The Mindset Mentor - Are You Grateful or Faking It?

Episode Date: July 17, 2019

Episode 620 - We hear the word gratitude a lot, but how often do you really take a step back and think about all that you have? In this episode so are going to talk about gratitude and how to use it to make your mindset the best that it can be! Follow me on Instagram at https://instagram.com/robdialjr Want to learn more about Mindset Mentor+? For nearly nine years, the Mindset Mentor Podcast has guided you through life's ups and downs. Now, you can dive even deeper with Mindset Mentor Plus. Turn every podcast lesson into real-world results with detailed worksheets, journaling prompts, and a supportive community of like-minded people. Enjoy monthly live Q&A sessions with me, and all this for less than a dollar a day. If you’re committed to real, lasting change, this is for you.Join here 👉 www.mindsetmentor.com My first book that I’ve ever written is now available. It’s called LEVEL UP and It’s a step-by-step guide to go from where you are now, to where you want to be as fast as possible.📚If you want to order yours today, you can just head over to robdial.com/bookHere are some useful links for you… If you want access to a multitude of life advice, self development tips, and exclusive content daily that will help you improve your life, then you can follow me around the web at these links here:Instagram TikTokFacebookYoutube

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slash the number two, D-A-Y. So www.coachwithrob.com slash today. Okay. Let's go ahead and dive into today's episode. With that though, I want to talk about gratitude ahead and dive into today's episode. With that, though, I want to talk about gratitude. That's what today's episode is going to be on. And I just got back from vacation. We went down, myself, my girlfriend, a couple of my best friends went down to Nicaragua. And it was an incredible experience. We stayed in an incredible house and had breakfast, lunch, and dinner cooked for us. And people, I mean, it was just the most insane. It was the most insane view I've ever seen in my life. It was super relaxing.

And one of the things that we all came back with more than anything else, and I made sure on the ride back to the airport to ask everybody, what was the main thing that you guys are taking from this? And everybody thought it was an incredible experience. But what was most eye-opening for me was that every single person said the exact same thing that they gained from it. And that was gratitude. And myself included. And I am a very grateful person.

I try to practice gratitude every single day as much as I can throughout the day. And still going down there was such an eye-opening experience because it was easily the poorest country I've ever been to. I've been to a lot of countries. I think I'm at about 26, 20, 26, somewhere around there now. But after doing my research, I actually found out that Nicaragua is, at least in 2009, the poorest country in the Western Hemisphere, even poorer than Haiti. And going down there, you were able to see these people that were just super poor. And it was just, it was eye-opening because they were so poor and they had barely anything. And they had these little tiny houses that were made out of, you know, shingles or siding and dirt and, you know, pieces of wood that they had taken off of trees. Just

the craziest stuff you've ever seen. And these people were what we would consider super poor and just beyond. There's nothing in America that comes anywhere near this. Detroit right now and all of the stuff where they say Detroit's so poor and you get all of these, see all these pictures of houses, nothing compares to what we saw in Nicaragua. But even though these people were so quote unquote poor financially, fiscally, whatever you might want to say, they were some of the happiest and nicest people I've ever seen as well. When we went through these little tiny villages and had to drive through them to get to the

house we were going to, they were just some of the nicest people that I had ever seen. And they were just, they'd wave to us as we were going by and they would smile. And, you know, they had almost nothing, less than nothing compared to American standards, at least, but they were so happy and they were so grateful for all of the stuff that they had. And it really put into perspective, everything for me, you know, how much do we really need? Number one, and then out of all of the stuff, how much do we have that we don't need at all? And the thing that really I wanted to share with you guys was what makes you realize in the United States, at least in most countries, things that we prioritize are things that really shouldn't matter. And one thing that we noticed

was their sense of community. We drive through these little tiny villages that would have like five or 10 little tiny houses and their sense of community you could tell was really strong that they got by because everybody was together. They would hang out at each other's houses. They would have these hammocks that would just be out front and around the hammock, everybody would be out there. And my friend Dean brought this up. He said he thinks that the main thing that's starting to happen with us

is we're starting to lose our sense of community. And what we noticed with them is that they had a very strong sense of community. So they might've been quote unquote poor financially, but they were very, very much, much more rich than us. They were very rich in the sense of community and the bonding and friendships and just being together, you could tell. And we have Facebook and Instagram and Twitter and all

of these different social media platforms to feel a sense of community. But really what it does more than anything else is takes us away from our community. And so when we were down there, we weren't able to use our phones. And it really made me question how much time do we put into getting likes on all of our social media platforms from people that we really don't care about? How much time do we put into getting likes from people we really don't care about instead of putting time into people that we do care about? And it was this huge sense of gratitude because, you know, I come home and I have a four bedroom house that I own. And it's, it's obviously, it's more than I need. It's way more than I need, especially after going to Nicaragua. Obviously I bought the house because it was an

investment for me. That's the reason why I bought it. But a lot of these families, they had houses that were, you know, three or four or five people that were living in this house that, and their house was smaller than my master bedroom. And I have this house and it's my girlfriend and I that live together in a four bedroom house. And we have rooms that just aren't used and we have two guest rooms. And so it's the sense of prioritizing, what do we really need? What do we think that we need, but we really don't. But what do we actually really need? And I think more than anything else, we need a sense of community. But then we also need a sense of gratitude to be able to go down there.

And that's one of the reasons why they say when you travel, you really are humbled more than anything else. Because these families have houses that are little tiny places and they're barely getting by, but they were the happiest people. little tiny places and they're barely getting by, but they were the happiest people. And I knew gratitude before I went down there, but it has brought me into a much, much deeper realization of how important gratitude is. It made me much less attached to my money because I'm a frugal person. That's just the way I was raised. That's the way I've been able to save a lot of money. And I'm frugal in that sense. But when I was down there, I wanted to keep tipping these people more and more because what is $100 to me or $50 to me or whatever it might be is so much less to me than it is to them. It's so much more to them than it is to me.

And then I did my research when I came back and half of the population, this is at least in 2009, so it's about seven years old now, but half of the population in Nicaragua lives off of less than a dollar a day. So if I were to tip somebody, you know, 50 or a hundred bucks, that's, you know, a couple months to an entire quarter, you know, three or four months pay for some of these people. So it really makes you learn how to be grateful because, you know, we might not have the sense of community that we do, but we have all of these things and advertisements make you realize or make you think that you need all of these things. You need to acquire all of these things to make yourself feel better. But in reality, we really don't.

And I got a sense of gratitude and I wanted to pass this along to you. I wanted to explain this to you because I want you to think about all of the stuff that you have that these people probably don't. I was able to actually view it and witness it. But if you think of somebody who lives in a family of three or four that lives in a 10 by 10 foot, quote unquote, house, which is basically just a lot of sticks and dirt and sidings and rocks and stuff that are put together. you know, a lot of sticks and dirt and sidings and rocks and stuff that are put together. How much do you have in your house? How much do you have around you? Car or a computer, all of these things, phones, stuff that they don't have that you could be grateful for.

So how much around you do you have that you could be grateful for that for you, you just look at as a normal thing. Like for instance, I'll even give you something very simple. Some of these people didn't even have showers in their houses and they had to go outside and get buckets of water and put them over them. And that's how they took a shower. So there's a lot of things that we have, warm water, clean water, all of these things that we have that we all take for granted.

So what do you have in your life that you take for granted? And I want you to think about it. And I want to challenge you to think about this of what do you have that you're not grateful for, that you should be grateful for? If you really take yourself out of your position and think of yourself on a global scale, what do you have that a lot of people do not? And more than anything else, that, but then also where are you prioritizing incorrectly? Are you spending too much time on Facebook when you could be out with your friends or your family

and hanging out with them? Maybe you're sitting at the dinner table with them and you're on Snapchat and all of that. And I didn't mean to rhyme that, but I guess it did happen to rhyme. Snapchat and all of that. What are you prioritizing correctly? Are you prioritizing getting likes on Facebook or getting out Snapchats instead of hanging out with the people who matter, your friends or family? So that's the question I want to leave you with. And the last thing is, where can you make adjustments in your life? The things that you're grateful for,

how can you become more grateful? How can you practice gratitude throughout your day? And the last thing is, how can you give more? Everybody says it, it's the corny phrase, the more you give is the more you get, but it's absolutely true. It's the way the universe works. The universe will continue rewarding people who are okay with giving out the stuff they're rewarded with. So those are the questions. Number one, what are you prioritizing incorrectly? Number two,

where can you make adjustments? And number three, how can you give more? And the last one, the fourth one, I guess you could say is how can you practice more gratitude? What do you have that you could be grateful for, but you're looking past it because you're thinking about other stuff that you want or you think about what you don't have versus what you do have. So with that, I'm going to leave you the same way I leave you every single episode. Make it your mission today to make somebody else's day better. Practice gratitude. And with that, I hope that you have an amazing day.