The Mindset Mentor - 3 Ways to Be Impeccable

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Starting point is 00:01:11 helping you be more impeccable. And all of it starts with something that I call follow through. I remember when I was, how old was I? I was about 23, 24 years old. I opened up my first office for the company that I worked for. And I used to train hundreds and hundreds of salespeople. And they used to, the thing that I would notice is that people had this excitement than when they would first start working for a company. And then they would want to do something and they would say, hey, this is my goal. My goal is to do 100 phone calls, whatever it is. But then they'd only do like 20, 25, 30, whatever it was. And I noticed that people just kept coming up short, coming up short, coming up short in

Starting point is 00:01:51 everything they did. Now that's not every single person, but it was just many, like the vast majority of people I noticed come up short in everything that they do. They say, I want to work out every single day for the next 30 days. And then they stop after five. And then they say, I want to work out every single day for the next 30 days. And then they stop after five. And then they say, you know what? I want to take a cold shower every day for the next 30 days. And they stop after two. And they're good at starting most of the time. They're excited to start. Everything new is fun and exciting when you first do it. But then people are really, really bad at following through. I was so obsessed with this idea of following through that I literally made a giant sign so that when you walked out of my office, it said, follow through. And I would

Starting point is 00:02:30 preach to people about the importance of following through, the importance of holding yourself accountable, the importance of being on time when you're supposed to, the importance of doing what it is that you say you're going to do. And that's what it really comes down to with being impeccable is every single action that you do, especially the actions when there's no one else watching, really, really matter. A lot of people send me messages on Instagram. They're like, hey, Rob, how do I build more confidence? As if there's like a book that you can read on confidence or as if there's like a course you could take on confidence. The way that you build more confidence is by doing what you say you're going to do, especially when there's no one else around but you. Because you are watching yourself

Starting point is 00:03:08 at every single moment that you, every single thing that you do. So many people will put themselves on hold and their goals on hold in order to do something for somebody else. When in reality, if you say, hey, I'm going to do this today and it's for yourself, there's always someone that's watching and that's you. And so if you're not showing up and you're not showing up and you're not showing up, you're making your confidence worse and worse and worse. How do you make your confidence better? When you say you're going to do something, you do it. When you say you're going to do something, you do it. When you say you're going to do something, you do it. And if you keep showing up for yourself over and over and over and over again, it's just natural that you're going to

Starting point is 00:03:47 start getting confidence. That's just the way that it works. It's doing what you say you're going to do. It's being on time. It's holding yourself accountable. It's following through on the things that you start. And so we're going to talk about how to be impeccable in many different aspects of your life today. Doing what you say you're going to do is a big part of them, today. Doing what you say you're going to do is a big part of them, not backing out of your plans. Don't confirm yourself for anything until you're 100% sure. There's one thing that I notice with a lot of people nowadays is that people tend to be really, really bad at showing up when they say they're going to. I don't know about you, I don't want to be seen as one of those people who doesn't show up for their friends that says they're going to do something and they don't. I've mentioned this on the podcast before, but, you know, we have a friend who she will message,

Starting point is 00:04:30 she's my fiance's friend, and she'll message me like, hey girl, what are you doing this week? It's like nothing, you know, we should go get dinner. They've planned dinner like three or four times and the day of, my fiance's friend always cancels. And it's like, you can see the trust be broken, and you can see the trust be broken. You can see the trust be broken. My fiance's like, I'm just not going to text her anymore. If she wants to show up and start texting me, she can. Right? So you could see the trust actually being broken like that. And so you've got to ask yourself, are you one of those people who makes plans and then doesn't show up to plans or cancels them right before? Right? When you say you're going to do something, do you actually follow through and do it? It's better to be a maybe instead of a yes. That's

Starting point is 00:05:09 what I would say. A maybe is much better than a yes that turns into a no. When you say yes and then continually cancel on people, you start to break people's trust. And we all know that trust is really hard to build back after it's broken. People will stop asking you or counting on you and find someone else. And I get it. Things happen. Sometimes you have to reschedule things. Sometimes you get sick. Sometimes the car isn't working. You can't get there. Completely understand. But you have to start to really realize how important your word is and how to be more impeccable with each thing that you do. People want to hang out with people who they want to be around and they can actually put their trust in them that they know will be there, right? That's one of the biggest things of friendship is loyalty. Will somebody be there when you call them?

Starting point is 00:05:54 So that's a part of it. What's another part of it? Being late. Try to never be late if possible. Plan to leave as if the traffic is horrible all the time. Showing a blade is one of the biggest punches in the face to someone that you're going out to meet, right? Now, do things happen? Absolutely. Understandable. But if it's happening over and over and over and over and over again, you have to realize time is a non-renewable resource. Money is a renewable resource. You can always make more money, but you can't always get more time. I'd rather have someone steal my money from me than steal time from me because I'm never going to get that time back. And so you've got to start thinking about the way that you're showing up to everything that you do, the way that you're showing up for the people around you, the way that you're showing up for yourself. If showing up on time makes you

Starting point is 00:06:40 reliable, what does showing up late make you? It makes you unreliable. And people don't normally sit there and think, oh, well, she's unreliable. He's unreliable, all that stuff. But it comes back to, once again, can we be impeccable with everything that we do? Can we be impeccable with our words? And can we be impeccable with our actions? Especially because you have to realize that every single thing that you do relates to every single thing that you do as well. So every little tiny thing that you do, like putting a dish away, the way you do one thing is the way you do everything. If you immediately put that dish away, you take care of it, there's probably other parts of your life where you're taking care of things that need to be taken care

Starting point is 00:07:16 of. But if you're not, you're probably, you know, people will be like, this is kind of ridiculous to use this example, but you know, if you're making your bed, are you making your bed as soon as you wake up? Are you putting a dish away as soon as you get done? If you get started, start getting into the habit of doing what needs to be done when it's done, it starts to permeate into other places in your life. So if you're, you know, not making the bed when you wake up, if you're not putting the dishes away, if you're, you know, cleaning and you you decide, yeah, I'll just do this a little bit later. You're putting something off for another time. I guarantee there's other, if you're coming up short in all of those aspects of your life, I guarantee you're coming up short other places in your life. You're coming up short in your relationships. You're coming up

Starting point is 00:07:57 short in your business. You're coming up shorter in your friendships. So you have to start thinking about being impeccable with every single thing that you do because the way you do one thing is the way You do everything but The most important I don't think I can hammer this home enough the most important Is when no one is watching Because that is when you build confidence or destroy your confidence If you don't follow through for yourself when no one else is watching you're going to destroy your confidence

Starting point is 00:08:23 But ultimately it boils down to three different things. Hey, if you're the type of person who's always thinking about a new business idea or wondering, what's my next side hustle that I should spin up? You should check out the podcast, My First Million. The host Sean Puri and Sam Parr have each built eight-figure businesses and sold them to Amazon and HubSpot. And each week, they brainstorm business ideas that you can start tomorrow. These can be side hustles that can make you a few grand a month, a big billion dollar idea, or anything in between.

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Starting point is 00:09:12 So make sure to check out My First Million. That's My First Million on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to your podcasts. The first thing that it boils down to is your integrity. Your inner integrity, but also your outer integrity. Your inner integrity, but also your outer integrity. See, you have to realize that people see how much integrity you do or do not have. They're not consciously thinking about it at all points in time, but people want to be around people with integrity. People want to be around people they can trust. And let's be honest, we all know people who have integrity. We all know people who don't.

Starting point is 00:09:45 And I guarantee the people that you spend the most time with are the ones that are good people, that have the right integrity, that have the right morals. People want to be treated well. If you're around someone with integrity, you know you're going to be treated well. So saying that you're going to do something and then backing out is a little bit of a dip in your integrity. Saying that you're going to be somewhere at a certain time and not being there at that time or canceling last minute shows a lack of integrity. So you got to start looking in your life and say, okay, if integrity is important, which hopefully integrity is important for you listening to this, how can I have more integrity in every single thing that I do? How can I just have more integrity in every single thing that I

Starting point is 00:10:23 do? And you start to look at different aspects of your life. More integrity in your business. Are you doing what's right for your customers? More integrity in relationships. Are you doing what's right in showing up for the people who need you? More integrity in every single aspect. More integrity in your, you know, your working out and taking care of your body. More integrity in every single thing that you do.

Starting point is 00:10:41 If you can start looking at all the areas of your life and say, hey, how can I have more integrity? You will show up more impeccably in every single thing that you do. If you can start looking at all the areas of your life and say, hey, how can I have more integrity? You will show up more impeccably in every single thing that you do. So that's the first piece is integrity. The second thing is reliability. People want to surround themselves with people who are reliable.

Starting point is 00:10:54 Like I said, a few minutes ago, time is a non-renewable resource. So people don't want to, you know, if you don't show up and you don't show up, you don't show up, you're a little bit unreliable, a little bit unreliable, people will start to expect the unreliability from you. And people sometimes would rather just hang out with someone who is reliable. No one wants to be known

Starting point is 00:11:12 as unreliable. So now start looking at other aspects of your life. Where have you been unreliable? And where is your life calling you to be more reliable? You know, if you look at your business, if you look at your friendships, if you look at your romantic relationship, if you look at your relationship with your children, if you look at your relationship with your body, how can you be more reliable in all facets of your life? Because once again, the way you do one thing is the way you do everything. So how can you just show up more impeccably and more reliably in every single aspect of your life? Where can you be more reliable? Where is your life calling you to be more reliable? That's the second thing. And the third thing is respect. People want to be respected.

Starting point is 00:11:53 They don't want someone who gives them their word and then comes back on their word. That shows a lack of respect. And once you start losing someone's respect, it's hard to gain it back. It's like a glass ball that's dropped onto the ground over and over again. Each time you drop, it's going to chip, it's going to chip, it's going to chip. And once those chip, it'll never be the same again. You could try to put those pieces back, but it'll never be the same. And so you have to think about the respect. Once you disrespect someone, their trust for you will never be the same. It'll be really, really hard to gain it all back. Now you've also got to think this as well. How about integrity in your own mind? How about reliability in your own mind? How about respect in your own mind? How do all of these

Starting point is 00:12:31 things relate to the way that you actually work with just yourself alone? So we've talked about the relationship with you and other people and your impeccability, but how about the relationship with you and yourself? This is one of the things that I think people miss a lot is, am I showing up and I'm being in a full integrity for myself? Am I being fully reliable for myself? Am I fully respecting myself? So if we go back to like reliability, let's say for instance, that you're supposed to be doing a workout from 6 to 7 PM. And then something comes up. Do you still do that workout for yourself, even though no one else is watching, or do you go do that other thing that came up? Are you being fully reliable to yourself? Are you doing what you say you're going to do when

Starting point is 00:13:15 it comes down to your own self? Because ultimately, the relationship that matters the most in this world is the relationship that you have with yourself. And if you continue to break trust, you continue to stop being, to not be reliable for yourself, you continue to not be respectful of yourself, you continue to not be of integrity of yourself, you're going to start realizing that you're letting yourself down. You're going to stop relying on yourself as much. And that is the way that you actually start to destroy your own confidence. And so once again, going back to what I said a few minutes ago, there's no confidence book. There's no confidence course. If someone tells you all these things, there's no way to do it. Confidence comes from results and results come from action. And so you're either getting,

Starting point is 00:14:02 taking the right action or not, which then will either get you the right results or not, which will then either build your confidence or destroy it. And so you've got to start asking yourself the question, okay, if confidence comes from results and results come from action, it ultimately comes down to the actions that I take. What you say is not important. What you do is important. We've all heard this since we were kids, right? And so what are the actions that you're taking for yourself? So many people will put other people ahead of themselves. You've got to eventually realize that the better relationship you have with yourself, the better you take care of yourself, the more that you show

Starting point is 00:14:38 up for yourself, the more that you do what you say you're going to do for yourself, the more that's going to affect every single relationship that you have in your life. A lot of people are like, well, my children are the most important thing in my life. That's beautiful. But actually you're the most important thing in your life because the better you take care of yourself, the better parent that you are and the better that you raise those children. So the most important relationship you have is actually the relationship with yourself. That should be the most important thing in your life. I'm not saying leave your kids and don't feed them for the next couple of days because you're too busy to take care of yourself. That's not what

Starting point is 00:15:06 I'm saying. What I'm saying is when you realize that the most important person in your life is you and that you are the one that you're supposed to be focusing on and you are the one you're supposed to be taking care of, you take care of yourself. You will become a better person. You'll become a better parent. You will ultimately impact every single person who is in your sphere of influence. And that is where everything starts to change. But it comes down to realizing that you have to start being impeccable with doing what you say you're going to do, or showing up on time, with taking the actions that you need to, because the way you do one thing is the way you do everything. And your relationships with other people matter, and relationships with yourself matter as well. But you've got to start looking through everything

Starting point is 00:15:40 that you do and ask yourself, how can I be more impeccable with every single thing that I do? And it comes down to the three things that I said, integrity, reliability, and respect. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories and tag me in at RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. And please do me a massive favor right now, if you would, pop your phone out, go to Spotify, favor right now, if you would, pop your phone out, go to Spotify or go to Apple Podcasts and give this podcast a rating and review. It'll take you 15 seconds. You can give us however many stars you want to give us and you can type a quick review. The reason why is because the more people that actually go in and give us rating and reviews, the more that those platform, this is a popular podcast on this platform, we should show it to more people organically. I said this a few days ago, but we just had a massive spike one day, over 100% more downloads

Starting point is 00:16:29 in one day, simply because Spotify said, hey, this podcast seems to be doing really well. Maybe we should show it to more people. And that is how the podcast grows is from you guys helping us that way organically. So if you would please do that, I would greatly, greatly appreciate it from the bottom of my heart. And I'm going to leave the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission to make someone else's day better. I appreciate you and I hope that you have an amazing day.

The Mindset Mentor - 3 Ways to Be Impeccable

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