking for their advice if they've never been there themselves. Because when you people please for others, you end up betraying yourself. And when doubt tempts you to dim your light,

Starting point is 00:41:32 always remember this verse. Your soul knows you were made for more with so much purpose it can burst. You're born with greatness inside you. And whether it's a blessing or a curse, the world won't be better until your greatness is dispersed. See, there's only one of you in the entire universe. And your knowing knows deep down you're not crazy. You're just first. If you loved chapter three of Worthy, I can't wait for you to get your hands on the entire book.

Starting point is 00:42:19 There's over 20 tools in it on how to build unshakable self-worth in your life right now. And if you do pick up a copy of the book or audio book, make sure you go to worthybook.com to get some amazing gifts as a thank you from me to you. And I have one more thing to share with you, but before I do, if you got value out of this episode, my only ask is that you please share it. Share it with another person in your life who could benefit from it. Post it and share it with others online or in your community who just might need the words and tools and lessons in this episode today.

Starting point is 00:42:58 You never know whose life you're meant to change today by sharing this episode. And thank you so much for joining me today. And before I go, I want to share some words that couldn't be more true. You right now, exactly as you are, are enough and fully worthy. You're worthy of your greatest hopes, your wildest dreams, and all the unconditional love in the world. It is an honor to welcome you to each and every episode of the Jamie Kern Lima Show. Here, I hope you'll come as you are. Heal where you need.

Starting point is 00:43:39 Blossom what you choose. Journey toward your calling and stay as long as you'd like because you belong here. You are worthy. You are loved. You are love. I love you. And I cannot wait to join you on the next episode of the Jamie Kern Lima Show. In life, you don't soar to the level of your hopes and dreams. You stay stuck at the level of your self-worth. When you build your self-worth, you change your entire life. And that's exactly why I wrote my new book, Worthy, how to believe you are enough and transform your life for you. If you have some self-doubt to destroy and a destiny to fulfill, Worthy is for you. In Worthy, you'll learn proven tools and simple steps that bring life-changing results,

Starting point is 00:44:35 like how to get unstuck from the things holding you back, build unshakable self-love, unlearn the lies that lead to self-doubt and embrace the truths that wake up worthiness. Overcome limiting beliefs and imposter syndrome. Achieve your hopes and dreams by believing you are worthy of them and so much more. Are you ready to unleash your greatness and step into the person you were born to be? Imagine a life with zero self-doubt and unshakable self-worth. Get your copy of Worthy plus some amazing thank you bonus gifts for you at worthybook.com or the link in the show notes below. Imagine what you'd do if you fully believed in you. It's time to find out with Worthy. Do you struggle with negative self-talk? Living with a constant mental narrative that you're not good enough is exhausting. I know because I spent most of my life in that habit. The words you say to yourself

Starting point is 00:45:47 about yourself are so powerful. And when you learn to take control over your self-talk, it's life-changing. And I wanted to give you a free resource that I created for you if this is something that could benefit your life. It's called Five Ways to Overcome Negative Self-Talk and Build Self-Love. And it's a free how-to guide to overcome that negative self-talk, to build confidence and develop unshakable self-love so that you can dream big and keep going in the pursuit of your goals. Don't let self-sabotaging thoughts hinder your progress any longer. It's time to rewrite the script of your life when filled with self-love, resilience, and unwavering belief.

Starting point is 00:46:34 If you're ready to take charge of your narrative, build unwavering confidence, and empower yourself to persevere on the path to your dreams, you can grab your free guide to stop overthinking and learn to trust yourself at jamiekernlima.com slash resources, or click the link in the show notes below. This show is presented solely for entertainment purposes only. It's not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, psychotherapist, professional coach, or other qualified professional. I hope you enjoyed this episode and conversation together, and I am so grateful to be on this journey with you.

Starting point is 00:47:16 And did you know for every episode of The Jamie Kern Lima Show, there are a set of special prompt questions just for you to help you on your journey of aha moments and revelations in your own life from each episode. Make sure you join my free email newsletter at jamiekernlima.com to get them sent to you each week. And each episode is meant to be evergreen and packed with timeless life lessons. So you can go back and listen to past episodes you perhaps haven't heard yet as we are going on this incredible journey of building self-worth and living our best lives together.

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