The Magnificent Others with Billy Corgan - Carnie Wilson | The Magnificent Others with Billy Corgan
Episode Date: April 30, 2025In this episode, Billy Corgan sits down with Carnie Wilson for a frank, wide-ranging conversation that moves from childhood memories of blasting the family stereo with the Carpenters and El...ton John to what it was really like growing up amid the Beach Boys’ orbit—falling asleep under control-room consoles while her dad and uncles spun out other-worldly harmonies. Carnie explains how that whirlwind of studio sessions, surfboard logos and late-night vocal stacks shaped her own ear, why she still relies on co-writers, and how Glen Ballard helped transform teenage harmony sessions into multi-platinum hits like “Hold On.” She opens up about ADD, body-image pressures, industry politics, family chaos—including her near-tragic rescue of sister Wendy—and the complex creative bond she shares with her father Brian Wilson. https://www.youtube.com/@BillyCorganTMO Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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See, right?
That's one of my guilty pleasure songs.
Oh, God, I love it.
This is getting really deep, but this is where songwriting...
It's what we're here to do.
Because, no, because there is a connect to you understand where I'm going.
Yeah.
He's like, you need to call your band, pretzels with mustard.
And we're like, okay, you're A, you're clearly wasted and have the monchees.
Were you stone too, though?
Who knows?
I just remember it was the most creative, magical thing I've ever felt.
I'm curious because you grew up in a musical world, like, when do you first remember hearing music?
Do you have, like, that first memory?
Yeah.
I don't know if I have, like, a first memory, but I have memories of being in our living room.
My parents had a really great stereo system that we could blast super loud.
And we used to test it, like, how loud can we really go?
there were these huge black speakers
and they were on the ground actually
and it was just, we would just
totally play with fire just like
blast as loud as we could
to the windows would shake
and
I mean how
destructive can that be
when that's the carpenters, right?
Because that's what we would blast.
Would be the carpenters.
So, you know,
tuck into myself
and feel it all, you know, really love.
But anything loud has a kind of
Yeah. I don't know what it is about volume of music. I really love listening to my music very loudly.
When I'm in my car, it's kind of dangerous the way I listen to it.
But I don't know if it's because my hearing is right now. I don't know.
But it's kind of always been that way.
Really?
Yeah. So I remember the first memories would be like just in the living room, mom and dad's stereo.
And then it was Captain Fantastic. It was...
That would have been out 73, right?
Yeah, so I was born in 68.
So, like, five or years old?
I'm just a little older than you, see.
But how much?
I'm 67.
You look great.
God.
Jesus.
No, I'm 56, so.
Yeah.
Yeah, so I just remember loving, just loving it from young, young age.
Because I grew up in a musical household, too.
Yeah.
So I feel like kids you grew up with.
musician parents. You know, we grew up in that atmosphere. There's always weird people hanging
around and music and... It is an atmosphere. Yeah. So I was curious for your own personal connection,
because, you know, as you know, when you grow up with a famous parent, people kind of put their own
version of that on you. Yeah. But your musical life indicates to me that you had your own experience
with music and your own trajectory. Absolutely. You're right about that.
People love to talk about that lineage, and it is a powerful thing and something I'm so proud of.
But, yeah, it's like I really did have my own experience with it.
And I went in phases, you know, discovering different music at different ages.
So tell me some of the people that you were listening to.
Like when you first were like, okay, this is my music.
I want to listen to this record.
Yeah.
Well, that was, I mean, I am total 70s horror for music.
love anything in the 70s
I'm completely like blown away by.
Give me some guilty pleasures.
Okay.
Like Pablo Cruz, you know, like.
Do you know he's a music supervisor now?
Did you know that?
Is he?
He's from when somebody told me he's the number one
music supervisor guy in town here in L.A.
His, like if you need a scene with like
some kind of music, you go to Pablo Cruz.
He's your guy.
Oh my God.
Well, like Ambrosia.
Remember J. Ferguson?
Of course
Yes
Thunder Island was it
Yes
Love that song
See it right
That's one of my guilty pleasure songs
Oh god I love it
I love a groove
Like that's the thing that got me
Was like that's why I love like Michael Jackson's music
Because he just had these like rhythm like these groove things
And I think all his songwriting like started with that
With some kind of groove in his mind
You always think like he's always very rhythmic in his writing
Yeah rhythmic yeah
Yeah. But so I was drawn to that.
But definitely, you know, Fleetwood Mac, I think my first love was Elton John.
That definitely was, I was five or six.
That's when I, he's the one.
He is the one that started at all.
Not really the Beach Boys or anything.
I mean, I remember growing up with all their music and I loved it, but it was, it wasn't until later until I gained a lot of respect.
13 and 14.
Yeah.
But again, I'm, I'll be respect to your family, but it's, I'm, I'm, I'm,
curious for your musical journey because again when i listened to the music that you ended up doing
in your own life and you're songwriting too yeah you know there's not it's not you're like
you don't sound like the daughter of the beach boys you know right you you have your own musical
identity definitely thank you for saying that um i mean it was a collaboration you know i mean i
i still have never written a song by myself and i really yeah never have okay got to stop you there
Why?
I mean, your father is one of the greatest songwriters ever.
Yeah.
I mean, he's up there with the Tin Pan Alley writers, right?
I mean, he's one of the great melodicists, if that's even a word.
I agree.
Right.
So I love the idea of genetic lines, you know what I mean?
Me too.
Okay, so I would think there would be some gift in there involved with writing.
So the fact that you've never tested it on your own is surprising to me.
I think I'm just terrified to tap into it.
Why?
I don't know.
Wouldn't that be funny if I wrote my first song at 56?
like my full full
I'm going to come over and we're going to
I'm going to stand there
You're so sweet
I would
Wouldn't that be great?
I'd really be really curious
Yeah
I like to noodle around
at the piano and everything
And I'm just
I think I just have such
Like severe ADD
That I can't focus
I can't focus
Okay but are you a fan of Courtney Love at all?
Yeah
Whole
Were you a fan of that?
I mean not like
die hard
But I'm saying
The reason I bring it up is not to put you on the spot is when Courtney had come out of rehab in like 96, 97, I was having a lot of issues, personal issues.
She asked me to help her on an album, which became this album called Celebrity Skin.
And Courtney's very ADD.
Yeah.
So I've written with ADD writer and writers.
The thing with ADD writers is it's a little bit like things flying by in a stream.
You got to kind of, you got to try to know which ones to grab.
I know.
I know. And that's why I love collaborating.
Because you got somebody to kind of...
Yeah. And then like I start something and they finish it.
Or I have like... It's so fragmented. That's the way my music isn't...
But why do you think it's fragmented? Is it just the way your brain works?
Yeah. Okay.
I really think it's the way my brain works. Because I... I love like writing bridges.
I love like going off into the other land of the bridge.
So you like reacting off of something that's there?
Yeah.
Okay. I get that.
Yes. So like when China said...
Do you not like the pressure, though, of being on the spot?
No, it doesn't bug me.
I mean, I don't have any shame or any...
There's no shame involved.
You've been in Playboy.
I've spread my legs for Playboy, so is there anything you can be more, like, you know?
But I don't have a shame with that, but I think it's more frustration.
Okay.
And wanting to get to that next place.
And then, I mean, because shame is not the same as insecurity.
I don't think.
Okay.
Shame is more like embarrassed kind of, you know?
Or like feeling smaller or like not good enough, whatever.
Embarrass is more like, I think, to me, vulnerable and being exposed.
So I don't know.
I think I'm just hard on myself.
I think ultimately I'm just hard on me.
And it's hard to like think of all the music that has...
Is that something you feel you were born with or that became something you adapt,
used as an adoptive strategy to get through life.
I think because I grew up in a house where everything was so chaotic and hectic
that I was a protector of my sister.
We had like crazy things happen when she was young.
Like she almost drowned when she was like three.
And she fell into this well.
We had this big well in the center of our upper backyard.
And she was all I could see was her hand.
She was drowning.
Oh my God.
And I ran to get mom and dad.
They were still married.
everything and they came running down the hall
and dad pulled her out and so I've always
had this protective feeling over Wendy
and so I think that
that started my
I have to be strong and great
and be the one to have like the answers
and the protector and
then inside
I think there was panic
so I mean this
is getting really deep but this is where
songwriting is what we're here to do because no
because there is a connective tissue you understand
where I'm going yeah yeah I know
Yeah, because you do have to open up into an unfamiliar space.
Yeah.
Well, it's a vessel, you know, and it's in there.
And I think the feelings are familiar, but the, but I don't know how to say it.
Like getting it on, getting in a melody or in a lyric.
Lyrics I'm not great with.
I get, like, ideas.
Like, I want to write a song about a train.
You know, that was my thing last month.
I'm like, I know I've got to write a song about a train.
Like, we get on the train.
It's moving and we get off at different stops.
And, you know, it inspired me was John Mayer's song called Stop This Train,
which is my favorite John Mayer.
So I love John Mayer.
I'm slightly obsessed.
Him in particular, because he's hot as hell.
But his music and his voice and his songwriting, I love it.
And Stop This Train blew my mind.
And so I'm like, I want to write a song about a train as well.
Well, your father famously worked with other lyricists too.
He did, yes.
So for playing the game of the genetic line, maybe you inherited the gift of melody, but not necessarily the gift of lyrics, right?
I absolutely think you're right.
I mean, it's always about vocals and melody and harmonies and arrangements and that.
Yeah.
It's never been lyrics.
But that's why I think co-writing with my sister and China was good, because we all kind of contributed something that was right.
But it's been so long since we've written together.
Why do you think that is?
Ego.
The destroyer of all bands.
Of all bands.
It's not money, really.
It's ultimately about it.
So I wanted to ask you this, too, because you're born in 68.
Yeah.
So Sunflowered the Beach Boys album came out in 70, serves up with 71, and Holland was 73,
and then you guys moved to Holland or something?
Do I have that story right?
You do.
We moved to Holland while they were recording it.
So was that your first memory of that camp?
working and I mean obviously it's your family yeah that's worth it pointing out because you know
most bands everybody goes different directions when the tour's over yes but in your guys's case like
it's the family it's the family and dad went through his like ups and downs of like using drugs
not using drugs having help from outside sources and programs and things that he got involved with
and then it was like is he going to be involved with this album or is he not right and holland we were
I was young. I mean...
You'd have been five? Five.
And so I was in kindergarten and we moved.
And I remember going to school in Holland
and feeding the horses, apples.
And then of course, another...
Was this a temporary thing? Like,
we're going to make this album over here?
It wasn't like we're all moving to Holland, right?
Well, we moved to Holland while he was recording.
But it wasn't like you guys were...
Because I saw some quote from one of your relatives
saying something like, I think, because
they didn't... Something to do what they weren't happy with America
and how America was treating them.
No, it wasn't that at all.
Okay.
It was, they were recording, and we moved there, and they did vocals there and recorded, you know, the album.
I don't really know all the details, but I know that we were, we were temporarily, six months.
I'm more interested in your memory.
Yeah.
Well, it was, it was actually a really hard time because my dad was drinking a lot at that time.
And he actually got in a car, a car accident, wrapped his link in around a tree, and walked away from the accident.
He was fine.
there was a lot of crazy and my mom was young you know she was 20 25 you know and so I mean my daughter's
gonna be 20 so I'm just thinking like wow five years after she turns 20 this is what she was
dealing with them it was a lot but Holland was a very intense album and and kind of scary it's kind of a
scary album there was some weird on there like that jack the ripper thing would jack jack jack riley and weird
You know, like the Pied Piper, I remember, I couldn't believe how scary that was.
I kind of like dark beach boys, but I didn't live it.
Oh, I love it.
But as a kid, it was like really different.
Yeah.
And, you know, I'm curious, you know, your mom had done music and that's how your parents met.
But like, was that something that she set aside?
She wasn't that serious about.
Like, what's your impression of that?
Because I'm curious.
Well, she was very young.
She was 14 when she met him.
or 14 and a half, and he was just like,
just getting into the first record and stardom,
like right in the beginning.
Yeah.
So this would have been, I don't know,
63, 60, yeah.
And so she went to a concert and she was in the front row
and she had some hot chocolate and my dad said,
can I have a sip?
He was on stage and he took a sip
and then he like spilled it all over her.
And then he like, that's, that's,
that's, that's, way to meet.
Right.
That started it.
And then he proposed to her while he was in Germany over the phone.
He asked her to marry him.
He was in Germany touring.
Very rock star.
Very rock star.
Yeah.
And mom was 16.
And my grandparents, my grandfather was this man who looked exactly like Einstein,
like a clone of Einstein, German and big thick accent, an incredible man,
escaped
like
World War II on foot
just like went to
Chicago met my grandma
and my parents
adored my dad
sorry my grandparents
adored my dad
like beyond
and he loved them
she was this short little
Jewish woman
and she was a great cook
god damn it
and he loved her
matzabal soup
so he would go
and they had a little piano
and they just fell in love of them
and they trusted him. So they trusted him. And you know, back then it was people were getting married and hooking up so young.
Right. But it was like they knew that he was the one. Just to not skip to ask the question.
Was music something your mom, I don't think she abandoned it, but it seemed like she had a moment and then it just didn't happen.
I don't think it started until him.
Oh, because my impression was she was doing something before she met your father.
No, I don't think so. I think. Oh, okay. Maybe I got that story reversed.
You know, I don't know the answer to that, and I don't know why.
Maybe it's all the pot I smoked. I forgot.
But like, I just remember she and Adidi and Ginger, they had the honeies and dad, you know, produced them and they were great.
Yeah, because I've read something, but again, it's the internet, who knows.
Yeah.
It was something about what she was doing something on local television and that's how they meant or something.
I don't know.
It's not important.
It's more just the idea.
Yes.
Was there a musical ambition from your mother's side of the equation, too?
I think there was. I think she was very interested.
Does she ever really return back to music at any point?
The honeys reunited in like the 80s or late 70s, and they made a record, and it was really good, actually.
I remember them recording Temptation Eyes. My mom sang it great.
But my favorite music was my mom and my auntie, they did an album called Spring.
They were a group called Spring.
And it's, have you heard it before?
No.
Oh, my God.
I mean, there's a song called This Whole World and Tennessee Waltz and Awake and all these songs.
My mom's, but mom's version of, what's the superstar?
Oh, by The Carpenter's.
Jesus Christ.
My mother's version.
And my dad's like, I say, who's your favorite singer in the world?
Your mother!
He loves my mom's voice.
Who's a better singer?
Barbara Strassano or my mom?
Your mother.
It's so him to do that.
So your mom born in Chicago, so we share that.
Oh, nice.
Yeah.
Yeah, and they came.
They were very, very poor.
One pair of shoes, my grandfather was a vacuum salesman.
And, yeah, and then all of a sudden, here comes dad.
Just changed everything.
Yeah.
You know.
Well, it's easy now.
We look back and we see, you know, like your father and the Beatles at these young ages,
creating this music, which we're all still listening to,
and they have no idea what's coming.
None.
It's easy for us to sit back and say, oh, so-and-so should have done this and made a left here at the street.
Yeah, yeah.
They had no idea what was coming, none.
I think they were in just in their creative space, and it was so authentic and pure and just inside of them and so cool that they weren't influenced by other things like we are today.
You know what I mean?
It was the absolute most purest.
Well, back then you were rewarded for creating your own world.
Yeah, yeah.
And you, like, you truly, now it's we live in this homogeneity where everyone's trying to sound like each other, which is so weird to me.
It's so weird to me. It's so odd. Like, I can't, how many girls can sound like Billy Eilish? I don't know.
Well, apparently, you've a thousand more. Yeah. I actually love Billy. I actually love.
Well, here's my issue with pop music. If you take the top artists, they're really good. I mean, there's no mistake. It's the 999 behind them that you're like, oh my God, like, what are you doing? Like, how is that happy?
I don't get that.
I just think that fame is more important than the artistry.
Well, that's the new economy we live in.
Yeah.
Yeah, it's frightening.
I mean, you think about it, I'm just sorry to opine, but, you know, I mean,
your father basically created the album template that inspired the Beatles, right?
And inspired countless nerds like me to try to create our own worlds, right?
That's such a beautiful aspirational thing that I can create this world with my gift of music.
and it's all been reduced into this thing of like one song, three minutes, God forbid, it's anything too different than anybody else's doing.
It's very strange, right?
It is strange, but then that's why when girls, young girls, and they say, do you have any advice for me?
Because I want to be a singer or a songwriter.
And I always say the same thing.
I just say, do what's inside of your soul and your heart.
And it's about expression and not necessarily.
the reaction. It's about expression. It's very hard for them to understand because they live in a
click economy. I know. So if somebody's not clicking, it must be bad. And also, like, how do you make a
living? You know? You don't. And like, I was 18 years old when we started Wilson Phillips. I mean,
I knew that I was going to go into the entertainment industry at the minute. I thought I was going to be
an actress. That's where I started. It was on the stage at school. And that's where I found my comfort,
my home. I loved it. Music always, always a thread. Musicals. I remember dad coming to see me in a
musical called Carnival. He saw me really
belt and sing for the first time he loved it.
But I don't know.
I think it's just changed
so much. Right.
The industry. You brought
Wilson, Phillips, so that's not probably a good place to
go there. Was the idea
of you guys recording
an organic thing
and then you went and got a deal or did somebody
kind of think, you know what I'm saying?
How did that happen? Because I'm so cynical
from being in this town too many years. I don't live here,
but I've been here enough.
Yeah.
You know, when we were kids and you guys were suddenly on MTV, it just seemed like somebody put the whole thing together because it just felt like that.
But that's not, I'm not saying that's what happened.
Well, I'm sure there's many different perceptions of it.
No, but you tell me, I'm saying you were there, you know.
I mean, it was, it was extremely organic and it was actually a mission of mind.
Wilson Phillips wasn't the mission, but my mission was singing harmony with people.
Yeah.
And the eighth grade, I became obsessed with getting anybody that would have an error.
That's the family business, though.
Isn't that fantastic?
So great.
Because I'm not a good harmony person.
Musically, yes.
But I don't hear it that way.
I love singing harmony with anyone, like a bum.
I would sing with a bum.
I just want to sing.
I can't get over harmony.
But that's the family business.
But it's so beautiful.
It is so beautiful.
and I remember getting like during lunch periods
and any time I had the ability.
I mean, I sang Cota Crom with my principal.
She's just like so quick.
Cota chrome.
Cota Crom.
Paul Simon.
Paul Simon.
Not a bad song though.
I know, I know.
So like I went to the school called Oakwood
and I met my best friend like Jackson Brown
was teaching a songwriting class in the third grade,
summer of third grade.
That's where I met my best friend.
Who's your best friend?
Tiffany.
Tiffany Miller.
She used to work...
Are you still friends?
Oh, God, yes.
The best of friends forever.
But we met like Jackson Brown.
That was the kind of school we went to.
It was Oakwood School.
All the kids' parents were in the industry.
And Jackson Brown was teaching a songwriting class.
But, you know, I...
They were very...
They were understanding of kids and their different talents.
Everybody went to college in my grade,
except for me.
I was the only one.
I went straight into Wilson Phillips.
That was the summer.
But I could not, I could not not do it.
And so, believe it or not, Mama Cass's daughter, Owen, and Owen asked China to sing,
to get kids of 60s rock stars kids, did I say that right?
Yeah.
Together for a charity record, like one song, record one song and give all the money to charity.
So it started as a sort of a eagulitarian.
It did. And it was like, it was Donovan's kids, Jerry Garcia's kids, Zappas, the Zappas, the Wilsons, Phillips, and nobody wanted to do it.
What do you mean no one wanted to do it?
Everybody passed it. Nope, not into it. And there was a Rolling Stone article and it was, Annie Leibowitz did the cover and we were in it. It was a horrible picture, but it was like the first like,
thing I had in it magazine and it was Wendy and I and other kids were featured. I think that's what sparked
the idea for Owen, but nobody wanted to do it except Owen, China, Wendy and I. So it was the Wilson
girls and then the Phillips family and Cass Elliott. Yeah. Mamas and Papa's Beach Boys kids that came
together. And we, of course, and I was like, this is when I was big stoner. So it was always about
waking up and just getting ripped to the, just always smoking hot. Did your parents know you were
Oh yeah. And mom. And I actually forced her to take a bong hit and she was trying to put her whole mouth.
She never been stoned or? She, no, I think she got stone, but at one point she just, she just like let us do it because I never got in trouble. But I, she knew that I was that I was, that I was a, we were potheads. Okay. And I know that sounds crazy, but no, I've known a lot of parents like that.
She trusted us. So we, all we wanted to do was just get stone and listen to music. And the CD had just come out. So I couldn't get over how crispy and clean and lovely. It's.
sounded. So like the first CD I bought was Genesis Abacab and which I love. I had that album too.
Oh my God. So we're basically the same age. We've had the same. Yeah. We've been damaged by the same music.
Oh, I love it. There's nothing like the drums on Abacab. So Abacab. My dad saw that tour actually.
Oh, lucky. Oh my God. He's the most underrated artist ever in my opinion. But so was Abacab.
You're just talking about Phil Collins. Oh, God. And then Wildheart, Steve.
Venix album and a few more.
But got everybody, oh, heart.
And we started singing Dog and Butterfly.
And it was like, okay, let's hear what it sounds like when Wendy, China, and I harmonize.
And it was like a, it was like a tidal wave, you know?
It was just like the sound that enveloped us and just, it was the most warm sound ever.
And Owen sounded good too.
but her voice stuck out.
Too much, yeah.
It didn't work with our blend.
Yeah.
And it was very sad.
We, we, so then we were singing, singing, and it was like, oh, come over again and let's just sing again.
Let's just get on the floor and just harmonize.
So just started with the love of that.
And then my mom came down from upstairs and she said, what are you doing?
And we said, we're singing harmony.
And she goes, I hear you through the ceiling.
through the floor.
That's the harmonics that cut through, yeah.
She was like, you sound so good together.
Do you know that?
We said, yeah, we can't.
We love it, like, but we don't know what to do, you know?
And then China goes, I think we should call my mom and ask her
because she knows a lot of producers.
So we called Michelle.
Yeah.
She's like, I know Richard Perry is a great friend of mine.
And he's produced the Porter Sisters and Barbist Driesan and Carly Simon.
and I would be a Carly Simon, like, fanatic.
And Barbara Streisand, my favorite singer of all time, you know, and Karen Carpenter.
But Barbara Streisand was another love.
Elton and Barbara, whew.
But so we were like, okay, we're going to call Richard Perry.
And he goes, well, why don't you rehearse something and then come over to my house?
Another fellow stoner, you know, so he was a big stoner.
So we sang, all we could do was prepare five words from a Stevie Nank.
song called Wild Heart.
That was your audition. It was just dare my
wild heart. And we went in.
You still remember your part?
Well, I don't know.
I'm always the low harmony. I'm always
the low. We've got a nice
chest voice. Thank you.
But like China never knew how to sing harmony.
So we had a teacher. And she still really doesn't know how
she does, but that's why she's better on melody.
She just can't, Wendy naturally goes to the high.
I naturally go low. And it's always
that stacked of like, and I don't know technically
the term, but it's like China's middle, I'm low,
and when he's above. So that's
where we're comfortable in. So like
it was, you know, we just went
in and Owen was with us.
So it was the
four of us. Sure. We went to
his house and we sang, Derrima Wildheart, and
he went, that's it.
First of all, he was rolling a joint,
smoking his joint, he's like, okay. With this
famous producer. Famous producer. Famous producer. And you're only
singing a line. Basically five words.
And we sing one line of a chorus.
And he's getting,
You're how old at this point?
We're 18.
Okay.
Fresh out of high school.
And he went, that's it?
And we said, yeah, what do you think?
Do you like our sound?
You know?
And he goes, and he was, he must have been high as a kite.
He was like, I see.
And I know this is dramatic, but he's like, I see the Beatles.
I see.
He's like, you need to call your band pretzels with mustard.
And we're like, okay, you're a, you're clearly wasted and have the munchies.
own too, though?
Who knows?
Probably.
Probably.
I don't remember smoking with him.
Yeah.
But it was like part of the thing like just like, you know, the producer just getting high.
Yeah.
I guess so, it's just so part of it all.
But we were like, yeah, that's all we have.
And he's like, oh, I know what to do.
I'm getting you together with another producer who was a writer and, or no, who's a producer who's worked with the Pointer Sisters.
You guys have to get in the studio and get comfortable around a microphone.
So we went in.
It was good advice.
Yeah.
And we recorded our first song.
we ever recorded in the studio was Mama said
Mama said there'll be days like this.
Oh, that one. I was confusing with the
Lenny Kravitz Mama said. Yeah, I know.
Mama said. Oh, I know that song, yeah.
Yeah. Mama said, Mama said, Mama said. So I had the high part
which was the most, it was, I can't
even get, it was so high. I don't know why
he had me singing that, but I had the high
part. And so it was cute.
Do you think he was, because you know, your father famously would sing very high,
Do you think he was trying to test you up there to see if you had that same Alcetto?
Maybe, but he just, he didn't know us.
He didn't know our.
Who was the person?
Who was Richard Perry.
Oh, so Richard Perry takes you in this studio.
Richard Perry produced us for that song.
But Jim Tracked was the one who got us comfortable.
I was just trying to understand.
He was an executive producer.
I get you.
Richard was the executive producer.
But he was a strange producer.
He actually said, can you, this is so politically incorrect today.
He was like, you go, can you go, can you?
You sing it a little more like retarded.
But he didn't say it right, though.
He meant like retard, like slow it down or something.
So I heard it as retarded.
That's why I heard it.
It was really weird.
But yeah, so anyway, so then he said, you know,
the only way you guys are going to get any respect in this business is to write your own music.
Wow.
You have to write your music.
Beautiful advice.
Thank God.
So he goes, I know the guy.
And it's Glenn Ballard.
So everything changed the moment we met Glenn
It was the greatest thing that ever happened to us ever
Ever, ever, ever
Just the only thing I can think of is just magical golden sparks of love
That was really weird
But yeah, yeah, that's it's it
It was just beyond living in Encino in that little garage
And I have the best memories ever
Okay, so give us a snapshot
just go in and like he was telling us that he came from music publishing he worked his way up he
worked for elton john mca he wrote a song called man in the mirror from michael jackson and so he had you
there right and we were like what and with sida garrett and then um we we started was it called
wilson phillips did that your guys okay we had so we had no name we knew that we had to write songs
and get some kind of demo together
so that we could shop a record deal.
And the guy that was kind of our,
I don't know, the guy that took us to the record companies,
he was an A&R guy, his name was Artie Mogul,
and he discovered Kenny Rogers, Crystal Gale,
and...
Well, they must have spelled money on you guys.
They knew.
I think the sound was the driving force.
So nobody really gave it what we sang.
they just knew that.
That sounds so perfect for this town, but it's true.
But it's true.
Yeah.
And we were like, well, that's fine, but we have to write music.
We have to express what's in us.
And we know we've got something in there.
It was young love.
We were 18, 19.
I mean, I was like, with breaking up, getting together, China had a terrible relationship, Wendy, too.
It was all over the place.
And we wanted to write about it.
And Glenn was the person that made us feel really comfortable.
he loved our sound
that was a given
but it was more about like
how what do you want to say girls
and we would be like
well we're breaking up
we're getting back together you know
whatever it is
and Glenn always had this angle
he was able to sort of tap into the more youthful
but bring his
he is a very kind
loving soul
and so his almost fatherly figure with us
we felt safe to write with him
that's amazing it was amazing
and it was an amazing collaboration
So when we wrote You're in Love, we were great collaborators together.
We all could just, it was, because four people writing together can be hard.
But it was like he would start some kind of melody on the piano.
And then China would go, oh, how about, you know, this?
And then I would go, well, wait, let's, let's move to the left and try this.
You know, it was just really, and then Wendy would have a great lyrical idea, lyric idea.
And it was really wonderful, that whole process.
It was so long ago that, I mean, I'm 56, so that was 38 years ago.
So like, I don't, I just remember it was the most creative, magical thing I've ever felt.
And it was very purposeful.
It was like there was this goal.
And when we had, so he would, we would make these, we start with a track.
And then Glenn would record the music and that he would say, take these tapes home and see if you can come up.
with some melodies and lyrics.
And we did a lot of writing like that.
Okay.
So we would have writing sessions separately and with him.
But with Release Me, that was the song that we wrote by ourselves, the first song.
The only song we wrote by ourselves, that song.
But Hold On was clearly just by the grace of God.
And it was annoying what happened.
He had an idea for music.
And he said, I only have time to make one tape.
So I'm going to let you guys take this.
China took it home.
And we were like, okay, we'll get together and write.
But it happened so fast.
And thank God it did.
Because it was something that she was going through with sobriety.
And it was like this one day of time, one day to time.
And if I could just hold on for one day and get through to the next day, then everything
will be okay.
And that's where Hold on came about.
And I kind of came in and wrote a little bit at the end.
and, you know, sort of added some stuff arrangement-wise too.
But it was really her expression.
And it was, and when she presented it to us was on a yellow pad of paper,
and I was annoyed because I thought, well, I didn't get a chance to contribute to this.
Right.
And he was like, we didn't get a chance, but it was so good.
And it was nearly finished.
It wasn't quite all finished, but it was nearly finished.
And we said, oh, God, that driving, you know, someday somebody's going to be.
What a great, like, driving chorus.
And then when the harmonies would come in, it was just, we knew it was something really big.
Well, what, 10, 10 million records?
10 million records.
Wait, let me look at my little stats.
Yeah, uh-huh.
125 weeks on the charts, Grammy nominations for album and song of the year.
Yeah, best new artist.
So that's pretty heady stuff, like 18 years old.
I mean, yes, you grew up around it, but now it's your time.
So we were 22 when we spent four years in the studio writing songs.
Okay, I didn't know that part, yeah.
So it was 18, so I was 22 when the first album came out.
And we spent a long time writing and trying to figure out, you know, just getting a stack of songs together.
And then, so already brought us to Charles Copleman and SBK Records.
And he was, I remember Valentine's Day, we had met with every record company there was.
And what was the general vibe?
The general vibe was we, we love this sound.
But there were people that were very negative.
You're just writing on the coattails of your parents.
You know, is this real?
And what does that even mean?
Yeah.
I don't know.
It was like, but then again on a downside.
My brain would go to if you were trying to sound like the beach boys or mamas and the popas, but you weren't.
We weren't.
but it was because I think we were harmony-based,
that it was like...
That's what happens when non-musicians make decisions about music.
Right.
Because there's only so many different ways to do music.
I know.
And it was frustrating,
but there was just a few people that got it.
Yeah.
And one of them was a guy from MCA.
I forgot his name.
He ran MCA for a while.
And I woke up on Valentine's Day,
and I had roses delivered by like 10,
seven record companies.
And I remember the card from MCA.
It was said,
roses are red, violets are blue,
MCA is the home for you.
Somebody took a long time to work on that.
To work on that.
So it was like, oh, so we literally got to pick
the record company that wanted to sign us.
Wow.
An unbelievable position to be in.
But we were confident.
We were not around.
We were serious.
And how were your parents
because, you know, I know I have kids and my instinct would be I would want to swoop in and make sure my kids aren't about to get jipped by the business because I've been jipped by the business.
Right.
Did your dad or mom get protective?
Yes.
Yeah.
Dad said one thing.
Watch out for the sharks.
That was it.
Is that your imitation of your father?
Yeah, it is.
And it's really good, actually.
He's very funny.
He's so funny.
That's all he said was watch out for the sharks.
and there was very, very limited time with him
because he was with Dr. Landy at that time.
That whole thing.
That was awful.
And we wrote some songs about that,
and it was incredibly painful.
And that was the source of a lot of pain
and good material to write about.
But we chose Charles Kauffman because he believed in us,
and he said to me,
you know, I'm a music man.
You know, I, and that's what you guys are.
This is real.
It's, you have a lot to say.
So we love that he wasn't looking at us like this money-making thing, which we made
them a lot of money, millions and millions.
Yeah, because let me hit pause.
Because, you know, the beauty of the MTV era, which were not where, I mean, it exists,
but it's not like it was, but was, you know, there I am in my, you know, my goth apartment,
you know, whenever this is.
Yeah.
And, you know, there was no escaping you guys.
But the cool thing was is I have very clear memories of hearing those songs, watching the videos.
Yes.
Kind of coming up with my own kind of conclusions, fair or not.
But, you know, the cynical part of me assumed it was some sort of construction.
So it's cool to hear that it was organically driven.
And I didn't realize until I did the research to interview with you is that Glenn was involved.
I know Glenn a little bit.
And it makes sense to me, you know, that he was.
was so instrumental in that.
He had this magical way of letting all three of us express ourselves and strong personality.
Wendy, Wendy has a strong personality, but it's more of a, she's a strong woman.
She's a survivor, but she's not vocal.
She's not very vocal.
And I'm horrifically vocal and controlling.
I hadn't noticed, but.
Very controlling.
Am I doing okay so far?
It's so funny. You're amazing. You're easy to talk to. You're easy for me to open up to.
I think the sneaky advantage I have is that I'm a musician, you see.
Absolutely. I know the way we collectively, we think. We think. And most people who interview us don't understand the way we actually think. They have a Hollywood movie version of the way that we think, but they don't really understand it. So when you're talking about Glenn, the demoing, all the hours that you would put in.
The feeling that, like, I can do something on my own.
That's super important.
Super important.
And that's the creation.
You know, it's the creation of it.
And there are so many man-made, you know, it's kind of like me.
It's kind of like deciding right now, like, do I get court site countertops or courts?
One is a natural stone and one is a man-made.
And my heart wants court site.
You know, so it's like, I don't know.
I didn't follow you on that.
Well, it's kind of like this fabrication thing, you know?
Okay, I get you.
Is it real or is it fake?
Is it...
See, that's one thing that impresses me going back and listening to your music.
Of course, I heard it all at the time.
But what really strikes me now at my youthful age of 57 is that you guys weren't trying to sound like your parents' bands.
No.
It didn't strike me then at the time because I just saw it was like, well, what is this, right?
You know?
Because, of course, all the marketing was about you're the children of, right?
Of course.
Well, that's how, like, really?
Oh, that's kind of cool.
I wonder what they sound like.
Yeah, it is what it is.
But I'm saying is, you know, I'm in some apartment in Chicago.
All I know is you guys are on TV every five seconds.
Every five seconds.
And the videos were annoying.
And it was, and we were.
Was the one on the beach?
Was there something on a beach?
Yeah, hold on.
Well, okay, so, okay, so the creative process and the recording and the music was
hands down the best part of it.
And touring was minimal and we did that and it was fun.
But it was our favorite thing to do is being the
studio and that's what we loved. Everything else was a pain in the ass and so they used us to
get SBK on the map and we were traveling like five cities a day and we were just exhausted.
Meeting radio programmers and yes and you know how it used to be you had to go to the stations
you had to go to the stations no no zooming back no zooming to go to the stations and and kiss
ass to the program director and you know I was particularly good at that so we would like be you know
chummy whatever going to dinner
but what people don't see is the
the 15 pictures you take with the staffers
and then the weird guy asking
the pet sounds question
when you're in the middle of your day and you just want to
go get some lunch and he wants to talk about
Van Dyke parks or something right
and then all that put together
would get us the ad
to get on the radio station
to get airplay then to get requests
and then to move up the charts the more ads
we got you know so it was
so insane
and but it was also thrilling and here we are just growing up and you know experiencing this and then it was
like and then we're in the the you know in the in the in the in the van going from you know city to
city and then saying you're selling 150,000 records a week and it was we couldn't believe it
yeah but we when we were in the studio making the first record I looked at everyone and I said
we're going to sell 10 million records and they were like you're a
crazy and I said, no, yeah we are. Yeah, we are. Yeah, we are. Okay, so did you know the second one
was only going to sell two? I think it sold three. Okay. But anyway, we were told we were a failure
after the second record came out. I've been there. I know that feeling. Yeah. You only went
platinum. That's right. Only platinum. And I'll never forget the conversation. I had the exact same
thing happened to me. It's the worst. This record only went platinum. Now they would
kill. Kill their children for a platinum record. Yeah.
I mean, a million records? Who sells a million records? I mean, maybe Ariana Brandi and
Billy Adele, right, you know. I don't want to be like negative about the business.
Please be negative about the business. I mean, I don't want to be negative about the business.
Because I don't, I tend to not give things that I don't give it about any time.
Okay. You know, like, I could go crazy about politics. I could go crazy about that. And yes, it does make a difference and my children are on this planet.
but I'm very good at sweeping things under the carpet too.
I'm an alcoholic.
You know, recovering an alcoholic.
I'm so used to numbing the shit out.
Okay.
So take me into that because obviously there would have been a lot of energy going into the second record.
Yes.
Was it the musical atmosphere of the time?
Obviously, Nirvana had all kicked in there.
You got grunge.
You guys were about as far away from grunge as you could be.
Although, don't let me forget.
Okay, I know I'm derailing.
No, please.
This is important.
Later on,
something happened with a guy who co-wrote impulsive and we wrote with him and this has to do with you.
So, okay.
Okay.
So you're saying.
We'll hold that.
Okay.
So what do you think were the circumstances that led it to only selling three million records, which again, it sounds crazy because that's still a very successful record?
We had new managers come in.
They were Janet Jackson's management, HK management.
And they were on this kick that sex.
was going to sell.
Right.
And that we were too ordinary,
two girls next door.
And we needed to change our image.
Oh, geez.
And the image was everything.
So for the first record,
it was like, we were cool.
We had cool coats on and jeans and white t-shirts
and hold on was a lovely video
and Pulsive was fun and, you know,
it was really cool.
And then all of a sudden it was like,
for the second record,
everything became very serious.
The fighting started between the group.
The pressure to make another album
that was going to be,
as successful as the first one.
Is that why the musically, it feels a little bit more?
No.
Okay.
That was personal.
We were grieving our parents.
I shouldn't say it like that.
We didn't get a chance to feel all the emotions growing up with songwriting and being
able to get it on paper until the second record.
And it was like our life was on pause from 18 to 22.
And then at 23, we had to make the other record.
and what were we going to write about?
Well, we were all in therapy.
We were all, you know, growing up and facing inner demons.
And that was the basis of the second record.
Okay.
Because I was, I don't remember the second record?
Yeah, shadows and light.
I'm saying, I'm saying at the time, I don't remember.
I was in my own thing, so, you know what I'm saying?
I don't, I have very distinct memories of the first one.
The second one I don't remember.
Right.
I found myself struggling.
So when I went and listened to it,
I'm knowing I was going to talk to you.
I was surprised by the difference in the tone.
So different.
I actually,
musically, it's very rich.
It is.
It's a good record.
So it's not like I listen to it.
I think, oh, man.
Right.
You know, it's a WTF moment where you're like,
oh, my God, what did they do?
I was actually like, oh, there's something here.
Yeah, it was different.
It was like we, I mean, I think it wasn't as organic as the first one.
I don't if that's the right word.
To be fair to you, everybody says the same thing about a second record because if you're lucky enough to have success in the first record, you just don't have the same time.
And everything becomes a bit self-observational.
It does. And you try to capture.
Oh, yeah.
Capturing that.
My favorite is now everybody has an opinion about what you should do when they didn't give a...
I know.
I know.
Now, everybody's your...
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah, it's so annoying.
Yeah.
Worry about yourself.
I love Shadows and Land.
I love our second record, but it was the fighting with all of us.
And it was always like...
Okay, what's the fighting?
Because I think that China had some difficulty being in a group.
I think she wanted to express herself individually.
And she just said, I'm leaving.
But that was at the end of the process, or no?
That was at the end when Shadows...
I was in light was considered the failure and we did like a mini tour and everything just changed.
It all became kind of dark.
Very fast too.
Fast.
You know.
It's a strange thing because first record's 90.
Right.
And I mean, yeah.
But you know, the mamas and papas didn't last that long either.
I know.
It was very short.
It was like three years or six years.
24 charting singles in three years.
They didn't tour.
All they did was record.
But it was the same thing, right?
Yes.
Short.
So in a weird way, like, again, who knows?
It's just speculations.
I actually didn't put that together, like almost repeating history.
A little odd, don't you think?
It is.
It's definitely coincidental.
The father and the mother are in this huge band that lasts for three years and it implodes or explodes.
And she's in this huge group three years.
It's like, it's kind of odd.
I know, but I think the struggle was inside of her.
Right.
And it was just difficult.
Not to jump too far in the timeline.
I know she's very into her faith, and I was watching some videos of her kind of proselytizing,
walking around her neighborhood talking about Jesus and stuff, which is fine.
I'm a Christian, so it's all good.
But I'm saying is, do you think that was an early form of her own spiritual struggle, too?
Does it make sense?
I think the struggle is in many areas for her and for me and for Wendy.
And I think that the three of us have been friends since birth.
Did the pressure sort of bring out the issues?
Yes.
Okay.
So that's trying to get it.
pressure, we couldn't, we couldn't come together with the pressure.
Musically, we could come together, but spiritually and individually inside of us,
it was the egos, it became competitive.
Oh, that's strange, right?
It became competitive.
It was like.
Is that strange to you're not looking back?
No, because it was so, I was so worried that Wendy and I were, you know, this is something
that I think I've ever said publicly.
When we first got together with Richard Perry,
the cassette tape that we made,
there was a, there was an, it said,
the China Phillips group.
And that really pussed me off.
And that's one of those things you store in the back of your brain, right?
And I thought to myself, well, wait a minute here.
There would be no group if I had not gotten us together
and had that love of harmony and said,
get in here and sing.
And there wouldn't be a group
if Owen hadn't said,
let's record together.
Yeah.
You know, I mean,
there were five years
when we didn't see China.
She was doing,
we had different lives.
And she actually,
when we opened the door,
she didn't recognize Wendy.
She introduced herself,
Hi, I'm China.
And Wendy was like,
it's me, Wendy, you know?
Wendy had blonde hair
and blue contacts in
and China didn't recognize her.
But like, so,
um,
yeah,
I was,
I felt like we got off
on the wrong foot.
and I've always been the person,
I love an ensemble,
I love collective thinking,
collective love, collective energy.
And it's like that's the best way
to get the most out of it.
You want to be a solo artist?
Great, go.
But when it's the three of us,
it's the three of us.
And clearly, the proof is in the pudding.
Yeah.
You know, that's what made the group is the three.
So when there was kind of like this,
I want to stick out,
I want to go solo.
it upset me and I had to accept it.
And I remember crying on the phone to Glenn saying,
how could somebody walk away from something so successful?
No matter how many records, shadows and light sold.
How could somebody walk away?
I don't understand.
Yeah.
It is odd in hindsight that it's a story that really doesn't have a middle or an ending.
It's just the beginning and then it just kind of,
I mean, I know you guys have done other stuff.
Yeah.
But that's different.
Hasn't ended.
Right.
But you know, I'm sorry.
saying is it would be like if my band only put out two records. Right. And it was, you know,
it's the kind of like the what if. Because you're only in the, you're only in your sort of
youthful prime for so many years. Right. And, and we know from music history, that's when a lot of
the best music tends to get made because the passion is there, the, the, the, the, the, even the
insanity, you know, like the whole, there's a fervor that happens with youth. You know, it's, it's,
absolutely. Sex, drugs and rock and roll, right? It all kind of feeds into something. Energy. So,
that's the shame of it is there's really no middle or end to that story for that time.
That's what I was trying to say.
Yes.
Yes.
Yes.
No, I agree.
I just couldn't get over.
I couldn't get past the shock.
So not to add to the weirdness of it all, but the other memory I have from those times
is people really being horrific with you about your appearance.
Yeah.
You know, bullying.
I call it bullying.
Straight up bullying.
Straight up bullying.
That must have been really funky.
because it was so hard.
Yeah, I don't, I don't know.
It's hard to be empathic in this scenario.
We're just talking, but it is.
It is.
But it's like, as you can tell, I'm so open about talking about things.
Well, that's part of the, you know, if it wasn't part of your story in the sense that you made it part of your story, I probably wouldn't even bring it up.
Of course.
Since you did, I'm struck by, you know, you were in this moment of time.
You have all the success.
And as somebody who was publicly bullied, too.
I remember having these really conflicting feelings where it's like I would step outside my door to go place a massive concert and then I would get that feeling in the pit of my stomach like, yeah, but you're going to pay.
Do you know what I'm talking about?
Yes.
Like the good thing is a bad thing.
Uh-huh.
And at some point it becomes melded together where you can't have the good thing without the bad thing.
Did you feel that?
So I had to accept that people were going to be dicks.
Can you say that?
So it's, no, I love it.
Everything started off kind of, we had this executive guy, Arma Andon, who wound up becoming a good friend of mine, actually.
Was he just the messenger or something?
He was a VP of SBK Records, and he came from Columbia Records.
And he worked with Charles.
And he was also our co-manager.
It was so incestuous and so wrong.
We had a lawyer, our lawyer was our co-manager.
The record company was the minute.
It was all total conflict of interest.
We got, we didn't know it.
We were desperate.
We just wanted to have somebody believe in us, and we knew that Charles and the company was, but we didn't know how we were getting until later.
But I remember when they came to one of a recording sessions very early on, maybe we had recorded half the album.
And Arma came in, and he said to me, what are we going to do about this weight problem of yours?
verbatim.
And I remember running into the bathroom
and just sobbing.
Oh my God.
And feeling so
like this isn't right.
Like we're making a record and this is
art.
And you're talking.
It's sacred space.
It's sacred space.
And he came in there like an
and I really, I mean,
he wound up really apologizing for it
because I said, unacceptable.
Like how you hurt me so badly
when you did that.
And he said,
I just can't believe I said that.
I'm so sorry.
And it took years.
And I just said, you know, I really, you're so funny and so great.
And then you fucking weren't for saying that to me.
Why did you do that, you know?
It's like you lost control and you just like, you really chose the wrong words.
And were you really afraid that my fat was going to make us not successful?
Well, see if you'd been skinny, you would have sold 11 million.
These motherfuck.
But that's how they think.
That's how they think.
And it was always this like hide Carney in the videos.
My light, I had to stay in this light.
Oh my God.
That's so humiliating.
For my chin.
It wasn't good.
But the man who made the videos was such and is such a dear friend.
And he always just said to me, give me the eyes and you have that spark.
And he had to follow direction from the record company.
He had to.
but we always had this understanding that I was beautiful too.
But it was, I sort of embraced my role.
I kind of liked it.
It was kind of like a power thing.
I have to admit.
Can you explain that a little bit?
I was different.
I was different.
And you weren't going to talk with me because I had that.
And that's part of the armor I've had.
So what strikes me, and I was thinking about this this morning,
if Wilson Phillips came out today, you know what I'm saying?
You would have been embraced in such a different way.
Absolutely.
Now you've had something to do with that with body positivity stuff.
But who you are and what makes you who you are, people would be so different.
It must strike you as slightly ironic.
It's ironic, but I never tapped into that negativity.
I don't like negativity.
I feel like everybody that made fun of me was,
just unhappy and it was an easy thing to do. But that generation too was so, it was mean. So mean.
But there still are very mean people. Oh, no, that hasn't ended, but we're Gen X. And so every generation
has its version of Dix, right? And we're not accepting it anymore. For some reason, our generation
was very comfortable with bullying. And it, and it's sad because I, I love to lift people up. So my, my, my whole
insides, I could not understand why somebody would just make fun of me. Like, focus on the music.
Who cares if I'm heavier than the other two, you know? But when the new management came around and we had to,
and they wanted to do like sex cells and they wanted to get us in corsets for our first video,
you wouldn't see me cry? It was the worst experience ever. I was...
Take me through it a little bit. We don't have to go too deep. I just had to wear these corsets.
that were sucking me in and trying to make me look as skinny as possible.
I spent like, I don't know, something like $50,000 on corsets.
It was insane.
And I was, I had pinched, it was bleeding.
I had, you know, sores on my waist from cinching and trying to look skinny.
And it was just awful.
It's like some kind of weird nightmare.
I pulled Jeff aside that we were doing this, you know, shooting the video.
And it was like, we were in this lingerie and, you know,
like our body parts were coming out of our leotards it was just and I pulled Jeff aside you know
the producer of the video and I said we're not shooting a playboy video here like what happened to the
what happened to the girls next door like you really think this is the way we should be doing this
yeah I mean in a movie this is where I would turn to the camera instead of say like you realize
how strange this is you have three young women yeah in their physical prime yeah they've just sold 10
million albums and within this space of about a thousand something days you're trying to completely
change who they are what they are and why the public is attracted to them i know and it rubbed me the wrong
way i bet but i loved the music so i was like at some point did you sort of rationalize it i did
i did i also was like oh okay we're still you know the puppets we still have a record deal we have
were contractually obligated to make the video and perform and do what they say.
You didn't know.
I was across town telling everybody to fuck off and say no.
I love it.
I said no to everybody.
Did you?
Oh, yeah.
Oh, my God.
I wish I had the balls to do that.
Today I would.
I look back and I can't believe how crazy I am because I said no to these people.
I just looked at them and I said, no.
Oh, my God.
That's awesome.
And they would threaten me and threaten us drop us.
And I'd say, go ahead.
and they just didn't because there was too much money to be made.
It's so sick.
It's a sick, sick business.
It's so sick.
Do you ever see Dea the Locust?
No.
It's a famous book from the 30s, but it was made into a movie early 70.
Nathaniel West was the author.
But it's about early Hollywood and the dark side of exploiting people.
And the characters, there's like a fake Shirley temple with the stage mom.
And the want to be haughty who just was willing to stand in the back.
just to stay she's in the movies.
Yes.
But he wrote this book in like 1939 or something.
But it really gets at the dark underbelly of this town.
So what I'm trying to illustrate, and again, turning to the camera is here's a perfect
example of you're from famous families, you have a very successful record, and somebody
in an office decides, no, not good enough.
Right.
And that's the thing.
Not that this is the price of admission to get in the business.
Right.
This is the price of admission to stay in the business.
To stay.
And it was, we were told, I mean, our record company president said, you're a failure.
And when he, those were his words, you fail.
This is Copelman.
Copelman.
I remember sitting outside of my house, sitting outside on my, on my lawn chair.
And he said, you're a failure.
And then he said, well, China, you're going to do a record, you and Wendy alone then.
Is this the Christmas record?
So this was before the Christmas record.
We tried to do some stuff, recorded some demos.
And it was good.
but then the Christmas record, he said, let's just do a Christmas record then.
So, I know.
But then Wendy and I made a Christmas record that we are very proud of.
I love our album.
You had in the Christmas spirit, so I haven't listened to it, I admit.
Oh, it's so good.
The harmonies are so good.
I remember recording it and we wrote, Hey, Santa.
That's still playing.
It's so much fun.
We'll be in concert now, and it'll be like July, and they're like, hey, Santa.
Gosh, that's so intense.
I can't even, it's hard for me to form my thought on it because I just, I just feel the ick of the whole thing.
Well, it's just.
So how do you, okay, so how do you pick yourself up off the ground?
Well, get a talk show and move to Connecticut.
Right.
Okay, wait.
This is my, you, you got my cue here.
What?
Just, just bear with me.
Okay.
This is your, this is your, I think it's incomplete, but this is your life in television.
Oh, right.
So, acting.
Yes.
60 show, 70 show.
Spring to the Teenage Witch
American Dad
Bridesmaids Glee
Talk shows Carney, the newlywed
game
Carney Wilson
Emmy nominated
Emmy nominated for best
God bless
karaoke battle
Celebrity Wife Swap
Wilson Phillips still holding on
a reality show about the band's reunion
I mean
I don't need to read them all
That's a quarter of it
It's been years
Right so I'm
So many things
Was it was it the survivor in you that was like, I'm just going to keep working?
I went on Howard Stern and a woman said,
anybody that can stand up to Howard Stern needs a talk show.
And about 22 new talk shows came out that year.
I was just one of many.
Did they try to turn you into like the gossipy Ricky Lake kind of thing?
They kept saying to me, we love you because you have an opinion.
So don't ever be afraid to show, you know, to give your opinion.
Well, when the wife beaters came on the show
and I said, you're a cock sucker,
they were very upset.
So, you know, I mean, I couldn't hold back.
Too much opinion, yeah.
Too much.
And then also I had the other nightmare
where they said to me, you're gaining weight.
We see it.
Oh, my gosh.
Second time that happened.
So it happened in the music business
and it happened in the TV business.
And I just, you know, and I mean, you know,
and his name was Jim Peritori.
He died, actually.
so he was riding a bike and had a heart attack in France, I think.
He died, but he gave me a job, which was very nice.
It was telepictures, and it was syndicated all over.
I was on after Reaching and Kathy Lee.
So that was fun.
I did it for 155 episodes, and I loved it.
And it was the survivor, but it was also, like, fun.
It was an adventure.
Okay, but the reason I read that list, obviously includes the present day,
but is it like my music career's over or I need to find other stuff to do?
I'm trying to understand that moment of pivot.
It's many interests.
It's just the, yeah, music is on hold and we're not touring.
Was that painful to you?
Yeah, it was because every year I would ask China and Wendy, are we going to get back together?
And the answer was no.
So I had to make a living.
I was excited.
I mean, I was excited for different opportunities.
and one thing would leave.
Well, why didn't she?
Okay, a couple questions.
Yeah.
And understand the context of the question.
It's not a, there's no accusation.
It's like, okay, okay, so let's just go simply.
Why didn't she go solo?
Why did she?
No, why didn't you go solo or just decide to do Wilson sisters?
Well, we.
But I mean, all in meaning, not.
Well, we were still under contract with the company.
We had to deliver more records.
Okay.
So we, we.
My sense of it is the energy went out of it.
Is that fair?
The energy went out of it, but before I got into the television, which was really, that's, it was kind of like, I tend to be OCD with things.
I get fixated on, yeah, I get fixated.
I was all in on TV.
I was all in on TV, but I had no goal.
I had nothing really in mind.
I just kind of went with the flow.
Okay.
So one thing would lead to another.
Okay.
But also, right before I really got into television, I reunited with our dad.
Okay.
So that came through music.
Was this because of estrangement in Landy and all that stuff?
Yes.
So he was done with Landy.
We got him away from Landy, and he recorded a song with Rob Wasserman, the bass player, who passed away.
And he had done collaborations with different artists.
And so it was two artists and him, Rob.
And so he asked me if I would record a song with my dad.
And so we did a song called Bells of Madness, Fantasy's Reality.
And it was the first time I was in the studio with him as an adult.
And he cried the whole time.
He walked back and forth and cried the whole time.
And I remember singing and he loved it.
And it was great.
And that was the beginning of the healing of our relationship.
And it was through music.
And it doesn't surprise me.
And then we sang on a song called Do It Again that Dom was was producing.
Is this the, is like a remake of the dude?
Yeah, it was like a remake.
But, but we, but the Wilson's got signed, Wendy and I got signed to,
Polydor, whatever it was called, polygram or whatever.
Polygram or whatever.
Polygram, yeah.
Polygram.
And, um, we knew that we wanted to, so this is where you come in.
Okay.
This is so fucking cool.
All right.
I try not to be nervous.
So cool.
You're so cute.
Okay, wait.
So, the co-writer.
of impulsive. Cliff Magnus.
Okay.
Loves you. Loves Smashing Pumpkins.
And he, so he was like, Wendy and I said we have to collaborate with different writers
and we made that Christmas record and now we were going to go for the pop record.
Okay.
And they were very excited and very behind it.
We met with a lot of writers, wrote a lot of songs.
And we started compiling these songs and we get with...
Cliff and he says, I think you guys need to really bust out of this like good girl image.
You've got to bring.
Now, he's a guitar.
He's a guitar man.
Yeah.
So he was playing today and 1979.
Yeah.
And he played it for us and he was like, just listen to the way he sings and how the guitars are heavy, but they're not too loud, but they're crunchy and delicious.
but listen to how, listen to the way,
the effects on his vocals and the way he sings
and the melodies just fucking listen to this.
And we would play it
and then go right into the writing session.
That's so funny.
So we, so.
See, I'm not getting shy.
No, you're so cute.
But so the result of that,
there were two songs.
One song was called, I hate your face.
Perfect.
No, I hate your face.
We were like, we don't care what anybody thinks we're going to go for this.
Cliff was such, he's a great guitar player.
And he loves guitar.
We were like, we are going to go for it.
This record came out, and it was a collaboration with our father.
Oh, okay.
And so we did some songs with Dave Stewart from the arithmetic and wrote a song with him, two songs with him, and our dad was a part of it.
So it was like this, it was called The Wilson's.
And it was really Wendy and I, but it was also our father.
But we did four songs with Cliff.
I think it was four, maybe five.
And I Hate Your Face was really cool.
And I am so proud of this record.
And it never saw the light of day.
And the real fans, it came out.
But it just, it just.
One of those, yeah.
One of those.
We went on stage and did this song.
I was determined to, like, show people that we could, like, rock out a little bit.
And so I was literally like, you know, we would be like,
yeah, I'm in love.
And then I'd be like, I hate your face.
That's a cool idea.
See, when you say the title, I didn't expect that.
Right.
So it's about past lives.
Like, I hate your face because I love your face.
And I've been here before with you.
But anyway, we were very influenced by you with three or four of these songs on the record.
But it never saw the light.
And it's some of my favorite stuff we've ever done.
Yeah.
It was interesting times, right, that you could have music like that be popular.
Yeah, I know.
It's very rare.
I know.
When we had, actually, going back to your world, when we had success in the 90s and people
were sort of shocked by it because, you know, we were all these weirdos that had climbed
about a sewers, you know.
I said, well, it's just the 60s all over again.
Oh, interesting.
You know, I mean, music gets so stale.
Yeah.
That kids are just like, show me something.
And then all of a sudden you've got all these artists.
They're just like, get out of the way.
We're so sick of your, you know, whatever.
whatever.
Your snoozy, pre-packaged pop.
You know, we need something that feels more like
what we're experiencing.
I think you're in like a category of your own, to be honest.
Well, I was very inspired by the 60 Spence.
That was always my thing.
I looked at, like, I would look at your family's world
and the Beatles world and Zeppelin on and say,
why can't we just be that?
Why can't we just do our own thing?
Why can't we just make our own world?
Like, why do we have to be like anybody else?
No, I know.
But your voice also has a sound.
It has a certain sound to it.
It's your own unique sound.
It's you.
That's a whole, that's a different podcast, just see.
That's okay.
I'm allowed to say that.
You can take a compliment.
You can say whatever you like, thank you.
Um, I'm curious because we haven't talked about, you know, obviously we talked a bit
about your dad, but like how were your, you know, your uncles and stuff with your success
and how were they supportive?
Yeah, they really were.
But not Dennis, because Dennis died before.
Dennis died when I was 15.
So he was always like this mysterious, sexy man.
And he was my uncle, but I get butterflies around him.
He was very handsome.
Obviously a sensitive guy too.
He's very sensitive.
That one record, is it Pacific?
Pacific Blue. Ocean Blue.
What a beautiful.
Beautiful album. God damn it.
There's so much talent in your family.
It's kind of frightening.
Well, thank you.
But yes, and they all three had big, big talent.
Carl was an amazing writer, amazing singer.
I have God only knows on my...
Yeah, that vocal.
Oh, God.
It's just...
That's one of the greatest vocals of all time.
I agree with you.
You listen to that vocal, and it's just like...
Where does that come from?
Stunning.
He really had such a great sound.
Some people have a purity in their voice?
Yes.
I don't mean a moral purity.
Right.
There's a certain...
Yes.
straight but it's so effective
that was him
yeah uh
and um
yeah
he he was he was
he was protective
Carl was more protective
dad just wasn't we just weren't spending time with them so
he oh but then when he said to us
I followed you on the charts every week
so he was
you know watching us
behind his door but
Carl was like you guys just have to
to keep going and Wendy, you need to do country record.
He was convinced that Wendy needed to do country.
Well, because she had like a twang in her voice.
But if you look at where country is now,
he wasn't that far off.
Right.
Country's never been bigger.
Back then, it wasn't like it is now.
Well, we asked Carl to sing on,
well, we asked Dad to sing on Hey Santa and he said no.
So that was probably just because he was, you know,
someone told no, you can't do it.
But Carl came and sing backgrounds.
And I remember him singing on it, and he sounded great.
But I miss him very much.
I think about him all the time, and I have pictures around my house, and I feel a spirit a lot.
And my dad really misses his brothers, like a lot.
Yeah, it's intense, because if you look at rock history, like the Davies brothers,
there's an intensity when they're in the same group.
I know.
I think it's hard for, I didn't have that.
So, you know, I tried to beg my brother to be into music.
He wasn't.
He wasn't to do it.
I'll tell you a quick, funny story.
So my, you know, like you were talking, my voice has this quality, right?
Sound.
And we got it.
My father actually sang higher than me, but didn't have the cut in the voice.
That came from my mother.
But my mother didn't sing.
So my brother had no interest in music, didn't want to play.
He's more of a take stuff apart type of guy.
And now he's an artist.
And I was driving in the car with him one day.
And he was listening to a song.
forgot I was in the car and he started singing along.
And it was that voice.
And I never in a million years thought.
Interesting.
Because he's got the same genetics.
Duh.
So it was the only time and I begged my brother.
I was like, please sing on a record with me.
And he was like, no.
And he's got the same weird, whatever that voice is.
But I heard it outside my body for the first time in my life.
I was like, what a trip.
And it was, you know, as you know, because of siblings, it's the same but kind of different.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, the tones.
Tone?
Yeah, I was like, totally.
I mean, I begged him, please just sing on a record.
I'll make it easy for you.
They can sing one note.
But that's like my daughter, Lucy.
Lola's totally into music, and Lucy is too, but she won't do it.
She's not a performer.
They don't want to perform.
They're too embarrassed or something.
Yeah.
Yeah, he doesn't have that.
Or they don't believe.
He doesn't have that narcissistic need for constant attention.
There's definitely that.
I just really believe that that is, of course.
Just look at me, please. More.
So I cannot find your 2003 solo album, which was called for the first time.
It never came out.
Oh, okay.
That's why.
Okay.
I'm like, you know, I'm Googling away.
And I'm like, where's this record?
Had a baby.
And then.
So it's just sitting there on released?
There is no, there was never a full recorded album.
I did, I recorded a couple of Diane Warren songs.
And then we just stopped the project.
Oh, okay.
So that's why.
Yeah.
That's the problem with the internet.
It's like you can't get to the bottom of certain news.
I recorded a lullaby album.
That I heard, yeah.
That is a beautiful record.
And I sang you are so beautiful with my dad.
And that's one of the prettiest recordings we've ever done.
So I'm not trying to belabor the point about body stuff, but, you know, being in the public eye and having this relationship and then even kind of being very public about your struggles with it.
And I read somewhere about, because you did say about being alcoholic.
sobriety and can you kind of just, and I guess what I'm asking is a very general question,
but you tackle it how you want. Husband, family, sobriety, self-acceptance, self-love,
can you kind of walk me through that? Yes. Because, sorry, here's the real context.
Anybody who struggles with life, which is pretty much every person. Yeah. Right. But once you're
in the public side of the equation, it adds this other dynamic that makes that even more complicated.
So I'm kind of curious how you navigated that.
First of all, no matter what I've been through, no matter what phase or what was happening,
I've always let the public in because I feel like scared to hide things.
That's interesting.
I don't know why.
I think it's ultimately that I have to connect with people.
It's really important for me to feel like...
Even though you know there's sort of a vulnerability in that?
Yes, I think vulnerability is the most courageous thing.
we can never feel or do.
I mean, to me, vulnerability is courage because you are open, exposed, and like, that takes
courage to just be like, I feel weak or I feel sad or I feel, you know, and I've always had
kind of a low chronic depression, and I've never, I've never hidden that.
But do you think that's genetic or is that environmental?
Both.
Okay.
I think it's both.
What's the environmental trigger in your mind?
Probably just like what do people think of me?
And then ultimately going, well, really do I give what someone thinks of me?
Like you think I'm...
But that's a yes and no question answer, right?
That's always that weird thing.
It is.
But I was always a pothead and then I stopped smoking and I met my husband when I was at my heaviest weight.
And I was becoming, I was going to die for sure.
I mean, I was really, really, I got Bell's palsy.
I had my first acting role in a, you know, a television series called The 60s, and I played Mama Earth, a real character that was like in Hayd Ashbury, you know.
And it was really fun.
And then I got Bell's Palsy when the premiere came out.
And I walked down the red carpet, like in one eye open, you know, and I remember that.
But I was at, I believe that I got Bell's Palsy and it really stopped me in my tracks and said, like literally it freeze, like half my mind.
my face froze and I was like, God, going, freeze, Carney, take this snapshot here.
You're going, you're going, you're going to die.
So you have to do something from being overweight.
Okay.
And I had sleep apnea and I couldn't breathe at night and my blood pressure was up and that was.
Was it, you know, whatever, it's not that important, but was it overeating or I'm saying
where were you?
Oh, always overreating.
Always overeating.
Okay.
Oh, yeah.
Just completely, uh, broken up with the boy.
friend. Like, you know, I was working at a needlepoint store. I was, I didn't know what I was going to do about money. I was very depressed. I had gotten Bill's palsy. I had one acting role, you know, and I, um, and then Beach Boy Al Jardine asked if we would go do some shows with him, with his sons and Matthew and Adam. And we had this great sound together. And then we started performing. And I met Rob.
on the road when I was with Al.
It was at a thing called Vet Rock in Pennsylvania at a naval base.
And I see this guy walk across the tent, the food tent, you know, and he's like really cute.
And then his friend that brought him was interviewing Rob after he was writing a book.
And he said, this is my friend Rob.
And Rob goes, hi, it's nice to meet you.
And I used to watch your talk show and I really enjoyed watching you.
And I said, thank you.
But I remember that day, I was very, I was very, I was.
It was 310 pounds, but I was like, I'm going on stage and I don't care how I look.
I'm just going to go and have a really good time.
And I put little butterfly clips in my hair and I put extra perfume on.
Don't ask me why.
And I met Rob that day.
And then I have pictures of him.
Someone took pictures of him in the front row watching me on stage and there were these
amazing pictures.
Math is, oh, he was like, you know, couldn't believe it.
And he just dug the vibe.
And then I got home and it was before we had any kind of, it was just message board.
You know, the internet just started happening.
And I got Rob Bonfielio, Wilson Phillips message board,
Rob Bonfilio says hi to you.
And I was like, who is this guy?
He's like, I met you backstage.
And you were so sweet and I loved your butterfly clips and you smelled really good.
And I wrote him back.
I'm like, are you single?
And that was it.
You just got right to the point.
I went right to the point.
I'm like, are you single?
He said, yeah.
And he wasn't, actually.
He lied to me, which was dubbed because he was like in a major.
He was going to move to Madrid.
because he had a love, you know.
And then she called his house when I was there.
He was in the shower.
They were going to get engaged.
And we had just gotten engaged.
And I said, guess what?
Don't ever call back again because he's mine.
Bye.
Her name was Virginia.
I called her vagina.
I was mad at her.
But anyway.
This was not on my dance card.
I know.
I really like that crazy.
But anyway, Rob, like we connected right away.
And he was in a band called Wanderlust.
and he's great guitar player, great songwriter.
Just connected right off the bat.
Like soulmate, hands down, like two magnets.
Absolutely.
And you've been together, how long?
Never wanted to be apart, 25 years.
And we fight all the time and we get on each other's nerves,
but we are there for each other.
And we trust each other.
And we have two wonderful children.
So healing, as you know, is not a,
you figure out one thing and then you're healed.
I always say it's a three-dimensional process.
You fix one thing and then you have to repair this other relationship.
Of course, like whackamble.
Yeah.
So kind of where are you at in that arc now?
I would say that, you know, when I did, when we did get together, it was five years had passed and I had like lost a couple jobs.
You know, I did some talk show hosting and I was very just behind with taxes and money was not good.
And I started drinking.
And after I lost a bunch of weight, I had the gastric bypass surgery.
I said to Rob, I'm going to get the surgery.
It was right when I met him?
And he goes, well, is it safe?
And I said, yeah, it is.
And he goes, we'll do it.
I'll be there for you.
And I became another person.
And I wasn't used to being skinny.
I got down to like size four.
And I went from like a size 28 to a four.
And I was, I didn't recognize myself at all.
How did you feel when you were there?
Did you feel better or worse?
I physically felt so much better.
and I could do so many things, and it was great and wonderful,
but it was absolutely terrifying.
And I remember just, like, crying on his chest and I go,
I don't know who I am. I don't know who I am.
When I look in the mirror, I don't understand who I'm seeing.
It was really trippy.
And I just, I had a little therapy with the therapist.
He said, you've got to, you have to literally grieve the old body.
And I tried.
That's interesting.
Yeah, he said, you have to say goodbye to the old body.
I mean, I'm asking you a psychological question, but is it an attachment to something?
Yes, it's an attachment to my identity.
It was my identity.
So like I couldn't.
Because there are some schools of thought, and I've only read these things.
It's not an opinion.
That sometimes people who put on a lot of weight, they almost want this physical distance.
Yeah.
Sure.
Oh, yeah.
I don't, I can't say I understand it, but, you know.
I always looked at it.
like strength. I know that sounds weird, but like, I'm not going to get raped because a guy's
not going to find a fat girl attractive. Or I'm not going to, no one's going to hurt me or come
close to me. I didn't want attention from guys. I was scared to get attention from guys.
So kids, marriage, life. So didn't know if I wanted to have children. I was just really drinking
a lot. And I said to Rob, I want a baby. I want, I mean, I'm 37. 36. He goes. He goes.
goes, you're not in any shape to have kids.
And that really hurt me.
And I felt...
But it was because it was true?
Because it was true.
Okay.
And I spent a year asking everybody if they thought I was an alcoholic.
So they were like, well, we don't see you drink that much.
Well, because I was hanging out of my closet.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So anyway, I got sober, 12-step, and I'm still in it.
And it's the greatest thing that ever happened to me.
And Rob was there.
He's been there through everything.
And then I got pregnant, too,
after I got sober.
And, you know,
Lola was our first gift.
And, you know,
just moved,
we've moved a few times.
We've moved like four times
since Lola was born.
And it's hard because we've just like,
in and out of like making money,
not making money,
enough money and not enough money.
So I lost my home.
And then we were renting
and now we just bought another house.
But like it was just 20 years
of no drinking.
I've really grown up.
Sobriety has taught me how to settle into my own skin
and just being a woman and knowing what I want,
what I don't want, and what brings me peace,
and I live for my children.
We've been sharing music together since they were born,
so that's a whole other thing that's been happening.
Being able to sing with my kids is,
I thought it was great singing with Wendy in China.
Oh, my God.
We have the best sound.
Do you harmonize?
Yes.
I was like a trainer, like a Navy SEAL.
Like a drill sergeant.
You're flat.
No, do it again.
But let me tell you.
So I think this is a good way to finish.
So I've known different people, because, you know, when your father was living outside of Chicago.
Yeah.
I knew Joe Thomas a little bit who helped kind of get your father going again musically.
And then some other people from Chicago I knew.
And so, you know, as you do in this business, you know, when you meet different people, you're like, you know, I was less interested in, in, you know, let's call it the constant chatter about your father's mental health, which is obviously, I'm not making light of it.
I'm saying is that's been the number one topic of conversation with your father.
I'm ultimately more interested in your father's musical ability.
Me too.
And, you know, I've seen him play live in those years with.
It was the wonderments and that whole thing where they were doing pet sounds.
Yes.
I saw even one beautiful night where there was like a UCLA or something.
Yeah, yeah, I remember that.
I was there and Al Jardine came on play.
It was just beautiful to hear that music live.
Yeah, yeah.
And of course your father varying degrees of participation, but whatever, he wrote it.
And he cares if he's in the front row.
He's there and it's a beautiful night.
But I think the cool thing that I remember hearing,
and I got to tell you one little story, the one time I met your father.
So I said to somebody, like, you know, kind of like, let's call it the how with it is your,
it was your dad in this scenario. And they said, well, we, you know, we would rehearse up all this
material with all those complex harmonies. And, you know, you'd see him, he'd be kind of staring
off in the space and thinking, oh, he's just not really here. And then somebody who would hit a bum note
and he would go like
Oh yeah
and he go
No it goes like
da-de-da-bo-ba-poo-da
and they're like
what the fuck
holy shit
yeah
they said his
understanding of polyphony
is frightening
and until you're in it with them
and you see it at action
you're like holy cow
it is so remarkable
and as his daughter
I trip out a lot
and
I'm so proud of him for being the survivor he is.
And the contribution to music, I don't want to cry, but his contribution is so beautiful.
And the layers of all his music is so beautiful.
And the thing that I want people to understand is that he is so grateful.
He is so grateful to the people that love his music and the lives that he's touched and he's aware of all of it.
And he's also more aware of everything, and people don't realize that.
Yeah.
He's run by fear.
Hands down 100% and 100% of the time, too.
He is run by fear.
And it's so funny because so am I.
So I see a lot of similarities with us.
And that's why we relate to each other so well.
This is why you need to write your own songs.
I know.
I'm telling you, I'm coming over.
I need to tap into this.
And I'm just going to be quiet and listen.
I just listen.
Well, the good news is, you know, I see him around three times a month, and we love to talk about music.
So I'll just like play him a random song.
You know, I'm like, baby, come back.
And he's listening.
He's player, player.
He's like, I like that one.
You know, and then we'll listen to Chicago or we'll listen to it.
But I was singing your song, which is my favorite Elton John song, and he really likes that song.
But the good news is, you know, I can say that today, it's like, it doesn't matter what has happened in the past.
I am so into where are your feet right now?
Where are you right now?
And if I keep thinking about that past stuff, because he's haunted by his past.
So, but it's so strange because.
But can you define that at least a little bit?
I'm not looking for gossip.
I'm just.
I've never known anybody.
that can live in the past and be in the future,
be in the present like my dad.
It is the weirdest thing I've ever seen.
He is a remarkable person.
He's got so much that he wishes he could take back.
And I know that he has regrets.
But I think that his childlike quality
and his love for just food and I know,
I know he loves his children and his grandchildren,
but he has a problem expressing love.
It's hard for him.
It scares him.
It scares him to show that love.
I don't know if he's scared to be vulnerable like that.
But I have been able to connect and tap into love with him over these years,
and it's been the most healing best thing ever.
But the amount of acceptance that I've had to have,
around like what I'm going to be able to receive from him.
Yeah.
Is my biggest life's lesson.
Mm, I get that.
Yeah, it strikes me, you know, every person has a mythology, you know.
And to me, this is my version.
I didn't live it, but it's like he's the Promethean myth.
He tapped in so early to such huge elemental forces.
I mean, he didn't just.
tap into the zeitgeist of like surf and where music was going the 60s. He literally tapped into
the American songbook, the wider American story. And even he went for these crazy things,
you know, the, the, the, I can never think of that thing of that song where it's like kind of a
Rio Grande. No, it's the, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's,
like, Barrelhouse piano and something he wrote with Van Dykes, but it's like,
Orange Cray Art. Oh, uh, heroes or. Oh, heroes and villains. Yeah. Yes. You know, it's like,
he's like trying to, he's like, trying to, he's like,
You do John Wayne movies.
So cool.
It's like so like what is happening.
So cool.
So again, this is my projection.
But when you tap into those elemental forces and you and your own way have tapped into them, when they invert and they invert at some point on everybody, Frank Sinatra on down, Elvis.
Love Frank.
But those same forces run you over.
Yeah, for sure.
You know what I mean?
Well, people don't know how to deal with it.
Well, by the way, there's no manual.
There's no website.
No.
Here's what you do when your cure goes the wrong way.
Right.
I think my dad is afraid of his own...
He doesn't know where it came from.
Because I asked him one time,
how did you write God only knows,
or how did you write these melodies,
or how did you write this song?
He said, I didn't write it.
God did.
So he's extremely spiritual.
And I don't know what God it is,
but it's his own God.
And, you know,
I feel like there is a weird,
like, and I don't know how to say it right, with artists, there's just something that we can try to touch, but we can't touch because it's so individual.
You know, it's like it came from inside someone.
Yeah.
And you know what I mean?
But I subscribe.
What am I trying to say?
Well, I subscribe to the idea that artists are like prisms.
Yeah.
I'm a spiritual person.
And so I believe that it does come from another place.
Yes.
And we just become the light refracted.
That's it.
And if it truly came from within us, then why can't we do it again and again and again?
You know what I'm saying?
We can.
It's our own...
Right.
But what I'm saying is there's a celestial component to certain mythological narratives.
You know what I mean?
Because, you know, in your father's case, why would...
was there's this concentrated energy between 1962 and 1973.
Yeah.
And all this music, you know what I mean?
And the elemental forces that sort of seem to push him towards certain chasms that are,
you know, obviously had a hard time with.
But again, I wasn't there.
You know, I've only read the books, you know.
Right.
I mean, my mom is someone that was there.
You know, she...
You know what?
I'm glad you brought that up because I had written a note about your
mother because, you know, there's that story behind every great man as a great woman, which doesn't
really work in the modern vernacular. But the idea is that there must have been something about
your mother in that dynamic that was very powerful. He still loves her so much and she loves him so
much. And at the new, the Beach Boys' new movie on Disney, the premiere, he was in his wheelchair
because he's had two really back surgeries. And my mom said, please take me to him. I want to say hi.
And so, I mean, it was so cute.
She walked up to him and she couldn't say anything else.
She just said, I love you, Brian.
Mary, I love you.
I love you.
They just said, I love you.
So cool.
You know, and that was really great for me to see.
See, when you listen to a love song, he was singing about her, you see.
No question.
Okay.
So we owe her that too.
Oh, yeah, we do.
Oh, we owe her.
Oh, she, he would not be here if it wasn't for her.
So I feel that sitting with you, right?
level of life. Yeah, I know.
That's humbling. It's this gratitude.
See, when you write God only knows, I mean,
who's he singing about? Who's he singing about? And
your mommy, my mother, yes. And, you know,
there's this thing with like the new wife, the old wife,
you know, and this, you know, and it's like,
I heard all the stories, trust me, especially in Chicago.
Right, but Melinda did help him get back out there in his life.
And I'll always be in debt to her for that.
But it's like my mother,
was the one that kept them alive.
Yeah.
You know?
So it's interesting.
He will always be grateful to her.
And she will be grateful and she'll always love him.
I mean, it's her first love.
Yeah.
And that's a comforting thing, you know, because they're divorced and it's...
Who wants to think that their parents didn't love each other?
Right.
And, you know, I mean, I'm very fortunate that that's the case.
But, yeah, he's a complex man and...
But we all are in our own way.
But I'm just grateful that I get to, yeah.
to be with him again.
So my last little story.
So I went to see your father play in Chicago one night,
and God, it would have been like 20-something years ago.
Did he start coughing in the middle of a song?
No, I don't remember that.
I just remember I went to the show,
and then maybe because of Joe Thomas or something.
Somebody said, you know, if you come backstage,
I can probably introduce you or something.
And I just got the feeling like,
maybe it's not a good thing, you know.
And they're like, no, no, come on, come in,
let me introduce you.
So the guy brings me in and your dad was sitting on a couch.
He looked up and he said, you know, I said, oh, this is Billy.
He looks at him.
He goes, what do you do?
God in heaven.
And I didn't know what to say.
Because I thought, well, if I tell him I'm a musician.
Right.
He's just going to think, yeah, so is everybody a musician.
I wanted him to kind of know who I was, but I didn't make a big display of it.
So I think, I don't know what I said.
I said something very simple.
And he was nice.
And we took a picture together.
and he later signed it for me and all that, so it was all good.
But the reason it's a bad memory is because I came out of the room
and there was a Time magazine reporter for some reason was around.
And he identified himself and he said, can he said, can I quote that exchange?
And I said, no, because that's a private moment between me and Brian.
That's right.
And I said, plus, you know, it was awkward because
I didn't know how to answer the question, and I told the guy, look, whatever I said, I said,
I wasn't trying to be egoistic. It's somebody I really respect, and I was trying to find the right
words. Yes. And he put it in the magazine and made me look really bad. Like I was offended
that your dad didn't know who I was and how, and just horrible. Oh, they're the worst. Reporters are the
worst.
Mother
is right.
Wait, really fast I know
we're wrapping it up.
One of the funniest stories.
You're controlling my interview.
I'm sorry, wait, I have to taste it right now.
No, I'm not getting ready.
This is going to make you laugh
because it reminded me of this.
Only my dad would do this.
Don Henley
released his book, Walden Woods,
whatever, and my dad had a book,
I don't forgot what it was called. Wouldn't it be nice or whatever?
One of the books that he didn't, that he didn't
write.
He was releasing it. There was, like, a release party or,
autograph signing, autograph signing.
And Don said, I really want to meet Brian.
So he went up, brought a picture.
Oh, no, brought a book and said, Brian, would you sign this for me?
This is Don Henley.
And so he said, sure, Don.
So he wrote to Don.
The Eagles are a great group.
Love Brian Wilson.
And so Don's, thank you, Brian, walked away, you know.
And he goes, Don, come back here.
Come back here.
Let me have that.
Let me have that book.
crossed out the word great
and wrote good
and then he said to him
oh and Don said
why did you do that Brian?
He said because
the Beatles are great
the Eagles are good
and the funny part is that
I know I'm going to get killed
for saying this I love the Eagles
more than the Beatles
that's just me
but you're safe here in Southern California
I'm safe in southern
Inside the state, you're going to have a hard time.
But how funny is he that he did that?
Crossed out great.
Well, he did compose in a sandbox.
I know, I know.
We know all the stories.
My mother, yeah, my mother opened the door and they said, we have your two tons of sand.
And she went, what?
She said, three days, Brian, that's it.
So she let them bring out of the sand.
She said, there were so many bugs.
She said, get it out of my house.
So it was only three days.
It was only three days.
See, that's a story that never ends, though.
Uh-huh.
Thank you.
Thank you.
Fun?
Oh, yeah, I love it.
Oh, I could talk to you for like five hours.
Thank you.
