The Liz Moody Podcast - Relationship Qs My Husband And I Have Never Asked Each Other—Until Now (PT. 2)

Episode Date: May 4, 2026

My husband Zack and I are answering relationship questions that we have never asked each other in our 18 years of being together. These questions are all based on real research on what actually makes couples closer, so bring these questions to your partner (or friend)—they’re guaranteed to spark great conversations. Check out part one of this episode for more juicy questions. Ready to uplevel every part of your life? Order Liz’s book 100 Ways to Change Your Life: The Science of Leveling Up Health, Happiness, Relationships & Success now!  Connect with Liz on Instagram @lizmoody or online at www.lizmoody.com. Subscribe to the substack by visiting https://lizmoody.substack.com/welcome. Buy our cute sweatshirts, conversation cards, and more at https://shop.lizmoody.com/. To join The Liz Moody Podcast Club Facebook group, go to www.facebook.com/groups/thelizmoodypodcast. Use our discount codes from our  highly vetted and tested brand partners by visiting https://www.lizmoody.com/codes.  This episode is brought to you completely free thanks to the following podcast sponsors: • LMNT: head to DrinkLMNT.com/Liz to get a FREE 8-count sample pack with any order. • Pique: head to PiqueLife.com/LizMoody for 20% off + a FREE Starter Kit on $100+ of subscriptions.  • Lumebox: right now, May 1st-4th, get 50% OFF when you go to TheLumeBox.com/Liz. The Liz Moody Podcast cover art by Zack. The Liz Moody Podcast music by Alex Ruimy. Formerly the Healthier Together Podcast.  This podcast and website represents the opinions of Liz Moody and her guests to the show. The content here should not be taken as medical advice. The content here is for information purposes only, and because each person is so unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical questions. The Liz Moody Podcast Episode 427. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are back with part two of my husband, Zach and I, answering relationship questions that we have never, ever asked each other in our 18 years of being together. If you miss part one, these don't need to go in any order so you can listen to that next. But basically, we are answering science-backed questions designed to make people closer. So after you use them to get to know us better, send a link to this episode to your partner or to a friend so you can do them together. These are science-backed, so they actually bring you closer and they are guaranteed to spark such good conversations. Welcome to the Liz Moody podcast where we skip past the BS and get you actual solutions

to your real problem so you can feel as good as possible every single day. If you could relive one day we've had together, which would it be and why? Oh gosh. Not our wedding day. I feel like a lot of people say their wedding day. It was the first thing I thought of. I was like, would I want to? No, I was hungry.

I was nervous. It was a fun day. It was nowhere near the top of my list for, best days in our relationship. No. Which I just think is interesting. Our engagement day was pretty. I would put our engagement day above our wedding day.

But honestly, I wouldn't even put either of those in our top 10. And I just only mention it because I think a lot of people are like, your wedding should be the best day of your life. And we put so much pressure on it. On the more expensive days of your life. It's definitely the most expensive day in my life, I think, by far. Well, I mean, never say never. But it wasn't.

It wasn't even close to the best day in our relationship for me. One day that I think of immediately is, do you remember the day in Mexico City? We went with Renee and Matt, and they were both down for the count with food poisoning. Their company was amazing. We loved, like, hanging out with them the whole time. But you and I went off and we had this, like... It was the nice, like, 20 hours of when they had food poisoning and we didn't yet. And then we got food poisoning.

It was a window. It was a window. You know when, like, norovirus is boiling in your system, but it really hasn't hit you yet? Yeah, it wasn't food poisoning. We thought it was food poisoning, but actually it was norovirus, and it was all over the apartment. I love you guys. But we had this like day that you and I went out. We had no plans, no agenda, and you and I were just exploring Mexico City together.

This is, I think, one of the best ways that you and I interact in the world is like through like a good, like long, like chatty, chatty wander. Yeah, with like these, it's punctuated with like we went to that museum. We went to some Georgia O'Keefe thing. We went to a churro place. We went to a market. we wandered upon stuff. And the whole time we're like talking, talking, talking, and then we like go and take in this interesting information.

And then we're talking, talking, talking. And then we go eat a delicious churro. And I just think that's us at our best. That type of day, I don't know if it was that one specifically. But I like those types of days with you more than our wedding day or our engagement day or whatever. And there's like dozens of like days I can think of in like new, even just like when we're living in New York. Yeah. There were days just chocked full of that.

And then ones in special places too. Like a 25,000 step plus with some sort of intellectual. stimuli and some sort of delicious food. That's like my combo. Yeah, I mean, that also sounds like your perfect day too. So like that makes sense. Our perfect day. Our perfect day.

Do you have any that you want to call out? I think when we were nomading, there were some really special days. I think of like those days in like squamish when we were up in the like sea to sky gondola type of thing. Like we'd like, yeah. Yeah. It was magical. There was this gondola where you would take it to the top of the mountain.

And then every Friday night, they would play a. live music and everybody would actually dance and you're outside looking out over this like beautiful mountain terrain. I actually can't think of a better feeling in the world than that. I think there's some sort of magic for like places that are cold throughout a lot of the year that get like really like springy and warm and balmy and just like for like two months. Yes, it's like really frantic like we must have an amazing time. And they're so good at it. Yeah, exactly. I love getting caught up in those little summertime. And we always had friends visiting us and that was really fun too. What's the version of me that only you get to see?

Oh. Morning me. Like me and our local coffee shop both get to see the comfiest version of you. So we went to the coffee shop the other day and I showed Abby, who is one of my favorite baristas at the coffee shop, my head shots, because I, we talk. We haven't we haven't spoken in years, but I just wanted to show you these sick headshots I took. And I was like, look, I don't always look like how I do in the coffee shop. Well, you just came in there and like... No, we were talking about other stuff. It came up naturally in the conversation.

I said, I was really excited about these headshots I got. So I showed them to her. And she was like, wow. And I was like, yeah, I know I don't look like this on a day-to-day basis. I know you get more of like a rough and tumble version of me. And she says, I always think of you is more comfy. And I feel like. I think it's the unmatching sweat set.

And like my hair's on my sleep on. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, no, it's great. What's the part of me that people don't get to see? Where am I even different? It's just Zach all the way down. I think you're goofy with other people, but I think you probably have a little bit more of like a silliness with me

than can come out with other people. And I think that some of that's just like societal dynamics and that's fine. And some of that is maybe awareness of how you're being perceived. And that's also fine. But I think there's a little bit more of a silliness there with me. Oh, I love that. And a sweetness of cat daddery, I think, too. Wonderful.

You're just such a good cat dad. You're so sweet with them. And me? Didn't I already say one? Maybe a sweeter one. I know, like, you're happy, like, cracking jokes online and stuff like that too. But, like, I feel like when we're, like, alone, like, you're kind of like, I don't know, like sardonic and sarcastic.

You're just, like, a little, like, raw and filtered funny that I think maybe, like, people don't necessarily get to see as much. Yeah. I think especially online. Like, I think more with my friends. I've always self-identified as somebody who leans more into humor. And that's always been one of my roles in a friend group. It's like, oh, Liz, it's a funny one, whatever.

And it's interesting to me that I don't feel like that comes through online at all. And it's actually something that I'm like a little self-conscious about because I'm like, am I boring? No, I also. I'm boring on my podcast? No, no. I just, I feel like it's also the structure of like the medium, like where, like, how you crack jokes are often like very situational and they're situational and they're interactive and so when I'm like talking to a camera by myself or I'm sitting with these world class experts and trying to like understand the way their

brains work and way that I can communicate with people that can help them change their lives. And it's like not a lot of room for being funny in there. No. And you're actually like really funny about like physical comedy or about like observational stuff. So it's not even always interactive. It's like you have to be existing within the world to have that version of you. I secretly want to start a podcast that's like a little bit more sardonic sarcastic. Like a giggly squad meets diabolical lies if people understand

those words. It's like chit-chatting about pop culture but with this lens towards what does this really mean? What's the underlying societal dynamics here? But I'm also like that's not what people come to be for. They could? They could. They could. Never be the one to say no to yourself. What's one

thing that you do daily that I have no idea about? I watch ASMR videos but you know about that. Oh, I know about that because I'll walk into the bedroom And it'll be like, you're going to say it's up on the other. You make it sound so creepy. Like when you walk into a dark room and there's like a tiny glowing screen and you just hear like like whispers just like emanating from a tiny speaker. It's not embarrassing to watch ASMR.

I think that like I understand the impact it has on your brain, etc. If you're not familiar with ASMR, it's that tingly head sensations. You can get in real life when somebody's your makeup or some like the crack an egg on your head and let the yolk run down. That was ASMR. Sure. You love that. But you can also get it from watching videos, and I like watching these videos, and they are weird. Like, if you don't have context for them, you're like, why is the alien giving you a space exam? Oh, I love, like, the aliens do, like, aliens give you makeup or something like that.

Yeah, like, they're weird, and I recognize that. And I love that for you. But they do make me feel much calmer. Yeah, I think you recently, like, saw me, like, watching TV between doing, like, coding sessions. So I had, like, a TV show. So suits. You were like, how are you watching TV and working at the same time? And I was like, I'm doing something really boring.

And I think that like blew your mind a little bit. It did. Yeah. Would you say at some point during most workdays you watch TV? Enough that I think it qualifies for this question. Okay. Yeah. Well, that sounds nice.

How have you rubbed off on me? What do I do or think that I probably wouldn't if we hadn't ended up together? Hmm. I mean, I can answer what you have for me like in a second. Go for it. I'm so much sportier. Like, I do give you credit for almost my entire nature journey and my entire, like, workout journey, my desire to be active. What?

Oh, it's interesting you say that about the workout journey because I feel like you, like, really came to a lot of that yourself by being, you know, just focused on your own health and longevity. But I think that you, one, being like, about a workout would help with that for years. If it was going to work, though, it would have worked like in the short term. I totally disagree. I actually think I hear from people all of the time. time who are like, I have these habits. I want my partner to have. They won't listen to me, whatever. And I'm like, first of all, like, I don't think nagging is the way there. But I do think that transformation happens over time. It doesn't happen right away. Yeah, I guess I'm just like,

I'm sensitive to people who like push their partners to become like sporty or more workout than than they want to be. I don't think you push it, but I do think you really inspired me, which is something that I also tell people, if you want to change your partner, I do think it is far more effective to do the thing yourself, show. how amazing it is in your life. And then if they're like, well, I want what they're having. You too could look ripped like me. But also your mood is markedly different before you work out and after you work out.

My mood is. And I clocked that over years of experiencing it. And I think it took a while to sink in, but I give you full credit for that. I appreciate that. Yeah. I know what I've done for you. Well, no, you can. No, go on.

I want to know what you've done for me. I would say that the impact you've had in my life is almost like more. meta, like you help me approach my life more intentionally. It's hard to say like what like a before Liz and after Liz is because we grew up together so much. But like I very much recognize how I've kind of picked up aspects of like self introspection and like self improvement as a result of of you. That's such a nice compliment. Yeah, here for you. Living intentionally is my literal number one goal. And I think it is the secret to living an incredible life. So if you feel like you, you've gotten any of that from me.

That makes sense then, too. I'm chuffed. Chuffed. I think for parents listening, you don't need the first parenthetical clause. But I'm going to say parenthetical clause. If we have kids, what do you think my strengths and weaknesses are going to be as a parent? So anybody listening who has kids, it's just what are my strengths and weaknesses as a parent? Oh, because other people should be doing these as well.

Yeah. Yes. You have like a really deep well of understanding for people and for things. When people, like, reactive to things being hard, I think I'm more like a little like knee-jerk reactive and I have to like kind of quell it down, but I think you commit problems a little bit more like widely understanding and being like, oh, I mean, that's just like how how life is, like even if it's like hard. So I think my guess is you'll deal with some of that. And I think it's aligned with one of the things that I like most about myself, which is that

I'm deeply unjudgy. Like I am the person that people can come to with almost anything in their life. And I just, I think we are all human. We all are doing the best we can. sometimes that results in hurting ourselves and hurting other people. And I don't know, I'm just like deeply, deeply, deeply unjudgy. And I think that's going to be a strength as a parent. I think I do have more judgmental heuristics. It's easier to just like have an opinion on this or like be a little annoyed by this. I'm always trying to kind of get out of that for my life.

But I think it's especially important with kids to not bring that in there. And what do you think is going to be a weakness of mine? Probably anything with like bodily fluids. Like probably not your cup of tea. Time thing. Yeah, I think time and sleep and rest, like prioritizing time to recover. Yeah. That's my biggest fear with parenting is like I feel like I run out of time for me time when it's just the two of us.

And so I'm like, I think your strength is that you are going to make life really fun and possible feeling for a kid. You're going to take them out on adventures and make them just like excited about the possibilities of being a human being. And I'm really hoping you're going to bring this video because you're just you're good at that. Well, I also like don't have like a lot of opportunities to like make a model rocket and like set it off or whatever. You're going to love. Yeah. Like it's like it's interesting like picturing all the things. Like I picture like the stuff like my dad would do big well, you want to go do like dinner and be like, oh yeah, we could do.

That sounds like fantastic. I think there's going to be an element of play and an element of excitement and joy that you're going to really bring to the table. I think you're going to bring a lot of energy to the table. I do think you have more energy than me. I don't really sleep as it is. Well, we need to work on that. I think maybe if I was going to say weakness, it'd just be kind of knowing all the stuff that we need to get done.

So like I... Planning. Well, I just have a lot of friends with kids and you have to be looking into preschools way earlier than you think you might need to. And just like thinking about the next step, the next step, the next step, the next step. And I can see you just being like, I didn't even know that thing was on the table. You know? I totally agree with you on that.

Like, I like to not have to plan things too far in advance. but I think it's just one of those things you have to. You have to do. One of the things I'm looking forward to is I have a lot of friends with kids who have gone through this stuff before. And I do think that like the parent to parent like, well, you got to think about X, Y and Z and da, da, da, da, like, there's other people who have like not done the emotional labor because they've had to do the thing.

Like, they have that checklist for you. Do you think for your friends who have kids that the guys are taking on an equal role in the parenting to the women? Some of them. In general. Some, like more or no. was I have a lot of friends. I knew you.

But like it is interesting. I talk to some of my girlfriends and even the ones who are like, I really thought I was married to the biggest feminist in the world. And I still feel like as a mom, I'm doing more of the mental load. I'm doing, I'm taking on more of the parenting. I don't know how it happened, but it seems to have happened. And I'm curious if you see that from the guy perspective. I don't feel like I actually have.

What's interesting is I know. I feel like, yeah, you have more, you might have talk to people. people more about that. I haven't heard like my guy friends come to me and say like by the way, I feel really good about how I'm doing like exactly half of the load, maybe a little bit more. I think I feel really good about the fact that I'm 30%. Yeah. Got all my meat time. I'm cruising at 10% and I think she's lucky to have me. Yeah. Yeah. No, like that doesn't, that's not like articulated. I think most of my friends are generally really trying. And I think that like is good. And for sure, I think it's good. Do you think it'll be easy for you to do 50% of the load when we have kids?

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I think that I feel very blessed that a lot of people notice a lot of the things that I love about myself. Like I do think people notice that I'm not judgmental. I think some people notice that I'm funny. These are like core things, though, that I really love about myself, that I'm curious is something I get compliments on for all the time. And that's something I also love about myself. But I think I have like the classic short girl syndrome where I've always been told I'm cute, pretty at best, but never sexy.

And I think Sabrina Carpenter is doing a lot for this. She is really bringing sexy to us short girlies in a way that I'm so appreciative of. And I feel like I don't code in that way to people. And I would really like to. You're very sexy. Thanks, babe. Yeah. Do you have one?

No, not offhand. Do you feel like people largely see you in the way that you want them to see you? I think what's interesting is I don't know how people see me a lot of the time. I don't actually like understand or perceive how I'm perceived. And I think it's actually really hard to know how people, like I think you have to really seek it out. I think you do a good job of seeking it out. You also get like... Seeking it out?

Excuse me. What do you think about me? What do you mean? Because of the work you do, you are a bit more of a public figure. Part of your job to understand how you're perceived. Yeah. Okay. Which is for better or for worse, often for worse, if I'm being honest.

That's fair. All right. So everybody write in how you perceive Zach. Don't do that. I don't want the bubble burst. I just want to like... Zach will have been blissful and... with like my esteem as intact as I can keep it.

That sounds nice. Maybe only good news. What a nice option to have. What's a fear or insecurity you have that you almost never talk about? Deep-seated insecurity I have will be that like my actions and the things that I do in this world won't matter to many people or anyone. I think like. Isn't that true of all of us?

Yeah, absolutely. But I still think it's like a weird thing to have to realize. To like reckon with. It's haunting. Is it helpful that? it's like almost a universal truth. Like I feel like this quest to matter and mass when we're all on a floating rock in space and we're all going to die.

Sure. There's something just very freeing about, I don't know. Yeah, but it doesn't make it. It's impossible. It doesn't make it less haunting, right? Like I think, like to realize that you're just like a small, small dot floating in the universe. It's really helpful for me because I'm just like I can matter to the people that I really matter to. And it just frees me up to not care about anything other than that.

There it is. Man, I have so many deep-seated insecurities. It'd be hard to pick one. I think a big one I have, which was very much exacerbated by Belladine, is that the best years of my life are behind me. I think women are told that our value lessons as we age in so many subtle and unsettle ways, especially with the job I have. I feel very acutely aware of that.

And then I think that is coupled with there's this whole 90s nostalgia thing right now. I did an episode about that. I was a kid in the 90s, but I do think about like, I'm not going to be in my 20s ever again. And Bella dying, it was the end of my era with her, but just also this end of an era of my life

that I'm never going to get back of this becoming era, of this messy era. And I wonder sometimes if like, that was the best that I could get. And it was so magical. And I appreciated it. I wish I'd appreciated it more.

at the moment. And also all the perimenopause conversation has made me a scared of aging in a way that I've never been before. I have a deep fear. And I'm doing everything in my power to make it not the case. But I have a deep fear that the best years of my life are behind me. I think it's interesting because I think best is so qualitative. It might be a certain type of comfortable or a certain type of fun. And the other thing is like you can't change it. You can't change it. So it's like at any moment, what's the best I can do with this moment? And I work really hard to think about that and try to do that. And I want to believe that the future is always getting better. And most days, I can get myself to that place. What hobby do you think that I would enjoy that I don't currently do? Well, I just got you into running. And I know it's not a hobby, but I'm excited that it could become a hobby someday. Do you know why I like having it as a hobby now? you consider a hobby? It's kind of like, so now that I drink enough water, I feel like if I have a headache or my shoulders or my neck hurts, you can't be like, have you hydrated?

Have you drinking enough water? Are you stressed? Because I feel like you have like your go-to things and your go-to for like anything. I could be like. You're getting deep cute. I could be like, I have a tummy ache and you'd be like, well, you didn't work out today. So I would never. I would never say that.

Now that I work out every day, you have to come up with, like, new things. You always ask if I have a tummy because I ate like a pint of ice cream, so I stopped eating a pint of ice cream to show you. And it's like, well, but like often those things were causing, like the running, like not working out was causing the anxiety. And like not drinking water was causing headaches. Okay, so now I drink a lot of water. Don't drink too much.

And I work out every single day. So now if I have problems, we have to start from. Square zero. But you don't work out too much every day, right? We'll see. You have to get to. Yeah, yeah, yeah. There's a dial.

Anyway, you have to be creative in your solution. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I forget the question was, but I'm glad you work out now. Um, or sorry, run, run hobby. What hobby do you think I'd enjoy that I don't currently do? I think trail running, Liz, would be an exciting next addition to your life. Yeah, that sounds literally like a disaster. The thing you're thinking of, though.

Roots. I'm thinking of roots and stones. Yeah, sticks and stones. And things that break ones, both. chicks and ducks and geese. No, I absolutely not. You're thinking, though, that you have to go too fast, right? No, I don't think I have to go too fast.

I just think that I barely stay upright on flat ground. So why would I add... You think your balance is so much better than you think your balances. Well, that add complexity. What's the benefit? Sell it sell to me. You get more stuff passing over your eyes. It's like a more dynamic change, stimulating your cute little brain.

Mountain lions will think I'm prey. No, they won't. They'll think you're scary. Yeah, yeah, exactly. I think for you, you could formalize some of your hobbies to take the decision fatigue out of them. I want you to create recurring plans around some of your hobbies. So like have a standing tennis date, have a standing run date, have a standing board game date, you know. I feel like you've deviated from the question to tell me to make better plans.

And I hear you and I feel called out. I think that could be helpful for your hobbies. Okay. And I hear that. Now find me a hobby that I haven't considered that I would like. Because I feel like I'm very amenable to most hobbies. Have you done coin collecting? No, I think you would hate that.

You're just staring off over one of these like one of your awesome guest books, like how to collect coins to save your happiness. No. I would not like coin collecting. I like antiquing. You've tried pretty much every hobby though, I feel like. So it's less about like here's something new to suggest and more like less. Let's formalize them.

Let's bring them into your life in like a more consistent way. I'm going to push back on this. Okay, Chrishane. I think you would just love Christian. You think I'd love Christian? No, I don't. Exactly right. Find me a new hobby.

Okay, I think you should make a hobby of formalizing your hobbies. I could look into that. If you went back to the day that we met and told that version of yourself about our relationship now, what would they say? Be like, oh, when she sober's up, she'll be cool. You could say that. Yeah. Is that yours? Someday.

This girl is going to be more successful than you might think. No, it's not even that. Like if it's the day we met like, we met like at a bar, right? I don't think that either of us was like, oh yeah, this is going to be the person like we spend the rest of our lives. That would be wild to know in that moment of just like total carefree uncertainty. And honestly, like, I wouldn't like, I wouldn't wish to do that to that person. No, I was going to say, I think it would be. harmful to our relationship?

Joe, it would change the past. It would change. You know, we can't do that. You can't do that. You can't do that. That is a hobby we share. Not fucking with time travel. I was going to say fucking with time travel.

Oh, sure. Like, we love time travel. Yeah, but you got to do it right. Well, we don't time travel. But we engage in time travel entertainment. Yeah, we don't. We don't time travel. Don't tell anyone.

But no, I think that one of the beautiful parts of our relationship was that we had absolutely no expectations of it. We thought we would mess around a little bit. We really enjoyed each other's company, but we in no way assumed we would be each other's forever person, nor did we want a forever person at that point in our lives. I had no way was dating to meet my forever person. Okay, I actively didn't want it.

Maybe you were more. No, no, I think I was just agnostic about it as a principle. I do feel for people who are dating seriously and very intentionally when maybe they wouldn't want to, because it's more mental load. Yeah. So what would you say? Oh, so I need to say something that won't interfere with the timeline?

Yeah. I'd be like, hope you like cats. Just walk off. I would say someday soon, you may get a cat. And you should appreciate every single moment with that cat. Yeah, yeah. That wouldn't raise some hackles. If I felt that the timeline was for sure

It was like locked in What is the point of this question? If you went back to the name we met I think the point is for us to be like Wow, our young selves would be so happy Yeah, yeah, yeah I'd be like, but you're great, like have fun They'd be like, I know, cool

Yeah, okay I might be like enjoy all the cigarettes you can get Like really savor every moment the two have with one. That's what you tell yourself. Yeah. If we went back to the day that we met and told that version of ourselves about our relationship now, what would they say?

I think they would say, hooray. Yeah, I'd be like, whoa. Wow. Great. I am so curious if you like this style of episode, if you like a more casual Q&A, if you like getting ideas for these types of conversations and getting a little peek into how Zach and I would talk about these things. So let me know in the comments.

If you'd like more of this type of episode, I'd be happy to do it. Also, let me know if you try any of these questions with your partner or with a friend. And how it goes? I'm so excited for you. I hope it sparks so many delightful conversations. And I love you and I will see you on the next episode of the Liz Moody podcast. Oh, just one more thing. It's the legal language.

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