The Mindset Mentor - 6 Steps To Take Control Of Your Life

Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And if you're out there and you love this podcast, please do me a favor. Give us a rating and review on whatever platform you listen to us on. The more positive rating reviews that we get, the more that those platforms like Spotify and Apple Podcasts actually show this podcast to people who have never listened to it before. So if you would do that and pay it forward, I would greatly, greatly appreciate it and would really help the show grow. Today, I'm going to be teaching you six different steps to taking back control of your life. And so I have, you know, I have about 500 and something thousand people that follow

Starting point is 00:00:47 me on Instagram and I get a lot of messages from people. And a lot of times it's, hey, Rob, I want to change my life. What should I do? And sometimes it's, hey, I'm in an absolute desperate place. Please tell me what I can do to change my life. And so whatever situation that you're in, you're probably listening to this podcast because there's a part of you that knows that you want to grow, you want to change, you want to become better, and you know that there is another level of yourself that is out there for you to grow and improve upon and become that version of yourself. And so no matter where you are in your life, whether you are just at rock bottom or, hey, shit's going pretty well. It's pretty awesome. It could be better. I'm going to give you six steps that you can use and just try and just

Starting point is 00:01:33 see how it works. And really, this is my tip for you. If you really want to make a massive change in your life, I want you to disappear for three months. Let me explain what I mean by that when I said disappear for three months. I mean, anything that is outside of things that are absolutely 100% necessary and things that you have to do, disappear from them. And so, you know, if you are a single person and you've got a job and you've got nothing else, then literally and you've got a job and you've got nothing else, then literally disappear and see nobody outside of the people that you absolutely need to see for three months. You can do anything for three months. It's not a huge deal. Just try it on. See how it works for you. Now, if you've got a family and you've got children, I'm not saying go rent an Airbnb and be away from your kids for

Starting point is 00:02:23 the next three months. What I'm saying is outside of your duties and your obligations, disappear. So disappear to everybody except for your spouse and your children or whatever it is that you happen to have to do. So it's like you could tell your friends like, hey, I'm disappearing for three months. I'm really going to work on myself. I'm really trying to improve myself. I just want you to be able to respect that. I'll call you in 90 days. How does that sound? I'm going going to work on myself. I'm really trying to improve myself. I just want you to be able to respect that. I'll call you in 90 days. How does that sound? I'm going to go over six different steps of what I think that you should do every single day without, there's no way, there's nothing else that you're doing besides this outside of this. You're disappearing.

Starting point is 00:03:00 You're putting this down. You're doing these six things and you're figuring out exactly what it is that you want to do in order to reset your life. It's kind of like, you know, the other day I was on my TV and I have the YouTube app on my TV and I was watching YouTube and there was some sort of glitch in the YouTube app. And I tried to change the channel, didn't work. I tried to turn my TV off, it didn't work.

Starting point is 00:03:21 So the only way to actually fix the problem was to do a hard reset, to unplug my TV, keep it unplugged for 20 seconds, plug it back in. Hard reset started working again. Some people listening to this podcast, you just need a hard reset on your life. So after 90 days, you come out of your cave after 90 days, your hibernation, and you're a different version of yourself. People think it takes a long time to change your life. It doesn't. It really doesn't. It just takes hard fucking dedication, which most people are not willing to do. So let's dive into it. The first thing I want you to do every single day is meditate. What does that look like to you? Well,

Starting point is 00:04:02 it could be 10 minutes per day. It could be 20 minutes per day. For me personally, I like to do at least 20 minutes per day. And the way that I like to think about it is I know that for me, for most people, it's pretty much proven at this point that you, when you wake up in the morning, your brain, your subconscious is the most influenceable. I don't know if influenceable is a word, but if it is, I just made, if it's not, I just made it up. the most influenceable. I don't know if influenceable is a word, but if it is, I just made, if it's not, I just made it up. It is the most influenceable within the first 15, 20 minutes of waking up. That is when your brain is still in theta state. And so what I like to do literally every single morning is what my morning looks like. Wake up, go to the bathroom. I brush my teeth. I get a glass of water. I sit on my couch. I put on YouTube and on YouTube, I look up 20

Starting point is 00:04:43 minute meditation music. So there's no guided meditation for me. I put on YouTube and on YouTube, I look up 20 minute meditation music. So there's no guided meditation for me. I just like the meditation music. I sit on my couch, my wife, my dog, we meditate for 20 minutes every single morning, first thing in the morning after going to bathroom, brushing teeth, drinking water. I recommend that you do it first thing in the morning without fail for the next 90 days in a row. Hard reset on your fears, your worries, your beliefs, and hard reset on the story that's happening in your head and starting to become more of a more calm and centered person. I like to look at meditation like lifting weights. You know, when you go into the gym, you can lift a little bit, right? But as you keep going and you keep

Starting point is 00:05:22 going a little bit more, a little bit more, a little bit more, a little bit more right? But as you keep going and you keep going a little bit more, a little bit more, a little bit more, a little bit more, the more that you lift heavier and the more consistent that you are, right? So it might be 10 minutes today. You do 10 minutes today for the next week. Then it might be 15 minutes for the next week. Then it might be 20 minutes for next week. It might be 30 minutes for the next week. You know, there's a point in time about five years ago and I was meditating for an hour every single morning. And I'm like, shit, I need to get back to that. I was really good at that point and went from 10 minutes to 15 to 20, 25, 30, 35, 40. And I got a little bit more, a little bit more, a little bit more. I'm at 20 now. I'm not mad about it, but I could go a little

Starting point is 00:05:58 bit longer as well. And so that's the first thing I want you to do. Hard reset. First thing in the morning, meditate. Second thing, make it a non-negotiable. And these six things should be non-negotiable if you really want a hard reset. Second thing is you need to work out or get some form of movement every single day. You have this amazing machine, this amazing system, this amazing body that you're born with.

Starting point is 00:06:21 And it reminds me of whenever I think about how people treat their bodies when I look out into society, and I've definitely been one of these people that did this before, is there's a line that Jimmy Buffett has that I remember from when I was a kid because my parents are really big Jimmy Buffett fans. And he says, I treat my body like a temple. You treat yours like a tent. Most people treat their body like a tent. They don't treat it to the level that they should. When you treat it like a temple, it's like, have you ever walked into a temple before? Like a really nice one? They're clean. They're perfect. They're serene. They're amazing.

Starting point is 00:06:55 Think of your body that way. Move it in some sort of way. Your body was made to move. Treat this thing the way it was retreated. Even if you're really overweight, move. Because as you start moving, it becomes easier to move. Go for a walk. Do some stretching. Do some air squats. Do some yoga. Go into a gym. Lift some heavy weights. Do whatever it is that you need to do to get your physical body moving. I said this a couple episodes ago, but I like to view the body as like a separate being outside of me. If I had a dog that was a puppy, it would be terrible to take that puppy and put it in a cage and keep it in mostly a cage its entire life, wouldn't it? Because the puppy wants to move, it wants to run, it wants

Starting point is 00:07:34 to experience the world. That's what your body wants to do as well. But how often do we just sit all day long, right? So get your body moving in some sort of way every single day. Whatever that looks like to you, you can decide, but it's a non-negotiable. Number three, figure out a specific lifestyle diet that you want to do and stick to it. I don't care what it is. It doesn't matter to me. If you want to be vegan, be vegan. Vegetarian, vegetarian. If you want to be carnivore, be carnivore. If you want to do the whole 30 and you could just turn into a whole 90, go for it. Remove all the processed foods. Remove all the seed oils. Drink good water. Just stick to some sort of diet that works for you. What intuitively feels right? Some people, vegan feels intuitively right. Some people, carnivore feels intuitively right. Some people,

Starting point is 00:08:20 omnivore feels right. I don't really care what it is that you do. I'm not here to preach one over the other one. I know it works best for me, but my body is different than yours. My body is different than every other person in the world. Your body is different as well. What works best for you? Start eating intuitively. Have less sugar.

Starting point is 00:08:37 Have a lot less, we'll definitely get a lot less seed oils, but have a lot less processed foods. If it came from a box, try not to seed oils, but have a lot less processed foods. If it came from a box, try not to eat it, but stick to some sort of diet for the next 90 days. Not because of the, it's definitely the consistency in the mindset shifts when you have a diet for sure, but the better you take care of your body, the better everything else becomes. So that's number three. Number four, sorry, everybody, Remove alcohol just for the next three months.

Starting point is 00:09:05 You can do it. I promise you, you can do it. Think about the last time. Most of you are, it's probably like when you're like 17 years old, the last time where you went three months without drinking a sip of alcohol. Really a crutch more than anything else for people most of the time. We're trying to numb ourselves. We're trying to disconnect from the world.

Starting point is 00:09:22 So can you figure out a way to take your body and say, you know what? It's so important to me. I'm going to work out every single day. I'm going to make sure that I eat the right way. And I'm going to make sure I'm not going to have alcohol. Because alcohol stays in your system for up to 80 hours. That's three days. Which means if you drink on a Sunday before you go to work,

Starting point is 00:09:42 you're just going to have a couple glasses of wine. That couple glasses of wine could stay in your system Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. That's over three days. Just think about that. You're not really fully up and optimized for three days. It's taking out the game. I don't bet you like I want to be the best version of myself. If I'm going to put myself into my life, into my podcast, into my business. I don't want 70% of myself to be showing up because I was drinking too much or because I had a couple of glasses of wine or because I wasn't eating the way that I should have. I want 100% of myself. I want 100% of my body, of my brainpower, of my energy to go in to whatever it is I'm trying to do. That's the way

Starting point is 00:10:23 that you really start to move the needle in your life. You can do it. Just remove alcohol. That's number four. Number five is to journal. To figure yourself out. To start to figure yourself out because we all have stories and narratives

Starting point is 00:10:38 and traumas and identities and personalities running around inside of our head. We do. We all have, they're all going all over the place. We're not really even sure what's going on in there. We think we are. And then what I always hear from people every time I tell them to journal so often is, I thought I knew myself until I started journaling. You really don't know yourself until you journal. Put all of your thoughts and your feelings down on paper. Become curious about yourself. When you start really sitting down, just become curious. What am I thinking? What am I thinking about? Why am I thinking that? Why am I the way that I am? What's made me the way that I am? How's my relationship with my mother? How's my relationship

Starting point is 00:11:20 with my father? Do I resent anybody? Am I holding on to any anger? Am I holding on to any resentment? Am I holding on to sadness? And just start asking yourself questions. Just become curious. Imagine that you're a detective and you're showing up for a case and you're trying to figure out this person that you are. What's the detective going to do? Question, question, question, question, question. So you sit down with the journal, you start asking yourself random questions and then come up with the answers of them. Ask yourself questions, come up with the answer of them. Man, I was really pissed off yesterday. Why did what she say to me get me so pissed off? Oh man, because it reminded me of this thing that happened when I was younger, when I was bullied as a little boy. And even though it wasn't her fault, she triggered this

Starting point is 00:11:59 one thing in me, I became triggered from it. And it wasn't her fault, it was just because of something happened when I was younger. Oh, shit. I kind of understand myself a little bit more. You start to ask yourself these questions. And then my favorite thing to do is you can get very vague with the questions, but you can also get very direct with the questions. So one of my favorite things, if you're sitting down, you're like, hmm, I don't know what to ask myself this morning.

Starting point is 00:12:22 Very easy question. Ask yourself, what do I want? And you can keep it very vague and just see what comes up because what comes up today might be completely different than what comes up tomorrow. What do I want? And actually start to figure out what it is that you want. Now you can go from that vague. Now you can go really direct. What do I want in my relationship with my spouse? What do I want in my relationship with my children, in my relationship with my parents? What do I want in my career? What do I want in my bank account? What do I want in my relationship with my children, in my relationship with my parents? What do I want in my career? What do I want in my bank account? What do I want in my body? What do I want in my personal space? What do I want in my environment? What do I want in

Starting point is 00:12:58 my friendships? And you can get really clear with all of these things. What do I want in my business? And you can go really vague, what do I want? And you can go, what do I want in each one of these things? And you can start asking yourself these questions. What do I want in my bank account? I want $5 million in my bank account. Why do I want $5 million in my bank account? Well, I feel like it'd be safer. Okay, is it true that money is safety? Hmm. Now we can start going down a rabbit hole and actually start to pull things up. There might be some things that are holding me back and we can figure out what that is. So that's number five, journal holding me back. And we can figure out what that is. So that's number five. Journal every single day. And number six, decide your other non-negotiables.

Starting point is 00:13:35 For everybody listening to this, there's some certain non-negotiables that you need to have. We're all working on something different. We're all trying to become better. What you need to become better, or I would guess I would say a more evolved version of yourself because better, I don't really like using the word better because better implies worse, which means that you're worse now than you will be. That's not the case. You cannot be better or worse as a person. You could just be more expansive as a conscious human being that you are. So what would make you more expansive, more evolved than who you currently are at this moment? Maybe you need to focus on some gratitude. Maybe you need to focus on some gratitude. Maybe you need to focus on praying every single day.

Starting point is 00:14:09 Maybe you need to focus on business outreach. Maybe like that's something that you really need to do. Like you have this brand new business and you just really got to do, you know, some outreach. You got to knock on some doors. You got to do some cold calls, whatever it might be. I need to do 50 cold calls every single day for the next 90 days, right? So maybe you need gratitude. Maybe you need

Starting point is 00:14:26 prayer. Maybe you need business outreach. Maybe you need to, you know, a non-negotiable is you need to turn your phone off at 6 p.m. and hang out with the family and put all of your energy into the family. I don't know. It's different for you. But really what it comes down to is you figuring out how to take back control of your life. It does not take a lot of time. Your life can change immensely in a very short period of time, but it really comes down to how dedicated are you actually? How much do you actually care about making a shift in your life? You've got to figure out your non-negotiables, the things that you need to do every single day for the next 90 days, and you got to disappear from everybody else. Get away,

Starting point is 00:15:06 do whatever it is you need to do. That is the way that you reset your life and take back control of who you are, where you're going, and the life that you're creating. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please do me a favor, share it on your Instagram stories right now. Take out your phone, share it on your Instagram stories, tag me in at RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. You could just share a screenshot of the podcast. You could share a link to it. You could be on a run and you're just sharing a video of you talking about it. Whatever it is, I always like to check and see what you guys are doing. It's just a way to pay it forward so that more people can actually find this podcast because we don't have any massive company backing this

Starting point is 00:15:42 that's putting millions of dollars into making sure that it becomes better. The way that it grows is from you guys helping us with grassroots. That's the way it's been for almost eight years now. And so if you would share it, I would greatly, greatly appreciate it. So that's all I got for you for today's episode. And with that, I'm gonna leave the same way

Starting point is 00:15:56 I leave you every single episode. Make sure you make someone else's day better. Go out there, do whatever it is you need to do. I'll see you guys in the next one.

The Mindset Mentor - 6 Steps To Take Control Of Your Life

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