The Jordan B. Peterson Podcast - Advice for Dealing with Bullies, Big Tech and Social Media | Answer the Call

Episode Date: August 4, 2025

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knowing when or if to focus on weight? The situation that you're both facing at the moment is not optimal by any stretch of the imagination. My husband and I are parents to two young adult ladies. When we're asked for guidance about dating we feel like the generation gap right now is more like a generation chasm. How can parents raise children to value depth in an age dominated by short-form content? Well there's an insanely difficult question. During Answer the Call, I take questions from people just like you from around the world about their problems, opportunities, challenges, or if they simply need advice.

My daughter Michaela guides the conversations as we hopefully help people navigate their lives. Alright, fire away. Over the next hour we're gonna hit on two topics, bullying and technology, which often go hand in hand. So the first guy we have is John in Arizona. Hey, John. Good afternoon, Dr. Peterson. I'm John.

I'm in Northern Arizona. And thank you for having us today. It's my pleasure. I'm very interested to hear your question. Yes. I'm very interested to hear your question. Yes, my son Anthony is overweight and he's approaching morbid obesity. This all started when we lived in Utah as he gained more and more weight.

His friends used to tease him and ridicule him. It was pretty horrible. He took the rejection very hard. So my question is, how do you repair this kind of damage? He's 21, approaching 22, stays in his room most of the time, lost in video games and that kind of technology. And it's kind of like living with a heroin addict. I get as sick as he does trying to steer him and control him.

And I just feel lost as a parent and I don't know how to heal him. I don't know how to heal me. I don't, I don't know how to heal us. So. Yeah. Okay. Well, the first thing I feel compelled to say is that, and this isn't exactly the psychological issue is that, you know, my family, my daughter in particular, Michaela,

has battled with health problems, very serious health problems her whole life. And one of the things that we've discovered that's very strange and odd, but that has been verified now by thousands of people is that a carnivore diet will strip weight off people so fast that it's absolutely beyond comprehension. And so I would feel remiss in my obligations if I didn't lay that out as a potential practical solution and you know that's a long-term issue. I guess what I would say more on the forgetting about diet on the practical side, although there are obviously

health concerns as well as social concerns that are relevant here, I would say, what is it that you, I would want to find out what you envision for your son and what he envisions. Like we know that the situation that you're both facing at the moment is not optimal by any stretch of the imagination. You guys need a joint plan that you agree on, on what would be better. And I, like people, human beings by their nature are visionary creatures as we lay out a structure that we

wish to make real in the future and we move towards that otherwise we're the puppets of our surrounding or the Victims of forces that are beyond our control vision is the alternative to manipulation and and subjugation Vision is the alternative to slavery and tyranny. Your son is not living a life that is sustainable and productive, no doubt by his own account and certainly by yours as an interested and concerned parent. It would be helpful to help him develop a plan for where he wants to be in five years and for you, for him to help you understand what would be best for him from you.

You know, because I can imagine his attitude is something like, get off my back dad and leave me alone. And you know, fair enough, he's got health problems, he's got social problems, he's isolated, and you can understand that his attitude could well be, don't bug me. However, things are not going in a good direction. And so your conundrum is, well, you have to,

what are you gonna do, ignore it, and let things deteriorate across time? That's not helpful. And so you guys are in a position where you need to develop a plan and it needs to be one that you're both on board with. And that's going to take some very difficult discussion to convince him. I guess I would start with questions, you know, and because I guess I would start with questions, you know, and because questions rather than statements are a much more effective way to suggest and intervene. But they have to be non-manipulative, you know, they have to be genuine questions. So if your son came and saw me, I would say like, first of all, well, how are you reacting to your current circumstances and then you want to listen it's like well this is problematic and this is problematic but

it's like I'm defending myself by hiding and I don't know what else to do about that you need to lay out the territory and then you have to well, if this could be rectified, what would a rectification look like? Do you want friends? Do you want an intimate relationship? How are you going to pursue your future goals? Do you have any future goals? What do you see as the solution to this? How, as a father, you could ask him as well,

how do you want me to conduct myself when I see that you're ensconced in a world of misery in a manner that's going to make the future worse than the present? If I love you, I can't ignore that, but I don't want to torture you to death and add to your misery. So what do you want from me, given your understanding as well that I can't just stand by and watch you go to hell in a handbasket. And so...

Can I open? Yes you can, please do. This one... That sucks. Yeah. So first of all, and I think a lot of chronically ill... I think every chronically ill person, including people suffering with obesity, are blamed for their health problems. That's like number one. Not only are you sick, but it's your fault.

And then they're left in this position where they don't know the solution, and that's not fun at all. So, like what I would say, my husband lost 300 pounds doing the carnivore diet. It's not a joke. It's not a fad diet. It's an actual like ketogenic medical diet. No, and he's a staggering, good looking person now. It's not a joke, it's not a fad diet, it's an actual ketogenic, medical diet.

No, and he's a staggering, good looking person now. It's quite remarkable. And it's not, you don't have to starve yourself. I would probably, if I was them, try to get on board with trying the diet as a family. Like hey, we're on your side, this isn't your fault. American foods are hyper palatable, everybody eats carbs, some people have a harder time stopping,

eating them than other people, and we don't even know why. So first of all, it's too bad you were bullied. And second of all, it's not your fault. But third of all, you can do something about it. And let's just all try it as a family for like a couple of months. He's probably depressed.

He's probably not just, it's not the video games that are the problem. I would say it's the physical ailments and probably depression and brain fog that are drawing him towards video games. Right, that's a very important additional concern because the fact of his obesity is a reflection of an inability to manage a high carbohydrate, high sugar diet. Which a lot of people have. Right, and it's clearly the case that many forms of depression are inflammatory and are brought about by exactly that kind of diet. I like the family approach idea a lot.

You're like, we're on your team, let's try it. I should also say, you know, it took me a long time to eradicate all quick judgment from my observations of people that were obese, because it's very easy to judge. And I've become completely convinced that the best way of thinking about it is that it's a situation-induced illness. Oh, yeah. It's like, it's like we're, we're wired genetically to gorge on high carbohydrate high sugar foods Because in our ancestral environment they were rare and so when you came across honey

You just ate all of it because maybe you're not gonna find any for the next five years They also set up scientists to manufacture foods so they that people can stop eating them, right? So they well, so they're built like that. So no wonder you people can stop eating them. Right. So they would be… Well, so they're built like that. So no wonder you can't stop eating them. And I don't think, you know, you need to go on a diet or you need to change the way you eat.

It puts the blame on the person and it doesn't even give them a plan. Well, and diets don't work because a diet is food restriction. And the evidence is quite clear if you restrict and then stop restricting because you can't maintain that forever, you gain back the weight you lost and more. Oh no, it's terrible. Yeah, it's not good and the advantage to this carnivore diet approach or keto approach is that you can eat as much as you want. You can be satiated.

Yeah, I also can't tell you like I had juvenile rheumatoid arthritis from the age of two, and I didn't have obesity issues. I gained weight when I went away to college because then I started eating pizza and beer and delicious, terrible foods, and it really impacted my mental health, but I cannot explain how much this diet has changed my life. Like, I was on something like eight medications for psychological health and then immune suppressants, antibiotics,

sleeping medications so I could sleep painkillers for the arthritis. Like, I was a complete mess. The other thing that's helpful, too, is like your kid isn't very old, he's 21. That's, I turned around my health when I was 23. I needed to get older and smarter and I actually needed to get old enough to recognize that my health issues were going to kill me. And I don't think I reached that point and it was obvious. I didn't reach that point until I was 23. But I know a lot of younger people who've done the carnivore diet like my husband started a keto diet when he was 17 and that's when he lost 300 pounds

like he did it on the keto diet but the carnivore diet is like it's easier you don't get cravings it's hard to transition on to but once you're on it you don't even want those other foods and I think he'll start dropping weight so fast that he'll be like okay wow yeah let's keep doing this yeah yeah okay next question yeah that was a good one that's a hopeful one yeah sad but it's hopeful yeah what's it called Peterson academy Peterson academy Peterson academy it's called Peterson academy Peterson academy if you want an actual education with hand-selected professors from top universities around the world Bringing the best professors together making sure they're not censored in any way giving them the audience and the remuneration and appreciation

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Up next, we have Victoria in Louisiana. Hello, Victoria. Hi. Thank you so much for taking my call. So this is my question. Our eight year old son is kind, loving and socially observant. He is also very sensitive, especially in regards to his appearance and his performance. He is taller and heavier than his siblings and most peers, and has been called fat by a few friends. How can we as parents encourage a healthy lifestyle knowing when or if

to focus on weight without creating an eating disorder or hyper fixation on his outward appearance? Well, I guess some of the discussion that we already had is relevant with regards to stabilization of diet is that moving your family's eating pattern to a lower carbohydrate load would be useful. And you know, your comment with the last questioner was that this has to be a family affair. I believe that's the case because eating is a communal activity. You don't want to isolate a kid. And just cutting, cutting processed foods can make a big difference if you just focus on a lot of meat, fruit and vegetables, try to get rid of the grains in processed foods can make a big difference if you just focus on a lot of meat fruit and vegetables

Try to get rid of the grains and processed foods. That'll probably help them out and I wouldn't say like again that It's his fault. We're kind of set up in society right now to eat hyper palatable foods and Most people if weight gain doesn't hit them young it hits them eventually Most people, if weight gain doesn't hit them young, it hits them eventually. Nobody escapes it unless they have a low carb diet. Well, we also know that there are radical individual differences in the degree to which people pack on weight. So for example, Pacific Islanders,

island people have gone through periods of food deprivation, their cultures, very radically in their evolutionary history. And so Island people tend to pack on weight like mad. And so the Polynesians, for example, on a North American diet, they just balloon out no time flat. And so there is wide individual variability in the proclivity to put on weight. And it's very important. I really do think it's crucial to stop making it a

issue of lack of willpower or morality. First of all, you can't fight your hunger. Good luck with that. You're going to be hungry. You're going to be hungry. I really do think it's crucial to stop making it an issue of lack of willpower or morality. First of all, you can't fight your hunger. Good luck with that. Your hunger will win. So if you're on a diet and you're not satiated, you're going to cheat or when you stop the diet you'll return to your old eating habits. You have to change the way you eat.

And that's very difficult and it's very radical but it's unbelievably useful and then I would also say he's sensitive about about his appearance more sensitive than normal that's the other issue maybe he's conscientious it's possible that might be a good thing it might be it might be a good thing and it might be a consequence of of some higher levels of negative emotion as well. And so, what would I do with someone who's more sensitive than … he was eight, was that right? Sorry. He's eight.

He's eight, yeah. I guess I would … this is one way of inoculating people against typical bullying responses, is to work out a description of all the bullying tricks and phrases and to have the person develop a defense for them. Something jokey. Yeah, something jokey, but at least to expose yourself to it. Like, if someone calls you fat, for example. At least I have a brain. Right, right.

What should your response be? Your son needs help developing strategies for dealing with the most common bullying situations and phrases. And you'll have to get from him what people say that hurts his feelings, and then you'll have to work with him to develop strategies of verbal response or attitude that help him prevail in the face of that. Now what you don't want him to do is to get down on

himself, to isolate, to be irritable, to cry or lash out, because that'll just amplify the bullying. Like, what bullies do? Like, first of all, we should understand that every child gets bullied on the basis of their peculiarities. And so, if you don't have any obvious aberration in your appearance, well, the bullies will just make one up. obvious aberration in your appearance, well, the bullies will just make one up. They'll give you a nickname that's derisive or they'll come up with something

that's like a rhyme on your name. Like they're gonna find something and what they're looking for is an emotional reaction. In the bully, bully victim literature, you see that there are stable bullies and there are stable bully victims. And the stable bully victim literature, you see that there are stable bullies and there are stable bully victims. And the stable bully victim boys tend to respond emotionally when they're picked on. If they can develop a defensive strategy, say, and humor can be very useful in that regard.

Or just pretending you aren't bothered. Yeah, well, better even than pretending is to practice not being bothered to the point where you're actually not bothered, because what the bully wants is a reaction. And he'll go around poking at people till he finds someone that reacts and then that's the person that gets picked on. So your son needs to be trained in resilience. And, you know, one of the things you might even try with him is to make a list of the insults and the insults that have been used against him

and the insults that he's afraid of and practice delivering them to him so that he can learn to be resilient in their presence. Oof. Yeah. You can do that with His cooperation though. Yeah. What are you going to do if someone calls you fat? What should you do? Do you want to get upset? Like, how does that work for you if you get upset? Does that help?

Well, they hurt my feelings. It's like, well … Pretend they don't is a good place to start. Well, practice acting as if they don't. That's so see, because the pretending you there's an element of deception in there. There can be an element of self deception in that. Though when you like it's hard to, I don't didn't you got bullied, right? You talked all the time.

Everybody gets bullied. Everybody gets bullied. But some people are bullied more than others. Yes, they certainly are. They're usually the ones that show weakness, honestly. They're the ones who respond emotionally. Yeah, and so practicing stoicism in the face of provocation is a useful strategy. And you can help your child learn to do that. Yep.

You, when, this is a funny story. Yeah. Kindergarten, I think, you told us, go find the biggest kid in the class and punch him. And he said this, weren't you in front of other parents? Oh yeah, they were shocked. No, I said, I think, I think you find the biggest, ugliest kid in the classroom and then hit him on the back of the head with a toy. Oh wow, that's way more in depth and specific.

It was a joke, obviously. We didn't do that. No, I know you didn't do that. But in grade two, this girl came out of the bathroom. I remember I was standing against the wall, leaning against the wall, and kicked me. Just random grade two girl. And I turned around and I kicked her back as hard as I could. That was it. That was the interaction. And she was

the bully, right? It was like, kick, kick harder. I was like, oh, okay, not going to kick you anymore. I'll kick somebody else. Right. Well, there is some real utility also in helping your children learn to defend themselves and to discussing very carefully with them the conditions under which they are allowed to or also morally required to defend themselves or sometimes to defend other people. And so you need a philosophy of that. If someone is picking on you, if someone hits you and you're a kid, what's the right response? Well, the people who are Anti-violence, let's say is you should go tell a teacher. It's like do you remember what it's like to be a kid?

Going to tell the teacher that can be social suicide Right because it indicates to the bullies in particular that you can't handle your own affairs that and that you'll rat them out That's not good. Although I do think pretending or actually just being unaffected by it, like I don't care what you say, that'll deter a bully. Yes, yes. They're not interested in bothering someone that's like so. So Dan Olweus, who's a Scandinavian expert on bullying, and he reduced the incidence of bullying in Scandinavia by about 50%, so he's quite, and there's a book,

which you can take a look at, everybody who's listening, called Bullying, What We Know and What We Can Do About It, pretty blunt book, Olweus did the best analysis of bullies, he thought of them as prototypical fascists, which was why he was concerned with them, and I think that that's correct. Alvius' analysis of the bully dynamic is dead on. And one of the things he also helped schools,

parents, and children work through is the conditions under which you are allowed to seek adult authority if you're a child. So his definition of bullying was that bullying was aggression utilized when there was a mismatch in power. So if there's two kids of approximately equal physical size and stature, let's say in development, and they're having an altercation, that's not bullying. Bullying is when there's three 10-year-olds against an 8-year-old, right? There's clear imbalance of power. and then if you observe that as a child

You have the moral right to intervene on behalf of the person who's being bullied with an adult Mostly because you're serving the cause of justice and so obvious was one of these dimwitted like hyper agreeable, social worker type interveners who thinks all violence is wrong. It's like, that's actually not true. Violence in defense of yourself or of your principles or of someone weaker is often admirable.

And your children have to learn how to, they have to learn how to think that through. Now, and you know, your response, for example, when you got kicked, what would we say? In the ideal, there'd be no violence. Like, well, that's not real helpful when your daughter's- I wasn't talking that girl out of kicking me. Right, well, that's-

She just randomly kicked me. Well, of course you weren't. Of course you weren't. And so that stopped it. And you and I, and Julian as well, like I practiced teaching you how to punch so that you could throw a punch. And we discussed the times when that was necessary.

Right? So you remember that? I do indeed. It hurt. I had arthritis. Yeah, right. Everything hurt. Yeah.

Childhood was very sad. Every time I talk about it with my husband, he's like, I was like bowling. Yeah, I used to bowl. My thumb used to get stuck in the bowling ball. It was like, why is everything you say depressing? Like, well, it's funny now. You're actually a remarkably happy child.

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On the line now is Marilyn in Florida. Hello, Marilyn. Hello. Thank you for taking my question. My husband and I are parents to two young adult ladies, 18 and 24 years old. When we're asked for guidance about dating, we feel like the generation gap right now is more like a generation chasm. For example, social media, how the people connect today, different sexual norms. There are

situations that have been brought up that we never encountered when we were in the dating life. We're often hard-pressed to offer really good advice. I was wondering if you would have any thoughts on that. Well, there's an insanely difficult question. Well, this is everything I say is going to get me on trouble in this, on this regard. So yeah, yeah. So the first thing I would say is that alcohol is, is that alcohol is a dating danger that's always underestimated in its magnitude. It isn't unreasonable to point out that there would be zero date rape essentially if alcohol wasn't involved. And so that's a good thing to know when you're and then I would say as well when you're talking to your daughters that their

right and obligation to say no should be exemplified should be encouraged and strengthened. And here's why I believe this to be the case. So women cross-culturally are hypergamous. It's a deep characteristic of femininity among human beings. It's not the case for all of our primate relatives, by the way. Women mate up across and up hierarchies. Cross-culturally, they like men that are about four years older. And so you might ask yourself, what's the female mating strategy, human-female mating strategy? And the human-female mating strategy is to watch men compete with one another and peel from the top.

And it's a brilliant strategy because what women are essentially doing is thinking, well, the best man will win in competitions with other men. And she sits back and watches and picks the guy who emerges victorious. And that's a great strategy. And that's and so men compete for status in large part to attract women. The status that men have among men, the most viable marker of that status is their competence and men will grant other competent men status and then women are fortunate because they can use that as a marker for finding a competent man.

The question is, what confers status among women in the opinions of men? And that's easy. It's their ability to say no. And so no is a superpower for women. Because the typical high status guy, for example, so a desirable guy, who faces no, is either going to depart because he's interested in exploitation, in which case good riddance, or he's going to think, huh, what's up with her? You know, I'm a high status guy and she says no.

Well, that indicates that she's, that's her indication of status. Now I should also point out, here's something to talk to your daughters about that's very concrete. So imagine there are two mating strategies. One is short term, so that's free love, sexual gratification, that's the whole kind of dark hippie ethos from the 1960s. And then there's the more, there's the mating strategy that's more oriented towards long term committed relationships, which you might well define as marriage.

Okay, so now imagine that you do a personality assessment of the men who pursue those variables, those variant strategies. So is the who are the guys that are after short term sexual gratification? Well, we know who they are. They're dark tetrad types. They're Machiavellian, so they use their language to manipulate. They're psychopathic.

They have a tilt towards psychopathy, so they're predatory parasites. They're narcissistic. They're only concerned about themselves. And just to top it all off, they're sadistic. And so when women participate in that easy sexual revolution, let's say, that's short-term pleasure-focused, they throw themselves into the hands of the worst men. And so it's

much better to play a long-term game. Now, if your daughters are having a hard time finding someone who wants to play along, well then I would say they're well advised to Not be unhappy that Men who are irritated because they don't get what they want right now Have left Because that is not a person you want to be around. Yeah, for sure. No, yeah, for sure, for sure. The, all of the, all of the evidence converges on this very solidly. I have like just a loop in technology.

So this is, I went through this kind of thing 10 years ago. So it's still kind of recent. And the dating experience has changed since then, but not a ton. I would say that, you've told me this before and this was very helpful. Figure out what your kids want as a life plan. This is probably more relevant for your 24 year old because your 18 year old is 18.

But does she want to get married? Does she want to have kids young? Does she want to be a stay-at-home mom? Does she want to work at the same time? Figure out those serious questions and make sure they know the answers to those questions. Then they can utilize technology. So what I found helpful is you can download a dating app. So back in my day it was Tinder,

now there's hordes of them, but Tinder was pretty rough back then too. But you can meet people online, generate a rapport to see if you get along, then you can say, I wanna go for a coffee date. So coffee date doesn't have the alcohol problem, you can go for a half an hour coffee date, you can tell right away,

especially if you don't have alcohol to numb yourself if you Dislike or like the person and then you can get up and leave which is totally fine But if you like the person you can pretty much have the conversation about what you want in life Right off the bat and if that scares that person away, then it's good that they're gone anyway, so you might as well Encourage them to go out and meet people you might have they encourage them to go out and meet people. They might have to go on like 20 of these coffee days to meet someone who goes, hey, we want the same things in life. And then you can take it from there. There's a bunch of things about that that are very important.

So talk to your daughters precisely as you said about what they want. Yeah, you taught me that. Make a list of what you want. Precisely that. You do that when you're shopping for a house, you know. Yeah. What do you want? Okay, so now you know, well, now you have a criteria by which to judge potential partners. They either want that or they don't. If they don't, well, maybe they have a better offer, probably not, but maybe they do. And if they don't, it's like, don't be upset that they leave. You're thrilled that they leave because the last thing you want is the wrong person.

Okay, so that's the first thing. Talk to your daughters so they have a plan that gives them a template for acceptance and rejection. Encourage them to reject, right? Not arbitrarily and meanly, and maybe even to look beyond their immediate reaction at things more Fundamental like shared goals right because there are people you meet that you're not necessarily so attracted to immediately But you learn to like them and that's because they're of good character So that shared vision of the future is extremely important. Then the next thing is slow safe situations to mutually get to know each

other and certainly the initial coffee date in the daytime somewhere public. Yes, exactly. And then care with each step forward. Here's another rule of thumb for women, I would say, and I also think it's true for men, but it's more desperately necessary for women. Don't do anything physically with anyone that you wouldn't have a conversation with them about. Right? Because you might say, well, at what rate should we pursue intimacy? Well, if you're pursuing physical intimacy before you can have a conversation about what you're doing, you're probably putting the cart before the horse. So. That's for sure.

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Next, we have a more general question about AI, and we're joined by Robert in California. So let me ask my question. First of all, thank you for having me here. My question is a quick two-parter. The first part, they're both actually about LLMs, like CHAT GPT and stuff like that. I was wondering, first of all, whether you use them yourself, and if so, what you make of the experience.

And if you don't, why you don't? And second of all, I was wondering what you thought the social consequences of their widespread adoption would be. Do you think people are basically going to offload lots of their thinking to these devices or do you think there's going to be some kind of rebellion? Okay, the first, let's answer the first part of that question. I use LLMs all the time. I use ChatGPT, I use Grok, and I have a system that one of my compatriots built with me and for me that's based on the King James Bible

and that also incorporates a bunch of the things that I've written and lectured on that I can use as a conversational partner when I'm trying to figure out what I think. They are insanely helpful. They're like having a research team at your fingertips. You have to torture the WOKR models, ChatGPT and GROK to some degree, into telling the truth by specifying your questions very carefully and laying down rather

impolite restrictions. But you probably have to do that with people when you're trying to get the truth out of them too, rather than some just polite and agreeable response. I think they're stunningly remarkable machines, and they've been ridiculously useful for me while I'm writing. So I use them all the time. When I'm writing, I have like three LLMs open, and I'm just conferring with them all the time.

I ask them for advice on and I'm just conferring with them all the time. I asked them for advice on how I'm formulating paragraphs. They're ridiculously useful. Now having said that, I have this program that I've worked on with my son called Essay and we're trying to use Essay to teach people to write and when you teach them to write you're teaching them to think And when you're learning to write and think, you're learning how to move your way through the world without falling into a pit. And if you offload that all to a LLM,

then you're just a hollow shell and you have no idea who you are, where you're going, or what you want. And that's a huge danger. I mean, I was just talking to my son the other day about his experiences communicating about essay in general and he talked about a situation that one of his friends was involved in

where they were taking a course where they were required to write essays and to give feedback to one another. And everyone who was taking the course used ChatGPT to write the essays and to provide the feedback. And so all you really got from the course was bots communicating with one another. And so people can use the LLMs to evade their responsibility

and to lie and to deceive and to look smarter than they are. And that's just like, that's just rife with catastrophe. So I would also say that the LLMs in my experience have been very useful in precise proportion to how carefully you specify the question and assess the answer. extremely careful and well formulated questions and to hone your your capacity for critical thinking. Look, it depends on your intent, right? If your intent is to rely on technology to look smarter than you are and to gain a bunch of undeserved rewards in the short term, it's going to be a complete bloody catastrophe. If your aim is to sharpen your thinking, to learn, to interrogate, to question properly and to make the sharpest and most well-informed arguments you possibly can, then that's open

to you too. And I don't think that's much different than most technologies. It's like the more powerful the technology, the more you can use it for good and the more you can use it for evil. And one of the things I've noted for and tried to teach people for 20 years is, as our technological prowess increases,

the consequences of our morality or immortality or immorality Expand and That's the curse and the benefit of technology now. There's an additional issue that we should address too, which is the alignment problem, how do we know that the LLMs are We know that the LLMs are operating according to the proper moral principles when they're formulating their answers. We just assume they're not. Well, part of that can be dealt with by extremely careful questioning and critical thought,

but this is also why we've been experimenting with our own large language models because my guess is is that we're going to have to train them on something like the Western canon for them to be aligned properly like the there's not much difference in training in LLM and Educating a young person like if you train the LLM on broad consensus across every possible source of information, you're gonna tilt them towards a present focused view and something that looks quite woke. So, and that's exactly the same with young people.

So what do you do about that? Well, a classic humanities education, a classic education in the deep works of the Western tradition, provides them with a defense against ideological possession. Well, why would it be any different with the LLMs? I want, and I've talked to people who develop LLMs Although we haven't made enough headway on this front yet to train systems on classic works and to make that the core of their ethos and so You know with any luck we'll work that out over the next five or six years That's what we're trying to do with Peterson Academy. Yes, yes. We've talked about this a lot, is people are probably gonna be split into two camps.

There's gonna be the people that know how to utilize LLMs because it reduces your work, depending on what you do, to like 10% or eliminates your job. It's a crazy difference. It is not Google. Google, I thought Google was great, just being able to Google. I was like, the internet,

we all have access to the internet, that's crazy. You can research basically whatever you want. And GROK, I use primarily GROK, just squishes three days of research into like 15 seconds. It's crazy. So if people aren't using it, they need to start using it and learn how to use it because you're gonna be left behind. That's what I think., they need to start using it and learn how to use it because you're going to be left behind.

That's what I think. Yeah. So you need to incorporate that. But there was this funny, I'll send it to you after, but it was this video going around Instagram and it's this guy and he's like on his chair like a monkey going like, eat, eat, eat, like typing things into Grok or an LLM and it's spitting out a really nicely worded email and then he sends that, and then he gets a response and he's like all happy about it and goes like, eat, eat, and types it in. Unfortunately, I feel like there's probably going to be a group of people

that use it to enhance themselves and a group of people that won't learn how to write or communicate that'll just use it, which is, that's the dangerous part. Yeah, well, and your comments about Peterson Academy are relevant with regard to classical education. If you're going to use an LLM intelligently, you better be well-informed and morally grounded properly. But of course that's the case, because the more powerful tools you have at your disposal,

the more your stupidity will magnify itself in consequence of the misuse of those tools. You know, and I've known this for years. One of the reasons I got attracted to Carl Jung's thought was because in the aftermath of World War II and our development of the hydrogen bomb, he pointed out that the true danger that confronted humanity wasn't the bomb itself, it was the ideological foolishness that would lead us to use it and that the development of the psyche, the development of wisdom was as your technological power increases, the requirement for you to be wise increases proportionately.

Well, that's even more the case now. And I think the LLMs have really, they've been another tremendous example of the necessity of that moral grounding. You find that moral grounding in consequence of being properly educated and that is what we're trying to do on Peterson Academy. Last question. Last question. So up last we have a recorded message from Diego in Paraguay. Cool.

Hi, Dr. Cool. Hi, Dr. Peterson. Thank you very much for this opportunity to ask a question that is very important for me. How can parents raise children to value depth, purpose, and delayed gratification in an age dominated by short-form content, endless distraction, and dopamine-chasing media? What practical steps can we take to protect and prepare our children so they aren't psychologically hijacked by the algorithm before they even have a sense of who they are? So the most terrifying element of the algorithm, and you can really see this in the degeneration of YouTube, especially over the last two years, is that the algorithm maximizes for grip of attention. And fair enough, because why wouldn't you want to be given things that you want to attend

to? But the problem comes as the maximization of grip of attention becomes shorter and shorter duration. right? Like pathological addiction is actually the hijacking of attention by short-term considerations. So the shorter term across which your attention span is being manipulated, the more pathological the outcome. And you can see a race to the bottom

in the social media world and TikTok probably really kicked that off. You know our fan of TikTok? You know like that swipe. Right, right, right. 15 second bursts, right. And so, okay, so how do you fight against that? Well, look, you fight against that the same way you fight against immaturity as you socialize your children. What you're actually doing when you socialize children is you expand the time frame over which they calculate reward, right? So they're able to maintain attentional focus for longer and longer spans of time while they're doing effortful things that culminate in a delayed reward.

It's the definition of maturity. So how do you practice that with them? Well, you listen to them. That's helpful. That's why regular dinnertime, mealtimes together are very useful without phones so that people communicate and you can encourage your children to attend for long periods of time by listening to them formulate their thoughts and engaging in conversation with them. You can do the same thing by reading to them. Right? I mean, this is

dependent on the individual child, but there are four-year-old kids who can listen to a story for an hour and who can handle a pretty complex juvenile novel by the time they're four. Interact with your children in a manner that requires sustained attention for longer and longer periods of time. And so board games can do that too, especially more complex board games. So you want to engage as a family in sophisticated enterprises that don't fragment attention down to the smallest possible unit. There's tech now too you can use. So I found this machine, there's some practical things too. So I

have a seven-year-old, she has a phone already because she's split between two houses. Otherwise she wouldn't have a phone. I would say delay the phone for sure. I haven't given my kids screens before the age of three, like including movies and things, just because you can see a two-year-old glued to a screen and you're like that cannot be good for their brain. So like no screens. There's this player, it's called a yodo player, and it's this little machine that little kids can operate by themselves. There's this player, it's called a Yoto player, and it's this little machine that little kids

can operate by themselves, and you get these cards that are either music or stories, and you can stick the card in the machine. A little graphic shows up, but it's not a screen. It's like some lights that move around a tiny bit. It's not hyper-stimulating, and then they can listen to stories and things. So just as a practical tech piece, I really like the Yodo. And then for hyperstimulation

too, we use kind of a Montessori approach. It's just limited toys, don't overrun them with toys, just a couple and you can swap them out every couple of weeks so they get new toys every couple of weeks. But I think avoiding the hyperstimulation when they're really little helps a lot and then delaying, like you just talked to Jonathan Haidt, right? Delaying social media, delaying phones, delaying screens. Yeah and Haidt has talked a lot too about the fact that many states, I think he said 13 states already, maybe it's more than that, have decided to make schools phone-free zones. Good, yeah. Brazil has done that,

and many more states are planning to do it. All the way up to grade 12, just no phones. That's my understanding, no phones in schools. That's good. It seems like the right thing to do. The evidence for its utility is not in yet, but that constant fragmented attention. The fundamental problem is that the AI algorithms are gonna optimize for the grip of short-term attention,

and there's no difference between that and addiction. That's just addiction by a different definition. And so encourage your children to pursue processes, pursue activities that require the investment of attention and do that jointly. So yeah. Yep. Well thank you dad, that was fun. Thank you to everybody who asked questions much appreciated and thanks Mick. Yep, it was great Thank you guys so much for watching or listening today Hit the like and subscribe button so you can be sure to catch all the episodes if you enjoy These answers to these questions

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