The Liz Moody Podcast - I Did An 8 Day Meditation Retreat To Rewire My Brain For Joy—Here Are My Biggest Takeaways

Episode Date: November 4, 2024

What actually happens on a silent meditation retreat? In this conversation, my husband and I discuss our experiences on a week-long Jhourney meditation retreat. The retreat attempts to teach participants how to reach a jhana state, which is a state of deep relaxation and bliss. Spoiler alert: one of us was able to reach it, and the other wasn’t! The intentionally slow pacing of the retreat allowed us to reflect on our relationships with social media and technology more generally. Learn how we plan to change their behavior based on the retreat’s structure and teachings. 00:00 Introduction 1:04 Retreat Day-to-Day 2:29 Yoga As A Tool 4:30 Overcoming The Boredom Hurdle 6:11 What Are Jhana States? 10:52 Personal Growth 15:45 Managing Emotions and Tears 18:01 Meditation’s Biggest Impacts 23:10 Our Individual Takeaways 29:18 Tracking Feelings Intentionally Learn more about this retreat at www.Jhourney.io.  Ready to uplevel every part of your life? Order Liz’s new book 100 Ways to Change Your Life: The Science of Leveling Up Health, Happiness, Relationships & Success now!  To join The Liz Moody Podcast Club Facebook group, go to www.facebook.com/groups/thelizmoodypodcast. Connect with Liz on Instagram @lizmoody, or subscribe to her newsletter by visiting www.lizmoody.com. If you like this episode, listen to: Ask The Doctor: Happiness Edition. Feel More Content Regardless of Life Circumstances with Dr. Rick Hanson, PhD The Seven-Minute Secret To Happiness That No One Is Talking About The Ways We’re Being Manipulated Online + How To Tell What’s True In The Wellness World & Beyond This episode is sponsored by: ARMRA: go to tryarmra.com/LIZMOODY or enter LIZMOODY to get 15% off your first order. Cymbiotika: use code LIZMOODY on cymbiotika.com to get 15% off plus free shipping on subscription orders. Osea: get 10% off your first order at oseamalibu.com with code LIZMOODY10. The Liz Moody Podcast cover art by Zack. The Liz Moody Podcast music by Alex Ruimy Formerly the Healthier Together Podcast.  This podcast and website represents the opinions of Liz Moody and her guests to the show. The content here should not be taken as medical advice. The content here is for information purposes only, and because each person is so unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical questions. The Liz Moody Podcast Episode 279. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hello, friends, and welcome to the Liz Moody podcast, where every week we're sharing real science, real stories, and realistic tools that actually level up every part of your life. I am your host, Liz Moody, and I'm a best-selling author and longtime journalist. And today I'm joined by a very, very special guest, my husband, Zach. So Zach and I just got back from an eight-day silent, mostly silent. We will talk about that later. Meditation Retreat. And in this episode, we are going to talk about what that was like, what our days looked

like, I feel like meditation retreats are so mysterious. And before I went on one, I was like, what are people doing every single day? And also how it changed us, how it impacted us, if we would recommend it. And things that we learned, I think that anybody can take advantage of whether or not you feel like going on a meditation retreat or not. We meditated. So if you don't want to, you don't have to. Although I actually do think there's a lot of value in this type of retreat environment, which we'll get into down the line. But let's just start off with what is it like to be on a meditation retreat. Like what is the shape of every single day?

And that is a lot of meditating. This retreat had a lot of meditating. A lot of meditating. And I think that is the norm on meditation retreat. And the way it worked in this retreat was we would meet as a group after breakfast every single day at 8 a.m. We would work together as a group from 8 to 930. That could be a Q&A session.

It would be a guided meditation session. It would be explaining some sort of technique. and then they set you loose. And you actually are instructed to design your own schedule for the day. And that's part of this process. This particular style of retreat, which we'll get into later, is developed around a specific type of meditation. It has a very specific approach.

And one of their mottoes is, experiment like a scientist, play like a kid. Do they get that right? That sounds like semantically correct. So they're teaching you this technique. And then you're going off and you're running your own experiments with the technique. So other than the meditating, we had three meals a day, which were really delicious. And also, I was very surprised by how hungry I was. I don't eat like three square meals a day.

And I certainly do not eat dinner at 5.30 right after I've eaten lunch at like 12. It was a lot of meals in a very short amount of time. And I felt shockingly ravenous. Same. It makes you realize that meditation is not just like a layaround sport. Like it's taking some energy from you. and that is all primarily, I think, all up in the brains, the brains area. The brains area.

Okay, so then we also had a yoga session once a day, which I love. This retreat single-handedly got me back into yoga and, like, feeling the value of yoga in my body. We went last night as soon as we got home. Yeah, it was, and that was awesome. We did yin yoga, which is very much not moving. Great thing to do an hour before bed. So you do that. And then you also do these things called practice.

interviews, which is when you get to meet with facilitators and you get to talk, which is nice, because, again, it's mostly silent. And you get to ask them your questions and troubleshoot any issues that you're running into. So that's one thing. And then at dinner starting on day four? Four or five, somewhere in the middle, midway point. They started to let you talk, but only about the meditation practice. And only at dinner for an hour. And only a dinner for an hour. Just to get a better idea of other people's progress and experiences and sharing information. Because again, it's a very experimental-minded group. And everyone's kind of like, well, this worked for me really well when I did X and Y and Z. Or these are the struggles that I'm running into. That too. And then after dinner,

you go back and do one more session for an hour and a half. That's Q&A's that sometimes a guided meditation and then you go meditate more and then you go to sleep. Some of my most effective meditations And really how I racked up the hours were like after dinner after that session from somewhere between like eight to 10 and then like go to bed at 10. And then you go to sleep. Yeah. Yeah. I want to describe my arc on retreat a little bit because I wasn't sure how I'd react like

if I'd be able to sink right in, when it would feel difficult, when it would feel easy. And I'd say the first day, it felt really good. Like the meditation felt exciting. I was into it. And then day two and day three were my hardest days. 100%. I felt very antsy. I felt very bored. I felt very annoyed, almost like who's making me do this and can I speak to their manager essentially? I think it's almost like important for me to note that in case anybody's listening because I do think it's almost like important to acknowledge

that there could be sort of like a difficulty hump. And once I could get over that attention and boredom hurdle, which makes sense because in our daily lives we're subject to so much stimuli. And then it's like you waved a magic wand and all of it is gone. You're not allowed to use technology. So I was not on my phone. I was not talking, not really like doing anything every day. So I do think that reaction was expected. And also, I think most importantly, I was shocked by how much it went away. My attention progressively day by day got so much better. And by the end, my ability to focus and my desire to be scrolling on Instagram, to be on my phone, to be constantly entertained was so much lower. Ability to focus higher distraction and ability to be distracted was so much

lower. And I even noticed in the way that I was walking, for instance, my steps felt slower. When I was brushing my teeth, I wasn't bored and wanting to do something else in that moment. And it was just, it was such a crazy difference by the end of the retreat. The way that I felt in my body and my mind, the slowness and the stillness that developed over that time. So that was one of the ways that it impacted me, this sense of stillness and peace that I was able to access. And I think I'm still going to hopefully be able to access going forward. But I think another thing to note is that this style of meditation is very different than any other that I've experienced. And some of the goals and purposes of this retreat are a bit different

than other meditation retreats that I've been exposed to. This type of meditation retreat is based around the ideas of the Jonna's or the Jonna states. Do you want to speak to that a little bit? Sure. I mean, I'll do the best I can, but I am a novice in all of this, but I do actually plan on learning a lot more of this because I found either those states or proximity to those states to be really, really interesting for me.

So the retreat name is called Journey. And the J has an H after it, so it's like Jeherney, Jeherney. But pronounced Journey. because it is a retreat designed specifically around a group of people got together and they basically figured out how to basically coach people into the area of these of these states quite quickly in a matter in a matter of days. These are concepts that tie to religious experiences, a ton of historical experiences. There's literally like thousands of years of information about this that I know very

little of. But what I understood was, hey, these are states or pre-states or whatever that you can get into that basically feel amazing. They feel like people describe MDMA. They feel like people describe revelatory and ecstatic experiences. And you can sustain them in meditative states for quite a long time. And it is supposed to, if possible, make the meditation very pleasurable and like something you actually want to sit in and experience for a big chunk of time. Did you feel like it was like doing MDMA since you have indeed done MDMA? Yes. I basically got to enter some super resonant, beautiful mental states that felt more like bliss

than anything else I've experienced in like meditative or normal walking around like living your life life. You said it was some of the best feelings that you'd had in like recent memory, in months, years even. 100% confirmed. So let me describe briefly how this style of meditation differs from the other styles of meditation that I've at least encountered. I'm not an expert, but from what I can tell. There are a number of different styles of meditation.

I have tried Vedic or transcendental meditation where you're basically given a mantra and you repeat that mantra over and you're continuously drawing your focus back to that mantra. We've also done a Zen meditation retreat where you're constantly bringing your focus back to your breath. You're inhale and your exhale. And whenever your mind wanders away, you're bringing your focus back to your breath. In general, insofar as I can tell, this is what meditations have in common. Your focus is drawn away and you're giving it something to bring it back to. So you're gathering that concentration.

You're gathering that focus around a thing or letting it rest on a thing. Another style of meditation is like a meta practice, which is a meta practice, which is, you're gathering, is gathering your focus around essentially thinking kind thoughts about yourself and other people. May I be happy. May this specific person be happy. May the whole world be happy. And you're sending those positive feelings inward and outward. This is probably the style of meditation that is most similar to what we were doing.

The idea with this practice is that the thing you were bringing your focus back to continuously is a positive emotion, whether that be. joy, gratitude, compassion, other ones that I'm not thinking of. Can you think of other ones? There's a collection of shades of good time feelings that people have memories or thoughts or semantic responses to. And I think, yeah, I think you named the big ones. So people will engage with the practice in different ways because different types of techniques

will work for different people. So they want you to trial these different things. But some people will do more of a meta practice where they're sending these good feelings inwards. and then outwards. Some people will just meditate on their smile, match a breath pattern to a smile. Some people will try to really conjure the feeling in their body. A memory is a really good thing. I was meditating for a while on the smell of Bella's fur. I heard from a number of other people who would meditate on like the feeling of being in their partner's arms. And so then when their

attention would drift away, they would just try to conjure up again that feeling of being in their partner's arms. I love this. To me, this was like the unlike. of the retreat, it's huge because I think that when we think about how we want to feel in our day-to-day lives, to me, it is more joyful, more peaceful, more content, more grateful, all of these things, especially because of the stuff we talk about on this podcast. We had Rick Hanson on the podcast and he talked about how we can rewire our brains to feel more joy in our everyday lives by concentrating on and amplifying joyful feelings in our lives. One of the things they say is come for the bliss, stay for the personal growth. And I think part of that personal growth component, and there's a lot of parts and we'll get into them. But part of that personal growth component is that it teaches you to appreciate things. It teaches you to notice great things and then appreciate them and appreciate the way your mind is processing them as well. Like what a beautiful thing that I can feel gratitude like this. What a beautiful thing that I can feel love like this. What a beautiful thing that I can feel joy like this.

You are training your brain to do that. And it takes hours, right? Like we're talking about a lot of, relatively a lot of time for a week, basically telling yourself, really actually, not telling, asking yourself, what creates joy in me. I know you and I had had kind of conversations either in the privacy of our cabin or in some of the dinner sessions about not knowing offhand. You know, name five things that just to mine are just super,

joyous occurrences that you can just meditate on. And there's tons, there's dozens, there's hundreds, there's thousands. But it takes bringing your attention to it a few times to really unlock your brain's ability to say, oh, there's one, oh, there's another one. Oh, that time I was doing that, that's definitely one. One of my big ones early on in the treat was skiing, right? Just picturing, literally picturing myself going down the mountain and like I'm a very like somatic, like physical thinking person, that sensation of going through fresh powder,

that was like one of the ways I first just started an experiment. We're meditating on your objects of joy. You're trying to figure out what works for you to get into these states. But I think that the practice of just doing this meditation, state or not, it's the best meditation practice that I've ever found because it is increasing your joy, increasing your gratitude, increasing your love, increasing your contentment. And it's making you feel awe at your own mind and at the whole world. And we just had Dr. Keltner, my old professor on the podcast, and he talked about the myriad health benefits of awe, of what it does for our brains, what it does for our immune systems, what it does for our inflammation levels. There are so many benefits of awe,

and this practice is literally designed to cultivate it. So I love the practice, which brings me to Zach achieved the estates. I did not. I did not. And that was actually really, really hard for me. And part of the day two to three arc for me was feeling kind of like a loser that I couldn't get into these states that other people were accessing. I felt like something was wrong with me.

I felt very self-critical. And of course, when you get into a loop of self-criticism and when you're criticizing your self-criticism and then feeling shame at that and then criticizing your shame, you're kind of in the opposite of the type of loop you're trying to get into. You're spiraling away. You're spiraling away. I picture like the little man in space, like floating away from the spaceship. Bad spiraling. Not good spiraling. A hundred percent. So that was me on day two or three. And I think on day like four, I just said, cool. I'm not going to get into these John Estates. If I do, amazing. Great. But that's no longer my goal. My goal is cultivating this practice because I could already see.

at that point what it was doing for the way that I interacted with the rest of the world and with my brain on a moment to moment basis. So I actually think that like you don't even need to come for the bliss. Come for the personal growth. And if you get the bliss, like great, super side effect. The bliss is a really good carrot. I will also say if you have a partner who is less interested in therapy, but you maybe feel they might benefit from a therapeutic experience, I kind of feel like this is like a tricky way to get a lot of those benefits. Yeah. If your partner's like, man, I could really go to get hopped up on bliss right now.

Carrot. Yeah, carrot. And then are they going to get deeply in touch with their feelings and do forgiveness practices that make them cry? Also, carrot. But like maybe that's the sneaky carrot in the back. And I do think there was a lot of people there who said that they had felt numb for years. or they got in touch with emotions that they hadn't felt in a very long time, a lot of women and really a lot of men.

Like, I think it was a really interesting thing to see men who felt like they perhaps didn't have the freedom on a societal level or didn't have access to these emotions. Just, like, sobbing, joying, whatever that. What's the sobbing of joy? Sobbing with joy. Yeah, sure of that. Yeah, you did that. Oh, I did that.

I probably cried more on this retreat. Primarily in crying with joy, like tears of joy, then, well, certainly then I don't think I've ever cried tears of joy in like any sort of adult memory. I can think of one. Except for our wedding. Close one, Zach. So you did. You had this profoundly emotional moving experience. And I will also give a shout out for it as like a couple's thing to do because we were able to then talk about like, hey, you were crying a lot during this forgiveness.

meditation, what was coming up for you? And I was able to... Anything you want to share. And I could, I could, you know, you can talk about parts about yourself that you want to forgive, parts of other people and other experience you've had you want to forgive. There's a lot of space to reflect when you're caught up in really positive feelings. I always think of like positive feelings as a, they give a lot of buffer for dealing and reframing and kind of rechecking out and reprocessing, putting back away negative feelings. And that's just, it's such a powerful tool to have at your disposal.

You don't leave the retreat and then lose the tools. So that's, well. 100%. Well, maybe a little bit, but like, I will say, so we're like one day back. And I was meditating today and was surprised at how much less accessible those states were when there's work emails

that I really need to answer from the last week or something for plans later. It is a shout out to the retreat as an entity that it gives you this, a container to really turn off the kind of mental polls that make it harder to enter more peaceful states.

100%. And it's just a nice like jump start, like a refresh. You can reboot the computer and then you can be very intentional about the tabs that you open after you reboot the computer. You learn these new techniques. You reboot a bunch of new stuff.

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It's actually so interesting. So I grew up in Berkeley, like, which is, you know, the Bay Area and especially this part of the Bay Area is like, they're centers for. meditation and kind of like alternative spiritual practices. I have run into like a number of like long time meditators or people that have kind of like, let's say work in the space. And some not super deep. I've never been like big into these these communities.

But the people that always struck me the most would always be 70, 80 year old that have like long flowing gray hair and they would just seem content. Like, they seem like they were just all sorted. And I never really saw that in my generation or people, people in their lower decades. And it was, it was almost a little unnerving to walk and be like, these people all look like really satisfied, really satisfied, like really happy, really satisfied. You know, I'm sure everybody's happy being on a retreat to a certain extent. But there was a. You get to know them and you find out that, yeah, you know, like maybe they don't have backgrounds that would, that or life experiences or life stories that would make you think inherently,

oh, they should be satisfied. But, but here they are looking like some of the most content, happy people that you see in a while. And that was one of the things they kept reiterating on this retreat was have fun. Like this is meant to be enjoyable. If it's not enjoyable, do something different. And I really like that. And I will say that one of my takeaways, one of the impacts I felt that it had on me is it made meditation really fun for me. I've often been able to get myself to meditate, but it often feels like a chore. And this made meditation feel really, really enjoyable. I also just feel so much more spacious. And I've realized the value of space in my life, I feel like over that retreat experience, my brain was this big tangled knot of string. And that

string just slowly like untangled and unwound itself and created this space for creative thoughts and feelings and a sense of joy with the world could come in. And it's made me realize how much much I need that space, how much I crave that space in my life. So that's something that I'm going to be intentionally working to create. So let's talk about that actually action steps going forward because we were talking about that a lot on the drive home based on things that we've learned on the retreat. So one that I'm doing is no rushing. No rushing. I realize how good it felt to not be rushed. And I think this created that spaciousness, that untangling in my brain as much, if not more than the active, seated meditation, that to me looks like a few things.

One, it looks like not trying to pack as many things into my calendar. I am so the person who's like, oh, I have 10 minutes before I have to leave. I'm going to put in a load of laundry and I'm going to make a snack and I'm going to just do all these different things because I have the time to do it and then I'm rushing and then I'm driving to the place trying to make up for lost time. I'm spiking my cortisol levels and I'm just creating this constant sense of stress of running behind in my body. So I'm going to try to create more spaciousness in my calendar, but also just little things like walking slower, moving slower. I realize that almost every

single action that I do in my life, I do as if I am trying to hurry it along, like making my tea, eating my lunch, sending work emails. I'm just like stomping and clomping and banging about. And I just look like I'm just trying to like get through to the next thing. And a huge part of this type of meditation that they teach it journey is about savoring and enjoying the thing and not just making your meditation practice on the cushion, but taking it into your life and saying, okay, right now I'm brushing my teeth. How can I feel brushing my teeth? How can I savor this experience? Right now I'm eating my delicious dinner. Why am I just shoving in my mouth and like trying to move on to the next thing? Like do the thing you're doing and find a sense of

enjoyment in that thing. And I think that will create that spaciousness and lack of brushing. And so that's one of my action steps is no more rushing. Try to savor as many things as possible. I love that. I actually have a similar one, but specifically with media. I was thinking to myself that I find myself, gosh, scrolling headlines on like news articles and stuff like that, like literally taking people's well-thought-out ideas and trying to get the soundbite, trying to get the summary.

So I'm instituting a... Almost in a hit way. Like it's like, because you're just like, you don't have the attention to like sit and read the whole thing. You're just like, oh, got that hit, need another hit, need another hit. Which is how I don't do it

the news headlines, but I do it in social media, certainly. I'm like, okay, got that hit. Like, need the next hit, need the next hit. Need the next hit. One thing I'm doing is like a 15 minute minimum rule. So something has to take

at least 15 minutes to consume or more. And then I have to consume it for at least 15 minutes at a time. So that means if I read a page of a book, I'm there for 15 minutes or more. I'm not going to just flip open a magazine and read a quick article, flip on my news feed. And I don't know how to deal with that with like, quote unquote, staying informed with the news.

You've said podcast, though. Like, you're like, I'll listen to a 30-minute podcast. Yeah, exactly right. And I think there are a lot of good ways. A lot of great podcasts out of. A lot of great podcasts out there. No, but there's a lot of good ways to stay informed through long form. And probably in a better way.

have an entire episode about all the ways in which we're being manipulated online, especially on social media, but also on kind of click-baity articles because people need to make money. And that's how these algorithms work. And it's not insidious, but it is true. But basically the type of information that we are being served on social media is designed to stir us up. It is designed to incite strong emotions because that is what keeps you on the app. That is what keeps you clicking, scrolling, all of these things.

And so by you saying, I want the information, but I don't know. need it with the side of being like fanned up you know i i think that makes a lot of sense what i think the the thing for the time is about attention right about having my attention try to stay on things for longer periods of time and not be bopped around because so so much of this like you know the the the the janas all the things they they are all wrapped they're all functions of entering higher states of attention, being able to kind of bring together the parts of your brain that are focused on going to lunch in 30 minutes or thinking about an awkward conversation you had with somebody and really trying to get all those things, hey, let's all bring our attention to X and let's make sure

X is fun. That's kind of how I want to approach my information consumption too, which is also means I'm reading books more. I'm going to read sound bites less and, you know, listen to a great hour and a half long podcast today, and I listened to the whole thing, and that was fantastic. Yeah. I think we don't talk enough about how much when we're doing low attention things because we don't have an attention span, it is perpetuating our low attention span. And the way to break that is to start doing high attention things, which will feel really,

really hard because we have a very low attention span. But that is how you train your attention span to be better. and it will feel significantly easier after you do it. And that's kind of one of the great joys of retreat is you're sort of forced to get back your attention span. But I do think it's something I definitely struggle with is like, oh, I don't have an attention span right now. So I just want to scroll.

Reading a book feels really hard. And the thing I have benefited immensely from telling myself is the more I read books, the easier it will be for me to read books. Yeah, it's funny. It's like you don't tell a lot of people to like suffer through something. but I think your short attention span suffer, suffer through the thing that you want to get distracted from until it doesn't hurt anymore because it's going to be faster than you think. Yeah, I completely agree.

Another great tip that one of the facilitators shared was that any time you're engaging with any technology, just sit for 30 seconds before and ask yourself how you want to feel. What are you hoping to get out of it? So it could just be, I'm checking my email, I'm hoping to get information, and then reply, and then sit for 30 seconds afterward and reflect on how you felt. So with the email example, did you just do that? Did you get distracted? Did it make you feel a certain way?

Is there self-criticism in the type of reply? Did you debate the amount of exclamation points you should put in something? But if it's social media, if you sat down to take a break, do you feel rested? Do you feel like you had a break? And if you did, great, amazing. But that was a huge unlock for me with social media is I was using it to restore, relax, replenish, and I felt none of those things when I got up from scrolling. And that's one of the reasons that I did not miss it nearly as much as I thought I would on the retreat. Okay, any other

action steps? I mean, I have a meditation plan. I don't know if that's interesting to people, but I think the best thing to do is to do it when you first wake up. I think there's so much value to starting your day under the influence of a more well-martial and well-thought-through attention span. I have always had a hard time getting out of bed and going and meditating. So this might not work for everybody, but my meditation practice is actually going to happen in bed. When I wake up, I wake up really well. I very rarely like want to fall back asleep. So this might not work for everybody. No, I do it on the couch because I will instantly fall back asleep. So know what works for you, I think is important. What works for me is actually,

and I found this on the retreat because I was waking up every morning and being like, oh man, I'm up an hour before we need to be up. I'm going to meditate. And this is actually. This is actually the comfiest place to do it. Thank you very much. I also like meditating laying down for various reasons as well. But I also discovered my watch can vibrate multiple alarms. So basically now one goes off at six. It's a Garmin. If your partner always wakes you up with their alarm, get them a Garmin. I'm sure almost any smart watch does it. I just had not thought to like check. So sorry, babe. So I don't have to wake up to Taylor Swift anymore. The Taylor Swift was was my consolation price to you.

But it wasn't enough. Yeah, I see. I see now that nothing would have been better than anything. So first alarm at six, second alarm at seven, meditate for an hour, go about your day. Did it this morning, and it was a joy. And along those same lines, I am turning my phone off at night. I used to do airplane mode. I've realized on this retreat that we literally turn our phones back on and we were both

shook by how much we were drawn to like, picking it up, checking things. And we're like, we're not even interested in checking. Like, what are we checking right now? It's a Sunday. And it is crazy that just having it on and available makes you want to open it, fiddle with it, check things, puts you into that state. So I realize airplane mode is way worse for me than just off.

So my practice is going to be, in addition to my meditation practice, which I am going to do on the couch, not in bed for 30 minutes, not an hour. That's right. Different strokes. Different strokes or different folks. But I'm going to turn my phone off at night so that I'm going to do. I'm not tempted. I have this whole reboot period.

If I'm like, oh, I really want to be on it that badly. I'm going to turn my phone off at night. And I'm going to not turn it on until 9 a.m., which is when I start work. And that way I can create the space that I need to create to have the morning routine that will set me up to feel the way that I want to feel all day. I realize that I'm just letting anybody reach me whenever they want. I'm operating on other people's schedules. It's like having all these people just kind of like tugging at your shirt all

day long and you're like, well, you wanted me. You sent me this text. It's not even urgent. It's not an urgent text. But because you've gotten it, I'm like, oh, I got to respond to this text. And I'm like, no, I want to direct my attention. I don't want to be told by other people where my attention should go. So that's something that I'm experimenting with. I do encourage people to explore the difference between turning your phone off. You can get a landline if you're worried about people reaching you in case of emergency. And just seeing what that feels like, I'm very excited to see my relationship with my phone going forward. When this is something I so loved about this specific meditation retreat is their focus on experimentation. And anybody who thinks that they're not addicted to their attention

grabbing device or that it's not that bad, I challenge you to set it yourself a rule, do an experiment, say, I'm not going to check my phone for an hour, but then leave it three feet from you. And then tell me how many times, and like, you know, don't like, don't try to like hardball me here. and be like, okay, I'm going to then go intentionally meditate for an hour just to show Zach. Do a normal thing, like stay on your computer, do some work, whatever. The number of times you will, without thinking, against the intentions you've set, reach for your phone. It's wild. I think is wild.

It's wild. And for those of you who don't find that to be the case, good for you. Yeah. Oh, enjoy your wonderful life. I actually wish that. I wish that upon everybody. Yeah. If you're listening, that's you, we salute you.

We love you. Okay. Well, I love doing it. this meditation retreat with you. If you're interested, we've said it a few times, but it is Journey. That is J-H-O-U-R-N-E-Y. Their website is journey.I-O. I'll put it in the show notes, but it's basically J-H-O-U-R-N-E-Y. Dot I-O. They have a ton of different meditation retreats. They're pretty reasonably priced from what I've experienced of meditation retreats. And pretty reasonable, different types of commitment. There are a few different types

that are more flexible depending on your schedule. They have the actual retreats. They have virtual ones that kind of go for a similar amount of time as the retreats. And then they have work compatible virtual ones that sit in the time around a traditional nine to five. So you can you do it on two weekends, I think. And then they have you meditate a certain amount during the week. I haven't looked into it that much.

But yeah, they really try to make it as accessible as possible. I also think they offer scholarships if that is of interest. And they're a very data-driven company. They submit virtual recordings of what they were doing, right before they, and people entered a Johnics date or, you know, have some other experience to describe. They then can share that with people based, you know, with their consent, which I found really interesting. And, you know, these are people who were out on the virtual retreat. So, like, they claim, what do they claim? Like a 70-ish percent hit rate on people who can effectively

feel like they've entered these states. And again, I cannot emphasize enough. I did not. And I learned so much about myself. And I feel so different going forward. Which is amazing. So that was our eight-day, mostly silent meditation retreat experience. It was life-changing, honestly. And if you do any of these experiments, I would love to hear about them. If you go on a retreat, I'd love to hear about that. And I love you all. Thanks for listening.

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