The Jordan Harbinger Show - 747: Would a Girlboss Wife Ruin Your Boyboss Life? | Feedback Friday

Episode Date: November 4, 2022

Would marrying your type-A "girlboss" special lady friend cramp that type-A "boyboss" lifestyle you've been rocking since college? We'll try to find a reasonable answer to this very serious question (and more!) here on Feedback Friday. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [e-mail]. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/747 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: What's the deal with people playing videos at full volume on their phones in public spaces lately? Would marrying your type-A "girlboss" special lady friend cramp that type-A "boyboss" lifestyle you've been rocking since college? Your husband's TikTok-influencer ex-wife is the kind of person who exploits a relative's benign tumor as a cancer scare to fraudulently crowdfund her vacation. You'd like to believe karma will out her publicly as a terrible person, but would it be wrong for you to "help" karma bring this about sooner rather than later? What's the right way to respond to newfound information that a coworker with an equivalent title who's only been employed one year to your four is annually making $18,000 more than you? An area church is blatantly fundraising and lobbying to get its members elected in local governments around the world and here in the US with the aim of nudging policy in a theocratic direction. Is this even legal and, if not, where can such activity be reported? To stock your retail business, you just bought a bunch of stuff that you later came to realize was likely created by slave labor in China — but you can't return it. How can you best support human rights without compromising your financial situation? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [e-mail]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss the show we did with Shark Tank heavyweight Mark Cuban? Catch up with See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to Feedback Friday. I'm your host, Jordan Harbinger. As always, I'm here with Feedback Friday producer, the noise-canceling headphones tuning out the interference in your life conundra. Gabriel Mizrahi. On the Jordan Harbinger show, we decode the stories, secrets and skills are the world's most fascinating people and turn their wisdom into practical advice that you can use to impact your own life and those around you. So we want to help you see the matrix when it comes to how these amazing people think and behave that we profile here on the show. Our mission is to help you become a better informed, more critical thinker, so you can get a much deeper understanding of how the world works and make sense of what's really happening, even inside your own mind. If you're new to the show, on Fridays we give advice to you, we answer listener questions. The rest of the week, we have long-form interviews and conversations with a variety of really incredible folks, from spies to CEOs, athletes, authors, thinkers, and performers. This week we had Dave Ferrena. We debunked a lot of junk science, pseudoscience myths that corporations and charlatans, both online and off, used to sell us things or make us do or believe in things that are just fake and not science at all.

Really interesting episode where, yeah, it'll make you smarter. We also had Yas al-Azade. Now, she is Iranian and emigrated here to the United States. This is the first installment in what might be a new segment of the show, similar to skeptical Sunday called Out of the Loop. We go over the Iranian protests, the reason these are happening, why they're different than before. We do a little Iran protest 101. Let me know what you think of episodes like this.

I don't want to get into politics or news per se, but sometimes current events are happening. And frankly, unless you're watching the news, paying attention, talking to experts, you kind of goes in one ear and out the other. I'm trying to do episodes on these things where appropriate where something really, really big happens. And people just go, I don't know what's going on. I hear about it in the news. I want to do explainers with experts on those subjects.

So let me know what you think of those episodes from this week. So, Jordan, before we get into the conundra today, I need to talk to you about something. All right. What's up? Okay, so I was at a cafe the other day and I'm at a table working and this guy sits down at the table next to me. He's probably like, I don't know, 45, 50. He's wearing jean shorts, just a pink picture for you. Jorts. Yeah, Jorts. He's alone and he props up his phone on his table and he starts playing CNN on his phone at full volume in this cafe for like 30 minutes. Oh, don't even get me started on this. Does this bother you?

Oh my God. Okay, the lack of self-awareness. Continue. If that weren't bad enough, halfway through his meal, he gets up to, I guess, go refill his meter down the street or something, and he leaves it playing at his table. I was going out of my mind. Like, I feel like I'm a pretty chill person, but this particular thing drives me insane. This is like one of two or three things that just sends my blood pressure through the roof. And I just wanted to ask you, like, am I crazy? Or does this, I'm assuming this, bothers you too. I hate this. I was at my mom's 81st birthday was recently. I take her to Morton's Steakhouse. I don't know if it's in every state, but it's like a fancy enough steakhouse. You know,

it's a four or five star, whatever you call it, restaurant. It's a $4 signs on Yelp, I believe. A guy did that. So he's on a date with a girl and I'm like, oh, there's a couple on a date over there. And she goes to the bathroom. He busts out his phone and he turns on a video at full volume. And I'm thinking, man, this is the, whatever the opposite of acting. like you've been to a place like this before. This is it. That's next level, though. Like, I got a steakhouse on a date.

I agree. First of all, what a classless idiot. He was super underdress, but I try not to judge people for that because who cares? Like, really, dress codes are stupid in my mind. But, okay, show up in a t-shirt and jeans to a steakhouse. I don't really care about that. But then when you're blasting a YouTube video,

I'm like, dude, you're alone for literally three minutes. You got to watch a YouTube video during that time, you man, man, child? I don't get it. Do people not realize how annoying they are or do they know how annoying they are and they just don't care? So I'd love to say it's the latter. Everyone's selfish. But I also think that self-awareness among many people is nowadays at an all-time low. I don't know if it's because we spend so much time on our devices or what.

But people, they'll be, I'll be on an airplane and somebody will just blast a movie. And one time, I try to be like, oh, she's older and she doesn't know her headphones aren't in. and other times I'm thinking, no, she just doesn't give a crap that literally everyone in the plane can hear her play this video. What are you doing? This drives me crazy. I think you're onto something, though, with the self-awareness thing because I was at the movies this week and it was a packed theater. And halfway through the movie, the guy to my left, falls asleep and like snoring like I've never heard somebody's snore before. Now, I know this happens.

People fall asleep. Maybe they don't know they're snoring. But like, this is not the first time somebody has fallen asleep. multiple times and snored in a movie theater recently. And then the guy next to me, multiple times in the movie, takes out his phone at full brightness and is like texting and checking his photos and like on social media during the movie. And it's ruining because it's in my periphery. And finally I had to turn to him and be like, dude, can not do that?

He was literally staring at the movie while he left his phone open and all. Like I was just like, dude, you can't do that. Can you just enjoy this moment? This is what you came for. Watch the fucking movie. You paid to be here. What's really crazy to me is that when people say social media addiction, I'm like, oh, I don't know, is it an addiction?

And then I look at people like that and I go, you paid to be here in a movie theater and enjoyed this. And you can't get off Instagram. You can't stop on TikTok. You're watching other people in their bathroom. No, it's a problem. Doing TikTok dances during a movie that you paid to be in. The sleeping guy feel like, whatever, you can't really help that.

Yeah, it happens. Yeah. Although, yeah, I have other thoughts about that, but it's a little more forgivable. This guy is like, I just. There is an epidemic of selfishness and lack of self-awareness, and it is becoming worse. I think you're absolutely right. And it drives me absolutely insane. I just need to talk to you about that.

It's people watching stuff like this. Magnus, how do they work? And if you know what that music video is, you know exactly the type of people we're talking about. Is that insane clown posse? That's insane clown posse with their dumb, dumb, dumb, lyrics. And I'm sure they're nice guys. They're actually from my hometown of Troy, Michigan. They've been around forever, but...

How do magnets work? Magnets, how do they work? I don't know. There's a way you can find that out. It's not really... Anyway, don't get me started on that. Dude, if this guy were Googling how do magnets work in the movie,

I would have been less upset. Right, like, oh, man, insatiable curiosity. Nope, just wants to see people doing TikTok dances in a gym. Lip-syncing to Duo Lepa. Like, what are you doing? God. All right, we should probably get started.

I hate when podcasters are. about crap before an episode and you're welcome everybody we just did that but we rarely do this now I'm all uh all right I'm a little worked out yeah just think of it as my own personal feedback Friday email that I had to bring to you there you go but you know what we're gonna get a lot of emails that are like I hate every single one of these people who do this and we should round them up it would make me feel so much better if you guys send me those stories because I feel alone in this yeah especially when people have really bad ones like someone doing it at a funeral that's for sure a thing someone's done before like oh god this eulogy is terrible is there a game on you remember

in doom scrolling at Nana's funeral? Like, what do you do? Yeah. Hey man, not enough gloom here for you. You want to go on Twitter now? All right. What's the first thing out of the mailback? Hey, Jordan and Gabe. I bought a ring a couple months ago to propose to my girlfriend of two years, but I just can't seem to get there. We've had a lot of problems. And while there are patches when we're happy, another argument is always around the corner. A lot of our problems stemmed from the fact that we have similar personalities. We both lead others, plan things out, are ambitious in our careers and tend to see our own way as the right way. When we lead our church group, for example, she often speaks over me. And there's a chance that she might make more money than

me one day, which I know she'll use to be in charge. Hmm. Okay. She's a girl boss and a really good one, gorgeous, smart, passionate, loved by everybody. But I often think, wouldn't life be easier if she just let me lead as a man like all our friends do? Oh, man. Oh my. Oh, my. goodness, okay. So for the past year, I've contemplated leaving, but that's really hard to think about because she's integrated into every part of my life. It would come as a shock to everyone, and I might end up with no friends afterward. I dread the idea of breaking up, but I also don't think I'll be happy having a girl boss wife, but then I could never ask her to be less successful for me. A lot of people would say I'm just insecure and holding her back, which might be

true. Is it wrong for me to want a supportive wife rather than one who leads over me? Do I just let her lead? Or do I leave? Signed, cross and at a loss about my girl boss. I know I'm over simplifying this, but I heard, I'm dating this amazing talented woman. Wouldn't life be easier, though, if I just hammered those talents down into submission? I mean, I'm laughing. I know he doesn't mean it that way, but I'm like, hey, man. But is that a little bit what's going on? Let's get into it. There's a lot happening here. Yeah, this is a little bit. This is a really interesting relationship. It sounds like you and your girlfriend are both kind of, and I hate this term, alpha dogs, because it's a BS term.

But you're constantly jostling for pole position. You want to lead, and she's a girl boss, which, by the way, that term is so cringy also. Not great. Not great. I can't figure, is it condescending? It's like his wife can't just be a boss. She has to be a girl boss. And I'm sure he didn't mean anything by it.

I know it's a term people use. I think I'm also having a weird reaction to it because tons of multi-level marketing shills use it to themselves and that gets under my skin. It's like, girl boss, working from the pool. Yeah, you're $30,000 in debt to herbal life. Maybe you shouldn't be bragging about this. You're the 28th in line at Dautera come down. Yeah. But also, that term has also become a bit pejorative now, right? Like, it's kind of an insult after a few of the famous girl bosses hit a rough patch, right? I think I read about that. Yeah, I've read about that. In fact, a lot of the people who write books about this, it turns out, it's all just smoke and mirrors. Also, it just sort of feels like a one

dimensional archetype or something. Anyway, we don't need to get into a whole discussion about power and feminism and girl boss every. It's just that that phrase jumped out of me. So look, a lot of people listening to this story are probably having the reaction you anticipated, which is, relax, man, you're being insecure, you're holding her back, stop telling your wife to play second fiddle to you. It doesn't make any sense. And that's one read of the situation. And it might be a fair one, but we're not here to shame you for feeling. this way. I'm more interested in figuring out what's happening beneath the surface here. So my question for you is, what does your wife's power or authority bring up for you? What is it about her leading

that just doesn't sit well with you? I'm not telling you that you should not feel this way or that the relationship dynamic you want is wrong. That's for you guys to decide. I just think the first step to figuring this out is exploring what goes on in you when your wife takes charge of situations. I, honest, I wish we had hours for this. That would be so interesting. But since we can't, I'll just say this. I do suspect that your wife's power triggers something in you. Her authority seems to bring up some very powerful feelings in you. Self-doubt, insecurity. I'm guessing there's a little bit of resentment here. And maybe there's some anxiety, too. Like, if you're not in charge, something bad is going to happen.

Right, right. It's almost like their relationship. It's like a kind of zero-sum game in this department. Like her leading takes something away from him. He has to give something up if she gets to shine. That's the sense that I get. Like a church, right? Like she speaks over him. They're competing for authority, for attention. And if she makes more money than he does down the line, what did he say?

He thinks she might use that to be in charge. Right. They can't both be bosses. They can't both have equal status. It's one person over the other, at least not at the same time. He has to be boy boss and she has to be boy boss's wife who knows her place or he feels kind of diminished somehow. Diminished. That's a great word. That's exactly it. By the way, when you say boy boss, you can really hear how cringe the term girl boss is. Oh, yeah, it's pretty bad,

and that's the point. We should either call all ambitious men boy bosses and see how they like it, or we should just retire this freaking term. It's only been a few years since it got popular, and it already sounds like a 1950s insult. Yeah, the girl bosses are at it again. They're in the workplace. They're bringing home the bacon. They're speaking over for you at church. No, yeah, place, Rosie. But anyway, that's what you need to figure out. Why your girlfriend's power seems to come at your expense, why she can't be in control without it feeling like she's dominating. And I'm sure there's a lot of play here. Your values, your childhood, your culture, how you view yourself, what unique pressure points you have that are getting activated by your girlfriend's personality.

For example, if you need to be in control to feel okay, watching your partner take control it might feel very destabilizing. Or if you have a certain image of yourself as the man in charge, the breadwinner, the one who gets to be on top of the heap, then seeing your partner step up, that might feel like a threat to that identity. Maybe you feel like you're supposed to have that identity.

Or maybe you do have some complicated feelings about women being in charge. Again, that could be family stuff, that could be cultural stuff, church stuff, whatever, and your girlfriend is challenging those biases. Although, to be fair, it's not like you're telling her to quit her job or make less money. Like you said, you could never ask her to be less successful for you. And I'm glad that you know that. I agree with you. That is obviously not the

answer. And I think that happens in a lot of relationships, whether people ask or not. It's sort of, there's just pressure there. The other possibility is that you and your girlfriend are just both pretty rigid, maybe a little bit stubborn. And the real problem here isn't who gets to lead. It's how you guys relate to each other when you have a problem? How do you guys talk? How do you listen? Are you open to changing or are you both so identified with your positions that there's just never any resolution? There's so much that could be going on here, but these are just a few ideas that come to mind. I agree. I think any of those could be the culprit. I think there's also another really powerful piece here though, and that's how this guy feels that he's perceived. Because this actually

came up a few times in his letter. First, when he described his girlfriend, he's said she was gorgeous, smart, passionate, and what I found really interesting, loved by everyone. Then when he said that he often thinks, you know, wouldn't life be easier if she just let me lead because I'm the man, like all of our friends do. And then he said that it's hard to contemplate leaving because their breakup would come as a shock to everyone. And I might end up with no friends afterward. I think I see where you're going here. He seems pretty concerned with what their friends think. It sounds like there's a strong cultural pressure here. Yeah, he does sound. concerned with that. And that's not entirely problematic. Obviously, we all care what people think of us.

We all care what our friends think. And we should, to some degree. And maybe that's what's keeping him in check here a little bit. But the fact that other people's perceptions play such a big role in his feelings about his wife, potentially, that I do find interesting. Because I wonder if maybe when he says, I just wish my girlfriend would let me lead. What he's really saying is, I don't like the way I'm perceived when I don't lead. I don't like what people think about me when they see that I'm not in charge. Yeah, I could see that. I think you're at church and someone's talking over you and people are giving you side eye like, oh, you put up with that? What a wimpsky. It's also possible, though, that there's a little bit of projection going on here as well.

He might legitimately feel uneasy about his wife for the reasons you laid out, but then he's locating those feelings in other people, like their friends or like the other people in their church group, believing that they're going to feel about him the way he already feels about himself, which is maybe like, I'm not the top dog, or, you know, maybe it's emasculating or whatever it And those threats to his identity or his self-image seem real because they're confirmed or they seem to be confirmed by the people they interact with. And that just reinforces all the feelings. Okay, totally. I can see that.

But, you know, to be fair, something similar might be happening for his girlfriend, too. Interesting. When they're leading that church group, she might wonder how all these people perceive her if she stays quiet and lets him lead. And maybe that's part of the reason she jockeys for power. We don't know what she's thinking, obviously. Sure. But they're both ambitious. They both like being in charge.

Maybe they also factor in other people's perceptions quite a bit too. You know, maybe she's like, oh, if I let him lead, then everyone's going to go, oh, look, he tamed her. She used to be such a powerful woman. She's like, I can't have that. That is such a great point. And I'm really glad you brought that up because we don't know what's going on for her. But she's obviously having a whole experience of this relationship and this dynamic that's

just as complex and legitimate as it is for him. Who knows? maybe she has other qualities that rub him the wrong way, and that's informing how he feels about her too. You know, that's a good point. She might be, I don't know, insensitive or domineering or a little insecure. I have no idea. I'm just giving a few examples.

And what he resents isn't her power, but how she acts when she uses that power, maybe even when she uses it in front of other people. And as you know, if that's part of what's going on here, to be fair to this guy, I could see that being challenging. I mean, we all know that powerful people, men and women, they all have the potential to be a little bit grating, annoying, right?

Some people, they use their authority to lead and inspire to get things done. And some people use their authority to dominate or prove something or inflate themselves. We just have zero idea how your girlfriend acts. She might be a dream leader for all we know, but we have to acknowledge that there might be more to this story. So again, I would ask you, are you uneasy because your girlfriend is a powerful woman? or are you uneasy because there are aspects of her personality or style that rub you the wrong way that have nothing to do with her leading?

To put this another way, would this whole thing be as much of a problem for you if this was a dude doing it? Or is it a problem for you because it's a woman doing it? In which case, I would say, you should probably look at that. Yeah, that is a great question. That's what he needs to figure out. Man, we could dissect this for hours. Super interesting.

But we've got to move on. For what it's worth, though, I don't believe the answer is to break up, not immediately. Anyway, and definitely not for this reason, you are obviously uneasy about your partner being in charge. This is a great opportunity to figure out why. It is a great opportunity. And I would do that before you get engaged because this problem, this friction you guys are having, it is not going away.

It's only going to get more pronounced the closer you guys get. Agreed completely. And hey, the fact that you bought the ring and you haven't been able to pull the trigger, I just, I think that's a sign you guys need to do some work on this first. My advice, start talking with your girl. girlfriend, tell her that you don't want to hold her back, but you're struggling with this leading thing. You don't know what to make of it. Invite her to tell you about why she likes to lead, what this dynamic is bringing up for her, and most importantly, get to the heart of why you guys

keep finding yourself in arguments. What are these fights really about? What's stopping you guys from resolving these issues? I would make that a big priority. Run towards the conflict. Be partners in figuring it out. See a therapist if you need help. This is what a good relationship is all about. And hey, thanks for sharing this with us. I admire you for being willing to do that. We took a couple jabs early on. I'd take the same approach with your girl boss there. Just be a real boy boss about it. And trust that those conversations are going to lead you to a more honest place. And good luck. All right, bosses of all pronouns, time for our sponsors to take the lead. We'll be right back. Thank you so much for listening to and supporting the show. Your support of

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My husband's ex-wife and the mother of my stepson, let's call her Caitlin, is a terrible person. Her marriage to my... I love that opening. Yeah. Her marriage to my husband ended when she got pregnant by another man while my husband was deployed in Iraq. My husband paid her more than his required amount of child support, and we even paid her bills when she and her new husband couldn't make ends meet.

She always allowed us to visit my stepson until four years ago when he told her that he wanted to live with us. After two months of no contact with my stepson, we were served with a restraining order, along with a petition to increase child support. She made multiple reports to child protective services and several law enforcement agencies. Eventually, all investigations cleared us, and Caitlin dropped the restraining order, admitting she didn't feel we committed any abuse. Now, Caitlin constantly posts TikTok videos about surviving narcissistic abuse.

She claims that my husband beat her, and she has a pretty large following. We pay Caitlin well over a mortgage payment's worth of child support every month because she claims to be unemployed. But in reality, she owns a thriving photography and birth dola service and appears to make more than we do. She also doles out highly questionable medical advice to her followers. The worst part, though, is that she's now shamelessly using her aunt's cancer scare to drum up business. She had a non-cancerous tumor removed sometime back and didn't need chemotherapy. But a couple months later, Caitlin created a fundraiser to pay for her treatment and raised several thousand dollars. Then, last week, Caitlin stated that her aunt has decided to discontinue treatment and live the best life she can with the time she has left and said they would use the funds to create family memories.

Wait, but the aunt is fine, right? That's what it sounds like, yeah. So, yes, I'm going to use the time I have left, 40 to 50 years. I mean, she's not wrong. Right, yeah. Technically correct. Okay, fine. So they said they would use the funds to create family memories.

Then they went to an amusement park. God. We were concerned that my stepson's great aunt had taken a turn for the worse, so we called him, and were surprised when he told us that she was doing great. I'm sure no response is the best response in a situation like this. Especially after that trip to Six Flags, though. That really was so nice. But I can't help but want to expose Caitlin for the terrible person she is.

How would the two of you handle this? Do I let Carmen take its course, or do I help it along a little? signed, Avoid More Pollution by Being Confucian, or Find Some Resolution by Becoming the Retribution. Oh, man, friggin' Caitlin, the shady birthdula slash portraitist. What a job title, by the way. Like, I'm trying to understand, are those two businesses related? Like, actually, that would be brilliant if you're like, oh, yeah, I can help you birth your baby. And then paint it.

Come in in six weeks, and I'll take a photo of you guys. That's kind of smart. Or just, like, use the afterbirth to create the baby. painting. That's for sure a real thing. Oh yeah, that's an amazing. Yeah. That's some alternative art right there. Google it. I'm sure it exists. This woman just, what a piece of work. Yeah. So I think you already know what I'm going to say here. If you listen to this show at all, you know how much I hate people like this. You do hate them, yeah. Caitlin is in the same class of slimy people as the PPP fraud couple and the pyramid scheme

energy ladies with their little airplane game, although you could argue on a much smaller scale, but still this is so shady. This woman starts a GoFundMe or whatever to help pay for her aunt's fake cancer treatment chemo, then uses the cash to go to freaking Hurricane Harbor or Cedar Point or whatever. That is not cool. That is unfair to the people who donated.

And of course it's all her Instagram followers, right? So this is extra gross. Oh, and by the way, it's fraudulent. But part of the reason I'm worked up here is that this really does sound like it fits a larger pattern. This is a woman who sounds very deceptive. She's clearly self-interested and manipulative. She always has her handout.

She's retaliated against you guys by lying to the authorities when your stepson wanted to live with you, which, okay, what a shocker. He doesn't want to live with the crazy lady who cheated on his dad and spends all her free time posting pseudoscience BS on TikTok. And she lies about how much she makes to get more child support out of you guys and then turns around and post videos about how your husband abused her. the same guy who has gone above and beyond in supporting her and had to answer calls from the cops and CPS

about abusing his son when he did not do that. So this is infuriating. This is, I'm getting some psychopath vibes here, really. Oh, man, it sounds to me like this woman, it's weird. It sounds like on one level she knows exactly what she's doing, and then on another level she has a very tenuous relationship to reality, which is, yeah, that's unsettling.

Yeah, or just pure, like, malignant narcissism kind of stuff here. Yeah, she sucks. So I'm on team you guys. I don't like Caitlin either. Sorry, Caitlin. Actually, I'm not sorry at all. I want to see you pay for your bullshit. But you're asking a really good question.

What do you do about someone like this? Do you let karma take its course, or do you become the karma? Is that a Batman voice? It's the best I can do. You know, I would say it's a bad Batman voice, but whenever they do that in Batman, it sounds so dumb. Because it's just somebody doing a fake low voice. And it's like, I couldn't alter that and make it better. though. No, it's appropriate. Again, if you listen to the show, you know that when it comes to people

like this, I am a big fan, a big fan of becoming the karma. I am the one who knocks. Nice, dude. That was a perfect soundbite. Been sitting on that for a minute. The challenge is, it's hard to take someone like this to task just for being a shitty person. At best, you can call them out online. You can warn your friends and family about them, but that's more of a PR solution. It's not even a real solution, especially if this other person has a bunch of Instagram followers. Now you're just stirring the pot. You're wasting your time feuding with some malicious kook online. But the shady fundraiser, now that might be something you can work with. Because misrepresenting yourself on a crowdfunding site or a fundraising platform, first of all, that almost always violates the terms of use of the

platform. GoFund me, for example, their terms of use say something like, all information you provide in connection to your campaign has to be accurate, complete, not likely to deceive reason. reasonable users and so on. And also, it clearly states that all donations must be used solely as you describe in your campaign post. You can't say, I'm a raise 10K for Aunt Gertie's chemo and then be like, actually me and Aunt G, we're going to use it to fly first class to Florida and hit up Walt Disney World. And then we're going to rent jet skis and key Largo because she just wants to be happy. So at a minimum, you could report her campaign to the platform, share the evidence you have that she's misappropriated the funds. You know, it might be too late. If the funds have already been

released, which it sounds like they have, but who knows? Maybe not. And also, they can ban her ass so that she can't do this again on their service in the future. The other thing you can do is report Caitlin to the authorities. There are tons of options for that. You can contact your state consumer protection office. You can contact the AG, the attorney general for your state. You can report this to the FBI. I mean, this is wire fraud. It's online fraud. You can report it to the FBI's Internet Crime Complaint Center, the IC3, or you can file a complaint with the Federal Trade Commission. We're going to link to all of those resources along with their websites in the show notes for you. If this were me, I'd be reporting Caitlin Shady asked all them websites, starting

with your state's Consumer Protection Office and Attorney General. This is probably, possibly too small for most authorities to look into. Or it might batch your report along with other reports about similar cases and investigate them as a group with certain platforms that facilitate shady fundraisers. Now, here's the thing. A lot of times a single fraud complaint is not enough, but I talk to my friend who works in cybercrime and the FBI, and a lot of times they take into consideration, is this a pattern? Like, does this person have another go fund me every month that's supposed to be for a charity and then they just take the money? Because if so, they're a criminal and they will take action against people like that. Solid advice. My only caveat to that

would be to really be sure that she deliberately misappropriated the funds and was being intentionally misleading because what if her aunt was like, I do want to do chemo and I do need to help and then she goes through the, oh, but the fake cancer. It's not even real cancer. Yeah, it was non-cancerous. Oh, yeah, then I take it back. That's definitely fraudulent. I was going to say, just be 100% sure that she's actually a criminal and she's not just being like she didn't change her mind, but now I'm remembering the whole story. Yeah. Yeah, I take all that back. She's the worst. I got to say, I've really come around to your point of view, Jordan, on people like this. I used to be in the camp of, eh, let it go.

These people are annoying. They usually just bury themselves. But over time, I'm getting angrier about shady people who lie and steal to give themselves a free trip to Knott's Berry Farm or whatever. And I don't know if that's because there was a guy blasting CNN for 30 minutes at the table next to me this week or just growing up, I'm starting to get angry. Yeah, you're still reeling from that. I'm still worked up about it.

I just feel like everyone sucks. But there's one other thing that doesn't sit right with me in this letter. And that's the whole child support thing, you know, how Caitlin is lying about her income to get more money out of you guys. We actually ran this by Corbin Payne, defense attorney in front of the show. Nice. And Corbin said that if you have cause to believe someone you support is lying about their income, you can file for a review. Corbyn said this all depends on the court rules in your jurisdiction. But generally, someone could come in and say why they think Caitlin is in a bit.

better financial situation than she claims. Maybe she just bought herself a new car or she's living in a nice house or she's somehow able to afford to store all of the placenta she's using to paint a portrait of somebody's newborn baby. I don't know what she's up to. Maybe you even point to the trips that she's taken with Aunt Gertie with the money and then demand some reasonable discovery of her, W-2s, 1099s, maybe tax returns from her photography slash birthdula business, stuff like that. Corbin said that this definitely happens with some frequency. So maybe hire a family attorney or go back to the one you worked with before. This is an expense.

It's not a crazy expense, but Corbyn said it's not overly cheap either. But if it saves you guys from handing over a ton of money to a woman who is lying about her income to get more money out of you and who, by the way, let's remember, has a track record of using money in questionable ways, then I think it's worth it. As long as it's not compromising your stepson in any way, of course, which I assume it's not. Yeah, solid advice, Gabe. I would do all of the above.

That's how you can hurry karma along a little bit without letting yourself be dragged down to her level of nonsense. Hold her accountable, then let the systems and authorities do their jobs. Beyond that, though, my advice is to accept that she is a gross, crappy person who is probably living a very stressful life. That's a form of karma too. I think about that a lot.

I mean, imagine keeping all these lies in the air. Again, that's why I say psychopath or sociopath vibes, because for me, any little untruth like this would drive me crazy. So to have a bunch of them at the same time is just, ugh, I couldn't get a wink of sleep any night of the week. But if this person is existing like this, obviously she's either immune to it or she's a mess. So or both. Good point. And also, you got to stay close to your stepson.

Give him a great home with you and your husband because he really needs you guys. Imagine living with somebody like this. Sending you guys good thoughts. And, hey, thanks for letting us be the birth doulas for this advice. You can reach us Friday at Jordan Harbinger.com. Please keep your emails concise. Try to use a descriptive subject line. That makes our job a lot easier.

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makes $18,000 more a year than I do. I've been a dedicated employee for four years, while he's only been here for one year. He lives in a territory that produces more sales-wise, but the fact that I produce in my desert of a territory is a testament to my ability. My territory is also complex for a variety of reasons. I've been told more than once by management that it's actually a two-person job, and they find it remarkable that I'm able to service all of these accounts so well. Additionally, for the past year, I've been tasked with handling accounts in another territory I don't own, because they haven't been able to find a decent sales rep in the area. I've been happy to help, but I'm feeling taken advantage of considering my pay grade.

I feel like I'm making less and saving them two incomes. Still, they've told me I do my job so well they're considering promoting me to a traveling trainer to teach others how to do the job like I do. But I'm not getting excited. My company has a history of making promises they don't keep. It has a sorority vibe, and the owner jokes that he is the HR department. They say it's a safe space and a family,

but I expect retribution if I speak up. Okay, so big red flag. Oftentimes, this is what toxic workplaces say to justify bad behavior. The family thing. We hear it all the time. Go on. The problem is,

there are a million reasons for me to state, with this company, and I have no leverage to leave. How do I diplomatically ask for the salary I deserve without using a co-worker's pay as ammunition? Signed, get in my bag, without being a drag or raising red flags. Well, this is a very common scenario, and I'm sorry you're going through it. I know how frustrating this is, but it's also a great opportunity to advocate for what you want. So to be very direct, here's how I'd handle this. First of all, I would take a moment to A, K, calculate what you're worth to the company, and B, decide what you want to be paid. Now, this might not be an exact science, but it's easier in a sales role since you're responsible

for revenue. Figure out how much business you bring in and how much business you keep in both of the territories that you handle. Then, I would calculate what hiring these two extra people would cost your company. After that, figure out the salary that you want to be paid, as long as that number is equal to or less than the amount they'd pay to hire two more people, Well, your case is fairly solid. The only thing I would factor in, though, is that your territory is less lucrative. And that sucks, I know. But the reality is, some territories just don't pay as much.

It's annoying to find out that your colleague is making 18 grand more than you. But if he's handling a more lucrative territory, well, that might be appropriate. But it's still a fair question why he got that territory and you didn't. And it's still a fair point that it's more work to service your territory than the others. So you have to decide what to do about that, whether to approach your accounts in a different way or to move to another territory to take on an extra one, or just accept that your territory won't compensate you as well and find other ways to make it up. Now, at the same time, I would also take this opportunity to figure out what role you really want. Do you want to stick with being a

salesperson? Or do you want to push for that new traveling trainer role that maybe doesn't exist yet. And if you do move, what salary would you want there? Or maybe you just use that traveling trainer offer as a talking point in your negotiation. I'll get back to that in a second. Once you've built your case, then I would approach your boss or bosses and have a conversation about your comp. This could be done by email. It could be done in person, depending on what your relationship is like. And of course, how things are done in your company. But either way, the substance will be the same. I would start by telling them how much you enjoy your job and laying out all of the work you've been doing.

You're handling these two territories. You're servicing these complicated accounts. You're doing a bang-up job. While they take their time hiring a new rep and haven't given you the partner that you need, tell them you're happy to do this work, but that you'd like to be fairly compensated for it. Then, share your case with them.

What you make versus what you cost, basically, to show them why the number you're asking for is both fair and doable. And if you want to push for that traveling trainer role, I would bring that up too. And if they're like, oh, yeah, that, well, we're just saying that would be a cool idea. We're not quite ready to pull the trigger on that yet. Okay, no problem. I just want to point out that you guys obviously value my approach if you want me to teach it to everyone else, and I appreciate that, but that's one more reason that I feel my comp should be higher. The one thing I would not do in this

conversation is bring up your co-worker's salary. That's useful information, not a card I would play, and actually, it's not even all that relevant. What is relevant is the number that you You deserve to be paid. And that's what we're calculating. It's almost like you need to view this situation as your company giving you a promotion. And now you're asking for your salary to match the promotion that they kind of already gave you by giving you extra work. That's the mindset I would have.

Yeah, I totally agree. Solid approach. Hopefully your boss engages with you and you get the salary you want or at least a lot closer to it. If you don't, though, then I think you need to consider whether this is really the right place for you long term. Because you did bring up some other concerns here. How your company makes promises, it doesn't tend to keep, how the owner says that he is the

HR department, which, oh, that's the biggest red flag, that it's a safe space and a family, but you can't really speak up, all of that. Plus the fact that they've been throwing you a ton of new work, and they're not paying you anymore. Yeah, it all just paints a picture of a place that is not the most functional or fair, in my opinion. So, yes, push for the salary you want, and I hope you get it. But if they turn you down, then that's one more reason to consider looking for another job. Honestly, you sound like a really talented salesperson.

You're great with customers. You're dedicated. You're a team player. So many companies would love to have somebody like you. So if this negotiation doesn't go your way, don't lose heart. It might just be the push from the nest that you need. And that's never fun. But sometimes not getting what you want is actually a gift in a weird way because it makes

you realize that there's something better out there. Totally, man. Man, I can relate to that. And by the way, if this person starts casually interviewing around, and gets a good offer, they can go back to their boss and say, so look, I have this other offer, it's really tempting, I want to give you a chance to beat it, here are my stipulations. You got to hire another salesperson,

or you got to increase my salary or my commission, or you got to give me a better territory, whatever it is. But I'm with Gabe. I do wonder if there might be a better place for a great employee like you. Man, salespeople are the elite athletes of the corporate world, right? They can go anywhere. And they're always in demand, even in the worst markets ever. there's a lot more that goes into negotiating a raise.

We've covered that in a bunch of other episodes, so we're going to link to those in the show notes. And if you're negotiating a salary or you're planning on doing that, I would give them a listen as you prepare for this conversation. They will be a huge help. So good luck and go get your bag.

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I'm a video technician for live events. And earlier this year, I did an event for a church in our area that raises money for relief work in the Dominican Republic and Haiti. This all seemed normal and straightforward until the people speaking at the event started mentioning things like, let's unite these countries, and our work to get our followers in government on both sides is progressing quickly. Turns out, these people are trying to get their followers installed in local governments, hoping to unite them in a theocracy. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. The more they talked, the more nefarious it became. And they're not just doing this in two foreign countries.

They're also working to get their members elected in local and federal politics here at home. What do I do? Who do I report this to? Is there even an agency in charge of something like this? Signed, the muddled mole. Wow, this is super interesting. If I overheard this at a private event, especially a religious event, I'd be pretty disturbed too because it's like, what is this? Secret Cabal vibes. Am I a character in a Brian De Palma movie right now? Like, are these people, actually do-gooders, or is this all just a front for some huge religious conspiracy? It's like a Dan Brown novel. It's unsettling, for sure. But the truth is, this sort of thing happens all the time all over the world. I mean, just look at lobbying here in the United States. It's basically a form

of legalized corruption. The idea of organizations supporting candidates in the laws they like at home and abroad, just not new. Although the fact that a church is doing this, possibly under the guise of relief efforts in foreign countries, that is a little suss, but it was unclear to us whether it's actually illegal. So once again, we turned to the one and only Corbyn Payne, who apparently has a lot of time on his hands. And we're thankful for that. And Corbyn reminded us that if this church is a non-profit, designated as a 501C3, then engaging in lobbying or in any kind of political activity on behalf of a candidate for elective public office, including activity abroad, that's almost certainly a tax code violation. Now, U.S. tax law does allow public charities

to engage in lobbying, but only if it constitutes no more than an insubstantial part of their overall activities. So, it's an interesting question whether this church can prove that this lobbying is only a tiny part of what they do. Maybe they can, although it doesn't sound insubstantial to me. As Corbyn pointed out, if an organization like this church wants to raise money for politicians, then they have to have a different designation, probably a 501c4, which is a nonprofit that's operated exclusively to promote social welfare. A 501c4 is allowed to further its exempt purposes through lobbying as its primary activity without jeopardizing its exempt status. So what I would do is go to the IRS website, look up this church's tax status. Now, if there are

501c3, they might be breaking the tax code. And if that doesn't sit well with you, you can leave a tip with the IRS on their website and tell them what you are seeing and hearing that there's a church making political donations to candidates in Haiti and in the DR in order to create theocratic governments down there. Corbyn did say that the IRS seems pretty gun-shy these days about pursuing these kinds of cases, so they tend to need a decent amount of detail to be willing to look into it. But the beauty is, you're a video tech. You have actual recorded evidence of these statements, and I imagine that would be a, yeah, that would be pretty compelling evidence. And then hopefully the IRS looks into this, and if they find any wrongdoing, they can take

action. Although, frankly, I don't know how realistic this all is. It could take years knowing what we know about how the IRS even works. Yeah, it could be like a decade plus before they get around to that one. The tip line is probably pretty backed up. But Corbyn shared another take with us that was pretty fascinating, which is that this church might not be quite as nefarious as you think, or as it seems. In his experience, a lot of churches tend to get involved in charity efforts in other countries, and sometimes they spread a lot of money around, thinking that they're helping, you know, good, godly people gain political influence, again, a sort of legalized bribery, loosely speaking. But at the end of the day, what they're often doing is just paying money to

candidates and officials and, you know, political fixers, people like that, in order to advance their agenda. So these people will meet the church officials and they'll say, yeah, we totally believe in what you guys are preaching and we are big supporters of your church and, sure, we'll take your money, just hand it over to us and we will advance your interest down here. As Corbyn put it to us, it's possible that the word has gotten out among officials in Haiti and the DR and who knows what other countries, that there are these, you know, Yankee doogers who will spend a ton of money if they advance their agenda. In other words, this church might be the one that's getting taken for a ride.

Yeah, that was a fascinating theory, and I could totally see that happening. Although I would argue that even if the church is getting fleeced by shady politicians in Haiti and the DR, they're also doing something wrong by using their money and influence in this way. They could be breaking the U.S. tax law and also be naive and a victim. Totally. At a minimum, I think it's safe to say that this is probably a gross misuse of church funds, assuming that they're taking money that they literally raised from their followers to, you know, rebuild highways or build new homes in these countries and then paying officials or launching candidacies or whatever they're doing down there. If that's what they're doing, yeah, this is not cool. Exactly. So my advice, hey, do some homework. It's pretty easy. Consider reporting them if you feel moved to do so. And as you know from my take on Caitlin, the birth, Dula. I'm big on reporting people like this, but that's, I guess I'm a kind of a, I'm a little bit of a Karen when it comes to people like this, but that's up to you. And we're going to link to all the laws and resources we mentioned in the show notes for you so you can read them for yourself.

But also, just keep in mind that what you heard at this event, it might be illegal, but it is by no means uncommon. That doesn't make it right. I just think it's important to recognize all the forms of corruption, legal and illegal that exists all around us in this country as well. All right, next up. Hi, Jordan and Gabe. I'm a college student with a job trying to build up my savings and pay for an upcoming wedding, and I just bought a bunch of stuff on Ali Express. That's a Chinese marketplace, by the way, to sell on an Amazon storefront to make some extra money.

I just listened to your interview with Nuri Turkle about China's Weiger genocide. That was episode 730, by the way, if anyone wants to check it out. And I really don't want to support these practices. In the interview, you guys talked about Americans being addicted to the cheap price tag of goods, and I don't want to be complicit in funding this form of slavery just because I can sell it back home for a big profit. Unfortunately, I have a ton of product already. Everything is set up except for the storefront, and I'm very much in the red with my investment in this business. How can I best support human rights without compromising my financial situation?

Signed, the conscientious capitalist concerned about coming up short. Ooh, great question. First of all, I love that you're so ambitious and you're resourceful, especially at such a young age. You seem smart, you seem hardworking, and I admire the side hustle that you've got going, but I also admire your moral compass, especially when it comes to the Uyghur situation, which is just horrifying and it's unacceptable. So my take on this question is, yes, do whatever you can to avoid supporting terrible regimes, avoid products manufactured by states that are perpetrating human rights abuses, vote with your wallet and all that. I fully support this. But at the same

time, I think we all have to accept that it is virtually impossible in today's world to not support some terrible practices even by accident, and that we can only do our best. And it really pains me to say that, because that interview with Nuri was so eye-opening and the thought of accidentally even supporting a genocide, it just makes me so sick to my stomach. But if it's not China and Uyghurs, it's, I don't know, countries that use slave labor to staff fishing boats or the chocolate that you're eating is farmed by kids working in slavery or regimes that persecute LGBT people are shipping your stuff or states that destroy forests or whatever. It's just really hard to not contribute directly or indirectly to something awful somewhere. And also, you've already bought

the product and not selling it will put you in a precarious position. So my advice is, hey, sell the product you have and then source your next batch from a different country if you can. You bought this stuff when you didn't know the full story, and now you do, you can do better next time, and that's okay. You're learning. That's what matters. I think you're morally kind of cool here. You did it without knowing.

I mean, what are you going to do? And my opinion might be different if you had, I don't know, bought sweatshers that you knew for a fact were sewn by Uyghurs in a labor camp or something. Although part of the problem is that we often just have no idea where our goods are coming from. And you might still be indirectly supporting terrible practices. and that's what makes this whole issue so complex. So it's hard. That said, there are a couple really easy things you can do to play your part here. First, buy domestic goods whenever you can. The more local, the better. Assuming that you live in Finland or Costa Rica and not like Eritrea or something,

obviously if you live in a questionable country yourself, local goods are a problem too, but again, all countries are corrupt on some level. Even the U.S. does pretty heinous stuff. I don't think that's a surprise to anybody. So you just have to do your your best. Second, do your homework on your suppliers. Look for legit certifications. Confirm certain standards. Study their supply chain however you can. I know that's pretty hard in the e-commerce world, especially for a small business, but you know, just do your best. And finally, there's this really cool plugin you can download for Chrome. I'm going to link to it in the show notes because the name escapes me. This plugin shows you where sellers are located, especially on Amazon.

It will literally, you'll look at a product on Amazon. It'll say, this is made in China, this other alternative, it'll show you U.S.-based alternatives, if the sellers overseas, it'll say, here's three sellers that sell the same thing that are based in the United States. Oh, wow, that's really cool. And often the product is slightly different, and sometimes it's a few dollars more, but it might even be higher quality. Or you can see, oh, the China one was a rip-off of this U.S. made or this U.S. company-generated version of the same thing, and you'll end up with a higher-quality product a lot of the time.

This is very, very helpful. We now have an affiliate code for this, so we're going to drop that link for that plugin in show notes. So click on that before you buy the product. We get a little tiny cut, which I promise we're going to use ethically. We're going to buy Gabe some of his weird fair trade. Is it Bao Jong tea? Or we're going to get him yet another ethically sourced essential oils diffuser. Because hey, you can never have too many of those, right? Oh, man. Still in the market for one. And that is not a joke. And you don't want a slave labor created essential oils diffuser. The irony there is just terrible. Yeah. What is that, what is that scent? Is that human rights abuses? Yeah, that's not.

what I want to smell. This is forced labor. Oh, it's interesting. Notes of cinnamon and... Notes of sadness. Yes. Children's tears. If anyone has any other ways to avoid indirectly supporting awful stuff around the world, do drop us a line. We'd love to learn more, and we can pass that along to the listener as well. And we can even link in in the show notes for the episode. Look, it's a dark world. It's incredibly hard to stop and think about, but we can all do a small part to help make things a little bit better. So focus on that. And, Hey, best of luck with your new storefront. I hope it's a success. And congrats on the wedding. Just make sure you ethically source the food and centerpieces too.

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in these uncertain times, tells us how he stays on top of trends in technology, and how the U.S. can compete with China. When everybody's afraid, the best way to deal with it is by coming together. It certainly seems a lot bigger than anything we've seen, you know, in my lifetime. And the combination of the protests and looting and the pandemic, all these things combined together to make for really uncertain times. And when people are uncertain about their future, that's why people rebel. Martin Luther King said, rioting is the voice of the unheard. The only surprise is that it's taken this long. Capradic did even bring the focus to himself. You know, he just happened to be taking a knee and somebody caught him with a phone camera. What would you have done in that moment,

if that time, if he were your player, would you, how would you've handled that? I'd hug him. Yeah? Yeah, absolutely. If you were president, how would you improve race relations? I'd hug a few people. Yeah. You know, I'd walk out there and listen. You know, I'd take advice.

I wouldn't think I had all the answers. This piece you wrote, dear white people, we're the ones that need to change. This is probably controversial. I would imagine you get some blowback from something like that. A lot of people felt I was calling them out as racist, which I wasn't doing. In order for things to change, then people need to take measures and understand, be very self-aware about what's going on with them and how people are living their lives. A lot of people don't seem to have much to look forward to right now.

What do you think we should be looking forward to as a nation? I mean, look, there's no better time ever to start a business than right now because all businesses are effectively going through a reset. And so there's a lot of advantages. And with the protests and the riots, it gives us just one inkling of hope that maybe we'll make progress. Maybe this time we'll listen. For more with Mark Cuban, including the future of the technology economy,

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