The Level Up Podcast w/ Paul Alex - Confidence Building Your Authority in Life, Work and Personal Relationships

Episode Date: May 16, 2024

“Your Network is your NETWORTH!"Make sure to add me on all SOCIAL MEDIA PLATFORMS:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paulalex/Linkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/realpaulalexFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/RealPaulAlexYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@OfficialPaulAlexLooking for a secondary source of income or want to become an entrepreneur?Check out one of my companies below to see if we can help you:www.ATMTogether.comwww.Merchantautomation.comFREE Copy of my book “Blue to Digital Gold - The New American Dream" www.officialPaulAlex.comLeave a review, like and share to help others and let’s level up together!Welcome to Episode 55 of our podcast, where we delve into the essential topic of confidence and its profound impact on your personal and professional life. Join us as we explore how confidence shapes your authority and influence, transforming your interactions with others.Confidence isn't just about feeling good – it's the bedrock of how you're perceived and your ability to lead effectively. In this episode, our host delves into the nuances of confidence and its pivotal role in gaining trust, making decisions, and commanding respect.Discover why confidence is a game-changer in the workplace. From earning the admiration of colleagues and clients to becoming the go-to expert in your field, confidence sets you apart. Learn how to exude confidence without arrogance, creating a culture of respect and collaboration.Uncover practical strategies for building confidence, starting with self-preparation and continuous learning. Effective communication is key – learn to speak assertively and contribute value to conversations, reinforcing your expertise and authority.Transitioning to personal relationships, our host shares insights on how confidence fosters healthy boundaries, clear communication, and effective leadership. Discover why confidence is attractive in both professional and personal contexts, and how it cultivates authenticity and resilience.Drawing from personal experience, our host emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, accepting strengths and weaknesses, and rebounding from setbacks. Learn how resilience and perseverance solidify your authority and influence, paving the way for success in all areas of life.Join us on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment as we explore the transformative power of confidence. Whether you're navigating the workplace, fostering personal relationships, or pursuing your entrepreneurial dreams, confidence is your secret weapon for leveling up.

Welcome to the Level Up Podcast. I'm your host, Paul Alex. I went from being a cop to an eight-figure entrepreneur that helps average people like you and me make money every single day. I created this podcast to help you get motivated and to crush your goals. Let's win together.

Remember, I have your six. Get ready to level up right now. Let's talk about confidence here. Confidence is more than just feeling good about yourself. It's about the foundation that affects how you are perceived and how effectively you can lead, influence, and connect with others. It's actually about showing the world that they can trust you in your own abilities and value. So, let's start with your workplace. When you show confidence, people take notice.

Women love it. Men love it. Your clients love it. And guess what? Your employees love it. It's not about being arrogant. It's about being secure in your skills and decisions. This security allows you to command respect and can make you the go-to person in your field, enhancing your professional authority. This is something that I always preach to my employees. I always preach this to my spouse. I always preach this to my family. I always say, you act like you are the authority in your niche or industry. You are the go-to person. You are the expert. If you're in sales, you do not come off timid. Being timid can kill your deals. People want to buy from confident sales consultants. People want to buy from confident leaders. First, it's about preparing yourself. You got to know

your stuff. The more you understand your business, your role, and the details of your projects, the more naturally confident you will become. Self-education is key. You have to keep learning and staying informed. Another crucial aspect is communication. Speak clearly and be assertive. Don't be afraid to be assertive. This doesn't mean you have to dominate conversations, but contribute actual value. Know what you are talking about. Practice active listening and respond thoughtfully. Good communication not only displays confidence, but also builds it as you reinforce your knowledge and values. Now, now that we cleared about business

and we talked about that, guys, let's talk about shifting to your personal relationships. Confidence allows you to set and maintain healthy boundaries, which is essential for mutual respect. It also helps you express your thoughts and needs more clearly, reducing misunderstandings and deepening connections. At the end of the day, I have been in several relationships in my life. And now that I'm at the point in my life where I'm thinking about kids, I'm thinking about marriage. One common factor that I have seen is that women love a man that leads. So fellas, listen up.

Lead the relationship. But you want to lead with respect. You want to lead by actually showing you can actually lead the relationship with effective communication. That is the main needle mover when it comes to personal relationships. I have seen and I have been a part of some toxic relationships because we weren't effectively communicating what we wanted from the relationship, guys. So if you are able to master communication and build your authority as the leader,

guys, you will have a relationship that adds massive value to your life. Confidence in personal relationships also means being comfortable with who you are, which encourages being authentic. Being authentic is magnetic. It attracts people who appreciate the real you and dissuades those who don't align with your genuine self. In life, confidence helps you face challenges with a steadier hand and a clearer mind. It

encourages you to take necessary risks like starting a new business or changing careers because you trust in your capacity to navigate through those challenges. Building this kind of confidence doesn't happen overnight, guys. Trust me, it took me more than a decade to build this level of confidence. It requires reflection of yourself, understanding your strengths and weaknesses and accepting them. It also involves stepping out of your comfort zone regularly. Each challenge you face and navigate successfully builds more confidence. Trust me, every single business that I have built in the past six years, I have stepped down from CEO,

chief executive officer, to CMO, chief marketing officer. Why? Because I know my strengths is more visionary. I'm more of a marketing guy. At the end of the day, guys, I'm horrible with logistics and fulfillment. I hire people that are smarter than me to go ahead and handle that part of the business. Most entrepreneurs that fail in business do not see this. They don't see or can determine their strengths and weaknesses, but they need to have that self-reflection and say, you know what? I'm good in this category. I'm going to go ahead and delegate what I'm weak at.

Remember, confidence is also about resilience. It's about how quickly you rebound from setbacks. Don't be discouraged by failure. View each setback as a learning opportunity, not a defeat. This mindset not only boosts your confidence, but also solidifies your authority as someone who perseveres and evolves. Guys, even when I was in law enforcement, I wasn't the best of the best in my academy. I was right smack in the middle, I wasn't the best of the best in my academy. I was right smack in the middle.

I wasn't the worst. I wasn't the best. But once I graduated from police academy, that's where I really showed my authority. That's where I really showed my skill set that I could be the best. And within the two to three years, I went from being a patrol officer to an award-winning detective, guys, that was highly respected in my department of 800 officers. And trust me, I'm no one special. I just put in the work.

So I encourage you to cultivate your confidence. Start out small, celebrate your successes, learn from your failures, and gradually expand your comfort zone. The more confident you become, the more authoritative and influential you'll be across all areas of your life, personal and business.

It's time to level up. Remember, I always have your six. Make sure to share this episode with your family, friends, and anyone you care about. The world's already hard enough, and we need to take care of each other. Make sure to share this episode on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, and share it with the world. Do me a big favor and tag me, Paul Alex. Also, keep the five-star reviews on iTunes coming. This episode is going to help change the way the world thinks and will help everyone level up in their life.

And lastly, if you want to continue to level up, learn more about business and life, then make sure to get a copy of my book, From Blue to Digital Gold, The New American Dream, on Amazon or at officialpaulalex.com.