The Koerner Office - Business Ideas and Deep Dives with Chris Koerner - Six Hard Lessons That Would Have Saved Me Years⏐Ep. #238
Episode Date: October 24, 2025Check out my newsletter at https://TKOPOD.com and join my new ...community at https://TKOwners.com━Beehiiv is the newsletter platform I’ve used for over a year and a half because their data shows you exactly what’s working. Get 30% off three months at beehiiv.com/chris━In this solo episode I’m doing something different and ranking my six biggest business failures from #6 to #1. I walk through No BS Crypto with John McAfee, the painful lessons from running a third-party logistics company that did $400K a month with 90% revenue tied to one toxic client, and the whirlwind of launching Bitcoin mining at the exact wrong time after a bull-run high where we did $10M in 90 days and still lost in the end. I also get honest about a phone repair merger I rushed, and the number one failure that cost me a friendship in my wholesale iPhone parts business. The theme across all of it is control, concentration risk, partnerships, and how survivorship bias hides the real cost of bad decisions. If you want the full backstory on the McAfee chapter, check out Episode 9 where I tell that story in detail.Enjoy! ---Watch this on YouTube instead here: tkopod.co/p-ytAsk me a question on or off the show here: http://tkopod.co/p-askLearn more about me: http://tkopod.co/p-cjkLearn about my company: http://tkopod.co/p-cofFollow me on Twitter here: http://tkopod.co/p-xFree weekly business ideas newsletter: http://tkopod.co/p-nlShare this podcast: http://tkopod.co/p-allScrape small business data: http://tkopod.co/p-os---
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All right, you guys hear me talk a lot about my wins and making X amount of dollars and Y amount of
days, yada, yada, yada. But entrepreneurship is anything but rainbows and butterflies. There's a lot of
hard, hard, sucky things that you got to go through. And so today I want to talk about some of those things,
six of those things to be exact. I want to talk about six of my biggest failures of all time.
Not six of, but my six biggest business failures of all time ranked from number six to number one,
number one being the worst, the biggest. And I'm measuring these failures just by how much they
impacted me, not by dollar amount necessarily or time spent on them, just how much emotional
or mind space impact that they had on me. And here's the thing about social media. It does not
reward people talking about their failures. The algorithms do not like it. Therefore, the people
that are genuinely willing to share about their failures are disincentivized to do so because they
don't have a positive feedback reward loop after sharing those failures. With some rare exceptions,
there are exceptions. But let's just get into it. Number six, no BS crypto. So you guys might know
the story back in 2018 when I launched a crypto business with John McAfee. If you want to hear that
whole story, it is episode nine way back in March of 2024. I tell that story in detail. It's one of my
best stories. I love it. It's a great story to tell at dinner parties. But at the end of the day,
that business failed. And it took two years of my life. Now, I netted out ahead, financially speaking,
but this business was a great lesson in not starting businesses where you have not enough control.
Sometimes that control looks like not enough equity in the business to really have enough
decision-making power. Sometimes it looks like you being in a market that the business is highly
dependent upon, as if you were in the oil business. It's boom and bust. And no matter how hard you work,
you're going to have a really, really hard time making the business work during a bus cycle.
Well, that's how crypto is.
I've made the same mistake twice.
Crypto peaked on December 17th, 2017.
That's when Bitcoin hit $20,000.
And I launched this business a month later.
Now, at the time, it felt like the perfect time to launch a business because Bitcoin was
just dipping a little bit.
It had been 20 now.
It was 18.
So we're, quote, buying the dip.
Little did we know it would end up at $3,000, down 85% at the end of that cycle.
And making a crypto business work in that market is like a goldfish trying to swim up Niagara Falls.
It's just not going to work.
And so, yeah, I totally could have done things better.
I could have been smarter about it.
But I genuinely don't know how I could have made that work.
We spent hundreds, if not thousands of hours building out a community, building software
tools, writing an 18-page white paper, having a free air drop, tons of content.
We had a community with 70,000 people in it.
We had people that invested into this token that we had air-dropped out for free.
and they lost their money and I lost money. But I am grateful that I never held an ICO and initial
coin offering where you basically sell your token. I never did that. It was just a free air drop. But nevertheless,
once it hit the exchanges, people purchased the token, expecting it to go up in value. And it did sometimes,
but most of the times it didn't. And it ended up crashing. So this is a failure that I regret,
but it was a great learning experience, especially when it comes to getting John McAfee's attention,
getting in front of him, partnering with him, and learning that I'm capable of doing cool things like that.
biggest failure at number five, this was my business phone restore. Now, keep in mind, these are failures
of mine. It doesn't necessarily mean that the business failed. You'll see what I mean by the end of
each section when I call it a failure because this business was objectively a success. I made a lot
of money from it and I came out on top. But I had three iPhone repair stores, well, four, one in
Tuscaloosa, one in Birmingham and two in Huntsville, Alabama. I got approached by a competitor
to merge forces. I didn't know the guys. They were throwing off yellow flags all.
over the place. They pressured me to sign a deal before the end of the year to keep taxes cleaner.
My lawyer was dragging his feet on reviewing the contract and I just thought, eh, we'll make it
work. This was before the days of Chad GPT, we're talking 2011, 2012. So I couldn't even have
Chad GPT review my contract. And there were some dumb, stupid things in there that I never should have
agreed to. We signed a contract. The deal was that I would get a third of the profits in perpetuity,
mailbox money without having to do any of the work. They, both of them, would get two thirds of the
profits collectively. They would invest money into the business. They would grow the brand. I got a little bit
of cash at closing, nothing crazy. And everything changed after we signed the deal. I started another
business in the same industry selling iPhone parts. I didn't have a non-compete. I was fully allowed to do that. I
told them about it after I did it. And my business started crushing it. And I think they saw that and
they got a little jealous because they wanted to do the same thing, which I didn't know. They wanted to
sell iPhone parts. So unknowingly, I created competitor for them on a product line that they had yet to
launch and I started doing really well and they became a customer of mine, one of my biggest customers,
but nevertheless, this played a role in decisions they made later down the line. I got that first
mailbox money check the first month and I don't believe I ever got one again. Maybe there was
one more or two more, but never again, basically. And long story short, they ended up diluting my shares
in half from 33% to 16%. Without my consent, they claimed to have my consent, but they didn't.
They were basing it off some random conversation about an expansion plan. And I learned about this while I was in China at two in the morning.
Incredibly depressing. It felt like two years of hard work had gone to waste and they had stole the business out from under me. That mailbox money I was promised never came. And to make matters worse, they still have the company. Massive failure. I had to retain a lawyer. I had to sue them. Thankfully, their lawyer was an idiot. I'm happy to go on record and say that. He was a complete moron. And a lot of the clauses in our contract did not hold up.
legally. It was an unenforceable contract in many ways, not in every way. And so that really helped
our case. So my lawyer helped me claw back to about 29% equity. So up from 16 to 29% and then they
exited. They sold the business and I got a check for 275,000, something like that cash while I was in
my 20s and it was awesome. And I put it behind me. But that was a great lesson to not get married to someone
you've never met. I mean, weeks had elapsed between the first time I had met these guys and when I
first partnered up with them and basically handed over the keys to my business. Not basically.
That's exactly. I literally handed over the keys to my business without any visibility into the bank
accounts into what they were doing. And they took advantage of that. And again, business was successful.
It sold for seven figures. Those locations, most of them are all still there today, 15 years later.
Every time I go back to Tuscaloosa to an Alabama game with my family, I drive by it. It's now called
You Break Eye Fix or a Shurion or something, but it's in the exact same location right on 15.
13th Street. And I just drive by it with pride and it feels good. And the other location in Homewood
slash Birmingham is still there. And the one in Huntsville has since moved, but it's still in
Huntsville. And the one I had in the mall that closed down, that was more of an experiment.
That was our fourth location. But it was a failure in that I partnered up with guys that I
shouldn't have. And had I done more due diligence, I never had I partnered up. But also,
had I done more due diligence and not partnered up with them, that business may have just fizzled
out. Like they genuinely did a better job at growing it than I did. Because they were
all in. They were more invested, whereas I was somewhat distracted. So if I could replay that over and over
and not partner with them, I wonder if I would have netted out ahead or behind. I certainly would have
had fewer gray hairs, but I may have had fewer dollars in the bank account as a result. So that's number
five. Number four, send eats. So this also was not a literal failure in the sense, but it was a failure
in the sense that we had to let a bunch of employees go and we made some bad decisions that led to that.
This was a third-party logistics business, which meant that e-commerce brands would ship all of their
products to us. We would store them in a warehouse. And then as they got sales through their Shopify
site, we would pick, pack, and ship out their orders from our warehouse. This is a very bad
business. You're competing with Amazon, but you can't compete with Amazon unless you have billions
of dollars, which we didn't. And so we were making $400,000 a month in this business, but we were
losing money. And 90% of our revenue came from one customer. And what a toxic relationship that was.
They were a very, very difficult customer to work with.
And it was very straining on my mental health.
And I don't think I've ever said that about any other customer or vendor or business, period.
Like, of all the 75, 80 businesses I've ever started, no relationship has ever been that toxic
or that mentally taxing on me and my business partner and my employees.
And I'll never forget, I was sitting in the hospital in Houston, Texas bedside of my daughter,
who was literally in her deathbed at the time.
It didn't become her deathbed, but she, it was not.
looking good. She needed a lung transplant. And I was at my wits end and this vendor of mine,
it's customer who represented 90% of our revenue and 90% of our employees was just berating
me, just absolutely berating me over email. I just went nuclear on him. After talking to my
business partner first, because you have to make this decision. Like, do we fire our customer and
therefore fire 90% of our employees that support that customer, but stop getting abused by them?
or do we just grin and bear it for the sake of our employees, even though we're losing money?
And it just made logical sense to fire him.
And so I just went nuclear.
He had been holding his power as a large customer over me and wielding that unrighteously,
for lack of a better word, thinking like you could never fire me because he knew how much
revenue he represented in my company.
And we called his bluff.
We said, no, we will no longer ever ship your orders, ever.
And they had thousands of orders ready to ship, thousands of customers waiting on those orders.
And we said, we're done. Come get your crap. Pay your bill. We'll palatize it up. You can come get all your
boxes and your product and we'll ship it to the next third-party logistics company that you choose.
They freaked out. I mean, they freaked out. But we didn't budge. We absolutely did not budge. And they
threatened to sue us and yada, yada, yada. And I said, I'll never forget. All right, I'm going to read this
email because this is one of my prouder moments. October 21st, 2021 at 6.55 p.m.
Oh man, this is triggering to read, but it's also an amazing feeling to read this.
First name, you are volatile, hostile, and unpredictable to work with.
You literally fired us this morning, but still want us to take the risk of scheduling our
employees to come in and fulfill your orders.
We are behaving like a company you just fired, and this upsets you, but your words have
consequences.
As I read this email, I'm remembering, like, he had fired us and basically like expecting
us to say, no, no, no, no.
And we just said, okay, fine, we're done.
I don't remember exactly how it went down, but yeah, we called his bluff, basically.
And then he's like, wait, you have to ship our orders.
And we're like, no, you just fired us, bro.
And we're happy to be fired.
Anyway, next paragraph.
As previously stated, we are happy to continue working with you if you are not involved
in the communication between us.
So we basically said, we'll keep working with your company, but we can never talk to you
again in any form or fashion.
We cannot risk our business on someone making emotional threats at every turn that have
real life consequences on our business.
There is a direct correlation between the strength of our working.
relationship with your company and your involvement therein. As previously stated, we'd love to continue
working with and fulfilling orders for your company, provided your company agrees that we are
still your fulfillment partner until a mutually agreed upon date and you are not communicating
with us. And you are not communicating with us any longer. Any damage caused by these interactions
today will be a result of your pride and unwillingness to cease or take ownership of toxic behavior.
Your continued involvement in this working relationship is a greater liability.
to our business than the current threats you are making. And I meant that. Basically, it's a greater risk
for us to keep working with someone as psychopathic as you than it is for us to stop being your vendor.
And after that, email, his team stepped in and took over to see things through and they ended up
going through a couple more fulfillment partners. That didn't work out either. And they ended up
just fulfilling themselves. A couple years later, I spoke to his team who had since moved on to other
positions and they agreed that. That was an absolutely terrible situation. So anyway, that was a failure.
We should have managed that better. We should have been on top of our numbers so we didn't lose tens of
thousands of dollars every month. We just weren't on top of our numbers. We could have prevented that.
We should have fired them a lot sooner because we had 20 something employees that were reliant on them
being our customers that we had to let go and or reposition within the company. All right, we are to number
three. There's a good chance you've heard this story before as well, especially if you follow me on
Twitter. I had a whole episode dedicated to it last year. I don't even remember what episode number it was,
But long story short, I had a business a few years ago with a couple partners. Actually, I didn't know them at all when I partnered with them. And we built a big business together. We had a $50 million offer on the table to invest in our company, which was life changing money. It was going to help us scale. It was incredible. And then the two partners went behind my back and said, we really don't need Chris here. He's kind of redundant. There's not enough room in the equity stack for all of us, plus the investors. So let's just kick him out. And like,
Legally, we can't kick him out, but let's just close this business and start a new one.
Because the investors like us, they'll start a new business with us that does basically the same thing
and he won't be a part of it.
Well, he'll have 3% ownership instead of 33% and he'll have to sign to not compete to
where he can't compete against us ever.
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and start building something you actually own. So one of these guys, I had gotten to know really,
really closely over the year and a half that we had worked side by side. Our family's vacation together,
I think twice, maybe three times.
Our wives were very close.
Our sons shared the same birthday.
They were very close.
They lived right down the road from me.
They just sat down and said, hey, you're out, dude.
I know it sucks.
I know it's wrong.
But you're out.
I'm doing this anyway.
I know it's wrong.
I'm doing this anyway.
And those words are still echo in my ears.
And that was a failure.
Like that, I had a lot of money.
That was a net failure to matter how you look at it.
On the monetary side of things, not like the life lessons learned side of things.
But I lost money on that.
I lost every bit of equity or potential future value that that company would ever gain.
The reason it was not a failure was because of basically I took all those learnings from
within that business and helped them catapult my career ever since then.
And I started writing content about that industry.
And that, you know, occasional tweet or two about that industry turned into the content
I produced today, which is over 150 million views a month across all platforms combined.
And I don't think I would have ever even thought about making content had that.
experience never happened to me. And I don't know where it'd be today. I'm sure I'd be doing something
cool and having fun, but I don't think I'd be where I am financially speaking or in my career.
I think that terrible event was a net win for my career, although a net loss for me on paper.
So kind of the opposite type of failure is my first couple that I mentioned, a net win on paper,
but really just a net loss experience all around. But I firmly believe that like any, any bad thing in
life that happens to us. As long as we like keep trying, we stay at it and keep trying to be a good
person, given enough time, that bad thing will turn into a good thing. Like, I firmly believe that.
There's only one or two things in my life that I haven't seen the good of already. One or two bad
things that have happened to me and or my family members and I've yet to see the good. But I think
that one day in the future, I will. So any failure, right? If we really want to get tiki-tacky
about any failure could be a good thing if given enough time. That was a big failure. And it was
dumb of me to partner with a couple guys that I didn't know. I mean, I just keep making that mistake
over and over. But I like working with people, you know? It's just funner to do it together. It really is.
And like, despite all the partnership headaches I've had, I still recommend that people get a business
partner. Do it the right way. I have a lot of thoughts about that. That could be a whole other
episode in and of itself. I've written a newsletter about it. But I think it's taken me a lot of time
to realize that I don't make a super good business partner unless I have a very small slice of the pie.
and I contribute a disproportionate amount of value to the business and the partners.
I'm clearly distracted.
Like, that's the whole theme of this, right?
80 businesses in 15 years.
I'm always moving on to the next thing.
I don't regret that.
And I think that that has been one of the major reasons why I've done well is because I've
compounded all my learnings across various industries.
But as a business partner of mine, that could be really tough.
Hey, Chris, hey, hello, that shiny object might be cool for you, but I thought we were doing
something together.
That's tough.
And I've tried to get a lot better about that when people approach me and say, Chris, let's do
X, Y or Z business. And I'm oversimplifying this. It's not how these conversations go. But for the sake of an
example, let's just say, all right, Chris, I want you to put in 10 hours a week and I'll give you 10% of the business.
Nowadays, I'm much more likely to say, how about you only give me 2% of the business and you only
expect three hours a week from me? I really, really, really try to under promise and over deliver now.
And I tell people up front. I don't really need to tell people up front because I publish everything on the
internet, but even so, I say, clearly I'm doing a lot of things. I'm very distracted. This isn't
going to be my only thing, FYI. And so I know you want me to have a bigger role in this. I'd much
rather have a smaller role and an even smaller proportional amount of equity for the time and effort
that you're expecting from me. And then I try to over deliver, but it's taken me a long time to
learn that. You know, when you have 15 business partnerships and most of them don't work out,
at a certain point, you got to look at the common denominator and say, you know what, Chris, either you really
need to take a much smaller slice of the pie so your partners have less expectations from you,
or you need to just do things yourself, which I've learned to really enjoy that. All right,
failure number two of six. Man, that was the company that my best friend slash partner and I
started four years ago this month now, a Bitcoin mining company. We launched that at the worst
possible time. But at the time, it felt like the best possible time. In the summer of 2021,
China banned Bitcoin mining. And so if you don't know about
Bitcoin mining, to explain it very simply, there's a few variables at play. Number one, the price of
Bitcoin. All else equal, the higher the price of Bitcoin, the more profitable Bitcoin mining is.
Number two, the hash rate, which is basically determined by how many other Bitcoin miners
are trying to mine Bitcoin. The more Bitcoin miners there are, the more competitive it becomes
to mine a Bitcoin or a block of Bitcoin, right? So if the price of Bitcoin is not going up,
but the hash rate, aka the competition, is going up, then the profitability of Bitcoin mining
goes way down because the statistical chance of you finding a block goes way down, right? So the perfect
storm happened in 2021 when the biggest Bitcoin mining country in the world, China said, no more,
we don't believe in this. We're out. It is now illegal. So then all of us enterprising Americans
raised their hands and said, all mine Bitcoin. That sounds awesome. So at the same time,
Bitcoin was in a huge bull run. It was hitting an all-time high. It was insanely high in value.
and the hash rate, the difficulty rate of mining, plummeted literally overnight, like
thousands of miners unplugged, literally unplugged, and mining became very, very profitable.
Basically, you could spend like $500 in electricity to mine a $5,000 Bitcoin.
I'm oversimplifying, but it was like stupid.
Mining was insanely profitable.
And so around that time, Nick and I bought a Bitcoin mining facility for three quarters of a
million dollars.
That way, we were able to sell Bitcoin miners and sell the hosting to go along with it,
because you can't just plug these things into the wall at your house. You need three-phase power.
You need ventilation. You need sound control. Everything. It's a whole deal. So you can't really sell
minors unless your customers have a place to put them. And if you have a place to put them,
then you might as well sell minors. So we started doing that. And we made $10 million in our first
90 days without any paid ads. It was just right place, right time. Perfect product market fit.
Yada, yada, yada. We felt like geniuses like we're on the top of the world. And we were
profitable on that $10 million. Right. And we just thought that we could do no wrong. But
just like the No BS Crypto story, we were fighting an uphill battle because what happened at the end of
2021, Bitcoin crashed. It crashed. It started crashing, right? It's a year's and months long process.
And the difficulty rate only went up and the price only went down. And all these miners we sold
to people that were fully expecting them to be very profitable, myself included, were not profitable.
They were at first a little bit and then less so and then less and less and then they became
unprofitable. And we could never turn that around. We can't change the price of Bitcoin. We can't
change the difficulty rate. And so every single year in business, our sales dropped and dropped and dropped.
Profitability dropped and dropped and dropped. Customer sentiment dropped. Stresses went up. The loss is piled up.
I put in hundreds of thousands of dollars. My partners put in even more hundreds of thousands of
dollars. The investors put in hundreds of thousands of dollars. And net of net on the whole,
looking back, that whole experiment lost money. Lost money for me. My partner.
my investors, the customers, Bitcoin miner investors, everyone. Really the only people that won
were the hosting facilities that we partnered with that marked up the rates. They won. And the
companies in China that sold the miners, they won. And it sucked. It sucked because I sold
some of these miners to friends and family. And I'm always very, very careful about that,
very wary about that. Overly so. Like any investment, Bitcoin is the most attractive when it's the
most expensive. And then as soon as it gets cheap, no one wants to buy it. That's how any type of
investing works. Period. End of story. Real estate crash. Stock market crash. As soon as it's cheap,
everyone's afraid. As soon as it's way too expensive, everyone's greedy and hungry. And so I was getting
calls and texts every single week from friends and family. Hey, don't you sell miners? Hey, isn't mining
profitable? And I was buying minors myself. I was eating my own dog food. I had my own miners in my
own warehouse because I'm like, heck yeah, this is a legal money, literally a legal money printing
machine. And so most of our customers lost money. And me and my partners and everyone. Everyone.
So massive failure, no matter how you look at it, financially, emotionally, it's just a failure.
I don't know what I would have done. The whole business was built on the thesis that retail mining needs to happen.
I was very, still am, very passionate about that, that mining should not be in the hands of these mega-corp's, these multi-billion dollar corporations, that mining should be distributed, that people should have a miner in their garage, that they should have one hosted at a data center, full of other retail miners.
And if you look at the hash rate today, it is outrageously high. Mining is still not great,
despite the fact that Bitcoin is $112,000 because the difficulty rate has grown much faster than the price
of Bitcoin. And so even though Bitcoin's near an all-time high, Bitcoin mining for retail
investors is still dead. And I'm honestly pretty pessimistic that retail mining will ever be alive again.
Just due to the nature of what mining is, you have to have cheap energy. And the only way to
have cheap energy is to be a scale or to be in some random third world country or to be flare gas
mining in the middle of West Texas where everything breaks down because of all the dust and heat.
You just need scale to have cheap energy.
And even when you have cheap energy, you're exposed to all these price fluctuations.
And when do you sell?
Do I hold the Bitcoin after I mine it?
Do I sell it immediately?
You kind of have to become a trader in a sense.
It's just an impossibly hard business and one that I had not nearly enough control over.
But that's not my biggest failure.
almost lost a friendship over it, but did not happy to say that we are still doing great,
but we went through some rocky points. But my number one biggest failure is my biggest failure
because of the friendship that I lost over it. I had a company for seven, eight years that
sold wholesale iPhone parts. This is the company after my iPhone repair company. And I launched it by
myself, but I soon brought my best friend on a few months after founding, gave him a quarter of
the business. And he moved his family to Texas. And he had big hopes and aspirations, as did I,
for what that equity would turn into. And it was a ton of fun to work side by side with each other,
grow this business. We grew up really fast. It was really profitable for a long time. But I was
just a stupid leader. Like I was just young. I was in my mid to late 20s. I was all over the place.
I was unorganized. I had 25 employees across four different states, four different warehouses.
I wasn't keeping track of anything closely.
I was, you know, testing other business ideas.
I was not being a good steward of this business, of this revenue, of this equity.
And the tide turned.
The barriers to entry in this business were very, very low.
Basically, if you had a free Alibaba account, you could import iPhone screens for $15 and
sell them for $28.
That's all we were doing.
That's it.
If you could learn how to, you know, import stuff through FedEx and DHS, three-day air,
you could be in business.
If you could scrape by from repair stores and cold call them, cold email them, you could be in business.
If you could build a Shopify store, you could be in business.
And so over the years, we saw more and more competition.
And some of them took this business very, very seriously.
They raised money.
They were sophisticated.
They had good leadership.
They had their own warehouse.
They fulfilled their own stuff.
And they just outsmarted us.
And we did some really cool things in that industry.
We pioneered the lifetime return policy.
We were the first to start it.
And then everyone copied us.
We did tens of millions dollars of revenue.
but there was this weird dynamic between me and my best friend. He was like the CEO. I was just
kind of the owner, but like he was kind of the CEO in name only. And I wasn't really treating him as
such. And there were a lot of ambiguities between him and the other employees. And as the owner of
the business, it was my responsibility to clear that up and to set the record straight. And then one
day in 2017, I had this call with my accountant. And he said, hey, bro, you've lost money this year.
You're losing money every month. And that floored me. I didn't know. I'd been losing money for,
I don't know how long, and I had no idea. I'll never forget that phone call. And we had to make
immediate changes to the business. We had to let people go. We had to close warehouses. And I had to
cut back. I had to eliminate profit distributions for all the shareholders, including my best friend.
And I didn't show much grace or leniency in doing that. I made too big of cuts too quick to
people that I loved. And I could have done it better. I could have rolled it out slower. I could have
given them more breathing room, more runway. I'm trying to tell both sides of the story here, because there's
always two sides of every story. So I'm trying to tell both sides at the same time. Obviously,
I'm biased, but given the benefit of time, I have been able to see more the error of my ways.
And it took me years and years to see that. I think for the first several years, both me and
him were pretty bitter about it. And that's a hard place to be where both people, well, where
neither person thinks they did anything wrong, or at least each person thinks the other person did
more of what was wrong. But given enough time, I think I've come around.
and I'm more on the other side of the table than my own side of the table at this point and thought,
man, I really could have managed that better from day one. So I have a lot of regrets about that
business. I think people say that they live with no regrets. They aren't introspective enough.
I think it's good to have regrets because regrets drive us to be better. If we truly don't have
regrets, then what are we really improving towards? So that is my number one failure.
Even though I netted out ahead on the balance sheet, right? I lost a great friendship over it.
And it eased me up inside, even though it's been like eight years now. And that's a lot more
valuable than money or equity. So when it comes to partnerships, I can honestly say that a business
partnership is more difficult than a marriage. It's more critical even, not more important, right? Of course,
marriage is the most important relationship in your life. But like, I think it's a lot harder to make
a business partnership work than a marriage, frankly. I think that there's no stigma attached to
partnering with someone too quickly, whereas there is a stigma attached to marrying someone too
quickly. And for good reason, that could be a mistake, right? You got to get to know the person.
But in business, it's like, oh, yeah, these guys met in their dorm room and they built the business
yet.
And we hear all these success stories, but it's all survivorship bias.
We hear about the ones that work, but the ones that don't work, you know, no one's
really talking about them on podcasts.
Even this podcast, except for, you know, one episode out of every 230 or so.
But in my opinion, the 80, 20 of business partnerships are 50-50 rarely works unless both
partners are in person together, not remote, in person, side by side, all in.
both feet first, not working another job, not as a side hustle, but literally in the same room
building the one thing together all day, every day. 50-50 can be great there. Outside of that,
if you're remote, one of them works, the other one doesn't. One of them put in money, the other one
didn't. One put in more than the other. It's not going to work. Sorry, it's just not going to work.
I think it usually needs to be someone in the driver's seat, 6040, 80, 20, equity split, an investor
and an operator, that can work. That's more likely to work. Going to business with
friend, it's a lot of fun. It really is a lot of fun. But man, watch out. Be careful. Know what
you're getting yourself into. High risk, high reward. Hope you enjoy this episode. I might regret
publishing this one day, but what's done is done. Thanks for hanging out on the Kerner office.
