The Jordan Harbinger Show - 1275: Incels | Skeptical Sunday

Episode Date: January 25, 2026

Are "incels" dangerous radicals or just lonely guys punching walls online? Nick Pell takes us to the basement to find out here on Skeptical Sunday.Welcome to Skeptical Sunday, a special edition of The Jordan Harbinger Show where Jordan and a guest break down a topic that you may have never thought about, open things up, and debunk common misconceptions. This time around, we’re joined by writer and researcher Nick Pell!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1275On This Week's Skeptical Sunday:The term "incel" was originally coined by a woman in the late 1990s as a gender-neutral, supportive community for lonely people — but it transformed over time into something darker as those who improved their lives left, leaving behind increasingly bitter participants.The "blackpill" philosophy — the belief that genetics predetermines your romantic fate — functions as a psychological trap that offers simple answers to complex pain while simultaneously absolving incels of responsibility to change their circumstances.Despite media portrayals, incel violence is statistically rare — only 12 incidents of "misogynist terrorism" worldwide over 40 years — though the broader phenomenon represents a warning sign about male loneliness and social disconnection at scale.A UK Home Office study revealed surprising demographics: 25% screen positive for autism spectrum traits, 42% are non-white, most identify as politically moderate, and 80% are neither employed nor in education — complicating the simplistic "angry white basement dweller" stereotype.Ex-incels exist and lead normal lives — they escape by building social skills, joining communities, finding purpose, and focusing on self-improvement like fitness, therapy, or hobbies rather than fixating on dating failures — proving that the "blackpill" worldview is a choice, not destiny.Connect with Jordan on Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at [e-mail] and let him know!And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: BetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordanWayfair: Start renovating: wayfair.comQuiltmind: Email [e-mail] to get started or visit quiltmind.com for more infoHomes.com: Find your home: homes.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Today, let me paint a picture. A 25-year-old, compulsive gamer with cystic acne, lives in his mom's basement. He only turns off call of duty to go on 4chan, an internet message board, and talk about how much he hates women and minorities. He's a big fan of Elliot Roger, the guy who decided to kill six and injure 14 out of his hatred and malice for the opposite sex. I'm talking about incels. You might be familiar with the phenomenon, or maybe you just heard the term, and you're

not really sure what it means. Today I want to tackle the heart of the question about themselves, who are they really beyond the media caricatures? Does what we think about them square up with reality? And what does this all say about men, dating, and loneliness in an age where we're more connected than ever, yet somehow all feeling totally alone? Here to help me unpack the lonely truth is writer and researcher Nick Pell. Yeah, you give me all the fun ones. When do I get to do bananas or something, man? You don't, man. You're my go-to guy for exposing the shadowy underbelly of the internet. Sorry, dude. No, it's fine. This is what I get for cultivating a relentlessly dark set of interests and living almost entirely online. Yeah, but also

you're good for stuff like incels or anti-Semitism or the lost looks maxing episode because you help bring some balance to what are decidedly unbalanced subjects. Yeah, I sort of hate one-dimensional takedowns of things that are more complex. I mean, the point here is to satisfy people's curiosity with reality, not caricatures. Fair. So in cells, they're just, what, total losers who can't get laid and have decided to punch the wall at women about the whole thing, right? Well, in general, the answers to these kinds of questions require more than a yes or no answer, which is why we dedicate an hour or more sometimes to unpacking these subjects. There's some history involved here, as per usual. The term in-cell dates back to the late

90s and to disappoint any insults who might be out there listening, the term was coined by a FOID. Okay. I'm probably going to regret asking, but what is a FOID? It's their term for women. Okay. It's a shortening of femoid. I think the general idea is that women are sort of not really human in the same way that men are. They're these automatons or just act out of instinct and have no deeper emotional feeling like men do. Yeah, so men is the romantic gender and women is the remorse Machiavellian sharks. That's a new one. You know, it's not too far off from what German philosopher Schopenhauer had to say, and many incels will sometimes quote his text on women if they're a little more intellectually savvy. And you've read this, I'm guessing. Have I read the most important

German pessimist philosopher of the 19th century, the man who inspired Nietzsche and Michelle Wehlbeck? Yes. In any event, the connection between Incells and Schopenhauer is a lot of It's more of a case of them, like, finding out that he said things that support what they already believe than this movement having any kind of intellectual heft to it. So the term Encel was coined by a woman in the late 90s who we only know as Alana. And it was a gender neutral term. She was using it to describe her experience and, you know, presumably other people's on her blog. It just means involuntary celibate, somebody who wants to have sex but isn't. And now you have Femcells, which is kind of a different community, but not really any less toxic.

So that's female in-cell, right? Yeah, we're just going to focus on the male of the species for the purpose of this episode because Fem-cells a whole other rabbit hole, and it's, you know, who even knew what that was before I mentioned it. Right, right. Okay. So where do they meet? I get the sense that these guys are not getting together and having meetups at the local

Starbucks or the Elks Club or whatever. Forums, mostly. they were banned from Reddit. I see. Look for insult subredits. The only ones I found were banned. Speaking of Reddit, I have a funniest side, man. Sorry to derail you.

So we did the episode on Dick's Eyes recently a couple weeks ago. And I was like, oh, I'm going to post this on the Reddit forums where people complain and go, like, is my penis big enough? Right? Because that's like what we answered in the episode. I posted it on like average dick problems and all, you know, penis question, all these weird subredits that like apparently exist. and have thousands of members, by the way. And all they do is talk about dicks.

And then I posted it on a couple of other subs, like Small Dick Problems was one of them. And I come back from lunch today. And it's like, you have been banned from small dick problems. And then it was like, you have been muted. You have been muted and you cannot reply to this message. And I was like, this is the most small dick energy thing that I've seen. Like, I'm banning your podcast about dick stuff because we don't allow podcast posts in here. And also, I'm muting you so you can't reply.

lie, ha ha, and I'm like, oh, yeah, that's, other forums were like, hey, dude, like mods would message and go, hey, we don't love cross-posting. Can you add a little context? And I was like, oh, that's a very good response. Average dick problems, moderators, small dick problems, just like immediate nuclear option. And you can't even say anything back. Ha-ha. I was just like, ah, the problem might not only be the peepee, guys.

It might be the thing that's attached to it. I just thought that was like the most ironic thing that I got banned and muted from there. and that was the most ridiculous response that I got. And the podcast was completely reasonable if people heard it. It was actually kind of designed to make some of those guys feel better, but yet they just rejected it out of hand. And I was like, I think I see the problem that you guys might be dealing with, a symptom of it anyway.

As we get deeper into this episode, these comments will become strangely relevant. Oh, really? Okay. Okay. Yeah. Keep it coming then. Yeah. I mean, in terms of like, maybe the problem is not the dick.

It's the person it's attached to. Yes. Yeah, they were banned from Reddit. it in cell is kind of like sometimes it's self-applied and there's actually our guys will get mad if somebody claims to be an in-cell but isn't or they don't think he is or don't think he has to be or I don't it's very strange sometimes it's applied ironically you know I'm such an in-cell or you know like when people who aren't autistic call themselves autistic because they are socially awkward and have some niche interest or something like that,

you know, I'm used kind of comically. People have also started throwing it around as a swear word in a manner similar to how fascist gets applied to, like, anything and everything. I get called this whenever I do an episode that might offend a certain group of people. I won't say the group because I don't need more emails saying, ha, in cell. But it's basically if I say something, like I had an episode with this guy,

this psychologist, Orion Taraban, and he talked about like, here's what Red Pill gets right. Here's some dating stuff. Here's some evolutionary psychology. And people were like, you guys are in cells. And I was like, uh, that's funny because we're both talking about like our significant others and the dating stuff and the years of dating we've done and brought this experience. But it was like, no, the fact that you think X makes you an in cell now, even though that

can't actually be true in our situation. Well, there's living breathing proof that you've had sex at least twice. Yes, exactly. And I assume both of them are mine. They do look like me, so I've got that going for me. But yeah, like, dude, I've seen people call Elon Musk an in-sell, and doesn't he have, like, four dozen kids? So, like, not an insal, I guess, you know?

Right, yeah. The In-Sel communities start off as being, like, the supportive groups for these guys, which, you know, if you want to have sex and you're not, it's a bummer. Some of these guys are awkward, and the groups reflect that, but they're more of a support system for dealing with the feelings that come with that feel when no girlfriend or TFW no GF, which is also the name of a movie about in cells that I haven't seen and kind of refused to see. But I've heard it's very good.

You know, and some of these guys, they're looking for a way out. They're looking for support and kind of a roadmap to get out of their insult them. Okay. So what's the way out? Well, there's different strategies. There's looks maxing, which you and I. have talked about on the looks maxing episode that I'm going to keep teasing the audience with. And, you know, looks maxing in short is ways of taking the raw material of the looks that you

currently have and doing everything you can with them. So working out, dressing better, better skin care. There's more extreme versions of it, like pulverizing your jaw with a hammer. Oh, yeah. I forgot about that. He's, by the way, he's not kidding or exaggerating about this, by the way. That, ugh, yeah, just imagine shattering your cheekbone with a hammer so that it grows back more chiseled, no pun intended. Or cutting the fat out of your cheeks in a bathroom or, yeah, anyway.

Yeah. You know, I don't think that this is a toxic impulse in and of itself. I don't think that women typically choose their partners on the basis of who is the best-looking guy in the world. But, you know, if you're obese and you have cystic acne and zero social skills,

working out, clearing up your skin, joining a club, making some friends, these are not going to hurt your chances with women. Even if you're just kind of average looking, you know, it's not a problem as such, but if you're average looking and then you go get some next level gym body and a flattering haircut, that's not going to hurt your chances with meeting attractive women.

But at the end of the day, you're still going to have to talk to her. So if you're not cultivating social skills alongside it, none of this is probably going to help because social skills are, I would argue somewhat more important for men trying to meet women than it is for women trying to meet men, which is about to get me called an in-sell maybe. Yes, exactly. I was going to say that's the kind of thing that gets you called an in-sell around here.

But it's true. And also, I mean, look, haven't we all met the guy who's like, dude, I had a friend also named Jordan in high school. This guy had more Riz than anybody I've ever met in my life. And he always had just stunning women with him. And he would be like, oh, yeah, have you met so-and-so? and I would be like, yeah, I know her. Why?

Oh, I'm going to go for that. And I remember, like, the first few months of knowing him, I would chuckle to myself and be like, good luck, dude. You are not even in the remote, like, league of people who would be allowed to talk to a woman like that. And then, like, two weeks later, he's like, hey, dude, do you want to come and get some dinner with me and Catalina? And I'm like, is it your date? And he's like, oh, she's my girlfriend. She'll be cool if you come along. And I'm like, what is going on?

Right? And, like, he did not have the things you're talking about. He was just, he had crazy Riz. And so, like, you really can do a lot with social skills. And the thing was he just ignored all of his disadvantages. He just straight up was like, these don't exist. They don't matter. That to me was incredible.

That was like a life lesson, just seeing someone like this. Anyway, I'm digressing here. I feel like this type of self-improvement, right, hitting the gym, getting, what is it called, a glow up a little bit, right? That was a big part of the early insult movement, right? I remember back in the day, some of the message boards that became. came in-cell boards like P-U-A hate, pickup artist hate, they were about guys who had tried the things that I used to teach, for example, and like didn't see success or had gotten scammed on a

course. Yeah. Not by us, but like had gotten scammed on a course from like some other person was like, this all is a bunch of lies. Let's clown on these guys because they took our money and didn't give us any results. And I was sympathetic to that because they were, there was a lot of scams. But then it became like, by the way, this whole thing is hopeless and nobody gets results with this stuff.

And I was like, well, that's not true. and it devolved into this craziness. But I guess my question is, how does the in-cell space go from, like, hey, we're trying self-improvement stuff and we're commiserating to, hey, we're trying self-improvement stuff, but a lot of its bull crap and a lot of scams? And then it became like, actually, we're all losers and we should just all kill ourselves and we should be like the most nihilistic, cynical people on the internet. When people say in-cell nowadays, that's what they're talking about, right?

the sort of like dark underbelly of the internet. They're not talking about dorks like me who are like, hey, I bet if we learned how to like talk to women, we could actually do it and it would work. You know, they're talking about like this dark underbelly of guy who's given up even on that. Yeah, no, they're not talking about just like sad, lonely man who's not getting late. Right. That's not what this term means anymore. Part of it is just ossification. The guys who are awkwardly mobile just don't have much incentive to hang around anymore.

I mean, some of them are maybe doing a mitzvah by, you know, giving a hand up to the guys. Yeah, here's what worked for me. I did a lot of that, and that was how I started my business, right? Because I was like, I'm learning stuff that's working. Let me start a podcast that talks about this stuff. And you're right, though, a lot of clients that I had in my old business, the guys who really got it, you would eventually lose touch with them because they didn't become repeat

customers a lot of the time. They didn't hang around in our forum anymore. Because, you know, and I still get emails from people that are like, Jordan Harbinger, no way. I listened to your podcast in 2008, and then I met my girlfriend who became my wife, and I totally lost track of you. And I remember being like, that's kind of the best thing that can happen, right? Like, I would love it if you listen to my show now, but I don't want somebody who's still asking me for dating techniques 15 years in. That's unfortunate and very weird. Right. Yeah, you solve the problem and you leave. And I think that's one of the things

that was like, I mean, I took Jordan's course because I worked for that company. that shall not be named. And I actually was like really impressed by how it was like mostly for guys who were like, you know, what I'd really like is to like get a girlfriend. You know, it wasn't like, oh, I just want to like bang a bunch of girls. It was like I'd like a girlfriend, you know. But yeah, you solve the problem and you leave for the most part. Yeah. You don't want to be hanging around these guys much after. There's talk of the movement, you know, migrating to 4chan and that being the place where all this toxicity comes in. You mentioned it in the intro,

but I just don't think it's accurate. I'm not really sure where they're supposedly migrating from because they have plenty of their own forums. So for those who are unaware, 4chan is, Nick, correct me if I'm wrong, it is the absolute sewer cesspool of the internet. There's everything from casual misogyny to deep fake porn and other content that is actually insane

that you don't or cannot find on other places on the internet. And I mean, think of the craziest subreddit that you can find of like people sticking weird dolls up their butts or something. And 4chan has like 10,000 times more of that and every flavor, pardon me using that word, of that you could possibly think of and many things that you would never think of. And it's just like a race to the bottom. Like it is scraping the bottom of the barrel in so many ways. And it's mostly images. Is that correct or is that wrong? This is a function of which boards you go to on 4chan.

4chan is an anonymous image posting board with a bunch of subboards kind of like Reddit. But I think it's, I always kind of explain it as like it's the opposite of Reddit. Like it's on Reddit everyone's pretending to be smarter than they actually are. Right. And 4chan is full of smart guys pretending to be morons because they think it's funny to act like an idiot on the internet. And people talk about 4chan as if it's like the gathering point for all the mouth breathers on the internet. It's like you've either not been there or you're not getting the joke. That's true. I've gone in there several times for research and I'm like, wow, this person took a bunch of data

and made an infographic about like some obscure topic and posted it. And then a bunch of other people are making memes based off that infographic. So at the very least these people knew how to like crunch data, turn it into a visual, make the visual funny using graphic art programs and then clown on that particular guys actually really good work with like a high quality air quotes meme that all these people get and it's very much like you have to be a thinker to get a lot of this stuff it's not all just like here's my butthole l-ol right it's not like that that's the rest of the internet yeah yeah i'm a four-chan defender and uh i've been on four chance it's like 2006 2007 i mean i'm i'm on four chan like forever yeah there's a term for that but i'm i probably

shouldn't use it on your show. Maybe not. I'm curious what it is, though. With the four chanters out there, they know, they know. Anyway, back to the in-cell philosophy. There's an overlap between Enceldom and Manosphere ideas, which like a lot of things on the internet, began as this sort of grab bag that did include some toxic misogyny, but also was much more heavily dominated by like, bona fide, male oriented self-help. And then the toxic elements kind of drove out the more nuanced aspects. And now it's just garbage. But 15 years ago, it was like, yeah, there was garbage and there was stuff that was

really good and there was stuff that was mediocre. And there was stuff about, you know, this or that or the other. It was a total grab bag. And now it's just women are bad and men are awesome. And if you're poor, you're a loser. But, you know, it didn't used to be like that. And the trajectory, I think, is very similar in that the toxicity chases out the more positive, noble, life-affirming elements of it, leaving behind just the toxicity.

This is such a metaphor for one of the reasons I stopped teaching the dating stuff, because we would be like, you said, the guys who would come in would be like, I just want a girlfriend, I want to get married and have kids. And like a lot of the other companies that were out there teaching it, especially some of the red pill stuff was like, you's bitches, bro, they're all terrible. and blah, blah, blah. And I was like, I got so sick of being like the drop of water and a barrel of oil, right, and being like, no, we're the white hat drug dealers, you know? It just didn't work. And then also, you're right, like the toxic stuff, you'd be like, hey, you know, if you just worked really hard

on yourself, you would deserve what you want. And then the guys would go, huh, that sounds hard. What I'm going to do instead is complain about how the guys who have good genetics are always going to be a winner and then clown on you for giving me any advice to the contrary where I could maybe take some agency here. And I was like, why am I basically begging this moron, this loser mentality guy to like get his shit together? It doesn't matter to me if you live in your mom's basement forever. I'm trying to help you. And they'd be like, uh, LOL dork trying to help me. And you're just like, all right, bye. Right? The toxicity just chased out anybody who had more than two brain cells to rub together because it was an awful place to be. No, that's true. That's absolutely true.

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of hatred against women. Yeah, I think the Elliott Roger attack is as good a place as any to mark as the point of that. Yeah. So for those who are again mercifully unaware, Elliot Roger was an insel who went on a rampage killing in California in 2014, essentially because he was angry at women. And he made really cringy, awkward videos about all of this. Yeah, ins cells call him the Supreme gentleman, St. Eliot and ER to give you kind of a sense of who's kicking around in these days. The thing is, he's actually a pretty good avatar for what we're talking about because he's not a bad looking guy. He came from money. The only thing keeping him from absolutely crushing you with women is that he had a total lack of social skills. I mean, you wouldn't really go

so far as to like call him handsome, but looks are not his problem. Right. Looks are not the thing holding him back. He's fine looking. He was diagnosed with autism. He was also on Prozac and Xanax. Anyway, Elliot Roger, he had a lot of social isolation. And while he did make some half-assed efforts to do something about that, they were very

half-assed. Like he thought that screenwriting and inventing were shortcuts to riches. and then he gave up when he realized there was actual work involved. Okay. His parents were very supportive. They paid for his apartment and his college education,

but he immediately flies into a rage when his black roommate tells him that he lost his virginity at 13. Is his roommate being black? Is that relevant? Like, why would this bother him? Also, this guy's all over the place, screenwriting, inventing.

He's clearly not passionate about any of this stuff. He just wants to, what, find out how to get rich because he thinks that's the primary lever of attraction with women? Am I jumping all over the place? No, no, that's reasonably accurate. He also has this whole line of resentment about how black men get all the attention from pretty blonde girls on campus. A lot of where this goes from here is just gross resentment towards anyone who's happier

with their life than he is. He starts hating everyone in Santa Barbara where he was going to college, especially couples. He followed a couple out. outside of Starbucks after he saw them kissing and threw his coffee on them. Scary. Yeah, that's assault. Yeah. He sees himself as a man of culture surrounded by Philistines.

He hates all couples. He decides that getting rich is the only way that he's ever going to get a girlfriend. So he starts buying mega millions tickets and then breaks his computer when he doesn't win. Oh, gosh. There's other incidents like the Starbucks one. He shoots a bunch of teenagers with a super soaker filled with orange juice while they were playing kickball. He's a jerk. This is not a good guy. No, no, he's not. This is absolutely not a case of, oh, man, I feel bad for him and I wish it hadn't come to that. Like, this guy was a time bomb

waiting to go off. There was no way this was getting fixed. His parents hired life coaches for him and counselors, all kinds of stuff. You know, he had all kinds of family support. This is 100% not an example of someone who did not have any opportunity to lead a normal life. He had everything going for. him. Everyone was trying to help him out before he decided he was going to kill people. Was he part of the in cell community in any meaningful way? I mean, it's one thing to be a crazy guy with the manifesto. I'm assuming he had one of those because rampage killers usually do, especially narcissistic ones. Yeah, he did. He wanted to put women in concentration camps for artificial insemination and to create a world where most men did not even know about the existence of women.

That's so disturbing, to say the least, and so weird. So weird. Like, this thing triggers me because I can't have a girlfriend, thus, let's put them in concentration camps and dot, dot, dot, dot, handmaid's tale, the whole thing. It's like, and you think about that as a normal guy, and you're like, nah, part of, like, the highlight of my day is hanging out with my beautiful daughter and my wife and, like, seeing young couples having a good time and, like, looking at attractive women and being like, wow, life is great. Isn't it amazing over? Like, and he's the complete opposite of that. It's scary that there's people like that out there, honestly. Yeah, it's also kind of comical. I mean, it's like, this is something out of a William Burroughs novel.

On the one hand, yeah, it's super twisted, but on the other hand, it's sort of like darkly hilarious that he put this in a manifesto as if this had, like, this is not going to happen. Right. You know, this is never going to happen. Right, right. And he's sitting there, you know, like he's Ted Kaczynski, the Unabomber, right, there's your Unabomber reference for the episode, writing this brilliant, well-crafted, deeply thought-out manifesto. That's what he thinks he's doing here. And it's like, it is disturbing on one level, but on another level, it's like, this is funny in a way, because it's so bizarre.

It sounds made up. Yeah. It's like, if you were writing this guy as a character in a movie, I'd be like, eh, it's a little on the nose. Right. It wouldn't sound believable. If this was an episode of Law & Order, you would be like, man, they went a little overboard this week.

But then it's Law & Order and you're like, eh, typical Law & Order episode. Anyway, who writes these things? But he was connected to the in-cell community, right? He wasn't just some lone nut who couldn't get laid and finally snapped because of a host of psychological problems, totally unrelated to his lack of success with women. Yeah, he posted a lot on PUA hate, which you mentioned and Forever Alone. Both of those are in-cell forums. Great branding on Forever Alone. Surprise that domain was available, although then again, who wants to name their company that, so there's that.

He bizarrely reached out for support at the bodybuilding.com forum, which... Oh, God. Why? I really don't know what he was thinking there because that place has all the compassion and support of a high school football team's locker room. Guys, I need help with women. Like, of course you do, you freaking loser. I mean, I would just be terrified to post anything there, and I'm 45.

Like, the one big success story they had was I wrote about this ages ago, but it was this dude whose handle on there was wet breasts. And he was like, he was like my 600 pound life bariatric bed, obese. and they like bullied him into losing 400 plus pounds and he was able to go lead a normal life and then I think he scammed a bunch of people out of money went to jail. Oh, okay. But he did lose a ton of weight

because the bodybuilding.com forum guys were like, you know, mocked him until he lost weight. So that's their benevolent contribution to the world, I suppose. But yeah, so he does all this and then he goes and he kills six people. Elliot Roger, yeah. Yeah, now web press. Elliot Roger killed six people. two of them were his roommates, two of them were members of a sorority that he targeted in his plans,

and one of them was a friend of his roommate, and one of them was some random dude at a deli. And the irony here is that he killed more men than women, especially if you include himself, you know, he shot himself when he was done, as they often do. Yeah, of course, the peak level of cowardice always called, sort of capped with that part in the pun. So this is an extreme case, but it's also the most famous. Are there other similar examples of, I guess, in-cell violence on this scale? There's a specific category of terrorism called not so surprisingly, misogynist terrorism. And there are 12 of these since 1984.

I hate using Wikipedia as a source, but they have a page on misogynist terrorism, and there's 12 incidents listed on it. That's all of the ones that the editors knew about. It's not just the ones with articles. So I'm kind of like, okay, with using 12 as the number because I couldn't find another comprehensive list of it, but if people have it, you know, I'm always willing to be corrected. 12 is, of course, 12 too many.

But when someone starts talking about in-cell terrorism, keep in mind that we're talking about 12 incidents in the entire world over a span of 40 years. I don't think we need to get into the nasty weeds of each and every incidents. But yes, I live east of massacre. no one really is self-identifying as an in-cell after this unless they have some deeply messed up feelings about women in general. Like it's not a thing that like, oh, I'm a sad, lonely man, I'm an insal. You don't see that after Elliot Roger. It's all just like, you know, put women in concentration camps because I can't get a date.

Right. It's like the most psycho level of stuff. Okay. So what are some of the messed up attitudes that you mentioned messed up attitudes that you, you mentioned messed up attitudes. these guys have or messed up feelings. Tell me more about that. And man, I do feel like you're right, though. It also goes beyond just negative attitudes about women because there's some pretty toxic stuff in there about men while we're on the subject. But can you unpack that a little? Yeah, I think it's fair to say this is a more all-encompassing toxic belief system that extends

beyond just women at its core in cell, in-cell, involuntary celibate. You know, this just means that you're not having sex, but you wish that you were. And like, there's lots of terms that mean more than their literal dictionary definition and incel is one of them you know there's the dictionary definition of it it's like well but really it kind of means these sketchy guys who hate women the deeper theory and ideology here is that dating is monopolized by chads like you know you i say chad you think some tall buff blonde guy and stacy's and she's his you know beautiful perfect girlfriend and these are the beautiful people and they don't date down in terms of looks so you're just out of luck got it anyone again who's ever known a really funny fat dude with a smoke show for a

girlfriend just knows that this is not true going back to my buddy jordan from high school like he just didn't need to be tall or attractive physically really at all yeah we all know that guy he's an outlier but the point remains like i think men are much more likely to choose a partner based on looks And women are more into what you would call status or aura or Riz. Like they have something going for them beyond just being attractive. It could be money, whatever. Like there's tons of starving artists out there with super hot wives and girlfriends. And it's not because women are gold diggers and they only go for guys with money.

It's like if these guys are talented artists, that counts. You know, that's it. Like I'm in love with them because he makes this wonderful art or he like, you know, drives a cool car. Like, you know what I mean? Like, hopefully not that shallow, but yeah. Right. But my point is, you know, you get my point that like your friend isn't, she's not just like, oh, he has a wonderful personality.

It's like, no, he, he's like an over the top larger than life. Yeah. Insanely charismatic. Everyone liked him. Everybody. Right. Everybody likes him, you know? And it's like, and yeah, for some guys, it's that they have that kind of personality.

For other guys, they're in the band. For other guys, it's this or it's, or it's that. Being a good looking man is generally. not enough to get a hot girlfriend. You usually have to have like, and I don't think it really is ever enough because I don't think it's the thing that really attracts women.

Like, they might go, yeah, he's a good looking guy, but like, so what? The world's filled with them. What else does he have kind of going on under the hood? Chad's and Stacey's, this is going to be another one of those weird online subcultures with a lot of inside terminology.

Are there key terms that they use that might be helpful for us to understand them? Well, I told you about Foyds. Yeah. Black pill isn't exclusive. to the in-cell community, but it basically means a nihilistic worldview in the case of in-cells, that nihilistic worldview would be that genetics just determine everything. And if you're not, you know, a Chad by nature, you're doomed to a life of loneliness or you need to spend all your time and

energy trying to attain it by smashing your jaw with a hammer and cutting the fat out of your cheeks with an Xacto knife or whatever. I got to wonder how much of their attitude is a self-fulfilling prophecy for these guys, right? Like, if you believe that, are you really going to try to beat that? No, right? You're not going to try and, like, learn Riz and be social and, like, lose a bit of weight because you're just going to go, well, I'm not tall enough and I'm not, I'm not a shed, so why bother? Yeah, and you're totally right. Of course. In the in-cell community, it sometimes is a badge of pride to be blackpilled. Like, you're accepting the reality of despair rather than pying for this supposedly unrealistic dream of.

you know, getting your girlfriend one day. I think that this gets at the very core of why people get into this subculture. It provides a very simple answer to their very complex pain. Yeah, right. And at the same time, it also says that they don't really have to do anything about the situation because it's outside their ability to change. Well, there's looks maxing. Right.

Okay. The going to extreme measures to improve your looks. But kind of the only solution that they offer for the most part because they do bake into the, Even the ones were like, oh, yeah, I'm going to chase after it. You know, it's baked into their analysis that, like, the only way that you can get a girlfriend is to get super ripped and get, you know, change your appearance, basically. And, P.S. change your appearance to meet this very, very narrow definition of what all women find attractive. And it's like, you know, I can tell you that much like men, women are all different. people and some of them find some things attractive and some of them don't find things attractive.

There's no like one guy who's attractive to every woman on planet Earth. There's girls who are into chubby guys. Those guys who think short guys are hot. You know, the girls who are into bald guys. There's all over the place what women are into. There's not like you're not just going to look like you're a men's fitness cover model. And that's the only way that you're ever going to meet a girl who finds you attractive. It's just, this is not how works. I get what you're saying, but you're not really doing a lot to dissuade me from the idea that these guys are all violent losers in their parents' basement online and bitter about the fact that they can't get late. Most of them are just mad on the internet. I mean, the violence is really the exception. Okay. I also don't think it's

fair to say that they're only mad about sex. I think when you get down to it, they feel excluded. And there's possibly, quite probably in many other cases, a very good reason why they're being excluded, they're probably weird and awkward and unlikable. Yeah, it's harsh, but yeah, I get it. I've gone through intense periods of loneliness in my life and never once did I feel the need to start an account on in-cell forums like PUA hate and talk about putting women in concentration camps. Yeah, same.

That's fair. That is fair. But again, this is a fixable problem. Stop being such a weirdo. Take an interest in other people. Join a club. learn a new skill, get offline, and meet people in the real world, focus less on getting chicks, and more on just being an interesting, engaged, and likable person.

None of this happens overnight, but I suspect that, like, Elliot Roger, a lot of these guys get enraged when they're not lining up dates with strippers and porn stars after their first Brazilian jiu-jitsu class. some of them may be socially engaged. They're just bad with women. Like, you know, you ran an entire business for guys who were, who had a social life, but they just weren't very good at talking to women. Yeah, yeah, exactly.

It wasn't these specific guys. It was more, my clients were very much more normal, right? Yeah, no, your guys were different because they accepted responsibility for the situation. And they decided to do something about it that, that, you know, to some degree, required a hard look at themselves and their own shortcomings and a willingness to to do something about them. And it wasn't just, oh, I'm going to go to the gym and get 20-inch arms and women are going to be fainting in my presence.

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All the deals, discount codes, and ways to support the podcast are searchable and clickable over at Jordan Harbinger.com. slash deals. Now for the rest of Skeptical Sunday. Is there a connection between mental health and the in-cell phenomena? Because with our Elliott Roger example, there's clearly something wrong with this guy that just, he could have gotten a girlfriend by some miracle a day later, and it just, he's not going to get fixed, right? This is not going to fix the problem. How common is that phenomenon? That it's not

just a problem with women per se, or like the guys are just unattractive and they don't It seems like it's an overall mental health problem where there's like a set of mental health problems in the in-cell community. I think you're right, but the issue is that it's hard to kind of quantify the overlap here. I mean, you can say on the one hand that guys who take to in-cell forums to deal with this problem have mental health issues. I think you're probably right. But not everyone who has the in-cell problem does that. And not everyone with mental health issues is an in-cell. I mean, Elliot Rogers had some kind of autism. spectrum disorder. And there are tons of people, millions of people on the autism spectrum, who are, as we speak, leading very fulfilling and engaged lives. They have friends, they have girlfriends, wives, they're good parents, they're active in their communities. So I don't know, like, it's so difficult to quantify that overlap. And we have no idea who these guys are on these forums because they're anonymous or pseudonymous. Yeah. Is there any kind of data on who is

using in-cell forums, like anything at all? We have one study of any significance, and it was conducted by the British Home Office. It provides a very broad demographic view of these guys and who they are, but not much else. Everything that you're about to hear, anytime I'm quoting a number, statistic, it's from this one study in the British Home Office. The average age is 26, about half of them live with their folks, but 26% live alone. These are very high statistics for their age cohort to be either living alone or with their parents. And a whopping 25% of them screened positive for autism spectrum disorder traits. That does not mean that they have an autism spectrum disorder. It means that they had traits of autism spectrum disorders. What's the

racial dynamic like, because I know in most people's minds, this is a bunch of white dudes, right? The racial demographics of the UK are much different than they are in the United States, but the home office study found that only 58% were white and 42% were non-white. I have to admit I'm surprised by this, but this is in the UK, right? So maybe it's just a lot different here, and that's skewing my perspective. Or I'm wrong. That is possible. Off the top of my head, I believe the UK is significantly whiter. in the United States. Yes.

That would be even... More mixed here. Right. We don't have the data on, you know, the side of the pond, as they say, there is this weird racial dimension to the in-cell thing where everyone is convinced that they're in the race that's not getting any girls. Black, white, Asian, Hispanic, Indian, whatever. Everyone is convinced that their race is a curse.

Like, that's the thing that's preventing them from getting a girlfriend. Is there any political dimension to it? I know that the manosphere is pretty right-coded these days. And it seems like there's an extreme or extremist masculine supremacist dimension to all this. Well, there might be, but this study from the UK shows us, actually most of these guys identify as moderately left. So the Labor Party mainstream, basically, the political culture of the UK is somewhat different from the United States. But to put it in terms, you know, listeners in the United States, who I'm assuming most of the listeners can understand, they're just like they're moderate Democrats according to how they self-reported. You know, self-reporting is always limited because it's based on self-perception, which is not always accurate.

But that's how they reported in this British study. Yeah. You always have to be careful with it. Again, our Dick episode, we were like, oh, this study says, oh, it's all self-reported. Well, throw this thing in the trash. Yeah. Like, no man would ever lie about the size of his penis, would they? No, okay. I mean, why would you even do a study like that? Anyway, go on.

Yeah, but I mean, the only way you would really do it is by like, I mean, it would be a whole other study where you'd ask them like a hundred questions about what they think about this or that. Politics, maybe you could suss it out. I think for what the, the whole dick thing was a little more straightforward. And no pun intended. Again, no pun intended. I didn't see a breakdown of how many identified as moderately left in the study. It was either many or most. It was really vague. many could mean 16 out of a thousand. I think I saw it represented both ways. There was one thing I read about it said many and one said most, so who knows?

I think the takeaway here is that this is much more complicated and also I think that to a certain extent these guys are siloing off the in-cell thing from the rest of their lives. I'm guessing that most of these guys are going to be broke as a joke, but you're about to tell me

that they're all rich tech entrepreneurs or something. All my stereotypes that I thought I had nailed were way off on this. The British Home Office study doesn't provide any information about their income, but we do know that 80% of them are not employed or in education full-time. Okay. So they may not be needs, but they're not full-time employed or full-time in education. Got it. Only 4% of them are in full-time employment.

But this is another chicken egg thing. Are they awkward creeps because they're not working full-time, or are they not working full-time because they're awkward creeps? That is pretty bleak, man. And I know you mentioned Neats. I know we have this segment of the population in the U.S. as well. To be clear, it's called Neat, N-E-E-E-T, not in education, employment, or training, aka not really going anywhere, probably living in their parents' basement kind of thing. Like, they're just not moving forward, nothing, and they're not doing anything. And it's disturbing because it's actually not a small number of people.

They're going nowhere. They're aimless. And a bunch of aimless men in their 20s, 30s and 40s, that is potentially a very dangerous segment of society. I think the term Nick would use is powder keg. Am I wrong? No, it is. It's absolutely powder keg.

Like, yeah, the military fighting age men who don't feel like they have any stake in society have no hope for the future and nothing to live for. you do not want a bunch of these guys in your society. Right. It is not safe socially to have too many of these guys sitting around because they get attracted to extremism and, you know, like the extreme of the extreme do dangerous things. It's dangerous. I suspect that there's this kind of feedback loop with a lot of these guys who are neat or neat

adjacent. They have trouble finding a job because they're a little awkward, but they get more and more awkward, the longer that they don't have a job because they're not out being around people, having to be normal. You won't be surprised to hear that 86% of the men in the British study reported having been bullied, but hey, I've been bullied and I'm not an in-sell. Okay, Nick Sexhaver Pell over here. Yeah, put that on my tombstone, buddy. This is probably the most depressing stat, but one in five, that's 20% reported having daily. suicidal ideation over the last two weeks.

That seriously sucks. And you're making me feel bad for in cells, which I kind of didn't really want to do on the episode. But yeah, that's really dark. Yeah, it's sad. I think there's a happy medium you can come to and say that this is tragic, but their biggest problem is that they can't get out of their own way. Like I said earlier, you know, assume they have an autism spectrum disorder. So do millions of other people. who aren't just leading functional lives,

they're leading vibrant, exciting, fulfilling lives. Having an autism spectrum disorder or major depressive disorder or some other non-trivial problem is not an excuse to give up and become a loser who spends all day on PUA hate talking about how much he hates foids.

If you want help, you know an insal or somebody you think is trending in that direction, give them a little tough love, get them to log off, and maybe bully them to find some other less antisocial use of their time. Why do you think these guys seek help on internet forums rather than through more traditionally and potentially more helpful resources? Because it seems like if you're circling this drain, go get a therapist for God's sake. I think that there are some people who are so socially maladjusted that they don't know what's the proper way to seek help and what isn't. And beyond that, you can recite the usual litany of reasons people don't seek

professional help for mental health issues. They don't have the resources. They're afraid of the stigma against seeking help. They reject the concept of therapy in general. What kind of hope is there for these people once they get, you know, I don't want to say trapped in these communities, because obviously they're the ones who are doing it and they have agency. But I think that once you cross that line, it's a bit like quicksand where you just, you get sucked in. Is that a fair assessment of the situation? Yeah, I think that's more or less fair. In general, I'm sort of curious about how much of the in-cell phenomenon is just guys punching the wall online. I mentioned, are they siloing this off from the rest of their lives? I think in a lot of cases, they probably are. They

go online, they punch the wall, they rage, and then they go back to being normal as soon as they close their laptop. I really think a non-trivial portion of these guys go log on, rage, log off, and then touch grass and kind of act semi-normal for the rest of their time on Earth. And hey, you know, what people are just sort of barely waking up to is that the entire internet is one big echo chamber. The algorithm is curated to show you what you think you want at any given moment. and it turns out that a lot of what you want to see is rage bait. Do you know what Twitter shows me more than anything? What does X formerly known as Twitter show you more than anything?

Anti-Semitic leftists. Sure. Protestants who really, really hate Catholics. Okay. And people who are still following COVID protocols, like they're the last imperial Japanese soldier in the jungles of the Philippines fighting for the glory of the emperor in 1965. five. Like, that's what Twitter wants to show me because it knows that that's what pisses me off.

The algorithm shows you what you engage with. And what you engage with is probably going to be something that makes you mad. I built an entire career around this at one point in my life. So this is not really news to me, but some people still need to be told or at least reminded. Yeah, but how did that work out for you? Well, about as well as crying on an insult forum is working out for these guys. Right. Okay. Fine. The other thing is that there's a sense of being in an in-group and having a shared jargon. Probably the closest thing to the in-cell phenomenon is the QAnon movement. The black-pilling aspect, there's the whole us versus them, the weird inside code.

Mostly, I think, the common denominator is that you have no agency and everything is just faded to happen a certain way. And it explains everything. You know, it just explains everything for you. These kind of internet cults around conspiracy theories are surprisingly common online. So what makes this relevant to the rest of us? If it's a niche internet cult, will any of us normies ever even come into contact with these folks or their beliefs outside of 4chan? Maybe, maybe not.

I mean, I think it's kind of the bleeding radical edge of what people have called the male loneliness epidemic. I know some people, including your listeners, will dispute that such a thing exists. But I do know that a lot of guys, at least subjectively, feel lonely. And guess what? If you feel lonely, you're lonely. That's what loneliness is. Yeah, it's a feeling. It's a feeling.

I think the risk of violence is small, but the violence is, I think, disproportionate in scale to their numbers. As I mentioned earlier, you know, having multiple generations of fighting age men who feel that they have no stake in society and nothing to lose is an absolute power. Outer keg. People have literally no idea how dangerous this phenomenon can be. Yeah. Because they're used to living in these safe, secure, affluent, liberal, democratic, Western societies that they very much take for granted. And you should not because there are multiple examples of stable societies of broad middle classes and nice places to live to kind of boil it down. They were like that one week and the next week they were hell on earth. And there is nothing special about where you live that prevents it from being that. With regard to the in-cell phenomenon, tying it back to this, the more hopeless men you have, the more in-cells you're going to have.

And the radical edge of this, these are the guys who are going to start acting like Hezbollah in Beirut. Not the guys who just mope back and forth to and from work every day. You know, like, oh, radicalization, and it's like 35 people. 35 people could break a lot of dishes if they're motivated enough. Yeah. That's the issue. And so, yeah, I think society has a stake in there being fewer of these guys around. But you don't think there's a lot of hope for the guys on the forums from the sound of it.

You don't see any way out for them, really. So what's there to be done about any of this? I mean, we're not going to have state-mandated girlfriends. No, no, we're not. I think someone proposed that. I'm sure they did. There are ex-in cells out there, but you don't hear about them because, first of all, who the hell wants to be the spokesman of for the ex-in-cell community?

And second of all, because they're almost by definition leading normal lives that aren't really all that remarkable or interesting. They build social skills. They join communities. They get some kind of purpose in their life that isn't plastering the internet with toxicity for 17 hours a day and they move on. It's like this weird embarrassing thing that they used to be into. You know, fitness, therapy, religion, mentorship, hobbies, these are all very low-hanging fruit. Can anybody become handsome? No, but I do suspect there's some truth to the idea that

you're not ugly, you're just poor. Meaning what exactly? I mean, look at Elon Musk before he had bunny. His hair plugs went a long way. So much of what makes someone attractive. is how they present what they have. So the looks maxers are onto something. If you take care of your skin, you get a better haircut, hit the gym, give yourself six months to a year, and boom, tons of people probably won't even recognize you. Beyond that, your problem with women is probably not even your looks.

It's probably that you lack social skills, or maybe you just lack social skills as they apply to women. There is a different set of social skills for children, dumbing it up with the guys because I'm going to, you know, let everybody in on a very controversial secret. Men and women are different. Fire up those angry emails, people. Can't say that anymore. Yeah, women are not just men with boobs. Sorry, people. I think mocking in cells can backfire, but if you're friends with one of these dudes, I mean, I don't know, man, I had this friend who was

like practicing Germanic paganism and doing, like, weird. rituals to Thor and stuff, and I, like, I bullied the crap out of him about it. And he's an Orthodox Christian now, so... The Jordan Harbinger Show does not endorse bullying your friends into or out of different religions. Okay, bullying them to get off the computer, fine. Bullying them out of a cult, probably also fine. Bullying them into your cult, slow down, folks. I mean, bullying may be the wrong word, but yeah, men respond to disapproval from other men.

especially when it's men that they respect or admire. I don't think it's at all inappropriate to apply a little negative reinforcement on a friend who has decided to wallow in his own misery with a total lack of self-reflection. I mean, let your conscience be your guide here. Sure. I think you're right about that. There's mean bullying where you're just terrorizing somebody. And then there's like giving your buddy a hard time about something that you should absolutely

be giving him a hard time about to motivate him to get his shit together. Right. And you also offer support. You know, hey, why don't you come to the gym with me? Let's sign up for a karate class together. Let's go to the driving range on Saturday and hit some balls or go on a hike or whatever. I think men tend to do better with activity-centered hangs and that's, you do that. And then they start, you know, opening up through the course of those hangs on a long hike or something.

These are also the kinds of things that can get them involved in other communities that are probably not just healthier, but a lot more fulfilling. for them personally, then endlessly posting on forever alone. So, like, hiking is kind of a lazy example, but like, yeah, you know, like, I found a passion for hiking because my friend dragged me on a number of hikes, and now I'm in this trail runner group, and, oh, whoa, would you know it? There's girls that are into this too, or just like other guys that I can become friends with, and that boosts my confidence and gets me off of PUA hate for the day. I absolutely detest and abhor these attempts to, like, reframe,

masculinity and like turn guys into these domesticated liberal house pets. So this is some kind of like new masculinity. But at the same time, masculinity is definitely not about whining on a forum and throwing your life away while you tunnel deeper and deeper into this pit of self-pity and complete despair. I think the main takeaway here is that not all these guys are monsters or memes. They're just lonely guys who have a very toxic way to explain why they're lonely and a very toxic community that reinforces both their feelings of loneliness and their antisocial explanation of why they're lonely in the first place. At the same time, dating is now difficult, man. You used to meet people through friends or family or even through shared activities. Now someone is going to

decide in half a second if they want to swipe right on you or if they want to move onto one of the other 500,000 people in their area that they could be dating. And that means a lot of people, people, men and women, are struggling to figure out how to find partners that might make their lives more fulfilling. The problem isn't living in that reality. We all do. The problem is when you abdicate agency for how that reality impacts your life, and then you start blaming other people for your problems. Are chiseled, jacked billionaires always going to have desirable partners? Probably. But that doesn't mean you can't find someone to be happy with that will enrich your life. And ultimately, that's what this is all about. It's not about celibacy as such.

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