The Mindset Mentor - 3 Steps to Breakthrough Mental Barriers

Episode Date: February 17, 2022

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Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dyle. And if you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you enjoy this podcast, please do me a massive favor. Take 30 seconds, pull out your phone, go to podcasts, Apple podcasts, iTunes, however you listen to us and give us a rating and review. The way that this works is the more ratings and reviews that we get that are positive, the more that they will show this organically to more people and so the podcast grows. So if you love it, please do me a favor, go ahead and do that. And I greatly, greatly appreciate you for it. Today, we're going to be talking about

three different steps to break through your mental barriers. And I'm going to actually teach this to you through a story. And there's this guy I've been following now for a little while. I found him through Jesse Itzler, who is the guy who had David Goggins live with him years ago. And this guy's name is Chad Wright. And he became friends, Jesse became friends with Chad. And he started posting him on his Instagram stories. And I was like, this guy's like a freak of nature. And he would do these crazy, first off, he's a Navy SEAL. He's a marathon runner. And when he was 19 years old, he was going through Navy SEAL training and they found a cyst on his heart, which was a cyst that would do nothing if he just lived a normal

life. And they said though, but when you're a Navy SEAL, you have to go really deep and the pressure might actually make the cyst explode on his heart. So we don't think that you could be a Navy SEAL because of that, but you can live a normal life. There'll be absolutely no problems as long as you just don't do any deep dives. But he wanted to be a Navy SEAL so bad, he went and got a cyst removed off of his heart that would not kill him in normal everyday life so that he could become a Navy SEAL. And now, now that he's not a Navy SEAL anymore, he was a Navy SEAL for 12 years, he became an ultra marathon runner. So this guy does like 35 hour endurance races and he races like hundreds of miles. And it's like 100 to 150 mile races nonstop for like, you know, a day and a half, two days sometimes. And what's crazy is

you see him when he's racing all these people and everybody else looks like they're struggling. And this guy looks like it's just another walk in the park. And you're like, why is this guy not going back? How is he not going through all of the exact same pain that these people are going through? It doesn't seem like it affects him in any sort of way. And the story that he tells is Jesse went up to him and he was like, hey, I've got this friend who he's been running for a while and he just can Jesse went up to him and he was like, hey, I've got this friend who, you know, he's been running for a while and he just can't get himself to run past five miles. Do you think that you could help him? And, you know, he'd get to five miles, five and a half miles, and his

endurance would drop and he would get too tired and then he would start to get sore. And he said, hey, can you, Chad, can you take this guy out running and just see if maybe you can help him run a little bit further because he wants to run further than five miles. And he said, hey, Chad, can you take this guy out running and just see if maybe you can help him run a little bit further because he wants to run further than five miles. And he said, yes, I will. But there's three things that he has to do. And he has to do these. And as long as he listens to me and does everything that I say and does these three things, he can run with me.

And I'm going to cover what those three things are with you today. And we're going to go through them. But here's what's crazy. Let me just give you the information on it. The guy had never run more than five miles. And he got him through these three things that I'm about to give you to run over 100 miles that day. There was no extra training. There was no, you know, hey, we're going to do this for six months and then we're going to run again. He got him to go from five miles to over a hundred miles, which shows that more than anything else, it wasn't even necessarily a physical thing that was holding this guy back. It was more of a mental thing that was holding this guy back. And so I'm going to go through what these three things are,

because I think each one of these points will be very valuable for everyone out there. The first thing that he said to him is, if you're going to run with me, there's something that I need you to repeat over and over again, like a story that's stuck or a song that's stuck inside of your head. And he just say it over and over and over again. And those words were, I will never quit. So he made the guy say from the beginning, I will, in his head and out loud, I'll never quit. I will never quit. I will never quit. As he was running. And so with every step, with every movement of his body, it was I will never quit. I will never quit. I will never quit. your body will respond to the voice that's inside of your head. It's that simple.

Your body responds to the voice that's inside of your head. Your body is a collection of 50 trillion cells. 50 trillion cells. And they all listen to one central voice. And that voice is the voice that's inside of your head. And so the reason why this is super important is because of the fact that you have to realize that if you're all 50 trillion of yourselves are listening to you say,

I will never quit. I to you say, I will never quit. I will never quit. I will never quit over and over and over again. Then that central voice is going to drive them to work harder, to keep going and to not even think about giving up. And you might be out there and be like, oh, that sounds kind of woo-woo-y and this kind of sounds kind of out there. Well, let's talk about this in a scientific, actual health way, okay? How powerful is it? There's something called the placebo effect.

If you've never heard of the placebo effect, people talk about it, but they don't really let it sink into them of how powerful this thing is. The placebo effect is simply somebody thinks they're healed from some medical issue that they have. And the thought alone is what heals them. And one third of all medical healings can be attributed to the placebo effect.

There is nothing else that heals at the capacity that the placebo effect does. One third of all medical healings come from the placebo effect, which is simply, hey, this person has some sort of sickness. And a lot of times what they're doing is if they're in a study, they have them go and they give them a sugar pill. They say, this pill is the cure for XYZ disease that you have. You just have to take it two times a day, every single day for the next three months, whatever it is. And the person takes it, not knowing that the pill is literally just a sugar pill. It does nothing to them. But because of the fact that they're doing this over and over again and thinking to themselves, this pill is healing. They're not consciously doing this on purpose. Subconsciously, like,

this pill is, this is healing me. This is healing me. This is healing me. It's going in the back of their head subconsciously. What happens is because of that central voice, the cells, the body actually starts to get rid of the disease and actually starts to heal itself, right? So how often do we say, you know, if you're in a workout, how often do you say something like, I don't know if I can do this? Or, oh man, I'm getting so tired. Or, you know what, this might be too heavy for me, but I'll try. I'll try it. I don't know if I can do it. How often do we say those types of things? I don't know if I could do it. That might be too much weight. How much do we say then other parts of our life, not just working out? Oh, I don't know if I can do that. Yeah,

you know, I don't know if I'm going to have enough energy to do that. I don't know if I'm going to be strong enough to do that. I don't know if I'm going to, I don't know if I'm smart enough to go ahead and do that thing. Switch it to instead, instead of, I don't know if I can, or it might be too heavy, or I'll try. And don't even say to yourself, like, I'm going to get 10 reps. What if you just said to yourself, I will never quit. And you just go and you don't count the reps and you just go, go, go, go, go. And when your body gives out is when your body gives out. I guarantee that if you're like, I want to get 10 reps, you'll probably get eight, nine, maybe 10 reps. But if you say, I will never quit, I will never quit, I will never quit, you'll probably get eight, nine, maybe 10 reps. But if you say, I will never quit, I will never quit, I will never quit, you'll probably get 11, 12, 13, maybe even more.

And so switch to I will never quit anytime that you're working out or switch to I will never quit whenever you're trying to work hard. Whenever you have a late night, when you're trying to get ahead in your brand new business, just think, I will never quit. I will never quit. When things get hard inside of your business, I will never quit. When things get hard inside of your relationships, I will never quit. I will never quit. And see how that simply starts to change the way that you think about your circumstances and the way that you're working through whatever it is that you're working through. So that was the first thing that he had him do to go from five miles to 100 miles. That's the first thing. I will never quit.

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all of that. But what he says is don't give your pain a voice. All too often, what I find is that people focus on what they don't want like 95% more than they focus on what they do want. And so a lot of times if we take the, I will not give my pain a voice, instead of thinking about the ankle that hurts you or the muscle that's sore, just think to yourself, I will never quit and start thinking about something else besides the pain. Don't think about your pain. Don't think about your pain. Don't talk about your pain. Now, you might say to yourself, well, that sounds like it's a little bit crazy.

What if you actually physically hurt yourself? Well, another ultramarathon runner who you've probably heard of before and I spoke about a few minutes ago, David Goggins, says something that's called the law of 40% that he's made up. And he's come to find that when you mentally think like, I cannot go any further, like if you're running and you're like, I can't go any further. And you think that in your head and you feel like you have literally hit 100% capacity of what your body can do.

He said, you're only about 40% of the way to what you can actually do. Because what happens is your brain has a mechanism for safety reasons to say, okay, we're done. So you don't go any further so that you don't hurt yourself. But if you stop at that point, you're only at about 40% of your capacity. And so the reason why not giving your pain a voice is so important is because then you're not focusing on what you don't want. You're not focusing on the negative. You're not focusing on the thing that doesn't empower you. And so when we say don't give your pain a voice, and you actually think about that, it means stop focusing on the things that you don't want.

Stop focusing on the things that are holding you back. Stop focusing on the things that you lack. Stop focusing on the things that you don't have or you don't want anymore. You used to have, but you don't need. Stop focusing on all of those things that are not the things that you want and start focusing on the things

that you do want more than anything else. And so you have to understand, number one, more than anything else, you so you have to understand, number one, more than anything else, you have to say to yourself all the time over and over and over again, I will never quit. And number two, don't give your pain a voice. And then number three, which goes along with number two, and it's kind of the replacement for number two, is he had him say something out loud to each other, something that they were grateful for every single hour and start to think about that thing throughout the hour. So every hour, they would stop, and they would sit there, and they would say, hey, tell me something that you're grateful for.

And they would look at each other, and they would say, I'm grateful for this. What are you grateful for? I'm grateful for this. And they would actually focus on what it is that they're grateful for. So instead of giving their pain a voice, they would actually sit there and start to think of something that they were grateful for in their lives. So instead of giving their pain, the thoughts and the energy, and I would imagine if you're running a hundred miles and you're at mile 50 and your foot starts to hurt, then you start thinking about the pain and thinking about the pain and thinking about the pain. The thinking about the pain makes it worse. And then it makes it worse. And then it makes it worse. So instead of sitting there and

actually thinking about all of the pain that you're in, why don't you think about something that you're grateful for, right? Instead of thinking about your pain or how far it is that you still have to run or that you might not be able to do it, why don't you just think of something that you're grateful for in your life? Oh, you know what I'm grateful for is I'm grateful for my spouse. Okay. Then instead of thinking about the pain, focus on your spouse and focus on running and saying to yourself, I will never quit. I will never quit. I will never quit.

And as you're thinking about that, allow the feelings and allow the thoughts of how grateful you are for your spouse to go with you for the next hour, right? Now, maybe you're not going for a run, but how can you use this to switch your brain off of something that you don't want to something that you are grateful for, right? Then you can say, okay, say that you are going for a run, but how can you use this to switch your brain off of something that you don't want to something that you are grateful for? Right? Then you can say, okay, say that you are going

for a run. Cool. In this run, what else can you say that you're grateful for? Okay. After the, after the next hour, oh my God, you know, you might feel that feeling of my calf is really starting to hurt. It's this thing. It's bugging me. My calf is hurting, but what's another thing that I'm grateful for? I'm grateful for the business that I have. I'm grateful for the people that are in my business. I'm grateful for all the employees. I'm grateful for this person and this person, this person in my business. I'm grateful for this person. I can't believe I'm so blessed to be able to do this. I'm grateful for this person, this person, this person. Okay. Next hour. Okay. What am I grateful for? I'm grateful for my dogs. Okay. I'm grateful for my dogs. I'm grateful for my dogs. I'm grateful for my dogs.

And you start to think about that. And what happens is you allow yourself to feel the endorphins and the oxytocin, the things that are released when you're thinking about what you're grateful for. And you're allowing those chemicals to flow through your body versus when you're thinking about how much pain you're in. And you're thinking about, I don't know if I can make it anymore. I don't know if I can go any further. Your brain's releasing completely different chemicals. It's releasing stress chemicals. It's releasing stress chemicals. It's releasing cortisol. It's releasing adrenaline.

And it sends out, you know, every single thought that you have sends out some sort of chemical reaction in your body. Every one of them does. So what chemical reactions are happening throughout your body every single day? What are your thoughts sending out? Are you thinking to yourself, oh my gosh, I can't believe that they did that for me. I can't believe that this, I can't believe my boss is this. I can't believe I work at this stupid place. Or are you grateful and you think

about what you're grateful for and you don't give your pain a voice. It's not saying that you don't work through the things that you need to work through, but what it's saying is that you're using this to actually be in charge of the thoughts that come into your head so that you can be in charge of the chemicals that are released into your body so that you can be in charge of the thoughts that come into your head so that you can be in charge of the chemicals that are released into your body so that you can be in charge of how you feel. So therefore you can take advantage of taking your life head on and working through the things that you need to work through

to then create the life that you want. And so if you want to go from five miles, I would love to hear people go through this. I'm not giving any tips on how to run a hundred miles because I've never run a hundred miles. But when you start to think about this guy, you realize, man, those are three simple things, but you can see how powerful they are. They were able to help a guy go from five miles to 100 miles. If you're a runner, try this out and send

me a message on Instagram and just let me know how it works for you. Number one, say, I will never quit over and over and over and over and over again. Number two, don't give your pain a voice. And number three, replace the voice that would normally go to the pain and think about something that you're grateful for every single hour. Send me a message on Instagram if you're a runner and you do this and let me know what your longest that you would ever run was and how much further you went whenever you do this as well. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories

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