The Jordan Harbinger Show - 629: Getting Your Foot In The Door | Deep Dive

Episode Date: February 24, 2022

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabe (@GabeMizrahi) take a deep dive into what you should do if you're looking for a new job or relationship and you want to know how to get your foot in the door -- while avoiding the mistakes that are liable to get that door slammed in your face. What We Discuss: How to make sure you're aligning the job you want to do with the employer who needs you to do it -- without wasting everyone's time in the process. Why you should use Ramit Sethi's Briefcase Technique to anticipate what someone needs before you meet, and up the stakes when it comes time to negotiate terms. The best resources to use and questions to ask yourself when you're doing research on someone in anticipation of a meeting. A cold email script you can adapt for your purposes to maximize the chance of landing that crucial meeting. How to create a relationship that will generate business for years to come even if your pitch doesn't close at the first meeting. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/629 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss our interview with entrepreneur, venture capitalist, and Kernel founder and CEO Bryan Johnson? Catch up with episode 223: Bryan Johnson | A Plan for the Future of the Human Race here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Take your business to a whole new level. Switch to Shopify. Start your free trial today. Welcome to the show. I'm Jordan Harbinger. On the Jordan Harbinger show, we decode the stories, secrets and skills are the world's most fascinating people. We have in-depth conversations with people at the top of their game, astronauts, entrepreneurs, spies and psychologists, even the occasional national security advisor money laundering expert or economic hitman.

And each episode turns our guest's wisdom into practical advice that you can use to build a deeper understanding of how the world works and become a better critical thinker. If you're new to the show or you want to tell your friends about it, we've got episode. starter packs. Those are collections of top episodes organized by topic to help new listeners get a taste of everything we do here on the show. Just visit jordanharbinger.com slash start to get started or to help somebody else get started. Today instead of an interview, we're doing a deep dive. I'm here with Gabriel Mizrahi. We're talking about how to get your foot in the door, whether we're talking about getting a career started or working with a creator especially. I'm going to be talking about this from my perspective. And Gabe, I know you get this too, but every week I get at least a couple emails from

strangers asking me for some form of a job, whether it's an actual job or an internship. They want me to be their mentor, whatever that might mean. Usually they're all offered to run my social media, write a guest post for the blog, or my favorite, help out with whatever you need, bro. That's my favorite vague value proposition. That's a common one. Yeah. This one time, a 23-year-old dude offered to respond to all my hate mail as if I have it all saved neatly in a folder. That is a big job, to be fair. Look, that's not a one-man job, first of all. But I told them I didn't need any help with that. Well, I don't want to say it's kind of fun because nobody likes getting a bad letter, but if I get a nasty one, I usually will just archive it. I'm not sitting there like, how do I craft a good response to this?

You don't want to feed the trolls. And look, on some level, I actually respect these emails, not the hate mail, to be clear, but the people asking me for work. I never even had the guts when I was younger to write to a stranger and ask for a job. I just didn't even think about doing it. And if I did think about doing it, I wouldn't have the guts to do it. So I do love that people are willing to create a role for themselves. And I appreciate that people are even trying to be generous when they're first starting out instead of rolling out of college and being like, where my six figure at, like half the people in my class, especially from law school. But I'm in year 15 of hosting this show. And I haven't taken more than, I would say, just a tiny handful of people up on this offer and zero of them in the last half decade or more,

not because they weren't nice, Gabriel, not because they didn't have useful skills. I'm sure many of them did. And not even because I was too busy to respond or manage them. You know, I didn't hire them because what they were offering was not something I actually needed or they didn't even know what they were offering other than like a warm body with a pulse that could type. and in almost every case, when I tried to tell them what I actually did need, they'd invariably respond with some version of, cool, I get that you need someone to help with back-end support right now, but you know, I'm really more interested in building your Instagram following.

Or I don't even know what I want that I'm going to trust to somebody that I'm going to hire out of the blue, right? A lot of stuff that I want to outsource, it's like, I need you to help manage thing that I would never trust a stranger with. The only person I trust to do a lot of this stuff around here is somebody that's been with me for half, a decade. And even then, like, you know, Gabe, I love you, but y'all don't have financial logins for the company. Yet. Not yet. You're working on it. I know, right? If I click run on the spyware you email me that looks like a chain letter. My 10-year plan is unfolding beautifully. Yes, so far, so good. I understand that people want to run my Instagram following, but what I might have needed is back-end support.

Don't write me and ask to do back-end support. We don't need any right now anyway. It's just an example. But then they'll come back with something like, well, that's not really what I'm aiming at. It's like, okay, so you just want me to hire for some crap that you want to do. That's it. Right. They're thinking about themselves. Right. They're not trying to figure out what you actually feel as a priority. A hundred percent. And this is why they fail to get their foot in the door. Because these creative job seekers, they've got it all backwards. As you said, focused on what they want to do. It's all about their own interests. It's less about my need. And when it is about my need, it's so dang vague that I have to do so much management and heavy lifting that I might as well

just do it myself. So instead of getting curious about what's, somebody else really needs and seeing where that might line up with their interests. It's just, I've got a preconceived notion of what I want to do. I'm going to do it for you for free. Take it or leave it, punk. And I'm like, I don't respond to that. Okay. So, Gabe, let's talk about value and needs. It's really easy for people to stand up there and be like, give value. And me and Ramit Satie, we talk about this, because all these like internet guru guys are like, be valuable. And it's like, cool, what does that mean? And they're like, catch you on the next edition of my paid training seminar and it's like, okay, that was not helpful at all. When a candidate applies to a traditional

job posting, you know, like the ones on LinkedIn or Monster.com, if that even still exists, when a company lays out exactly what it needs and what the job entails, let's say it's on ziprecruiter.com slash Jordan, for example. They're applying for a role that explicitly requires their skills. Obviously, it speaks to their interests, okay? And the employer puts out a job description that explains what they need and the candidate explains why those needs line up with what they can offer. That's how you apply to a normal job. You don't have to rewind that even if you missed it because you know how to apply to a normal stinking job if you're an adult. You wouldn't apply to an IT position and be like, I'm willing to write press releases.

You wouldn't insist on doing a Salesforce implementation for a cement company that needs drivers. Right. So the exchange of value is very clear and obvious with traditional jobs. A company needs X. Candidate can provide X. They're a good batch. If I need a bookkeeper, it's not going to be hard for me to find something. literally look for bookkeepers, they all do the same thing, give or take, various levels of service.

But for some reason, and I'm starting to just wrap my head around this a decade and a half in, so you're rolling with me here. But for some reason, when people try to create a role for themselves, they often tend to forget this basic exchange. They look at what they want to do, which makes sense, you're a creative, you're a creator, and then they try and push those services on anybody who will friggin reply to an email, which, again, like I said, not the worst idea in the world, as long as there's somebody who actually needs those services, sometimes that approach does work. Sometimes people really do want to grow their Instagram. But usually, because the service in question is so broad, like I said, everyone needs a bookkeeper at some point. It's not crazy to pitch your

accounting skills to every company you like. Every company needs accounting, pretty much. But more often than not, I meet these really awesome go-getter hustler kids or young adults who basically say, this is what I do, do you want it. And that's why in the creative sphere, those people rarely succeed. They want to get that foot in the door, but they don't take the time to study what would actually open the freaking door in the first place, or how the door works, which way it swings open, which feet it wants to let through in the first place, right? The velvet rope, if you will. So knowing the value you can provide, it's just not enough to create a great role for yourself. You really have to understand what the other person needs, and that comes first.

This is the simple thing that a lot of creative job seekers don't get. They've got the ambition. They don't have the job-related EQ to consider what the employer actually wants slash needs. And they don't understand that they have to make it about the other person before they can make it about themselves. And saying, I want to grow your Instagram following is making it about yourself, even though you're using the word you. That's why I think a lot of people get confused. Like, but I'm talking about your Instagram. No, no, no. It's still all about you and what you want to do. Oh, man, that is such a good point. And what's really interesting about what you're saying is that I know you're not just speaking practically here. I mean, look, obviously, it does help to know what an employer

needs before you pitch yourself because, yeah, avoid wasting everybody's time, right? You don't want to like offer Instagram services to a company that is a mom and pop bakery that doesn't need an Instagram presence. But there's something else important about figuring the other person out first, because when you take the time to understand what somebody actually needs before you try to pitch them on what you want, you're also signaling a lot of other stuff, a lot of other valuable qualities, right? For example, that you're curious about other people, that you're attuned to them, that you're respectful in the first place, right? That you take them seriously. Also, that you're approaching this relationship from a position of how can I help, how can I be of service, rather than from a position of,

I've thought a lot about what I want and I'm just trying to figure out somebody who will hand me cash so I can do more of that. Really, what you're saying is, I want to treat this as a relationship. I really care. All of those qualities make it way more likely that an employer is going to respond to you and trust you and ultimately be willing to hand you that money in exchange for your services. But that usually doesn't happen for people who only care about their own interests. But the big irony, of course, is that candidates would be serving their own interests much better if they just stopped focusing on them exclusively. Exactly. Yes. That is why it's so important to invest in other people with no immediate expectation of return or no attachment to getting

something in return. I talk about that way too much on the show. It's in six-minute networking. But this is why. If your goal is to build strong relationships, you have to be willing to find out what the other person needs, even if that is far different from what you hoped. You know, Gabe, this reminds me, Ryan Holiday, who y'all know I'm friends with, told me this story a long time ago. Initially, he got mentored, if you will, by Robert Green. They're still really close friends. I know Robert, I think through Ryan or vice versa. Robert Green, the author of 48 Laws of Power and Artist Seduction and all those great books. Yeah, mastery, laws of human nature.

Yeah, he's been on the show a bunch of times. One of the reasons that Ryan was able to work with Robert was not because Ryan emailed and said, I'm really talented and young and I want you to mentor me. I mean, I'm sure that's what was in his head, but it turned out that Robert Green was being, I think his Wikipedia page was being vandalized or something, and he couldn't figure out how to fix that.

And Ryan was like, I'm going to figure this out for you. So he went in, kind of did like a tutorial, which is not that easy on Wikipedia, especially, I don't know, 15 years ago, Wikipedia. and he managed to fix a bunch of the issues. And then Robert started to become available to Ryan Holiday. I don't have specifics of how they worked together after that, but I think Ryan got his attention and said,

look, I'm not like a stain on the bottom of your shoe like a lot of the other people that email. I solved this problem for you that you needed fixed and didn't sit there and argue about, yeah, I'll do that, but first read 300 pages of my writing and critique it. Right. You know, like he really did figure out what the problem was,

and the problem had nothing to do with writing. It was, why is my Wikipedia page, being vandalized by no nothing morons online. And the answer is because that's how Wikipedia works. But that's really the idea. Sometimes you have to do something that is different from what you hoped. And you may never get really what you wanted exactly, but you will still learn from that person. And it's far more important to be able to get access to somebody than it is to get the job that you think you want at that time. Yes, that is such a, I love that story. That's an amazing story. And actually, the other really funny thing about that story is that knowing how to manage the Wikipedia

craziness is probably a really helpful skill for somebody like Ryan Holiday now. Yeah. But he probably didn't know that it would become so handy when he was 20 years old trying to get a mentor. Of course. It's a really good story. Taking the time to figure out what somebody else needs first, that isn't just about being efficient. It isn't just about being respectful. At the end of the day, it's also about being effective, right? The person who can create that kind of value that Ryan Holiday story you just told is the person who creates a great relationship. And usually the relationship generates way more opportunities down the line than your limited narrow expectation of what you want out of that interaction. But to do that, again, you have to locate your own value within someone else's

need, not try to bend somebody else to your value. Yeah, that's a really great way to put it, Gabe. I know we keep coming back to that point, but it is so crucial. Like, it's so crucial that I think a lot of people, including me when I was younger and less aware of this stuff, most people, I would say, just overlook it. You almost have to consciously remind yourself of it over and over again. your side of the equation is right in front of you. Their side of the equation requires you to actually put yourself in their shoes in ways that you don't necessarily have the experience to do, so it's a lot of work. You're listening to The Jordan Harbinger Show.

This is our deep dive on getting your foot in the door. We'll be right back. Now, back to our deep dive on getting your foot in the door. So the next time you meet with a prospective employer or a client or a partner to discuss an opportunity, hit pause and switch your lens. So instead of asking yourself, how can I get this person to give me what I want? Ask yourself, how can I find out what they really need? So then, and only then, should you pitch your services?

And that's if you know that they're actually useful and relevant and you've built a foundation of trust. Now, you don't need the keys to their summer home or whatever, but they should know you more than like a guy who just DM'd them five minutes ago. All right. All that said, I want to talk about how to actually put this principle into action so this isn't some abstract self-help quiz you hear on a podcast one time and you forget five minutes later, which brings us to the briefcase technique. And before I go on, I have to give full credit for this

technique to Rameet Saiti. Good friend of mine, Rameet, if you don't know, he's a best-selling author. He's the founder of I Will Teach You to Be Rich, which is the title of his book as well. He's been on the show a bunch of times. Brilliant dude. If you're interested in learning more from him, I recommend checking out our interviews, Jordan Harbinger.com slash 199. and Jordan Harbinger slash 464. Really good stuff from him. So here's the crux of this approach. Asking an employer what they need

is a far more effective strategy than blindly pitching your services. But an even more powerful strategy is to anticipate those needs before you even meet. People who identify what somebody needs before they even talk to them tend to close deals, if you will,

or jobs at a much higher rate. They make it about the other person in advance, which automatically puts them farther down the field. This applies to job candidates, vendors, freelancers, artists, temp workers, anyone looking to carve out a role, or pitch themselves. So here's how the briefcase technique works in a nutshell. Let's imagine that you book a meeting with a prospective employer or a client, and that person has expressed interest in working with you.

The nature of your role isn't clear yet, but you know that they want to get to know you and your work better. Great. before you go to the meeting, you do your homework on the company, the team, the executive you're meeting with, you get a handle on their strengths and goals. This used to be so much harder before the internet was really a thing. Like, researching somebody at a company was next to impossible. You had to make call. Now there's no excuse. So you're getting a handle on their strengths and their goals. You do your due diligence on their weaknesses and challenges. And nobody

expects you to have an inside view of the company. Okay? You're just doing your best. Most importantly, you identify the gaps in their capabilities and resources. That way, by the time you're sitting across from them, you have a really solid grasp of their challenges, a clear point of view on how to solve them. When the conversation turns to your salary or your rate, you literally pause and go, actually, before we get to that,

let me show you something I put together. Then you reach into your briefcase, which you probably don't have because it's 2022, but you reach into your messenger bag or your man purse or your laptop case or whatever sort of non-80s equivalent of briefcase that you prefer, and on Zoom, and you literally pull out a brief proposal, probably a PowerPoint. This document slash PPX is not about your qualifications or your rate, which is what a lot of

proposals tend to be, by the way, it looks like an invoice with three sentences about what's going to happen. It's about the challenges you've found in this person's business and specifically how you would solve them. And these solutions, they should be laid out as a set of projects and tasks that you would take on. Like testing the company's website conversion, conducting interviews with customers, training staff on new technology, writing and testing new ad copy,

whatever services you can offer that meet their needs and how long it would take you to finish those projects. Somebody actually recently gave me a gift of email auto-responders that I should be using in six-minute networking. I didn't end up using them because they were a little too salesy,

but it's okay, wasn't their fault. person was literally trying to get a job as a copywriter and email sales funnel person for me. So if I were looking to do that, which I totally am not, they would have probably crushed it. But they did get right that I didn't have that in place. They just didn't know why. And the reason is I don't want it. Not I just couldn't figure out how to do it. So it was actually probably a good exercise and worth their time, especially if they were getting reps in writing sales copies. So that was like 80% there, right? But Ramit puts it this way. This document you're busting out, it should be the most compelling menu this person has ever freaking looked at, okay?

A list of the problems they know about and maybe even, ideally, even a few they don't. And a clear plan for how you will solve those problems. And at that point, you invite the other person to let you know which of your services they want the most. And when this is done right, okay, the last time this was done right to me, we were at a restaurant and I walked into the bathroom with my business partner at the time. and he stands next to me, we're going to the bathroom, and I go, I don't think we can afford to not hire this guy. And he goes, that's exactly what I was thinking.

Wow. And that's the reaction you want. And we hired this guy and he did a bang-up job. We came in going, we can't afford to hire it, but he's pushing for the meeting. We're going to another meeting in his area. Let's just let him get it off his chest. Then we don't have to do this meeting again

because he keeps bugging us. Then we just found money to hire him because we were so compelled. That is the reaction that you want. Yeah, that is so smart. I mean, what you're basically saying as a candidate is I've already taken the time to figure out what you need to get done and the person to do it is me. But not just because of what I'm offering, but because I'm offering it in this amazing way. Exactly. It's sort of an example of like the medium is the message a little bit. Like you're not just saying, here's what I can do,

here's why it's so valuable, but the fact that you're presenting it in such a thoughtful way and being so straightforward and helpful about it is already part of the pitch. This guy was also doing like this is years and years ago, but it was like old school webinar leads to opt-ins, leads to da-da-da-da sales. He didn't just tell us that where we would have gone, yeah, we'll do that one day. He busted out flowcharts. I remember these, among other things. And he's like, here's a couple sample emails I'd probably use. And, you know, we'll tailor them to fit your needs. We'll tailor them to your voice. And I was like, so this guy comes in with flow charts, the software he's going to use to manage the emails and sample emails. He's half done, more than half done.

Wow. So that is what blew us away. And it's kind of eerie. how well this works, right? That's why I love this technique. I've used it myself when pitching partners, sponsors. I've seen vendors and freelancers use it when pitching me, and I'm always surprised that people don't use it more often since it works so well, but I think the real reason is because it takes a lot of work. One of the reasons that the briefcase technique works so well is that it does embody the principle we've been talking about this whole episode, which is make it about the other person first. But it also pushes that idea a step further. It doesn't just consider the the person's needs, the other person's needs. It actually anticipates those needs, which as long as

you're anticipating correctly, that's music to any busy person's ears. Plus, it finds a way to fulfill those needs before you even set foot in the room or jump on the phone or Zoom or whatever format you're using. You're basically saying, I've taken the time, I've put in the effort to really understand where you're coming from, because that's the kind of vendor or intern or partner that I am. Now, let me meet you there in a way that also benefits me so we can create even more value and develop a great relationship. And that is exactly the message you want to send when you're trying to get your foot in the door.

All right. So now that you have the keys to the castle, let's talk about how to put them into practice. And what we're going to talk about next is how you bring the briefcase technique to life and actually create a job for yourself. Gabe, where do we even start with this? Well, the first step will not be much of a surprise. we've already been talking about it for a lot of this episode. It all starts with doing your homework. So as soon as you identify somebody you want to meet, whether it's for a job or a consulting

contract or a partnership or maybe just a general meeting to get to know somebody, build a relationship. The information you uncover when you do your homework, that's your calling card. It's your reason for reaching out in the first place. It's really your case for making the connection. And at this stage, I definitely recommend using every tool at your disposal. Like Jordan pointed out a moment ago, this was so much harder to do 10, 15, 20 years ago. Now it's like ridiculously easy. There's really no excuse. In addition to the obvious resources, Google, LinkedIn, sites like that, I recommend getting a little creative, a little scrappy. I'm about to show you how borderline creepy I get when I try to meet somebody I really want to connect with. But I would definitely dig through

the fourth, fifth, sixth, eighth pages of search results. Look for hidden gems in the person's life story, you know, like that weird article they published a decade ago about, I don't know, competitive ultimate Frisbee. I feel like that's a real example. I came across one day. I don't know where that came from. You know, people who publish blog posts about volunteer trips to interesting countries or people who have wedding announcements in a local newspaper. All of these things really add a lot of color. They tell you about a person, what their life situation is, stuff you could talk about, but it also might be stuff you don't talk about. It's just good for you to know. Here's a photo of you sleeping last week. I mean, I would lead with that personally, walking in

meeting. That's blown up to as big as you can fit in the briefcase. That's actually my briefcase technique. They asked me what I can do and I just slap down a photo taken in their bedroom of them. I think he's going to hurt us. Pay him. Pay him. Point is, do not settle for that surface level information that you get on the first page of search results or social media results. You know, college, hometown, work history, fine, great, but drill down to the specifics, right? The robotics prize that they won during undergrad. People are weirdly obsessed about robotics prizes for like years after that. win them. The interesting neighborhood they come from, the transcript of the talk they gave at that

interesting conference, whatever it is. These aren't just topics to bond over in the meeting. They're insights into somebody's personality. And that is super useful to know when you're going to pitch somebody on something you want them to buy. So go down the rabbit hole. Go down the rabbit hole of their personality. Go down the rabbit hole of their industry. Get a good grasp of the trends in their space, the challenges in their space. But another really great thing to do is also to study with their counterparts at other companies are doing. You know, people who have similar titles or in similar functions, check out their LinkedIn profiles, look at what they're posting about, what their initiatives are. You can learn a lot about the person you want to meet by studying their equivalent

at other places. All of that is so valuable. Do that in advance. Yeah, and look for, this is probably like networking 101, okay, but look for mutual connections on social media and consider reaching out to them to get more intel on the person you're meeting. I'm connected to a lot of show fans on LinkedIn, you might be one of them out there. And a lot of times I'll get a message like, oh, Jordan, do you know so-and-so? I'm really interested in this job at their company, and I'll say, oh, I'm sorry, I don't know them. And then I'll check my message history. And it turns out they're also a fan of the show. So I'll write back, look, I'd have never met them in my life, but they listen to the podcast. So you could use the show as a commonality. Like, hey, I saw that you know Jordan Harbinger.

Do you listen to his podcast? Yeah. Oh, what's your favorite episode? People have done this before to small talk their way in, which is great because I would like to think that listening to this podcast signals a great deal of intelligence. So I think it's a pretty good luck. But for real easy commonalities, most of the time you're not going to have a mutual connection to some rando podcaster, but those mutual connections do work. If you have a great relationship with any of the folks you reach out to, you might even ask them to put in a good word ahead of time. A lot of times it's like, oh, that's my college roommate. And I didn't know you were going to apply there. If you've never met the person you're writing to, a little bit tough to get vouched for,

but if you've known that person for a few months, this can put you at the top of the pile. Trust me, I do this all the time. Just one more benefit of having a great network. Sometimes doing this legwork is even an excuse to make a new connection. Oh, yeah, totally. I mean, that is a game changer, right? To have a warm introduction before you walk at a room, it can change the entire interaction. But if you can do that and prepare for this meeting as if you're a student of the person

you're going to meet, like you're treating them like the most fascinating subject in the world, then you will probably knock the meeting out of the park. And if you want to do that really well, then ask yourself a few questions, and these are questions that Jordan and I have asked ourselves before we try to meet with people. Questions like, when this person wakes up in the morning, what are they thinking about, right? What is exciting them? What is stressing them out? You know, what would make this person's day? Ideally, it's something that you're about to provide. Or what would ruin this person's day? Hopefully that's something you can offer as a solution. What should this person be thinking about today to plan ahead for, let's say, the next two years, the next three years. Do I know anybody who would be useful

for this person to meet? Have I learned anything in my homework that would be really helpful to share? These are the questions you want to be asking yourself. And if you answer those questions in depth, and I mean even take a few minutes to write down a few notes for every question before you go in there, you'll basically be writing your pitch as you go. You will have your notes, you will have your proposal in advance just by going through this exercise. And this is really the substance of the briefcase technique. Yes, but I do want to point out that even if you do all this prep, you still need to approach the person with curiosity and respect. And of course, most people will do this, but the last thing I want is some 22-year-old self-taught controversy marketer telling me that I need to be

on Clubhouse every night without figuring out why I am not on Clubhouse already or what benefit that would even have for my business. So many people did that, Gabriel. I'm picking on Clubhouse for a reason. They're like, it's disrupting podcasting. The rate this is growing, no one's going to even be listening to podcasts in like a year or two. Meanwhile, Clubhouse is down 98%. NBD, called it from the jump. This is the Jordan Harbinger show. This is a deep dive on getting your foot in the door. We'll be right back. By the way, you can now rate the show if you're listening on Spotify. This is a huge help. It makes the show more visible on Spotify. Just go to Jordan Harbinger.com slash Spotify or search for us in your Spotify app. Click the dots on the right to make it happen. And now for the rest of the deep dive on getting

your foot in the door. If you can deliver all of this intel to somebody with sensitivity, humility, self-awareness, yeah, you've almost certainly hit the right note. The next step, obviously, is to reach out and book the meeting. Once you've done your homework, then you're well positioned to reach out. Most people do the opposite. They book the meeting first, then they frantically try to do their homework if they even bother to do it at all.

But remember, we're approaching this whole exchange from the other person's point of view first. The beauty of doing all your homework is that it's... it also maximizes your chances of booking the meeting in the first place. I know the temptation is to wait until they've said yes, you're like, I'm not wasting my time researching somebody who's not even going to meet with me. I get that. But doing your homework, a cold email that's well researched or even a warm intro that's well researched, that clearly articulates why you want to speak with this person, that will generate a much stronger response. It will also set the ideal

tone for the meeting when it does happen. And if you want an example of a killer cold email template that uses this approach, I highly recommend checking out the article that we wrote on this topic. I actually adapted that template from cold emails that I've sent or received that worked well in the past. So you're literally getting a battle-tested piece of copy. We'll link to that in the show notes for the episode at Jordan Harbinger.com. Anyway, once the person you want to meet engages, then you've gotten a foot in the door. And after that, it's about taking you. the meeting and tailoring your pitch. Once you're actually in the meeting, your job is to build on the interest and rapport that

you've created so far. You're basically trying to dig deeper into what the other person needs so you can better tailor your proposal to them. This is where the briefcase technique will be your best friend. The best strategy at this point is to ask specific open-ended questions that elicit meaningful responses. Listen to what the other person is saying, locate the need or problem within their response, and incorporate it into your pitch or proposal.

Now, the list and things seems really obvious, but I will tell you, you can't locate a need or a problem within someone's response if you're just like, no, I've got my pitch ready. You have to incorporate these things into your pitch or your proposal, essentially in real time, right?

And then make sure that you're really appreciating what's most important for them before you talk about what's most useful for you. Staying focused on the other person's needs also means being flexible about your approach, as you might imagine. Don't be too rigid about the briefcase technique.

It's really just a starting point. You might walk into a meeting with an executive expecting to make a slam-dunk pitch to develop their sustainability program. But then you find out that what they need most is a community manager. And at that point, the last thing you want to do is then insist on running their environmental initiatives. Instead, keep listening, process what you're hearing, and adjust your pitch as needed. So honestly, you might even tweak your proposal on the fly to better reflect their needs.

don't treat what you've come up with previously as gospel. Use the document you created as a jumping off point. It's a tool. Use it to guide the conversation. I would literally scribble on it while you're having the meeting to show that you're not only really listening, but building what you're learning into what you are offering in the moment. That's harder to do over Zoom, right?

But if you're screen sharing, you could be typing notes on the PowerPoint with text. I would do that. And if you're doing this in person, use a pen and write on the proposal. Don't take notes on your phone. It's not... Oh, that is the worst.

Am I just a boomer here? It looks like you're farting around. It never looks like you're taking notes. It's not a good look. I actually... It's so funny you said that because I just remembered... You know that I worked at a circus, right?

For like a year? Yes, literally. Yeah, literally. Can we say which circus? Is there more than one? Yeah, I think we could say it now. I mean, it was like kind of a secret project, but now it's not.

I worked at Circtus LA for a year after I left my management consulting job. Gabe's a contortionist. Yeah, yeah. Did I not make that clear? I'm a total clown, obviously. Yeah. I worked at Cirque d'A. in Montreal, and I was working with the CEO on basically coming up with their three-year strategic plan. And there was another guy who was hired by the company as sort of a, I don't know, it was a little vague. He was either a consultant or an interim executive or a kind of a come-and-go manager of some project. We were in a meeting, and he takes out his BlackBerry, which is also quite funny because BlackBerry was in its last gasp of being a thing.

He was just committed. Bust out his Motorola razor. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Totally. He just loved Blackberry, this guy. I don't know why, but that's neither here or no there. And he just was taking notes about the meeting on his phone, but you could tell from everybody's looks in the meeting that they were like, why is this guy texting during our super important

meeting? And then afterwards, I was like, just want to know. Like, is that where you take notes? He's like, yeah, I was taking great notes. Like, I'll send them around to the team. And I was like, pretty sure they all think you were on Facebook for an hour because that was not a good look. It's just funny that you brought that up because every time I see people do it, it just

kind of grades on me. Yeah, don't use your phone. Write it down. I'm on level 999 on Brickbreaker. Yeah. So this is going to have to wait. You remember that game on BlackBerry? Of course I do. What a classic. Yeah. There were Wall Street guys that would be like betting, I bet I can beat your score, you know, 10 grand. Why? That was real Brickbreaker money going around. I don't know why Brickbreaker was such a thing on Wall Street. That was like a huge banker game. Yeah, bankers would play it. And investment bankers making like $6,700,000 a year or whatever in 2007. They would just go back and forth and pay thousands of dollars because you do a lot of waiting, I think.

And lawyers do anyway. They do a crap ton of waiting. Bankers also do a crap ton of junior guys. They go to these places where they print out hundreds of pages of documents and there's like an Xbox in the room for them to kill three hours. And they're just billing the client anyway. But they'll play Brickbreaker on their Blackberry while they're sitting somewhere and it just got out of hand. Brickbreaker, when you don't want to do the mental gymnastics of Farm Bill. That's right.

So again, take notes on paper if you can. Take notes on the screen so other people can see it. You don't want them to think that you're farting around texting and do an email. This is music to busy people's ears when you are taking what you are learning and putting it into what you're offering in the moment. That is just golden. Or if it turns out that what the person needs isn't quite what you were offering, maybe you decide to hold off entirely on pitching them further.

Tell them you want to think about what you talked about and how you can be the most useful and then do more homework before you talk again. You know, there's a line at which your tweaked proposal just turns into complete BS, and you don't want to cross that line because then it's, oh, he just wants to tell us whatever we want to hear because he needs a job. Oh, you are going to build a following on Instagram, but we're really looking more for TikTok, so you've just tweaked the strategy to meet a different platform, as opposed to, so you're going to do our bookkeeping, and now you're doing an entirely different thing that makes no sense based on what you've researched, and clearly you're just guessing now. that's not good. Does that make sense, Gabe, that distinction? Totally. Plus, you're compromising on what you actually can offer and what you actually want to do. Right. That's important still too. Yeah, you don't want to move too far away from what you can actually provide value with, right? Right. So taking a few days to think about things and retweak things if there really needs to be a remix of everything, that's not backing out. It's not

wasting their time. It's actually the opposite. It's respectful. Yeah. Such a good point, Jordan. But I do have a question because I think this does come up a lot. In fact, I think we've gotten emails about this on Feedback Friday. What happens if what you're pitching actually doesn't turn out to be what the other person needs like at all? Or it does, but the person you're trying to meet with isn't willing to pay you or they're not willing to pull the trigger for some reason. I feel like we hear this story a lot. People ask, you know, I tried to do all this? It worked out really well, but I'm not getting the job. So do I give up? Do I keep pushing? Did I fail? Like, what's the next move? That's a great question. It's one everyone should know the answer to because this isn't you're going to succeed

to 100% of the time. Sometimes it's just not going to work. But my philosophy on this, anytime you get rejected like this, is basically stay close and stay useful. Not, hey, how's everybody doing? Every month. I have those people too. It's not that interesting for me. The only thing better than closing a piece of business immediately is creating a great relationship and a great relationship will generate business for years to come. This happens all the time, but only to people who are willing to be patient, thoughtful, and generous. Remember, we're giving without the expectation or attachment to getting anything in return. That's in six-minute networking. That's the ABG, always be generous, principle in action. So if you don't close a deal or your pitch doesn't work immediately,

I wouldn't think of it as an automatic failure. Zoom out on the timeline, create some perspective. These setbacks are rarely a total loss, unless you've just fully embarrassed yourself and they're like never call me again, which I don't even know when that would ever happen. If you felt some, rapport with the person you met with, stay in touch. Send them useful articles, ideas, observations, as long as they're valuable. Don't be the person who sends me a self-help quote every week. Those are so lame. Check in periodically and ask them how things are going. Make great introductions. That is my go-to. And of course, keep listening to what they need. One day they might actually have a problem that you can solve and you'll be in the poll position to be hired given your

existing relationship. Or you might invest a few months into expanding your skill set and come back to them when you can meet their needs more clearly. So there are so many ways for a connection like this to pay off if you keep doing the work. So there you have it. No matter where you are in this process of carving out a role for yourself, the basic principle is always the same. Make it about the other person first. In fact, that's just good life advice in general. Not just for carving out a job for yourself, but also for making new friends, going on first dates, interviewing your own job candidates. If you embrace that idea wherever you go, you honestly cannot go wrong. You'll be amazed at how this approach improves your relationships, your interactions,

your revenue. It's just one of the fascinating paradoxes of doing well in life. The more you focus on other people, the more you ultimately help yourself. And I'll say that again because it's so important but also counterintuitive. The more you focus on other people, the more you ultimately help your life. self. And Gabriel, I feel like we're in cheesy like, O.G. Zig Ziglar from the 1960s where he's like, help other people get what they want. If you want to get what you want, right? It's one of those kind of self-helpy maxims that gets a little icky. It is self-helpy, but it is true. I think

there's a reason that it has stuck around. It is true. That one's true. I'll give them that one. I'm with you. You know, but I'll leave a lot of the other self-help stuff. The fireworks, I'm good on that. Not that Zig was known for that. So keep that in mind the next time you pitch yourself in a world full of people who are usually focused on what they want, focusing on the other person, and I mean genuinely focusing on them, that really is the key to getting your foot in the door. If you're looking for another episode of the Jordan Harbinger Show to sink your teeth into, here's a trailer for another episode that I think you might enjoy.

You believe human intelligence and AI will essentially be symbiotic in the future. We haven't had the tools that actually allow us to be experiencing how these new tools of machine learning can help us in ways we care about the very most. And so these new tools of machine learning and brain interfaces will open up this new era of human improvement that we've never had before. You'd mention that the ability to co-evolve with AI is important. If humanity were to identify a singular thing to work on, the thing that would demand the greatest minds of our generation, it's human intelligence.

That's a big statement. The way we are going to survive ourselves and create a thriving future, we have to increase the rate in which we adapt. Specifically, the fastest way to do that is our minds. Our brain tricks us into thinking that the reality we occupy right now is the only reality that exists. However, I think that could be a false assumption. And we need to look back, like, for example, a homo erectus two million years ago, that had very rudimentary language, didn't have abstract concepts like, math or other right physics, Homo erectus did not have the imaginative capacity to imagine the stock exchange. And so we need to realize we are in the exact same position. We have no reason

to believe we've reached this apex of reality construction. And to imagine that our reality could be entirely unrecognizable to us in 30, 40, 50 years breaks our brains. We could and we may want to head in this evolutionary direction. The question is, can we replicate two million years of evolutionary advance with technology, and I don't know why we couldn't. To learn more about how our brains will eventually be able to interface with computers and other machines and about how we may quite literally become cyborgs, check out episode 223 of the Jordan Harbinger Show.

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