The Jordan Harbinger Show - 1337: Nicole Sachs | How Your Nervous System Might Be Keeping You Sick

Episode Date: June 2, 2026

Mind Your Body author Nicole Sachs explains how pain is your brain's alarm, and why facing buried feelings can reverse symptoms once thought permanent.Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1337What We Discuss with Nicole Sachs:Pain is the brain's protective alarm, not a malfunction. The brain can both create and remove pain. It generates real symptoms to force you to slow down and stop returning to environments it has flagged as unsafe.Symptoms are real, but the source may be misdiagnosed. Chronic pain, IBS, migraines, fatigue, and long COVID aren't imaginary, but the nervous system — not the body part being treated — is often where the real trouble originates.A nervous system stuck in fight-or-flight produces physical illness. When the brain perceives constant "predators" — a hostile boss, money stress, unresolved trauma — it stays in survival mode, driving inflammation, muscle spasm, and nerve pain.Repressed emotion is read by the body as a threat. When difficult feelings go unseen and unfelt, the nervous system treats them as a predator — surfacing as flares, migraines, or chronic conditions long after the original event.You have far more power to heal than you realize. By learning the neuroscience and processing buried emotions through tools like JournalSpeak, people teach the nervous system it's safe — and many reverse chronic symptoms once thought permanent.And much more...And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: The Cybersecurity Tapes: Listen here: thecybersecuritytapes.comAT&T: Get an iPhone 17 Pro for $0: att.com/iphone or visit an AT&T store for detailsIQBAR: 20% off: Text "Jordan" to 64,000Booking.com: Book your getaway now with booking.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to the show. I'm Jordan Harbinger. On the Jordan Harbinger show, we decode the stories, secrets, and skills of the world's most fascinating people and turn their wisdom into practical advice that you can use to impact your own life and those around you. Our mission is to help you become a better informed, more critical thinker through long-form conversations with a variety of amazing folks, from spies to CEOs, athletes, authors, thinkers, and performers, even the occasional drug trafficker, economic hitman, gold smuggler, or hostage negotiator. And if you're new to the show or you want to tell your friends about the show, I suggest our episode starter packs. These are collections of some of our favorite episodes on topics like

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that the brain can generate very real physical symptoms as part of a protective response. And before you throw your earbuds across the room, because this sounds like I'm telling you it's all in your head, but with better lighting. That's exactly what we're going to challenge here, because the pain is real. The symptoms are real. The question is whether the source is always actually where we've been told to look. We'll dig into how stress, trauma, emotional suppression, and a nervous system stuck in fight or flight can keep the body sounding alarms long after the house has stopped burning. We'll also ask the uncomfortable questions. Is this science or spicy placebo? When is journaling useful? And when is it just trauma fan fiction with a nicer notebook? And how do you know you're not ignoring something?

serious while trying to feel your feelings like a hostage in a wellness retreat. So if your body's been acting like a smoke detector screaming at burnt toast, this one might help you figure out whether there's a real fire or whether your nervous system just needs to stop treating your inbox like a saber-tooth tiger. Here we go with Nicole Sacks. Thanks for joining me on the show. Thanks for having me. Yeah, of course.

Now, I'm going to take so much flack for some of the things I'm pushing back on because I was talking with Stacey, who runs the studio here. Save your hate emails till the end because there's going to be a lot more you're going to want to write in about. But we're adults, right? We all know people that we think are a little bit like kooky. And I happen to notice that a lot of people who have chronic pain that's undiagnosable or like falls into some mystery category. They also have like 10 other things. But then when you get to know them, they have a lot of horrible things that have happened to them maybe during childhood. The scientist in me says, look, correlation is not causation. But at some point, I go, why is it? it that somebody who has 10 autoimmune disorders and 10 different chronic pain things and 10 things over here also has a lifetime of trauma, is that a coincidence? It starts to look like not so much. I would definitely say it's not a coincidence because there's so much to look at when it comes to health. But one thing that I really focus on is more than anything is slowing down and looking at

the human animal, not just the human body. The human. mind, body, and how it functions optimally. And how we function optimally is that we are regulated, right? We're not super stressed. We're not stuck in fight or flight. We are able to pause and not react to life. We can respond, not react. It affects our relationships. It affects our ability to make money. It affects our ability to sleep. And it probably affects our ability to even eat healthily because when you're super stressed and you're not pausing, you're just going to grab whatever crap is in front of you. So all of health kind of needs to be seen in my experience through neuroscience and through nervous system regulation. And why are we all so intense and stressed and neurotic?

And so when you look at someone who has a laundry list of issues, trust me, I have been doing this for 25 years. So I've seen it all. oftentimes it does track back to what has happened in your life. And there's ACE's studies and all sorts of things that track. Aces is an adverse childhood experience? Exactly. And many, many people who have multiple chronic illnesses also score high on the ACEs scale. I want to be really clear.

I'm not saying, oh, they had a traumatizing experience in their life. So now they're imagining that they're in pain about something like they're back. I don't think they're imagining this at all. I don't think people can imagine insomnia either. These things are happening to them, but I just wonder what causes. And I know that doctors also wonder because I know pain doctors that are like, yeah, we just don't know why some people have chronic neck pain, even though they've been doing physio for a decade. And they don't sit all day. They're active.

What's going on here? And it's like, well, it couldn't be because I was raised by abusive narcissists. And it's like, I don't know. The causation part is hard because like, why would your parents ignoring you turn into neck pain when you're 60? or 30. Why would that happen? But it's like, man, that's sure know a lot of people that have a bucket list of symptoms like that. So let's start with the most basic things that people already believe. Because that is one way that I start to debunk anything that people could confuse me to say as the pain is in your head. You're making it up. You're hysterical. You're oversensitive. These are things that have blocked people from healing for decades. Because, it is a misunderstanding of any kind of mind-body medicine or anything rooted in neuroscience or anything that mentions the mind emotions or anything, immediately people go to. No, no, no,

you don't understand. I can't stand up. My back is so bad. You don't understand my IBS is so bad. I'm down to three foods and I still can't be 10 feet from the bathroom. That's exactly what I'm talking about. And my friend's mom developed IBS at a later stage in life. And it happened just so coincidentally happened right after the father left the family, right after they had emigrated to America, and she was a single mom in a foreign country with no education and no job, suddenly gets IBS. And it was like, well, obviously, it's a stress response. And doctors were like, nope, just a coincidence. We don't know what causes this. And it's like, dude, again, correlation is not causation, but how much does this have to hit you in the face for it to be obviously related to this?

Come on, man. Exactly. When I help people understand what's going on, the first thing I say to them is what I'm teaching you, you already believe. Let me show you. Yeah, try it because I'm highly skeptical. I'm like, okay, get out of here. I love that because I love a skeptic because it gives me an opportunity to really talk about this slowly and carefully so people have the opportunity to change their own lives. Let's face it, we're in a society where we are taught to give away our power. We're a take a pill society, go to this specialist, try this alternative treatment. And then when you're really, really desperate, try this ultra-altitative, whatever, which- Go to ayahuasca in the general?

Well, I mean, I'm not here to judge anything. I'm just saying- That one might actually work for some people. I'm not willing to puke all night, so maybe I'm not the best candidate, but I'm not saying, I'm not saying that people don't have amazing experiences. But what I'm saying to people is, we are bred to give away our power. And it's not because we are weak or we don't research. it's truly a societal paradigm that I seek to shift because I could lecture to a room of a thousand

people and I could say, okay, okay, everybody raise your hand if you've ever gotten a headache because it's been an overwhelming day, your kids are this, your boss is this, your partner's this, it's a long freaking day and you get home at night and your head is pounding. Every single person in the room is going to raise their hand. And I say, okay, keep your hand up if you ran to the ER that night for a CT scan of your brain because you were certain you had a brain tumor. No, everybody laughs. All the hands go down and I say, okay.

Well, the neurotic person was too shy to raise their hand. They did that, the one in the thousand. Maybe there is a person that has felt the need to do that, but probably it's after weeks or months, right, of these headaches. So I say, okay, I need to take this one moment of clarity to tell you that what I'm teaching you, you already believe, an emotional stimulus, stress, overwhelm, everybody's annoying, causes a physical reaction, a headache.

And I'm like, okay, stay there. Who's ever heard of a comedian that is about to go on stage and they run to the bathroom and throw up? Everybody. Eminem, right? Exactly. Mom spaghetti. Exactly. Okay.

It's fine. Everyone raises their hand. And I say, who? Keep your hand up. You think he just got the worst stomach virus. Or, wow, that bad oyster he ate just kicked in. Everybody laughs. Emotional stimulus, stress, anxiety about going on stage, physical reaction, vomiting.

And then, of course, the most ubiquitous, what happens when you're really moved or really sad? Water falls out of your face, okay? So emotional, stimulus, physical reaction. So all I want people to start with me, and this leads literally no room for skepticism or hate, is that we are a body, we are a human species, that we have emotional things. You get broken up with you, lose your appetite. You're in a panic, you break into hives, right? you have a system, and this is the way we operate. We respond to emotional stimuli, often with physiological changes in the body, changes in respiration, heart rate, elimination, digestion.

We all know this. So here's the problem. When anything becomes chronic, you could have a headache and say, okay, it was a stressful day, but if you have a migraine disorder, it's time for medication, diet changes, what have you. And I'm not even here to even have to even have an opinion. I want people to understand, like, I come by this honestly. This is not just theoretical for me. But the point of this whole situation is we are constantly responding to our worlds, whether we feel safe, whether we are able to speak our minds, whether we have dealt with maybe trauma from the past. And because there is no understanding that is important, that there's no understanding in terms of anything chronic that the mind, the emotional experience and the safety of the animal is actually

affecting the physical body because that's not the lens we're looking through. We see it as maybe additive, maybe people who are like real seekers. They see it as helpful, but it is not foundational to our health care system. And so what's happening is when you're desperate enough, you're going to do whatever it is that is the latest thing. And I absolutely get it. friends who have chronic depression. It's funny because one guy I'm talking about, cluster migraines, insomnia, had depression, and then he was trying all these different things and all these pills and all have side effects and then he did crazy ketamine experiences with a doctor for a few months and he's pretty much been fine since then. And surprise, not getting as many

migraines and surprise, sleeping better. And it's like, okay, so a lot of this stuff was actually tied together. And he's just a happier person now. Well, one, when you're not unable to get out of bed. There's part of that. But then it's like he got married and finalized a nasty divorce. Like all this stuff is under the bridge now. And it's again, probably not a coincidence that all of these things are on the upswing at the same time that the horrible side effects of just having a tough life have largely abated. Of course. And I feel like everybody listening will be like, yeah, that makes sense. But it's very hard to concretize between that and how can I actually change my life. And I think one of the things that is most important,

to me. Anytime I'm talking to anyone is to help people understand you have so much more power than you realize to affect your physical and emotional health. It is astonishing. I'm in this now for 25 years. And I'm watching people and I am not shitting you who are going from wheelchair bound on a regular basis to running a marathon, fully free. I know it sounds crazy. You took the words out of my mouth. Like that actually sounds crazy. And this is the reason people are going to be like, Jordan, and what the hell are you thinking, having this person on, because this sounds like the person who goes up in front of the church and goes, I can walk, Jesus has healed me.

And it's like, that's not what we're talking about here, hopefully. Otherwise, we can wrap right now. But people will also mischaracterize what I'm saying about pain because it really sounds like I'm saying, and I don't mean to do this, it sounds like I'm saying it's in their head because they have something else wrong. And I'm not doing that. I'm not trying to do that. So how about let me just do a very basic explanation of why these stresses

and this unresolved trauma, And the emotional overwhelm is causing physical chronic illness. Yeah, please. If we can get to how this actually causes, I think it might help people wrap their mind. Because it is hard for me to even go, okay, fine, you got bullied a lot. Why can't you walk now? Like, I don't understand how you suddenly have arthritis. Or maybe it's unrelated.

Again, maybe it's unrelated and you're just really unlucky. But I don't know. Then they go to therapy and their arthritis goes away. Something's going on here. So there are more ways that the human being suffers. but the four biggest ways that the human being suffers, inflammation, muscle constriction, spasm and neuropathy. Those are the four things.

What's neuropathy again? Neuropathy is when you have nerve pain, like fibromyalgia, neuropathy, but neuropathy could be like tingling or pain in the hands and feet. Neuropathy really spans the gamut. There are so many ways in which your nerves are overfiring or your nerves are causing problems in your body. Okay. So those four things are directly related to a nervous system that is stuck in fight or

flight. So I'll just say like really basically what's going on. We are built to withstand predators, right? So from the earliest dawn of civilization, we are built. And everybody knows this one, fight, flight, freeze to- There's fawn now. And there's fawn. Oh, we can get into fawn because I'm a therapist, so I love fawn. But like, I don't think anyone's really fawning in the cavemen, you know. They're all dead. Those people are- no one's there to tell us. But we all know about fight or flight. And everybody's been in a situation where, let's say, You're walking down the street and, like, you see a thing. And that thing in your perception may be a person or a predator of some kind. Maybe somebody who looks shady that could be jumping out of the side of the building.

You're walking. Now, let's say you got to walk down the street and you can cross the street. But like, if you're going to not ruin your entire night, you have to get where you're going. So you're walking down the street and you're eyeing this thing. Now, here's what's going to happen and everybody's been there. Your heart rate's going to quicken. Your breathing is maybe going to get a little bit more shallow. Hello, if you were a little tired, all of a sudden you are wide awake.

You are paying attention. There are all these different changes in your body. And if indeed it really were a situation, there'd also be changes in digestion and elimination, meaning if you were starving, you wouldn't be hungry anymore. And if you had to go to the bathroom, that feeling would kind of go away. The human being is like freaking amazing. We are a miracle. Okay.

So you're walking down the street. Now you kind of turn the corner and you're still looking and all this stuff activated in your body. And you're like, God damn, you feel so stupid. The wind has been blowing it. It's a bush, and the bush is like leaning into the street and pulling out. Okay. Your perception is your reality. So while it was a predator, your whole body is lighting up like a Christmas tree. It's getting ready to help you fight flee or freeze. Whatever's going to save your life. And this is the most basic foundational functioning of the human being because if we're not alive, it doesn't matter if your boyfriend broke up with you or if you have a migraine, right? Gotta be alive. So the second you get that it's a bush and you really under. understand, you believe that it's a bush, your system's going to start to regulate. It might take a few minutes, but you are going to come back to baseline in all of those ways. We are not built

for long-term fighter flight. We are built for bursts of being able to save our own lives. What's happening in modern day society is we are in an onslaught of predators all the time. Whether it's an email or somebody in a cubicle next to you, or just like an argument that's ongoing with someone in your family. Like there's all kinds of crap that you're just, yeah, I feel it. Infinite. And then like, I know you have kids. I have three kids.

Kids are the worst predators in the world. First of all, because of all the reasons that kids are a pain in the ass, but that's not even what I'm saying. I'm saying, you know how it feels for your child to look up at you. I don't actually, how old are your kids? Four and six. Okay. You're getting there.

They are sentient human beings. When a kid looks up at you and they're like, so and so is so mean to me. Oh, I hate it. Yeah. Or like, you know that they have to go do something. you're like, I'm not going, I hate this, I want, whatever it is. And now I have 23, 21, and 18. Problems get even more complex with the heartbreak. So the heartbreak of having children is not just also that you are sad for them. It's that you are them, okay? You were also four and you were six,

and you were 12, and you were 18. And you suffered in the little, many big and small ways we suffer. And so then you have this precious human who's walking around and they're suffering. And there is something that happens inside of you, most of the time it's largely unconscious, which we'll talk about, you are so inflamed emotionally by what you have to tolerate that what happens is something very amazing and adaptive happens in the human animal, which is you're aware of a certain portion of what you're feeling, enough basically to take action in whatever way you need to, most of it gets repressed. Repression as a defense mechanism is adaptive. It's actually really helpful. cannot walk through our day and feel every single thing that's happening. I can't even identify

my feelings most of the time. And my dad was worse. My dad has like two emotions, happy and angry. When I was a kid, he would get angry when he was frustrated. He would get angry if he felt bad for me. He would get angry if he was impatient. He would get angry if he was unhappy, obviously. He would get angry if he was going to get angry. We can analyze him if you want. There was like 10 different emotions that he would have had if he was like a normal person. Instead, he just had angry, and then he had like not angry. Yes. And then there was happy somewhere in there.

So he had three emotional states. Nothing happy and some version of angry that was a placeholder for literally any negative emotion was always went straight to angry. I'm a little bit better, but not that much, really. But the point is that when we're in these heightened states, the nervous system, I want you to picture that a building is on fire. So what happens when a building is on fire is that the alarm gets triggered. Okay, and the alarm is screaming and it is alerting the fire department and, of course, the owners of this building. You've got to come here and attend to this thing.

It's going to burn down. So I want you to picture that the fire department gets there and they see the alarm. Now, the alarm is screaming. The alarm, and let's picture, for our example, the alarm is also visually screaming, right? Some, like, big, whirling light and it's so loud. And they come and they see why they've been called. They've been called to this. And they start training their hoses on the alarm.

So everyone with all the best intentions is training their hoses on the alarm. Now the fire's over here, consuming the building. But nobody's turning to the fire because they know why they're here. It's the screaming thing that's on the wall. The migraine, the back flare when it goes out, the IBS flare, the autoimmune flare, the neck, shoulder, all this stuff. And I can go on, on long COVID is a big one that we can talk about. And while your nervous system is busy mistaking unread emails for a saber-tooth tiger,

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something or buy something, please use our code. It's usually Jordan. They're all listed on the deals page. It's a double win. You get a great deal and you help keep the show thriving. Thank you so much for the support. Now, back to Nicole Sachs. I think people are going, dude, I actually have symptoms. What are you talking about it? I'm not mentally ill. I had COVID and now I can't walk up a flight of stairs. That one I feel like I know tons of just normal people who are athletic before and then they got long COVID and they're like, okay, my life is different now. This is a really important thing because quote, normal people are the most afflicted. So we're going to talk about that. It's like anything that gets your attention. You pay attention to the person with the 10 autoimmune diseases and the significant

child and trauma. But so often normal people are afflicted because the alarm bell is ringing, whatever the symptom is, you're treating it. So your hose on the alarm is. the next specialist, the next pill, the next supplement, the next diet change, whatever. Okay, so you're doing that. Meanwhile, the fire is raging. What is the fire? Your nervous system that's stuck in fight or flight, because as far as your system is concerned, predators are coming left and right.

And every time you defeat one, for lack of a better word, another one pops up. So you are constantly stressed. What happens when that fire is raging and no one's attending to it, because everybody's busy at the specialist following the alarm, is that. that your system decides you need protection. Okay? This is very basic. Just like when you see the predator, which is really a bush, and your nervous system starts

getting you ready to flee or to fight or to freeze, the same thing is happening with these internal and external predators. So the external predators are like your kid, your partner, your boss, your money situation, whatever, your career. And the internal predators are your self-worth, your fears, your concerns over. panic over your health or longevity or whatever is going on, okay, internal and external. There are many complex structures of the human brain, but the most basic, what they call the primitive or the reptilian brain, the nervous system, the amygdala, here to keep you alive.

So what's it going to do when you're being attacked by these predators left and right? It is going to search for a way to protect you. Now here is the thing that I want everybody to listen to who could be slightly skeptical. The most effective way that the nervous system in the brain have to protect you is pain. I'll explain why. Let's call it back in the day. Once again, we're going back to our early humanity and you cut your arm. If you didn't feel pain in your arm at that side of that cut, you've got important things to do.

You've got to gather and kill things and bring it back to your family. You would not stop to attend to this. So what's going to happen? We all know what happens to a dirty cut that's being exposed to all sorts of bacteria. it's going to become septic and you'll die. Okay? So pain by its very nature is protective. And what's amazing about the brain, and this is all irrefutable, is it can give pain,

but it can take it away. So for example, if you are running from someone who's pursuing you, who you perceive is going to hurt you or kill you, and you step in a hole and break your ankle, you will be able to run on that broken ankle without pain. You see those people get shot, right? And they run and it's like, he got shot by the cops five times. How was he still alive? People are like, wait three minutes, dude.

He's just going to run out of blood and pass out. If he's actually dying, that's where that's above my pay grade. But if he is actually not dying and he just has a broken ankle, he will run on that broken ankle until he perceives himself to be safe. So let's say he gets into a room, he slams the door, he locks it. Now, the police might still be circling the building, but he is now out of full-blown fighter flight. that ankle is going to erupt in pain because it's only understanding that this is an injury in a person that needs to be attended to or he could maybe be so damaged that you lose your ability to walk.

If that's the case, obviously you're stuck on the savannah. You're going to get eaten by a lion. So the reason that pain continues in this modern day society is because it's the only way to get you to slow down, to attend to yourself, and to stop putting yourself back in the predatory place. So if your boss is just a total asshole, and he talks to you in a way that just totally reminds you of your abusive father or of that bully in high school or whatever, but you've got to make money and this is the best job you can get, and so you're going to go there every single day. Your nervous system at some point will probably say it is not safe here.

You are walking into the literal lion's den every day. What will keep you what I call safe in the unsafest way. I don't know. What if your back goes out? You can't go. What if you have a migraine disorder, you're on the bathroom throwing up. You can't go. Who could blame you? What's incredible is once you start understanding and then you stop all the skepticism and you're like, let me learn about the neuroscience. I don't want somebody to believe me. I want someone to be curious. And you start to learn, which is why in my book I have a whole chapter on it and all the studies and Harvard has recently come out with a bunch of them, Michael De Nino. When you start to understand this is actually happening and all the skepticism goes away, you're like, wait, what if I can reverse chronic illness?

And that's what I see every day. My skepticism will never go away, Nicole. But tell me how you got interested in this. You unfortunately had some personal experience with serious pain. Yeah. And unfortunately, it's a lovely thing to say, but I have to say in the rear view, like, thank God this happened to me. I really do believe that in the most unreligious way possible. I just really value life experience. But when I was 19, it was a state in a nutshell, I was a freshman in college, my back went out completely to the point where I couldn't walk. So my parents had to come and collect me and bring me home. And of course, as any responsible parent would do, as I would do for my

child, I love doctors. I have to say, I love doctors, I love antibiotics, I love medicine, like I am not an anti-doctor person. Go get checked out. They take me and I have x-rays MRIs and I have a condition, still do, called degenerative spondylolis thesis. It's an abnormality of the lower spine and I have a very severe, apparently, abnormality of lower spine. I'm at the surgeon's office and they throw my film up on the screen and he's like, okay, this is what you have is 1990, mind you, not that it really matters, but it was 1990. Everything was black and white. My kids once asked me, when you were little, did you see in black and white? I thought it was really funny. That is funny. But anyway, he said, this is the reason for your pain. And so here is our recommendation for a 19-year-old.

No more exercise, no more travel, no more rights. in the car for more than an hour because the bumping motion could really destabilize your back. Don't lift anything over 20 pounds, very specific sleeping positions with elevated knees. And the most devastating at the time was the likelihood that you'll have a biological child is slim to none. Maybe one with seven months of bed rest. But this condition is so serious that if you are going to allow for that risk, you could end up in a wheelchair. Yeah. You're 19.

And it's like your life is kind of over. Hey, all those things you like doing, you can't do any of those. I hope you like television because that's the rest of your life. And it's so funny because I remember the day. I remember the doctor. I remember the whole thing. But there was something in me. And maybe it's like being a 19, whatever it is where I was just like, okay, I'm going to stop doing all those things.

And I did. And it was really sad. I used to love riding horses. I was like a very avid rollerblader. It was the 1990s. And I just stopped doing it. all those things, but I kind of put the more dire stuff on the side burner. I was like, all right, whatever. We'll see about that. I'm too young to even think about this anyway.

Kids, what are you talking about? I have 10 years before I'm even thinking about that. Exactly. But still, it was like a looming thing. So anyway, I was an undergrad in psychology and that I was going for my graduate studies. I found the work of Dr. John Sarno. And I don't know, I think you hadn't heard of him. I looked him up after we talked. And it's divided, right? Some people online are like, oh, yeah, I saw that and what a fake ass, whatever. And then other people are like, you know what, you have your opinion, but I use this thing. And like I used to have, I can't even remember this debilitating condition. Reddit, which is usually really hard on people who are pseudoscientific, for example, they were really divided on this.

And I thought that was interesting because usually somebody who's relatively credible has one little thing that happens that's negative. And then forget it. Especially Reddit. Just destroying that. Reddit is rough. And I looked you up on Reddit, so we could talk about that later. Don't worry. It's not.

I'm not scared. No, no. I have a 21-year-old son. Shout out to Oliver. Mom, they're talking about you on Reddit. Only half of it is terrible. Yes. Congratulations.

Actually, true. Like I said, I love the skeptic. Bring it so I can compassionately explain why you block yourself from your best life if you choose to jump right into the fray of skepticism and hate. at least look into it. It was a few people thought you were running a cult. So I was going to go there eventually. Yeah, no, let's talk.

I don't think you have a cult. No, what's really funny about the whole. Your entourage is too small that you're running a cult. You need to bring a few more people into this. I know. I came here all by myself. Yeah, that's not a very culty kind of thing about, okay, there's nothing I'm closing the door on.

I will talk about the cult stuff. But here's the thing with the Sarno. I think the reason why Dr. Sarno even is so divided, which is, of course, like great for him that he has positive. as well, but even the fact that all the negative is just it was before any of the science had caught up. So all Dr. Sarno had was anecdotal evidence of people that would come to him and he would explain the brain science and he would explain what's going on in your emotional reservoir and that it's overflowing and kicking the nervous system into fight or flight. And he would explain this.

And people would understand it, would believe it. Now, I know belief is a very interesting topic because people can say, yeah, well, you can believe in a lot of things, right? You can believe in monsters. You can believe in fairies are flying around this room and whatever. I mean, if that's your thing, I don't judge it. But belief also is a scientific concept. Because if I believe the bush is a bush, my nervous system and my whole body is doing one thing. And if I believe the bush is a predator, it's different. So it's very important to understand that your nervous system only has your conscious and unconscious input to determine if you're safe, to determine if all of these changes have to happen in your physiology. I have a question. I'm sorry. So when they're telling you your 19, your life's basically over and we can't fix it, why couldn't they just give you pain meds and you can do all the things you want to do? Because pain meds don't work. Pain meds are temporary and they don't touch many things they don't touch. Now, this is where I'm a full expert because I'm,

out 25 years. I was private practice for 18 of them. And then when I started my podcast and started writing books, I no longer see people one on one. But like, but wait, what do you mean pain meds don't because if you have your wisdom teeth out and they give you codeine, you don't feel that bad after that. Acute pain. Oh, okay. Okay. They don't work for chronic pain. I see. Okay. Because I think people are like, wait a minute. I take Vicodin when I have my knee flare up or whatever and it works, man. What is she talking about? I had three babies. I know that the Vicodin works. After I had those babies, it was really funny because I was scared to take the opioids just to be really TMI because I don't want to get constipated.

After you have a baby, the last thing you want to do is think about being constipated. There's a lot going on down there. Well, I was going to kill me. But yeah, that's a dangerous thing to have. You don't want to be pushing anymore. You've already pushed a lot. Exactly. We'll leave it there.

We'll just going to leave it right there. Yeah. But the point is that my first two kids are 22 months apart. And I called my doctor because I'm. like I have a 22-month-old. I have a newborn, and I am hurting for certain. It was percocet. Take the percocet. And I'm like, I'm scared. He goes, you want to function? Take the percocet. And it's so funny because I remember I was like sitting on the couch in the playroom and I said, fine. And I took the percassette. 20 minutes later, I'm clean in the playroom because I actually was in

no pain with my incision and all my stitches and everything. Having said that, and anyone listening who's had anything chronic from migraines down to foot pain. First of all, opioids will make you into an addict, which is a whole other story. That's a thing that's happened to a few friends of mine. Back injury from wrestling, dot, dot, dot, dot, heroin, dot, dot, dot, dot, you're lucky to be alive, basically. Exactly. But pain meds do not help for chronic pain because chronic pain is a consistent firing

of pain signals based on a nervous system that is dysregulated. And so you might get some relief. If you take an opioid, you're just going to basically be high for a little while. And so you probably will care less about what's going on. So when I was diagnosed, they did give me pain meds. I was on steroids, muscle relaxers, and pain meds to get out of acute pain. That's a gnarly mix, though. Yeah.

It's not sustainable. No, that's terrible. Even if you feel great, that's just gross. That's icky. Thinking about taking all that stuff. And you have to if you can't function. Then it becomes chronic pain. There is no adequate medicine for chronic pain.

If there were, we wouldn't be having this conversation because, Hey, listen, man, I love a pill, right? Wouldn't it be nice? Wouldn't it be easier? Like the whole OZemphic thing, right? Like, I don't need OZempeg, but if I did, I feel like I would want to take it. Because life shouldn't have to be this hard. I agree with you, man.

No judgment. So when I think about if there were a pill, I probably never would have even become what I am. And so the point is it's not working. Let's talk about long COVID actually for a moment because you had mentioned all these, quote, normal people. Just have so many friends that are like not the kind of person I associate with, oh, you've got another thing. This is the only thing they have. And it's, oh, you were a semi-pro volleyball player and now you can't walk up the stairs to your apartment. It's not a person who just does stuff for attention or whatever. It's, yeah, they're not one of them. And also, I know you know this, but no one's doing it for attention. You know what I'm talking about, though. Like when people have 20 different things, I feel bad for them. It's hard to not. It's hard to not feel skeptical of like what's the common denominator. Yeah, it's like buy a lottery ticket. Wow, you have seven. 17 different disorders that all happened after the age of 18. Okay, well, you're the unluckiest person in Burbank. And if you are the unluckiest person in Burbank, come sit by me.

I'll help you. But I get it. I get it. And so let's talk about long COVID. I have a podcast that I've been doing once a week since 2018. So there are hundreds of episodes. I have at least 10 that are long COVID recovery stories. And of those people, I'm trying to think if there's any outliers and I think there aren't.

One is a 32-year-old travel journalist who had traveled the world and now was bedbound. One was a man in his late 50s who was in the hills of New Zealand hunting, fishing, and he was a contractor, normal, healthy, athletic, often young people. Here's what happens with any epidemic that seems like it's hard to explain. Nobody is immune to this societal onslaught of this fight, flight, freeze, nervous system dysregulation. Nobody's immune. As long as you are a thinking being that is out in the world that you care about things, you're not immune.

Oftentimes, kind of like me with my back when it went out and when I was 19, you are walking through the world and you don't think anything's wrong. I had my shitty childhood, not shittier than everyone else's, just my brand, my brand of shitty childhood. And I dealt with it, right? We deal with our stuff. Go through life, you deal with your stuff. And I get to 19, not thinking I'm away from home for the first time,

not thinking there's anything particularly wrong. I don't even remember what I did when I wrenched my back out. I was bending down to pick something up and I couldn't stand back up. So this is an injury, not something you were born with. It's neither. It is a nervous system reaction that sent signals of muscle constriction and spasm that were severe. that were correlated with an abnormality that I have in my spine. They found this abnormality.

They said, obviously, this is the reason for your pain. I said, okay, I took all the pills. I got back to school. I had a handicapped thing from my car. I could drive to class. My friends loved that. Exactly, which was really helpful on my campus. And so I am going through my life.

I find Dr. Sarno. I understand the neuroscience. It clicks for me, okay, for whatever reason. Different things click for different people. And so I start doing this mind-body work through understanding that I need to put a ladle in my emotional reservoir and get it down because it keeps triggering my nervous system into fight or flight and that continues to create these pain signals, the alarm that keeps going off. So I understand this and I want to talk more specifically about how I constructed a way to do the work in a methodical way

because that's basically what I'm teaching others. And I completely eliminate my back pain. So now you have to understand I had three children. I exercised till the day they were born. I've traveled the world. Just two weeks ago, I hiked into Pali Coast in Kauai. I'm 53. I can run five miles at least when I'm in good shape.

I have no back pain. I have no back problems. And my MRI is exactly as scary. That was my next question. I'm not a doctor. And I love doctors. And I think they're amazing. and they're not getting paid enough for what they do a lot of the time.

But I also wonder, maybe a doctor can tell me, what percentage of diagnoses are essentially like an educated guess that they maybe dress up sometimes as maybe near certainty? Because I'm imagining the doctor that looked at that when, if you're having back pain and we did a scan on your back and I see this abnormality, okay, it's almost certainly related to that because why else would you be having back pain? They're not going, huh, that could have just been there and done nothing,

and also you could have had back pain for a set of reasons that are not psychological. Neuropsychological? Is that we use that before? Let's call it as a result of brain science. That the brain science behind why the human being hurts is the reason for this. Because the word psychological, the word psychosomatic, it's a misunderstanding. So I have to be very careful about that. I want people to think I'm saying the pain is in their head because I know I'm inadvertently doing that like over and over.

No, you aren't though, actually. You're doing a really good job. There was once a day when the Earth was first. flat. But of course it was because I am here in my earth and I'm riding my horse from point A to point B and it's flat. And if I'm lucky enough to live near a huge body of water and I go at the ocean or to a huge lake and I look out the horizon, it's flat. What I could see, what I could prove, what my colleagues and friends and peers in my life believed was that the earth was flat. I can even bring myself into that moment and say,

obviously, who would have thought anything else? Because that's what you could see, and it felt like you could prove it, okay? I think we are in a flat earth moment with our health, because the three categories of people that come through my door are you have a bad abnormality of some sort, whether it be what I have, like a structural abnormality, or you have like a super messed up gut microbiome, or you have markers in your blood for certain autoimmune diseases or you have viral markers for long COVID, right? So there are structural findings that are showing that you have a problem in your body. And that problem is correlating with some pain or suffering that you have. That's the first

group that comes to me. But it's still unresolvable. Like medicine can tell you there's like a treatment or a way to make it feel a little bit better, but there's no cures. You're saying the brain is doing this to us because it's kind of saying, hey, if you're not going to deal with this thing in your life, I'm going to cripple you until you do. That's one category. But then there are two other categories. There's the category of, I'm really sorry, we can't find anything wrong with you. People who go for test after test and they have all these symptoms, doctors are really well-meaning.

And they're like, we just can't find anything wrong with you. And then the third category is here's a diagnosis that a lot of people get like fibromyalgia or migraines or whatever. and there's no cure. So there's ways to manage it, and you can try this diet or you can try this supplement or you can try this injection or whatever. But those three categories span like 90% of the population. There are just almost everybody has something. And if you don't count yourself lucky, but what you probably have is little tiny things

that you just don't think about or chronic pain, like a lack of energy, trouble sleeping, chronic anxiety or worry, maybe OCD kind of adjacent. stuff, any number of things, skin disorders, right? Or people get like rosatia or acne. Like, why are we all so inflamed? So what I help people understand is when you are that healthy person that has long COVID, what happened is similar to what happened to me. Each of us has an emotional reservoir. You'd picture like a clear science beaker in the middle of your body from your belly to your chest. And in it is several categories. The three big ones are childhood, anything, and that doesn't have to be trauma. Capital T, little T, experiences. Your daily life,

which is partner, kids, money, stress, career, self-worth, body image, right? And then there's a third category, which is personality characteristics. Perfectionistic, codependent. You care so much what other people think. So you're always like scanning the landscape for like to people like me. These are the three things that make up our emotional worlds. What happens is they're all getting dumped into the reservoir every day because the word trigger is so overused, but if you really like dial down into what the word trigger is, it's a moment that takes you from where you are somewhere else really fast. And so what's happening when the jerk that cut you off in traffic, whatever. Yes, that moment is happening. But what's also happening is you are being unconsciously,

all the stuff in the reservoir triggered into every time someone made you feel small, every time someone disrespected you and then we go into childhood where you are totally powerless. If you have a father who got angry over everything, right? And someone gets angry at you and it's not fair. It's about them and not you and you know it. You're mad but you're more than mad.

You're up to here. I'm triggered. You're triggered. That's right. And you have a right to be really, truly. Because... My dad's great, so I don't get triggered by that anymore. It's not about your dad.

I know. I'm just kidding. I don't know him. What's funny is, never heard anybody explain it this way that being triggered is being transported back in time to a... When you pull the trigger on a gun, what happens? Yeah. The bullet comes out. Before your brain gives you back pain because you didn't process a slack message from 2019,

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We're happy to surface codes for you. It's that important that you support those who support the show. Now, back to Nicole Sachs. whenever you see somebody just go off the rails and you're like sorry I didn't bring you coffee it's not about the coffee and you're like what the what is it what is it oh you're a middle child and your mom never took care of you because they were always doting on your younger brother and your older brother was the all-star and you felt like you were invisible and me not getting you coffee reinforced that by accident now you're pissed off at me and like that's like super super

valid yeah but here's the thing that goes beyond just annoyance it's actually it's actually causing your nervous system to have that alarm bell go off because it doesn't feel safe to be with someone who, how dare they not think of you for the coffee order? Because what you're really in, like I said, in the reservoir unconsciously, is back in eighth grade where your parents moved you to a new town and you had no friends and you arrived at school every day and everybody was in the club except you. Everyone had a Valentine but me. Everybody was getting coffee.

Everybody getting coffee in first grade. for everyone, not you. So this is a feature of our brain, not a bug, basically, that's doing it. Or what would you say? I don't know. It's a little bit of both, kind of. I have to tell you, and maybe this is me having the worldview that I have. I don't think anything's a bug, okay?

Let's look at, have you ever heard the Sufi parable, good thing, bad thing, who knows? This is also like that Chinese one, right, where the Chinese farmer, the army comes and his son is falling off the horse. It's funny. I've heard it to be Sufi. Maybe it is Chinese. I think it's, you know what? It's a Chinese. Sufi. How's that? Neither of us are Chinese or Sufi, so we don't know shit. If only there was a

place to type that in a search box and get the answer. If only there was like an internet. So I'll say it for your listeners, just in case they don't know it. I'll say it. A man in the community saves all his money. He buys a horse. A horse is incredibly valuable. All the villagers come and they say, you're the richest man in town. Oh my God. How amazing you have this horse. And the man says, good thing, bad thing, who knows? The next day, the horse jumps the paddock and runs away. So now he has no money and no horse. And the villagers come and they say, oh, it's terrible. What a tragedy. You have no horse. And he says, good thing, bad thing, who knows? The next day, the horse has made ten horse friends out in the world and it comes galloping back. Everyone jumps back into the paddock.

And the villagers come and they say, oh my goodness, now you're like a billionaire. You're the richest guy in town. How lucky for you. He says good thing, bad thing, who knows? The next day, his only child, his son is trying to break one of the horses and he falls and breaks his leg. Villagers come in. What a tragedy. Now you don't have anyone to help you around your farm. And the guy says, good thing, bad thing, who knows? And then the next day, neighboring villages go to war and they come through for all the eligible young men to go and fight and probably die. And this man's son has a broken leg and can't go. And the villagers say, what a blessing. And he says, good thing, bad thing, who knows? And the reason that I'm telling that story is.

is because philosophically, it is the most accurate and the most compassionate and the most successful way to go through life. I don't think that anything is a bug. I just don't. I think that things can feel like problems because they are in the way of what we want. But I think the human body, if you take away the static between health and all of these emotions that are causing fight or flight, you will find that the thing. that the things that are happening in your body are all adaptive

because they're taking you on this journey of where you need to go. So how do we differentiate between, okay, this is emotional versus you're going to ignore something serious and you have pancreatic cancer and should have gotten that skin? It's funny because when my book came out last year, I got a chance to go on the Today Show, which is live TV at 7 o'clock in the morning, is very scary. And I was sitting there and I was thinking, all right, no matter what he asks me, the first thing I have to say is, go to the day.

to a doctor and get checked out. Because it is so important that people never misunderstand two things. First is, I'm not saying the pain is in your head. You are not hysterical. You're not making it up. One million percent, this is neuroscience. Second is, I don't want you to try to use emotional work or mind-body work for a tumor, for a blood disorder, for anything that needs medical attention. I love doctors. I love medical advancements. But what I don't love is the millions of well-meaning doctors that are not able to help because they don't understand why all of these treatments are continuing to fail. And what I'm saying is a nervous system in fight or flight that thinks you need the protection of these pain and syndromes to keep you small and safe and away from the big,

bad world, which is full of predators, that nervous system is not going to stop. Do you know Dr. Rachel Zoffness, by the way? I do. Yeah. So she was on the show and she, this is reminding me a little. bit of what she teaches. And she uses, I think, CBT kind of behavioral therapy. And she goes after pain, too. And a lot of it is quite similar. Like, somebody went and got pills, but they don't help. And it's chronic. And they're at the end of their rope with their back pain. And she can help a lot of those folks as well. And it's, yeah,

it's just like straight science. She and I are under the same umbrella. That's what I thought. Okay. Yeah. Man, that episode helped a ton of people too. This is why I get excited to get on platforms that have a wider reach. I have emails that I get and not infrequently. Okay, because I have a podcast and I have books and I have global community, the cult stuff. Yeah, you have your cult. It's a cult of great love. Sure, as many of them are. Yes, no, it's not a cult.

And I also actually freaking hate anyone who looks at me and like, you're my guru. I go, please, I am no one's guru. Sitting here telling Sufi parables. I am trying to get through this life. But the point is that if your nervous system is in that fight or flight state, you cannot decide that something is going to stop. it will keep going. Like, for example, I was once in London when I was like in my early 20s, and I've been to London a bunch of my family who lives there. And for whatever reason, I was talking, I was involved in something. I stepped off the curb and I looked the wrong way.

Okay? That's why it even says on the ground, look left. I'm sure it does. I'm sure. I was like 21. But the point is, I stepped onto the street. And by the time I jumped back onto the curb and the double-decker bus whizzed in front of my nose. No, I'm not joking. I would be dead times 100. It was like 50 miles an hour, and it came around. And I'm standing. My heart is beating out of my chest.

I don't remember jumping back on the curb. I don't remember thinking that it was on its way. Your nervous system. I'm triggered now. That's scary to think about. It's freaking scary. Your nervous system will protect you without your permission and without your opinion. There is no time.

You don't touch a hot stove and think, oh, I don't know. Like as your skin is burning off, yeah, you're off. Okay. And so what's happening with chronic illness, whether it is related to a structural abnormality, which is correlation, not causation, which I can also talk about in terms of the brain science, you are stuck in a loop and no medication, no diet change, no supplement, can change it without going underneath and understanding why the nervous system keeps firing these signals.

And the reason you got to go to a doctor is because you have to know if you have something underlying that is medically curable. And if you do, I am so thrilled. I don't want people doing this if they have something that medicine can solve. I'm here for the many millions that medicine isn't solving it. Yeah, that is just trying to give them symptom management medication. And it's doing its best. Sure. But.

Yeah, like I said, there's so many doctors that listen to this. And I love doctors in general. I mean, modern sciences and medicine is a miracle. But yeah, I think a lot of times I've got plenty of doctor buddies. And I ask him, like, what do you do with this? And they go, I just prescribe a few different pain pills and they tell me which one works the best. And I'm like, doesn't that seem like a blunt instrument? And they're like, it really is.

But what are you going to do when somebody has like ambiguous tailbone pain? Tailbone pain is a big one. If you can stop wondering if somebody is trying to trick you, especially with the internet, we're living in such a society where you're like, everybody's trying to get away with something. Everybody's trying to sell you something. And if you stop and say, what if? I don't want people to believe me. I want them to just replace their skepticism with curiosity. What if? I wonder if we're in a flat earth moment. I wonder if there's so much more to understand about how my body functions and my brain, which is the central command for everything, if it's sending these pain signals

because there's a confusion going on, how might I write that ship? Are there warning signs before symptoms hit with the stuff that you're talking about? You mentioned the reservoir. How do we know when that thing is approaching maximum density? Does the question make sense? Makes great sense, yeah. And unfortunately, the answer is rarely. Okay.

You targeting cluster migraines or whatever? It's not even about cluster migraines. It's just that similar to fight or flight and rest and repair, the most primitive nervous system is like a switch. that flips, meaning I think it's a guy with a gun. My whole body's doing quite another thing. There is no medium. There is no a little bit I'm about to die. There is, there's something here to hurt me or there's not. So the thing with the reservoir is, we've got those three categories and then the big five emotions that are the ones that are not interesting to discuss over coffee.

You don't want to tell your friends. You don't want to discuss this, maybe even with your therapist, The big five, and hopefully I'm going to remember them, shame, despair, terror, rage, and grief. Yes, I did it. Those five. Now, you might say to your friend, I'm so bummed out, nothing's going my way, but you wouldn't say, I am stricken with grief. You might say, I'm so pissed off. That I didn't get a promotion, yeah. Yeah, I'm so pissed off.

That should have gone my way. You're not going to say, I'm so enraged, I can't even breathe. These things are less convenient to think about. So most of them, as we discussed earlier, get repressed out of necessity. It's normal. Every person, every healthy person, they get stricken with long COVID, every person who's 19 and happy in college whose back goes out. And so the nervous system is paying attention to, are we safe or are we not? It's, is there a predator or is there not?

Which is why there's not some big buildup to this. It's really more of the reservoir reaches the maximum capacity, and it starts to spill over. And it starts knocking on the door of consciousness, because a lot of these repressed emotions are rather unconscious. You get like a tip of the iceberg, but you don't know fully how you feel about it. And it starts threatening to inform your conscious mind of how scared or stuck or hopeless or whatever, ashamed or enraged you feel. Then what happens? the nervous system sense as a predator because you can't feel your rage. If you're a man, that's dangerous. You're going to get tagged with anger issues. You're going to be seen as someone

who's not safe to be around. Toxic masculinity. Right? And then if you're a woman, it's you're shrill, you're hysterical. Our society does not allow for normal, healthy anger. And so what happens is when your nervous system senses that there's too much of that and you might be too consciously aware in order to control yourself, whether it be to cry in public or to get enraged at someone or to sink into your shame so much that you can't even do what you need to do, it's going to look for somewhere to protect you. I have a good friend who was sexually assaulted when she was in high school at a college program. And it was a very serious thing that she, as many young people do, blew off. She didn't want to talk about it. Maybe she told one.

friend. This was in like the 80s or 90s. So now cut to, she's in her 30s or 40s, and she gets invited to a rape crisis center gala. And it is a great cause. And she is supportive of her friend who is chairing this committee. And she says yes, and she buys her ticket. And on the day of the gala, never having any health problems, she gets a migraine that is so significant. She's vomiting and she cannot leave her bathroom. So of course, she can't go with regrets. She communicates that she can't go. And then she started getting chronic migraines after that. She started to understand that there was like a toxicity in her for the level of repression of this event. Well, when you say toxicity, what are we talking about? Because it's not an actual

toxin in your bloodstream or something like that because that's buzzword. Correct. Sorry. You want to avoid, right? I don't want to cause any confusion. There was an emotional toxicity, meaning there was a buildup of a conscious understanding that she couldn't let this thing lie anymore and she didn't want to. And so she kept trying to press it down. The nervous system goes into fight or flight and says, you're not safe at that gala. This person was having 15 migraines a month. She was pretty much completely debilitated.

She had tried everything. And when I met her, she was on injectable medications, rescue medications, had you. tried the Botox, diet changes, supplements. I started to help her understand back when I was doing clinical work, meaning one-on-one work. And she started to be able to talk about it. She started to be able to journal speak about it, which we'll talk about in a moment, which is the tool I created so people can do this stuff on their own. Little by slowly, but doesn't happen overnight. The nervous system starts understanding in case-by-case moments. She's safe. Why? Because when repressed emotions are not seen, heard, and felt, the nervous system has no choice but to see them

as a predator. Because why would the human run from something that was safe? No, if you're running from it, we are going to come in. This is your support system. We're going to protect you. We're going to keep you away. You start feeling things. You start looking at them. It's not that your pain is emotional and it's not that your pain is psychological. There is a neurological process that's causing the pain, but in order to write that ship, you have to teach your nervous system that you are safe to feel. So I walk her through this work. Now it's going on four years. She hasn't had a migraine. Now, you could say I'm the preacher at the front of the room that's putting my hands on someone, but I'm not doing anything. I'm teaching you to heal yourself. And while your emotional

reservoir is apparently one passive aggressive text away from becoming a medical event, here's a couple sponsors. Also, our newsletter, We BitWisers, just waiting for you. The idea is to give you something specific and practical that'll have an immediate impact on your decisions, psychology, and or relationships in an under two-minute read just about every Wednesday. Jordan Harbinger.com slash news is where you can find it. Now for the rest of my conversation with Nicole Sacks.

So let's talk about it. We don't have to get super in the weeds on the how-to with the journal stuff because we have other podcasts about it and it's in the book. There's a million through resources. Yeah, I don't want to spend like 20 minutes on journaling, but I would love to hear about journal speak because why would somebody write if they're angry at their spouse, but they won't admit it. I have questions about this. And also, it sounds too easy. So I want you to puncture that idea, poke holes in that idea. In my book, I tell this whole thing and on many interviews. So if anyone's interested in the whole shebang, you will find it.

But essentially, my story is in two chapters. I first learned about Dr. Sarno's work. I believed it. I didn't really do anything about it. I think I just skimmed one of his earlier books, which is called Healing Back Pain, which is when he first laid out all his theories. I don't know that there's anything to do about it except for understand what's going on in my system. I understood. That was when I was in grad school. I believe I'm fine. I don't need to worry about my spondylolis thesis. I believe Dr. Sarno, and I had two children, like I said, exercise till the day they were born. My son Oliver is now 21. He was 10 months old, and he's toddling around our deck at the time.

and you know this well, you turn around and you're like, if I turn around one more time, this kid could hurt himself. There were like two steps from the deck to the driveway, and I don't want him to like toddle over them. He was in a like a baby walker. So I take the walker and I pick it up and I start going down these two steps to just put it onto the driveway where he's going to be safe. And it feels like a hot knife is being dragged through my back. It was an electric pain. It was, I thought I was going to throw up. It was the most intense pain I've ever experienced in my life, including 19, including anything. So I can't straighten up.

I call out to my friend in the yard and I'm like, something bad really happened. Like, I can't even speak. I like hobble into my house and this begins the worst year of my life. This was back in the full medical model. I take the Dr. Sarno and it's in the garbage. I'm like, A, I'm in a pain spiral that is intense. B, I'm in a shame spiral because look who fucked the whole thing up. me. I should have listened. I was dumb. I was irresponsible. I was full of hubris, whatever it was.

So now I'm spending a year, three days a week in physical therapy, electric stem treatments on my back. I'm taking opioids. I'm taking muscle relaxers. I'm taking steroids when I need them. Oh man. You're on the full. Yeah. You're on. Okay? So I have been there. So I speak from experience. And so my life goes on. I struggle with my two kids. I had two young children. And we reached, a moment that will be my good thing, bad thing, who knows moment, where I'm in a deli and I'm looking to pay and get my kids out of there at the diaper bag over my shoulder. I have two toddlers. And they are at the impulse bysection at the deli where like the chocolate covered pretzels and the gummy bears. My children were very spirited. Let's say that in a very nice way.

Rats. Impossible. No, they really were enthusiastic for life. And honestly, look at me. How can I blame them. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. So I'm trying to pay. I've got my two kids by their wrists and I start walking to the car and I'm in an active parking lot. So there's cars whizzing by. I've got my two toddlers. I don't have a stroller and I get to my car and my back is locking up. Pain is growing. The tension is growing as I'm getting to the car and I get to the car and I cannot get my children in the car. So now I've got two wrists with these two toddlers. I'm literally in abject terror but still somehow oddly embarrassed enough that I'm not going to like scream out to a stranger to help me.

Like it takes a lot. Sure. It takes a lot to go there. And so what happened was, and this is all to the letter true, I remember it like it was yesterday, I just leaned my forehead on the driver's side window of my car. And I just wept. I just cried for my broken life and my shameful failings and my poor children that now we're going to have to be raised by this debilitated parent. It was like a very intense moment. I do not know how long I stood there.

I don't remember how my kids just went limp probably. Like when the kid looks at the parent and they're like, this is not the time to misbehave. This is the origin of their back pain. Actually, that's another story about how this has affected their lives in such an amazing way. But I finally get them in the car. Don't really remember how. I get them home. Somehow I get them to bed.

And I sat. This is the closest thing I would say to a spiritual awakening, a spiritual moment. I look out of my window and I just see the world. The stars and the trees is a beautiful evening and I surrendered. I thought, I don't know. It is this moment that I wish for every single person listening where you have a moment where you struggle against something and you struggle and you try so genuinely and you get to the point where whatever you're trying doesn't work and instead of saying, I'm angry,

I'm closed, I'm broken, you open your hands and you say, I don't know, I don't know what to do. And Dr. Sarno popped into my head and I thought, I don't know if this is bullshit or not, but I need to see for myself as human beings we most often do. So at the time, he's long past, but at the time he was in his probably late 70s and he was an attending physician for 50 years at the Rusk Center for Rehabilitation at NYU Medical Center. So I drive into the city. I was living in New York at the time. I'm from New York. And I go see him in person. and he explains to me what I'm explaining to you

whatever way he was explaining it at the time and then he said something that literally almost made me laugh out loud he said the best way to get into this emotional reservoir and to stop your nervous system from being in fight or flight is to journal and I'm like all right buddy sure pal all right I can't lift my children I had trouble walking into your office today I am basically almost ready to go on disability tell your diary yeah freaking kidding me and so I I'm a very polite person, which is probably half the problem, but I did not say that to him, but I thought it.

And what I thought, as he's giving me these instructions of just make these lists of like childhood and daily life and personality and journal about them, I'm thinking, A, this sounds like the biggest load of crap I've ever heard, but B, okay, I have nothing. There is no medication that's taking this away. even back surgery. So I was told that spinal fusion surgery was the recommended surgery at the time. I said, okay, will it eliminate my pain? And that's where the surgeons get like a little like shifty because they want to help you. And this is the tool that they have. Not one surgeon. And I went for three different opinions told me that would get rid of my pain. They said it'll fuse your spine. And the hope is that it will get rid of your pain. Eventually the pain goes away. Yeah. And I was like, okay, so you're saying decreased mobility for life in a serious surgery. invasive surgery, and there is no guarantee or even, like, even an optimistic pain cessation. Okay, so I'm like... That's like getting a vasectomy where they go, hey, you know what? Sometimes you're just going to have a kid. Or like most of the time.

Yeah, it just doesn't even do anything, but I'm still cutting your penis open. Exactly. Oh, your scrotum. No, thank you. No, thank you. I don't have scrotum, but no thank you for me as well. So the point is that here I am in the situation. He's saying this thing about the journaling, and I'm like, fine.

Okay. Cut to, I get a legal pad, okay, it's 19, whatever, is actually at this point, 2002. And I am writing, I'm journaling. And I'm picking like categories and it feels like a whole lot of nothing. I'm like playing my tapes. Woe is me, my parents divorce. Woe is me, bankruptcy. Like all the things that happened to my childhood.

And I'm like, yeah, okay, I know this stuff. So I look at the topic that I had written down, motherhood. And I'm like, okay, let's go. So I'm journaling about motherhood. And I'm journaling about like I had two kids under two. So like at the time it was like two kids in cribs, two kids in diapers. This is not what I planned for. And then my ex-husband who I love, who is one of my best friends.

But at the time, I was like he's working all the time and I feel alone all the time, all the stuff. And I had a moment, let's call it the next spiritual awakening, where a voice came into my head, your own best thinking. And it said, you're lying. And I was like, I'm not lying. I do have two kids under two. What are you talking about? But this voice was saying to me, my intuition was saying, this is not the shit that is keeping you in such fight or flight

that you are having like debilitating pain. My feeling is most suffering in life comes from making a decision and not coming into full alignment with it. Make a decision, but then like you're like, I don't know if I should do this or not. So you're always anxious. So I was like, I'm making this decision. I paid money to go see this doctor.

He didn't take insurance. I'm like, I am doing this. Let's freaking go, right? let's do it. So I start writing and it's like you're lying and I'm like, then what is it? And I literally started writing on the page and I use all my words. And so I'm not going to sit and swear like a sailor, even though I probably already have in this podcast, but what the F? What is this? What is it? And I started feeling myself getting a little angry, which is interesting because my father was a very angry person and a rageaholic. You would not know when he was going to go off. It was very unpredictable.

And so like when Dr. Sarno said, you probably have some rage. I could. go, oh, no, no, you don't understand. I don't get angry. That was my childhood. I don't do that. And I really was not in touch with feeling angry at all. So I'm feeling this feeling arise. And I wrote down what I call the first line of journal speak ever penned, because journal speak is not journaling, which I'll explain. And that was, I hate being a mother and I hate my children. Oh, man. That's harsh. And you have to realize this is not 2026. There was no internet. Not really. You can't ask Chad GPT if this is a normal set of feelings. No, nor was Facebook or Instagram or anyone telling, or even a blog.

There was no one telling the truth ubiquitously about anything. And so I write this down and I kind of look at it on the page and this is where I really will tell you I was brave and I invite everyone to be brave and I just started going. And I was like, I hate this. I'm failing it. I'm terrible. I thought I was going to love it. I was wrong. And all these things are coming.

And then it turned into F my parents. Screw those people. They made terrible choices. And their choices led me to be this and this. So now I'm going off on my parents. And pretty soon, that Clegglite turned and it was on me. Self-loathing, self-loathing. You're a failure, like really going out myself.

You can't enjoy being a parent. Like every moron in the world is a parent. What's wrong with you? Blah, blah, blah. Then something happened, Jordan, and I will tell you, it is like a very important moment that I want everyone to know is in, each one of us in some fashion. I'm venting. I'm saying all the things. I am completely unabashed. And I had this realization and I connect deeply. There was a moment. It must have been when I was around

11 or 12 where I was in a very bad place. My parents were just a misery and we were just really financially unstable. We had moved several times. I felt very alone. And I remember laying in my bed. I put such a complete memory I never would have come up with. And I made a sacred, quiet promise to myself, which is at 11, one day you're going to get out from under these people. One day you will be in charge of your own life and one day you will be a mother and it is going to be magical and it is going to be glorious and you are going to be Mother Earth and your children are going to look to you with such love because you're going to do it right and you are going to heal the wounds of this childhood by doing that right. And that is something you could have had my hand on a Bible and a gun to

my head. I would not have known that was something that was in there. And I felt such a wash of compassion for myself. No wonder you think you're failing. Two toddlers are not the recipe for joy, happiness, and healing the wounds of your childhood. But I had this very young part of me that was holding on to that. So every day that it didn't feel like a total celebration or that I felt like I didn't understand what to do right, it was compounding that betrayal of my younger self. Okay?

This might sound very deep, but it was huge. And I just started feeling, wait a second, I don't hate my children, I don't hate being a parent. I kind of didn't even feel that resentful of my parents anymore. It was like, I get it. I just get it what's going on. Now, this is just one topic. I wake up the next morning, and my back pain was 80% gone, never to return.

I called Dr. Sarno, and I said, you're never going to believe it. And he goes, try me. And I told him, and he said, just keep going. And I started journal speaking. Now 23 years, I've not had a day of back pain. Same spine, third child, all the exercise. And this is what I help people do. So woo-woo compared to what I have normally on the show.

Some people are like whatever and turning this off, like reaching for the dial. Tell me how it's woo-woo though. If it's your nervous system is no longer in fight or flight because you're no longer repressing something. Okay, it's not woo-woo. It will push back. But it sounds woo-woo compared to what I used to. Just because people are going to say, yeah, right, you just journal some stuff.

You vent about your negative feelings. And then the pain goes away. So what's the difference between this and just venting in a diary? It's not really that different. journal speak practice is you do 20 minutes of journal speak and then you throw it away. It's like blowing your nose into a tissue. You are not here to look at it again. Flush it. Okay? You're getting something out that needs to get out to clear space to live with a mind-body alignment. And then how do you know you're not just reinforcing negative thoughts by writing them and journaling them? How come you're getting rid of them instead of just reinforcing them?

What I will tell you, though, is when you align with the process and you lock into it, what ends up happening is you start coming to these kind of realizations where things start to release. Haven't you ever had a really healing conversation with someone, let's say? And afterward, like, you had been stressed about it and, like, miserable about it for however long. And then you, like, really finally, I will never beg anyone to believe me. But if you think this is woo-woo, slow down and just take a look at what I put out there. Because if you understand that there is straight up neuroscience that is now, there are two studies that just came out of Harvard. one on back pain and one on long COVID, both of which statistically significant beyond any shadow

of a doubt that doing this work is eliminating people's symptoms. Send me those. I'll put them in the show notes because people are going to be like, I want to read that. I'm desperate for people to read them. I don't want anybody to, A, just dismiss this because this could save their lives, truly. And two, it is simply neuroscience. If you believe that a stressful day can give you a headache and if you believe that being super anxious can make you throw up, you must believe that doing journal speak and getting to the things

that have been causing you to be in a heightened state of fight or flight will stop your chronic symptoms of inflammation, muscle, constriction, spasm, and neuropathy from stop firing. You have to. It is the same exact thing, which is why I really love when people are skeptics, because I want to tell you, ignore this at your peril. This is neuroscience, and it is the way the human body has to function in order to not be eaten by a predator. So this is like structured emotional journey. You have a methodology for this so that people can grab. Is it just sort of raw, unfiltered expression? Is that kind of the

idea behind it? So yeah. So the idea behind it. And as you said, we don't have to delve so deep into it because I have so many resources. And it really is important for people to understand how to do it. And I want to say how to do it right because I don't want people to get caught up in perfectionism, but how to do it effectively so that it's getting to where you need to go. but there are really three facets of my work. One is education, knowledge, and believe, meaning if you're sitting here saying, if you're the guy on Reddit saying that this is all bullshit, I'm pseudoscience and I'm a cult leader, that's a bar to any sort of progress because all you are is just stuck in your certainty that you're right or that this is bullshit. So that's one thing.

So the first thing I seek is my prescription is knowledge. Let me just explain to you. Even if you read or you listen to the podcast and you're like, okay, that's crap, that's fine. But at least learn, because that's the first umbrella. The second is do the work, which is a structured journal speak practice, simply cause and effect. You're putting a ladle in the reservoir once a day. What do you have to lose? You're doing an unbridled rant. You're throwing it away.

You're sitting, I like to say, 10 minutes of meditation of any sort. It could be walking meditation with your face in the sun. It could be breathing. It could be guided. It could be quiet. It doesn't matter. Build a bridge between this kind of ranty thing you have to do and going back into your kitchen where your kids are, where your partner is, I have never felt such love or compassion for my

children, my partner, my friends than when I have to journal speak about them because it's just almost nothing is about the other person. Everything is about us. Everything is about like what is getting your goat for whatever reason? And so it does not ruin your relationships. It doesn't call in bad things. It's literally like blowing your nose in a tissue. It's getting the gunk out. It's like as if there was static in your life. Okay. And there's a wall of static. And I can see you clear as day right now, but let's say there was a wall of static in front of us and I couldn't see you. It's like clearing away the static. It helps you align and see your life more clearly. The third leg of the stool is self-compassion. And I only want to say that

because people think self-compassion is bullshit and unnecessary. I am one of you. I used to think that who even, first of all, knows what self-compassion is. And second of all, who cares? And I have learned that doing any healing work, I don't care what you're doing. If you want to feel better than you are without understanding the difference between the way you talk to yourself and the way you talk to other people that you love is like bailing out a boat with a hole in the bottom. Do you want to continue having to face the rise of a reservoir? Because you're always saying, oh, you're failing again, you piece of shit. Like, this is the way we all talk to ourselves. So that's the third leg of the stool. What is the biggest mistake people make when they try this kind of

thing? Where do people usually drop the ball? I honestly, it's a great question and it's a very reasonable question, but I don't really think it's so much that people make mistakes when trying this. I think people don't fully understand what it is I'm teaching. And so they try it lightly the way they'd try anything. And then like, yeah, that didn't work for me. And what I really want for everybody is that you give yourself the chance to allow your body to be your proof. Because another thing when you say, oh, people are going to turn this off and say it's bullshit before you do. They won't turn it off. They'll listen to the whole thing and then they'll write me something. Which, you know what? Fine. I'm fine with it.

I know about that. But what I will say is, if that's what you're feeling compelled to do, I invite you to come over and listen to one, two, five million episodes of my podcast. I started this podcast and I'm like, I could teach. I teach retreats. I teach all the time. And that's good. But I really want you to hear from other people.

That's why the last part of every chapter of my book is a person's story in their own words. That's why I have hundreds of episodes. None of these people, pretty much I've ever met. These are people from all over the world who are so much better that it's like what's the use of being hateful and skeptical when this could be your life? This is your life. You could believe if you're Hindu and you believe we come back here over and over again, fantastic. Hope it's true. But this is your one life to be Jordan, to be Nicole.

You sometimes come back as a squirrel or something. that's part of it. I mean, maybe it's super fun to be a squirrel. But the point is, no matter what, this is your life, what's it worth? Is it worth maybe a little bit of curiosity that leads you to maybe read one of the science studies, that maybe leads you to read mind your body, my book, or come listen to the podcast and say, oh, wait, that sounds a lot like me. I thought this was BS, but I'm listening to this person talk about their long COVID or their

back pain or their IBS or their pelvic pain. And I'm just relating to something here. And then they explain how they use this work to literally be completely well and thriving in life. Isn't it worth just being curious? Where does this not work? Who should not try this? Where is it inappropriately applied? There are a few places where I would say just to use caution.

The first is if you have extreme capital T trauma. And it doesn't mean that this can't work for you. It just means I would really suggest doing this with support. A therapist going situation? A therapist board. If you wanted to like, let's say like we have this whole team of coaches that is certified in our work and teaches people and brings them through one-on-one. That's an option.

Or you could do it in community. Like we have a global community and we meet online all over the world. Thank you COVID for making us all get on Zoom. And there's that. I've worked with people with such extreme trauma that are completely symptom-free. So it is not, oh, and this is another thing. This is not a cure for human pain. I have pain all the time.

I get headaches. I get stomach aches. I'll get a day where... What do you mean human pain? There's no cure for human pain and there's no cure for the human condition. But there's a cure for chronic pain because chronic pain is an epidemic

of nervous system dysregulation, fear and meaning. So we're talking about the acute pain. Right. Like some people have made fun of me like, okay, Nicole, if I drop a hammer on my foot, should I go grab my journal? And I'm like, no.

So when I say people are healing and they have no symptoms, I don't mean they never feel pain again. I mean they don't have chronic migraine. I mean, they're not on injectables. I mean, they're not having their third or fourth back surgery. You know what I mean? Like, I look at a guy like Tiger Woods, and I think to myself, I wish I got my hands on him

15 years ago because the guy just continues to get more surgeries and that, of course, has an opioid problem and continues to crash his car. And I feel a ton of compassion for him. I feel bad because he's such a genius athlete. But we work with a ton of professional athletes. We work with people in the NBA. Michael Porter, Jr., who has been interviewed on my podcast. I've been interviewed on his, had three back surgeries.

He was the number one draft pick when he was 17 number one player in the country and was almost completely sidelined. And he found me and he's like, I give up, I've done it all. He has the best care that money can buy. P.E.T. He was on the Denver Nuggets. Now he's on the Nets. He has done the work with me and he has now not missed a game for his back because, you know, back was his problem for like, I guess it was two and a half years.

So what about people who say like, okay, great, you found a way to trigger the placebo effect with a journal? It's interesting the concept of the placebo effect. I think the placebo effect has a negative connotation similar to the word psychosomatic. Yeah, people will go, how dare you? But honestly, the placebo is one of those well-documented medical concepts in the world. And if it works, then that's awesome. And as is the nocebo effect. Yeah. Which is the opposite of placebo, meaning that bad things happen because you're terrified that they will or that you're convinced of bad outcomes. So here's what I'll say about the placebo effect. The placebo effect is present. upon the fact that you do something that you believe is helping you, which if we go to the

neuroscience, it's because your nervous system has regulated. You're convinced that it's a bush, not a predator. So that's why you are feeling better in whatever way, like when people get a sugar pill instead of the pill that they think is going to help them, but they believe they got the real pill. What if those effects that are very real, and like you said, widely documented, is a sustainable, actionable way of living that you are able to do yourself by believing and understanding the work, doing the journal speak, getting the reservoir out, and operating with self-compassion. What if this is a permanent placebo effect? Because going to the gym or eating healthily, you have to keep up with it. It's not something you have to do every single day,

but anything that requires maintenance in your body, you have to do. But it's in your power. That's why I say you have so much more power than you realize to affect your physical and emotional health because the expert is you. What's going on is an inside job. And I know that I am probably never going to be talking at a big pharma convention or anything for like the surgeons of the world. However, I do believe, and especially in the day and age that we are, that real societal change is going to come from millions of people who decide individually, I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired. I'm sick and tired of being either at the whim of what I'm being told by big different models in our society, pharma or medicine, or I'm just sick of being at the will of my own bullshit. Oh, I hear something on this show and it has to be crap, so I'm going to go over and

diss it on Reddit. What if your life could be different? That's all I want. I want people to understand the what if because I have nothing to gain whether or not you do this. I will never know whether or not you do this, but it has changed my life so profoundly and in thousands and thousands of people I've worked with that it's like, why not try? That's what I have to say. Nicole Sachs, thank you for coming in and introducing us to your cult this morning. And you're very welcome and I don't have a cult. Yet. Thank you.

Thank you. What if the next 20 years bring more change than the last 200 and we're not remotely ready for it? Jamie Metzell joins me to unpack the most. mind-blowing collision of AI, biotech and genetics that's already reshaping what it means to be human. If you look at all of the scientific progress of the last hundred years, and you compare that to the hundred years before that, and a hundred years before that, we see this rapid acceleration. Because these systems are so complex, we need a language. And understanding the language of biology, which already exists, for us to understand it, we need these capabilities.

And AI with all these other technologies will be that. And as we as humans and as our machines learn more about how to learn, more learning becomes possible. Acceleration begets acceleration. If we think this is a conversation about technology, we're going to get lost. This is a conversation about humanity, and it's a conversation about values. It's about who are we as we guide these revolutions. But humans have co-evolved with our technologies for thousands of years and more likely tens of thousands of years.

So it's not us versus our technology. Our technology is us. And the question is, what's the best way for us to co-evolve in a healthy, sustainable way? But we need to know what we're trying to achieve. Every single person has a role in deciding how these technologies are used or not used as individuals and as a community, and that needs to guide us going forward.

This is about all of our future. To hear more about the breakthroughs coming faster than we can comprehend and why we urgently need to figure out how to steer the ship, check out episode 1014 of the Jordan Harbinger Show. Big thanks to Nicole for coming on the show today. I really appreciated how this conversation walked the line between hope and skepticism, because nobody wants to hear your pain is in your head.

That is dismissive. It's lazy. the kind of thing that makes people want to throw a foam roller through a window, but how about your brain and nervous system may be generating real symptoms as a protective response? Now, that's a very different conversation. The big takeaway here is not ignore your doctor or journal instead of getting checked out. Please don't turn this episode into a malpractice speed run. The takeaway is that the body and the brain are not separate departments with different HR portals. Emotional stress, trauma, fear, and suppression can absolutely show up physically even when we don't consciously feel

them. And if you've been stuck, normal tests, no clear answers, doing all the right health stuff, and still feeling like your body's staging a coup, this might be another lens worth exploring. Nicole's core idea is that pain can be a signal, not an enemy. Sometimes it's structural, sometimes it's protective, sometimes your nervous system is just an overpaid mall cop, pepper-spraying shadows. As always, the goal is not blind belief. It's curiosity, discernment, and doing the work without outsourcing your brain to either the medical system or the wellness industrial crystal circus. All things Nicole Sacks will be in the show notes on the website, advertisers, deals, discount

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