The Mindset Mentor - 3 Ways to Change Yourself

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Starting point is 00:02:03 Okay. So today, just so you guys know what I'm going to be talking about is something pretty interesting. I'm going to talk about how to change yourself. I'm going to give you the three tips that I feel are important. There's many tips, but these are three tips that off the top of my, and I thought, you know what, these are really important. Um, and these are based off of, of conversations I've been having the past few days. Um, and I've been thinking about them. I'm like, man, you know, this has become a really good podcast episode if I were to talk about these. The three ways to change yourself, change your mind. First way, I'll just dive straight into it, is to do something different. You guys may have heard me preach this,

Starting point is 00:02:38 you know, years ago. I used to talk about this all the time. Do things that make you uncomfortable. Do things that you've never done before. You know, instead of taking, you know, if you think about how routine our lives are, like I talked about the 60 day challenge, a 60 day iron mind challenge, the iron mind 60, the reason why we're doing is to do something different than we're used to always doing, right? That's what we're going to be doing. That's the point of it. How often do we wake up? We, you know, brush our teeth the same way. We take the exact same way to doing. That's the point of it. How often do we wake up? We brush our teeth the same way. We take the exact same way to work. We eat the same thing for breakfast. We talk to the same people, sit in the same place, drive home the same way from work, watch TV, watch the same shows.

Starting point is 00:03:18 Maybe for those of you guys that are in Game of Thrones or disappointed now you have nothing to watch, but you have something else you're trying to find. You're trying to find a new show to watch. You're watching the same shows. You're eating the same dinners that you've been eating for years and years and years. You go to bed at the same time. You wake up at the same time. It's just the same thing over and over and over again. If you're trying to change yourself, wouldn't it make sense if you're going to change yourself that you should change the things that you do? I mean, that makes sense when you think of it, right? But then ask yourself, how long have you been trying to change yourself? And how long have you been doing all of the exact

Starting point is 00:03:49 same things that you're currently doing? Right? It would make sense if you're going to change yourself, you should change the things that you do. So why not wake up at a different time? Try a different morning routine. Do a different workout. Eat a different breakfast. Take a different way to work, sit at a different part of the office if possible, hang out with different people for lunch, take someone out to lunch that you, you know, haven't felt that you've connected with, that you connect with deeper, you know, take a different way home from work, don't watch any TV, maybe read a book instead, find some exotic restaurant that you've never eaten at and go out and take your wife or your

Starting point is 00:04:23 husband or your spouse or your kids or whoever it is there. Why not do different things? The only way to actually become a different person is to start doing different things. If you keep doing the same things over and over and over again, if you're stuck in these habits and patterns and loops that are exactly the same, then your today is going to look exactly like yesterday. And if your today looks like yesterday, then your tomorrow is probably to look exactly like yesterday. And if your today looks like yesterday, then your tomorrow is probably going to look like six weeks ago. It's going to be the same thing. It could look like six years ago. So the first way to change yourself, to change your mind is to do something different. Go to a networking group. Stop hanging out with the

Starting point is 00:05:00 same people. I'm not saying don't hang out with your friends anymore, but I'm saying, how about you meet new people that make you start thinking differently about the world that make you, you know, what really helped me out when I first started working and getting online and doing all this, my pot, like the podcast was the very first thing that I did online is I started going to a lot of networking groups. And I started going to a group here in Austin called the internet marketing party, which, uh, now I'm good friends with the owner. And the Internet Marketing Party is just a group of people who make money online and they get together and there's always a speaker every single time. And then they hang out in a bar, they have some drinks and all that stuff. And even though I didn't drink,

Starting point is 00:05:39 very rarely did I drink at that time, still drink sometimes. I would still show up and go. And even though networking is super awkward and I hate networking. It actually ended up being one of, you know, I would say one of the catalysts for me getting to be as, you know, quote unquote successful as I am now. Because I was able to meet people who expanded my mindset to see what was possible. When was the last time you met somebody new that expanded your mindset of what is possible for yourself or for the world and to give you new ideas? You know, that's one of the things that I thought was really interesting is, you know, if you listen back to when I interviewed, I'm trying to remember his name, Jeff Hoffman,

Starting point is 00:06:23 the guy who started Priceline.com. He's a billionaire. He does something called info sponging. If you haven't heard that episode, go back and listen to the interview with him of info sponging. He's constantly trying to learn something that has absolutely nothing to do with what he does to see if he can take ideas. And he learned this from one of the guys who sold his company to McDonald's and made millions and millions of dollars. You know, he's one of the guys who, the guy who basically invented the drive-thru. You know, he learned it. And the guy who learned, who invented the drive-thru got the idea from hanging out in other industries and meeting people he had never met before, right? What do you need to do? Number one, first way to change your mind and to change

Starting point is 00:07:04 yourself is to do something different. So I have a question for you right now before I go on to number two and number three. What are you going to do today that's different than yesterday? Pick one thing. Think about it for a second. I'm going to give you just a second. As I'm still speaking, I want you to think about it. What's the one thing that you will commit to yourself today? Commit to yourself right now. Say it out loud. Say, I commit to blank today. Ready? I'm going to give you time. Say it out loud right now. I know you probably didn't say it out loud. Listen, I know. I'm in your car. I'm in your headphones. Inside of those headphones that you're listening to me on, there's a mic. I can tell that you're not doing it. Say it right now. Today, I commit to

Starting point is 00:07:45 blank. That's the commitment that I want you to stick to. Can you do something different today? And just see what happens. And like I did on last episode, where I talk about cold showers and stuff, and I read all of your emails. Thank you so much for sending your emails. It was so cool to read your information about the cold showers and how much it's changed. Even over the past couple of days, it's just changed a lot of things for you guys. And you guys have started thinking outside of the box and you've realized the benefit of pushing yourself and how much better you felt about yourself after you pushed yourself. So if you have something different that you do today, send me an email, rob at mwfmotivation.com. Send me an email and let me know what it is that's different and what you got from it. Like if you did something different today, tomorrow, send me an email.

Starting point is 00:08:30 And if it was life-changing or if it was something that was a big aha moment, send me an email. I want to know what it was that you did that was different that really made a massive impact in your life. Cool. So that's number one is to do something different. Number two of how to change your mind and change yourself is to push yourself. This is the interesting thing. So I have family in town right now. A couple of my aunts and my mom are in town. We've been hanging out the past few days. And yesterday, my girlfriend, you know, she was talking to them and I had gone downstairs to go take out our dog. And I come back and my family is like, hey, tell us about this Iron Mind 60 thing,

Starting point is 00:09:05 this challenge that you're doing. And I was like, okay. So I started telling them about it. And one of my aunts was like, clearly her face was like, hell no. Her face was like, kind of like, oh, that's cool for you, but hell no. And then she asked the question and she said, when did you become a fitness guru? And I said, no, no, no, no. I don't think you don't. I don't think you understand. You know, I'm the whole iron mind 60 thing has nothing to do with fitness. Although we're going to be working out every single day, your body, as much as it will change is secondary, right? Your body is secondary. What is first, the biggest thing that we're focusing on

Starting point is 00:09:45 is creating the iron mind, creating the mindset to do things that you don't want to do, even when you don't want to do them at the times that you're really struggling, right? I know over the next, you know, over the 60 day iron mind 60 challenge, I know I'm going to wake up. I had a coaching call today with one of my clients. I know on day 20 or 21 or 27, I'm going to wake up and be like, ah, damn it. I really don't want to do this. And I'm probably going to say a lot more cuss words than that. I'll be like, I don't want to do this. I don't want to do this. But having the group of people that I am personally accountable to, that I have to put a video up every single day for 60 days, is going to push me to have to get it done, right? It has nothing to do with the working out. It has

Starting point is 00:10:32 everything to do with the mind that I create. So if you want to change yourself, you need to push yourself, right? You need to push yourself past where you currently are. And the way I always explain it, you guys have heard me say mountaintops, and I'll do a whole episode on reaching mountaintops. The mountaintop that you're at now, you wouldn't have been able to make the amount of money that you have or be able to withstand the amount of pressure that you get put on and work and all those things five years ago. And that's because you weren't as wise. You weren't as expanded as a human as you are right now, right? You have expanded your capacity. The point of pushing yourself is to expand your capacity. I know that if I had 40 hours in a week and Elon Musk had 40 hours in a week,

Starting point is 00:11:28 Elon Musk would get more done in 40 hours than I would in 40 hours. Why? Because he has expanded his capacity crazy amounts over the years. He started PayPal, I think like in the 90s. I think he sold it in like 99 or something like that. Whatever it was, he's been expanding himself for a very long time. The only way to change yourself, or not the only way, but one of the only ways to change yourself is to push yourself, to break out. What I always say is the mind is not like a rubber band. You pull a rubber band and it goes back. The mind is like a plastic bag. If you've ever pulled a plastic bag, it never goes back to the same size. It's now bigger than it was before. That's what we're trying to do through the Iron

Starting point is 00:12:10 Mind 60. That's what I'm trying to do through this podcast. That's what I'm trying to do when I say push yourself. It has nothing to do with your body. Your body is secondary. Will you have a great body after the Iron Mind 60? There's a pretty damn good chance you will. Maybe the best body you've ever had, but it has absolutely nothing. I'm not a fitness guru. I'm not going to tell you what diet to stick to. I'm not going to give you the exercises, any of those things. I'm going to be the freaking person that keeps this thing that's in between your ears on the right track so that you don't fall off of it because it's about building the mind over anything else. So you have to push yourself in order to build that mind. And the third thing, God, this one is big. God, this one is so freaking big, especially in this day and age.

Starting point is 00:12:50 The third thing to change your mind, to change yourself is to do this, accept other people's opinions. Okay. I had this conversation today at lunch with my family. I had this conversation tonight at dinner because they brought it back up because of how eye-opening the conversation was at lunch. And I said that in this day and age, it is so hard for other people, for people to listen to someone else's opinion and not be offended by it. For you to hear somebody else's side and go, you know what? I see it differently, but I accept yours. Not, no, no, no, you're wrong because this, this, this, and I'm right because this, this, this, and to stand up there in our soap boxes. But to realize that if somebody's a Democrat and you're a Republican, they're not wrong and you're not right. Maybe you're both

Starting point is 00:13:44 right in certain ways. Maybe there is no right or wrong. Oh, you ever thought about that one? Maybe somebody has a different life than you. If you're a Democrat and someone's a Republican, you're not right and they're not wrong. There is no right or wrong. It's just all different ways of viewpoints. It's, you know, it's ways that were raised, you know? So if you're going to really change your mind and change yourself, start putting yourself in other people's shoes. And this is something I said today. One thing that the job that I have and the thousands and thousands, tens of thousands of people that I've interacted with over the past few years, you know, the past decade is that I have gone from a not very compassionate person,

Starting point is 00:14:23 because I will admit I wasn't very compassionate with people. I was like, yeah, just fix your problems. Get off your tail and freaking fix your problems. That's the way I used to be. I have so much compassion for people because it's like the quote says, everybody that you meet is fighting a battle that you know nothing about. You don't know where someone's coming from, right? You don't know what their background is. You don't know what's happening to them at home. So if their opinion doesn't match up with your opinion, I got an idea for you. Shut up and just listen to their opinion and go, you know what? That's interesting. I see to see it. I choose to see it differently, but I accept your opinion. Not you're wrong and I'm

Starting point is 00:14:59 right. That's interesting. I choose to see, you know, I choose to think differently But I could put myself in your shoes and realize that you know Had I been raised the same way as you i'd probably been thinking the same thing Had I had the same life as you you don't know what people are going through man. People are going through so much crap guys i'm telling you i've I've heard things i've talked to people And sometimes I just when i'm get off the phone with people, like I literally can't help but not break down and cry for people because there's so much. I feel like from the outside looking in, some of you guys will listen and be like, yeah, Rob had a hard childhood.

Starting point is 00:15:33 And I literally look at my childhood and go, wow, I was so blessed to be able to have that childhood. Right. Because some people had bad childhood. Some people have bad current circumstances, had bad childhood. Some people have bad current circumstances, right? Accept others' opinions. You're not right and they're not wrong. It just is. So if you're looking to change your mind and change yourself, three things. Number one, do something different today. Number two, push yourself so far past your comfort zone. Make yourself uncomfortable. Number three, just accept people for who they are. Just love them for who they are. Don't try to change them, right?

Starting point is 00:16:12 Everybody's had a different path. Just love them for who they are. You can have a different opinion. It's okay to have a different opinion. You can still be friends with somebody and have different people that you vote for, different backgrounds, different ideas on what's right and what's wrong. You can still be friends and you can still accept them and still love them for who they are. So do something different. Push yourself past your comfort zone and love people

Starting point is 00:16:32 even if they don't see the things the same way that you do. So that's what I got for you today. Once again, if you want to sign up and join the wait list to get the information, I think it might be next Monday I'm going to make the full announcement. We just have to get the dates finalized because I'm traveling a lot. I'm going to Florida. Then I'm going to Mexico. Then I'm going to Las Vegas. Then I'm going to all these different places.

Starting point is 00:16:52 If you're interested in getting information, putting yourself on the wait list for the Iron Mind 60 Challenge, go to www.coachwithrob.com slash 60. Get your information there. But I'm going to leave you guys the same. We leave you every single episode. Make it your mission. Make someone else's day better. Appreciate you.

Starting point is 00:17:13 I love you all. And I hope that you have an amazing day.

The Mindset Mentor - 3 Ways to Change Yourself

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