The Mindset Mentor - 10 Powerful Daily Habits That Actually Work

Episode Date: June 4, 2026

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Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I am your host, Rob Dial. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so you never miss another episode. And I want to tell you about something. The ceiling that you keep hitting in your income, your relationships, your health, your happiness, all of that is not a strategy problem. It is a program that's running underneath everything, and I'm going to show you exactly how to break it on my free live Zoom training on June 10th at 7 p.m.

Eastern. If you know that you are the reason why your life is not where you want it to be and you're ready to change that, this training is for you. Today I'm going to be giving you 10 powerful daily habits that will actually change the course of your life. Now, I didn't want to go with like the average standard daily habits. So I really started thinking deeply about what are some things that maybe you've never heard of before or you've never thought of before. There are a couple that you have heard of before. I will tell you that. But I really wanted to think differently about what are 10 habits that if you implement it into your life could completely change yourself and completely change the course of your life. So let's dive in.

Number one is ask yourself one really tough question per day. Enforce yourself to have to answer honestly. And here's my challenge for you. Every morning, take out your journal and go to chat GPT or Claude or whatever AI you like to use and use this prompt. I want to journal, give me an extremely deep journaling question that I have never thought of before so that I can better understand myself. This is like the Russian roulette of journaling. Like questions that it came up with when I asked at this, what parts of my personality are actually survival mechanisms that I accidentally started calling me? Oof, that's a good one.

Another one that it came up with, what emotion do I avoid the most and how has a my entire life been unconsciously organized around avoiding feeling it. Another one is if my anxiety suddenly disappeared forever, what decisions would I immediately have to make that I have been postponing? Most people don't need more answers. What you really need is better questions to understand yourself. Like expressive writing and journaling has been linked with improvements in psychological and physical health when people write honestly about experiences that have happened in their life and what's going on in their head. You might know yourself, but knowing yourself is based in the past. What I want you to do is learn yourself. Learning yourself is based in the present. There is so much subconscious

processing that is happening at all points in time behind the scenes in your brain that you're completely unaware of. Let's become aware of them. And this habit like cuts through all of your own bullshit with love. And so, you know, like, what am I pretending not to know? Where am I betraying myself to keep some peace? What pattern am I tired of carrying? What would I feel if I actually believe that I was worthy? The point is not to shame yourself. The point is to finally get to know yourself and to tell the truth. So that's number one. Number two is I want you to develop the habit of not trying to be understood by people. Just try to stop caring what other people think about you. Some people will misunderstand you because they do not have the range to actually understand you.

Some people interpret you through their own wounds and their fears and their values and their maturity and their level of perception. So you can explain yourself perfectly to people and people can still not understand you. So you have to develop this habit of going, you know what, I'm going to be okay with being misunderstood by people because people only understand from their level of perception. And some people are on a completely different level of perception than you are. For instance, think of yourself 10 years ago or think of yourself 20 years ago. There's stuff that you say today that you're completely bought in on it and is complete truth within you that 10 or 20 years ago, you've been like, what the fuck is this person talking about? Right. Like if I would have said some of it,

20 years ago, if I could come to me today and hear some of the stuff that I'd say, I'd be like, what is this guy smoking? It just wouldn't have made sense because I wasn't emotionally or intellectually or anything able to understand the person that I am today. You probably wouldn't be able to understand yourself today. You have grown. And sometimes you've grown past the level that some people can understand you. And that's okay. So you have to be okay with being misunderstood. People can only understand from their level of perception. So your job is not to be understood by everyone. Your job is to live in alignment so deeply that you understand yourself. Okay, so that's number two. Number three is to start looking at your thoughts like an outsider. Right. This is what's called the observer habit.

You are not your thoughts. You are not even every thought that crosses into your mind. So much suffering that people have nowadays happens because people identify with their thoughts. They think I am my thoughts. So when you say something like, I am noticing the thought that I am not good enough versus I am not good enough, there's a huge difference between those two. I am noticing the thought that I'm not good enough. When you do that, you're creating distance between you and your thoughts. That distance is where your power is.

It shows you that you are not your thoughts and your thoughts are not you. In mindfulness and acceptance-based therapies, this is often called decentering or cognitive diffusion and it's basically learning to see your thoughts as these mental events rather than like absolute truth like most people really treat their thoughts. Most suffering comes from fusing with your thoughts. And so people think to themselves unconsciously like, I had this thought so it must be true. I had the thought that I'm not good enough or I'm not smart enough or I'm not pretty enough or I'll always be unlovable. So it must be true. No. The observer habit it really just sounds like interesting.

Hmm. My brain is telling me my old abandonment story again. Like that one sentence can keep you from spiraling for three hours like you maybe have done before in the past. The majority of human suffering does not come from reality. It comes from our thoughts about reality. And those are not the same thing. And so it's kind of like you are the sky.

your thoughts are the weather and every once in a while a thunderstorm comes through don't identify the thunderstorm. Okay, that's number three. Habit number four is to practice every day. Practice relaxing your nervous system. Most people in this world are dysregulated. And we will be right back. And now, back to the show.

When your nervous system is in fight or flight, your brain is not prioritizing everything that matters like creativity and patience and love and in discipline or compassion or joy. It is prioritizing survival. And this is why you can know better like we all do and still snap because your nervous system is probably dysregulated. You know, and then maybe you procrastinate and then you spiral and then you shut down. Your thinking brain gets hijacked by your threat system because your nervous system's going,

I got to make sure I don't get attacked. I got to make sure I stay alive. So daily nervous system regulation teaches your body, I am safe right now. The thing that I would recommend for everybody here is to go onto YouTube. I have no affiliation with this guy, but I listen to him one, two, three, four times a day sometimes. His name is Breathe with Sandy. And he's got like five minute, 10 minute nervous system regulation. He's got a ton of different breath work.

He puts out one out every single week. Great stuff. But he's got some five minute nervous system breathwork that just like it teaches your body. just to calm down because so many of us are dysregulated. And so like sometimes I do it at least once a day. I do it every single morning with my son. I sit them on my lap and we do them together. Sometimes I do it on three or four times a day.

We're just learning to self-soothe. Self-soothing is not weakness. It is emotional mastery. Most people in this world that are full-on adults do not know how to self-soothe themselves. So you can put your hand on your chest. You can slow your breathing. You can unclench your jaw.

You can relax your shoulders. And like just tell your meat suit that you live in. hey, we're okay. Just de-stress yourself so that you don't blow up on someone that doesn't deserve it. You're not trying to eliminate stress. You're just trying to train your body to come back to home, to homeostasis, to calm, cool, collected, centered faster. Number five is just once a day.

Spend 10 minutes in complete silence. Silence feels uncomfortable at first because we're so used to overstimulation. But your mind cannot hear your wisdom and your intuition and all of the amazing stuff that exists inside you when you're drowning in stimulation. So this silence gives your brain a chance to process what's happening behind the scenes. This is why some of your best ideas happen

when you're in the shower or when you're driving is because you're just sitting there for a minute, hopefully in silence, and you just get this idea. It's like you have so many ideas and so much wisdom that's just waiting to come out of you, but it's just buried under all of the noise. And you might get bored. And to be honest with you,

when you start doing this in the beginning, boredom feels like withdrawal. Like, it does. You at first might notice like anxiety or restlessness or random thoughts or like the urge to grab your phone. Good. That's you detoxing all that stuff that you don't need. So the goal is not to not have thoughts. The goal is to learn to stop obeying every single thought. And so when you get into these moments of silence, silence teaches you that you can be alone with yourself without needing any form of escape. We all want freedom in our lives, many different types of freedoms, financial freedom, all of that. But the freedom of the mind is the highest form of freedom. And you need some silence to be able to free your mind.

So that's number five. Number six is be kind to yourself. Think of the person that you love the most in this world. It could be your child. It could be your grandparent. It could be your wife. And then now I want you to imagine speaking to them the way that you speak to yourself. Most people would be horrified.

And so self-kindness is learning how to coach yourself instead of abusing yourself, to learn how to be your biggest fan. Shame doesn't create lasting transformation. It creates hiding and avoidance and self-protection. So self-compassion, like research in it has been linked to, you know, with self-compassion has been linked to greater psychological well-being, lower anxiety, less depression, less stress. damn, all of that sounds pretty good to me. Maybe we should be a little bit kinder to ourself, right? So treat yourself like someone that you're responsible for taking care of because you are responsible for taking care of yourself. Like ask yourself, what would I say to someone that I deeply love who is struggling with this thing? Would you just bash them and yell at them? No, of course not. You'd show them love and affection and understanding and be like, hey, it's okay. I know you're going to get better. This is probably what you should do next time.

like say that to yourself even if it feels cheesy. You are the only person that you are guaranteed to live with for the rest of your life. Hopefully we get to live with all these people that we love the rest of our life, but you're the only person that you're guaranteed to live with the rest of your life. Maybe stop making your inner world a hostile place and actually develop a real relationship with yourself. Next habit is this. Make one promise to yourself and keep it.

Every day, just one little promise. wake up in the morning and say, what promise do I need to keep to myself? It might be that I need to take this action in my business. It might be that I need to meditate. It might be that I need to go for a walk or work out. Whatever might be, make one promise to yourself every single day and keep it. The goal here is becoming the type of person who keeps promises to themselves, who follows through, who does one thing today that they need to for themselves. You are watching yourself all the time. You're watching what you do today and deciding whether you are trustworthy or not. So just make one promise to yourself every single morning and make sure that you keep it. Number eight is use

the five minute rule when something goes wrong. Give yourself permission when something goes wrong to just be as pissed as you want to be. You're a human. You're not a robot. You're allowed to feel. The problem is that five minutes, if you don't set a timer, becomes five hours or five days or some people five years. Some people listen to podcasts are still pissed off about something that happened five years ago, right? So what you do, I was taught this for my very first mentor when I was like 19 years old is when something does not go the way that you want to, you use a five-minute rule. You take out your phone, you set a timer for five minutes. You can complain, you can scream, you can cry, you can square, you can be dramatic, you can, you know, get a pillow and beat it on the bed.

Like let your little meat suit throw its tantrum and then get on with your fucking life, right? and you ask yourself what now. And so really what it comes down to is like, if you won't remember this in five years, don't spend more than five minutes stressed out about it. And the other good thing about this is like you're not just like suppressing the emotion. You're allowing yourself to work through the emotion that's there and then move on with your life. Sometimes your nervous system needs permission to complete the emotional wave. So you can feel it fully.

And then after you're done, boom, timer goes off. Get on with your life. Ask yourself what now and move on with you. with the next thing. Number nine is to forgive just a little bit more today. Forgive a little bit more. Forgiveness does not mean that whatever happened to you that you haven't forgiven yet was okay. It does not mean that you let them off the hook. It does not mean that you let them back into your life. It does not mean that you become a dormant. Forgiveness means that you stop letting the old pain own space in your body every single day. Anger and resentment are the acid that burned the vessel.

And so you can start small. Like just wake up in the morning and just say like, hey, can I release 1% of this thing today? Like you don't have to fully forgive, but can I just release 1% of this today? Like what do I no longer want to hold on to? And then you start forgiving that person. And once again, it's not for them. You forgive somebody else for yourself so that you can stop holding on to it. Because it's only hurting you.

It's not hurting them at all. Another person that you should forgive yourself. that's sometimes the hardest one to forgive. You have made mistakes in the past, but you made decisions with the consciousness and the tools and the trauma and the conditioning and the patterns and the awareness that you had at the time. So you've got to be able to realize that and realize, well, yeah, something that you did 20 years ago, you have grown a lot since then and you do, hindsight is 2020. Maybe you should have made a different decision, but you didn't. What happened, happened, it could not have happened any other way because it didn't. That's one of my favorite quotes. So healing is not forgetting. Healing is a gift that you give yourself so that you can have more space for the good things in life. And then number 10, the 10th habit that I want you do every single day, read 10 pages a day. In a world that is, that is, you know, has such fractured focus, reading teaches your brain to stay for these 10 pages. 10 pages a day feel small, but it compounds. That's 3,650 pages a year. Like, depending on the books, that's like 10 to 15 books a year.

reading also gives your mind like better ingredients. If your inputs are garbage into your brain, your thoughts are usually going to smell like garbage, right? Reading expand your perception. One of the things that makes people excited is by learning something new. A lot of times when people feel like stuck in a rudder, they don't know what they're doing with themselves, they just haven't grown. And when you read something new and it expands your mind in some sort of way, it makes you feel like you're growing. It makes you feel like you're moving in a good direction. And you can start to actually, you know, you can challenge your beliefs. You can learn more. You can make yourself more emotionally intelligent. You can make yourself more intellectually

intelligent. Like a really good book is like a conversation with somebody's highest quality thinking. Have you ever thought about that before? Like nobody puts their worst quality thoughts in there. And so if you're reading from somebody who is one of the smartest people who's ever lived, it's like having a conversation with that person's highest quality thinking. Ten pages a day is how you slowly install better software into your brain. So those are the 10 habits I want you to try every single day. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it with someone that you know and love. And I am also running a free live Zoom lesson for anyone who knows that they're capable of more, but they keep getting in their own way. I'm going to

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