The Kristian Harloff Show - Many Saints of Newark Expectations, Sopranos Rewatch and Relationship Advice | The Big Thing

Episode Date: July 5, 2021

On episode 9, Kristian is joined by Steph Sabraw. They talk about Kristian rewatching Sopranos, Steph never watching Heat and the expectations of The Many Saints of Newark. Kristian and Steph also dive into Steph's love life problem. This and more. Enjoy! Follow on Twitter Kristian Harloff https://bit.ly/31PePMD Steph Sabraw https://bit.ly/3m0ud0z Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Just screaming across. Can anybody hear me? You're an idiot. I'm an idiot. That's it. Is that what people are saying to you? Yeah, yeah. Let's talk about, can we talk about this world girl things? Are you allowed to talk about it yet or not yet?

Yeah, we talked about it a little bit. So do you want to save it until it's on the air? Yeah, we'll say. Okay. That's fine. We'll talk about it afterwards. But Steph was telling me this story of what happened. I was just like, only her.

Only you this happens to. But yeah, we want to make sure what's happening. Make sure you go on over and check out the World Girls. It's on the YouTube's. You should check it out. The tubes. How are you? Good.

Yeah? Oh, and you said dog or cat. Are you a dog or cat guy? Dog. But you don't have one. I had one for a very long time. I had one for very long time. I had one for about 12 years.

Taz. He was a pug. Which was he just, he used to go a little gremlin, but he was phenomenal. The kids want a dog. I want to get one. And Ellis and I were talking about it on the Friday show.

And he said, get a dog. I was like, who do you think of me watching that dog when I go? on vacation motherfucker so you better be careful you're going to have another one so um but yeah we want to get one for sure nothing against cats or cat people i just don't like them they just don't give you what you need for what you give them they don't give a shit they don't give you know what's so funny about that is that we were just talking before we went on air about my three and a half year old and my nine year old my nine year old is the dog my three and a half year old is the cat yeah because the nine and a half

year old. The dog always wants to do the whole, hey, check me out. I'm doing a thing. What you think? What's your thing? And he's like, get away. It's such a good job. Good job. He's like, oh, but how about that? What are you about? And the cat's like, when it's your turn to watch me, I'll let you know. Exactly how it is. It's how it is. And from what I know about her, that is how she moved. She's like a cat. She is, she just like. She's like, she'll walk over and she's just like, yeah, now it's time to pet me. Yeah. Go ahead. Yeah. Go ahead. I have cat like, qual. sometimes. I think that's why I see her so much. I don't see that in you. I mean, I guess I don't know you that. Yeah. I think mostly probably in the category of men. When you ask how I'm doing, Christian, I'm like so good. Except men are constantly shit. So wait a minute. So are you, but are you like that? Are you like that when you get into a relationship right away where you just are you're looking, you're looking for some shit? No, I'm not looking for some shit. I'm not looking for shit. I'm just like hanging out. You know, I'm, but a cat looks for some shit. Okay, so maybe I'm not a cat. That's the thing of a cat. Cats are always looking for

shit. Yeah, maybe I'm like, uh, I actually, I think I was a former cat. I'm more of a, a happy dog now. You're like a happy dog. Yeah. You just want, you just want your belly pet. Yeah, I don't want, why are you being meat? Why are you being rude? I'm going to leave. You're going to lose. So you just finding the wrong owners. That's, that's your problem. But that's, that's the problem. That happens in the 20s, man. It happens. It happens. It happens. That's part of it, especially out in this town. The guys out here? It's both.

It is true. That's true. I will say that no one is, everyone wants something, but isn't ready to do something. It's, you'll find the person when you're supposed to. It's such a cliche thing. It's true. Because I don't want to date anyone right now. So of course I'm attracting assholes.

Yeah. And then when you, but that's the thing that when you really, when you're like, I have, I want nothing to do with anybody and I'm, and you're going to get to a place. you're like, I don't want to get married. I don't want to have kids. I don't want to do that. And then you're going to find somebody like, oh, well, I want to have marriage and have kids with you. Like, I remember that happened to me.

It certainly happened to Makuga. I remember when I was, because Makuga and I basically lived the same life just in different decades, right? And I remember, like, when I was going stand up full force and I was, I'm like, yeah, I had many, many conversations with women where I was just like, I am just not, I'm not looking for it. Yeah. But I was honest. I'm like that too. Yeah, see, I had a friend. I had a friend that was, I don't want to say dishonest, but like he would, he'd play into

like, oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, we're like, yeah, we can go into the relationship. Yeah, I'm, I'm down. And he's like, he wanted nothing to do with it. No. Just, he got it straight up, just up top. It makes it so much better. Easier, you know what it is. So much more fun, too, when you know that it's not going to be like that.

But that's why I don't get wire, then, but then someone gets attached and then they get me. That, well, yeah, because then's why. we showed up because I had I, and this is like 2006 when I, I was, I was dating and I was, with one woman that said to me, she goes, I want to ask you a question before I come in. Are you seeing anyone else? I didn't hesitate. I said, yes, I am. Yeah.

And she's like, well, I can't come in. I said, I respect that. I said, absolutely. That's, that's, that's cool. And I wind up, we wind up still dating. Yeah, because you were honest. Honest. If you, if it was, if, if you get yourself into a trap and a trouble there, because if you, if you, if, if then, if, if then, if, if then.

then you're a liar because if they find out then it's more explaining it's like I'm explaining right now I'm explaining you ask me a question that's the answer that's it and then I remember when I met my wife I wasn't looking for a relationship was like she's pretty cool we'll go out with her again let's let's talk she's really cool and then she said to me at one point after we're dating for her she's like are you you know like what's your stance on marriage when when it was time not like on the second date yeah but like when and I was like look I always felt that marriage is just a piece of paper It's just like, why I need you? She's like, well, I am looking for marriage.

I understand that that's the case. That's how you feel. But I am looking for that. So if that's how you feel, then maybe this isn't. And I said, well, I got to make this decision now. Is this, do I want to stick by my mantra or do I want to maybe go away from that because I don't want to lose her? So you've got to make, that's the decisions you have to make in the moment.

When you meet the right people. Right. You got to make it in the moment because you got to know. And I still had all those things like my stand-up comedy brain, everything's like, well, you're not going to do everything you want to do. Yeah. If you make this decision, so you've got to decide which one do you want? Which road do you want to go down?

And that's the conversations that you get into with yourself that you have to figure out. Yeah, especially in our career. But that's why I like you, Christian, because you make decisions that you know you have to say. Right. You're not going to lie and say you didn't make a decision. You made the decision because you thought about it. And so you're okay being honest about. You have to be.

Yeah. Because you just get yourself into so much crap if you're not. And that's not just relationships. That's business. That's anything because you've got to do that even if it's a tough answer, right? Even if it's the hard answer. And like that's just what I'm saying to you is like you'll get. And I remember McCougar telling me, I'm not getting married.

I'm like, because he was, hence the wild man. He was all over the place. And I said, you will. He's like, nah, meets Amanda. And he's like, oh, I really like her. I'm like, yeah, I know. And it's like, you'll have kids. Nah, I'll never have kids.

He's got, he's going to have two before you know. But it's just how it goes. And it's, it is tougher, as we talked about before, it is tough. I'm not going to, it's tougher for women. As far as dating goes, because you can't go to a bar and order a drink. And as somebody, you walk by a guy and like, I walk by a woman, I say, hi, how's it going? She's like, how's it going? That's it.

You do it. Oh, she wants to fuck me. No, she's just saying hi, dude. She wants to get a mehito so she can go to the bar. It's like that's the problem with every guy. Zero to 100. 100% of guys and especially drunk dudes. Yeah.

Guys just sitting there like and you walk by and you say, oh hi. Dude, she wants me. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Dude. You see all the drool coming out of face? She found attractive. She found her shit attractive.

Oh yeah. What was it, Bill? You know your Hawaiian shirt with your mantis tits hanging out? Bill, she wanted you to get the bill. That was it. That's right. That's the benefit. of what you guys have.

Yeah, no, it is true. You can play that up to where it's just like, you know, you can talk to Bill and you can get Bill to pay your bill. Yeah, that's why I understand. I've, throughout my life, I've felt different about strip clubs and dancers. And now I like, I'm like,

if you are men are going to want this, why wouldn't women who are talented at dancing do this? Business. It's a business. If you're comfortable with it, you can do it. I don't believe in, you know, putting people down for that. particular choice of there.

Well, she's your stripper. She just made about $1,000 last night. You're the goof. Right. And it's, I've never, I've never been in the strip clubs. It's just because I, and I guess I think we've talked about it last time. It's just to me, it's like you just, you leave as, you leave more hard up than you did when you walked into the place. With no money.

With no money. It's true. It's just like, and you always feel like such a douche when you walk in there until like, it goes, oh, no, here she comes. Here she comes. And you, and like, you get to that point, we're like, no. but do you want to no and they go why are you here to listen to the music of the juke well do you want to buy a coke yeah how much six grand

for a coke we're gonna get out of here we're gonna leave and it's always when you walk in with a you walked into that place the strippers will be all over you I need to do we gotta give that a world well they would never let us film but it depends on the strip club if you call

if you call the club they probably would but it's like you would if you walked in there what you do is is, you want to crash the internet is, is if all three you do it, like, and, you know, you don't, you don't dress in the, in the, in the material, you dress how you dress, but like, but doing like a, oh yeah, like learning how to do it. Straight up. Yeah, that would be fun.

Hole dancing, no joke, man. No joke. Like, that's, that's a workout. Fuck VR. Oh, my. I can't even, like, do a pull up. How am I going to climb a pole? You, I could, I mean, it's like, it's like, no.

In those heels? No. Are you kidding me? Like that's, it's like, it's like, it's like when people say wrestlers aren't real athletes. Are you kidding me? What are you talking about? It's like, just jumped off the ceiling. Just jumped off the ceiling.

He did a move and he, and he landed on his feet and he flipped. And the same thing with the strippers. She's, she just spun like Neo. And, and that's not, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, they have, like cut up abs. You'll get, you'll get, you'll get your occasional strippers. The men and women who look like they just showed up from the barbecue. Chicken winks. still in their mouth.

Yeah, they're just... Some cilantro. Yeah, she's just like, you know, it's like, yeah, I'm here. I'm just kind of like a bet. And you always feel bad. She's like, that's the one that wants to dance with me. That's the one that wants to give me a day.

Actually, now that I think about it. Yeah, that's the one. That makes sense. Okay. Come on, Ursula. Let's go. No, Ursula. She's...

Was that her stripper and Ann? That was her real name. She was named Ursula. Oh, man. Yeah, the Queen of the Sea. Man. Anyway, so yeah, I was telling you, I went to, had a nice vacation last week.

I went to this town, which was great. And the other thing I was telling Steph, so don't always, for the big thing, we would get into all things of pop culture, by the way. We'll talk about, there's some movies. We'll talk about TV shows we watch and things too. And music that I've been listening to, I have just repeating on my phone has been run

Jules. I've been like listening over and over and over again. But I was telling Steph, I went to Carmel by the Sea, which is pretty close to San Francisco for those people who aren't familiar with it. But we drove up for, we were supposed to drive for two nights. We only stayed for one. Because we stayed with the short story is we went to Solvang, California, which is this little Danish town that it was built as like a Danish town, authentic. And we get there, loved it. Kids loved it. Like, oh, we don't want to leave. I only stay one night because it was like a stop-off place. Then we drive another three and a half hours to,

to Carmel by the sea. Great, beautiful drive, scenic, all that stuff. Hotel we stayed. I'm not going to give, I'm not going to blast the hotel itself because they were really accommodating towards the end of it. So I don't want to call them out

because the manager was really nice. But it was a disaster. We get there, the room itself was as if we were staying, my wife said it was like in a, like our grandmother's basement. It was, ceilings were so low. If I would have done VR in that,

room, I would have broke my wrist, my hand, my elbow, you know, it was so, it was just low. These rooms. And then there were people like having like, like, they're supposed to shut the pool off at like six. People were jumping in the pool at 9, 10 o'clock at night. There's the restaurant's like an hour to get the food. It was, it was, it was not great. And normally I wouldn't care if it was like a Marriott or a holiday. It was like a nice place.

We're supposed to say, it's like we wanted to spoil ourselves a little luxury thing. And it was not a luxury thing. And there's no elevators in this place. Right? So you had to go from the parking lot all the way up, and I'm carrying bags upon bags, so I'm listening to music the whole way through it. So Run the Jules is consistently going. So I was telling stuff, there is nothing less intimidating or hard than somebody who's walking to run the Jules. And you're just like, yeah, I'm feeling like I'm a badass. Hood goes up and grab a portable potty, diaper bag. I don't have kids with diapers anymore, but I have a diaper bag with a bunch of stuff in it.

I think it was like a fancy Nancy doll hanging out the side. And I'm looking at it. I'm like, yeah, that's me. Introducing Zaddy 3,000. It's like, I am a hard motherfucker. You are. Run the Jules Daddy time.

I tweeted it out. I was like there's nothing like that says you are not tough than that. And I'm walking through it. I kept walking through it. But I was laughing my ass off thinking about it as I'm making these various trips. But to answer, we just realized this is not worth it. The city was, the town was great. Karma, we went to the beach, we walked around with the kids.

We had this amazing restaurant. I had like this, my wife had this, like, my wife had this, like, this crunchy kind of Thai salad that was chicken salad was amazing. But my daughter and I shared a shrimp scampy and we had like some crab cakes. And it was delicious. And everything was good. But then we're just like, let's go back to Solving. Let's just go back to Solving and hang out. See if the hotel is available.

And they did. It had the same rate that we had. The Dutch town. The Dutch town. The Danish town. So we just drove back. And it was like, and I didn't mind doing the drive again, the three and a half hour drive because. It was on the way down.

It was on the way, but it was also a really nice drive. And my three and a half year old who's been basically locked in in quarantine for two years or a year and a half, or whatever it was, has never really seen a lot of this stuff. We're driving through the fog around the mountains, seeing the ocean, like cows and horses. And she's, as you know, super funny. So funny. We start playing a game where I said,

every time we see a red car, I want you to scream something out, right? So I was like, and I told her, I said, easy, every time you see a red car scream, it stinks, right? So we see a red car, she goes, it stinks! She's screaming it from the back of my wife. She's screaming. I don't know.

And it stinks. Oh, I can't. I can't, I didn't even think about that. She's missed critical years outside. So much. You take the 405? We took, so the first drive we took there, my wife wanted to go. She didn't, we forgot that the 101, because the 101 here, it's just like.

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Yeah, it's inland. You don't see shit. But the 101, if you keep going up north, you start to see the water. But we forgot about that. So I start taking the one and I'm like, no, no, I want to see the coast. So I got on the one of one.

on south and started going, driving up the coast, which added another 45 minutes to start the trip. But it was fine because we looked at the water. We went to Santa Barbara. We didn't Santa Barbara. It was, and then that, that would just, it's a lot of it, basically just a 101, the whole way through. And then we did the same thing on the way back was just a 101. It was, kids got better on the, well, my oldest is fine in the car, but the little one was a disaster on the way, but then settled into it. Yeah, it takes time. I remember my first road trip, I was like, what the hell is this? She loved this.

This is hell to sit in a car for that long. And then you start to get the gag. You know what game you need. You know what music you need. And you know how to fuck with your family. And then it's funny. If I never hear Kristen Chenoweth sing. Let it go.

No. Oh. She sings on this strange magic, which is a George Lucas animated thing that they did in 2015 that we can talk about in the second. And she's like, be me, you're the one. bam bam bam and she does and she does this operatic version of it and i just i've heard this song stuff

so i hear it in my nightmares now it just and the strange magic music and this is again another story about the three and a half year old that you will love so when she goes she wants to nap now in the car so you know what she does everybody needs to shut the fuck up and i'm talking no music i'm talking nobody can say anything. Like, it's the, the empress is about to go to sleep now. Shut the fuck up. So she goes. The audacity is amazing.

She goes, she goes, nobody talk. And we go, why? I'm sleeping now. And I go, well, no music, no music. And my poor nine and a half year old goes, hey, guys, I got it from the other dog. Baby! No talk. I just cleared the board.

Oh, it's a drill sergeant. And we look at it. each other we go just let the fucking don't say anything let her fall asleep she falls asleep and her head's bobbing around falling to the side she's out right but like she's just like she is she's a little empress

wow and we're too exhausted yeah we're just too exhausted it's like you know what just fucking fine the problem is she's found the genius of getting what you want is to be kind of funny she's funny and that's funny she's cute and she has great hair she got Jean Hackman here yeah she had great hair like Jean Wilder hair

the whole thing she just has I don't know, moxie. She does. Like, I'm telling you, right before we started shooting this show, I walk into my bedroom, and she's laying on my king-sized bed, just sprawled out, like, the big Lubowski, like, just laying there watching, like, the Lion Guard.

And I'm like, what are you doing? She's like, shrugs. I don't know. I got it. I got it. It's like, you know. For the people to come. You don't worry about what I'm doing.

You go do your show. Go make the money for the house. So that way we had the Disney Plus done and get canned. canceled and I got my uh you know I got that I got the fancy Nancy this morning she's doing she does like loops in the living room listening to strange magic again this morning so strange magic was a movie that came out and ellis and I started briefly talking about this in the day and I figured we're just talk about it today it's it was a it was like there's the project yeah is it with Sandra Bullock no no no no okay practical magic strange magic is an animated movie

it was George Lucas is like first movie away from from way after he sold Star Wars. I think, I think so. Before the... You know it came out in 2015, but yeah, it was 2015. So he already sold, he already sold Lucas.

So I don't know if they did it with him or what it was, but it was George Lucas's movie that he did. And I remember at the time, I still haven't watched Ellis and I said, we were going to watch the review. I remember not liking it. Because I thought that they used a lot of modern, they use a lot of, like, popular music

that the characters are singing. I had an issue with it at the time. but then this was before trolls. Did you ever see trolls? Yeah. So trolls did all that and did it really well. Yeah, they did. And my daughters, both of them, the nine and a half year old and the three and a half year old, are obsessed with this movie right now.

Obsessed with it. It's a good movie for kids. It's on Disney Plus. And I think that revisited it was a little bit ahead of its time. But I know the soundtrack, like I can bleed the soundtrack right now, which I've known it's so. Because to hear, because is that, what's that? Kelly Clarkson song, The What Doesn't Kill You Make You Make You Stronger?

Oh. What doesn't kill you? It makes you stronger. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's in there. And this morning, the three and a half year old goes, Yeah, sit down. And I go, okay, I'm going to put on your show.

Come here. And she goes, hit to magic. Hit to magic. So I hit the magic. And she starts doing what doesn't kill you make stronger. She's moving around in a circle. She goes to the beat. I think she's going to be a dancer because she, like,

throws her arms up at the, the right time and she moves around she just like a spin rock star it's it's crazy and then the the stuff with her is that i love her language like it's like the way that she maneuvers the english language like she's the other day she said something because i left her on the toilet by accident and i forgot that she was on the toilet she was she was on the toilet she had to reproduce so she's out she's on she's on the toilet she left her on the toilet and she's she's she because i thought she she's was playing with her toys and she's like dad dad i'm like relax i'm like i'll watch you play your fucking game

doll game in a second i'm like give me a break i'll be there in a second so i leave her for a second and get phone i'm like i'll watch you in a second and she's like come here i need help i'm like all right so i walk in the living room she's not there i go what that oh my god i left her on the toilet so i walk in and she's like sitting there on the toilet and i go Oh my God, I left you. She was like, it's all right, Dad. And then I go, amazing. I'm so sorry.

She goes, I give you. I give you. It's her own language. I knew exactly what she made. That's why I don't understand. Everybody breaks chops about everybody else. Like when you say, if you go, well, you know, me and Steph, it's Steph and I. You know who the fuck I was talking about?

Christian, yes. You know what I mean? Yeah, I get into battles with people about this. I say, what is language for? To depict an emotion. Is the emotion, did you get what I'm. You knew what I meant. You knew what I meant.

Why are you asking? You want to show that they're smarter. They want to show that they're smart. It's you and I. It's not the actual thing. Now I understand if you, if you say, I'm, you know,

I'm gonna say, what the fuck did you just say? That I, you know, sab, boof, deep, zip, then at that point you go, I don't know what you're saying.

Yeah. But if you're like, you know, we went, me and, me and, me and Ralph, we were, we were down the,

down the, it was upside down. You mean it was backwards? Oh, Did you get what I was saying? You clearly did because you pulled the word that you wanted to say. So when she says, I give you, no asshole, it's forgive. Oh, you mean forgive?

You know, you dummy. Let me say that to a three and a half year old. You wouldn't say that to three and a half year old. Well, but you should know better. Now, you should think you know better. You should understand what I'm saying. You should know what the hell I'm saying. I'm watching heat too much.

Watched heat. Have you ever seen heat? With Sandra Bullock. Sandra Bullock is in everything? And Elizabeth. That's done. That's the heat. Sandra Bullock is in everything.

Hey, have you seen The Godfather with Sandra Bullock? You know that Sandra Bullock flick? You know that Sandra Bullock flick? I guess it's a good guess because she was in Heat. It's like, hey, you ever seen that with Sandra Bullock? No. She was not an apocalypse now. The proposal?

Yeah, Proposal. Heat. Do you like action movies or crime movies? I'm starting to get more to that. You're more girly stuff? No, no. I like thrillers and mysteries and comedies. You've got to watch Heat.

Okay. So you have you heard of it? Yes. Who's in it? I've heard of the word heat. You know what I meant. Bruce Willis? No.

Okay. Keep going. Nicholas Cage. No. John Travolta. No. What era? A 90s.

Mid 90s. Mid 90s. Okay. Let's see. I don't, Vin Diesel. No. The heat. You got to get somebody.

Heat. You got to get somebody. Because then I'll start to tell you what the plot is. Can I have a clue? It takes place in the mid-90s. Okay, who else was Brad Pitt? No. Leonardo.

No. Uh, I don't know. I do impression of one of them on the show in S-C-N. Oh, Robert De Niro? Yes. Okay. And who else? I got one.

Okay. Who else did the impression of? That wasn't even the one I was going for. I don't really even do a De Niro that much. You do-do or De Niro? I do-do. You do-do. Come on.

Let's go. Get it together. Five. What's his name? You're an announcer on FCL. JT. Come on. Sen of a woman.

Let's go. You are young. I don't know the name. Godfather. Oh my gosh. It's Pacino. It's Pacino. Al Pacino, Robert De Niro,

and Val Kilmer, Tom Seismore, Danny Trejo, Natalie Portman, All in this movie. All in this movie. This movie is, I missed a lot. I might give you, and if you lose this movie, I'm coming after you, but I might let you borrow it.

Even though it's on, do you have stars at home? Maybe. It's on stars? I can rent it. Yeah, I mean, you can borrow it. And it's, you got a Blu-ray player, yes? Maybe not. Forget it.

Just rent it. Forget about it. This movie, I watched it again the other night, talked about it with Ellis briefly. So it takes It's Michael Mann, 1995 It's a, it's a straight up crime thriller, but it's fantastic. And so it's, I'll pitch you,

I'll pitch it to you. And you tell me if you want to watch it. Okay. I'll be honest. So is this crew led by Robert De Niro and they're like, they're master thieves, right? And they like, they go for the big scores. They've been hard criminals.

They're not like just ripping off liquor stores. They like go for the main scores and starts off with like this bank heist or it's or truck heist that they do. They take down the score. Something kind of happens inside of the heist where they normally, one of their crew members kind of screws up. But for the most part, successful. Pacino runs the cops side of it of the people who start hunting down De Niro's squad.

This is the first time De Niro and Pacino have ever been on camera together together. They were in Godfather too, but De Niro played a young, a younger version of his dad. They're opposite teams. They're opposite teams. So Pacino runs the, Pacino runs the cop squad, De Niro runs the criminal squad. And they, it's basically once Pacino first is investigating them and then finds out who they are, and then starts to trail them and do all this stuff.

And then De Niro catches on that Puccino's onto him. So it's like this cat and mouse kind of game. And then there's this legendary scene where the first scene that they ever been together on film, De Niro and Puccino are at this cafe and they're having this whole kind of, conversation about realizing, okay, look, this is what you do. And Pacino says to him, he goes, you ever think about having a regular life? And De Niro goes, the fuck is that? Barbecue and ball games?

He's like, no. He always like, me. Nah. He's like, he says, more like your life. He goes, my life's a disaster. And he goes into the whole thing talking about it like because he's always on the hunt and his relationship. His stepdaughter is Natalie Portman.

He's on his third marriage because he's so going after the criminal on every single thing and De Niro's like it's it's fantastic I'm in it's a great great movie that sounds one of my favorites I don't know how I've missed that I mean it's it there's so much shit out there there's so many movies out there that it's like also my parents aren't movie people like now they are all they do is watch movies but when we were growing no it's probably a good thing they might see the opposite the reason I probably am into movies is because of my dad my dad would take me to the movies every week no matter what was out like we would just pick something and it was like And if it was shit, it was shit.

It was like, I remember seeing Color of Night with my dad, which is a Bruce Willis movie. It is a, I think he's Bruce Willis's penis shot or something. This man has a movie of, like, he's got everything. And it's, it is a, it is not a good movie, but I remember seeing that. I've seen everything with my dad. I remember we would go, it didn't matter what it was. Like, yeah, you want to see that new one? It would be, it would be like, you would say a new Nick Cage flick?

Like, Julie Roberts got a new one. You want to see that one? All right. What's next? Oh, who's out there? Billy Crystal's in something. I would see something every week with somebody. And it was because it was like, okay, every week there was something out.

Yeah. And we would just, let's go, let's go to the movies. Because it was before streaming. It was before any of that stuff. So we wanted to go see something. A movie theater was right down the house, right down the street from our house. So we'd go and we'd check it out. And that's kind of how I guess I got my into it.

I think so. And why I knew a lot about movies because especially the 80s and 90s, I know a lot about it. Yeah. Yeah. Like recently it's been harder to catch them. That's my blind stuff. And it's so hard for a movie to be bad where you don't want to be in the theater. Yeah, I mean, they exist.

They do. 100%. But, yeah, especially if you're spending time with your mom and your dad and you're going there, too. Like, it's so fun. I had this conversation with my mother all the time. She does not believe that she took me to see my first rated R film, which was Beverly Hills Cop, right? Because if you know my mother, it is very, she wouldn't let me watch, like, Three's Company, like, these sitcoms. She wouldn't let me watch stuff when I was younger because of certainly.

She certainly wouldn't take me to see an Eddie Murphy movie where there's cursing and stuff like every other second. But I think what happened was we went to see a movie together because it was rare that I saw movies with my mom. But we went and she took me to see it. And I don't think she spent the money on it. I think she didn't want to leave. I just remember it so clear being there with her on it.

And it was my first rated our film. And she just did this day, I didn't take you to see that. I wouldn't do that. I wouldn't do that She blocked it out She's like no That didn't happen And I was like

She said I remember She's taking you see karate kid That one I remember Because then I made you watch my car afterwards Not that Beverly Hills cops Not the Beverly Hills cop I wouldn't take you to see that That was probably your father

It was like no it wasn't my father My father took me to see He took me to see Vision Quest Which I thought was my first rated-dard movie But that didn't come out until 85 Oh Yeah I haven't seen Vision Quest either

Not a lot of people have But it's a, it's, it is, that's another one. If I was going to, that one I don't know if I could get you on board with, but it was, it's, I want to see a remake of that movie. That one is. Why? Because you think it could be done better now. No, it's, it's, it's just very 80s.

Oh. And it's, it is Matthew Modine and what the hell was her name? Linda Ferrantino and Ronnie Cox, who's also in Beverly Hills Cop. But it's the story of this guy. He's on the wrestling team. It's definitely a dudeish movie, right? And he's on a wrestling team, and he fights at a heavier weight, and he's got to drop down to a lower weight. But that's very hard for him to do because of his body type and, like, he's got to get nosebleeds because of it.

But he wants to do it because he wants to go wrestle this guy, Shoup, who is the undefeated kind of the guy. But as he's training, they meet this woman, Linda Farentino, who's kind of this kind of rogue woman who's been kind of going to the town. when a dad winds up helping her out at a bar or something and staying with him, he falls for her. And it's like, you know, mixed with a love story plus the fact trying to go down. I watched it recently. My wife was like, what the hell is this?

She's a big 80s movie fan. But that one I'm not going to say, Steph, you got to watch Vision Quest. I do love, I just watched that reminded me of Warrior. I watched that during quarantine for the first. Oh my God. Very different movies. I know, but you said wrestling and fighting.

It is, it is, it's, look, I love Vision Quest, But like I said, do you like 80s movies? Do you like the genre? No, I've missed that era. Doreena's trying to get me on to watch. Which ones? Does she want you to watch? I don't even know what they're called.

I've seen the Goonies. I love the Goonies. I love the Goody. Because every creator wanted to be a kid in the Goonies who found a map. Dorena has pretty good 80s movies taste. So I would, I probably, Gremlins. I haven't watched. But yeah.

Yeah. So she's got to be. I've seen Ghostbusters because of Danak because of the. cast like i love the s and l cast okay yeah then then you should absolutely i mean yeah that's a if you're looking for comedies for sure the 80s that there's there's tons there's time to watch but look i got something else for you guys because you're talking about all this streaming stuff you're talking about everything that you can do express vpn you guys have heard about it on the big thing if you've been listening to this show or watching this show you know about express VPN because if you ever

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Sopranos. I wanted to, I've never seen Super. Ever? No, I want to do a full watch before the movie. You got it. Did you love the trailer? Yeah,

I did. So good. I can imagine if I had watched a show, I'd be even more pumped about it. But I, I've seen like an episode and it was so clear that it was an excellent show.

I just, I didn't, I need to sit down and actually commit to it. Just watched a pilot again last night. So I'm going to, I'm rewatching the entire series. Okay, then I'm going to start.

Go. And then we can talk about it. Okay, great. Yeah, so when you get into, so right now, episode one, I'll give you a breakdown of what happens in episode one. Right. So as you're watching it, you'll say, okay, and then that way I don't spoil episode two for you.

So, and this is something that we'll be rewatching and revisiting Sopranos for those people. If you watched the Many Saints of Newark, which I've watched that trailer, I've watched that trailer so many times I feel like I'm watching a Star Wars trailer. Like, I want to, it is, it is easily my most anticipated movie of the year. No way. I think so. Even over Dune. I was about to ask you about Dune in the...

Even over Dune. Yeah, I think he's the way... I was intrigued by it before the trailer came out. His son, holy shit, his son is... Not only was like, okay, well, it's Gandal Fini's son. I was like, that's young Tony. It really seemed like young Tony. It'll mean so much more to you when you see it.

Once I see it. So the first episode of Sopranos, you're rewatching. I mean, I've seen the series many times, but I haven't rewatched it in so long. So revisiting the pilot again. It starts off with him. Do you know the overall premise of the show? Yeah, I am with his therapist.

He's sitting there and he's telling him what's gone down. And he had a panic attack. And like, mobsters can't go to therapists. Like, they can't do that. They can't, but he did. He had a panic attack. And he was, he's in his pool and these ducks came in. And they put him at ease.

And he saw this family of ducks. And he was so excited to show his family the ducks. And they show this whole family dynamic of everything's going on. But they show both of his family dynamics. They show the family. of his actual family, and then they show the Mob Side family, and they go into the history. And it's funny after you watch that trailer of the new movie, and you see these little things that happen. He's got a varsity jacket on in the trailer. His uncle says, his uncle's in the shot for one second.

He played by Corey Stahl in the new trailer, who was in Ant Man and a lot of other things. But he plays junior, who's his uncle. And his uncle, he even says to him, he says, how many times I play fucking catch with you? How many times I did this? And he even says, my uncle was a good guy. he did this, he played this would be, he was there, he did, and you see him brief in the trailer, but his uncle, and he said, but my uncle also said to me, I never had the body for a varsity athlete, and that's going to play into it.

And the fact that you see, there's so much that plays into this guy's psyche and what's happening, even watching that trailer, the new trailer, and watching that pilot, you're like, yeah, he's like, he doesn't, he was kind of brought into this life, and he wanted to do other things. He says he went to, in the pilot, he says, I went to college for like a semester and a half,

You know, and then he was always kind of called to this life. And like, so this is his son playing him. Playing Tony. Before he became the mob boss. Yeah, he becomes, he becomes the Don in New Jersey eventually, right? And like, and that's, and so, and his uncle, so it was, the sopranos were part of the DeMayo crime family, which is where, and so I think that's who Ray Leota plays. I think Ray Leota plays old man DeMaio. Okay.

So the, the mob boss. The main guy in Jersey. I think that's so he's in jail. He's in that scene at the very end where he's like, you know, and your nephew, stay away from him. Like Ray Liotta at the end. I'm pretty sure he plays old man to Mayo. There's some, you really need to watch.

Like people like, oh, should I watch the series first or should I just go into the movie? Watch the series first because there's going to be throwbacks to some of the characters. I'll make it more fun. Yeah, like Silvio Dante is in it. Sylvia Dante is one of my favorite character. He's got like a De Niro thing, but he's like,

Atalton, there's a lot of stuff. that we got to do. We got to go here. Oh, we could go there. And he does, even in, I'm sorry for being the bearer of bad news. He does this thing. I love how with Italian mob movies, we are totally okay and happy to recycle the same actors for every single character. Well, this guy, he wasn't.

Stephen Van Zand was, he's part of Bruce Springsteen's band. Oh, I thought he was in, uh, good fellow. No, not Steve, not Stephen Van Zand. Paulie, the guy who plays Pauley Walnuts was in, I think he was briefly in Goodfellas. Okay. Well, then I'm thinking probably my mind's going to Ray Lio. You're not wrong. But that's the thing.

Ray Liotta, the people, Rayliota was supposed to play, was supposed to be in Sopranos TV series, but I think he passed on a role. He was not in a lot of gangster movies because he's got this big, obviously, iconic role as, as Henry Hill, which they throw a Henry Hill reference in the pilot. I saw that. You did see that in the pilot. Yeah. In the pilot, he says, he was like, he's like, what are you going to Henry Hill on me?

He grabs Christopher by the neck. But this, but yeah, you're not wrong. There's a lot of like the side characters that are thrown in to these movies that you see a thousand times over. That are, but there's, Joey Diaz is going to be in, in this, in this movie, how he's never been in the Sopranos. I have no idea. I think he said he auditioned for it once, but he's going to be in it. I am, I am so psyched for this movie. Like, it is, it is, and it comes out of my birth.

birthday. No way. Yeah. So like I got my wife last night, I, if I would have told her to take a pile of horse shit and sniff that or watch this surprise me, she might have taken a horse shit. No way. She won't, she won't watch the surprise. I don't mind she's in that. But my birthday, she's got to watch the movie. Oh, so. Is that the deal? Yes. What day is it? October 1st. So you're a Virgo? Libra. Libra. Yeah. October 1st, not far away at all. No. It's right around the corner. So, and because when I was bummed at, I started doing some more research and heavy and deep dives on the, on the Sopranos stuff, the movie. It was supposed to come out March of this year before COVID, which was a bummer. Not that big of a delay, but yeah.

It's still a delay. It's been a while. But that trailer just caught fireman. And the trailer is so good. I cannot wait for that movie. But I am looking forward to Dune. I'm really looking forward to Dune. What's the deal now with Dune is?

When is it coming out? They haven't announced a date. I think it's September. October. See, no one knows anymore because there's so many different times. I mean, there's people who will be watching this and will comment it whether you're live chatting or putting it in the comments. And by the way, everybody who's watching this, drop a comment in YouTube. I will respond to them.

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We don't do any of that because you guys have asked for it. The pure conversation shows I don't disagree with you. I love doing them. That's why I've been doing all these. It's been it's been hard to do because it's kind of played into a lot of the other work I have to do. But I really enjoyed doing the conversations. We've been able to do it. But in order to keep doing it, we need you guys to download those podcast episodes.

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What are the movies really taught? But yeah, I did that one. Dune. So Dune comes out. That one, That one I think is going to be this, like where Star Wars, where we talk about every Friday, obviously, is a mixture where kids can love it and adults love it, right? Dune's going to be like the Star Wars for adults. Yeah.

What's Christian's view on Timothy Shama Lada, Mada, Mada, Tama Lama Lama. Shama. I like Shama Lai. I think he dances too much, but I like Shamaulay. What do you mean? He does this, like, weird, kooky, like, dance, like, all the time. Like, every movie is in. He always does some weird dance.

He did it in Little Women. He does it. Yeah, he did do it as little women. Always does it. He always does it like weird dance. And it's like, I do like him, though. I think he's a really good actor. He doesn't annoy him.

Why, do people get annoyed by him now? No, I'm always curious because I think I've noticed guys are like, I think he's a good actor, but I'm confused about the how every woman loves Timothy. He's confident. Yeah, yeah, that must be it. So I'm always just curious about that. But I want to see his movie The King on Netflix. Oh, right.

That one's out too. I've never seen that one. But yeah. But that goes back to it. It's very similar what we were just talking about before with honesty and anything, too. It's a confidence. Like that's the thing that guys. But that's what guys have that women, like, that it's the difference, right?

Is that I've known many dudes that look like their heads got smashed in with a hammer. But they were so confident. They pulled women like it was going out of style because it's a confidence thing. It's like if you own who you are and know you are and you're funny, right? And you can throw some jokes. You're in. Yeah. And don't, it's like, because you start to play into that, like, if you play into those insecurities by not being real, women can smell that shit from a mile away.

Oh, 100%. Yeah. It's so, people ask all the time, like, I'm not confident, like, how, and I'm more shy when I'm talking to women. How does that, like, how, what can I do? And it's like, you have to start liking yourself. You can own it. Yeah. You got to like yourself and own that about you.

It's very similar to stand-up comedy. because it was one of the reasons why I think that I did well when I didn't understand it because you've got to that is the most vulnerable you can be because you are there's no when acting or anything else you are you have other people to lie to to rely on if you drop a ball and someone picks you up their line they're shot but whether it's acting or anything else you are by yourself and stand up so if they always say and I agree with it, the audience within 15 seconds will know if they want to root for you or not. You can get them on your side if they're not right away, but they'll know right away.

15 seconds, they're like, okay, I'm in. Because you've got to own that energy. And it's the same thing when you go out and talk to somebody. Like if I approach you at a bar and I say to you, I, um, you know, I saw you, you're like, oh. But if it's just like, you walk up, brother, it's like, hey, what's your name? How are you? And it's like, well, even if you're in a mood, if you're, if you're like, people are, because what you don't understand is women are getting, they're like, like a linebacker, just trying to get people out of the way, right?

Because it's like enough, enough until you, and that can be intimidating people because you're like, oh, God, she's exhausted by everybody else. I just want to say hi. And you want, and the goal is have the conversation. Talk, I was like, okay, this guy isn't a weird. This is this one to have conversation. Yeah. And then you're like, then you're in the middle of it. And you're like, okay, I actually enjoy talking to this person.

You have genuine intentions. If you actually want to talk to someone, we will feed off that energy. Yeah, and look, some people, men and women are assholes. A hundred percent. You might walk up, you might approach someone and say, okay, well, I'm going to be confident. And they just might be a dick and say, I don't want to talk to you together. This certainly happens to me. You have to, like, comedy has to be, rule.

Like, everything has to be funny. All the, this is why I don't get offended when people say shit to me or do shit because I'm like, it's funny. You don't like me? That's funny. You don't like me? It's funny. Right, but it's also. Jokes on you.

Jokes on you. And that's it. So it all plays into it. And I think that it plays right back into Tony Soprano. Tony Soprano was... I can't wait to find out more lessons from Tony. Tony Soprano pulls so many women. And he pulls so many women and you're like, but you understand why.

A, super powerful. he's super confident but he's not a good dude but that was one of the things that was so revolutionary about the Sopranos in general right was the fact that people now

yeah Breaking Bad had a lead actor that was a bad dude you know they Sopranos was like the first series and I know there's probably other ones out there but the first one that really pop where the bad guy was like the main guy that you're following because that's

that has to be intimidating for executives to approve. He's like, wait, mobster is the main guy that we're going to be following every week on the show because it's not like today with streaming. Streaming is like, okay, here's the show. Okay, you get a whole bunch of shows and a whole bunch of episodes and go.

Like, there was a pilot that they had to shoot first for this thing and get to prove because even Jamie Lynn Singler, you know, the actress who plays Meadow Soprano. She had a, I believe she had a nose job because, like, you see her in the first episode, And, like, she's very different looking in the first episode. And then the second episode. No way.

Yeah, because it was, the pilot was shot. And then they shoot. And then after they got greenlit, then they started shooting. You'll notice significantly from episode one to episode two. And it's probably what she was, she was probably insecure about it for a long time. Realized she was going to be on, on the show on HBO. He got picked up. And she's like, I want to go through with this.

Now it's probably something in a decision that she wanted to do for very long time. Yeah, maybe. If you look at a lot of the movies from the 90s. and the actors and now there's a lot of changes. Yeah. Like even she has been gorgeous in all phases and is probably. Sandra Bullock. Sandra Bullock.

Hallie Barry. You watch Hallie Barry in Boomerang and Hallie Berry in anything now. There's like a lot of changes. She's been at 10 out of 10 in every phase, but I think a lot of people did. That's the thing is a lot. It's a matter of, it's the dangerous thing about getting work done in general. I have this conversation. Because once you start.

It's like an addiction. Yeah. And the problem is that when you do it too much, everybody starts to get that same cat face. All in L.A. I'm like, so many women look the same. And I'm like, is this what we think is? It's like their business card at one point because it's like,

oh, you know, because they all have the same face. It's like. It's like, and the lips. But Nicole Kidman was starting to get that. And someone must have told her, cut it out. Because now she's starting to, she's a beautiful woman. Yeah. And she just, and, but there's a matter of too much of it.

And it's like, I get it. And like you said earlier, dudes are different. Dude, when, with aging, it's just, it's a different thing. And I, and I can't. And like, we pick up like a dude with gray hair. You're like, hmm, kind of sexy. It's just interpreted different for a woman. It is.

Everything about aging. Yeah. And I, and I can say simple, like I say this to my wife, I just like, it's easier for me to say because I'm not in the position, but I'm like, just. just age just to me it's more attractive and this is me maybe not everyone else but to me it's more attractive when a woman just is like herself like when she just like helen mirren right yeah helen mirin is a beautiful woman i don't know if she's ever gotten worked on if she does if she does she's kept it natural yeah natural like and i think things like that it's just i just you know

like Lisa kudrow to me when you when you looked at when you looked at the friends reunion like and and and this isn't by the way but by no means we're doing like there's no shaming i just There's no shaming. It's a matter of like it's noticeable, right? Like Courtney Cox, very noticeable, right? Jennifer Addison is starting to notice. Lisa Kutrow just looks like, to me, she's like the oldest out of all of them.

And to me, she looked like she just like naturally. It looked great. She looked naturally. I know it's so, yeah, it's not a knock to the women. No, I just don't understand it. It's just, I think we've convinced ourselves that it's better to do that than to age, even though it's not. Right.

And I think that it's. Because men don't do it and they look good. But I, and it is, it is very different for women, though also, too, especially in this business, because it's like it, there's, there's, there's, there's, there's only so much shelf life for men and women in regards to certain roles and certain things before you start to age out of certain roles into the mom role or the dad role or, or certain other things are being on camera. Like, if I was to go back from what I'm doing normally, like, I'm able to be on camera and do things because I run my thing, right? Like from when I was on Fandango doing stuff, I was like, you know, it's in like, mid-third. I wouldn't be, if I went out to try to do those jobs now, I wouldn't get those types of jobs now. Because I'm older. And I know that, but it's also, but it's hard to accept, you know, especially when you've been doing it for so long. You look at someone like Bonnie, Bonnie Somerville, who is a very attractive woman and is still, like, still getting all these roles too. But like, it's like she has to, as an actress, shift into where she was getting the, the, the, where the Ross's girlfriends and things of that nature.

Once you start going to a certain place, it's like, okay, now you get the, it's the mom rolls. It's like, you look, that's hard for anyone to accept, but that's part of the business. And I think, and I, like, Bonnie's another example. Bonnie, Bonnie looks great. Amazing. Great. And I think that, you know, it's just, it's just a, it's, it's so tough because you're not in people's heads. You don't know the way that it works in general, like the jobs that you're getting.

So, yeah. Men are starting to do it, too. I would argue A-Rod had more work than J-Lo. Maybe so. Maybe so. J-Lo, God, she is... I was going to say, other than J-Lo. J-Lo, J-Lo-Las. She is not ugly. That is a fact.

Man, I remember she, when working at Wonderbrother, she came in one time, and everybody was just like, oh, all-l-l-b-b-b-b-all-b-b-all. Everyone. Yeah, she smells so good. But I taught, I said this story many times. My wife, to the point where my wife's like, I get it. She smelled. God, like I was, and I might have told this story a billion times on Shmo's No also, but I was working on

the invasion, which is a remake of invasion of body snatchers. And I remember standing, I mean, exactly where I was outside of this house, and this smell comes over me, almost brought me to my knees in a good way. And I was like, what is this heavenly like smell? No. I turned to my right, standing directly next to me is Nicole Kidman. And I was just, and she's like, hello, I'm gonna fucking know who you are. I'm like, hey, I was going. And talking to her very, very briefly.

And just thinking to myself, that is the best smelling woman that has ever graced my presence. Like, it was incredible. Wow. It was like that moment of scent of a woman. I wanted, that reminds me of this one Uber ride and I was in this old dude.

You know how they like want to put him part wisdom on you? He's like, you really want a good guy. You got to get a guy. you got to get all five senses. And he starts, he's like, taste, you need to taste good. Smell, you got to smell good. When you go into a room, take up the entire smell. And you just started going through it all.

Yeah, that's what Jalo did, I think. Jalo got everything. Jalo checked off all the boxes. Yeah, she really does. She really does. Smelling good, though, is important. It's big. Yeah, it's really big.

Well, my wife today, when I was, she woke up this morning, and I was just like, oh, my God. She's like, what? You smell wonderful. And she's just, why it's shampoo or something. But it's like, I'm very, just for me, it's very important. Sent-oriented. Yeah.

Very much. It makes a lot of sense. Yeah. Sense. There you go. Say, look at you. You put it all together, just like that. You figured it all off.

It is. It's brilliant. One. Have you been watching anything worth of damn? Dave. Oh, you know. Season two? So I'm now, I started it.

And then Rick and Morty season two. Dave is, it's kind of having a. Do you watch Atlanta? No. Okay. Atlanta's an excellent show, but the first season was so fucking funny. I'll rewatch episodes. Like there's this white face episode that I just think is,

it brings me to tears every time. Second season, it was called robbing season. So that was the whole thing was everyone was getting fucked over. So it was a darker season. That's kind of how this day feels. First season was so funny. This season's just automatic, like, dark out to get darker.

I got to, so, you know, my buddy Andrews in that show. Oh, yeah. He has a major role in the first episode. Yeah, he's really, which makes sense now because he's, because he's, he's, he's blown up in general because he was, he's always been in a lot of different shows, but since he's been on Joe Rogan's show and he's got his own show with Bobby Lee, bad friends, and he's been blowing up. So it makes sense why wouldn't you utilize him more?

Because he's got a big fan base. And he should, he's a phenomenal actor and he's really, he's really funny. But I want to get him, his stupid ass, want to get him in here. Oh, we could talk about the show, too. I'd love to get him in here. I'm going to actually, I'll text him. the show's over and I'll see. But yeah, so Dave, Dave is something, I got to watch, I have to watch more of that.

I watch the first episode. I still haven't watched Ted Lassow. I got to. Oh, you got to. Is that something Sadie would be into? Tried it. No? Try it and Bill.

I think it takes some time. I think that for me, what I'm going to do is I'm just going to, like, what I realized, what I taught myself recently is that I can get shows watched if I, depending on the time that I do it, right? Like, I watched an episode of Sopranos last night, right? and I watched heat. Heat took like almost a three-hour film. It's 240.

But it goes, it goes. And you can be honest. Like when you watch it and you come back and you're like, I had to turn it off. Okay, I'm going to watch you this weekend. Yeah, then you turn it off. But, yeah, because we did that deep dive for Wolf of Wall Street, which was great.

We're going to do other deep dives. The other thing I didn't mention on Sith Council. If you've been looking for Sith Council, it's on the new channel, it's on the STN channel. We just did our first one. Bad Batch has like six episodes left. So I think that I was going to mention this to you and Mike on the show, but I forgot. What I'd like to do in the interim, because we're not going to have a new show until, like, Boba Fett.

Like, I know that they'll have, like, droids or whatever, whatever else is coming out, like, anime show. But the next big show is Boba Fett. I want to do rewatches of the movies. So, like, we will do like the Phantom Menace episode, Colonels episode. Like all, how many other total? 11 movies? Right? Yes.

11 movies total. So, yeah, in Clone Wars, you just include the Clone Wars and Rebels. But we do, we do like a full rewatch of all of them and just like deep dive, like the full movie for like the full episode and do that. I think that'll be a simple too. Yeah, definitely. We should do that. I was just thinking about how I want to rewatch them. Yeah, that'll be good.

Especially because we're pulling from the Empire Day so much moving forward with all the shows dropping. What would you do if, and maybe this has been a thing for you? So you start dating a dude and doesn't give a shit about Star Wars. Does it really matter? Because obviously it doesn't matter for me Because my wife doesn't give a shit All of the guys I'm like talking to now So you say you're not dating right now

Are you just you just not going to get serious? Yeah, just not serious Yeah, yeah So we can go over the The roster soon How do you find dating apps? No, I'm not on I have really good luck

With meeting people in random places Well you said you don't have very good luck Awful luck with the caliber of man So you don't have good luck then Yeah, but good. Okay, they're doing, well, this is a problem. Everyone has their expiration. They were good for what they were good for.

Some of them are hitting their expiration where I'm like, you are no longer giving me pause. Like, this is no longer positive. You've gone past the expiration. Yeah, you're not my boyfriend, so there should be no drama. I see. Once there's drama, that's like your boyfriend. And with drama, like they're trying to, like, exclusivity?

This shit, okay. Hit me. Okay. So this one dude is like randomly, called me like two weeks ago when we've been messing with each other for a long time and there's like a deep there's actually like a friendship when you say how long like like over a year over a year so hooking up for over a year yeah like okay so he's so he's maybe getting a little little attached more attached than yeah so when we first met we both got out of really awful relationship so but we from

the get very honest not looking for this at all just rebound stuff for both you guys exactly Like a workout. Cool. Yeah, because it was just fun and like just fun, truly. Then we like went through a break of not really talking together and then started again and then started talking more. Because usually it was like we'd hang out once a month. Right. To not be attached.

Then it started being like once a week. It's quarantine. What the fuck are we going to do? Then he like randomly starts getting on my jock about who I'm dating, who I'm dating. Am I going on dates? And I'm not going to lie. It was like, yeah, we told you. I told you that.

Not a lot. You know, I'm not looking for a boyfriend. Yeah, but then. Uh-oh. So I, this is what I do and what I never get from men. I understand. I hear him. He's being a little insecure.

He wants words of affirmation and wants me to get on the same page. So I did that for him. I said, how old is this guy? 35. Okay. He should be mature, though. You don't think still? Yes, but it also means that he might want you to be his girlfriend.

But then listen. Listen, Christian. So then I like appease him in that way. I'm like, you're actually the only person I like right now. And I was like, do you want me to call you? I'm not going to call you before I go on dates. Like none of this is serious. I'll tell you if I like have sex with someone because of safety and shit.

So then that happens. And then last week rolls by and he was going to, he's like, I'll call you back to see if my friend leaves and like maybe we can hang out tonight. This is on a Friday night. I'm like dope. Okay. I'm not doing anything. And he does.

call and I just think that's fucking rude. Okay. I don't flip out though. I call him he doesn't answer, which never happens. Right. Probably giving you, you're probably giving it back to you a little bit. Okay.

Okay. So I'm so excited to get your opinion. Yeah. So then the next day comes, he calls me and I was like, he's like, I left my phone in an Uber. I believe you,

but do I really? So you care more than you think you do? Yeah. No, I do. I actually, I do, I know, I have, in this, if you fuck with someone for two years, you have love for them. Of course you do. In a way. And it's different.

No matter how much. And sorry if this offends anybody, but no matter how much, it's different for dudes and women sometimes. Women can have sex with guys and not be attached. But there is something different different for women when it comes to sex in general that there's a different type of attachment mentally than it is for dudes. Like, dudes are fucking animals. They're going to walk out the door. There's something more. an intelligent emotional attachment to one.

I agree. I have been so disattached. He always says I'm like a dude in this way because I'm not attached. Like I show nothing. The reason I started getting a little bit more like annoyed that you don't call me back is because you just got on my line about. So I'm like it's a hypocrite. Yeah.

It just pissed me off. And then so and then I also brought up something else too that was like. To him? Yeah. What'd you do? So, okay, I did something a little creepy. What'd you do? Okay, conversational.

You're at his house hiding in the bushes? No, no, no. Conversationalally, I'm curious your opinion on this. Like all we were having, it was a group of girls and we're like, one of my girls is dating someone. She's like, I just don't get like following random Instagram like influencers that post like, you know, lingerie picks and shit all the time. Like if you have a girlfriend, the boyfriend. And I'm like, I hear you. I think that says a lot about anyone who you follow.

If I follow Hela guys who are influencers with their shirts off, that says a lot about what I'm looking for and what I like. And even if guys don't want to admit to it, it says something. When you're liking something, you're making a choice. It's intentional. Is it though? So then that's a hold your thought because that goes back to the fact like, for example, you and Roxy and as you said with Mike. You guys post. Yeah, but it's your business also.

You know, so if I'm scrolling through things because I'm doing shows of you guys and I see your pictures like, okay. So what does that mean for me? I'm married. You know me. I'm saying, you don't know me. You don't click my shit? No, yeah. But don't you want that?

Isn't that the point? No, definitely. But now if you have a girlfriend. Yeah, I just think if you're not working with me and you have a girlfriend and you don't know me. Like we're not hanging out. We're not friends. Why are you liking? You're a public figure, though.

That's the thing. I think it's different. So like, if there's like, because you are, you're a public figure. And even if you don't have the, you know, there are people out. Like, look at, for example, like, Cindy Crawford's daughter. Got tons of followers. And I'm sure a lot of different people, she's just like 18 years old or something, too. So, like, you know, that is like, that is something that, like, you know, people will follow no matter what.

I don't know. It's weird. Yeah, no, I agree. I think that, like, some pictures are totally harmless. Right. And not even. I don't. You're saying that porn stars with the asshole show?

I'm not. Like, I don't know, like, aggressive shit. Like, some, like, cam girl type shit. Right. Well, that's a different story. Yeah. That's different. So I look at who he's following.

Okay. This guy that I'm fucking, yeah, yeah. And I'm not, I've just. You're getting pissed off? A little bit. Yeah, you know, but you're not dating him. You're not, you guys aren't excused. This guy is telling me, I, he told, he expressed that he didn't want me going on dates anymore.

Okay. Well, then, so we're, we're, we're getting a. a different conversation here because you got what the two of you both need to do is you've got to how this whole conversation between you and I started today what is the honesty between it so the question is do you guys want to be exclusive in day because that's the conversation that's coming down here it's like if he doesn't want you going on dates and you don't want him following you know i'm so old i'm so old that i was going to i was going to reference jennah jamison because that's like the porn stores that i know and it's like so so like you guys need to have a conversation

conversation and say, like, I'm asking, don't think, don't think, I'm just going to ask you a question. I want you to answer it. First thing, do you want to date this guy? No. Well, then you go. Okay, but can I tell you, can I tell you why I'm upset? It's not even that I was like, fuck this dude.

I'm never talking to him. It's an ego thing. Yeah, that's for sure. Part of it. Yeah, it's like, if you are talking to me, why do you want to talk? Like. Right. So, but I get that.

I need to check that. So I don't bring that to him. What I do is I'm honest. Every time there's a thought in my head, I'm not going to, to let it. I don't like passive shit. So I'm not going to let it build and then one day be nasty to him. I just ask him the question straight up. So I said, okay, two things. I'm a little annoyed. First, you don't call me back last night. That's fucking rude. You said that your phone's in an Uber, whatever, done. But I'm a little peeved because you just two weeks ago got on my jock about

going on dates. And I just would like you to make sense of the fact that all you have on Instagram is your following women, like random women. That did not blow over well. I'm sure it didn't. There's no agreement. If you say to me, if you tell me... But calmly. It doesn't matter calmly.

I wouldn't argue with you, but what I would tell you is in a straight-up conversation. Yeah. Well, first of all, I wouldn't have said to you, I don't like you dating or without following up with because I would like to date you. Like, that's how that should have. clearly did. But with that, it was like, all right, fine, forget it. You know what?

Maybe he leaves and goes to hell with it. If you then say to me afterwards, that was an issue in the first place that I even brought that up, that you then say, well, I don't like the fact that you're following so-and-so. I'd say, tough shit. Honestly. That would have been totally fine. Right.

Like if he was like, like, if there was an explanation, I just wanted to make it make sense to me why you are so enamored with me that you don't want this, but you spend your time doing this. That's all I, it's not that I wanted to be like. And this is why there is an expiration date going in general because there's only so long you can do it before there is an expectation. Exactly. So I just don't want to be. I think what really bothered me was that I was actually prepared not to like be as like flirty and like all this stuff and like seek out this attention.

But you're clearly not doing that. And I don't fuck with that. Yeah. At that point he cut it loose. But then Christian so it gets worse. He, I. He's sleeping on your. your couch right now. No, no. We haven't, so, so I, I answered his questions with calmness. He went on

the death. Oh, so he got really upset. He got, like, we've never, ever fought. And he goes, I don't have to explain myself to you. Which he's not wrong about, but could have, but could have, put it in a different way. Totally. I don't have to explain myself to you, Seth. I don't have to explain myself to you either, but I did. I did. And so it's, you fought like a couple. Yeah, yeah. And you, And I, and then I called him dude and then he hung up. He hung up on me. So then it triggered. He ever spoke since.

It triggered really something in me because I have like a PTSD of people hanging up of me. So I called him back twice. Oh, okay. And I've never called him twice, like ever. I don't play that shit because I don't care. Can I tell you something real quick? I'm so glad at this point that I've been married for as long as I haven't to deal with

any of this anymore. It's so toxic. I don't deal with any of it. So then we haven't talked at all. Let it go. He said, I need to call you back when we're more calm. And I was like, I get that.

I was like, but don't ever hang up on me. And then he's like, okay, I'll call you back. And then he never called back. So let it go. Yeah. Talk when it cools over if you feel like you want to. Yeah. If not, you let it go.

You can't let it. Because the whole, he never called me. Because you care less about the fact that it's him not calling back because you care as much as it's like there's a precedent. It's rude. There's a thing. There's a thing that reason. Let it go.

Okay. Just let it go. So that's what you think. Yeah, I've been through that type of shit. It's just like it is no, there's no, it's like. He's being toxic, no? I think he's being toxic. I think it's, I think the whole situation is.

A little toxic. I think the whole situation is. I think that for you, the best thing that I think that here's, if I'm going to, watch what I'm going to do here. Okay, let's get real. I'm going to make a, I'm going to make a prediction to all of you right now. What's going to happen in this situation. So if Steph follows my advice and does not talk to this guy at all, this guy will text, this guy

will, after it all blows over, they will hook up again. It will happen. But the question is, will it happen as far as like, okay, look, that was so silly that this happened, blah, blah. After that, that should be the last one. Get it out of your systems, both of you. Louis, Joey, Joey, Frank, Biff, whatever your name is. If you're listening to this, you aren't.

But if you are, that's what you need to do. Get one bang out of your system, the two of you, and then let it go. Move on, because if there is a friendship between you, you don't. want to ruin it. Yeah. Yeah. That's like every relationship. When you break up, you usually need one more bang.

And then it's done. So it's funny because I had, thank God my wife. Never watched any of my shows. So when I was in college, I was dating this girl that I was really, it's only really really really really been three, I think, women in my life that I've really been like, really locked into. My wife, obviously, who was the number one, my ex-girlfriend. And then my other ex-girlfriend, and then my other ex-ex, which was college.

and you just know when you handle it a situation like wrong and like everything that I do any advice that I give now is all the stuff based off the stuff I did wrong in that relationship and that was but because I was a young stupid maid what I wound up doing is in college there were these places

that there were four people living in a complex I lived with three dudes she lived with three girls other people I went up dating all of her roommates afterwards oh two out of the three Two out of the other three. And that's what I want to. Christian.

I'm just telling you, everything I did wrong back in the thing. I did. You got out of your system. But it's similar to what you were saying is that the one particular roommate was just like a close friend of mine, like a really close friend of mine. Like we, like after I broke up, after my ex and I broke up, she was there and there was nothing there. It was just, we were friends.

But we spent so much time together talking and hanging out and everything. too. It's funny that you say that whole thing with with like this jealousy thing right because you're just friends and we had never hooked up or anything. And this was a fucking weird scene that of a movie because we went to this bar and she was hanging out danton with my friend who I knew very well I was still friends with but knew the guy I was a player. And we had all gone there together and we were drinking afterwards and I said to her

what are you doing? Like why? Why? I was a player. And we had all gone there together and we were drinking afterwards and I said to her, what are you doing? Like, why are you, what are you, what are you dancing with him for? You know what's going to happen. And she looks and she's like, well, you've never made the move.

And that was it. That was all she wrote. And I, from that, from that, and like, and that was the roommate thing. But that, but that ruined the relationship.

Like, we, we had hooked up a couple times after that too and thought, got it out of it. Well, got it out of the system for a few times after that. But then, but it was like,

that ruined the friendship. Yeah. Completely ruined it because there was too much, like whether it was expectations or this. Yeah. So smart guy may so stay in the other room. Oh my God. And that didn't go over to it.

Christian. But, but yes. So this is, but again, this is 21 year old me. Yeah, I think the part that makes me most upset

is that I feel disrespected. Yeah. And then the rest is like, okay. If you want, I don't really, I don't give a, because I'm not looking for that,

I don't give a shit. And my feelings, I only are hurt to the extent of thought we were, homies, why would you do that? But then it's like, okay, if you want to be toxic, that's why I'm not calling or texting. No need. No need. I'm not going to. No, no, she does. So, he's my Apple TV. I cares. You can figure it out. Ladies and gentlemen, I wanted to thank you guys for joining us on

Big Things. This is the show. I am really enjoying doing the show in general. We talk about a lot of different things, things that are happening in the world, things are happening in our worlds and your world. So go ahead and comment. Make sure you go to Apple Podcast. Subscribe to the podcast feed. do that, the Big Thing podcast. On Wednesday, myself and Brett will be on the show. We'll be doing the goofball show, but we'll be Big Thing Presents. We'll talk to some of the stuff there. And then Ellis and I will be back on Friday.

So yeah, guys, any deep dives, anything you want us to do, comment, anything else you want us to cover, please. We want to hear your suggestions. Like I said, I've been going through all of the comments in YouTube. I'm responding to them. So you have suggestions about certain things you want to hear about. It doesn't necessarily just have to be about movies, TV, music. It can be other things going on in our worlds and things that you want to hear about.

So please go ahead and comment. We will comment to you back. Thank you so much. Steph, thank you. As always, I hope that I gave you some advice that you worked out. I hope so. But I wanted to thank all of you, and we appreciate it. And we'll see you on the flip side.

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