The Kristian Harloff Show - The Trouble with Social Media, Good Pizza, Must Love Dogs & More Dating Advance | The Big Thing
Episode Date: July 26, 2021Social Media could be the downfall of us all, at least that is what Kristian thinks. There are some pizza recommendations put out there, a very relevant Must Love Dogs review and Steph's dating life s...aga continues. Follow on Twitter Kristian Harloff https://bit.ly/31PePMD Brett Sheridan https://bit.ly/2HBltii Steph Sabraw https://bit.ly/3m0ud0z Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Buddy, buddy, pretty, little day,
welcome back, ladies and gentlemen, to The Big Thing.
It is Monday, the year of our Lord.
And it is nice to have you back on the Big Thing.
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He's doing some shows.
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But I got two peeps here with me that I'm excited to have.
And the first one,
Steph's a bra is in the house.
What up, Steph?
How you doing?
The name of the father, the son, and the holy staff.
You're tripping balls?
and then look at this guy.
Hey.
Sorry guys.
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Mark Ellix?
He's of the ski lax.
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Mark Elix.
He has a lot to talk about here, ladies and gentlemen, today.
Ted Lassau season two is out.
Masters of the Universe is out.
And there's so much that came out.
And Brett, so listen to this.
Friday.
Here's what drops.
You go.
got yourself the Bad Batch episode.
You got yourself the Masters of the Universe entire series.
You got yourself Ted Lassau Season 2.
What do you think I watched?
I'm going to say some old film with Sandra Bullock.
You're not too far off.
Must love dogs.
Love this guy.
You're not too far off.
Nope.
Must love dogs.
Janine Groffalo.
No.
Different movie.
Different movie?
What was that one?
That was something.
Uma Thurman?
Yes, but a different movie.
Must Love Dogs is Diane Keaton and John Cusack.
Not Diane Keaton.
Did I say Diane Keaton before?
Diane Lane.
Diane Lane.
Did I say Diane Keaton last time?
What a strange cast that would be.
No, it was Diane Lane, who is just a gorgeous human being?
So classy.
Oh, it's a classy.
Classy bra, yeah.
I like her.
She's a very, very attractive woman.
But that movie, it's not a bad movie.
It's just at all.
the stuff I could have watched you watch must love dogs.
You got to. I think you wasted a lot of time. No, you're not wrong.
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Very excited for that, very excited for that event in general.
And very excited for you.
Look at you.
Hi.
Looking svelt.
Trying.
I've been cutting down on the carbs and the sugars.
Same here.
Yeah, the sugars.
First time in over a year and a half, I'm at 199.
I was at 213 at my heaviest.
Jeez.
14 pounds.
I was like, because I was pushing.
2.2 and I'm down to 196.
Yeah, see, I'm trying to get to my fighting weight at 185.
I don't know if I can do it.
Trying to get my baby weight, 9.7 ounces.
You're on your way.
You know what the problem is?
The problem is that I have, like, you've got to be so, if you really want to drop,
like, you've got to be so strict on it, like, completely.
And I was doing it.
I was, every morning it was, it was oatmeal, four eggs, only one yolk.
And then it was, you know, snacking throughout the day, which is so stupid.
I was snacking on almonds and walnuts.
Well, guess what, kids?
I think I have a walnut and an almond allergy now.
I couldn't understand that.
I was getting this stupid rash.
And I was like, for everything,
I would eat peanut butter and eat all the stuff,
and it wouldn't go away.
I stopped eating peanut butter.
I stopped eating walnuts and almonds.
I don't get it anymore.
I'm like, damn it.
I looked, and it's a bitch.
But between all that.
That's a good go-to one year.
It's- It really is.
Dude, apples and almond butter.
I was eating it every night.
And I was in, and I can't do it anymore.
So stupid ass that I am, my wife gets this.
delicious vanilla chocolate chip ice cream.
And I've got to stay away from that.
Sticking on two gram crackers,
make a little ice cream sandwich out of it.
And I was like,
but you can't do that every night
if you want to keep dropping the weight.
Once a week.
Yeah.
Once a week.
But I'll tell you,
I'm going to-
It's unbelievable.
I sold the part of my fat to an organization.
Are you vegetarian?
Yeah.
Mostly.
Or pescatarian.
I eat fish probably once a week,
twice a week.
Yeah.
See, I mean,
salmon to me is like,
I got to have an order when I'm on this thing.
We've been putting it on the grill.
And I, you know, a little brown rice, a little soyaki sauce.
Ooh.
And pepper, some salt, uh, lemon, put it on top and put it a little broccoli.
And that's, you're doing good for yourself.
But it's, it's these little snacks that around the house.
That's what gets you.
It's the snacks.
Yeah.
You may, do you like hummus?
Love it.
Okay.
Hummus and carrots is a good alternative.
I do the carrots.
I do the celery.
I just cucumbers.
Yeah.
I've been doing a lot of that stuff.
And I know.
It sounds like, oh, man, but I'm going to annihilate some pizza when I'm in New York on October 9th.
I'll tell you that.
You have to.
I will.
Moderation and everything.
You got to indulge sometimes.
I just can't do it.
I guess you can't do the pizza here because it's just bullshit pizza.
Is it real?
Okay.
That's really the thing.
And you, it's not a New York.
That's bullshit.
There's a few spots that are good, right?
You get Joe's pizza out here is really good.
Pizza wagon of Brooklyn is my favorite.
Are you in Sherman Oaks?
Yeah.
Pizza wagon of Brooklyn.
It's in your, it's in your hood.
It's the best.
Pizza wagon.
It's the only place that is like legit, real, real pizza.
Pizza wagon of Brooklyn, well, and Joe's.
Vito's you can get, all right, on Las Enaga.
Mulberry.
I've had Mulberry.
I thought you had one that was, you were, I thought pizza wagon.
So that's, but it's still.
No, no, no.
Pizza wagon.
It's just too far away from me.
It's the one, right?
That's what it is.
It is for sure.
But Pizza wagon of Brooklyn is the, is by far the best pizza out here because Prince Street
Pizza Pizza in Manhattan is one of my favorite pizza places ever.
They opened one up on sunset.
It's not good.
I didn't like it.
I don't think that's something you can transfer.
Well, they transferred it over from Pizza wagon in Brooklyn.
They transferred over from Joe's.
Like, if I was going to rank, I'd go, I would go Pizza Wagon of Brooklyn.
Then I would go Joe's.
I was not impressed.
I was so excited for Prince Street.
I was so excited.
They have Sicilian pizza.
That's good for sure.
My two favorite pizza places in New York are Prince Street pizza in Manhattan and ViPisa in Queens,
which is where I grew up in Bayside.
Those are my two favorite places that I would go and just like the Sicilian slices at ViPisa.
Oh, I remember I went there with Dagnino when we did one of our events,
and I kept talking about it on Collider Live, because I just kept talking about Viya.
I just kept talking about VIPs and like some fans showed up when Dagnino and I were there.
Oh, it's locked.
It's locked.
You know what?
You guys talk for them.
I'm going to go for the, I'll see if I can get my, I don't know a double shot of you two.
So.
Okay.
Here, Steph.
Oh, all right.
Talk about pizza.
Go.
Okay, pizza.
I personally like pit fire pizza here.
But I don't get it because every East Coast person I know, I think it's something about East Coast people.
I love them, but they're very stubborn about what they think is the best, no?
Yeah, well, that in Chicago.
That's the big, that's the big.
Yeah, but we, you know, our pizza was crap in Nebraska.
My dad moved from New York and lived in Nebraska and was, like, it was a disappointing.
Every single place, nothing came close to what he wanted.
What does Nebraska have to offer?
Oh, my God, for pizza?
No.
Cheese on a bagel.
Oh, God.
Yeah, like little Caesars.
Poppockets.
But I will say this.
Pizza Hut.
You know, I mean, maybe just because I'm old anyway.
But you used to get to go sit down in a pizza hut and they had the arcade, you know, tables with the pack.
It was a vibe.
It was like a restaurant kind of a vibe.
I know.
I get it, but it's like, it's not.
It's not.
It's a cardboard with pizza and tomato sauce.
But the worst is Little Caesars.
I think that one is.
A little Cesar's, though, the cheese bread is good.
$5.
You're in, you're out.
Dipping Ranch.
Call it a day.
Yeah.
I worked at Pizza in college.
edibles, but
I would kick you out of my house.
If you,
you think browsing around
on someone of IG feed is bad?
Bring a New Yorker
and Caesar's pizza.
Bring that up.
Did I ever tell you?
I don't know why I didn't even
I thought about this, but this is a funny
story.
You get a kick out of this probably as a woman
still be mad at me at the same time.
But I was dating.
I'm so glad I met you both now.
Now, it's true.
I was dating this girl in college
and I'll never forget this.
I'll date my.
myself, but it was during the 96 playoffs.
No, it was World Series.
Jim Layrits was up at bat for the Yankees.
Okay.
And I was, and this girl I was dating at the time,
she couldn't give two shits about baseball or anything to,
and I'm like a diehard Yankee fan.
I'm watching the game.
So Layrits is up there and he's,
and he's about to, and she's talking,
and she was, I don't know what I did.
I did something that she was mad at me about.
And she's like talking to me,
And I'm like, so if I'm talking to you and I'm listening and so good.
So reprimand me about something and I'm going to, but we'll have a real conversation.
I'll show you what I was doing during the actual thing.
Christian, you can't say that to people.
What?
You can't tell them that you're, they're in your way.
It's rude.
No, I know, I understand.
You're not even listening.
No, no, I am.
I am listening.
Did you hear what I said?
Totally.
He's not even listening.
No, and he had hit this big home run.
I'll never forget it.
Like, it was, like, he hit the home run.
I had no idea what she was saying to me.
I don't even know what I did.
I have no clue.
Needless to say, it did not work out.
Well, I got to say, it was rude of you, but I think, why would you talk about a fight
during a World Series game?
Yeah, that's not sure.
No, especially when you knew that I was, I mean, I.
A huge fan.
I shouldn't even have been in her apartment.
I should have been watching.
I should have been watching at a bar.
I don't know why I was at her place in the first place watching it while I was on.
I have no idea.
You're not wrong.
So I just said to just answer my own question, huh, when I asked.
Why was I there?
Because you have a penis.
Oh, that's right.
That's right.
That's why I was there.
That makes sense.
Absolutely.
But must love dogs.
Oh, man.
You got to.
You got a love.
You got a love dog.
That's like, you know, it's like kind, whatever, must love dogs.
Was that the top of the want to happen?
No, so it was, so what happened the other day was we were trying, she, to her credit,
she just wants to get away from all the shit in the news.
Yeah.
She just wants to shut off and she wants, and I said, because we watched the news and it's just like one,
one person not getting vaccinated to the next.
And we're like, I just, we just can't deal with it anymore.
So let's just, she's, she calls it the apocalypse now.
It's crazy.
It's crazy.
It's just like.
Oh.
Yeah.
I'm so on board with Francis Plan.
Sorry, everybody.
I'm on, you know, Francis Pan's.
You're not vaccinated.
You can't, fine, that's cool.
You can't come into,
you can't ride the train.
I'm with that, too.
You can't go on the bus.
You can't go in the restaurant.
You can't go to the movie theater.
You don't have to get vaccinated,
but you can't do, if you don't,
you can't do it.
You're on the team or you're not.
Right.
Let them protest.
Let them protest.
We're going to need IDs to drink and IDs to drive cars.
Yes.
Yes.
Text, we already have that stuff.
Oh, shit.
Well, you're just pushing your agenda.
What do you mean by that?
It's your list of things to do.
Right, but everybody should do it to be to stay safe, text.
Yeah, but I, if I want to die, that's my, oh, shit.
Right.
Right.
And that's, and so, anyway, so we were, we're all sitting around the two of us and we're like, okay, let's, uh, she said, I just want to watch something simple.
Like, and, and she had teased me earlier in the day where she walked into the kitchen and she said to me, she goes,
you know what let's watch terminators and i'm like done let's do it my wife first my wife my first one
let's do it's my favorite sci-fi action movies of all time so by the time we got to the night after
the kids have worn her down and everything too and she's just in simple mode where she's gonna go to sleep
she just want to watch something like we did last week so she goes she's and this is the two options
she gave me she goes something like we did where the other two where we watched we watched dirty dancing
and point breaks i'm like okay i got i got a lot to work with you i got a lot to work with so my head i don't
go down the dirty dancing route again i go the point break route so i go what about predator right and she's
like predator she's like how do you get predator out of dirty dancing i said didn't i got it through 90s but
it's a little late 80s combining it to point break and i go it's a classic it's a classic and she's like
i don't know we turn it on she's like it it's it when you watch it it it's one of my favorite movies
of all time but when you watch the beginning of it and you've never seen it it's definitely a bit
she goes this is a dude moving up no it's not within have you ever seen the beginning of the beginning
The second Arnold walks in, he just, he's got his, he sees Carl Weathers and he grabs his arm.
He's Dylan.
And they just do a close-up of both their arms.
That's looking awesome.
And I turn to Sadie.
I go, see, it's not a dude movie.
Right?
And she's like, she goes, I'm out of here.
It's a rom-com.
Then the poor, the, God, my wife, my poor wife, she then drank a bit of kefir, right?
The expiration date's about a month from now.
It was bad.
She was sick all night.
Like within seconds.
Within seconds.
So she's,
nothing's going right.
So last night,
she's like,
you know,
can we go back to the original idea of some kind of romantic comedy or anything to it?
I'm like,
all right,
let's see what we got.
So I was present.
We were going to get Black Widow.
It was too late at this point.
I didn't want to pay the 30 bucks for it.
I was just wait.
And then,
I don't know,
a few different movies popped up.
We searched John Q.
Zach, and I didn't remember
Must Love Dogs. I'm like, if you're in that, if you're in that
mood, plus we're getting the dog.
Oh, yeah. There's no, the dogs are in this movie
for a three weeks? No, it's a dating app movie. Isn't it? Like the
original dating app? Wasn't it E-Harmony or something? So it was something,
it definitely plays into
it plays into dating, not
the dating apps, but
2005, this is when this came out. So it was, it was just starting to
become like the trend, right? So she
is recently divorced.
She's recently divorced.
Dermott Moroni, who apparently is in every romantic comedy from like 1997 until 2006, he's in this movie as well.
And the guy does not age.
No.
Dermann Mironi does not.
Him and Diane Lane, they both don't age.
Yeah.
And so she is a, she's, you know, she's got the, Elizabeth Perkins is her sister there.
And she's just trying to get her, you know, meet some people.
So they're trying to set her up.
Let's just say her dating life is not going.
Exactly.
So, you know, you could only imagine what happened.
We got about an hour and 20 minutes into it.
And it's one of those movies.
I'm like, I'm going to sleep.
It's 11.30 at night.
Well, I'll finish it tomorrow night with you.
But then we went to bed.
But, yeah, Ted Lassow, I've got to get her watching that because I want to watch it.
I really want to see it.
I saw people, like, mad on Twitter about Ted Lassow being shoved down their throats and stuff like this because there's a lot of ass.
I'm like, really?
Dude, what, that makes you angry than just lock that feed or something?
Like, what do you?
Dude, people are mad about everything.
Everything.
Don't you dare tell me to watch a show that's happy and upbeat.
It's everything, dude.
It's, it's, it's really scary, though.
It's really scary how, like, people, like, they use social media and Twitter and everything, like, to, like, they, even something like that, where it's something as simple as saying about Ted Lassel, right?
So think about, and I know people don't really feel like, oh, tough shit, that's the business that you're in.
But someone like Jason Sudecas, or not even Jason Sudecass, the people who work on that show, a writer you probably never heard of, right?
Most of the cast is.
Most of the cast that you don't know.
And this is their job.
And this is something that they are really proud of.
And the thing that, and it's a popular show.
So a few people, a few people saying, stop shoving it down for it ain't going to do shit.
But those people who are writing that, what they're not thinking about is, like, what if?
and not that this happens, but what if?
It catches on, something else happens.
They decide, you know, maybe some big train,
I know this is impossible, although it never happened.
But I'm just saying,
what a big train of social media thing happens?
They decide they don't want to support this show anymore
and the show gets canceled, which,
because of the popular, it's virtually impossible.
I'm just giving suggestions up.
What people don't think about is those people,
the writers, their families, everything to be, like,
even like things when people are,
when people are throwing things out at other people on Twitter and everything too,
no one thinks about their families.
Nobody thinks about other things.
And there are things that like outside of, you know,
there are certain times that when people are being,
when it's overall like a big,
when there's big scandals,
when there's big things,
when there's proof,
when there's all that,
go for it.
You have a right as an American citizen.
You ever write as a citizen.
You ever write as a person to say your thoughts and that's free speech.
But I think that we're in this age that people just throw rocks.
without anything else, without anything in general.
I've seen people like, it's terrifying in general for you just think like,
oh, well, you know what, there was at one time when I saw so-and-so do this,
and I don't like them anymore, so I'm going to talk about this.
And it's like, well, wait a minute, but you don't really know what that person did then,
what was leading up to that, what happened?
It's a fucked up world that we live in right now.
And just don't, it's like, I mean, the biggest thing was stern.
Like, back in the day, like, just don't fucking watch.
You don't watch. Why are you listening to him if he makes you crazy?
I don't know how.
That motherfucker is Teflon, by the way.
He really is.
He really is.
He is Teflon.
Because it's like, you get to a, because there are certain people that do things what he does and more so.
But he's done it for so long that even when he does it, he still says the same shit that he always said.
Yeah, it's just starting doing his thing.
He's, he has beat, he has found out a way to beat this new climate.
And he's, he's, he's a fucking genius.
Yeah.
There's definitely a way to do.
it and he made it he's not he doesn't say he's nice it's the people who have the problem are the
ones that want to be like pastors at churches and then you find out that they're doing some satanic
course ship on that's what grinder yeah heakes everyone wants to be mad i don't get it i don't want to
be mad no everybody wants to be well it's not i don't think seven it's just a matter of mad though i
think that what it is and this is especially like i think twitter and facebook and it's it's it's the
downfall of all of us because the problem is this it's it's that listen up young lady
No, no, but I think that there's a lot of people out there in the world for in general who have felt so silence throughout their entire lives.
And they have felt like they haven't had a way to express themselves.
And they haven't had a way.
So what they do is they take all this anger and they take all this stuff and they take all this.
So this is how I need to be heard.
And he fucking tweet it out.
And it's like if they feel bad or they have a sad thought or they have something and they tweet it out.
And because they want to feel accepted.
They want to feel heard.
They want to feel all this stuff.
and they don't think, like, it doesn't matter if I'm,
I'm going to hit you in the head with a rock,
but I'm feeling,
I'm telling the overall message,
and I'm fighting the right fight for you guys, right, right?
And then it's like, but yeah, but you're, but you're not,
and we've gone away from pure conversation.
I can't tell you how many times I've seen things that could have been changed with,
hey, listen, I wanted to talk to you about this.
Can we talk about this?
Okay, great.
And that's it.
Instead, people fight with each other over Twitter.
And they go after,
and it's,
and this is so different.
than just someone you don't know, a celebrity you don't know,
that type of thing, and you're tweeting at somebody and all that.
I'm not talking about just, I'm talking about friends and colleagues and things of that nature.
Instead of saying, hey, can we talk and do this?
It's no.
You know what I'm going to do?
I'm going to tweet about it.
I'm going to sub-tweet about you because then if I do that, then people, even though I'm not going to mention you by name,
but I'm going to say this, and then people will start to inquire.
If I had a problem with something inside of it and I didn't, and I was sad about something,
I'm going to say this instead of talking you.
This is, so many times I've seen this happen to friends, to me, to other people.
Like, I see it all of the time.
And it's like that does not help anyone.
It doesn't help anyone.
No.
I saw a breakup on MySpace.
Isn't that the one where it was like so and so is something, right?
And it was, well, so and so is taking the high road.
Well, so and so is also taking that.
And it was like this bad.
I'm like, are you fucking kidding me?
Work this out on your own.
I know, but that's also, it's a generational thing, man, and it's not a, and it's not, and it's not, and it's not a fault to that generation because that's what they've been, that's what they've learned.
That's how they communicate.
That's, that's, that's the thing is that I, as much as I say, why are you doing that, that's what you're, that's what you're, that's what people like, when when you're going through, when you're growing up and you're going, oh, you know what, I feel this way.
Who's that about?
Don't worry about it.
Yeah.
It's like, you can't, you can't do that.
You can't do that.
It's like, it is so.
It doesn't do anything.
It doesn't.
You think it is though and you say well that felt good to do
But you're just you're just causing wedges and you're causing like you know like when you
There are certain times and I get listen especially now I get being sad I get being depressed
I it's like mental health is super important and you got to take care of yourself especially now
But when you have a thought and you want to and just and to throw it out there on social media
I just, and I know why people do it.
People do it because they're like, okay, I'll get a couple of responses
and I'll get people to say, don't worry, it'll be okay, it'll be okay.
You can call people too.
You can call people, have a conversation.
Having a conversation with someone is so much more effective
than just a couple of, hey, man, it'll be okay.
Those help, those help, but I think it'll be a lot better if you just said,
if I was, if I called this, I said, dude, I'm, I'm feeling bummed around.
Well, what's going on?
Let's talk about it.
And you talk it through.
I'll tell you, like, a lot of shit was going down last year,
just things that were going on in the business.
And I was, for like three days,
people don't ever hear this, see this shit,
but like, for three days, I didn't, I fucking was just sitting back here.
I wasn't eating.
I wasn't doing anything.
I was like, I was, there's this shit going on in general
that I was, like, really bummed about.
And, you know, there's a lot of times when you're, you know,
when you're in this position, you ask for it,
and you got to put out fires,
you got to do things out.
they always come at you and never the inner way it's always you and that's I signed up for that
I understand that but it doesn't mean that I'm not human being and I don't take these things and I sat
down and I didn't I didn't eat for like two or three days I wasn't eating and look great yeah but I was
but this is the last time I was I was at 194 because I wasn't eating depression I was but it was
I was in a really bad place for like three or four days and it was like and and it was like last year
and Dan Merle called me up
and Dan and I had a like a
full on conversation for like an hour
and Dan and I just talked
and he just said some really like comforting things
inside like a friend would and we just talked
and there was a couple things and I said okay
you move past this shit
like anything else happens and you just move and you just go
and it was through conversation
it wasn't through a tweet it wasn't through a hey this
and I didn't tweet anything out I didn't tweet stuff like
oh you know what I'm feeling this way I'm feeling that
way and feeling that way. It just, it's not helpful to me. That one conversation I had in general was
much more helpful. Well, let me ask you, but for step, like, I mean, you know, is that something that
your generation does? Like, I mean, because we came from a world of where you didn't, where you call
people on the phone, but like, is a lot of it over text? Like, when you're dating somebody, is a lot of
your conversation over text and stuff like that in the beginning? Or is it, you know?
Not, um, kind of. But I do think that there's,
a growing population of people who are more comfortable being vulnerable on a tweet than to
their friends and family.
Like I see so many of my friends being like giving all their information over Twitter.
I'm like, you know, I was like doing a multiple procedures for my health this year.
And I would net what the what the fuck is Twitter going to do for me?
It doesn't doesn't make sense to me.
But yeah, I do think a lot of people, that's how they communicate.
It's the most disconnected form of connection.
Yeah.
It is.
It's just it's, it's, it's, it's, I.
And I don't want people to feel like, you know, it's not like, you're an asshole for doing it, because I don't feel that way because I understand why they're doing it.
They're doing it. They're doing it.
They are. And I think a lot. And even sometimes, and I also be very clear that there are times that people should speak up and your voice should be heard and you should be speaking out for the cause.
You just kind of make sure that the cause in general is the right cause.
It's not to make someone feel bad. Right. And make sure all the facts are there.
Make sure that before you're doing everything, you're like, well, I know what everybody else is saying.
And so I'll say it to and here's this.
And it's like, yeah, but wait, do you have all of the news?
Do you have all of the facts?
Do you have everything before you do it?
And is it worth it for you to get involved?
And is it right for you to get involved?
Because I do believe in people who are using your platform in the right way.
Yeah.
I do believe that you should be doing that when the thing is.
is right, when the cause is right.
Like, for me...
But shitting on Ted Lassau is not a humanitarian effort.
No, it is not.
That is not like...
That's the show that made people
was like the one thing.
Made people feel good.
Yeah, I know.
I'm not going to join this cult.
How about you just don't watch the show?
Yeah, I know, but it's also, it goes back into that.
It's like, it's that flip.
It's at, well, I'm not supposed to give my thoughts outside of,
because it's a bit hypocritical in the side of where
even how I,
Mark and I built up Shmows, no.
It's that when we did that,
you don't remember how foreign that was.
Like, to everybody who listens and watches
and looks at YouTube now,
and people were not getting movie reviews from YouTube
back in 2008.
People were not listening to large podcasts
and watching people do what we're doing right now.
People weren't doing that.
Like when Mark and I were doing this one thing on current TV
and we were using a flip cam to get all this footage,
And then we switched it on over and started in 2008 to do YouTube.
Jeremy Johns wasn't around back then.
Chris Stuckman wasn't around back then.
The only people were like Grace Randolph and like Spill.com,
which is now double-toasted and a few other people, right?
Like Fury the Film fan.
There were other people out there that were doing it.
But that was it.
And the television, like the main television reviewers.
I mean, you're talking YouTube.
You were kind of branching off to the.
I'm talking about YouTube specific where like this, like now.
everybody in their mother does reaction videos
everybody does like you know
like you can you type in blah blah blah
review and you'll get thousands
of people doing it
that was not the case you put in review
in in YouTube back in 2008
and me and Mark and a few other people
are popping up that's it and
I remember going to the comedy clubs
and people saying well what are you doing we're trying to do
this thing and it's just normal people talking
about about movie reviews
and we were we were just being
honest giving our thoughts.
It's not similar from what you're talking about instead of,
well, I don't like Ted Lassau.
I don't like this.
It's something that Mark and I would,
I don't know why they keep seeing all this advertising.
I feel like I'm seeing it too much.
Blah, blah, blah.
I'm expressing it.
It's just another form of that, but through verbal.
So it's a slippery slope.
Yeah, because one's conversational.
One's like so intentionally.
This is the point of this tweet.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So, but it's weird because it's like you,
it's a way of people.
It's true.
It's the whole point of Twitter.
It's the short form thought.
Like, this is what I want to do.
Boom, boom, boom.
Done.
And I put that out there.
It's,
think about how many people have lost their jobs over tweets.
How many people have,
how many fights have started,
how much, like,
it's,
it has been a real,
like,
I don't,
I don't get into that shit anymore.
Like,
when I first started,
like,
I didn't,
because I didn't understand it as much
and understand how damaging Twitter was,
like back then.
And I would,
I would get into it too.
And someone would say something.
I would fire back right away.
I don't do it anymore.
I just probably promote stuff.
I do a couple things.
I'll, like, you know, I'll laugh at somebody's thing and I'll respond or I'll put like a gift or whatever.
And that's, and then that's it.
That's, that's, that's, that's all I do.
Because I don't, I don't think, and it's been way more healthier in my life, like,
since I stayed away from all that stuff.
I just, yeah, I mean, I can't tell you how many people I've talked to about, you know,
inside the business.
Like, yeah, I'm trying to be better.
I'm trying to be better.
It's like, just, just stop.
Just, it's not, it is not worth it.
I think this should be like classes in, you know,
in school, like navigating social media.
Because, I mean, there's a lot of people that just are doing it.
Their parents don't know what's going on.
And, like, with my kids, they don't have stuff.
I don't know how to deal with it.
And I don't want my kids, like, worried that, you know, 15 people like something they really thought was really great.
Right.
And holding on to that.
I remember when I started Smos No.
Like, I was like, oh, maybe I'll get into Twitter and stuff.
And then you'd sit there and check it.
Right.
And check it.
That was a really great joke I did.
But this guy did a picture of a squirrel taking a piece of piece of piece.
pizza and the guy, you know.
It's super stressful.
I think about, I mean, even doing, like, YouTube now these days, and I talk about it openly.
I think YouTube is terrible now because it's oversaturated.
It's over saturated.
It's not, it doesn't take care of its members.
And by the way, so just speaking of which, if you guys didn't know already, you've got to click the notifications.
You got to on the bell, click that bell and click all so you know every time that the matches come up and every time big thing comes up.
So that way you know.
Otherwise, I've heard it many times over.
people don't get the notifications on it.
Like this is someone, I posted the thing of
CM Punk interview that I did
while in Collider Live and someone who wrote back
like, hey, I haven't seen you do stuff
in a bit. And I was like, check out the big thing.
And I was like, honestly, this show, this
type of format was what Mark and I
had done years ago.
I like this and I'm sorry to Collider
Live fans. I'm sorry to Shmoh's no fans.
I like this show the most
of any show I've ever done because I don't
have to fit to a format. I don't have
to fit to, okay, well, we want you to hit this IP
today because this is trending and this is doing that
and don't do this and don't do that
and all that stuff and like we have to cover
this and we have to see this movie. It's just
conversation and that to me
is why you know and like you said Brett
it's super frustrating to me like we're doing better now
it's like 10,000 an episode
plus I think like 6,000 per episode
on podcast episodes
and more people are finding it but it's
it's a slog man you got to keep you got to keep moving
and moving and moving
and it's better this way because
people don't realize when every single network is hitting every single topic that other networks are paying them to hit and wanting them to hit because it's trending.
You're moving an agenda that's not even yours.
You're watching films that you probably don't give a shit about, but somehow you've convinced yourself because 8,000 shows are talking about it.
Yeah, and it's like, okay, we're going to cover this is the big thing.
It's coming out on Netflix, so everybody's got to watch it.
You're going to break down this.
We're going to do it.
And I understood what Collider did, but it was exhausting, man.
It was exhausting.
It's exhausting for listeners, too.
Yeah, but it was like, you know, and...
You would have to talk about something because they sent you a water bottle, which is great.
Right.
Right.
Hey, I really like to thank the guys over this.
This water bottle of the t-shirt.
Yves.
But, you know, that's why I'm enjoying doing this show, and it's been a lot of fun to just be talking about a lot of things.
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What if you, real quick, what if you had to do this stuff this days for Worldgirls, send
emails like the one.
I say it from 2010 from Christian about Smokes.
What does it say?
It's, hey, everybody, so the end of the year is here.
No more movies to see.
And with your Netflix queue ready for some new choices,
please let the Shmows help you decide what to see and what to avoid.
Here's our list of best movies in 2010.
Wow.
What are they?
Somebody needs to clean there.
Oh, it's a whole click-on thing.
Oh.
Let's see here.
Wow.
Look at me when I actually sent emails to people.
Well, that's the thing.
Yeah.
And I remember, like, you were.
pitching this to me, I'm like, bro, I'm not watching movies.
Watch a reveal show.
I'm just going to feel bad that I can't see these things.
You're like, no, but it's kind of more fun.
It's more fun.
It's just more fun.
I just cut to the chase.
Well, no, a lot of people do that, though, man.
I remember, I'll never forget.
One of my, the woman who introduced me to my wife, I remember her saying, and I,
to my wife at one point, she's like, why is he doing this thing on the internet?
Like, he's not going to ever do anything with it.
It's just the internet.
And it's like, nobody.
Nobody understood the internet.
And she's a sweetheart.
She's a super supportive, like, great person.
She's not like one of those people like, what are you doing?
You lose her.
She's not that at all.
She just didn't understand it.
Nobody understood it.
And I remember having a conversation with, this is how people are going to get their information eventually.
It's not just the access Hollywoods and all this stuff and the people on the trades.
Like, when Mark and I started going to see, seeing movies, the first paid screening,
oh, not paid, first one we didn't have to pay to see a movie for that we got invited for,
that we didn't have to pay tickets was true grit.
It was the first movie that we ever saw.
The first one that I actually got us into through the press,
through the publicists.
And that was a lot of work.
I remember doing all that, emailing the studios.
Because now so many outlets and so many YouTubers,
they wouldn't let YouTubers in.
And the other thing that nobody ever talks about,
Mark and I were the first YouTube reviewers ever certified on Rye.
Tomatoes.
Like, and that, like, they were not certifying.
Yeah, they weren't certifying.
Yeah, actually that makes sense.
No, no one, they were not certifying YouTube reviewers.
And Matt Achity, who was at the time, the editor-in-chief, was on the Shmows-No podcast back in like 2010, 2010, 2011.
And he was on, and I asked him on the show.
I said, when our YouTube reviewer is going to be eligible for Rotten Tomato certification?
He goes, submit an application.
And we did.
And we got it.
We were, we were the first YouTube.
reviewers on there and we were the first for like a year and a half two years before they let anybody
else in there for a while and i remember we used to go to the screenings and we would go to these things
and i always felt like mark and i always felt like imposter's every time we went because like and
lennon malton would be sitting there along zolder all day like all these like big massive critics
and then it i felt that shift like where they were like when we first came in they were like the
top dogs and the ones that were like super taken seriously they were like now and
Every YouTuber is allowed into, like, the Critics Association, that shit wasn't happening back then.
And when we got there, I remember them, I was always super polite to, and showed respect to everything that they had done before us.
And I went Scott Mans would be in there and all that.
And then I remember when I went to, I think it was a Lion King premiere or something, and all these new generation YouTubers and influencers and all these people were in there.
And I'm like, this is the shift.
It was the shift that happened back when Mark and I were coming in and other, and this is the shift now where all these newer people come in.
And it's probably the same way that these print people felt that they paved the road for that business in general.
Even though they print to video, they pave the road for Mark and myself to do it.
Because without them establishing the critics, the critics association, the people listening in general, albeit very different in how you intake it.
We did the same thing for the newer generation that are doing this.
but they don't, you know, how much history do you pay attention to you?
I still have like an email.
I just got like a million-nine dollar idea for it.
What's that?
We're going to have a schmose like telethon where we personally get a bunch of people,
personally DM people and say, hey, I see you haven't checked us out in a while,
stuff like that, you know, because people are thrown off by shit like that
because they just see things pop up.
But if you set them a personal, like, wait, because there's a lot of people like that guy
that said like, you know, oh, yeah, you know, I haven't seen you in a while.
Yeah.
I've never seen Christian getting goofy anymore.
What?
Yeah.
Did you see that comment?
Well, there was that comment of, of, it was, I don't know who I was on with.
It was, it might have been Kate.
And they go, oh, I haven't seen Christian in quite a while.
Is he always this subdued?
I'm like, what are you talking about me?
I'm like, have you not been watching the, you've been watching what we're doing?
Talk about jaundice.
Yeah, jaundice.
Talking about.
The baby has jaundice.
But I'll tell you, though, it's, it is a matter of, and I understood that.
It's like what, I think.
Some people got it. Some people didn't.
With SCN Live, and what we had to do is that the first wave of it when I left Collider
was there had to be a way to make money.
And YouTube doesn't, advertising doesn't do it.
Podcasting advertising, when you get it, it takes a while to get it and it can be good.
But it's not enough to, it's four or five people on SCN every day.
So it's like, how do we do it?
Schmobach came in, but I also understood, because I remember listening to it on the road and going,
Okay, for someone who's looking for pure conversation, that's not the show for them.
Someone who's looking to interact with the crew and have fun and that's the show for them.
And hence why we created this show and separated it from S.E.N. Live has its hardcore audience that's there every day.
By the way, if you didn't know it, it's on the new channel, which this show will live on soon.
So if you get on over to the new channel, it is the SEM channel.
And SEM is going to be on today.
Every 10 o'clock to 12 p.m. they are on.
So make sure that you do that.
follow them. They have the podcast feed. They have all that. But it just made me realize that like there's
different, there's different things for different people. And, and a lot of people who bailed
because they didn't want just the interaction. They wanted the pure conversation. They didn't
know that we were doing this. And it doesn't have the Schmo's no name. So they got to get used to it.
Seeing the thumbnails and learning all that, learning the new people and everything. They're like,
oh, this broad? Click. Unsubscribe.
It looks like Mowgli.
Yeah.
Wild one.
Farrell.
What did,
so how,
yeah,
what's your experience
been like this last year
in this network?
Really good.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Like every now and then
I get a troll,
but I,
I love trolls.
I am like lucky.
I have confidence,
so I don't give a shit.
Like,
I think it's funny sometimes
because a lot of times
it's just so not accurate.
But the community's so nice.
Yeah, they're.
This community rocks.
I was kind of worried
because everyone's like,
oh, you know,
the nerd space can be really mean to women.
But no.
haven't gotten that experience at all.
Yeah, and obviously, and Steph's been doing so much with us,
not only with S-E-N-L and then this show,
but she's, uh, right, every Tuesday on Twitch, she's on the FCL.
I love FCL.
Yeah, it's been really fun, really great.
You guys should be checking out Twitch.
We're going to do some, a lot more on Twitch coming up,
so make sure you should check out that channel.
Uh, and then something we didn't mention on Sith Council on Friday
was that you and I will be, and Mike will be breaking down those movies,
Star Wars, uh, episode one through nine,
including Solo,
including Rogue One,
doing all of those movies
in the lead up to Bobafat.
We're going to be,
each episode will be a breakdown
of all those movies.
So if you're not watching Sith Council,
that's also on the new channel.
So,
and the link is in the description for that.
That's right.
That's right, Brett.
Click here.
Click here.
Click everywhere.
Click there, click there.
All right, let's talk about you.
Click.
What's the latest?
On POS.
I told all.
Are you cool?
Are you calling him that now?
Wow.
Is that what, so you told us, so the last we spoke,
so just everybody with a couple breakdowns on what's been going on.
Yeah, give the rundown.
I'll give them as much as a rundown as I can on this situation.
But like, so there was a lot of craziness going on between the both of these characters.
And the last we heard is that he sent you a mat, because you guys were buddies.
Yeah.
But do you agree, though, before we get into all this,
you guys were friends before you start hooking up?
No.
You weren't.
You started hooking up first and then became friends.
Yeah, because we always had the premise that both.
Both of us were emotionally unavailable.
So there was like a lot of times where we would just hang out and it wasn't about sex.
Yeah.
I can't.
Okay.
Okay.
But then it ended up being, but it's.
But it is.
It was so.
What's that like.
Yeah.
No.
It was like, it was a sexual relationship.
There was like, we did like homey shit together.
There's only so long that can go on.
A hundred.
There was an expiration date.
Yeah.
It was.
And we like knew that and we had discussed like what happens if we start dating like if, like,
like he would always say like you're probably going to start dating someone.
Like what would we do?
That's where it started.
That's where it was like...
And then, you know, who's looking at...
Who's Instagram and all this shit happened?
Sorry, so you did that.
He said you were screaming and yelling at him, which you were not.
I was not.
You were not.
You were not screaming and yelling at him.
And then...
You remote.
So what's the latest on this?
So the latest is he sends me a message, you know, basically like telling me I can pick up my shit.
Yes, right, with the Apple TV and all that, right, right, right.
That was the last we got to.
And then he, he, like, says something.
And then in that text, he also says, like,
I'm not going to explain myself to anyone.
I'm not an idiot.
I don't respond.
There's nothing to say to that.
If that's how you feel, you're delusional, I can't.
And that was the last of it?
No.
No.
Okay.
So I don't respond and what do you do, what does a narcissist do when someone doesn't
respond?
They flips them out.
So a few days later, he sends a two minute and 15 seconds second voice.
Uh-oh.
Oh.
Play it.
I'm just kidding.
It would give it away so much.
Like there's.
Do I know this person?
No, no.
But just because of the voice.
Okay.
Well, I guess it wouldn't.
Is it a famous person?
Not like ish.
Yeah.
Okay.
Yeah.
So I'll play, I can play it for you.
George Cloor.
You'll really.
It's Gary Bucson.
He's kind of famous.
I don't appreciate the fact that you have not sent over my spaceship that I left in the backyard next to my bone.
You can decide when to send it over.
I'm keeping the spaceship.
The decibels at which you were moating.
That's right.
That's right.
Instagram, IG.
Igloos.
gallivantic.
Please go ahead.
So in the message,
this is how it starts.
Yes.
I know your game, Steph.
I know your game.
Oh, boy.
And I don't get it.
And I don't know why you're treating me like this,
but it's lame.
And he's like, after everything we've been through,
saying this to me, after you don't call back for two weeks and says,
he's like, you know I really love, like you, like you, ha, starts laughing.
So was this, you think, rehearsed?
I think he was drunk.
Oh.
Or something.
Yeah.
He wrote it down and said he's going to.
No, no, I think.
He actually, actually slipped?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Okay.
He did twice.
He's losing his mind.
Losing his mind.
Like you.
Uh-huh.
Anyways, he's...
You need a boxing chair at that point in this corner going,
put the phone down.
Yeah.
Put it down.
Christian, you don't have to send the voice memo.
You can re-record it.
Oh, that's right.
No, but I'm just saying in general,
Hey, I got a good idea.
I think we know we take step.
No?
No, you're not.
No, you're not.
And then it was just saying,
after all we've been through basically,
like, I don't get why you don't even want to talk about it.
You didn't call back.
I would have talked to you two weeks ago.
It's been two weeks now.
I'm over it.
And then he said,
I just, I don't know who you have in your ear right now telling you stuff,
but like just I need you to remember.
Yeah.
That's right.
A couple of old dudes.
Really smart men.
Public guys who've been there before.
On the air, brother.
It's like, hey, here's the thing, dude.
And, you know, I'm giving you advice, too.
Move on.
Move on.
Yeah.
Move on.
And he said, I just really think you should remember what we have and what we had.
Remember it, Steph.
Remember it.
It kept saying remember it.
It's like, what's his name, Mustafa?
Yeah.
I'm not Simba.
Remember who you asked.
Like, that is what it felt like.
And you didn't respond, right?
No, and then at the end of the message, he's like,
and if this is how it's going to end, then I guess this is how I'm going to end.
That's right.
He's like, at the end of the day, I only really care about you.
You're a really good person.
I want you to be happy.
That's very nice.
Christian, if you gave a fuck about me, he would have called me in the two.
No.
No, no.
He even named himself with that.
Yeah.
Oh, God.
No.
I thought it was bad for a second, but if he says things that are empty.
That's the very end
If he said, you know,
you fucking,
but like,
look,
I hope you're happy,
you know,
and,
and like you said before,
the answer to the question before
is like,
when's the world?
Yeah,
no,
I know,
that should make you feel good,
though.
It does,
because you're doing something good.
I saw a meme and it's like,
not to get graphic,
but like it had the emoji.
If the cat is good,
they're always going to come back.
And I was like,
I know he's going to come back.
Of course.
He's not going to not talk to me forever,
but you don't,
that with him.
I get over people.
But also let it sit, right?
Because if it does seem, all jokes aside,
but before all the nonsense,
seems like the guy's pretty good guy, right?
What you thought before all this.
Yes, I adored him.
Okay, so let's take, let's take the emotion part out of it right now
because you guys are in the thick of the war at the moment, right?
It's a civil war.
You're in the thick of the war right now.
So if there was, if there was getting him before,
then it is probably still there.
And so he's,
but he's inside of this, he's blinded by it right now, right?
So at, time does heal all wounds.
If there's a good person there that in a year from now,
you guys run into each other,
you stay the fuck away from each other's privates,
but you,
but you're,
yeah,
yeah,
stay out.
This is a no,
no,
don't touch his weenie.
That's a bit of more good about that.
I just put maim's on my hands.
I have a potty mouth because when you come dance and that everything is,
I got to go pee-pee.
You're with like four other 40-year-old guys.
Guys, I'll be back.
I can go pee-pee in the potty.
Who stepped on the duty?
If he wants to touch privates again,
don't do it.
Tell him, those are no-no squares.
No, don't touch in the sweepie.
No, no, no, no, no.
Don't do that.
Yeah, I feel that.
I think that what this showed, though,
is that he is a little bit or a lot of bit of a narcissist
because his ego get the hold of him
where he saw the situation in a way that didn't happen
and then he chose to be a fucking.
dick to me, which is not where I roll.
I agree with that, but I also think there's also probably
emotion, and probably does seem like he did like you a lot
too, and he didn't handle it. I mean, how old is this guy?
36. Oh, you asked me that already. Okay, well, you know, no excuse there.
He's young girl. To, like, joke about
I love, you, you do love me.
That's a, that's weird. Either say it or don't say it.
Don't, yeah. But even then in a drunk thing, it's like, say it, yeah, it's tough.
Look, I don't know the guy well enough to say what's going on in his head, but, you know,
at least he didn't tweet about it.
You two at the end.
No, we were kidding.
No, no, absolutely not.
No, because that first one, that first one you said, you were reading to us,
was like the mansplaining, talk-downiness of that.
I wanted to reach through the phone and choke.
But I will say, though, it is good that, but regardless,
I'm not saying that he redeemed himself from all of it,
but it was good that he cares about you.
He recognizes an actual good person.
I'm not a piece of shit.
Exactly.
Better than saying, look, asshole, I left this thing and you should have done this
and you're out of my life.
But to me, that's more playing into a super bit of a real asshole and then going into it as opposed to saying, I care about you.
That's a nice words.
It doesn't mean that.
It doesn't make it right.
No.
It made it so I felt good about saying all I said back was because I.
Oh, you did respond back.
All I said was if you want to actually speak, you can call.
I don't think text is productive, period.
Just sent it.
Nice.
Yeah.
And I was even before this conversation today.
I'm really not like a, that's why when he said I was yelling, that's just.
not my MO. I don't do that kind of shit.
So, and then he said, which was
weird, K- Babe.
Oh, that's how responded? Yeah. And then never
called. And done. And seen.
Just, I wouldn't even, yeah, at this point, you've, you've said your piece.
I felt good about this. Good. You've said your piece.
A hundred percent. I don't care if we never talk again.
It's the end of the Netflix series. Yeah, I think that was really good.
And it's, July 27th is my emancipation of
a Stephsabraw where I got out of an abusive relationship
two years ago.
So it's coming up and I'm like, this is,
the universe being like,
end it, start new?
May I ask a question?
And you don't have to answer this if you don't want.
Yeah.
And I think that it's a lot of...
What is having sex with other people like?
Yes.
A hundred percent.
Is that still,
is it still as cracked up as it's supposed to...
Right.
Is oral still a thing?
Because I think I canceled that a few years ago.
Right, right, right.
It's no longer on the menu.
No, no, no.
No, no.
Do that on birthdays?
No, no.
Just birthdays or not?
Oh, okay.
No, no.
Well, I was going to ask us that because it's one of these things.
You come from a pretty good family.
Yeah.
And had you always found because you can't get bad relationship.
And then this guy that we just got into relationship with or whatever it was.
Situation.
Not to bad.
Do you find, do you find yourself dating turds?
Yeah.
So what is that?
What is that?
We're going to doctor Mel for you.
I'm going to doctor Mel for you.
Like, so what?
Why do you think that is that it?
Because I hate the, the cliche thing.
Well, women like assholes.
It's not, no, no, it's not that.
Because the men that I was with aren't like dicks, you know.
They just kind of, they didn't finish how they started.
Right.
So it's false advertising.
Yeah.
And one of them, I think, my last one, I think actually had an emotion, like a,
snap.
Yeah.
Like, it was like 28, 28, which is actually the age for men.
This is the abusive relationship.
Yeah, where, like, something snapped and he was, like, completely different.
But I don't, I think now what it is is that I'm not ready to be with someone good because I think I'll break them.
Like, because I just won't be in love with them.
All right.
So that's not, so that's a, that's a you thing that you need to get past.
Yeah, but in terms of my past, I don't know what it is.
And I've been trying to think about it.
I don't know if it's that I like, you know, creators and kind of like out there weird people like us to understand me.
Right.
And then you can relate to them.
But it's also, but we're all fucked up.
We're fucked up.
Yeah.
It's so, I don't know.
Right.
Well, because I mean, everybody in this space or performers or they have a bit of an ego to them,
and you got to, unfortunately, in order to do this thing.
Feel confident and know that your voice.
Yeah, but that can get, but that's also why it's hard to get into relationship with someone like that
because there's also, there's the air of competition, there's the air of the, of, like,
I think that's with this last guy.
It's great, was competition?
I think a lot of guys have dated.
They like how ambitious I am.
and talented and then they realized.
Let's not get ahead of yourself.
Yeah, yeah, and like really, really smart and, like, successful and, like,
and massive tips.
Yeah, yeah.
Voluptuous.
She's eight cups.
No, but I think once they see that I'm, like, going to keep going, they don't like that.
Ah.
Yeah.
It's like an insecurity thing.
Yeah, they want to be the, the alpha.
Yeah.
Which you're like, I like, I don't mind a man, have, like, holding the man's space.
but know that we're equals.
Right, of course.
And so, yeah, I don't, although I understand where you're coming from,
I don't think that you should hold yourself to that.
I'm going to date somebody who's good,
and then I'm going to break them mentality.
Because if you do that, then you're never going to give yourself a shot.
Yeah, I know.
I guess I just want.
You never going to give them a shot.
That's true.
I think I'm at the, I needed two years off of, like,
I don't want to call someone on my way home.
I don't want to check in.
I don't want to do any of that shit.
You're not ready for that, right?
I'm not ready for it.
I think I am moving towards that.
Whereas a year ago, I was like, I don't know if I'll ever be in a relationship again.
I think you need to see must love dogs.
What is it?
Must love dogs.
Oh, my God.
I mean, I'm saying.
She wasn't ready.
She wasn't ready.
She got ready.
That's finishing where we started.
You like that.
It's a good callback.
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