The Mindset Mentor - Architect Your Life

Episode Date: January 2, 2023

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Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. My name is Rob Dallin. If you have not yet done so, hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. Today, we're going to be talking about how you are the creator of the reality that you currently sit in. Yes, you are the creator. And I had a very interesting question that was asked to me on a live I was doing last week on social media. So if you don't follow me on social media, RobDialJr, R-O-B-D-I-A-L-J-R. And the question that came in, I had to answer just because it was so funny the way it was worded. It was someone that was in another country. So I think they didn't ask it as, I guess, properly as possible,

but it was a beautiful question the way it was asked. The question was, have you always been successful or were you once a loser? And I was like, wow, that's interesting because it's either one or the other, I guess. I guess it's either you're successful in life or you're a loser, according to this person. But I decided to answer because I think it's a really great question. And I wouldn't say that I was a loser in my past, but I would say that I was definitely not headed in the right direction. If I look back 15 years ago, before I got into personal development, I was not headed in the right direction. I would say my accomplishments back then were how fast I could get drunk. With me and my friends, it was, let's see who could get drunk the quickest and I partied It was usually like four days a week four nights a week. It was it was literally like my life was partying

And then you know if you've been listening to me long enough, you know the story about my very first coach I hired a coach a life coach and sales coach when I was 19 years old and that person changed my life And literally the trajectory of my life And what he did through a conversation was make me realize that if I got to the end changed my life and literally the trajectory of my life. And what he did through a conversation was make me realize that if I got to the end of my life and I regretted how my life went and I looked at it and wished that I would have done more, or I wished that I would have been more, or I wished that I would have had more potential that I would have brought out of myself, if I were to get to the end of my life and feel that way and regret it, it would be my fault. And when we had that conversation, I don't remember anything else

we talked about for two years of talking. There was a lot of good stuff in there, but that was the one that really stuck with me the most. But he also made me realize that if I get to the end of my life and I'm excited about it and I feel like I've done enough, that's also my fault. And that's the place that I want to be where I feel like I've done a lot. I've done everything that I can. I put all of my eggs in one basket, that's this life. And then I just watch that basket grow and put everything that I possibly could into it.

And I would say one day, I just woke up from the sleep that I was stuck in and I fast forwarded my life and thought, if I do the exact same thing that I'm currently doing, I'm not going to be proud of my life. I'm not going to be proud of myself and where I am. And I think that that's a really valuable thing about having a coach. That's what a coach should do.

That's what we should do for ourselves, honestly, is say, okay, if I were to be in the exact same position that I am right now in 10 years, would I be stoked about it? Would I be excited about it? Would I be proud of it? Or would I feel like I left something on the table? So I want you to think about that. I want you to think about 10 years from today, if you were in the exact same position, would you be excited about it? Or would you be like, man, there was more that I could have brought to it. There was more love. There's more happiness. There's more that I could have taught people that more than I could have brought out of myself. Think about that because it's interesting to know that everything that you will have around you right now, you created. So when you look at your life, everything

that's in your life, good, bad, amazing, terrible, It is all because of you. You have created that reality. The moment that you really take control of your life is the moment that you realize that you cannot blame anybody for anything except for yourself. Everything that is in your reality, you are to blame. And when you take that level of ownership of your life is when you're really actually starting to change your life is when you're really actually starting to change your life because now you go, well, that's interesting because that means that I can make this whatever I want it to be. And I can either continue on the path that I'm currently on, or I can make a massive change and make my life what I want it to be. Because as we know,

to do the same thing over and over to get expected results is the definition of insanity, according to Einstein. So if you're in a comfort zone, you've been doing the same thing for a year or two years or three years or five years, unless you do something different, you're going to have the exact same results. And what's cool about this world is that everything that has ever been created was once in the mind of somebody. A house, every house you've ever seen was once in the mind of somebody. Every car you've ever seen was once in the mind of somebody. Every movie you've ever seen was once in the mind of somebody. Every piece of furniture you've ever seen was once in the mind

of somebody. Every painting you've ever seen was once in the mind of somebody. Everything that you see that is in your reality besides something that comes directly from nature was once in the mind of another human. And everything that's in your reality was once in your mind. And this is where it really starts to get interesting because now you realize, oh man, the same way that someone goes, you know what? An architect sits down and says, I have an idea for a house. I'm going to draw this house out. If you were to sit down and think of your life the exact same way, that house is eventually going to be built. If you were to sit down and say, I'm going to architect my life, that life is eventually going to come into your reality. Now, the problem with

that is that most people usually don't sit down and try to architect anything. So it's basically like they're just trying to build a house without having any blueprints. They're just putting some stuff together to see what works. So everything that you have in your reality, you created it. The house that you have, the car, every single thing. The way that I like to think about it as you being the creator is you being a painter, right? You can't sit down as a painter and paint something and then be able to blame

anybody else for the painting except for yourself, right? You're the only one that has access to this canvas. You're the only one that has access to the paintbrush, to the paints, and you can't paint something and then 30 minutes later, start to blame somebody else for it, right? Why? Because you're the only one that's there. Now, why do I bring this up? Because if you think about it, so many people blame where their current life circumstances, what their current life circumstances are on somebody else. Oh yeah, I'm not where I want to be in my life because the government. I'm not where I want to be in my life because my president. I'm not where I want to be because of the fact that my parents were poor and I've always

been poor and that's just the way we're going to be. There's no way that you can blame. You can't blame your parents. You can't blame the government. You can't blame the president. You can't blame society. You can't blame your spouse. You can't blame anybody. Why? Because they do not have access to your quote unquote canvas. You are the only one that can do it. So as crazy as it would be to sit down and paint something and then blame your shitty painting on somebody else that never had access to your painting is the exact same way and as crazy as it is to blame your life circumstances on someone else that is not you. You are the only one that you can blame. Whether it's good or whether it's bad,

you'd still blame yourself, right? If it's bad, you can blame yourself for where it is. If it's good, you can also blame yourself. And that's the beautiful thing about life is that you are to blame for everything that's happening around you. And that can either scare the shit out of you or it could be really empowering because you go, wow, if that's the case, then I can literally create anything that I want to.

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You are the creator. Isn't that a beautiful thing? And the beautiful thing about it is we've now stepped into a new year. It's a new canvas. You can just wipe the slate clean. It doesn't matter how the rest of your life, how your life up until this very moment listening to this podcast has been. You can take the canvas of the past and throw it inside of the fire, burn it, and start a brand new one. And you are completely in control of that. So let's get you a new canvas, okay? Let's imagine that you get a new canvas. You put it up in front of you.

The same way that the architect would sit down with a blank piece of paper and a pen and start to architect the house that they're going to build. What if you were to do that with your life? Just wipe the slate clean and go, you know what? I'm going to look at every single aspect of my life. The same way an architect will look at everything. They look at the height. They look at the width.

They look at the structure. If the weight's going to crumble under it, however it's designed, they're going to put a lot of detail into it to make sure that that house is going to survive. It's going to survive hurricanes. It's going to survive storms. It's going to survive possible tornadoes.

Depends on where you live, but it's going to survive. What about you? What if you were to sit down and architect your life? What do you want? What would it look like? What do you want in your life that you don't currently have? What do you want more of that you currently have? What would you like less of? Sit down and the same way that they look at height and width and structural changes and the foundation and the slope that the house is going to be built on is the same way that you look at your house and say, okay, relationships, okay, finances, okay, travel, okay, family, okay, personal development.

You look at all the categories of your life and you say, huh, I'm going to start to play this thing out. And I'm going to not just plan it out to a detail that I've never done before, but I'm also going to take full 100% ownership for it because I am the only one that has access to this. There's no one else in the world that has access to this. I am the person. So I'm going to stop blaming everybody else. And I'm going to look at it and say, this is my life. I'm going to architect this damn thing better than anything I've ever architect. Not realizing that you architect the current life that you're in, but subconsciously you did it. This is the difference between being intentional versus being reactive. Most people

wake up and they're reactive and they just see life as just a set of circumstances that are thrown at them every single day and they're just dodging them, hoping that they could survive and not get hit by this thing and not get hit by this thing. And hopefully they put out enough fires today to be able to sleep well tonight. No, what if you woke up early before these kids wake up, before everybody else gets up and you have that quiet time to yourself and you say, what does my perfect life look like? Can I envision that? Can I see in my mind's eye what that would look like? Not only see it, can I feel what it would feel like to create that life? How proud of yourself would you be if you create that life?

And what would that feeling of pride feel like for you to create that? Man, if you could fill yourself up with that every single morning, that's like crack. You don't need drugs. You don't need alcohol. You literally have your crack every single morning. You basically wake up and you fill yourself up with the gratitude of the life that you are creating for yourself, of this life that you are architecting for yourself, knowing that everything in your reality you have created and everything that will come into your reality, you will create as well. We just moved into a new house. For those of you guys that follow me on Instagram, you've seen me walking around a new house the past month and a half or so.

And I got the blueprints of the house and I moved in. And the level of detail is insane. But you would expect that in buying a house, right? The level of detail is crazy. Oh, this to the inch, this quarter of an inch, 10th of an inch, eighth of an inch, right? You have everything in perfect detail. And it's pages and pages and pages and pages and pages to create this custom house that was built for the people who we bought it from, right? The architect had to know that level of detail. What if you knew that level of detail in your life? What would that be like? Where every day, you know your direction that you're going. You know your 10-year goal where

you're like, this is where I want to be at 10 years. This is how much money I'm going to be worth. This is what my family is going to look like. This is how my spouse is going to feel. This is where we're going to travel to. This is what my body's going to look like. My health is going to look like. And you wake up every single morning and you see that life and you visualize it. And you make little tweaks every single morning. So therefore, it's not being reactive to everything in your life.

It's being proactive. I know where I'm going and I'm going to make myself get there. And nothing, absolutely nothing will hold me back from that. I'm going to put every ounce of energy that I have into making sure that I create the life that I want. Guys, life is not that hard. It's really not. We make it way harder on ourselves than it needs to be. You got to wake up. Number one, you have to figure out what it is that you want in life, right? Make that decision. You are the painter of this canvas that you have in front of you. What are you going to paint? What is it? You wake up every single day and you paint a little bit more. You paint a little bit more. You paint a little bit more. Because here's the thing. You used every single minute of yesterday doing something. I don't know

what you did, but if you were working really hard towards your goals, you did it. If you were on Instagram, you did it. You used every single minute of yesterday. What if you used every single minute of every single day from today on with intention, knowing exactly what you want, knowing exactly what you're going and exactly what you're working for. If you do this every day, you'll wake up in five years and be like, holy shit, I can't believe how different my life is because I sat down and decided to craft my perfect life and work towards my perfect life. Because you can either live your life unintentionally or intentionally. The choice is fully up to you. You need to step in the driver's seat, decide what you want and work towards towards every single day because you are the creator of your reality.

Your reality will be there in 10 years. The question is, is it going to be kind of one that just was pieced together and thrown together? Or will it be one that was intentionally planned to every single detail? That is what's up to you. So that is what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode,

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