The Mindset Mentor - Are You Living in Heaven or Hell?

Episode Date: January 20, 2020

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Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor podcast. I am your host, Rob Dial. And if you have not yet done so, please hit that subscribe button so that you never miss another podcast episode. And I have a super exciting announcement. I have two positions open my company and they are sales positions. I have two sales positions open. So if you're a salesperson out there and you are interested in getting a job with me and having me be your sales mentor, we talk multiple times per week and I groom you into being the best salesperson you possibly can be. I would love for you to apply.

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help people. And if you're in that position and you're looking to get possibly your dream job, And if you're in that position and you're looking to get possibly your dream job working for myself and my company, you can apply if you go to mindsetjobs.com, mindsetjobs with an S at the end,.com. Apply there. I would love for you to be part of it. I would love to have you on the team. And, you know, follow the exact information that you need to of exactly how to apply and what you need to do at mindsetjobs.com. And you might just be hearing from us very soon. So today, what I'm going to be talking about is the playground that we live in. You know, I was, uh, I was having a conversation with a friend and, uh, you know, she is a good friend of mine and she's been having a hard time. And the reason why is because she has a good life, great life, and she feels like something's wrong. She's not where she wants to be. She's not happy with where she

currently is. You know, she feels like, man, like I should be grateful. I have this amazing life. I just don't enjoy my job. But this job that I have affords me a great life, this life to be able to have a nice car and live in a great place and be able to do what I want and travel a lot. And she's really pissed off at herself for feeling this way. And I want to ask you, have you ever felt that way or do you feel that way right now? And we were talking about it and she knows she should be grateful. She feels like she should be grateful, but then she gets mad at herself for not being grateful. She feels like she should be grateful, but then she gets mad at herself for not being grateful. She feels like, you know, she gets anxiety around the fact that she's not where

she wants to be. She is pissed off that she's not where she wants to be. And she gets mad at herself for not feeling grateful, basically mad at herself for not feeling the, for feeling emotional about something and to get mad at yourself for finding a problem. So, you know, say you have this problem, I should be grateful. And then instead of fixing it, she gets mad at herself. It's like identifying the problem. And then instead of fixing the problem, you decide to punch yourself in the face. Raise your hand. Anybody out there ever done this before where you find out something that you don't like about yourself or you don't enjoy about yourself? Anybody out there ever done this before where you find out something that you don't like about yourself or you don't enjoy about yourself?

And then instead of fixing it right away, you get down on yourself. You get emotional. You get sad. You get anxious. You get worried. You get fearful. And you get these emotions and feelings instead of actually fixing the problem, right? Because if you think about it, we live in a freaking playground. Like we literally live in a freaking playground. We literally live in a

playground. I was on a ski lift the other day and I was looking around and I was like, oh my God, we're literally living in a playground. I was looking at the trees that I was passing on the ski lift about to go down a slope. And I was like, life is a playground. Not just skiing, not just skiing being a playground, but life in general is a playground. It is heaven or it is hell. But here's the thing, heaven or hell in the sense of living right here on earth is created by your mind. You can create heaven right now, but you can also create hell. I was looking at the trees and I was thinking, man, the trees, you know, I don't know what trees think. I don't know if trees can think or communicate. You know, there's a lot of, uh,

studies are starting to come out that, that are saying that they do think and communicate. It's getting a lot crazier than we ever thought that it would be because we thought just, oh, trees are stupid. They just stay in there and we can cut them down and build stuff with it. But you know, the thing about trees is they don't go out and they don't play. They don't have things that, you know, going down ski slopes, they don't have friends they could talk to. They don't have other places they could travel to. Trees don't get the opportunity that we do. If a tree were to be able to talk and communicate with us, they'd be like, dude, do you see how amazing your life is? You live in a freaking playground.

But this is the thing. Your heaven is created by the thoughts that you think. If my friend wanted to look at her life and say, what can I be grateful for right now? What makes me happy? And make a list of all the things that make her happy. And then just do as many of those things as she possibly can each day. Guess what? She'd be happier. But if she were to look and make a list of all of the things that are not right in her life right now, she could create her own hell. We can create heaven and we could create hell in this moment based on what we decide to focus on. And the thing about it is if you're worried all the time, if you're anxious, if you're fearful, if you're

sad, if you're emotional, if you have these things that run in through your body, it's like basically thinking that your entire life is at a water park. And you're like, man, this is a water park. And then once you wake up and you start to listen to podcasts like this, you start to grow, you start to read more, you start to go to conferences, you realize that your thoughts, you're still in a water park. But the difference is you've been inside of the bathroom, you've had your head inside of the urinal, and you've been flushing the urinal on top of your head your entire life because you have created this place, this space inside of your head. When in reality,

once you wake up and you realize that the thoughts that you think, whether they're negative, they're positive, who you hang out with, whether they're negative, they're positive, who you hang out with, whether they're negative, they're positive, if they pull you up or if they push you down, is basically, if they're on the negative side, is like sticking your head inside the urinal. And then one day you wake up and you go, oh my God, I thought I was at a water park, but I wasn't at a water park. I just had my head inside of the toilet and I was flushing it. Hmm, maybe I should walk outside of this door and go to the real water park. And then you realize that when you open the door, which is like opening the door to your mind and going, you know what? Life isn't perfect,

but damn it, I have a lot of stuff to be grateful for. You know what? Maybe I should start focusing on all of these things. It's like busting the door open and going, holy crap, look at all of the rides that I have to go on. And then you turn around and you look back and you go, my entire life by the thoughts that I was thinking, the negativity, the ways that I was talking down to myself, the people I was hanging out with was basically me flushing my hair down the toilet for the past 30 years, 40 years, 50 years of my life. Hell no, I'm never going back there again. But then you realize that if you decide to make your life, you decide to then start getting emotional about it. You start getting fearful, anxious. You get mad at yourself about the fact that you've lived the

past 30 years with your head in the toilet, which I know that we do, right? We get mad. We go, oh my God, you're telling me my entire life. You know, I'm 35 years old. However old you are, I'm 35 years old. And my entire life, I had this opportunity to play inside of this water park and I was flushing my fricking head down the toilet. If you start thinking that way, guess what you're doing? You're going and you're walking back and putting your head into the toilet again and you're flushing it and you're flushing it and you're flushing it. When eventually you just realize you go, you know what? Okay. Yes, I did have my head inside of the toilet. I was really bad for 35 years. I'm not going to do that anymore. I'm not going to flush my head down the toilet. I'm not going to put my head inside of the urinal. I'm not going to punch

myself in the face anymore and judge myself or get pissed off at myself or sad or emotional because of the fact that my life is not the way that I want it to be or because of the fact that I've been thinking about things the wrong way. Does this make sense to you? You have to realize that the reason why I use the story with my friend in the beginning is because she was creating hell based off of her thoughts. How long have you been out there creating hell based off of your thoughts? Think about that. And if you have been creating hell, the thing that I would do is I would take

out a pen and paper and say, what do I need to do? What do I need to focus on in order to create heaven? Okay. Well, I do have a lot of things to be grateful for. I have my house. I have my car. I have my girlfriend. I have my dog. I have my family that's loved and supported me. Do I have some screw ups in the past? Yeah. Do I have an alcoholic father that died when I was 15 years old? Yeah, of course I do. There's a lot of shit that I have. There's a lot of shit that other people have, but you know what? I'm going to focus on what I do have, not what I don't have. Because if I want to create hell, I can just figure out all of the things that I don't have and I can think about those.

And I can think about all of the ways my life is not perfect and I can just think about those. Or I can start focusing on the things that I do have, the life that I do have, the things that I do have to be grateful for. And I can pause and take a second and go, damn, I do live in a playground. This is amazing. This life is freaking amazing. The things that we get to do, the places that we get to see, the experiences that we get to have, no other species on this planet that I'm aware of get to have the incredible, intense, beautiful experiences that we have. Whether that's good, whether that's

bad, it's up and down. It's the sights that you could see in the distance. It's the conversations you could have. It's the flavors of the food that you can taste. It's just every single thing about life is so rich if you really have yourself focus on it. But how often do we actually focus on it? So one thing that I'm trying to do this year, one of my goals this year is to wake up and to sit and to give myself five minutes of just being grateful first thing in the morning. So I wake up, I go to the bathroom, I brush my teeth, I chug a giant glass of water, and then I just sit there with my eyes closed and I think about all the things that I a giant glass of water. And then I just sit there with my eyes closed. And I think about all of the things that I have to be grateful for. You could call this praying

if you want to. I'm not praying to anybody specific. I'm just focusing my mind on all of the beautiful things around me. If the sun is shining, that's something that I can be grateful for. If my heart is still beating, which yep. Okay. Yeah, it still is. That's something to be grateful for. You know what? I have clean air. That's something to be grateful for. You don't have to be a millionaire to have something to be grateful for. You don't have to have this beautiful, sexy wife or husband in order to be grateful for it. You don't have to have these kids that are the perfect children and not crying and screaming and breaking all the crap around the house to be grateful for something. You could be grateful for the smallest, littlest, tiniest

things because so often people are like, I don't have anything to be grateful for. And that's BS because you know why? There's 150,000 people that didn't wake up today. 150,000 people did not wake up today. So if you have nothing in your bank account, if you have tens of thousands of dollars of debt that you're in, if everybody in your life left you, if you don't have a freaking shirt on your back, but somehow you listen to this podcast, you still have something to be grateful for.

You got a beating heart. You got clean air. And guess what? You got a mindset now that you can go out and fix it. So if you find yourself in hell, don't beat yourself up for being in hell and judge yourself and give yourself anxiety and worry. And God, why am I here? I have so many things I need to be grateful for. I noticed myself in hell. No, don't beat yourself up for being in hell. Because like I said, that's like noticing your own issue, identifying the issue. And then instead of fixing

the issue, you punch yourself in the face for the issue. It doesn't make any sense. No. Okay. Okay. Hold on. Oh, okay. I noticed that I'm in hell. What do I need to do to get into heaven on earth? This heaven with my mind, I need to think about the things that I'm grateful for things that I love. And the funny thing was, we had this conversation, my friend and I, and she said, you know what? I just feel a hundred percent better talking about it. And I said, I know, but when I'm not here to talk to you, when we're not in the same room, do you want to know what the best thing to do is to take all of your thoughts, everything that you're thinking, even if you don't know what you're thinking, and then just start writing, put a pen to paper. Don't type it. Don't type it on your computer. Don't type it on your

phone. Take a pen and paper and just start writing with a pen and paper and just see what comes out. Because what I told her and what she had come to the realization of is when it's floating around your head, it's so abstract. You can't really figure out exactly what the issue is, exactly what it is that you're trying to do, exactly why you feel that way. You're not really sure what the heck's going on. But when you put on pen to paper, things start to become clear. It's like a business plan. You're not going to create a business plan in your head. You're going to put it on a piece of paper so that you can get very clear on the plan. If you're trying to fix your life and plan your life, put everything down on pen and paper. So next time you notice

yourself in hell, here's what you do. You don't blame yourself for it. You don't get mad at yourself. You don't punch yourself in the face. You don't continue flushing the toilet and the urinal on top of your own head. You go, okay, let me be self-aware. Okay. I am. Yep. I'm identifying with the fact that I am in hell. Okay. What do I need to do in order to get myself out of here? Maybe I should start journaling and figure out what's going on in my head. Maybe I should find out what I should be grateful for. Maybe I should find out what makes me happy and do as many of those things today. It's that simple. You create your own heaven if you want to, but you also create your own hell, whether you realize it or not. So that's what I got for you for today's episode.

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