The Lazy Genius Podcast - #314 - Put On Your Summer Face

Episode Date: May 15, 2023

We are entering summer, at least in the northern hemisphere, and it might be worth thinking about the sun and your face. This episode is part skincare, part makeup, part pep talk.   Helpful Companion... Links EltaMD Facial Sunscreen (Amazon) Black Girl Sunscreen (Ulta) Unseen Sunscreen by Supergoop (Ulta) Watermelon Glow Ultra Fine Mist (Sephora) May Lindstrom’s Blue Cocoon Farmacy’s Daily Greens moisturizer (Amazon) Sign up for the Latest Lazy Listens email. Grab a copy of my book The Lazy Genius Kitchen or The Lazy Genius Way! Download a transcript of this episode.   This podcast is hosted by Kendra Adachi and executive produced by Kendra Adachi, Jenna Fischer and Angela Kinsey. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Hi there. You're listening to the Lazy Genius Podcast. I'm Kendra Adachi and I'm here to help you be a genius about the things that matter and lazy about the things that don't. Today is episode 314. Put on your summer face. We are entering summer, at least in the northern hemisphere, and it might be worth thinking about the sun and your face. So this episode is part skincare, part makeup, and also part pep talk. You might want some practical thoughts on how to care for your skin. or transition from one season to another. And you also might want some words about some of the low-key issues that are like quietly hanging around in the summer months. Our skin is usually more on display in warmer months and that can make some of us feel, feel some things that we don't particularly enjoy feeling. So we're going to lazy genius all of those things. We are going to break this episode down into three parts.
Starting point is 00:00:56 Protection, care, and fun. protection care and fun those are the three words that keep coming up as i think this episode through so they will be our anchors today protection will be the biggest one but the other two they matter too all right so let's start with protection this is an easy one but also the most robust practically and personally we'll do the practical first one of the things that we need to protect our summer faces from is the actual sun the sun is great in smaller doses uh it It is not great in large ones without proper protection. Every skincare expert that is worth listening to, every single one,
Starting point is 00:01:37 agrees that the single most important thing you can do for your skin is to wear sunscreen every single day. That's every day in every season, even if you're not going outside. Like if you are near a window, if you work next to a window, the sun will impact and possibly even damage your skin. and for the record this is true of all skin tones black and brown faces can get sunburned and experience damage from the sun's rays as easily as lighter, whiter faces. So just because you have a darker skin of any melanin level, it does not mean that you get a pass on this that you get to ignore it. Now there are a couple of significant types of harm from the sun that are worth paying attention
Starting point is 00:02:22 to. First is skin cancer. prolonged exposure to the skin without protection, especially on our sweet tinder face skin, it can cause skin cancer. We all know this, but we cannot talk about our summer faces without acknowledging that very obvious thing, which is why I'm saying it now. Wearing sunscreen every day, no matter this season, is so important in protecting your skin from skin cancer.
Starting point is 00:02:43 Now, can you prevent everything? Nope. But sunscreen, it sure does help. And be sure to get a broad spectrum sunscreen. That means it protects against both use. UVA and UVB rays, not just one. Now, most sunscreens at this point are broad spectrum, but that was not always the case. So just double check. That is the most straightforward thing that we want to protect ourselves from, skin cancer. The other way that the sun impacts our
Starting point is 00:03:10 skin is causing and speeding up various signs of aging skin. Now, listen, how we age, what we prioritize, and how we feel about our aging skin is super personal. You are allowed to not care at all about fine lines and skin texture and discoloration and all kinds of things that naturally happen to our skin over time. And because of the sun, that's a big reason they happen. You don't have to care about it. It is not a requirement, okay? Now, wearing sunscreen is great for helping protect against skin cancer.
Starting point is 00:03:52 cancer. And you can enjoy it for that reason without caring that it might impact how your skin ages. Okay. And no one is surprised by this next statement, but you can also totally care about your aging skin. You can get injections and spend a lot of money on serums and work really hard to keep your skin looking as, you know, stereotypically youthful as you want. Both are valid responses to aging skin. However, something I notice quite often in this arena of skin care and quote unquote anti-aging, which, you know, is a term that a lot of people have discarded anyway. What I notice is lazy versus genius energy. Not lazy genius energy. Lazy versus genius. Lazy or genius. There is a wide gap in these aging, anti-aging conversations, even amongst like,
Starting point is 00:04:46 real life friends, you know, where you're either this or that with no middle ground. There's a lot of all or nothing energy in the skincare game. So this is your first little pep talk of the episode. You are allowed to care about the condition of your skin, especially your face, and you don't have to be all or nothing about it. You're not vain for putting stuff on your face that helps slow down the aging process. You're not emotionally better or more confident than other people because you mostly just use soap. Most of us care about. something regarding our face at least a little bit and that is normal and that is fine so whether you are more extreme on either side or you're somewhere in the wide middle like most of us are
Starting point is 00:05:30 be there without shame and also without shaming others wherever they are we're all just doing what matters to us no one is better or worse than anyone else for how they choose to care for their skin now in full transparency this is not always easy when something matters to us, it's hard to understand someone who chooses a priority that's pretty different than ours, right? Like it's easy to feel sad or angry or frustrated with that person in their perspective.
Starting point is 00:06:03 I find myself sometimes doing that with younger celebrities. I mean, just celebrities because we see them, but there are people who do this who are not celebrities. But they get various kinds of plastic surgery. or injections or whatever when they're really young. And I can get really sad for them and also quite annoyed, even a little angry that they're making this kind of decision when to me, to me, there's no reason. But that's not for me to say, is it? It's not for you to say either. Now, yeah, there are extreme cases of everything and I'm not condoning giving a 10 year old lip implants.
Starting point is 00:06:40 But for the most part, our resistance to various aspects of skin care as it relates to aging is based on simply having a different set of priorities than someone else. Neither person is right or wrong. Now, it's right or wrong or preferred or not preferred for you, you know? So all that to say, care about what you want to care about when it comes to your skin. And if you want to protect your face from some of those signs of aging, even a little bit, you can do it. We can all let each other make our own choices without judgment. So back to protection. Other than staying out of the sun and wearing hats and stuff, sunscreen is your ride or die.
Starting point is 00:07:24 Okay? Now, your reasons could be skin health, aging prevention, or both. But I do think that everyone needs to wear sunscreen on their face. I'm not going to boss you, but I will come close in this. It is a safe choice, especially in the summer, for you to protect your skin. And for those of you who are spending money on serums and moisturizers and whatever else, to tend to your skin and you're not using sunscreen every day on your face, you are wasting money and effort. I promise you that with my whole heart. It's like painting over a peeling
Starting point is 00:07:56 wallpapered wall without stripping the paper off first. The serums and the skin care, it's almost pointless without sunscreen because the sun is the cause of 90% of visible skin changes over your lifetime. That is according to the EPA. That's like actual data. So sunscreen is very important and a solid lazy genius approach to skin care. If you wear sunscreen every day and you do nothing else but wash your face, you're doing a lot to protect your skin from a multitude of things. We'll be right back. The ride that steals the spotlight every time it hits the road. That's the Volkswagen Tiguan. Its sleek exterior makes a first impression you can't ignore. Step inside to find available full leather seats and wood accents.
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Starting point is 00:10:04 Real quick, because you will probably ask, understandably, my favorite facial sunscreen is Elta MD. I use the regular sunscreen, not the tinted version. I wear it every day under my makeup, and I love it so much. It goes on really easily. it's a great texture, it doesn't smell. It's highly recommended by a ton of experts for good reason. It is a truly excellent, excellent product. If you have drier skin, I had a really good experience with Black Girl sunscreen.
Starting point is 00:10:37 It is also highly recommended and it works really similarly to LTA MD, but I prefer LTAMD because my skin is not terribly dry. black girl sunscreen it was a little thicker and richer which my skin does not need as much but if you have drier skin that would be a great product to try it's excellent and then for re-application of sunscreen throughout the day which you need to do on your face i love unseen sunscreen by super goop it's a little more like the texture of a primer uh like it has some slip to it but that's what makes it great to put on over makeup like it doesn't need to blend into the skin it just goes right on top and and it does not mess up your makeup if you're wearing makeup.
Starting point is 00:11:20 And for the record, Super Goop is not connected to Goop. Gwyneth Paltrow's lifestyle company, different companies. That might matter to somebody. So I'm just saying it. So there you go. Okay. So takeaway number one here is wear sunscreen. Takeaway one-ish is age the way you would like to age.
Starting point is 00:11:38 And to borrow Aaron Moon's phrase, don't romp on someone else's ding-gong. If they choose a different approach or priority than you do. Okay. before we move on to care, there is something else I want you to protect yourself and your summer face from. And that is comparison and judgment and pressure and weirdness about how you look. You know it was coming and we need to talk about it. We live in a culture that values outward beauty, but based on very particular standards of what beauty means. We all know that.
Starting point is 00:12:06 It is quite the tiny needle to thread to fit into that standard. And because it's so hard to meet those standards and because their existence, is so pervasive. Judgment and comparison are just in the water for women especially. And as we all know, summer is a time where that water is at the forefront, way more than in other seasons. It's the shorts. It's the swimsuits.
Starting point is 00:12:32 It's the sweaty faces and not wanting to deal with makeup, but then looking in the target checkout video monitor or in the pool bathroom mirror and thinking you look like a cave troll. We can be pretty hard on ourselves and how our faces and bodies look. look look in the summertime so i also want to encourage protection against that because while how you look it might matter to you it cannot matter the most i know i just said that everyone can make their own choices and you can but if you are prioritizing the way that your body looks on the outside to other people's eyeballs i want to strongly encourage a reconsideration the older you get the less control you have over your body
Starting point is 00:13:14 and the energy required to keep your body looking a certain way, it's enormous. It takes so much energy and time away from things that can benefit your life in equal. And I would argue in far greater measure. But it is easy to let how our bodies and our faces look drive the car, you know, be the train engine or whatever. The messages are all around us. They've been taught to us since we were little for so many of us. your sources for this kind of potentially harmful input
Starting point is 00:13:47 are both internal and external. Internally, you might just be talking unkindly about yourself. I would like for you to not do that. The way that you look is not the whole story. And regardless of how we do look, we want to pursue kindness and how we respond to ourselves no matter what we see. Let me say that again, actually.
Starting point is 00:14:07 We want to pursue kindness in how we respond to ourselves no matter what we see. Kindness and self-compassion are key here. They are key sources of protection of keeping those harmful words that we might aim at ourselves out of our thinking. I think we see them coming. We hear ourselves say when we look in that pool mirror like, wow, you look like trash. And we can choose in that moment to not let that thought penetrate and do damage. We can immediately say, no, no, no, I don't look like trash. I look fine. I'm at the pool. Come on. Or we can we can say, I kind of do look like trash, but I don't have to not look like trash. It's okay. I'm at the pool, you know? Protect yourself from yourself when you feel those kinds of words showing up.
Starting point is 00:14:53 The way you look, the way your face looks, it's not your whole story. It is not the comprehensive measurement of who you are at all, right? So protect yourself from those internal inputs of judgment and comparison by not letting them land. Do not let them take root. Respond kindly and then move on. Now, there are also external inputs that we need protection from. There are a lot of these. And we're all impacted differently by them. There are unrealistic beauty standards displayed in magazines and commercials and Instagram photos and all kinds of places.
Starting point is 00:15:25 There are friends or acquaintances who are focused pretty heavily on how they look and assume everyone should have the same kind of focus. I think protection from these external inputs might look like removal of those inputs. or at the very least limiting them. For example, and this is not a summer face example per se, but I don't buy swimsuits from websites that only have size two models. I just don't. I'm not a size two.
Starting point is 00:15:56 For one, I know that I will probably have less success at finding something that fits me when all the models look one way. And it is not the way that I look at all. But it also is not good for my personal processing to see one kind of body in swimsuits over and over again, especially one that is not mine, like as I'm shopping, right? So that's like kind of a personal protection rule that I have. If I'm scrolling to shop and I see just one kind of body, I move on to a different store. There are other swimsuit places with swimsuits that will probably fit me better, but also offer better protection for my own mind and my own heart.
Starting point is 00:16:36 Now, while this kind of protection is less about your face and the skin on it, it is a about your face and how you are in a room in an environment. Your face is a huge part of how you're showing up. And if you feel insecure or you're wrestling through these judgmental inputs, we're going to see it on your face. You're going to have to work harder to hide that struggle on your face. So tending to yourself, paying attention to those harmful inputs and eliminating those, it will impact your face. You will show up more as yourself when you believe true things and you keep untrue messages from taking root. So protect your summer face with sunscreen
Starting point is 00:17:16 and also protect your summer self with kindness. This special segment is presented by KFC and ACAST creative. KFC chicken nuggets have made their debut and they truly are the perfect chicken nugget. Each one is hand-bredded with KFC's original recipe and absolutely packed with flavor. So basically what I'm saying is KFC took all the magic that is a bucket of chicken
Starting point is 00:17:41 and packed it into one small, amazing chicken nugget. So to celebrate, I thought it'd be cool to introduce you to one of the nuggets in my life, Annie, to share a highlight of the week as we catch up over some KFC. Hey, Annie. So, so, girl, welcome to the show. Okay, this afternoon, we went shopping for some clothes. And I'm not sure that everyone understands how much you love fashion. Would you say it's true that you really love fashion?
Starting point is 00:18:09 Yes. Can you tell me, like, what is it about clothes and getting dressed in outfits and stuff that you love so much? I don't really know. How do you feel when you wear an outfit you really like? Like right now. What are you wearing right now? Let's describe what you're wearing right now. Like, I got a t-shirt and I got light shorts.
Starting point is 00:18:30 So you have on... Like, jean shorts. Yeah, so you have on some jean shorts and a white t-shirt. Yes. And how does that outfit make you feel? I love it. I used to try to dress you when you were a baby and like a little girl. And what kind of clothes did I used to try to dress you in?
Starting point is 00:18:49 The same clothes as you. Like, yeah, I would try to dress you in clothes that are like what I wear now. Like jeans and a black t-shirt or something that was like maybe to you a little bit boring. Would you say that's true? Like back in the day, before you sort of switched your style, what did you wear like a year ago when you were five? what were your favorite like colors and vibes to wear? Pink. I think it was like pink or like purple.
Starting point is 00:19:22 Pink. I used to say my favorite color was like gold glitter, but it kept changing. Sure. But now I love blue. You do love blue. You have changed your mind. You used to not like blue at all.
Starting point is 00:19:36 You used to like pink and purple and gold glitter. And now like you look blue and green sometimes and even black. Yeah. Like I look so cute and blue. You do look so cute in black. I have black pants, black shirt. Mm-hmm, yeah. How do you feel about the fact that you've changed your mind
Starting point is 00:19:55 about what kind of clothes do you like? Like, did you think that you were going to love pink and gold glitter your whole life? No. You figured you'd eventually change your mind? Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Because it's okay to change your mind about things, right? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:20:08 Totally, totally. So what is your favorite outfit right now? Like if you had to put on your perfect outfit for when it's cold outside. I think it would be the one I wore today. Oh, yeah. So it was like, can you describe it for me? I had like a sweater. It's like a shirt sweater.
Starting point is 00:20:29 Like rainbow colors and I wear purple pants. Light purple ones. Light purple. Yeah, kind of like lavender. Yeah. Like a lavender vibe. Yeah, it was super. Cute.
Starting point is 00:20:41 Very cute. it felt really happy to me. Was it a happy outfit to you? Yeah. Would you say that that's how you like to feel when you get dressed as, like, you like happy, cute outfits? Would you say that's a fair description or would you use different words? Different words. Oh, what words would you use?
Starting point is 00:20:59 Cool. Did you know that this was not planned? Did you know that that is my outfit word is cool? I love cool outfits. Now here's what's funny, because I can tell by your face, do you think that I wear cool outfits? Yes. You do? I thought you were going to say no.
Starting point is 00:21:23 But you do? You think I wear cool outfits? I love cool outfits. Yeah. But you're kind of getting into like a cool outfit vibe recently, which is super fun. Oh, I love it. I love that you know what clothes feel like any clothes. Like, I think like white and like jeans, like light jeans or like dark jeans, any kind of jeans.
Starting point is 00:21:45 Any kind of jeans, they just go good with white. It's a classic outfit. You're absolutely right. It's so classic. I love it. Like what you're wearing right now. White shirt, black stripes and jeans. White and jeans go great.
Starting point is 00:22:01 You can't go wrong with jeans and a white shirt. It's kind of like a classic forever. You'll wear jeans and white shirt forever and ever. Yes. Yeah, it's so great. I mean, hopefully you'll get new ones as you get older because it could be weird if you're 37 and wearing a seven-year-old shirt. Yeah, that would be really weird.
Starting point is 00:22:19 It probably wouldn't work very well. Well, I love your style, and I'm so glad that you're like so Annie when you get dressed. It's my fave. Yeah. Yeah, that's pretty great. Okay, well, thanks for hanging out with me and being on my show. I'm for eating nuggets with me. You're welcome.
Starting point is 00:22:36 I love you. Goodbye. Thank you for listening to this weekly nugget. Brought to you in partnership with KFC and HAC. cast creative. If you're looking to bring a little flavor to bonding time with the kiddos in your life, run, don't walk to the nearest KFC and try the new Kentucky Fried Chicken Nuggets. With 100% white meat, perfectly hand-bredded with KFC's original recipe, I promise you've never had nuggets like these. Prices and participation may vary. All right. Next, let's move on to care. How can you care for your
Starting point is 00:23:15 summer face. Have you noticed any changes in your skin as the weather has shifted? It's likely that the products that you use in the colder months, they don't work quite the same in the summer. They might, but they also might not. That's really normal. For example, you still want your skin to be hydrated since the sun can dry us out, you know, just like the cold can. But maybe that heavier moisturizer, it just feels oily now. You know, now that your skin is adjusting to the warmth outside, it doesn't like land the same. So think about the steps of your skin care, whatever and however many those are, and consider if there's a product that would be better to put on pause for a bit and get a more suitable
Starting point is 00:23:57 substitute for this season. For me, I do not use facial mists during the winter at all. There's just no need because my skin is already a bit on the oily side and it stays pretty well hydrated. I also use a richer nighttime moisturizer that has like a pretty pretty. long hang time throughout the day. And also it's cold. Mists are cooling. I don't need to be cooled in the winter, you know, but during the summer, that's very different. Especially after like being out in the sun, like at the pool or something, I love a hydrating mist. I love it. My favorite right now is the
Starting point is 00:24:32 watermelon glow ultra fine mist from the brand glow recipe. It has hyluronic acid, which is great for hydration. It smells good. It dries quickly, but it isn't like tacky. And it leaves my face feeling like it just got a little glow up. And like I said, it's cooling. So I use that when the weather gets warmer, but only then, right? It's cooling and hydrating. And I do not use it in the winter. Also, I just need to say the irony that every time I sit down to record a podcast episode, a neighbor does yard work. Every time it doesn't matter the day, the time of day, it's the funniest thing. So if you hear the gentle hum of a lawnmower or a wheat eater or whatever's happening on there, it's just, it makes me laugh every time.
Starting point is 00:25:16 It's like a, it's like a bit now that there's always going to be something happening. Okay, anyway, so I don't use my hydrating mist in the winter. Another switch that I make in the summer is a lighter formula night moisturizer. Okay. During the colder months, I use a combination of two different. things. I use May Lindstrom's blue cocoon, which is super expensive, and I make it last an actual eternity by mixing it, like mixing the tainees, like a pinprick of it with a pump of another brand's peptide moisturizer that is not on the market anymore. I tell you about it, but they don't,
Starting point is 00:25:58 I went to go tell you the specific name and it literally isn't made anymore, which news to me. So I'll have to find another one. But that combination is a rich formula on any day, but it tends to be too heavy when used every night in the warmer months. So in the summer, like right now, I will usually use pharmacies daily greens moisturizer, which I use during the day, but I also just use it at night. And I'll do that like five nights a week in the summer and then use the other thing, the other two days to kind of balance it out a little. Now another place you might want to transition care for your skin in the summer is with your makeup. You know, maybe you switch to a lighter foundation or you use a tinted sunscreen and then use a powder if your skin
Starting point is 00:26:44 gets really oily. Maybe you don't really wear a foundation at all because you don't like the heaviness of it when you're out on a hotter day. There are lots of directions you can take this, but this is your permission to just consider how you want to care for your skin and wear makeup as this season changes because that's a thing. It's a thing. This is a great place to ask what matters to you about your summer face because a lot of things could matter and likely what has mattered to you before doesn't matter so much now that's just the way of being an adult right for me what matters most about my summer face it's two things it's that I am protecting it from the sun because I am pale and burn easily and that I also pursue kindness towards myself no matter what I am
Starting point is 00:27:29 looking like now at first I was going to say like instead of that last one that what matters is feeling like myself. But there are times in that pool mirror where I'm like, whoa, what is happening? And I start to focus more on how to fix my face than on kindness about my face. I would rather be kind about my face than focus on making it look like me again. So that's why kindness matters more to me. Now you can choose whatever you want to matter to you about your summer face. The ways that I prioritize those two things, sun protection,
Starting point is 00:28:04 and kindness is to wear sunscreen every day no matter what I'm doing. That is my decide once. You know, everybody's favorite lazy genius principle. Sunscreen is always part of my skincare routine, non-negotiable. Another way that I prioritize those things is to bring sunscreen with me everywhere so I can use the best product at any given time. So sunscreen is in my purse and it's in my pool bag because that's, you know, those are the two places where it should be. I always have one of those with me. That is using. using the lazy genus principle of put everything in its place. You know, sunscreen is always in place so I can use it often.
Starting point is 00:28:40 And then the kindness part is really supported by simply choosing kindness. You know, be kind to yourself is a necessary lazy genius principle. And I use it a lot in that pool mirror when my face is splotchy and the, you know, light summer glowy makeup I applied three hours earlier. It has all but disappeared. And I'm just like a red mess. But that's okay. kindness is more important to me than careful makeup application.
Starting point is 00:29:07 So we have talked about protection. How will you protect your summer face and your summer self from the elements, both physical and personal? And how will you care for your summer face based on the season and what matters to you? And now let's finish up with fun. We'll be right back. This one will be quick, but your summer face can have a lot of fun. You can do surface level things like wear bright pink lipstick.
Starting point is 00:29:37 and get eye shadow with sparkles in it, you know? You don't have to do that every day. But have fun with how you're presenting your summer face, whatever that looks like for you. Have fun exploring the makeup aisle at Target or different skin care aisles at Sephora. Instead of seeing it as a chore or something you don't understand or as an overwhelming thing with too many choices,
Starting point is 00:30:00 try and choose fun in that experience. Sephora, for example, they have a great staff and a great return policy. So ask the people who work there, if you have a Sephora local to you, ask the people who work there for help. You know, you can say, I don't wear a lot of makeup,
Starting point is 00:30:15 but I really want like a fun, easy lipstick for the summer. Can you help me find one? And they will. And if it doesn't work, you can return it. Like used, even if it's used. Again, Sephora has an excellent return policy.
Starting point is 00:30:27 But you can also have fun with friends of yours, you know, go shopping together, try different colors that you each already own. You know, like use Q-tips to try each other's products if you're nervous about germs. Whatever you do, the point is to have fun with it. Like, don't see it as something you shouldn't be allowed to do because of your age or your limited use of makeup in the first place or your nerves that you're going to
Starting point is 00:30:49 pick the wrong color. Like, that is not worth not having fun. I remember a couple of years ago, I went to Sephora. I got two colors of, I think it was a finty lipstick. I don't remember. But I chose both colors in a rush without trying them on. based on recommendations of other people. Now, the important thing to note here is that the other people,
Starting point is 00:31:13 they do not have the same skin tone that I do. Sometimes colors transcend skin tone, and sometimes they do not. Well, I didn't wait around to find out. I just grabbed both. I got in a car. I picked the one I thought was the most neutral. Put it on in the rearview mirror.
Starting point is 00:31:28 You know, thought it was cute in the darkened car, and then I drove to the event. I hung out, talked to people. A couple of people commented on my lipstick and how it was fun and bright. and whatever. And I didn't really think anything of it. And then an hour or so later, when I went to the bathroom and I happened to look in the mirror, I was stunned, stunned because the lipstick I had quickly chosen and applied was to me so garish and bright and crazy that I was immediately
Starting point is 00:31:54 embarrassed. Like how on earth was I wearing that super bright color in a public place? Like the nerve. But then I stopped. And I was kind to myself. And I thought, you know, This is a fun color. And just because it's not the color I thought I was wearing or the color I will choose on most days, it's still fun and I'm okay. And then I went back into the room. Now that kind of experience is very possible, especially with more and more practice at kindness towards yourself.
Starting point is 00:32:25 It's okay to have fun with your summer face. It's okay to experiment with bright colors. It's okay to get it wrong in your own head. I would rather you try color and realize it's not first. you than not try a color at all if that kind of thing matters to you. I don't want you to skip a fun summer face out of fear. Now if you don't care, that's different. If you do care, but you're afraid, wear the lipstick. And finally, you can have a fun summer face simply in the way you show up. Now, you don't have to go against how you're wired. You know, you don't have to force yourself to be
Starting point is 00:33:00 the life of the party when you're naturally more observant and quiet. That's not what I mean. But you can be open. You can exist in a grounded way where you stop thinking about yourself so much. You are who you are in whatever room or pool or office or beach you find yourself in. And you can have fun wherever you are, whatever fun means to you. I think we have more fun when we let go of our insecurities and our obsession with what people are thinking of us or even what we are thinking of us. Let it go. Be lazy about people's and opinions of you. Just have fun. You don't have to do belly flops off the diving board. Just exist and be you and think of others and be present in the fun that's happening around you. Put on your summer face and have fun. This episode is, you know, wide reaching and it's
Starting point is 00:33:55 practical stuff and it's philosophical stuff. But I hope that you are walking away with at least one practical tip and one encouragement as you go into the summer. protect yourself from the sun and also from messages that don't serve you. Care for your skin in this season and care for your soul as you exist in spaces that are maybe harder to navigate in the summer. And have fun with makeup and with your presence wherever you are. And that is how to put on your summer face. All right, before we go, let's celebrate the lazy genius of the week. This week it is Marissa Tenney, who has a tip that has nothing to do with one summer face,
Starting point is 00:34:34 but it's still a great small step that might make your kitchen feel more at ease. Marissa writes this. Our trash day is Thursday, so Wednesday is Fridge Day. I don't fully clean every shelf in my fridge, but I do go through things, pull out stuff that is expired, old, or not going to get eaten. I put that stuff in the trash and I take the bin to the street. That way nothing goes to die in the back of the fridge and I remember to put the trash bin out. Marissa, this is great.
Starting point is 00:35:00 And I'm going to yes and this idea. this could be really fantastic in combining this with your grocery shopping approach, particularly in the summer where there might be a lot of produce around. Having a fridge day, the day before trash day, is great to get those old things out. But what it can also do is give you an automatic dinner choice on Wednesday, which is whatever needs to come out of the fridge. You know, you can be creative. And then you can do grocery shopping on Thursday or Friday, close to when you've already cleaned out the fridge.
Starting point is 00:35:30 That's one of the approaches that I take in the area. of prep, which is explained in detail in my book The Lazy Genius Kitchen, but prep is basically keeping all the things in your kitchen in a flow. Noticing what tasks and chores and choices are loosely connected to each other, like trash day and cleaning out the fridge, and then putting food back in the fridge from a new grocery run, is so great in keeping things in a flow. Just notice what's loosely connected and keep connecting it. So this is a great example of that. So thank you for sharing Marissa and congratulations on being the lazy genius of the week. All right, that's all for today, y'all.
Starting point is 00:36:07 Thank you for listening. And until next time, be a genius about the things that matter and lazy about the things that don't. I'm Kendra. I'll see you next week. Have you ever felt like you were living just a B or B plus life? It's so dangerous to live that more dangerous than a B minus or a C plus life because when you're living a B or B plus life, you don't change it. You think it's good enough.
Starting point is 00:36:53 Is it? I'm Susie Welch. I host a podcast called Becoming You. People think, okay, an A-plus life is not available to me, but there is a way. We are all in the process of becoming ourselves. Listen to Becoming You wherever you get your podcasts.

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